Session 4 | Beverly | In Therapy with Alex Howard
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- Опубліковано 28 тра 2024
- This week, we’re exploring why honouring and voicing what WE need is so important, and what happens when we always let others dictate what we do.
Alex Howard is a London-based Therapeutic Coach dedicated to helping break the stigma around mental health and helping people make real, positive changes in their lives. Alex is also the creator of Therapeutic Coaching and founder of The Optimum Health Clinic and Conscious Life.
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00:00 Welcome to In Therapy
0:10 Honouring our needs
0:43 Reviewing Bev’s journey
1:33 Emotions after last session
5:07 Uncomfortable places have the greatest potential for change
7:36 External reference points for your wants
8:37 Avoiding confrontation
13:53 Am I worthy of asking for what I need?
16:24 Learning balanced boundaries
18:58 The 3 pieces of where you are
21:03 People will abandon me
23:22 I don't take risks at all
27:11 Feeling angry and inadequate
29:37 When we need to verbalise
31:12 Kicking away the inner critic
33:30 What would bring you joy?
36:02 Changes to the inner critic
37:55 A rebellious part of you
41:27 Be who you really are
43:44 Take the energy of this
45:41 When you can’t find your thread
49:32 Alex’s takeaway and what’s next on In Therapy…
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Content is produced, directed and edited by Oliver Halls (Instagram: @oliver.halls).
You are so lovely Beverly and so strong to have survived some many traumas, large and small! Your vulnerability is amazing and so helpful to me and others, another example of how strong you are! It was great to meet Red today!
This was beautiful. I wish there was something beyond 'like' as a response to a video! You're doing great, Beverly - keep at it!!!
Awesome session. Thanks Beverly for being brave!
Wonderful therapy session. Go Red! Thank you Bev for sharing your story you are so brave and inspiring for us all dealing with our inner critics that hold us back from experiencing joy and freedom in life.😊
I am scared to take risks too now that I live alone with my dog, as I have no one to help me if something bad happens. I have not been out and about since January 2020, and only go out of my home to walk my dog. The village is only a mile away, and I have never walked to it, as I am scared I may not be able to get back, and have no one to call on to come and get me if that happens. I am a people pleaser, and like Beverly, I do not want to upset anyone, so I end up upsetting myself! xxx
You know I bet there is a single Mum out there in your community beverly who would love a Nana for her kids, or a couple where one of them has dead parents...I am sure there are kids out there that would love you as their Nana even if you are not blood 💙💜 U r brave doing this . U r not alone.
I got kicked out of choir for the same reason around the same age. It was in the US, the teacher was from the UK.
I can relate to the difficulty of making that big decision at 64.
I am finding this so helpful. Thank you both!
Thank you both. I can relate to your process Bev. I am too having hard times with my inner critic and setting bounderies. Not even feeling bounderies, or feeling something and getting anxious about it, and questioning myself is this a boundarie or not...confusing, but each day we can practice😊 (the pendulum). Thanks for being so honest and vulnerable. I am sure this talk will resonate with and helps more people.
So completely empathise with you Bev. Well done both
So brave! Thank you for the privilege of watching this process. Love the humor that is injected into the session.
This is so cathartic for me. So much of it applies to my experience growing up.
I had a conflict with my friend recently and this session was tremendously helpful in how to aproach it. Thank you so much to both of you!!!! ❤❤
Thank you both.
Bev thanks for being so brave as I have a lot of similarities to you and can learn from you.
What a gift. This is so helpful. Thank you both for the courage, work, and openness.
You're incredible Bev. I was in bits by the end. Xx
Beverly really touches me. One thing I will say is, she seems to have been trapped in the comparison game. Not everything is at it seems and some families are so toxic, you are better off without.
Story of my life being accommodating.
Jealousy is great for figuring out what you want! She is so in touch with her jealousy, she probably knows deep down what she wants :) (I hope)
There is also a saying, be careful what you ask for. Do you believe that.
We all lived ‘in our heads’ for far far too long during the worst of the pandemic.
Thank you great session, really appreciated it... and many thanks to Bev...go girl you can do it! Be you..be Red. 🙂
"Sometimes The best thing you can do is just watch Netflix" this should be a bumper sticker 😂
Like Beverly I feel, every time I felt good at doing something, I was rejected. So I stopped even trying. I lost all my confidence, but I want to get it back. xxx
Wow, what a powerful episode. I could relate to so much. Thank you both.
Great session both of you.Thankyou for sharing, it was very helpful 👍
Very helpful resources - thanks for recording and putting up these videos!
You go Red ❤️🌈
This was is so good
That was excellent. Thank you 💙
You go, Red!
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Too much talking and not enough actually getting angry.