The narc's smear campaigns are brutal because others often never even question the validity of the crap that the narc is saying about you. Instead, the target may live in a constant state of wondering why others are looking at them crazy or alienating them. The emotional strain on the target is often very depressive, because you are being pushed out of the lives of people that should care about you. Generally, most people know very little about the dysfunctional mindset of narcs, so they don't suspect the narc of being capable of making up such destructive nonsense!
Absolutely. It’s a lonely place to be. I wish I could win some money, I’d be so far away from these sick people it would make their head spin. They wouldn’t have me to knock around anymore.
Exactly! People instantly believe in the narcs' stories which are full of lies and manipulation. No one come to the victim even just for asking about their side of story. None.
No matter how angry the victim may feel at the narc's smearing, remember this one thing. Don't fight with pigs, you'll get dirty and besides, the pig loves it.
One of the things that hurts me the most is that people will believe what the narcissist says. The narcissist's followers never question the terrible accusations against you.
@@kat-75 so, envy is wishing you had what someone else has. Jealousy means you wish the person did not have something that *they* have. It’s a very minor distinction. They come from the same place.
Wrath is cruel, and anger is outrageous; but who is able to stand before envy? - Proverbs 27:4 A sound heart is the life of the flesh, but envy the rottenness of the bones. - Proverbs 14:30 Pontious Pilot knew that for envy the religious leaders had delivered Jesus (to be beaten and crucified) - Matthew 27:18 But God! Jesus died on that cross for our sins and rose from the grave and is alive and coming back soon ! Satans plan and plot against King Jesus backfired ! Hallelujah! ✝️ Glory to God! Every word of God is pure, he is a shield to those who put their trust in Him. He defends his own! Do you know Him friends? He loves you and cares about you!
I discovered they can target a child. They literally are jealous of a child. Insane. I have never had anyone explain these things I have gone through so well! Thank you!
Wow.. This is absolutely so spot on. It’s like you’re describing my exact experience recently.. well, over the last 2 years. I’m still hearing horrible things she says about me that are all completely false. The damage and impact her smear campaign has had on myself, my reputation and my life as a whole, is incomprehensible. I can’t understand how a human being can treat another human being like this.
HOW do we keep attracting the narcs?s I feel like I am a magnet for it, then once they get you in their sites the entire apartment complex that has never met you is making faces, and avoiding. WHY does it continue to happen?
@@jayneweaver8695 I am a magnet for it too. If you are a naturally impressive person with talents and shine, or you look nice without trying, or you’re just comfortable being yourself and you don’t need others’ attention like they do, you will be targeted.
When I divorced my ex husband he said he would annihilate me late me and make my children hate me. That was only the beginning. He carried on his smear campaign and hisVengeful hatred hatred to destroy me financially and emotionally for years. With time help therapy rp and the grace of God I made it through those dark years and I'm healthier than I have ever been.. I love my life now my children and I have a wonderful relationship didn't ship and I encourage anyone one to stay strong pray hard and you will get through it
Thank you for this. Just when I thought a specific woman couldn't have more narcissistic tendencies than she already has... she would freak out over someone *accidentally* touching (and not even remotely damaging, *just* touching, with clean hands) any item that she owns. If the item is even *1cm* moved from its place, her anger would be straight up shocking. So this is why.
I was born into a Narcisstic family, so yeah.......not fun. Still living with the fallout from years ago when I was just a child. Permanent damage that will NEVER be repaired. 😒
I can relate to that. In my case both parents are narcs. The whole family is more like a snakepit than an actual sanctuary. So yeah, it's a really nasty experience.
It's been a year since you commented..... But I would just like to say that yes you can heal! There is a UA-cam channel called the crappy childhood fairy, that I highly highly recommend. She came from horrible family upbringing and has wonderful insights and the steps that you can take to heal.... It's a process.❤
The narcissist I just got away from basically posted an essay to Facebook about me, calling me cruel, a liar, selfish and of course A NARCISSIST....I was expecting to get hate messages from his Facebook friends but there's been nothing,so clearly they know exactly what his patterns are too
That pretty much nails it. And when it's your family (because of a narc parent or sibling), usually by the time you wake up to the fact that they are your enemies hiding behind a smile, it's far too late. They have been smearing you behind your back your entire life, (under the guise of concern) and made everyone think you are crazy. They also used your intense reactions to their BS as additional "proof" that you are indeed crazy (by pushing your buttons right before extended relatives or friends are coming over)..... Everyone in my family fell for the narc's lies. All duped. I am the Scapegoat who made it out with zero family support (and my "friends" soon followed the same script). All it takes to cause an unforgivable narcissistic injury in these CAINanites, is to tell the truth. About anything. IF it goes against the fake narrative of Public Fool System and TV indoctrination, they will be offended. Their minds will shut down from hearing any truth and they will begin to attack you in some way (usually behind your back because they are feckless cowards).
The TRUTH is my shield! It keeps me safe and aligned with the world. I've had to accept that some people have to stay out of my life, and I will never see them again. It is shocking that lifelong friends could be manipulated and have such poor judgment.
Had an older lady my first week at my new apartment tell me "well you got a settlement" and I could not believe what she said next, I said "what are you talking about?" and she said "isn't that how you can afford to live here?" I never talked to her again, went to the other sidewalk if I saw her coming, she did not like that and I don't think expected it either. Points her finger when I go by if she's talking to a neighbor, then all of a sudden a neighbor, female, I have NEVER seen or met started walking past my apartment window and she had both of her kids touch my car, then had one of them bite the hood, it's a NEW car. Your comments really helped me I'm going to listen to this video a few times. HOW DO I STILL attract Narcs? I haven't talked to any family including my dad for over 3 years now. UGH.
I'm so sorry, that sounds like horrible conditions to have to deal with. Why would the mother teach her kids to disrespect a stranger & your property based off what someone else says? Ridiculous. They're trying yo drive you crazy all because you won't play their game & tell your business. Please take care of your mental health. 🙏🏾💐💛
You are so so right ! My covert narcissist/sociopath was on a covert smear campaign for the entire 10 years I was with her. She was so manipulative that no one was willing to step up and let me know the despicable lies she told on me. The people that knew and loved me didn’t believe her and stayed in my life. But many acquaintances and not so close friends distanced themselves from me and and I never understood why at the time. She tried to ruin my life in every way possible for her own entertainment. She let her own diabetic teenage son die from her neglect after I divorced her. That is 100% true. You truly have a demon in your life when with a narcissist !
Exactly what my Narc mother and ex mother in law did to me and my kids. Now my adult kids wont speak to me. I overheard my mother's lies she fed my daughter and when I tried to put a stop to her visit, she convinced my ex I was suicidal and he kidnapoed my daughter, took me to court and won custody. My lther was allowed access to my daughter from then on. He only won because he made more money, not that I was unfit said the judge. I was devastated this was in 1995. I still haven't gotten over the depth of Narcs smearing. This isnt the only event. Not the only Narc in my life. Im still no contact with ALL the Narcs and waiting for their final end. My goal is to outlive and be successful despite them.
Before anything, I want to thank Jill Wise for her videos. I have been watching them for a few years now when I realized that I had been dealing with some narcissists in my life (all are gone). However, one of them is truly deadly, and despite a formal complaint against her, she continues to sporadically resurface to see if she could create a scene. It goes as follows: I've known a female malignant narcissist for almost twenty years now. I met her through work in downtown NYC. While at first, our relationship was merely transactional, because we worked in different units, eventually we began to work together when we both transferred to the Newark office. At first, all went well. Then I noticed that I was doing more than my share of the work, and she would simply not (but expect me to do mine, to make the office look good). Eventually, to make this post short, we had a falling out because she lacked boundaries and her micro-aggressions became macro-aggressions, short of physical. One day in June of 2019, after a year of silence, in which I thought it was over, I came back from a business trip to find myself accused of being an active shooter and that I had stated so on social media and throughout the office. In fact, nothing could be further from the truth. It was then that I decided to file an EEO complaint not only against her but others who had joined her in a smear campaign that came close to getting me fired and destroying my life. Had I not had documentation going back 7 years to 2012, I would have had no way to prove this progressive level of stalking. I was able to prove my innocence, but the office did not dismiss her because of "lack of candor" but chose to go with "perception." I went through seven panic attacks from July to early March of 2020 even after leaving the unit in October 2019 to move to another floor to work in relative peace., Even then, she still made a point to make herself visible, to come to my floor to use a nearby printer or engage in conversation with office workers, as if she still wanted me to know that she was around. The result was that I wound up transferring back to NYC, which could not have been a better move as the unit is free of toxicity. Even so, I have had trouble opening up to colleagues, I struggle and continue to wait for the other shoe to drop, for the environment to turn untenable as it had been in Newark. Incredibly, the woman I speak of, who has not been in her previous office (my current place) since she transferred over 20 years ago, decided to make an appearance and visit just this past week. A colleague had informed me she was at the office as I was on the way to work. I felt the old anger (and the old feelings of tension and high anxiety) well inside me. After all, this was the same woman who had participated in character assassination. Wasn't my leaving enough? Couldn't she just let it go? Of course, three years of learning about narcissism have now taught me that these people don't let go. Ever. She had now decided to pay a visit. One that could lead to others since the unit/office engages in office parties. I almost took that day off. However, my instinct told me to not give in. I would not give her this satisfaction. When I arrived I marched right up to her, gave her the warmest, most loving hug and a kiss on the cheek, engaged in some over-the-top pleasantries, and asked if her current boss was in fact retiring because I was planning to aggressively pursue his seat. She did not know what to do with herself and left soon after. This is just a reminder to many that not even state boundaries are enough for a malignant/covert narcissist who uses sugar in her demeanor to hurt others (and has gone to extreme lengths to do so, not just to me, but to others). This is a woman who has a severe case of rheumatoid arthritis, has trouble walking, has diabetes, is living paycheck to paycheck, has been at my agency for 46 years, and cannot retire because she used her retirement to pay for a house (and refinance it), a house that was well over her means. All of her old friends have left. No one present is anyone she knows at a deep level. Meanwhile, I live a happy life, not without its problems, but enriched by art, culture, spirituality, and good friends. Again, many thanks to Jill Wise for this and many other videos on the topic. Apologies for the length. :)
VERY IMPORTANT point that I agree with - liars always get their story out first - before you. Strange but majority of people seem to believe the first thing they hear .. so liars use that..
It ruins your life, and the damage caused by the smear campaign lasts forever. I went through a brutal smear campaign during the final discard conducted by my narcissistic ex-wife. She was very thorough with her smear campaign. I lost everyone in my life as a result of her actions. I tried to share the truth with people. It was pointless . Did not matter what I said about the truth or facts. People chose to believe her, since she got her false story out first. She even placed a video on Facebook that weaponized her cancer scare against me. I have to admit that was brilliant. She convinced people that I tried to cancel her “medical insurance during her treatment”. Everyone believed her. (Note: You cannot cancel medical insurance on a person in the middle of the service period. I did not even try to do so at all. Discovered later that her Cancer scare was a ruse. I thought she had Stage 4 Follicular Lymphoma; she did not at all; it was just Stage 1. She let me believe this false diagnosis.) I have gone 100% No Contact; nothing I can do to correct what she did at all. Sucks!
Yes I can relate to everything you have talked about. I told my narc no, and out of the corner of my eye I could see him raising his cane fixing to strike me. I turned just in time, because he then put it down. He has everyone against me. The Drs and my kids and heaven only knows who else. I don’t trust him at all. They’re more than one in my family.
The smear campaign started in childhood. I didn't know it then however I now know that this was the case. As a teen I caught my sister (2 yrs older) telling lies to my mom. She didn't know I picked up the phone at the same time. 35 plus years have passed and I have gleefully enjoyed my life with her on the other side of the country. Once her son made contact with me and my 2 sibs (having moved to our area), she exploded with hateful letters to me. Every letter was filled with projection, lies, and twisted thoughts on how I had negatively affected her life. I photocopied the letters and provided each of my sibs with the writings. I saw these letters as a window into exactly why I exited her life. No one ever really understood the depth of my commitment to let her go. They get it NOW! When you're the selected target, it is virtually impossible for anyone to understand what transpires with the offender. It just is.
Hi Jill, I want to thank you again for supporting victims of narcissistic abuse. My sessions with you extremely helpful in helping me find my way out of the nightmare that I was subjected to. Everything in this video happened to me as you know. And now seven years later things finally seem to have calm down yet I am very aware that once my narc ex gets bored with his current fuel he will find boredom and attempt to pull me back in as he has already done on several occasions. Keep shining your light and doing the good work. I appreciate you and all that you do!!
Education about them and this is our weapon! No need to fear- we are stronger and truth is on our side, so don’t be scared beautiful people, We are winners one way or another!🙏💪👏
This is vert acurate information in my 55 years of experience. It is very powerful to hear outwardly expressed what has been hidden and the anger you express is healing. Thank you
Years, just crazy? My father died when I was 12, this crap started when I moved out of state and my crazy relatives referred to as abandoning them, If their hooked up with community groups(Joiner types) their crazy will follow you everywhere. This is a great video. Ive shared it alot. Document everything, working toward eventual Federal Prosecution
Jill I am having a lot of difficulty with some things that has happened to me. You just uncovered something in my mind. And all of these things happened to me and my wife. I'm really blessed that they did not succeed in separating us. I wanted to tell people what was going on. I was really confused. I wanted to warn people and let them know how wicked these people were. I suppressed my feelings and I became really really bitter and angry. They taunted me and I really did want to fight. But it was like God was saying that he would fight my battle. So I destroyed all the evidence. It's been now almost 10 years. I have really struggled with this. I believe that God will turn this around for my good. Putting a bandaid on the wound and saying it will be alright does not stop the pain. But I do find comfort in the Bible and watching your videos and videos from a 2 others. I'm grateful for a few things. I learned that I have enemies and I have learned more about me and I I understand the Bible alot more.
"For they do not sleep unless they have done evil; And their sleep is taken away unless they make someone fall." Proverbs 4:16 "Many a time they have persecuted me from my youth, but they have not prevailed against me. The plowmen (narcs) plowed over my back (slandered, betrayed, disrespected, abused), they made their furrows long (turned everyone against you before you knew what was going on) The LORD is righteous; He has cut me asunder from the cords of the wicked.…" Psalm 129:3-5 Psalm 124:6-8 "Blessed be the LORD, who has not given us as prey to their teeth. Our soul has escaped like a bird from the snare of the fowler; the net is torn, and we have slipped away. Our help is in the name of the LORD, the Maker of heaven and earth.…" "I am become a stranger unto my brethren, and an alien unto my mother's children." Psalm 69:8 "Send thine hand from above; rid me, and deliver me out of great waters, from the hand of strange children; Whose mouth speaketh vanity, and their right hand is a right hand of falsehood." Psalm 144:7-8
I liked this video before watching it...don't need to. Major narcissistic injury occurred. They LOVE social media, it feeds their false self. It is what it is...repulsive! Thank you Jill 🙏✌️❣️⭐️🙏
It is bad enough that I had to live in an abusive dysfunctional family [no contact 3 years] but to know so many millions around the world are going thru this too is truly heartbreaking. I don't care what kind of smearing they and flying monkeys are doing. I am waiting for Jesus to return. If these narcs and haters do not repent they will get what is coming to them. Hard to repent without a conscience but surely explains the beatings and witchcraft I had to live with. Stay strong people. We will see each other in glory.
Jesus has returned, he is working within us always to use our pain and suffering, as fuel and conviction to ride into the light and reach the heart of God. I advise not to underestimate gods power by saying you will never be healed. I was born into the same predicament. There is a way out. Trust in the power of God and Jesus is guiding us. One day you can help others out of the trauma by doing so yourself All the best
@@joelcoulter6967 that is a very good point. Jesus lives in us and we are spreading love, light and the message which in turn will help others. Thanks.
If I were to explain the absolute evil deconstruction of my entire life, their would be no stone left unturned ... everything imaginable was done to me and more, do narcissist 's have a manual on how to utterly destroy a person's life leaving just a shell. l was even kidnapped 2yrs after going no contact.... 25yrs later he was still stalking & driving past my home etc. And all because I just walked away, the unbelievable part of the whole nightmare is, all II needed to do to make the nightmare stop, was to put my engagement ring back on & go back to him....how truely sick is that.....its almost like you the victim, are the drug they must have, some think they own you until the day they die ... if they could haunt your dreams from beyond the grave they would.😔
This describes my husband's ex so accurately that it's weird... for 21 years, (when we got married), she has systematically and totally ruined his reputation and relationships with all of his children. She appears to be a syrupy sweet southern 'Christian', but is anything but when it comes to him. Malignant Narcissists are vindictive and destructive, and will stop at nothing to completely wreck their target's happiness, especially if they think it makes themselves look either 'good' or like an innocent and heroic victim. It's sometimes hard for me not to feel hatred for this person, but I know she's actually miserable and disturbed. Happily, my kids, all adults now, love him, and that's something.. but he is sad and angry and probably will be for ever, at the loss of his own children. Sorry to go on, your video was just mind blowing for me to watch. Thanks..
This is absolutely bang on! And I love how you really make the information impactful. These people are vicious, cold, calculating, vengeful, spiteful…weak, weak little monsters. For me, this is my property manager where I live. He’s made my life an absolute hell. It’s easy to get caught up in being defensive, but pull yourselves back and what you’ll all see is their true agenda and colours are right in front of you. It’s there for you to see. They are sick, sick, creatures.
I love your insight ❤...I was smeared and am still shocked by the evil they do. You help So Many!!!! God Bless You!!!!! And thank you for helping mY FAMILY escape safely and with DIGNITY!!!
Thank you for this message! What you describe is exactly my ex-husband and his family. My children haven’t spoken to me for two years. By the grace of God, He will unite my children. God is fighting this battle.
So greatful for your encouragement, support and strength, you are so compassionate in your message. I am thankful that I can live again and be fulfilled in all good things that the Lord has blessed me with. Pursuing my goals and dreams and not have an artificial person the Narc holding me captive.
Every time I tried to maintain a relationship with a sibling or even my mother, my father had to insert himself or control how my mother behaved which was a reflection of himself. When I went nc I tried to maintain a relationship with my brother and it was one sided for a while, I felt we weee on the same page for a bit then he disappeared. I can only assume my father found out about it and decided to somehow brainwash him into thinking I was not worth it or even downright brainwashing him to think of me as a problem. At this point I don’t care anymore. For over 40 years I grieved, I went through hell and finally decided to focus on my recovery. It’s just not worth it anymore and I am celebrating how far I have come. If they can’t see my worth honestly it’s their loss.
Excellent. Excellent. NM tried to get Me arrested for "legal transactions with a minor female across state lines". Yes, I was blown away. I was in no contact for years. Freakin mind-blowing. After NM died ( thank God). She got us again. None of us excepted to receive anything from her estate. Yes, she was very well off. The amount she left us was embarrassing. But, it was for 'show' to the Church' she cared more about them than she cared for us. Like I said none of us thought we would receive anything from her. Thank you. Peace 💕🇺🇲
Jill....Thank you. You have brilliantly described my situation. Unfortunately, my immediate "family" will not watch the shared video. I wish they would. They may then "get" the absolute hell that I am going through. xo
Yes this video has to be one of the best in explaining this! I hope they have come around and watched since you posted this. Jill explains what happens incredibly well
If Libel/Slander, REAL crime, REAL abuse and other Tort Law offenses occur, report it ASAP ! #arrests #lawsuits - Jen Gable (Justeson) Thank you Jill !!!!
I wanna encourage your wellness, charge you up with hope, and credit you for being a BEAST at prosocial work. You're making a huge difference with these videos. Your ability to chop it up and give us brass tax is amazing. 😁💯✨💥Have peace from all of us. 💯
So true. What they have put me through has been a nightmare. I can barely function now. They even tried to take my professional license because of their envy I haven't spoken to my children in 5 years. . I don't know how to cope.
Keep it together Lisa. Their goal is your annihilation. Do not let them win. I know how hard that is. I am 2.5 years out. The stalking, the smear campaign. Stay strong! All the best from Ireland.
Hello Jill; I’m reading some of the comments on here. It is heart breaking. I too, have lost everything from this kind of abuse. The fact I am not unique in this gives me no comfort. In fact: it is sad. The consolation I have is- I haven’t seen or heard from them in over a year. Hopefully (for me) they are on to other things. She is a marriage counselor now which a PhD. 😳😵💫 Anyway: an especially well done presentation today! Thanks.
I just recently exposed my father, after videos like this one, exposed HIM as having been the culprit behind the most damaging things ever done to me. I'm a little afraid of what he's going to do next, but with the advent of Facebook, and having enough mutual contacts, I have made it very public that what they (and even I) thought they knew about me is a fallacy. But I am afraid of what his next move will be.
Happy Sunday To You Jill. You and Thànk You. Husband Has done To me. Has done this to me. he should be careful cause ....I had asked him do you know the difference between embarrassed vs humiliation? He gonna Wish he didn't Thank You For Sharing This Video With us If he does I have something for Him
This used to haunt me bad. “What he is saying about me? What story is he selling?” Honestly after I took mine back and got to hear the BS I was surprised to see how many people who didn’t even know me DID NOT BELIEVE HIM!! When they heard my BRIEF side.. they all had the same reaction.. I KNEW IT WAS MORE TO IT 😅😂
My bf’s father is a textbook case of narcissism. I would watch him berate, belittle, yell, get in faces, humiliate, shame, lie to my bf, his mother, his brothers, his friends, his uncles and anyone who dared make him upset. I didn’t have a mindset of letting someone yell and scream at me with no fight. My father was 6’6 and 300 pounds with an anger problem so because of that I don’t fear men easily as a woman. I also have an insane working knowledge of psychology with an incredible intuition. So I fought back. Boy was that the biggest mistake I ever made. I loved him so much and once that happened my life has been nothing but hell over and over again. The trauma I have is real. It’s taken everything in me not to destroy his father’s life. The pain that man has put me through for no justified reason is out of balance if I was on a seesaw I would be in space. Crazy how narcissist are out here causing the need for therapy.
My wife phoned my work colleagues recently to tell them I’ve done wrong and I’m not a nice person!! She wants my reputation destroyed To lose my job & apparently I’ll enjoy prison 🙃 very hurtful and blame shifting and yes there’s kids involved and they’re all siding with the mother!! As if I haven’t suffered enough although? she’s recently left the property I’m traumatised and reeling from her abuse!!
I hope you get up out of the ashes your ex wife is trying to put you in and THRIVE. Her behaviour is pure evil. That’s such an evil thing to do. I just don’t understand why does anyone think it’s ok to call someone’s job to speak poorly about them. If you have a disagreement or conflict with someone why involve their livelihood and kids. That’s just evil, petty and so immature. Count your losses and go your way. What’s hard in wishing the person well. And moving in peace. 💕
Jill, I’m 3 years in and it has been sickening. He obliterated my relationships with my adult children, and the only thing I could do was to attend grief counseling and accept that he is a wrecking ball. I left him because of his severe addiction and that was the kickoff. Thanks for your excellent work.❤❤❤
Watch out when two narcs decide to run a smear campaign on you, to eachother, and inverted flying monkeys feed into their little dirty pot of sludge. What I mean by this is I had a boyfriend, whom I wasn't quite aware of his narcissist ways yet, I really just thought I was too blame for all of problems and whatnot. I had a "friend" who was divorced and having difficulty keeping a place to live, everyone who tried to help her seemed to either want to sleep with her or kick her out. She was bringing over many men to my house with little respect for time of day or if anyone had to work in the morning. I never asked her for anything, except for one time I needed to be picked up, and she gave so much attitude that it led to her being asked to move out. Well these two people smeared me, to each other, included her family, and I thought those were people that were my friends. The horrible part was how they had an affair behind my back, apparently she thought they were together-together and I just wouldn't leave, after being asked. I was not asked. I was further isolated, told I was making up stories about my suspicions, and he Even pretended to lose my car keys. It all came out when someone decided it was time for her to move in with him. I left. They deserve eachother. Now, though, he has since moved away from her, and moved out of his old house, and got the apartment next to the one I got. And wants to act as if nothing happened. Nope. Good god, no.
Dear Jill you explained this phenomenon so thoroughly and accurate.! This is exactly what I had to put up my whole life until she passed away. The ripple-effects are still visible years after she is no more.
I have lived this nightmare, (literally) for a few decades and I am still being smeared and lied about and hurt in any way possible by the narcissist who abuses me. It is my sister and I am not going to let her get away with it anymore. I am finally about to either get away through going no contact or life ends.
What was very convenient for me at the time three years ago when I kicked my ex narc out of my house is this: I didn’t like his family and could care less what they thought of me and I didn’t like his friends either so whatever he said about me had no effect on me whatsoever :-). Plus I’m not on social media except for Quora and UA-cam so I really wasn’t privy to it whatsoever!
Thanks for all of your time tested advice. Like for example not spending anything on expensive looking luxuries ever regardless of how little the cost was while it being a vintage find at say a second hand store. It is starting to get so predictable concerning where and when and to whom all the smear campaign efforts are going to be done next. Thanks for agreeing with me that some people, like children dependant on the narcissist. doesn't have a choice when having to be picking sides. I am starting to recognize the earliest signs that I may be trying to relate with someone who is probable sooner or later willing to become another flying monkey for the original narcissistic cause.
I’ve been the target of my MIL’s smear campaign for 22 years now. Her tactics almost destroyed my marriage several years ago when she managed to convince my husband that I was an evil bitch and encouraged him to have an affair as a way out. She is so jealous of me and it’s so childish. I’m very confident in who I am, so I’ve managed to make it through fairly unscathed, but I won’t say it doesn’t wear on you and tear you down at times. Bless all of us who have had to endure this.
I can totally agree to this video and recognize a lot what is told. I had a relationship with a covert narcissist person. She is just an insecure, frustrated, damaged, angry, sick, immature and coward person. She also tried to start a smear campaign against me. We both work(ed) for the same organization, so she played the victim the whole time after our relationship ended. I confronted her in front of our colleagues. Yes, it was not professional, but after that she didn't do anything anymore against me. She thought that I wouldn't do that. I feel very sad for her two young children who are also victims in this tragedy. It has been more then 3,5 years ago since I ended this fake relationship.
Yes this is true. my ex would force me to take drugs so he could tell everyone I was an addict. The break up had to be my fault. Thank God 🙏🏾 the police finally arrested him. Saved my life
for a while I thought maybe I hadn't been doing enough for her. Has it felt like she was trying to drill that into my head. I have been trying to understand and cope with why she would do this to me. The weird accusations and starting confrontations for no reason started out slow. Until one day I just said enough Grabbed what clothes I could and my dog and told her I'm leaving and wanted to break up with her. That threw her in such a rage I've never seen before. As I'm sitting at the gas station four cops arrived and rushed towards me with guns drawn as if I was a terrorist or had murdered someone. She had called the cops and said that I had hit her and was accusing me of being a pedophile. Long story short I had facts and truth and a video of when I had left. And Mark's on my face and body where she had hit me. 3 hours later I was released and they took her to jail. After that day it has been Non-Stop slandering of me on social media for about a year. And it wasn't just a post once a week it was four or five a day and still going on. I do not wish this kind of abuse on anybody. I didn't think it would affect me but over time it has slowly wore me down physically and psychologically. It just seems like this is never ending the legal part of it is dragging on . I feel I have a direction on how to heal. Thank you for your video.
I am sorry this is happening to you. God will get you through this. We were never meant to be the Scapegoat. We cannot wash away their sins with our blood. Only Jesus can pay for their sins. If she accused you of pedophilia, it is likely that she is the pedophile. Remember they project their sins onto us as the Scapegoat.
The narc's smear campaigns are brutal because others often never even question the validity of the crap that the narc is saying about you. Instead, the target may live in a constant state of wondering why others are looking at them crazy or alienating them. The emotional strain on the target is often very depressive, because you are being pushed out of the lives of people that should care about you. Generally, most people know very little about the dysfunctional mindset of narcs, so they don't suspect the narc of being capable of making up such destructive nonsense!
Exactly This☝️☝️‼️‼️‼️
Absolutely. It’s a lonely place to be. I wish I could win some money, I’d be so far away from these sick people it would make their head spin. They wouldn’t have me to knock around anymore.
Exactly! People instantly believe in the narcs' stories which are full of lies and manipulation. No one come to the victim even just for asking about their side of story. None.
Well said!
It's ending the world heh.. so there's the bible I suppose 🤔 😀
No matter how angry the victim may feel at the narc's smearing, remember this one thing.
Don't fight with pigs, you'll get dirty and besides, the pig loves it.
Amen johnathan,don't engage and don't defend. People start to see the narc for who they truly are when you grow and change and walk away.
Lol
@@thesystem6246 gray rock, ignore ignore ignore, no contact. It worked for me once, I’m going to try it again!
Thanks needed this 🙏
RIGHT ON!!!!
One of the things that hurts me the most is that people will believe what the narcissist says. The narcissist's followers never question the terrible accusations against you.
It's like they have a spell on their flying monkey's.
It’s difficult to understand jealousy when you don’t have that personality type. It was difficult to begin to recognize when people were envious.
Those emotions confuse me n I can never keep the difference straight in my mind permanently.
@@kat-75 so, envy is wishing you had what someone else has. Jealousy means you wish the person did not have something that *they* have. It’s a very minor distinction. They come from the same place.
Wrath is cruel, and anger is outrageous; but who is able to stand before envy? - Proverbs 27:4
A sound heart is the life of the flesh, but envy the rottenness of the bones. - Proverbs 14:30
Pontious Pilot knew that for envy the religious leaders had delivered Jesus (to be beaten and crucified) - Matthew 27:18
But God! Jesus died on that cross for our sins and rose from the grave and is alive and coming back soon ! Satans plan and plot against King Jesus backfired ! Hallelujah! ✝️
Glory to God!
Every word of God is pure, he is a shield to those who put their trust in Him. He defends his own!
Do you know Him friends? He loves you and cares about you!
I agree with your statement 100 % !! They are so insane...
I wish every judge, lawmaker, attorney, and anyone in the justice system would be required to see this.
Me too. I am amazed how law agencies, judges, attorneys , counselors, , are deceived.
The narcissist that is currently targeting me was able to convince the courts to take parental rights from her child’s father.
Me too. I currently have an RO judgement against me based on lies.
Yes ! The entire Criminal Justice system should take an Abnormal Psychology course !!
@@melodieperkins7080yes ! They are fooled until the truth finally revealed !!
If any person believes a lie about you, let them go immediately as they are a liability...
I discovered they can target a child. They literally are jealous of a child. Insane. I have never had anyone explain these things I have gone through so well! Thank you!
Because children are vulnerable and weaker and they are adult trash
I feel so sorry for the young children of narcissists.
My narcissistic mother was jealous of me. She hated/hates me. Always has.
Me too
Wow.. This is absolutely so spot on. It’s like you’re describing my exact experience recently.. well, over the last 2 years. I’m still hearing horrible things she says about me that are all completely false. The damage and impact her smear campaign has had on myself, my reputation and my life as a whole, is incomprehensible. I can’t understand how a human being can treat another human being like this.
HOW do we keep attracting the narcs?s I feel like I am a magnet for it, then once they get you in their sites the entire apartment complex that has never met you is making faces, and avoiding. WHY does it continue to happen?
@@jayneweaver8695 I am a magnet for it too. If you are a naturally impressive person with talents and shine, or you look nice without trying, or you’re just comfortable being yourself and you don’t need others’ attention like they do, you will be targeted.
@@rockstarofredondo I printed this, this should be on every scapegoat webinar, book etc. Thank you very much. : o)
They are not normal human beings, they are demon possessed creatures, sometimes demons in person.
The smear campagne never ends, codependency does when healed. Thank You, Jill!! 💟🌹🌠🌻🎁🍀🌈!!
The smear campaign FAILS the day you write them ALL off
When I divorced my ex husband he said he would annihilate me late me and make my children hate me. That was only the beginning. He carried on his smear campaign and hisVengeful hatred hatred to destroy me financially and emotionally for years. With time help therapy rp and the grace of God I made it through those dark years and I'm healthier than I have ever been.. I love my life now my children and I have a wonderful relationship didn't ship and I encourage anyone one to stay strong pray hard and you will get through it
Narcissism and OCD seem to go together.
It's truly bizarre how long the fixation, stalking and smearing go on.
They’re crazy at the core,
Yes. We were born into a war with only one side being aware of it. (Of course the Bible told us all along but most don't read it).
The weirdest thing is when narcissist gossip about how bad other narcissist is in the family ...
I have OCD and wouldn’t smear someone.
Thank you for this. Just when I thought a specific woman couldn't have more narcissistic tendencies than she already has... she would freak out over someone *accidentally* touching (and not even remotely damaging, *just* touching, with clean hands) any item that she owns. If the item is even *1cm* moved from its place, her anger would be straight up shocking. So this is why.
I was born into a Narcisstic family, so yeah.......not fun. Still living with the fallout from years ago when I was just a child. Permanent damage that will NEVER be repaired. 😒
Sorry to hear that! How has it impacted your relationships with guys or girls?
I can relate to that. In my case both parents are narcs. The whole family is more like a snakepit than an actual sanctuary. So yeah, it's a really nasty experience.
It's been a year since you commented..... But I would just like to say that yes you can heal!
There is a UA-cam channel called the crappy childhood fairy, that I highly highly recommend. She came from horrible family upbringing and has wonderful insights and the steps that you can take to heal.... It's a process.❤
@@astrialindah2773 Thank you so much!🩷🤗
maybe in this material life. but god sees the good in your heart and you will be healed and live in perfect harmony on the other side.
You are so right Demonic toxicity
Because they don’t want you to expose them and the truth!
The narcissist I just got away from basically posted an essay to Facebook about me, calling me cruel, a liar, selfish and of course A NARCISSIST....I was expecting to get hate messages from his Facebook friends but there's been nothing,so clearly they know exactly what his patterns are too
That pretty much nails it. And when it's your family (because of a narc parent or sibling), usually by the time you wake up to the fact that they are your enemies hiding behind a smile, it's far too late. They have been smearing you behind your back your entire life, (under the guise of concern) and made everyone think you are crazy. They also used your intense reactions to their BS as additional "proof" that you are indeed crazy (by pushing your buttons right before extended relatives or friends are coming over)..... Everyone in my family fell for the narc's lies. All duped. I am the Scapegoat who made it out with zero family support (and my "friends" soon followed the same script). All it takes to cause an unforgivable narcissistic injury in these CAINanites, is to tell the truth. About anything. IF it goes against the fake narrative of Public Fool System and TV indoctrination, they will be offended. Their minds will shut down from hearing any truth and they will begin to attack you in some way (usually behind your back because they are feckless cowards).
So true
The TRUTH is my shield! It keeps me safe and aligned with the world. I've had to accept that some people have to stay out of my life, and I will never see them again. It is shocking that lifelong friends could be manipulated and have such poor judgment.
Had an older lady my first week at my new apartment tell me "well you got a settlement" and I could not believe what she said next, I said "what are you talking about?" and she said "isn't that how you can afford to live here?" I never talked to her again, went to the other sidewalk if I saw her coming, she did not like that and I don't think expected it either. Points her finger when I go by if she's talking to a neighbor, then all of a sudden a neighbor, female, I have NEVER seen or met started walking past my apartment window and she had both of her kids touch my car, then had one of them bite the hood, it's a NEW car. Your comments really helped me I'm going to listen to this video a few times. HOW DO I STILL attract Narcs? I haven't talked to any family including my dad for over 3 years now. UGH.
I know. I haven7 brothers and sisters. 6 are narcs. My dad was a horrible narc. I attract them. Would like to be free.
I'm so sorry, that sounds like horrible conditions to have to deal with. Why would the mother teach her kids to disrespect a stranger & your property based off what someone else says? Ridiculous. They're trying yo drive you crazy all because you won't play their game & tell your business. Please take care of your mental health. 🙏🏾💐💛
They CAN target children of those who they want to smear. 100% true. no real explanation or logic for that.
Seen it first hand
You are so so right ! My covert narcissist/sociopath was on a covert smear campaign for the entire 10 years I was with her. She was so manipulative that no one was willing to step up and let me know the despicable lies she told on me. The people that knew and loved me didn’t believe her and stayed in my life. But many acquaintances and not so close friends distanced themselves from me and and I never understood why at the time. She tried to ruin my life in every way possible for her own entertainment. She let her own diabetic teenage son die from her neglect after I divorced her. That is 100% true. You truly have a demon in your life when with a narcissist !
Exactly what my Narc mother and ex mother in law did to me and my kids. Now my adult kids wont speak to me. I overheard my mother's lies she fed my daughter and when I tried to put a stop to her visit, she convinced my ex I was suicidal and he kidnapoed my daughter, took me to court and won custody. My lther was allowed access to my daughter from then on. He only won because he made more money, not that I was unfit said the judge. I was devastated this was in 1995. I still haven't gotten over the depth of Narcs smearing. This isnt the only event. Not the only Narc in my life. Im still no contact with ALL the Narcs and waiting for their final end. My goal is to outlive and be successful despite them.
Thank you Jill!❤😢❤. So disturbing what these sickos do.
Oh, yes, my ex said he would "use the children to hurt me". I had no idea anyone could be so evil.
Before anything, I want to thank Jill Wise for her videos. I have been watching them for a few years now when I realized that I had been dealing with some narcissists in my life (all are gone). However, one of them is truly deadly, and despite a formal complaint against her, she continues to sporadically resurface to see if she could create a scene. It goes as follows:
I've known a female malignant narcissist for almost twenty years now. I met her through work in downtown NYC. While at first, our relationship was merely transactional, because we worked in different units, eventually we began to work together when we both transferred to the Newark office. At first, all went well. Then I noticed that I was doing more than my share of the work, and she would simply not (but expect me to do mine, to make the office look good). Eventually, to make this post short, we had a falling out because she lacked boundaries and her micro-aggressions became macro-aggressions, short of physical.
One day in June of 2019, after a year of silence, in which I thought it was over, I came back from a business trip to find myself accused of being an active shooter and that I had stated so on social media and throughout the office. In fact, nothing could be further from the truth. It was then that I decided to file an EEO complaint not only against her but others who had joined her in a smear campaign that came close to getting me fired and destroying my life. Had I not had documentation going back 7 years to 2012, I would have had no way to prove this progressive level of stalking. I was able to prove my innocence, but the office did not dismiss her because of "lack of candor" but chose to go with "perception." I went through seven panic attacks from July to early March of 2020 even after leaving the unit in October 2019 to move to another floor to work in relative peace., Even then, she still made a point to make herself visible, to come to my floor to use a nearby printer or engage in conversation with office workers, as if she still wanted me to know that she was around.
The result was that I wound up transferring back to NYC, which could not have been a better move as the unit is free of toxicity. Even so, I have had trouble opening up to colleagues, I struggle and continue to wait for the other shoe to drop, for the environment to turn untenable as it had been in Newark. Incredibly, the woman I speak of, who has not been in her previous office (my current place) since she transferred over 20 years ago, decided to make an appearance and visit just this past week. A colleague had informed me she was at the office as I was on the way to work. I felt the old anger (and the old feelings of tension and high anxiety) well inside me. After all, this was the same woman who had participated in character assassination. Wasn't my leaving enough? Couldn't she just let it go? Of course, three years of learning about narcissism have now taught me that these people don't let go. Ever. She had now decided to pay a visit. One that could lead to others since the unit/office engages in office parties.
I almost took that day off. However, my instinct told me to not give in. I would not give her this satisfaction.
When I arrived I marched right up to her, gave her the warmest, most loving hug and a kiss on the cheek, engaged in some over-the-top pleasantries, and asked if her current boss was in fact retiring because I was planning to aggressively pursue his seat. She did not know what to do with herself and left soon after.
This is just a reminder to many that not even state boundaries are enough for a malignant/covert narcissist who uses sugar in her demeanor to hurt others (and has gone to extreme lengths to do so, not just to me, but to others). This is a woman who has a severe case of rheumatoid arthritis, has trouble walking, has diabetes, is living paycheck to paycheck, has been at my agency for 46 years, and cannot retire because she used her retirement to pay for a house (and refinance it), a house that was well over her means. All of her old friends have left. No one present is anyone she knows at a deep level. Meanwhile, I live a happy life, not without its problems, but enriched by art, culture, spirituality, and good friends.
Again, many thanks to Jill Wise for this and many other videos on the topic. Apologies for the length. :)
So vile that they can weaponize a minion to harm you.
VERY IMPORTANT point that I agree with - liars always get their story out first - before you. Strange but majority of people seem to believe the first thing they hear .. so liars use that..
It ruins your life, and the damage caused by the smear campaign lasts forever.
I went through a brutal smear campaign during the final discard conducted by my narcissistic ex-wife. She was very thorough with her smear campaign. I lost everyone in my life as a result of her actions.
I tried to share the truth with people. It was pointless . Did not matter what I said about the truth or facts. People chose to believe her, since she got her false story out first. She even placed a video on Facebook that weaponized her cancer scare against me. I have to admit that was brilliant. She convinced people that I tried to cancel her “medical insurance during her treatment”. Everyone believed her. (Note: You cannot cancel medical insurance on a person in the middle of the service period. I did not even try to do so at all. Discovered later that her Cancer scare was a ruse. I thought she had Stage 4 Follicular Lymphoma; she did not at all; it was just Stage 1. She let me believe this false diagnosis.)
I have gone 100% No Contact; nothing I can do to correct what she did at all.
Sucks!
Yes I can relate to everything you have talked about. I told my narc no, and out of the corner of my eye I could see him raising his cane fixing to strike me. I turned just in time, because he then put it down. He has everyone against me. The Drs and my kids and heaven only knows who else. I don’t trust him at all. They’re more than one in my family.
The smear campaign started in childhood. I didn't know it then however I now know that this was the case. As a teen I caught my sister (2 yrs older) telling lies to my mom. She didn't know I picked up the phone at the same time. 35 plus years have passed and I have gleefully enjoyed my life with her on the other side of the country. Once her son made contact with me and my 2 sibs (having moved to our area), she exploded with hateful letters to me. Every letter was filled with projection, lies, and twisted thoughts on how I had negatively affected her life. I photocopied the letters and provided each of my sibs with the writings. I saw these letters as a window into exactly why I exited her life. No one ever really understood the depth of my commitment to let her go. They get it NOW! When you're the selected target, it is virtually impossible for anyone to understand what transpires with the offender. It just is.
My ex covert narc has now become a spiritual narc but her “Christianity” hasn’t reached me yet but her smear campaign still does!
Sounds like majority of my family
Members. I told them I don’t care how many rocks you throw at me, I will not stop achieving my goals!!!
Hi Jill, I want to thank you again for supporting victims of narcissistic abuse. My sessions with you extremely helpful in helping me find my way out of the nightmare that I was subjected to. Everything in this video happened to me as you know. And now seven years later things finally seem to have calm down yet I am very aware that once my narc ex gets bored with his current fuel he will find boredom and attempt to pull me back in as he has already done on several occasions. Keep shining your light and doing the good work. I appreciate you and all that you do!!
I miss you Jerilyn!!! Keep in touch! ❤️
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Education about them and this is our weapon! No need to fear- we are stronger and truth is on our side, so don’t be scared beautiful people, We are winners one way or another!🙏💪👏
I am going through smear campaigns from both my parents. Thanks for your videos. They saved my sanity and life. I am grateful
It’s people siding with it that concerns me more when it goes so far
This is vert acurate information in my 55 years of experience. It is very powerful to hear outwardly expressed what has been hidden and the anger you express is healing. Thank you
Years, just crazy? My father died when I was 12, this crap started when I moved out of state and my crazy relatives referred to as abandoning them, If their hooked up with community groups(Joiner types) their crazy will follow you everywhere. This is a great video. Ive shared it alot. Document everything, working toward eventual Federal Prosecution
Great point!
You are so incredibly spot on. I’m dealing with this currently & taking legal action against them.
Jill I am having a lot of difficulty with some things that has happened to me. You just uncovered something in my mind. And all of these things happened to me and my wife. I'm really blessed that they did not succeed in separating us. I wanted to tell people what was going on. I was really confused. I wanted to warn people and let them know how wicked these people were. I suppressed my feelings and I became really really bitter and angry. They taunted me and I really did want to fight. But it was like God was saying that he would fight my battle. So I destroyed all the evidence. It's been now almost 10 years. I have really struggled with this. I believe that God will turn this around for my good. Putting a bandaid on the wound and saying it will be alright does not stop the pain. But I do find comfort in the Bible and watching your videos and videos from a 2 others. I'm grateful for a few things. I learned that I have enemies and I have learned more about me and I I understand the Bible alot more.
"For they do not sleep unless they have done evil; And their sleep is taken away unless they make someone fall." Proverbs 4:16
"Many a time they have persecuted me from my youth, but they have not prevailed against me. The plowmen (narcs) plowed over my back (slandered, betrayed, disrespected, abused), they made their furrows long (turned everyone against you before you knew what was going on) The LORD is righteous; He has cut me asunder from the cords of the wicked.…" Psalm 129:3-5
Psalm 124:6-8 "Blessed be the LORD, who has not given us as prey to their teeth. Our soul has escaped like a bird from the snare of the fowler; the net is torn, and we have slipped away. Our help is in the name of the LORD, the Maker of heaven and earth.…"
"I am become a stranger unto my brethren, and an alien unto my mother's children." Psalm 69:8
"Send thine hand from above; rid me, and deliver me out of great waters, from the hand of strange children; Whose mouth speaketh vanity, and their right hand is a right hand of falsehood." Psalm 144:7-8
@@reesedaniel5835 thank you 😊. ...and also thank you for taking the time to comment. The book of Psalms and Isaiah really helped me.
@@reesedaniel5835 that really put a smile on my face. I hope you have a great day.
I liked this video before watching it...don't need to. Major narcissistic injury occurred.
They LOVE social media, it feeds their false self. It is what it is...repulsive! Thank you Jill 🙏✌️❣️⭐️🙏
It is bad enough that I had to live in an abusive dysfunctional family [no contact 3 years] but to know so many millions around the world are going thru this too is truly heartbreaking. I don't care what kind of smearing they and flying monkeys are doing. I am waiting for Jesus to return. If these narcs and haters do not repent they will get what is coming to them. Hard to repent without a conscience but surely explains the beatings and witchcraft I had to live with. Stay strong people. We will see each other in glory.
Jesus has returned, he is working within us always to use our pain and suffering, as fuel and conviction to ride into the light and reach the heart of God.
I advise not to underestimate gods power by saying you will never be healed. I was born into the same predicament. There is a way out. Trust in the power of God and Jesus is guiding us.
One day you can help others out of the trauma by doing so yourself
All the best
@@joelcoulter6967 that is a very good point. Jesus lives in us and we are spreading love, light and the message which in turn will help others. Thanks.
Maranatha! Only three more years until the tribulation!
@@emmajane646 and may those three years come quickly!😁
If I were to explain the absolute evil deconstruction of my entire life, their would be no stone left unturned ... everything imaginable was done to me and more, do narcissist 's have a manual on how to utterly destroy a person's life leaving just a shell. l was even kidnapped 2yrs after going no contact.... 25yrs later he was still stalking & driving past my home etc. And all because I just walked away, the unbelievable part of the whole nightmare is, all II needed to do to make the nightmare stop, was to put my engagement ring back on & go back
to him....how truely sick is that.....its almost like you the victim, are the drug they must have, some think they own you until the day they die ... if they could haunt your dreams from beyond the grave they would.😔
When you run away you must plan everything covertly and then move far away and never ever contact again! Put a restraining order in!!
Thank you, Jill. I am definitely ready for the "smear" campaign!
This describes my husband's ex so accurately that it's weird... for 21 years, (when we got married), she has systematically and totally ruined his reputation and relationships with all of his children. She appears to be a syrupy sweet southern 'Christian', but is anything but when it comes to him. Malignant Narcissists are vindictive and destructive, and will stop at nothing to completely wreck their target's happiness, especially if they think it makes themselves look either 'good' or like an innocent and heroic victim. It's sometimes hard for me not to feel hatred for this person, but I know she's actually miserable and disturbed. Happily, my kids, all adults now, love him, and that's something.. but he is sad and angry and probably will be for ever, at the loss of his own children. Sorry to go on, your video was just mind blowing for me to watch. Thanks..
I’m going through this now and had been all of my life but didn’t know it. My brother and sister have slandered my name throughout my whole family.
This men went to my church and started the biggest mess, but it all backfired on him.
This is absolutely bang on! And I love how you really make the information impactful. These people are vicious, cold, calculating, vengeful, spiteful…weak, weak little monsters. For me, this is my property manager where I live. He’s made my life an absolute hell. It’s easy to get caught up in being defensive, but pull yourselves back and what you’ll all see is their true agenda and colours are right in front of you. It’s there for you to see. They are sick, sick, creatures.
I'm amazed you know so much about what I'm going through thanks
I love your insight ❤...I was smeared and am still shocked by the evil they do. You help So Many!!!! God Bless You!!!!! And thank you for helping mY FAMILY escape safely and with DIGNITY!!!
Thank you so much for your comment. Means a lot to me, thank you. ❤️❤️❤️
You nailed it! You have the best explanation of any i have heard...thank you!
Sure wish I knew this earlier. Textbook at my last job.
Thank you for this message! What you describe is exactly my ex-husband and his family. My children haven’t spoken to me for two years. By the grace of God, He will unite my children. God is fighting this battle.
Nothing is off limits! Right on...
I am speechless she did not leave one detail out that would require any questions. Thank you for this clear precise and thorough understanding.
So greatful for your encouragement, support and strength, you are so compassionate in your message. I am thankful that I can live again and be fulfilled in all good things that the Lord has blessed me with. Pursuing my goals and dreams and not have an artificial person the Narc holding me captive.
Every time I tried to maintain a relationship with a sibling or even my mother, my father had to insert himself or control how my mother behaved which was a reflection of himself. When I went nc I tried to maintain a relationship with my brother and it was one sided for a while, I felt we weee on the same page for a bit then he disappeared. I can only assume my father found out about it and decided to somehow brainwash him into thinking I was not worth it or even downright brainwashing him to think of me as a problem. At this point I don’t care anymore. For over 40 years I grieved, I went through hell and finally decided to focus on my recovery. It’s just not worth it anymore and I am celebrating how far I have come. If they can’t see my worth honestly it’s their loss.
My experience, EXACTLY 😔
Excellent. Excellent.
NM tried to get Me arrested for "legal transactions with a minor female across state lines".
Yes, I was blown away.
I was in no contact for years. Freakin mind-blowing.
After NM died ( thank God). She got us again.
None of us excepted to receive anything from her estate. Yes, she was very well off.
The amount she left us was embarrassing. But, it was for 'show' to the Church' she cared more about them than she cared for us.
Like I said none of us thought we would receive anything from her.
Thank you.
Peace 💕🇺🇲
I am living through this.
Jill....Thank you. You have brilliantly described my situation. Unfortunately, my immediate "family" will not watch the shared video. I wish they would. They may then "get" the absolute hell that I am going through. xo
Yes this video has to be one of the best in explaining this! I hope they have come around and watched since you posted this. Jill explains what happens incredibly well
If Libel/Slander, REAL crime, REAL abuse and other Tort Law offenses occur, report it ASAP ! #arrests #lawsuits - Jen Gable (Justeson)
Thank you Jill !!!!
Yes I'm going thru this now
Exactly Right..!! I've been going through it 10 years +. I have proof & evidence... Old school.
I wanna encourage your wellness, charge you up with hope, and credit you for being a BEAST at prosocial work. You're making a huge difference with these videos. Your ability to chop it up and give us brass tax is amazing. 😁💯✨💥Have peace from all of us. 💯
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So true. What they have put me through has been a nightmare. I can barely function now. They even tried to take my professional license because of their envy I haven't spoken to my children in 5 years. . I don't know how to cope.
Keep it together Lisa. Their goal is your annihilation. Do not let them win. I know how hard that is. I am 2.5 years out. The stalking, the smear campaign. Stay strong! All the best from Ireland.
Hello Jill;
I’m reading some of the comments on here. It is heart breaking. I too, have lost everything from this kind of abuse. The fact I am not unique in this gives me no comfort. In fact: it is sad. The consolation I have is- I haven’t seen or heard from them in over a year. Hopefully (for me) they are on to other things. She is a marriage counselor now which a PhD. 😳😵💫
Anyway: an especially well done presentation today!
Thanks.
I agree with everything you said. And the narcisists accusations are confessions of what they are guilty of. Thank you.
I just recently exposed my father, after videos like this one, exposed HIM as having been the culprit behind the most damaging things ever done to me. I'm a little afraid of what he's going to do next, but with the advent of Facebook, and having enough mutual contacts, I have made it very public that what they (and even I) thought they knew about me is a fallacy. But I am afraid of what his next move will be.
Happy Sunday To You Jill. You and Thànk You. Husband Has done To me. Has done this to me. he should be careful cause ....I had asked him do you know the difference between embarrassed vs humiliation? He gonna Wish he didn't Thank You For Sharing This Video With us If he does I have something for Him
Í have been living through a smear campaign. Its horrible
This used to haunt me bad. “What he is saying about me? What story is he selling?” Honestly after I took mine back and got to hear the BS I was surprised to see how many people who didn’t even know me DID NOT BELIEVE HIM!! When they heard my BRIEF side.. they all had the same reaction.. I KNEW IT WAS MORE TO IT 😅😂
Thank you Jill for this clear explanation. I can certainly relate…it’s all so sad.
My bf’s father is a textbook case of narcissism. I would watch him berate, belittle, yell, get in faces, humiliate, shame, lie to my bf, his mother, his brothers, his friends, his uncles and anyone who dared make him upset. I didn’t have a mindset of letting someone yell and scream at me with no fight. My father was 6’6 and 300 pounds with an anger problem so because of that I don’t fear men easily as a woman. I also have an insane working knowledge of psychology with an incredible intuition. So I fought back. Boy was that the biggest mistake I ever made. I loved him so much and once that happened my life has been nothing but hell over and over again. The trauma I have is real. It’s taken everything in me not to destroy his father’s life. The pain that man has put me through for no justified reason is out of balance if I was on a seesaw I would be in space. Crazy how narcissist are out here causing the need for therapy.
My wife phoned my work colleagues recently to tell them I’ve done wrong and I’m not a nice person!!
She wants my reputation destroyed
To lose my job & apparently I’ll enjoy prison 🙃 very hurtful and blame shifting and yes there’s kids involved and they’re all siding with the mother!!
As if I haven’t suffered enough although? she’s recently left the property
I’m traumatised and reeling from her abuse!!
I hope you get up out of the ashes your ex wife is trying to put you in and THRIVE. Her behaviour is pure evil. That’s such an evil thing to do. I just don’t understand why does anyone think it’s ok to call someone’s job to speak poorly about them. If you have a disagreement or conflict with someone why involve their livelihood and kids. That’s just evil, petty and so immature. Count your losses and go your way. What’s hard in wishing the person well. And moving in peace. 💕
Jill, I’m 3 years in and it has been sickening. He obliterated my relationships with my adult children, and the only thing I could do was to attend grief counseling and accept that he is a wrecking ball. I left him because of his severe addiction and that was the kickoff. Thanks for your excellent work.❤❤❤
Spot on.
Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge 💯
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Watch out when two narcs decide to run a smear campaign on you, to eachother, and inverted flying monkeys feed into their little dirty pot of sludge.
What I mean by this is I had a boyfriend, whom I wasn't quite aware of his narcissist ways yet, I really just thought I was too blame for all of problems and whatnot. I had a "friend" who was divorced and having difficulty keeping a place to live, everyone who tried to help her seemed to either want to sleep with her or kick her out.
She was bringing over many men to my house with little respect for time of day or if anyone had to work in the morning. I never asked her for anything, except for one time I needed to be picked up, and she gave so much attitude that it led to her being asked to move out.
Well these two people smeared me, to each other, included her family, and I thought those were people that were my friends.
The horrible part was how they had an affair behind my back, apparently she thought they were together-together and I just wouldn't leave, after being asked. I was not asked. I was further isolated, told I was making up stories about my suspicions, and he Even pretended to lose my car keys.
It all came out when someone decided it was time for her to move in with him. I left. They deserve eachother.
Now, though, he has since moved away from her, and moved out of his old house, and got the apartment next to the one I got. And wants to act as if nothing happened.
Nope. Good god, no.
Dear Jill you explained this phenomenon so thoroughly and accurate.! This is exactly what I had to put up my whole life until she passed away. The ripple-effects are still visible years after she is no more.
I have lived this nightmare, (literally) for a few decades and I am still being smeared and lied about and hurt in any way possible by the narcissist who abuses me. It is my sister and I am not going to let her get away with it anymore. I am finally about to either get away through going no contact or life ends.
What was very convenient for me at the time three years ago when I kicked my ex narc out of my house is this: I didn’t like his family and could care less what they thought of me and I didn’t like his friends either so whatever he said about me had no effect on me whatsoever :-). Plus I’m not on social media except for Quora and UA-cam so I really wasn’t privy to it whatsoever!
Wow. That explains why no matter what I did for my kids, they still didn’t respect me. My ex wife is conducting a smear campaign behind my back. 😮
Everything you said!!! This is what she has done to my brother!
Wow. So true
Thanks for all of your time tested advice. Like for example not spending anything on expensive looking luxuries ever regardless of how little the cost was while it being a vintage find at say a second hand store. It is starting to get so predictable concerning where and when and to whom all the smear campaign efforts are going to be done next. Thanks for agreeing with me that some people, like children dependant on the narcissist. doesn't have a choice when having to be picking sides. I am starting to recognize the earliest signs that I may be trying to relate with someone who is probable sooner or later willing to become another flying monkey for the original narcissistic cause.
I’ve been the target of my MIL’s smear campaign for 22 years now. Her tactics almost destroyed my marriage several years ago when she managed to convince my husband that I was an evil bitch and encouraged him to have an affair as a way out. She is so jealous of me and it’s so childish. I’m very confident in who I am, so I’ve managed to make it through fairly unscathed, but I won’t say it doesn’t wear on you and tear you down at times. Bless all of us who have had to endure this.
Wow amazing video! The last part “projection” is absolutely true
I can totally agree to this video and recognize a lot what is told. I had a relationship with a covert narcissist person. She is just an insecure, frustrated, damaged, angry, sick, immature and coward person.
She also tried to start a smear campaign against me. We both work(ed) for the same organization, so she played the victim the whole time after our relationship ended.
I confronted her in front of our colleagues. Yes, it was not professional, but after that she didn't do anything anymore against me.
She thought that I wouldn't do that.
I feel very sad for her two young children who are also victims in this tragedy.
It has been more then 3,5 years ago since I ended this fake relationship.
Very demonic 😮
My dad said awful things about me to my in-laws I cried but m taking my life back u r 💯 right
Thanks for your advice, I look forward to hear you again. God bless you 🙏🙏❤️❤️
I’ve had this happen by family as well as a sick “friend”
Parish Charles you hit the nail on the head as usual You're fantastic
Yes this is true. my ex would force me to take drugs so he could tell everyone I was an addict. The break up had to be my fault. Thank God 🙏🏾 the police finally arrested him. Saved my life
Sounds like they can be dangerous.
for a while I thought maybe I hadn't been doing enough for her. Has it felt like she was trying to drill that into my head. I have been trying to understand and cope with why she would do this to me. The weird accusations and starting confrontations for no reason started out slow. Until one day I just said enough Grabbed what clothes I could and my dog and told her I'm leaving and wanted to break up with her. That threw her in such a rage I've never seen before. As I'm sitting at the gas station four cops arrived and rushed towards me with guns drawn as if I was a terrorist or had murdered someone. She had called the cops and said that I had hit her and was accusing me of being a pedophile. Long story short I had facts and truth and a video of when I had left. And Mark's on my face and body where she had hit me. 3 hours later I was released and they took her to jail. After that day it has been Non-Stop slandering of me on social media for about a year. And it wasn't just a post once a week it was four or five a day and still going on. I do not wish this kind of abuse on anybody. I didn't think it would affect me but over time it has slowly wore me down physically and psychologically. It just seems like this is never ending the legal part of it is dragging on . I feel I have a direction on how to heal. Thank you for your video.
I am sorry this is happening to you. God will get you through this. We were never meant to be the Scapegoat. We cannot wash away their sins with our blood. Only Jesus can pay for their sins. If she accused you of pedophilia, it is likely that she is the pedophile. Remember they project their sins onto us as the Scapegoat.
After ,24 years I went back to the same town started right back up where they left off go away and don't come back...ever😢😢😢😢😮😮😮
They have done this a few times already including cursing my dog before he died which is a devastating thing to ever do
Though I understand this well I have never heard it put In such an insightful , powerful yet thoughtful manner.
My MIL does this to her children and grandchildren. It was so shocking once we realized what was happening.