I had no idea that while my limbic brain is healing I experience 100's of triggers. I thought I was going crazy and getting worse. Trying to stay grounded all day long is exhausting. that's a full time job in and of itself. yet how reassuring that while it seems to be getting worse its actually healing. some days I try to ride out the triggers and just let them be triggers others days it feels like they hit like in the boxing ring. Through the triggers I am slowly learning to stay in my cortex. Thank you Tim. Thank you GOD!
Yes I feel like I'm going crazy too and it seems easier to give into it and go off the deep end than to stay calm everyday just go to work I feel like a robot when Im being "normal"
Whoa you just described what I’ve been experiencing. I thought I was so broken I couldn’t be fixed even though I’ve been doing my work! Dang I hope this gets better.
Exactly. I have a list of my main triggers so I stay grounded every time I realise I'm facing one of them. This means I get some break from constantly overthinking about my behaviour and triggers.
I have read so many books, listened to so many talks and gone to so many therapists and yet this is the first time I have felt I have a solid understanding about what’s happening inside of me when I am struggling with self destructive/sabotage/abandoning behavior. I am so grateful that you are sharing the healing work you do! I am so grateful that someone mentioned your name in a comment and that I decided to look you up. I also want to thank you for creating a pause for those of us who don’t follow Christianity. It was a unique style choice and that created a welcoming space.
Tim is the First person to explain in detail what happens in the freeze response. This teaching and the biblical teaching has brought so much awareness to my Life. Its changing my brain and life. Thank you.
67 yo. I blamed part of the world’s problems on instant gratification from tv and iPhones. Now I learn it’s a problem as old as man and I suffer from it ( but prayerfully and with knowledge I will get better)❤❤❤
I struggle with the concept of reparenting. Parents should love, care for and protect their children. If an adult has never had the experience of being loved, cared for or protected by parents, partner or anyone in their life, that's an inmet need in all of us to RECEIVE those things from others which will always leave a wound without that experience. How can we replace that unmet need and how to live a life without being loved and cared for by another person is hard. And lonely.
So true i never knew love care positive words said to me and aa result my hole life been abused my parent father x of my kids and he modeled that same evil should b done to me i struggle to stay alive everyday the pain is so terrible
I also struggled with this reparenting. After much trial and error, I found the best way is to start with awareness. Become very aware of when you criticize yourself harshly or tell yourself you’re really stupid etc. Immediately say the opposite to yourself. Say “ wait a minute. That’s not how I deserve to be spoken to. That’s not my voice. That’s a jealous mean voice from my childhood,” Then literally speak nicely to yourself like you would a child “ you didn’t do too badly. You really are trying. Well done. Your efforts are paying off. You did great today” etc. Gradually you will feel an internal shift. Kindness is yourself is your birthright and what our creator wants for all of us. Best of luck. Be Strong. 🙏💛🌟And GOD bless Tim! x
We have to look for good role models in others to learn. I had my Grandmother, Aunt, and several friends mothers that I chose to be like, not my immediate family
@@reg8297 I’m so sorry about what you’re going through. Keep watching Tim’s videos, then take a break from them, then watch more. They have really helped me a lot.
I am a Christian with Severe Depression am broken by bad counseling and PTSD. Memorized Scripture really helps. While my mind is feeding me lies I have Scripture to tag those lies to truth
I feel so exhausted trying to get better. While being a mom. Some days I just want to quit. But then I remember I deserve to give my daughter better. Some days when I get triggered I feel so ashamed that I couldn't just know this already
I want to say again how beautiful this lesson is and how much I was able to take into my heart. Take God into your heart and it is healing. Bless you for these wonderful lessons. People are in such need of this.❤
Thank you for explaining such a plethora of material in a logical manner. This provided so many keys to the mind. I've been struggling with narc abuse and being misunderstood. A lot people think it's as easy as "pulling your boots up". I'm truly believe God guided me to your channel. God bless you and your work.
Im taking therapy on and off since the age of 20. Now im 40, and finally god helps me? Why not earlier :p i dont like myself being such cynical, but i have this part in me anyway
This is very educational, affirming, and clearly delivered guidance. As a highly traumatized atheist, I so appreciate that the religious part is separated in the talks. Religion was a part of my abuse. I was deeply connected to nature as a child, but never to organized religion or the christianity that my family turned into something very negative.
I’m not a follower of any religion though I find similar beneficial core fundamental philosophies among many of them. However, Christianity was a part of my abuse as well so I can’t listen to it right on the heels of discussing my trauma. And so, I also really appreciate how he separates it. Gives me even greater respect for him and trust in his knowledge and empathy for how trauma, particularly religion-based trauma, could trigger or alienate his audience.
My goodness. These videos are just amazing. I cannot tell you how much it all resonates with me. I'm coming up on 5 years of sobriety and so much of what you talk about is exactly what I've had to learn to heal and stay sober. It's really a blessing to have someone with such a deep understanding of these concepts explain them in such relatable terms. What a wonderful resource for people. Thank you!
This was great, also helped me understand what a good Father God is.. He disciplines us even if we don't like it.. When we are all about good days good things etc and we always thank Him later, for the touch times , paon etc , He trains us , He is the wise person , parent in our life who sees whats ahead, and does what needs to be done for long term good, although yes we need to surrrrender .. God bless you and your family. ❤
Wow. Best wisdom I have ever heard. My addiction is food. When I slip, I’m always telling myself I deserve it . I’ve been good. (Limbic- instant gratification.)
Reparenting myself and surviving the pandemic, and making sure my kids are ok in the pandemic, while my husband continues to be the rock of my life! Holy moly! I hope and pray I have not done the same things to my kids. Thank you Tim! You are so very helpful! ❤️
I already know that the themes touched on in this series will be life-changing for me. I now know the root of many of my persistent life challenges and now I can work towards ameliorating those challenges.
I like listening to your lectures because they all make sense. My inner and outer parts can all hear you without feeling judged. Thank You for making these videos available at no cost 🥰
Thank you so much, it explains where did i start to process things so wrongly. It also helps that you provide it in the light of our Christian life. It is not steeped in the trendier concept of self love (ie: all about me me me version)
Great video My first grader sat me down for a talk. He said in kindergarten he played. In first grade he had to study. And listed all the ways Kindergarten was better than first grade. He wanted to go back to kindergarten. He was sure I would understand now that he explained it to me
What I would do when my children complaining about being bored was give them a chore. I told them that if they were still bored let me know and would tell about another chore. I saw the importance of children learning how to deal with boredom in a constructive way
It kind of sounds like the switch from Limbic to Cortex is what happens when people say ‘and it just clicked’ when they give up an addiction or stick to a healthy lifestyle Would that be right?
Funny story I was teaching 2 year old Sunday school. I wanted to teach the children to share. I brought in a bag of pretty gold coins. I gave one to each child. I had them give the to the child beside them. I gave them huge praise and we all applauded. And then the child beside them gave them a coin. It worked for everyone except the child beside me. He picked up the bag of coins. The look on his face was. Yeah! You are not getting these coins. It truly was a time for me remember each of us is different on timing in when we can learn lessons.
A secure attachment to the primary caregiver sets up the entire framework for a healthy limbic brain. It’s all about trust. Trust in the primary caregiver actually physically builds in the body neural pathways that allow input from the child’s surroundings to be filtered by the cortex first, rather than being instantly reacted to by the limbic system. If you didn’t trust your primary caregiver (first year is most important, pre-verbal brain) and you were not securely attached to your primary caregiver, you can at any time in life build those connections in your brain/body by meditating. Yes, it’s time consuming. So is being a good mother.
If it hurts.. Cry. Don't bury it. Cry for a while. Cry the next day. And then the next and the next, if need be. However long it takes to get it out... And once it's all out, there's that moment of silence... That's when the acceptance comes... In every moment of every day, we are either making a covenant with God or with the enemy, the devil. For example... I always used to say: "my soul is raped"... And although, truth be told, that felt 100% accurate to my experience... By (pro)claiming this story, though, I was making a covenant with Satan... A covenant to seal my fate and destiny, that soul-rape is, and always will be: my reality. Much wiser to (pro)claim wonderous things over ourselves. Though these wonderous things may not be, nor feel, true and accurate, in the moment... We create a POWERFUL covenant with God, to make it so, when we speak over our lives: health, wealth, love. So from this moment forward, I rescind and nullify all covenants made with the enemy. And I proclaim and claim and speak over my life, covenants with God. Covenants of: - Peace - Love - Joy - Bliss - Harmony - The blood and protection of Jesus - Prosperity - Abundant wealth - Perfect health - Twin-flame love - A tribe of real and true friends - To be thriving off my skills/talents/passions - Healthy close relationships with everyone in my immediate family - Beauty - Wonderous peaceful magical happy adventure - To see and experience the world, in the lap of joy and luxury... When there’s a disagreement, when I need to say YES or when I need to say NO, when I need to state my needs, and ask for them to be met... When I need to create boundaries... There's a possibility and a probability, that someone will inevitably, most likely, be disappointed in me... So I engage in every encounter, interaction, and relationship... In a way that ensures, that the person disappointed in me... NEVER ends up being me! I aim to never repress, never suppress. I aim to never lose parts of myself. To never fragment. Radical honesty only: 100% of the time. Always, all ways. If you have difficulty with emotions and boundaries... EXPERIMIENT WITH THIS: Next time you experience a strong emotion that's overpowering you, stop for a second and observe it. Just observe the feeling without any stories about it or whatever it means to your life. Just feel the emotion as it is. Perhaps it involves a burning sensation in the stomach or maybe a flutter in the heart. Observe its physical manifestations in your body. And also observe its effects on your mind. Maybe it makes the thoughts start racing. Maybe it confuses the thinking apparatus. Observe all the facets of the overwhelming emotion, scientifically. The way you might observe a strange bug you see walking nearby. Or maybe the way you observed raindrops on a window when you were a kid. Really the goal is to learn to ride your emotions the way a Surfer rides waves. You don't just crash into them and you don't just let yourself get pulled under. With practice you can learn to ride them to shore. (Jesus said when you learn how to suffer you also learn how not to suffer!) ALSO, REMEMBER: When the Bible was being edited by the Pharisee and Sanhedrin, who later took the titles: Pope and the Council of Cardinals... They deliberately broke the Lord's prayer. Recognize that the Father wants a personal relationship with you, and he desires that you want one with him. That means, you have your part in this. Do your part. So, when you pray to the Father, remember: the words are for you to build a vision with him. In essence: Tell-A-Vision: to the Father. Let him see it all: in your mind. Be clear, get precise, aim for accuracy. Ask, believe, and receive. Anger. Let us deal with this for a moment. If you are angry about something that happened three weeks ago, it's because you have a muscle in your stomach, you know the one, that is a chemical junkie... This muscle was present when that particular memory was created and stored. And it calls out that chemical signature, and forces you to re-live that moment, so it can feed, you have not been angry in a long time, you've been duped. And now that you know, what are you going to do, be fake angry? As soon as you begin to feel angry about anything from the past... Stop it! Just take a look around you, and know nothing happened to you today, unless it actually did. And if it did, that's the only thing you can be truly angry about. Faith is simply loyalty. Loyalty to the fact that you asked, loyalty to the fact that you believed. Stay loyal, stay faithful, and you'll receive. As for the judgement room that we have all heard of, well, it may surprise you to learn that that room is in your head, and it's running constantly. Do not end your prayers with 'Amen'. End with: So Be It. So it is. It is done. Thank you. This way the energy of the prayer, moves with you, into the future...
Breaks my heart i never knew positive rewards nice things said to me whether or nlt my parent was n pain i never had her hug me in. My life only abuse me even now she is sorry its not helping me i feel so unsafe with effects of her abuse on me and way my life turned out effects of been abused cant b imagined unless u experience it i lost everything my x taught mine not to listen to anything i had to say and basically taught and modelled i should be abused i feel theres no purpose to my life i can't get over the pain
Is the ultimate goal to be able to have limbic and PFC work together: in tandem or simultaneously? I know people who function in their jobs quite well, as their jobs are PFC based: planning, working with numbers, computers etc. But their personal lives are disastrous because as soon as the limbic brain is involved, you see very poor choices. To rebuild the framework and systems of the central nervous system, the gut brain, the head brain, and to give input a long enough time to reach the PFC before it triggers a limbic response that has negative consequences somewhere down the line is one of the biggest goals of meditation.
Why do most Christian’s use Bible verses to meet their agendas? Does it not say, Love your wife as Christ loves his church. I don’t think it says to love your son like Christ loves his church or idolize your son and lie to your wife for his sons benefit?
Annette, we use Bible verses (lessons) because This wisdom is generated by the Bible. It is not generated by secular knowledge - but secularism has hijacked Bible wisdom. I encourage you to read the Bible. It's a safe and wise thing to do in a safe space. Christians are all on different levels of learning/understanding the wisdom and many are healing from damage done too. I wish you success and wisdom. Do not fear.
Karen, it is not God who caused your pain -- it was other people, possibly abusing God's authority. I hope you can find a true/good Godly person to help you. I finally did & it made all the difference in my understanding about God/Jesus/Holy Spirit. Praying for your success.
Thank you for replying. What I meant was people acting in a God like way, as in they feel untouchable almost omnipotent. I know people caused my trauma. I don't believe in God or any other entity. I believe people don't own their behaviour and an entity is a great way of passing the buck. I'm glad you found someone/thing to help you. May you continue in your recovery.
This guy is a life saver. Literally
Absolutely ❤
Definitely ❤
🫂
True
This is life changing. For the first time in 51 years I know there is hope. I will reparent myself. I will be a happy whole person.
Pray
I had no idea that while my limbic brain is healing I experience 100's of triggers. I thought I was going crazy and getting worse. Trying to stay grounded all day long is exhausting. that's a full time job in and of itself. yet how reassuring that while it seems to be getting worse its actually healing. some days I try to ride out the triggers and just let them be triggers others days it feels like they hit like in the boxing ring. Through the triggers I am slowly learning to stay in my cortex. Thank you Tim. Thank you GOD!
Yes I feel like I'm going crazy too and it seems easier to give into it and go off the deep end than to stay calm everyday just go to work I feel like a robot when Im being "normal"
Exactly. It’s so exhausting and discouraging many days. But so great many others. I wish I had a progress bar!
Whoa you just described what I’ve been experiencing. I thought I was so broken I couldn’t be fixed even though I’ve been doing my work! Dang I hope this gets better.
Me too. Healing is so hard
Exactly. I have a list of my main triggers so I stay grounded every time I realise I'm facing one of them. This means I get some break from constantly overthinking about my behaviour and triggers.
I have read so many books, listened to so many talks and gone to so many therapists and yet this is the first time I have felt I have a solid understanding about what’s happening inside of me when I am struggling with self destructive/sabotage/abandoning behavior. I am so grateful that you are sharing the healing work you do! I am so grateful that someone mentioned your name in a comment and that I decided to look you up.
I also want to thank you for creating a pause for those of us who don’t follow Christianity. It was a unique style choice and that created a welcoming space.
Tim is the First person to explain in detail what happens in the freeze response. This teaching and the biblical teaching has brought so much awareness to my Life. Its changing my brain and life. Thank you.
Is the freeze response explanation in this video? I might have missed it.
67 yo. I blamed part of the world’s problems on instant gratification from tv and iPhones. Now I learn it’s a problem as old as man and I suffer from it ( but prayerfully and with knowledge I will get better)❤❤❤
I struggle with the concept of reparenting. Parents should love, care for and protect their children. If an adult has never had the experience of being loved, cared for or protected by parents, partner or anyone in their life, that's an inmet need in all of us to RECEIVE those things from others which will always leave a wound without that experience. How can we replace that unmet need and how to live a life without being loved and cared for by another person is hard. And lonely.
So true i never knew love care positive words said to me and aa result my hole life been abused my parent father x of my kids and he modeled that same evil should b done to me i struggle to stay alive everyday the pain is so terrible
I also struggled with this reparenting. After much trial and error, I found the best way is to start with awareness. Become very aware of when you criticize yourself harshly or tell yourself you’re really stupid etc. Immediately say the opposite to yourself. Say “ wait a minute. That’s not how I deserve to be spoken to. That’s not my voice. That’s a jealous mean voice from my childhood,” Then literally speak nicely to yourself like you would a child “ you didn’t do too badly. You really are trying. Well done. Your efforts are paying off. You did great today” etc. Gradually you will feel an internal shift. Kindness is yourself is your birthright and what our creator wants for all of us. Best of luck. Be Strong. 🙏💛🌟And GOD bless Tim! x
Uf you dont mind asking, can you tell me what are your ages?
We have to look for good role models in others to learn. I had my Grandmother, Aunt, and several friends mothers that I chose to be like, not my immediate family
@@reg8297 I’m so sorry about what you’re going through. Keep watching Tim’s videos, then take a break from them, then watch more. They have really helped me a lot.
I realize God's been working with me with all these things 😭 Hes so good ❤
I am a Christian with Severe Depression am broken by bad counseling and PTSD. Memorized Scripture really helps. While my mind is feeding me lies I have Scripture to tag those lies to truth
Such an important teaching. This needs to be taught in all churches.❤️
What incredible knowledge he has! So helpful ❤️
I feel so exhausted trying to get better. While being a mom. Some days I just want to quit. But then I remember I deserve to give my daughter better. Some days when I get triggered I feel so ashamed that I couldn't just know this already
God bless you. It is a really tough journey.
I want to say again how beautiful this lesson is and how much I was able to take into my heart. Take God into your heart and it is healing. Bless you for these wonderful lessons. People are in such need of this.❤
Could you please leave the slides up a bit longer?
Thank you for explaining such a plethora of material in a logical manner. This provided so many keys to the mind. I've been struggling with narc abuse and being misunderstood. A lot people think it's as easy as "pulling your boots up". I'm truly believe God guided me to your channel. God bless you and your work.
I have a very similar story. God is healing me, but its tough
Im taking therapy on and off since the age of 20. Now im 40, and finally god helps me? Why not earlier :p i dont like myself being such cynical, but i have this part in me anyway
Very tough. But we're worth it.
Much Love 🙏🏻💕
This is very educational, affirming, and clearly delivered guidance. As a highly traumatized atheist, I so appreciate that the religious part is separated in the talks. Religion was a part of my abuse. I was deeply connected to nature as a child, but never to organized religion or the christianity that my family turned into something very negative.
I’m not a follower of any religion though I find similar beneficial core fundamental philosophies among many of them. However, Christianity was a part of my abuse as well so I can’t listen to it right on the heels of discussing my trauma. And so, I also really appreciate how he separates it. Gives me even greater respect for him and trust in his knowledge and empathy for how trauma, particularly religion-based trauma, could trigger or alienate his audience.
@@eblake81 He’s clearly got a strong desire to help us (trauma survivors). I wish him so much personal happiness and love -- he deserves it.
This will help me stay alive if anything will. This teaching is ...(?) Heartfelt.
Oh my goodness, this is beautiful and so helpful. Thank you for all of this. Thank you for your generosity and goodness. Thank you and God bless.❤
Thank you sir🤗 the generosity of sharing your knowledge with us saves lives🙏🏻🌟💙
Thank you. I appreciate your knowledge and that you are sharing it. You have helped me very much.
Such life changing info, this is excellent
You're a good man
My goodness. These videos are just amazing. I cannot tell you how much it all resonates with me. I'm coming up on 5 years of sobriety and so much of what you talk about is exactly what I've had to learn to heal and stay sober. It's really a blessing to have someone with such a deep understanding of these concepts explain them in such relatable terms. What a wonderful resource for people. Thank you!
Another day of saving me through the Holy Spirit shining in your words.
Great teaching, thank you Tim. Blessings to you and your family 💕☺️
This was great, also helped me understand what a good Father God is.. He disciplines us even if we don't like it.. When we are all about good days good things etc and we always thank Him later, for the touch times , paon etc , He trains us , He is the wise person , parent in our life who sees whats ahead, and does what needs to be done for long term good, although yes we need to surrrrender .. God bless you and your family. ❤
Wow. Best wisdom I have ever heard. My addiction is food. When I slip, I’m always telling myself I deserve it . I’ve been good. (Limbic- instant gratification.)
Reparenting myself and surviving the pandemic, and making sure my kids are ok in the pandemic, while my husband continues to be the rock of my life! Holy moly! I hope and pray I have not done the same things to my kids. Thank you Tim! You are so very helpful! ❤️
What pandemic ? 🙄
hands down, fantastic lectures. I appreciate the religious tie in even though I don't explicitly follow religion. Fantastic job you all & thanks.
This gave me tools of healing
I already know that the themes touched on in this series will be life-changing for me. I now know the root of many of my persistent life challenges and now I can work towards ameliorating those challenges.
I like listening to your lectures because they all make sense. My inner and outer parts can all hear you without feeling judged. Thank You for making these videos available at no cost 🥰
Thank you so much, it explains where did i start to process things so wrongly. It also helps that you provide it in the light of our Christian life. It is not steeped in the trendier concept of self love (ie: all about me me me version)
Thank you so very much. In this moment this content is life saving x
So beautiful, thank you.
Wooow just wow for this lecture .. thank you
Great video
My first grader sat me down for a talk. He said in kindergarten he played. In first grade he had to study. And listed all the ways Kindergarten was better than first grade. He wanted to go back to kindergarten. He was sure I would understand now that he explained it to me
What I would do when my children complaining about being bored was give them a chore. I told them that if they were still bored let me know and would tell about another chore. I saw the importance of children learning how to deal with boredom in a constructive way
God bless you.
Thanks, you are amazing, thanks from the bottom of my heart.
I accept your first part of the talk it feels as if you're trying to help, the second part undoes it for me.
Thank you 🙏🏽
Thank you! ❤
Thank you
It kind of sounds like the switch from Limbic to Cortex is what happens when people say ‘and it just clicked’ when they give up an addiction or stick to a healthy lifestyle
Would that be right?
I do believe so, Crystal!
That sounds about right. I have moments of clicking, where my vision becomes clearer and I feel a lot less dissociated. Those are beautiful moments 😍
Thanks Tim. Appreciate all you do . Merry Christmas ☃️🎄
Love it, as always ❤️
Funny story
I was teaching 2 year old Sunday school. I wanted to teach the children to share. I brought in a bag of pretty gold coins. I gave one to each child. I had them give the to the child beside them. I gave them huge praise and we all applauded. And then the child beside them gave them a coin. It worked for everyone except the child beside me. He picked up the bag of coins. The look on his face was. Yeah! You are not getting these coins. It truly was a time for me remember each of us is different on timing in when we can learn lessons.
Make a list on social anxiety please
❤❤ excellent
Thank you Doc! Your videos and lessons are life changing and awesome, man. God bless you, big bro! :) JV Johnny
A secure attachment to the primary caregiver sets up the entire framework for a healthy limbic brain. It’s all about trust. Trust in the primary caregiver actually physically builds in the body neural pathways that allow input from the child’s surroundings to be filtered by the cortex first, rather than being instantly reacted to by the limbic system. If you didn’t trust your primary caregiver (first year is most important, pre-verbal brain) and you were not securely attached to your primary caregiver, you can at any time in life build those connections in your brain/body by meditating. Yes, it’s time consuming. So is being a good mother.
Thanks
If it hurts..
Cry.
Don't bury it.
Cry for a while.
Cry the next day.
And then the next and the next, if need be.
However long it takes to get it out...
And once it's all out,
there's that moment of silence...
That's when the acceptance comes...
In every moment of every day,
we are either making a covenant with God
or with the enemy,
the devil.
For example...
I always used to say:
"my soul is raped"...
And although, truth be told,
that felt 100% accurate to my experience...
By (pro)claiming this story, though,
I was making a covenant with Satan...
A covenant to seal my fate and destiny,
that soul-rape is,
and always will be:
my reality.
Much wiser to (pro)claim wonderous things over ourselves.
Though these wonderous things may not be, nor feel,
true and accurate, in the moment...
We create a POWERFUL covenant with God,
to make it so, when we speak over our lives:
health, wealth, love.
So from this moment forward,
I rescind and nullify all covenants made with the enemy.
And I proclaim and claim and speak over my life,
covenants with God.
Covenants of:
- Peace
- Love
- Joy
- Bliss
- Harmony
- The blood and protection of Jesus
- Prosperity
- Abundant wealth
- Perfect health
- Twin-flame love
- A tribe of real and true friends
- To be thriving off my skills/talents/passions
- Healthy close relationships with everyone in my immediate family
- Beauty
- Wonderous peaceful magical happy adventure
- To see and experience the world, in the lap of joy and luxury...
When there’s a disagreement,
when I need to say YES
or when I need to say NO,
when I need to state my needs,
and ask for them to be met...
When I need to create boundaries...
There's a possibility and a probability,
that someone will inevitably,
most likely,
be disappointed in me...
So I engage in every encounter,
interaction, and relationship...
In a way that ensures,
that the person disappointed in me...
NEVER
ends up
being me!
I aim to never repress,
never suppress.
I aim to never lose parts of myself.
To never fragment.
Radical honesty only:
100% of the time.
Always,
all ways.
If you have difficulty with emotions and boundaries...
EXPERIMIENT WITH THIS:
Next time you experience a strong emotion that's overpowering you,
stop for a second and observe it.
Just observe the feeling without any stories about it or whatever it means to your life.
Just feel the emotion as it is.
Perhaps it involves a burning sensation in the stomach or maybe a flutter in the heart.
Observe its physical manifestations in your body.
And also observe its effects on your mind.
Maybe it makes the thoughts start racing.
Maybe it confuses the thinking apparatus.
Observe all the facets of the overwhelming emotion, scientifically.
The way you might observe a strange bug you see walking nearby.
Or maybe the way you observed raindrops on a window when you were a kid.
Really the goal is to learn to ride your emotions the way a Surfer rides waves.
You don't just crash into them and you don't just let yourself get pulled under.
With practice you can learn to ride them to shore.
(Jesus said when you learn how to suffer you also learn how not to suffer!)
ALSO,
REMEMBER:
When the Bible was being edited by the Pharisee and Sanhedrin,
who later took the titles:
Pope and the Council of Cardinals...
They deliberately broke the Lord's prayer.
Recognize that the Father wants a personal relationship with you,
and he desires that you want one with him.
That means,
you have your part in this.
Do your part.
So,
when you pray to the Father, remember:
the words are for you to build a vision with him.
In essence: Tell-A-Vision: to the Father.
Let him see it all: in your mind.
Be clear, get precise, aim for accuracy.
Ask, believe, and receive.
Anger.
Let us deal with this for a moment.
If you are angry about something that happened three weeks ago,
it's because you have a muscle in your stomach, you know the one, that is a chemical junkie...
This muscle was present when that particular memory was created and stored.
And it calls out that chemical signature, and forces you to re-live that moment,
so it can feed, you have not been angry in a long time, you've been duped.
And now that you know, what are you going to do, be fake angry?
As soon as you begin to feel angry about anything from the past...
Stop it! Just take a look around you, and know nothing happened to you today,
unless it actually did. And if it did, that's the only thing you can be truly angry about.
Faith is simply loyalty.
Loyalty to the fact that you asked,
loyalty to the fact that you believed.
Stay loyal, stay faithful, and you'll receive.
As for the judgement room that we have all heard of, well,
it may surprise you to learn that that room is in your head,
and it's running constantly.
Do not end your prayers with 'Amen'.
End with: So Be It. So it is. It is done. Thank you.
This way the energy of the prayer, moves with you, into the future...
Breaks my heart i never knew positive rewards nice things said to me whether or nlt my parent was n pain i never had her hug me in. My life only abuse me even now she is sorry its not helping me i feel so unsafe with effects of her abuse on me and way my life turned out effects of been abused cant b imagined unless u experience it i lost everything my x taught mine not to listen to anything i had to say and basically taught and modelled i should be abused i feel theres no purpose to my life i can't get over the pain
*Grateful
Tim, how does one know what part of their brand they’re living out of?
Is the ultimate goal to be able to have limbic and PFC work together: in tandem or simultaneously?
I know people who function in their jobs quite well, as their jobs are PFC based: planning, working with numbers, computers etc. But their personal lives are disastrous because as soon as the limbic brain is involved, you see very poor choices.
To rebuild the framework and systems of the central nervous system, the gut brain, the head brain, and to give input a long enough time to reach the PFC before it triggers a limbic response that has negative consequences somewhere down the line is one of the biggest goals of meditation.
Some people never should have had children. Many people.
I agreed with many points in previous videos, but I think the rewards part is incorrect. Check out Punished by Rewards by Alfie Kohn
What if you have no one in your life that is trustworthy. For example, the narcissist isolates you.
💯🙏 exactly
That's where I am....i have NO safe person......
@@mightymouse1005 I'm sorry to hear that you have been isolated. I know how that feels. Sending you a virtual hug. 💙🤗
@@mightymouse1005 same for me 🙏💕
@@reallythere guess we can be here for each other. IDK how you'd find someone to share the most personal part of you....
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Wow
I think people are getting obsessed with happiness and the perfect life. How many kids in the past had a perfect life?: Not many.
2:10 ❤
Can anyone tell me about social anxiety help channel
You could have look at Therapy in a Nutshell. She is very good and covers a lot of topics, including anxieties.
YOU can do EFT tapping in ‘Brad Yates’ channel. That could be hepful
40 minute brilliant lay-out of limbic system 🤯; 10 minutes of "cut off the foreskin of your heart" 🤡
Why do most Christian’s use Bible verses to meet their agendas? Does it not say, Love your wife as Christ loves his church. I don’t think it says to love your son like Christ loves his church or idolize your son and lie to your wife for his sons benefit?
Annette, we use Bible verses (lessons) because This wisdom is generated by the Bible. It is not generated by secular knowledge - but secularism has hijacked Bible wisdom. I encourage you to read the Bible. It's a safe and wise thing to do in a safe space. Christians are all on different levels of learning/understanding the wisdom and many are healing from damage done too. I wish you success and wisdom. Do not fear.
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God sounds a lot like the person who caused my initial trauma.
Karen, it is not God who caused your pain -- it was other people, possibly abusing God's authority. I hope you can find a true/good Godly person to help you. I finally did & it made all the difference in my understanding about God/Jesus/Holy Spirit. Praying for your success.
Thank you for replying. What I meant was people acting in a God like way, as in they feel untouchable almost omnipotent. I know people caused my trauma. I don't believe in God or any other entity. I believe people don't own their behaviour and an entity is a great way of passing the buck. I'm glad you found someone/thing to help you. May you continue in your recovery.
Where's that wise person please?
Your prefrontal cortex part of your brain.
Well this explains alot 🤦♀️🤦♀️
Thanks