The way the daughter is looking at her while she’s talking, you see she’s been hurt by the words but now she’s numb. Her daughter is gorgeous. I love this episode!
@@idowueniola17that is the point though? So let's just ignore how the daughter feels and let's pity the parents who have forced their children into this predicament?
@@idowueniola17 a child is not more wrong than this immature grown woman. How do you expect a child to understand what an adult can barely even? The mother is immature emotionally, she putting those emotions on that gurl in ways not meant for a child from a mother. Just bcuz so many blk mothers are like this don't mean it's rite. We have to break the cycle of screaming to our kids the same things our parents screamed to us. We have to stop having kids as kids, and then blaming the kids for our faults. Alota yal parents dead wrong.
If the mom acts like that in public on tv, I can only imagine how she speaks to her and treats her behind closed doors. Sad. I hope they can find healing.
Girl please. You obviously have 0 understanding. You can take your whites only pie some where else cause we ain't eating that crap over here. You don't KNOW or can even comprehend what this woman life is like. So quit trying to judge a situation you can't even read the Blueprint to.
That is a overwhelmed mother. Stretched beyond her means. Poverty and stress and limited options does that. She has a good daughter and with the help he is providing for them. They will be alright.
This is a prime example of why it is important to be financially and emotionally stable before having children. Your burdens should never be your child’s burdens.
Very true. Money has been tight for me most of my life and I was one of those kids paying bills at home from summer jobs. My single Mom always struggled financially and was emotionally detached due to childhood trauma. Even at age 46 and child free, I couldn't imagine bringing a child into this world today. Everything is too darn expensive. Being financially strapped is very stressful. Really wears you down.
Y’all can’t blame the mom if the child ain’t making it better also go to school n ya mom wouldn’t had to move if y’all had a good home regardless if ya like the state u was in she had a home n lost it going to jail because the daughter didn’t go to school over some hair she could of did a natural style n call it a day no excuses to miss that many days of school for hair knowing it out ya mom n jail n ya lose everything again over ya attitude
Problem is most of the country is living check to check. You can be financially stable one moment and loose everything the next. Honestly, money is so unpredictable. The pandemic was a prime example of this.
This is why abortions should be an option everywhere and free. She didn’t even have the money for $100 sum rent so clearly she couldn’t afford to have an abortion and she had no one to help her so she had no choice. Ppl think that even if a parent isn’t financially or mentally stable they should still have a child which i cant wrap my head around bc how are they supposed to provide and nurture the child
You can’t condemn the daughter for her behavior without acknowledging the unstable environment she has been forced to grown up in. Naturally, a child with an absent father, a young & verbally abusive single mom, in and out of shelters, and living in poverty is going to have behavioral issues. It’s unfortunate because no child should have to live in survival mode.
Boo hoo 😶, I know people who were in that situation....and child was not disrespectful. And the mother curses like a sailor...The Bible does say " spare the rod, spoil the child is not good. (Proverbs 13:24) The child did say she knows her mom will not spank her(🤦🏼smh), and admit swinging on her. My children are in their 40's and knew in their teens knew better because I didn't spare the rod and will use that rod at any age cause to me I demand respect. That's what's wrong with some of the children in these times parents spare the rod, and kids abuse their bad situations.
You are 110% correct.!! This generation thought they are wiser than God. By over looking minor behavior from the onset that will lead to major disaster in the future. The daughter is now at the point of swinging her mom. Who dose that? (Proverbs 22:15 KJV ) Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.
Respect goes both ways. The way the mom talked to her daughter is teaching her how to communicate with others. It's a generational curse that needs to be broken. Your children will be a reflection of what they see.
Respect was given by the mother from infancy period. This girl wasn't in system. In and out of foster homes and shit. Yall will make a million excuses.
exactly and ima say this, there’s a difference between respect and doing that bare minimum. a lot of parents give the BARE MINIMUM. the bare minimum is never enough for nothing, you would never want the bare minimum for anything especially caring for your children, you’re supposed to care for them, make sure they have a roof over their head and make sure the stay out of the system…ok. but what else? give them respect, hear their emotions and make sure that they are actually heard, that’s above the bare minimum, something a lot people fail to realize or do so then that kid will begin to…LASH OUT, hurt people hurt people.
@@panafricanismstrikesbacki so agree. my mom was disrespectful as hell. i decided that that i wouldn’t be like that with my children. i wasn’t and they are very respectful
@@rubyjaezEveryone behaves and responds differently when faced with adversity, stress, anxiety, homelessness, fatherless, there's no telling how the mom actually behaves behind closed doors. This doesn't justify the daughter's behavior but we are all different. What loving, caring mother calls their child out of their name? My mom never called us out of our name.
Mom is speaking from lots of trauma and transferring that onto her beautiful girl. No villains here, just lots of hurt. I hope they both get help and the cycle stops here. Generational trauma is no joke.
He gets it. He really gets it😭😭😭 The school bullying. The verbal abuse. The struggling mom. The sassy, but normal teen behavior verses the extreme. Kuramo deserves so many more viewers.
Her true character fully showed up as SOON as her daughter came out. How do parents expect anything more from their children than what they GIVE them smh sad
No fr and I saw like one of two comments agreeing with the mother.. I truly feel bad for the teenager because she basically doing teenager stuff you know I don’t even think the mother should’ve went on the show if she knew that she was in the wrong 👎🏿👎🏿
I see what she meant. The risk of what can go wrong for a girl out in the streets are on a whole other level. She even mentioned that a boy isn't as high risk when he leaves the house at random but a girl is in a constant state of vulnerability because so much could go wrong.
@@cela9852 Okay but she’s acting like boys can’t be endangered when going out alone either, theres high chances for things to go wrong and a boy goes out alone especially at night aswell and she’s saying as if she wouldn’t worry when she should worry no matter what gender.
Exactly!!!! In her mind, she's doing the best she can, but she doesn't understand how she deals with stuff is toxic and negatively impacting her daughter.
@awadiaby1673 stop trying so hard to tell someone off!!! Speaking a fact or making an observation is not judging her! No one said anything bad about the mother or daughter! The fact is mom is very damaged! You just want to tell someone off! You're giving miserable vibes with your comment
"i just don't understand why my child is acting exactly like me." "my child is struggling because of me, why isn't she perfect?" as parents we need to expect as much from ourselves as we expect from our children, actually we need to expect more from ourselves to show the children how to act
I completely empathize with BOTH SIDES. I can tell that mother is trying. I can tell that mother is exhausted, she has no help, but needs to understand she can't let that affect the way she treats her daughter.
I hear what you're saying. But If you and your child fell into a pit, would you expect for your child to sit there and do nothing as you struggled to get you guys out? Or would you expect for them to help in getting you guys out of the pit? And how would you react if your child kept pulling you down every time you got a foot up? *It's easy* when you're not in this situation *to judge someone who is.* No one perfectly executes when they are this stressed. There are some things that the both of them can do better, but they are obviously in a pit. When you are this desperate, you don't have the time to worry about niceties, when you don't know if you will survive the situation you are in. There's a cycle here where you see a woman who was, more than likely, raised by a single mom *(with no support),* who's now trying to raise her own child as a single mom with no support. There are some emotional and communicative tools that she probably was never given. We take for granted that our parents instilled those in us, and we judge others who don't have them as if those were things that came naturally from us. But one thing you can't deny, is that *this woman absolutely loves her child.* And she is desperately trying to save her life.
I like this comment cuz everyone bashing the mom but don’t realize it’s hard being a mom and I think the mom is trying! But the daughter don’t get it cuz she’s a teenager just growing her emotions are everywhere
Perfectly said. I had a mom like this, but it took me becoming adult to understand why she was like that. I think that’s why I’m 36 with no kids right now. I’m afraid of being my mom in some ways.
She is acting out because her life is hard right now. This baby just needs stability and a home. Being homeless and in a shelter as a teenager 😢. I pray God graces her with peace and opportunities 🙏🏾.
@@ZionDoesMakeup raised 7 and 6 graduated HS 1 graduated with his associate degree! Because I said no child of mine would buck up to me, because I demand my respect as their parent? Wow! That’s why kids act the way they do! Y’all trying to be their friends and not their parent!
The mom just has so much anger inside her because of the situations she and her daughter are going through and I get that, but as a parent, you NEVER should take your anger out on your OWN kid, because THAT is exactly how your child becomes TRAUMATIZED for life
I don't support how the mother handles things, that goes without saying but I also understand that the "should have" language comes from people who don't know what it truly feels like to drown everyday...every single day. Not a hard period in your life, a decades long battle starting from birth. Not an excuse for the mother just an acknowledgement that telling her what she should be doing while she is quite literally fighting for their lives is unproductive. She needs support FIRST and then conversations about how she can be a more empathetic and emotionally regulated mother. Survive and then thrive.
she really needs to work on herself and do better. the way she goes about life in general is damaging. her communication skills aren’t built to mindfully raise a child with wisdom and patience. i can guarantee you ppl when you raise a child mindfully every step of the way they will have respect and dignity and peace.
Ya its not easy for both of them and they need to give each other a break..The kid don't look like a bad kid, mom also looks tired and emotional drained bad combination hope mom gets help so that she can help her daughter be the kid 😉 she wants to be.
And the fact when the mother was asked “do you love your daughter” she didn’t even hesitate to say yes . She’s struggling and tired but the fact she can’t communicate properly is hurting her daughter tremendously
The little girl is so sweet, so soft spoken I don't think she really means to be disrespectful to the mother, the mother is the one who pulls it out of her because she is having it hard and the girl is the closest person to her. I truly hope they can both rebuild their relationship and heal. I wish them nothing but the best. I know you don't know me, but I hope you see this, you are a beautiful girl Kailey, please rise up and break the cycle of poverty go to school and become great. LOVE.t
I have been a hot head teenager before so I know all the tricks .....it's definitely more layers to her🤣🤣 but that doesn't negate the fact that the mother still should talk to her better and she does need to break the cycle....
@@misspr33tyf33t you could be right cause I also thought the same thing, but then again she had the same composure even when she was back stage, hence my conclusion.
There’s a word for that. It’s called “Reactive Abuse”. I learned about it in psychology when I was trying to understand narcissistic abuse from the hands of my mother
When the mom admitted to calling her daughter a bitch my jaw dropped, that is HORRIBLE. That explains why the daughter talks the way she does, shes hurt from a young age and shes a child, she doesnt know how to communicate properly yet. The mom doesnt even let her speak her perspective which is awful, she doesnt have a chance to vent and explain her pain. Poor little girl man, this breaks my heart sooo much.
@langa.888 actually not. I could never fathom calling my daughter a "b" constantly and consistently. The one person in life that you're supposed to be able to depend on to build you up is the very same person that's tearing you down over and over again. I do not condone disrespect by a child to any adults but this so-called mother is an embarrassment and a shame to motherhood. My question is where is her father especially if he sees her being treated like this he needs to man up and come get his daughter my heart breaks for this child. She can't win with this lady. Damned if she do damned if she don't. So I don't see this as a white response. I pray mother gets some help too.
I have three daughters 26, 21 and 15. I vowed to myself that no matter how much they pissed me off that I would never call either of them out of their names...and I never have.
I told my mom I can vividly remember the first time she called me a bitch and she said I must be making it up. For them it’s just another day but for us children it’s a core foundational memory.
The mom calling her daughter a b*tch is so wrong. The mother is the problem in my eyes. Why would the daughter act respectful when she has no stable home and the mother talking to her crazy. Their both frustrated I'm sure.
are you serious? Calling your daughters bitches is a black thing? Well I’ve never . My mom have 8 girls and never ever had I heard her called any of my siblings bitches . Never , if you think this behavior is ok please go and seek help .clearly you have child trauma that you’re passing on to your children. For peace sakes, if you love your children go get help and be a better parent
We need to talk more about how poverty is trauma. So much dysfunction, abuse, and mental/emotional instability stems from poverty. People, especially children, deserve so much more than survival mode.
the conversation hurts to have cause it effects so many who feel like they can’t do nothing about it. unfortunately avoid and denying comes so easy from that, which is what we have been doing as a whole but definitely in our community. sad cycle but you’re so right, the topic needs to be had more!
I really wish he touched on how she talks to her daughter. I feel as though I resonated with this girl on such a deeper level. I was her. Same demeanor, same speech, same pain. As someone who’s been in the other side of an emotionally immature mother and is finally getting the relationship I’ve always wanted with my mom I can tell you now that stuff leaves lasting scars on a child.. respect goes both ways. You can’t expect your child to respect you if you don’t do the same. It’s not “what I say goes” because your child has a spirit and opinions just like you
She's underage who else gon look out for her dumb@ss? If she already wasn't in a good situation how acting by herself would make it better? Y'all complaining cause she doing her mom role but what she supposed to do?
Yea she was completely valid. Like Karamo said they both are. I’m glad they came on cuz it really is just a communication issue mixed with and unstable environment.
Mom knows at any time they could be without anything. Daughter has not had enough experience and responsibilities to understand the extent of what could happen. She could have made them lose their spot at the shelter and her mom had to go to jail behind her. And probably still expects hair done and new clothes. Mom is afraid of losing everything including her kid and in the process was about to lose her mind.
The mother is obviously stressed which is okay, but not only she can’t get a hold of herself, she’s taking it out on her daughter in a very abusive way. Yelling and cursing won’t pay the bills or set that child straight. Child who is sadly so calm because she’s emotionally checked out from her mother freaking out about responsibilities she obviously struggles with
Nowhere in my reply to your comment did I say that she calling her daughter the best word was ok. If I did please point it out to me. What I said is that your comment is nonsensical because you are making a contrast between the two and their demeanor, where one is the sole provider (the mother) of the household and knows she is drowning, while the other one is taken care of (the child) and has no worries in the world meaning she doesn't have to wonder or figure out how to put meals on the table, pay the rent, pay gas, pay light, buy supplies etc. Ofcourse the one who is of the knowledge of all this will be on edge. Why would the damn child be on edge?
My father used to call me a bitch and it was and is still so hurtful today. To hear such hateful, sexist words from your own parent is a different type of pain. Not everyone should be parents. If you can’t respond to your child with love and kindness and respect, don’t become a parent.
This "mother" is the problem! When she said if she was a boy things would be better because he could just run the streets... I can't even unpack that right now...geesh!
I loved how she said, “I want it to be back how it was” tells me she knows her mom has been there and trying hard for them. Sometime children feels like it’s there fault when parents are in a struggle and that can cause them to lash out.
She has a good kid. She is a teenager. Give her a break. All that cursing/yelling, moving,shelter, jail,cps, poverty, bullying is a lot for a kid & is traumatizing. She could be doing worse than staying in her room & phone. But at least the mom didn’t abandon her kid & is trying to get it together financially. He hit it right on the head. Agreed. She loves her kid, gotta be more gentle & communicate better. Pray for them
Some parenting classes might be helpful as well.Sometimes ppl have to be literally forced to get the help,and education needed in order to see the error in their ways.I’m not sure why CPS didn’t require mom to complete some services because mom made it no secret she was verbally abusive to her daughter.
EXACTLY U HIT IT ON THE HEAD bc momma has her own trauma to heal from an SHES TRYING TO DO EVERYTHING RIGHT BY HER BABY (now I DO NOT AGREE WITH HER CALLING HER BABY NO BI**H AT ALL BC NO MOTHER SHOULD EVER CALL THEY BABIES OUT OF THEIR NAMES LIKE THT IDC HOW ANGREY U GET) but LIFE IS BEATING HER AHH an she’s been doing the best she can for a while now it may not look like much to some of yall but to the rest she’s doing the damn thing an her kid is being a teen but there’s a certain boundary that she crosses with her momma an she knows she’s been crossing it but when she gets older she’s gonna KNOW her momma loves her yea it wasn’t perfect at ALL but her momma tried HARD
This momma is tired and her own disappointment has caused her to shut down and take it out on her daughter. God bless Karamo for not judging but offering a platform of support to encourage healing
My heart hurts for the daughter 💔 i can see the hurt in her eyes from the things her mother says to her & about her & by the way she acts. I hope they can both overcome this & become closer & have a loving relationship.
Mom is the problem. The daughter is mirroring the treatment she received by her mother. The mom probably had the same upbringing and mirrored that same parenting style she endured. The young girl needs stability and security. Her parents failed this young girl. The father not helping his daughter is wrong, but the mother's lack of stability, aggressive behavior, and overall chaotic nature is responsible for the behavior. They both need therapy. No parent should speak to their child like that in private nor in public. The daughter is reacting to her chaotic environment.
@@sandramartez6472 girl yes she is the problem stop being in denial the mom need to listen to her daughter instead of keep talking over her, she has trauma she need to heal instead keep being mad at the daughter for messing up in life when she is just a fuckin kid
The mom speaks so aggressively. I couldn’t imagine what this little girl is going through. Seeing the end where Karamo says he’ll help the mom really mad me cry. Bless you Karamo for everything you’re doing for the community. I hope that their relationship gets better now that some weight is lifted off the mom’s shoulders.
Never have I switched up empathising for anyone as fast as I did with the mom. I don’t wonder where she gets it from at all. She didn’t even let her finish a sentence.
If you and your child fell into a pit, would you expect for your child to sit there and do nothing as you struggled to get you guys out? Or would you expect for them to help in getting you guys out of the pit? And how would you react if your child kept pulling you down every time you got a foot up? *It's easy* when you're not in this situation *to judge someone who is.* No one perfectly executes when they are this stressed. There are some things that the both of them can do better, but they are obviously in a pit. When you are this desperate, you don't have the time to worry about niceties, when you don't know if you will survive the situation you are in. There's a cycle here where you see a woman who was, more than likely, raised by a single mom *(with no support),* who's now trying to raise her own child as a single mom with no support. There are some emotional and communicative tools that she probably was never given. We take for granted that our parents instilled those in us, and we judge others who don't have them as if those were things that came naturally from us. But one thing you can't deny, is that *this woman absolutely loves her child.* And she is desperately trying to save her life.
@@janepatton8100 We found the child abuser her. You really think you own kid who you put in the world, who never asked to be born, has to deal with YOUR shit? Then you traumatize the child who starts to act badly due to it and what you do? Beat the child, scream at her with swearings, etc. Wow great mom! People like you say "aw don't judge the mom" but go with all force to judge the child who has to pay for the parents mistakes. Loving has nothing to do with abuse ffs
They’re going through a rough time. Stability is so important for kids. Especially at that age. I hope they push through this rough patch and grow together.
@@gemz2894She’s a problem bcuz of the environment that she’s living in. And her mother is the one who created that environment. So, therefor the mother is the source of the problems.
I agree. They both are struggling and don’t see each others point of view. But karamo sees the love, and I’m so happy he helped them. The mother needs healing and deserves sympathy bc she likely did not know better putting herself in this situation, and the man is who is at fault for leaving them as well. It’s a very unfortunate situation and I hope this money lightened their burdens
@@SiNCERELYTAYY1seriously… it’s almost like she expected it/felt entitled to it. I’d be surprised if she gets a home and keeps it. She’s a trash mom who resents her daughter because she’s becoming a young lady. These are the worst type of “mothers”.
@@MsBenitaButrell I could see on her face she was really shocked .. I think she loves her daughter and I do feel she will use the money for good use ....but she still should have said thank you and she should apologize to her daughter as well ...because what's going to happen is if she keeps verbally abusing her daughter when her daughter gets older she's going to resent her even more.
Mother is unstable. Evictions, jail, shelter, calling her daughter names etc... She is the one who decided to have a child with no stability what so ever. She's asking a lot from her daughter.
I feel so sorry for that little girl. You can tell she’s not really a bad child. The mother is horrible. She’s taking her failures and frustration out on that child.
@@chattingwithkeyyyzzz2971Yeah, it’s hard but it’s not impossible. Also, it’s not her daughter’s fault that her father isn’t in her life. So, her daughter shouldn’t be subjected to even more trauma fork her mother. Especially, since her mother is all she has. That’s the kind of selfless attitude that a mother is SUPPOSED to have.
Stop being a hypocrite. If you were in that situation you probably would've lost your ish a long time ago. Kudos to the mom for holding it down, however imperfect it may look.
That moms is literally at her breaking point. She is going through it and she feels like her daughter is against her too. That’s why she is acting that way. Unless you are a single mom with ZERO support and have went through it you will never understands it ABSOLUTELY doesn’t condone how she is treating her daughter, but attacking her is NOT gonna fix this
Imagine raising 5 or more kids though, I feel like she should never burden her daughter and I also feel the daughter most definitely should reap her Mom always. The Mom calling her day a bitch is so low. But I do hope they’re move past this and get back in the relationship that they were in.
Karamo is a real one for helping that lady out !!! That was so sweet. I can see the stress lifting up off of her. I hope her and her daughter develop a better relationship !
I like that both of them were honest and transparent with Karamo and the audience. The daughter was clueless on what her Mom was dealing with and why she was frustrated "yelling" as she puts it. Effective communication was missing which could help both of them work together cohesively. Now, that they are able to understand each other perspective and receive Karamo assistance, hoping they can move forward and progress along their life journey together. Thankful they came on the show. May God heal all wounds and give them peace, financial resources including debt removal and sound mind.
None of it is excusable, though. She knows she's hurting her child emotionally and mentally. She wants her to behave, but she's not modeling that behavior. This kind of behavior is all the child's been exposed to.
I don't agree that the daughter does not understand what her mother goes through. She has lived the same life as her for years. What I think she does not understand is why her mother speeks to her with such disrespect when she does nothing wild. She does not understand why her mother would treat her like that. And she would be right to not understand because it is not acceptable behavior.
This is a case of a mom who is mad because she can’t take care of her daughter. She feels so much shame that she can’t provide but has to much to pride. I wish she could realize that if it’s hard for her as an adult in the situation then it’s gotta be hard for her daughter going through it as well.
I don’t think she has too much pride at all, I mean, she’s literally breaking down on the air, explaining that she needs help, and that she doesn’t have it, and she’s financially strapped, she is wrong for the way she goes about her actions, but all I see is a young mother, who is financially strapped and trying to get her daughter to understand the situation she’s in. She’s going about it the wrong way.
@@melissabrower7722 she has to much pride when it comes to her daughter because she can’t breakdown or be vulnerable to her daughter and apologize to her for the situation and that it may be tuff/hard for to go through it. Instead she expects her daughter to suck it all up and just recognize and appreciate that she is doing the best she can…she needs to admit to her daughter that they are in a bad situation that is not fair to her and be more understanding on how it affects her daughter and then in return her daughter will also show empathy for how the situation is taking a toll on her mom and they can learn to get through it together. By making her daughter feel like she doesn’t have a reason to be upset is just pushing her away. She can admit to the whole world that everything is wrong but that means nothing if you cant admit it to your own daughter and apologize to her for it. She wants sympathy from everyone else but won’t give none to her daughter.
karamo helping financially is going to change their lives. you can so easily become a product of your environment and i understand being a single mother especially a struggling one like this is beyond tiring stressful and depressing and they need help! with this step they can then work on their communication skills especially the mother.
I've never cried during a karamo episode, but I cried multiple times during this. Im a single mum raising three daughters, one whose 15 and it's hard. I cant imagine the mountains of stress the mum is under, she's blowing up and unfortunately it's her baby whose wearing it, and then her baby turns around and treats her mama the same way because she's hurt. I'm so happy karamo decided to help them out
The cycle of poverty 😣 Mama is going THROUGH IT … but she has the luxury of understanding the situation, the daughter does not. Her daughter is a child. Praying for their well-being, and healing.
The daughter didn't ask to be born. Kids needs stability moving here and there is tough on children too. Poverty is the main issue, but the mom has to not take it out on her daughter.
@@misspr33tyf33tI’m sorry but she is a child. Her actions and behavior are a product of how her mom raised her. Clearly mom is in over her head and taking it out on her young daughter. The cycle continues..
This bought me to tears because I know how it is to be a single parent and struggle trying to make sure your kids are safe, healthy and supported! There’s no judgement from me! I pray that their relationship gets stronger and that they are okay! 😢❤
Yikes. I get it. I left at age 14 for similar reasons and never went back. I figured life out and God sent angels along the way. That little girl is a doll. She’s doing her best in a horrible situation.
I had a face full of tears because it is hard and I couldn’t imagine busting my butt like I do and my son making it harder I also don’t like the mom yelling at her all the time out of frustration or calling her out her name… they both need to get it together but it starts with the mom… she gotta do better
Just because its HARD OUT HERE Doesn't mean that these Black tired ass Single Mothers got to take it out on their own kids, this is the problem with BLACK SOCIETY today with Having Black Kids UNPREPARED, NO STABLE, NO FATHER In the Household. No Wonder Black Kids are the ONLY Ones that are Suffering in the Streets.
@@knightclassic1 lol I’m not talking about being a single mother being hard… I’m talking about how it’s financially difficult out here & everything is expensive
That young lady is frustrated because life has been difficult and mama is tired. I’ve been on both sides of the aisle and does get better. Mama please don’t give up on your baby girl because it will get better. Y’all are all you guys have.
That mother needs therapy. I’m a single mom of two and I’m barely managing but I can’t deflect my own pain and endurance on my children. That’s cowardly, weak and manipulative.
This episode brought tears to my eyes! 😭 The mother's really struggling, panicking about how to cope with her situation, which had made her act irrationality. Her daughter is also going through her own changes. The combination is explosive! I pray that they work it out. They seem to genuinely love each other. Their circumstances makes it hard to express 😢
This was beyond amazing. I could see the mothers and daughters pain. And I could see Karamo holding it together the best he could. For him to do this is beyond wow ❤❤❤❤❤❤
The mother is the issue, the mere fact ghat she could call her own daughter a bitch is crazy to me . The daughter is so well spoken she just needs better guidance and the mother needs help. Awful parenting
Okay who’s perfect though? A mom is still a human being. This lady was struggling to make ends meet BY HERSELF for her daughter who did not respect her at times. Put yourself in her shoes. As long as she’s willing and trying don’t judge. There’s some, FATHERS included that aren’t trying at all.
@@riahh340Yeah, yeah, yeah she's the only parent around and she deserves some grace whoopty damn do. Nobody told her to have kids 1, and 2 she does not have the right to abuse this child because raising her is stressful or hard. She's blessed God gave her a more docile child bc me personally, her ass would be on the front of an obituary 🤷🏾♀️.
Not perfect parenting, but I think it's frustration. They both need some help. I can relate to her frustration. BUT I WOULD NEVER INFLICT IT ON MY GIRLS. For all they know WE'RE RICH, AND ALL IS WELL. Even if I cry into my pillow at night. The both of them just need a shove in the right direction and a breather from tough times. Not Judgement and finger pointing!
I feel so bad for the daughter , like I know her mom might not have a lot of money but at the end of the day she’s still a teenager so it’s only natural that she’s going to want to fit in & want clothes, shoes , hair , etc. at that age. I’m 15 years old coming from a less wealthy household & I don’t think our parents don’t realize how badly we want to be heard even if we can lash out because we want to make the most of our teenage years. I can see how it might be confusing that we can act that way but at the same time we need to feel loved and supported.
This episode was so sad and good at the same time. It’s obvious that the mother is feeling stressed on multiple sides. I love Keramo’s solution because it directly targets the underlying source of the friction in their relationship: poverty and the ensuing lack of stability in their lives. 😐
I cried. As a mother of 5 and father not paying child support I been there. My kids are all grown and still hold some resent me towards me because we were poor. All are doing well but poverty left a deep hurt on them. This family will make it through. They may have scars but they will come through.
Speak the truth 👏. Black people have too many kids and the kids have to suffer in poverty. If you can't support kids on your own don't bring them into the world to struggle. Kids need more than food and shelter. They need a strong family base. Too many have a bunch of kids to stay on welfare. If you have 1 kid and go on welfare then you should lose those benefits if you decide to have more kids. You need Financial stability before you start a family.
I started to watching yesterday and I liked the the way he is helping the people. He is great person. Thank you for you helping mother and the daughter.
Me & my mom are in a very similar situation right now. As i'm typing this, we're sharing a bed, renting a room in her own boss's home. She's on the other side of the bed while tears are running down my face. I understand both of their perspectives, and I feel for them.
My heart goes out to you, I pray you heal and let go of all trauma you may be going through right now. Blessings to both you and you mother, I wish you the best in life. 💕
As someone with CPS experience I actually believe the child!! The mom has shown the world that she lacks accountability, emotionally mentally, and financially! She is abusive to her child, who is no where near what I’ve experienced in what is considered a problematic child! This child has been exposed to a very poor quality of life, meaning food, water, and shelter to include the lack of sustainable parenting! She has a right to be angry! She doesn’t need a dentition center, she needs stable parents with the emotional intelligence to help her thrive in life! Parents have to realize that provision does not equate to parenting!! It is your responsibility as a parent to provide an emotionally and physically safe space for your children. It is not their burden to carry or to consider what it cost YOU, and how hard it is for YOU as their parent! While it’s nice to have children who are considerate, parents must understand that it is still their responsibility! Stop placing the burdens of life on the shoulders of your children expecting them to carry what you can’t even carry yourself! Your child is not your partner or your helpmate! Out of the heart the mouth speaks… that mother does not love her child she sees her as a burden not a blessing. People’s view of you is based on where they have place you in their heart! We must teach our youth the importance of guarding their hearts as well!
I think it's just hard sometimes when your struggling to be gentle with your children not saying it's right but that's how my mom was and tho I hated I understand where it comes from. You gotta be tough when you're a single mom. Sometimes you end up being a little too tough. And it gets turned on you kids
@@KingofUnpopularOpinion I grew up with a single mom as well, and in my own healing journey I had to address what she failed to! What parents fail to address today their children will deal with tomorrow. People/parents need to be intentional with their healing so that they won’t continue to wound the next generation, and perpetuate at the cycle of abuse and brokenness!
This mom needs help. I'm seeing way too many comments judging this woman. The fact is if the mom wasn't there, no one would be there to even entertain this child's behavior.
Damn I am in tears ! This is just pure exhaustion on both of them , just burnt out from running in place and not having the mental , emotional space or even time to take second to be soft and loving
I had that little lump in my throat the whole episode. When Karamo said I'm giving you the money for the down payment....I lost it. That shit took me out. Karamo I know you've become our human garbage disposal but please keep doing this. KEEP FIXING FAMILIES! You the next Oprah! Watch❤
Lordt 😭. As a mom of two teen daughters I completely understand some of what the mom is going through. The problem i see here is poverty and I’m happy Karamo is doing something beneficial for them. Hopefully this will give them the chance to be able to relax a bit and grow closer.
Black moms raise they daughters and love their sons. That’s the difference. Y’all are hard and millitant with the girls but will allow the boys to run the streets free then cry when your son get 🔫 by the police
@@ShawnteAmoureshe has nothing and no support system, it’s her doing everything on her own, all she has is her daughter and that can be frustrating when the only one you have has a strained relationship with you. The comments attacking the mom for calling her a “bitch” which she was wrong for but I see through it. That’s anger and frustration and I wish that wasn’t the main focus and take away from all this.
By listening to the mom one can tell that she’s really contankerous. I guess the mother has become the environment she grew up in. I love the daughter’s personality!
The way this mom talks I ask myself if the daughter is really guilty or try to fight the worst leaving situation because she's very calm and melting my heart
As a struggling single mom of a young boy, this touched my soul. I’ve said so many times that I feel like I’m drowning. Some people don’t understand but that’s no excuse. My mom was a single mom as well & we had conflict bc she was always at work. No one raised me. I raised myself. I’m thankful to God for who I am even in the struggle. My son is only 4 and I just started a great job. I’ve gotta wait to start seeing it pay off, but in the meantime, I’m not going to give up on making a better life for both of us. Praying for this mom & daughter and all of the struggling mothers out there. Don’t give up ladies. Yes, it’s hard, but we can do it. We have to 🙏🏾💜
So you followed your Mom's Steps by having children out of wedlock, got pregnant by a Thug that are no Father Materials. Yes Its hard finding a Good Black Men out here, even Good Mentors.
Jesus Christ loves you ❤, He died on a cross for you and rose again on the 3rd day for your sins❤ God loves you so much and He wants to heal you ❤ and give you strength ❤
I can relate to this story personally. I use to give my mom hell. This brought me to literal tears , because it was at one point my mom didn’t know what to do with me, and you could tell she was losing hope , but what I am thankful for is that she didn’t give up on me. She kept fighting for me to become the best version of myself. Frustrated and feeling defeated. my mom was a single mother of 4 kids. When I say I am so damn thankful that she hadn’t given up on me, because lord knows wheee I’d be. Nd I was a HOT mess. Thank you karamo for this episode. This one hit home
Thank you for sharing the other side of this. So many ppl on this thread are mom-shaming, but sometimes kids are bad, or at least act out. I'm glad yall found yall way. ❤❤
@@deshawnbrown986 yes , absolutely. I acted out of emotion. My mom had another child and at first I was excited for it , but then I became jealous. Of course babies need more attention , and my mom did the best she could do with 4 of us all together ; however I acted out in anger and disobedience rather than just telling her I wanted to spend more time with her. I wanted to put this perspective out there more , because parents are humans too. They feel just like we do. Frustration is 100% going to happen it almost cannot be avoided ; the fact she took accountability and even stated she just wants the best for her child really stood out to me. In my bad behavioral days I didn’t understand why my mom wanted to give me that discipline in respect , and having goals , morals or values but I do today. Now I work for the state. I have my own family , and I am the better version of myself that she wants for me! Praying for this mother and daughter because sometimes all it takes is communication
This makes me cry, your mom struggling but she still by your side, she don’t get it all right as she her self may not have not have strong support and know how to express the love she wants to but you have a good mom, I pray you guys will be financially stable one day and you young lady be one successful.
What’s going on that’s making her act out???? She’s a CHILD, HER CHILD!! She’d rather put her in jail instead of getting to the root of the problem?! She needs to learn how to PARENT & BE A PARENT!! The way some mfs treat their children like b*tches off the street is CRAZY. She’s literally a reflection of her mother.
Exactly she mad cause she can’t take of her mainly financially but it’s not the child’s fault at all and it seems like she taking the anger out in the child.
I feel for the daughter. I understand the struggle of the mother, but as an adult I would've cut ties. I don't care what you went through, you treated me like a worthless ugly evil person. BYE.
It's so touching , poverty is like a demon thank God for this man with a father's heart helping them out to save this poor girl, you can see she's not really a bad child she just hates the situation
I'm in tears ...for so very long I've been drowning struggling and this moment was so beautiful thank you Karamo ! I honestly was giving up but this spark of kindness and love is what the world needs
I have a mom similar or worse than this and trust me it isn’t easy. I need a lot of healing, it affects my life so much and I still live with this woman..
This episode brought me to tears for so many reasons and my heart goes out to both Mom and Babygirl.. They both are dealing with stressful situations and misplaced emotions. Mom is tired. She’s doing everything she can for her daughter, but has probably been dealt one hell of a hand. Babygirl on the other hand is just trying to navigate the best way she can. Uprooting a child/teen affects them in different ways. All factors must be taken into consideration. I believe they truly love each other. They both need that break of having some stability in their lives. Once they get that, God will see fit that they mend their relationship. I pray they both fully heal in time. ❤
I agree but only one of them had a choice in this situation. The child is innocent and is tired of living in shelters and not owning anything. She doesn’t want to abandon her mom but she’s trying to grow up too. I’m sorry she doesn’t have an auntie or friend who can help.
@@trueheart8739 Absolutely.. but I also feel for Mom. Sometimes we’re not much in control of what life throws at us. Especially when we don’t have the help we need and trying to raise our children, solo. All we can do is try our best. I pray they both find peace and happiness 💜
This episode is so mentally draining. I can’t imagine how the daughter must feel. Again like everyone had said, this is why it’s important to not only have financial stability but also mental stability. Both does go hand in hand but does the mom realize how she is? Her daughter is a reflection of her. I genuinely feel bad for the daughter.
A typical parent who thinks it’s their child’s responsibility to help them when it’s not. Saddest part about this is that mom does not even realize that she is the problem. I really just wanted Karamo to tell her, because their relationship is not going to get better until she realizes that she is not a good parent. All of your issues are rooted in you being irresponsible, and instead of doing better you expect your child to swoop in and save the day. That’s delusional. She needs therapy and life skills. That’s only thing that will help them.
If you and your child fell into a pit, would you expect for your child to sit there and do nothing as you struggled to get you guys out? Or would you expect for them to help in getting you guys out of the pit? And how would you react if your child kept pulling you down every time you got a foot up? *It's easy* when you're not in this situation *to judge someone who is.* No one perfectly executes when they are this stressed. There are some things that the both of them can do better, but they are obviously in a pit. When you are this desperate, you don't have the time to worry about niceties, when you don't know if you will survive the situation you are in. There's a cycle here where you see a woman who was, more than likely, raised by a single mom *(with no support),* who's now trying to raise her own child as a single mom with no support. There are some emotional and communicative tools that she probably was never given. We take for granted that our parents instilled those in us, and we judge others who don't have them as if those were things that came naturally from us. But one thing you can't deny, is that *this woman absolutely loves her child.* And she is desperately trying to save her life.
@@janepatton8100 if I fell into a pit with my child it would 100% be my responsibility to keep my composure, stay calm and do everything in my power to get us out of the pit. I have more experience and life skills than my child. So yes I would consider it my responsibility as the adult and parent to assess the situation and come up with a solution. I would expect for my child to depend on me and my ability to remain calm under duress and stress. I would expect for my child to depend on my survival skills. My statement wasn’t judgement it’s just true. She lacks some necessary life skills. She needs to seek professional help to learn and develop those skills. Her child cannot help her be a better parent and adult, and that’s what she’s asking her to do. The child doesn’t have the knowledge or the skills. She is literally asking her child to accomplish the impossible, and due to the stress that she is putting on her child the child is doing what she does know how to do and that is not going to save her child. If she wants to save her child she needs to make herself a more dependable parent and create a less stressful environment for her child.
So its the childs responsibility to fix the problems created by the parent? Thats the most assbackwarda explanation ive ever read. If you think this way and you uave children they must hate you. No child should suffer through a parent like this ever. And parents like this should be imprisoned for ruining their childs life and guaranteeing them a life of hardship. If you dont think this girls ideals and morals arent directly connected to her mothers idiocy then your a fool.@janepatton8100
The mom is the issue, screaming for no reason, interrupting her daughter when she’s trying to tell her part of the story, calling her daughter a bitch, telling she’d be better as a boy.. like wtf? In her mind she’s doing the best but she’s mentally unstable, she doesn’t realise how she deals with stuff is toxic and negatively impacting her daughter.
Karamo you’re above any of them other shows you actually help them people that needs it, you spiritually break their generational karmas and help them find way to solve problems in which to help heal their relationships! May you keep uplifting the one who does wrong but wants to do better, you a healer 🙌🏽🔥🔥🔥
The way the daughter is looking at her while she’s talking, you see she’s been hurt by the words but now she’s numb. Her daughter is gorgeous. I love this episode!
Very beautiful girl
That’s not the point 😢the mother is really hurting 😢beautiful or not she is wrong
@@idowueniola17that is the point though? So let's just ignore how the daughter feels and let's pity the parents who have forced their children into this predicament?
@@idowueniola17 a child is not more wrong than this immature grown woman. How do you expect a child to understand what an adult can barely even? The mother is immature emotionally, she putting those emotions on that gurl in ways not meant for a child from a mother. Just bcuz so many blk mothers are like this don't mean it's rite. We have to break the cycle of screaming to our kids the same things our parents screamed to us. We have to stop having kids as kids, and then blaming the kids for our faults. Alota yal parents dead wrong.
They both hurt 💀
If the mom acts like that in public on tv, I can only imagine how she speaks to her and treats her behind closed doors. Sad. I hope they can find healing.
Girl please. You obviously have 0 understanding. You can take your whites only pie some where else cause we ain't eating that crap over here. You don't KNOW or can even comprehend what this woman life is like. So quit trying to judge a situation you can't even read the Blueprint to.
Frrrr so sad
Give her some grace damn
Chile forgive me!!! I just watched it through nahhhhh
@@Moimen._ Nah is my exact reaction! 😂
The way the mom keeps cutting the daughter off getting mad when she talks lets you know how the mother really acts.
This mother is basically showing us she is the problem here not the child 😢😢😢😢tho this is sooo abuse
That is a overwhelmed mother. Stretched beyond her means. Poverty and stress and limited options does that. She has a good daughter and with the help he is providing for them. They will be alright.
How ? 💀💀
Romans 10:9 If you declare with your mouth, "Jesus is Lord," and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.
@@Kimora-tg5fqlack of emotional intelligence, self awareness, and self control
This is a prime example of why it is important to be financially and emotionally stable before having children. Your burdens should never be your child’s burdens.
Fax this mother is stressed and it becomes her child's problem having to live around it. This life is hard
Very true. Money has been tight for me most of my life and I was one of those kids paying bills at home from summer jobs. My single Mom always struggled financially and was emotionally detached due to childhood trauma. Even at age 46 and child free, I couldn't imagine bringing a child into this world today. Everything is too darn expensive. Being financially strapped is very stressful. Really wears you down.
Y’all can’t blame the mom if the child ain’t making it better also go to school n ya mom wouldn’t had to move if y’all had a good home regardless if ya like the state u was in she had a home n lost it going to jail because the daughter didn’t go to school over some hair she could of did a natural style n call it a day no excuses to miss that many days of school for hair knowing it out ya mom n jail n ya lose everything again over ya attitude
Problem is most of the country is living check to check. You can be financially stable one moment and loose everything the next. Honestly, money is so unpredictable. The pandemic was a prime example of this.
This is why abortions should be an option everywhere and free. She didn’t even have the money for $100 sum rent so clearly she couldn’t afford to have an abortion and she had no one to help her so she had no choice. Ppl think that even if a parent isn’t financially or mentally stable they should still have a child which i cant wrap my head around bc how are they supposed to provide and nurture the child
You can’t condemn the daughter for her behavior without acknowledging the unstable environment she has been forced to grown up in. Naturally, a child with an absent father, a young & verbally abusive single mom, in and out of shelters, and living in poverty is going to have behavioral issues. It’s unfortunate because no child should have to live in survival mode.
FACTS
Exactly
Boo hoo 😶, I know people who were in that situation....and child was not disrespectful. And the mother curses like a sailor...The Bible does say " spare the rod, spoil the child is not good. (Proverbs 13:24) The child did say she knows her mom will not spank her(🤦🏼smh), and admit swinging on her. My children are in their 40's and knew in their teens knew better because I didn't spare the rod and will use that rod at any age cause to me I demand respect. That's what's wrong with some of the children in these times parents spare the rod, and kids abuse their bad situations.
You are 110% correct.!! This generation thought they are wiser than God. By over looking minor behavior from the onset that will lead to major disaster in the future.
The daughter is now at the point of swinging her mom. Who dose that?
(Proverbs 22:15 KJV ) Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.
@@lorettajackson4921 I hope you realize that EVERY kid has different reactions to different struggles in situations.
The mom is RIDICULOUSLY TRAUMATIZED and taking it out on her daughter
Respect goes both ways. The way the mom talked to her daughter is teaching her how to communicate with others. It's a generational curse that needs to be broken. Your children will be a reflection of what they see.
Definitely does. You have to respect your children in order for them to respect you, it’s alot of parents who don’t realize it until it’s late
Respect was given by the mother from infancy period. This girl wasn't in system. In and out of foster homes and shit. Yall will make a million excuses.
exactly and ima say this, there’s a difference between respect and doing that bare minimum. a lot of parents give the BARE MINIMUM. the bare minimum is never enough for nothing, you would never want the bare minimum for anything especially caring for your children, you’re supposed to care for them, make sure they have a roof over their head and make sure the stay out of the system…ok. but what else? give them respect, hear their emotions and make sure that they are actually heard, that’s above the bare minimum, something a lot people fail to realize or do so then that kid will begin to…LASH OUT, hurt people hurt people.
@@panafricanismstrikesback This is not a debate. I said what I said. 🤷🏽♀️
@@panafricanismstrikesbacki so agree. my mom was disrespectful as hell. i decided that that i wouldn’t be like that with my children. i wasn’t and they are very respectful
Being unstable is stressful for an adult I can’t imagine how it must feel for a child.
Right 😢
It’s hard but I never wanted to put my hands on my momma or tell her to shut up.
So glad i made it out
@@rubyjaez I never said that was right but everyone deals with stress differently
@@rubyjaezEveryone behaves and responds differently when faced with adversity, stress, anxiety, homelessness, fatherless, there's no telling how the mom actually behaves behind closed doors. This doesn't justify the daughter's behavior but we are all different.
What loving, caring mother calls their child out of their name? My mom never called us out of our name.
Mom is speaking from lots of trauma and transferring that onto her beautiful girl. No villains here, just lots of hurt. I hope they both get help and the cycle stops here. Generational trauma is no joke.
Nah she's the villian. That poor girl is TRAUMATIZED.
@@zammymynakersnackstbmothStop judging, pray!
The comment I was looking for. Love and light to mom and daughter ❤ 💡
@jahaunsmith7628 the bible said keep your religion private and pray in private so shut the fuck up
No mother should ever call her daughter a bitch😢
He gets it. He really gets it😭😭😭 The school bullying. The verbal abuse. The struggling mom. The sassy, but normal teen behavior verses the extreme. Kuramo deserves so many more viewers.
Romans 10:9 If you declare with your mouth, "Jesus is Lord," and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.
@@GodLovesYou215thank you Amen
Real
Her true character fully showed up as SOON as her daughter came out. How do parents expect anything more from their children than what they GIVE them smh sad
Yep Yep 💯
No fr and I saw like one of two comments agreeing with the mother.. I truly feel bad for the teenager because she basically doing teenager stuff you know I don’t even think the mother should’ve went on the show if she knew that she was in the wrong 👎🏿👎🏿
Y’all need help. Y’all did forget why they were on the show. The mother is hurt stop trynna blame the damn mom
@@Kimora-tg5fqshe’s using that hurt as a way to justify the treatment to her daughter though. It doesn’t make that acceptable
what wrenched my stomach was when she had to think to answer if she regretted having her daughter and having a son would’ve been better is crazy.
Idk why she think a son would be better
I see what she meant. The risk of what can go wrong for a girl out in the streets are on a whole other level. She even mentioned that a boy isn't as high risk when he leaves the house at random but a girl is in a constant state of vulnerability because so much could go wrong.
@@cela9852 💯
@@cela9852 Okay but she’s acting like boys can’t be endangered when going out alone either, theres high chances for things to go wrong and a boy goes out alone especially at night aswell and she’s saying as if she wouldn’t worry when she should worry no matter what gender.
@@Yewangxiit does go both ways, but statistically speaking, females do have a higher rate of being murdered.
The mom is so damaged and doesn't even realize it.
Exactly!!!! In her mind, she's doing the best she can, but she doesn't understand how she deals with stuff is toxic and negatively impacting her daughter.
At least she is trying to save her daughter she is dealing with the hand she was dealt so stop judging her and offer some prayers
Yep, she’s riddled with trauma
Yes but the daughter isn’t the reason. There is addiction going on with the mom.
@awadiaby1673 stop trying so hard to tell someone off!!! Speaking a fact or making an observation is not judging her! No one said anything bad about the mother or daughter! The fact is mom is very damaged! You just want to tell someone off! You're giving miserable vibes with your comment
"i just don't understand why my child is acting exactly like me." "my child is struggling because of me, why isn't she perfect?" as parents we need to expect as much from ourselves as we expect from our children, actually we need to expect more from ourselves to show the children how to act
💯
Right everything really starts at home most of the time.
Agree but kinda wrong !
Not every homeless person is trying to beat their moms
@@katlennon5488well she is now. get her therapy instead of being negative
I completely empathize with BOTH SIDES. I can tell that mother is trying. I can tell that mother is exhausted, she has no help, but needs to understand she can't let that affect the way she treats her daughter.
I hear what you're saying. But If you and your child fell into a pit, would you expect for your child to sit there and do nothing as you struggled to get you guys out? Or would you expect for them to help in getting you guys out of the pit? And how would you react if your child kept pulling you down every time you got a foot up?
*It's easy* when you're not in this situation *to judge someone who is.* No one perfectly executes when they are this stressed. There are some things that the both of them can do better, but they are obviously in a pit.
When you are this desperate, you don't have the time to worry about niceties, when you don't know if you will survive the situation you are in.
There's a cycle here where you see a woman who was, more than likely, raised by a single mom *(with no support),* who's now trying to raise her own child as a single mom with no support.
There are some emotional and communicative tools that she probably was never given. We take for granted that our parents instilled those in us, and we judge others who don't have them as if those were things that came naturally from us. But one thing you can't deny, is that *this woman absolutely loves her child.* And she is desperately trying to save her life.
Girl shut up. They both wrong especially the daughter
I like this comment cuz everyone bashing the mom but don’t realize it’s hard being a mom and I think the mom is trying! But the daughter don’t get it cuz she’s a teenager just growing her emotions are everywhere
Perfectly said
Perfectly said. I had a mom like this, but it took me becoming adult to understand why she was like that. I think that’s why I’m 36 with no kids right now. I’m afraid of being my mom in some ways.
She is acting out because her life is hard right now. This baby just needs stability and a home. Being homeless and in a shelter as a teenager 😢. I pray God graces her with peace and opportunities 🙏🏾.
I don’t GAF how hard life is! You don’t buck up to your parent! Nope! No ma’am!
@@rickiericktv3320I hope you don't ever have kids if that's the mindset you have
@@ZionDoesMakeup!
@@ZionDoesMakeup raised 7 and 6 graduated HS 1 graduated with his associate degree! Because I said no child of mine would buck up to me, because I demand my respect as their parent? Wow! That’s why kids act the way they do! Y’all trying to be their friends and not their parent!
@@rickiericktv3320💯💯💯💯
The mom just has so much anger inside her because of the situations she and her daughter are going through and I get that, but as a parent, you NEVER should take your anger out on your OWN kid, because THAT is exactly how your child becomes TRAUMATIZED for life
I don't support how the mother handles things, that goes without saying but I also understand that the "should have" language comes from people who don't know what it truly feels like to drown everyday...every single day. Not a hard period in your life, a decades long battle starting from birth. Not an excuse for the mother just an acknowledgement that telling her what she should be doing while she is quite literally fighting for their lives is unproductive. She needs support FIRST and then conversations about how she can be a more empathetic and emotionally regulated mother. Survive and then thrive.
She was dancing ready to hit her and was screaming
she really needs to work on herself and do better. the way she goes about life in general is damaging. her communication skills aren’t built to mindfully raise a child with wisdom and patience. i can guarantee you ppl when you raise a child mindfully every step of the way they will have respect and dignity and peace.
Yes but now they can both heal together
Ya its not easy for both of them and they need to give each other a break..The kid don't look like a bad kid, mom also looks tired and emotional drained bad combination hope mom gets help so that she can help her daughter be the kid 😉 she wants to be.
That mother needs healing so she can love child the way she deserves to be loved !!! This family is in PAIN 😢
And the fact when the mother was asked “do you love your daughter” she didn’t even hesitate to say yes . She’s struggling and tired but the fact she can’t communicate properly is hurting her daughter tremendously
Definitely this is just sad
@@kaylahenry8920yes she’s tired & struggling she feels the daughter making it worse bc she’s already drowning
The little girl is so sweet, so soft spoken I don't think she really means to be disrespectful to the mother, the mother is the one who pulls it out of her because she is having it hard and the girl is the closest person to her. I truly hope they can both rebuild their relationship and heal. I wish them nothing but the best. I know you don't know me, but I hope you see this, you are a beautiful girl Kailey, please rise up and break the cycle of poverty go to school and become great. LOVE.t
Exactly
I have been a hot head teenager before so I know all the tricks .....it's definitely more layers to her🤣🤣 but that doesn't negate the fact that the mother still should talk to her better and she does need to break the cycle....
@@misspr33tyf33t you could be right cause I also thought the same thing, but then again she had the same composure even when she was back stage, hence my conclusion.
@@misspr33tyf33tyou and her child isn't the same.. two completely different people going thru two completely different things
There’s a word for that. It’s called “Reactive Abuse”. I learned about it in psychology when I was trying to understand narcissistic abuse from the hands of my mother
When the mom admitted to calling her daughter a bitch my jaw dropped, that is HORRIBLE. That explains why the daughter talks the way she does, shes hurt from a young age and shes a child, she doesnt know how to communicate properly yet. The mom doesnt even let her speak her perspective which is awful, she doesnt have a chance to vent and explain her pain. Poor little girl man, this breaks my heart sooo much.
So white
@langa.888 actually not. I could never fathom calling my daughter a "b" constantly and consistently. The one person in life that you're supposed to be able to depend on to build you up is the very same person that's tearing you down over and over again. I do not condone disrespect by a child to any adults but this so-called mother is an embarrassment and a shame to motherhood. My question is where is her father especially if he sees her being treated like this he needs to man up and come get his daughter my heart breaks for this child. She can't win with this lady. Damned if she do damned if she don't. So I don't see this as a white response. I pray mother gets some help too.
@@langa.888🙄
I have three daughters 26, 21 and 15. I vowed to myself that no matter how much they pissed me off that I would never call either of them out of their names...and I never have.
I told my mom I can vividly remember the first time she called me a bitch and she said I must be making it up. For them it’s just another day but for us children it’s a core foundational memory.
I GET IT MA, you stress but you cannot take it out on this beautiful, respectful daughter!!😢❤
The mom calling her daughter a b*tch is so wrong. The mother is the problem in my eyes. Why would the daughter act respectful when she has no stable home and the mother talking to her crazy. Their both frustrated I'm sure.
I said the same thing the mother is the issue for real
I'm sorry you guys must not be black😂 and don't go to Louisiana if you think that's bad they call them kids all type of stuff
are you serious? Calling your daughters bitches is a black thing? Well I’ve never . My mom have 8 girls and never ever had I heard her called any of my siblings bitches . Never , if you think this behavior is ok please go and seek help .clearly you have child trauma that you’re passing on to your children. For peace sakes, if you love your children go get help and be a better parent
@@its1733 that’s not really the worst part, it’s really where she said that’s not her daughter, that’s messed up.
Real talk
We need to talk more about how poverty is trauma. So much dysfunction, abuse, and mental/emotional instability stems from poverty. People, especially children, deserve so much more than survival mode.
the conversation hurts to have cause it effects so many who feel like they can’t do nothing about it. unfortunately avoid and denying comes so easy from that, which is what we have been doing as a whole but definitely in our community. sad cycle but you’re so right, the topic needs to be had more!
This
I really wish he touched on how she talks to her daughter. I feel as though I resonated with this girl on such a deeper level. I was her. Same demeanor, same speech, same pain. As someone who’s been in the other side of an emotionally immature mother and is finally getting the relationship I’ve always wanted with my mom I can tell you now that stuff leaves lasting scars on a child.. respect goes both ways. You can’t expect your child to respect you if you don’t do the same. It’s not “what I say goes” because your child has a spirit and opinions just like you
She's underage who else gon look out for her dumb@ss? If she already wasn't in a good situation how acting by herself would make it better? Y'all complaining cause she doing her mom role but what she supposed to do?
Demanding respect from someone you refuse to respect is crazy .....
@@nevaehkalise9921 true
The things she says to her daughter shouldn’t have went unnoticed
Thats what i thought
I agree totally.
Yea she was completely valid. Like Karamo said they both are. I’m glad they came on cuz it really is just a communication issue mixed with and unstable environment.
Facts
Mom mentioned CPS got on her case. Isn't that why they moved to another state?
the mother is on edge, while the daughter is so calm
Mom knows at any time they could be without anything. Daughter has not had enough experience and responsibilities to understand the extent of what could happen. She could have made them lose their spot at the shelter and her mom had to go to jail behind her. And probably still expects hair done and new clothes. Mom is afraid of losing everything including her kid and in the process was about to lose her mind.
This comment makes no sense. Why would the daughter be in edge? Does she know how the bills are paid???
Still not a reason to call her the b word. That’s verbal abuse
The mother is obviously stressed which is okay, but not only she can’t get a hold of herself, she’s taking it out on her daughter in a very abusive way. Yelling and cursing won’t pay the bills or set that child straight. Child who is sadly so calm because she’s emotionally checked out from her mother freaking out about responsibilities she obviously struggles with
Nowhere in my reply to your comment did I say that she calling her daughter the best word was ok. If I did please point it out to me. What I said is that your comment is nonsensical because you are making a contrast between the two and their demeanor, where one is the sole provider (the mother) of the household and knows she is drowning, while the other one is taken care of (the child) and has no worries in the world meaning she doesn't have to wonder or figure out how to put meals on the table, pay the rent, pay gas, pay light, buy supplies etc. Ofcourse the one who is of the knowledge of all this will be on edge. Why would the damn child be on edge?
🥹🥹🥹 The tears kept falling! I saw and heard the hurt in BOTH of them! Thank you sir for helping this family! 🙌🏾
Same i hear both sides
My father used to call me a bitch and it was and is still so hurtful today. To hear such hateful, sexist words from your own parent is a different type of pain. Not everyone should be parents. If you can’t respond to your child with love and kindness and respect, don’t become a parent.
I’m sorry, you’re not a dog. Your father can’t hold that in you
I never thought that an White Parent would do anything like that, But I'm sorry that this happened to you.
@@knightclassic1this is a stupid comment sorry . Abuse happens in black white brown and Asian communities 🙄
Did you act like one??
@@nisinisi4627 I was a child, so no. But this comment was pretty bitchy.
This "mother" is the problem! When she said if she was a boy things would be better because he could just run the streets... I can't even unpack that right now...geesh!
The terrible cycle that happens in the community continues 🤦🏾♀️
@@tafiam6681exactly why would she want that for her hypothetical son, makes sense why she’s like that with her daughter
I'm with you on that. The son would be just as bad. He would be continuing the cycle of single mothers out there that would be in her situation.
Allll of that..like wtf?! Lady you so damn damaged you think brokenness is normal...what?!
I loved how she said, “I want it to be back how it was” tells me she knows her mom has been there and trying hard for them. Sometime children feels like it’s there fault when parents are in a struggle and that can cause them to lash out.
She has a good kid. She is a teenager. Give her a break. All that cursing/yelling, moving,shelter, jail,cps, poverty, bullying is a lot for a kid & is traumatizing. She could be doing worse than staying in her room & phone. But at least the mom didn’t abandon her kid & is trying to get it together financially. He hit it right on the head. Agreed. She loves her kid, gotta be more gentle & communicate better. Pray for them
Some parenting classes might be helpful as well.Sometimes ppl have to be literally forced to get the help,and education needed in order to see the error in their ways.I’m not sure why CPS didn’t require mom to complete some services because mom made it no secret she was verbally abusive to her daughter.
She does not have a good kid. Did you even watch the damn video
EXACTLY U HIT IT ON THE HEAD bc momma has her own trauma to heal from an SHES TRYING TO DO EVERYTHING RIGHT BY HER BABY (now I DO NOT AGREE WITH HER CALLING HER BABY NO BI**H AT ALL BC NO MOTHER SHOULD EVER CALL THEY BABIES OUT OF THEIR NAMES LIKE THT IDC HOW ANGREY U GET) but LIFE IS BEATING HER AHH an she’s been doing the best she can for a while now it may not look like much to some of yall but to the rest she’s doing the damn thing an her kid is being a teen but there’s a certain boundary that she crosses with her momma an she knows she’s been crossing it but when she gets older she’s gonna KNOW her momma loves her yea it wasn’t perfect at ALL but her momma tried HARD
Romans 10:9 If you declare with your mouth, "Jesus is Lord," and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.
@@GodLovesYou215 stop spamming
This momma is tired and her own disappointment has caused her to shut down and take it out on her daughter. God bless Karamo for not judging but offering a platform of support to encourage healing
Yes this!!!! Ppl so quick to judge the mama instead of having a understanding for her
My heart hurts for the daughter 💔 i can see the hurt in her eyes from the things her mother says to her & about her & by the way she acts. I hope they can both overcome this & become closer & have a loving relationship.
Mom is the problem. The daughter is mirroring the treatment she received by her mother. The mom probably had the same upbringing and mirrored that same parenting style she endured. The young girl needs stability and security. Her parents failed this young girl. The father not helping his daughter is wrong, but the mother's lack of stability, aggressive behavior, and overall chaotic nature is responsible for the behavior. They both need therapy. No parent should speak to their child like that in private nor in public. The daughter is reacting to her chaotic environment.
no she is not
@@sandramartez6472 how so?
@@sandramartez6472yes she is
@@sandramartez6472she legit is. If you’ve never had a parent like that, then shush.
@@sandramartez6472 girl yes she is the problem stop being in denial the mom need to listen to her daughter instead of keep talking over her, she has trauma she need to heal instead keep being mad at the daughter for messing up in life when she is just a fuckin kid
The mom speaks so aggressively. I couldn’t imagine what this little girl is going through.
Seeing the end where Karamo says he’ll help the mom really mad me cry. Bless you Karamo for everything you’re doing for the community. I hope that their relationship gets better now that some weight is lifted off the mom’s shoulders.
What if she just talk like that .
Never have I switched up empathising for anyone as fast as I did with the mom. I don’t wonder where she gets it from at all. She didn’t even let her finish a sentence.
If you and your child fell into a pit, would you expect for your child to sit there and do nothing as you struggled to get you guys out? Or would you expect for them to help in getting you guys out of the pit? And how would you react if your child kept pulling you down every time you got a foot up?
*It's easy* when you're not in this situation *to judge someone who is.* No one perfectly executes when they are this stressed. There are some things that the both of them can do better, but they are obviously in a pit.
When you are this desperate, you don't have the time to worry about niceties, when you don't know if you will survive the situation you are in.
There's a cycle here where you see a woman who was, more than likely, raised by a single mom *(with no support),* who's now trying to raise her own child as a single mom with no support.
There are some emotional and communicative tools that she probably was never given. We take for granted that our parents instilled those in us, and we judge others who don't have them as if those were things that came naturally from us. But one thing you can't deny, is that *this woman absolutely loves her child.* And she is desperately trying to save her life.
@@janepatton8100 We found the child abuser her. You really think you own kid who you put in the world, who never asked to be born, has to deal with YOUR shit? Then you traumatize the child who starts to act badly due to it and what you do? Beat the child, scream at her with swearings, etc. Wow great mom! People like you say "aw don't judge the mom" but go with all force to judge the child who has to pay for the parents mistakes. Loving has nothing to do with abuse ffs
@@janepatton8100 you think just like her and that’s the problem
@@itsomarsopinion
Most people in our community think like you... And that's really the problem.
@@janepatton8100 I think if most people think like me it would make sense your the problem
They’re going through a rough time. Stability is so important for kids. Especially at that age. I hope they push through this rough patch and grow together.
Nah the girl is a problem
@@gemz2894She’s a problem bcuz of the environment that she’s living in. And her mother is the one who created that environment. So, therefor the mother is the source of the problems.
Seeing her breakdown was so sad, you can tell she’s been waiting, and filling up with those feelings .. bless her
So true this lady is completely open and genuine❤ may they find all the help they need ,
I agree. They both are struggling and don’t see each others point of view. But karamo sees the love, and I’m so happy he helped them. The mother needs healing and deserves sympathy bc she likely did not know better putting herself in this situation, and the man is who is at fault for leaving them as well. It’s a very unfortunate situation and I hope this money lightened their burdens
He shouldn’t have asked do you regret having a daughter in front of her. This was hard to watch. I feel for them both
an apology from the mother was definitely warranted.. come on Karamooo
They need to go to a real therapist because he did nothing to help the daughter
I was waiting for her to thank karamo for the offer to help her with a house
@@SiNCERELYTAYY1seriously… it’s almost like she expected it/felt entitled to it. I’d be surprised if she gets a home and keeps it. She’s a trash mom who resents her daughter because she’s becoming a young lady. These are the worst type of “mothers”.
ONG SHE DIDNT EVEN SAY THANK YOU LIKE WHAT THE FUCK HE JUST SAVED BOTH OF YALL LIVES WITH THAT GENEROUS OFFER
@@MsBenitaButrell I could see on her face she was really shocked .. I think she loves her daughter and I do feel she will use the money for good use ....but she still should have said thank you and she should apologize to her daughter as well ...because what's going to happen is if she keeps verbally abusing her daughter when her daughter gets older she's going to resent her even more.
Mother is unstable. Evictions, jail, shelter, calling her daughter names etc... She is the one who decided to have a child with no stability what so ever. She's asking a lot from her daughter.
Right instead of getting her stuff together for both of them.
She going to jail because of her daughter missing school though right?
@@goeadexactly
Exactly !
@@goeadnah she didn’t actually
This made me cry, I pray these two make it through. The mama is clearly stressed out and taking it out on the daughter.
I feel so sorry for that little girl. You can tell she’s not really a bad child. The mother is horrible. She’s taking her failures and frustration out on that child.
Yes
Exactly
I believe the mom & child. And they better fix it fast !
A mother protects her child no matter how hard life is. This is upsetting and insane.
She’s a single parent tho so it’s hard
@@chattingwithkeyyyzzz2971Yeah, it’s hard but it’s not impossible. Also, it’s not her daughter’s fault that her father isn’t in her life. So, her daughter shouldn’t be subjected to even more trauma fork her mother. Especially, since her mother is all she has. That’s the kind of selfless attitude that a mother is SUPPOSED to have.
@@chattingwithkeyyyzzz2971 My mom is a single parent but she would never act like this..
@@AdvicebyAwell that’s YOUR MOTHER WE DONT FULLY KNOW THIS WOMAN’S STORY
Stop being a hypocrite. If you were in that situation you probably would've lost your ish a long time ago. Kudos to the mom for holding it down, however imperfect it may look.
That moms is literally at her breaking point. She is going through it and she feels like her daughter is against her too. That’s why she is acting that way. Unless you are a single mom with ZERO support and have went through it you will never understands it ABSOLUTELY doesn’t condone how she is treating her daughter, but attacking her is NOT gonna fix this
Imagine raising 5 or more kids though, I feel like she should never burden her daughter and I also feel the daughter most definitely should reap her Mom always. The Mom calling her day a bitch is so low. But I do hope they’re move past this and get back in the relationship that they were in.
She has a beautiful daughter. Beautiful soul and all. She should be completely proud and happy just by having this beautiful child in her life
Karamo is a real one for helping that lady out !!! That was so sweet. I can see the stress lifting up off of her. I hope her and her daughter develop a better relationship !
🥺 whew he took so much grief off that mommas back, i pray their relationship is mended and beyond well.
I like that both of them were honest and transparent with Karamo and the audience. The daughter was clueless on what her Mom was dealing with and why she was frustrated "yelling" as she puts it. Effective communication was missing which could help both of them work together cohesively. Now, that they are able to understand each other perspective and receive Karamo assistance, hoping they can move forward and progress along their life journey together. Thankful they came on the show. May God heal all wounds and give them peace, financial resources including debt removal and sound mind.
Out of all these messages this one makes the sense the most!
None of it is excusable, though. She knows she's hurting her child emotionally and mentally. She wants her to behave, but she's not modeling that behavior. This kind of behavior is all the child's been exposed to.
This is it! This is the comment I agree 1000%
I don't agree that the daughter does not understand what her mother goes through. She has lived the same life as her for years. What I think she does not understand is why her mother speeks to her with such disrespect when she does nothing wild. She does not understand why her mother would treat her like that. And she would be right to not understand because it is not acceptable behavior.
You made the most sensible comment among all
This is a case of a mom who is mad because she can’t take care of her daughter. She feels so much shame that she can’t provide but has to much to pride. I wish she could realize that if it’s hard for her as an adult in the situation then it’s gotta be hard for her daughter going through it as well.
you worded this perfectly!
I don’t think she has too much pride at all, I mean, she’s literally breaking down on the air, explaining that she needs help, and that she doesn’t have it, and she’s financially strapped, she is wrong for the way she goes about her actions, but all I see is a young mother, who is financially strapped and trying to get her daughter to understand the situation she’s in. She’s going about it the wrong way.
@@melissabrower7722 she has to much pride when it comes to her daughter because she can’t breakdown or be vulnerable to her daughter and apologize to her for the situation and that it may be tuff/hard for to go through it. Instead she expects her daughter to suck it all up and just recognize and appreciate that she is doing the best she can…she needs to admit to her daughter that they are in a bad situation that is not fair to her and be more understanding on how it affects her daughter and then in return her daughter will also show empathy for how the situation is taking a toll on her mom and they can learn to get through it together. By making her daughter feel like she doesn’t have a reason to be upset is just pushing her away. She can admit to the whole world that everything is wrong but that means nothing if you cant admit it to your own daughter and apologize to her for it.
She wants sympathy from everyone else but won’t give none to her daughter.
Yup … so angry .. cutting her off.. all on edge … terrible angry mom that needs to know accountability
karamo helping financially is going to change their lives. you can so easily become a product of your environment and i understand being a single mother especially a struggling one like this is beyond tiring stressful and depressing and they need help! with this step they can then work on their communication skills especially the mother.
I've never cried during a karamo episode, but I cried multiple times during this. Im a single mum raising three daughters, one whose 15 and it's hard. I cant imagine the mountains of stress the mum is under, she's blowing up and unfortunately it's her baby whose wearing it, and then her baby turns around and treats her mama the same way because she's hurt. I'm so happy karamo decided to help them out
The cycle of poverty 😣 Mama is going THROUGH IT … but she has the luxury of understanding the situation, the daughter does not. Her daughter is a child. Praying for their well-being, and healing.
Karamo did a GREAT job with them both! Understanding both perspectives and helping them navigate through this. I applaud him!!!!!
The daughter didn't ask to be born. Kids needs stability moving here and there is tough on children too. Poverty is the main issue, but the mom has to not take it out on her daughter.
I believe it's both of them
@@misspr33tyf33tI’m sorry but she is a child. Her actions and behavior are a product of how her mom raised her. Clearly mom is in over her head and taking it out on her young daughter. The cycle continues..
This bought me to tears because I know how it is to be a single parent and struggle trying to make sure your kids are safe, healthy and supported! There’s no judgement from me! I pray that their relationship gets stronger and that they are okay! 😢❤
Yikes. I get it. I left at age 14 for similar reasons and never went back. I figured life out and God sent angels along the way. That little girl is a doll. She’s doing her best in a horrible situation.
I'm glad you made it.
it’s hard out here. that whole part of the video of her ranting makes me cry.
Yes it is hard !! We all want to cry lol
I had a face full of tears because it is hard and I couldn’t imagine busting my butt like I do and my son making it harder I also don’t like the mom yelling at her all the time out of frustration or calling her out her name… they both need to get it together but it starts with the mom… she gotta do better
Just because its HARD OUT HERE Doesn't mean that these Black tired ass Single Mothers got to take it out on their own kids, this is the problem with BLACK SOCIETY today with Having Black Kids UNPREPARED, NO STABLE, NO FATHER In the Household. No Wonder Black Kids are the ONLY Ones that are Suffering in the Streets.
@@thewise2443 Stop Having Kids out of Wedlock then this Cycle won't repeating.
@@knightclassic1 lol I’m not talking about being a single mother being hard… I’m talking about how it’s financially difficult out here & everything is expensive
That young lady is frustrated because life has been difficult and mama is tired. I’ve been on both sides of the aisle and does get better. Mama please don’t give up on your baby girl because it will get better. Y’all are all you guys have.
I hope they can heal and grow stronger as mother and daughter 💕
That mother needs therapy. I’m a single mom of two and I’m barely managing but I can’t deflect my own pain and endurance on my children. That’s cowardly, weak and manipulative.
Yes, she does and baby girl needs some act right because if she were mine......ok I'll stop there
@@sonnasmith8253 she got it all from her mother
At a certain age kids need to be held accountable for their actions as well
If you don't say it louder for the people in the back!!! 💯 Children do not ask to be here.
This episode brought tears to my eyes! 😭
The mother's really struggling, panicking about how to cope with her situation, which had made her act irrationality. Her daughter is also going through her own changes. The combination is explosive!
I pray that they work it out. They seem to genuinely love each other. Their circumstances makes it hard to express 😢
Yess!
I love how you came through for her.. this is so sweet . I wish nothing but the best for them both . 🇯🇲
This was beyond amazing. I could see the mothers and daughters pain. And I could see Karamo holding it together the best he could. For him to do this is beyond wow ❤❤❤❤❤❤
The mother is the issue, the mere fact ghat she could call her own daughter a bitch is crazy to me . The daughter is so well spoken she just needs better guidance and the mother needs help. Awful parenting
Terrible parenting
Okay who’s perfect though? A mom is still a human being. This lady was struggling to make ends meet BY HERSELF for her daughter who did not respect her at times. Put yourself in her shoes. As long as she’s willing and trying don’t judge. There’s some, FATHERS included that aren’t trying at all.
@@riahh340Yeah, yeah, yeah she's the only parent around and she deserves some grace whoopty damn do. Nobody told her to have kids 1, and 2 she does not have the right to abuse this child because raising her is stressful or hard. She's blessed God gave her a more docile child bc me personally, her ass would be on the front of an obituary 🤷🏾♀️.
Not perfect parenting, but I think it's frustration. They both need some help. I can relate to her frustration. BUT I WOULD NEVER INFLICT IT ON MY GIRLS. For all they know WE'RE RICH, AND ALL IS WELL. Even if I cry into my pillow at night. The both of them just need a shove in the right direction and a breather from tough times. Not Judgement and finger pointing!
@@ChannelSettings4 LMAO GIRL GO AHEAD 😭😭😭😭😭 an obituary really??! it’s that deep?🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 bye you sound insane
I feel so bad for the daughter , like I know her mom might not have a lot of money but at the end of the day she’s still a teenager so it’s only natural that she’s going to want to fit in & want clothes, shoes , hair , etc. at that age. I’m 15 years old coming from a less wealthy household & I don’t think our parents don’t realize how badly we want to be heard even if we can lash out because we want to make the most of our teenage years. I can see how it might be confusing that we can act that way but at the same time we need to feel loved and supported.
This episode was so sad and good at the same time. It’s obvious that the mother is feeling stressed on multiple sides. I love Keramo’s solution because it directly targets the underlying source of the friction in their relationship: poverty and the ensuing lack of stability in their lives. 😐
I cried. As a mother of 5 and father not paying child support I been there. My kids are all grown and still hold some resent me towards me because we were poor. All are doing well but poverty left a deep hurt on them. This family will make it through. They may have scars but they will come through.
I can relate to you Pam. Sending love❤
God bless you
Speak the truth 👏. Black people have too many kids and the kids have to suffer in poverty. If you can't support kids on your own don't bring them into the world to struggle. Kids need more than food and shelter. They need a strong family base. Too many have a bunch of kids to stay on welfare. If you have 1 kid and go on welfare then you should lose those benefits if you decide to have more kids. You need Financial stability before you start a family.
I started to watching yesterday and I liked the the way he is helping the people. He is great person. Thank you for you helping mother and the daughter.
Me & my mom are in a very similar situation right now. As i'm typing this, we're sharing a bed, renting a room in her own boss's home. She's on the other side of the bed while tears are running down my face. I understand both of their perspectives, and I feel for them.
My heart goes out to you, I pray you heal and let go of all trauma you may be going through right now. Blessings to both you and you mother, I wish you the best in life. 💕
I’ve been in a situation similar to yours, things get better eventually. Keep your head up sending much positivity and love your way💕💕
You will get through this,, don't let your circumstances dictate how your life will turn out. You gonna make it ❤ sending so much love you're way
As someone with CPS experience I actually believe the child!! The mom has shown the world that she lacks accountability, emotionally mentally, and financially! She is abusive to her child, who is no where near what I’ve experienced in what is considered a problematic child! This child has been exposed to a very poor quality of life, meaning food, water, and shelter to include the lack of sustainable parenting! She has a right to be angry! She doesn’t need a dentition center, she needs stable parents with the emotional intelligence to help her thrive in life! Parents have to realize that provision does not equate to parenting!! It is your responsibility as a parent to provide an emotionally and physically safe space for your children. It is not their burden to carry or to consider what it cost YOU, and how hard it is for YOU as their parent! While it’s nice to have children who are considerate, parents must understand that it is still their responsibility! Stop placing the burdens of life on the shoulders of your children expecting them to carry what you can’t even carry yourself! Your child is not your partner or your helpmate! Out of the heart the mouth speaks… that mother does not love her child she sees her as a burden not a blessing. People’s view of you is based on where they have place you in their heart! We must teach our youth the importance of guarding their hearts as well!
I think it's just hard sometimes when your struggling to be gentle with your children not saying it's right but that's how my mom was and tho I hated I understand where it comes from. You gotta be tough when you're a single mom. Sometimes you end up being a little too tough. And it gets turned on you kids
@@KingofUnpopularOpinion I grew up with a single mom as well, and in my own healing journey I had to address what she failed to! What parents fail to address today their children will deal with tomorrow. People/parents need to be intentional with their healing so that they won’t continue to wound the next generation, and perpetuate at the cycle of abuse and brokenness!
I completely agree with everything you said !!!
I love everything you said
I like your explanation
This mom needs help. I'm seeing way too many comments judging this woman. The fact is if the mom wasn't there, no one would be there to even entertain this child's behavior.
Damn I am in tears ! This is just pure exhaustion on both of them , just burnt out from running in place and not having the mental , emotional space or even time to take second to be soft and loving
I had that little lump in my throat the whole episode. When Karamo said I'm giving you the money for the down payment....I lost it. That shit took me out. Karamo I know you've become our human garbage disposal but please keep doing this. KEEP FIXING FAMILIES! You the next Oprah! Watch❤
People with kind hearts like Karamo can really change the world
This is why kids need a mother and father in the home with stability.
A man to stress her mama out even more for what?????
@@llandynit’s not about the mum it’s about the kids 😭are you even serious
And a child can still go a stray so what point do you have
you can have both parents and still have no stability
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾Thank you
Ok Karamo I love that you help people and try to get them on the right path ❤
I'm just proud that the daughter actually spoke out honestly
Lordt 😭. As a mom of two teen daughters I completely understand some of what the mom is going through. The problem i see here is poverty and I’m happy Karamo is doing something beneficial for them. Hopefully this will give them the chance to be able to relax a bit and grow closer.
Exactly! Mom is overwhelmed because she is financially strapped.
Black moms raise they daughters and love their sons. That’s the difference. Y’all are hard and millitant with the girls but will allow the boys to run the streets free then cry when your son get 🔫 by the police
@@ShawnteAmoureshe has nothing and no support system, it’s her doing everything on her own, all she has is her daughter and that can be frustrating when the only one you have has a strained relationship with you. The comments attacking the mom for calling her a “bitch” which she was wrong for but I see through it. That’s anger and frustration and I wish that wasn’t the main focus and take away from all this.
@@biggerthanlyfe9853it’s disgusting how you’re going to justify this mothers behavior
By listening to the mom one can tell that she’s really contankerous. I guess the mother has become the environment she grew up in. I love the daughter’s personality!
The way this mom talks I ask myself if the daughter is really guilty or try to fight the worst leaving situation because she's very calm and melting my heart
As a struggling single mom of a young boy, this touched my soul. I’ve said so many times that I feel like I’m drowning. Some people don’t understand but that’s no excuse. My mom was a single mom as well & we had conflict bc she was always at work. No one raised me. I raised myself. I’m thankful to God for who I am even in the struggle. My son is only 4 and I just started a great job. I’ve gotta wait to start seeing it pay off, but in the meantime, I’m not going to give up on making a better life for both of us. Praying for this mom & daughter and all of the struggling mothers out there. Don’t give up ladies. Yes, it’s hard, but we can do it. We have to 🙏🏾💜
❤❤❤
So you followed your Mom's Steps by having children out of wedlock, got pregnant by a Thug that are no Father Materials. Yes Its hard finding a Good Black Men out here, even Good Mentors.
God Bless you and your son. God is watching over you and him and will always make a way. ❤
Jesus Christ loves you ❤, He died on a cross for you and rose again on the 3rd day for your sins❤ God loves you so much and He wants to heal you ❤ and give you strength ❤
That poor baby!!!!!!!!!! ❤❤❤❤❤I would love to be in her life. She is so sweet, she just wanna be heard. 😢
She definitely gets her behavior from her mama! Period
The daughter is NOT the issue. The mother is broken and feels no matter what she does she can't get a break.
I can relate to this story personally. I use to give my mom hell. This brought me to literal tears , because it was at one point my mom didn’t know what to do with me, and you could tell she was losing hope , but what I am thankful for is that she didn’t give up on me. She kept fighting for me to become the best version of myself. Frustrated and feeling defeated. my mom was a single mother of 4 kids. When I say I am so damn thankful that she hadn’t given up on me, because lord knows wheee I’d be. Nd I was a HOT mess. Thank you karamo for this episode. This one hit home
Same 🥺
Thank you for sharing the other side of this. So many ppl on this thread are mom-shaming, but sometimes kids are bad, or at least act out. I'm glad yall found yall way. ❤❤
@@deshawnbrown986 yes , absolutely. I acted out of emotion. My mom had another child and at first I was excited for it , but then I became jealous. Of course babies need more attention , and my mom did the best she could do with 4 of us all together ; however I acted out in anger and disobedience rather than just telling her I wanted to spend more time with her. I wanted to put this perspective out there more , because parents are humans too. They feel just like we do. Frustration is 100% going to happen it almost cannot be avoided ; the fact she took accountability and even stated she just wants the best for her child really stood out to me. In my bad behavioral days I didn’t understand why my mom wanted to give me that discipline in respect , and having goals , morals or values but I do today. Now I work for the state. I have my own family , and I am the better version of myself that she wants for me! Praying for this mother and daughter because sometimes all it takes is communication
@@marquelewing183 we are truly blessed. We live and we learn!
@@LiyyYasminee you paid it forward! ❤️❤️
This makes me cry, your mom struggling but she still by your side, she don’t get it all right as she her self may not have not have strong support and know how to express the love she wants to but you have a good mom, I pray you guys will be financially stable one day and you young lady be one successful.
What’s going on that’s making her act out???? She’s a CHILD, HER CHILD!! She’d rather put her in jail instead of getting to the root of the problem?! She needs to learn how to PARENT & BE A PARENT!! The way some mfs treat their children like b*tches off the street is CRAZY. She’s literally a reflection of her mother.
Exactly she mad cause she can’t take of her mainly financially but it’s not the child’s fault at all and it seems like she taking the anger out in the child.
I feel for the daughter. I understand the struggle of the mother, but as an adult I would've cut ties. I don't care what you went through, you treated me like a worthless ugly evil person. BYE.
please make another video to check in with them once they’ve settled! you really helped them build empathy between each other.
You were made for this. I see you helping and understanding so many families. Resolving there issues. God bless you.
It's so touching , poverty is like a demon thank God for this man with a father's heart helping them out to save this poor girl, you can see she's not really a bad child she just hates the situation
I'm in tears ...for so very long I've been drowning struggling and this moment was so beautiful thank you Karamo ! I honestly was giving up but this spark of kindness and love is what the world needs
I have a mom similar or worse than this and trust me it isn’t easy. I need a lot of healing, it affects my life so much and I still live with this woman..
This episode brought me to tears for so many reasons and my heart goes out to both Mom and Babygirl.. They both are dealing with stressful situations and misplaced emotions. Mom is tired. She’s doing everything she can for her daughter, but has probably been dealt one hell of a hand. Babygirl on the other hand is just trying to navigate the best way she can. Uprooting a child/teen affects them in different ways. All factors must be taken into consideration.
I believe they truly love each other. They both need that break of having some stability in their lives. Once they get that, God will see fit that they mend their relationship. I pray they both fully heal in time. ❤
I agree but only one of them had a choice in this situation. The child is innocent and is tired of living in shelters and not owning anything. She doesn’t want to abandon her mom but she’s trying to grow up too. I’m sorry she doesn’t have an auntie or friend who can help.
@@trueheart8739 Absolutely.. but I also feel for Mom. Sometimes we’re not much in control of what life throws at us. Especially when we don’t have the help we need and trying to raise our children, solo. All we can do is try our best. I pray they both find peace and happiness 💜
Man! This got me so emotional 😭😭😭 thank you for what you’ve done for this family.
This episode is so mentally draining. I can’t imagine how the daughter must feel. Again like everyone had said, this is why it’s important to not only have financial stability but also mental stability. Both does go hand in hand but does the mom realize how she is? Her daughter is a reflection of her. I genuinely feel bad for the daughter.
The tears that came down my face ❤Karomo u made it happen we as a people appreciate u from our deepest ❤
A typical parent who thinks it’s their child’s responsibility to help them when it’s not. Saddest part about this is that mom does not even realize that she is the problem. I really just wanted Karamo to tell her, because their relationship is not going to get better until she realizes that she is not a good parent. All of your issues are rooted in you being irresponsible, and instead of doing better you expect your child to swoop in and save the day. That’s delusional. She needs therapy and life skills. That’s only thing that will help them.
Yes!
100% agree, I didn’t like how Karamo literally didn’t call the mother out a single time despite how very clearly abusive she is
If you and your child fell into a pit, would you expect for your child to sit there and do nothing as you struggled to get you guys out? Or would you expect for them to help in getting you guys out of the pit? And how would you react if your child kept pulling you down every time you got a foot up?
*It's easy* when you're not in this situation *to judge someone who is.* No one perfectly executes when they are this stressed. There are some things that the both of them can do better, but they are obviously in a pit.
When you are this desperate, you don't have the time to worry about niceties, when you don't know if you will survive the situation you are in.
There's a cycle here where you see a woman who was, more than likely, raised by a single mom *(with no support),* who's now trying to raise her own child as a single mom with no support.
There are some emotional and communicative tools that she probably was never given. We take for granted that our parents instilled those in us, and we judge others who don't have them as if those were things that came naturally from us. But one thing you can't deny, is that *this woman absolutely loves her child.* And she is desperately trying to save her life.
@@janepatton8100 if I fell into a pit with my child it would 100% be my responsibility to keep my composure, stay calm and do everything in my power to get us out of the pit. I have more experience and life skills than my child. So yes I would consider it my responsibility as the adult and parent to assess the situation and come up with a solution. I would expect for my child to depend on me and my ability to remain calm under duress and stress. I would expect for my child to depend on my survival skills.
My statement wasn’t judgement it’s just true. She lacks some necessary life skills. She needs to seek professional help to learn and develop those skills. Her child cannot help her be a better parent and adult, and that’s what she’s asking her to do. The child doesn’t have the knowledge or the skills. She is literally asking her child to accomplish the impossible, and due to the stress that she is putting on her child the child is doing what she does know how to do and that is not going to save her child. If she wants to save her child she needs to make herself a more dependable parent and create a less stressful environment for her child.
So its the childs responsibility to fix the problems created by the parent? Thats the most assbackwarda explanation ive ever read. If you think this way and you uave children they must hate you. No child should suffer through a parent like this ever. And parents like this should be imprisoned for ruining their childs life and guaranteeing them a life of hardship. If you dont think this girls ideals and morals arent directly connected to her mothers idiocy then your a fool.@janepatton8100
Children deserves respect too ! Period
The mom is the issue, screaming for no reason, interrupting her daughter when she’s trying to tell her part of the story, calling her daughter a bitch, telling she’d be better as a boy.. like wtf? In her mind she’s doing the best but she’s mentally unstable, she doesn’t realise how she deals with stuff is toxic and negatively impacting her daughter.
Karamo you’re above any of them other shows you actually help them people that needs it, you spiritually break their generational karmas and help them find way to solve problems in which to help heal their relationships! May you keep uplifting the one who does wrong but wants to do better, you a healer 🙌🏽🔥🔥🔥
THIS!!!!!!