I would change the fact thatbi still have bed tome when i was younger i didn't have any btw I'm 14 and ny parnet came more strict when my little brother was born
I would change my parent's old mentality cuz I hate it so much..they just tell me to live my life according to them..they don't understand me a bit..why don't they understand this is my life..even they tell me to choose my lover according to them..like seriously?? I HATE THEM SO MUCH..I am only with them cuz of my needs..If I would leave them then life will be not possible..cuz I need food and money..and the worst part is they don't even let me do a safe job..I want to earn for myself
MY MOM DOES THAT TO ME - literally every time when i do something and like smack my little brother back, who is 6 years younger than me, but he’s pretty strong too, and really arrogant + bullies me a lot, my mom doesn’t give a little shit, she thinks just been I’m pretty much a teen now, I’m able to handle all the bruises/injuries I get - sprained wrists, scratches, bites, bruises, I mean yeah I don’t mind them, but sometimes when it’s like a bruise in a specific area/sprained wrist/bite, it could last like 2-3 weeks (not too long but still smh)
@@beanhead7632 u know like dat parents are so deluiled now a days if they could experience the things we have to go through then they would understand and not act like this
yE My mom is kind and lovely but- She’s said dis which my heart really want her to not be my mom I don’t hate babies My mom she hates babies I just stay quite and I’m not person who talks much I don’t even has a sis Her- “SHe hAs a siStEr aNd sHe hAtEs hEr” I want my brother to treat me fair My mom-hE tReAtS hEr sO fAir bUt sHe sTArtS a fiGht
if you need help go talk to your friends, family and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for help..
@@leorichard7955 I wish I can really trust them but I got no friends they left got their own life now and my sister father cause me this I can't really think
The worst part: depression and anxiety is now the leading cause of suicides, and the only sad part: theyll hate you if your allive, and only loved when your "gone". And the worstest part about it, they dont care and continue passing it to their new childs.
My mom removed the emotion crying in my body 2 years ago. I was unable to cry and let my emotions go. Luckily i still relieve myself (by crying ofc) but that happens once or twice per year
I don't wanna live my life anymore this is 2025 new year I hate this day......I'm the one who understands my mom and helps her in many ways but she will scold me by using abusive words it hurts me
she basically described my parents the only thing wrong was the substance abuse also btw about the grade one they even told me a flat lie saying colleges look at your middle school grades
Bad parents also never stops to think about why their child might be acting a certain way. As soon as their kid does something they don’t like or agree with, the kid instantly becomes a problem that must be controlled.
It's funny how parents don't even realize what they're doing to their child, then the parents say it's from being on the internet like it's not their fault
Sometimes I think they do it bc they think that they can tell us whatever they want becasue they are our parents and they have the authority. No one has the authority to cause someone depresion.
@@Psych2go All but the physical abuse actually, it's actually kinda sad that it's all but one. Then they ask why I'm depressed and cut and I'm over here to scared to even be in the same room because of what they do.
I am very sorry. big hugs! I recently cry everyday because of my mom too. she was never home a lot to learn about my autism. So that's why her and I got into it so much. If you read what I just wrote above in the comment section, you'll see.
You are not alone my mom is not perfect either, i get tired of her i have headaches, frustration as well, i want to get away from her, and keep in mind i'm slightly autistic. it's hard for me to get a job, but i just met someone new recently, i don't know how old you are but i was born in 1990, all i can say is hang in there, moms are not always perfect.
my mom takes away my phone because I have online friends. actually only one. some people I've met online have helped me with depression and when I went through series of panic attacks. she's never helped me because I'm scared to talk to her. she once took away my phone for 2 months straight. I spent almost all of that time alone in my room. Edit: she's taken away my phone again, she says I'm never getting it back.
I know what you mean I was at the point of killing my self and my uncle cause I went down to some railroad tracks and he ran down there and started chasing me back to the house and everything gone toys electronics everything besides my bed and some Shelves
I’m always the happiest when I’m home alone Edit: does anyone else’s parents say you should be more social but won’t let you talk to anyone see anyone? Edit2: hope all of you are doing great
_"If I ever become a mother, I won't be anything like my mom."_ Edit: It is sad to see how many of us relate to this. Lets work hard on ourselves so that we are better than our parents.
@@drugs8177 Well here's the thing you could always be a good mom BUT always make sure that the father is really nice as well ight.. Because here outta my parents my mom is like the nicest person in the whole world but my dad on the other hand, he yells at me, screams at me, saying that he'll no longer do anything for my family, he humiliates me always make sure that the father is nice as well... otherwise there is literally nothing you could do but to get a divorce if you try to talk to him he'll get even more mad and he might even try to hit you soo yeah (my father doesn't hit my mom or like y'know yells at her or smth, but i have a feeling that he doesn't do that because whenever he screams at me she never sticks up for me because she's scared that he might end up punching her or smth tho if she one day stands up for me and he ends up punching her, then he bouta lose his balls. anyways holy crap i don't wanna write a whole story of my dad being a total bum soo yeah just make sure you get a really nice bf (: )
@Nalesh Hewavithana no, it means if the parents hurting child too much like in this video and are making u feel bad, I have parents like them I don't wanna stay with them they are just hurting me and don't even wanna listen to my problems once
@@madhuprasad1429 same i am soo depressed at this point that my parents ignores and harras me everytime i do anything specially my mom she is always jealous of my studying and harrassing me to stop 😭
Im a parent of 2 boys 28yrs old & 16. reading these comments made me literally cry for all you kids! I wish I could hug every one of you 😢 Even though im almost 50 I still suffer from my childhoid with a selfish uninvolved mother. I promised myself I would be nothing like my mother!! I have a great relationship with my kids, but I definitely think I was trying so hard not to be like my mother that I may have unintentionally hurt my kids by doing too much. Parenting is hard, communication is everything!! Please talk to your parents about your feelings if you can. I know some parents just suck, but there are so many people out there who care & will listen, find your person & therapy is also great when you find the right therapist. Just remember, your feelings are valid, you matter & childhood is over in the blink of an eye, so you have your whole life ahead of you to be free & happy!! I wish all of you a happy, healthy, fulfilled life ❤
When your parents just point out the negativity and ignore the good things that you have worked hard on instead of providing actual support, love and appreciation for who you are.
when all they do is point out ur flaws and ignore the good things but when u tell them u did those good things they either dont believe u did it or they are gonna say it matters to them when it really doesnt
if someone didn't tell u already u worth it,ily even if u don't know me and i genuinely appreciate u and u are doing amazing.every little thing will be alright so keep going and remember that It is scientifically proved that if u are really bad right now u will be good maybe soon too i m here for u i know what u are going trough but pls ilysm feel free to talk to me,i am not telling u to underestimate ur things,go to a doctor or stuff is not something that is bad or like... U ARE BEAUTIFUL AND I WANNA SCREAM AT THE WORLD THIS BC IT'S WORTH IT AND U ARE WORTH IT AT LEAST FOR THIS STRANGER THAT LITERALLY LOVES YOU SO MUCH,when you want to die you have to strive to live as much as you you want to to die,trust GOD.GOD Bless us.Amen
My mom never appreciates me it's like she only loves my brother coz she compares me and my brother and point out all the flaws while I'm the one who completes all the responsibilities of both a boy and girl but still...i think she's getting toxic day by day but I don't knw what to do other than ignoring 😔😔
I have bouts with depression, anxiety , very low self esteem, I’ve had jobs, but no career . I see failure when I look in a mirror. Raised to become a perfectionist, I’ve become the perfect nothing. Sad to waste a life
I feel like im weak. I always explode or snap to my parents. When i open up to my friends they tell me about their problems and how lucky i am. I need ur opinion an i a drama queen or what cause i dont even know anymore
@@datboi6671 I don't think that you're being dramatic, I feel the same way most of the time like I'm not good enough and that I'm worthless but I realised that there is someone out there who cares about me and loves me for who I am. I hope this helps ❤️
The saddest thing is that I hesitate to talk to my parents. Whatever the case I always fear they will bring negativity from it. They never understand me :(
Same.. my mum mostly never cares about me at all, she always talks dirty to me, for example: when i cry (im a sensitive perosn btw) she would always say "stop crying, you act like such a baby" and that just makes me feel bad about my self. I would always get pushed and forced on doing something she wished she dreamed of, and if id cry, i would probably get punished.. she has no empathy at all, she never and i say NEVER feel bad for me :( im so jealous others have such supportive parents.. and i dont..
Thank you for this video. My parents aren't bad, abusive, or strict, but yeah, I still feel lonely, and I am an only child, so I don't really have anyone else to hang out with at home. This somehow made the school a safe space for me, something my younger self could never imagine. To everyone else struggling with sadness whether it's depression or something else, big hugs!
my mom doesn't understand depression. there's this woman that literally has everything. •money •love •fame everything good you can think of. but that woman is still depressed. my mom thinks that the woman is just overreacting, because the woman has everything. so, when I told her I had depression, my mom thinks I'm just copying my cousin that also has depression. that's why I keep everything to myself.
My mom threatens to take away my phone any time I do something even slightly wrong (sometimes I didn't even do anything, my siblings just lie and blame it on me) But my phone is literally my safe place... So when she takes it away, my mental health just crumbles 🙃
My parents were always fighting with each other, for years and years it was just constant fighting and arguing, my dad was horrible to me and the rest of my family was no better. Now I'm 40 years old I still hate the way I was treated. I promised myself I would never turn out like my family. And I can honestly say I've done pretty well without them.
The worst part is when they make you depressed and are toxic asf but also are sometimes nice and you even feel guilty for hating them even tho they are literally making you worse.
Well if i ever became parent i Will do my best to never let my son daughter suffre bullying and if they want to became something i Will help them i have lil bro and i get angry and hard at him sometimes but when i do i auto regret why i did that i am 14 years old guy and i Will do my best to be good parent in futur
I just wished my parents knew so they won't treat me like I'm less better than anyone else they don't know everytime they compare me I go to my room and cry silently wish I never existed and I'm just a burden sorry I just really need to let this out
And this makes you want to never have your own children because you think that you might treat them like your parents did with you. You know that your parents have ingrained negative thoughts so deeply in your mind, that you might never unlearn the generational trauma they unleashed upon you.
Kinda felt like that before now I don't feel that great neither of those places but I'm more used to staying at home (cause when I'm home alone it feels like a home but kinda empty and lonely, specially if I'm not doing something productive).
I mean we can do what we “like” but they just take it in bad way and don’t let us do anything and what they say is “I’m teaching u how to be perfect” oh cmon y can’t we do what we like I really like to make new games but they took my pc away and “teaching” me Ughhh when will they change It’s literally a new generation now
I watched this video right after i was mentally and emotionally and physically abused by my mother, and there's always a voice in my head telling me "i wish i wasn't born" , but now i feel like i am used to getting abused from my parents and they make me feel like i don't deserve to be born, the onlu thing i want is privacy and a peaceful life that i don't get abused or annoyed all the time, i get blamed for everything and I don't know what will make me perfect in the view of my parents, i always thought of running away from my house or kill*ing myself or kill*ing my parents, and afterall, i am only 12! I deserve to be happy and i deserve to have a supportive and loving parents no matter what! This is all i want! I am a person too! I dont like it when i see other kids that have supportive parents who loves them more than anything in the world,but i know that my wishes will never come true , to anyone that's having the same probs as me; don't worry, and pleaase dont make decisions that will make you regret doing it, and always remember, god is always with us. I love you allp
Please reach out to a teacher,counselor, a friends parents.... someone!!! You both deserve better & I'm so sorry you're going through this, because no one deserves to feel less than & absolutely NO ONE SHOULD BE PUTTING HANDS ON YOU NOT EVEN YOUR PARENTS!!! If you need help there are people who will help you!! Please reach out!! I'm sending virtual hugs to you both ❤
*it deeply hurts when a child searches for parents love even when they're alive n around the child, deeper than a lover searching for his/her partner's love*
aaliya sheikh I’m 12 and my parents never trust me. My mom picks my clothes and my life choices. Even if I don’t like it, and if I say something my mom will call me ungrateful. I have more to say but it’s personal I’m suffering from major depression and I’m starting to think it’s them. I need someone to talk to but my counselor doesn’t understand. People say I fake my depression cause I’m 12 cause supposedly we can’t get depression...
3:20 I get emotional when my parents talk bout me bad, i also feel like i should stay away when they fight because i feel uncomfortable and when im stuck somewhere and their fighting i just wished that the fight could be over i never had a happy face on my face only a sad one cuz my life is falling down but i try my best to be happy and hide the sadness in my life.
This reminds me of myself so much my dad calls stupid or dumb and says I didn’t mean it but it’s killing me over here I’m tired of keeping a big smile on my face I’m not allowed to cry so I just don’t but when things get to much I just go to the bathroom and just breakdown..
I feel this in my soul! My mother would constantly push me to get a house with her so she could have me around forever but she screamed at me when I even hinted I didn't want that
You know it's bad when you are scared that your parents are coming home cuz you know you will be sad or scared what will happen again. Thank you guys for the likes, I hate how many people can relate to this. I hope for everyone it gets better and one day you won't always have to be with them. Just remember that!
It's so glad that I came across this Chanel because back when I was just 15 years old, I was severely depressed and it leads me to self harming, I opened up to my mom about it and she just say that "Self harming is such bullshit people who don't have minds do and your problem isn't that of a big deal since I you're just a kid and not going through a real problem in life" and it really hurts me and broke my heart since I expected her to comfort me and cheer me up, but now I learned to heel myself and open up to does people who understands me like my friends . (My problem is I've been constantly bullied back when I was just 11 years old it reached to the point that they've framed me for stealing my classmates money and I was sent to the principal's office and the teacher didn't even do anything about it or the bullying and just told me to ignore them)
i feel so bad for you and relate to SH as it was something I did for a few years and being 16 and seeing the way my parents talk about ppl with mental-health issuses,going as far to call them selfish,is the reason why I have trust issues wth them and would nvr be able to open up about such things like that.I was also bullied in school multiple times since primary so I feel your pain,hope we both heal from this.
Yeah they're "helping" a lot more like making your kid go through anxiety all the life and beat you up for nothing because they're drunk Man I hate my life
It’s sad that we’re all here watching this knowing that it’s not going to get better for you. It’s sad how people you call family are ruining your life and killing you inside...
My dad once said we all have a limit and we will snap even if your the calming,sweet nice person we will snap if something,someone pass our limit and my dad said your a calming person you dont snap easily but when your old enough and the arguing wont stop you will snap.. Just maybe something you would like to know?..
My mom and my dad discipline me and i lost my self esteem...and my confidence. discipline will make all kids hate their own parents until they grow up.
"Wow, you're problems aren't even real problems!" -Dad, in a sarcastic tone, after I tell him about my rough day "You're not depressed, it's probably just the weather." -Mom, to me, in front the doctor who just said I had depression There's a lot more, too. My family calls me lazy when I don't get out of bed and ungrateful when I don't feel like eating.
Families can really suck! But just because they're related to you doesn't mean they say true things. "No one else believes in you. Why don't you put in an effort to get what you want?" -My Mom to me when I told her I didn't want to do something she was forcing me to do even though it was for "my own good" "Worthless" -My Dad, after I spent a few extra minutes talking to my sad friend to comfort them. I'm pretty sure these aren't true, and they just aint good
My mother had really bad parents from what she told me, they used to yell at her, shove soap in her mouth when she used to talk at night with her sisteres and so on and she said to me "I will never be like them" that was a lie... now I am an only child, never had siblings so I dont have anyone to talk to when im home and my mother finds the littlest things to blame on me such as an open cuboard or a sock on the floor. She would scold me and shout at me any chance she got. When im around other adults with her, shes as right as rain but when we are home, she is like a megaphone. The only things I have for comfort are my 2 dogs and they are expected to pass on in the next year or so. I wish I could go with them...
Im very Sorry. Listen, everything Is gonna be ok. Dont give up, keep finding something to fight for, its not worth It to waste your Life, even if It seems like the Easy way out. Even if its hard, make It Better. Even I was Suicidal and hell, I still think about It, Just dont give up, we're all here for you.
Instead of being emotionally UNAVAILABLE, my parents are TOO available. They always tall to me about things they don't like, espacially about people in the family, like I'm their own therapist. I like it when they don't ignor eme because I'm younger, but sometiems it gets too much when they just won't shut up about other people in the family. The gossip is wild when it comes to politics, family members, etc. :/ Thanks for the video though, I just wish my parents would do the sams amount of research about mental health as I do :
"why don't you ever come out of your room" comes out of room "gets insults" gets yelled at" "gets bullied for no reason" " made fun at because of the way I dress and look" never again...
It’s the same to me but now they force me out of my room take my phone and computer during the day and only allowed for 2 hours in my room this includes study and just games and I have worked that I missed due to it
I always like sitting alone, when my mom tells me to stop sitting alone and chat, i chat with other people then i get insulted, I only have like 4-3 friends and I cant visit them bec of Corona, but life isnt bad maybe your just in a bad chapter :D
It's really hard, I relate to all of this signs, I tried communicating and talking to my parents but nothing seems to work. they finally said yes to a therapist because i was nearly begging them for it. and when they told me to tell them everything, it turned out that i am an ungrateful brat, who doesn't see what my parents do for me and i say that they are bad parents and they don't consider themselves as bad parents because they kept us fed and warm. and I'm the one in wrong here and i shouldn't be depressed. this kind of bullshit and low knowledge is making me so mad. i hope we all get the help and happiness we deserve, because everyone deserves to be loved, confident and happy. i wish you all to succeed and never give up in your life.❤
so you say... have you ever been hitted on with a belt on your back repeatedly while you force yourself not to cry for saving whatever little proud and dignity you have left and see how your mom gets angry cause you don't cry and she hits you harder and harder until she finally breaks you and make you cry and then froces you to go to school injured and with a swollen red face knowing everyone will stare at you as a freak all day?
Yea my mom have legit mini mental breakdowns very time I don’t listen…and it matter if it was my mistake. It could be hers and she still will blame it on me
The hardest part of all of this is that you keep feeling worse day by day and my parents think I am acting different, irresponsible or just being lazy but actually I am hurting.
“If you tell me the truth, I wouldn’t be mad” man it SUCKS when your parents tell you that, and when you tell them whats going on the first thing they do is yell at you for “lying”
I don’t even get scared of them when they yell I just don’t argue back cause if I make a valid point in an argument they have no good comeback so they say shit like “Quit being a victim” yet I never said I was or they’ll just take my shit away cause they don’t know how to argue or debate.
Last year I had a mental breakdown and cried to my mom about how depressed I was. She asked me to tell her the reasons why, at that moment I wasnt ready to tell her the truth so I told her stupid things. Though she didnt say these exact words she practically told me "you have no reason to be depressed." Though I love my mom, shes emotionally detached from me. Often telling me my emotions are " because I'm a teenager, or that I'm over exaggerating" it really hurts.
Well if you said stupid things instead of the truth, what do you think is gonna happen? Half of the times this preteens self diagnose themselves, ofc people are gonna be skeptical. Depression is not something that you can just say you have it, just bc you had sucidal thoughts once or twice, that's not how it works. Even if you're not ready for therapy, you need proper medical detail to say you're suffering from depression. It's not like other mental problems. And honestly more than half of the time the depressed people I find in the internet are b/w the age group of 9-15 and while I agree they can also suffer from depression, they think as if having depression makes them the cool kids when in reality they're just sad or feeling alone at that particular moment. It has to be said, stop disrespecting people who actually have to fight everyday to get out of the fcking bed w/o a mental breakdown. There's nothing cool about having depression, it's way more severe than you can even imagine.
@@Abandonedaccount129 Are you okay? Here, take this virtual hug! Loading... Just remember that there’s always someone out there who appreciates you, as a person as well as your talents, even if it doesn’t come from your family. And please please please, don’t end it. Everyone has their talents, including you. Stay strong. You can do this. I’ll be praying for you.
I also hate it when parents take out their problems on you and start yelling at you. I understand everyone has hard days but when I’m mad I take it out on my pillow not my mother. But she seems to not care about ruining my day just because hers was also ruined.
if you need help go talk to your friends, family and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for help..
fr , my father does this and i also understand his work is tiring and has to take care of both me and my brother but when he just screams at us both is so scary. i usually would just carry my brother and run to my room and we both would just cry😥.
Exactly..my mom rarely does that but when she does it’s like “wtf? You don’t need to be a bitch to me all because you’re struggling with your day..if you wanna bring it out than bring it out in a CALMER way and just vent..” like WHY CAN’T OUR PARENTS JUST DO THAT..
When I tried to tell my mum how she sometimes makes me feel she made it out to be that I’m criticizing her and trying to call her a bad mother. This is why communication doesn’t exist between me and my mother.
You are not alone Klaudia. Same situation on my side. My mum still (for about 16 years now) claims she is the victim. And made my wish O was never born. And if I wanted to explain my point of view, she'd claim that that I was being only critical. If pointed out something exclusively positive and agreeable about her, she would simply ignore it and later claim I never said it. To this day I am still not sure, whether her brain is automatically filtering stuff out, or is she doing this on purpose. The difference is, I don't really care anymore, but am still sad about it.
I lost my pen a few days ago. When I told my mom, she got so mad that she scolded me the entire trip home from school. I was crying the whole time, especially when she said hurtful things like, "You irresponsible animal," and "Why did God even make you?" All of this was just because I lost a pen.
Sometimes, I feel like running away from home and NEVER COMING BACK because of how strict my parents are sometimes. I'm having nightmares of them. This is one issue that is making me struggle to cope with reality. Thank God I found this video and some people that relate to me!
I can't talk to my mom I broke my laptop I haven't told her and I need it for school I've been using touch screen but I can't use it forever I don't want to be scolded by her but she's one of a kind mom in a bad way thow I broke my laptop last year and now this year. Its a hp
Just a list of them all so you can see them all at once :) 1. They hold you back from your dreams 2. They put a lot of pressure on you 3. They're emotionally unavailable to you 4. Their presence overwhelms you 5. They worsen your depression 6. Their dysfunction rubs off on you 7. Their mental illness affects you 8. They struggle with substance abuse 9. They've become abusive 10. They don't help you overcome your depression
I had to admit that this video known me so well it is like reading my life. Although they just did 2,3,9,10, but it is hurtful enough. Just use 2 as example whereas I remember I got the most: since I was just a kid till presents, whenever I trying to shares something, no matter sadness or great news, they will just tells me to "go away you are bothering me", "it is nothing big deal don't be so annoying", "you are wasting our time".....and so on. They also keeps telling me that most of the strangers are dangerous, that I shouldn't trust anyone. Caused me to hardly make friend, just like isolating myself.
@@vivianchenloveforever my sisters do that to me, my parents dont but my sisters also lowered my self-esteem and when i talk to my friends i always ask them if im being annoying coz im scared they would think the same as my sisters. But now I realized that it is my sisters fault although im still scared im being annoying
I 100% believe moving on your own can relief your depression, coming home to both parents talking shit already and knowing you had a good day with friends , always putting everything on you , yea .. love them but don’t put up with them anymore
The time when I needed a councellor or someone to talk, my dad just told it would bring shame ; he thought if ppl around us saw me going to a therapist's house, they would think I am 'crazy' and would bring 'us' shame. I tried so many times talking to them abt my problems and mental health but they just couldn't understand it. I gradually stopped talking to my dad bcoz he himself has some mental health issues (which he doesn't acknowledge) that made my situation even worse. Then he just threatened me saying that if I don't talk to him anymore, he'll cut ties with me in the future. 1:23 ,I could relate with it so much. Wtf does he know abt how hard those times were for me? I told him so many times but he just didn't understand me. But now its all going fine... For those who are going through a hard time pls never quit, everything's gonna be fine one day trust me.
I can’t believe the internet understands me more than my own parents. You really can find anything on the internet, even emotional support from a complete stranger…
@@codeswift27 wanna be friends? Even real life friends will enjoy our suffering, might use this vulnerability against us and will not relate because their parents were normal.
I didn't either, but I guess I watched it anyway because I wanted to believe it wasn't true and I wanted to think my stepdad's got good intentions. Unfortunately it's true, and unfortunately, he does NOT have good intentions. He wonders why I haven't gotten better, why the anti-depressants didn't work.
Same sis😔🤙🏻 even tho I know the reasons (and those are so personal and particular that i know they won’t be on the list) here I am. Even my psychologist said they caused my depression, so I don’t really know why I’m watching the full video😂
My parents always compare me to my brother. Its so painful but its good to know other people are going through the same. Stay Strong Y'all we will get through this hard time🙏💗
It's sad when you're parents abuse you physically and mentally but you can't share it with anyone because you know people are going to judge them and you care about them being judged.
"why are you crying? jeez grow up will you?" "I wish you weren't here." "you are the reason I have problems." "you're good at nothing." "drawing is useless, it won't give you a career." "you're not depressed, stop acting." "why can't you be more like your sister?" -my parents, 2020.
“Im tired of being what you want me to be Feeling so faithless, lost under the surface I dont know what you’re expecting of me Put under the pressure of walking in your shoes”
Im glad i found this video i didnt know if maybe i was just being delusional but the last one really spoke to me, a while back i was feeling really depressed and i was just not happy with myself and my relationship with some of the members in my family they made me feel like a bad person based of some of the things they would say like " dont listen to her, dont do what shes doing etc.." and when they would say stuff like that it would kind of get to me and when all these thoughts started coming into my head like " youre a bad person, youre not skinny enough, eww u look bad in this photo, nobody wants to be around you, youre a bad example, etc and at night i would cry and ask god if he would forgive me if i ended myself- idk if youtube would alow me to say the real word but anyways i would ask god that and then i finally got teh courage to tell my mom how i was felling and i cried my heart out and she was kind of sad but then later we all talked again and i got into an argument with her and what ended up coming out of her mouth is that she didnt belive i was depressed witch made me so sad because i really was feeling this way and to have my own mother say this to my face was so heartbreaking she said " you have no reason to be depressed." and that really hurt me she doesn't know the thoughts going through my head at night and to hear that really broke my and the only person who noticed that i was a little different was my dad and he was the one person i couldt tell because i didnt want to break his heart . but yea ty for reading this i had to get this off my chest and if yall made it all the way down here ty i hope whatever youre going through rn you get better and that u tell someone abt it even thought it didnt go so great for me doesnt mean it will go the same for u!
If there's one thing that you could change magically about your life, what would that be and why?
that i didn’t have to live with my parents and i could move out now because they push me to just agree with them even if i disagree on everything
I would change the fact thatbi still have bed tome when i was younger i didn't have any btw I'm 14 and ny parnet came more strict when my little brother was born
I would like to change my mother..
She is toxic.. and always puts so much pressure on me. Especially in school..
I would change my parent's old mentality cuz I hate it so much..they just tell me to live my life according to them..they don't understand me a bit..why don't they understand this is my life..even they tell me to choose my lover according to them..like seriously?? I HATE THEM SO MUCH..I am only with them cuz of my needs..If I would leave them then life will be not possible..cuz I need food and money..and the worst part is they don't even let me do a safe job..I want to earn for myself
Idk There are too many things I would like to change ._.
the worst part is when they gossip about you to other adults.
Exactly😂
MY MOM DOES THAT TO ME - literally every time when i do something and like smack my little brother back, who is 6 years younger than me, but he’s pretty strong too, and really arrogant + bullies me a lot, my mom doesn’t give a little shit, she thinks just been I’m pretty much a teen now, I’m able to handle all the bruises/injuries I get - sprained wrists, scratches, bites, bruises, I mean yeah I don’t mind them, but sometimes when it’s like a bruise in a specific area/sprained wrist/bite, it could last like 2-3 weeks (not too long but still smh)
@@beanhead7632 u know like dat parents are so deluiled now a days if they could experience the things we have to go through then they would understand and not act like this
ugh i hate that seriously pisses me off
yE
My mom is kind and lovely but-
She’s said dis which my heart really want her to not be my mom
I don’t hate babies
My mom she hates babies
I just stay quite and I’m not person who talks much
I don’t even has a sis
Her-
“SHe hAs a siStEr aNd sHe hAtEs hEr”
I want my brother to treat me fair
My mom-hE tReAtS hEr sO fAir bUt sHe sTArtS a fiGht
“If you tell me the truth, I wouldn’t be mad”
this made me have trust issues
Wales Rebel Same-
This and toxic friendship (aka bullying?) in an early age
@@den_nyssa it's okay honey. Exsactly same here. I'm moving next week. I pray for the best
this generation of parents suck. my mum used to sneak things into my food and lie. now living with an eating disorder :/
Yeah, and when they do the uno reverse card and actually get mad at you
When parents explain their reasons to us,we listen
But when we explain our sadness,they cut us off
if you need help go talk to your friends, family and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for help..
Yeah ikr..also sorry for ruining 33 likes
I relate to this comment so much :/
Same with me :(
@@leorichard7955 I wish I can really trust them but I got no friends they left got their own life now and my sister father cause me this I can't really think
The worst part: depression and anxiety is now the leading cause of suicides, and the only sad part: theyll hate you if your allive, and only loved when your "gone". And the worstest part about it, they dont care and continue passing it to their new childs.
My mom removed the emotion crying in my body 2 years ago. I was unable to cry and let my emotions go. Luckily i still relieve myself (by crying ofc) but that happens once or twice per year
Omg preach
I don't wanna live my life anymore this is 2025 new year I hate this day......I'm the one who understands my mom and helps her in many ways but she will scold me by using abusive words it hurts me
It’s sad that random people on the internet understand me better than my parents ever will.
True....
she basically described my parents the only thing wrong was the substance abuse also btw about the grade one they even told me a flat lie saying colleges look at your middle school grades
Facts but its good to know that "some" people can understand you.
Damn true
So true
I honestly felt relieved when I found out that my parent's presence can affect my mood is an actual thing, I thought I was being delusional
i cant find the arrow up button on my surface but omg pretend i spammed it. i get soooooo overwhelmed by them its on another level :/
same....and i thought i have anger issues whenever I'm with them
@@mizukihayashi2637 same I have lot of anger issue
Mizuki Hayashi I thought I was autistic
Does anyone else think your parents are holding you back from being a celebrity, just me ok
The saddest thing is when you don't even know if you're depressed or if you're just too dramatic
Exactly
@Azreele I hope you'll get better dear ♡
@Azreele Oh I'm sorry!
@Azreele Np ♡
I feel like I'm being dramatic or overreacting
It boils my head
Bad parents also never stops to think about why their child might be acting a certain way. As soon as their kid does something they don’t like or agree with, the kid instantly becomes a problem that must be controlled.
It's funny how parents don't even realize what they're doing to their child, then the parents say it's from being on the internet like it's not their fault
Sometimes I think they do it bc they think that they can tell us whatever they want becasue they are our parents and they have the authority. No one has the authority to cause someone depresion.
How the hell is that funny people go threw pain because of their parents
Then when I try to tell them I'm just sensitive
Ikr-
till one of their child is going to suicide, they realized and then regretting :////
“If you tell me the truth, I won’t be mad.”
Lies.
Edit: guys pls get better parents cuz your stories are genuinely worrying me
Absolutely
It’s sad that so many people relate including myself.
Exactly.
omgg ikr!!
ikr they end up getting mad
It sucks how much people can relate to every single one of these.
Same, brother!!
Giving my support and good vibes.
its quite shocking to me. parents, everyone needs to realized mental health is truly important. its so sad thinking about it.
@@Jellymint48 🤘
How many signs did you relate to?
@@Psych2go All but the physical abuse actually, it's actually kinda sad that it's all but one. Then they ask why I'm depressed and cut and I'm over here to scared to even be in the same room because of what they do.
I hope my mom feels what she’s said to me, I cry almost everyday because of her.
I am very sorry. big hugs! I recently cry everyday because of my mom too. she was never home a lot to learn about my autism. So that's why her and I got into it so much. If you read what I just wrote above in the comment section, you'll see.
You are not alone my mom is not perfect either, i get tired of her i have headaches, frustration as well, i want to get away from her, and keep in mind i'm slightly autistic. it's hard for me to get a job, but i just met someone new recently, i don't know how old you are but i was born in 1990, all i can say is hang in there, moms are not always perfect.
Their mind works like this:
“oh my child is not happy? let me take away their phone”
my mom takes away my phone because I have online friends. actually only one. some people I've met online have helped me with depression and when I went through series of panic attacks. she's never helped me because I'm scared to talk to her. she once took away my phone for 2 months straight. I spent almost all of that time alone in my room.
Edit: she's taken away my phone again, she says I'm never getting it back.
@@Foxnhund Hope it gets better
I know what you mean I was at the point of killing my self and my uncle cause I went down to some railroad tracks and he ran down there and started chasing me back to the house and everything gone toys electronics everything besides my bed and some Shelves
My Phone is my only coping method because it’s the only way I have a connection to my friend
Perfect truth 😑😑😑
I’m always the happiest when I’m home alone
Edit: does anyone else’s parents say you should be more social but won’t let you talk to anyone see anyone?
Edit2: hope all of you are doing great
Same....
Same same
Yep
@William Shakespeare same
My birthday wish didn't come true...they stayed home...I'M GLAD THEY CAME HOME THOUGH I WAN'T THEM TO COME HOME THOUGH just wan't to be free
_"If I ever become a mother, I won't be anything like my mom."_
Edit: It is sad to see how many of us relate to this. Lets work hard on ourselves so that we are better than our parents.
me too i will be that mom for them that they won't even know the word depression
@@drugs8177 Well here's the thing you could always be a good mom BUT always make sure that the father is really nice as well ight.. Because here outta my parents my mom is like the nicest person in the whole world but my dad on the other hand, he yells at me, screams at me, saying that he'll no longer do anything for my family, he humiliates me always make sure that the father is nice as well... otherwise there is literally nothing you could do but to get a divorce if you try to talk to him he'll get even more mad and he might even try to hit you soo yeah (my father doesn't hit my mom or like y'know yells at her or smth, but i have a feeling that he doesn't do that because whenever he screams at me she never sticks up for me because she's scared that he might end up punching her or smth tho if she one day stands up for me and he ends up punching her, then he bouta lose his balls. anyways holy crap i don't wanna write a whole story of my dad being a total bum soo yeah just make sure you get a really nice bf (: )
With the way my parents raised me,I won’t even have a kid.
That's also what I'm thinking, but then again... I wanna be SINGLE for the rest of my life. IDK... Probably scared having an own family.
I wouldn't be my parents either
This is like my therapy, its calming yet the topic is very heavy, but it feels as if it helps me understand myself more.
Absolutely 💯
"Every child deserves parents
but not every parent deserves a child"
~ i heard it somewhere its so deep and relatable
@Nalesh Hewavithana no, it means if the parents hurting child too much like in this video and are making u feel bad, I have parents like them I don't wanna stay with them they are just hurting me and don't even wanna listen to my problems once
Not every child wants a parent
@@ridewithice5587 same :')
@@madhuprasad1429 same i am soo depressed at this point that my parents ignores and harras me everytime i do anything specially my mom she is always jealous of my studying and harrassing me to stop 😭
@@iamMansiGupta yes mee too each and every sign matches my parents behaviour as shown in video .
I’m happiest when I’m home alone / when everyone is asleep
Same
Me too...🌹
SAMEEEE😕
same
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The “You’re too young to be depressed” and “why can’t you be just like your brother” hits me hard to my sensitive heart and mind
Sounds similar to me , the only thing is I have anxiety and my dad tells me that I supposed to be on the level of my sister
2nd one sounds like every time me n my classmates do something teacher doesn't like.
Whenever I show them my achievements instead of praising me they act like it's nothing and ignore me :/
Same
This is why I always turn to music that makes me feel better
Im a parent of 2 boys 28yrs old & 16. reading these comments made me literally cry for all you kids! I wish I could hug every one of you 😢 Even though im almost 50 I still suffer from my childhoid with a selfish uninvolved mother. I promised myself I would be nothing like my mother!! I have a great relationship with my kids, but I definitely think I was trying so hard not to be like my mother that I may have unintentionally hurt my kids by doing too much. Parenting is hard, communication is everything!! Please talk to your parents about your feelings if you can. I know some parents just suck, but there are so many people out there who care & will listen, find your person & therapy is also great when you find the right therapist. Just remember, your feelings are valid, you matter & childhood is over in the blink of an eye, so you have your whole life ahead of you to be free & happy!! I wish all of you a happy, healthy, fulfilled life ❤
When your parents just point out the negativity and ignore the good things that you have worked hard on instead of providing actual support, love and appreciation for who you are.
exactly, thats worst, but unfortunately i m used to it now
when all they do is point out ur flaws and ignore the good things but when u tell them u did those good things they either dont believe u did it or they are gonna say it matters to them when it really doesnt
if someone didn't tell u already u worth it,ily even if u don't know me and i genuinely appreciate u and u are doing amazing.every little thing will be alright so keep going and remember that It is scientifically proved that if u are really bad right now u will be good maybe soon too i m here for u i know what u are going trough but pls ilysm feel free to talk to me,i am not telling u to underestimate ur things,go to a doctor or stuff is not something that is bad or like... U ARE BEAUTIFUL AND I WANNA SCREAM AT THE WORLD THIS BC IT'S WORTH IT AND U ARE WORTH IT AT LEAST FOR THIS STRANGER THAT LITERALLY LOVES YOU SO MUCH,when you want to die you have to strive to live as much as you you want to to die,trust GOD.GOD Bless us.Amen
At this point im just ignoring my parents
My mom never appreciates me it's like she only loves my brother coz she compares me and my brother and point out all the flaws while I'm the one who completes all the responsibilities of both a boy and girl but still...i think she's getting toxic day by day but I don't knw what to do other than ignoring 😔😔
“Its because you’re always on the internet” No, the internet is giving your child acceptance. That was YOUR job.
Yes
Facts.
Truee omg
yea
YESSS
“Tell me what’s wrong, I just wanna help you.”
*DAMN LIES.*
True
True
They just blame me for everything even my siblings fault
I wanna like but you're at 269 im sorry i cant.
I like it tho
@Marine Chuop-Mourareau is it bad I tell myself that so I can feel like I'm alright
I have bouts with depression, anxiety , very low self esteem, I’ve had jobs, but no career . I see failure when I look in a mirror. Raised to become a perfectionist, I’ve become the perfect nothing. Sad to waste a life
Being asked
"Why are you depressed?
Life is beautiful!"
Is like saying
"Why do you have asthma?
There's so much air!"
Ikr
They ask what’s wrong for one sec then they say we want attention for telling everything
Me:bruhh why’d you asked then
I feel like im weak. I always explode or snap to my parents. When i open up to my friends they tell me about their problems and how lucky i am. I need ur opinion an i a drama queen or what cause i dont even know anymore
@@datboi6671 I don't think that you're being dramatic, I feel the same way most of the time like I'm not good enough and that I'm worthless but I realised that there is someone out there who cares about me and loves me for who I am. I hope this helps ❤️
Lesbian Amazon Sister I can definitely relate 😂😂
Life has no meaning
The saddest thing is that I hesitate to talk to my parents. Whatever the case I always fear they will bring negativity from it. They never understand me :(
Same.. my mum mostly never cares about me at all, she always talks dirty to me, for example: when i cry (im a sensitive perosn btw) she would always say "stop crying, you act like such a baby" and that just makes me feel bad about my self. I would always get pushed and forced on doing something she wished she dreamed of, and if id cry, i would probably get punished.. she has no empathy at all, she never and i say NEVER feel bad for me :( im so jealous others have such supportive parents.. and i dont..
I want to fucking die
@@OneEyed8135 ngl, same, im kinda tired of living, im literally so exhausted, i still have to wait for years
Same
@@OneEyed8135 same, it’s the fucking worst to be at a house that you’re not even happy.
The most painful is, when your parents compare you to others.
yes !
yes its really reallly true!!!!!!>:(
Yes and i really fucking hate that everytime they do that
My mom keeps on comparing me to my nephew, whenever he is over and something wrong happens she always assumes it's my fault.
Yeah and they say "it's not comparing! I'm just telling she does this and that!"
Thank you for this video. My parents aren't bad, abusive, or strict, but yeah, I still feel lonely, and I am an only child, so I don't really have anyone else to hang out with at home. This somehow made the school a safe space for me, something my younger self could never imagine. To everyone else struggling with sadness whether it's depression or something else, big hugs!
It's scary how we thought the people who love us the most when we were younger, are the ones who became the cause of our depression.
real talk
I was just thinking about that.
Word
Hi , I’ll use ur words as a quote.. can I have ur insta so I can credit u :)
@@Rosytoujours no need to credit me 😊 I just conveyed my thoughts. You can just credit me as "potato RJ". I don't have insta😅 what's your insta?
I will make sure to treat my future children better than my own parents did.
I will give my future kids a better life than my parents gave me
Me too, I did swore to myself that I won't be like them and I won't let them touch my future children.
That's exactly what I told my friend this morning
Same
I will ensure that they will be happy
I will give my future children a life my parents couldn’t give me.
Trust me your parents attitude will past to you beacause you have been with them for years
@@spacegalaxy4329 Dang I never thought of that
i will adopt my kids, so they have a better life, and i will do the most i could do with them.
@Space Galaxy trust me, i one be a deppression causing mum. i will make the have love what my mum wouldnt even try to give me.
I will try my best in the future
My parents don’t even BELIEVE in mental illness or depression. They’re hard on me sometimes, and if they find this I’m in HUGE trouble…
my mom doesn't understand depression.
there's this woman that literally has everything.
•money
•love
•fame
everything good you can think of.
but that woman is still depressed.
my mom thinks that the woman is just overreacting, because the woman has everything.
so, when I told her I had depression, my mom thinks I'm just copying my cousin that also has depression.
that's why I keep everything to myself.
I wanna send hug to you. My mon doesn’t understand my depression too.
Same -_-
But I don't care anymore that they understand me or not .
Parents *NEED* to learn that depression isnt a joke, and that if their child is depressed, the parents need to help
Same expect the copying part.
i mean you did just post this to the internet
Personally i hate going school but every time i finish, i'd rather to stay there instead to come home
I know exactly how u feel
Same
I’m with you on that
I feel it too. But now when school is online, I find it hard to go zoom-ing while being 24/7 in home.
same mate
“It’s because of the internet”
-Parent
The Internet is my only good coping mechanism and if they ever took that away from me I'd probably snap.
At least the internet doesnt yell at me and theres people who care
My mom threatens to take away my phone any time I do something even slightly wrong (sometimes I didn't even do anything, my siblings just lie and blame it on me)
But my phone is literally my safe place...
So when she takes it away, my mental health just crumbles 🙃
@@_froskkk_58 the internet is my getaway place and my mom will take away the only things that bring me happiness: my phone, cat, friends, etc.
@@1vy-ster same.
My parents were always fighting with each other, for years and years it was just constant fighting and arguing, my dad was horrible to me and the rest of my family was no better. Now I'm 40 years old I still hate the way I was treated.
I promised myself I would never turn out like my family. And I can honestly say I've done pretty well without them.
The worst part is when they make you depressed and are toxic asf but also are sometimes nice and you even feel guilty for hating them even tho they are literally making you worse.
😭😭Facts mahn
Thats exactly whats happening to me
Yup
ikr
bruh those are one of the reasons why I want to be a adult just so i can live in peace
parents don’t understand how much they really effect us😖
yea..
Yeah really . .
Well if i ever became parent i Will do my best to never let my son daughter suffre bullying and if they want to became something i Will help them i have lil bro and i get angry and hard at him sometimes but when i do i auto regret why i did that i am 14 years old guy and i Will do my best to be good parent in futur
Yea
Ikr
No lies. I envy people who have healthy relationships with their parents. I strongly envy.
That’s why I am with my neighbors 24/7. They have parents that are TOGETHER and SUPPORTING, and then there’re is me
Me too. My husband has a great relationship with his parents while me... I wish I could just cut them off from my life...
Same, even though it depresses me; like, why can't that be me? Hopefully I'm never the same kind of parent.
@@nevadothecat Trust me, so do I.
I envy with them too. How i wish to have a supporting parents😔😭
One of the worst parts is desperately wanting and needing therapy, but being terriffied that they won't approve or understand you for it
Honestly I'm scared that im gnna be a parent and won't even notice that my kid is crying by themselves in there room
I just wished my parents knew so they won't treat me like I'm less better than anyone else they don't know everytime they compare me I go to my room and cry silently wish I never existed and I'm just a burden sorry I just really need to let this out
I wish . I have a parent like you
Spend time with them, be present and work together as a team. If you treat them with respect and as an equal they will feel safe to confide in you.
Well I'm not having kids, thank you mom for making me constantly fear that I'll be the failure of a mother that you are
me to my parents toxicity rubbed off on me and i don't want to rub it off on my child.... thats why im not having kids
I'm jealous of those who has good relationship with their parents.
ME TOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
Hope you’re okay :(
@@yuyvomitscutely oh same 🍔😍💀
Me TOOO
No need to jealous, almost everyone has a hard time with their parents.
The worst pain is they don't see your struggle and say you're wasting your time
This 💯
💔💯
That's what's happening with me.
So hurtful...
@@sarahneels4331 😢💯
😢😢😢
And this makes you want to never have your own children because you think that you might treat them like your parents did with you. You know that your parents have ingrained negative thoughts so deeply in your mind, that you might never unlearn the generational trauma they unleashed upon you.
“I only want the best for you”
But you don't know what's best for me
related they even advice us smthing tht they dont even know..
When I talk up about how I feel to my mom, She always says "You are being too negetive!" "You re not sad!" And never understands how I feel.
@@sheetalbhat7083 they say I'm acting depressed for attention :(
My mom does both unfortunately
I don't know why but i started crying when i read this (is that normal?)
do you ever just feel like school is better than your home,
and when you go back home you just feel sad and null again.
Kinda felt like that before now I don't feel that great neither of those places but I'm more used to staying at home
(cause when I'm home alone it feels like a home but kinda empty and lonely, specially if I'm not doing something productive).
Aaaaand this is why I dislike not going to school
Yep
Wow yesss.... I would stay in school until it closes and walk home instead of getting a ride even though I live 20 miles away
Yes. Even though I hate school, I'd rather be there than at home.
and they say they were just "teaching" us to be a good kid.
I mean we can do what we “like” but they just take it in bad way and don’t let us do anything and what they say is “I’m teaching u how to be perfect” oh cmon y can’t we do what we like I really like to make new games but they took my pc away and “teaching” me
Ughhh when will they change
It’s literally a new generation now
They are just ruining my lifeeeee
Exactly ,
@@ray8221-y4r yeah ikr
Yeaahh.. They always give pressure on us
I watched this video right after i was mentally and emotionally and physically abused by my mother, and there's always a voice in my head telling me "i wish i wasn't born" , but now i feel like i am used to getting abused from my parents and they make me feel like i don't deserve to be born, the onlu thing i want is privacy and a peaceful life that i don't get abused or annoyed all the time, i get blamed for everything and I don't know what will make me perfect in the view of my parents, i always thought of running away from my house or kill*ing myself or kill*ing my parents, and afterall, i am only 12! I deserve to be happy and i deserve to have a supportive and loving parents no matter what! This is all i want! I am a person too! I dont like it when i see other kids that have supportive parents who loves them more than anything in the world,but i know that my wishes will never come true , to anyone that's having the same probs as me; don't worry, and pleaase dont make decisions that will make you regret doing it, and always remember, god is always with us. I love you allp
I relate with your story so much today my mo beat me so much now my hands are only scars and blood
Please reach out to a teacher,counselor, a friends parents.... someone!!! You both deserve better & I'm so sorry you're going through this, because no one deserves to feel less than & absolutely NO ONE SHOULD BE PUTTING HANDS ON YOU NOT EVEN YOUR PARENTS!!! If you need help there are people who will help you!! Please reach out!! I'm sending virtual hugs to you both ❤
I can feel you and totally relate,but not About killi*ng
Having actual good parents is like finding life on another planet
there is no perfect parent
@@-yasua he said good sum parents are trash 🗑
Yes, I am living on another planet
@@hetalgarasiya1206 what is your name how far is your planet and what do you think about humans?
I am on Venus
Something I once read said:
“Heal before having children, so your children don’t have to heal from having you as a parent”
Yeah thats true
I don't think I will get married with someone if myself was like thus
I wish my parents would've read this before having me
@@Ranbirsopcartoon09 i hate em
Kinda wish my parents had done this, now I just get blamed for the problems they have
Something i once read to :
"Don't wish you had a good parent, be one"
*it deeply hurts when a child searches for parents love even when they're alive n around the child, deeper than a lover searching for his/her partner's love*
Yes😢😢
aaliya sheikh I’m 12 and my parents never trust me. My mom picks my clothes and my life choices. Even if I don’t like it, and if I say something my mom will call me ungrateful. I have more to say but it’s personal I’m suffering from major depression and I’m starting to think it’s them. I need someone to talk to but my counselor doesn’t understand. People say I fake my depression cause I’m 12 cause supposedly we can’t get depression...
@@daphne2489 me too 12 and so much depressed
This is so true 💔
@@daphne2489 we both are having some situation😭😭😭
3:20 I get emotional when my parents talk bout me bad, i also feel like i should stay away when they fight because i feel uncomfortable and when im stuck somewhere and their fighting i just wished that the fight could be over i never had a happy face on my face only a sad one cuz my life is falling down but i try my best to be happy and hide the sadness in my life.
This reminds me of myself so much my dad calls stupid or dumb and says I didn’t mean it but it’s killing me over here I’m tired of keeping a big smile on my face I’m not allowed to cry so I just don’t but when things get to much I just go to the bathroom and just breakdown..
Also a sign:
When your parents talk to you like you’re their slave or servant instead of another human being, even when you’re an adult.
I can relate to that.
YESSSSS YESSSSS. Like my gosh I’m not your servant ur a grown adult do it yourself
I can confirm that as how I relate to this
I feel this in my soul! My mother would constantly push me to get a house with her so she could have me around forever but she screamed at me when I even hinted I didn't want that
Yes!!! Cause they think just because they brought you to this world they own you
You know it's bad when you are scared that your parents are coming home cuz you know you will be sad or scared what will happen again.
Thank you guys for the likes, I hate how many people can relate to this. I hope for everyone it gets better and one day you won't always have to be with them. Just remember that!
I'm so sorry Anna 💔😢
Sometimes I'm scared of my dad but I always push down that feeling... Why? Mainly because I don't want to hurt my dad....
@@too_fluid_to_care I had 2 panic attacks because of my dad's behaviour.
I know how u feel.
@@ayonticabanerjee8326 same
“Its for your own good”
Also her: *puts pressure on me everyday not even thinking how i feel*
That’s how my mom is with me on online school. I’m serious
Sometimes i get worried that i will be like my dad
@Bread Neo no I am nothing like my father... nothing like that fat, abusive maniac....
I accidentally unliked, sorry. But I relate.
@@PranavTheGreat1 same
It's so glad that I came across this Chanel because back when I was just 15 years old, I was severely depressed and it leads me to self harming, I opened up to my mom about it and she just say that "Self harming is such bullshit people who don't have minds do and your problem isn't that of a big deal since I you're just a kid and not going through a real problem in life" and it really hurts me and broke my heart since I expected her to comfort me and cheer me up, but now I learned to heel myself and open up to does people who understands me like my friends . (My problem is I've been constantly bullied back when I was just 11 years old it reached to the point that they've framed me for stealing my classmates money and I was sent to the principal's office and the teacher didn't even do anything about it or the bullying and just told me to ignore them)
i feel so bad for you and relate to SH as it was something I did for a few years and being 16 and seeing the way my parents talk about ppl with mental-health issuses,going as far to call them selfish,is the reason why I have trust issues wth them and would nvr be able to open up about such things like that.I was also bullied in school multiple times since primary so I feel your pain,hope we both heal from this.
I’m happier when I’m isolated so that when I get my feelings in order no one is there to bother me.
Agreed loineness is my greatest gift in this dark world (bit dark but yeah)
Same
Same
Same
Same
"Your sister was never a problem, you cry about everything"
This caused me depression and always reminded me I wasn't good enough
Well this is so normal these days for me that I'm tired of hearing this
honestly. they always compare ur sibilings to you. i dont think they realise how TOXIC that is and how it could affect their child.
They compare us to other ppl which makes us feel like we're not good enough
Exactly! My parents do this daily that I don't even know if all I'm doing was enough for them to appreciate me.
Because of tgat im bad emotion zombie im 10% safer...
“My child is always sad when I talk to them? Oh it’s because of their phone. I’ll take it away.”
horrible...
My parents think they’re “helping” but they’re actually making my life a living hell
Lmao my life was already a living hell xD
JK not tryna be edgy
Yeah they're "helping" a lot more like making your kid go through anxiety all the life and beat you up for nothing because they're drunk
Man I hate my life
Such a dumb parents
Absolutely right!
The dislikes are the parents who see there kids watching this and say "iT's BeCaUsE oF tHaT dAmN pHoNe"
@@Roop566 exactly.
Same, its like saying "I dOnt HaVe ElEctricIty In MY Age"
BRUH! Its ww2 the hell you expected
exactly my parents always blame everything that happens to me on the dam phone even when it has nothing to do with it
no pe yeah I feel you
Its does 😣
"My pillow know me more than my parents"
~Some stranger in UA-cam
Same more than my parents
Mine pillow too
Hay’s I feel the same I feel like my pillow are the only sources of comfort and happiness
my blanket and pillow >>>>>>> my parents
In my case my whole room knows me more than anyone in my life knows me
I feel overwhelmed whenever my mom visits me because she is a narcissist and I never wanna be around her
When you have to hold in your tears because if you let them out it causes a whole new argument and unwanted conflict :')
True :)
I cannot tear anymore bro. Like I can cry, butI don’t tear when I do.
Can relate
This hits home😪
Yes :)
It’s sad that we’re all here watching this knowing that it’s not going to get better for you. It’s sad how people you call family are ruining your life and killing you inside...
My dad once said we all have a limit and we will snap even if your the calming,sweet nice person we will snap if something,someone pass our limit and my dad said your a calming person you dont snap easily but when your old enough and the arguing wont stop you will snap..
Just maybe something you would like to know?..
Yep
My dad called me a disappointment because of school.
My mom and my dad discipline me and i lost my self esteem...and my confidence. discipline will make all kids hate their own parents until they grow up.
This hit me deep🥺
"Wow, you're problems aren't even real problems!"
-Dad, in a sarcastic tone, after I tell him about my rough day
"You're not depressed, it's probably just the weather."
-Mom, to me, in front the doctor who just said I had depression
There's a lot more, too. My family calls me lazy when I don't get out of bed and ungrateful when I don't feel like eating.
💝❤ < For you
@@humancentipede. hey thanks :) 💗💞
Lmao sis “the weather”?
Same
Families can really suck! But just because they're related to you doesn't mean they say true things.
"No one else believes in you. Why don't you put in an effort to get what you want?"
-My Mom to me when I told her I didn't want to do something she was forcing me to do even though it was for "my own good"
"Worthless"
-My Dad, after I spent a few extra minutes talking to my sad friend to comfort them.
I'm pretty sure these aren't true, and they just aint good
My mother had really bad parents from what she told me, they used to yell at her, shove soap in her mouth when she used to talk at night with her sisteres and so on and she said to me "I will never be like them" that was a lie... now I am an only child, never had siblings so I dont have anyone to talk to when im home and my mother finds the littlest things to blame on me such as an open cuboard or a sock on the floor. She would scold me and shout at me any chance she got. When im around other adults with her, shes as right as rain but when we are home, she is like a megaphone. The only things I have for comfort are my 2 dogs and they are expected to pass on in the next year or so. I wish I could go with them...
Im very Sorry.
Listen, everything Is gonna be ok.
Dont give up, keep finding something to fight for, its not worth It to waste your Life, even if It seems like the Easy way out.
Even if its hard, make It Better.
Even I was Suicidal and hell, I still think about It, Just dont give up, we're all here for you.
Crazy thing is our parents will never apologize for these things
True...their ego is more important than anything..
ikr
@@geegeecook5063 or there reputation
My dad thinks he's always right
Can't wait for our generation to be parents
Imagine having a supportive parents i could never-
Your right "just imagine"
@@nirmala_g79 hahaha
same
I have the greatest parents ever , I'm grateful for it more than ever right now after reading all the comments.
@@rajaskorde7949 lucky
Parents always act like they were the perfect kid when they were growing up.
It's only my dad doing this my mom cares
Kinda true..
My parents had terrible childhoods
So whenever their mad they tell me how much worse *my* childhood could get
they dont care about me so why should i care about them they always talk shit behind my back
Exactly bella
Instead of being emotionally UNAVAILABLE, my parents are TOO available. They always tall to me about things they don't like, espacially about people in the family, like I'm their own therapist. I like it when they don't ignor eme because I'm younger, but sometiems it gets too much when they just won't shut up about other people in the family. The gossip is wild when it comes to politics, family members, etc. :/
Thanks for the video though, I just wish my parents would do the sams amount of research about mental health as I do :
"why don't you ever come out of your room"
comes out of room
"gets insults" gets yelled at" "gets bullied for no reason" " made fun at because of the way I dress and look"
never again...
It’s the same to me but now they force me out of my room take my phone and computer during the day and only allowed for 2 hours in my room this includes study and just games and I have worked that I missed due to it
This is the reason why we are all getting introvert😔
literally most of my life
Sometimes...
I always like sitting alone, when my mom tells me to stop sitting alone and chat, i chat with other people then i get insulted, I only have like 4-3 friends and I cant visit them bec of Corona, but life isnt bad maybe your just in a bad chapter :D
A fact: There are no parents watching this.. only sad kids
Ya, And sad teens
maybe even sad adults huh?
@@ripflapjack8419 sad adults too is fine . Because some are 20 and can't move out yet and stuff because they have no support
Sad kids->future parents,
These kids will make sure their kids won't feel like the way they did
True
If I showed this to my parents they wouldn’t care because “it’s from a UA-cam video”
Same my mom WONT open a link/video that I sent :)
Same bro yeah they always push me
@Song Yoon Min same at first but now my mom is an army now-
Yea my parents would say this is brainwashing me LOL
Exactly.
It's really hard, I relate to all of this signs, I tried communicating and talking to my parents but nothing seems to work. they finally said yes to a therapist because i was nearly begging them for it. and when they told me to tell them everything, it turned out that i am an ungrateful brat, who doesn't see what my parents do for me and i say that they are bad parents and they don't consider themselves as bad parents because they kept us fed and warm. and I'm the one in wrong here and i shouldn't be depressed. this kind of bullshit and low knowledge is making me so mad.
i hope we all get the help and happiness we deserve, because everyone deserves to be loved, confident and happy. i wish you all to succeed and never give up in your life.❤
"You have to succeed in your studies"
"STUDY!STUDY!STUDY!"
damn,sometimes i just wanna stop living in this world
I like studying but I'm just started 6th grade you can't make me study 9th grade stuff
Just do your best they can’t control you.
take me with you
you, then me
Same here
remain strong! there are brighter days! you will escape your parents one day!
It’s weird how much words hurt compared to a slap.
so you say... have you ever been hitted on with a belt on your back repeatedly while you force yourself not to cry for saving whatever little proud and dignity you have left and see how your mom gets angry cause you don't cry and she hits you harder and harder until she finally breaks you and make you cry and then froces you to go to school injured and with a swollen red face knowing everyone will stare at you as a freak all day?
@@a.q.u.a.m.a.r.i.n.e I'm sorry you are going through that. I don't get hit. But I don't want to be here anymore...
@@a.q.u.a.m.a.r.i.n.e Whatever the kind of abuse...i think every type of abuse has the ability to break you down to pieces......I'm sorry Psyche
Agreed
@@a.q.u.a.m.a.r.i.n.e i used to get my ass beat but at least mine was for a reason, sorry if you had go go through that shit man
The hard thing is when you made a little mistake, the parents are just get angry.
Hmm S I don't know why they do this 😡
Yeah.
Especially if they make the exact same mistake. 😒
Yea my mom have legit mini mental breakdowns very time I don’t listen…and it matter if it was my mistake. It could be hers and she still will blame it on me
@@DarkPlayerV2 yeah same
Sometimes it's disturbing for study.. I'm not strong to tell that to parents ❤😢
The hardest part of all of this is that you keep feeling worse day by day and my parents think I am acting different, irresponsible or just being lazy but actually I am hurting.
Same with mine they always scold me for being lazy but never focused on that I'm not feeling well that's why I'm lazy
@@sahilbhadauria1043 Trust me , I know how it feels.
Same
I feel this way too!
Yes,I feel like I'm a bad person
“If you tell me the truth, I wouldn’t be mad”
man it SUCKS when your parents tell you that, and when you tell them whats going on the first thing they do is yell at you for “lying”
agreed
so true
I don’t even get scared of them when they yell I just don’t argue back cause if I make a valid point in an argument they have no good comeback so they say shit like “Quit being a victim” yet I never said I was or they’ll just take my shit away cause they don’t know how to argue or debate.
EXACT SAME!
Totally agree with you bud :,)
Last year I had a mental breakdown and cried to my mom about how depressed I was. She asked me to tell her the reasons why, at that moment I wasnt ready to tell her the truth so I told her stupid things. Though she didnt say these exact words she practically told me "you have no reason to be depressed." Though I love my mom, shes emotionally detached from me. Often telling me my emotions are " because I'm a teenager, or that I'm over exaggerating" it really hurts.
Oh.. Parents don't understand that Kids can have depression too..
Well if you said stupid things instead of the truth, what do you think is gonna happen? Half of the times this preteens self diagnose themselves, ofc people are gonna be skeptical. Depression is not something that you can just say you have it, just bc you had sucidal thoughts once or twice, that's not how it works. Even if you're not ready for therapy, you need proper medical detail to say you're suffering from depression. It's not like other mental problems. And honestly more than half of the time the depressed people I find in the internet are b/w the age group of 9-15 and while I agree they can also suffer from depression, they think as if having depression makes them the cool kids when in reality they're just sad or feeling alone at that particular moment.
It has to be said, stop disrespecting people who actually have to fight everyday to get out of the fcking bed w/o a mental breakdown. There's nothing cool about having depression, it's way more severe than you can even imagine.
@@tia2069 Oh no between 9 and 15? I am 12! I hope I will not be depressed until 16
It's odd how so similar our lives are
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Just remember that there’s always someone out there who appreciates you, as a person as well as your talents, even if it doesn’t come from your family. And please please please, don’t end it. Everyone has their talents, including you.
Stay strong. You can do this. I’ll be praying for you.
We SUFFERED TOO MUCH at an age when we should have been ENJOYING life ❤
I also hate it when parents take out their problems on you and start yelling at you. I understand everyone has hard days but when I’m mad I take it out on my pillow not my mother. But she seems to not care about ruining my day just because hers was also ruined.
if you need help go talk to your friends, family and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for help..
fr , my father does this and i also understand his work is tiring and has to take care of both me and my brother but when he just screams at us both is so scary. i usually would just carry my brother and run to my room and we both would just cry😥.
Exactly..my mom rarely does that but when she does it’s like “wtf? You don’t need to be a bitch to me all because you’re struggling with your day..if you wanna bring it out than bring it out in a CALMER way and just vent..” like WHY CAN’T OUR PARENTS JUST DO THAT..
This.
Kill em'
It's when a parent says: "I'm not mad, I'm disappointed"
They don't understand that it hurts
exactly..
Alot.
I rather they say they are mad than disappointed
that just happend to me like 5 minutes ago
@@ailynquiroz9901 oh im sorry :(
When I tried to tell my mum how she sometimes makes me feel she made it out to be that I’m criticizing her and trying to call her a bad mother. This is why communication doesn’t exist between me and my mother.
I have the same situation with my mother.
You are not alone Klaudia. Same situation on my side. My mum still (for about 16 years now) claims she is the victim. And made my wish O was never born. And if I wanted to explain my point of view, she'd claim that that I was being only critical. If pointed out something exclusively positive and agreeable about her, she would simply ignore it and later claim I never said it. To this day I am still not sure, whether her brain is automatically filtering stuff out, or is she doing this on purpose. The difference is, I don't really care anymore, but am still sad about it.
Sameeeee
SAME its so annoying
U r not alone my friend
I lost my pen a few days ago. When I told my mom, she got so mad that she scolded me the entire trip home from school. I was crying the whole time, especially when she said hurtful things like, "You irresponsible animal," and "Why did God even make you?" All of this was just because I lost a pen.
Why you cry?
Sometimes, I feel like running away from home and NEVER COMING BACK because of how strict my parents are sometimes. I'm having nightmares of them. This is one issue that is making me struggle to cope with reality. Thank God I found this video and some people that relate to me!
You are right
I can't talk to my mom I broke my laptop I haven't told her and I need it for school I've been using touch screen but I can't use it forever I don't want to be scolded by her but she's one of a kind mom in a bad way thow I broke my laptop last year and now this year. Its a hp
I think the same but im too young to run away from my actually their house
i understand your pain chisei-kun i really do. I always wondered if i do have depression because i really don't have the strength to smile anymore..
@@VioIetRamirez yeah my mother is like that too.
Just a list of them all so you can see them all at once :)
1. They hold you back from your dreams
2. They put a lot of pressure on you
3. They're emotionally unavailable to you
4. Their presence overwhelms you
5. They worsen your depression
6. Their dysfunction rubs off on you
7. Their mental illness affects you
8. They struggle with substance abuse
9. They've become abusive
10. They don't help you overcome your depression
normally just 1.But i’m staring to get used to it.Knowing my mom.I know if i try hard enough i can make my dreams happen
I had to admit that this video known me so well it is like reading my life. Although they just did 2,3,9,10, but it is hurtful enough. Just use 2 as example whereas I remember I got the most: since I was just a kid till presents, whenever I trying to shares something, no matter sadness or great news, they will just tells me to "go away you are bothering me", "it is nothing big deal don't be so annoying", "you are wasting our time".....and so on.
They also keeps telling me that most of the strangers are dangerous, that I shouldn't trust anyone. Caused me to hardly make friend, just like isolating myself.
For me it's just 9,7,5,4,3,2, 😔 and sometimes 1 as well😞
@@vivianchenloveforever my sisters do that to me, my parents dont but my sisters also lowered my self-esteem and when i talk to my friends i always ask them if im being annoying coz im scared they would think the same as my sisters. But now I realized that it is my sisters fault although im still scared im being annoying
I don't know... out of all of those i only have 2, 3, 6, 7, and 9... not that much but enough for me to be a little scared of my future with them...
"Words cut deeper than a knife"
True
Yeah 🙃
Army
Yeah army 💜😔😞😖😩
@@anandpurimetla8132 can you not
Yeah
I 100% believe moving on your own can relief your depression, coming home to both parents talking shit already and knowing you had a good day with friends , always putting everything on you , yea .. love them but don’t put up with them anymore
It's sad that most teenagers and children are the ones who need therapy, who need actual help, and have suicidal thoughts.
Me 🙋♀️
Wow how did u read my mind
Why we still here just to sufer every tear in my body scar in my brain i. Why i was born i dint sigh for this men
The time when I needed a councellor or someone to talk, my dad just told it would bring shame ; he thought if ppl around us saw me going to a therapist's house, they would think I am 'crazy' and would bring 'us' shame. I tried so many times talking to them abt my problems and mental health but they just couldn't understand it. I gradually stopped talking to my dad bcoz he himself has some mental health issues (which he doesn't acknowledge) that made my situation even worse. Then he just threatened me saying that if I don't talk to him anymore, he'll cut ties with me in the future. 1:23 ,I could relate with it so much. Wtf does he know abt how hard those times were for me? I told him so many times but he just didn't understand me. But now its all going fine...
For those who are going through a hard time pls never quit, everything's gonna be fine one day trust me.
True
I can’t believe the internet understands me more than my own parents. You really can find anything on the internet, even emotional support from a complete stranger…
ong
Yeah
Oh, are you me lol
Yep. Hence why my parents keep claiming that "the internet is ruining me"-they don't like that it's made me aware of their abuse
@@codeswift27 wanna be friends? Even real life friends will enjoy our suffering, might use this vulnerability against us and will not relate because their parents were normal.
I didn’t even need to watch this to know my parents worsen my depression
I didn't either, but I guess I watched it anyway because I wanted to believe it wasn't true and I wanted to think my stepdad's got good intentions.
Unfortunately it's true, and unfortunately, he does NOT have good intentions. He wonders why I haven't gotten better, why the anti-depressants didn't work.
Same sis😔🤙🏻 even tho I know the reasons (and those are so personal and particular that i know they won’t be on the list) here I am.
Even my psychologist said they caused my depression, so I don’t really know why I’m watching the full video😂
Same...
Yup... yup... sighhhh it really does hurt tho.
Same. This video came right during the time when I'm at the lowest level of my life
My parents always compare me to my brother. Its so painful but its good to know other people are going through the same. Stay Strong Y'all we will get through this hard time🙏💗
It's sad when you're parents abuse you physically and mentally but you can't share it with anyone because you know people are going to judge them and you care about them being judged.
I feel you
Literally!!!
Exactly!!
I'm at the same spot...😔😔😔😔
I was looking for this one
"why are you crying? jeez grow up will you?"
"I wish you weren't here."
"you are the reason I have problems."
"you're good at nothing."
"drawing is useless, it won't give you a career."
"you're not depressed, stop acting."
"why can't you be more like your sister?"
-my parents, 2020.
Do not worry . Everything is going to be fine and think about somene who loves you
@@strawberrymilkshake8282 hi ARMY
This is my parents... I just don't know why they compare us to others...
I know this all too well.
shushles my mom said that sometimes I’m worse than my bro. I hate them sometimes
“Im tired of being what you want me to be
Feeling so faithless, lost under the surface
I dont know what you’re expecting of me
Put under the pressure of walking in your shoes”
Numb, Linkin Park
I love this song
Awe ❤️😢
forever a classic
Yes that part of song makes feel batter after a fight with him
Im glad i found this video i didnt know if maybe i was just being delusional but the last one really spoke to me, a while back i was feeling really depressed and i was just not happy with myself and my relationship with some of the members in my family they made me feel like a bad person based of some of the things they would say like " dont listen to her, dont do what shes doing etc.." and when they would say stuff like that it would kind of get to me and when all these thoughts started coming into my head like " youre a bad person, youre not skinny enough, eww u look bad in this photo, nobody wants to be around you, youre a bad example, etc and at night i would cry and ask god if he would forgive me if i ended myself- idk if youtube would alow me to say the real word but anyways i would ask god that and then i finally got teh courage to tell my mom how i was felling and i cried my heart out and she was kind of sad but then later we all talked again and i got into an argument with her and what ended up coming out of her mouth is that she didnt belive i was depressed witch made me so sad because i really was feeling this way and to have my own mother say this to my face was so heartbreaking she said " you have no reason to be depressed." and that really hurt me she doesn't know the thoughts going through my head at night and to hear that really broke my and the only person who noticed that i was a little different was my dad and he was the one person i couldt tell because i didnt want to break his heart . but yea ty for reading this i had to get this off my chest and if yall made it all the way down here ty i hope whatever youre going through rn you get better and that u tell someone abt it even thought it didnt go so great for me doesnt mean it will go the same for u!