A rough approximation of how I react when a date is going well.
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- Опубліковано 28 вер 2024
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Congratulations, you made a married man feel like he was in high school again.
Plot twist: Is married in highschool.
hahahaha excellent comment
same here brother
Haha... nice...
I don't miss that shit xD
This felt like an uncut 3 hour long suspense thriller and I'm not complaining
Agreed. I was about 2 minutes in and felt the video could have concluded any second, and did ye olde time check. To my delight, I was in store for another 2:34 of this suspense thriller. It felt like waking up before work, checking the time, and realizing you have like 4 hours left of sleep. Not complaining with ya.
@@usmcplu hahaha totally man. Joel is a frickin' wizard, that's what he is.
@@thedebapriyakar Hazaah
Plot twist, that's actually Joel's home but because of the shame he gave it to his date.
That made me laugh out loud
happy to see he hasn't sold the house yet, hope he doesn't have to if he wants to keep it.
I wanted to like, but you already have 420 likes. God bless.
Plot twist, you're adopted.
checks her twitter "just goobered this guy out of his own house #squattersrights"
Joel, I know this is supposed to be comedic but it was really comforting to see that I'm not the only one like this
You're not alone. There are dozens of us. Dozens!
@@TasteTheRambo same
Keith arrested development reference?
@@Jonkau96 yes (I'm wearing my cut off jean shorts in bed as I write this)
Keith I didn’t see you at the convention.
The part where he says “she’s probably listening through the door” I died. We’ve all had this ridiculous thought.
Some biches really be nosey like that
It came up as soon I read it lol.
And if they actually are listening through the door, DO NOT DATE THEM!
My freaking family used to listen all the time growing up. Fucking scarred me for life.
@@cdogthehedgehog6923 why?
The constant screaming while completely straight faced is some a+ acting
The screaming was likely added in.
wh.... hes just recording himself with a straight face and screaming in a separate recording... Thats not hard
@@nickmagrick7702 No shit xD
@@nickmagrick7702 @Studio Maalstroom Yall, pretty sure that that's the joke.
I have days where I feel like that, all day long.
that would be *L* *E* *G* *E* *N* *D* *A* *R* *Y*
Yo your here
Ok random verified person
hello checkmark badge bearing individual
Zeltik AND Joel Haver, now that would be legendary
Oh snap that boy zeltik
It's hilarious how when you're so caught up in your own insecurities, you don't stop to realize that someone standing right outside the bathroom listening to you pee would be FAR more weird than anything you might be doing in there.
I already know this is gonna make me laugh the next time I feel insecure
This is right up my alley in terms of comedy
This is right up my alley....in terms of my ass
I think the same thing sometimes
took the words right out of my mouth...err...Joel's....
you’re right up my alley in terms of deez nuts 🤣
gottem
Lol this has happened more often than I care to admit.
"I was strong today in some ways..." is definitely an underrated line
Did jump a story
like mentally strong for going out to see a girl? or his weenee got strong
I hate it when I jump from her second floor window and realize it'll be weird if I come back in through the front door, so I gotta climb back up again. Really takes a toll on the fingers.
Been there..... 😁
You don't bring a spare ladder in your back pocket?
@@ObitoSigma like a point and click game lol
How does Joel just have a naturally comedic face? He's making like one barely moving expression and yet I have never seen better acting.
Gotta work with what you’ve got
blame his dad
A convincing expression sometimes lies in the subtlety
It's cause he's not acting, this is Joel's natural state
U calling my guy funny looking?
This is just what any social interaction is like when you have social anxiety.
My mind every second I’m near someone else
This is what any social interaction is like
@@soaphope3398 a thousand yups........
Don't worry, it gets easier...
...and then suddenly gets 100 times harder when you consciously note the fact that it became easier in the middle of a social situation, which plunges you back into the depths of hyper-self-awareness and anxiety.
Oh is that whats wrong with me???
I don't know why this's so relatable, & I can never tell if I should be laughing or crying
Same brother.... same
Awkward dates are quite relatable yeah
lolol best comment
Why not both? 😆👉👉
...
(OH GOD THE FINGER GUNS ARE TOO MUCH! WHAT IS THIS, HAPPY DAYS?? EYYYY... MORE LIKE EYYYY EVERYONE'S LAUGHING IN THE BAD WAY... IT'S ALWAYS THE BAD WAYYYYYY)
...
Heh... Yeah why not both 🤣
I'm cry laughing
I love you
Thanks Jesus! I love you too!!
Verified as Jesus noice
Aww, get a room you two. Just make sure the door knob is okay.
My savior?
@@Joel-Haver Jesus loves you more than you will know!
I love how it starts out small, but then the spiral gets bigger and more out of control by the end. At first I was like, “Oh, yeah. The shorts thing may seem awkward.” And by the end I was like, “You know, sometimes you just gotta jump off the roof.”
I'm not used to seeing a girl that isn't just Joel dressed up as a girl
Gave me real anxiety, enhancing the video's theme.
he's just gotten REALLY good at hiding that it's still him
Thats what was weird about this video
Do you mean on this channel, or just in general?
@@DylanMourik Yes
Imagine if this was a whole movie of just a guy going through regular everyday things. It would be the greatest worst movie of all time.
peep show
I would watch it
@@TheCueca Definitely!
It would be legendary!
oh my god please
Love how that rabbit appears out of nowhere, only to never appear or be referenced again. 10/10 setup for a potential sequel.
Zack Snyder level of filmmaking
It's a Kubrick/Lynch film
My partner and I quote “I was strong today in some ways” or some variation alllll the time now. Thank you for this gold. I was having a difficult day and after telling my partner this evening that I was, in fact, strong today in some ways I decided to come watch this again. Really lifted me up. Thank you, Joel! 💗
I love that! So happy my goofy quote could lift your spirits :)
@@Joel-Haver I just want to say that while it was goofy in a passing moment, it really was a strong quote. We are all strong in some ways, even when we don't feel that way. It's really easy to lose sight of the small things that you overcame that seemed like a big deal to you. Just because it isn't had for everyone doesn't mean it's not hard for you. Two steps forward, one step back, and then remember how to do that next step better next time.
You're really feeding the headphone users here. The multiple internal voices from multiple directions. I was so immersed in our shared anxiety.
Wait, he panned the audio of the internal monologue? Hell yes. Doin it right Joel!
The sheer amount of editing and cinematography that went into this stupid sketch is unsettling and I love it.
When Joel says "That would be LEGENDARY!" I feel like that's him really shining through.
ADVENTURE... AWAITS!
He revealed his inner nerd and became the RPG hero
I know｡ﾟ(ﾟ´ω`ﾟ)ﾟ｡
@@grantklaassen2162 HUZZAH!
God the feeling of watching yourself from an out of body perspective is terrifyingly dead on.
This is why I never leave my house!!
I should tell you that things get better as you age. None of this stuff is as bad at 70!!
Joel Haver is seriously one of the best directors and film makers on this platform.
no cap
I can get behind that
he do be kinda being true to himself
and actor
this video made me realize that it's probably anxiety keeping me from enjoying my time with others, not that i'm broken and incapable of caring about other people or having fun. thanks man
So glad you had this realization. It’s also probably anxiety and cognitive distortions that made you assume it was your fault in the first place, too. I know how it is. I hope things get easier for ya Egg
that realization was the first step i took when i beat my social anxiety!! act like everyones your friend and odds are they will want to be
Yup anxiety can completely ruin the fun of talking/hanging with people and convinces u everyones constantly watching and judging you when in reality they prob couldnt care less about what your doing.
@@threetimestables Thanks! And that’s very true. Once I started speaking up and directly addressing my uncomfortable thought patterns and feelings, I learned that I’m not alone. Another thing that helps me is doing exercises about Cognitive Distortions
At the end when she's trying to ask him if he'd like to go on a second date you can tell she's suffering from the same sort of self aware horrors.
What are you talking about? Girls have it together. They know what they want and are confident in it. They're the ones that have already finished school, have a car, and are already working as a nurse while I'm working in some general major because I wasn't smart enough for computer science, and she probably thinks I'm a pathetic child because I want to go into game development, and oh gosh oh gosh I'm passing out...
@@WasatchWind Yea but can girls even noclip
@Stephanie I joked a bit - I feel like if I want to get into game dev my digital media major will get me the experience I need to go into some sort of design role, as well as just being a nice major that can get me a general digital media career.
If anything, my sights are more on writing fantasy now - but that still is not entirely impressive to some girls.
@@WasatchWind I mean you don’t need much more than coding experience to make video games.
Lost of indie developers have great stories about how they got into it
@@bensosnowski1128 Well I'm absolutely terrible at coding.
This is literally my mind every second around people. Not even exaggerating, it is TORTURE.
It gets better with age, but at 39 it certainly isnt gone yet!
Good to know even untold eldritch deities experience anxiety.
“Oh god. I talked about whales WAY too much again. Oh god oh fuck.
its helpful to know even an eldritch abomination from the deep place still struggles with social situations like a normal the rest of us
@@chriss780 Where else did you think our aura of madness come from?
He went from "This date is going well." to "I gotta jump off this roof!" in like 30 seconds lmao
Internal Joel: "I have to go bathroom"
External Joel: "I have to go bathroom"
I'm gonna need some alcohol after watching that...
Having had some alcohol before watching, I can asure you that it‘s definetly recommandable
Having had alcohol while watching, it just made me relate more
Idk what I relate to more the video or this comment
I literally developed alcoholism by watching this so...
Seconded, and I'm not a drinker
My existential crisis always starts with “does my breath smell?”
Then you just start fantasising about brushing your teeth and make any excuse to go do just that.
mine is sweaty hands and funny enough anxiety doesn't make it better
Saying "I have to go bathroom" is the key to getting out of any tricky situation naturally
even during class
But what about if you come back and then you actually do have to go to the bathroom soonly?
@@stolensentience just say "big one this time"
I used that when my drunk parents wanted me to dance with them at a restaurant. I simply went to the parking lot instead of the bathroom and drove home.
I work in elder care. If you need to leave someone with dementia that gets upset if you walk away "I have to go to the bathroom" is one of the top recommended excuses. The need to go to the bathroom is so deeply ingrained in the mind that even people far gone in their condition can understand it.
"Like a freak who goes to the bathroom and punches his crutch" while pretending he's peeing
I can relate
puch my crutch
I feel personally attacked and supported in this video. Thank you.
holy 1.5K likes but no comments lol
I feel like this is the end game of most Joel Haver videos.
@@jaydenjoonlee And I heart from Joel. Now I feel really loved.
Frankly, 1.7K likes.... well damn.
2:20 "Ï hævë tø gö båthrōôm"
Glad to know that other people's thoughts are also just constant screaming and Curb Your Enthusiasm references.
It's always constant screaming and CYE references for me
@@dlobelow760 Sorry dont have time for a stop-n-chat
your comment is utterly accurate
@@Giles4200 😆😂🤣🤣🤣 And I certainly have no tolerance for the "chat and cut."
Hahahahaha
"They did this in Curb Your Enthusiasm but she doesn't seem like the type to watch that show so I don't know if she knows this happens." That's brilliant, I've had nearly this exact thought at multiple points in my life about the pants tent
you see, the trick is to be so confident, that you let the pants tent stand, and just keep talking like nothing is wrong. this way she is kept guessing and doesnt know if ya got a chubby, a full stand, or just a pants tent lol, and you look like a chad.
Terrifyingly accurate.
I'm a girl. This happens to our clothes too. So...it's okay. We know.
i made a "joke" about this when we did rock climbing in boyscouts. I was dubbed BW. Boner Watcher. If I had any self confidence at that point I would have just said dude, really? Boner watcher? you cant do better than that. Instead I was dubbed bonerwatcher til everyone forgot about it. The end. Childhood is miserable.
@Lev Chicwown if people are gonna be weird about you adjusting your pants for any reason, dump them lmao they're paying too much attention to the wrong shit. Everyone deserves the right to adjust their pants without shame. Pants are stupid anyway
As an introvert with low self-esteem, I can confirm that all of this is accurate.
Watching the video actually helped me 😆 to see from outside how dumb it is to think that way.
My last date i freaked out so much i didn't talk to the girl again thinking i was so bad but two weeks later she texted me like nothing happened it was all in my head.
"I was strong today in some ways" - God bless your self-help, my dude
It's hilarious how many times things exactly like this has happened to all of us in one way or another.
I am so thrilled someone other than me ascertains what's correct
not me, none of my dates go well :sunglasses emoji
nope...thing like this never happened to me
For step two: "have a date get derailed by anxiety" to occur, you must first reach step one: "have a date"
dude her outfit is adorable the friggin BEE RINGS bro
That girl can fuckin ACCESSORIZE. I'm jealous!
“But recently enough that my pants still smell like farts” 🤣
"I swear I said legendary as a joke...IT WAS JUST A JOKE"
Fuck dude, why did you had to made it more relatable
“come on I’m being ironic I would actually say that haha”
@@leila5927 -me waiting for the day I dont have to fake having fake ironic humor.
Pretty legendary joke
It's not like this is an original idea for a sketch, but the unique way that Joel executes it with the screaming and editing etc make it SO much better
yeah and there are some more unique things that happened.
All you need is an idea, from there you can make it as unique as your imagination may drive you. Joel Haver, has made this idea so chaotically relatable that this should be considered art. I'm glad I know of his content.
This is a very real phenomenon because you'll usually be indifferent and confident at the start of the date if you don't have any hope anyway and then that ironically can make you so appealing to the girl that the date inadvertently starts going well and then all of a sudden you realize you've got something to lose but you're unprepared because you didn't expect it
this. you fail so much you stop caring, and then when you stop failing for a sec you care!!! fuck!!!!!
Look past the part where things are going well, intercept the inevitable falling apart of *that* and then you’re back to your allure of indifference. Problem solved.
My solution was to go on so many dates I wouldn't care. When you gotta ditch your date for another date you scheduled that's your perfect male indifference right there. Which led to me cancelling dates and staying over with the first one cuz yeah they are attracted to that indifference lol
This is too relatable it hurts.
This is how it feels when you get way to high at someones house you don't know
Great name, Webster dictionary, I wish I had thought of that, even though it would have been awkward at this point.
way *too high, Dictionary.
Very accurate.
🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂
Everytime he starts his monologue I can't help but smile in anticipation of laughter!
The ending: So close, yet so far...
It was pretty
LEGENDARY
@@TheWorldBelowDnD At that point, I expected him to go on a grand adventure. Huzzah!
This is how you take relatable comedy and make it also funny instead of just relatable.
y e s
That slow walk with thought scream was so true to life.
The pants tent. Literally the first episode of curb. Love the homage
"...Time to figure out what's going wrong..."
Me: **silent crying** ... me 😢
Joel Haver truly is his own genre of youtube. 10/10
That internalised existential scream at the end - pitch perfect!
"like, i'm a man. like i'm strong"
my bladder is huge by the way I just didn't drink a lot of water today
He’s back at it again!
Damn Daniel!
@@Loderyod *Ralphie
4:00 shoulda dropped InsaneO Style
That screaming inside while not letting it show is so relatable it hurt
I'm gonna share this to my therapist cause its so thorough in describing.........everything
"Yeah, did you get the link? Yeah just... just watch the whole thing through. So how much, how much do you think it'll cost to fix, like, all of that?"
tfw the smile fades as the vid goes from funny to excruciatingly relatable.
I had to stop at the middle of that "LEGENDARY", i couldn't take it.
Joel is a master at his craft.
Wait for it...
LOL. this is relatable in too many ways. I overthink EVERYTHING and I have a bad habit of talking too much when I get nervous or stressed. I once went on a double date with my friends to meet a girl that was friends with them, and I was so nervous my hands were shaking driving my car to the bar.
i had a double date where i didnt realize until way too late which one i was supposed to be talking to
Him:That would be legendary.
Her: I've never heard of that is that a new cool phrase? or a reference is there a response to it? Oh no he's walking away i missed my cue damnit he thinks I'm uncultured now.
OMG was my fly down the whole time?
30 seconds later realizing it's a How I met your mother reference and feeling stupid and thinking he definitely thinks she didn't get it and made him feel awkward, plus he now thinks she didn't watch the show and there's no way she can ever bring this up again without him noticing she's weird or an over thinker in the best case. Yeah 😐 been there.
Man joel you've been such a treasure and comfort these past few months. You're putting out wonderful content at an unbelievable rate. This short film is so totally bonkers and yet somehow completely relatable at the same time. I felt both uncomfortable in a good way and comfortable in also a good way. You're a storytelling MASTUH, boy. A young coppola. An old kubrick. A middle aged zack snyder. Thank you so much keep it up love u bud
yucky don't group Snyder in with these legends
@@TheDominicProject why are you so mad tho platypus
You’re a positively spritely Wes Anderson, Joel
@@Robertthewren you try laying eggs as a mammal
This is by far the most realistic video i've seen on the internet. Also, those bumblebee earrings were super adorable
I've been in a committed relationship for almost 2 years and this still filled me with second hand anxiety.
Same, and I can literally get away with being as weird as I like around my partner.
If a guy said that meeting up with me again would be *LEGENDARY* I'd be stoked, to be honest!
Really? Bless your soul then, the world needs more people like you.
Same, I'd honestly loved it.
Oh boy, I remembered the last episode of Evangelion to be a bit longer than 4 minutes and 35 seconds
Under-rated comment
That's probably one of the most realistic vídeo i've ever seen
This is an anxious attachment style
0:20 the most genuine "you are?" anyone has ever asked anyone
I unironically did the "bathroom peeing" thing in the past. I used to do the "go to the bathroom" excuse to use the mirror to check if I got something wrong on me, hair, too much sweat, and stuff, plan the funny "silly me!" conversation in case something truly was wrong and they have noticed before hand, fart in case I have to fart, then pretend to flush something and turn the sink on to "wash my hands". it was completely useless 99,99% of the time.
"i'm a man" reminds me somewhat of "i'm not a cat"
(ie the lawyer caught with kitten filter on Zoom)
But it looks like YOU are a cat, according to your name!
@PeterBergen 🙀💻
@MÅGÅ TÊÅRS ĀRË HÜMÅÑ NÏRVÃNÃ i mean, it probably _is_ something an undercover lawyer cat might say. And now we know it might even work, if they are on Zoom. Undercover lawyer cats everywhere must be rubbing their paws together. Think of all the Whiskas they could buy if they make it rain.
@@GioBardZero ah! But am i? Plausible deniability: My avatar is humanoid... The plot thickens 🔎
I love the way he makes things awkward, it hurts my soul but its just too good.
i feel like this every time i'm interacting with literally anyone that's not in my close circle tbh
Oh god that end was so excruciatingly painful that I screamed in pain and woke my parents up
Great work once again Joel, amazing as always
That "Legendary" line at the end would have had him back into my house instantly man... That was an apex move to be honest.
This channel is reaching mid 2000's Adult Swim level of hilarity with an organic DIY approach and its so fun to watch. Thanks for keeping our spirits up this past year dudes.
Absolute zero mention as to why his nails are painted silver, love it
It's from last weeks video, you should check it out.
I'm gonna give this to my film study professor first thing next morning and he's going to analyze this masterpiece with his classes for generations to come, forever attempting but never being truly able to fully fathom its sublime beauty.
Edit: good news - used my teacher's pet capabilities to get him to watch it with his professor colleagues during lunch, they all loved it! He says he's secretly genuinely thinking about adding a few slides referencing this to his lecture on Editing To Tell A Story. Also he said he'd be super interested in checking out more of Joel's stuff in future!! And that Joel expresses how weirdly he thinks, and god knows he has date stories that are way worse. bad news - we've already gone past that point in the curriculum, but at least I've been able to give future progenies the gift of Joel's gab.
Same
I wanna know too!!
Ditto
Please share the aftermath.
Wow! Thanks for the editing :)
The reaction on Joel's face between 4:04 - 4:06 is such a reliable moment
And only 7 words are uttered:
"What the fuck is wrong with me
That last bit just tears through my soul and trawls so many internal screams up my goodness.
The SCREAM at the end holy shit 😂
This is scarily way too accurate to my first time smoking weed and getting stoners paranoia
tfw someone's stoners paranoia is your normal social anxiety.
@@zr_1234 yea I get that hahha, it felt like everything I normally feel but amplified like 100 times
You've awoken so many things inside me that I've just tucked away for awhile. Thank you Joel.
'Townton is so beautiful this time of day'
I legitimately have not laughed this hard in a while. Amazing video this deserves 1 giga billion views.
That escalated the accurate amount.
I feel I cannot relate to this to any degree whatsoever but I still relate to it
youre a lucky man
personally, I can't relate because what's a date? :'D
This video perfectly describes trying to write an email or leave a comment on a video worth leaving a comment on.
Sent this to a guy I started seeing, he though it was great and really liked my humor. What am I doing wrong?!
Maybe you're too funny? ;)
nothing yet, just help him not panic and you'll both be fine
He probably thinks it's not gonna happen with you and just treats you as a friend...I treat most girls as normal friends nowadays since I got out of the "dating game" stuff a while ago...if the girl hits on me it's fine...if not it's fine either....
"oh God my pants are doing that thing where they crease up wrong and it looks like I'm not wearing anything under them!! How could you BETRAY ME PANTS"
Bruh
Why does this sum up every dating experience I've ever had. Honestly, I have no idea how I was able to trick some girl into marrying me.
They are like this too
@@robin-vt1qj That's the secret. You just got to fake confidence till you both get comfortable enough to be vulnerable. Not that I'm very good at doing that lol.
@@dreamer2260 I think its more so about being able to relate to girls than your own inner confidence management
@@robin-vt1qj Lol, you’ve told me alright. Of course it is, you’re correct that’s the most important part. But it does require a bit of both.
Lol some girl 🤦♀️
Great video!
Also, this woman’s entire aesthetic is on point. Coolest earrings I’ve ever seen.
possibly the best representation of social anxiety (at least how mine is) that I've seen! thanks I hate it lol
He needs to try the NATE method
This wasn't just an "exhale quickly through the nose" video, I actually laughed out loud. Thank you, Joel
The bunny really caught me off guard and it was brushed past so quickly I almost forgot about it
Ah that takes me back, you reach a certain age and you realise that if someone really likes you those little idiosyncrasies don't matter as much. And the fact that people can smell weakness/anxiety like blood in the water, realise that if they don't like you it doesn't matter, it's their loss
How is this so relatable, I never even had a date
Me neither... But I imagine it would be like this
F
cuz you've probably created a story in your own head about how TERRIBLE all of your dates are going to be. your asshole brain is setting you up for failure before it even happens. but i actually have some insider info that you're very interesting and you're going to have a great time dating, not because you are worried about your performance, but because you're excited to meet and understand another potentially interesting human being.