Yup. This is why I make sure I don't let someone's looks affect how I treat them. I feel like most people who have been on both sides of the weight loss/gain can understand this.
Oh, undoubtedly. Mid fifties - way over weight. 100% invisible. Convinced I could take off on a robbery crime spree - as me- go back home and use the things. And no one would remember or suspect me. lol.
I’ve noticed that the act of getting dressed in the morning puts you in a mood for the day. And if your clothes fit and you feel pretty, your day will be different. ❤
We live in a very superficial world. I've experienced both sides of the spectrum myself and it's insane how differently you're treated when you're slim.
Absolutely true. My close family treated me like I was a completely different person. (??) there was another problem with other people. I experienced some resentment and jealously thinly disguised. “You’re too thin”. I was not. It freaked me out so much that I gained some of the weight back but I am losing it again and not listening to ANYONE. The too thin - I looked remarkable and fabulous. So much so that they “ remarked”.
I do believe that people treat me different as a bigger gal and as i lose weight. You are invisible as a bigger person .Of course as you feel more confident when u lose weight it helps to bring out your personality . I had lost 70 lbs in the past and then regained the 70 and plus, this has been an ongoing thing over 20 years have a lot of experiences at different weights. I’m 50 now so I’m kinda like “ screw you i don’t care what i think of MY body “ , I’m down 40 lbs now and I’m looking to be healthier . My 25 y/o daughter is losing as well and she is down 56 lbs . Good to have a buddy to lose weight with ! Love ur channel
I agree ~ our vibes that we put off ( when feeling good about ourselves) is totally different than our “insecure, I wanna hide my body from the world” vibes. We carry ourselves differently when we feel confident & the public sees that & are often drawn to this positivity.
😊so love 💗 this … our vibes we put out is such a Big piece of the reaction/ attitude we receive in response from others. Good 😊 reminder, we are allowed to carry ourselves with confidence, whatever size we happen to be at the currently moment.🥰
I enjoy hearing your thoughts. I have lost 87 lbs. I live in Houston, Texas, US, for cultural context. The men who work as groundskeepers in my neighborhood now say hello to me first. Before, I would greet them first and they would literally look at me and say nothing - no response. So, I am in my villain era. I was WAY nicer and friendlier when I was fat. The behavior of the men I encounter daily in my neighborhood is only one example of the change in people's behavior. When men approach and talk to me in stores, I am in shock. I stand there, confused, because it never happened 87 pounds ago. I leave as quickly as possible because it is unwelcome and makes me very uncomfortable.
Don't respond to males as far as being looked at and don't extend yourself first. I keep them in my periphery but I don't give them any energy. Whether they like you or not - it's still the same low vibration from them, disgust to make themselves feel superior or grasping to feed off your life force. This is not woo-woo. We need to protect ourselves. This approach will vastly improve your quality of life.
The sad thing is that they still think its an argument to be skinny because one apparently deserves being treated like trash, not just ignored, trash, when you have too much weight. They dont even understand the problem and will say „why didnt you just loose weight earlier, as you can see THAT makes dou happier now.“ I think many people forget that even if they become skinny for the first time that their health and weight is not the same as how this fatphobic world treated you before. This needs to be separated, because these people dont stop to confuse loving yourself and thinking your weight is healthy when being obese. They dont get the damn difference that even if you lost weight because you suffered, it didnt helped to reach that as they claimed. Ones mind is shattered even after losing weight and without making people feel so miserable they mightve kept their mental health and lost weight for their health wither way.
Honestly this just makes me really sad. I've never been very overweight, but rather "midsize", and I've always had a suspicion that people just don't like me as much because of my size, and it sucks knowing that I can't confirm that yet since I haven't lost much weight before. This is something that I hear a lot though, and it plays a huge part in my binge eating. I often emotionally eat purely out of how frustrated and awful I feel at the thought that I will never truly feel loveable until I look better. I wish I could value myself more for my personality and talents and whatnot, but I want so desperately to like my body too.
I was nicer before Now I don’t put up with fake ppl Skinny privilege is a thing Ppl that know me all my life are now paying attention and never did before
Hi Carla, I’m a gay man who loves watching your videos. You talk about weight loss in such a therapeutic, vulnerable way that no one else here on YT is doing. I’ve struggled with my weight now since Covid 2020. I was very ill at one time, going from severely underweight and skeletal, to developing depression after a mental health crisis and ballooning to about 40 to 50 lbs overweight. As a gay man in the gay world, you feel undesirable even just being slightly overweight. There is a toxic standard, one where “twinks” or super fit men, are the ones on social media, dating apps etc who get the vast majority of visibility and likes. It makes those of us with not so perfect bodies feel like chopped liver. Thankfully I have a partner now who for the past 3 years has loved me regardless. I am still trying to lose weight, though I’ve gone up and down with weight as I’ve still struggled with my mental health. Hopefully I can get to my weight loss goal one day!
Paul thank you so much for sharing your experience with us. It's so interesting to hear your perspective and lived experience as a gay man. I'm so delighted you have a partner who treats you with the value and respect you deserve. Sending you so much love xx
I grew up very fit. Mostly because I was expected to and disordered eating. The change from getting all the attention, wanted and unwanted, to then very little was jarring. But then it became a safety blanket for me. I wasn't approached and I liked it that way. I think that's why I've been comfortable for so long in my larger body. So now that I'm trying to lose the bulk of weight I put on, I struggle with how to plan for that eventual feeling again. A great video and I'm glad you opened this conversation. It's a baffling one to explain to others that haven't experienced the massive swings
Omg! I’ve never heard anyone else talk about this! Our stories are literally word for word. Skinny my whole teenage life to very overweight in my adult life and now starting weight-loss at 31. I’m having moments of pure anxiety thinking about possible attention again and it’s really hard to explain or get people to understand. Honestly, getting attention my whole young life caused havoc on my life and left me with some serious life long mental battles even over a decade later. But one thing that does help me a little bit is, I’m now a full grown adult living my life around full grown adults and we simply don’t get treated and manipulated the same way we used to as when we were young, impressionable, vulnerable, etc.. despite all the weight I have grown very confident and strong with who I am in the inside and I would never put myself in situations to be taken advantage of again today and it would be rare to happen becuase adults usually don’t act like teenagers
I was never very fit and always had difficulty in relationships for various reasons other than weight, but lately as I became considerably bigger I noticed some guys trying to approach me in a cheap way, seeing me as easy prey. It’s disgusting really.
Yeah, media in the late 90s and early 2000s was wild. I had a very cute body when I was a teen. Couldn't see it at all. I feel like I get more attention now that I'm only about 10lbs away from a healthy weight range and working out 3-5xs a week, but I also expect more attention now. I find myself attractive, so other people are more prone to find me attractive.
I really love watching your videos, it's become a staple now in my life on the treadmill whilst doing bodyslims, down 20 pounds in 5 weeks and you have been such a motivating influence, I hope your back is doing OK ❤ love from limerick
Thank you for sharing with us once again. I was nodding my head throughout and at times wanted to cry realizing some more harm that I've done to myself over hateful self talk and what I've put up with. Thank you again for your honesty and sharing. ❤
I have been that young perfect-sized woman. So much so that in my late 20s I worked in the fashion industry, and the execs would use me as a fit model because they said I was the perfect body type. Oddly enough, I thought I was fat at the time. Now I am working to get the weight off, yet I have never stopped getting the same amount of attention. I never lost my bubbly friendly personality, and I carry myself like a BOSS! I walk with intention and purpose. I have overheard people say to one another, "Wow! She knows what she wants and is going to get it!" I rarely date these days, but that is because it is not a priority, and they have to fit my standards for me. I am not easily attracted to men, I actually have to get to know them before I will consider dating them. I don't have a wall up, I have boundaries and standards and I still have 98lbs to lose so about 7 stone in the UK. However, that figure was reached with major muscle building as part of my weight loss plan. I don't want to be skinny, I want to be a lean mean fit woman.
I loved this video and this topic so much. I think a part of the reason we are “nicer” and “more approachable” when we’re smaller has a lot to do with how people treat us.. of course we show up in a more positive light when people are willing to look at us and interact with us.
what an important topic Carla. Your description of relationships, & how they may or may not shift with changed dynamics as your weight & appearance shifts is so accurate. Our appearance is a huge aspect of how people judge us, & especially for those of us who have been heavy for multiple years of our lives.. it is a huge impact psychologically.
You're 100% right that a big part of it is self-confidence and openness. I know that I myself am more approachable and friendly now at my highest weight than I was sixty pounds ago-because I did a lot of growth on the inside. (Actually, I'm ten pounds down from my highest weight as of yesterday, partly thanks to finding your videos!)
I would love a video on traveling and eating out or dieting while being a guest at someone else’s home! Or how to be polite to others but also saying no to food.
Yup 🤗 i have this childhood memory for when i was around 10 or 12 years (overweight) all my friends were normal skinny girl and i was the only fat one. A time came when one of the was talking to boys and asked what he thinks about her friends and when it came to me he said something like “shes fat and ugly” … most of the girls laughed at his comment except my sister, which i cant forget her face of expression, and it is a memory in its whole that i never forget. After losing weight at around age 16, everyone except my family and closest friends started treating me differently.. but the memory never goes away.
It’s so important to value ourselves and hold on to that self esteem no matter what our size. That said I have always felt much more confident when I am slimmer. Having yo-yo dieted for years I am now on round 2 of Body Slims and succeeding because it has changed my mindset and my relationship with food, it’s helped me focus and give time for myself for a change. I think young people are still up against it, many have self doubts with regard to image and are under pressure from so many areas. Great video thanks.
People are comfortable being around you as long as they don't see you as a threat or competition- Once you lose weight and become more attractive, you're not going to have to many friends because you would bring out the insecurities in them.
Wow! It was like you were telling my life story. It is hard to look back and acknowledge the scraps of attention I clung on to. I don’t even know if I could have helped her at the time. I almost had to grow out of the “looks are everything” mentality. It was hard in so many ways. I have made peace with some of my more toxic friends. Even though they were not particularly good for me, we did need each other at the time. Like you said we just eventually grew apart. I also have a handful of friends and family who have loved me and have always seen the true core of who I am and I am so lucky to have them in my life. I want to show everyone your video to explain how I felt and how I lived when I was younger and heavier. I’m still overweight now but for anyone going through this, you can make it out.
Wow, this is a brave topic. I have weight wise exploded and imploded over years. To be honest I have to be comfortable myself in my own skin depending on my life stages and phases. Sometimes I think my excess fat has protected me in time I was VERY vulnerable. It's funny but it can also be a buffer to put off opportunist who are shallow in thinking that only super skinny are sexy and intelligent. I'm rather voluptuous and that beats both skinny and overweight. So I'm happy.
I agree, when I was overweight, I was invisible for a long time but when I lost weight, I started to see how people would treat me and people would instantly gravitate towards me, ask me random dumb ass questions that didn't make any sense " Oh do you know what color is the sky is, do you know what time midnight, or do you know how far is across the street is" a bunch of blah, blah, blah--I came to the realization that nobody is nice unless they find something valuable that you can do for them..
Thank you for sharing these intimate thought and feelings Carla. You are amazing and so inspiring! Thanks to you, I finally priorirised myself and set off on my weight loss journey with the amazing body slims! So much of what you are saying here resonates with me xxx
Love this video Carla, thanks sharing. I remember a male family member saying to teenage me that i liked the frontwoman from Cascada because she was "big like me".... she was not a big woman. So odd to look back on 🤯
Carla , thank you so much for your vulnerability and honesty. It takes strength to share on this level. I have been there and have never been this honest with myself. Thank you from my heart for making me feel that it is okay, I am okay and worthy 🤗💗💖💞
I’ve never heard a voice so soothing in all my life. Found you because I’m genuinely trying to get motivation for weight loss and I now end up putting your videos on to fall asleep ❤😂
Wow this is an amazing video. I have never seen someone expand on the inner change that may affect the way people treat you . Not just because of your weight. Also I appreciate your transparency when speaking about your sister. That you were "big together" and working through that. Thank you for this video
Your channel is great. I lost 60 pounds. I thought I would NEVER gain anything more than about 5 more pounds. And frankly I didn’t need to gain the five but got shamed into it… then the train left the station. I have had so many food pushers in my life, and I have also had neglect as a child so that I was always feeling like I didn’t have food. I worked through that part, but hadn’t completely worked through the less common food pushing part. Food pushing if one takes it Lon can lead to hormonal changes -ie someone seeming to force me into eating past what I actually wanted set up a whole runaway train. I now realize this problem. One of the great things is the feeling of control over oneself. That I loved and that I am getting back. I had a food coach and it worked for a while but then I got back to a place where I needed different nutrition and guidance. The most important lesson I have learned is that I must listen to myself. I’m also going to contemplate the why again…. I have a lot of them but need to remember what they are on a consistent basis, as I am in “ the middle” that you discussed.
The answer to the title of your vodeo is "Yes fullstop" from my perspective I have been on both sides of the coin. The fact is it happens both intentionally and unintentionally and most people have only good intent (even when the treatment is negative) in my culture/environment.
I totally agree with you. Much of it is completely unintentional. But beyond that I have released that if I don]t get behind myself and ignore them one way or another - that it’s an issue. I have had people thin shame me when I lost weight. They were so shocked. I just simply looked completely different - like Carla. I will never never never listen to the thin shaming again. That was a huge lesson, because it made me gain back some of the weight. Coming off again now… and I won’t let that “influence” me again.
This video gave me chills, Carla, chills. I immediately went back and relistened to it. The part about men only giving you morsels (no texting or plans) and the hideous man that liked larger women because they were more grateful😮. The 90’s/2000’s videos where women were picked apart was a confirmation that, yes, it was that toxic of an environment to grow up in. Your truth and your words are powerful. They are like a blunt instrument that has literally unblocked something in me and got me seeing certain things in a whole new light. Thank you.
It’s so great to have these videos so we don’t feel like we are going mad. I’ve had the walking along thinking I had something on me as I noticed so many men staring and it made me feel so vulnerable, so grateful to you 🙏
Thank you Carla , I completely admire and respect your vulnerability in your videos particularly this one, you are so genuine and self aware, huge congratulations on all the incredible work you have done, I’m in awe of you 💗Joanne 😘
I’ve been thinking about you saying that some people commented that you were pretty before you lost the excess weight and I might easily have stated that too so apologies if I offended you as I honestly didn’t mean any disrespect, ❤Joanne
I can totally relate to this its disgusting how the world and people treat you when you’re in a bigger body 😭. Congratulations on your weight loss happy for you ❤️❤️
In my opinion,yes they actually do. When I was 214lbs people were more standoffish with me,but then again I was gothic then so I looked pretty unapproachable.😆We all grow up in our own time.🤪But now that i'm 125lbs people(and yes mostly men🤪)are a lot kinder and friendly. Blessed Be⭐and positive energy.🌻
Do you mind sharing how tall you are? That’s such an impressive amount to lose! I’m at 220 lbs now and would love to get back to 160 when people were much friendlier to me!
I relate so much to all of this. I've been thinking about this a lot latel and found it to be hard to put into words. This is it, almost exact. Thank you so much for sharing. ❤
Thanks Carla for such a powerful video. I always thought my mind was playing tricks on me when I felt I was treated different in a slimmer form and overweight version of myself. This video has shown me that in as much the world was treating me somehow, I, myself, was treating myself differently. As an overweight person I felt I deserved it when people spoke to me anyhow. This was my reality in my personal life and professional life. Working on changing this.
The topic of self esteem is very important to to be worked on and given thought and attention. After lose the weight and what not when i finally went for a relationship which wa basically first year after high school, i selected the wrong abusive person. So yeah, please let’s put our true selves always first no matter our size.
I kind of went the opposite way somehow? I'm still fat, I just kind of refuse to be invisible. This creates a different problem, where because I am fat I feel like I need to justify my existence some other way - be the funniest or smartest person in the room, be the friendliest, be the most talented or the most original. It's exhausting, and I never feel like it's enough. But I relate to so much of what you've said. I spent my childhood and my early teens putting on an emotional armor and never letting anyone near me and generally trying to be as invisible as possible. But I always wanted to be seen and admired. Then in high school I discovered I had an innate talent for singing and I started performing in school functions and in bands with friends. I was no longer invisible and I let myself become a social butterfly. Everyone knew who I was, and at least when I was performing I must have exuded this impossible confidence because I don't remember ever being bullied in high school for being overweight anymore (though I was just piling on the weight). It was like a new armor, one where I got to experience some of the admiration I imagine beautiful women can't quite get away from. Looking back on it I think it's strange how confident I was on stage compared to how clueless and hurting and utterly worthless I felt on the inside. Around the same time I was beginning to experiment with sexuality (as teenagers do) and in the beginning it was primarily a way to get attention and to feel love, but it was anything but. I kept finding myself in these situationships that led nowhere and made me feel like absolute crap, and my emotional armor was trying to convince me that I don't need more. It was only after years with my current partner that I began to see myself through his eyes and I began to untangle some of these problematic patterns, and accepting myself. Now I'm still very overweight, so I don't know what it would be like for me in a "normal" body, but I'm starting to untangle these complicated feelings and I'm trying to not put so much pressure on myself. I deserve to exist even if I'm not the most [insert whatever trait I think I need to be] in the room. Does any of this make sense?
I was not overweight as a teenager. In fact, I was very "attractive", and had what has come to be called "pretty privilege." And my experience with dating and sexuality was similar to yours. I wanted to be loved and accepted for me, not for my looks. My first husband told me after our divorce that I was "the girl of his dreams" and that he only pursued me because everyone said he could never have me. I was a trophy. But then I gained a lot of weight. I feel like the people who love me now, they love me for who I am. I have remarried, and I was heavier when I started dating my husband. He has been very encouraging on my weight loss journey, but I know he loves me and not my looks.
Plus my personality has not changed, some people might but I from experience reject the idea it’s me that perpetuated peoples words or attitudes except because of my fat.
Ill never get over the wildness that geri was considered the 'fat one'! She was always my favourite at age 12 when i was obsessed with the spice girls. Still love her look (and have the same hair as in that photo you showed of her at 39 lol)
Were there any books that helped you make this fantastic change, you are right, you are treated differently by your appearance, even I don't ike myself being overweight....
I would like to hear more about your therapy experience with this. Years ago I once had a therapist say "I'm not going to help you lose weight" in a way that meant "that's vanity." Not my therapist after that.
When I lost all my weight at 17, all of a sudden the guys were ignoring my friend and asking me out. It was a death of our friendship. It was very hard for my friend but it was like a drug at the time
For me it was the other way I was always small but then gained 40kg due to health issues. When I was small (as I was extremely small with no stomach) I remember the larger people at work staring at my stomach. I only get this now that I'm bigger because my physique was amazing. Not that I realised it then. Now of course, I'd give anything to go back to that but I'm just amazed how exhausting it is being bigger. Sweating, walking just in general it's harder living. I'm in the process of losing again. I lost 8 then put it back on due to a chronic pain condition. I took me about 6 months to lose 8kg. I thought the weight would just come off but it didn't! Being bigger makes me a snappy person and just generally unhappy. Previously I've been really happy so that is hard to take. But when people at work say stuff about customers like what a fat so and so, I think that is what I'm considered. Also just the smell of yourself as well is odd. And I'm only noticing because I put the weight on fairly quickly. I feel like I emit a sweet smell. But it's weird.
I understand people find you less attractive when you are overweight but the dehumanization is far beyond that that people are exposed to. I always thought i was fat and thats why nobody liked me and my body, however it seems in elementary school my peers couldnt tell the difference between being fat and being tall and having different proportions (wider hips and shoulders) i could piggy bag my peers and was treated like a monster despite being healthy. In the 13 years of school i was not overweight but treated as such and only received rejection and insults without even talking to any boy. They never stopped to label me as fat, ugly or disgusting even though nothing was the case. Now i really gained weight since university (around 24 y im now 29y) because i have PTSD from all of this and had undiagnosed ADHD. I received hurtful comments from young Men. They come up to me just to insult me or even tried to pass their junk to me as if i was there to care for their trash. I have pink hair and got confused with other pink haired girls and quickly called out as uglier version of whoever they thought of when they saw me. This is a combination of me wearing no make up and not being perfectly slim. Its sad to be treated and rejected that way without even engaging with anybody and minding your own business. I just dont get why some people walk up to strangers, to bodyshame them and making fun of them. Tbh as long as i am 1,90m not forcing myself to wear make up too and get down to a perfect shape people will treat me less for being different. And it buffles me how alot of people (im sorry but its true, MEN) dont understand that everyone other woman wears Make Up and doesn’t lool better without it. I have good skin and actually i think my face is perfectly ok from the front. Tbh I was in shock when I saw massivly overweight people being treated nicely and normal, i was so damaged from my experiences how others deserved that despite being fat but not me. But the environment was different. People were grown up and emotionally ok instead of the people in school that will find something to hurt you with no matter what. So yeah i can pretty much confirm everything even though i was healthy most of the time according to BMI but had other proportions and a little stomach. I degraded myself so much that everyone picked up how vulnerable I are and was. When i now look at my old photos tears run down my face because i had a warped view of myself and that i looked like a noodle rather than fat especially when i was doing sport. Still i had the exact same thought, just that nobody gave me any positive attention and there were not even those that said that would get fat chicks or fetishize me (happily). Its one thing to be invisible and the other to be constantly insulted waiting for one single compliment from a Guy. That one person would not treat me like human trash or a monster/alien that failed to be a proper Woman. When i look at very early photos where i was like 5 I was so skinny like every other kid but i had a tiny bit more in elementary school. My parents said i was puffering because i was growing like there is no tomorrow i was 1,80m with 12 like why does it even matter if im perfectly skinny or not when my body goes trough something nothing else was having.
Absolutely people treat you better. They actually listen to you I’ve found when you are slimmer, whereas when you are fat there is that feeling of being barely tolerated. I think it runs deeper than this though. It is also if you become attractive when you lose weight (which you are). I was anorexic throughout my 20s and gave myself early infertility and other complications which caused me to gain a lot of weight very quickly. I went upto 20 stone (ironic isn’t it), and my mental health took a noisedive. I’m not sure if this is a chicken or an egg situation insofar as did I put on weight because of my mental illness or was my mental state due to my weight. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ Either way I lost a lot of weight and for the first time in my life I am a healthy weight and feel healthy emotionally and mentally as well. I have seen the way society treats someone who was 6st vs someone who was 20st and finally someone who is a healthy weight (I don’t weigh now but am a size 10-12). It is shocking how society almost worships thinness. I couldn’t go out without girls talking about my thin arms or thigh gap (and yet I was more unhealthy then than I was when I was obese). At my biggest people were dismissive, cruel and it was lonely because nobody wanted to even see you. I would say that I am reasonably attractive so when I lost the weight I became attractive again and I’ve noticed how I am suddenly included in social interactions in a way that I wasn’t before. People look at you and smile and it is just these little things that help you feel relevant. I feel so sorry for super morbidly obese people because I have an empathy now that I didn’t have before and understand how a lot of the time it is a reflection of their inner state.
I think I ”helped” people to think less of me (still fat, no knowledge about the skinny side yet) The happy clown, always smiling and laughing outside 🎭, and also the fat dumb blond girl. (I dont use those words now, but did. ) Im little ashamed, but used to take advantage of it. at the car test (mandatory check every year) "no, shouldn't there be large rust holes in the supporting frame??? I thought it was like that on that model” was able to get my cars out of immediate driving ban and I got time to repair. But I don't know if it was the fat or the blonde, or both reasons.
Why are you always speaking so softlyyy and slowwllyyy. Is there a sleeping baby in the next room? Or is this your I'm trying to sound dainty and cute voice? If it's the latter, it's not cute it's just annoying to have to increase the playback speed to 1.75x🙄
Wow this is an amazing video. I have never seen someone expand on the inner change that may affect the way people treat you . Not just because of your weight. Also I appreciate your transparency when speaking about your sister. That you were "big together" and working through that. Thank you for this video
Yes, you’re treated better when slimmer.
Sad, but 100% true. People are superficial.
Yup. This is why I make sure I don't let someone's looks affect how I treat them. I feel like most people who have been on both sides of the weight loss/gain can understand this.
@@destinyhntrI understand both because I’ve experienced it really is life changing how different life is
Oh, undoubtedly. Mid fifties - way over weight. 100% invisible.
Convinced I could take off on a robbery crime spree - as me- go back home and use the things. And no one would remember or suspect me. lol.
I’ve noticed that the act of getting dressed in the morning puts you in a mood for the day. And if your clothes fit and you feel pretty, your day will be different. ❤
This is very true for me as well. xx
💯.I do that every day. I stay home most of the time and I get questioned constantly about why I’m dressed up.
We live in a very superficial world. I've experienced both sides of the spectrum myself and it's insane how differently you're treated when you're slim.
Absolutely true. My close family treated me like I was a completely different person. (??) there was another problem with other people. I experienced some resentment and jealously thinly disguised. “You’re too thin”. I was not. It freaked me out so much that I gained some of the weight back but I am losing it again and not listening to ANYONE. The too thin - I looked remarkable and fabulous. So much so that they “ remarked”.
@lisabahouth8893 Good for you. Weightloss is hard as hell and anyone not cheering your progress needs to be out of your life 👍
I do believe that people treat me different as a bigger gal and as i lose weight. You are invisible as a bigger person .Of course as you feel more confident when u lose weight it helps to bring out your personality . I had lost 70 lbs in the past and then regained the 70 and plus, this has been an ongoing thing over 20 years have a lot of experiences at different weights. I’m 50 now so I’m kinda like “ screw you i don’t care what i think of MY body “ , I’m down 40 lbs now and I’m looking to be healthier . My 25 y/o daughter is losing as well and she is down 56 lbs . Good to have a buddy to lose weight with ! Love ur channel
I agree ~ our vibes that we put off ( when feeling good about ourselves) is totally different than our “insecure, I wanna hide my body from the world” vibes. We carry ourselves differently when we feel confident & the public sees that & are often drawn to this positivity.
😊so love 💗 this … our vibes we put out is such a Big piece of the reaction/ attitude we receive in response from others. Good 😊 reminder, we are allowed to carry ourselves with confidence, whatever size we happen to be at the currently moment.🥰
Hi Carla..great video ❤❤❤..people can be very shallow..its gud 2 rise above it ..
I enjoy hearing your thoughts. I have lost 87 lbs. I live in Houston, Texas, US, for cultural context. The men who work as groundskeepers in my neighborhood now say hello to me first. Before, I would greet them first and they would literally look at me and say nothing - no response. So, I am in my villain era. I was WAY nicer and friendlier when I was fat. The behavior of the men I encounter daily in my neighborhood is only one example of the change in people's behavior. When men approach and talk to me in stores, I am in shock. I stand there, confused, because it never happened 87 pounds ago. I leave as quickly as possible because it is unwelcome and makes me very uncomfortable.
Don't respond to males as far as being looked at and don't extend yourself first. I keep them in my periphery but I don't give them any energy. Whether they like you or not - it's still the same low vibration from them, disgust to make themselves feel superior or grasping to feed off your life force. This is not woo-woo. We need to protect ourselves. This approach will vastly improve your quality of life.
The sad thing is that they still think its an argument to be skinny because one apparently deserves being treated like trash, not just ignored, trash, when you have too much weight.
They dont even understand the problem and will say „why didnt you just loose weight earlier, as you can see THAT makes dou happier now.“
I think many people forget that even if they become skinny for the first time that their health and weight is not the same as how this fatphobic world treated you before. This needs to be separated, because these people dont stop to confuse loving yourself and thinking your weight is healthy when being obese. They dont get the damn difference that even if you lost weight because you suffered, it didnt helped to reach that as they claimed.
Ones mind is shattered even after losing weight and without making people feel so miserable they mightve kept their mental health and lost weight for their health wither way.
Honestly this just makes me really sad. I've never been very overweight, but rather "midsize", and I've always had a suspicion that people just don't like me as much because of my size, and it sucks knowing that I can't confirm that yet since I haven't lost much weight before. This is something that I hear a lot though, and it plays a huge part in my binge eating. I often emotionally eat purely out of how frustrated and awful I feel at the thought that I will never truly feel loveable until I look better. I wish I could value myself more for my personality and talents and whatnot, but I want so desperately to like my body too.
I was nicer before
Now I don’t put up with fake ppl
Skinny privilege is a thing
Ppl that know me all my life are now paying attention and never did before
Hi Carla, I’m a gay man who loves watching your videos. You talk about weight loss in such a therapeutic, vulnerable way that no one else here on YT is doing. I’ve struggled with my weight now since Covid 2020. I was very ill at one time, going from severely underweight and skeletal, to developing depression after a mental health crisis and ballooning to about 40 to 50 lbs overweight. As a gay man in the gay world, you feel undesirable even just being slightly overweight. There is a toxic standard, one where “twinks” or super fit men, are the ones on social media, dating apps etc who get the vast majority of visibility and likes. It makes those of us with not so perfect bodies feel like chopped liver. Thankfully I have a partner now who for the past 3 years has loved me regardless. I am still trying to lose weight, though I’ve gone up and down with weight as I’ve still struggled with my mental health. Hopefully I can get to my weight loss goal one day!
Paul thank you so much for sharing your experience with us. It's so interesting to hear your perspective and lived experience as a gay man. I'm so delighted you have a partner who treats you with the value and respect you deserve. Sending you so much love xx
For sure ! I've been skinny and fat. I have different personalities for each.
Such an interesting and very succinct comment. It's so very true x
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I grew up very fit. Mostly because I was expected to and disordered eating. The change from getting all the attention, wanted and unwanted, to then very little was jarring. But then it became a safety blanket for me. I wasn't approached and I liked it that way. I think that's why I've been comfortable for so long in my larger body.
So now that I'm trying to lose the bulk of weight I put on, I struggle with how to plan for that eventual feeling again.
A great video and I'm glad you opened this conversation. It's a baffling one to explain to others that haven't experienced the massive swings
Omg! I’ve never heard anyone else talk about this! Our stories are literally word for word. Skinny my whole teenage life to very overweight in my adult life and now starting weight-loss at 31. I’m having moments of pure anxiety thinking about possible attention again and it’s really hard to explain or get people to understand. Honestly, getting attention my whole young life caused havoc on my life and left me with some serious life long mental battles even over a decade later. But one thing that does help me a little bit is, I’m now a full grown adult living my life around full grown adults and we simply don’t get treated and manipulated the same way we used to as when we were young, impressionable, vulnerable, etc.. despite all the weight I have grown very confident and strong with who I am in the inside and I would never put myself in situations to be taken advantage of again today and it would be rare to happen becuase adults usually don’t act like teenagers
I was never very fit and always had difficulty in relationships for various reasons other than weight, but lately as I became considerably bigger I noticed some guys trying to approach me in a cheap way, seeing me as easy prey. It’s disgusting really.
just as bad, they're "doing you a favor."
Yeah, media in the late 90s and early 2000s was wild. I had a very cute body when I was a teen. Couldn't see it at all.
I feel like I get more attention now that I'm only about 10lbs away from a healthy weight range and working out 3-5xs a week, but I also expect more attention now. I find myself attractive, so other people are more prone to find me attractive.
I really love watching your videos, it's become a staple now in my life on the treadmill whilst doing bodyslims, down 20 pounds in 5 weeks and you have been such a motivating influence, I hope your back is doing OK ❤ love from limerick
You have the most soothing voice and the calmest energy. ❤
Thank you for sharing with us once again. I was nodding my head throughout and at times wanted to cry realizing some more harm that I've done to myself over hateful self talk and what I've put up with. Thank you again for your honesty and sharing. ❤
I have been that young perfect-sized woman. So much so that in my late 20s I worked in the fashion industry, and the execs would use me as a fit model because they said I was the perfect body type. Oddly enough, I thought I was fat at the time. Now I am working to get the weight off, yet I have never stopped getting the same amount of attention. I never lost my bubbly friendly personality, and I carry myself like a BOSS! I walk with intention and purpose. I have overheard people say to one another, "Wow! She knows what she wants and is going to get it!" I rarely date these days, but that is because it is not a priority, and they have to fit my standards for me. I am not easily attracted to men, I actually have to get to know them before I will consider dating them. I don't have a wall up, I have boundaries and standards and I still have 98lbs to lose so about 7 stone in the UK. However, that figure was reached with major muscle building as part of my weight loss plan. I don't want to be skinny, I want to be a lean mean fit woman.
I loved this video and this topic so much. I think a part of the reason we are “nicer” and “more approachable” when we’re smaller has a lot to do with how people treat us.. of course we show up in a more positive light when people are willing to look at us and interact with us.
what an important topic Carla. Your description of relationships, & how they may or may not shift with changed dynamics as your weight & appearance shifts is so accurate. Our appearance is a huge aspect of how people judge us, & especially for those of us who have been heavy for multiple years of our lives.. it is a huge impact psychologically.
Yup and how we judge ourselves.
You're 100% right that a big part of it is self-confidence and openness. I know that I myself am more approachable and friendly now at my highest weight than I was sixty pounds ago-because I did a lot of growth on the inside. (Actually, I'm ten pounds down from my highest weight as of yesterday, partly thanks to finding your videos!)
Carla you have such wisdom. I hope there's younger women watching and learning from your insights. Thank you from us all. ❤
That's my hope Molly xx thank you for saying so xx
@HalfofCarla Always Carla...you're welcome from my younger self... and me (68!) ❤️
I would love a video on traveling and eating out or dieting while being a guest at someone else’s home! Or how to be polite to others but also saying no to food.
Meals at other people's homes are so hard! I'd love tips on this too as it gets to be holiday times
Yup 🤗 i have this childhood memory for when i was around 10 or 12 years (overweight) all my friends were normal skinny girl and i was the only fat one. A time came when one of the was talking to boys and asked what he thinks about her friends and when it came to me he said something like “shes fat and ugly” … most of the girls laughed at his comment except my sister, which i cant forget her face of expression, and it is a memory in its whole that i never forget. After losing weight at around age 16, everyone except my family and closest friends started treating me differently.. but the memory never goes away.
It’s so important to value ourselves and hold on to that self esteem no matter what our size. That said I have always felt much more confident when I am slimmer. Having yo-yo dieted for years I am now on round 2 of Body Slims and succeeding because it has changed my mindset and my relationship with food, it’s helped me focus and give time for myself for a change.
I think young people are still up against it, many have self doubts with regard to image and are under pressure from so many areas.
Great video thanks.
People are comfortable being around you as long as they don't see you as a threat or competition- Once you lose weight and become more attractive, you're not going to have to many friends because you would bring out the insecurities in them.
Wow! It was like you were telling my life story. It is hard to look back and acknowledge the scraps of attention I clung on to. I don’t even know if I could have helped her at the time. I almost had to grow out of the “looks are everything” mentality. It was hard in so many ways.
I have made peace with some of my more toxic friends. Even though they were not particularly good for me, we did need each other at the time. Like you said we just eventually grew apart. I also have a handful of friends and family who have loved me and have always seen the true core of who I am and I am so lucky to have them in my life.
I want to show everyone your video to explain how I felt and how I lived when I was younger and heavier. I’m still overweight now but for anyone going through this, you can make it out.
Thank you for your vulnerability. I’m glad you feel strong enough to share that.
Wow, this is a brave topic. I have weight wise exploded and imploded over years. To be honest I have to be comfortable myself in my own skin depending on my life stages and phases. Sometimes I think my excess fat has protected me in time I was VERY vulnerable. It's funny but it can also be a buffer to put off opportunist who are shallow in thinking that only super skinny are sexy and intelligent. I'm rather voluptuous and that beats both skinny and overweight. So I'm happy.
You are beautiful inside and out! Thanks for sharing your views! We need to teach people how we want to be treated. Amen.
People treat me totally different. But also I care so much less about what people think now
I agree, when I was overweight, I was invisible for a long time but when I lost weight, I started to see how people would treat me and people would instantly gravitate towards me, ask me random dumb ass questions that didn't make any sense " Oh do you know what color is the sky is, do you know what time midnight, or do you know how far is across the street is" a bunch of blah, blah, blah--I came to the realization that nobody is nice unless they find something valuable that you can do for them..
Thank you for sharing these intimate thought and feelings Carla. You are amazing and so inspiring! Thanks to you, I finally priorirised myself and set off on my weight loss journey with the amazing body slims! So much of what you are saying here resonates with me xxx
Love this video Carla, thanks sharing. I remember a male family member saying to teenage me that i liked the frontwoman from Cascada because she was "big like me".... she was not a big woman. So odd to look back on 🤯
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Wow this is an amazing video. I have never seen someone expand on the inner change that may affect the way people treat you . Not just because of your weight. Also I appreciate your transparency when speaking about your sister. That you were "big together" and working through that. Thank you for this video
Your channel is great. I lost 60 pounds. I thought I would NEVER gain anything more than about 5 more pounds. And frankly I didn’t need to gain the five but got shamed into it… then the train left the station. I have had so many food pushers in my life, and I have also had neglect as a child so that I was always feeling like I didn’t have food. I worked through that part, but hadn’t completely worked through the less common food pushing part. Food pushing if one takes it Lon can lead to hormonal changes -ie someone seeming to force me into eating past what I actually wanted set up a whole runaway train. I now realize this problem. One of the great things is the feeling of control over oneself. That I loved and that I am getting back. I had a food coach and it worked for a while but then I got back to a place where I needed different nutrition and guidance. The most important lesson I have learned is that I must listen to myself. I’m also going to contemplate the why again…. I have a lot of them but need to remember what they are on a consistent basis, as I am in “ the middle” that you discussed.
The answer to the title of your vodeo is "Yes fullstop" from my perspective I have been on both sides of the coin. The fact is it happens both intentionally and unintentionally and most people have only good intent (even when the treatment is negative) in my culture/environment.
I totally agree with you. Much of it is completely unintentional. But beyond that I have released that if I don]t get behind myself and ignore them one way or another - that it’s an issue. I have had people thin shame me when I lost weight. They were so shocked. I just simply looked completely different - like Carla. I will never never never listen to the thin shaming again. That was a huge lesson, because it made me gain back some of the weight. Coming off again now… and I won’t let that “influence” me again.
This video gave me chills, Carla, chills. I immediately went back and relistened to it. The part about men only giving you morsels (no texting or plans) and the hideous man that liked larger women because they were more grateful😮. The 90’s/2000’s videos where women were picked apart was a confirmation that, yes, it was that toxic of an environment to grow up in. Your truth and your words are powerful. They are like a blunt instrument that has literally unblocked something in me and got me seeing certain things in a whole new light. Thank you.
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It’s so great to have these videos so we don’t feel like we are going mad. I’ve had the walking along thinking I had something on me as I noticed so many men staring and it made me feel so vulnerable, so grateful to you 🙏
Thank you Carla , I completely admire and respect your vulnerability in your videos particularly this one, you are so genuine and self aware, huge congratulations on all the incredible work you have done, I’m in awe of you 💗Joanne 😘
I’ve been thinking about you saying that some people commented that you were pretty before you lost the excess weight and I might easily have stated that too so apologies if I offended you as I honestly didn’t mean any disrespect, ❤Joanne
I can totally relate to this its disgusting how the world and people treat you when you’re in a bigger body 😭. Congratulations on your weight loss happy for you ❤️❤️
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In my opinion,yes they actually do. When I was 214lbs people were more standoffish with me,but then again I was gothic then so I looked pretty unapproachable.😆We all grow up in our own time.🤪But now that i'm 125lbs people(and yes mostly men🤪)are a lot kinder and friendly. Blessed Be⭐and positive energy.🌻
Do you mind sharing how tall you are? That’s such an impressive amount to lose! I’m at 220 lbs now and would love to get back to 160 when people were much friendlier to me!
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I relate so much to all of this. I've been thinking about this a lot latel and found it to be hard to put into words. This is it, almost exact. Thank you so much for sharing. ❤
Thanks Carla for such a powerful video. I always thought my mind was playing tricks on me when I felt I was treated different in a slimmer form and overweight version of myself. This video has shown me that in as much the world was treating me somehow, I, myself, was treating myself differently. As an overweight person I felt I deserved it when people spoke to me anyhow. This was my reality in my personal life and professional life. Working on changing this.
Thank you for being vulnerable in how you perceive things then and now. I am about to get the surgery and have been thinking about these things.
Good luck with your surgery xx
The topic of self esteem is very important to to be worked on and given thought and attention. After lose the weight and what not when i finally went for a relationship which wa basically first year after high school, i selected the wrong abusive person. So yeah, please let’s put our true selves always first no matter our size.
You made me feel so much better about my younger self, it was like a great big hug, thank you❤️
I kind of went the opposite way somehow? I'm still fat, I just kind of refuse to be invisible. This creates a different problem, where because I am fat I feel like I need to justify my existence some other way - be the funniest or smartest person in the room, be the friendliest, be the most talented or the most original. It's exhausting, and I never feel like it's enough.
But I relate to so much of what you've said. I spent my childhood and my early teens putting on an emotional armor and never letting anyone near me and generally trying to be as invisible as possible. But I always wanted to be seen and admired. Then in high school I discovered I had an innate talent for singing and I started performing in school functions and in bands with friends. I was no longer invisible and I let myself become a social butterfly. Everyone knew who I was, and at least when I was performing I must have exuded this impossible confidence because I don't remember ever being bullied in high school for being overweight anymore (though I was just piling on the weight). It was like a new armor, one where I got to experience some of the admiration I imagine beautiful women can't quite get away from. Looking back on it I think it's strange how confident I was on stage compared to how clueless and hurting and utterly worthless I felt on the inside. Around the same time I was beginning to experiment with sexuality (as teenagers do) and in the beginning it was primarily a way to get attention and to feel love, but it was anything but. I kept finding myself in these situationships that led nowhere and made me feel like absolute crap, and my emotional armor was trying to convince me that I don't need more. It was only after years with my current partner that I began to see myself through his eyes and I began to untangle some of these problematic patterns, and accepting myself. Now I'm still very overweight, so I don't know what it would be like for me in a "normal" body, but I'm starting to untangle these complicated feelings and I'm trying to not put so much pressure on myself. I deserve to exist even if I'm not the most [insert whatever trait I think I need to be] in the room. Does any of this make sense?
Also I'm more of a lurker here but I absolutely love your content. It's my go to when I'm feeling down and want to be motivated
I was not overweight as a teenager. In fact, I was very "attractive", and had what has come to be called "pretty privilege." And my experience with dating and sexuality was similar to yours. I wanted to be loved and accepted for me, not for my looks. My first husband told me after our divorce that I was "the girl of his dreams" and that he only pursued me because everyone said he could never have me. I was a trophy. But then I gained a lot of weight. I feel like the people who love me now, they love me for who I am. I have remarried, and I was heavier when I started dating my husband. He has been very encouraging on my weight loss journey, but I know he loves me and not my looks.
Glad you came through all of this amazingly and wonderfully.
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This hit home with me, when you speak it’s as if you are me talking about me 😢
When you are fat, every interaction people will point it out (saying this from experience)
Plus my personality has not changed, some people might but I from experience reject the idea it’s me that perpetuated peoples words or attitudes except because of my fat.
This video was so helpful. Thank you!
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Ill never get over the wildness that geri was considered the 'fat one'! She was always my favourite at age 12 when i was obsessed with the spice girls. Still love her look (and have the same hair as in that photo you showed of her at 39 lol)
You are an honest person wish you the best
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So true Carla. I was that teenager too so you are telling my story.❤️
I needed this.
Another great video, thank you!! I think you're certainly right...there's a definite difference!
Were there any books that helped you make this fantastic change, you are right, you are treated differently by your appearance, even I don't ike myself being overweight....
You have to be 18+ to join Weight Watchers. There didn't used to be an age restriction. Ask me how I know.
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I would like to hear more about your therapy experience with this. Years ago I once had a therapist say "I'm not going to help you lose weight" in a way that meant "that's vanity." Not my therapist after that.
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When I lost all my weight at 17, all of a sudden the guys were ignoring my friend and asking me out. It was a death of our friendship. It was very hard for my friend but it was like a drug at the time
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Invisible. That is so true. Visible to predatory types only.
For me it was the other way I was always small but then gained 40kg due to health issues. When I was small (as I was extremely small with no stomach) I remember the larger people at work staring at my stomach. I only get this now that I'm bigger because my physique was amazing. Not that I realised it then. Now of course, I'd give anything to go back to that but I'm just amazed how exhausting it is being bigger. Sweating, walking just in general it's harder living. I'm in the process of losing again. I lost 8 then put it back on due to a chronic pain condition. I took me about 6 months to lose 8kg. I thought the weight would just come off but it didn't! Being bigger makes me a snappy person and just generally unhappy. Previously I've been really happy so that is hard to take. But when people at work say stuff about customers like what a fat so and so, I think that is what I'm considered. Also just the smell of yourself as well is odd. And I'm only noticing because I put the weight on fairly quickly. I feel like I emit a sweet smell. But it's weird.
Thank you for sharing your experience with us. It's so interesting to hear your experience x
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I understand people find you less attractive when you are overweight but the dehumanization is far beyond that that people are exposed to.
I always thought i was fat and thats why nobody liked me and my body, however it seems in elementary school my peers couldnt tell the difference between being fat and being tall and having different proportions (wider hips and shoulders) i could piggy bag my peers and was treated like a monster despite being healthy.
In the 13 years of school i was not overweight but treated as such and only received rejection and insults without even talking to any boy. They never stopped to label me as fat, ugly or disgusting even though nothing was the case.
Now i really gained weight since university (around 24 y im now 29y) because i have PTSD from all of this and had undiagnosed ADHD. I received hurtful comments from young Men.
They come up to me just to insult me or even tried to pass their junk to me as if i was there to care for their trash.
I have pink hair and got confused with other pink haired girls and quickly called out as uglier version of whoever they thought of when they saw me.
This is a combination of me wearing no make up and not being perfectly slim.
Its sad to be treated and rejected that way without even engaging with anybody and minding your own business. I just dont get why some people walk up to strangers, to bodyshame them and making fun of them.
Tbh as long as i am 1,90m not forcing myself to wear make up too and get down to a perfect shape people will treat me less for being different.
And it buffles me how alot of people (im sorry but its true, MEN) dont understand that everyone other woman wears Make Up and doesn’t lool better without it. I have good skin and actually i think my face is perfectly ok from the front.
Tbh I was in shock when I saw massivly overweight people being treated nicely and normal, i was so damaged from my experiences how others deserved that despite being fat but not me.
But the environment was different. People were grown up and emotionally ok instead of the people in school that will find something to hurt you with no matter what.
So yeah i can pretty much confirm everything even though i was healthy most of the time according to BMI but had other proportions and a little stomach.
I degraded myself so much that everyone picked up how vulnerable I are and was.
When i now look at my old photos tears run down my face because i had a warped view of myself and that i looked like a noodle rather than fat especially when i was doing sport. Still i had the exact same thought, just that nobody gave me any positive attention and there were not even those that said that would get fat chicks or fetishize me (happily).
Its one thing to be invisible and the other to be constantly insulted waiting for one single compliment from a Guy. That one person would not treat me like human trash or a monster/alien that failed to be a proper Woman.
When i look at very early photos where i was like 5 I was so skinny like every other kid but i had a tiny bit more in elementary school.
My parents said i was puffering because i was growing like there is no tomorrow i was 1,80m with 12 like why does it even matter if im perfectly skinny or not when my body goes trough something nothing else was having.
Absolutely people treat you better.
They actually listen to you I’ve found when you are slimmer, whereas when you are fat there is that feeling of being barely tolerated.
I think it runs deeper than this though.
It is also if you become attractive when you lose weight (which you are).
I was anorexic throughout my 20s and gave myself early infertility and other complications which caused me to gain a lot of weight very quickly.
I went upto 20 stone (ironic isn’t it), and my mental health took a noisedive. I’m not sure if this is a chicken or an egg situation insofar as did I put on weight because of my mental illness or was my mental state due to my weight.
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Either way I lost a lot of weight and for the first time in my life I am a healthy weight and feel healthy emotionally and mentally as well.
I have seen the way society treats someone who was 6st vs someone who was 20st and finally someone who is a healthy weight (I don’t weigh now but am a size 10-12).
It is shocking how society almost worships thinness. I couldn’t go out without girls talking about my thin arms or thigh gap (and yet I was more unhealthy then than I was when I was obese).
At my biggest people were dismissive, cruel and it was lonely because nobody wanted to even see you.
I would say that I am reasonably attractive so when I lost the weight I became attractive again and I’ve noticed how I am suddenly included in social interactions in a way that I wasn’t before.
People look at you and smile and it is just these little things that help you feel relevant.
I feel so sorry for super morbidly obese people because I have an empathy now that I didn’t have before and understand how a lot of the time it is a reflection of their inner state.
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I think I ”helped” people to think less of me (still fat, no knowledge about the skinny side yet)
The happy clown, always smiling and laughing outside 🎭, and also the fat dumb blond girl. (I dont use those words now, but did. )
Im little ashamed, but used to take advantage of it. at the car test (mandatory check every year) "no, shouldn't there be large rust holes in the supporting frame??? I thought it was like that on that model” was able to get my cars out of immediate driving ban and I got time to repair. But I don't know if it was the fat or the blonde, or both reasons.
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Why are you always speaking so softlyyy and slowwllyyy. Is there a sleeping baby in the next room? Or is this your I'm trying to sound dainty and cute voice? If it's the latter, it's not cute it's just annoying to have to increase the playback speed to 1.75x🙄
Wow this is an amazing video. I have never seen someone expand on the inner change that may affect the way people treat you . Not just because of your weight. Also I appreciate your transparency when speaking about your sister. That you were "big together" and working through that. Thank you for this video
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