I need to say this. To all you 20 year olds watching, sometimes you do have to do it hard alone. Sometimes you do suffer alone. And that's ok. It's not forever. You do sometimes suffer in silence, when I left home I lost my family, my school friends abandoned me, and I had nothing. I had no money. I had no friends. No one telling me I mattered or was loved. I had to fight. I had to remember why i needed life. Why I deserved life. Sometimes people aren't there for you. And it feels like you're the only one suffering alone. It actually happens and it's so very very hard. But you can survive. You just need to hang in there, focus on yourself, your needs, what you like and why you stay alive. Soon, you will draw people in who see your beauty, and choose you even though you're alone. Because they see that light. I almost died, i tried to take my own life and the universe said no. It was a miracle. I met my life partner in that time, we have been together 6 years, and he's my best friend in the whole world. You got this 💙
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In my 20’s I learnt…. 1. Twenties are the years that you truly grow as person and start to form who you are now and who you want to be rather than who you SHOULD be. As the decade progresses you feel less pressure than at the start of your 20’s which is huge. 2. It’s the decade that will give you the experiences that change you and give you memories to look back on. 3. Life feels more carefree and light but near the end of the 20’s is when you start to ground yourself and start to want to be settled in all areas of your life 4. You learn what you do and don’t want in life, especially in a partner. These are years where I experienced love and heartbreak and losing myself. Then near my 30’s I started to find me again. 5. My 20’s taught me what I enjoyed the most and what things would be part of my life and which things I would grow out of eventually. 6. In my personal experience the men I was in relationships with who were in their twenties just WERE NOT ready to settle yet. That didn’t start to change until they hit 30. 7. It’s the time of confusion, not knowing which paths were the Right ones but then learning the paths we chose lead us to where we are now and oh boy did we learn from them!!! 8. Twenties were the times of making mistakes and that’s OK! 9. You learn that Friends come and go. The phrase: friends come into your life for a reason, season or lifetime REALLY makes sense in your 20’s. Friends are the family we choose for ourselves. 10. You learn what is REALLY important to you and that priorities change which is ok, things that were once important to you won’t be anymore and new priorities will accumulate. Priorities have an ebb and flow and as you get older you learn to change, grow and adapt to these changes. The only DEFINITE thing in life is that change always happens and you can’t change that!!
I'm 28 years old. I definitely feel the time scarcity thing. I can't hold down a job, I don't have a significant other, and I don't have a good group of friends who understand and support me. I don't even have a well connected family. So it definitely feels like my life is a huge train reck and I should have been able to figure things out by now. So this video is comforting. It helps me reinforce to myself that I need to practice patience.
Same age here and same situation. I have some friends, but we've gone our separate ways and only keep in touch with online messages. Most of them seem to have things "figured out"--or at least have more stability compared to me (partners, good jobs).
@@corylcreates same. It feels like everyone around me has so much going for them. Including my roommates. Good jobs, good friend connections, money to throw at whatever they want. In a way it feels like I've been left behind. But at the same time, I try reminding myself that everyone goes at life at their own pace and I need to stop comparing.
I'm 27 and right there with you and what sucks most is I was SO CLOSE to a happy adventurous life but my ex fucked it all up because of ego and greed. He invested into bitcoin with shared household funds without telling me and lost the secure key for 4 years, then when he found it and regained access in 2021 it was $600k. I found us a house with a renovated basement suite we could rent out and we'd still have enough to pay our student debt. We could have traveled, we could have been really quite carefree. But he reinvested all of it into HEX which is even more volatile than Bitcoin it went up to 2.5 million and he wouldn't / couldn't take it out so now it's basically worth nothing. I let him fill up my credit cards, I'm living with my narcissistic mom, and caretaking for my morbidly obese and schizophrenic aunt. (which is scary and entails me cleaning up a lot of human feces) My student loans have gone to collections, I got diagnosed with autism and ADHD, my kitten got run over, and I have no career. I moved away from all my friends and back home to be near my ex's terminally ill mom ... thinking he'd use some of the money to help her but he was too selfish. I lost everything because I trusted him after nearly 8 years. Now we're in a common-law divorce over whatever scraps he has left. OH, and my eating disorder came back! I guess at least I have nothing else to lose except my physical health. I'm literally planning on marrying for money at this point. My ex's financial abuse set me back so far in life and the Canadian economy is so bad, especially for young people, that my best chance of escaping poverty is my looks. Which is a shitty way to feel, but it's reality. I have been poor my whole life and my degree, like you said, isn't helping me reach the dwindling middle class. I still want to marry for love ... but I don't feel like I can be so relaxed about my partner's financial status anymore. My ex's broke and irresponsible mindset around money ruined my life likely for years to come. I always want to make my own money but at this point, I'm only dating wealthy people (any gender as I'm bi), so that when I do fall in love all the possible people I could fall for are wealthy anyway. It's helping me form connections to start building myself a career too. I talked to a dating and life coach and she was really honest and blunt which I needed. She said you must use what you do have to get ahead in this world and for me, it's my face. I want to adopt one day and if I do raise children it's sure as hell not going to be in poverty!! The cycle ends with me. No matter what. The worst part is patience for me too. I want out of this daily hell and humiliation at having been abused by my ex NOW. Meditation helps but honestly I'm going to try micro-dosing mushrooms. I just want to heal and rebuild and live a life worth waking up for.
Also same age and situation, the time scarcity anxiety is real and I cry about it a lot :(. Logically I know that I will eventually land the job I want and find romance but as of now I'm working as a freaking nanny, while working every other hour on my career (portfolio) and networking. No partner, working pay check to paycheck. I'm so exhausted of it and I just want to rest.
To add to Ro’s 2nd point, don’t be scared of failure. Failure is not a bad thing, it’s trial and error. People who cannot confront “failure” struggle with bouncing back compared to those who understand failure is just part of the game of life. The feeling sucks, sure, but as long as you learn from it, you’re already steps ahead of those who avoid it.
Wow.. you summarised journey of failure so beautifully.. i totally agree with you... Resilience is what you develop after facing failure multiple times... Standing back again after every fall.
Note to all 20-something year-olds who feel like they’re constantly playing the game of catch up and pressured to prove themselves to the world: you’re not alone. Let’s have each other’s backs 🤍
So nice to see you and your flowers so early on my Saturday morning. All the best to you, Rowena. I like your content. I'm 59, mere months from 60. I'm just discovering myself and my purpose again. Through our lives, many of us will experience second, third, maybe even a fourth, change. We can learn to surrender, to let go of our fears, and embrace new challenges and ways of thinking. It's okay to not know the result as long as you enjoy your journey.
I'm approaching my quarter-life crisis, aka 25, and I'm still very confused, but your video, as always, provides so much comfort. I know I'm doing my best, and I don't have to have everything figured out. There are days I feel extremely lonely, like no one else understands me or I don't understand anyone even though we're all in our 20s. But then there are days where I'm happy to be alone and that I didn't go somewhere out of peer pressure. I want to cherish my 20s as much as possible from now on.
very timely for me. im 22, and you're channel shaped me since i was 20. this time im on my graduating year and i feel like everyone's falling in love, getting into relationships then people around me as well as my parents rushing me to it too to the point i breakdown and ask Him WHY. big thanks to this video, now im finding my purpose again. everyone has their own timeline. learn to love and discover yourself first. your videos and podcast really means so much to me.
Summarized List: 1.Slow down you have time 2. Everybody's winging it 3. It's okay not to know 4. You don't have to do it alone 5. You'll never truly find yourself 6. Enjoy single pringledom 7. Anything is possible 8. Let go to let grow
If I could just tell one thing to my younger self it would probably be to stop hyperfocusing on myself (the way I look, the way I sound, etc etc). Sure you're the "main character", sure life is experienced through you, but this hyper awareness of yourself makes you paranoid and egocentric because you stop seeing people as human beings with lots of layers to them and you start seeing them as mere reflections of you, thus wondering if they like you or not. Stop thinking about yourself so much and be more curious about other people. I'm 25 and still trying to implement this on my day to day. And that's the best way I can explain it haha
I'm 25 now and I'm simultaneously horrified and relieved that I'm so close to 30. I'm horrified b I feel like my 20's flew by without having accomplished anything worthwhile, but also relieved bc I feel like there's so much more clarity in my life as I get closer to 30. :( but also :)
You're not alone! Im the same. Let's take this day by day and enjoy the twenties that we're in! Let's focus, grind, and relax step by step we're only getting closer!
I’m almost 29 wasting time for what ppl think of me, Caring for what ppl thinking, spend time in the internet more than 8 hrs a day, jealous ppl who success in life and love the wrong person. Now I’m 28 thinking back to these time, I feel so guilty, and I wanna tell you guys that No one is actually care what you think, you need to believe in yourself and love yourself. You may make mistakes but life is a lesson to learn. :)
I feel lonelier in my 30s then my 20s. My friends are married or engaged. Then there’s me who still doesn’t know who she is. Processing trauma while trying not to compare but healing has just been such a lonely process
I myself think healing is supposed to be somewhat of a lonely process. Remind yourself that you trauma has (unfortunately) set you back from other people, while they were able to live and strive, you were probably focusing on surviving. So take it easy on yourself, you’ve been through a lot❤
this advice can be tough when you’re going through it. especially, what she said about not having to do it alone. i just wish the world and myself were different.
I’m 20 and my goal rn is to finish my bachelors degree and graduate from college then get my master’s and figure what I really want to do from there. Basically I’m just swinging it, trying not to compare myself to others and not to overthink. I’m just go with the flow 😆
I'm in my 20s and in a few months I'll be 21.. and as I finished my studies this year, people just tell me '' go to work '', and nobody tells me '' think about what you want to do now and take it easy''...
I can see you are an overthinker like me, but so so much clarity in your thoughts so in your speech. 😄I found my big sis helping me out as i'm starting my 20's journey soon. Sometimes all the thoughts in my mind matches with your vibe so perfectly and beautifully like i think i found my way and answers to so many questions through YOU ..THANK YOU SM ROWENA
I felt if I wasn't stressing I was doing something wrong. I needed to plan 10 steps ahead before I could take 1 step. After my dad died, I saw life differently. Yes, I can plan, but if I'm not enjoying my current moment, who's to say I'll be happy once I reach that goal. I spent my whole life wishing to be in my next stage in life. I didn't know how to enjoy the current moment. I would plan for the future while wishing to be in the past.
I am 26. I remember in my teen, i was so scared to be over 25. But now i am really happy and enjoy the ride, ups and downs. I am less stress about other's opinion. I can control my anxiety and perfectionism better now ( after 2 years of therapy in my early 20s). I let things go easier. I feel so much better in general. Yes life can be a huge bitch sometimes but now i can accept it and feel less overwhelmed like i used to.
I am sure many people watching and probably commenting will point this out, but regardless I will make my comment. "You don't have to suffer alone" - This spoke to my soul, I'm over hear tearing up as i sign up for the potatoe community, Thanks for saying this, I am 24 years old and the girls (I labeled as friends) aren't in my life at all, sometimes it feels like the world is against me, but watching your videos makes me feel less lonely.. so thank you. From the bottom of my heart thankyou
I've seen soo many "## things i learned in my 20s" all over tiktok, but Rowena has such a way of phrasing these lessons with so much humility and wisdom, without putting up a front that she now has all the answers (cuz life is a journey after all!). It feels just like I'm talking to another friend. Thank you for this, Rowena 💜
Love this so much, I also went the whole rushing to graduate, get a stable job route. Now i'm 25 and trying to reinvent myself. Only it's not a reinvention, just putting to the surface something I knew I really love, but too scared to chase. Now, at the grown but young age of 25 , I'm starting a youtube channel, working towards taking my gap work abroad year and enjoying the gift of time and single pringledom :D
This was beyond helpful.. I'm 26 and loneliness is probably the exact word I would use to label my 20s so far especially my later 20s. You put so many of my fears into perspective and especially about the reaching out for help not having to do it alone that is probably what I struggle with the most, but I want to try to invite people who are trustworthy into my heart fortress - so thank you for sharing
I really needed this type of conversation. The first point is a clearly a definition of how I feel in this time of my life. I am starting a new job w/my career, I´m a MD, and is really awesome the fact I´m working what I studied and what I worked very hard to get it, but now I´m just thinking about what is the next step, what is the next goal that I need to achieve but I´m not enjoying this beautiful moment that I´m living and most of the night I dreamed for. I need to calm down and breath. Thanks Ro! 😊
I've had so many moments in life where I felt as if it was the end of the world. Yet, here I am, writing this comment. It was not the end of the world. It is called life. Life has up and downs. Stop chasing a perfect life. A perfect life does not exist. I have learned that there will be major challenges, but none of them will be the end of the world as long as I am alive. As long as I trust in myself to push forward.
i've avoided this video for almost 4 weeks now because watching rowena always makes me emotional and forces me to actually feel the feelings i supress almost all the time. now i'm here physically exhausted and drained and have no other excuse not to watch this bc i literally cannot move and do anything for myself. i think (in my belief) God uses rowena as an instrument/vessel to make me realize things i have been overlooking in my life. the talk about superobjectives and attachment to my deepest desire made me soooo emotional bc i feel like i have been asking and begging God nonstop for this thing i wanna achieve in my life, knowing that i'm still so young and that there could be better things for me. hearing that my desires would always regrow as i rediscover myself gave me comfort in thinking i dont have to lock myself in that certain box of achievement i desire. i FOR REAL need to let go. thank you for this! can't believe i'm always in a vulnerable state whenever watching rowena's videos. but i know it's my own doing and maybe God's will too. lol
I’m so thankful to hear this advice cause I’m turning 20 in 5 days and all that u said really comforted me, so thank u so much 💛💛 and thank u for all the effort you put in all your videos ♥️
Hi Rowena! Thank you so much for making this video💛 I very much needed it. I just turned 23 and I am in my last year as an undergrad. Honestly this year was difficult, but there was also a lot of exciting and wonderful things that happened. This year I felt the most behind in everything and I isolated myself a lot. Hearing and Watching you and other people’s experiences reminds me that I should be proud of wherever I am in my life because there is no timeline for success. Everyone is on their own unique path. I’m glad I discovered your channel and I’m excited to watch more vids. I feel very uplifted after watching this video. 😊🙌🏼
i love number 8. it has been one of many important realizations i've also had these past few months, and it feels so nice to know that somewhere out there someone else shares the same sentiments - that i am not alone :) i'm turning 23 in a few days, and i'd like to think that year 22 was one of the best yet. for the first time, and as scary it is personally for me to feel this, i'm hopeful about what's next. Thank you for such a warm and reassuring video!
never too late to start is good advice. and not living in regret about what did or didn't happen and just knowing that a new day is a possibility to try again and reframe your thinking.
yes I'm in my 20 now and so thankful for this video and all the sharing comments of others. 20 is so crazy, I want to experience everything, hang out with every people and go to as many places as possible. yet, I hardly spend time to really listen to myself and know the real voice inside me. I guess 21 is time for that 🥰
even as a teenager, i agree these are good lessons. subconsciously i sometimes think it's too late to start some things. and i rly need to let go of this thought.
Needed to hear all of this so much today roweena, felt like we were facetiming! Thank you so much, definitely crying rn haha. Definitely also coming back to this video over and over again.
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Just turned 30 and got sectioned, really looking forward to being tidy and everything having a place when I move to my new place at some point thank you ☺️
I love the story of Bob Iger because he is such a hero of mine in the business realm. He's definitely always seemed like a kind-hearted and humble guy so I love that she overheard him in a moment of self-doubt. "Everybody's winging it" speaks to me today as a mid-30s woman who had it all together, but am realizing now that I want to reinvent so many things! Thanks for this, Rowena
I'm currently 23 struggling with everything at the point having depression and almost commit "the thing". But somehow UA-cam recommends me this video. I feel a little bit at ease. At least I don't feel alone to know that everyone experienced the same.
I just got to where you started talking about super objectives and i couldn't help but type out a comment.. i'm also just recently realizing that a lot of what i feel depressed about nowadays is the lack of recognition from others. it makes me feel guilty but still can't help it.
Been a while since watching your last YT video. Now feels like I have my old friend talking to me and warming my heart again. Love you, Rowena. Stay healthy and kind 🫶
Rly needed this, thank you so much ❤❤ as a mixed race girl who doesn’t feel like i “belong” anywhere & being the singlest out of all my friends, these tips r so encouraging and so helpful !!
i'm a fellow practioner of falun gong myself !! by spreading positive info and sharing the persecution through your channel is so special, and u truly are an inspiration to me.
My 20s were working my buttoff and raising a family, had my first baby at 20, bought my first house at 23 but those 3 years i spent working three jobs to save and did hazmat spill cleanups, worked at warehouse and had my full-time job as well. I swear i was home like 24 hours a week maybe and slept like 4 hours a day. I do not recommend this, i actually fell asleep driving to a jobsite once but i knew i wanted more for my family and three years felt an eternity but now it seems a distant memory, i got promoted at my fulltime and quit everything else, now im home more than other dads, have 4 kids a stayathome wife and what I would say to other 20 year olds is get a degree in something that will be useful even if you dont like it. Your work will always be work and its just that work. When you are home, whether with a family or single you can grow your hobbies, have money for vacations. I tell you this because life is easier with a stable job and good income. Dont be afraid to lose a few years to get there, those parties will be just that, and friends you will make more. In a society that tells us we need to be happy, we dont. Stop chasing your happiness and find a purpose and you wont need to be "happy" to feel "good" Have a good day friends.
rowena is spitting facts - so much of what is said i found myself nodding in agreement. i can relate to many of the points she makes & it’s very affirming.
Rowena! I subscribed to you in 2018 and knew you were such a hidden gem. Never have I felt more understood, more willing to reflect. I truly love you and your content, Ro :))))
Oh my dear ☺️ Thank you so much for another wonderful video. Every video feels like a necessary therapy session 🖤 Give yourself extra leniency with UA-cam and what viewers expect!
I feel so lost lately and I find myself just wanting to create things in a little directionless way. But i find myself burdensome because it doesn’t really create income. And I ask myself why should i feel like a burden if joy is the only thing i can give in this world? And of course realistically it just can’t pay for the bills. And again i ask why I believe it doesn’t?… that’s all I’ll share for now because it did make me rethink my situation a bit. Although i do feel like i need to delve a bit deeper to truly find the reason why I have this attachment to be really good at something.
Hello. Rowena. I'm 21 year old and living in a third world country which is litterally pulling back everything. As it is so, a lot of oppotunities are lost and I feel like my dreams are so expensive, impossible and so far away from me. I am not the type of giving up person but sometimes I feel disappointed in me and my life. I have nothing. Low salary ( around100 $ per month), can't afford to continue my education and also don't have financially stable family background. "Relationship?" I don't have time to think about it for struggling for life. Currently, all my friends are moving out from this country and I lowkey compared my life with them. And I start crying. I always try my best and give 100% to everything. The only question in my head rn is "What did I do to deserve all those things?". I really appreciate your videos even theses are still too far to relate. God bless you.
I'm age 20, a 3rd year accounting student. things have been so hard lately and i failed a couple subjects. I'm scared that what if i'm wasting time and money and becoming a CPA isn't for me....
I need to say this. To all you 20 year olds watching, sometimes you do have to do it hard alone. Sometimes you do suffer alone. And that's ok. It's not forever.
You do sometimes suffer in silence, when I left home I lost my family, my school friends abandoned me, and I had nothing. I had no money. I had no friends. No one telling me I mattered or was loved. I had to fight. I had to remember why i needed life. Why I deserved life.
Sometimes people aren't there for you. And it feels like you're the only one suffering alone. It actually happens and it's so very very hard. But you can survive.
You just need to hang in there, focus on yourself, your needs, what you like and why you stay alive. Soon, you will draw people in who see your beauty, and choose you even though you're alone. Because they see that light.
I almost died, i tried to take my own life and the universe said no. It was a miracle. I met my life partner in that time, we have been together 6 years, and he's my best friend in the whole world.
You got this 💙
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I want this pain and suffering to be forever in my life because it's in pain and loneliness that I am more close to my self.
In my 20’s I learnt….
1. Twenties are the years that you truly grow as person and start to form who you are now and who you want to be rather than who you SHOULD be. As the decade progresses you feel less pressure than at the start of your 20’s which is huge.
2. It’s the decade that will give you the experiences that change you and give you memories to look back on.
3. Life feels more carefree and light but near the end of the 20’s is when you start to ground yourself and start to want to be settled in all areas of your life
4. You learn what you do and don’t want in life, especially in a partner. These are years where I experienced love and heartbreak and losing myself. Then near my 30’s I started to find me again.
5. My 20’s taught me what I enjoyed the most and what things would be part of my life and which things I would grow out of eventually.
6. In my personal experience the men I was in relationships with who were in their twenties just WERE NOT ready to settle yet. That didn’t start to change until they hit 30.
7. It’s the time of confusion, not knowing which paths were the Right ones but then learning the paths we chose lead us to where we are now and oh boy did we learn from them!!!
8. Twenties were the times of making mistakes and that’s OK!
9. You learn that Friends come and go. The phrase: friends come into your life for a reason, season or lifetime REALLY makes sense in your 20’s. Friends are the family we choose for ourselves.
10. You learn what is REALLY important to you and that priorities change which is ok, things that were once important to you won’t be anymore and new priorities will accumulate. Priorities have an ebb and flow and as you get older you learn to change, grow and adapt to these changes. The only DEFINITE thing in life is that change always happens and you can’t change that!!
Appreciate your wisdom 💜
I totally resonate with this ...kudos to you girl 😊
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I'm 28 years old. I definitely feel the time scarcity thing. I can't hold down a job, I don't have a significant other, and I don't have a good group of friends who understand and support me. I don't even have a well connected family. So it definitely feels like my life is a huge train reck and I should have been able to figure things out by now. So this video is comforting. It helps me reinforce to myself that I need to practice patience.
Same age here and same situation. I have some friends, but we've gone our separate ways and only keep in touch with online messages. Most of them seem to have things "figured out"--or at least have more stability compared to me (partners, good jobs).
@@corylcreates same. It feels like everyone around me has so much going for them. Including my roommates. Good jobs, good friend connections, money to throw at whatever they want. In a way it feels like I've been left behind. But at the same time, I try reminding myself that everyone goes at life at their own pace and I need to stop comparing.
I'm 27 and right there with you and what sucks most is I was SO CLOSE to a happy adventurous life but my ex fucked it all up because of ego and greed. He invested into bitcoin with shared household funds without telling me and lost the secure key for 4 years, then when he found it and regained access in 2021 it was $600k. I found us a house with a renovated basement suite we could rent out and we'd still have enough to pay our student debt. We could have traveled, we could have been really quite carefree. But he reinvested all of it into HEX which is even more volatile than Bitcoin it went up to 2.5 million and he wouldn't / couldn't take it out so now it's basically worth nothing. I let him fill up my credit cards, I'm living with my narcissistic mom, and caretaking for my morbidly obese and schizophrenic aunt. (which is scary and entails me cleaning up a lot of human feces)
My student loans have gone to collections, I got diagnosed with autism and ADHD, my kitten got run over, and I have no career. I moved away from all my friends and back home to be near my ex's terminally ill mom ... thinking he'd use some of the money to help her but he was too selfish. I lost everything because I trusted him after nearly 8 years. Now we're in a common-law divorce over whatever scraps he has left. OH, and my eating disorder came back! I guess at least I have nothing else to lose except my physical health. I'm literally planning on marrying for money at this point. My ex's financial abuse set me back so far in life and the Canadian economy is so bad, especially for young people, that my best chance of escaping poverty is my looks. Which is a shitty way to feel, but it's reality.
I have been poor my whole life and my degree, like you said, isn't helping me reach the dwindling middle class. I still want to marry for love ... but I don't feel like I can be so relaxed about my partner's financial status anymore. My ex's broke and irresponsible mindset around money ruined my life likely for years to come. I always want to make my own money but at this point, I'm only dating wealthy people (any gender as I'm bi), so that when I do fall in love all the possible people I could fall for are wealthy anyway. It's helping me form connections to start building myself a career too. I talked to a dating and life coach and she was really honest and blunt which I needed. She said you must use what you do have to get ahead in this world and for me, it's my face. I want to adopt one day and if I do raise children it's sure as hell not going to be in poverty!! The cycle ends with me. No matter what. The worst part is patience for me too. I want out of this daily hell and humiliation at having been abused by my ex NOW. Meditation helps but honestly I'm going to try micro-dosing mushrooms. I just want to heal and rebuild and live a life worth waking up for.
Almost 30. Same.
Also same age and situation, the time scarcity anxiety is real and I cry about it a lot :(. Logically I know that I will eventually land the job I want and find romance but as of now I'm working as a freaking nanny, while working every other hour on my career (portfolio) and networking. No partner, working pay check to paycheck. I'm so exhausted of it and I just want to rest.
To add to Ro’s 2nd point, don’t be scared of failure. Failure is not a bad thing, it’s trial and error. People who cannot confront “failure” struggle with bouncing back compared to those who understand failure is just part of the game of life. The feeling sucks, sure, but as long as you learn from it, you’re already steps ahead of those who avoid it.
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Wow.. you summarised journey of failure so beautifully.. i totally agree with you... Resilience is what you develop after facing failure multiple times... Standing back again after every fall.
definitely needed this as a very lost, unsure and intimidated 26 year old
same
Note to all 20-something year-olds who feel like they’re constantly playing the game of catch up and pressured to prove themselves to the world: you’re not alone. Let’s have each other’s backs 🤍
Thank u I needed this 🥺
I wish I could like this 1000 times🤍
Thanks for saying that, really needed that.
Exactly the feeling that you've done nothing.
Thanks
So nice to see you and your flowers so early on my Saturday morning. All the best to you, Rowena. I like your content. I'm 59, mere months from 60. I'm just discovering myself and my purpose again. Through our lives, many of us will experience second, third, maybe even a fourth, change. We can learn to surrender, to let go of our fears, and embrace new challenges and ways of thinking. It's okay to not know the result as long as you enjoy your journey.
Thank you for this excellent wisdom. At 47, I completely agree.
I'm approaching my quarter-life crisis, aka 25, and I'm still very confused, but your video, as always, provides so much comfort. I know I'm doing my best, and I don't have to have everything figured out. There are days I feel extremely lonely, like no one else understands me or I don't understand anyone even though we're all in our 20s. But then there are days where I'm happy to be alone and that I didn't go somewhere out of peer pressure. I want to cherish my 20s as much as possible from now on.
Isn't it quarter life crisis with 25?
@@purilaw. oh yeah! Got ahead of myself haha. Thank you for the correction.
very timely for me. im 22, and you're channel shaped me since i was 20. this time im on my graduating year and i feel like everyone's falling in love, getting into relationships then people around me as well as my parents rushing me to it too to the point i breakdown and ask Him WHY. big thanks to this video, now im finding my purpose again. everyone has their own timeline. learn to love and discover yourself first. your videos and podcast really means so much to me.
sameeee thing for meee✨🌼
Summarized List:
1.Slow down you have time
2. Everybody's winging it
3. It's okay not to know
4. You don't have to do it alone
5. You'll never truly find yourself
6. Enjoy single pringledom
7. Anything is possible
8. Let go to let grow
If I could just tell one thing to my younger self it would probably be to stop hyperfocusing on myself (the way I look, the way I sound, etc etc). Sure you're the "main character", sure life is experienced through you, but this hyper awareness of yourself makes you paranoid and egocentric because you stop seeing people as human beings with lots of layers to them and you start seeing them as mere reflections of you, thus wondering if they like you or not. Stop thinking about yourself so much and be more curious about other people. I'm 25 and still trying to implement this on my day to day. And that's the best way I can explain it haha
wow very insightful. i relate to this a alot.
I'm 25 now and I'm simultaneously horrified and relieved that I'm so close to 30. I'm horrified b I feel like my 20's flew by without having accomplished anything worthwhile, but also relieved bc I feel like there's so much more clarity in my life as I get closer to 30. :( but also :)
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You're not alone! Im the same. Let's take this day by day and enjoy the twenties that we're in! Let's focus, grind, and relax step by step we're only getting closer!
I definitely resonated with what you'd said.
I’m almost 29 wasting time for what ppl think of me, Caring for what ppl thinking, spend time in the internet more than 8 hrs a day, jealous ppl who success in life and love the wrong person.
Now I’m 28 thinking back to these time, I feel so guilty, and I wanna tell you guys that No one is actually care what you think, you need to believe in yourself and love yourself. You may make mistakes but life is a lesson to learn. :)
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I feel lonelier in my 30s then my 20s. My friends are married or engaged. Then there’s me who still doesn’t know who she is. Processing trauma while trying not to compare but healing has just been such a lonely process
I myself think healing is supposed to be somewhat of a lonely process. Remind yourself that you trauma has (unfortunately) set you back from other people, while they were able to live and strive, you were probably focusing on surviving. So take it easy on yourself, you’ve been through a lot❤
this advice can be tough when you’re going through it. especially, what she said about not having to do it alone. i just wish the world and myself were different.
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I’m 20 and my goal rn is to finish my bachelors degree and graduate from college then get my master’s and figure what I really want to do from there. Basically I’m just swinging it, trying not to compare myself to others and not to overthink. I’m just go with the flow 😆
“It’s easy to see somebody at their best and think that is all of who they are”
I'm in my 20s and in a few months I'll be 21.. and as I finished my studies this year, people just tell me '' go to work '', and nobody tells me '' think about what you want to do now and take it easy''...
Ok to be 21 again, and I’m only 24. Enjoy it, time flies whether you’re having fun or not when you’re older
@@lexxie225 yeah but the problem is.. i don't have the motivation to do things at home.. i'm too lazy and i dont know why
I can see you are an overthinker like me, but so so much clarity in your thoughts so in your speech. 😄I found my big sis helping me out as i'm starting my 20's journey soon. Sometimes all the thoughts in my mind matches with your vibe so perfectly and beautifully like i think i found my way and answers to so many questions through YOU ..THANK YOU SM ROWENA
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I felt if I wasn't stressing I was doing something wrong. I needed to plan 10 steps ahead before I could take 1 step. After my dad died, I saw life differently. Yes, I can plan, but if I'm not enjoying my current moment, who's to say I'll be happy once I reach that goal. I spent my whole life wishing to be in my next stage in life. I didn't know how to enjoy the current moment. I would plan for the future while wishing to be in the past.
I can relate to wishing to be in the next stage, not enjoying the present and wishing to go back to the past...
I am 26. I remember in my teen, i was so scared to be over 25. But now i am really happy and enjoy the ride, ups and downs. I am less stress about other's opinion. I can control my anxiety and perfectionism better now ( after 2 years of therapy in my early 20s). I let things go easier. I feel so much better in general. Yes life can be a huge bitch sometimes but now i can accept it and feel less overwhelmed like i used to.
I am sure many people watching and probably commenting will point this out, but regardless I will make my comment.
"You don't have to suffer alone" - This spoke to my soul, I'm over hear tearing up as i sign up for the potatoe community, Thanks for saying this, I am 24 years old and the girls (I labeled as friends) aren't in my life at all, sometimes it feels like the world is against me, but watching your videos makes me feel less lonely.. so thank you. From the bottom of my heart thankyou
I've seen soo many "## things i learned in my 20s" all over tiktok, but Rowena has such a way of phrasing these lessons with so much humility and wisdom, without putting up a front that she now has all the answers (cuz life is a journey after all!). It feels just like I'm talking to another friend. Thank you for this, Rowena 💜
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Love this so much, I also went the whole rushing to graduate, get a stable job route. Now i'm 25 and trying to reinvent myself. Only it's not a reinvention, just putting to the surface something I knew I really love, but too scared to chase. Now, at the grown but young age of 25 , I'm starting a youtube channel, working towards taking my gap work abroad year and enjoying the gift of time and single pringledom :D
@KemiKnowTravel I'm the same!! I'm gonna give you a follow :)
just turned 22 and really needed this video, thank you so much for your advice 🫶🏼✨
I always come back to this video when I have existential anxiety , thank you for being the big sister I've always needed!
This was beyond helpful.. I'm 26 and loneliness is probably the exact word I would use to label my 20s so far especially my later 20s. You put so many of my fears into perspective and especially about the reaching out for help not having to do it alone that is probably what I struggle with the most, but I want to try to invite people who are trustworthy into my heart fortress - so thank you for sharing
I really needed this type of conversation. The first point is a clearly a definition of how I feel in this time of my life. I am starting a new job w/my career, I´m a MD, and is really awesome the fact I´m working what I studied and what I worked very hard to get it, but now I´m just thinking about what is the next step, what is the next goal that I need to achieve but I´m not enjoying this beautiful moment that I´m living and most of the night I dreamed for.
I need to calm down and breath.
Thanks Ro! 😊
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I've had so many moments in life where I felt as if it was the end of the world. Yet, here I am, writing this comment. It was not the end of the world. It is called life. Life has up and downs. Stop chasing a perfect life. A perfect life does not exist. I have learned that there will be major challenges, but none of them will be the end of the world as long as I am alive. As long as I trust in myself to push forward.
so grateful for this video
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i've avoided this video for almost 4 weeks now because watching rowena always makes me emotional and forces me to actually feel the feelings i supress almost all the time.
now i'm here physically exhausted and drained and have no other excuse not to watch this bc i literally cannot move and do anything for myself.
i think (in my belief) God uses rowena as an instrument/vessel to make me realize things i have been overlooking in my life.
the talk about superobjectives and attachment to my deepest desire made me soooo emotional bc i feel like i have been asking and begging God nonstop for this thing i wanna achieve in my life, knowing that i'm still so young and that there could be better things for me.
hearing that my desires would always regrow as i rediscover myself gave me comfort in thinking i dont have to lock myself in that certain box of achievement i desire. i FOR REAL need to let go.
thank you for this! can't believe i'm always in a vulnerable state whenever watching rowena's videos. but i know it's my own doing and maybe God's will too. lol
I’m so thankful to hear this advice cause I’m turning 20 in 5 days and all that u said really comforted me, so thank u so much 💛💛 and thank u for all the effort you put in all your videos ♥️
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As a 21 year old who feels lost this is so helpful
Hi Rowena! Thank you so much for making this video💛 I very much needed it. I just turned 23 and I am in my last year as an undergrad. Honestly this year was difficult, but there was also a lot of exciting and wonderful things that happened. This year I felt the most behind in everything and I isolated myself a lot. Hearing and Watching you and other people’s experiences reminds me that I should be proud of wherever I am in my life because there is no timeline for success. Everyone is on their own unique path. I’m glad I discovered your channel and I’m excited to watch more vids. I feel very uplifted after watching this video. 😊🙌🏼
I am in my late twenties and I feel totally lost. Your video gave me peace and hope 💜 thank you for that
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i love number 8. it has been one of many important realizations i've also had these past few months, and it feels so nice to know that somewhere out there someone else shares the same sentiments - that i am not alone :)
i'm turning 23 in a few days, and i'd like to think that year 22 was one of the best yet. for the first time, and as scary it is personally for me to feel this, i'm hopeful about what's next.
Thank you for such a warm and reassuring video!
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never too late to start is good advice. and not living in regret about what did or didn't happen and just knowing that a new day is a possibility to try again and reframe your thinking.
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I'm in my early 20s and this video just gave me a sense of relief and ease
Thank you for sharing this
yes I'm in my 20 now and so thankful for this video and all the sharing comments of others.
20 is so crazy, I want to experience everything, hang out with every people and go to as many places as possible. yet, I hardly spend time to really listen to myself and know the real voice inside me. I guess 21 is time for that 🥰
even as a teenager, i agree these are good lessons. subconsciously i sometimes think it's too late to start some things. and i rly need to let go of this thought.
Take it from someone who wished they j dived off the deep end much sooner- regret is forever, disappointment/embarrassment is temporary!! J do it!!
Needed to hear all of this so much today roweena, felt like we were facetiming! Thank you so much, definitely crying rn haha. Definitely also coming back to this video over and over again.
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Finding my 40's tougher than my 20's.. mainly health issues and worrying about my children... 😟
17 and still needed this. i live too fast, but i really do need to slow down, reflect and be comfortable with the unknowns of the future.
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I have this too, omg, i want to focus on the present but i have a feeling that will forsake my future
Just turned 30 and got sectioned, really looking forward to being tidy and everything having a place when I move to my new place at some point thank you ☺️
The 'let it go' frozen easter egg was so good! haha
I love the story of Bob Iger because he is such a hero of mine in the business realm. He's definitely always seemed like a kind-hearted and humble guy so I love that she overheard him in a moment of self-doubt. "Everybody's winging it" speaks to me today as a mid-30s woman who had it all together, but am realizing now that I want to reinvent so many things! Thanks for this, Rowena
Omg! I just discovered your channel and was going through a really hard time... you have made my day so much better!! Thank you so much! :)
The way that these videos come out at the exact time I need them…*chef’s kiss*
I'm currently 23 struggling with everything at the point having depression and almost commit "the thing". But somehow UA-cam recommends me this video. I feel a little bit at ease. At least I don't feel alone to know that everyone experienced the same.
I just got to where you started talking about super objectives and i couldn't help but type out a comment.. i'm also just recently realizing that a lot of what i feel depressed about nowadays is the lack of recognition from others. it makes me feel guilty but still can't help it.
Been a while since watching your last YT video. Now feels like I have my old friend talking to me and warming my heart again. Love you, Rowena. Stay healthy and kind 🫶
Rly needed this, thank you so much ❤❤ as a mixed race girl who doesn’t feel like i “belong” anywhere & being the singlest out of all my friends, these tips r so encouraging and so helpful !!
i'm a fellow practioner of falun gong myself !! by spreading positive info and sharing the persecution through your channel is so special, and u truly are an inspiration to me.
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Honestly one of your best videos! The last tip where you incorporated Buddhist beliefs and practices was amazing!!!
I hope you are aware of how much inspiring your content is Rowena ✨thank you for your videos!
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My 20s were working my buttoff and raising a family, had my first baby at 20, bought my first house at 23 but those 3 years i spent working three jobs to save and did hazmat spill cleanups, worked at warehouse and had my full-time job as well. I swear i was home like 24 hours a week maybe and slept like 4 hours a day. I do not recommend this, i actually fell asleep driving to a jobsite once but i knew i wanted more for my family and three years felt an eternity but now it seems a distant memory, i got promoted at my fulltime and quit everything else, now im home more than other dads, have 4 kids a stayathome wife and what I would say to other 20 year olds is get a degree in something that will be useful even if you dont like it. Your work will always be work and its just that work. When you are home, whether with a family or single you can grow your hobbies, have money for vacations. I tell you this because life is easier with a stable job and good income. Dont be afraid to lose a few years to get there, those parties will be just that, and friends you will make more. In a society that tells us we need to be happy, we dont. Stop chasing your happiness and find a purpose and you wont need to be "happy" to feel "good" Have a good day friends.
Thank you for the tips! :) I am also feeling like I don't have time/rushing it. I am trying to be more present now. :)
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rowena is spitting facts - so much of what is said i found myself nodding in agreement. i can relate to many of the points she makes & it’s very affirming.
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Turning 30 next year- this is SO relatable. Thanks for this gem!
loving the evening sunset vibes towards the end ❤ this video was what i just needed for the end of the year thanks rowena hehe 😊
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glad i came across this video while in my 20s! the last point hits me a lot! thanks so much Rowena!!
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Superobejectives and u will never find your true self , anything is possible I truly love this points .
Rowena! I subscribed to you in 2018 and knew you were such a hidden gem. Never have I felt more understood, more willing to reflect. I truly love you and your content, Ro :))))
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Oh my god...I’m so in love with you...I could listen to you talk all day😩💌....thank you youtube for putting her in my feed 😫😩♥️♥️
Perf timing watching this before we head into the new year! Thanks for sharing Ro :)
I’m 23 and only going back to uni now bc I didn’t have faith in myself and dropped out at 21, feel like I’ve messed up my whole future
Oh my dear ☺️ Thank you so much for another wonderful video. Every video feels like a necessary therapy session 🖤
Give yourself extra leniency with UA-cam and what viewers expect!
I feel so lost lately and I find myself just wanting to create things in a little directionless way. But i find myself burdensome because it doesn’t really create income. And I ask myself why should i feel like a burden if joy is the only thing i can give in this world?
And of course realistically it just can’t pay for the bills. And again i ask why I believe it doesn’t?… that’s all I’ll share for now because it did make me rethink my situation a bit. Although i do feel like i need to delve a bit deeper to truly find the reason why I have this attachment to be really good at something.
Your video is so needed. I'm 25 years old, but I feel like I don't have time for anything. That I'm so old and I haven't achieved anything.
Sheeeesh! You're blooming, Ro! Can't help but to comment this 😍
Thanks very much, turning 20 in December so I'm looking for advice so thank you very much ❤
I’m the same way! Always planning ahead 😅
Shout it from the rooftops! EVERYONE’S WINGING IT!
Hello. Rowena. I'm 21 year old and living in a third world country which is litterally pulling back everything. As it is so, a lot of oppotunities are lost and I feel like my dreams are so expensive, impossible and so far away from me. I am not the type of giving up person but sometimes I feel disappointed in me and my life. I have nothing. Low salary ( around100 $ per month), can't afford to continue my education and also don't have financially stable family background. "Relationship?" I don't have time to think about it for struggling for life. Currently, all my friends are moving out from this country and I lowkey compared my life with them. And I start crying. I always try my best and give 100% to everything. The only question in my head rn is "What did I do to deserve all those things?". I really appreciate your videos even theses are still too far to relate. God bless you.
Thank you for this, Rowena!
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Saving this video for my next menty b.
Thanks for this, your advice always speaks volumes and makes me feel more at ease 😌 here’s to growth! 👏
love how this video came a day before I turn 20 💗💗 thank u for ur gentle insights Rowena!
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the reminders we needed 🥺
I love Rowena Tsai. Rowena is like Tsai Ing Wen. I want Rowena Tsai to be my mom
I turn 20 in 20 days... I needed this!!
Happy New Year 2023. This is the first video I saw in this year. Thank you for this lovely video, I really need this. 😊
So excited to watch this heading into the start of a new year!
you look so pretty with this hairstyle ✨💕✨💕
woah i'm so glad i came across this! that last one really hit me hard
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Ro!!!! I missed youuuu im so glad your back.
Really really loved this video❤❤much hugs to u😊
This hit my recommended page right on time 😅
such a great reminder and video to watch as I am currently struggling thank you for the advice
Thank you for this video Rowena ♡ I really needed it as I am soon to end my 20s.
Thank you so much for creating this video. Really means a lot!!!!. Keep going, Rowena....🥰
Turning 20 in three days. The timing is perfect!
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I'm turning 20 in 2023 i needed this vid
What a comforting video ❤️
#HaircareReveal your hair looks so shinee and bouncy.
Hi! Just wanna say thank you for this video. Really helpful. Have a nice day
Love this video thank you Rowena, and I appreciated all the comments below!
Te amo Rowena, gracias ❤️
Thank you Rowena
I'm age 20, a 3rd year accounting student. things have been so hard lately and i failed a couple subjects. I'm scared that what if i'm wasting time and money and becoming a CPA isn't for me....
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