Generation Boomerang: Why Won't Young Adults Leave Home? (Society Documentary) | Real Stories
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- Опубліковано 27 лис 2020
- More than half of young Canadian adults aged between 20 and 29 still live with their parents. After a childhood of overprotection, overindulgence, over-everything, today’s young adults are finding the real world a little too real. Generation Boomerang examines the reasons why so many of today’s young adults are slow to launch out into the world. A tough economy gets much of the blame but a peek below the surface reveals that this is a generation reluctant to give up the comforts of home.
Generation Boomerang weaves together personal stories with expert analysis. Sociologists and psychologists weigh in with differing views on whether this trend is a good thing or whether we are raising a generation of Peter Pans who will never grow up. For better or worse, this new living arrangement is something many experts believe is here to stay.
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My parents and I are literally buying a house together. We have always lived in apartments and can't afford it on our own. They couldn't afford it without me, I couldn't afford it without them. We love each other.
Good for you. You are a lucky family. Good parents, good daughter.
I face a lot of judgment. Some people think I'm living off my parents. What they don't see is when I hand my parents 1200 every 2 weeks to pay bills and save our money. Its a negative stigma to cohabitate with your family when you're all adults. It works for us.
@@cheylalynn7881 I have four adult children. Right now, three of them are living in our home. And my daughters husband and baby girl as well. I’m glad we’ve all been together through this pandemic. I’d have been worried sick if I couldn’t see them often. And I’m glad to be so involved with my granddaughter. We would never have been so close if we didn’t have this time together and hopefully we are forging lifetime bonds. I love and like my kids so I’m happy to have them around. But they can leave whenever they are ready and I’ll support them (emotionally) regardless. There’s no shame in a close family.
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In my state for a 2 bedroom 1 bathroom no washer and dryer apartment that has no heat, we pay 1350. They do inspections, promise to fix, and never come back to fix. My mom sold drugs when I was really young and served her time. She got a bachelor's degree when she got out of prison and has remained clean and sober! We have had our fair share of bad hands and have fought tooth and nail to pull ourselves up out of the gutter. I was diagnosed with cancer when I was 26 and it nearly took my life. Since then we have been very close. Its been a hard life but working together has improved it immensely. I'd be lost and likely dead without my family and I know that me being here helping has been a blessing for them as well. My ex of 11 years kept me isolated. I endured abuse that I will never let myself endure again. Any partner of mine better learn to love my family too because we are in it for life together. God bless you and your family. Thank you for not judging me. I wish I would have had babies! I have eternal baby fever because my cancer resulted in a hysterectomy. Much love from Oregon.
@@cheylalynn7881 Right back at you Baby Girl! You be you and be happy with your supportive and happy family. People that judge you harshly are just jealous because they don’t have a family like yours.
House prices have absolutely rocketed, but wages have hardly increased, so there you go
You'd be surprised how many of these boomerangs won't move out bc they REFUSE to live within their means.
@@Witchfoot.Incorporated They could not spend a cent and it's too expensive
Ask a boomer, and they'll shrug in baffled incomprehension, and say "Well, it wasn't like this in 1974, and nothing has changed since then, so..."
@@anonmouse15 Because Boomers are the ones that have sold off the country...
The only young people that I know who actually own homes were either given the homes by relatives or a relative cosigned on a mortgage. Out of this group of people, some of them are pretty arrogant about their status, looking down on those who can't afford an overpriced piece of wood.
I moved out of my parents house when I was 30. I was able to pay of debt, save money, and getting my credit together while I was home. I’m gratefully, honestly!
Love it!
Smart move! Don't follow people who are stupid. Do what's right for you!
good for you thats not the average
I live in a 4 generation house in the UK. I moved back with mum and dad after a horrible separation and job loss expecting it to be for 6 months or a year to get back on my feet. It worked out so well for me supporting my folks and being able to run my startup; I stayed put. My daughter and grandson lived in the next town and would visit all the time to the point we joked she should move in...so she gave up her house, which was her and the little one in. Its been 6 years for me and nearly 2 years for my daughter and grandson, and it's not only a very happy household with ages ranging from 5 to 86, but we also are not having all the financial issues many face. I have to stress that the house is small, with only 3 beds, but we were able to add an extension on the back and convert a garage, so we all had our own space. The only rule of the house is we all sit together for the evening meal which I think is a rarity for many families.
I just love how that works out for all involved. It’s very smart especially in these times.
Get out and be independent
@@Austrian_blood that’s none of your business.
Awesome!
You are very smart to do what you are doing!!! Others will suffer and your family will not.
I lived with my parents until they both passed away. They were older when they had me, so when I became an adult it just made sense (I had no plans to marry or have children and I had a good paying job with long hours so it was nice to come home to have someone to talk to). I paid rent (they set the price), made most of my meals, washed my own clothes, and did most of the chores around the house. They were thankful for the money and the help and neither had to go into a nursing home because I was there to take care of them. I have no regrets.
Exactly the same for me but my mom had passed early in life so it was just my dad. I had to take care of him the last 2 years of his life because of health problems. He would've died sooner had I not been living with him(found him unresponsive on a lunch break one day, I work a 1 minute walk away). He was the kind of guy you had to force help on. He hated me taking care of him. I worked a 12h job while I gave him total home care(feeding, bathing etc). He told me a month before he passed that he had never felt so close to me in his life. Was very emotional. Was happy to take care of him. RIP Dad.
That is so wonderful. You did it right! What a true blessing that family can be if everyone treats each other well and no one takes advantage of the anyone. 👏😊
That's great.The babyboomers generation and generation x is passing away.We millennials and generation z will be left.And millennials are getting older so alot us will be in our dying stage 30 to 50 years from now.
Ur case is different. They had more to benefit from u staying than leaving. This issue has a lot of grey areas it's not black and white
Isn't it classed as honorable and good thing to do in china?
I think it's a very good thing to do even more if you give your perents end of life care. It's a lot of work and I salute anyone who has done it. This is family life👍🏻💞🇫🇷
What difference does it make? In Hispanic, African, and Asian cultures, this is normal. If a person is living at home and is making financial contributions to the family and if family are content with such an arrangement, what difference does it make? People need to stop making rash judgments and mind their own business.
I agree
I think this generation has closer family ties. I know we had to move quite a bit as a family which made us as a team, as one for all and all for one,
In spanish cultura this isn't normal.
I’m Mexican and you’re making a generalization. I will therefore say I disagree with your statement.
This is taboo in western white families lol
What’s wrong with multi-generational households? We’re family. We love and respect one another and we’re happy. Seriously, families staying together should be the norm.
Well I detest my parents, and our fundamental moral values are opposed. Living together would be a long drown-out torture.
@@michaelsvoboda1024 ok obviously not you then. lol Marry into another multigenerational family I guess
For many cultues this normal but for others it isn't.
@@michaelsvoboda1024 lol
I agree, should be the norm. But my parents refused to see it that way.
I don’t understand why it’s so weird for some countries to stay with your parents in your 20s. I actually think it’s quite odd to toss out your kids when they’re 18 and barely out of school :/
agreed
boomers are the most self entitled generation
Because people in the west are selfish but dont worry the same kids these parents kick out when theyre 18, are the same ones who will be left in an old peoples home by those same kids when they get older.
And those fresh 18 year olds literally knowing nothing about actual adulthood and having to learn on the fly. The American public school system and their curriculum has truly failed the youth of America.
I don't understand why it is such an issue for adult children to live with their parents, especially when they contribute to the home and/or doing something productive with their lives. I lived most of my grad school years and the road to licensure as a therapist with my parents and my child. I always contributed to the home, took care of my child, and held down between 1 to 3 jobs at a time (including jobs in my field). I tell my daughter that I will never have an issue with her staying with me until she's married (or even after) as long as she contributes and is living a productive life. She will be treated like a roommate. This isn't as big a deal as people are making it.
Bingo!
I lived in London and grew up in the sixties and walked out of the house at 16 got a job rented a cheap place with a couple of other people , rent was literally nothing . Now you need a high flying job to live in any city
The rent in London is ridiculous. Need to the leave the city ASAP.
My husband and I live in New England and managed to find a studio apartment where we have an agreement with the landlord for lowered rent by doing maintenance around the complex. We've lived here for 3 years and have been looking at other apartments because we want to move, but even in just 3 years the average rent for a studio apartment has hiked up to almost double what we're currently paying
@@hambone4984 you need to invest in your own place ASAP before rents are hiked again!😲
Ah, the swinging 60's.
A lot of the reasons are: these days people are getting married at a much older age, the cost of living is outrageous, food, rent etc. jobs aren’t as easy to come by. My dad says that: EVERYONE that wanted a job in the sixties/ could find one!!!!! In the seventies and eighties: one didn’t NEED to have work experience ; and could get trained on the job. It’s a MUCH different world we are living in now…………
I finally got a job in my field 6yrs after graduating because many entry level jobs require experience 😒.
I'm 31 , live with my parents with kids. Far from lazy. This economy makes it nearly impossible to live on your own (even with government assistance). Both my parents are on fixed income and I help every way I can. It's sad the sigma that's been put behind living with parents.
I understand because am in a similar situation.
Exactly!
Job availability, living expenses, wages. It's not a mystery.
Not rocket science
College degree in gender studies. No mystery loser.
@@miketheyunggod2534 Who are you insulting and why?
@@miketheyunggod2534 degree in electronics engineering. Same problem.
well considering even two incomes people are struggling financially how do you think one person is going to manage that..... much different times than the 50s
Bruh. Work at Amazon. Problem solved. I live by myself working an entry level job that any 18yr old can get.
@mneisbaar salary needs to catch up with the cost of living it's not even close
WellI I'm a millennial and have been living on my own for years and I know other millennials who are doing the same. Some people just make bad life choices.
@@uhhwhateverdude9463 I DO work at amazon, and HAVE to work overtime just to get by. I've put myself thru school ,worked in healthcare, didn't pay the bills, not to mention constant budget cuts. ppl are replaceable and theres no job stability. not saying it's not possible but it shouldn't have to be this way. everyone needs a helping hand at times and there's nothing wrong with that.
@aena CS isn’t something you consider. You’re all in or not. It’s one of the most difficult 4 year degrees to obtain.
My daughter lived with us till she was 30. With our scheduals we never saw each other. So why wouldnt we let her stay. Everything is so expensive. She worked and cleaned the house even bought groceries. We wish she were still living with us. It was stupid for her not to stay. Miss u sissy
why didn't you tell her that before she left? But good for you, sounds like she is an awesome responsible adult
Did she pay rent ?
@@johnclifford1537 How about don't ask rude questions that are NONE of your damn business?
@@Anonymous-wb3nz 😁😁😆😆😆😄
Loving parent!
Living with parents is a blessing if you actually have parents who gave af about you and didn’t abandon you once you turned 18….must be nice.
These parents shouldn't be having kids if they are just going to kick their kids to the curb. 18 is too young just getting out of high school if not still in high school they have little to no income to financially support themselves just old enough to apply for a debit card. We live in a different world to what they were accustomed to everything is a lot more expensive with the inflation the high cost of living and hard to get jobs that pays well with no college stuck working dead end jobs not everyone can afford to go to college pay off college debt people get college degrees and still have a hard time finding a job thats just the way it is they need to accept it as long as their kids are contributing paying their bills buying their groceries and doing the laundry they should really see no problem with it. They need to wake up to reality.
I moved away for college at 18 and never lived with my parents again (we have a great relationship so not for this reason). I am super grateful that i had this life experience compared to my brother who stayed with mommy and daddy into his 30s and mooched off them the entire time. I think there are benefits to become an adult sooner rather than later. I’d want my kid to do the same.
But Kirsty loved the BBC!
@@briancalifornia1 - Exactly! It makes you wonder about a persons feelings toward their child to want to watch them struggle. Todays 18 year-old cant afford anything. What is the point of kicking them out?
@@ecclairmayo4153 They think by kicking them out will make them more independent but how if they can’t financially afford to live on their own?A small 3 bed room house here is 1.2 million dollars rent is over 2000 dollars groceries gas and bills are not even included That’s awful how you can Just throw your kids to a curb when they get a certain age totally inhumane get their kids to start hating them. Kids will put them in a retirement home when they get older and can no longer take care of themselves thats just karma.
Should change this to why they CANT AFFORD TO leave home
They can. I lived in a €300 room on a €600 salary. Sometimes by the end of the month your parents would bring a bag of food to keep you going for the last 5 days of the month, but I still managed and preferred to live alone. I have no sympathy for these ''adults''.
@@trildi no. they. can't..
@@trildi Did you miss the part at 39:14 where the paperwork says his rent is $1700 a month with an $850 security deposit? That's insane. My mortgage on a 3 bedroom home is $778!! How do people afford to live ??
@@trildi that’s you... why should every single human being live like you?! As if it is so glamorous!
Amen. Greedy baby boomers took all the money.
I’ve been living with my parents for over a year now and I’m 29. I was on my own since I was 20. I went though a terrible marriage and divorce and was finally able to break free and go back to school while not working by moving in with my parents. Earned my degree and I’ve had a full time job for a year and building back up to get my own place. Plus my dad had back surgery so it worked out being there to help my mom with him.
You good person
I think success takes time.
Everybody wins, nice
Exactly, As a millennial I have been back like 6 months after 18 years of having my own private life.
exactly i work full time while getting my degree
Families living together for millions of years. To change this is but a modern society mistake. When everyone starts to move out means exponential demand on all resources...which is now leading to climate change/global warming. Stay living together, it's good for you, your parents, and the society.
My wife has been on her own since her 18th birthday. When we met, I was still living at home with my mom and my brother. When we decided to live together she was a little concerned that I never lived on my own. All of her friends, and most people she dated all lived on their own so it was weird to her that I never did. I guess I wasn’t so bad because we’ve been married now for almost 13 years.
I'm 34, not married yet and mother is retired and I live with her. I work and I take care of her. I do all the grocery shopping, I try to fix what I can and I let her enjoy her time doing what she loves. She doesn't have anyone else and she tells me all the time, "I don't know what I'd do If I didn't have you." I don't care what people think about me living with her. A bunch of my other friends either live at home or with their grandparents. The grandparents love it because their grandchildren help them with everything so it takes the pressure off of them. Grocery shopping, doing things in and outside of the house and the grandparents love having them there.
You’re a wuss. LOL
Exactly! You guys have a wonderful situation. Thats what family is for!
They don't love it. And if there's nothing wrong with living with your parents at 30/40 why is it a discussion?
yes It is better to give then to recieve. or as dave ramsey says even helping them get things done like shoping is a good thing
My nephew lives with my brother doesn't work, is struggling to get a basic associates degree at a Community College. He gets all his meals prepared for him,. He doesn't help around the house. he has no friends. has never had a girlfriend, and my brother just shrugs when i ask him about it. He will never leave the free rent, free food, free internet, free phone situation. My brother says he's self employed, but he still depends on his parents for everything. My brother is retired. But can't move because his son has no ability to take care of himself. I guess my brother got what he deserves after never teaching his son how to take care of himself. He is truly a big baby.
Jobs pay $10 and hour and rent is $2000 a month what is there to understand? 🤔🙉
Where I live its $3000 a month and that's just housing, that doesn't include taxes, food/groceries, utilities, gas, car payment if u have a new car, your lucky if u find $2000
So you pile a bunch of roommates in there.
Get out of that city and go where rent is much lower. Get education so you aren't working an entry level job. If there is a will there is a way.
Roommates
Do not live where apartment rent is $2000. You can find $10 an hour jobs ANYWHERE so find one where rents are $600 a month and do the roommate thing. Change states! Why be tied to extreme poverty? Is SoCal/NoCal, NYC, DC, etc. worth it. Not for me.
The cost of everything and current average income has caused this phenomenon.
Yup. Income isn’t keeping up with cost of living.
@@mindyschocolate that’s for sure
Landlords are becoming greedier about the cost of their apartments..
True. I have a decent paying job, and when I was living on my own then I wasn’t able to save anything significant. Rent and food is too expensive in cities. Traffic and air quality is worst. I don’t see a point in keep working anymore.
Also jobs require more qualifications, and qualifications cost money. And they can become obsolete by the time you graduate.
I was married at 24, my husband our child and I lived with my parents for 7 years before my husband got a better paying job. I will be 40 this year and am so thankful of the time we were able to give our son a great start in life in an area that we couldn’t afford. When we got married, I was already pregnant. My stepdad told us don’t let outside people let you feel bad about your decision to do what is best for your family.
I live in a village in Serbia on the Balkan Peninsula. In some cases, three or four generations of families live together. Of course. Provided that they contribute money and do housework. Caring for the oldest is taking for granted because they bought the plot and built the house.
I live with my mother but I help with cooking, cleaning, and paying bills. She can't afford to take care of me it's more of now I help her. It's a cultural thing, until we're married would be a reason for me to move out. I did live on my own for a long time, 10 years received my degree that I also paid for on my own. We had a death in the family recently and I felt going home for a few years would be helpful for the family. I think there are several reasons people need to return to their families, where else would you go?
Get a part time job
You can go in a vehicle.
Great answer. God bless
@@christian5327 Whether or not you can live in a vehicle would depend on street smarts , whether your male or female , have a disability or live in the suburbs or the city . Even if you can manage it the police don't make it easy .
@@celestialcircledance Where are you? I'm in super liberal pitch a tent in the park, 72 hour parking rule SEATTLE. There's a reason why the homeless population is so visible here besides the high prices---it's so eeeeeaaassssyy here. I personally know people who would rather pocket $1500 extra per month than pay it to a landlord. Minimum wage here is $15/hour.
This is my advice: Enjoy your family as much as you can! They will not be around forever and you will have many years of useless "freedom" to cry for them.
I mean yea we all die one day why not enjoying this little time with your parents
As an only child who was partially raised by a single mom (dad and I didn't have a good relationship at the start, he was an alcoholic who left when I was 7), she sent me away at 9 to live the life she missed out on when she was married to my father. I essentially raised myself. I look at these families with a sort of envy. I wish I'd had that place called home to go to when my life hit rock bottom. Mom did get herself together later and helped me when I became pregnant early in life. But then when I got married and had my own family, I took care of her when her health crashed and there was no one else to do it. She lived with my family for six years until it became dangerous for her due to dementia. Now, with my own kids, we teach them HOW to be independent, yet they will always have a safe loving home if they need it.
@@GenXfrom75 very toughing, I cried a bucketful
@@GenXfrom75 I salute you. I can imagine that I would like to be one of your children : loved, welcome at home, but also free and able to live my own life .
@@veaccara thank you
I’m 52 & after a divorce went to live with my parents for 5 years with my children. My parents were very happy to have me. I in turn was able to buy a condo in LA that I gifted to my parents to retire in when they lost their home in the 2008 crisis. Now my 28 yo daughter lives with me. I’m so grateful bc now I really know my kid & I’ve fell in love with her all over again.
I get judged for living at home at 32....but I paid 71k off my parents mortgage to complete payment and am now broke
Whose life are you living??
@@helmethead72 thats a good question
Why is it wrong to live with your parents? Parents aren't going to be around forever, might as well enjoy your time with your family. As long as the adult kids have a job, why not.
Seriously I don’t understand why it’s so hard for people to understand why families might want to be together. Should you hate your parents and just desperately want to get as far as possible from them? Yes that WAS my generation but I didn’t want that kind of family so I tried to bring my kids up with a strong sense of family. I wanted them to be close to each other and to us, their mom and dad, too. We tried to be the best parents that we could and although we arent perfect, we love and respect our kids and want the best lives possible for them. Whether that is in our home or their own homes we will always support them as much as we possibly can. It doesn’t matter to me how old they are, they’ll always be my kids and I’ll never turn my back on any of them. If what they need is a home, as long as I have one, so do they. I had to be totally independent at 18 and it was terrifying. I made a lot of dangerous mistakes and I would have benefited from a safety net. I’d never want my children to have to grow up as fast as I had to. I’ve always wanted them to feel safe and loved. I always will. They’ve all graduated from college and work hard at their various passions. And I genuinely enjoy being around them because they are all awesome people.
It's not wrong but I suspect somewhere in past it was advertised as shameful thing to boost housing prices. For family it is cheaper to live together, help each other, keep company, build relationship with grandchildren. Only bad side I see if peoples are cramped in small space without much of privacy and if relationships between family members are toxic beyond repair.
It's not wrong.
Because children never will grow in adults. They will stay irresponsible mama’s kids
No responsibilities lead to failed life
This works fine if the kids are willing to also take care of the parents in their old age. Hopefully they wont simply ship them off to a nursing home, and reap the benefits of their assets.
IN THE 70'S WHEN WE GOT OUT OF COLLEGE, THERE WERE JOBS GALOR.
YOU COULD GET A NEW JOB EVERY WEEK IF YOU WANTED TO ......
THOSE DAYS ARE GONE.... NEVER TO COME BACK.
But you also didn’t have to have the “perfect dream job” give yourself credit you worked jobs no one would these days . You weren’t as entitled and that goes a long way
@@xpicklepie I remember my mom wanted my brother to go to the trade school, he said that it was for dummies....
BOY, WAS HE EVER WRONG. He became a teacher....
Wow imagine going to college after highschool here i am 9yrs later cant afford college
@@scot909 imagine thinking were entitled for wanting jobs with pensions and healthcare not crappy 401ks where they charge u 26$ per quarter and ur employer Matchs only 5 percent and if u take out before age 59 1/2 u pay almost 30 percent interest or the healthcare we get offered from our employers that cost us 70 to 200 per paycheck for and requires a copay of between 5 to 100$ extra for us to pay .
@@bl1429 wym teachers are overpaid
That one woman is running two businesses out of her mom's house and it's her 4th time moving back home. The other one moved back in with her mom to be close to her grandfather but doesn't want to use her money to pay for her rent and food. Like, come on! 🙄
There is good reasoning for some to move back home. But, it seems like these people are taking advantage of their parents' resources rather than making their own way. Not everyone has parents to fall back on.
Exactly. I totally agree with this.
Second one has definite “OnlyFans” potential.
Wow the one that has her mother do all the laundry. dishes, cleaning & ironing. She runs businesses out of her mom's house. Maybe she should. just hire a maid. Sad her mother spends her retirement years being a maid to her daughter & granddaughter. I think she's taking advantage of her mother because her mother felt sorry for her daughter that her marriage didn't work.
Totally, especially the one with the daughter, as soon as she finds another man she is gonna dump her mother again
I am glad they pointed out the same thing I said in a discussion with my mother: it's alot easier to work your way through college when you pay $2500/year for college versus $25000/year for college. When my parents where starting college in the 70s they paid about 10% of what I would have to come up with to go to a four year university. And as another older adult pointed out, there is a big difference between having an adult child with a sudden emergency like a health crisis move home compared with a lazy kid who just doesn't feel like growing up. Further, I think its very reasonable to do what many minority cultures do, where the parents help their children into comfortable stable adulthood and the kids actually care for their aged parents untill they pass. I am disgusted by the people out their who just shove their aged parents in a nursing home because they cannot be bothered with caring for their aged parents. Out of sheer appreciation for my mother's contributions to my life I will not be sticking her in a nursing home, and forgeting about her as I have seen people do. Volunteer at a retirement home and you'll be shocked at just how awful a place it can be.
my dad is 88 . i have made him a offer to build a tiny house in my back yard to live in free heat free ac free landury free food he makes apx 2k per month just to keep him out of a nursing home, he his a free man the offer is there but i cant make him come if he dont want to or dont ask.
duude with today's economy and housing prices. I even think about building a clan to live together
I personally have looked at housing in my surrounding areas, just to see what prices were like as far as houses, or renting. And seriously.....Yikes 😬 I have no idea how people can afford to live on their own...even WITH roommates.
@@Panda72021 With great difficulty.. I earn $75k a year and live in Australia.. with our over inflated housing, my wage keeps a roof over my head while living alone but I'll never be able to buy a house or retire
@@mrbrad4637 It sucks that there are so many people in the world who are made to feel like requesting the basics (Safe place to live, clean drinking water, livable wages, respectful community, etc.) is too much to ask.
@@Panda72021 exactly and to top it all off 5 years ago my father stole over $50k from a family business I started and bankrupted me, making me homeless.. Even my own parents are greedy boomers who only care about money and themselves.. It's a very sick world we live in and the previous generation has ruined it.. I'm just grateful I had the grit to keep on keeping on and start fresh
@@mrbrad4637 lol 😆😆😆if you can't live well as a single person on $75,000 a year...you don't know wtf you're doing! 😆😆😆
I got my own acre and single wide trailer working two minimum wage jobs after my wife passed and paid it off before I had to retire with emphysema...all while making $20,000 a year.
While she was alive, my wife and I combined never made more than $40,000 a year!
It's called swallowing your pride and working hard!
We had the 4 bedroom, two and a half bath cape cod...which was lost when she fell Ill and lost her job.
I grew up in the 70's, during the gas crisis, you couldn't get a job sweeping floors! My mom kicked me out at 18, so I worked with a traveling carnival show...because I sought out what was available.
The young generation has it tough, I'll grant you that, but smart decisions and a willingness to work 80hours can get you farther than you think.
My mom died when I was 40, so I couldn't have returned home if I wanted too.
As soon as I saw $75,000 A year and saw your whining, I had to let you know how "the working poor" live!
Now...smarten up, downsize a bit and be very fortunate you have such a well paying job.
And if I hear one more person cry about being unfulfilled at their job; well, that's why it's called "work", and not "play"....😡
There's something people need to know. In some homes the parents want there kids to stay home because they are such an asset to the home. In some cases the parents are aging and don't want to live alone anyway. It all depends
We, and I can't emphasize this enough, CAN"T AFFORD HOUSING OR BASIC ADULTHOOD.
Living in the SF Bay Area and being a part of the generation who has set our young ones up for failure I don’t see a problem with them living at home until they figure it out. I hear people my age (56) boast that they left home after high school or college. That was a different time. I could afford my first apartment. It’s literally impossible for young people starting out today.
Thanks for understanding
Well then they should work 2 or 3 jobs like I did at that age.
I went to college fulltime AND graduated in three years while working at three different jobs to pay rent.
Children are too soft nowadays.
- The retired accountant
Get roommates and jobs.
Staying with your parents even in your late 20s to early 30s is normal in some cultures.
Yes in Asian culture... We stay with our family, strictly adhere to culture/religion, look after our old parents...
So sad. It’s not normal in any culture unless you’re very rich or unwanted.
@@rangod1532 because the majority who DOES that are poor. That’s the driver behind the phenomenon. All rich Asian I know have their own places in some rich city for their kids.
@@111Econ financial is not only the reason why most Asians don't separate from the family but also because of the culture and religion...I agree that most Asian countries didn't have good time like boomers in the West
@@rangod1532 depends which Asians you’re referring to really. Filipinos do live with their parents no matter what. Indonesians/Singaporeans/ Malaysians will live alone if they’re financially able to do so. Chinese will move out indefinitely if they can, in fact unless you’re a filipino, it is considered an embarrassment to live with your parents over 23 years old..especially if you’re a man. So yeah, 90% financial and 10% cultural. Anyone who denies this are living with their parents and too poor to move out, so they use cultural reasoning to justify their actions.
In Africa mostly marriage is your only ticket of leaving. We mostly never leave. Only for school and jobs of course.
As a sri lankan it's the same
China as well. I own a home in China
I stayed home until 27. Obviously, I helped with groceries and bills, etc. However, my parents and I had a good relationship and doing so allowed me to buy a decent house with a couple of acres of property rather than rent an apartment in town or something first starting out.
No regrets, honestly.
That’s literally my same story. I loved it!
it can even be the opposite- i've paid all of the household bills since i was 18 and i am 24 now. my mom was just able to get a job and is working her way to financial independence again. people really don't see family helping family as something that is normal and noble; they see it as a failing on behalf of the younger generation. really sad.
And the next documentary will be about how the generation of our parents and grandparents is very lonely and isolated and how we don't take enough care of them. 😂
Not for long, it seems.
🤣🤣🤣🤣
Well this doc did say the resources flow one direction with a lot of “children” living at home, so it’s kind of true. Unfortunately most people I know my age who live at home don’t do much to support the household.
@Judi Grace Same here 👍👍👍 and I’m ready to go away anytime without bothering my children. 👍👍🇺🇸
@Judi Grace This is a doomed culture. You prefer to die than close ties with your offspring?
Read the comments for the real answer. Money. Not a world that's "Too real".
We've had the same median income for the last 50 years while rent, house prices, education, and everything else have increased exponentially.
You ain't lying.Adulthood sucks for millennials and the best advice I can give to generation z is to say no to drugs.
The staying at home with parents that occurred at the turn of last century is so much that of today because we have the same economic conditions- low wages, high cost of living and corporate monopolies.
I noticed many parents downsize into a small place so there is no room, no spare bedroom. hahaha
In some countries you pay higher taxes for having more bedrooms
They've done their job raising their children. Downsizing means don't come back. Go out and spread your wings 😁😁
It’s actually pathetic they even have to consider doing this..selling their house to buy a small condo so there’s no room…. It’s more like get out ,fly on yer own wings ,don’t depend on me.
@@farmersdaughter8493 You mean spread your cheeks.
The phrasing should be "why CAN'T young people leave home" not "why WON'T". And sociologists and economists can answer this question easily. The housing market is currently very inaccessible to young people and entry level jobs do not pay enough to afford the cost of living. Not to mention college debt is crippling and only becoming more so, and less and less families can contend with that as time goes on, making the agonizing crawl to stability from the bottom take even longer. Not to mention the skyrocketing rates of mental illness which can be attributed to many socioeconomic factors. Basically it's a systemic problem not a problem with "young people being lazy/bad"
Nah, "won't" is pretty apt too.
Get a job at an Amazon warehouse. I support myself working there. $15 an hr.
How is the housing market inaccessible? Only if you live in very expensive cities. Rates are historically low which means you can afford a higher mortgage. I bought a house in 2007, and could now (with the same credit score) get approved for a mortgage that is $60k higher.
@@ghostlyMostly1 That’s great advice if you live in an area where buying a home for under half a million is possible. We didn’t move to an expensive area, our area BECAME expensive. I really don’t want my kids to move half a world away from us and all their extended family just for cheap housing. I’d rather have them nearby because I not only love them, I like them too. Until they can afford a place of their own, they can stay with us, rent free, and save some money. Thank god we have a five bedroom house. An extra bathroom would be nice but we’ve survived with 2 1/2 for 20 years do it’s doable.
@@ghostlyMostly1 Totally untrue. Like your lack of comprehension of the current housing market is wild.
I’m in California, rent is definitely a struggle, I’m at home, but I work hard to earn my right to be there and I work towards moving forward. Also it’s not talked about a lot but codependency plays a big role too for certain toxic family environments.
Time to get out of Cali
Exactly
@@Bestwick1983 Not easy to do when you would be leaving your entire extended family behind.
Being stuck in a job where your not happy, welcome to adulthood
Amen
@@acooksla Wait until their parent kick the bucket. These people are going to crumble.
Facts....
I'm a 'boomer' and I went through a stage of 'going back home'. I went away to college out-of-state, coming home during the summers. Then I went to grad school much farther away, and then worked at the university for a couple years, coming home only on breaks. At 27 I took what was expected to be a 'permanent' job in a closer state, and this lasted until the company downsized to half its size, and I one of those who lost my job. I stayed on my own in the area for 5 months, looking for opportunities without any success. On my 30th birthday I moved back home which was in an area more likely to have opportunities, but this was in the early 1980s when a recession was coupled with high unemployment. I was quite frustrated, even starting to get physical symptoms, but my mother reminded me that "these are tough times; the situation will improve". Almost 11 months after having moved home, I found a new job a few states away, and had that one for 12 years, and it led to another a few hours farther away that I kept for 18 years. I retired from that one just before my 61st birthday--a year earlier than originally planned--to go home to help take care of my parents who were almost 90 y/o. This helped to keep them out of a nursing home, and allowed me to spend quality time with them. Ultimately, they needed to go into a nursing home when both dementia and being bedridden set in, and my sister and I, even with outside help, couldn't provide sufficient care. However, we visited them every day while they were there, and most of the staff treated them very well.
By the way, I should add that children should not make the 'golden promise' that a parent won't ever go into a nursing home--sometimes it becomes essentially unavoidable, and according to the 'AgingCare' website, family caregivers sometimes die from stress before the elderly parents do. Nursing homes are very expensive, so I doubt that most children just 'dump' them there, in part because nursing homes eat up money that the children might otherwise have inherited. BTW, while my sister and I visited in the nursing home, we often took time to meet and visit with other residents, some of whom didn't have family members to visit them.
I’m 44 and if my mom was alive I would definitely go home and she would have definitely welcomed me 🥰🥰 many cultures don’t even move until they have gotten married...
That’s ridiculous, independence is priceless
Im 42, my mom died too. I wouldn't go home even if she was alive. Us people that lost mothers/fathers, raised in the foster care system are at an advantage. These people let they're kids stay home to their own demise. When their parents die, they're not gonna be able to handle life.
You’re right! Where a friend of mine lives, you move out when you get married (Kuwait)
I'm surprised they didn't mention Greece. Lol. Kids live with parents till their late 60s
Lol, till they die.
Dear lord...Never.
Many Hispanic cultures are like this too. If up to my mom... we all live under the same roof till we need to invest on neighboring houses to expand the family empire. 🤣
All 3 of mine are still at home with me,including my daughters husband,jobs are uncertain,today you work,tomorrow you may not,wages are low,rents are high,food is costly so we all share,win-win situation,they can save up,I get help with the economic side and household chores.🤗
Wow. That's a totally a different culture.
I never wanna leave my parents, not because I'm lazy or because I'm selfish, but simply because I don't want to leave them, we have rented most of our lives and are planning to buy a house soon now that me and my sister are done with high school, I'm lucky to have young parents, I'm 19, my sister's almost 18, and they are 39
The only way my three adult sons will be out there in the cold, cruel world without any moral and monetary support that I can muster for them....will be when I am dead.
Strange that you refer to them as adults which typically is a title for those of mature ages. And thus should be well able to fend for themselves in a way children and youth are helpless. Smh
At 22, I kept my year of being homeless a secret rather than ask for help or move “back home.” I lived in a tent for four months and split the remaining eight months between my Chevy Nova, friends’ couches, and a study carrel at the university 24-hour lab.
I had no problem with my adult children returning home for various reasons after being independent for a few years. The time of stay ranged from a few months to a few years. My only requirement was that they contributed to the household costs which they all did for $100 a week, even if they were at university (which was only one child whom this applied to). They also contributed in other ways by cooking meals, doing their own washing and keeping their rooms tidy etc etc.
I would have no problem with my adult children moving home. As long as everyone contributes! ❤️
I agree, families lived together fro decades, it beats living in the strrets.
Quit babying your kids. They are adults
I think contribution is the key .. there is a big difference between adult children living at home and contributing and becoming part of the fabric of the household sharing in cost as they can, and the adult work of running the household vs. living with parents, paying zero rent, spending your money on yourself because you don't feel responsible to contribute , rather entitled, and not helping in cooking, chores, or even doing own laundry. The first scenario can be healthy and nurturing to the family , the second scenario benefits no one in the long term.
My parents would have been happy to have me in the house until I was 40 plus. We have a great relationship. I wish more people had that.
@@Kona_Blue Living on your own don't make you an adult either, especially if youre relying on mummy and daddy to do contribute to your rent and bills.
Living at home is pretty common in Asia and no one gets ostracised for it, because the young are expected to care for the old as part of their culture and beliefs that you should honor and take care of your parents in their old age.
The young adults of this generation just doesn't have enough money to lived on their own compared to the young adults back then. I mean real estate apartments and houses are freaking expensive today unlike in the 50s or 60s.
I the 50s and 60s workers were making $1.50 an hour. Now, it’s $15.00 an hour idiot.
@@miketheyunggod2534 Yeah people are making $15 an hour today but the rent cost more compared back in the 50s where the rent only cost $45 while today the minimum cost of rent is already $901 and that's just the rent, there's still other bills that you still need to pay today like electricity, water, internet and cable or streaming subscription and many more!
@@miketheyunggod2534 dollar for dollar expenses have far outpaced wages. You are not very knowledgeable of inflation and the significant increases to housing/medical/food/education, etc...
@@johnfisher8401 Good for you. Not everyone is lucky enough to get one.
I moved out at 20, and staying that long was... A difficult experience. 17 years later Ive never returned. I just cant imagine.
Here's my take on it, for what it's worth. Coming from a "mother" who these days would rather step over her kids in the street, rather than let them move back into the family home, having lost my son in a motorcycle accident when he was just 29 and having my baby girl at the age of 43, I can honestly say that my daughter will ALWAYS have a home with me, for as long as she wants it. I can't think of a person that I'd rather spend my time with on this planet than her. She's my joy. She's 14 now, but she has known how to do laundry, food shopping, cooking for a few years now. I was never taught ANYTHING by the above mentioned mother (for fear that we would get it wrong), that I grew up unprepared, clueless and with no confidence. My little girl is being taught how to get on in this world, God forbid something should happen to me. Until then, she can stay with me until she needs to or wants to.
I totally agree....my kids can stay with me at my house for as long as they want..I love them.
I love my son but after 28 years it was time for him to move out. I packed his stuff when he went on vacation with his fiancee and moved him out to her house while they were having fun. It's been 3 years now and they both agree it was the best thing. I have my life back. I sold the house got a 1bedroom apt. Now I take vacations and I'm happy as well.👍😎🥳
You were too soft with him.
I couldnt wait to get away from my mom. The day after I turned 18 I was gone, and never moved back!! Im now 38. Too much dysfunction at home.
I get you. I left at 17 due to parental alcoholism. But it was incredibly painful and difficult. I wasn’t ready but had no choice. However, I made sure that I didn’t inflict that sort of toxicity on my own family. Not every family is a total nightmare.
I relate I got out at 17 to escape the abuse. Lived with friends until I could get an apartment with my boyfriend at 18. Now we have a house and we are married and I still can barely talk to my family because of many reasons.
@@emansona I’m happy that you’ve managed to make a great life for yourself and sorry that you grew up in an abusive family. I just wanted to reassure you that you aren’t your parents and you don’t have to repeat their mistakes if you choose to have a family of your own. Be mindful of what went wrong in your parents lives and always try to make better choices for your own family. You can do it! History doesn’t have to repeat itself. I personally have chosen not to drink alcohol because I never wanted for my kids to see me that way. I’ve succeeded in that at least.
Same, moved out a few mi this after turning 19 several years ago and never, ever looked back. It was not a healthy environment. I made sure to create a good home life for my kids as they grew up.
My parents are both Narcissists and sociopaths. I grew up with an alcoholic dad who called me names and made fun of me growing up and a mother would steal my money and personal belongings. I finally had enough so I went homeless, got a job working homeless and then found an apartment a few months into the pandemic. It was horrible but it had to be done. People don't realize how rampant narcissism/psychopathy is with this generation it is not always a matter of not being able to afford moving out.
I honestly won’t mind if my kids wants to live with me as long as they need ,,, It’s more worth living to me to be with my family vs being alone in a house...
Whats nicer than living with your love ones
I agree. I would love to have my daughter home for as long as she wants. Why not? If you get along with your kids and they take care of their responsibilities then its fine.
Same, mine will always be welcomed back.
All 3 of my adult children still live at home with me,one is married so her husband is also with us.We have an agreement to contribute to all household expenses together,works just fine,we all help each other.win-win situation.
So many people acted like there must be something wrong with me when I didn't leave home at this so called magical age of 18. I've never appreciated that attitude. A lot of so called friends just came right out and said "What are you still doing living with your parents?!" In a very disgusted tone. Their judgement is so sad because even as a child I was blessed to live in a family that was just that, a family! We love together, we work together and we live together. We take care of each other. Sure, I have a life away from my family too but it's great to come home to roommates that are also great parents. Not everyone has that.
I'm single, I didn't feel that I would enjoy living all by myself. I pay rent, I do my own laundry and housework... Some have a family that is made up of their spouse or their 1+ children. My family is my mom and dad and my little dog. I don't "live with my parents". I live with my family and maybe someday that family will change and grow but right now I'm happy, we're happy and that's all that should matter ❤
I graduated from HS at 18, left for college 520 miles away and never really returned until age 33. After law school, I needed a place to live while I studied for the bar exam. However, even after I got a job, the salary was insufficient to cover my own living costs and repayment of student loans. I continued living at home for 12 years! Now, I did a lot for my elderly parents including seeing them through cancer surgery and recovery, spinal surgery and recovery, etc. I did all the outdoor work, mowing, etc. and a good portion of the housekeeping, cooking, etc. I did not pay rent or for food, but I paid in kind for room & board. Ultimately, it enabled me to pay off my loans and save for the down payment on a house. When I left, 1000 miles away, my parents accused me of abandoning them. 😬🤷🏻♀️
Yeah that’s what I fear.
With the pandemic and its lockdowns, comes a decimated job market and opportunities for social connection, they will never move out of their homes.
Its bad enough that a one bedroom apartment in the US is over 1500 dollars a month!
@@voodootrucker1896 those better jobs don't exist anymore. Programing and trades fields are oversaturated and are not hiring entry level anymore
Nothing that says independence more than having your own personal rent to owe.
Job opportunities are booming right now and this problem was already happening before the pandemic. But job opportunities doen't matter when wages are unlivable and the housing market is inaccessible. Creating jobs doesn't matter if the jobs don't pay and the price of everything else you need to live is being inflated.
@@roadkill5727 and where are those oppotunties are in? Which jobs? Because you sound like a person who is regutiating what a talking head would say.
Absolutley ridiculous. Every maritime shipping company hires deckhands with no experience 365 days a year. My company hires at $250 a day and probably has 100 openings all over the country. That's about 65k/75k a year. Full benefits and pension. No more excuses, kids.
My family has the opposite problem. My parents live with my brother and provide childcare and rent and groceries because they didn’t save for their retirement. My parents are both in the 60s with $0 saved for their retirement. They are both counting on a small inheritance from their respective parents. I will not make this mistake.
Did they pay for your college?
Nope. They were poor enough that I got aid from FAFSA and had to take out $20k in additional student loans when the grant money ended.
Yikes
I know a couple who told their 17 yr old son that they would pay his full living expenses "as long as he's in school." He is now 37 yrs old, still racking up degrees, & has never worked a job a day in his life. Now the son is depressed "because he doesn't fit in anywhere."
In Malaysia, its normal. The children will take care of the parent when parent are getting old n frail which no need to send them to a nursing home.
Thats great
I was on my own and independent from age 18. The last 2 years of my moms life I helped take care of her along with my brother. She died this year at 91.
@Donatelli Hahaha, I know; right?
Same in India.
Same in Italy.
Because this silly western culture makes no sense to the rest of us international folk around the world. Move out if you get a job that requires you to move elsewhere in the country/world? Sure. Move out for the sake of moving out to avoid ridicule as a rite of passage into early needless poverty? No thanks.
Silly Western Culture to you perhaps....
@@voodootrucker1896 wow you're everywhere do you?
Move out cause you are an adult case closed I was out at 16!
@@airbornestoner3077 You were *kicked out* when your momma caught you doing drugs, be honest.
@@Euclides287 what’s a drug!
So what. I’m 33 and still live at home. I help my family...it’s a win win and we enjoy each other’s company. Although they do get on my nerves sometimes :)
Bingo. Its not a big deal especially if you have a good relationship
That man that knew he would not be thrown out had no incentive to pursue his career. The parents gave him the incentive to be independent. Good job of parenting.
My grandfather didn't even finish high school and still was able to provide for their 6 kids while my grandmother stayed home. Now both parents are forced to work and pay for expensive childcare.
Child care will take a whole paycheck for some
Because of inflation lol back then you can buy a bunch from a single dollar. Look now a dollar it aint worth anymore..
@@pamelaneibuhr6959 my friend doesn't work bc childcare would cost double her salary lol
@@lavenderoh it does, pretty sad
Sadly so
Because with the median income is around 30,000 and the average rent for a studio apartment is 1800 and taxes going up, you do the math, hey it's the parents generation that created this mess, these are the reprecussions to their actions in not protecting our economy when they had a chance by voting the same way.
There it is. Blame the generation before you. Classic.
@Keith Steward Don't be silly. The latest iPhone, Nikes and artisanal coffee are more important than setting yourself up for your future.
$30,000 is plenty when you sleep in a vehicle.
That's no excuse either 🚛👍😆
@@Bestwick1983 There is truth to the statement though, you must admit, the economic situation is this way not because of magic.
Whenever they show families like this it's always parents who are financially secure. I can't relate to that because I literally make the same amount of money that my parents do and we need each other to survive basically. Especially now during the pandemic.
Haven't finished watching but how do we expect these kids to afford anything with this economy and crazy world. They have more obstacles to face than any generation in the past. Times are hard.. I would live with my kids forever but they left 😕
Any generation in the past? Like those that came out of two World Wars and a decimated post-Depression economy? Jesus H Christ you people are out of touch.
@@Bestwick1983 no bc people like that still were old fashioned and ppl controlled themselves in many aspects. Family values were stronger.
It is harder for this generation in my opinion. With e everything thrown at them. It's just an opinion.. you may be right.
@Keith Steward that is what my boys did..you are correct. Still I cant help but feel bad for young ppl today
As a 19 year old living at home in the UK, my parents have told me they are ok with me staying at home, but this would honestly be a last resort for me. I'm very keen to get out there and support myself, I literally had a breakdown thinking that i could be living at home at 27. Nightmare with this pandemic, competition for jobs makes it impossible.
One huge thing, a single teacher from the 50's or 60's. Was able to purchase a 2 or 3 bedroom house. On that single teachers wage.
You can't even fathom this happening today! Or at least not here in the delusional state of California.
Where have all the good times gone 😪
Amazing how times changes
When I was 23 already had my own home, car and a decent job.
I left parents when I was 19
Yes, we could do it back then. Much tougher now. Times have indeed changed.
@@SelenaSea let me break this dowm! House $ 100.00, car, $50.00 . Done!
Yeah, you got your house and your car out of a bubble gum machine, for a few pennies. Not so today, plus all jobs in Asia.
@@ursulasmith6402 lol
It's common in East. The West unnecessarily planted such stupid ideas.
It may be stupid to you, just as your ways may be stupid to westerners. Try to open your mind and not be so judgmental. It will help you in life.
Gotta say, I'm pleasantly surprised that the comment section isn't tearing millennials apart. I moved out of my parents' house a week after I graduated college, lived on my own/paid my own bills for four full years... and then my engagement broke up AND I lost my job in the same month. I looked at EVERY other option before crawling back to my parents.
Living with them for the year that I did wasn't easy- I certainly wasn't the 22 year old they had watched leave. But I got a full-time job that I loved and still pine for now that I've lived in another state for almost 3 years. Despite saying they would, they never charged me rent and I was able to save up a good nest egg so I could move and look for a job sanely. I'm very grateful that my parents allowed me to come back.
As a millennial I am not surprised at all we millennials normally have returned home nowadays after having are own private life for 18 to 25 years.This pandemic making the situation more common.Now to live with your parents for 25 to 30 years as a millennial is just unambitious and disregarding your privacy.
Grateful ?
Why feel grateful?
They're the ones who brought you to this world
That dead rent you were paying for 4 yrs was a totally foolish move, that could have helped your parents or given you more savings, why on earth do western women think they have to live by themselves to prove they are adults and open themselves to more danger, and what kind of father lets his daughter live anywhere where he can't protect her in the name of so-called independence.
@@RoseMary-vs3io My parents don't need help, they are quite well off. And I wasn't living by myself. I had three roommates. Excuse me for not living with my parents, two hours away from my job 🤣 My career can only be done in certain places, and certainly not my hometown. And what would my dad need to protect me from?
Be thankful. When I was younger, I tried to save money to better my situation, but my mom never made good money so I had to help financially. When she lost her house, she and my brother moved with me and my two boys. I'm paying for the groceries and most of the rent/bills on top of my personal bills. My savings to buy a house has plummeted (I'm currently renting). To top it all off, I don't even have my own bedroom or a say in much of anything. I'm becoming very resentful. I keep thinking about getting a U-haul and finding a two - bedroom apartment. I already don't have a room anyway, so not much would change there. I'd save money and have a fraction of the stress, though. I'd like to preserve my remaining sanity.
I feel like everyone in the comments is very privileged to have kind families that they feel comfortable living with for extended periods past childhood . My mother is bipolar and I literally became a stripper to buy my own house( I wanted stability which I was never given in childhood so renting was not what I wanted either , I wanted a place no one could take from me or control me ) . I see so many people my age with lip fillers , nice shoes and clothes and yearly holidays and festivals ( I literally buy things when they break and have only been on holiday twice in my life ) .
You could say it was my ‘choice’ to do that , to save all my money for a house and to become a stripper , people even judge me for my old job . But if you live in a unstable scary home growing up and standard jobs ( even my graduate job wasn’t enough ) won’t allow you to save for a mortgage then what can you do?
Not everyone has a nice healthy family, you can empathise with people staying at home , you should stretch your empathy to those of us who have to ‘stoop’ as that one mother in this video said to doing jobs they don’t think are good enough for their children .
I lived with my parent’s for a year after graduation without paying for rent. If they had charged rent, there’s no way I would have lived with them. I moved out a year and a half ago, though they still help me pay my student debt payments, but only because I wanted to work immediately after college and my parents pressured me to continue school. I told them that if it mattered so much to them that I get a Masters, they’d have to pay for it. Both my parents have graduate degrees and they were embarrassed by the prospect of their only child having less education than them, even though it was obvious to me that the degree wouldn’t help me at all. And I was right. I’m still underemployed and make a salary less than half of what they each make. But I make enough to get by on my own, and I have no interest in living with my parents again. I’d rather be poor than live with them. The only reason I would move back in is to avoid homelessness. They have a much more comfortable lifestyle than I do, eating out regularly, spending on unnecessary crap, whereas I have to budget for every dollar I make. But the independence is worth it. People who live with their parents into their late 20’s and 30’s must either have a healthy relationship with their parents or extreme patience. I envy them. Good for them, they can save for their future, and will probably be financially better off than me in the long run. My parent’s want me to move back in, but I don’t have the mental stability to deal with them. And yes, it’s true, some parents do want their adult children to live with them. Every couple months, my parent’s remind me how much better off I’d be if I wasn’t “wasting money on rent”.
We’re in a pandemic and there’s no jobs. Where else do you expect them to go?
This has been going on for the last 20 years moron.
Struggling without parents help unless parents are rich
Exactly,This how babyboomers thought when they were growing up.But they are extremely delusional.It don't apply to millennials.More than likely a millennial will return home with 18 to 20 years of being on their own.Why? Thats self explanatory.
Pandemic has only been a year...
In Italy, this has always been the tradition - men stay at home until they marry.
It gives them a tremendous emotional and financial footing. 🤗🏡🤑
“ when I was your age, our parents hadn’t printed our future into oblivion”. That’s the truth! I’m a boomer, and my first house was $46,000, and it would cost $500,000 today!
It wasn't the boomers, it was the government, banks Wall Street big investors and Wall Street brokers.
It started with the 1999 "affordable" housing act when Clinton and Congress thought about it politically rather than logically. It turned a huge crisis that kept building up until 2008 when both Housing and Wall Street.
Then in Obama's kingship (President s have much too much power. It stated with Wilson in 1913) when government totally took over student debt and colleges and Universities raised tuition because it was basically government ensured. I read that student loans make up 45% of the government's income. They will never let go of the Golden Goose but will only "promise" fairy dust" before re-election comes around.
Everything has gone to ashes in the 21st century!!!
Now, more than ever a person can depend on himself, family and friends while navigating our dystopian nightmare. It doesn't surprise me. I read lots of dystopian novels growing up and as an adult.
My oldest pretty much lived at home until around 24. Then he got married at 26. He'd been out of the house for a couple years at that point. On the other hand, our second child is now 17 and is chomping at the bit to get away lol. I think it's an individual thing. But my husband and I do have one rule. If you're not in school, you have to have a job. That's it.
I’m 24 and I live from home. I moved back home to save money but I’m moving out in a few months. I have been helping with the bills, buying groceries, washing my own clothes, and cleaning up around the house.
I've always told my dates that I live with my parents. Most of them are hesitant or shocked when I tell them. But what they don't realise is that I was a breadwinner at the age of 15, who'd promised my dad that I'd take care of my mom and 2 sisters before he died. Now, I have 0 debts at 33, and is financially stable. And some of my dates are still like, "Your mom washes your clothes?"
And I'm like, "I hired a maid who comes in every weekend. I'm not a freeloader. Just italian."
I Feel horrible still living at home. I'm now in my 30's. I didn't date through most of my 20's because I was so ashamed. I moved back home to change careers and earn a degree while working full time, I'm saving for a deposit, working full time and paying rent to my parents every month as well as helping with upkeep. But the prices of living in the UK are exponential. I feel like what ever progress I make, it's not going to be enough. I even started playing the lottery because that's essentially how I'll get a deposit for a house and some more independence.
Lets see: EVERYTHING IS SUPER EXPENSIVE.
No, only nice, new things are expensive. My groceries are $25 a month, bus pass here is $40 a month, rent a cheap studio $500. Hmm not that hard in my city. If you want a roommate you can get a private room + all utilities paid for $400 a month. So if you are being squeezed and you are a low wage owner MOVE to a cheaper place.
Only one of mine went to uni. The two that didn't, earn 100k a year the other one has 3 degrees and lives in London and works at a university full time while studying at another university none have came home except to visit often. I feel blessed as feel like there all sorted
What are the careers of your children that earn 100K a year if you don’t mind me asking?
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I could not move back in with my mom. I’ve lived on my own for over 10 years. I could just see us arguing all the time 😂
"our two sons have absolutely no motivation to do anything" ha , I feel that way and I am 61
I don't believe this topic is a whole documentary! I didn't even know this was an issue. Im 27 living at home... I feel attacked lol
You do you, friend. Do the best with what you got. 👍👍
I think the issue is not living with the parents itself. Many people do for many reasons. The issue is treating you parents house like a hotel, a place where you sleep but don’t have to do your share of house work and not giving money to help out when you could have (like the girl who even worked abroad and just wanted to have a big savings account)
@@FeScully That's true
Dont let anyone make you feel ashamed. A LOT of people are secretly jealous.
I'm from Colombia, S.A. It is normal for adults to live with their parents. And parents live with there kids. We don't have old people homes
im 33 and live at home with parents. im currently saving up to get my own place and hope to get out by 35. I cant leave it later than that.
Was out at 16 ......forced to work 2 jobs fought my way through this world 🌎and iam now a UPS DRIVER making enough to save, eat ,roof over my head. Gotta get on that grind fly away from the nest.
My neighbor has 2 daughters 29 & 27. Total failure to launch. Neither work nor are looking IMO. I personally feel it’s on the parents. I finished high school my mom said get a full time job or get out. So I definitely did get a job because as an 18 year old adult I needed to leave the nest soon and she needed to know I could make it.
My big question is what happens when the neighbor dies? One daughter will marry off. She’s beautiful but can’t boil and egg truly.
The other one has zero chance of moving out independently. Will she be homeless forever? How severe will “failure to launch” be?”
My other neighbor, a huge old age home.... The People are so lonely, depressed and utterly alone. Imagine investing all your love as much and as long as you can to then be dumped in a home. 💔💔💔💔 Some of them sneak out of a hole in the fence just to get away & go outside. The police are usually called and their brought back to the lonely room they’ll die in.... devastating to see.
Me: confused in asian
I swear... Me tooo 🤣🤣🤣
Me too...
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I’m black American and I’m confused. 😂 I expect mine to stay home, work, go to college until they are financially stable.
@@karmag4244 YOU are a good parent.