How to Properly Exchange Gifts With a Chinese Person
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- Опубліковано 6 жов 2024
- Christmas, New Years and the Lunar New Year is coming up and that means a lot of presents. Here's how to exchange presents properly with a Chinese person.
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Soooo accurate it hurts. The denial process is really annoying sometimes.
***** Hi there. Well... You refuse more. It's really taff sometimes. Maybe you say something more explicit than just no thank you. And you'll insist that it's 'your fault' that you can't accept their gift, thank them and apologise a few hundred times. In general however, it's gonna come off as pretty rude even if that's the least of your intentions.
Dan's face when Mike called him a ballerina lol That's not even an insult!
This is very accurate!
My parents exchange gifts to my other relatives and their friends like this. For example.
Mom: Happy New Year sister!
Auntie: Aw, no need for this much. You know, I deserve a smaller present than this, this is just too much. *auntie pushes present away*
Mom: Just take it anyways, it's new year!
Auntie: Alright, thank you sister!
Something like this. And they do it politely and basically how it goes in the video.
China Non-Stop lol, relatives be fighting over bill and u just be like, taking a video HAHAHA that's hilarious.
*****
yep, its like WW3 in the restaurant
as a chinese i used to refuse gifts out of politeness n humble. Now as I aged older I will accept it with appreciation.
The most tricky thing is, not to refuse a gift TOO much, so it gets impolite again :D
When my aunts and uncles give me money for new years, my parents cut in and be like " no no! she doesn't need any money" and they would be argueing over that while I am standing there like " can't I just take the money"
I KNOWWWWW
so relatable
i think i like the two handed giving and receiving because it shows you are more sincere as compared to one hand. But i think opening the gift in front the person is better for holidays cause after all it's about the fun atmosphere
I wish you'd made this video a few days sooner! This is my first Christmas teaching in China, and a bunch of my students brought me gifts. I opened every one of them in front of the student! I'm pretty sure I didn't use both hands when receiving all of them either. Why did you wait until Christmas is over?
Oh well, next year I will be more polite.
I remember when my cousin married her Chinese husband. They had their wedding in one of the hotel's party rooms at a hotel owned by her Chinese in-laws. They decorated the whole place in white and gold. When her father-in-law, who is very traditional, entered the room and saw the colors, he got so angry and asked them to take everything down.
I love how Mike and Dan act so over the top in these examples, this made my day. Please keep doing your videos, and keep us smiling. You two are awesome.
XD This is what I do every Christmas. I was wrapping presents for Christmas, and it was just red wrapping paper. Asian Christmas would always become the best. Merry Christmas, and Happy Holidays. This was a guide that helped me before I screwed up, so uh...thanks.
Sending you all a hug this Christmas because its a perfect gift to give....its warm ..one size fits all... and its so easily returnable :):)!!! Loads of wishes and a very very Merry Christmasssssss!!
This sooo applies to me, and I'm a Vietnamese/Chinese/Korean mix..
Very respectful and humble - I like :)
I remember watching this when i was younger. Your skits made me laugh so much! ☺️
I'm studying chinese and it gives me a much better insight in chinese culture! It's giving me a much better picture on how to behave in China and about how cool the culture is. Love your videos :D
It seems the American way of giving and receiving gifts is almost opposite of the Asian way. I really appreciate the humility.
"JUST TAKE IT!" XD hahaha
Nice to know all these, I didn't know some of them and now i'll be more careful with it :)
thanks!
I love your guy's facial expressions! Pause the video at anytime and you'll see what I mean.
MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!!!!!!!!
Dan was so lucky
nice video!
reminds me of many traumatic experiences with my western relations.
Like a whole gathering of them waiting for me to receive a gift and then to open it in front of everyone.
I really didn't want to, especially with everyone watching me closely, but they forced me.
So I did my best to smile widely and look happy and all, but all their faces turned sour, and then I got a lecture on how I should practice to show my feelings better, as I didn't look as happy as I was expected to, then they compared me unfavourably to some western girls who would scream and jump up and down and yell every time they were given a present....I never heard the end of it.
happy holidays u 2......we love u dan
The hack for getting the gift by declining I ALWAYS did so I wouldn't seem like a brat.
圣诞快乐 ~~ Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays you guys!
Happy holidays to everyone !
Happy Holidays to you guys too!
You guys should do a video on how to properly drink tea
From a totally English person, with a totally English upbringing, this is how I was brought up too. Absolute respect to your elders, and other people :) I think maybe some influences from other cultures may have been passed on through the generations :)
Your comment helped me to view my present dilema from a different vantage point. Bottom line is that I have no right to offer the present under the circumstances under which it would be given. It would be beyond rude. Beyond arrogant. Beyond cheek.
I hate opening a gift in front of someone
I do too - but I like watching people open the gifts I give them. Double standard! w00t!
Heheh watching Mike throw presents at Dan is pretty funny, but try letting Yi throw presents at both of you !
My parents tell me to refuse a gift if they ask me for one, but to always accept it without denial if they already got it for me.
need more chinese legends (also love the art in it i love the gost stories and legends as well)
Merry Christmas!!!
This is exactly the way my family acts. There is literal running after people with the gift and shoving it into their hands before they'll acecpt it.
Merry xmas and happy new year
I hope that you get to reach 1million subscribers you guys are awesome
Merry Christmas OTGW! (Though in NZ it's Boxing Day today)😊
LOL I always do that......I call it "Zhuge Liang's Rejection" oh and it works really well with older folks as well.
Dan, you're so lucky.
Wow when I was a kid my mom celebrated Christmas with me and my siblings because she had an American husband so she had to learn Western customs
Lol my family doesn't celebrate Christmas either, when I was little my American-ized relatives would do it, but as we got older they got lazy about the tree and decorating the house
I'm so glad I'm an ABC. My family is less strict on the gifts thing lol.
Thank you for this video! I was unaware of much of the etiquette shown. I cringe at how many times I may have accepted a gift or a business card with only one hand, or without the obligatory, symbolic protest. However, I do often protest when a gift is offered, because that is also often done in Australia, where I am from.
Loved the vid and loved Mike's shirt
Am studying Chinese language , one of the texts in our book is about what you explained in this vid :D
In my country we also don't open gifts in front of the person and we do the refusing thing as well
spot on!!!
I love this channel so much! You make my day filled with laughter! Merry Christmas or Season Greetings.
I'm no asian (i'm european) but I always felt awkward to open gift in front of a giver, so most of the time I opened it later.
The business card etiquette is more/most notable with the Japanese rather than the Chinese.
The business card thing is so true. It's always a little difficult to know when to stop staring at it haha.
I think in Israel it would also be considered impolite to open a present you just recieved. Unless it's wine or dessert of some sort they gave you because you host them for dinner. Then you should eat it with the givers.
This video was amazing but so so so true. Aiya you guys make me laugh. Love it
Ahh I have heard about the colours meaning different things before. Someone I know used to have a penpal in Japan in the '80s, and he once wrote him a letter using a red ink pen because there was no others available. Anyway, he didn't hear off his penpal for aaaages. So he sent him another letter asking why he wasn't replying, and the penpal sent him a reply saying he thought that the guy I know was angry at him for using the colour red!
+Sian johnstone The use of red ink in writing symbolises a death curse
in a shopping centre (21/8/16) there r Christmas deco
IT AINT HALLOWEEN YET
I have literally never heard of someone or seen someone using black or white wrapping paper in western culture. Most of the time they use red as well.
You have obviously never met, or received a gift from me. I dig the color black.
I DIG IT TOO! ;D
I'm just saying, never really seen people using it :D
I just wrapped presents recycling the packing paper used in ikea furniture. I call it neutral color, though it's close to white. LOL
I only use black, white or brown paper
I see white wrapping paper all the time, especially at Christmas, because it's snowy
This is pretty complete as well as funny. There are a couple of other things:
1. GIFT BACK. When meeting new people for business or invited into someone’s home for first time, they will probably gift you, and you should also have one to give for return.
2. THANK YOUS. After you have open gift, contact the giver and tell them how much is appreciate.
3. SILENT. If you do nut like the gift, say nothing. This is polite way of telling them to stop gifting you this item. But still return A gift back if you want to continue be friend.
HAVE A NICE LIFE! 👍
Thank you !!!
Well, I got a good dose of laughs from watching this XD and it's interesting to learn about all these customs.
Keep it up guys, you're doing great! :D
Thats actually good information thanks guys!!! ;) but it will be better if you posted this a day befor christmas........ cuz i may or may not did something wrong this year..........-_-
You guys are hilarious
The polite gift-refusal charade is getting less and less common among overseas Chinese IMHO, except if the gift is some kind of token of appreciation kind of thing. But if it's Christmas / birthday presents, I rarely encounter any Chinese people who does the refusal charade thingy. Especially among younger generations.
eriquerique First off you have to be clear if the gift giver is Chinese too. In that case, it could be a different story. You don't see these Chinese people going through the refusal charade, but you will see their parents do it.
What I have experienced is that one never knows when the traditional interjects into the modern.
It's weird for me now because this is how I properly exchange present within my family but when I did it with my bff, I can't help it...this became a habit for me. My friends alway said that I don't have to be so formal but I feel good when I act this way...
Wrapping paper: always wrap diagonally.
Is it bad that I knew something silly would be on Dan's business card?
Very accurate video guys! I think some interesting gift giving etiquette that is a bit lesser known is the types of gift you can give. From my past experiences, you shouldn't give Chinese people things in fours, umbrellas, or clocks!
Video on point!
3:16
LOL my grandpa did the EXACT same thing. i guess not every traditional Chinese person understands the twisted etiquette.
Thank you so much for the interesting information :) this is one of my assignments
looooolll .. Egyptian basically do that "refusing at first" thing ,, in EVERYTHING ,, and then we accept !
Dan, I completely understand, I feel like all Shanghainese kids have pretty "non-Asian" parents that do stuff like hiding 40 gifts around the house. Experience as a Shanghainese girl 😂
4:21 two cups of coffee, that looked like a 50 lol
Sometimes the gift is personal, open it might be inappropriate...
I threw my present at my brother. He's okay with it. lol we're siblings so it's okay
I gave him this www.sugarbunnyshop.com/collections/bags/products/fabulous-pomeranian-shoulder-bag
Yup, but I'm kinda worried if he should bring it to school. I mean did u read the bag?
To be honest that bag looks more like a girl bag than a boy bag. I'd be more worried about teasing at school due to its design.
Good Idea. He actually loves this bag. His favorite saying is "I'm too fab for you." I don't think anyone would tease him because he would curse them out.
3:14 LOL
this is so hilarious, so true
Nice Shirt Mike! Great video :) :) :)
Luv luv luv
that moment you get a game with 24-hour DLC and the person who buy it buy it 22 hours ago so the party goes till 12 hours long and yo DLC dead the last 2 hours... wrapped in black and white DLC funeral
lol just saw u guys in the street at Flushing. I was the girl with blue hair and leather jacket. Didn't say hi cuz I didn't wanna bother u guys xP but heyyy
also don't refuse it too much
yep, admittedly I would be tempted to do the "argh, just take it"-scenario xD
Christmas is really about Jesus and many Chinese celebrate it also bc of him.
yes
'morry chrtnsts ma h'
Whoops! I forgot to accept with two hands this year >:(
We celebrate German Christmas and so, technically, Christmas is over for us. We celebrate on Christmas Eve not day
I think the 40 presents DAN got were for 40 CHRISTMASES OH NOOOOO
Nice video! This is so informative.
Can you guys feature any popular feng shui tips. Thanks. :-)
I gave my Japanese friend a gift and she said thanks then just ignored it, I was quite shocked, I thought that she thought it was shit or just didn't care about it, I didn't realize until recently that Asians don't open gifts in front of people! Now I know not to be offended...
ZombieRamen My friend gave me a gift and I put it aside. She got offended and thought I was stuck up or something as if her gift wasn't worth it. She didn't tell me, but I could tell from her subsequent attitude. We don't met up that frequently, so after it happened I didn't know how to bring it up or clarify it since she never told me directly it bothered her.
aaw :( People should talk more about cultural differences so that awkward situations don't happen! :)
I've had several instances where I gave someone a gift and the receiver downright refused to take it, to the point where they dropped it back in my car or left it at the door when they left. It made me sad :(
what if the gift giver said to open the gift to the receiver while the giver is still there?
Yeah. I have the same problem with my family. But my family refuses up to 5 times, and if they still shove it into your face, they get mad. I don't understand them, my cousins and I have no problem though..
Hey guys! I love your channel and I watch all your videos. My Chinese friend told me that at New Years in China it's a tradition to clean up their home. I was wondering if that's true, and if so why?
+Francesca Stern Yes, traditionally we clean our homes before New Year itself to get rid of bad luck from the previous year. but no cleaning permitted on the first day of New Year until the fourth day. Cleaning commences on fifth day. Sweeping the floor symbolises sweeping away good luck so it's taboo
Hilarious!
It's ok mike I've never receive presents nor celebrated Christmas and btw I'm Asian too ur not the only one here
i am really enjoy watching this channel and fungbro although i'm not chinese
How many times are you supposed to refuse the gift before actually accepting? If the gift is wrapped and you unwrap it, are you supposed to "refuse" the gift again? Is there any danger of the giver being insulted if you're acting like you don't want the gift (bc it's a crappy gift)?
I can't help but think that the American way of getting straight to the point might be better, or at least more efficient:)
Except for the wrapping paper color, the rest is just good manners and has nothing to do with ethnicity. In our background, when we're at a large, festive occasion where lots of gifts are being given, like a wedding, someone is always responsible for keeping a record of who gave what. That way the reciprocation can be proportional. That avoids over-gifting which would embarrass the original giver.
Red pocket money.. 😏
Is it wrong that after watching this I only want to give people presents by throwing them at them?
give it that way to ur age group peeps
little kids=snitch
adults=lecture
4.10 mike secretly gives the gift with one hand.
HOW EVIL
Today i gave my girl friend the wrong flowers, she said this flowers are to be given to the dead parents. Could you please explain which flowers represent what purpose in Chinese culture.