I would like to talk with you either on the phone or video chat you are a very inspiring person.. I'm in a dark place and your words of wisdom could help me..
Bishop this was a very good teaching lesson. I learned something Everytime I listen to God through you. Honestly I didn’t want to come on here tonight. I feel like Lord I don’t want to be married not right now. It’s not always about anybody else but God and myself
I'm 33 with no children or a husband. I recently walked away from a toxic relationship. I want a family badly, but I'm not desperate for any man. I want the right man. Your videos have helped me establish boundaries and respect. As I get older sometimes I fear it might be too late for me, but I have Faith in God. I know this is my season for finding myself and understanding that being single is not a curse. My father was absent my entire life, thank you for being a father to us.
33 years old too. Same situation. Left a toxic relationship recently. Emotionally absent father. Badly want a family too but only willing to accept God's best for me, whoever that may be, whenever that may be. We got this hun. 💕
Congrats on walking away. Being desperate will have you up the wrong creek. Its never too late. Just make sure you really put yourself out there look nice go to meet up groups, functions, seminars, charity functions, taking yourself out to places to eat etc Its a numbers game and do a process of elimination untill you find what you looking for. Don't give up and enjoy the process in a healthy way.
You’re gonna benefit from my book “The Total Package” sis‼️ You’re at the perfect age right now. You’re still young…don’t worry about anything‼️ Everything will happen on Gods timing‼️ Beyoncé, Porsha, Faith Jenkins, all had babies around this age. Faith is actually 45 right now. Got married and had a baby after 40! God will time everything just right‼️
1. Always lift him. 2. Know how to leave men. 3. Love yourself more than you love him. 4. Listen to the man carefully (without interruptions). 5. Live at an above average level.
I made a mistake of loving a man more than myself and begging him back..I'm disappointed in myself, but determined to never make this mistake again with a man! Thank you for this message
My 20 year Son told me today that he really enjoys and listens to Bishop Blakes so Sir I thank you for your teachings and being able to connect to him!
My man broke up with me and I went straight to this video to remind myself that my reaction can affect my value and self esteem. As much as it hurts, I refuse to compromise either one! I love you RC Blake! You are my UA-cam father! I
This advice is SPOT ON!!! I left my exbf and he won’t stop begging for me back. This is the first time I feel absolutely certain of my worth and my YES (highest pleasure) and my NO (boundaries) ! The world now feels so magical!! The highest caliber of men and women are entering my life. Feeling blessed. Grateful for your teachings!!🙏🏼💓
- Always lift him. Makes him feel better about himself. - Your approach should be feminine and your words should compliment not compete. - Know how and when to leave men. Value is always restricted. - Loves herself more than she likes him. - Listen to the man carefully. Listen without interrupting. Ask questions that will test his honesty.
Thanks 4 the summary RN. The only one I take a little issue with, is the last one. A woman who values both herself & others, will not be waiting to pounce on a man with questions to test his honesty. She will definitely notice inconsistencies that don't accurately reflect what he may have said in earlier conversations, but there's no need to be self-righteous or indignant about it. In fact it's often best to tuck these minor indiscretionary mismatches into your mental notebook for a time when further gathered evidence will prove more beneficial. In other words, maybe don't bring it up unless it is relevant to the conversation. Nobody likes a self-righteous conversational bully.
I usually don't listen to stuff like this. But here I am, 44 years old raising three kids, divorced and wasn't raised with my father. I feel lost. Your words have been enlightening. Thank you 🤍
I'm 40. And currently applying this to the men I come across and it's life changing for the men. You can tell they see you recognize your value and want to see if you keep it there.
I’m 47 also, and I find it to be a great time in my life. Im single, I’ve grown tremendously, and I’m okay regardless of outcome. I know my standards, I’m prepared and have learned so much, Pastor RC has helped shift my mindset so much.
Sixty three years later and and divorce after 28 years of marriage, I am hearing this information and other information that has been so helpful in this new chapter of my life. I just wish I knew this information years ago. Praise God for technology and individuals that have invested the work in helping us to be better as people.💕
I struggled to walk away from a man who was not adding financial value in my life because I was caught in the notion of proving that I can take care of myself. I accepted his lack of effort and investment in the relationship all in the name of being an independent woman. I want a man that can show up emotionally, physically, financially etc
Never shoot a man down. It’s not necessary to do it. Always be uplifting to everyone. It doesn’t cost a cent. Thank you for your insight. Always on point. God bless you .🙏
I love that you quote the Bible when explaining relationship values...this is what makes what you say credible. Thank you so much for your teachings 🙏✨️💫
Yes that is what I love about him too. He can show us biblical teachings to bring the message to these days and time! Thanks you RC. I got to get my money up so I can be at the Queenology in ATL!! Pray for me 🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽 Yha k God for your messages!!
The UA-cam dad for women who don’t talk about things like this with their dad. 💙✨ I bet the younger you would’ve never guessed that you would become this person. I’m grateful! I hear so many people speak about you now. Your worldwide. And, your wife is so pleasantly beautiful.
I see him as a father figure, i lost my father at 22, so pastor RC Blakes helped me heal through a narcissitic breakup almost 5 years ago. Im still single but I have faith that my values will align with the right masculine in the near future
"If you can't meet my standards, you're not the one". This as well as listening to the story of Vashti having to say bye to a man she thought would be the one resonated deeply with me. I've been having doubts about deciding to leave and let myself be pursued by new men, but this gave me the confirmation and peace that I made the right decision in leaving. Thank you! This video was enlightening. I also loved the part about walking away early to signal your value and restrict access instead of giving too much of myself too soon.
I just walked away from a fabulous man. Because he wasnt sure where we were going. And couldnt commit 100%. Broke my heart to pieces. He was everything on my list. Hardest thing ive ever done.
Same here, but I remind myself daily that my person will be all that person was plus all the things i wanted that person to be. He will consistently surpass my dopeness meter, provide for me physically, financially, and emotionally. He will want commitment with me. My adventure with my partner has already started, and once we meet, our adventure will continue in all the wonderful magical ways that adventures do. The journey of a lifetime 🥰💚🥰💚🥰💚
Well follow up. He decided he wanted to work toward marriage. For back together 3 months after he broke up with me. Got with someone else, not even 3 months with her, they are engaged. Broke my heart and spirit to pieces.
I so appreciate your teachings. I am a phenomenal black divorced and single of 14 years, 54 years old woman, who still believe in love and waiting on God to join me with my person. After 14 years of embracing my singleness. Finally i can say, I am ready. Thank you RC Blake you are heaven sent. God bless you
RC would be so proud of the woman I've become today, especially vs one year ago when I found him. I just started dating again because I finally felt ready thanks to these teachings. Dating has never been so fun! I love being feminine, complimenting men, being openly amazed and impressed, and letting them do things for me. Dating becomes such a pleasure when you finally understand your worth and exude it through your actions as a woman. I finally understand and am ready to be a wife ♡ Also ladies I highly recommend rotationally dating men and never becoming a girlfriend, but dating until someone proposes. Learned this from The Universe Guru channel
Agree, I did this when I was younger without even knowing it. Young ladies engage as much as you can, in activities that appeal to both genders. Keep your legs closed. Focus on enjoying the activity and building meaningful friendships. By God's grace and astute discernment you will build your tribe as time goes on. There are good and wise men out there. One will love you, propose to you and will be willing to journey with you by his side.
I love the fact that you brought up the story of Esther. I named my daughter Vashti because to me she was a woman of dignity. My family and friends criticized me and questioned why I gave her that name due to most preachers using her as an example of being disobedient but you are the first I hear placing her in a different perspective. 😊💕 I am grateful for finally hearing this from a wise man! Thank you 🙏
This message was so powerful. I’ve never heard someone talk about the wife before Esther whom I always thought should be honored due to her self respect with denying the king’s request because she knew her value. I’ve never understood why this wasn’t mentioned as much as it should because of what she stood for. Bishop, Thank you so much for this heart felt message. May God bless you and your family.
Exactly! If anything, Vashti's example was one of the most blatant forms of female self respect in the scripture! It bothers me that I even see some christian woman look down on her because she "disobeyed her husband".
The thing about the woman before is the promise wasn't in her so no matter how she responded to the king request it wouldn't have worked. Walking did prove she wasn't for him. Great topic
@@antoinitastokes4209 Amen, I agree it was God’s will but the message is vital. Regardless of someone’s title, the money they earn, etc., you must have standard and boundaries. As Bishop mentioned, this taught the king to respect his next wife. This was awesome ❤️
I love this, I was uplifting him in the beginning then I stopped. My bf recently broke up with me, and he gave me the greatest gift because every time I would communicate about anything it would ensue in an argument he was always defensive no matter how I approached things. I was always try to edit myself, but his trauma was too deep for me to fix. Maybe I could have done these things consistently but I still think we would have ended here because he was not pouring into me, he was not being intentional with me, it was as if I was just there but no effort like I was making.
I’ve been single and celibate for several years healing from deep wounds, raising my kids and building my life. I made so many mistakes in my dating life and in past relationships. So many of these things I never knew and didn’t have the wisdom from anyone around me to share these things with me. I also lacked a lot of confidence from different things in my up bringing. I’m no longer that woman though as I’ve overcome and accomplished so much, I now see my worth. I’m ready to find my husband now but I have to be careful to do it right when I begin that journey and so your videos and the knowledge and insight is helping me so much. I really can’t even tell you how insightful they are coming from an honest man so thank you!
Another POWERFUL message, delivered as only the incomparable Bishop R.C. Blakes can do it! "Where, oh, where were you Bishop when most of us needed you decades ago???!!! "YOU CANNOT EXPECT RESPECT FROM THE WORLD UNTIL YOU HAVE MODELED RESPECT FOR YOURSELF." Praying God continues to bless you, Bishop and your beautiful Queen, Lady Lisa with your God anointed ministry 🙏🏼
Thank you Pastor Blake’s for teaching on this topic. Rarely do (young)women hear messages on dignity. The importance of self love, being an exceptional woman, and effective listening is wisdom women of all ages need to hear and implement in their daily life.
I did all this not knowing that I was requesting respect. And it works just as u said. He knows I value myself, and that he can't find another woman like me so easy if ever again. His words exactly.😊
Thank you as a Seasoned Senior Disabled (age 65) Queen who has been divorced 20 years. You have blessed my soul with this. I want to start dating again and be pursued by a Genuine King seeking his Queen. I love me some me and want to be able to continue to show this to a man who is seeking companionship in a Godly woman of values and worth. I'm also praying about attending your Queenoly Conference. I will speak to my daughter about attending it together. I have subscribed to receive all your post on UA-cam. May God continue to prosper you and your Queen that will overflow throughout your ministry. Amen❤❤
I started to apply these tools and life is much easier,I don't get involved easily nowadays 😊.I take my time today I am loving the peace of being single. I know for sure I learned my value as a woman,I learned to cut from my soul ties .I will continue to watch your videos.Thank for being the father for many of us.
Thank you for the Father- daughter advice. I was not privileged to have this, and although I am grown, please know how much it means to those who never knew how much they needed it or craved it ♥️
Thank you Bishop BLAKES for sowing valuable seeds into my life❤❤!! I never grew up knowing my father which resulted not knowing about relationships with men😥! Now God is making it right for me to behave like a Queen should🤗
I just started following you this past month; ran across one of your videos while searching for something else. You have blessed my spirit while reinforcing some teachings my father taught me & he’s a Pastor also. I needed to hear this word & other videos. It helps me to stay focused. Keep allowing GOD to use you as a DAD for so many women. My father is alive & well, but I have DEEMED you as my UA-cam Dad!!
I had my 1st marriage after 30. Had children when I was 33 and 38. But didn’t meet my actual soul mate until I was after 40. You make mistakes when you try to rush it. In God’s timing
women had never been taught to value selves...thats why. my mom had always put me down, look at the jobs, women always put down or only toxic women are "valued"
This is the most edifying video I’ve ever heard.. I just heard it for the second time and I believe I have to hear it again and again until I memorize it.. The way this man speaks about his wife..❤❤
Honestly the smallest things matter I just woke up to flowers at my door after one date and many phone calls a man will show you when he cares I’m so used to men that do nothing that I really didn’t realize my worth ! So true about the value factor I’ve had men never talk to me again when I tell them my standards !
This is probably one of my favorite productions of yours bishop! Every woman should leave this message feeling elevated & like the Queen she is! You really cut up with this one. Thank you and thank you sir! 👌🏽❤❤
Thank you so much for defending Vashti. I’ve always honored her stand and have taken flack for it. But she was honoring herself and was used to being honored and held her ground. I can say so much more. Thanks you so much!!!
The timing of this message coming back full circle is an "Only God could've done it" moment for me in this season. Thank you sincerely for the Fatherly advice and for standing in Proxy for a multitude of Dads to their daughters who desperately need this level of Father language in their lives. Happiest Father's Day to you and continued blessings 🙏🏾❤🩹🛐✝
I want to say thank you … idk how I found your channel had to be God sent because going through infidelity and everything giving everything. Never leaving anything for me my identity is my kids and him and I just felt low to the ground but finding ur channel especially the father and daughter part you made realize a lot I want to say thank you I appreciate you and explaining this such a way that actually clicked in my head rather just oh i understand and whatever with it Made me cry I begged this man to stay I feel so stupid but I did it for my kids … because they always cry for him…
Thank you for speaking of Queen Vashti the way you did. That’s how I’ve always felt about her but every pastors that have preached about her speak so poorly of her and talking about she deserved to loose her position as a Queen, etc.
This was sooo good! I’m so thankful that God has transformed me. I have embodied most of these as an adult but there were times I did not and those times I definitely was not valuing myself. From now until forever there’s no negotiating my value. Sharing this with my nieces and friends!
God bless you Sir!! I needed this. Must admit that I was a Pro at this as a single woman & I was highly sought after because of this. However, now married, I am relearning myself, while elevating these attributes for a better improved version of myself as a WIFE!!
Thank you for being a father to all of us lost women. May God continue to bless you in your work. I cannot put into words how much your videos have helped me
I LOVED THIS MESSAGE! I have so much spiritual growth and in my relationship since I've been listening to his messages. I look forward to getting fed spiritually every week. Thanks and Thank God for you Pastor Blakes.
I have been struggling with value, raising the standards and self appraisal after many years of bad relational choices. I thank God for this great encounter.
I am so blessed by this teaching. I found Bishop and Lisa Blakes a few years back and their ministry has changed my life. Bishop is the father I never had; although he was physically there until his death, my natural father was not present where it mattered until I was altready grown. God has truly blessed me through this ministry.
Thank you Pastor Blakes! This video is full of golden gems. I am so grateful for all of the wisdom that you share. My father passed away a long time ago now but whenever I watch your videos, I imagine that these would be the kind of conversations that he would have with me - if he was still here ❤🙏🏾
Thank you, Bishop. This was awesome advice!! I just loved this! I told that last man on the first date after he spoke to me disrespectfully at dinner, goodbye and maybe he will learn to treat the next woman better. I went home and blocked his number.
You truly are a prophet of discernment. Although I was raised with a wonderful father, I find your information truly helpful in navigating how men think and also implementing boundaries in relationships. Thanks for keeping it professional and conservative.
Thank you for this content, I learn so much from your videos 🙏 I remember now every time when I was in my feminine and men got addicted but treated me bad and I put boundaries and walked away and said no they hardly attacked me and called me crazy. I have not attacked them, I only said no and I only respond to kindness. The toxic men get crazy with this and project their craziness to me. But I stay truth to myself and don’t let mistreat me, from no one.
Bishop RC Blake's thank you for the time and effort you put into your teachings to make others stronger and more knowledgeable. It's never too late to increase your value and often we don't know how. Now I do and will. My dad is a Pastor, I'll be sharing this video with him and discussing as he has been helping me with a difficult relationship and although sends a similar message, this one allows me to feel more certain about my next step and empowered as a woman.
❤🎉❤i have learn a lot from your pastoring. I will shout it out loud. Most women today are damage and broken. I am so glad that i am at this age to have cime and had found your ministeries. You are the truth. I am older then you, so i cannot say you arr my daddy. You are my big brother that is letting his sister know about men. And since i have listen to you, most men are damage and broken, and they can hide it very well. Thank you for teaching me. You can teach an old dog new trick, if he or she is willing to listen and learn. You arr never to old to learn.
Thanks pastor rc Blake's. So true you have to no when to leave. Love your self first and have self respect.. Point blank period Pooh as the young folks say.
Pastor you are doing such a amazing job in helping us woman, it hard out here but when you teach us, I feel like a brand new woman. My almighty God keep blessing you sir.
Your knowledge has helped me tremendously!!! I avoided a bad situation and now navigating one with potential using your advice. I used to be quick to walk away... then I started questioning if I did it prematurely. Now I stick in there and move confidently being watchful so I can learn... It's not a game, but I'm testing the strategy and it's definitely working better than what I had been doing. Thank you for teaching from a biblical and practical standpoint!!
I have only seen a few shorts of yours, Sir. I clicked on this video and immediately subscribed. I appreciate your sophistication and uplifting nature. I also wanted to ask what the intro song is. It is wonderful! Thank you for being a vessel to uplifting and encouraging women to step into their TRUE power. Not fake neurotic behavior. There IS a difference that is so vital to recognize, discern, and embody once harnessed. God is good and it is shown how people like you use the correct spirit God has endowed one with!!!! ❤
Like you said this is the beautiful talk that every father should have with his daugther !! Your reflection of today is very powerfull!! And so valuable for me !! I will come back to this vídeo as many times as I Need to Tattoo this in my brain and mindset!! Infinite thanks!! ✨🙏🏼✨ Blessings!!🙌🏼
You took the words.out of my mouth and spoken them out laud and I’m a Jew hearing you from Israel, it’s just the proof all people of truth are one , United and think the same. Great work, stay blessed
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You are right RC Blakes when you love a man and he don't love you like that let him go and move on
I would like to talk with you either on the phone or video chat you are a very inspiring person..
I'm in a dark place and your words of wisdom could help me..
Bishop this was a very good teaching lesson. I learned something Everytime I listen to God through you. Honestly I didn’t want to come on here tonight. I feel like Lord I don’t want to be married not right now. It’s not always about anybody else but God and myself
I really appreciate you I came your UA-cam channel when my mother passed away the song she a queen was right on time
Now I am also in a marriage that is going???
I'm 33 with no children or a husband. I recently walked away from a toxic relationship. I want a family badly, but I'm not desperate for any man. I want the right man. Your videos have helped me establish boundaries and respect. As I get older sometimes I fear it might be too late for me, but I have Faith in God. I know this is my season for finding myself and understanding that being single is not a curse. My father was absent my entire life, thank you for being a father to us.
33 years old too. Same situation. Left a toxic relationship recently. Emotionally absent father. Badly want a family too but only willing to accept God's best for me, whoever that may be, whenever that may be. We got this hun. 💕
Congrats on walking away. Being desperate will have you up the wrong creek. Its never too late. Just make sure you really put yourself out there look nice go to meet up groups, functions, seminars, charity functions, taking yourself out to places to eat etc Its a numbers game and do a process of elimination untill you find what you looking for. Don't give up and enjoy the process in a healthy way.
You’re gonna benefit from my book “The Total Package” sis‼️ You’re at the perfect age right now. You’re still young…don’t worry about anything‼️ Everything will happen on Gods timing‼️ Beyoncé, Porsha, Faith Jenkins, all had babies around this age. Faith is actually 45 right now. Got married and had a baby after 40! God will time everything just right‼️
This is literally my exact life. Wow! God is right on time! I’m 33 as well.
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This grandmother says that it's never too late in life to listen to Pastor Blakes!
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1. Always lift him.
2. Know how to leave men.
3. Love yourself more than you love him.
4. Listen to the man carefully (without interruptions).
5. Live at an above average level.
Good morning, all very good points- especially # 3.
Idk why, but when people do this it kind ruins the video for me. Like let me find out myself please mam 😅
@@Housewife_In_TrainingThe video always has way more insight though so it’s always still worth watching !
Thanks!!
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"A man cannot value you above the value you have for yourself "
A WORD!!
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Amen
This is a FACT!!!
That is profound.
I made a mistake of loving a man more than myself and begging him back..I'm disappointed in myself, but determined to never make this mistake again with a man! Thank you for this message
My 20 year Son told me today that he really enjoys and listens to Bishop Blakes so Sir I thank you for your teachings and being able to connect to him!
Thank God amen 🙏🏾 That generation needs him, I’ve a 21yr old son & 19yr old daughter ❤
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This is a wonderful idea for my 14 year old Son...and even my 20 year old daughter. Thank you.
@@ladonnaflournoy1 Yes indeed I started out forwarding him the clips and he loved the caring spirit eluded from Bishop Blakes
And the sound direction.
My man broke up with me and I went straight to this video to remind myself that my reaction can affect my value and self esteem. As much as it hurts, I refuse to compromise either one! I love you RC Blake! You are my UA-cam father! I
This advice is SPOT ON!!! I left my exbf and he won’t stop begging for me back. This is the first time I feel absolutely certain of my worth and my YES (highest pleasure) and my NO (boundaries) ! The world now feels so magical!! The highest caliber of men and women are entering my life. Feeling blessed. Grateful for your teachings!!🙏🏼💓
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Highest caliber😂
- Always lift him. Makes him feel better about himself.
- Your approach should be feminine and your words should compliment not compete.
- Know how and when to leave men. Value is always restricted.
- Loves herself more than she likes him.
- Listen to the man carefully. Listen without interrupting. Ask questions that will test his honesty.
Thanks 4 the summary RN. The only one I take a little issue with, is the last one. A woman who values both herself & others, will not be waiting to pounce on a man with questions to test his honesty. She will definitely notice inconsistencies that don't accurately reflect what he may have said in earlier conversations, but there's no need to be self-righteous or indignant about it. In fact it's often best to tuck these minor indiscretionary mismatches into your mental notebook for a time when further gathered evidence will prove more beneficial. In other words, maybe don't bring it up unless it is relevant to the conversation. Nobody likes a self-righteous conversational bully.
@@lionempress even God tested Abraham.
This was likely a typo but he didn't say to know when to LEAD men He said to know when to LEAVE a man
Thank you for recording his words...so helpful! ❤
“Overt sexual Attire is masculine because it’s predatory.” Thank you Bishop RC Blakes!
Yes!! This was gold okay?!
Yes, i never thought ot like this but it makes sense!
Aggressive and predatory…smoke
That is exactly my opinion cos showing too much skin is bold, and boldness is a masculine trait.
Yep seductive!
I usually don't listen to stuff like this. But here I am, 44 years old raising three kids, divorced and wasn't raised with my father. I feel lost. Your words have been enlightening. Thank you 🤍
I owe you so much, Bishop Blakes. I've learned so much at age 47, I feel like a new woman!
I’m with you sis, at the age of 43 👌🏽👊🏽
He is amazing
I'm 40. And currently applying this to the men I come across and it's life changing for the men. You can tell they see you recognize your value and want to see if you keep it there.
47 and he is a gift from God for all women from all walks of life! He ministers to the broken!
I’m 47 also, and I find it to be a great time in my life. Im single, I’ve grown tremendously, and I’m okay regardless of outcome. I know my standards, I’m prepared and have learned so much, Pastor RC has helped shift my mindset so much.
Sixty three years later and and divorce after 28 years of marriage, I am hearing this information and other information that has been so helpful in this new chapter of my life. I just wish I knew this information years ago. Praise God for technology and individuals that have invested the work in helping us to be better as people.💕
I, too, wish Bishop Blakes had been around many years ago. His lessons are so valuable.
Keep pushing Queen 👑
Amen 🙏🏿
54 same here,
My life is 10x better since I started listening to you. God bless you sir. We love you
I struggled to walk away from a man who was not adding financial value in my life because I was caught in the notion of proving that I can take care of myself. I accepted his lack of effort and investment in the relationship all in the name of being an independent woman. I want a man that can show up emotionally, physically, financially etc
Never shoot a man down. It’s not necessary to do it. Always be uplifting to everyone. It doesn’t cost a cent. Thank you for your insight. Always on point. God bless you .🙏
I love that you quote the Bible when explaining relationship values...this is what makes what you say credible. Thank you so much for your teachings 🙏✨️💫
Yes that is what I love about him too. He can show us biblical teachings to bring the message to these days and time! Thanks you RC. I got to get my money up so I can be at the Queenology in ATL!! Pray for me 🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽 Yha k God for your messages!!
The UA-cam dad for women who don’t talk about things like this with their dad. 💙✨ I bet the younger you would’ve never guessed that you would become this person. I’m grateful! I hear so many people speak about you now. Your worldwide. And, your wife is so pleasantly beautiful.
You're so correct.🎯 He probably may have thought pulpit. But this is a far-reaching platform!🙏👏
I see him as a father figure, i lost my father at 22, so pastor RC Blakes helped me heal through a narcissitic breakup almost 5 years ago. Im still single but I have faith that my values will align with the right masculine in the near future
"If you can't meet my standards, you're not the one". This as well as listening to the story of Vashti having to say bye to a man she thought would be the one resonated deeply with me. I've been having doubts about deciding to leave and let myself be pursued by new men, but this gave me the confirmation and peace that I made the right decision in leaving. Thank you! This video was enlightening. I also loved the part about walking away early to signal your value and restrict access instead of giving too much of myself too soon.
I just walked away from a fabulous man. Because he wasnt sure where we were going. And couldnt commit 100%. Broke my heart to pieces. He was everything on my list. Hardest thing ive ever done.
Likewise! We had the best relationship but I want to get married eventually and he doesn’t want to remarry. And he’s still attached to his ex.
Hope all is going well for you my sister ❤
Same here, but I remind myself daily that my person will be all that person was plus all the things i wanted that person to be. He will consistently surpass my dopeness meter, provide for me physically, financially, and emotionally. He will want commitment with me. My adventure with my partner has already started, and once we meet, our adventure will continue in all the wonderful magical ways that adventures do. The journey of a lifetime 🥰💚🥰💚🥰💚
The best is yet to come
Well follow up. He decided he wanted to work toward marriage. For back together 3 months after he broke up with me. Got with someone else, not even 3 months with her, they are engaged. Broke my heart and spirit to pieces.
I so appreciate your teachings. I am a phenomenal black divorced and single of 14 years, 54 years old woman, who still believe in love and waiting on God to join me with my person. After 14 years of embracing my singleness. Finally i can say, I am ready. Thank you RC Blake you are heaven sent. God bless you
RC would be so proud of the woman I've become today, especially vs one year ago when I found him. I just started dating again because I finally felt ready thanks to these teachings. Dating has never been so fun! I love being feminine, complimenting men, being openly amazed and impressed, and letting them do things for me. Dating becomes such a pleasure when you finally understand your worth and exude it through your actions as a woman. I finally understand and am ready to be a wife ♡
Also ladies I highly recommend rotationally dating men and never becoming a girlfriend, but dating until someone proposes. Learned this from The Universe Guru channel
Agree, I did this when I was younger without even knowing it.
Young ladies engage as much as you can, in activities that appeal to both genders. Keep your legs closed. Focus on enjoying the activity and building meaningful friendships. By God's grace and astute discernment you will build your tribe as time goes on.
There are good and wise men out there. One will love you, propose to you and will be willing to journey with you by his side.
I love the fact that you brought up the story of Esther. I named my daughter Vashti because to me she was a woman of dignity. My family and friends criticized me and questioned why I gave her that name due to most preachers using her as an example of being disobedient but you are the first I hear placing her in a different perspective. 😊💕 I am grateful for finally hearing this from a wise man! Thank you 🙏
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This Man is a father to many of us. I mean listen to this!!!😊. Incredible gems 💎.
This message was so powerful. I’ve never heard someone talk about the wife before Esther whom I always thought should be honored due to her self respect with denying the king’s request because she knew her value. I’ve never understood why this wasn’t mentioned as much as it should because of what she stood for. Bishop, Thank you so much for this heart felt message. May God bless you and your family.
Exactly! If anything, Vashti's example was one of the most blatant forms of female self respect in the scripture! It bothers me that I even see some christian woman look down on her because she "disobeyed her husband".
The thing about the woman before is the promise wasn't in her so no matter how she responded to the king request it wouldn't have worked. Walking did prove she wasn't for him. Great topic
@@antoinitastokes4209 Amen, I agree it was God’s will but the message is vital. Regardless of someone’s title, the money they earn, etc., you must have standard and boundaries. As Bishop mentioned, this taught the king to respect his next wife. This was awesome ❤️
@@doll.ov.poetrii4682 Wow! That says a lot.
I have to agree to disagree on the respect part but I'm with you
I love this, I was uplifting him in the beginning then I stopped. My bf recently broke up with me, and he gave me the greatest gift because every time I would communicate about anything it would ensue in an argument he was always defensive no matter how I approached things. I was always try to edit myself, but his trauma was too deep for me to fix. Maybe I could have done these things consistently but I still think we would have ended here because he was not pouring into me, he was not being intentional with me, it was as if I was just there but no effort like I was making.
With God speaking through you and using your vessel as a witness, it has been a reminder for keeping me grounded and more humbled.
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At 57 yrs old never knew to shut down the date first!
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I’ve been single and celibate for several years healing from deep wounds, raising my kids and building my life. I made so many mistakes in my dating life and in past relationships. So many of these things I never knew and didn’t have the wisdom from anyone around me to share these things with me. I also lacked a lot of confidence from different things in my up bringing. I’m no longer that woman though as I’ve overcome and accomplished so much, I now see my worth. I’m ready to find my husband now but I have to be careful to do it right when I begin that journey and so your videos and the knowledge and insight is helping me so much. I really can’t even tell you how insightful they are coming from an honest man so thank you!
Another POWERFUL message, delivered as only the incomparable Bishop R.C. Blakes can do it!
"Where, oh, where were you Bishop when most of us needed you decades ago???!!!
"YOU CANNOT EXPECT RESPECT FROM THE WORLD UNTIL YOU HAVE MODELED RESPECT FOR YOURSELF."
Praying God continues to bless you, Bishop and your beautiful Queen, Lady Lisa with your God anointed ministry 🙏🏼
Thank you Pastor Blake’s for teaching on this topic. Rarely do (young)women hear messages on dignity. The importance of self love, being an exceptional woman, and effective listening is wisdom women of all ages need to hear and implement in their daily life.
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I did all this not knowing that I was requesting respect. And it works just as u said. He knows I value myself, and that he can't find another woman like me so easy if ever again. His words exactly.😊
Awe yes Queen!! 👑🥰
Thank you as a Seasoned Senior Disabled (age 65) Queen who has been divorced 20 years. You have blessed my soul with this. I want to start dating again and be pursued by a Genuine King seeking his Queen. I love me some me and want to be able to continue to show this to a man who is seeking companionship in a Godly woman of values and worth. I'm also praying about attending your Queenoly Conference. I will speak to my daughter about attending it together. I have subscribed to receive all your post on UA-cam. May God continue to prosper you and your Queen that will overflow throughout your ministry. Amen❤❤
I started to apply these tools and life is much easier,I don't get involved easily nowadays 😊.I take my time today I am loving the peace of being single. I know for sure I learned my value as a woman,I learned to cut from my soul ties .I will continue to watch your videos.Thank for being the father for many of us.
Lord protect this man. His advise is priceless. Everything i apply from him has immediate positive results. Thank you for look out for women
My God! You sho nuf preached better than they was shouting!! Believe you me, I was shouting with you Pastor Blake’s!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Teach Pastor ! 🙌
'Love yourself more than you like him !👏👏
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Thank you for the Father- daughter advice. I was not privileged to have this, and although I am grown, please know how much it means to those who never knew how much they needed it or craved it ♥️
Thank you Bishop BLAKES for sowing valuable seeds into my life❤❤!! I never grew up knowing my father which resulted not knowing about relationships with men😥! Now God is making it right for me to behave like a Queen should🤗
I love it!! Knowing how to enforce my value has earned me a peaceful co-parenting situation soon after I left my toxic marriage .. I'm so grateful.
I just started following you this past month; ran across one of your videos while searching for something else. You have blessed my spirit while reinforcing some teachings my father taught me & he’s a Pastor also. I needed to hear this word & other videos. It helps me to stay focused. Keep allowing GOD to use you as a DAD for so many women. My father is alive & well, but I have DEEMED you as my UA-cam Dad!!
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I had my 1st marriage after 30. Had children when I was 33 and 38. But didn’t meet my actual soul mate until I was after 40. You make mistakes when you try to rush it. In God’s timing
Understanding your worth TRULY starts in childhood. At times, I feel like I’m sooo far behind understanding mine and I’m 36…
women had never been taught to value selves...thats why. my mom had always put me down, look at the jobs, women always put down or only toxic women are "valued"
A father suppose to teach or model a daughter's value in herself..
@@DinaStrangeI was taught by following God's laws, reading the bible, and praying for discernment in the Holy spirit.
This is the most edifying video I’ve ever heard.. I just heard it for the second time and I believe I have to hear it again and again until I memorize it.. The way this man speaks about his wife..❤❤
Honestly the smallest things matter I just woke up to flowers at my door after one date and many phone calls a man will show you when he cares I’m so used to men that do nothing that I really didn’t realize my worth ! So true about the value factor I’ve had men never talk to me again when I tell them my standards !
Pastor, Thank you for teaching diligently women to be better than we are currently!! God bless you and Godspeed to you and your wife.
Please 🙏 thumbs 👍.. especially for the strong ladies on here
My value is non negotiable. My self esteem is hard won, high and healthy. I can accept no less from a potential partner.
This is probably one of my favorite productions of yours bishop! Every woman should leave this message feeling elevated & like the Queen she is! You really cut up with this one. Thank you and thank you sir! 👌🏽❤❤
Your teachings are solid gold, Bishop Blake's. Thank you. Blessings.
Thank you so much for defending Vashti. I’ve always honored her stand and have taken flack for it. But she was honoring herself and was used to being honored and held her ground. I can say so much more. Thanks you so much!!!
The timing of this message coming back full circle is an "Only God could've done it" moment for me in this season. Thank you sincerely for the Fatherly advice and for standing in Proxy for a multitude of Dads to their daughters who desperately need this level of Father language in their lives. Happiest Father's Day to you and continued blessings 🙏🏾❤🩹🛐✝
I want to say thank you … idk how I found your channel had to be God sent because going through infidelity and everything giving everything. Never leaving anything for me my identity is my kids and him and I just felt low to the ground but finding ur channel especially the father and daughter part you made realize a lot I want to say thank you I appreciate you and explaining this such a way that actually clicked in my head rather just oh i understand and whatever with it
Made me cry I begged this man to stay I feel so stupid but I did it for my kids … because they always cry for him…
This is the holy grail pastor 🎉👏🏼🎉👏🏼🎉 THANK YOU . God has leveled up my life through you. What a gift 🎁
Thank you for speaking of Queen Vashti the way you did. That’s how I’ve always felt about her but every pastors that have preached about her speak so poorly of her and talking about she deserved to loose her position as a Queen, etc.
Saving this one for the books! 🌟 Pure gold 🌟 this is worth re-watching on a regimen to stay grounded in truth as a woman.
This was sooo good! I’m so thankful that God has transformed me. I have embodied most of these as an adult but there were times I did not and those times I definitely was not valuing myself. From now until forever there’s no negotiating my value. Sharing this with my nieces and friends!
I NEEDED THIS I FELL 📴 MY HIGH VALUE IM 🔙 IN LINE AGAIN THANK GOD FOR PASTOR RC BLAKES TEACHING 🙌🏾🙏🏾
This is such a GREAT Topic. Looking forward to listening with attentiveness.
God bless you Sir!! I needed this. Must admit that I was a Pro at this as a single woman & I was highly sought after because of this. However, now married, I am relearning myself, while elevating these attributes for a better improved version of myself as a WIFE!!
Thank you so much for everything Uncle Blakes!! May God continue to bless your ministry!!!
Happy Father's Day RC Blakes. I never had a father to tell me these things, so I appreciate your videos so much.
Totally enjoyed this session Pastor .Today am happy healthy ,whole and single enjoying my life and seeking to fullfill my purpose through CHRIST JESUS
This message lifted me so high I could see MySelf evolving -loving the Goddess I Be! I didn't want this message to end!
Thank you for being a father to all of us lost women. May God continue to bless you in your work. I cannot put into words how much your videos have helped me
I LOVED THIS MESSAGE!
I have so much spiritual growth and in my relationship since I've been listening to his messages. I look forward to getting fed spiritually every week. Thanks and Thank God for you Pastor Blakes.
I have been struggling with value, raising the standards and self appraisal after many years of bad relational choices. I thank God for this great encounter.
I am available to receive this message! Thank you pastor for this encouraging conversation.
I am so blessed by this teaching. I found Bishop and Lisa Blakes a few years back and their ministry has changed my life. Bishop is the father I never had; although he was physically there until his death, my natural father was not present where it mattered until I was altready grown. God has truly blessed me through this ministry.
Thank you Pastor Blakes! This video is full of golden gems. I am so grateful for all of the wisdom that you share. My father passed away a long time ago now but whenever I watch your videos, I imagine that these would be the kind of conversations that he would have with me - if he was still here ❤🙏🏾
PREACH TO ME BISHOP...CONTINUE TO LET GOD LEAD YOU TO HELP WOMAN LIVE AND GROW IN LIFE.
Thank you, Bishop. This was awesome advice!! I just loved this! I told that last man on the first date after he spoke to me disrespectfully at dinner, goodbye and maybe he will learn to treat the next woman better. I went home and blocked his number.
What did he say wrong at dinner?
You truly are a prophet of discernment. Although I was raised with a wonderful father, I find your information truly helpful in navigating how men think and also implementing boundaries in relationships. Thanks for keeping it professional and conservative.
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Thank you Pastor Blakes for this very necessary teaching. Blessings to you and family ❤️🙏🏾
Thank you for this content, I learn so much from your videos 🙏 I remember now every time when I was in my feminine and men got addicted but treated me bad and I put boundaries and walked away and said no they hardly attacked me and called me crazy. I have not attacked them, I only said no and I only respond to kindness. The toxic men get crazy with this and project their craziness to me. But I stay truth to myself and don’t let mistreat me, from no one.
That's some good preaching and I never knew I was supposed to lift men up and how much it meant to them. Thanks 🙏
Love it .. living above average level is such great advise you’re like a father to me when I listen to you 🙏🏼❤
Can't wait 😊. I know this is going to be a great message
Thanks! Resonated highly! Will follow!
Thank you for taking the time to teach us this. So many of us just don’t know. We were never taught. You are appreciated
I love the the values and advice you give .
You are serving as a Father , brother and pastor to many .
Well done 😊
Bishop RC Blake's thank you for the time and effort you put into your teachings to make others stronger and more knowledgeable. It's never too late to increase your value and often we don't know how. Now I do and will. My dad is a Pastor, I'll be sharing this video with him and discussing as he has been helping me with a difficult relationship and although sends a similar message, this one allows me to feel more certain about my next step and empowered as a woman.
❤🎉❤i have learn a lot from your pastoring. I will shout it out loud. Most women today are damage and broken. I am so glad that i am at this age to have cime and had found your ministeries. You are the truth. I am older then you, so i cannot say you arr my daddy. You are my big brother that is letting his sister know about men. And since i have listen to you, most men are damage and broken, and they can hide it very well. Thank you for teaching me. You can teach an old dog new trick, if he or she is willing to listen and learn. You arr never to old to learn.
Bishop you are truly what this generation needs. Thank you for your consistency in sharing knowledge with us so we won’t be destroyed ❤
Thank you Pastor RC Blakes for this one right here! You are indeed a rich blessing -- I always come back to hear these gems 💎
Thanks pastor rc Blake's. So true you have to no when to leave. Love your self first and have self respect.. Point blank period Pooh as the young folks say.
Pastor you are doing such a amazing job in helping us woman, it hard out here but when you teach us, I feel like a brand new woman. My almighty God keep blessing you sir.
HalleluYAH! Praises be to Yah for a man of God such as you! Definitely an on time Word! Blessings to you and your family.
Your knowledge has helped me tremendously!!! I avoided a bad situation and now navigating one with potential using your advice. I used to be quick to walk away... then I started questioning if I did it prematurely. Now I stick in there and move confidently being watchful so I can learn... It's not a game, but I'm testing the strategy and it's definitely working better than what I had been doing. Thank you for teaching from a biblical and practical standpoint!!
This was pure gold.
All truth spoken!! This counsel for women was dead on!
That was amazing! We are glad we caught it when you released it. We enjoy your work. Well wishes to you and your lovely family! 😊
I have only seen a few shorts of yours, Sir. I clicked on this video and immediately subscribed. I appreciate your sophistication and uplifting nature.
I also wanted to ask what the intro song is. It is wonderful!
Thank you for being a vessel to uplifting and encouraging women to step into their TRUE power. Not fake neurotic behavior. There IS a difference that is so vital to recognize, discern, and embody once harnessed.
God is good and it is shown how people like you use the correct spirit God has endowed one with!!!! ❤
Like you said this is the beautiful talk that every father should have with his daugther !!
Your reflection of today is very powerfull!!
And so valuable for me !!
I will come back to this vídeo as many times as I Need to Tattoo this in my brain and mindset!!
Infinite thanks!!
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Blessings!!🙌🏼
Ever since I began watching your video (last summer), they’ve completely changed my life. Thank you.
You took the words.out of my mouth and spoken them out laud and I’m a Jew hearing you from Israel, it’s just the proof all people of truth are one , United and think the same. Great work, stay blessed
Never heard the Queen Vashti story told this way. Thank you sir.
Preach it Pastor...thank u so so much for this Sermon
This subject matter is so needed to be heard. Thank you for reminding us to be feminine.