3 Ways the Narcissist Downgrades After You

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  • Опубліковано 2 гру 2024

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  • @deboraghwilliams6475
    @deboraghwilliams6475 2 роки тому

    Hello Leslie , I am a new subscriber. I am mismerized by your channel. I was DISGARDED by my ex Narc. He actually DISGARDED Himself!!!! We were together a little over two years. My ex is going through Hell !!!!!! His appearance has suffered , personal hygiene, down the tubes, I even heard his job is on the line. HE DID THIS TO HIMSELF!!!!HE HAS ONLY HIMSELF TO BLAME !!!! HE WILL NEVER FIND ANOTHER SUPREME QUEEN LIKE ME. HE WILL SEARCH THROUGH OTHER PEOPLE AND HE WILL NEVER FIND ME ; I AM IRREPLACEABLE!!!!! He throws two year old temper tantrums on the job,, snapping at people for no reason. I called him out about being a narc about three months before he threw Himself away!!! He blamed me for EVERYTHING!!!! And the smear campaign was NOTHING. more then a " OPEN CONFESSION " to my ex new victims that HE is the one who created, abused , used, took for granted, was selfish , crazy, childish in our former relationship ; NOT ME !!!!!!! These are all Red flags new supplies ; the narc has NO ALLIANCE TO YOU WHAT SO EVER !!!!! TRUST AND BELIEVE THAT!!!!!! THE NARC WILL TREAT YOU WAY WORSE BECAUSE YOU ARE NOT ME!!!!!! THANK GOD , THAT GOD SAVED ME FROM EXTRA HARM , AND FROM THE DEVIL'S HANDS. NO WEAPON , NO PERSON PUT AGAINST ME SHALL PROSPER !!!! I AM A QUEEN , GOD S MASTERPIECE, GODS CROWNED JEWEL, GODS WARRIOR.!!!!! I HAVE MOVED ON WITH A REAL, HUMAN ,GENUINE, LOYAL, LOVING, UNCONDITIONAL, COMPASSIONATE, FAITHFUL, CHRISTIAN " "MAN" THAT LOVES, HONORS, RESPECTS, APPRECIATES, PROTECTS, AND CHERISHES ME ; HIS QUEEN. I PRAY FOR MY EX SOUL.. I AM SO SORRY FOR THE LOSS OF YOUR FATHER. THANK YOU FOR THIS VIDEO!!!. GOD BLESS YOU !!!!🙏🏾🙏🏾🦋🦋👏🏾👏🏾🥳🥳💎💎🕊️🕊️✨✨💐💐👍🏿👍🏿🤗🤗💯💯💯💯

    • @iamlesleycain
      @iamlesleycain  2 роки тому

      Hi, welcome, and thanks so much!
      The narcissist’s downgrade(s) and self-destruction are real. Sounds like your ex wasn’t your person, and you’re much better off without him. Congratulations! Thanks for watching, commenting, and subscribing!

  • @paulinamartinez3234
    @paulinamartinez3234 2 роки тому

    He is downgrading in these three areas. It is happening so fast. It's very sad.

    • @iamlesleycain
      @iamlesleycain  2 роки тому

      Hi, Paulina! Sadly, narcissists often fall faster and harder in their lives, as they downgrade. And these days, between the economic uncertainty and education around narcissistic abuse, there's even less tolerance for their behavior. Hope you're taking care of your health and wellbeing. Thanks for watching and commenting!

  • @jackieking3417
    @jackieking3417 2 роки тому +1

    So True……

  • @jannlewandowski5540
    @jannlewandowski5540 Рік тому

    When we are discarded/or discard, it seems they latch on the first person they can find. I've seen many downgrades in my lifetime, and it's a sad sight to see. What they had, to what they have now.

    • @iamlesleycain
      @iamlesleycain  Рік тому

      Yes, attachment-seeking narcissists can engage in unhealthy practices; and it's sad to see what and who they'll settle for. Thanks for watching and sharing!

  • @michwashington
    @michwashington 2 роки тому

    I Subscribed because of this video… thank you for telling your story 🤗

    • @iamlesleycain
      @iamlesleycain  2 роки тому +1

      Hi, and welcome! You'll find lots of valuable information, validation, and real-life examples to help you on your healing journey. Thanks for watching and subscribing!

  • @chelseakal-q2b
    @chelseakal-q2b Місяць тому

    20 years younger, not attractive at all. Everything he’s always hated he is now with. I am so very confused and sad.

    • @iamlesleycain
      @iamlesleycain  Місяць тому +1

      @@chelseakal-q2b Hi! Not your fault. Not your problem. It may have been a reflection of his internal state. So, he may have been projecting self-hatred all along. Stay focused and enjoy your freedom. You are worthy of healthy relationships with healthy people. Thanks for watching and sharing!

    • @chelseakal-q2b
      @chelseakal-q2b Місяць тому

      @@iamlesleycain thank you for responding and for your videos. They help tremendously

  • @lagoldie9783
    @lagoldie9783 2 роки тому +1

    folks should stop referring to other people as down grades. It's just as narcissistic.

    • @iamlesleycain
      @iamlesleycain  2 роки тому +1

      Hi! You make a valid point. And the narcissist downgrading is more about their sabotaging behavior and resulting quality of life, as opposed to a person. Thanks for watching and commenting!

  • @wmhhealth2018
    @wmhhealth2018 2 роки тому

    My ex had stability with me. I have a nice home, financial security and I am healthy, attractive and intelligent. After our co discard I went no contact but I stumbled across some of her activities with a new group of people. They are actually a group of people she associated before our relationship and she conveniently never introduced me to these people knowing she would blow up our relationship eventually. They are hikers/kayakers but from the photos appear to be very toxic aka flying monkeys and other narcissists. I suspect it is a front for group sex and poly culture(she told me she is attracted to women) and she knew I was more traditional and would not be interested in that type of decadent lifestyle. I am pretty empathic and this association is a necessity for her now because there is so much more narc awareness these days that narcs have to stay with their own kind because empaths want nothing to do with them. They truly need to stay in their own lane and leave we empaths alone. I believe that is happening more and more. They probably hate one another but they are running out of better options for supply so they have to make these situations work for better or worse.

    • @iamlesleycain
      @iamlesleycain  2 роки тому

      Sounds about right. And how sad that she didn't value you or your relationship. Seems like you are solid in staying no contact, and very clear on who and what you were dealing with. Trust your gut, regarding your ex and the not-so-new group of people. And I agree that it's becoming increasingly difficult for narcissists to operate, as society becomes more educated and empowered. I think that AI is also going to disrupt this type of behavior in the future. Great insights. Thanks for watching and sharing!

    • @wmhhealth2018
      @wmhhealth2018 2 роки тому

      @@iamlesleycain Thank you. It was 3 years of toxicity and abuse. She used her sexuality to lure me in and gave me almost unlimited access during the love bomb which lasted almost 9 months. Interestingly it never went away completely but morphed into an almost 1950's bland sex life for the final year. I am curious as to how and why you believe that artificial inteligence will have a detrimental effect on narcissists ability to operate? Once again I greatly appreciate your feedback and insight.

    • @iamlesleycain
      @iamlesleycain  2 роки тому

      @@wmhhealth2018 Interesting 1950’s comparison. Glad you removed yourself from that situation. Have you read The Big Nine? It’s one of many gems on my free recommended reading list. Link is in the description box; and you can find the book on Audible. The author talks about what lies ahead in technology, and how AI could be used to track/monitor/rate our behavior in society. It’s already happening, to a certain degree; but there’s more in store. This, in turn, could impact our freedom to move about in society. Given that narcissists don’t like to follow rules and tend to behave inappropriately, I think they’d (in theory) be forced to change their behavior, or be denied access. Check it out and let me know your thoughts.