You'll Push Him Away If You're TOO Nice, Do THIS Instead

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  • Опубліковано 14 гру 2024

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  • @MagnetizeYourMan
    @MagnetizeYourMan  12 днів тому +5

    Take Our FREE “Magnetize Your Man” Quiz To Get A Loving, Long-Term & Committed Relationship With A Man You Desire ASAP Click: MagnetizeYourMan.com/YT

    • @Portia620
      @Portia620 8 днів тому

      Have a video on how to tie up loosen at the end of a relationship if you moved in together or they left stuff at your house. Thanks

    • @Portia620
      @Portia620 8 днів тому

      Have a video on how to tie up loosen at the end of a relationship if you moved in together or they left stuff at your house. Thanks
      Oh, I’m the kind of girl that will not show a guy that I like them a lot in the beginning. I play it cool oh something else I need to fix. I
      🤦‍♀️. doesn’t matter and then end up breaking up with me and then they see how much I cared for him so they walk away everytime so it’s a defense mechanism. I’m authentic and other areas of my relationships, but I’m scared to show how much I like somebody. It’s been used against me, so I guess it’s a defense mechanism not to show that side of me

    • @Portia620
      @Portia620 8 днів тому

      Have a video on how to tie up loosen at the end of a relationship if you moved in together or they left stuff at your house. Thanks
      Oh, I’m the kind of girl that will not show a guy that I like them a lot in the beginning. I play it cool oh something else I need to fix. I
      🤦‍♀️. doesn’t matter and then end up breaking up

    • @Portia620
      @Portia620 8 днів тому

      You don’t bring up trauma at all and some people have been hurt intentionally and then very manipulative ways so people might not hide their emotions on purpose. They do it as a self protection and maybe they’ve spent eight years working on themselves but they’re still things that need to work on not everything is intentional manipulation sometimes people have been through trauma and they don’t realize that they should tell someone oh I’m not laughing all the time because I’m laughing at you. I am very nervous because I am very attracted to to you or I really like you..😢

  • @catb8661
    @catb8661 9 днів тому +60

    Instead of being too nice to men, do this instead:
    7 - Ask for help and allow men to give to you.
    6 - Be congruent in your communication. Speak up authentically, and share your emotions.
    5 - Invest into yourself. Get support and do self-care.
    4 - Don't immediately enter into a relationship or have sex.
    3 - Submit (receptivity), but don't comply.
    2 - Embrace what makes you unique.
    1 - Increase your feminine self-worth.

  • @gailross724
    @gailross724 9 днів тому +49

    Im not nice to make a man like me. Im just nice.

    • @travelchannel304
      @travelchannel304 5 днів тому +2

      Ditto here!! Not trying to manage any one.

    • @jessicatsao92
      @jessicatsao92 3 дні тому

      If a man doesn't like me because I am nice, he probably prefers callous, mean girls. He might even especially want sociopaths, too.

    • @MrsTruthTeller
      @MrsTruthTeller 3 дні тому

      Same 😂

    • @CsodaSzarvash
      @CsodaSzarvash 8 годин тому

      Exactly. If he does not reciprocate..BYE BYE.

    • @CsodaSzarvash
      @CsodaSzarvash 8 годин тому

      I'm not here to train anyone. Either he gets it or he does not.

  • @jessicaj8148
    @jessicaj8148 9 днів тому +39

    Wish I knew this back when I met my husband in 1995. Might have prevented me from losing myself to please him. And honestly he never said he wanted me to lose myself. I did it thinking that’s what you did. We’ve been married for 26 years but it has been very challenging for both of us.

    • @pamelav.5699
      @pamelav.5699 9 днів тому +5

      I can relate to some of this. Met my husband of 40 yrs which passed away 7 yrs ago this last October. I was 15 1/2 and he was 24. Broken homes can cause you to definitely be around the wrong people. But I kept a hold of it for 40 years too much of the time he wasn't around and he was not a caretaker, and I will leave it at that! His family wanted me in the masculine side so that I could lead him out of all his yrs and yrs of troubles. We had two children which are grown and have their own families. I did not wanna have anymore children with this man. I don't wanna bash him or criticize and judge him, just want and need to go on with my life!

  • @Swingn2plants
    @Swingn2plants 5 днів тому +6

    I've been watching you for a month now, and I've used every single advice you've given. It truly works. It has opened my eyes to why I've been single for 13 years.
    Since use your advice the relationship I had for over so year has drastically changed.
    He now does stuff around the house for me without me really asking.
    He's happy wants to take me out and do things for me.
    I speak up when I'm not happy, I show respect when speaking to him. I ask to share my feelings.
    I let him know how good he's doing. I'm just being myself and reviving rather than trying to give and being in control.
    It has also helped me be a better leader at work because I lead a team of all males. I see why they struggle with my leadership.
    So I just want to thank you, and I truly believe you're doing God's work.
    Bless you ‼️❤️

  • @sandymhancock
    @sandymhancock 2 години тому

    It seems being a queen means being real about your thoughts and feelings, letting him help, and being nice

  • @Hss-q3h
    @Hss-q3h 9 днів тому +14

    Really good, solid advice in general let alone relationships! You gotta fill yourself up with love first before you can share it!

  • @courtneysands6646
    @courtneysands6646 5 днів тому +9

    I'll ask a random man to reach or lift something for me in a sweet way and they're genuinely flattered. I thank them profusely and they light up. Being feminine and, yes, vulnerable is a woman's super power.

  • @transitionshotline
    @transitionshotline 5 днів тому +2

    I need to add something. I have literally asked many men for help in my latest relocation and they have literally said no. However I do think I am far too nice, and that spells doormat for sure. So thanks for getting my attention and what you say will probably work when a woman is young and pretty, and then again, maybe not, depending on the situation. Also, I would recommend leaning on those intuitive skills and discerning early on how long you are willing to keep up the act? If one has to fit into a mold of an entirely different shape in order to keep him, then it's really best to lose him. But I know about love and rose colored glasses. Still, while one still commands the power of beauty, put it to good use with intuition and find someone who will stand by your side and build with you. Off my soap box. Brilliant channel!

  • @saturn6020
    @saturn6020 8 днів тому +7

    I needed to hear this. THANK YOU.

  • @TerryGarcia-gg2qb
    @TerryGarcia-gg2qb 7 днів тому +7

    🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 celebrating the freedom of knowing it's okay to be feminine! Thank you!

  • @ayisha1978
    @ayisha1978 8 днів тому +4

    Good advice, good advice, thank you

  • @englishpuresimple8255
    @englishpuresimple8255 7 годин тому

    Thank you for this teaching!

  • @denessedavids791
    @denessedavids791 3 дні тому +1

    Me too. I'm just a nice and caring person.

  • @berenicegalvan4251
    @berenicegalvan4251 4 дні тому +1

    Had a date last night. He took me to a hotel, well we put music on, hugged and cuddled all night. All I said was marriage before sex is nasty work 😂 . Long story short we're going snowboarding next week. 🙏🏽✨

  • @travelchannel304
    @travelchannel304 5 днів тому +4

    So ask men for help, & don't be nice. Yeah sure! Many wives ask men for help & get none! 😅😅

  • @monicac.495
    @monicac.495 5 днів тому +1

    Been there done that and learned from it= never again

  • @ILOVEMYDAUGYE
    @ILOVEMYDAUGYE 8 днів тому +4

    My husband hated when i ask for help

  • @pamelav.5699
    @pamelav.5699 9 днів тому +5

    🌈🌟ThankYou! The freakiness I like that! So true, and I can't be anyone but myself and to most that's not acceptable! But I believe I'm worth it for myself and hopefully one day to someone else!

  • @beautifulheart7
    @beautifulheart7 4 дні тому

    Great advice. Thanks 🙏🏼 ❤

  • @PinkyJones-p3d
    @PinkyJones-p3d 9 днів тому +10

    How does a man claims a woman? Kindly explain

    • @MagnetizeYourMan
      @MagnetizeYourMan  9 днів тому +13

      By committing to do whatever it takes to make her happy and be her Hero.

    • @PinkyJones-p3d
      @PinkyJones-p3d 9 днів тому

      @MagnetizeYourMan appreciate!!?

    • @Heather-gf9oi
      @Heather-gf9oi 8 днів тому

      He also said married

    • @latashaabrams5224
      @latashaabrams5224 8 днів тому +2

      When a man is willing to invest in you without you asking then you'll know he will pour into

  • @passinthru4788
    @passinthru4788 8 днів тому

    Thanks for sharing!

  • @endoplasmatischesretikulum4999
    @endoplasmatischesretikulum4999 6 годин тому

    Men also need to share their emotions. Otherwise it will stagnate.
    Its not about guidance from somebody. That will happen automatically.
    Its rather serving... he needs to involve so much in her life, and start giving from an open heart, that he forgets about the fear of being played on. Then all falls into place.

  • @paulettesmith4071
    @paulettesmith4071 7 днів тому +5

    Hello Brody: I am going back many years ago. When I was dating my daughter’s father. (This is before I got pregnant with my daughter’s). When we would have sex, I would ask him to perform certain sex acts on me. He would not perform it on me. Why Brody? My daughter’s father only performed certain sex acts on me. He would never kiss me passionately. Why Brody? His form of showing affection, was a pat on my head, or a short kiss on my forehead. Why Brody? If the man doesn’t know how to tongue kiss I would have showed him. Brody, we broke up many decades ago. I really don’t care anymore. I am just curious to why, he never wanted to try certain sex acts with me. I kept my hygiene clean, so what do you think was the problem?
    Brody, I have a question , the feminine energy, male energy is this only when a person is starting to date. Or, is this energy carried through after the (getting to know you process).
    You know what Brody, we are living in very difficult and dangerous times. The very person that a person thinks that they maybe able to trust. Maybe stealing their identity. I am 75 years old, I think that I am going to wait for God to call me home. I only hope that the dating process in heaven is less complicated.

    • @HSBsoulsurfer
      @HSBsoulsurfer 6 днів тому +4

      No offense, but was he secretly gay? It happened to me. That's why I ask!

    • @courtneysands6646
      @courtneysands6646 5 днів тому +1

      I would say that he wasn't that attracted to you. You probably know that, but it's hard to admit.

  • @Rebecca-GLaines
    @Rebecca-GLaines 9 днів тому +2

    This would be VERY hard for me. Especially having OCPD- a hige obstacle w that is the fact, I dont ask for help because I dont want to redo it! 😂

  • @yupidilicsart
    @yupidilicsart 5 годин тому

    Do you also mean to be receptive about him providing lots and lots of information about he is passionate about ? I feel I’m not so achieved in being so informed like a walking documentary like him. While i don’t want to bore someone by mostly listening .. i really enjoy listening not necessarily being too nice but also being a teaser. What would be a good formula in this case ?

  • @kko-88
    @kko-88 9 днів тому

    Thanks! 😊

  • @PSWildlife
    @PSWildlife 9 днів тому +5

    I have a question. Is it a bad idea to date more than one man at a time? If you are not having sex with either one. And then what if you are having sex with one who you know is not long-term but not having sex with the one you want to be long-term? This is a bit philosophical but potentially real world for me as well. Or is it just a bad idea to have sex in general when you are looking for a long-term relationship as maybe it reduces your magnetism? I hope this makes sense. Thank you.

    • @suziebee4240
      @suziebee4240 9 днів тому +1

      My experience, it just gets messy and guilt ridden if you have sex while seeing multiple people. From your perspective, it may not be against the rules, but its a level of betrayal to the guy. Whether he knows or not just decides if you are incriminated. The bad deed has been done nonetheless.

    • @stlgal85
      @stlgal85 9 днів тому +7

      No problem with dating more than one man at a time… for one thing, they love competition; for another, it ensures you won’t waste too much of your precious time on any one man. However, why on earth would you sleep with someone whom you KNOW isn’t a long-term match for you? I personally wouldn’t sleep with any man I was just dating, serious or not… that’s reserved for the man who was actually able to commit to me - my husband. Don’t waste your body on someone who isn’t worth your time, and if he’s worth your body, you can take your time. :)

  • @melissajorgensen6590
    @melissajorgensen6590 9 днів тому +11

    How is telling a man how you are feeling about how he is acting etc going to help? He thinks you are trying to control things then or making a big deal out of something

    • @suziebee4240
      @suziebee4240 9 днів тому +4

      I understand, some guys are like that. But this guy, this one guy im currently seeing, he's not like that. I even told him, I hate sharing all these things that bother me cuz it feels im trying to change or manipulate him. He says he doesnt feel that way, and Im just sharing how I feel. I dont force him and he doesnt make any promises to me that he wont keep or he feels is unreasonable. But he does try to make me feel loved. That girl I was bothered by? He didnt promise me he wont ever talk to her again, cuz shes part of the friend group, but hes giving me focused attention before, during, and after we see her together. And that makes me feel better.
      He cant tell me he thinks shes ugly or blah, but he can tell me he loves me and only me and im the one he wants to be with.
      Im not 100% satisfied (lol) but im okay with this... for now...

    • @christina4018
      @christina4018 19 годин тому

      Depends how you frame the communication.
      Saying “you make me feel….” something negative puts ppl guard up, better is “I feel like …… etc.
      Bottom line tho, some ppl don’t take feedback well and will switch off.

  • @mattanderson6672
    @mattanderson6672 7 днів тому

    Thank you

  • @bizimfattmaa
    @bizimfattmaa 8 днів тому +3

    I've asked help for many times, but he's responded "no".. So what is that mean?

    • @robbinpapalucas4620
      @robbinpapalucas4620 8 днів тому +7

      Dump him that’s what it means

    • @bizimfattmaa
      @bizimfattmaa 7 днів тому +1

      @ We don't have a relationship, but just a situationship, so I think we'll use each other for a while..

    • @andreac980
      @andreac980 6 днів тому +1

      You're wasting your time ​@@bizimfattmaa

    • @gabrielamartiniuc6322
      @gabrielamartiniuc6322 5 днів тому +3

      @@bizimfattmaaso he’s using you but you’re not using him? Yikes !

  • @jcjohnsong8570
    @jcjohnsong8570 20 годин тому

    Interesting using the man leading ina dance and the woman following as an example of what submitting should be like in practice.
    I think certain words ... like submit ... have been made to feel bad in modern times ... But using the following in a dance is much more comfortable and enjoyable way to look at relationships.

    • @jcjohnsong8570
      @jcjohnsong8570 20 годин тому

      I wonder if couples in failing relationships who took ballroom dancing lessons together might be able to heal the relationship if they are leaving a basically good relationship.
      🤔 Huh, worth a thought.

    • @jcjohnsong8570
      @jcjohnsong8570 20 годин тому

      So that was the benefit of marriage before sex in years past ... The couple took dancing lessons together before the wedding to prepare for the wedding reception.
      ... Because it gets each to fall more easily into their masculine and feminine energies that they need to be in for a healthy relationship.

  • @bell5309
    @bell5309 9 днів тому +8

    Wtf are all these comments

  • @sharnekilsby2023
    @sharnekilsby2023 7 днів тому +1

    So, was I in masculine energy when my spouse talked about buying us a house and I said I wanted to contribute to that (we were dating)?

    • @gabrielamartiniuc6322
      @gabrielamartiniuc6322 5 днів тому +3

      Absolutely. You are better off letting him take the lead and you just receive.

    • @LisaCulton
      @LisaCulton 9 годин тому +1

      Let him buy the house.

  • @tristamarie7115
    @tristamarie7115 8 днів тому

    How would you communicate to a man you don't think he's being is authentic self in the relationship? Not really into the woman. maybe settled and you can feel it in your gut? Or would you recommend the woman saying, 'I don't feel this is a good fit for me.' or 'I'm not feeling as strong as emotions as I should at this stage of the relationship.'

  • @sg7735-k6j
    @sg7735-k6j День тому

    11:20 AHAHA omg taleban style... so glad I live in Europe and I can do it without being judge as "easy"... SCIENCE over fear, man

  • @Hannah_BananaXO
    @Hannah_BananaXO 9 днів тому

    ❤️❤️❤️

  • @Elaine-p3g
    @Elaine-p3g 8 днів тому +1

    I cant believe that women actually have to be told that men have to.help.them do some things. Like mow the yard.or carry something or whatever.

    • @LisaCulton
      @LisaCulton 9 годин тому +1

      There's a lot of men who won't take care of these things, so women become accustomed to doing it themselves (or it doesn't get done).

  • @MWroses
    @MWroses 8 днів тому +2

    Do you think, if a masculine man is truly interested, he would be more willing to wait for s*x if the woman explains that she wants him to protect her virtue? I mean, it's a delicate and vulnerable thing to discuss, but if the woman approaches it in a way that makes a man feel like a protector and her hero if he agrees to wait.... would that be more effective than just stating no s*x til marriage. I would think letting him know you want him is important but that you're both worth the wait.

  • @atulalongchar7544
    @atulalongchar7544 3 дні тому

    He other gril and he is claims mi

  • @metaljane666
    @metaljane666 8 днів тому

    I enjoy your channel, but for real. Wait 2 months or until marriage to have sex??

  • @misssunshine7650
    @misssunshine7650 День тому

    Stop bullshiting people with your chat GPT rumble 😂😂😂
    Only I see your camer vibe 😂
    Aaaamm not

  • @MeMe-od2mg
    @MeMe-od2mg 9 днів тому +4

    Unfortunately your videos are getting quite repetitive. Same topics, same examples.