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HOW A WOMAN RECOVERS FROM THE GAME- How to reclaim your life after you know better. By RC Blakes
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- Опубліковано 16 сер 2024
- In this session we talk about how a woman may recover her consciousness after she’s been humiliated by the games of a toxic man.
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WELCOME FAMILY.
Welcome Rc Blakes 🙏🏽❤️
Thank you for your words!
This is great Pastor
My spiritual father I love you so much all your teaching have helped me shaped me molded me into the woman God has called me 2 be. I appreciate all your time , wisdom & knowledge every time I listen 2 you & your beautiful wife lisa I just weep from all the pain I've been through with a grown boy!!!!!!. You put your heart into every word u teach. Thank you again.
I just found your channel. It’s life-changing. I have been watching ALL of the videos on narcissism and I am shocked 😮 at how I feel prey to several narcissistic men. Thank you 😊 for your mission to help us rebuild our lovestory and reality in Christ.
“You can’t win this game. The game is rigged. You have to walk away” -- R.C. Blakes
Lord this was the whole part right there
shug_no_ avery Yep🙂
POWERFUL AND TRUE !!!!
I ain't playin' no damn mo.
Yes!
The best thing a woman can do in a relationship where she’s not getting what she wants is to walk away. No matter how bad or how much it hurts, walk away. It’s hard to take the first step, and your mind will try to find reasons to go back; but you must find the courage to leave and stay gone.
Thanks God for these lesson so good
@@numberone6266 AMEN & it's ok to be by myself till I find it!
YES🙏❤
Walking away is best. Don't let phony smiles disarm you
some times you don't have a choice
“The reason that you keep choosing wrong, is because you dont know who you are. And when you dont know who you are, you accept anything that comes because you have no boundaries”
❤❤❤ yes on point
Yes, if you don't know who you are in God you will often choose wrong. Heck, it's hard enough for some us sometimes who do have a relationship with God
This is why a father’s presence is so important in their daughter's lives.
Not all Fathers are healthy or able to steer their daughter’s as they may fit this criteria. I do understand your stand point though! ❤️. I’m a daughter from a toxic Father but his lack of accountability did not make me the woman I am today.
@@martinamobley-altice474 yes i have a abusive father to the point I wish I didn’t have one
Father God’s presence, yes!
Not only a father’s presence but a parent with an actual relationship and wanting their child to succeed and healthy protection of them.
I had my father him and my mom was married for 47yrs and I myself still fell victim to the game over and over my father was a provider and a good man to my mom but I never learned anything about what he’s speaking it’s a blessing to have him using his platform to empower us to learn our true selves!
It hurts because you are shocked that a human can treat another human being so poorly. It’s hard to come to grips that a person can choose to be so devious
100%
You are so right I never been so hurt about a lie in my life. And everybody lie but this took the cake
you know some of the folks that hurt us the most can be your own relatives
Exactly
true
Been crying for months and feeling so stupid that I allowed myself to get played. This gives me strength to fight back and not look back.
Vanessa I hear you, but you were blindsided, you just need to talk to another person, I went no contact, for years now, my attorney does the talking.
You'll understand once you get out of the relationship.
My dear Vanessa, you have ALL MY SUPPORT AND LOVE 💙in this !!! I know what it is like it took me almost 3 years to get over my abuser !!! Know for sure that God is helping you through this 🥰
We all go through it, Queen trust me !!
P
W
I will no longer be a PH.D woman being ran by a GED clown!!! MIC DROP!!!
Amen sista IM DONE TOO! ✌🏼🤍
Amen! Definitely a MIC DROP truth!! I had to text that quote to my girlfriends!
Love it
Could anyone please explain to me what the term PH.D vs GED means? I'm from Germany and can't figure out what this refers to... to a level of education?
Thanks in advance 💕
Amen🙏🏿 sister I truly agree They want us to be stupid ,Blind Cripple and Crazy instead of Loving Kind and God fearing it's sad .
This man is so correct, I am 64 years old and i learned the hard way. Wish he was around 40 years ago. Please young women...listen to him!!
thank you for your comment, and yes i am 32, and i am trying to learn so that i can not carry on the habits of all the women around me.
Thank you
Yes!! He is spot ON! Please listen to this man!! He is so used by God! 🙌🏽
Sadly, some women get offended and don't want to listen because Christianity scares them. They should focus on the message and not so much religion if that scares them. Until they see the light, the devil is going to get them each time the get involved with someone.
@@TeflonBarbie Yes, too many women are setting bad examples for their own sons and daughters. Our so called friends are setting bad examples. We have to change our influences to escape a life-mare!
I was attracted to broken men because I was was broken!! Your attraction will change when you change!! Thank God for Healing 🙏🏾
Ditto!
Jennifer Reed GLORY!
Amen 🙌🏽
I hope so. My ex showed me what was broken. The trauma i experienced growing up. He was toxic. I'm still in the process of letting go, healing. The bad part is gone. Its the hope in my heart to die towards him. He isnt gonna change.
Shanae Thompson 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
So about 4 days ago.. this i saw a random video pop up. It was the never let a man shame you video. I've been listening to all these videos and I subscribed. God does things for a reason. Three weeks I excaped a abusive marriage with nothing but the clothes on my back. Im in therapy but these videos have starting healing me. My biological dad have been in and out of my life. Im glad I found a Spiritual Father. Im glad that I can start the process of healing myself
UPDATE : im divorced now. I Wrote a book about Predatorial Men. Got my drivers license. Im also In school to get my masters degree in counseling. I wanna help women heal. I left July 2020 and im almost 2 years free. Im writing my second book. Im Healed...
God bless. I've been there. Keep working on you and healing. Doesn't it feel good to breathe and be yourself in your own space. Living in fear is a dead existence.
Be blessed
I am praying for you 🙏
Bless you😘
I will pray for you always ☮️ and blessings stay with pastor Blake's the family will get you through it
Praise GoD sis... so glad you made it out! Stay beautiful and know that you are heavily protected.
Sending you light....
Love from Canada. 🙏🏽💯🧡
I’m a therapist in Nashville TN. I just wanted to let you know that I respect you so completely. You speak absolute truth and you do so in such a diplomatic, straightforward, personal, real, honest, respectful and humble way. Not only do I recommend your UA-cam channel to my clients as a supplement in between sessions but I also listen to you at least 1-2 times a week myself. You are helping me become a better therapist to my people. You’re such a gift. Thank you.
Spiritual guidance from a GOD sent jewel like Pastor RC Blake’s, Jr.
“You were not weak. You were blindsided. It’s not that you were weak. It was not what you thought it was. Stop looking down on yourself for your own humanity. Stop. It.” RC Blake’s
God bless you beloved.
I don't know you in persons but God knows you well God reveal a revelation to me when I was going through your profile to observe things about your spiritual life.
While I was meditating, I saw a divine breakthrough in your life and I saw evil attack of the enemies manipulating on seizing your favor and to come against your hand work for you to be confused and lost hope. As I was praying the lord reveal to me and instruct you to sow a seed into the life of a baby suffering from leukemia in divine mercy orphanage foundation, located in Edo state, Nigeria, before the end of tomorrow, after doing that do let me know so I can join you in prayers deeply because he want to manifest his promises in your life and that of your family. No body should know about the seed because is between you and God, you will testify to the Glory of God after you have done this. If only you believe in him and do what he says. Proverb (3:27;21:26;22:9 or Deu. 28:1-5) contact the MD of the orphanage foundation, what's app +2348138874395 or Email:(divinemercyorphanagefoundation@gmail.com) send your donation to them and God bless you.
We can't win the game because we're not players in their game. We're just the ball.
THANK u Soo much.Tell the truth make it plain.Yass SIR much respect unto our Creator.Respect unto u!
U BlESSED Me everyday!😎😘🐱🐶
Jamacian woman!
You ever heard of being a walk-on? not being recruited or drafted, but still making it into the Hall of Fame? Never quit.
I agree. Every man has a game and we are the ball and the only way out is to take our ball and leave.
“No contact is the start of no impact”, I love it💜
Love it too!
Delete his number, his texts and stop imagining y'all being together!!! That's what I'm doing!
My value is not on the surface
Only Allah swt looks deep in me
And He show me my real value.
Thanks for your life .
Amazing. Speaker. Pray. For. Open. Minds
I like it 💯
I just deleted and blocked every man I dated who tries to give me false hope who offered me nothing but pain..thank you. I have been dating since I was 20. I'm 34 and went through a traumatic relationship and I have tried to find the strength and answers and you opened my eyes. I wish I knew this 15 years ago. thank you!
I did that yesterday too
May the Lord Jesus Christ bless you and keep you
I Peter 5-8 After you have suffered awhile, the Lord will make you perfect, establish you, strengthen you and settle you. There Is More In This Process Than Pain. 💎💎💎
Remove yourself from the game. Let go of the shame and guilt, learn your lesson. Take care of yourself selfishly, concentrate on building a better you. Relearn your value. What do you want? What is the vision you have for yourself in the future. Look deeper inside for any person and see if they are compatible or just remain single until you heal completely and whole.
Brenda sooo beautifully said ❤️ Thank you 💐
Ament Ament!!
Amen2that!! Love your simplistic summery of what he said besides what he said. He sure knows how to open our eye's to the deceit of this world & those who seek to deceive us!!
This was great
🥰🥰🥰Well said Ms.Brenda, I screenshotted this for myself to read when needed
"Let your heart break, and your soul will heal..."🙌🏾
Yes it’s true but how do you get up from this because it hurts
@@greenmd117 I am working through the hurt… And found that there are parts of me that allowed this because I wasn’t fully aware who my partner was. I didn’t ask the right questions, I ignored the signs, etc. Also facing the lack of self love I have. It hurts & I find myself angry at the inequalities & biases women face, and it’s even more hurtful when there feels like a lack of love from black men. I am working through the emotional abuse I experience. I also make a conscious effort to have a deeper relationship with God. My elders always told me to put no man before God. I got to a place where everyone let me down, and I realized God covered me this whole time. To re-define myself in how God sees me. Because this world will try to rob & kill who you REALLY ARE❣️❣️❣️ You are in my prayers❤️ You got this
"You accept anything that comes because you have no boundaries." Important advice!
The bottom line: "Don't blame a clown for being a clown. Ask yourself why do you keep going to the circus." People go to Vegas thinking: "I'm gonna BREAK Vegas", not knowing the game is "rigged" already for them to lose. Same situation with relationships. Love yourself, get your OWN everything; and you won't "need" any man.
LET THE HEALING BEGAN! A Lot Of People Are Just Coldhearted, Narcissistic, Sociopath, Psychopaths, And GOD WILL DO IT SISTER QUEEN'S!
*AMEN* 🙌
Yep...learned late about narcissist was married to one for 22 and never knew what a good was...he was so perfect when I first met him going through a divorce been on my own for 1 year...
Yes YES AND YESS!
Hallelujah
Yes they are..ill be on my own the rest of my life..no good ones out there anymore
Now this is a true *high value man* , giving high quality advice
I caught that 😏🙏🏾😊✨💆🏾♀️✨
Yes. A true Godly man.
And not according to Kevin Samuel's definition
Amen 🙏🏽 & co-sign!!
EXACTLY! I honestly don’t find value in the amount of money a man makes I find value in his mind and his willingness and quality to support his family in every way, and we may not have all the materialistic things but we will have what we need and some of our wants.
I met myself at 50. The boy had to go so I could grow. Thank you for your advice. You are right on point Pastor! It’s never too late.
Wow congratulations
That was deep, and a blessing to a 43yr old woman
I took had to let the boy go so I can grow
My favorite comment ever, "Clown in a crown". So true how after we get over the guy, we realize he was a Clown, not a king.
God bless you beloved.
I don't know you in persons but God knows you well God reveal a revelation to me when I was going through your profile to observe things about your spiritual life.
While I was meditating, I saw a divine breakthrough in your life and I saw evil attack of the enemies manipulating on seizing your favor and to come against your hand work for you to be confused and lost hope. As I was praying the lord reveal to me and instruct you to sow a seed into the life of a baby suffering from leukemia in divine mercy orphanage foundation, located in Edo state, Nigeria, before the end of tomorrow, after doing that do let me know so I can join you in prayers deeply because he want to manifest his promises in your life and that of your family. No body should know about the seed because is between you and God, you will testify to the Glory of God after you have done this. If only you believe in him and do what he says. Proverb (3:27;21:26;22:9 or Deu. 28:1-5) contact the MD of the orphanage foundation, what's app +2348138874395 or Email:(divinemercyorphanagefoundation@gmail.com) send your donation to them and God bless you.
The way I was raised unfortunately prepped me for horrible relationships.. super strict household, walking on eggshells, fussed at all the time and shut down from being myself... Unraveling it all to become free.
I can so relate to your post. I'm the same way!❤
@@Moonstruck212 Well bless us both on our way to recovery. I'm breaking soul ties in Jesus name. He's knocking things out one by one and giving me so much clarity. I know better, always have.. I'm better empowered to walk away from the trash to be free of trauma bonds.
I can relate. I'm so sorry. I'm thinking about ways we can make a movement or bring to attention the horrible abuse and neglect black daughters face by their mothers. We have been brought into this world hated by our family, tormented, stamped down, abused. All while society and our community celebrates our abusers and shames us for wanting love, healthy validation, positive role models and a sisterhood. It's really tragic.
I was in an abusive marriage where I was cheated on, lied on, lied to, gaslighted, called every name in the book, my jaw almost broken ....I was the spiritual, physical, emotional walking wounded. To the point I almost slit my wrists one lonely dark midnight.
But GOD.
That was over 20 years ago. Since then, I've learned to forgive my ex-husband, but more importantly, I was able to forgive myself. I've written over 8 books, something I always wanted to do since I was a little girl, but didn't have the guts. How did I do it? First, Jesus reminded me Whose I was: His child. He then guided me how to simply invest in me.
God bless all you wonderful children of GOD!💕💕💕
Thank you for your testimony 🥰
Thank you for the testimony. Sending you love sis. Good job!
I'm going through this now with my 49 year old husband he boldly told me out his mouth during a argument that he talk to a girl named jessica and got the nerve to fake a attitude with me like it's my fault smh I have to get rid of this gaslighting narc . Pray I'll find a way I haven't worked for more than 4 years and have never lived on my own I'm 27 and a late bloomer but I'm learning please give any advice I need it
Thank you 🙏🏽
@@elizabethking-kimble7883 Elizabeth, the best advice I could give you, is not to ask "Why?!?" Why is a word, an attitude, that hold us back, paralyzes us from moving on and upward. It keeps you a victim. When I kept crying to the Lord "Why me? Why did You allow this to happen? Why???" He lovingly spoke in my spirit "Sandra, you are asking the wrong question." Baffled, I asked "Then what question should I ask?" He answered "What now?"
Powerful, deep, and to the point. I had to figure out what I would do with what I learned and pay it forward. That was when I started writing. One of my books "Baggage Handlers: My road to letting go of life's painful luggage" was not only the book that sold the most copies from all my books, but the Lord helped me heal while I wrote it! I pray for you continued success in overcoming what Satan used for evil and God wants to use for your good. God bless you and stay strong!😇
“Pain is weakness leaving the soul” that’s a very power lesson, thank you.
“Let your heart break so your soul can heal” Spot on 👍👍👍
Yes. Lost 36 years. Thank you for this. Starting over at 51.
You're not alone. We're riding this "Awakening" together. 🙏🙏
It's not over until "THE SOURCE" says so. " A thousand years is like a day..."
@@debram9998 Yes we are! Amen!
@@chbaker3592 Amen!
You got this! 51, you still young and fresh. 🙏🏽💯👌🏾✊🏽
Please pray for me. “I know nothing, I need to relearn what womanhood and life is about. “ I am ready for wisdom, change and growth💕
Prayers sent for growth and healthy change🙂🙏💫❤
💌
I feel you
He is wonderful.. and wise.. Here is another tool DADDY THROWS ME IN THE AIR - memoir/self-help
Me too beautiful...me too
It is so true. Healing from this kind of trauma is NO joke. Withdrawals - physical symptoms just like a drug addict . With God’s help , you will get thru it. You must walk thru that door. It is an initiation, but when you come through it... you are truly reborn. It is SO worth it.
I cried throughout this video. Im so broken. I have alil hope now.
❤🤗🙏
I too cried but it's like purging yourself
I promise your not alone.
It's also painful to acknowledge that we made a bad choice, leaving us to continue second-guessing our own intuition. And mourning the loss of a dream. 💔💔💔
You said it,"Mourning ".💔
H. A. Thank you- you too ❤️ Had a bit of an epiphany earlier that a lot of it is also being resentful of having to walk away from something that we put our all into, and so much of our time into, so instead of looking at it as a waste of time, I need to look at it as the plan and the journey that God wanted me to take to prepare me for what He has next for me ❤️
@@hotmessmomtv4117 Unbearable pain mixed with being angry with self for being naive,trusting. Feeling very jaded.
Thank you... thats exactly what im feeling
Women really Need to be Emotionally intelligent!! Stop killing yourselves for them bumm y'all🤦♀️ We all Know we didn't even REALLY Liked🙄 them..We were just operating from a place of broken-ness and Scarcity mindset.. Because we subconsciously thought we can't do better which was implanted into our brains in childhood due to being born in Toxic family!! 🤦♀️🙄
Stop yall.. Just Stop! 😒🙄🤦♀️
My heart breaks when I see beautiful Substance women weeping over bumms🤦♀️🙄😭 I was there too😌🙄
I Had 2 narc's in my life because Im an Empath and was codependent..I worked and Healed myself..It's been Two years I kicked the trash out now I'm free and nva been more Healthier,Happier and Calmer🌺💓🤗Healing dsnt means the damage didn't happen,It means the damage dsnt Controls You anymore! 😌💓🙏🏻🌺
You don't have to TRANSCEND something if you have NO INTEREST in it!! 💓🙏🏻😌🤗🌺 Remind yourself that you are a WHOLE Precious, Intelligent,Beautiful 💓😌human being..The Joy is already🤗 in you..You are just Using the bumm to reflect your projections 🙄🤦♀️on it.. You are not the Trauma which you received in your chaotic family in childhood which makes u feel attracted towords such Toxic men in the first place! I suggest you all Listen to RC blakes and Dr. Gabor mate's videos on UA-cam..He has done amazing work on Trauma and healing! 🤗😌🙏🏻💓🌺 Hope this helps 👑Queens! 💓🙏🏻😌
If I could have a "do over" with what I know now, I would go back to 16 yrs old. I would hold on to my viriginity, because I knew my worth. I would avoid those guys who only wanted sex/feel on me. I would continue as I was, in church. I am learning to forgive myself from all my past dating & sexual choices. I wish I had married my husband as a virgin.
Yes me too but that's ok at least we not giving away things that,they didn't deserve
Obtaining WISDOM is virginal!💋😉
Nyla Davenport You are projecting. You are reading way more into my comment. There is no argument here. My comment is merely reflecting MY thoughts & feelings from a place of growth & maturity. You are welcome to have your own opinion regarding YOUR life. Good day.
I married my husband as a Virgin. He used my innocence and shamed guilt me for 20 years. He never kissed me in marriage and he had been so cold. I ended up depression and had no control. He wanted to disgard me because of my mental depression.
Xuehua Cao I'm sorry you had that experience. Hopefully you are no longer with him & no longer being abused by him. Take care & stay well.
Being weak never crossed my mind. Betrayal, robbed, taken advantage of are some of the things that crossed my mind.
That happened to me recently. He stood me up twice. Fortunately we did not have sex. I blocked him because I love me and will not be anyone's option. This is so awesome. Thank you Reverend.
This message is so timely. I'm 61 years old and have never learned my value.
Never too late Queen! Blessings in 2021!😊
I’m 63 and learned my value 7 yrs ago when i attended ‘For My life’ in Georgia. It was a week long meeting so well worth the fee. I learned how much God loves me-i count that as my real birthday!
start NOW !
I'm 54 ... and me also. Prayers for your continued journey.
I am 62, now learning my true value! No regrets, so happy to be actually taking the time for me! My transformation!
"The pain is pregnant with tremendous possibilities" love it
And here I am again, 1 year later. My Covert narcissist husband is dumping me after 23 years. I was devastated.I so needed to hear this. He is demanding we don't need a lawyer.....I gave my heart and soul to him as a Christian homemaker.He seems evil. I don't ever want this again. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. I know God will heal my brokenness.💙
Update?
How are you Wendy Thomas?
Get a lawyer
Get a lawyer
I hope you did get an Attorney
Not that I’m weak. I had hope. Thanks for helping me with that one. I’m human and just wanted love & a person to build with.
You’re not weak, you trusted him more than he deserves.
I have no words to express how your teachings have transformed my life. All I can say is thank you!❤
And the prayers at the end..always get me teary-eyed...💛💚💜
Amen god blessing you right
🙏❤️😎
Yessssss.im.on that journey too...
And me also, God bless you Dad ♥️
Thank you for being the father I never had 😢
I cried when I watched this video. I reached a new level of self awareness. Glory be to God 🙏🏾
Just separated from my husband and it’s been hard to detox from the abuse of a narcissistic relationship,but I’m open to learn this lesson
How are you doing? 23 years and he dumped me Friday the 13th (go figure).
The pain of the break up is temporary compared to the pain of regret and everything that’s gonna happen if you stay with this person for life all the years lost in the chronic stress and anxiety and abuse that’s a greater pain. So go through the pain of the break up and withdrawal and detox
AMEN😍👏👏🙌
Amen! Working on me now...🙏
Hi I wrote a comment awhile back saying trying to recover is like someone on drugs ....you gonna have withdraws missing that person memories etc but I kept the faith and hold out ...I know God have BETTER! For me ... things have been better for me ...I'm stronger then ever! ...to anyone going threw this heartbreak pain God is with you and you will overcome this
Thank you for this
Lb you welcome ☺️
I believe that so much I'm still looking at text messages that were between us. I haven't been in a relationship setting in over 20 years and I love what we were saying to each other. He was the type of guy who let me look at his phone when I looked at all of my text messages in his phone they were deleted
This is right on time because I'm dealing with a very traumatic breakup that left me completely heartbroken and filled with revenge, hate and resentment. I'm actually dealing with being addicted and trama bonded to my ex. It's a mess right now, but I'm taking baby steps
how are you, now?
Update pls! How are you doing now?
Stay close to Jesus Christ, only way.
This is soooo true. Spoke straight to my heart today. I'm removing myself from the game. Period.
Thank you
Praying for all my queens that need healing. I have been watching RC Blakes since 2018 it was pure therapy for me when I was going through a broken engagement I was feeling worthless and my self esteem was in the pits. I don’t even know how this mans video came up on my feed but I thank god. RC Blake’s made me realize my worth and claim my crown.
He doesn’t even know me but he changed my life and thinking. I was programmed and now I can confidently say I was delivered. God bless anyone who reads this I hope you find healing and walk in the purpose that our father has for you.
Thanks for sharing a word of encouragement.
God's Word! 🙏🏻😌🥀
I am really touched by your words. Thank you for putting out hope here for everyone. You’re a beautiful soul 🥰
Thank you for sharing
Heal heal heal friends!!!! SOME people find it difficult to be alone but you NEED a season of ALONE time! Soon, you will realize that God is ALL you need THEN GOD will send you a mate IF that is his will for YOUR life! To many times we indirectly make PEOPLE our God and that ain't it friends!! You are BEAUTIFUL, worthy and you DESERVE the best!!! Im do GRATEFUL for the Blake Brothers 😇😇😇😇
4:15 it hurts because you had hopes, you invested time and you had futures plans, he was just running games. It’s really heavy.
6:35 stop looking down on yourself for having been human
7:12 this is a losing game, you can’t win this game, you have to walk away from this table, the game is rigged against you
10:28 you’re not going to turn this around, this is not going to turn into a fairy tale, this was a nightmare from the beginning
10:50 SEPARATE YOURSELF FROM THE SOURCE OF YOUR PROBLEM: NO CONTACT>NO IMPACT>INSOLATE YOUR SOUL>YOU HEAL>YOU REINFORCE>YOU TRANSFORM BY THE RENEWING OF YOUR MIND
40:00 summary
All the time spent . You opened your heart and body to give your ALL and find out he had nothing to give to you.
Yes indeed, my therapist said narc abuse is like being on cocaine. You know its bad for you but you keep trying to get that first high! After leaving narc abuse is like being in rehab. There's also grieving involved. I been grieving since Dec 2019. I just want peace & no more heartache.
Don't give up dear Sister,
Life is too short and worth living. I was marry to an undercover narcist for too long. The best thing I could have ever done was to walk away and allowed myself to live again. Jesus paid a high price for us to be free for us to allow a man to keep us captive. God ❤️ you and He can get you thru it. He will give you life, hope and new dreams. John 3: 16
You keep moving forward to better things for yourself and God will bring it to you🙏🏼
I’m proud of you😌! It does get better👍🏻
Mathew 11:28 Then Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest.
Draw near to Jesus sis like never before! Praying that your soul be restored and your peace and joy began to overflow. God said the years lost won't measure up to what God has in store for you. IT'S COMING BACK! Receive and believe it in Jesus name.
Did you feel like it or he consumed your life and couldn't focus on every day life and your head seem to always be racing with so many things running through your mind that you have trouble with sleep and feeling depressed and just consume you.???
@@thebrideofchrist6294 wow I feel that this was a message for me . I love my husband but he seems to have this narracist behavior and I have tried and tried and tried to stick in this long distance marriage with him after going through the process of immigration to help him get to come back into the United states and I thought as he told me that he wanted Me and not kids and we have one son to be his family but after he returned not long after I seen a video of another female and asked him about it and he denied it and still does today and it hurt me to see that was on his phone and we had a disagreement about it and he left and he still is gone living in a different state away from the kids and I and I have tried to get him to come home and honor our marriage and agreement that we made to each other and with immigration but he keeps throwing up that I was wrong to be upset and hurt about it and uses it as an excuse to not come home and honor the marriage and agreement we made and never will admit that it was wrong for it being on his phone and I have tried to put it in the past but he will not stop blaming me for his actions and wrong doing and he wants to always blame me for everything and he acts like he is innocent and won't admit he makes mistakes and thinks that he never needs to apologize for anything.
😢This just made me realize I still have ALOT more healing to do.
I know. I keep wanting to rush my healing. Not to find a relationship though. Just to live life! Sometimes I think I have SO far to go, then other times I read scripture or hear a message that says God is going to heal me fast. I guess I will go day by day and keep toxicity at bay. Lots of practice available!
You can and will do it.
I wish I could express how much I love this! I'm in the isolation phase right now. Thank you ❤
I believe unhealed childhood trauma opens the door to low self esteem which sets us up for bad relationships. As adults, we have to do the emotional healing work. Thank you Pastor Blakes for your messages!
Yes childhood trauma must be dealt with first and foremost.
Ok, so last night I was telling Father God that the healing wasn't complete and today you show up...my, my ,my. Isn't he just marvelous
Praise Jesus!!
RC is always on time can’t wait til he can do conferences again!
Amen. Pastor RC Blakes is a Godsend!
Yes Ma'am! HE is!💋🙏
ME TOO...crying tears of joy bc I feel freedom‼️now the work begins
Don't just take the hurt from the pain, take the lesson. 🙌🏾 So true because every pain gives a lesson, and each lesson brings wisdom & growth.
Agreed
Dealing with pain three years after walking out of a narcissist.I wish I heard your teachings earlier.
I am on professional therapy and I am now trying to reintroduce myself to me.
Thank you Pastor Blakes, I'm from Nairobi, Kenya 🇰🇪.
Thank you so much Pastor! I went through many phases of healing over the past 5 years. One thing I’ve noticed is that when I’m ready for next phase the teacher appears. I stumble upon the person that teaches what I need to know/work on next. That’s how I stumbled upon your chanel to learn how to be a queen.🙏🏾
Let the “HEALING” begin!
ALWAYS KEEP IT REAL NEVER STOP
Jesus never sugarcoat things... I love you...u put salt back into my life
Exactly sir no BLAMERS FRAMERS or gamers.... CLOWNS with CROWNS...sir that's so EXACT SIR HUNG AROUND TOO MANY GENTLEMAN CORPORATE THEY THAUGHT HER VERY WELL IN FACT THERE RUNNING RIGHT NOW SIR...SHES TO ADVANCED THE BARBARIAN IS MUCH NEEDED...EATING CORN BEING STALKERS SIR WITH DOOKIE MRS FIELDS NO CHOCOLATES TO DARK GOD KNOWS WHAT YOU NEED AND WHAT YOU DONT NEED SIR AND WONT...CHOP IT UP TO THE UNGODLY BAD MAN GAMES
Juggling the change of life and my first non committed super toxic sexy whatchama call it. I'm tired to the bone I want my own lashes back and the brain that used to be in the head they was attached to🙄
Amen sis...
Bless you, Pastor Blake's. Got WOKE listening to you. Had the courage to escape 33 yrs Religious Covert Narc. I am 3 days no contact. Thank you, Jesus. 🙏😆✝️
Good for you
Keep strong!
That's awesome 😊
@@dr.andreacarter5612 I have a out 40 of Pastor Blakes' vids. Binge, Bible Study, be happy in MY apt. Me & God.🙏✝️📖🎶😎
@@CaramelCali After 33 yrs, time to break soul ties with this demonic influenced predator.
Thank you so much Sir for awakening the queen in me.
You're a father figure for me.
You have taught me things nobody else have. No even any religious organization.
God bless you daddy
This is from the depth of my heart.
I have had a five year by myself no relationship no nothing at that time I enjoyed my life they gave me time for God to work on me
Fill your longing for your oppressor with god, listen to everything positive that keeps you away from the oppressor.
Facts!!!!!
I agree. I was so broken and the Lord healed me back to about 80% of my true self after 30 years with him. I always listen to pidcasts, videos and books of faith. Great video!
We've lost sight of who we are and whose we are, this Modern Age has become the norm. God intended love and relationships to be beneficial and healthy to its participants.
Chris Parker , would you be open to chat. Do you have a email
@@Meepsavage Sure: christopherlparkerster@gmail.com
@@chrisparker6249 thanks
God just speaking to me here after 17 years of marriage, 41 years old. But thank you God for now 😊🙌
Good teaching pastor. I refuse to allow any man to treat me like that.
"You were blind-sided" that part
Yeah, not weak,
Its better to learn about the game even if you haven't been impacted by it. So ready, set and we're waiting to go 😊
That's what I tell my daughters .. keep an eye out for evil people.. many times evil dont look evil at the surface
Yes , I’m trying to tell my daughter ,good job young lady!!!!
That comment about women jumping when he 'finally calls' for the clown that gives breadcrumbs but then don't want to submit for the man that is a King is mind blowing. I have paraphrased of course, but this is how I internalized it. Thank you for the gifts Mr. Blakes.
Also, you’re the one in pain because YOU were the one w a conscience! Love you ALL!😘 Be healed…be well…be blessed…in Jesus’ name!!!😭🙌🏻👏🏻👏🏻 “Your enemy, the devil, prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour”…but he’s got SKIN on! God will redeem it!!!
When you miss him, when your heart hurts and you start questioning your decision to walk away...start praying for that self centered man. God has a plan for his life, too. And crying out to God brings the peace you are needing. God always meets us where we are at.
Oh my goodness, this really is the best advice.
AMEN✅‼️🙌🏾
When you miss him and your heart hurts...pray for yourself...ask God to go to your broken place and start the restoration process. What would make you pray for him while you are the one hurting? The issue is self love. We deserve better.
@@dr.andreacarter5612 Hey, I use to have these same thoughts, until one day, I obeyed God and prayed for the guy who broke my heart many times, after praying for him and not just me, I began to have mercy and compassion for him, and in return my heart began to heal and that pain was further away. I'm still healing but praying for that enemy as God tells us to do will cause God to heal you and help you to see how lost and bound he is. Hope that makes sense, it's my current situation.
@@krystalarchie I understand but she never said she prayed for herself. After being in a relationship with a narcissist there's a lot of healing that needs to take place. It appeared that she was more concerned with him than herself. We tend to get into these relationships due to lack of self-love and being codependent. I thought she was having a codependent moment. That's what I thought. I could be wrong.
I broke contact last night we have a 3 yr old daughter I said some hurtful words to him while he begged to come back he got a narc injury once he realized I had been grounded in my decision! The mask came off and he said I cheated because she made me feel better about myself than you she's a better communicator he said right after I'm just trying to hurt you so you can stop talking down on me , I got so upset 😭 than I began to repent and blocked him again it's been 5 months since I left that abuse took him back several times before I got the knowledge and self discovery
@ Retha September- Queen, lift your head up; focus on giving you and your daughter the best quality care in life. Time to discover you so you can be that good example for your baby girl. You are a Queen 👑.
Thanks so much sweetheart
He didn't take responsibility for his actions then blamed you for it. May God give you strength for your journey.
Ecle ctic Yes I will
So happy you got out of that situation 🙌🏽
"Pain is weakness leaving the soul." Excellent quote! I am allowing myself this time to embrace the pain and to read the lessons of an abusive marriage.
It's so true. Been there. Even years later when things seemed not so great and lonely, I was tempted to go back to my oppressor. Satan is a liar.
I believe everything starts in the family of origin. You have toxic femininity as well as toxic masculinity. Growing up in church there was never any lessons for young girls/women about inner purity and self worth. Instead it was alot of judgement and condemnation without offering any solutions. Thank you for the teachings.
This
And they never taught the boys anything
Yes you are so right , some pastor don't have the knowledge and wisdom to teach these things to us in church
"The game is rig...you can't win" so true. "Get out...!"
I will listen to this message again and again... Thank You Pastor.
In hate that I grew in foster care and was not taught ANYTHING about boys and men except to stay away from them or I would go to hell. Crazy thing is I did. But I been back for a few years now....SINGLE AND FREE from pain and getting my Masters Degree! Amen!
Amen! And pray for God to send the right Men around you, men aren’t bad, bad men are bad… ungodly men are bad, but a righteous man, even with his troubles, if God places him in your life, He’ll add to you
@@NicholeWilliamsAmorvicitomnia Amen!
You gotta feel it, to heal it. You gotta embrace it, to face it.
"Pain is weakness leaving the soul' - RC Blakes
Yessss!!! Embrace it to find joy and abundance..
Yes.. Pain are the lies leaving your soul.
That 1 thumbs down was a narcissist
Pretty much, & it's sad.🙏
Lol😭🤣😂
Narcs are horrible people!!!
125 Joined That Narc Also With The Thumbs Down.....Pathetic Game Players...Boo Hoo!!!!!
Indeed 🤣🤣🤣🤣 they just can't stand the truth.
"This was a nightmare from the beginning" 😱 we just don't want to see it 🙈 🙉 🙊
What a miracle it is to have discovered this man of God! I am just here to thank you for opening my eyes to the truth 🙏🏾
It is the pain I felt. Never did drugs but it was like withdrawing from something....but not only my body ached but my soul....a grieving heart and soul. Any newbies out there it does pass....s l o w l y. You need to believe the Lord is holding you...you will see. Eighteen months and finally feel 3/4 times better. Still have a bad day but fewer now.
Thank you for emphasizing the s l o w l y... Because it's been 2.5 months and I'm tired 😩... I just want the pain to go away and leave me alone! The bad days are less but I'm just tired of this.... Like... Can we move to the next phase please 😒
We need to pray to have our hearts incline to G-d will , it will hurt but you have to wanted so bad that you wanna change for His Glory , love G-d 1st have grace , I see it as muscle growth in the 🧠 muscle growth in the heart . Holy Spirit help my sisters heal but for G-d Glory
I have been re introduced with myself. I been single for 5 years. I do everything by myself, travel by myself, do everything by myself for 5 years. What lingering hurts , my weakness, shame, who am i.
My past was my lingering pain, weakness I blamed myself, I was ashamed of not being married then at 37 .
So I love who I am with all my flaws and imperfection. I definitely appreciate values bc I have them. I appreciate values, characters, morals. Who am person is rather what he has.
I was ashamed of being unmarried too. Not just ashamed but very angry with God for leaving me so vulnerable and alone. I finally wrote an angry letter to a priest asking how a loving God would allow this for a woman like me. The priest never answered, but after I poured my soul out in the letter I started to find some peace and acceptance with my situation.
Hard to win a game you didn’t even know you was playing in
The withdraws are both painful and embarrassing. How could I have been so played by him and abused and then miss the relationship. I can't believe I feel longing for him. My head talks to my heart about what a clown he is but my 💙 remembers the few times that were good. I'm ready to be done with this relationship, it's taken up 10 years of my time.
Holy spirit, help me move on!
God bless you beloved.
I don't know you in persons but God knows you well God reveal a revelation to me when I was going through your profile to observe things about your spiritual life.
While I was meditating, I saw a divine breakthrough in your life and I saw evil attack of the enemies manipulating on seizing your favor and to come against your hand work for you to be confused and lost hope. As I was praying the lord reveal to me and instruct you to sow a seed into the life of a baby suffering from leukemia in divine mercy orphanage foundation, located in Edo state, Nigeria, before the end of tomorrow, after doing that do let me know so I can join you in prayers deeply because he want to manifest his promises in your life and that of your family. No body should know about the seed because is between you and God, you will testify to the Glory of God after you have done this. If only you believe in him and do what he says. Proverb (3:27;21:26;22:9 or Deu. 28:1-5) contact the MD of the orphanage foundation, what's app +2348138874395 or Email:(divinemercyorphanagefoundation@gmail.com) send your donation to them and God bless you.
God has been so good to me.. For him to introduce me to this man!! This father!!! This now is my dominant culture.. The fact that i am a Queen.. ❤️
Amen
My greatest blessing this year
Amen.
You are enough as you are. You do not need to preform. The only pressure you should feel is the pressure of competing with the best version of you. Pause and rethink you. You must be intentional about not being angry.
Lock ALL the doors. Isolate yourself from this person.
Go to the next level in wisdom. Stop playing a losing game.
Amen Pastor
God bless you beloved.
I don't know you in persons but God knows you well God reveal a revelation to me when I was going through your profile to observe things about your spiritual life.
While I was meditating, I saw a divine breakthrough in your life and I saw evil attack of the enemies manipulating on seizing your favor and to come against your hand work for you to be confused and lost hope. As I was praying the lord reveal to me and instruct you to sow a seed into the life of a baby suffering from leukemia in divine mercy orphanage foundation, located in Edo state, Nigeria, before the end of tomorrow, after doing that do let me know so I can join you in prayers deeply because he want to manifest his promises in your life and that of your family. No body should know about the seed because is between you and God, you will testify to the Glory of God after you have done this. If only you believe in him and do what he says. Proverb (3:27;21:26;22:9 or Deu. 28:1-5) contact the MD of the orphanage foundation, what's app +2348138874395 or Email:(divinemercyorphanagefoundation@gmail.com) send your donation to them and God bless you....
I'm praying for the healing of all my sisters and their children as well the same for mine! I'm also praying for these men because the cycle has to stop and I pray God will step in wholeheartedly to take the control back....Amen! Thank you Pastor Blakes and for some reason, I just believe my husband is in counseling with you and I pray the truth was let out, which is all I have been seeking and his healing has began and my healing can somehow start without the closure that is needed especially so that others are not lead down the same road, blessings Sir!!!
@@connievelasquez9337 pray for yourself
This was the reality my Mother woke up to after years and years of abuse. I knew she knew it in the end. I could tell. She didn’t make it out in time...She passed from a brain stem stroke last year. I just wish she could of heard you.
I'm so sorry. What would we do without these videos that our moms didn't have? We are standing on their shoulders, aren't we?
Prayers to you!!!
@@catherinewhite3257 Yes we are. I feel like i didnt find them in time for her. The guilt you carry after this type of abuse takes a long time to recover from.
My prayerful support is with you.🙏🏽
from one also without a mother, i am so sorry for your loss. prayers and blessings to you and yours💖💔
This video has blessed me. I had started to remove myself from a toxic relationship but listening to has verified that I am on the right track. God Bless You
A formal introduction to myself!! Intentionally dedicate my life to..... Myself!
"Pain is weakness leaving the soul". God bless you for helping us women. God bless you snd your family. Thank you.
The recovery is still ongoing hence why five years later still single and just loving and working on me , no more clowns I await another top show .
God bless you Rc Blakes
If all little girls had a father, mentor, or guidance that you give it would impact nations. Thank you so much for caring enough about girls, and women to impart such thorough and thought provoking knowledge. We appreciate you and your Queen.
So poignantly true Pastor.. the pain of withdrawal as if that person was an illicit drug. No contact after the harsh reality of a losing game. Maybe even a series of losing games for some of us. Even after all that... our Eternal Father has given the remedy and He uses you so beautifully to minister to us who have been hurt so badly. Thank You!