Just another guy Ikr the only self I know is what other people say about me, so if someone says I’m stiff and crippling socially awkward I’ll be socially awkward and stiff. Don’t bully socially awkward people because most of the time they don’t know who they are yet and whenever you tell them something negative they’ll take it, like I have for the past 4 years
Bruh can all of us the socially awkward ppl create like a group where we just hang out with each other and be socially awkward but it’s okay bc we know we all share the same problem
"Be yourself" That's such a cliché. You're putting on a mask all the time, that's part of being human, otherwise society would collapse into barbarism. I have found that when I'm truly honest and true to myself people start to detest me. That's just not working out for anyone.
Thats hard to do, im very aware of what people think of me. Im reactive to people, and i have to show my emotions. But i think im only like this to people i care like family or possible friends. If it was a stranger, i wouldnt care too much on what they think.
Fredrik Olsson When our behavior can negatively affect others it’s normal to try to hide our worst parts. But I sadly realized that people tend to do it in almost all cases, also when doing it isn’t truly necessary, refusing their own personality.
@@fredrikolsson7568 Isn't there someone who loves/likes your true self? If you keep putting on a mask like that, it's very stressful and tiring. Be Yourself but also try to improve it. It's better to be around people who help you rather than judge you. Blessings and prayers to youuu. (you may not like me but that's fine. I understand) -random online friendd
Hello awkward person. You're not here to entertain and impress anyone. You're not a performer on some stage. You're a human being living life, not caring what others think. That's who you are.✌
No, I am trying to impress my crush :P Its so hard to be myself around my crush. especially because she doesn't know who I actually am at all.. neither do I
Find the right people who don’t intimidate you but lift you up. Don’t try to adjust to toxic people just because you have the need to belong to something.
@@ayctky901 Well of course you can't avoid people completely. But you can chose to avoid the shitty ones (i.e most lol). The ones you can't avoid, you can still chose to ignore.
I've been underacting so much in my life because I've been so afraid of saying things out of the norm and breaking the "vibe" or flow of the people around me. The video is super accurate in saying that people then start to assume you're either bored or sad or just don't wanna be there. Yep, experienced it first hand.
That is literally the only step. Social awkwardness foundation is from caring too much. But that is so hard to just fix. You can't fix caring about what others think because to be honest, everybody cares about people's opinions of them. It's just how much we let that affect us and what we can do to lessen this flaw.
1. Laugh yourself (your awkwardness) 2. Consistent activity (put your phone away) 3. Live your life like no one watching (No one worry about what you do as mush as you do) 4. Bring a teammate to start a conversation (and involve in the conversation) Quotes of the day: The more you do it, the easier it gets
These are good tips but for the first one I’m always laughing when someone talks to me even when something isn’t rlly that funny and instead of keeping a conversation going i giggle a bit and I hate it because I wish I could jus talk
@@lyricalcereal420 but I dont want to talk to most people. Beeing social is not a point I have right now in life, so then when I cant get out of it somehow I become akward, wich is obv not nice. I have two friends and as the introvert I am, two is the perfect number.
How I stopped caring what people think is by thinking about myself as just myself and everyone else like everyone else. People aren’t thinking about you getting worked up about what they think about you the only person that does that is yourself. If you think someone is judging you, they’re only doing it to make themselves look better because they’re insecure about others judging them
I agree with that to a certain extent, but true social awkwardness is not purely just thinking. I have many times, gone into a situation with that mindset and there is a chemical reaction in my body that causes anxiety, red face, sweat, mind blank etc. And while that may be psychologically related, it certainly feels like a physical issue you cannot control in the moment.
Abbyツ the best way to think about it is this: people are much less judgmental than you think. No matter what you do, most people are going to accept the way you act and move on. Nobody, and I mean nobody is going to dwell about that one awkward thing that you keep thinking about for the rest of the day. If you just put your awkward self out there, someone is going to like you, and that person who likes you will be easy to relate to. The reason being is if someone likes you, that means they can see some of themselves in you; they can see that they will be able to relate to you. So just put yourself out there, and like this vid says, don’t shield yourself with your phone or by just being quiet, because then people won’t get to know you ever
1 accept being ackward do not under-/overact, make the best out of it 2 consistent activity, form bands, not to much attention to yourself how u will react. dont use ur phone as a shield. tell why u agree, ask more info 3 spotlight effect 4 social practise conversation, use a team mate but be involved in the conversation. show ur passion.
Avoid awkwardness by: 1)Accepting the inevitable. Just laugh at your dumb things. 0:16 2)Consistent activity. Don't use phone to avoid awkwardness. 4:03 3)Spotlight effect. No one judges you so much as you think. 6:27 4)Social tag teaming. If someone shares some interest go ahead and say you are passionate. 8:03
*By actually owning it and embracing your awkwardness and knowing that you will improve over time, THAT is what makes it the best!* Winny out... _for now_ 😉
Have you found these techniques and ideas effective? How many people actually apply these techniques as opposed to just passively watching? Self-help books have been perennial best-sellers for 40 years and it seems like people are even worse emotionally. Does just reading and watching actually get people to apply the ideas and make real change or not?
I don’t know why, but I’m only awkward around people who I find attractive or athletically skilled. I have always struggled with self esteem issues and confidence and it had affected me in such negative ways. Thank you for the video.
I'm scared of awkwardness, so I act awkward, it's a vicious cycle that I can only stop by starting to accept myself. Only accepting myself is the hard part, I don't accept myself, I don't love myself and I don't even like myself.
Also based on that thumbnail for this video... It shows a cross for the woman looking at the man's lips. And a check mark for looking him in the eyes. Eye contact is good but if she's looking at your lips like the way she is in the thumbnail, that means she wants to kiss you. Kiss them pretty lips.
Anna Greiner I usually uh, try throwing something about it in there, just to keep the conversation going 😭 though, it’d help if they did the same, but that isn’t always the case! this is a two month old comment and idk why I’m replying shdj but yeah hope this h elps??
I think the best way to overcome awkwardness is to assume that everyone else is feeling more awkward than you. Once you embrace that, you actually start to believe that the situation isn't as awkward and you feel more in control of the situation.
Same.. I get so nervous when I have to talk to people, but when I’m texting I’m like a whole different person. I just don’t know what to do about it. Can someone pls help me out or something
@@zynp8043 i can help you there's a website called www.shynesssocialanxiety.com I recommend it. It rlly helped me as a person. Now in not as awkward and social anxietic as I used to,don't skip a word ik its an article but it still helps you in aw way others cant. UwU
Same. My family members noticed it to, they say that I'm always on my phone and not talking to anyone. I can't help it, I don't even know what to do and say to everyone So I just use my phone instead
I dont even know who i am anymore im constantly changing so people like me and ive forgotten what my personality is like and when im talking to someone my head fills with these thoughts that the person is wanting me to be quiet and go away i wish i could have a conversation without this happening
I'd love to talk to you! I had the same experience and I can give you some advice that worked for me with the personality thing. Right now I have some other issues related to confidence, but I'm pretty ok and finally conscious about my personality
Putting up a facade is not a long term solution for the negative self beliefs that you internally hold. Fake it till you make it only works if you ACTUALLY make it overtime! 💪
You know what I can't figure out, why is it that me a natural introvert always has to make conversation and take the first step? I mean why aren't the extroverts stepping out and speaking to me?
The most awkward moment is wen you don't get what someone is saying and you keep saying "huh"😭💀😹😹 I tend to pretend like I've heard and say 'hmm' or just stay quiet😹😭😭😭😭😭
You're always the shadow of your talkative friend because you think "what if people ignore me if I say something" Fear of being judged is what making us socially awkward.
Yea I know. It's insane. Tbh I rather just go instantly go on a date where I don't know the other person, then to just first talk some weeks before meeting 1st time. But like all want to first talk for weeks before getting on the first date and stuff. Then they say "im old-school", I'll reply with: I just rather talk to someone in real life, ain't that weird right?
A few years ago I walked up to my crush and said something super awkward then walked away, she seemed to be confused and disgusted. That one moment had me avoiding most conversations to this day
I can't say that I got social anxiety, but I often feel awkward. Even if you cannot tell all the time. It's more something inside of me rather than outside me. Because I have some friends, i like myself and I genuinely think I have no reason to be shy. But I really feel awkward deep down. My heart is pounding and I feel held back in whatever conversation, like something is preventing me from laughing and being relaxed. I feel like people have a light in their eyes that i can't have anymore, and that they're able to live better than I do. Sometimes I love what I say, but others I get crazy because I see my words as empty. I wish I weren't feeling this way. It just ruins many good experiences and pulls away people.
I needed this video. I realize I’m so scared of making things awkward that it’s a self fulfilling prophecy. The key I’ve gotten from this video, is it’s not about what you do, but about what you do after. You can laugh at yourself bc it honestly is not a big deal, everyone is awkward sometimes
This man really just explained for ten minutes what being socially awkward is... Like bruh I know otherwise I wouldn't be trying to learn how to be less awkward...
I have over-acted few weeks ago in class since I lowkey am desperate to make friends since I know no one at all and I'm that type of person to only let people come up and talk to me- making me doing the less effort in making friends. I have been under acting throughout middle and highschool so I really don't have many "close" friends. It's sad how trying to "fit in" actually isn't doing me justice... and now I'm a college freshman trying to fit in, just to realize theres nowhere to fit in 😩
I've never been that socially awkward but it's recently getting really bad really fast for no reason at all. I feel so alone, it's scary and depressing
The truth is, it’s way easier said than done, all people are different. I personally am a very awkward person myself, and I feel weird commenting because I rarely do. I can’t speak to people because I’m scared they might judge me and I will make it very weird. This video makes me feel a bit angry because how I see it is just saying “your sad? Well then don’t be sad,” I am not hating or anything, I’m just sharing how I feel, and how other people may be feeling to. I know there are going to be people hating me for this, but we have to respect all people’s beliefs and thinking. All I am saying is, people are social creatures, and we should be socializing more, but sadly the world is more of a virtual place now, and new generations are learning more how to not get out and socialize. I am young, and my generation is like this, that is also why I am like this. There are things that help, and things that don’t, and some may never even be solved. If you want to share your thoughts please share! That’s what the comments are for anyways. :D
Thank you so much. This is exactly what I’ve been needing. It was so clear, informative and offered practical ways to understand my behaviors, made me aware of how it can sabatogue making great connections and then offered some practical steps/examples with which to work towards getting learning better social tools. This was beautiful. Thank you.
If I talk too much, I'm annoying. If I talk too little, I'm "shy" or a "loner". I can never work up to people's standards and it's sickening. I cry myself to sleep sometimes, thinking of everything I did wrong and telling myself "I'm terrible" and "I deserve to die". It's just too much. Sorry for ranting, but I think everyone deserves to be respected for the way they are, and I'm done crying and hating myself when I did nothing wrong.
I am as socially awkward as is humanly possible. I prefer being alone rather than being around people who seem to have only 1 mission in life- TO MAKE ME FEEL AWKWARD. Once there's a perception formed about you , it won't go away. Hence I have given up trying.... People may think whatever they want but I am comfortable in my space. That's the only thing that matters for me...
Some tips to become more confident: •Don't care what others think •Give eye contact to everyone you speak with. •You don't have to be that 'Popular girl' you can be popular with some friends, have at least 1 friend •Get sticky notes, paper, pad pin board, Ect. And make challenges such as -one more friend by the end of the month. Then you can slowly make it harder such as -2 more friends by the end of 2 weeks! Make a list of your friends next to it! I hope this helped! 😊😁 Have a good day!
felt that, we see ourselves way different compared to how others see us though. i have a hard time with constantly judging myself and thinking what other ppl might think of me. majority of the time we’re just wayyyy overthinking things and it’s important to be aware of that. one thing i pray for you this 2020 is that you’re able to find love within yourself so you know and believe that you’re made perfectly :) god bless you and anyone who reads this
“your best friends are those you feel comfortable being awkward around” true but then I worry if that person feels awkward even though I’m comfortable being awkward
I have a chance to become a construction manager. I'll be traveling and starting a $200,000 building project on Monday. I need to build relationships with the owner of the hospital and the maintenance staff. I'm 19 years old and socially awkward when speaking English. I speak 3 languages am most awkward with my German and not awkward at all with my Spanish. I need to polish my english and constantly fear messing it up.
I went to a restaurant today the waiter asked me if i wanted a menu, i misheard him and said No i was too shy to correct myself and i drank a glass of water and left I hate myself
In the past I've told people that I'm introverted, but not shy. Now, those two words are synonymous with one another, but I would say that anyways and explain that I feel very uncomfortable initiating people in conversation, even though I'd really like to, but if someone engages me in conversation, I'm happy to talk for as long as they're up for it. People always say introverts get tired out by conversing or don't like small talk, but that's never bothered me at all, unless there's a lot of people around. Like if someone has a party of some kind, I just can't deal with it if I'm in the main gathering place, but if I go with a few people into a side area, then I'm totally fine. That said, when the party is over, I'm done. I can go without people for a week easy before I need to interact with others. I just wish I knew what the correct word was to describe my type of introversion because I actually like talking with others, just one on one, or in very small groups, and there is no way in hell I'm going to initiate conversation with people I don't know; that's awkward.
I'm literally the perfect example of an Extro-Introvert (I know it's not an actual word). Some days I'm outgoing asf and chill as hell with people, even strangers I can be the life of the party with.Then other days, I just crack and crawl into this shell...I become more reserved and tend to over-analyze my interactions with people..what i think they're thinking about me, thinking I sound silly/idiotic. I just want to be normal full time *sigh*
I've got social anxiety but i'm not really scared to fuck up around people i'll never see again, but in school i feel the constant pressure to fit the social criteria and norm. And it's very different to not care how you act in school, because there will end up being a consiquence...
Sounds silly but tbh this almost makes me cry at the realisation of how socially awkward and anxious I am, to the point that I can't even communicate with some family members the way that I want to. I'm desperately trying to become a better version of myself.
Your allowed to be annoyed, sad, or bored. People are not as amusing as they think they are, which is why reasonably intelligent people respond to them as if they are some sort of fungus.
I thought that this type of thing in this video doesn't existed, but reading the comments I got surprised. I'm not judging anyone, but you need to get rid of it (social anxiety). If you want to achieve huge goals in your career / life you need to stop thinking about what others will think, they are more concerned about what he will eat tomorrow than the hungry in Africa. I know that maybe it will be embarrassing in the beginning, but believe me that it will disappear so fast that you even will not realize. We just live once, so start living. For God, damn it
I used to worry so much about people focusing on every single thing I do, but then I realized people don't actually care... and that kind of helped me become less shy but it also daunted me that the fact that it's actually hard to get people to care about you.
“Do not wait; the time will never be ‘just right.’ Start where you stand, and work with whatever tools you may have at your command, and better tools will be found as you go along.” -George Herbert Agree? -then give 👍 Not Agree? - Tell me why in 💬
Best way for me is to think, how you would react to that situation, if someone else did it. It usually helps afterwards, when similar situations happen again, and you don't care anymore.
All of these are great tips. A simple rule that should guide your life in social interaction is that it legitimately doesn’t matter what’s perceived as “awkward” or not. It’s your choice to feel discomfort in social interaction. You could do several things to try to make things embarrassing for someone else but if you behave 100% confident that what you did or say was fine, it matters zero!
I mean i feel I’m awkward a lot of the time and I have noticed it fairly recently but now I realise I hide myself away because I’m scared of embarrassing myself just by being there and being too awkward ,there is only a small group of people I feel like I can talk to without being awkward. I worry what others think of me
The worst thing you can say is “be yourself” like I have no idea how does “myself” act. It really sucks.
For real
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Just another guy yea :(
Exactly
Just another guy Ikr the only self I know is what other people say about me, so if someone says I’m stiff and crippling socially awkward I’ll be socially awkward and stiff.
Don’t bully socially awkward people because most of the time they don’t know who they are yet and whenever you tell them something negative they’ll take it, like I have for the past 4 years
Man i’m so socially awkward with strangers sometimes. Especially when its someone attractive.
Im like that with anyone. Worse when it’s someone attractive.
It's so trueee
I can relate more with the internet than family 😂
BiBi LMAO SAME
Me too ahahaha I think we all experiment such things
Who else have social anxiety?
I do kills me
@@mckenzie_xx6225 Same man I feel you
Andrew Ugale yes and it’s breaking me
Same
Lol why you think we are in this vid
Bruh can all of us the socially awkward ppl create like a group where we just hang out with each other and be socially awkward but it’s okay bc we know we all share the same problem
Jasmina Ravshanova I love that idea
Same. 😂
Yes please😂🙏🏽
I wanna be in that group😂
Yes please
Life is better when you learn to not care what other people think. Be yourself and that’s it. Stop thinking
"Be yourself" That's such a cliché. You're putting on a mask all the time, that's part of being human, otherwise society would collapse into barbarism. I have found that when I'm truly honest and true to myself people start to detest me. That's just not working out for anyone.
@@fredrikolsson7568 learn to be alpha mate... they made a video bout that go check it out
Thats hard to do, im very aware of what people think of me. Im reactive to people, and i have to show my emotions. But i think im only like this to people i care like family or possible friends. If it was a stranger, i wouldnt care too much on what they think.
Fredrik Olsson When our behavior can negatively affect others it’s normal to try to hide our worst parts. But I sadly realized that people tend to do it in almost all cases, also when doing it isn’t truly necessary, refusing their own personality.
@@fredrikolsson7568 Isn't there someone who loves/likes your true self? If you keep putting on a mask like that, it's very stressful and tiring. Be Yourself but also try to improve it. It's better to be around people who help you rather than judge you. Blessings and prayers to youuu.
(you may not like me but that's fine. I understand)
-random online friendd
I don’t think I’m socially awkward I just can’t hold a conversation. Like i can be invested but if I have to talk I can’t respond.
Me too
Me too
Daiveon Mallery I relate to this so much
Yes me too can we all hang out please?
Im glad and happy im not the only one
Anyone else ok with strangers but more awkward around people they know... just me?
Same lol
Probably because you just don't care much of what strangers think, you want the people you already like to like you.
Tamara O'Brien this is exactly how I feel, I have no issues making conversation with strangers but people I know I just can’t for some reason
Mia Emily yes I feel u
Omggg, me af. I thought i was the only one
It’s not even about doing awkward things it’s about knowing how to keep up a conversation. That’s the most awkward thing. Ever. And I hate it
So true
True
Yessss 💯💯💯💯💯
Especially with a girl, boy it's so difficult to have experience with females
THIS
I feel socially awkward while watching this...
😂😂😂
Vickemannen 92 😂🤨🤔😏✌🏿
Hahah
Self- deprecating is like the cure to us
I feel attacked lol
Same😂
Hello awkward person. You're not here to entertain and impress anyone. You're not a performer on some stage. You're a human being living life, not caring what others think. That's who you are.✌
Yeah, no
💯💯👏Thanks
No, I am trying to impress my crush :P Its so hard to be myself around my crush. especially because she doesn't know who I actually am at all.. neither do I
Too bad I can’t go to work. Work my ass off like I do. And go home. I have to fear constantly being fired because people won’t like me.
@@tobitube4301 then you already fúcked up.and are living in a lie lol
Find the right people who don’t intimidate you but lift you up. Don’t try to adjust to toxic people just because you have the need to belong to something.
Your Favorite Lifecoach nice to see you here Bahman!
You just nailed it
Toxic people gravitate towards me. Why? Please give me your opinion.
Roxanne Jones then you have got to gravitate towards better people :)
@@MindNow I don't gravitate towards anyone... nevermind.
Number 5: Avoid people.
Carl Illingworth That’s what I always do but not recommended
@@ayctky901 Well of course you can't avoid people completely. But you can chose to avoid the shitty ones (i.e most lol). The ones you can't avoid, you can still chose to ignore.
Done
I always do this, I avoid social interactions :'D
Exactly I’m tired of people
I've been underacting so much in my life because I've been so afraid of saying things out of the norm and breaking the "vibe" or flow of the people around me. The video is super accurate in saying that people then start to assume you're either bored or sad or just don't wanna be there. Yep, experienced it first hand.
Daniel Pyro Cho same here
feel this so much
IKR
same
1st step: don't care
Um, i dont think that is going to work.
@@Christine-mg6oo worked for me.
@@mbj2nd did it actually worked? Can you say more details or an advice?
That is literally the only step. Social awkwardness foundation is from caring too much. But that is so hard to just fix. You can't fix caring about what others think because to be honest, everybody cares about people's opinions of them. It's just how much we let that affect us and what we can do to lessen this flaw.
@@golydm9116 bro meditate u be fine in same position but meditation helped in jst two days
This felt like a personal attack 😂😂
I’ll be the first me... thank you verrryyy much.
Swear 😂😅
Hahaha ikr
Same
Just watch it dumbass
1. Laugh yourself (your awkwardness)
2. Consistent activity (put your phone away)
3. Live your life like no one watching (No one worry about what you do as mush as you do)
4. Bring a teammate to start a conversation (and involve in the conversation)
Quotes of the day: The more you do it, the easier it gets
But definitely use snapchat or stuff so you can practice holding a conversation :)
@@hottea2933 no do it in real life
@@alexwe2266 you’re not always gonna be around other people and it can be equally as hard irl as Snapchat
These are good tips but for the first one I’m always laughing when someone talks to me even when something isn’t rlly that funny and instead of keeping a conversation going i giggle a bit and I hate it because I wish I could jus talk
I don't have t worry about the phone problem because I have a flip phone so that distraction is not even an option.
but my problem is that I actually dont want to be there, I dont want to talk to them. So I actively try to avoid it, therefor I become super awkward.
But if you actually talk to people and get out of your comfort zone you will become not awkward
@@lyricalcereal420 but I dont want to talk to most people. Beeing social is not a point I have right now in life, so then when I cant get out of it somehow I become akward, wich is obv not nice. I have two friends and as the introvert I am, two is the perfect number.
@Pillagger cause even tho I dont want to interact with people I also dont want to be awkward
@Pillagger yeah, you are right. Thats why I need to become better at avoiding people xD
@@Warcus861 Don't worry, you're not alone. I have the same exact problem
How I stopped caring what people think is by thinking about myself as just myself and everyone else like everyone else. People aren’t thinking about you getting worked up about what they think about you the only person that does that is yourself. If you think someone is judging you, they’re only doing it to make themselves look better because they’re insecure about others judging them
I agree with that to a certain extent, but true social awkwardness is not purely just thinking. I have many times, gone into a situation with that mindset and there is a chemical reaction in my body that causes anxiety, red face, sweat, mind blank etc. And while that may be psychologically related, it certainly feels like a physical issue you cannot control in the moment.
I'm super awkward, especailly when it comes to meeting new people.
Abbyツ the best way to think about it is this: people are much less judgmental than you think. No matter what you do, most people are going to accept the way you act and move on. Nobody, and I mean nobody is going to dwell about that one awkward thing that you keep thinking about for the rest of the day. If you just put your awkward self out there, someone is going to like you, and that person who likes you will be easy to relate to. The reason being is if someone likes you, that means they can see some of themselves in you; they can see that they will be able to relate to you.
So just put yourself out there, and like this vid says, don’t shield yourself with your phone or by just being quiet, because then people won’t get to know you ever
I feel like an alien trying to understand human emotion lmfaooo
Don't we all
😂😂😂
Bruh same here 😅👽👽
yea
I think about this all the time
1 accept being ackward
do not under-/overact, make the best out of it
2 consistent activity, form bands, not to much attention to yourself how u will react. dont use ur phone as a shield. tell why u agree, ask more info
3 spotlight effect
4 social practise conversation, use a team mate but be involved in the conversation. show ur passion.
Thanks for saving 10 mins
Avoid awkwardness by:
1)Accepting the inevitable. Just laugh at your dumb things. 0:16
2)Consistent activity. Don't use phone to avoid awkwardness. 4:03
3)Spotlight effect. No one judges you so much as you think. 6:27
4)Social tag teaming. If someone shares some interest go ahead and say you are passionate. 8:03
Thanks! You just saved me 10 minutes 👌
*By actually owning it and embracing your awkwardness and knowing that you will improve over time, THAT is what makes it the best!*
Winny out... _for now_ 😉
Awkward is a form of cunning✔
Have you found these techniques and ideas effective? How many people actually apply these techniques as opposed to just passively watching? Self-help books have been perennial best-sellers for 40 years and it seems like people are even worse emotionally. Does just reading and watching actually get people to apply the ideas and make real change or not?
I embraced that fact more than forty years ago! I'm probably worse than ever right now.
@@gregv8164 same😂
I didn’t realize I was that socially awkward until I related to everything on here
Its actually better if you never realized it
I don’t know why, but I’m only awkward around people who I find attractive or athletically skilled. I have always struggled with self esteem issues and confidence and it had affected me in such negative ways. Thank you for the video.
I'm scared of awkwardness, so I act awkward, it's a vicious cycle that I can only stop by starting to accept myself. Only accepting myself is the hard part, I don't accept myself, I don't love myself and I don't even like myself.
I am with you 100% on that one. Its horrible to deal with and impossible to relate to unless yo have exp it
@@garywhelan209 yeah, it's difficult but I'm coping. Hope you're doing well.
@@Doctordier hello 1 year passed how are you ? I have the same problem
Ur best friends are the people with whom you feel comfortable being awkward around ❤️
Best advice I can give you is to try to not care what people think about you. That will make you much more confident and attractive.
That's what everyone says but I just can't stop thinking, especially when people are looking at me (seemingly) awkwardly
Rizwan same ITS NOT THAT SIMPLE I CANT STOP THINKING
SmashyPlays fuck a porn
I agree it's hard but you have to keep the motivation going
Also based on that thumbnail for this video... It shows a cross for the woman looking at the man's lips. And a check mark for looking him in the eyes. Eye contact is good but if she's looking at your lips like the way she is in the thumbnail, that means she wants to kiss you. Kiss them pretty lips.
person: nice weather-
me: thanks you too.
Hhaahhaha relatable
Person: Hi what’s your name?
Me: Thanks you too!
Random guy: “hey”
Me: I totally agree
Aden I’m the guy that says yes or no to conversations
I'm the person that nods and laughs 😔 physically can't say anything sometimes
Me: Hi how’s your day going ?
Other person: Good hows yours?
Me : Good....
( mind goes into complete PANIC!!!!!!!!!!😱😱)
Who else ?
Same😤
Anna Greiner I usually uh, try throwing something about it in there, just to keep the conversation going 😭
though, it’d help if they did the same, but that isn’t always the case!
this is a two month old comment and idk why I’m replying shdj but yeah hope this h elps??
@@lu-vy9fm lmao this is youtube there will be a reply 50 years from now
*_"So what have you been up to?_*
so am not alone in this.
This whole video just broke my life down into pieces
I think the best way to overcome awkwardness is to assume that everyone else is feeling more awkward than you. Once you embrace that, you actually start to believe that the situation isn't as awkward and you feel more in control of the situation.
The comment section is distracting me from listening carefully to the video. I have to repeat some parts of the video again. XD
Julia what’s your Instagram?
Same
I am so awkward with both strangers and people I know This is really becoming a problem and its annoying
Same.. I get so nervous when I have to talk to people, but when I’m texting I’m like a whole different person. I just don’t know what to do about it. Can someone pls help me out or something
@@zynp8043 i can help you there's a website called www.shynesssocialanxiety.com I recommend it. It rlly helped me as a person. Now in not as awkward and social anxietic as I used to,don't skip a word ik its an article but it still helps you in aw way others cant. UwU
@@zynp8043 np ;)❤
Same. My family members noticed it to, they say that I'm always on my phone and not talking to anyone. I can't help it, I don't even know what to do and say to everyone So I just use my phone instead
I dont even know who i am anymore im constantly changing so people like me and ive forgotten what my personality is like and when im talking to someone my head fills with these thoughts that the person is wanting me to be quiet and go away i wish i could have a conversation without this happening
@leskeyyz ' I can relate😅
I'd love to talk to you! I had the same experience and I can give you some advice that worked for me with the personality thing. Right now I have some other issues related to confidence, but I'm pretty ok and finally conscious about my personality
Same
Putting up a facade is not a long term solution for the negative self beliefs that you internally hold. Fake it till you make it only works if you ACTUALLY make it overtime! 💪
You know what I can't figure out, why is it that me a natural introvert always has to make conversation and take the first step? I mean why aren't the extroverts stepping out and speaking to me?
True. It feels we are main character and we are the one that have to do everything
@@DiamondPrince3455
I tried very hard to looks attractive and friendly as possible but I guess I still ended up being very unapproachable.
That's the problem with extrovert people nowadays coz they always like to approach to people that can react the same way as they could
Love you Kev. Itll all work out evenlly
I’m awkward, I over think everything, and HAHAH I literally always go on my phone in awkward situations
Well at least you're thinking in the first place, which is more than I can say for many out there!
The most awkward moment is wen you don't get what someone is saying and you keep saying "huh"😭💀😹😹 I tend to pretend like I've heard and say 'hmm' or just stay quiet😹😭😭😭😭😭
Omg bruhhh same 😂😂😂😁
arghh everyone in the comment is relate to me i feel better now atleast 😭
or laugh and hope they weren't talking about their dog dying!
"Be yourself"
Literally the worst advice you can give to someone dealing with social anxiety.
Never works tho
My crush asked me to take a photo with him and I told him tomorrow bc I was too embarrassed to pose for a pic while his friends watch 🤦🏽♀️
Adri R. So did u take a picture with him? Lol I’m sorry I’m so late
Lol at least you talk to your crush
Mohammad Bakeer yes they do I’m a guy
Lol i felt u
You're always the shadow of your talkative friend because you think "what if people ignore me if I say something"
Fear of being judged is what making us socially awkward.
To all the awkards out there!!! 🙌
Im awkward when it comes to getting the conversation started but when there is a conversation im unstoppable
Like the no phone out, if you are socializing. Phones and gadgets have taken over its a robotic world.
Aquarius (Robot) age
Yea I know. It's insane. Tbh I rather just go instantly go on a date where I don't know the other person, then to just first talk some weeks before meeting 1st time. But like all want to first talk for weeks before getting on the first date and stuff. Then they say "im old-school", I'll reply with: I just rather talk to someone in real life, ain't that weird right?
Well we're in quarantine so
🚨🦾🤖
A few years ago I walked up to my crush and said something super awkward then walked away, she seemed to be confused and disgusted. That one moment had me avoiding most conversations to this day
I can't say that I got social anxiety, but I often feel awkward. Even if you cannot tell all the time. It's more something inside of me rather than outside me. Because I have some friends, i like myself and I genuinely think I have no reason to be shy. But I really feel awkward deep down. My heart is pounding and I feel held back in whatever conversation, like something is preventing me from laughing and being relaxed. I feel like people have a light in their eyes that i can't have anymore, and that they're able to live better than I do. Sometimes I love what I say, but others I get crazy because I see my words as empty. I wish I weren't feeling this way. It just ruins many good experiences and pulls away people.
It’s good to always think about and observe other people’s awkward moments and reilize why you don’t get annoyed or judge that person
I needed this video. I realize I’m so scared of making things awkward that it’s a self fulfilling prophecy. The key I’ve gotten from this video, is it’s not about what you do, but about what you do after. You can laugh at yourself bc it honestly is not a big deal, everyone is awkward sometimes
This man really just explained for ten minutes what being socially awkward is... Like bruh I know otherwise I wouldn't be trying to learn how to be less awkward...
I have over-acted few weeks ago in class since I lowkey am desperate to make friends since I know no one at all and I'm that type of person to only let people come up and talk to me- making me doing the less effort in making friends. I have been under acting throughout middle and highschool so I really don't have many "close" friends. It's sad how trying to "fit in" actually isn't doing me justice... and now I'm a college freshman trying to fit in, just to realize theres nowhere to fit in 😩
"How is your day?"
Me: *Thank you!*
AH Gaming omg same 😣
ua-cam.com/video/hFxk0fPc5MQ/v-deo.html
finally i found my video！that is totally me
This is literally me lmao
UA-cam knows too much
The akward are so busted
I've never been that socially awkward but it's recently getting really bad really fast for no reason at all. I feel so alone, it's scary and depressing
Once carried a gift wrapped chocolate bar for the whole day at school, too scared to give it to my crush... went home and ate it.
As we grow older, we do become wiser. Life gets a lot easier because you learn how much we are alike 💕
The truth is, it’s way easier said than done, all people are different. I personally am a very awkward person myself, and I feel weird commenting because I rarely do. I can’t speak to people because I’m scared they might judge me and I will make it very weird. This video makes me feel a bit angry because how I see it is just saying “your sad? Well then don’t be sad,” I am not hating or anything, I’m just sharing how I feel, and how other people may be feeling to. I know there are going to be people hating me for this, but we have to respect all people’s beliefs and thinking. All I am saying is, people are social creatures, and we should be socializing more, but sadly the world is more of a virtual place now, and new generations are learning more how to not get out and socialize. I am young, and my generation is like this, that is also why I am like this. There are things that help, and things that don’t, and some may never even be solved. If you want to share your thoughts please share! That’s what the comments are for anyways. :D
Remembering that everyone is mostly thinking about themselves to not be awkward rather than you is a good way of getting over being awkward.
Wow! This guy just told my life story
UA-cam is trying to tell me something
I love how you have 95 likes but no comments
Thank you so much. This is exactly what I’ve been needing. It was so clear, informative and offered practical ways to understand my behaviors, made me aware of how it can sabatogue making great connections and then offered some practical steps/examples with which to work towards getting learning better social tools.
This was beautiful. Thank you.
If I talk too much, I'm annoying. If I talk too little, I'm "shy" or a "loner". I can never work up to people's standards and it's sickening. I cry myself to sleep sometimes, thinking of everything I did wrong and telling myself "I'm terrible" and "I deserve to die". It's just too much. Sorry for ranting, but I think everyone deserves to be respected for the way they are, and I'm done crying and hating myself when I did nothing wrong.
I am as socially awkward as is humanly possible.
I prefer being alone rather than being around people who seem to have only 1 mission in life- TO MAKE ME FEEL AWKWARD. Once there's a perception formed about you , it won't go away.
Hence I have given up trying....
People may think whatever they want but I am comfortable in my space.
That's the only thing that matters for me...
Some tips to become more confident:
•Don't care what others think
•Give eye contact to everyone you speak with.
•You don't have to be that 'Popular girl' you can be popular with some friends, have at least 1 friend
•Get sticky notes, paper, pad pin board, Ect. And make challenges such as
-one more friend by the end of the month. Then you can slowly make it harder such as
-2 more friends by the end of 2 weeks!
Make a list of your friends next to it!
I hope this helped! 😊😁
Have a good day!
Thanksss🤗🤗🤗🤗
How tf do you just make a friend?
The fact that this was in my reccomend...this is a sign
the only thing is people keep looking me in the eye when i talk and i feel like they’re just looking at how ugly i am
felt that, we see ourselves way different compared to how others see us though. i have a hard time with constantly judging myself and thinking what other ppl might think of me. majority of the time we’re just wayyyy overthinking things and it’s important to be aware of that. one thing i pray for you this 2020 is that you’re able to find love within yourself so you know and believe that you’re made perfectly :) god bless you and anyone who reads this
I can relate very much
Relateable
Samee
I feel the same way. 😣😞
I just cant relate to anything like a normal person, and part of that is because I’ve been sheltered from the world for so long.
I stayed away from toxic people and stuck with positive people with good manners and my anxiety got better.
This has taken over my entire life😭
Yeah, i do something dumb then no one ever talks to me again. I have literally no friends because people don't like me.
Sometimes eye contact is the worst
Ikrrr i hate it :(
I probably broke the world record for the most awkward person on Earth, but I've tried some of these tips before. Knew I was going the right way!
“your best friends are those you feel comfortable being awkward around” true but then I worry if that person feels awkward even though I’m comfortable being awkward
this is actually so accurate this is exactly how I am
Poopio Peepee have u found a cure?
Same here.. its impressive how accurate that research on this video was carried out
I have a chance to become a construction manager. I'll be traveling and starting a $200,000 building project on Monday. I need to build relationships with the owner of the hospital and the maintenance staff. I'm 19 years old and socially awkward when speaking English. I speak 3 languages am most awkward with my German and not awkward at all with my Spanish. I need to polish my english and constantly fear messing it up.
I once heard a tip: "start thinking in the language that you try to improve on". Haven't tried it yet, but here you go anyways! ^^
@@andrejz8954
Nah, I been thinking in my mind with English languages all the time for years but that didn't worked out at all.
I went to a restaurant today the waiter asked me if i wanted a menu, i misheard him and said No i was too shy to correct myself and i drank a glass of water and left
I hate myself
In the past I've told people that I'm introverted, but not shy. Now, those two words are synonymous with one another, but I would say that anyways and explain that I feel very uncomfortable initiating people in conversation, even though I'd really like to, but if someone engages me in conversation, I'm happy to talk for as long as they're up for it.
People always say introverts get tired out by conversing or don't like small talk, but that's never bothered me at all, unless there's a lot of people around. Like if someone has a party of some kind, I just can't deal with it if I'm in the main gathering place, but if I go with a few people into a side area, then I'm totally fine. That said, when the party is over, I'm done. I can go without people for a week easy before I need to interact with others.
I just wish I knew what the correct word was to describe my type of introversion because I actually like talking with others, just one on one, or in very small groups, and there is no way in hell I'm going to initiate conversation with people I don't know; that's awkward.
im just very aware of myself and i understand what other people want and how their minds work
I'm literally the perfect example of an Extro-Introvert (I know it's not an actual word). Some days I'm outgoing asf and chill as hell with people, even strangers I can be the life of the party with.Then other days, I just crack and crawl into this shell...I become more reserved and tend to over-analyze my interactions with people..what i think they're thinking about me, thinking I sound silly/idiotic. I just want to be normal full time *sigh*
Same
Me: putting fork to my mouth
Fork: sorry i have boyfriend
What if my personality is being socially anxious, so if I'm not being socially anxious then im being something im not
I've got social anxiety but i'm not really scared to fuck up around people i'll never see again, but in school i feel the constant pressure to fit the social criteria and norm. And it's very different to not care how you act in school, because there will end up being a consiquence...
Exactly how i feel
Sounds silly but tbh this almost makes me cry at the realisation of how socially awkward and anxious I am, to the point that I can't even communicate with some family members the way that I want to. I'm desperately trying to become a better version of myself.
its best if you fart and run away crying🍻
Talking from experience
Lmao😂😂😂😂
LMAO🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@hshshe867 😂😂😂
Lmao wtf 😂😂
man im so awkward
Definitely an underactor
sometimes it's pure social awkwardness and sometimes I really am Annoyed, Sad, or bored
What to do in those situations.
Your allowed to be annoyed, sad, or bored. People are not as amusing as they think they are, which is why reasonably intelligent people respond to them as if they are some sort of fungus.
I thought that this type of thing in this video doesn't existed, but reading the comments I got surprised. I'm not judging anyone, but you need to get rid of it (social anxiety).
If you want to achieve huge goals in your career / life you need to stop thinking about what others will think, they are more concerned about what he will eat tomorrow than the hungry in Africa.
I know that maybe it will be embarrassing in the beginning, but believe me that it will disappear so fast that you even will not realize.
We just live once, so start living. For God, damn it
I used to worry so much about people focusing on every single thing I do, but then I realized people don't actually care... and that kind of helped me become less shy but it also daunted me that the fact that it's actually hard to get people to care about you.
Anyone else have social anxiety but whenever you speak your voice sounds weird so you just don’t speak? Cuz same.
Ugghh.. same😢
I say something like yeah or just respond to a question with a short answer and I get giggles, like why are they giggling what did I do awkward?!
“We actually learn [theory of mind] when we’re toddlers.” So that’s where my life first went wrong. When I was a toddler. Cool.
“Do not wait; the time will never be ‘just right.’ Start where you stand, and work with whatever tools you may have at your command, and better tools will be found as you go along.” -George Herbert
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Best way for me is to think, how you would react to that situation, if someone else did it. It usually helps afterwards, when similar situations happen again, and you don't care anymore.
Literally a convo with me:
girl: “hey kris!”
me: “um hi”
girl: “what’s up”
me: “nothing”
girl: “ok...”
me: ... 😐
girl: ... **leaves**
That’s me I hate looking at people in the eyes.
@@theflash8516 ah same man
Ima very awkward person but I was the comment and I realized im not the only one
The fact I had to search this up is sad
All of these are great tips. A simple rule that should guide your life in social interaction is that it legitimately doesn’t matter what’s perceived as “awkward” or not. It’s your choice to feel discomfort in social interaction. You could do several things to try to make things embarrassing for someone else but if you behave 100% confident that what you did or say was fine, it matters zero!
Yea
I mean i feel I’m awkward a lot of the time and I have noticed it fairly recently but now I realise I hide myself away because I’m scared of embarrassing myself just by being there and being too awkward ,there is only a small group of people I feel like I can talk to without being awkward. I worry what others think of me