1. I’m sorry, but.... 2. No you’re taking it all wrong 3. I’m sorry that you’re so sensitive 4. I’m sorry you feel that way 5. I’m sorry you think that 6. Ok, I’ll apologize if.... 7. I’m sorry, but I only did it because of you Hope this helped if you don’t have time to watch the whole video
I am a person with low self-esteem I say sorry a lot because I was born into a toxic family I always say sorry like Sorry to bother you. Sorry for wasting your time "I always say sorry, but I" Then I try to explain something What do I do now to make my apology better? Do I start with sorry and then say how I feel? Like sorry I was a bad person etc.
Sometimes you need to just to get people off your back. I'd rather someone feel closure even if its fake, than them waste time trying to convince me to feel a way I never will.
So are genuine and sincere changes in actions that should follow by either person involved. Depending on the situation the person apologizing could be the one in the right just not saying it the right way.
I hate the “but” apologies. If you did something wrong to someone, just own it. If you don’t think you did anything wrong, discuss it in a rational, unbiased manner.
The word "but" literally translates to "forget everything I just said, because it's all a lie"... Try the substitution. It works in every case I've seen to date. ;o)
@ Missy GluffGluff The "but" apology is actually justified in some cases. For instance, I can't stand people who demand apologies but can't offer one themselves for THEIR half of the conflict. It takes two to tango. Altercations don't include one person, they include all parties. BOTH parties need to own up to their mistakes whether they feel victimized or not.
Yes, i did. But even tho i used the word "but". I also acknowledged full responsibility for my actions. Besides the apologies i amde to my mum about coming home too late in my teens.
👍A real apology has three main components: (1) it acknowledges the actions taken and resulting pain inflicted on you; (2) it provides an action plan for how s/he will right the wrong; and (3) there is an actual change in behavior proving to you that there won't be a repeat of the past.
THANK YOU! I was about to say the same thing! A true apology requires an understanding & remorse of the hurt/pain caused by their actions. It requires making amends to right the wrong. It demands a change in attitude & behavior that shows they care enough about your feelings and have enough respect for you to never do that to you again. It requires action, not just words. It requires consistency in behavior, effort & commitment to win back your trust. Anything less than that is merely manipulation.
The best apology is changed behavior. All of these manipulative verbal "apologies" work because people let the weight of words hold more value than the weight of actions. I don't trust "I'm sorry" until I see it followed through
Hearing a fake apology is like a slap in the face, so to speak. Do not waste someone's time, for the person who was wronged sees right through the sham ! Take responsibility for your actions, and keep your mouth shut because when you give a fake apology, you are adding insult to injury.
Real fake "I'm sorry" can be caught when the people who make mistake try to overact on saying only "I'm sorry" to cover their mistake. Even worse, after saying "I'm sorry", they go back to make fun of that "I'm sorry" with third person when you're still hurt. I faced it once and that's a shit of once my ex-friend called "friendship".
The worst of all is one side of the party failing to see the error of their own ways but feeling entitled to play the victim like they're the only ones owed an apology.
I often struggle because I use to be a manipulative person, I took therapy and alot of self awareness to stop it. I often apologize "Im sorry, I didnt mean to hurt your feelings" or the "Im sorry thats not what I ment!" But the difference for me is im always aware that the other person's emotions are there reality and its my responsibility for causing them in some way and Its ny job as a good friend or partner to understand and fix the issue. At least that's how I see it.
You are a sincerely brave person for recognizing that your behavior was hurting others, to take action and do the work to try to change and improve yourself, and to continue to maintain that change. I wish you the best for the New Year.
7 Signs Of A Fake Apology 1. “I’m sorry... *but*..” 2. “No, you’re taking it all wrong” (or “i’m sorry you took it the wrong way”) 3. “I’m sorry that you’re so sensitive” 4. “I’m sorry you feel that way” 5. “I’m sorry you think that” 6. “Okay, I’ll apologize if...” 7. “I’m sorry but I only did it because....”
Stamps ✨ 1:14 - I'm sorry but.. 1:47 - No your taking it all wrong 2:15 - I'm sorry that your so Sensitive 2:41 - Im sorry you feel that way 3:08 - I'm sorry you think that 3:39 - Ok ill Apologize If...
Either way if you want to know if an apology is sincere then sincere actions will follow, unless the person being apologized to is the one who really needs to change.
im so familiar with these "apologies." There have been so many "friends" that have gaslighted me in the past and I thought I was going crazy and I would always pin the blame of any issue on myself
I relate to that a lot! And since I've made drastic changes, those who pulled this crap are gone! Going into the new year, my decree is anyone that gaslights or disrespects me will be gone, no questions asked!
@@SamElle truly it is! The only ones that remain are those who bring something of great value to my world! You know what's intriguing? There's quite a bit that we relate to, so I've noticed as of late lol! 😊
@@tommygunn6901 I think that's super cool that we have so many similarities!!! I find that I get along best with people who also come from or can relate to similar situations!!!
I heard someone say if someone tells you you hurt them you don’t get to decide that you didn’t. Sometimes I rather see people get their karma than a fake apology so they know how it feels. Blaming the other person for being hurt is gaslighting.
@Pr.incorporated unfortunately it happens all too often in families .. you did well too stand up to it .. you will be branded for that though .. be strong
The three words “ I am sorry” doesn’t mean much if the person continues to hurt or offend you. Apologizing isn’t the same as feeling genuine remorse for the deed done or the comment said
I agree. If they were truly sorry they'd try their hardest not to hurt or offend you in the first place. If they only apologize to shut you up and get it over with, that apology is self-serving. They're not sorry they hurt you-they're sorry you confronted them. It's better to shun them FOREVER. You don't need them!
@ Michael Okeke Apologies also don't mean anything if the other side of the party can't own up to their mistakes as well. Everyone involved in conflicts had a role to play to everyone is accountable! PERIOD!!!!
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i really hate the "im sorry but i only said/did it because you.." it is so freakin manipulative and it really can end up with you watching out everything you say or do just in fear that you're gonna cause the same reaction in other ones
This is exactly what I was telling my ex when he would say, "I'm sorry you felt ignored but...." I said dont apologize for me feeling ignored because thats not a real apology, thats just putting the blame on me. Needless to say he's past me now. Over a year of having to deal with someone who can't take accountability for anything is bound to result in a failed relationship. Dont ever let it get to the point where you're constantly forgiving someone without them ever apologizing. Don't give them that power over you. Respect yourself and keep strong boundaries.
1:12: im sorry, but 1:47: no you're taking it all wrong! 2:13: im sorry that YOU'RE so sensitive 2:42: im sorry you feel that way 3:07: im sorry you think that 3:38: okay, ill apologize..IF 4:17: im sorry but, i only did it because of you
@pumpkinjack s this is where I feel the "but" apology is justified. For instance, "I'm sorry for what I did BUT, I think what you did was wrong too so you apologize for________."
A girl hurted me emotionally so bad in a summercamp that i cried for hours, and she only apologized because other people were looking at and she wanted to make a good impression. She said something like "Oh, sorry, it's just that my grandfather passed away reciently and because I was sensitive about it I got mad at you and started saying things I didn't mean" I was still crying, and I was so sensitive that I accepted her stupid apologize. Everyone smiled, and the next day everyone acted that nothing happened. She and some other girls in the summercamp always used to make fun of me, they started to do it again when they saw me forgiving that girl. They were other girls that weren't mean to me but didn't help or deffend me from their "friends". I only made one real friend in that summercamp. The rest of them just were toxic bitches who didn't care about how I felt. At least one of them apologized genuinely days after. Thanks for read my story, I guess. Sorry if my english is not very good
I tell my students that a sincere apology *begins* with "I'm sorry," and doesn't end until there's a change in behavior. Also, "'My bad,' is not an apology, it's a confession."
I needed this, on christmas eve I got sick, like really bad, I even was crying bc of the pain, and all my mom could tell me was "take something for the pain, you are ruining christmas for everyone", I already took something, and told her, at the end she cried and played the victim and I ended up like the GRINCH, even if I was the sick one
Oh wow, I can empathize with you. My mom did the same thing to me a few years ago at Xmas. It hurt me so much! But it also opened my eyes to this type of behavior. I will absolutely NOT tolerate people who treat me this way. Be sure to establish boundaries with your mom, and if she protests or violates them, then she has no interest in how her actions affect you. If possible, keep your communication/interactions brief and do not allow her to gaslight you. Be resolute about setting boundaries, and expect her resistance. She will NOT change, so your response to her must be what does. If you need help doing this, seek a professional who can guide you and keep you on track.
5:40 1: Think about what you did or said 2: Think about how that goes against your morals or how it hurts the other 3: Then you will feel the sincerity of your apology
I feel like, "I'm sorry if I offended you" should be added too So many of my friends say that when I get genuinely upset. It's borderline guilt tripping, and a complete avoidance of responsibility. 😔
my former friends: *apologize for hanging out behind my back and intentionally leaving me out of things* me, who’d heard this apology at least 5 times before and was manipulated into feeling guilty: it’s okay! :’)
Don’t say “It’s okay” if it really isn’t. You only make it seem like it’s completely okay to hurt you. Answer with something like “I forgive you if it won’t happen anymore”. *sending love* 💕
The only thing I can suggest to make an apology sincere is: whenever you apologize, make sure you mean it; otherwise you shouldn't apologize at all. But if you do, have the decency not to say any of these apology additions that video suggests. Cause now one would know whenever you're apology is sincere or not. I know I will.
I also can't sympathize when one side of the party demands and apology but can't take responsibility for their role in altercations and apologize for their errors.
My mom goes back and forth between "I'm sorry but that's just the way I am" and "sorry but if you hadn't been a bad child I wouldn't have been a bad mom to you". Either she blames me or acts like her ability to behave is set in stone and she refuses to even try and change that. I'm so sick of trying to talk to her because it's clear she won't ever see reason and actually take responsibility to be a better person.
Or when you tell them they did something wrong and they say “I’m sorry if I did that” or “I’m sorry if that happened” “I’m sorry if I made you feel that way” Like there is no IF! you DID do it! It’s like they are not taking responsibility for their actions and making me second guess myself 😤
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My friend of 12 years really hurt me when she said, "I'm sorry you feel that way" after trying to tell her how hurt I was for her calling me a particular name. I realized afterward that she was saying that to paint herself as the victim and she was being manipulative to make it seem as though she didn't do or say anything wrong. 😞
If you do any of these "apologies", yeah, you're NOT being sincere. The apology is not about YOU. It is FOR the other person. Your selfish perspective should be a clue as to why you have an issue with this video.
My friend and I had an argument a long time ago and a month ago she apologized and yesterday she got mad at me and called me mean stuff & didn't want to be my friend :( but hopefully I heal & move on :')
I also having an argument between me and my bestie we never been contect since the fight it's been 1 month I miss her so much but I don't know if she think the same way as me I'm still afraid to chat her what if she still didn't forgive me. It's really big fight we have argument until 4 a.m. and hurt me so much 😔
Ayyyyyyyyyyy that is messed up but sometimes you mean it but you dont like you're really are it's really good that this videos are here to make us correct our mistakes
Another one is bribery in place of changing behaviour, no "I'm sorry" just gifts and ignoring the problem on repeat. i don't like gift-giving now because I've seen this so many times.
How about "I'm sorry you're angry" when I'm not? All I asked my "friend" who is middle-aged like myself, was this question: Why am I the only one calling and visiting, doing all the work? ("Come see me at work; I'm bored.") When I asked her to explain months ago via email, she did not reply. I even went up to her work and left messages with her co-workers, which she knew about but again, chose not to reply. (Who's really the "angry" one here?) Then the other day, she emailed me, wishing me a "MC" and using words like "love", "friend", flattering me, etc. When I brought up the matter again, expressing my confusion and frustration, she wrote that she had "too much self-respect" to "go back and forth" with me. I asked her why would her self-respect prevent her from answering a simple question. No reply. I wrote her saying that I was sorry for expecting "the bare minimum" from her, that I'm glad we met and wished her well, but that I would not bother her again. She wrote back but I did not reply and deleted her email. My heart can only take so much. I know that I make a great friend and that TRUE friendship is a 2-way street. I have no patience for mixed signals and I cannot be with people who do not own their mistakes. I have standards on how I want to be treated and I'm only interested in relationships that I can actually count on. Anyone care to comment? Please do. Am I missing something here? I have noticed that she does not get along with other women.
She tried to make the situation about how YOU were immature when you weren't. "I'm sorry you're so angry" (especially when you're not) is meant to make you feel like you're irrational and overly emotional. Asking her to give a little isn't wrong, and all relationships require that others put in effort. If this is an issue she has with others, it's likely more her than you.
@@sebastianmaker6798 Thank you and I like your name. :) All my life, people have told me how kind and caring I am, so I must be doing something right. Just today, a neighbor dropped off a card with money at my home and I've known them only a year. I'm touched and humbled by such people who truly know and live the meaning of the Golden Rule, as you've implied in your comments. So you can imagine my hurt and confusion with this one person. I don't like to demonize people and I give everyone a chance. When I first met her, she was cool and we had stuff in common. She praised my talents and gave good advice on various topics. She'd buy me a soda when I'd visit her at work and I'd bring gifts for her beauty interests. My mom even did some sewing for her. So, to be fair, she was not untrustworthy or envious or selfish and she was always respectful to my family. But I started to notice how every single girl that worked with her would quit; she'd say that they did her wrong when, in fact, she was the common denominator in every interaction. I just can't hang out with a woman who has no women friends. She has to be Alpha in everything and I do not. I don't want to compete with anyone for anything. And I'm a bit too old to indulge in teenage passive-aggressive crap. We all have faults, so why not own them? I can, she won't. End of.
A non-apology apology, sometimes called a nonpology, backhanded apology, or fauxpology, is a statement in the form of an apology that does not express remorse. ... Saying "I'm sorry you feel that way" to someone who has been offended by a statement is a non-apology apology.
I just in a fight with my mom, and she just checked off every single box on this list. What’s worse is how much she’s trying to make me feel like it’s my fault.
My toxic friend said I’m sorry after trying to guilt trip making us do things that we didn’t want to do, and only cares about herself. I told her that I had to think about it. She used depression against me and tried to guilt trip me.
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My mom did something that probably scarred me for life. She said sorry then told my dad about it like "I had to (...)" and it just frustrates me to no end. You don't have to tell him! She told my sister as well, highlighting something I told her instead of when I was crying and the actual thing, only mentioning that it happened, and they both laughed it off...and I laughed too. Laughter is contagious, and I couldn't not laugh while dying inside. It's like what she did was a freaking joke. Scratch that- everything bad she's ever done in her whole life!!! Especially to _me._ I cry every day. I don't know if it's depression or something, or that Mom always says the wrong things and has absolutely no empathy or sympathy, or both. She also blamed something she did on her having anger issues (as she guessed), like that validates it. She whines every day and I have no choice but to bottle up my feelings since she's like an extremely irrational toddler who so happens to have birthed me. I just want less hate in the world, including from me.
When i missed school for a few days i asked my “friend” when do we have the English test, and she told me we have it on Tuesday or Wednesday( I don’t remember exactly) but it was actually the first day of school on Monday. She did that so i can come to the test unprepared and get a lower mark than her. After the teacher graded our papers, we went to the bathroom and i asked her why she told me that we have the test on Tuesday and she said: “i also didn’t know.” How can’t you know? You were at school. She didn’t even looked in my eyes, didn’t sound convincing and didn’t even apologize or feel sorry about me, it was so obvious that she lied to me. Edit: well, her plan worked tho, she got a slightly higher grade than mine and the teacher was disappointed on me.
What drives me crazy is “I’m sorry if…” bc you’re denying it what you by and an if when you did hurt them. Its not I’m sorry if you feelings got hurt, it’s , I’m sorry that i hurt you’re feelings.
Other times, they will apologize with buying gifts, helping you with errands and etc. When you accept their apologies, they will go back to doing the things that hurt you.
NEXT QUESTION: I got the Fake Apology that blamed me for a guy yelling at me in a restaurant parking lot via a text. I knew he was twisting it to blame me for his behavior. It helps so much for you to put this into words, labeling it as the worst type of apology. QUESTION:. How does an emotionally mature authentic adult respond to this?
Call them out for gaslighting. They can’t apologize for your feelings (gaslighting) that’s yours. They need to take ownership for their own role. If they had no role they only need to ask you how you feel and checkin in with you about how it goes. People who contribute with opinions about “how it was” are not caring for you. They are care how “smart” they are…they know more than you.
3:11 I am the only one who is thinking that this looks like BTS “life goes on” MV thumbnail??🤔🤔😂 Edit - I just checked on it and it was exactly same 😂😂
Narcissistic ex-friends are professional "apologizers" to manipulate people's feelings. They put in a lot of effort to maintain public appearances of "innocence & wholesome goodness". Whether a close friend/family member call them out on their b.s or maintain silence over it, narcissists believe their fake apologies will get them away scott-free forever from Karma.
My mom would apologize for yelling at me or calling me dumb, and it’d be multiple times. My sister did the same way, but she used the “I’m sorry, this hurt me more than it hurts you” or “I’m sorry you feel that way”
Not "similar to". It IS because they ARE a narc. Narcissistic people use the fake apology as one of their main tools. It's a very manipulative tactic and should immediately be seen as a giant red flag to stay away from that person.
It really isn’t that hard to make a genuine apology. All you have to do is state what you did wrong, say, “I’m sorry,” or, “I apologize,” and state that you shouldn’t have done what you did. After that, just work on changing your behavior. It’s literally that simple
@@Psych2go if you’re happy and want to, of course! it’s so cute and i love the way you put light on these situations with it and educate others at the same time! :3
1. Someone who says this is someone who feels insecure, because they know they have done something wrong, but they are scared to take all the blame, so they put some onto you to take weight off their back. They think it will bring them relief if you are also to blame for the whole situation. They will put you down to make them feel happier. 2. Someone who says this doesn’t believe that they are the wrong one, or they don’t want to believe it at least. They act like you’ve taken something the wrong way to make it seem like they really haven’t done anything worth arguing about. This can make you feel upset too, because it’s making you feel like you’ve upset them by taking something the wrong way. Unlike 1 where they only put some pressure on your back, these types of people take it all of their back and onto yours. 3. Someone who says this is trying to make you feel like the only reason you are upset is because you can’t handle a joke. They will put you off by saying you are too sensitive, when really they have just made you upset. They don’t show any sympathy or empathy for your negative emotions caused from their own physical or mental attacks towards you. They think it makes them seem like the good one if they turn their own bad deeds into just you being over dramatic. They will try to push you into thinking you are the bad one and should fix yourself. 4. Someone who says this is desperate to point out all the ways it’s your fault, and none of the ways it’s their fault. In their mind, they have done nothing wrong. They don’t say “I’m sorry for my hurtful actions” because they don’t talk about how it was there fault. They push you into your own guilt so they don’t have to feel theirs. They know they have done something wrong, so they make you feel the same way to make it somewhat “equal”. They aren’t sorry for their actions. They are sorry for your feeling about the actions. 5. Someone who says this is trying to make you think that you misunderstood their actions to make it seem like they did nothing at all, and you are just claiming they have. It’s a manipulative phrase that gets you under the impression that they are right and you are wrong for thinking they did something that would actually offend you. They know they’ve upset you, but they think if they act like you are just misunderstanding the situation, they can make you think they haven’t done anything. 6. They want something from you, like an apology or for you to admit your “wrong doings” before they admit theirs, because they don’t want to be the wrong one. If you apologise first, it will make them feel like it was partly your fault. 7. If someone says this to you, just like in all the other ones, they don’t want it to be their fault, so they make it yours. They accuse you of doing something to cause their actions. Sounds mean, right? These people can manipulate you into thinking “I shouldn’t have done what I did. This never would have happened if I didn’t.” When really you did nothing at all. All of these are the same in one way- They all want you to take more blame than them - The video in my words -This took me forever
1. I’m sorry, but....
2. No you’re taking it all wrong
3. I’m sorry that you’re so sensitive
4. I’m sorry you feel that way
5. I’m sorry you think that
6. Ok, I’ll apologize if....
7. I’m sorry, but I only did it because of you
Hope this helped if you don’t have time to watch the whole video
Thank you so much, seems like my friend always does this..
Saying sorry is a sign of weakness however saying one is wrong shows security and humility.
My step dad does all of this
He physically/verbally emotionally abuse's me
I am a person with low self-esteem
I say sorry a lot because I was born into a toxic family
I always say sorry like
Sorry to bother you. Sorry for wasting your time
"I always say sorry, but I"
Then I try to explain something
What do I do now to make my apology better?
Do I start with sorry and then say how I feel?
Like sorry I was a bad person etc.
Thank you this really helps for my ADHD
"There's a difference between saying "I'm sorry," and apologizing."
"Never apologize if you aren't really feeling sorry.
Sometimes you need to just to get people off your back. I'd rather someone feel closure even if its fake, than them waste time trying to convince me to feel a way I never will.
@@siqxyre8473 Agreed!
"im sorry" and "i apologise" are the same thing except at the funerals
Feeling sorry for oneself about how error caused personal to you loss is not the same thing as being sorry for doing wrong.
Well said :)
-Monica
Genuine and sincere apologies are essential to successful relationships.
So are genuine and sincere changes in actions that should follow by either person involved. Depending on the situation the person apologizing could be the one in the right just not saying it the right way.
Well said Nicole :) You truly possess good EQ ;D Username checks out!
-Monica
With the emphasis on genuine
yes
but i think i made fake apologies most of my life :C
I hate the “but” apologies. If you did something wrong to someone, just own it. If you don’t think you did anything wrong, discuss it in a rational, unbiased manner.
The word "but" literally translates to "forget everything I just said, because it's all a lie"...
Try the substitution. It works in every case I've seen to date. ;o)
People who make fake apologies either don't feel confident enough to right their wrongs(can be called cowardice) or just wants to be right.
In literally do this, I need to make sure my SO know I love them, stumbling across this video Hurt me so much bc how is it even in my recommended
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Missy GluffGluff
The "but" apology is actually justified in some cases. For instance, I can't stand people who demand apologies but can't offer one themselves for THEIR half of the conflict. It takes two to tango. Altercations don't include one person, they include all parties.
BOTH parties need to own up to their mistakes whether they feel victimized or not.
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2021 is coming up so soon! What's your New Years Resolution?
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Sleeping
Hii
Idk man I’m lost
To be happy :)
Who else here has before actually meant a sincere apology but they accidentally used one of these?
Use this as a learning opportunity :)
-Monica
@@Psych2go yep .. thats why your vids are good ..we all learn something new..
Mee
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Yes, i did. But even tho i used the word "but". I also acknowledged full responsibility for my actions. Besides the apologies i amde to my mum about coming home too late in my teens.
👍A real apology has three main components: (1) it acknowledges the actions taken and resulting pain inflicted on you; (2) it provides an action plan for how s/he will right the wrong; and (3) there is an actual change in behavior proving to you that there won't be a repeat of the past.
Thank you!
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very well said!!
THANK YOU! I was about to say the same thing! A true apology requires an understanding & remorse of the hurt/pain caused by their actions. It requires making amends to right the wrong. It demands a change in attitude & behavior that shows they care enough about your feelings and have enough respect for you to never do that to you again. It requires action, not just words. It requires consistency in behavior, effort & commitment to win back your trust. Anything less than that is merely manipulation.
I was searching for this.
Thanks
Easy:
1. Visibly turn on the camera.
2. Sigh
3. "I made a severe lapse-
I should have expected that
@Your username I'm sorry you're disappointed in my recent decisions
Don't forget the "i didn't wanna make this video.."
Ha
Don't forget the fake tears
2020 is gonna give a fake apology for everything
@@rebeccadalton7956 holy moly, sorry to hear that.. :(
@@rebeccadalton7956 Yep this is why I no longer trust hospitals. You can go for a broken limb and they'll say you have COVID.
even 2021 is 2020-one...
-Monica
@@Psych2go 2022 will also be 2020-too 😑
@@avymationz7024 2024 will be 2023-free 😎
If someone says you've hurt them, you don't get to decide that you didn't.
Great video!
Exactly
The best apology is changed behavior.
All of these manipulative verbal "apologies" work because people let the weight of words hold more value than the weight of actions.
I don't trust "I'm sorry" until I see it followed through
And the ones where sides of the party admit to their wrong doings and take turns apologizing to each other while empaizing other sides of the story.
I have a toxic mother, and she use all the 7 fake apologies. Doing the hurtful things over and over again.
Hearing a fake apology is like a slap in the face, so to speak. Do not waste someone's time, for the person who was wronged sees right through the sham ! Take responsibility for your actions, and keep your mouth shut because when you give a fake apology, you are adding insult to injury.
Real fake "I'm sorry" can be caught when the people who make mistake try to overact on saying only "I'm sorry" to cover their mistake. Even worse, after saying "I'm sorry", they go back to make fun of that "I'm sorry" with third person when you're still hurt. I faced it once and that's a shit of once my ex-friend called "friendship".
The worst of all is one side of the party failing to see the error of their own ways but feeling entitled to play the victim like they're the only ones owed an apology.
I often struggle because I use to be a manipulative person, I took therapy and alot of self awareness to stop it. I often apologize "Im sorry, I didnt mean to hurt your feelings" or the "Im sorry thats not what I ment!" But the difference for me is im always aware that the other person's emotions are there reality and its my responsibility for causing them in some way and Its ny job as a good friend or partner to understand and fix the issue. At least that's how I see it.
You are a sincerely brave person for recognizing that your behavior was hurting others, to take action and do the work to try to change and improve yourself, and to continue to maintain that change. I wish you the best for the New Year.
@@jaymanz9779 thank you its a thing i think ill have to constantly be aware of and be careful not to fall back into doing i really appreciate you!!
7 Signs Of A Fake Apology
1. “I’m sorry... *but*..”
2. “No, you’re taking it all wrong”
(or “i’m sorry you took it the wrong way”)
3. “I’m sorry that you’re so sensitive”
4. “I’m sorry you feel that way”
5. “I’m sorry you think that”
6. “Okay, I’ll apologize if...”
7. “I’m sorry but I only did it because....”
most of the times its also this:-
im sorry idk who that person was, that person wasn't me
Yep, I'm all TOO familiar with these half-assed apologies becuz they've been told to me so many times I've lost count (especially 3, 4, 5 & 7)
Stamps ✨
1:14 - I'm sorry but..
1:47 - No your taking it all wrong
2:15 - I'm sorry that your so Sensitive
2:41 - Im sorry you feel that way
3:08 - I'm sorry you think that
3:39 - Ok ill Apologize If...
Here’s another my dad would always say to me. I’m sorry but you where...
Either way if you want to know if an apology is sincere then sincere actions will follow, unless the person being apologized to is the one who really needs to change.
im so familiar with these "apologies." There have been so many "friends" that have gaslighted me in the past and I thought I was going crazy and I would always pin the blame of any issue on myself
I relate to that a lot! And since I've made drastic changes, those who pulled this crap are gone! Going into the new year, my decree is anyone that gaslights or disrespects me will be gone, no questions asked!
@@tommygunn6901 oh heck yea, that's a greaaat standard to have!!
@@SamElle truly it is! The only ones that remain are those who bring something of great value to my world!
You know what's intriguing? There's quite a bit that we relate to, so I've noticed as of late lol! 😊
@@tommygunn6901 I think that's super cool that we have so many similarities!!! I find that I get along best with people who also come from or can relate to similar situations!!!
@@SamElle very true!! Plus it makes it easy for banter 😉 gotta have some fun with it too! So, enjoying the holidays so far?
I heard someone say if someone tells you you hurt them you don’t get to decide that you didn’t. Sometimes I rather see people get their karma than a fake apology so they know how it feels. Blaming the other person for being hurt is gaslighting.
I agree
Agree .. love the title of your channel .. mutually subscribe?
@Pr.incorporated unfortunately it happens all too often in families .. you did well too stand up to it .. you will be branded for that though .. be strong
The three words “ I am sorry” doesn’t mean much if the person continues to hurt or offend you. Apologizing isn’t the same as feeling genuine remorse for the deed done or the comment said
I agree. If they were truly sorry they'd try their hardest not to hurt or offend you in the first place. If they only apologize to shut you up and get it over with, that apology is self-serving. They're not sorry they hurt you-they're sorry you confronted them. It's better to shun them FOREVER. You don't need them!
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Michael Okeke
Apologies also don't mean anything if the other side of the party can't own up to their mistakes as well. Everyone involved in conflicts had a role to play to everyone is accountable! PERIOD!!!!
@@amylee8969 well said 💯
this will expose all these tiktokers with fake apologies for saying the n word or grooming minors
In the end TikToker's stay winning, no matter how screwed up😔
Never accept an apology for the N-word.
ich hab mich nicht zu entchsuldigen...... Ihr habt mich gedroppt ausm Soma, ausm Mio ausm Jom ausm MuWi ausm Physik ausm TSV ost ausm everywhere und davor habt ihr mich gesilent treated um es vorzubereiten.......
Ich habe mich nicht zu entschuldigen
Ihr habt mich dann succzessive hier in dieser Wohnung vergammeln lassen JAHRE LANG halbe Decade um genau zu sein. Ihr habt diese Dinge getan nicht ich.
Davor bin ich zu EUREN Aktivitäten gerannt wieder und wieder, und nochmal, und sobald ich aufhörte wart ihr WEG..... das ist Null Fairenss, it is completely one sided effort... I run up to you, I kis up to you, and the second I stop you vansih
ND i AM LEFT ALONE
i really hate the "im sorry but i only said/did it because you.." it is so freakin manipulative and it really can end up with you watching out everything you say or do just in fear that you're gonna cause the same reaction in other ones
This is exactly what I was telling my ex when he would say, "I'm sorry you felt ignored but...." I said dont apologize for me feeling ignored because thats not a real apology, thats just putting the blame on me. Needless to say he's past me now. Over a year of having to deal with someone who can't take accountability for anything is bound to result in a failed relationship. Dont ever let it get to the point where you're constantly forgiving someone without them ever apologizing. Don't give them that power over you. Respect yourself and keep strong boundaries.
1:12: im sorry, but
1:47: no you're taking it all wrong!
2:13: im sorry that YOU'RE so sensitive
2:42: im sorry you feel that way
3:07: im sorry you think that
3:38: okay, ill apologize..IF
4:17: im sorry but, i only did it because of you
Bruh, your username is relatable af X'D Gdi
@@sakuraRyn lmaoooo ty-
@@avashattuckmusic thanks for the list
there's a lot of times when people still apologize when they shouldn't have
Me i blamed myself for being sensitive to the situation 🤧
noooo
@pumpkinjack s
this is where I feel the "but" apology is justified.
For instance, "I'm sorry for what I did BUT, I think what you did was wrong too so you apologize for________."
The cat is having the time of it's life 😂: 4:58
At 3:18 the picture looks like a scene from the "Life goes on" mv
Ikr
I was thinking the same
It is. they tend to reference things from pop culture a lot. like how it's a SpongeBob kind of theme, and 2020 Corona virus in the video
EXACTLY-
I was searching for this comment which says they look like BTS😂
Let's apply this to all these yt apologies
Which one are we starting with LOL jk
-Monica
There are so many vids on not apologising etc .. but we have an opportunity to grow
The noise in the background is so mesmerizing :0
A girl hurted me emotionally so bad in a summercamp that i cried for hours, and she only apologized because other people were looking at and she wanted to make a good impression. She said something like "Oh, sorry, it's just that my grandfather passed away reciently and because I was sensitive about it I got mad at you and started saying things I didn't mean"
I was still crying, and I was so sensitive that I accepted her stupid apologize. Everyone smiled, and the next day everyone acted that nothing happened. She and some other girls in the summercamp always used to make fun of me, they started to do it again when they saw me forgiving that girl. They were other girls that weren't mean to me but didn't help or deffend me from their "friends". I only made one real friend in that summercamp. The rest of them just were toxic bitches who didn't care about how I felt. At least one of them apologized genuinely days after.
Thanks for read my story, I guess. Sorry if my english is not very good
What happens to us personally .. i do not believe excuses us from hurting others
Psych2go literally exposing the whole beauty community
Glad I don't watch those stupid channels anymore lol.
Which type of beauty?
I love the beauty community though :')
-Monica
ian page makeup
@@bintousylla5443 meant that more philosophical. Which beauty is really Beautiful?
Everyone: Talking about the topic of the video.
Me: *Looks at the cute little references.*
Most youtubers: *sweating*
True
Omgggg yess like that mukbanger
no 👁️👄👁️💧
Don't forget some celebrities as well including singers
I love how characters are used for every example. The little Saitama is so cute! (0:19)
Thanks Hopia! We're glad that you love it. 🤗✨
@@rivuuuh you're welcome 😊
I believe changed behavior needs to go with an apology. Because if you continue to act the same way it didn’t mean anything.
I tell my students that a sincere apology *begins* with "I'm sorry," and doesn't end until there's a change in behavior.
Also, "'My bad,' is not an apology, it's a confession."
I noticed all of this in N word apologies.
Ah another person who views everything through the lense of race.
@@RedRoseSeptember22 calm down
I needed this, on christmas eve I got sick, like really bad, I even was crying bc of the pain, and all my mom could tell me was "take something for the pain, you are ruining christmas for everyone", I already took something, and told her, at the end she cried and played the victim and I ended up like the GRINCH, even if I was the sick one
That similar to my moms side, they’re control freaks. Moving out helped because I could sleep in a different building.
Oh wow, I can empathize with you. My mom did the same thing to me a few years ago at Xmas. It hurt me so much! But it also opened my eyes to this type of behavior. I will absolutely NOT tolerate people who treat me this way. Be sure to establish boundaries with your mom, and if she protests or violates them, then she has no interest in how her actions affect you. If possible, keep your communication/interactions brief and do not allow her to gaslight you. Be resolute about setting boundaries, and expect her resistance. She will NOT change, so your response to her must be what does. If you need help doing this, seek a professional who can guide you and keep you on track.
Every sibling ever: of course i know him, the one who fakes apologizing, he's me
Lol
As an older sister I can confirm
As the youngest sibling I can confirm
If your the oldest forced apologies are a second language, especially with manipulative siblings
The analogies that the animation presents is brilliant
Thanks!! Glad you like it :)
5:40
1: Think about what you did or said
2: Think about how that goes against your morals or how it hurts the other
3: Then you will feel the sincerity of your apology
Real sorry is said like:
“I’m really sorry”
Reason why your sorry but for example: “I sorry that I took your rice bowl “
Great example! I like this a lot, Savannah :)
-Monica
Y e s. You really should apologize for taking my rice bowl it's an important thing in my life.
@@breadcult-bj2wh 😂
My late mother did that. And, I’ve seen lot of people who didn’t apologize and they think that they are right. Not!
I feel like, "I'm sorry if I offended you" should be added too
So many of my friends say that when I get genuinely upset. It's borderline guilt tripping, and a complete avoidance of responsibility. 😔
3:12 kinda looks like life goes on MV-
Guuuuurrrlll yess I was waiting for this comment
Yesss
I'm glad I wasn't the only one that noticed
my former friends: *apologize for hanging out behind my back and intentionally leaving me out of things*
me, who’d heard this apology at least 5 times before and was manipulated into feeling guilty: it’s okay! :’)
fake friends suck I hope you're okay now
aaaaah i just wanna hug u cuz i relate....
@@morningglory.213 sending hugs to you bb
Don’t say “It’s okay” if it really isn’t. You only make it seem like it’s completely okay to hurt you. Answer with something like “I forgive you if it won’t happen anymore”.
*sending love* 💕
So just because they didn't include you they're suddenly bad people??
This channel has THE BEST way of speaking sentences in explanations. Change my mind
The only thing I can suggest to make an apology sincere is: whenever you apologize, make sure you mean it; otherwise you shouldn't apologize at all. But if you do, have the decency not to say any of these apology additions that video suggests. Cause now one would know whenever you're apology is sincere or not. I know I will.
@@bearuwu2191 is it gonna replace Psych2goers?
You know it’s a fake apology when they say “i accidentally did that” and don’t even apologize.
I also can't sympathize when one side of the party demands and apology but can't take responsibility for their role in altercations and apologize for their errors.
There's this person who apologizes for everything she does and I don't know if it's just in her nature or they're just faking it everytime
Usually this sort of thing is caused by a lack of confidence.
Maybe she's been gaslit, before, so she covers her bases to defend against her abusers, whether or not they're there.
maybe it's how they raised? like "not saying sorry is rude, now tell Josh you're sorry that now your toy is broken"
My mom goes back and forth between "I'm sorry but that's just the way I am" and "sorry but if you hadn't been a bad child I wouldn't have been a bad mom to you". Either she blames me or acts like her ability to behave is set in stone and she refuses to even try and change that. I'm so sick of trying to talk to her because it's clear she won't ever see reason and actually take responsibility to be a better person.
@@bearuwu2191 Replying randomly to other people's comments is not a great way to get people to check out your channel, just saying
Or when you tell them they did something wrong and they say
“I’m sorry if I did that” or “I’m sorry if that happened” “I’m sorry if I made you feel that way”
Like there is no IF! you DID do it!
It’s like they are not taking responsibility for their actions and making me second guess myself 😤
Yup, this confirmed that my ex definitely never gave me a sincere apology even once. (:
I feel this too hard u_u 2 years and still emotionally fucked 5 months after I ended things...
Yeah, it sucks
My friend: apologies fakly
Me: pulls out this video
That’s what I was thinking! 😂😅
😄😄😂
Some famous people watching this from their secret account:
i- 👁️👄👁️
Ayo Hitman Bang ....
@@Sunflower_that_loves_you Ayo! Hitman Bang introduces: Hit It the second audition. Rap, Dance, noraero sangdaebangui giseoneul jeaphae. 😭
Good choice of name btw😊❤️
@@zalede1889 😂😂😂😁🤑
We are so lovely ! Lovely x 3
LOL real stuff...
-Monica
@@zalede1889 hey my teacher send this to me saying i'm sorry you felt as if you can't approach me is that a fake apology?
My friend of 12 years really hurt me when she said, "I'm sorry you feel that way" after trying to tell her how hurt I was for her calling me a particular name. I realized afterward that she was saying that to paint herself as the victim and she was being manipulative to make it seem as though she didn't do or say anything wrong. 😞
All great points!
“I’m sorry you feel that way” just makes me more angry, because it’s not an apology!
When it turns out that you were always fake apologizing:
*Wait, we are the baddies?*
If you do any of these "apologies", yeah, you're NOT being sincere. The apology is not about YOU. It is FOR the other person. Your selfish perspective should be a clue as to why you have an issue with this video.
My friend and I had an argument a long time ago and a month ago she apologized and yesterday she got mad at me and called me mean stuff & didn't want to be my friend :( but hopefully I heal & move on :')
I also having an argument between me and my bestie we never been contect since the fight it's been 1 month I miss her so much but I don't know if she think the same way as me I'm still afraid to chat her what if she still didn't forgive me. It's really big fight we have argument until 4 a.m. and hurt me so much 😔
I feel like i always do this but i dont realize 😶
Usisgsiasbajsh
Ayyyyyyyyyyy that is messed up but sometimes you mean it but you dont like you're really are it's really good that this videos are here to make us correct our mistakes
@@karimameziane1936 yep 😔✨
People need to understand that there is an etiquette to apologies.
I love how on sometimes they use 2020 and covid as a example
"I'm sorry, that you're so sensitive" feels like rubbing salt on stab wound they caused
Love how you used mother Gothel at the beginning 😂
Another one is bribery in place of changing behaviour, no "I'm sorry" just gifts and ignoring the problem on repeat. i don't like gift-giving now because I've seen this so many times.
How about "I'm sorry you're angry" when I'm not?
All I asked my "friend" who is middle-aged like myself,
was this question:
Why am I the only one calling and visiting, doing all the work?
("Come see me at work; I'm bored.")
When I asked her to explain months ago via email, she did not reply.
I even went up to her work and left messages with her co-workers,
which she knew about but again, chose not to reply.
(Who's really the "angry" one here?)
Then the other day, she emailed me, wishing me a "MC" and using words
like "love", "friend", flattering me, etc.
When I brought up the matter again, expressing my confusion and frustration,
she wrote that she had "too much self-respect" to "go back and forth" with me.
I asked her why would her self-respect prevent her from answering a simple question.
No reply.
I wrote her saying that I was sorry for expecting "the bare minimum" from her,
that I'm glad we met and wished her well, but that I would not bother her again.
She wrote back but I did not reply and deleted her email.
My heart can only take so much.
I know that I make a great friend and that TRUE friendship is a 2-way street.
I have no patience for mixed signals and I cannot be with people who do
not own their mistakes.
I have standards on how I want to be treated and I'm only interested
in relationships that I can actually count on.
Anyone care to comment? Please do.
Am I missing something here?
I have noticed that she does not get along with other women.
She tried to make the situation about how YOU were immature when you weren't. "I'm sorry you're so angry" (especially when you're not) is meant to make you feel like you're irrational and overly emotional. Asking her to give a little isn't wrong, and all relationships require that others put in effort. If this is an issue she has with others, it's likely more her than you.
@@sebastianmaker6798 Thank you and I like your name. :)
All my life, people have told me how kind and caring I am,
so I must be doing something right. Just today, a neighbor
dropped off a card with money at my home and I've known
them only a year. I'm touched and humbled by such people
who truly know and live the meaning of the Golden Rule,
as you've implied in your comments.
So you can imagine my hurt and confusion with this one person.
I don't like to demonize people and I give everyone a chance.
When I first met her, she was cool and we had stuff in common.
She praised my talents and gave good advice on various topics.
She'd buy me a soda when I'd visit her at work and I'd bring gifts
for her beauty interests. My mom even did some sewing for her.
So, to be fair, she was not untrustworthy or envious or selfish
and she was always respectful to my family.
But I started to notice how every single girl that worked with her
would quit; she'd say that they did her wrong when, in fact,
she was the common denominator in every interaction.
I just can't hang out with a woman who has no women friends.
She has to be Alpha in everything and I do not.
I don't want to compete with anyone for anything.
And I'm a bit too old to indulge in teenage passive-aggressive crap.
We all have faults, so why not own them?
I can, she won't. End of.
Saying sorry without admitting what you did wrong or only saying "sorry for everything I've ever done". Is like selling an empty bag of cookies
A non-apology apology, sometimes called a nonpology, backhanded apology, or fauxpology, is a statement in the form of an apology that does not express remorse. ... Saying "I'm sorry you feel that way" to someone who has been offended by a statement is a non-apology apology.
People often do not validate our feelings .. thanks for sharing
I love how they explained what is a bad apology by making it interesting(spongebob, the year of 2020 and even life goes on by bts)
Thanks Gigi! We're glad that you love it. 🤗✨
When they say " Sorry doesn't mean anything" or " sorry isn't enough". I had to leave a group of people because of that mind set.
A Turtle doesn't approve fake apologies
Lol
Wise turtle of the ocean, what other wisdom do you have
I just in a fight with my mom, and she just checked off every single box on this list. What’s worse is how much she’s trying to make me feel like it’s my fault.
Currently mad cuz my ex did all of these but 1 🙄
My toxic friend said I’m sorry after trying to guilt trip making us do things that we didn’t want to do, and only cares about herself.
I told her that I had to think about it. She used depression against me and tried to guilt trip me.
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everyone happily reaching their goals
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My mom did something that probably scarred me for life. She said sorry then told my dad about it like "I had to (...)" and it just frustrates me to no end. You don't have to tell him! She told my sister as well, highlighting something I told her instead of when I was crying and the actual thing, only mentioning that it happened, and they both laughed it off...and I laughed too. Laughter is contagious, and I couldn't not laugh while dying inside.
It's like what she did was a freaking joke. Scratch that- everything bad she's ever done in her whole life!!!
Especially to _me._
I cry every day.
I don't know if it's depression or something, or that Mom always says the wrong things and has absolutely no empathy or sympathy, or both. She also blamed something she did on her having anger issues (as she guessed), like that validates it.
She whines every day and I have no choice but to bottle up my feelings since she's like an extremely irrational toddler who so happens to have birthed me.
I just want less hate in the world, including from me.
I’ve never spent a day in my life without saying, “I’m sorry.” It’s that I’m told to say it, but I just feel really guilty when I mess up.
And I've never related to a comment more than now
I really like the references, while being educational and genuine
When i missed school for a few days i asked my “friend” when do we have the English test, and she told me we have it on Tuesday or Wednesday( I don’t remember exactly) but it was actually the first day of school on Monday. She did that so i can come to the test unprepared and get a lower mark than her.
After the teacher graded our papers, we went to the bathroom and i asked her why she told me that we have the test on Tuesday and she said: “i also didn’t know.” How can’t you know? You were at school. She didn’t even looked in my eyes, didn’t sound convincing and didn’t even apologize or feel sorry about me, it was so obvious that she lied to me.
Edit: well, her plan worked tho, she got a slightly higher grade than mine and the teacher was disappointed on me.
What drives me crazy is “I’m sorry if…” bc you’re denying it what you by and an if when you did hurt them. Its not I’m sorry if you feelings got hurt, it’s , I’m sorry that i hurt you’re feelings.
Who else noticed: spongebob, tangled, covid and taylor swift in the animation?
Wow. We're glad you noticed! 🤩✨
@@rivuuuh are you being sarcastic or are you serious..?
@@jovanaletic6077 I don't know how to be sarcastic though. 😳
Thanks for noticing them, Jovana! Ms Oh is the animator of this video :)
Other times, they will apologize with buying gifts, helping you with errands and etc. When you accept their apologies, they will go back to doing the things that hurt you.
aww i love the beginning! it looks like you were in sandy's house LOL
and the billie eillish puns omg :)lol how was christmas for you?
Thank you! Glad you noticed that Sandy's house ahaha! Christmas went well for me! I hope you had a wonderful Christmas with family! - Cindy
@@Psych2go thank you!! your very kind! :D ilysm stay safe!
The animation and references in these videos never cease to amaze me, no matter who the artist is.
Awwh. I am flattered. Thank youuuu Cheryl! 🤗✨
NEXT QUESTION: I got the Fake Apology that blamed me for a guy yelling at me in a restaurant parking lot via a text. I knew he was twisting it to blame me for his behavior. It helps so much for you to put this into words, labeling it as the worst type of apology. QUESTION:. How does an emotionally mature authentic adult respond to this?
Call them out for gaslighting. They can’t apologize for your feelings (gaslighting) that’s yours. They need to take ownership for their own role. If they had no role they only need to ask you how you feel and checkin in with you about how it goes. People who contribute with opinions about “how it was” are not caring for you. They are care how “smart” they are…they know more than you.
Sometimes people get mad at me and I apologize, but I don't know what I'm apologizing for.....
3:11 I am the only one who is thinking that this looks like BTS “life goes on” MV thumbnail??🤔🤔😂
Edit - I just checked on it and it was exactly same 😂😂
😂😂😂💜💜💜Psych2go is armyy
@@Sunflower_that_loves_you 💜💜💜💜
yeah, they do leave out some iconic icons easter eggs throughout their videos which is one of the things i love about this channel!😂
Okay, im recently new here in this channel and while watching vids it makes myself calm.
3:14 Like an echo in the forest🎶
Narcissistic ex-friends are professional "apologizers" to manipulate people's feelings. They put in a lot of effort to maintain public appearances of "innocence & wholesome goodness". Whether a close friend/family member call them out on their b.s or maintain silence over it, narcissists believe their fake apologies will get them away scott-free forever from Karma.
was that a life goes on reference? 3:14
FANALY SOMEONE SAYES SOMERHING ABOUT IT😌😊
My mom would apologize for yelling at me or calling me dumb, and it’d be multiple times. My sister did the same way, but she used the “I’m sorry, this hurt me more than it hurts you” or “I’m sorry you feel that way”
Similiar to narcs, its just to get what they want.
Not "similar to". It IS because they ARE a narc. Narcissistic people use the fake apology as one of their main tools. It's a very manipulative tactic and should immediately be seen as a giant red flag to stay away from that person.
It really isn’t that hard to make a genuine apology. All you have to do is state what you did wrong, say, “I’m sorry,” or, “I apologize,” and state that you shouldn’t have done what you did. After that, just work on changing your behavior. It’s literally that simple
dude ur animation is so cute wth
Thank you! Glad to hear you like this animation style. Shall we do more of this? :D - Cindy
@@Psych2go if you’re happy and want to, of course! it’s so cute and i love the way you put light on these situations with it and educate others at the same time! :3
How I apologize is like this,
“I’m sorry that I hurt you and even if I didn’t mean to, I still did. And I’m sorry.”
I saw spongebob on this. Nice touch
1. Someone who says this is someone who feels insecure, because they know they have done something wrong, but they are scared to take all the blame, so they put some onto you to take weight off their back. They think it will bring them relief if you are also to blame for the whole situation. They will put you down to make them feel happier.
2. Someone who says this doesn’t believe that they are the wrong one, or they don’t want to believe it at least. They act like you’ve taken something the wrong way to make it seem like they really haven’t done anything worth arguing about. This can make you feel upset too, because it’s making you feel like you’ve upset them by taking something the wrong way. Unlike 1 where they only put some pressure on your back, these types of people take it all of their back and onto yours.
3. Someone who says this is trying to make you feel like the only reason you are upset is because you can’t handle a joke. They will put you off by saying you are too sensitive, when really they have just made you upset. They don’t show any sympathy or empathy for your negative emotions caused from their own physical or mental attacks towards you. They think it makes them seem like the good one if they turn their own bad deeds into just you being over dramatic. They will try to push you into thinking you are the bad one and should fix yourself.
4. Someone who says this is desperate to point out all the ways it’s your fault, and none of the ways it’s their fault. In their mind, they have done nothing wrong. They don’t say “I’m sorry for my hurtful actions” because they don’t talk about how it was there fault. They push you into your own guilt so they don’t have to feel theirs. They know they have done something wrong, so they make you feel the same way to make it somewhat “equal”. They aren’t sorry for their actions. They are sorry for your feeling about the actions.
5. Someone who says this is trying to make you think that you misunderstood their actions to make it seem like they did nothing at all, and you are just claiming they have. It’s a manipulative phrase that gets you under the impression that they are right and you are wrong for thinking they did something that would actually offend you. They know they’ve upset you, but they think if they act like you are just misunderstanding the situation, they can make you think they haven’t done anything.
6. They want something from you, like an apology or for you to admit your “wrong doings” before they admit theirs, because they don’t want to be the wrong one. If you apologise first, it will make them feel like it was partly your fault.
7. If someone says this to you, just like in all the other ones, they don’t want it to be their fault, so they make it yours. They accuse you of doing something to cause their actions. Sounds mean, right? These people can manipulate you into thinking “I shouldn’t have done what I did. This never would have happened if I didn’t.” When really you did nothing at all.
All of these are the same in one way- They all want you to take more blame than them
- The video in my words
-This took me forever
@Maya Hampton Thank you so much! I’m going to subscribe to your channel
and this shows how fake laura lee's apology was XDXDXD
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@@karimameziane1936 Exactly
An👏apology👏without👏change👏is👏just👏manipulation