How to Release Trauma From Your Body
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Trauma is very common. But despite how common it is, trauma treatment is complicated, and complex trauma, stemming from years of abuse, really impacts the brain in long-lasting ways. So I’m not going to pretend that I can just teach you how to fix it in one short video. But we can break trauma treatment down into practical steps. It’s not that hard to learn how to release trauma in the body. So let’s talk about that.
In my previous video I talked about how trauma gets trapped in the body- the FFF response gets kicked on over and over, it doesn’t get resolved, and it become habitual, essentially a muscle memory that turns on that physiological response. Adrenaline and cortisol flood the body, the pupils narrow, the muscles tense, the heart and lungs pump faster, the immune system and digestion turn off.
When it comes to trauma, our body is not only reacting to the present moment's sense of danger or safety, but the memory of past danger that has basically been stored in our nervous system. This activated, stressed-out, hypervigilant response becomes habitual, and when it’s chronic, the toxic stress harms your body and makes it difficult to function mentally and emotionally.
But your beautiful, brilliant body is not designed to just leave you trapped there; it’s designed to heal, to repair, to connect, to restore its sense of safety
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I teared up when you started talking about how Mary's husband would come in and support her during sessions and look her into the eyes and hold her and cry with her. Oh my Gosh it just stirred so much emotion is me. I'm glad she has that. I want that. I want everyone to have that.
Me also Hannah.
That would be so wonderful! I wish I would have had that, too.
my trauma is never ending, ongoing. I live with it/him every day and cannot get away from it. I'm so jealous of mary
@@isaacsmom9772 there are ways to leave. you can find help anonymously and discreetly. you are not alone in your situation. stay safe
Same @hannah secrist
“Trauma is personal. It does not disappear if it is not validated. When it is ignored or invalidated the silent screams continue internally heard only by the one held captive. When someone enters the pain and hears the screams healing can begin.”
― Danielle Bernock
This is profound!
Most therapist are incompetent
@Christian Di Fonso there’s definitely ways to access the pain if you don’t consciously remember it. In fact most people have pushed it into the unconscious parts of their mind so you are not alone there brother. Overall though, this is where a good mentor is needed to guide you. Are you getting some support with that?
@Christian Di Fonso I highly recommend the "unknown trauma triggers" videos on UA-cam here, from Patrick Teahan
@Christian Di Fonso Thats good you are going further and searching brother. And yes trauma goes extremely deep. There’s an episode of the Tim Ferris podcast that will be really helpful for you. Episode 492.
1) Perceived Safety
2) Patting And Tapping
3) Shake, Dance, Laugh
4) Use 5 senses, like breathing or yawning
5) Connect with those who make you feel safe
6) drawing, talking,
thank you for this!!!
🙏💛✌
In this case I'd still suggest watching the video to fully understand these things. A summary is still nice also
5. Soothe the body - eye contact, hugs
6. Turn on parasympathetic response, any activity which regulates breathing
7. Cognitive reprocessing
Thank you 🙏
“That happened when I was little, now I am an adult and I am safe” - what an empowering thing to remind yourself of.
But, what if you're not.
@@Bekka241you are an adult, you can find the resources (therapy or police) and have the voice to make yourself safe.
...but now I'm an adult and the worst things are happening during the adulthood non-stop over decades. Okay??
Dancing help me a lot when I lost my husband I was in so much pain
I'd hold our 4 year old son and I'd dance with him Fast forward a few years to one summer when there was an outdoor concert and my son was now 7 ( a very quiet child normally) but all of a sudden he just started dancing in front of hundreds of people Everyone gathered around to watch this little boy all of them smiling
I was in shock because he had never danced like that before it was brilliant
People thought I'd taken him to dancing lessons
No...I think by me dancing with him as a baby and toddler his body remembered the feeling. It was a beautiful moment out of a painful loss It's one tool in my tool box if life that I use
I. LOVE. THIS...wow just wow!
Godspeed ❤
I’ve been doing 20 minutes of yoga daily for just over a year and that has helped tremendously with releasing my trauma. I still catch myself though with my shoulders hiked up to my ears and have to force myself to let go. I think we all wish that we could just flip a switch and know that everything is going to be okay, we can relax. But instead it’s a process and a constant struggle.
Thank you for sharing that. I’m going to try that.
Yoga, meditation, and working out the last 3 years has brought my trauma to a halt. I have my days but as soon as i feel anything negative i make good intentions outloud, and focus on my breathing.
Balancing my chakras, and reiki sessions help every few months also.
If it's a depression response, grieving well can help. If it's a Shame response, sharing with someone very safe (preferably who knows how to handle their own nervous system) can be crucial to resolving it, and doing work on Self Compassion and Inner Child can help (e.g. Internal Family Systems Therapy). If it's a protective response (Armoring), it might be helpful to go into some sort of action (connecting with and acting out Flight e g. running or Fight e.g. anger release exercises involving punching and kicking or twisting a towel and growling) to remind your nervous system that you are able to get away from danger or fight it. The main therapy that works with this are Sensorimotor Psychotherapy, but so does Somatic Experiencing. The latter works with building tolerance for painful emotions, and can be done as meditation. Those therapies are especially helpful for people who go to a bad place when they try to meditate. And of course yoga and meditation can help resolve trauma!
I've been in therapy for almost 20 years. In and out of hospitals all the time. Getting jobs and losing them. Finding new relationships and destroying them. Never getting better, always just turning in circles in my personal hellhole. Now I found you and I finally have the feeling that something is changing. I understand myself better. I do things differently. Thank you so much. I wish you all joy and happiness and love of the world, you truly deserve everything that is good.
Morgan, n life there are only 2 problems--mind and the body. Reduce negative thoughts. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives good relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations. When taking a walk, at office, in school, when reading, before sleep etc observe your breath sensations. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes--Counsellor.
Do you think So or you really need help .💁.
I can recommend you to some one who can help you out with your wishes any kind of wish you desire ...because I tried this several times but no result ....but this man helped me out in two days my wishes were fulfilled.
Message Dr Akunda on WhatsApp. he can help..
@@charlottecalvin6921 who is that?
Along with Fight, Flight and Freeze, there is the Fawn mechanism. This option is when anxiety is met with sympathizing with or becoming a servant to the threat in order to return to safety. Example: being agreeable with a narcissist as a means to surviving their manipulation, or some other form of trying to earn favor from your emotional threat.
It helped so much to learn about fawning because that's my go to for sure and now I know when I'm tempted to fawn and can back up and choose something different.
Thank you for sharing that. I've never heard of it until now and I realise it's something I do. Very interesting!
is that the same as Stockholm syndrom?
Thank you for pointing this out. I had a traumatic encounter with someone in which I now recognize my mechanisms were both freeze and fawn. I let this person (a narcissist) tear me down and I fawned in return (also freezing) to simply survive said encounter.
Very interesting! I'm gonna to go see if there's any research on this. I also have experienced this as a first-hand reaction to trauma many times in my life & have seen others react in this way to. Thanks for bringing it to our attention .
I’m realizing there is so much trauma trapped inside me. I’ve learned to somehow “live” with trauma, but it’s still there. As I’ve gotten older, I know I’m no longer living, just surviving. Barely.
Me too
I'm sorry that you suffer in this way, and that surviving is so hard. I just want to tell you you're not alone, and I do believe there is hope for us to live, not just "survive."
Hello. I just wanted to say that I started watching you 8 months ago having suffered from anxiety and panic attacks and now I’m not. Your videos weren’t magical changing, but the magic was there and I took it and applied it. I wrote down a full notebook of notes of the whole series about anxiety and I started applying them in my life, from facing perceived threats to dealing with panic attacks. I can’t believe you have made all this and I can’t believe I was able to heal and find remedy through you. After that I only had 2 months of therapy with an actual therapist to go through any left residue I still had. I am so grateful for this healing journey that started with and because you.
Do you think So or you really need help .💁....
Here is his WhatsApp number..
Hi, would mind sharing what specific techniques helped the anxiety and panic attacks?
I am sitting here taking notes LOL :)
Hey!!! You gave me a good idea!!! I will work on it
‘Her childhood was difficult’… Really??!! That’s not ‘difficult’, that’s extreme cruelty, that’s criminal abuse, that’s psychological murder. We need to start calling these situations what they are, and we need to acknowledge them in order to address and heal them.
Thank u for the detailed description of the physiological trauma response. Very accurate.
Tell them kittiesinclair TELL THEM!!!!
“Your beautiful brilliant body is not designed to leave you trapped there!”
I LOVE the hope you sow into your videos. Thank you for doing what your doing
It's incredible my body has intuitevely been doing things to regain my nervous systems safety. I tell myself I'm safe, I get active, I do tap work (tapping my chest slowly to slow my heart rate), breathwork, self massage on head, shoulders, and back, grounding, meditation, playing guitar, singing, drawing, writing, and connecting with others to let my body learn it's okay to trust. I love my body so much.
Many of us don't even talk about emotional trauma...but it's real...can scar you for a lifetime ...good video...worth watching 👍👍
I heard something about trauma release...and I went to search a video on it... I found your channel...the moment you opened your mouth... I resonated... God bless you..sending love...looking forward to learning more about how to release my trauma
If you tell yourself you’re letting go of the trauma of the past ( if you really learn to meditate deeply, you can feel it leaving your body! It’s an indescribable feeling
your videos helped me realizing that the depression+anxiety i've been treating with tons of meds for years was actually PTSD. and learning that helped me a lot. i wish you knew how greatful i am, thanks.
How are you?
It’s so hard to find a good therapist. Wish you were mine your videos and content have helped me so much. Especially with anxiety
Its kinda yours, already
I feel you man, definitely something that is not very well understood
I've been tense all my life and now I have chronic gastritis. I can't afford therapy, and I've tried TRT exercises. I need to relax. I'll stay tuned.
Sure Emma will have an idea to help. Meantime, breathe using your Belly Button, (rising your diaphragm,) breathe in, your BB rises, breathe out, BB falls...and not your via chest !
Oh, re gastritis, Cinnamon, is a great calmer re gastric juices (belly ache.)
Still get input from a Health professional, re Antacids/ Meds. Hope this helps. 🤗
Letting out my true emotions helped me infinitely more than anything else. Especially directly towards the people who wronged me, mainly my mom. Suppressing the emotions for yrs caused many health issues but when I finally let out my “bad” emotions that we’re taught is wrong to show, it flowed out of my body. Remember, children don’t hold in emotions, because that’s unnatural. I had tons of anger, rage, anxiety, sadness, & heartbreak pent up. Now I’m a free bird & my physical body is healing. Learning to feel my emotions on the spot and not suppress them is working wonders! And I must say that suppressing anger for a while will make it stronger, when you finally boil over you risk doing much worse than if you’d have just let it out consistently on the spot and not held it in repeatedly. All of the zen Buddha, mirror stuff to just relax and “let go” never worked, just made things way worse bc all of those techniques were not truly handling the problem. More like suppressing it further, running from it all. Trust me I tried literally everything I could. Just my thoughts.
Thank you for sharing this 💙
@kc so pleased you were able to do this.. I’m trying but struggling, any advice on what helped you is appreciated 🙏🏼💫
Please can you tell me what exercises you used?
yes please how did you let your true emotions out??
How did you let out your true emotions?
Thank you Emma. Your videos are so helpful. I grew up in an abusive home - my Father was a narcissist. My Mother was his enabling co-dependent. I left home at 16 and after a series of failed relationships, I ended up marrying a toxic covert narcissist - long story cut short. 18 months ago I escaped the toxic covert narcissist (aged 48) and have learnt so much about myself and how I fell prey to a narcissist. I have so much trapped trauma.
Hi Adam, I hear you. I married a malignant narcissist, and escaping it nearly broke me…but it didn’t, I survived, and I am so much stronger for it. We can transcend trauma. 💪🏽
😢😮wellkll the xxx on
There is so much pain and suffering in the world, most of which is inflicted on us by ourselves and others. Can't we all make a vow or a promise to do our best to be more loving towards ourselves, other humans, animals and the earth?!! Come on, people! Let's do this!!!!
Is what the world needs. That everyone, can feel fair well with themselves. So de can enjoy life, and make life enjoyable to the people in our net tree
But the key isn't to make a vow. The key is to follow Emma's advice so we learn to do a better job of managing our lives. At that point we are more capable of being more loving.
That's not how the vagus nerve works. Healing is daily practice that calms your vagus nerve. It's not a vow, it's an awareness + the daily choice to care for your nervous system with various techniques and behaviours and allowing your body to release your trauma and everyday wounds.
I understand what you mean and this might seem too pedantic, so pardon me for that. But to people with deep trauma (or even without), having these expectations - that we shouldn't inflict pain and suffering on ourselves, and why are we still doing it in spite of our best efforts to stop - is exactly what's getting in our way of healing. If we can drop the expectations, we'll move on from the guilt and shame more easily, so the healing can take place
Amen.
I’ve had a traumatic childhood and traumatic relationships. I start treatment with a professional one week from now. I really needed this. Thank you💕
How are you doing now girl?
This is perfect for me, and I finally hear someone who gets me. I've neen hypervigilant, anxious, figety, and unable to look anyone in the eyes for 60 years. Any therapist (and most friends) say I'm depressed and want to push meds on me. I know that's not what I need. With this video, I feel heard and have tools.
Those first 2 breathes made me cry a little what a release, we can be fixed ❤️
You’re saving my sanity one video at a time. You are my angel, and I’m so grateful for you. Thank you.
How wonderful a gift this is to give to kids in school. In the Dutch education program this is missing, imagine getting offered these skills at a young age. Now that’s learning skills…. Thank you for these video’s!!!
The most important life skills!
I totally agree with you. Still, there is a good percentage of people who don't need this because they had a safe youth where they teached themselves all these things by playing with their peers. If you didn't had a playful youth, you missed critical skills to process emotions. The youth is full of critical periods where we humans are most receivable to learn specific skills. I hope I dont bother you with this comment. I am a biology teacher and I am stuck at home trying to be helpfull. Cheers from another Dutchie!
Not just a skill for youth. This is applicable to anyone!
@@JamieR It is applicable to anyone. What I am saying is: In our youth we are more accessible for skills that can make us process emotions in an effective way. However, if we could not get those skills in our youth, we can still gather all those skills from this channel, no matter what age we are. I truly believe that.
@@JamieR By the way I checked your music... Damn dude keep up the great work! Loved it!
I’m stuck in constant fight of flight mode since a year back now, due to some hospital trauma I experienced. My GP says I’m too tensed, anxious and exhausted to be able to start cognitive therapy and when they sent me to a psychiatrist she told me I’m not bad enough to get any help from them either. So I’m stuck in the middle, mentally and emotionally exhausted. Nothing is funny. Everything seems like shores, I just want to escape. So thank you for this video. ❤️
Get a second opinion. They are wrong and the way you feel is real and deserves to be healed
Seconding getting a second opinion. Also, you can start talk therapy on your own. The cost depends on different factors and you could do it in-person or online. That could be a helpful place to begin until you can get the kind of therapy you need.
@Paul Gauthier Exactly like that! Just becuse I can express how I feel and I’m not the kind of person to throw a fit or have a full breakdown in front of them, I’m supposed to be able to fix it myself?! 🙄 She said that if I’d had a history with depression and other traumas I’d recieve help. Well, thanks for that - I’m sorry I had a decent life before this. Sigh. Anyways - thanks for responding. And keep fighting! ❤️
@@Backpackguy12 Thanks! ❤️ I’m doubting myself sometimes, that I deserve help. Maybe I’m just ”weak” and should suck it up. I’m contacting another trauma therapist now, to see what they have to say. Fingers crosed. 😬🤞
@Paul Gauthier n life there are only 2 problems--mind and the body. Reduce negative thoughts. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives good relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations. When taking a walk, at office, in school, when reading, before sleep etc observe your breath sensations. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes--Counsellor.
I grew up in an abusive home as well. Thank-you for sharing Mary’s story. I was physically abused also but the emotional abuse never stopped from my family they are stilll the same to this day. I know what you mean the mirror excercises don’t work for me either. Thank-you for this video.i agree trauma is complicated, I have ptsd and anxiety and it has been a lot of therapists. It’s hard for me to find a therapist that knows how to deal with trauma. I have been doing yoga and that helps. One thing I find difficult now is I have a crazy neighbor above me who throws things around in his apartment and stomps around and it’s very disruptive.
I’ve had similar experiences with neighbors, have you considered cleansing the energy of your space?
Crystals or white sage are two examples.
❤️❤️❤️
I Recognize myself so much in your story. Even the noisy neighbor. I am diagnosed with complex ptsd but nothing helped me cope so far. When I am in perceived danger my body gets ill literally and so I can not function anymore. I hope to find relieve in alternative therapie.
@@leeannurban7364 I have not heard too many good things about burning sage ... (Christian here).
@@millier9658 Thanks for being honest about your bias.
@@leeannurban7364 I honestly don't mean to be 'judgemental' but I know of people who are involved in this 'cleansing the energy' stuff and please don't be offended by my 'bias' but yes, it is not as safe and innocent as many would like to believe. You can totally disregard my concern of course. I do not mean to upset anyone at all, for real :-)
3.5 hours to get through a 12 minute video. It has been on my feed for a week, took me that long to stop avoiding it. Taking other stuff off the agenda for today for getting myself through this video.
I was fortunate to have some stabilizing factors outside my family growing up and I was lucky enough to enjoy them when they were there. I had a grandmother, not related to me that informally adopted me and was present in my life until I was 11 when she past away. I also had a friend growing up that I was always over at until I was eighteen.
I was also very physically active as a child. These were how I dealt with home.
What I stayed away from at home, several abusive people , I am the youngest. Several other issues of abuse and neglect on several levels, in an age when you didn't tell anyone. My mother compounded the situation because she could not/would not get a long with anyone.
Recognizing the blessings I did have was a coping strategy I came by naturally, fortunately. It does not stop the flight response I still have but grateful this kept coming up on the feed till I watched it.
Summary/ Overview + Parts 1 2 3
0:00 Intro
1:36 Ad
3:42 Nervous system states - Safety, Fight or Flight, Freeze, Shutdown.
4:42 HRV - Hear rate variability, how to measure anxiety in your nervous system.
4:54 Neuroception: The ability to be aware of what state your nervous system is in.
5:23 The shutdown response
5:45 Dorsal vagal response
7:38 Sympathetic state
8:28 Ventral vagal
9:51 7 ways to restore a sense of safety to your body
10:00 1 Perceived safety
10:11 2 Connect with your body - Patting And Tapping.
10:22 3 Take the body through its cycles - Shake, Dance, Laugh.
10:38 4 Soothe the body - Use 5 senses, like breathing.
10:52 5 Turn on the parasympathetic response - ex yawning, softening your gaze, plevic-floor relaxation, deep breaths.
11:12 6 Connect with others who make you feel safe - eye contact, hugs, listen to voice, look expressive face, emotional intimacy, sexual intimacy.
11:28 7 Cognitive reprocessing of trauma - drawing, talking, writing.
Part 1: ua-cam.com/video/FzFXObAqUtY/v-deo.html
Part 2: ua-cam.com/video/EOOBXD1Yhp8/v-deo.html
Part 3: ua-cam.com/video/Ah71MQM6cMc/v-deo.html
For me, growing up in an extremely volatile home with a narcissistic step-dad, playing my guitar and riding horses in nature were my sanity. Now, later in life, I have those, but I have my walk with Jesus as well. So healing! He's a good daddy!
Thank you for this series. I didn’t know how broken I really was. Your videos have been a beacon of light in showing me that health is really more than the physical, and have really pushed me into overcoming my demons and working on myself. Can’t thank you enough
Jagi, In life there are only 2 problems--mind and the body. Reduce negative thoughts. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives good relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations. When taking a walk, at office, in school, when reading, before sleep etc observe your breath sensations. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes--Counsellor.
I have had a lot of therapists. But one tried to date me and told me about his relationship w/his best friend's wife- and another one was writing on a legal pad ( to hide his texting )while I was explaining things to him and another one was a bit abusive. I am still trying again but therapists can also be scary for me. You seem amazing and I'd trust you ! Thank you! I am doing the tapping stuff.
Oh gosh that's horrible
Yes I'm scared of therapists as one sexually harassed me badly at 12.😔
I’m going through chronic fatigue syndrome after getting Covid and my nervous system is completely out of balance, also bringing back painful memories and lots of anxiety and unhelpful thinking patterns. Your video was extremely helpful and the more I watch them, the safer I feel because I know there are things that I can do to put my body back in safety mode and to heal. Thank you so much.
in desperation for a miracle,
I pray this affirmative prayer:
* I completely totally entirely permanently forgive, release, let go, move on, and surrender to Jesus
* I accept myself, 100%
* I am a creative being, I create miracles
* I fully harness all my power and magnificence and beauty
* I am a master alchemist
* My life always, and in all ways: unfolds perfectly, in accordance with divine guidance
* I am restored to my true nature: which is LOVE
* I constantly/consistently feel/accept: the love and bliss and joy and blessings that flow into my life
Yes, I have most certainly experienced that catatonic state that goes along with being a trauma survivor. Still working through it and just getting up and moving is such a hard thing! Especially being stuck indoors during a pandemic. Here's to more movement and healing in the future~
Wow. Honestly this fills the gap of not having therapy at this current moment. Learning skills throughout the day/week I can relate to and mindfully use. A SUPER way to start the year!!
This is so helpful. I'm trapped in the anxiety stage and fidget toys are so calming to me. I also am married with kids and pets and when my dog looks at me in my eyes I feel ok. I gotta go. I think I'm gonna cry now.
Thank you for actually telling us how to heal trauma in the body instead of a click bait to purchase something. I appreciate that ❤🙏🏼
What a great video Emma! I listen to you while I am working out. You are like Vitamin E -- Emma for Emotional Regulation!
I also teared up .. when she started talking about the release and calm. It's not my fault, it's ok to feel, but really feel and how to get there! Sooooo good!
Started randomly crying during this video. No idea why. But im proud that i let the emotion in. Havent been able to do that in many months.
I don’t know… EVERYBODY seems to Have therapist? Well where I live they cost 200-300 a hour & honestly I can’t afford that. Never could. But I can afford pete walkers book, Bessel van der kolk’s book, listening to THIS CHANNEL & crappie childhood therapist & ACA online meetings. I feel like I am making a tiny bit of progress. Thank you!
Your videos are amazing, it’s as if you are describing me in each video! I’m 40 years old and have dealt with compounding traumas that started at about the age of two. I started therapy last year and have learned sooo much about myself. I never realized how bad I was and that my way of thinking was not the normal. One of the biggest things that have been able to help me was my service dog. I’m stuck in the sympathetic state, so my service dog does deep pressure therapy with me, which activates the parasympathetic nervous system. It’s amazing! I feel calm and relaxed, it’s a feeling I haven’t felt very often in my life.
I LOVE your content.
The Body Keeps Score’ by Dr. Bessel Van Kolk helped me understand and identify how trauma showed up in my body. Your work is truly appreciated. Thank you. ❤️
I just want someone to say they understand, hold me, and validate me, instead I receive reasons why I shouldnt feel the way I do or why I need to move on. There is never any resolve. I am witnessing in my life a young 15 year old girl being given an ultimatum of taking medication that she dosent want to take or being forced out of her home, this is very sad state to me and couldnt be more damaging. Ty
The moment you said take a few deep breaths, I burst into tears ... 😭 I have 30 years of trauma and I'm still going through it.
Glad to see your channel is starting to really blow up. You're helping so many people, you deserve all the rewards that come with a successful channel.
I've recently tried qigong and find it interesting that some of the activities in qigong are also helpful in exiting the freeze response and getting in touch with your body. Tapping, patting and stroking different parts of the body are routinely done in qigong, so are slow and deep breathing.
yes, the beginning of 2020 i had no idea how to deal with my own severe anxiety and the lockdowns, and later to come people being vicious about masks - my anxiety got so bad i was losing control of my body. i started doing Qi Gong with Kseniya - she is lovely. ua-cam.com/video/uscTuka8TOY/v-deo.html A year later when i had an accident and messed up my leg - still suffering that i'm doing this again
My friend taught me an arm swinging motion of Ti Chi for anxiety and freezing . It helped ease that horrible tight knot in my gut .
“When talking in the mirror isn’t enough, what do you do?”. Good question.
this was very helpful
thank you
And please do a series about the 7 stages in more detail
most therapists describe the problem of stress and anxiety but I never heard anyone talk about actual practical solutions to deal with it
especially when it's trapped in the body for a long time
so this was eye opening
I've been slowly feeling the pre-sensation to tearing up as I've watched some of your videos. Today with this video I actually had a tear form. I am so thankful to you for sharing your knowledge in this way as therapy still isn't affordable to a lot of people. I will be continuing to learn all I can from your videos.
I wish my psychiatrist could be as smart, as human, less judgemental, as friendly and helpful as u show yourself in this short video. I’ve visited different psychiatrist, some psychologists…. For over years….. I found no help whatsoever, not even the right prescriptions. I lost confidence in those people and their “degrees” years ago. Sadly I’m not the only one who’s experienced this lack of…. Ability… among therapists in Switzerland. I can’t still understand why… so if I go down that route again, mostly because of trying new medication. But not for any therapy since each one failed. New subscriber! 💖
I just met my Trauma Therapist for the first time 2 weeks ago. This is the kind of Somatic therapy we are going to be doing as well. IT's been a rough 2 weeks, so I'm really looking forward to seeing her again in 2 days.
Sooo helpful!!! I suffer dysregulation and chronic fatigue, your videos are so incredibly helpful thank you!
I have been following you for a long time and your videos always hit the mark. Thank you for your intelligent work as well as relatable presence! Much love!
It is such a relief to hear someone completely understand or explain everything that you have been feeling or going through, I'm so grateful I came across this 💕
I am fifty. I got diabetes at the age of 14 because of the torment I faced in my home. All my life I was cheated and played with physically and emotionally by almost all men with whom I had close relationship, especially my father and brother.
Recently I got diabetic neuropathy after being tortured during the corona lockdown.
I found that certain pranayams - anulom vilom and Nadi shodhan help to restore the nervous system and wash away the trauma stored in the body. 🙏
I love your videos so much. You just explained what I do and what I was doing to heal myself during the lockdown. I did all of this. I drew, sang , danced , played much exercised... Cried, felt my feelings. This was how i coped with the extreme forced solitude that made me face myself during the first couple of years of my separation and dealing with the multi-layered trauma of lockdown. This is why I continue to tap into my creative side and why when i moved into my own place, i need to make it a safety sanctuary. Thank you for your beautiful videos.
This is the best short articulation of this stuff that I've heard. Thank you
I am very fortunate that I have a husband just like Mike I recently had an accident that put me in the hospital and I am experiencing anxiety and fear and my husband has been so helpful. These videos are heaven send. Thank you so much.
Found your channel last year and I love it. Definitely awesome to have this on UA-cam!
This presentation is EXACTLY what I needed! I can't wait to start practicing these very accessible and practical steps. I've never heard this approach before and explained so clearly and succinctly.
Thank you for putting so much effort into creating, condensing and editing this clip until it was perfect! (for me).
I cannot express my gratitude enough for your years of study, hard work, devotion and sacrifice to bring "TIAN" to the general public. You are helping so many people, improving quality of life, and saving souls! One by one and en masse.
Thank you, Thank you, Thank you!
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This is one of the best education sessions I have seen on releasing trauma. Thank you so much!
Oh wow ... So glad to have been directed to this channel! Thank you for being concise, clear, wise, and kind. I'm subscribed!
Thats some really useful insights
The sense of percieved safety is so cruical. I think there are lot of things that can help in reviving our brain.
But it all starts when we finally decide that our past cant decide your future anymore. We cant change it. But we can change the future everytime. Even science is now claiming that new pathways in brain can develop ( nuroplasticity ) and we can change our route anytime. I have decided whatever the situation might be...i will always go where the joy is. May everyone find true joy in their lives.
You are so wonderful. Thanks for all the clearly outlined insights that allow for a more centered, purposeful life for so many.
You really explained those steps in a very understandable way.
SUPER HELFUL to understand why I feel like I do, and to know that there is hope. THANK YOU SOOOOO MUCH! ♥️♥️♥️
I learned tapping from a therapist and it's like magic. I can go from tense, shallow breathing, negatively aroused, sleepless, irritable-all of those hard places, to being calm, deep breathing, relaxed and confident, literally within seconds. First, find a private place where you won't feel like you're being observed. Excuse yourself to go to the restroom and get inside a private stall where no one can see you. That way you won't be self-conscious about it, which interrupts the flow of the exercise.
Start with the 'karate chop,' where you use the edge of one hand and chop lengthwise into the palm of the other hand, repeat 7-10 times, then switch hands. Then, tap on both eyebrows with your index or first two fingers, 7-10 times. Do the same thing at the sides of your eyes, on the bone between the orbit and the temple-technically called the zygomatic arch.
After this, move to just below the lower eyelids and repeat, then go to the upper lip just below where your nostrils meet. Repeat, once again using the forefingers of both hands. Then tap the lower lip just above the chin, repeat 7-10 times. Move now to the collar bones, either crossing the opposite hands or use the same side, tap on a tender spot, where the sternum meets the clavicle (collar bone), the sternoclavicular joint in medical terms. You'll know when you find it, as it feels slightly sore.
After 7-10 taps there, move to the armpits (axillae), where once again there is a 'sore' spot called the axillary nerve. Tap again 7-10 times. Then center on the sternum, moving downwards as you tap, all the way to the crotch. Then tap 7-10 times on your knees, just above the patella (kneecap). Finish by going back to the 'karate chop' tapping action you started with. Within seconds you should be able to get a nice deep, cleansing breath. I have COPD and this technique works anyway, every time.
When lying in bed trying to sleep, I used another tapping technique that makes me fall asleep almost instantly. Using the fingertips of each separate hand, I tap both thumbs 7X, then all four fingertips to the meatus (palm) of the hand at the same time. I finish by tapping the sole of one foot on the arch of the other, then reverse feet. It's amazing, even when I'm insomniac I fall asleep almost immediately. Although I might wake up again soon after, I just repeat and fall asleep again. There have been many times I actually got a good night's sleep in spite of chronic insomnia, and all that without any pills.
This is a form of bilateral stimulation that resets the parasympathetic nervous system so the flight-or-fight response is calmed. I can even imagine doing it without actually making the physical movements and it helps, although making the movements is more effective. I think it's simply a form of redirecting your thoughts from their old habitual trauma ruts.
I hope this helps. :0)
Thank you so much Emma for all your wonderful work. I really appreciate everything you have done in this channel. Your insight and perspectives are very helpful.
What an amazing video...and what an amazing gift to give people, some of whom may be really struggling both at holiday time and during the pandemic.
Thank you Emma! I've found your videos on anxiety & PTSD really helpful! 💙
I began nearly crying when you were talking about reconnecting to my body.
Thank you for that so much ❤
Louise Hay"' techniques really helped me with my self love. And it involved talking to yourself in the mirror. Its not for trauma but for a starting point of changing your negative inner voice, it was helpful.
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I could use a therapist myself. I enjoy your videos. I would be completely comfortable with you as my therapist. I've been struggling a lot with anxiety lately. Your videos help. I just don't utilize them as much as I should. I appreciate what you do on UA-cam.
Keep going with your channel ... this world needs you. Thank you❤
Thank you so much! I'm in a situation where therapy isn't an option right now. I need it but I can't right now. So I've tried to find any kind of self help, therapy videos online. Most of them is just talking a lot about the issue (in my case narcissistic abuse), while it helps to process it somewhat I was still lacking the information on how to break the state my body is in. Your video already did a lot. Now I'll come back to it many times, to remind myself of these exercises etc. So thank so you so much!
Perfect, needed this today!
Thank you Emma, you are such a wonderful person. May God bless you for all the help you are providing to all of us.
I’m just now hearing this and it’s so good!! So fascinating listening to the changes in Mary with the physical steps you had her take, how the physical activity of those simple things brought her into her surroundings. 😮I’ve been in a long term stressful situation and recently gone through a cancer dx so trying to learn how to regulate my immune system and calm my life down as much as possible going forward. My situation has gotten better but still has allot of chaos so I want to be proactive! Your videos are incredibly insightful and helpful!! Thank you❤
I honestly feel like the signs for these feelings just describe my personality as long as i can remember i experienced SA at 11 until my later teen years and it’s hard to comprehend how nobody ever saw these signs in me and helped me
Meditation has been a great tool to notice these energy switches and being able to actively address it with breathing techniques.
Apollo Neuro has also been of great aid to calm the CNS paired with breathing, meditation and Yoga.
Meditation can be a good tool but in the right usage. Meditation can trigger a trauma reaction that can cause people to
Disassociate. The book trauma sensitive mindfulness by David treleaven explains this.
Thank you for very concrete and doable advices. Very very helpful teachings. You have a very good balance between the theoretical causes for the issues and the actual treatment to help resolve the issues. Just watching these 3 videos gave me more knowledge than years of talks with various psychologist.
Also your physiological, balanced and grounded way of explaining the issues gives a very strong feeling of hope, that the issues can be resolved or at least managed in a degree that will make the issues very small, to an extend that will make a happy and normal life possible.
Thank you for your service to everyone watching, learning and getting better! God bless you :-D
Emma, your videos are so meaningful to me and I'm very grateful for them. You are very kind and generous 💝
Ok but WOW how unprofessional of that other therapist, if she was worried it was an unattended patient you INFORM THE FRONT DESK, you knock and ask if things are ok, if that was a neurotic patient having a meltdown and she busted in like that, she could have made them panic WORSE. I know that isn't the takeaway from this video but jeez that ruffles my feathers. I'm glad you're the type that can laugh it off, what a beautiful positive example.
I had a abusive childhood my father would get mad for any reason and at my birthday the only one I remember threw my cake to the floor and yelled at me he spilled full gallons of milk on to the floor we were all scared like chickens running away from being slaughtered. Gun to my head running away and hiding in a house that I just ran in to hide from my father he grabbed me from my hair threw me in the truck pointing a gun at me and taking me back home he killed all of our pet bunnies slashed the neck with a knife a threw them in front of us. Now he passed away years ago and I couldn't cry neither could my mother I guess I was happy he was gone that sounds bad but that's how we all felt and relationships were worse from being beaten touched not being able to go out. My first time to theater was at the age of 22 I didn't know what to do how to buy the ticket I just followed what everyone else was doing I'm embarrassed just saying this and I'm always scared that something is going to happen I am on guard at all times it's so tiring this video just popped up and i started to watch them all made my mind think differently.
Emma, you are soooo healing and lovely, smart and helpful!!!!!! Thank you for adding so much goodness in the world 👍✨🌎🦋
These videos have been a blessing while I’ve been on a looooonggg waiting list for a therapist. Thank you.
brilliant. thankyou for giving me words for others to explain, i already felt all of these. now I also know how to convey them
Hi. Waited to hear this so I could absorb it
Love hearing your children in the background. Brings a sense of normal to a very difficult subject
And way to package those 7 tools at the end
Of the video
This is doable. Takes work and practice
But symptoms lessen if you do the work
Thanks again
This is an excellent explanation of a complex systematic approach. I suffer from cptsd and Identify with Mary's story too.
I'm going to practice these strategies from here on 😊
You are ALWAYS HELPFUL! Thank you, Emma.
I think just listening to your videos is calming! I listen to one every night before setting aside the screens to calm down. :) God bless you.
Wow! Best ever explanation and practical help.
Thank you so much for everything you offer
Your soothing voice is the first step to letting go for me; the intonation, the pace - it's lovely. So I shall listen and learn, thank you.
This is SOOOO valuable! I really appreciate that you got right into the core of the video & shared real solutions I can use right now. THANK YOU!!