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Literally. Literally. Literally every woman around the world needs to see this. I met a guy this week who was saying he's so attracted to me. We met up, kissed. Then yesterday he said ok I may have work but I'm tired I wanna see you and said well babe do you, but I'm free, or I'm just gonna go ahead and make plans. Come later around 9pm he asked U free, I had plans and didn't wb til 2 hours later when I was free. He said yeah let's meet up, then he said na but I'm with friends. Guess what I did. I said yo this shit ain't gotta be so hard, you had all day you knew I was free. We done. And I DELETED his number. Ladies this is a PSA when a guy pulls back pls for the love of God delete their number that way your never tempted to text. Even if you wanna lose your shit. Be nice. Whatever the case, you can't bc you ain't got their number and this has been working for me it's a hack. You deserve someone who chases you!
Even if a guy is pursuing you, it does not mean he values you or takes you seriously. There are men that pursue and woo women, only to use them as placeholders and manipulate them
I actually stopped talking to a man because of this. I had to initiate conversations, texts, dates. I quickly realized he wasn’t interested and moved around.
Me too. Then when I would bring it to his attention he would just turn it around on me. So I played along for a while and when he started acting like he was “the man” I cut him off kindly. He had no idea what to say or do. 🤷🏽♀️
This comment snapped me out of depression from my ex. I remember when we were first breaking up and I was crying like a baby, he kept expressing how “peaceful” he was without me (this man was a CHAOTIC character in MY life I was actually confused why he would tell ME that) and i didn’t take offense to that (lesson learned) and then he expressed he missed me but guess what he lists off? “I miss fucking you, I miss being able to make you do what I want, I miss playing the game with you, I miss your little dog but I overall miss you sucking my dick but I got to do what’s best for me” and I didn’t even let that shit resonate until just now. that was OVER a month ago and I completely disregarded all that and was hoping he would return and chase me….that man didn’t even value me and this comment SNAPPED me into reality. We were together three years and I spent the last half chasing him, begging him to spend time with me. I recently got back in my hobbies and honestly my life has taken off since we split. But I kept thinking about when he chased me (about 6 months only in 2020 and then he showed his true colors, emotional and verbal abuse ass) and I thought I for real let a real one go. HELL NAH I DID NOT. I made the BEST choice. Thank you. Truly 👏🏾✨
Not only will they want you to chase them but they'll also want to cross your boundaries to see how much you like them. The best way to win is to not participate.
I paraphrased these: 1) give you his number (not making the first move) 2) they suggest you hang out but don’t set a particular date. 3) he’ll say why haven’t you called ask where you’ve been as if he couldn’t reach out too 4) He’ll say he likes you that he wants you but he won’t contact you. You won’t know where you stand. They want you to fall into a place of desperation
@@lexic.7942 my exact PAST situation. It’s been a whole 7+ days. N OOO. ACTIONS! behind his measly words . Stay prayerful and strong in all the ways as the STRONG QUEEN, WHO CHOOSES THE MAN CHASING AND PURSUING HER, that you are. 🥰 💕
While your chasing him, he's chasing someone else never be an option to a man that makes no effort to call you, never makes himself available to spend time with you, never makes any plans to take you out on dates. If a man wants you in his life he'll figure out a way to put you there. He's not to busy for you... Your just not his priority. When you chase him your sending him a message that your waiting on him and available to him when it's convenient for him.
Oh yes that’s interesting, because I feel better now too, and I couldn’t put my finger on why. It’s because I don’t use dating apps anymore. Actually I don’t speak to anyone- period! 😂maybe that’s why 🤔 x
I wish I would’ve seen this when I dealt with this in my late 20s. Young ladies/women if it confuses you or makes you feel disregarded-pull out quickly! Especially for women that have any abandonment or rejection issues, staying in this dynamic too long will leave you in emotional ruins. Abort mission fast 💨
I always know to leave when I get the message “Houston we have a problem”. Anything that causes emotional confusion, is not meant for me. This applies to intimate relationships, jobs, friendships and family. I may care about you, even love you but what I’m not going to do is walk through life making up shit in my head to justify ppls actions
Bullshit. All he do is play the white knight role and let y’all get away with whatever. He gonna have y’all overthinking everything and not knowing if somebody genuine or not cause you think he running game.
The most important thing to watch for when a man pursues you is CONSISTENCY. If they pursue in the beginning and then switch up later on, get rid of them! This behaviour may have you stuck and it's all a part of their game to have you chase them now. Yuck
I drop these guys immediately when I notice this shit. I let them show interest and if they show interest, I will show interest in return but the moment they slack Im gone.
Naw fr 💯💯💯 & all that dry personality ish don’t fly w me😩😩. & I can honestly say anytime I prolonged after a mf slacked IT ALWAYS HIT ME N THE FACE 🤦🏾♀️. Drop em like a bad habit 🤷🏾♀️
@@fighterinmkiwiscience3517 I didn't see the lady list her age. Plus what dose age have to do with innocence sure the longer your on earth the more chances to be expose to wickedness but some people are more shelter then others and then there are kids that lose all innocence everyone is an individual. But you show the type of person you are if older guy hitting up really young ladies that shows and tells us you want to control and corrupt someone that isn't as likely to be aware of abuse. You were likely a reject and could not get a lady your age.
@@bunnyboo6295 if you can't tolerate hello stranger text then , you lost your innocence so why go for them when you can find innocence girls in the world .
Everything he said in this video is exactly. Men in their late 40s and 50s do this to me a lot. I just blocked someone after watching this video because this pissed me off.
Yup. I have been dealing with lots of men like this. Now, I have a man who is head over heels for me and I am head over heels for him. I'm 46. I really had given up and it's finally happening!!
Agree. If the guy's not sure about you at any given point, Just LEAVE HIM. Cut him cold. Don't care if he's just doing that to balance and not look desperate. CUT HIM COLD. Because it still shows that he's at a point in his life where he doesn't know what he wants and does not know how to go for it. You need a man who already come face to face with himself and understand that all the other women are just distractions and needs to go for just one and sees the value of how unique that one person is.
The one guy was so manipulative where he said we were friends, acted like we were friends, and then played these games (gave me his number first, said we would hang out but not plan it) all to get me to chase him more. It was bullshit and I realized he had narcissistic tendencies too that I did not want to deal with and I realize now I dodged a bullet.
You are like the big bro I never had. Your content is so helpful for women & girls who didn’t have positive male role models especially with all the alpha male creators who speak to a woman’s insecurity you always give tough love in such a positive & protective way I love it
I love your message. My older brother always gave me the same message. He always would say “let the man pursue you, you don’t pursue him. This is how you know he’s interested. Never be easy” I always followed his advice. It’s why I’ve married my husband because he made the first move and he pursued me. 19 years of marriage and staying married until the wheels fall off.😊
@@patriciawhite9509 seemingly is the word that you are probably missing a lot of real facts on. Seemingly happy tells me that you don’t really know what’s going on in their marriage.
1000% agree with you! I hate female friends who advise other women to make the first move: invite him out for drink, invite him for dinner, there is nothing wrong with taking the lead.... SMH!
I think a lot of us made those mistakes. It felt empowering and courageous to do that to a man. I’ve only had 1 good relationship start like this but it wasn’t serious on my end so I didn’t get hurt… but I wouldn’t do that again knowing what I know now.
I actually had a male friend told me it's ok to let a guy know I like him. I listened to my male friend and the guy I told how I felt ended up playing games with me. One day he seemed Interested the next week he distance. I was chasing hom for 2 yrs..Never again!
@@slimtmedia showing signs of interest is different then making first move and chase being a little flirty to show you will say yes if he asks can encourage a guy that might have interest if you sent out hints and they don't pursue move on. If you watched old movies in a way the women make the first move by dressing nice walking by in a certain way eye contact maybe drop something to see if they pick up and return it. But If a man don't take the lead in assertiveness as a feminine female I know I would lose respect for them as a man so not a good foundation for a relationship. If as a women I have to be the man I'm not going to feel secure
@@ibstayfly nobody wanna know about your 😡 period go and tell someone else . I know you are girl that doesn't mean you will go everywhere and tell that you have period, men have problems too 😡
Call them a b*tch, I bet they'll respond then. 😂😂some dude's are use to toxic women and clearly if you're being ignored, it's a GOOD thing, honestly! 😘God is saving you from future Heartaches. Be grateful!!😉
My ex was like this. I told him he was looking for a woman to treat and chase him like a bad b$tch and I couldn’t do that anymore 😭😭 If i didn’t initiate, things just didn’t happen. Waste of my damn time.
Omg! Lol...bad b*tch is exactly what me & my friends say these so called males think they are.. case in point: Drake with the lace front wig, pouty lips & new chin.
A guy stopped traffic to come talk to me while I was taking a walk on my lunch break. He gave me his number and I txt him so he could have my number. He called and we had 1 conversation, then he asked to come to my place. I told him I don’t invite strangers to my home. So now I get a txt every other week or so “damn cold shoulder huh?” Or he will ask what I’m doing but never act on anything. I haven’t called his ass once and ain’t thinking about it. Thinking about blocking him like I do everyone else. No time for games! He caught me 2 years too late. I’m smarter than that now!
if a guy wants u to chase him run fast and far in the opposite direction. u deserve to have mutual affection, respect, admiration, attention and even and especially love when it gets to that stage.
A guy giving you his number instead of asking for your number MEANS his interest level for you is VERY LOW. He is lazy to pursue you and you as a woman becomes the man by taking the lead. By giving you his number rather than asking for your number means he enjoys taking on the passive role and it is him being lazy on every angle. Men since the beginning of time are hunter by nature and love to chase women and not the other way around. It is what it is. If you disturb this dynamics, you highly likely end up in tears. Real men (I'm not talking about those weak pathetic boys) HATE being chased by women! Men love the value of hard work and the reward that comes with it. You are the reward. Men, when you chase a woman and show her your genuine interest, remember that a women who LIKES you will ALWAYS REPLY! It doesn't matter if she replies instantly or days for as long as the girl replies to you, she IS interested. Women in general LOVE being chased by men and that's the truth! Most especially from a man they really like. Some girls will even play hard to get because they simply feel "loved" by men pursuing them, oftentimes this confuses men in general and they thought she may not be interested and playing games. Men, for as long as the girl IS REPLYING to you, she likes you! The moment you stop the chase is when she tells you a big fat NO or when she stops replying to you, there's no mind games around it. Cut you loss and move on. Going back, ladies pay attention on how a man pursue you especially in early stage of dating. You know he is a low value man if he prefers women chasing him instead. A man who is genuinely interested in you will go above and beyond to be with your company. Ladies, the moment you start acting like a shrink, a mom, or start reading Reddit especially in early stage of dating is a very bad sign. 😂😂😂
# 4 is a classic sign of the push-pull tactic which is surprisingly a form of codependency. I learned this the hard way but never again. It is so perplexing and exhausting. Sis, if a man exhibits any signs of wanting to be chased, just run the other way. These are all such great points Kev. Thank you for this video. ❤️
OMG!!! Kevin, I just met two guys this week that threw their phone numbers out at me and said “Call Me” I asked them What is this new age shit where men start throwing out their phone numbers to women for the women to call the men so the men don’t get their feelings hurt because the women rejected them? I informed them a man always asks a woman for her phone number… Then I asked them what do you men want next? Do you want the women to drive to your home to pick you up for dates? Do you want the women to get out the car and open up your door? Do you want the women to pull out your chair at the dinner table for you to sit down? I told them I believe in a man being a man because chivalry isn’t dead. And this new rule where the man throws out his phone number seems a little to feminine for me. The Cat don’t chase the Dog. The Dog chases the Cat… And the 1st guy laughed and said I understand and never asked me for my phone number and the 2nd guy I haven’t heard from him since😂 And I click on your video and you called it right out!!! “Princess Shit”🤣🤣💀💀💀
One italian guy told me that chivalry was a white man's creation to oppress women. 🥸 They try to brainwash face to face. He reacted like this because he offered me his jacket (I declined because I didn't need it) but still thanked by the chivalrous act. He went crazy saying it was not chivalry and he just did it because I looked cold and he wasn't in need of his jacket. I tried to make him understand that chivalry is a courtesy or kindness act but got some sort of "white men oppression speech". I declined going to his home as 2nd date because I'm not interested in anything casual...that's probably result of white man's oppression too.
To add onto number 1 - Be wary of having multiple phone conversations before having an official date. Men may also use this as a way to lure you into a penpal dynamic since most think women fall in love with words. They want you to "believe" they're creating a strong connection with you so it's easier for you to put up with everything Kev listed in the video.
Do Jesus..if this doesn’t explain one of my current situations right now. Told me us women just want to be chased, then strategically continuously tries to put me in a position to chase him(doesn’t work). He wants to be ran after soo bad. It’s giving very sassy behavior💅🏾
This is probably your best video. Real men take the lead. Guess what? I'm 63 and have not seen a "real man" take the lead since I was in my 20's. Sad state of things these days.
I don't chase....I replace. I learned my lesson with my 1st love before I wad 18... Made a complete ass out of myself. When it was all said and done...I told myself never again and haven't. I'm 51 now.
My ex boyfriend had asked me if I had wanted to try and get into a relationship again & work things out after being broken up for 3-4 years. I really didn’t have any emotions towards him but we remained good friends throughout the entire time. He had asked me to go out to dinner a times but never followed through. So I never bothered asking about it & pulled back my energy. Now he’s talking to someone & it has become serious. I brought about him not following through with what he said & he said to me “So you expected me to pursue you?” & I said “YES” “That is the whole point” I mean the man is supposed to pursue the woman he interested in/wanting!!! I sure as hell wasn’t going to waste my time if he wasn’t showing me any action & he didn’t.
@@jayc5756 Then he shouldn’t have said anything point blank because I’m tired of these mind games. That’s why I waited to see what moves he was going to make & he made none. All talk & no action. Don’t say you want a relationship if you’re not going to put in the effort. Just saying. Cause I’m not going to chase/pursue any man for it.
This video is so accurate. I went through this with a guy I really cared about. I thought the feelings were reciprocated but he just wants attention. When I go radio silent he reaches out but whenever I’m in town, he’s always MIA. I learned my lesson with that one.
Thanks for this. My last dating relationship recently ended after two months because it started out him pursuing me properly for the first month then he suddenly stopped calling and texting as much and when I asked what happened he said he was waiting for me to call him, and then he went on to ask when I was going to treat him out, it was like he totally flipped the script and wanted me to chase him, to the point where I was questioning myself wondering if I had done enough - so thanks for this video Kev, definitely confirmation and gives me peace now that we're no longer dating...I stopped chasing him, and now we're done. By the way, this man is over 50 - I guess age doesn't matter when it comes to men who play games.
This is all truth. A man who truly likes you will be worried about messing up with you and won’t want to leave time for another man to grab your attention. I became so used to this bad behavior that I thought it was just part of dating and normal. It’s not. The man I’m dating now, he has been like my best friend. We can talk for hours about anything. He will randomly just want to spoon on the couch just to have his arms around me. He worries if I seem down or unhappy. A day doesn’t go by that we don’t connect with each other and make each other smile. You KNOW when a man really likes you. Him acting like a D from the jump isn’t a sign he needs to know you better. It’s a sign to meet the next guy.
This is all soooo true! Especially that shit about where you been and they haven’t picked up the phone! I’ve moved past several guys like that in the past…said the same thing Kev said…your fingers weren’t broke! And, I hate the guys who exchange numbers and then don’t call you…I didn’t call their asses either! Such dumb shit and it’s sad that they plays these games well into adulthood…I mean well into adulthood…like grandpa age!!!
I'm going through the same thing. He told me he wants us to have one night together then he'll be able to focus. Hes basically trying to hit and quit and I'm not taking the breadcrumbs hes given me. He can get lost.
Ladies we have to stop entertaining this stuff. Simply refuse. I’m repulsed by it. Can’t believe this is still a thing. Turn your back and walk. No man is worth chasing. Period.
It never works out when I meet guys like this. I’ve met two guys who wanted me to chase them even though they were very attracted to me as well. Both situations were over before they even began & the last guy ended up pressed & obsessed because I walked away.
I met this guy online and he would text messages like “I wish I could hear your voice today” but he would never pick up the phone to call. One day I just had enough and said you don’t want to hear my voice cause if you did you’d call instead of sending me these text. Let’s just say that ended all that mess.
Omg. Currently experienced this except my situation is quite new but it really bothered me that he never asked for my number. Guess there's my answer, he clearly has someone else. I decided to walk away as I deserve so much better!
I know that if a guy truly wants you, he will make the impossible possible. He will move mountains. You'll be like: how is this even possible? They will try to impress you by any means. Everything else is bs. Appreciate your explanation. You are quite handsome. It's nice that you share this with us. Bless
Thank you! I actually bought the story that he was distraught from his divorce and custody battle 2 years ago. He was intentionally leading me on and my patience was pointless. It was a huge waste of my time
This is why the bumble dating app is one of the worst apps. The concept is for the woman to make the first move and it’ll be full of guys who are too feminine and/or not confident in approaching women. The app markets the business model as “a good way for them not to be bombarded with unwanted messages from men” and women who buy into this whole idea will just make it easier on the men to slack off and she will be in her masculine. If that’s how it starts right out the gate, then don’t be surprised if that is the energy throughout the relationship. And before anyone comes back with “it’s not true, I met my partner on this app and that’s not how we are”, I understand there may be a small percentage of couples who defy the norm. Again, there will be exceptions but it’s def not the overwhelming majority
Lol this happened to me, I never made plans. I figured if he knew what he wanted to do, it'd be concrete. I'm a firm believer in clarity and not hyperbole ❤️🇺🇸
I recently met a guy who is 41...I'm 54 yes lol... he thought I was 37...anywho... he asked if we could meet up so that he could get a vibe... well he had a situation with his family, but didn't call. I sent a happy Tuesday text just to see his response he was quick to say he wanted to see me, again never gave a time when he would be available. I gave him the benefit of the doubt once after that...keep it moving... I don't have the time or the energy !✔✔✔Have a nice life✌
When a man offers/messages his number, I simply send mine in response, tell him the times I've avaliable for voice contact ( never after 10pm), and I say, " I look forward to hearing from you. " All that extra stuff, telling him, " I don't chase men/ call 1st, do you want my number?", seems masculine energied and quite combative. Also, if a man is only texting and calling and isn't asking me out, I simply stop the texts and call conversations that we could easily have in person.
@@blindsey1043 I don't know if you're being sarcastic by bringing up Kitten Heels, but it's not " game". It's simply a way to avoid wasting time w/feminine energied males that want me to operate in masculine energy
I just blocked a idiot that did this to me for over five years. I thought his knowledge & skills would enhance me & my career path. I was more of an asset to him because I didn't care about knowing much about him. I was always looking & had better options. Thank you for your videos I'm passing them along to my daughter so she can deal with these TRASH guys out here.💯
I’m glad you learned. That’s all that matters. Some learn sooner than others, some learn later. Took me awhile to learn some things in my dating past too. But once I left my last ex almost 4 years ago, I didn’t look back. I know better what not to do & tolerate moving forward, and now so do you.
This was really good information. I really needed this clarity. A guy told me I was difficult He sayss I have too many stipulations and hoops he has to jump through just to be with me , but I just have boundaries. I suspect he just doesn't want to put out the effort because women don't usually tell him "no" like I have.
Lucky to have a boyfriend that is so consistent and has truly pursued me all the way to the point that I don't question a thing or have any doubt in my mind!
I applaud you for this video! So many women need to hear this,especially young ladies. This cuts the stains that we allow to breed over our hearts & minds. Thank You Kev Hicks,Thank You! I always share your videos with my friends & Neices!😌
You just haven't met the right man. The right man would not leave you because of your weight gain or kids they would be consistently supportive and help you to come out healthier and stronger Work on yourself for now. Get healthy and confident without a man!
Kev was so spot on when he talked about men who declare their undying intentions to hangout or meet up but never pick a place, a date or time....it's ridiculous lol I'd like to see the video that differentiates shy guys from sly guys though. Thank you Kev this was really enlightening.
It’s 100% true💯.. and I even had a man say that word (desperate) to me,.. about me,.. and him! Then…second time around, actions and alternative words, saying the same thing. I am shocked disgusted and enlightened. What is really going on in the world today..
Hey Kev, It takes way to much time and energy mentally to be chasing someone. What exactly are you suppose to be chasing? The idea that if you give this person your energy that they will like you more or become more interested in you. If a person is interested in you; you wont have to chase them
Lol him when he says "where you been" me because being ghosted pisses me off. "Where I been? Where have you been? You ain't replied when I reached out last, so dont give me none of that. Ive been here. Taking the hint".
Recently, I had this busted 50+ year old man come in where I work (lookin like a wanna be Wesley Snipes) ask me where the adult diapers were located in the store. After I told him his response was "thank ya thank ya! Imma get yo numba!" as he quickly scurried to the aisle, I was like ugh! Meanwhile 15 mins later as he was about to leave the store he handed me a crumpled up grocery store receipt saying , " I found this on the ground and wanted to give it to you." After he left the store I read his scribbled up name and number followed by a lengthy xoxoxoxoxo🤢🤮🗑🚮 Sad thing is he thought his game was tight and I had my mask on the entire time😕 whew!
Do you think they are learning from some PUA book? Let me tell ya men are always ahead. Because since they hit puberty their brains get foggy over hopping on someone .
I would’ve said “why are you picking up garbage off the floor? you should’ve left it on the ground” Oh my god, that was so cringeworthy. Can’t take him too seriously.
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Literally. Literally. Literally every woman around the world needs to see this. I met a guy this week who was saying he's so attracted to me. We met up, kissed. Then yesterday he said ok I may have work but I'm tired I wanna see you and said well babe do you, but I'm free, or I'm just gonna go ahead and make plans. Come later around 9pm he asked U free, I had plans and didn't wb til 2 hours later when I was free. He said yeah let's meet up, then he said na but I'm with friends. Guess what I did. I said yo this shit ain't gotta be so hard, you had all day you knew I was free. We done. And I DELETED his number. Ladies this is a PSA when a guy pulls back pls for the love of God delete their number that way your never tempted to text. Even if you wanna lose your shit. Be nice. Whatever the case, you can't bc you ain't got their number and this has been working for me it's a hack. You deserve someone who chases you!
Even if a guy is pursuing you, it does not mean he values you or takes you seriously. There are men that pursue and woo women, only to use them as placeholders and manipulate them
So true
True.
Bingo…
Yes I agree 💯 percent
True
But that's another story
I actually stopped talking to a man because of this. I had to initiate conversations, texts, dates. I quickly realized he wasn’t interested and moved around.
Me too. Then when I would bring it to his attention he would just turn it around on me. So I played along for a while and when he started acting like he was “the man” I cut him off kindly. He had no idea what to say or do. 🤷🏽♀️
@@songbird8404 THIS! He would do the same. Just say you aren’t interested bruh. It’s all good.
Good! Smart!
@@songbird8404 LMAO!!! 😂😂🤣🤣
But you better than me. I'm too grown to be wasting time with ppl still playing games like that. I'm quick to move on. FR
@@jayc5756 the D was good and I don’t sleep around lol
Before my father passed he told me that "you will without a doubt know that a man wants you" meaning you won't have to CHASE the man that wants you
My mother told me to never chase women .
Funny because men are told the same thing, to show interest, set up dates but DONT CHASE
@@Cateater123your mother wants you to be a batchelor 😂
@@rosegardens9701 your dad wanted you to be his call girl
@@rosegardens9701 bachelors ? The happiest people ? Well obviously.
Don't ever chase a guy, these boys are cowards.
Yes complete cowards
Bam!!
AMEN AMEN AMEN, SISTER 🎉
Facts 💯💯
This is why I’d rather stay single
Who wants you anyway 😂
Me too sis!!! Its like I don't have time for the elementary puzzles and riddles you tryin throw at me. Too many games bein played out here. Smh
Ok team single!
Period !
Right. Same.
Nowadays, dating is too much work for too little in return.
Ain’t nobody got time for that.
A guy “broke up” with me because I wasn’t chasing him lol…I didn’t even know we were together
😂😂😂
Lol
A guy wanted me to chase him by giving me his biz card, but I didn’t call him; so I guess we broke up?
lol
😂💀💀
This type of guys know exactly what they want, ego boost and 🐈⬛, nothing else, with minimal effort.
Exactly!! Thank you for this video
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Boom 💥
This comment snapped me out of depression from my ex. I remember when we were first breaking up and I was crying like a baby, he kept expressing how “peaceful” he was without me (this man was a CHAOTIC character in MY life I was actually confused why he would tell ME that) and i didn’t take offense to that (lesson learned) and then he expressed he missed me but guess what he lists off? “I miss fucking you, I miss being able to make you do what I want, I miss playing the game with you, I miss your little dog but I overall miss you sucking my dick but I got to do what’s best for me” and I didn’t even let that shit resonate until just now. that was OVER a month ago and I completely disregarded all that and was hoping he would return and chase me….that man didn’t even value me and this comment SNAPPED me into reality. We were together three years and I spent the last half chasing him, begging him to spend time with me. I recently got back in my hobbies and honestly my life has taken off since we split. But I kept thinking about when he chased me (about 6 months only in 2020 and then he showed his true colors, emotional and verbal abuse ass) and I thought I for real let a real one go. HELL NAH I DID NOT. I made the BEST choice. Thank you. Truly 👏🏾✨
Not only will they want you to chase them but they'll also want to cross your boundaries to see how much you like them. The best way to win is to not participate.
I paraphrased these:
1) give you his number (not making the first move)
2) they suggest you hang out but don’t set a particular date.
3) he’ll say why haven’t you called ask where you’ve been as if he couldn’t reach out too
4) He’ll say he likes you that he wants you but he won’t contact you. You won’t know where you stand. They want you to fall into a place of desperation
#4 is depressing
@@lexic.7942 my exact PAST situation. It’s been a whole 7+ days. N OOO. ACTIONS! behind his measly words . Stay prayerful and strong in all the ways as the STRONG QUEEN, WHO CHOOSES THE MAN CHASING AND PURSUING HER, that you are. 🥰 💕
Looking back at this 2 months ago; EW. Life gets so much better as time passes, you be alright 😌
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I experienced this
While your chasing him, he's chasing someone else never be an option to a man that makes no effort to call you, never makes himself available to spend time with you, never makes any plans to take you out on dates. If a man wants you in his life he'll figure out a way to put you there. He's not to busy for you... Your just not his priority. When you chase him your sending him a message that your waiting on him and available to him when it's convenient for him.
Online dating has made it too easy for these guys to do the bare minimum. I feel less annoyed now that I'm avoiding those apps.
Yes! So true
@ah2667 true!
Absolutely creating low effort men!
Oh yes that’s interesting, because I feel better now too, and I couldn’t put my finger on why. It’s because I don’t use dating apps anymore. Actually I don’t speak to anyone- period! 😂maybe that’s why 🤔 x
True
I wish I would’ve seen this when I dealt with this in my late 20s. Young ladies/women if it confuses you or makes you feel disregarded-pull out quickly! Especially for women that have any abandonment or rejection issues, staying in this dynamic too long will leave you in emotional ruins. Abort mission fast 💨
Yes, love. You just dropped jewels for free❤️
Love that response @latoya. Abort mission REAL fast.
I always know to leave when I get the message “Houston we have a problem”. Anything that causes emotional confusion, is not meant for me. This applies to intimate relationships, jobs, friendships and family. I may care about you, even love you but what I’m not going to do is walk through life making up shit in my head to justify ppls actions
You need an offering for that word!
@@arnoldalana33 💯 this is an entire sermon
Don’t be afraid to call people out on their bullshit. I really appreciate you saying this.
Bullshit. All he do is play the white knight role and let y’all get away with whatever. He gonna have y’all overthinking everything and not knowing if somebody genuine or not cause you think he running game.
AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN 🎉
The most important thing to watch for when a man pursues you is CONSISTENCY. If they pursue in the beginning and then switch up later on, get rid of them! This behaviour may have you stuck and it's all a part of their game to have you chase them now. Yuck
How do you get rid of them when you are already in love. This is a nightmare 😝😭
@@22khalil1 already in love!? Simple, out of love
@@22khalil1 you have to decide which you want more, peace or the pain you loving him brings…
@@22khalil1 Check out Aaron Daughy on UA-cam. I'm on the same path of letting go. His videos have been sooo helpful
@@msnicolevickers thanks babe
“Don’t let no man text you for 89 weeks” Crying laughing 😂
Or wyd all day
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😂🤣 I laughed so hard at this part.
@@MrsBrown_ 😂
Lmao 🤣
A man's personality and a man's character are two different things. Don't be fooled.
Yep. Actions = character.
Exactly! Shy, introvert, laid back… none of that matters. So many ppl use that as an excuse to not pursue but they go after what they want. Shy & all
I drop these guys immediately when I notice this shit. I let them show interest and if they show interest, I will show interest in return but the moment they slack Im gone.
Exactly. Same i do with women. Too much ppl playing games out here. SMH!
Same!
I apply this principle in platonic friendships and all other types of relationships as well 💯
I do same with women
Naw fr 💯💯💯 & all that dry personality ish don’t fly w me😩😩. & I can honestly say anytime I prolonged after a mf slacked IT ALWAYS HIT ME N THE FACE 🤦🏾♀️. Drop em like a bad habit 🤷🏾♀️
This is why Im single. Until a real man shows me he’s serious about me, Im not wasting my time.
AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN, Sister, Me 2🎉
The "hello stranger" text I can't even tolerate it 😂
That’s funny 😆😆
Because you are old and your innocence is gone that's why men should date younger girls
@@fighterinmkiwiscience3517 I didn't see the lady list her age. Plus what dose age have to do with innocence sure the longer your on earth the more chances to be expose to wickedness but some people are more shelter then others and then there are kids that lose all innocence everyone is an individual. But you show the type of person you are if older guy hitting up really young ladies that shows and tells us you want to control and corrupt someone that isn't as likely to be aware of abuse. You were likely a reject and could not get a lady your age.
@@bunnyboo6295 lol 😂 don't worry nobody will abuse you because you old .
@@bunnyboo6295 if you can't tolerate hello stranger text then , you lost your innocence so why go for them when you can find innocence girls in the world .
Everything he said in this video is exactly. Men in their late 40s and 50s do this to me a lot. I just blocked someone after watching this video because this pissed me off.
YES they really do!!!
Right….and it’s even worse when they are older. Like, how can you be in your 50’s still playing games or be this under developed? It’s disgusting!
And yet we feel that by the time they get to these ages they know what they want
Yeah I noticed that foolishness too ladies men in there 40s and 50s do this type of thing. Ain't nobody got time for that shit!!! Smh
How old are you? If don't mind me asking!
"Don´t amuse him by losing yourself!" Finally someone who explain it raw and clear...Thanks man!
true, thats what i did calling guy out on his bullshit
@@fantasiazplatkami interesting what did you tell him?
Yes FINALLY!!
He tried it; I'm not chasing any man. 😂😂😊
But he's supposed to chase you?? What do you want equality or entitlement?
Yup. I have been dealing with lots of men like this. Now, I have a man who is head over heels for me and I am head over heels for him. I'm 46. I really had given up and it's finally happening!!
Omg that's so inspiring!!! I'm 30 and I was losing hope
Very encouraging... All the best to you both.😊
Happy 4u
@Tiffany Moore yep haha you know when you're 21 and you think you'll have it all by 28? Well..that never happened
That's why it's happening, because you let it go allowing it to flow in naturally. Love this! E happy ❤️💞 🥰
They set a dynamic in their relationship where a woman feels unsafe and needs to protect herself from them and then complain about that dynamic 🎯
Agree. If the guy's not sure about you at any given point, Just LEAVE HIM. Cut him cold. Don't care if he's just doing that to balance and not look desperate. CUT HIM COLD. Because it still shows that he's at a point in his life where he doesn't know what he wants and does not know how to go for it.
You need a man who already come face to face with himself and understand that all the other women are just distractions and needs to go for just one and sees the value of how unique that one person is.
Wow. That last paragraph hit home for me.
AMEN AMEN 🎉
I tend to listen/watch videos while I'm doing the dishes and I just spent ten minutes washing plates yelling YEP and THAT'S RIGHT to no one
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He a whole RED FLAG if he wants you chasing him like this.
The one guy was so manipulative where he said we were friends, acted like we were friends, and then played these games (gave me his number first, said we would hang out but not plan it) all to get me to chase him more. It was bullshit and I realized he had narcissistic tendencies too that I did not want to deal with and I realize now I dodged a bullet.
And another thing they do is that "WYD?" Text That 💩drove me crazy!
Yeah? Like what is that about. I’ve had guys do that and still plan dates but. It’s annoying even if they are not saying WYD all day.
I immediately block after they send that silly shit
Girl that's booty call text!! That WYD text message. I hate them text messages too!!! Smh
You are like the big bro I never had. Your content is so helpful for women & girls who didn’t have positive male role models especially with all the alpha male creators who speak to a woman’s insecurity you always give tough love in such a positive & protective way I love it
That what I do it for😁
Word👏👏👏
@@KevHick yes thank you so much!
Am gonna block your ass off I don't deal with such sh*t
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I love your message. My older brother always gave me the same message. He always would say “let the man pursue you, you don’t pursue him. This is how you know he’s interested. Never be easy” I always followed his advice. It’s why I’ve married my husband because he made the first move and he pursued me. 19 years of marriage and staying married until the wheels fall off.😊
I am so happy for you 🥳 wish you manny more years
Nothing wrong with that but not always the case
and hopefully thats monogamous honest relationship and not just for bragging rights that you received validation from a man claiming you🧿
@@_ladiosanegra l know a man after 40 yrs of seemingy happy marriage he served her divorce papers. Some men are real jerks. Sickos!
@@patriciawhite9509 seemingly is the word that you are probably missing a lot of real facts on. Seemingly happy tells me that you don’t really know what’s going on in their marriage.
Keep it moving! I’m not chasing NO man! The man that God has for me don’t and won’t play games.❤️
Amen😇❤🙏
AMEN AMEN AMEN, SISTER, ME EITHER 🎉
No thanks. I’m so busy with school and my job. I don’t and won't chase after men. I chase after my future. Easy comes, easy goes.
This is narcissistic behavior as well. Watch out for them
Oh most definitely Leah!!!
Yess! How can any normal person apart from a narcissist do this?!
Well, most men have high narcissistic traits. That's why more men are narcissists than women
1000% narc
I had a man chase me for years. After I gave in, it took a while to have $ex. The day we did. He disappeared. Thank goodness I recover from BS quickly
1000% agree with you! I hate female friends who advise other women to make the first move: invite him out for drink, invite him for dinner, there is nothing wrong with taking the lead.... SMH!
Right! The same way you get him is the same way you gotta keep him.
I think a lot of us made those mistakes. It felt empowering and courageous to do that to a man. I’ve only had 1 good relationship start like this but it wasn’t serious on my end so I didn’t get hurt… but I wouldn’t do that again knowing what I know now.
I actually had a male friend told me it's ok to let a guy know I like him. I listened to my male friend and the guy I told how I felt ended up playing games with me. One day he seemed Interested the next week he distance. I was chasing hom for 2 yrs..Never again!
@@slimtmedia Oh no, I am so sorry! I have chased guys in the past too! I never got what I wanted. I only boosted men's ego!
@@slimtmedia showing signs of interest is different then making first move and chase being a little flirty to show you will say yes if he asks can encourage a guy that might have interest if you sent out hints and they don't pursue move on. If you watched old movies in a way the women make the first move by dressing nice walking by in a certain way eye contact maybe drop something to see if they pick up and return it.
But If a man don't take the lead in assertiveness as a feminine female I know I would lose respect for them as a man so not a good foundation for a relationship. If as a women I have to be the man I'm not going to feel secure
I ghosted this guy for those same reasons. I’m not the one
I don't have the patience for such childish games...thank you again for yet another excellent video! ❤
I feel you!!
Because you are grown and old
Same!!😆😆
Periodt
@@ibstayfly nobody wanna know about your 😡 period go and tell someone else . I know you are girl that doesn't mean you will go everywhere and tell that you have period, men have problems too 😡
Call them a b*tch, I bet they'll respond then. 😂😂some dude's are use to toxic women and clearly if you're being ignored, it's a GOOD thing, honestly! 😘God is saving you from future Heartaches. Be grateful!!😉
My ex was like this. I told him he was looking for a woman to treat and chase him like a bad b$tch and I couldn’t do that anymore 😭😭
If i didn’t initiate, things just didn’t happen. Waste of my damn time.
Omg! Lol...bad b*tch is exactly what me & my friends say these so called males think they are.. case in point: Drake with the lace front wig, pouty lips & new chin.
@@foreveralchemy3193 😂
I also hate the “where you been? I haven’t heard from you.” Quickest way to piss me off lmbo
lol 😂 that part. Yes mam I agree
Nowadays I don’t even respond to that text from ANYONE 😂
Yessss, I just left his ass cos his actions doesn’t match up , ain’t got time for his games.
A guy stopped traffic to come talk to me while I was taking a walk on my lunch break. He gave me his number and I txt him so he could have my number. He called and we had 1 conversation, then he asked to come to my place. I told him I don’t invite strangers to my home. So now I get a txt every other week or so “damn cold shoulder huh?” Or he will ask what I’m doing but never act on anything. I haven’t called his ass once and ain’t thinking about it. Thinking about blocking him like I do everyone else. No time for games! He caught me 2 years too late. I’m smarter than that now!
if a guy wants u to chase him run fast and far in the opposite direction. u deserve to have mutual affection, respect, admiration, attention and even and especially love when it gets to that stage.
You’re doing the lord’s work 😊
He really is. I asked God for clarity in this situation and then this video shows up. This is the 3rd time this has happened.
A guy giving you his number instead of asking for your number MEANS his interest level for you is VERY LOW. He is lazy to pursue you and you as a woman becomes the man by taking the lead. By giving you his number rather than asking for your number means he enjoys taking on the passive role and it is him being lazy on every angle. Men since the beginning of time are hunter by nature and love to chase women and not the other way around. It is what it is. If you disturb this dynamics, you highly likely end up in tears. Real men (I'm not talking about those weak pathetic boys) HATE being chased by women! Men love the value of hard work and the reward that comes with it. You are the reward. Men, when you chase a woman and show her your genuine interest, remember that a women who LIKES you will ALWAYS REPLY! It doesn't matter if she replies instantly or days for as long as the girl replies to you, she IS interested. Women in general LOVE being chased by men and that's the truth! Most especially from a man they really like. Some girls will even play hard to get because they simply feel "loved" by men pursuing them, oftentimes this confuses men in general and they thought she may not be interested and playing games. Men, for as long as the girl IS REPLYING to you, she likes you! The moment you stop the chase is when she tells you a big fat NO or when she stops replying to you, there's no mind games around it. Cut you loss and move on. Going back, ladies pay attention on how a man pursue you especially in early stage of dating. You know he is a low value man if he prefers women chasing him instead. A man who is genuinely interested in you will go above and beyond to be with your company. Ladies, the moment you start acting like a shrink, a mom, or start reading Reddit especially in early stage of dating is a very bad sign. 😂😂😂
# 4 is a classic sign of the push-pull tactic which is surprisingly a form of codependency. I learned this the hard way but never again. It is so perplexing and exhausting. Sis, if a man exhibits any signs of wanting to be chased, just run the other way. These are all such great points Kev. Thank you for this video. ❤️
Yes! Thank you for saying this! This is a red flag. I'm going through this now 😔
I had one ask me after 3 days of talking to borrow money for a phone bill 🤢🤮 Im about to become a Stud kev 😩
😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Bianca?!!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
They are All yours Ladies 🚮🚫😅
Wow they have no shame anymore
Sheesh!
I so wish I had this knowledge in my 20s. Would have saved so much time and heartache.
That’s okay! Sometimes we have to go through things to get where we need to be in life!!!
@@centeryourmindenergy8381 simp lol
OMG!!! Kevin, I just met two guys this week that threw their phone numbers out at me and said “Call Me” I asked them What is this new age shit where men start throwing out their phone numbers to women for the women to call the men so the men don’t get their feelings hurt because the women rejected them? I informed them a man always asks a woman for her phone number… Then I asked them what do you men want next? Do you want the women to drive to your home to pick you up for dates? Do you want the women to get out the car and open up your door? Do you want the women to pull out your chair at the dinner table for you to sit down? I told them I believe in a man being a man because chivalry isn’t dead. And this new rule where the man throws out his phone number seems a little to feminine for me. The Cat don’t chase the Dog. The Dog chases the Cat… And the 1st guy laughed and said I understand and never asked me for my phone number and the 2nd guy I haven’t heard from him since😂 And I click on your video and you called it right out!!! “Princess Shit”🤣🤣💀💀💀
I'm going to start asking them if they want to receive so badly does that include me penetrating them? Because that's what it seems like 🤷🏾♀️
One italian guy told me that chivalry was a white man's creation to oppress women. 🥸
They try to brainwash face to face. He reacted like this because he offered me his jacket (I declined because I didn't need it) but still thanked by the chivalrous act. He went crazy saying it was not chivalry and he just did it because I looked cold and he wasn't in need of his jacket. I tried to make him understand that chivalry is a courtesy or kindness act but got some sort of "white men oppression speech".
I declined going to his home as 2nd date because I'm not interested in anything casual...that's probably result of white man's oppression too.
@@lunalu552 I wouldn’t have went to his house no way… When men snap off like that it sends me Anger Management Vibes… And I cut them clean off!!!
Omg I love how you called it out & they faded right on out!! 😭💀
Omg ☠️ love how you called them out!
To add onto number 1 - Be wary of having multiple phone conversations before having an official date. Men may also use this as a way to lure you into a penpal dynamic since most think women fall in love with words. They want you to "believe" they're creating a strong connection with you so it's easier for you to put up with everything Kev listed in the video.
‘Courted like a woman’ 🤢 This was my last relationship. Never, ever again.
Do Jesus..if this doesn’t explain one of my current situations right now. Told me us women just want to be chased, then strategically continuously tries to put me in a position to chase him(doesn’t work). He wants to be ran after soo bad. It’s giving very sassy behavior💅🏾
They want to be bad bitches so bad! 🤣
🤣🤣🤣@sassy
*snap snap* 😂
Do Jesus😂 You must be from the Caribbean Islands 🤣
@@slimtmedia 😂naw right here in the US of A
This is probably your best video. Real men take the lead. Guess what? I'm 63 and have not seen a "real man" take the lead since I was in my 20's. Sad state of things these days.
I don't chase....I replace.
I learned my lesson with my 1st love before I wad 18... Made a complete ass out of myself. When it was all said and done...I told myself never again and haven't. I'm 51 now.
You go girl! 👍
So how’d that work for you? You should be happily married now learning the lessons in your teenage years
You shouldn't speak on someone you know nothing about.
AMEN AMEN, Sister n I'm #51, too🎉
My ex boyfriend had asked me if I had wanted to try and get into a relationship again & work things out after being broken up for 3-4 years. I really didn’t have any emotions towards him but we remained good friends throughout the entire time. He had asked me to go out to dinner a times but never followed through. So I never bothered asking about it & pulled back my energy. Now he’s talking to someone & it has become serious. I brought about him not following through with what he said & he said to me “So you expected me to pursue you?” & I said “YES” “That is the whole point” I mean the man is supposed to pursue the woman he interested in/wanting!!! I sure as hell wasn’t going to waste my time if he wasn’t showing me any action & he didn’t.
Yeah, he didn't really want you like that.
@@jayc5756 Then he shouldn’t have said anything point blank because I’m tired of these mind games. That’s why I waited to see what moves he was going to make & he made none. All talk & no action. Don’t say you want a relationship if you’re not going to put in the effort. Just saying. Cause I’m not going to chase/pursue any man for it.
@@laurens1030 I feel you. Exactly. Some guys be like that unfortunately
@@jayc5756 It definitely is. Course not all are. That’s why I’m taking my sweet time of putting myself back out there again.
@@laurens1030 Understandable
This video is so accurate. I went through this with a guy I really cared about. I thought the feelings were reciprocated but he just wants attention. When I go radio silent he reaches out but whenever I’m in town, he’s always MIA. I learned my lesson with that one.
I went through a scenario just like what you described. I was so turned off. He was super feminine in his approach.
Thanks for this. My last dating relationship recently ended after two months because it started out him pursuing me properly for the first month then he suddenly stopped calling and texting as much and when I asked what happened he said he was waiting for me to call him, and then he went on to ask when I was going to treat him out, it was like he totally flipped the script and wanted me to chase him, to the point where I was questioning myself wondering if I had done enough - so thanks for this video Kev, definitely confirmation and gives me peace now that we're no longer dating...I stopped chasing him, and now we're done. By the way, this man is over 50 - I guess age doesn't matter when it comes to men who play games.
This is. Crazy. Good for u leave him the dust
This is all truth. A man who truly likes you will be worried about messing up with you and won’t want to leave time for another man to grab your attention. I became so used to this bad behavior that I thought it was just part of dating and normal. It’s not. The man I’m dating now, he has been like my best friend. We can talk for hours about anything. He will randomly just want to spoon on the couch just to have his arms around me. He worries if I seem down or unhappy. A day doesn’t go by that we don’t connect with each other and make each other smile. You KNOW when a man really likes you. Him acting like a D from the jump isn’t a sign he needs to know you better. It’s a sign to meet the next guy.
This is good advice. Noticed a guy chasing me but he said he was in a situation……… I don’t do situations.
This is all soooo true! Especially that shit about where you been and they haven’t picked up the phone! I’ve moved past several guys like that in the past…said the same thing Kev said…your fingers weren’t broke! And, I hate the guys who exchange numbers and then don’t call you…I didn’t call their asses either! Such dumb shit and it’s sad that they plays these games well into adulthood…I mean well into adulthood…like grandpa age!!!
So why you didn't call. It's 2022 everyone is equal now
I'm going through the same thing. He told me he wants us to have one night together then he'll be able to focus. Hes basically trying to hit and quit and I'm not taking the breadcrumbs hes given me. He can get lost.
Ladies we have to stop entertaining this stuff. Simply refuse. I’m repulsed by it. Can’t believe this is still a thing. Turn your back and walk. No man is worth chasing. Period.
thanks a lot
Agreed. Guys who do this to me miss out on me cuz I just don’t entertain it.
Exactly
The where have you been also applies to so called “ friends “ too.
Omg yessss! And relatives too!
Exactly
The egg don't swim to the sperm, sis.
I'm here..divorced and trying to understand dating in 2022. I'm not really 'out there' ..but I've had a few interactions and wow things have changed
Kev I remember when I came to this realization. It was and still is crazy to me that men really are like this.
My ex did all of these during and at the end of the relationships .. all facts !!
Yup he’s doing this to me now I’m going to fall back
It never works out when I meet guys like this. I’ve met two guys who wanted me to chase them even though they were very attracted to me as well. Both situations were over before they even began & the last guy ended up pressed & obsessed because I walked away.
I met this guy online and he would text messages like “I wish I could hear your voice today” but he would never pick up the phone to call. One day I just had enough and said you don’t want to hear my voice cause if you did you’d call instead of sending me these text. Let’s just say that ended all that mess.
Omg. Currently experienced this except my situation is quite new but it really bothered me that he never asked for my number. Guess there's my answer, he clearly has someone else. I decided to walk away as I deserve so much better!
I know that if a guy truly wants you, he will make the impossible possible. He will move mountains.
You'll be like: how is this even possible?
They will try to impress you by any means.
Everything else is bs.
Appreciate your explanation. You are quite handsome. It's nice that you share this with us. Bless
AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN , Sister🎉
I just stopped talking to a guy for this mess I don't chase I replace
Thank you! I actually bought the story that he was distraught from his divorce and custody battle 2 years ago. He was intentionally leading me on and my patience was pointless. It was a huge waste of my time
These “sweep me off my feet” ninjas 🥷🏾 make me sick🙄😩
I loved "I can't stand a fake ass where you been?" Lmao!!! 😂😂😂😂
AMEN AMEN, Sister And "WHAT'S UP", CRAP🎉
This is why the bumble dating app is one of the worst apps. The concept is for the woman to make the first move and it’ll be full of guys who are too feminine and/or not confident in approaching women. The app markets the business model as “a good way for them not to be bombarded with unwanted messages from men” and women who buy into this whole idea will just make it easier on the men to slack off and she will be in her masculine. If that’s how it starts right out the gate, then don’t be surprised if that is the energy throughout the relationship. And before anyone comes back with “it’s not true, I met my partner on this app and that’s not how we are”, I understand there may be a small percentage of couples who defy the norm. Again, there will be exceptions but it’s def not the overwhelming majority
Totally agree 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Lol this happened to me, I never made plans. I figured if he knew what he wanted to do, it'd be concrete. I'm a firm believer in clarity and not hyperbole ❤️🇺🇸
I recently met a guy who is 41...I'm 54 yes lol... he thought I was 37...anywho... he asked if we could meet up so that he could get a vibe... well he had a situation with his family, but didn't call. I sent a happy Tuesday text just to see his response he was quick to say he wanted to see me, again never gave a time when he would be available. I gave him the benefit of the doubt once after that...keep it moving... I don't have the time or the energy !✔✔✔Have a nice life✌
When men try to give me their number I automatically get turned off.
When a man offers/messages his number, I simply send mine in response, tell him the times I've avaliable for voice contact ( never after 10pm), and I say, " I look forward to hearing from you. "
All that extra stuff, telling him, " I don't chase men/ call 1st, do you want my number?", seems masculine energied and quite combative.
Also, if a man is only texting and calling and isn't asking me out, I simply stop the texts and call conversations that we could easily have in person.
Girl u got game Kevin Samuels would have been proud for you not being masculine
I AGREE !!!!!!!!!!!!
@@blindsey1043 I don't know if you're being sarcastic by bringing up Kitten Heels, but it's not " game". It's simply a way to avoid wasting time w/feminine energied males that want me to operate in masculine energy
Tammie u just put me on to some knowledge… I never looked at it as masculine till I just read your comment & it makes so much sense.
I just blocked a idiot that did this to me for over five years. I thought his knowledge & skills would enhance me & my career path. I was more of an asset to him because I didn't care about knowing much about him. I was always looking & had better options. Thank you for your videos I'm passing them along to my daughter so she can deal with these TRASH guys out here.💯
5 years …. This is on you. No longer his fault .
So you were just trying to use him, too.🙄
@@laurenlocd3180 I guess. So that's why he's blocked & I'm healing
@@JessicaTiramisu I guess so. I gave him the same energy & play he gave me.
I’m glad you learned. That’s all that matters. Some learn sooner than others, some learn later. Took me awhile to learn some things in my dating past too. But once I left my last ex almost 4 years ago, I didn’t look back. I know better what not to do & tolerate moving forward, and now so do you.
Holy crap what you said men don’t fall in love with words.
The church said, AMEN 💯
AMEN AMEN AMEN 🎉
Lol. Kevin has the best and funniest clap backs
You are so right about them creating a dynamic that makes women feel unsafe. Real talk! Dang Kev you are so on point!
Yep that made me think about the last guy who wanted me to chase him & that’s exactly how I felt. Unsafe & out of my element.
@@sigmasiren7 thank God for unsettling feeling. Internal red flag.
This was really good information. I really needed this clarity. A guy told me I was difficult He sayss I have too many stipulations and hoops he has to jump through just to be with me , but I just have boundaries. I suspect he just doesn't want to put out the effort because women don't usually tell him "no" like I have.
Your suspicions are on point. 🎯
@@therealkoolaidandkale💬💯💯💯💯💯
'Women often say "I didn't know he cares so much"🥰🥰
He doesn't 😑'
😂😂😂 These captions are so good Thank you Kev!
Lucky to have a boyfriend that is so consistent and has truly pursued me all the way to the point that I don't question a thing or have any doubt in my mind!
I applaud you for this video!
So many women need to hear this,especially young ladies. This cuts the stains that we allow to breed over our hearts & minds. Thank You Kev Hicks,Thank You! I always share your videos with my friends & Neices!😌
Where you been? That part right there!! Hell yea, Kev!
I NEVER used to go through this. Gaining over 100 lbs having kids things have been so annoying and different.
You just haven't met the right man. The right man would not leave you because of your weight gain or kids they would be consistently supportive and help you to come out healthier and stronger
Work on yourself for now. Get healthy and confident without a man!
Kev was so spot on when he talked about men who declare their undying intentions to hangout or meet up but never pick a place, a date or time....it's ridiculous lol I'd like to see the video that differentiates shy guys from sly guys though. Thank you Kev this was really enlightening.
truly golden insight - thanks mate
“ he wants you to fall in a place of desperation “ 🎯
Drop the 🎤
Please need to mentally digest this statement ladies 🤎
It’s 100% true💯.. and I even had a man say that word (desperate) to me,.. about me,.. and him! Then…second time around, actions and alternative words, saying the same thing. I am shocked disgusted and enlightened. What is really going on in the world today..
Tell the truth about these weirdos!👏🏾
Hey Kev, It takes way to much time and energy mentally to be chasing someone. What exactly are you suppose to be chasing? The idea that if you give this person your energy that they will like you more or become more interested in you. If a person is interested in you; you wont have to chase them
..damn right💯
Lol him when he says "where you been" me because being ghosted pisses me off. "Where I been? Where have you been? You ain't replied when I reached out last, so dont give me none of that. Ive been here. Taking the hint".
Recently, I had this busted 50+ year old man come in where I work (lookin like a wanna be Wesley Snipes) ask me where the adult diapers were located in the store. After I told him his response was "thank ya thank ya! Imma get yo numba!" as he quickly scurried to the aisle, I was like ugh! Meanwhile 15 mins later as he was about to leave the store he handed me a crumpled up grocery store receipt saying , " I found this on the ground and wanted to give it to you." After he left the store I read his scribbled up name and number followed by a lengthy xoxoxoxoxo🤢🤮🗑🚮 Sad thing is he thought his game was tight and I had my mask on the entire time😕 whew!
🤭 he wasted good paper to play games, smh...what a bum bum😁 jk!
Do you think they are learning from some PUA book? Let me tell ya men are always ahead. Because since they hit puberty their brains get foggy over hopping on someone .
I would’ve said “why are you picking up garbage off the floor? you should’ve left it on the ground” Oh my god, that was so cringeworthy. Can’t take him too seriously.
Yuk!