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quarter off life crisis
Like this animation style, those ever changing font made me unfocused. Noiiice video too
"life is shit because of capitalism"... "anyway, here let me shill another shitty product so I can put food on the table"
That's a quarter off
@@_NetPositive Imagine this as a serious reply 😬
the best part of your 20s is that you get to choose what you do with the rest of your life. the worst part is that you have to choose what you do with the rest of your life.
Quack pfp....
in other words...PICK YOUR POISON... so choose the poisons and vices you already like if you want easy mode
it's okay. it's not that complicated. just do something, life happens regardless
This
Just do what feels right, sometime what feels right is the most obvious sometimes the less obvious. We’re all gonna die and be forgotten one day so chill out.
Perfect timing for my quarter life crisis
Same here man
Chalk me up too
idem here
fucker stole the comment right out of my mind 😡😡😡
Literally same
I think the concept of growing up takes place over a lifetime but we exaggerate it in peoples early life. There’s no rush. I think remembering that can be powerful
It's very hard in practice to convince yourself that it's ok to take time.
Almost all these issues arise because every person tries project their achievements now which aligns with the immediate social checkboxes.
And this neither helps the person who is insecure since they feel they are not being useful to society at large (referring to Indian culture, I can imagine an equivalent in other cultures) and also aggravates the person who is projecting this achievement to make sure they keep ticking off these checkboxes which is external validation in disguise and one day when they have to deal with the mess they are left with it's far too long and these validations mean nothing but you can't go back now, can you.
There is lack of space for failure because financial independence is not achieved by failing so finding a resilient job (there aren't any absolutes but ypu guess by looking at the market).
There should be a social safety net counter intuitive to the self help gurus lack of stuff doesn't always motivate every person to get that stuff. Some people just want a peaceful life and don't intend to climb a capitalistic ladder.
Too much info but I just wanted to tell - I agree things take time and people need to be patient. Sometimes people figure something out quickly and sometimes they don't and that's ok.
Unfortunately this is something I cannot advise to any young person right now - fail and try again. Because you are heavily punished for failing. And isn't that tragic.
Thank you for this as a 24-year-old. I really needed to hear this.
Agreed. We often think that we are out of time, only to realize later that we had plenty of time all along. we often feel pressured to do something as early as possible because we see people around ourselves doing so much, so we naturally incline towards the idea that we have to achieve something meaningful in life as quickly as possible and it mostly comes as the cost of mental peace and inner anguish because we haven't done or achieved what we are supposed to attain in life.
We need to figure out why we have such a negative attitude towards aging. It’s going to keep rising as time goes on. Why would we let ourselves become more anxious and insecure as time moves on?
@sho3bum Yes, I agree. I think I can remember either reading or hearing something to what you were talking about with society and failures. Something like ...
"Some people fail too much beyond repair."
I am more firmly convinced that the most important time in any person's life is the first ten years. Yes, early childhood. It is because, even though it is exhausting, parents need to make sure they watch their children carefully and train them well. If a person does not have drive, discipline, and structure early on, so that they can be self-disciplined in university and beyond, that person probably won't do well with the rest of his or her life. These include things such as answering: What does a friend look like? What does a false friend or a fair-weather-friend look like? How long can some friendships last? How do you identify friends that are actually weighing you down? How do you get new friends? How do you become very competitive? And so on.
Because what we are trying to make are good habits, including good habits of thoughts and good habits of emotions - say, like how to handle and stay calm through an actual crisis. I know this sounds bad, but if a child is not heading on the right round by the time he or she gets to secondary school/middle school, it becomes very hard, almost impossible, to get the child to make a good habit then.
And yes, I agree, that life, in the modern world, say, since the late 60s, early 70s, gets harder and harder. And more unforgiving. It reminds of the prologue to the game, "Vampire the Masquerade: Bloodlines" when Smiling Jack was training you. He said,
"No. We live in the age of cellphone cameras. Fuck-ups ain't tolerated."
Same thing here. Even through bullying and other such things, society will quickly choose your fate and class if you do not make much effort to choose it for yourself. And as we have all seen, sometimes all it takes is one bad day to lose everything.
So, no, you just no longer have the time to wait, to take longer to graduate, to take longer to gain control over your life. That includes no longer having the time in university to "go find yourself.
It feels like I’ve been in a crisis my whole life
Then you're doing it right
@@carpo719 how do you know chump
Do u have PTSD? Or c-ptsd?
Whole life crisis
How would you define crisis?
As a (now) 31 one year old, looking back at my 20’s makes me laugh a little. I used to be fearful of turning 30 as if it was the ultimate cutoff time for my life’s potential lol. I spent 10 years in this quarter life crisis mindset, and I was in the “finding meaning” category. Being delusionally ambitious, developing my social status and reputation, avoiding any sense of negative emotion, learning new things constantly, unstable commitments, or commitments that didn’t work in my favor. I thought it would all add up to something grandiose by age 30… and welp, then I ended up spending the final 2 years of my 20’s in the pandemic. So much anxiety, for what? Everything I anticipated seemed to just disappear.
Fortunately though, it was a bit of a blessing. I finally forced myself to take the time to reflect on things that I was previously too anxious to face, and I feel more in touch with who I actually am now. It’s been several years of work and spiritual reorientation, but worth it. Oddly after I turned 30, a lot of my fears of what would happen also vanished immediately, and I realized that I could still choose to be whoever the fck I wanted to be, but now with some life experience and maturity.
Whoever is going through a crisis, just know that attachment is your one-way ticket to disappointment. It’s great to have dreams, but don’t become too obsessed with the outcome for them. There are just so many things you cannot control, and that’s totally fine. That’s what makes your story worth telling. Be open and flexible. Most people don’t ever really grow up, we just get better at hiding from ourselves. As long as you work towards a life and inner you that you’re content with, then that’s all that’s gonna matter. If you cringe at your younger self, that means you’re growing :)
damn
Great advice.
Love this comment, peace to you my friend
Beautiful, thank you for sharing your experience. I think a lot of the stress 20 somethings go through is due to inadequate or non existent mentorship. In reality, this is a normal developmental stage, but it's far more terrifying to think you're alone in it.
You are not alone experiencing this. I'm happy how things turned for me during 2020, it broke the negative cycle, and make me wonder how to get what I want, what makes me happy. Now it's 2023 and I'm just a bit angry at myself why do I wasted so many years where the answer was under my nose.
I'm finishing my last year of university this summer and it really hit me that I have no idea how to not be a student. That stability was always something I had and now I actually have to find my own way. Having 2 of those years in quarantine also feels like its stunted my entire development to my 20's lmao.
Hey bro, good luck on finishing your exams this year. I graduated back at the end of 2021 and have been working full time ever since. Out of all the grads in my workplace, only 5-10% know what they want to do for their career in the foreseeable future. If my experience is anything to go off, everyone will have the same feelings that you have about quarantine. Try to meet as many people as possible and learn as much as possible during the first 2 years. I feel like I have changed into a much better person over the past year just by forcing myself to be more outgoing.
Good luck with the exams ❤
did I ghostwrite this? for real tho, I’m right there with you. And I know we’ll both be fine :)
my advice would be to develop some kind of routine you can follow! it can help you stabilize before starting an "adult life" and is healthy, reduces chances of developing depression etc
I had that exact same realization on my last semester too. I ended up just working an unfulfilling full time job completely unrelated to what I went to school for. I did that for a year and then ended up pursuing a graduate degree just to get back on the student life. Now that I’m approaching my 30’s I feel like the student life that is all I’ve known my whole life is me sacrificing the present and what’s left of my 20’s for something that might not be worth it in the end. I can assure you though that you slowly learn bits and pieces from adult life but not perhaps at the rate of my peers.
The thing that’s making me spiral is the fact that if you choose wrong the consequences are gigantic, especially financially
Tell me about it. I just finished my first year of college… last semester was the best 4 months of my life. I grew a lot, made good friends, and have a lot of leadership opportunities guaranteed next year. Yesterday though, I got accepted to transfer to my high school dream school. I applied to transfer before I found my place this semester and kind of forgot about it. But when I opened that letter, I nearly broke down. I just feel like whichever choice I make, I am leaving something amazing on the table. I still have no idea what I want in life and I feel like this decision will have profound implications on my life. I have 7 days to accept or deny the acceptance offer.
@@alexcantin2246 listen to this. Every choice is the right choice. Making no choice at all because you feel like you’re missing out on something will be worse than making a decision and staying by it. You’re not leaving anything on the table by taking one choice. Everything that happens in your life after you make that decision is a result of you making a choice, all the “good” and all of the “bad”. Life is multifaceted and layered… you can never know what your path is, except for the one you walk.
Choose to stay at the college you love, or choose to transfer to your dream college and make new great experiences- it doesn’t matter. As long as you make a choice, you can be happy knowing you made the right one.
@@alexcantin2246 What did you end up choosing?
You cannot know which is the good or the bad choice, it is entirely beyond your reach. Instead focus on the intentions behind your choices, at least with those you can see if you are being driven by good or bad motives.
Intentions are the domain of men, consequences are the domain of the gods.
@@alexcantin2246 a bird in the hand is always worth 2 in the bush. I basically live by this phrase because it never fails. Unless you are having a horrible time at your current college, which you aren't, or you know for certain that at your dream college you will have everything you currently have and more, it will never be worth it to give up what you have for the potential of something more because you could just as easily lose it at. So I personally wouldn't take the deal because you said you have everything you want. And in that case what could you possibly gain from going to this other school?
I was laying in the best last night and thought "am I having a quarter life crisis?" Guess I'm not the only one.
If you're asking yourself the question, then chances are you are at this crossroads. I take it by your UA-cam name, that society doesn't accept you for who you are. Welcome to the club, my friend. My parents STILL don't want me doing what I'm doing. And countless others are trying to tell me what to do with my magic. I'm a fucking outcast, that's for sure. But we outcasts have the real power in this world. We have the power to change it. To make our mark on it. Because we do the things that haven't been done. We take the road less traveled. We don't submit to the cookie cutters. And we hold our ground in a world trying to pull us along in its current. We were born for a different kind of mission. Ask yourself what your soul is truly yearning for, and go do that! And if you can't hear what your soul is saying, meditation can silence all the other noise and give you access to that whisper.
“We don’t know what we’re doing but we’ll figure it out” a sentence that gets me through uncertain times, and curbs my self doubt. It’s gonna be okay friends
I'm 33 now, but I went through the quarter life crisis at 25. It was the best thing that ever happened to me. But I made mistakes, ones that cost me. Things I know now but wish I knew back then. Here's what I've learned. When the meaning crisis strikes, it isn't a crisis at all, it's a message. A message to change tracks. To do what you know deep in your soul to be the thing you really want. Not what society is telling you to do. Not what your parents expect you to do. Not what your brain tells you is logical. Your brain is not your ally here. Listen to a much deeper murmur within you. There lies the real truth. Then when you know what that is, make a decision to embark on the path that will get you there. You might look at the mountain ahead of you and be overwhelmed. Voices in your head might tell you you're not made of the right stuff. Ignore them. This journey is made in baby steps, just one step after the next. Always focus only on the next step. I should know, I've walked it too. You might hit a wall early on. For me, it was running out of money. I was almost on the street because my creativity wasn't paying the rent. Fortunately I was able to get a job waiting tables to get myself back on my feet. But I had to really dig my heels in, and I wish I hadn't put myself in that situation. So when you begin to walk this path, I cannot stress enough to make sacrifices. Live well below your means for a while. Eat as cheaply as you can and rent in the cheapest place you possibly can. Make enough money in a shitty job so you have a nest egg. You need that nest egg. Then quit the job, and start working on your dream, being money savvy along the way. Avoid debt at all costs. If a cushy lifestyle is what you want, then go do what society tells you to do. Get that high paying job your parents are pressuring you to do. Settle for the first person you meet and live deeply unhappy and unfulfilled. You'll have a good lifestyle though. But if you are willing to sacrifice your lifestyle and materialism, so you can pursue a meaningful life, strive toward your dream, and grow exponentially as a person, you will reap rewards you didn't think possible. So, ask yourself this quarter-lifers, crisis or message?
That’s good advice, thank you
Good advice written in the style of a schizophrenic. Hope people read your textwall lmao.
@@lamphyde not separating paragraphs is considered a mental disease trait?
I need to get my shit together. I hope I don't end up making a bigger shit to mess myself more.
@@brandonmorel2658 amogus sussus gigantus
I'm 21 , will turn 22 very soon. I lost my mom when I was 16 , and hadn't seen her much from the age of 15 since she was going from hospital to hospital to try to cure her illness. I took a break after finishing high school at the age of 18 , I had planned for this break to be a one year break only , but after the first year I still had absolutely no idea what I wanted to do with my life.
My father kind of pressured me into doing something anyway (wich I don't blame him for at all , it's only natural that he wants me to go forward in life) and I had noticed that he was worried about me so I applied to the same college he had went to (that's where he met my mom actually) I thought it would make him proud , and it sure did. But I failed. Not that I didn't have good enough grades or anything , I just gave up after 3 months , because even though all my family was proud of me I couldn't help but feel like I was not at the right place. Feeling like i'm useless and wasting the precious time that is given to me here on earth , just walking down the wrong path in general. Now i've applied to another college and I still have no idea what I want to do in the future. Honestly I just feel like there's no place for me to be happy in this society. I've got friends , a great family that I love more than anything , but this world is just so strange to me. At this point i've just given up on finding a place that will feel right to me. I'm not saying the world is all bad , i'm not saying i'm all bad either , it's just a matter of compatibilty that I haven't been able to find at all so far. Sorry for this long ass essay no one asked for , just felt like sharing
I read it all.
There won't be that one thing that, due to your unique emotional conditioning, just draws you in.
Just pick something that doesn't sound completely horrible to you and stick to it.
About that loneliness.
Having people in your life can be nice, having a set role or a companion. However, it is not at all a requirement to be happy. I've been through all that shit.
Detach yourself from all those anxieties. Whether you find a place, whether you are considered useless, or anything really; it comes down to the same thing.
Worst you can happen is you die. Which actually is just as good as it is bad.
Don't ruin all the time in between with made-up ideas such as "being useless", "having no one" or "being a failure".
I used to be all those things and miserable. Now, I'm all those things but happy. Though, technically, a lot less so. Since being detached, confident, happy will attract nice people into yourself, allows you to take risks worth talking, and overcome inertia...
I recommend you read some Emil Cioran. He's like my dad and I'd be that teenager that wants to be the complete opposite follows his advice where helpful.
Don't be a victim of your circumstances. Take control. Power of others is meaningless. Your mind, it's opinions, values and perspectives are ALL that matters.
Good luck
You’ll be olrite mate
I’ll say that I really resonate as another 21 year old guy dealing with trauma from my childhood and teens and had major depression and recovering from reflection
It’s okay sit with the feelings and allow yourself to be okay with where you are
If you don’t feel like you’re where you are or what you’re doing that’s okay too
It doesn’t feel good and that’s okay but don’t deny yourself the hurt because that’s necessary separate yourself from how you feel about it and who you are or what you wanna do they’re here to show you what you need to learn about yourself and how you deal with it.
The big thing I wanna say is I think all the things that aren’t for you probably aren’t and I’m for that even if nobody else is
As someone that struggles with a similar problem my advice wich could very well be wrong is to just pick a path and stick to it even if you don't feel like its going to work. Chances are whatever path that is will at least be a little better than where you are now. Whatver path you choose isnt going to match your expectations but it still may be worth it simply because its a step towards something. Its better to have landed a life that doesn't feel perfect then to have never landed a life at all casue you took too much time to figure it out. You gotta walk to figure life out.
The future doesn't matter as everything else. And that's good because you can do whatever you feel like you would enjoy. If you feel useless, try doing the most absurd things possibles.
I've graduated high school 3 years ago and didn’t go to college. Ive been in a quarter life crisis everyday since then. Recently its gotten worse. I feel like i haven't amounted to anything even though i just started my adult life. The constant reminder that i should have everything figured out and have my career established has been weighing me down. That reminder is worse when i look at the Internet and see so many people my age or younger already successful at what i want to do. Im just gonna try to keep moving forward and take it one day at a time. Thanks for the video!
Going through the exact same thing right now.. it's hard to accept the situation sometimes but I'm always reminded that this waiting period can be an underrated blessing because you get time to discover new talents and learn new skills that others might not have the time or chance to do.
It really helps to develop new routines that motivate you to be more productive and happier. But paying too much attention to others can really steal your joy, so even taking social media breaks is a must
Try watching some Jordan Peterson videos... Seriously...
There's a silver lining, my friend. You're not shackled to a giant wall of student-debt. Maybe, just maybe, you actually dodged a bullet. I would know, I went through the student-debt thing and still didn't even graduate university. This could be an opportunity for you to embark on a different kind of journey. Have you ever given meditation a go? Now that you're having a meaning crisis, meditation can really bring renewed vision and clarity. Kind of like a compass pointing you in the direction of what your soul truly wants out of life. It was the key for me to find my true calling and purpose, and now I'm a long way into the path of my own dreams. It hasn't been easy. This path is difficult. But it is deeply rewarding and fulfilling. Meditation could be the key for you too. You've got nothing to lose in trying it. And by the way, don't compare yourself to others. You are on YOUR journey. They are on theirs. No journey is alike to any other. Good luck bro.
I promise you even if you were in college you’d be feeling the same way, now that I’m in college there’s been a few fulfilling times in getting good grades but later on it all just feels like another chore, sometimes I see high schoolers with jobs that I wish I had the schedule stability to even attempt. Now I feel useless living with my parents just to get this degree without being of any help yet
Those people u see are either the rare few (good for them) or sociopathic narc weirdos would lavish in knowing they are "better" than others
I’m 20 and have realized that being in school and achieving goals was what gave me a sense of purpose because of the external validation. I’m now recovering from burn out and anxious about what I want and how to be fulfilled. This video really sums up how it feels and assured me that I’m not alone. Thank you
just about to finish highschool and i am curious and nervous as to what to future holds but definitely excited to find my own way through life. your videos definitely help a lot
Apologies if this is too obvious, and is usually overlooked because of that, but just don't waste it. Never assume you'll do something later. If its important and a positive thing, just do it. You'll regret time and opporunities wasted more than failures. Just some advice from a 28 yo with a pile of regrets.
you might not think this is relevant to your comment but I highly suggest you read Range by David Epstein. I’m graduating high school soon and this book has given me a lot of the most valuable insights into career/life paths I’ve ever gotten. It’s not just about career paths though, it spans a wide range of topics, and I highly recommend you check it out.
If you have the privilege to take your time like say taking a gap year b4 college, I advise you to take it. Finding out what you would want to do everyday can make a whole lot of difference when applying for college.
@@WaylonCampbell I genuinely think it's one of the most toxic things to say, no offense.
How much had I suffered from that idea of not living life to its fullest, by modern standards. Not kissing a girl in highschool, not partying, not having crazy adventures in college etc. It was by having gotten a taste of those things that I realized what a fool I'd been all along.
I was just like that, always wishing, more than anything, I was someone younger, to experience those things I thought I had missed out on. I see a lot of me in that comment. This fear of missing out on life can corrupt the whole experience. A stupid idea that's completely out of touch with reality. Sure, go and take risks. You'll be the same either way. It comes down to your thought patterns and attitude.
Crying not about what happened but the romanticized idea of what didn't...
"Imaginary pains are by far the most real we suffer, since we feel a constant need for them and invent them because there is no way of doing without them."
Émile Michel Cioran
@@gingrayden08 definitely was thinking about doing a gap year and just working as well as figuring out what i would really be interested in
I'm 26, turning 27 in few months. Time flies so fast that sometimes I actually have to think how old I am. It scares me how fast the time goes. I feel like 2013 is like a recent year and it's been 10 years. It's the worst thing for me. I know how quickly it flies and I feel kinda trapped because I know I will be 30, 40, 50 in a blink of an eye. I am so nostalgic towards everything and I know I will be even more nostalgic when I am older. I'd like to clear my mind of everything and just be a kid who doesn't know anything, and everything gives him joy and this feeling of freshness.
Now I feel like everything's so shitty. Like in that South Park episode where Stan felt like everything is a crap. I don't see point in anything. I force myself to do different stuff such as going to the gym. Luckily, I can experience joy out of such things. But many times I get back to the mindset where I am like "what's the point?". I always get back to that miserable point.
Such age is also this weird period where you are young but feeling old at once. You look around and see people of age 20 in the late highschool/early college days and just miss that. You feel like one of them but you are much older. Times when you were 20 are the times where you meet a lot of people of your age and everyone is in their life phase called "learn and have fun". They have a lot of days off, a lot of parties. When you get close to the 30 you don't meet so many people, they don't party like before, many of them have families. You kinda feel old. And you lack the free time. Lack of the loong break during the summer is just so shitty. You don't even have the time to build the memories.
And having kids? I always thought I want a kid. I still think I want. But I barely have the time or energy to enjoy my life. How could I take a responsibility of a new human? I still want to have fun, I still kinda feel like I am 20. I still want to do some things in my life. And there's so little time for everything that I can't imagine sacrificing it all just to extend my roots. What if my kid wouldn't even want to be here?
Lol nobody wants to be here, that’s the secret. It’s the reason why we have to be here.
I feel the same way and i'm turning 27 in a couple of days
Big hugs, guys. You're not alone. I feel exactly this. Best of luck to us all. I know we're not alone either. There are many different variations of this exact same feeling. We're in it together.
I agree. I feel like a slightly older high school kid. I'm 20, yet I feel like a middle aged compared to them but who ruined his life.
I’m 23. Even though I know I’m doing really well for my age, I still often feel like a lazy bump on a log. And while I consider myself well-adjusted and in tune with reality and my emotions, I don’t practice mindfulness as much as I should. I’m gonna go sit in the forest for a little bit. Thanks Sisyphus
You and me too bud
Yes Cade! Meditation will align you with your true power, and you will be able to hear the whispers from deep within you, telling you what you really want to do in life. I'm not just talking out of my ass, meditation was the key for me too. And now I'm 8 years into following my dreams, and how I have grown as a person through walking this path is huge. Meditation is like hacking into your soul and your intuition. Clears away everything you are not. And nature is an incredible healing tool and good place to go for clarity. You are meant for big things, my brother. Good luck on your journey.
@@willstanton7823 this is the truth hope this helps someone
@@willstanton7823 I meditate through music.
I'm also 23 and I feel unproductive most times,but I try to connect with the outside world and use coping skills to pass the time. Hopefully I can continue down this path for the next 2 years and so on
Anytime I have a life crisis I just remember the advice from my grandfather:"As long as there are people to hang out with, beers to drink, and women to kiss, life is good". Couldn't be more right.
im a friendless loser incel, how about that?
Good advice to stay positive, but it's a bit selfish to not even consider those less fortunate than yourself. Most of the people here are lucky to have been born in a relatively privileged environment, so we should try to help and look out for those in need.
@@dickurkel6910
Person 1: "Hey, here's this advice that could help you feel less pressure."
Person 2: "Ah, yes, but have you considered this one more thing to feel pressure about?"
@@mielipuolisiili7240 If you feel pressured because of the knowledge that other people don't have the same opportunities and privilege that you have I only have word to say: "Good."
@@ZodiacEntertainment2 I don't
i will turn 25 this month but I think my quarter life crisis started at 23. For me, the pros of going through a crisis heavily outweighed the cons. It was a wake-up call. And once I realized that no one else could answer it but me, i started taking myself more seriously and being more intentional about how I treat myself and others. There were so many things that bothered me but I ignored bc I had no self-respect or self-esteem. If you face a crisis head-on instead of running away, it will certainly mature you.
Been experiencing a quarter life crisis pretty much through the entirety of my 20s & now at 29 it feels like the window of opportunity is closing due to the societal expectations and physical degradation that comes with being older.
You hit 30 and suddenly feel this requirement to be a stable genius, but it sorta dies down and you realize you're just on the general adulthood trajectory now outside of rigid social expectations by a certain date and you create your own itinerary
@@vcuauhtemoc well said
I feel ya, man. Turned 29 this March and I've been in the "stability" category here. Finally got the good, stable job only to realize I don't want to do what I've spent all this time trying to accomplish. Now begins the search for meaning.
Let's try to put these feelings behind us and enjoy our time here. Society may instill an ingrained pressure upon us but ultimately, we're in control of how it affects us. Good luck to ya, brother.
It's a pretty dark feeling knowing that as I approach 30, my potential as an individual pretty much stops where I'm currently at. I always thought that I had time to find a romantic partner to find my passion, to find what I excel at.
Alas, I still have not found any of those things. Now as I approach 30, I'm in this nihilistic mindset that I won't find these things as I was given ample time and opportunity to find them. I watch my peers find and achieve these things while I clap and cheer from the sidelines wondering when will it be my turn.
@@leesanction2068you got to be kidding me man i got the job i wanted in industry that i had 0 expirience at 30, also never had more interesting love life. It feels like everything is falling in its place now, please just not give up and work toward everything you want
Man, haven't seen a video that resonated with me quite as much as this one.
Although it is no surprise to me at all that we all go through this stuff, it's both very comforting but also unbelievably frightening that this is the case.
Wait til your body starts getting weaker and weaker and your bruises take entire weeks to heal.
You'll realize that no matter what you do from this point onward, how much you struggle, how much you cry shout beg or how much money you pay... you're getting closer to death.
And that you can't escape it.
@@Riael I know what you're talking about but tbh it's life that I fear, not death
This is the best time in your life to try meditation. It will connect you with a much deeper self. Without it, I would've never found my purpose, and now I'm 8 years living it! Give it a shot, you've got nothing to lose if you do 10 minutes a day.
@@Riael I reckon that's a necessary revelation to have. At some point, you must confront the notion of death. You cannot run away from it. Perhaps, people in their 20s do not contemplate about the idea of death as much, however, as we age, its inevitability becomes more and more prominent due to becoming wiser with the experiences and facing the decline in physical and mental capacity with time.
@@willstanton7823 can you please tell me how I should meditate?
Should I imagine fire on the candle, concentrate on my breath or something else?
Thank you
I turn 21 this summer. I have a cozy job, I live by myself, I have big dreams for the future, but I'm often anxious and aimless in the present. Thanks for making this video Sisyphus, it hit hard. I'm glad I have access to resources like your videos to help me navigate this tricky part of my life.
Ask yourself if what you are doing is what you truly want out of life. If your brain says yes, but your intuition says no, it's a sign to look deeper. Meditate if you can. It's the key to unlocking the deepest reaches of yourself, where your true yearning lies. Use this crisis you're experiencing as an opportunity for self-examination and self-exploration. It's a crossroads. Do you choose what's comfortable and acceptable? Or do you dare to dream. Once you've figured that out and chosen which way you really want to go, take that first step. And don't worry, even if you fall a few times, which I did, the path becomes clear in front of you and it's a hell of a fulfilling ride. Good luck Kai.
woo! cozy job at 21! good on you!
practice mindfulness and ur fuckin ace
what job do you have? good luck btw!
I’ll be 20 in 2 months and I already feel like a useless human being. It’s good to know even people older than me are feeling extremely scared and lost right now
I’m 20 now and feel the same way man, don’t worry, you really ain’t alone. We all trying to figure ourselves out!
Sending love, and happy early birthday fam.
I’m in this exact position right now, and as much as i don’t show it, I’m terrified for what comes next.
The "Forced Adulthood" really resonates with me. I was given the choice to either live with my mom and her boyfriend under their roof (and rules) and not have a social life, job, or any real choice for what I wanted to do. OR I could move out on my own and live the life *I* want but without the same stability or knowledge on navigating adulthood.
This was during the fall of 2020. I just got out of high school and coivid had sent my life into a tail spin. My mom and her boyfriend had draconian set of rules that I had to live under (I'm pro-quarentine but theirs was on a whole other level)
There was truly no "good" choice to make. But in the end I feel like I made the right choice by moving out and trying to stumble my way though life. But was awful because I was NOT ready to moveout. Definately made me grow up quicker. Which also made me look at my peers differently.
I can relate heavily with this. I’ve been moved out since I was 16, messing up my aspirations for a successful school life and basically flopping my junior year due to working 40+ hours to make ends meet. Now that I’m graduated, I’m starting to feel a lot less tired and worried. Now that I can just worry about having stability and a better place to live with my girlfriend.
This is so accurate. I thought before, that graduating and starting my adult life will change everything. In my country people graduate earlier than I did, so I thought that I was taking my time and so I will enter the ''Adult world'' a fullly mature and thinking person. What do we have in result? The last 3 years since my graduation were the worst years of my life. This winter I spent lying in my bed and drinking excessively, because I never took my time to rest since Uni. I was so tired. It was a terrible time to be deeply depressed (not like there is a good time), but I thought that if I finnaly give myself some time to relax, to cry and let my wildest and laziest dreams come true, than I will finnaly move on to ''better life''. And I can't stress this hard enought, but if you feel like shit and you are on your bottom it doesn't mean that it will be easy from now on. You want some justice in this world, but there is no justice. Tha fact that you feel like shit and you alowed yourself to fall all the way down, doesn't mean that it will be better from now on. But if you put in some effort for yourself, and I mean for YOURSELF, than MAYBE it will get better.
I think that I finally found a nice job, a job I want to pursue, and this gives me a lot of confidence. But still I have no idea why I am doing it, why I am pursuing this life.
Maybe the person that decided to read this comment thought that this will end on a hight note but it does not. I'm still in this swamp, but it feels like I am getting out. So I urge you to do the same. Keep trying. Keep doing what You thing is the best for you. Keep looking for something you are passionate about, if you need to. And remember, if you try hard it CAN get better, but if you don't try, it never will.
i hope you got out of the swamp with the effort you muster bro! give it all you can and thanks for the comment
I got out of the swamp. There is light at the end. Look into meditation if you're the curious type. It helped me find my true purpose in this world, and clear out all the brain clutter. Lets you tap into a part of yourself that can't be accessed otherwise. Keep going bro, your real journey begins once you're outta that swamp :)
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I hope you got out of that swamp friend 👍
Being in the early 20s myself, I can totally understand how the transition from a carefree teenager to a responsible young adult isn't supposed to be smooth and easy. The journey of self-discovery may be an ocean of fire, and we all have to swim through it.
I’m 22 and I really don’t like existing. I tried to take my own life 3 months ago but the cops stopped me and I got arrested. All of my family and friends called me during 5150. I didn’t understand why I was getting so many calls telling me “are you ok, did I do anything to upset you, what’s going on?” Even people who cut me off called me and I didn’t know why or if it was a trick. But now I I just live knowing if I died it would be truly selfish and evil.
I'm 23 and recently dropped out of grad school because I was the unhappiest I've ever been in my life, and realized the career I've wanted since I was 19 may not be the best fit for me. I've gotten a lot of weird, condescending reactions acting like I "lost" in life, especially since I now work as a restaurant dishwasher. Honestly though, I already know I made the right decision. Now that I freed myself from something I was practically forcing myself to do, I've had more time to introspect and improve. I've deleted all social media and vastly cut back on the amount of marijuana I was previously using to cope with stress. I've been able to practice more real self-care and explore old hobbies like drawing and reading that I've been too stressed to do prior, while also keeping level-headed and reasonable expectations about the future.
Not sure what point I want to make other than noone's life is linear growth, and don't be afraid to *(responsibly)* make big life changes if you feel it will help you for the better.
When I was around 21 I dropped out of my education with similar feelings wanting to just spend time to find myself. At 22 I quit my job as a cashier in a supermarket because it was extremely depressing. At 23 what money I had saved up was drying up so in a panic I applied for benefits (which I'd been too egotistical and proud to do before) which landed me in a job interview for a biochemistry company that I had no knowledge of before, and no background in as my education was in IT. Now at 30 I've been working there 7 years, turned out that place was a perfect fit for my personality and I've increased my pay there roughly 250% since I started working just by doing well in a field that apparently fit me.
So honestly at your age you may be at the perfect time to land into something new and unexpected, a field of work you can't even imagine doing because you don't even know it exists yet. Take care of yourself and don't be afraid to try out new things, trying new stuff may work out surprisingly well.
This is not the first time that a Sisyphus videos comes at what feels like the perfect timing. I'm 25, finished my studies and slowly starting my career, not without any struggles. I feel like the worst of the crisis is behind me, and i'm heading in the right direction. But still, sometimes i feel like my blank ceiling is telling me that i am at a crossroad, and that i am stuck in it for the moment.
Anyways, thank you so much for these videos, i'm exited for the next thoughts to wonder along with Sisyphus55.
As a 28 year old my quarter life crisis started post pandemic when I turned 27 and it hasn't stopped
Turning 20 tomorrow, I was just thinking about how I never had a teenage love story. I do know what I want to be in life, I'm already in school building toward my dream but it's really taking a toll on my social life. Instead of using my birthday as an excuse to go see the people I love, I've chosen to study for my next test (2nd of June), I feel like I've let people down.
At least my dad is proud of my grades.
Once you're finished with your year or with uni, take the time to create new relationships. Take a job or pick a new hobby that makes you meet new people. Trust me, I've worked four months as a toilet-cleaner for a camping and it made me more happy and social than the three years I spent into a high-demanding uni. The best professional career is meaningless if you remain alone.
Stop reading my mind
Hey, it's ok. You're growing up in a time that is at odds with traditional societal values and things won't always be how you expected. I'm on my way out of my 20s and can attest to that. There's no need to force anything. Keep working hard and try to foster relationships with others, as they help give life meaning. Good luck to you.
I feel ya buddy. It will get better I think. I also didnt have a proper love life, I was homeschooled so didnt have many friends too. then at uni, I only ever thought of my grades. I'm a graduate and 27 now. I never felt my early 20s because the years all meshed when i stayed in my room all day, unable to bring myself to look for a job. Im having therapy now and i only figured that i had depression when my therapist infod me. The overwhelm was too much. And i dont really know when i got better
It's just... Overtime, i started maintaining a proper schedule (i had months of relapse)
I still get those existential crisis moments but im not letting it overwhelm me
“You’ll stop caring what people think of you when you realize how seldom they do”
I turn 28 soon. I sold my business 2 years ago and semi retired. I feel like I was in adult mode at 18. Working 60 hour weeks with a bunch of 40-50 year old guys. I finally feel free.
What business did you start? And how much did you sell it for if you don’t mind me asking? Thanks.
I'm pretty sure therapists recommend checking in with yourself every day😂❤. Also I'm so happy someone is speaking about how traumatic the process of being an adult is
i know! i was like "damn, only once every 3 months"
Yet again you hit the nail on the head. Thank you for the reminder to walk boldly into uncertain times
You don't even know how much i need this , I'm 18 going through last year of HS and it's terrible .As my future career depends on my this year's grades .
Here is the thing , i really don't have any dreams or hopes or even a vision of the person i want to become . There are way too many things in the world and I'm too scared of adulthood . I'm terribly lost.
Sorry for my bad English, not my first language :) .
if u don't know what to do that's fine just make sure to save up some money and do fun things I guess so it doesn't feel like u wasted ur 20's
Your future career isn’t dependent on your grades. And if you get accepted into a college, last semester grades almost don’t matter.
@@icedirt9658 I live in a 3rd world country . So , my future does depend on my grades .
I mean i can join a college with my father's money but colleges are too expensive if not joined by your "hard work" aka grades
22 here also fucking terrified, but don't be discouraged I got lost for a long time paralyzing myself. You'll probably make a lot faster progress, just don't be too hard on yourself. Chances are if you feel something deeply it's valid & worth understanding. No one else has it figured out either.
@@iiCounted-op5jx i feel like i will always regret all the wasted time
At the end of my twenties, this is my knowledge so far:
be patient with yourself (!). Your life WILL change, a lot, in the next 10 years. So try to allow yourself to fail, ponder, change and grow, even tho it feels like the world is resting on your shoulders. People. They will come and go. Some will stick around, some will go different paths. try to be a good friend and make it work, its ultimatetly the only thing that matters, reach out, but try to learn & grow from what these relationships meant to you even if they end up not sticking.
You will change roles with your parents: from kid to friend. Try to be the person the world needs you to be sometimes.
Try to be open & more outgoing. Try to be the change you want to see in the world. I know it hurts. But you might be suprised how much life can give you.
Be aware of the dangers. You might find yourself in situations you realize arent you VERY fast. You also might think youre stuck, with the life you actually wanted right around the corner.
Its okay to be not okay. Its okay to ask for help.
Note to self: its okay to change. you just become who you really are.
mine has been propelled exponentially by money and ambition. these two things are intrinsically tied together in our global society. as a child raised in a standardized educational setting i was never pushed to flourish. i feel so many things, but i feel lots and lots of resentment at those around me who told me that i could do whatever i wanted if i only tried hard enough, but never supported the things i SHOWED interest for and instead pushed me even further towards mediocrity. now i’m 20 and i have tons and tons of things i’d love to pursue but little chance to do them because i’m a beginner at all of it, it takes money to buy supplies for things, and i am only ever able to focus on how i might be able to monetize my current interest so that i might have a fighting chance in our economy which just leads to burnout. i feel like i’m running in circles all while looking for a way out, and social media doesn’t help. the wealth other people my age flaunt because they “””hacked the system””” makes this feeling of burnout take me over. how can i complete my ambitions without money? how can i make money without my ambitions? how can i be worth anything in a society which values nothing, not a single thing, but money and maximizing profits at the cost of the people? i need therapy..
Damn bro i feel the exact same way, hope you find the courage to just do things without worrying how you should use your time to make money to survive instead
Im 21 in 3 months now. Its been 6 months since i started to work 1 year full time and im halfway there.
I don’t want to work for a capitalist who gains 10-50x of my wage.
I guess self employment or freelancing is the only choice I’ve got. I think i can life with instability but im still not sure what i want to do. I feel like i want to make the world a better place, something like a teacher but there is too much school regulation, standardized material and not a whole lot of freedom? I follow Zoe Bee on UA-cam who has discussed the problems of current school systems and im not sure if i can handle that.
A lot of my issues with finding my way forward a systematic and i don’t know how to deal with it honestly. I care for humankind and would love to make the world a better plays but it feels like a very tiring fight against status quo.
I can’t focus on self-fulfillment because of my world view. I know humanity can do better and i know i can’t just look away and pretend id reach a fulfilled life ignoring these issues.
But then again where do i start. How do i make myself stop being codependent on the worlds state because my misery wouldn’t help anyone and how do i cope with having no impact on a better earth.. maybe not even the chance to have grandchildren because the bourgeoise doesn’t care about climate change and inequality.
I don’t know how to cope with all of it and how to distance myself in a healthy way.
Im working on myself right now, i might pick up videography and then I’ll see? Maybe join labor union? Im really lost in life.
I have a lot of luggage of my past which i need to confront and im now even close to being mentally or physically at a place where a 20 old should be.
I don’t really know why i shared this but it always feels good to see someone struggle as well. To see your struggle is valid and human and now some weakness.
@@KopfdesRiesen i feel the same man, and everyone of my friends of my age, this is bs
@@KopfdesRiesen i feel it man, especially the part about caring so much about humankind but being driven down by the status quo
@@TheMGIvideos i appreciate it man, and i hope the same for you
29 and i have a solid "career" now. Almost making 6 figures, i still feel completely lost in life and on the edge of suicide. Life is beautiful
I'm 10 years behind you, and all I know is it'll be alright.... probably
Nearly making 5 figures but you’re suicidal? Can I ask why?
hey man, how are you doing now?
Did this when I was 12, after an old man looked me in the eyes and told me to "Cherish my childhood" out of nowhere. It wasnt so much what he said, as his eyes when he said it. You dont ignore warnings like that.
It was the right time. There was still time to act. Still time to recover. Turns out, that was basically the time to start.
If your wondering why someone telling me to appreciate being a child led to a quarter life crisis at 12, its because it started as me planning how I was going to avoid getting "destroyed" like apparently happened to adults. The planning led to alot of questions needing to be answered, which led to me taking alot of pre-emptive action to grab hold of myself and my life. Which ultimatly just ended up just being this but starting at age 12.
I really appreciate that old mans warning.
12 is isn't even a quarter life crisis
I just turned 21 a few days ago. thanks for the video, your content always delivers. Love the community in the comment section, giving me some sort of comfort reading everyone's stories and realizing what I've been feeling is not unique and others know how it goes
Thanks. Your videos have been an impactful part of my last year. Ya just keep hitting home runs
I guess i have a pre-quarter life crisis. Still in school and not even that close to 20 but i have no idea what i want to do, where i want to it and with whom. Glad i am not the only one.
Analyzing the different characters of this crisis is interesting. There’s many ways to live this life and at 26, I’m finally noticing the differences between friends and I. Thanks for making this video and providing food for thought.
this video (and your calmingggg voice) brought me a lot of peace. thank you
thank you so much for this video. I turned 20 in december and I constantly feel like I was born to create in a world that only values monetary success. i’m glad to know a lot of others share my anxieties and after watching this I feel more encouraged to take the next step even if I don’t know a damn thing about what will come from it
Thank you so much I’ve been dealing with this for nearly 2 years and I’ve been so confused and sad about my life because I didn’t know what was going on or how I’d even gotten myself in this stage and I’ve hated myself for a long time about it. This video has blessed me thank you ❤️
one of the best yt channels man , always there to make me wiser when i need it
I really love these little talks you and us viewers have, they are such a treat.
I was experiencing it for a while and its effect became stronger recently. My friend told me about it couple of days ago, and you explained it amazingly. Thank you sincerely.
I've kept coming back to this video whenever I feel like I need a little bit of clarity. Shit's rough rn for us 20-something recent-grads, but then I come back to this video, remember to be self-compassionate, and refocus on the path I want to pursue. We'll get though this!
legit having my quarter life crisis at this very moment, I am in studying engineering, I don't despise it but its very far away from something I would call a passion and thinking about the future and doing this for the rest of my life gives me existential dread, I am going to change majors I just don't know what to go into yet.
Have been having my quarter life crisis for eight years now, and can say this video explains it quite well. It's important to remember it's a slow and steady progress, and sometimes it's better to keep focus on the here and now. It helps me dissipate the anxiety and dread the concept of the future inflicts in my brain.
This vid brought me some comfort. Thank you
Listen I know so many people say “this is exactly what I needed to hear right now“ and for the most part I never really felt that way but my god was this needed right now on this exact day to a laughable extent.
I'm super shocked how much of your tips/mindsets in this video I've already incorporated within my everyday life in my 20s. Obviously, I still have worries and concerns, but I'm okay with not achieving big dreams if it means I still have a relatively fulfilling life and live it alongside the people around me. Life is meaningless anyway, and there's no such thing as having a 'successful' or 'mediocre' life because that in of itself is a construct of society. We simply are, so we might as well have fun with it. I do remember feeling this way in high school though and it sucked.
Today was the 1 year anniversary of me graduating college, and while it has not been a bad year, it has certainly been an indecisive and unproductive one. This week has been rough to say the least
Sorry to hear that dude. I hope you'll get through this.
@@MWBlueNoodles thank you dude, I really do appreciate that. I’ve been doing a bit better since then, but I still need to make changes. I hope everything in your life is going/will go well!
Your videos have truly changed my life I hope to grow old and rewatch a lot of these because of how much some of them mean to me
Same!
I’m 23 and so far on my journey I have realized how important meditation and mindfulness really is. It keeps you centered whenever you get stuck in your head and feel loss. You need to find your center and work from there on what you truly want to do with your life. Seek peace of mind, not a goal. Don’t attach to your job or a title. One day you can be a Nurse and than you don’t want to do it anymore and you become a business owner. There are no rules to this life. Be Patient, curious and grateful no matter where you are in life.
Im a bit later in at 21 but man this hit. Recently made a move that has me really certain about requiring stability and to a point isolation to grow in my life and alot of recent self- realization regarding my economic self sufficiency due to a lack of that as an adolescent which had me as an outcast with a group of outcasts. Hearing stuff like the ‘rites of passage’ is also huge like facts Im always going to a degree feel like im working towards absolutely nothing because its not a sure thing and we’re also never going to “grow all the way up” you feel.
you don't know how comforting this was, oh my god i was having this issue for weeks on end thank you holy shit
Man… I just turned 21 a few days ago, and this really hits me hard. It feels like suddenly I know so much that I don’t know, that it’s hard to just pick something and start learning
A bit early but thank you, a lot. I am 17 and in the recent days I have failed to find a source of comfort and happiness. I cant seem to distinguish if it is a lost in a relationship that I cherished so much was lost, or if it is because of the overwhelming weight of life’s expectations as well as my own lack of motivation. Your video has always helped me review my situations in life as well as comfort me in times of hardship. Thank you so much even if you wouldnt see this, thank you
heyy, I'm 21, and I just wanted to let you know that how you're feeling is literally the definition of being 17!! I promise you will be just fine, you'll recover from this heartbreak (and have many more;), you will grow, and live and meet beautiful people, see some beautiful things, but just remember to be kind to yourself, and pls plss just cherish the moment. You will never be 17 again!!! These teenage years are complicated and tedious, but in hindsight they feel like a fkn movie. Feel deeply, listen to crazy music, love fearlessly. It will all makes sense. I wish you the best mate
Seeing the title instantly made me remember talking to a former friend for advice like this when I was in a depressive phase. It’s not exact, but he said something to me along the lines of “We’re in our 20s, it’s a quarter life crisis, but we’ll eventually get to a point where we’re content to some degree of who we are and what we’ve become” -idk I just remembered him and kinda miss him. Thanks lots for this video man.
My 20s have sucked so far (I’m just now realizing it)
From 20-23 I was suicidally depressed working a dead end job I hated. 24-25 my depression was gone, but the pandemic happened and killed my momentum. Went back to a retail job and got into a car accident, resulting in thousands in debt. Then this year my mom died.
I’m broke, unemployed, grieving, the only friends I have are stuck raising families, and I’m totally lost.
Great Video. I think you very actively described what a lot of people are experiencing. Your 20's are definitely a weird time lol. But I hope those watching this don't give up on who they truly are. ☀️☀️
@@p-__ Sorry that nobody has a trophy to give you for it, lol.
im almost done with my a-levels (which is the last two yrs of high school in american terms) and i really do feel like the education pipeline has a big role in pushing people to keep up this momentum of growing up and constantly hitting new big moments in your life. in the uk, schools are educating you on the basis of employment -- in the end, the goal of the system is to get you into work as soon as possible. it's all very fast, very you-have-to-keep-going-or-you'll-fall-behind-and-never-catch-up. i wholeheartedly hope that everyone just takes their time. there's no point in living a life constantly on the move if you don't have the space and time to enjoy it
Uncannily timed for me, thank you.
Best video delivery of my life thx
Bro. I was riding a Subway just yesterday and thinking that this is strange that I'm having a midlife crisis in my 20s.
This video couldn’t have come at a more perfect time. Thank you for all the insight ❤
The timing is impeccable
just got my firs spot feeling this way in my quarter life crisis at 23 mane keep grinding get all your failures out the way young keep going don’t look back fr trust yourself oh and also don’t start your credit til your 20!!!!
You always release your videos at the perfect time huh. Thanks man, I needed to watch this.
None of these problems would exist if we created a cooperative society, instead of a competitive one. We can feed and house everyone. We can provide every person with purpose. Instead, we leverage each other, causing inequality, which causes dispair for the 99.9%
The video is distracting people from the real causes of their pain: capitalism or at least profit centered societies which encourage ruthless competition, dehumanization, illiberalism. Internalizing the problems of our societies and telling ourselves that fixing our brain is the next best solution is one of the single most effective ways this way of thinking has been ingrained into ourselves. We should look outwards, not inwards!
This kind of content always calms me down for some reason…
I’m just going to keep my head down, and put in work!!
I wish I worked this hard on myself when I was a teenager.
appreciate putting the ad read at the end instead of in the middle of the video!
As an 18 year old, it’s kinda terrifying that most people expect me to be married and have children within the next 10 years.
I’ve never wanted a long term relationship and have never had one. I think I’ve begun scaring my parents since they’ve been actively encouraging my going with a stranger who asked me out to prom, which I have expressed I’m not comfortable with.
I don’t know if I’m just bad at commitments or what but it kinda reminds me of being forced to grow up I guess
Asian?
@@niggasgang8784 ?
30 years old here, never been in a long term relationship. It's not really anything to stress about, life situations are different and for some it may not even be appealing to start a relationship until later in life. Definitely no reason to be stressing out about it at 18, enjoy the freedom of youth while you're young.
@@niggasgang8784 Greek 👍
@@Ellert00 and thank you, that’s comforting to hear ❤️
This hits on the spot as a mental health therapist in my later 30s. Graduated college double major psych/phil and no direction from anyone until late into my masters degree. Keep providing insight SP. it is relevant, valuable and on the mark
Impeccable timing, as always.
your videos always make me think about my life even more than i want to admittedly
I like it, thank you for making this video, the timing was expeditiously perfect
Been watching for a while, I'm really impressed with how your art has improved! That last frame really struck me, especially when there used to be hardly any color in your vids.
im turning 26 this year and i feel like im just getting started to know myself a little better. due to trauma and depression. hang in there. be patient with yourself.
these videos always being uploaded at the right time
how is it possible that this guy's videos always appeart at the perfect time in my life?
i grew up too fast as a kid and now i feel like i havent grown up at all and im stuck in childish stuff while everyone is moving on around me
this came at the right time. thank you sisyphus.
Well the "what i wanna do/be part" i solved by sitting down and then i started thinking. After that i had questions & i went to find answers to those questions and as more questions came up i looked up information on those and then i stopped ones i was happy with the answers and there was no more questions. Now going to study computational math & cs, because i enjoy solving hard problems, computers are interesting & i have a intuitive feeling that i will have enough work for one lifetime & the salary does not seem bad. Also found out that i really enjoy learning new things,also reading, science & walking outside/cycling. Now writing a book about learning for myself.
Finished writing, now i just need to clean write it on computer, 32 pages of A4 paper done.
A part of my journey trough the quarter life crisis has been conversion to Christianity, as it gives me the much needed peace about uncertainty. Not only that, it even gave me a sense of excitement and joy about the things I can’t control. Something I see missing in the life's of many peers who exert a lot of resources to maintain control. I am happy I gave my life into the hands of someone more capable of molding it into something beautiful.
I think it’s important to know that you will never NOT have an active crisis. Peace of mind is fleeting and valuable.
Yep I feel like a fish outta water and even compare myself to others my age who seem to be adapting into adulthood much better than me.I don't want to feel this way. But what helps is just trying to focus on doing what makes me happy each day and spend time with those who uplift me.
I needed this video man.
Close to my 24s I am dealing with this decisions that will change my life forever and sometimes is too much, but we have to imagine that everything will be fine.
What other choice do we have?
Thank you for the reassurance, it was needed.
A banger as always
Im 23, just finished college and I feel like this video is speaking directly to me.
As the final part of my Medical Science bachelors degree, I travelled from Ireland, where I currently live, to Sweden to work in a lab for 3 months. I loved my time there, I fell in love with Stockholm, but also fell crazy in love with a Swedish girl. My time there however, was completely blighted by the worst anxiety and panic I have ever felt. As time moved on during my stint in Stockholm, I slowly realized that it wasnt a realistic option to live and work there due to the language barrier and the lack of job opportunities.
I have just moved home and my heart is broken. I feel as if life has played a cruel trick on me, dangling a beautiful life scenario in front of me, only to snatch it away
Now I face the prospect of deciding what to do with my life, and make adult decisions for the first time
you’re not alone🫡
what project did u do in the lab?
That's rough man, I hope you're doing better nowadays ✊️
i hate how perfect your timing is with this one
just graduated yesterday, you're right on time with just the right words
Thank you for this. I'm not sure if I'm going through a quarter-life crisis myself, but this video was soothing
Amazing timing! 20 and going home for the first time since for Mother’s Day….. anxious and confused feelings