Why being awkward makes you more likely to succeed

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  • Опубліковано 29 вер 2024
  • Psychologist Ty Tashiro, author of "Awkward: The Science of Why We're Socially awkward and Why That's Awesome," explains why awkward people are more likely to demonstrate "striking talent."
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  • @humoodatoo
    @humoodatoo 6 років тому +1517

    UA-cam is really good at making us feel good about ourselves

    • @stevenglansburg856
      @stevenglansburg856 6 років тому +15

      Moh to all be taken away when you turn it off.

    • @brownplasticbag7429
      @brownplasticbag7429 6 років тому +37

      and then we realize that we are in the real world and that we can't socialize with anyone in that world

    • @depsilon0183
      @depsilon0183 6 років тому +1

      And vice versa

    • @pidgon7465
      @pidgon7465 6 років тому

      😩💦

    • @2ant1man5
      @2ant1man5 6 років тому +16

      No he’s giving you free information and trying to teach you how to deal and continue to grow through life....but I guess people rather be negative than try or be funny instead of making money.

  • @kickliquid
    @kickliquid 7 років тому +3563

    jokes on you, I'm socially awkward and I'm a dumbass across the board.

    • @cryora
      @cryora 7 років тому +46

      kickliquid That's a petty victory and you know it.

    • @CarlosRodriguez-yq8qq
      @CarlosRodriguez-yq8qq 7 років тому +34

      Null May be you haven't found that specific area where u feel obsessed about learning everything of that specific area

    • @DontFuckWitDreDay
      @DontFuckWitDreDay 7 років тому +38

      It's funny because it's true.

    • @jinyboi
      @jinyboi 7 років тому +10

      preach fam

    • @weedshoes5089
      @weedshoes5089 7 років тому +29

      That's regular autism with none of the cool savant benefits.

  • @JaCeLyN1431
    @JaCeLyN1431 7 років тому +2363

    but what if you're awkward and lazy asf?

    • @NoushinAdiya
      @NoushinAdiya 7 років тому +100

      That's me lol

    • @nickycocaine
      @nickycocaine 7 років тому +203

      Then you don't apply yourself, which is wasted potential.

    • @JaCeLyN1431
      @JaCeLyN1431 7 років тому +89

      yeah i know ;P i have many ideas but trouble executing/actually doing them

    • @yuuenu8055
      @yuuenu8055 7 років тому

      Aria Targaryen same goes with me. Are we just a lazy peole?

    • @JaCeLyN1431
      @JaCeLyN1431 7 років тому +1

      Yuuen U perhaps ... but I don't think it's bad thing actually

  • @nouw23
    @nouw23 7 років тому +191

    I am mastering the art of Netflix

  • @madameboss5225
    @madameboss5225 7 років тому +1480

    Now it's when the comments from antisocial people start appearing proudly reporting themselves

    • @naldotubo
      @naldotubo 7 років тому +48

      Madame Boss did u call me??

    • @Foreverlovely-dg7xd
      @Foreverlovely-dg7xd 7 років тому +20

      Madame Boss asocial*, but I agree.

    • @shannonbear8807
      @shannonbear8807 7 років тому +10

      Oh my gah i was just telling my friend the other day that antisocial and asocial are not the same lol >.

    • @Pfromm007
      @Pfromm007 7 років тому +1

      H..h...hey guys.. umm.. anybody?

    • @_hector__
      @_hector__ 7 років тому

      Is that a problem?

  • @oldcowbb
    @oldcowbb 7 років тому +1817

    i'm awkward and have no talent at all

    • @TheSkete
      @TheSkete 7 років тому +29

      oldcowbb-Maybe you just haven't found it yet...

    • @Xperian13
      @Xperian13 7 років тому +17

      E.Duane Mitchell but finding something you really good at are very very hard, that's why not every awkward peoples are successful.

    • @TheSkete
      @TheSkete 7 років тому +16

      I'm in my mid-40's and I'm STILL trying to figure it out.But I'm not giving up.

    • @Xperian13
      @Xperian13 7 років тому +7

      Good luck and I hope you find the "jackpot".

    • @TheSkete
      @TheSkete 7 років тому +3

      Weird UA-cam Name-Thanks,same to you...

  • @user-uv2rh9gl9y
    @user-uv2rh9gl9y 7 років тому +44

    Let me save you 2 minutes of your life by summing it up.
    The video is basically saying that if you're awkward, it's probably because you're really good at something, and that's good! It also means that you're more likely persevere and succeed because being awkward tends to come hand in hand with the ability to focus really well on what you're doing, DESPITE going through tough times.

  • @easyluckable
    @easyluckable 7 років тому +760

    The point is not you being awkward, is you work hard asf.

    • @rimun5235
      @rimun5235 6 років тому +56

      From what I've learned in corporate America, hard work will not be the only thing that will get you places. You need to work hard and also have the people skills, otherwise you become the people who have been in the same role for 10 years.

    • @niveyoga3242
      @niveyoga3242 6 років тому +1

      Finally.

    • @arioka5296
      @arioka5296 6 років тому +36

      Work smarter not harder

    • @AkshayMishra700
      @AkshayMishra700 6 років тому +4

      Ryan Yao only dumb people work hard

    • @JaysonT1
      @JaysonT1 6 років тому

      Ryan Yao Hard work only gives you the opportunity to work hard.

  • @indiawildfilms
    @indiawildfilms 6 років тому +203

    That explain why Am I awkward and unintelligent as well...Yeah right !!

    • @VungL
      @VungL 6 років тому +5

      India Wild Films
      try to make a proper sentence first...

    • @bigcrowe9573
      @bigcrowe9573 6 років тому +1

      That doent really mean you got those traits

    • @Hatim.13
      @Hatim.13 5 років тому

      India Wild Films cause you India you lose.
      (I am kidding bro ♡)

    • @adeel-eh7xq
      @adeel-eh7xq 5 років тому

      You probably have low self-esteem and fail to notice things you're really good at because you see everything you do as unexceptional and pointless.

  • @chiragkc9374
    @chiragkc9374 7 років тому +66

    most people who are awkward usually have a striking talent. that doesnt mean being awkward will make you more likely to be successful. the causality in the title is flawed.

    • @RTYWLive.Forever
      @RTYWLive.Forever 7 років тому +3

      Save the bush no they aren't. He's just trying to sell his book

  • @PuftPrin
    @PuftPrin 7 років тому +3

    Personally, I feel that being socially awkward also means having more free time alone, which means more time to study and focus on a particular/passionate solo activity and *because* we
    lack the social life to distract us--it eventually leads to success, probably. In that regard, it's good to be "socially awkward."
    I've already come to terms with my personality traits being the socially awkward introvert that I am--now when the success thing kicks in....

  • @S2Tubes
    @S2Tubes 7 років тому +62

    You're making it sound as though every shy, awkward, socially anxious person is some kind of hidden genius savant. They are not. Very few are. Likewise, excelling in one topic does not make you socially inept.

    • @guycollishaw1957
      @guycollishaw1957 7 років тому +3

      Blood Angel Excelling in a certain topic is different to a life-consuming obsession.

    • @Mr.Honest247
      @Mr.Honest247 7 років тому +1

      Blood Angel Extrovert alert

    • @AntHardaway4
      @AntHardaway4 7 років тому

      thats what he's trying to sell lol

  • @EchadLevShtim
    @EchadLevShtim 7 років тому +95

    Sounds like me. I dont trust humans and am very awkward in groups, but very profound in a 1 on 1 situation. I am a genius in a few categories but a moron in others. I dont like the schooling system not because it sets standards, yet that it is more of a belief that is being imposed on the masses. If it focused on each individuals personal traits it would make more sense than wasting 12 years of our lives to end up with no direct focus. It seems social skills would be something that would give students a fighting chance, yet society doesnt put much behind fields of psychology or say drama class, etc. Its more likely that they dont want us to have a fair chance because its a threat to their chance to excel. So mental dissorders such as extreme narcissistic behavior is awarded in this dog eat dog world.

    • @Inquiring
      @Inquiring 6 років тому +8

      Dem/Rep Delusion You aren’t awkward in my opinion, you just are enlightened of the fact that the education system is corrupt.

    • @cat-cs8hk
      @cat-cs8hk 6 років тому +1

      Dem/Rep Delusion "I don't trust humans"

    • @soulscanner66
      @soulscanner66 6 років тому +1

      It takes a lot of cooperation to run the world. Schools is where you lean that, for better or worse.

    • @2ant1man5
      @2ant1man5 6 років тому +1

      You know they call it bipolar now not narcissism.

    • @blue_cameron
      @blue_cameron 6 років тому

      Dem/Rep Delusion you can trust me

  • @brandongriffiths1943
    @brandongriffiths1943 7 років тому +100

    I think most people need to stop being judgemental we are all humans we all have our vices and our flaws,have a Good day everyone.

  • @RetalityEU
    @RetalityEU 6 років тому +5

    I love how happy this guy looks

  • @Redshift2077
    @Redshift2077 7 років тому +13

    lol I'm socially awkward AND I have no talents

  • @paigie.paigie
    @paigie.paigie 6 років тому +1

    I’m good at drawing and learning things about the body and I’m super obsessed with the MCU! I can also lucid dream which is pretty nice considering it’s like having a double life but one you can control completely

  • @JihadPowell
    @JihadPowell 3 роки тому +2

    I think so awkward can just be a personality trait

  • @justdad3722
    @justdad3722 7 років тому +255

    I fit this category...

    • @justdad3722
      @justdad3722 7 років тому

      I do not. I do have have OCD and ADHD and find myself doing a lot of what was described above-mentioned. Also love cosplay lol!

    • @creedbratton2094
      @creedbratton2094 7 років тому +5

      Jenelle's Playtime Adventures If you had OCD you wouldn't say "I have have OCD"...

    • @rickyj1
      @rickyj1 7 років тому +1

      She could be also dyslectic, which I am and everything else Jenelle mentioned.

    • @justdad3722
      @justdad3722 7 років тому

      DJ SUPERNOVA You are correct, did not notice "have" twice. I did check the lock on the door 8 times before I left to work though.

    • @dj32323
      @dj32323 7 років тому +1

      so when you check the lock once, cant you just run away and forget about it?

  • @meanjgreen1131
    @meanjgreen1131 7 років тому

    I'm the most awkward and anxious person I know and all I can say for people like me is learn to not follow what's popular and don't be fake around people and just do u and you'll be more happy

  • @daphnededrick8493
    @daphnededrick8493 7 років тому

    I've always been awkward, weird, strange, uncomfortable in social settings, not fit in with any group, and I quit school so I wouldn't have to give a speech in speech class. Yeah. That bad. But I am nowhere near successful. I hope people like me can get the help they need to be successful in life. Peace everyone.

  • @Patrixxist
    @Patrixxist 7 років тому +10

    It sounds like you're speaking about Aspergers Syndrome.

    • @cilla4000
      @cilla4000 6 років тому

      ... yes!! My son has this and he's on point about it 100%!!

  • @pcnorway99
    @pcnorway99 7 років тому +4

    This guy just described aspergers syndrome.

  • @LibriumMusic
    @LibriumMusic 6 років тому +2

    Wow. I feel like he was speaking directly to me

  • @mostunique5941
    @mostunique5941 6 років тому

    I only just recently became social....ive always loved hanging with my mates and stuff but now i love being around good groups of people.
    I still work on my hobbies but i love that I can now take brakes and hang with different people.

  • @sidhuchuchewala
    @sidhuchuchewala 7 років тому +6

    thank you for telling me, about myself :)

  • @topsickred
    @topsickred 7 років тому +10

    this video make me feel wonderfull.

  • @woodtvnetwork
    @woodtvnetwork 6 років тому

    this video describes me almost exactly
    I am obsessed with visa policies with other countries and right now I have a scholarship to the University of Arizona for Computer Science

  • @jordanker-fox
    @jordanker-fox 6 років тому

    This guy just described everything about me to a T. I didn’t know being socially awkward and obsessive could make me successful, makes me proud to be me though.

  • @felixf4378
    @felixf4378 7 років тому

    Being socially awkward makes me angry. I'm so socially awkward that people make fun of me, this makes me angry and motivates me to do better. It motivates me to make more money, do a better job, and out do everyone just so the people that talk crap about me can look at themselves and see how pathetic they are, which makes me feel good.

  • @SettingMind
    @SettingMind 6 років тому

    I personally hate working with socially akward people but I don't deny their work ethics and thier skills is astonishing

  • @Zimba9810
    @Zimba9810 7 років тому +5

    lets be real. we suck. we live on youtube comments we will never be youtube creator.

  • @SarahGrace221
    @SarahGrace221 7 років тому +40

    Has anyone noticed that he's actually awkward? It makes it less convincing when an awkward person tells people that being awkward is really a good component.

  • @asgerk4837
    @asgerk4837 6 років тому

    I know a guy who was like this with math. Did extremely complicated math problem like university level stuff for fun in 7th/8th grade

  • @jamie91995
    @jamie91995 7 років тому

    I'm socially awkward but I'm very smart in social studies, science and math. I have aspergers, the topic I focus on mostly is anatomy/medical

  • @albertomendez7422
    @albertomendez7422 6 років тому

    Thanks i love learning more about myself

  • @luisforeal8676
    @luisforeal8676 7 років тому

    Pretend to be not socially awkward. Now There's something you can master.

  • @bauman7962
    @bauman7962 7 років тому +4

    OK

  • @milessodejana2754
    @milessodejana2754 4 роки тому +1

    Thank you

  • @F10natee
    @F10natee 7 років тому

    Dude this makes so much more sense to way I am the way I am

  • @MishaJohanna
    @MishaJohanna 7 років тому

    I have a friend who's awkward but she's good at everything

  • @Bcoaster966
    @Bcoaster966 7 років тому +4

    sooo every pro gamer ever lol

  • @vanessamayorga8405
    @vanessamayorga8405 4 роки тому

    I don't see how being socially awkward is a good thing. People look at me like I'm weird and I have been ghosted by people through texting several times. I feel like I make people uncomfortable because I'm socially awkward.

  • @shenyup480
    @shenyup480 3 роки тому

    I'm awkward , got social anxiety , in school but I don't know if I will graduate without fainting speech class.

  • @bayenne5b
    @bayenne5b 7 років тому +7

    why is he talking about autists?

  • @RaoulWB
    @RaoulWB 6 років тому

    He's describing the work of a programmer/indie developer

  • @rektifyr...
    @rektifyr... 6 років тому

    Dear UA-cam:
    Please stop recommending this types videos to me. The fact that I watch gaming, programming and anime videos doesn't mean I'm socially awkward, nor autistic. Please stop profiling me.
    Thank you.

  • @andrewkim7700
    @andrewkim7700 7 років тому +3

    take that you bullies

  • @yuriano.augusta
    @yuriano.augusta 6 років тому

    I'm socially awkward, I practice being rejected over and over again, I'm now the master of rejection

  • @nicholaslipanovich827
    @nicholaslipanovich827 7 років тому

    Correlation is not causation. I think it's likely the other way around. People who are super focused on a particular area of study/work for extended periods of time are more socially awkward on average. I find myself becoming less socially awkward the more I interact with people and visa versa.

  • @heatherglass1914
    @heatherglass1914 7 років тому

    My native language is spanish, now i'm english fluent and currently learning french. I'm always trying to improve my speaking skills. Whereareas such as math and physics i just can't deal with and have brought me really hard times at school. I struggle with social anxiety to the point of getting panic attacks, it is so hard for me to interact with other people that i even question myself why bothering learning new languages if can't even order lunch at school for myself. I enjoy learning i'm just afraid to make mistakes, so if i want to communicate with anyone i'll be sure to be perfect in every sentence that comes out of my mouth.

  • @usaallstar1068
    @usaallstar1068 7 років тому

    His theory makes a lot of sense to sense.

  • @ecourtois
    @ecourtois 6 років тому

    Okay, that was a really cool video. Thanks for sharing.

  • @pannalaura4378
    @pannalaura4378 6 років тому

    Actually, he talks about people with Aspergers, not just anyone socially awkward.

  • @natinati5891
    @natinati5891 6 років тому

    People say I am shy I am not shy I am just awkward.

  • @alva909
    @alva909 7 років тому

    I'm awkward and I am at the top of my class and the only student who has built his own online business

  • @bobbiclinger7500
    @bobbiclinger7500 7 років тому

    Great info. Pinpoints me exactly.

  • @umarfarook1208
    @umarfarook1208 6 років тому

    great motivation for awkward people

  • @sachin3775
    @sachin3775 7 років тому

    I'd prefer if no one made videos like this, because they have potential to make the target people over confident and soft.

  • @joelthepizzawizard493
    @joelthepizzawizard493 7 років тому

    this is meant to make you feel better

  • @TheBornBoy
    @TheBornBoy 7 років тому

    y do i feel like he's describing me ?
    sometimes i think about a specific issue, i ask why, and how, and somehow i come up with some seriously brilliant ideas.
    but then again, i was just there, in my room, sitting in my bed. Away from all the people. People. They make me feel weird and uncomfortable.

  • @kamyar9782
    @kamyar9782 7 років тому

    The only thing I'm good at is video games, no wonder why I'm socially awkward.

  • @RCE
    @RCE 6 років тому

    OMFG ive never heard a video describe me any better. Ill sit there and skating for hours doing back biggies until my shins are covered in blood. My friends get there and will skate for like half an hour then they want to leave but all i want to do is skate.

  • @dominicwalli
    @dominicwalli 7 років тому

    I am extremely awkward,and it seems that i havent found out in what field im a legend,because my whole life is just a planecrash that just wont finish crashing.

  • @mrsalviboy94
    @mrsalviboy94 5 років тому

    I'm awkward because I can tell so much buy just looking, hearing people. When it comes to women, I come out as creepy but then they change their mind once I open up. Overall I like being awkward and weird!

  • @maycohen7536
    @maycohen7536 7 років тому

    This is making socially awkward people feel better about themselves i guess

  • @doratheexplorer3300
    @doratheexplorer3300 7 років тому

    I'm can't be awkward because I never talk... wait a second

  • @figgledoi
    @figgledoi 7 років тому

    I can personally attest that this is in fact not the case.

  • @BrickFilmerPowerlolifk
    @BrickFilmerPowerlolifk 6 років тому

    I'm amazed that this channel still doesn't have an avatar.

  • @SgtHeimlich
    @SgtHeimlich 4 роки тому

    I’ve always found this in math, I fail a lot of my classes but I’ve met gotten below a b in math. People are always asking me how I did the problems in which I usually find my own creative ways to do but I don’t know how to describe it to other people

  • @izzati1399
    @izzati1399 6 років тому

    ima show this to my parents

  • @stevenglansburg856
    @stevenglansburg856 6 років тому

    My striking talent, which took a while to come about, is poetry and story telling. I know this isn’t my real name, but I’ll be famous in time and it will be nice for whoever had the rights to my writes.

  • @niky9965
    @niky9965 5 років тому

    HOPE. THIS GIVES ME HOPE.

  • @Eudaimoniah
    @Eudaimoniah 6 років тому

    Every comment : " Wow this is literally me I have ADHD, OCD, asspergers, Alzheimer's, aids, zika, ebola and one time one girl in high school said i'm awkward socially". Just stop. If you have to comment that you're socially awkward, you're probably not. You're just delusional and a narcissist.

  • @Scorpionhotshot
    @Scorpionhotshot 6 років тому

    That's so true!

  • @mr.extravaganja4075
    @mr.extravaganja4075 7 років тому

    Finally I've found myself on this video

  • @allen254
    @allen254 6 років тому

    this is me i hate when my loaner routine is interrupted by friends i rather chill with myself :)

  • @raxlyy6416
    @raxlyy6416 7 років тому

    Because focused people have no time to talk bullshit. This is perceived as awkwardness in the eyes of others.

  • @coolbro3191
    @coolbro3191 6 років тому

    Oh, thank God. THANK GOD

  • @misterNicarus
    @misterNicarus 6 років тому

    great insight, thumbs up.

  • @Mcfc2Rich
    @Mcfc2Rich 7 років тому

    If you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree it will live it's whole life thinking it's stupid.

  • @Mayaharumi
    @Mayaharumi 7 років тому

    Thank you very much! I feel better about being socially awkward and lazy! Very encouraging! I'm going to focus on being a lazy bum all the time now!

  • @X3eRo0
    @X3eRo0 6 років тому

    This was the reason why Elliot was in the thumbnail

  • @_LilacRoses
    @_LilacRoses 7 років тому

    This makes me feel much better :)

  • @ottosmh1771
    @ottosmh1771 7 років тому

    If this doesn't make me successful I'm suing you

  • @violethana3943
    @violethana3943 6 років тому

    I'm like that in English...
    I have horrible social anxiety and I'm extremely awkward so as a child I used to write how I was feeling.
    Now in high school, im predicted a 9 (A**) in English and I'm already over a B. I'm 14.

  • @velalilin1692
    @velalilin1692 6 років тому +1

    I'm socially awkward and haven't found my real interest too😐😞

  • @HabibJackson
    @HabibJackson 7 років тому

    I am awkward and average or below in everything

  • @namjinspotato8988
    @namjinspotato8988 7 років тому

    My awkwardness will come in handy..... Wow

  • @fressh
    @fressh 6 років тому +2

    Is this something on my ear? Why's he keep looking at my ear?

  • @JaneEticFailure
    @JaneEticFailure 6 років тому

    or maybe i'm just awkward

  • @wakajoekoe8736
    @wakajoekoe8736 6 років тому

    thanks

  • @Gluluman
    @Gluluman 7 років тому

    There is no such thing as [smarter]- we are all genius at least at one thing. Some of us are good in math, some of us are good in English literature, some of us an excellent auto mechanic, while others are great athletic, and some are great chef. There is a genius in all of us. One has to discover his or her genius. Stop labeling people as smart, superior or the like…Stop dividing people it’s simply nonsense.
    There is nothing good or bad about being a social awkward people, they simply suffer from neurological disorder . Like many in Silicon Valley…we call them nerds.

  • @mrrobot594
    @mrrobot594 7 років тому

    I'm not a psychopath i'm a high-functioning sociopath , do your research

  • @BertiePendergast
    @BertiePendergast 6 років тому

    If I wanted to read what he was saying I would turn the subtitles on....

  • @regulator5521
    @regulator5521 6 років тому

    People here think they are awkward but aren't.

  • @thegoat5587
    @thegoat5587 4 роки тому

    What this guy is saying : 'i am exactly like that 💯' .. i dont like it if someone breaks my boxing/running/bjj routine because they are wedding/have a birthday and i lile to be alone

  • @espurr6628
    @espurr6628 6 років тому

    Dude no joke i had to think about myself the whole video long, I've also had a test by my doctor who confirmed i had the symptons of whats said in this video...

  • @Stringz
    @Stringz 7 років тому

    yea, this is me :/ i am referred to as a musical genius but i could have applied this ability to anything and i have proven that despite my circumstances. its sad though... i am broken now.. all the trauma and abuse.. never thought id live to be past 16 but I'm 32. anyway... it is interesting.. but I've found like everything else in this world.. it is all just math.. everything here is math.

  • @jbaby007
    @jbaby007 7 років тому

    Look at all the awkward people who watched this video lol! We're awesome.