Wanted to keep it short and sweet, but the funny thing is I didn’t find the note of my door. A flatmate of mine found it taped to our front door, rang me and read it for me over the phone while I was on break at work. Real sadboy69 moment
@trapd00rspider I have absolutely no clue to be honest, like I said I was blocked everywhere, and I figured if a note was what I was worth then it wasn’t worth even trying to win her back. Happily married now though to a stellar chick so its probably a blessing in disguise. Good luck to that other bloke if there is one
People who cheat are the among lowest forms of life on earth. You’re literally taking someone who has put all their love and trust into you and destroying that, and them.
i had an ex call the cops on me and tell them i had an illegal rifle and was threatening to use it against her. [it wasn't "illegal" but had grandfathered parts that were now banned] cops came, big ordeal. finally they were able to confirm that it was double locked with a case and mag lock, with my ammo elsewhere in the house, pulled me off to the side and recommended i leave the relationship. one of the craziest nights i've ever experienced
According to homicide detective Joe Kenda, The highest percentage of murders take place because a third person entered the relationship. Sometimes it pays to let certain statistics do your thinking for you, please do not make the mistake of thinking that you'll just see how it goes, trust me, if you don't know how you'll feel about it already then you are the murderer, and if you instigated the triangle then you already know who's going to kill you, you just don't know when.
A lot of poly folks sharing success stories are missing half the equation when sharing why they’re successful. Good communication is step #2. Step #1 is everyone in the relationship has to want to be poly. Implying that everyone who doesn’t prefer poly is insecure or a poor communicator is why I don’t have any poly-evangelists in my circle. I had an ex pressure me into polyamory. It wouldn’t have been for me even without the pressure. That’s why I’m married to a guy who also wants monogamy. Normal poly people, the successful and happy ones, aren’t trying to evangelize. They just enjoy their lives and relationships. Poly evangelists turn relationship drama into a hobby and it’s *exhausting*
Like it CAN work but not very often. Like with relationships whatever floats your boat (as long as its all consensual) but poly relationships fail 9 times out of 10. But yeah the chap in the video is an asshole.
I've seen poly relationships work before, actually had a buddy who was having 3 ways with one of them, but ive only see it work when both people are already poly and just end up having a connection, never seen it work out when discussed mid relationship polyamerous people will tell you before you hand if you've been with somebody a while and they bring this up that person probly isn't actually poly just looking for a way out or to emotionally burden you while getting their sexual release elsewhere
Yeah, there's a difference between a polyamorous relationship and "open relationships". In a stable poly relationship, everybody knows and respects each other, and communicates well. An open relationship where people are free to just screw around is a disaster waiting to happen.
My first proper boyfriend and I got together in grade 10 and on our "2 month anniversary" as he called it, he called me and said we needed to break up. His reasoning was because "Jesus told me you weren't good for me. I didn't know how to respond so I just awkwardly laughed.
In grade 4 my dad was the one who told me “hey I’m not your dude, a dude is an elephants ball hair” and I likewise have believed that unquestioningly ever since
I was the monster. First relationship in high school, the marching band went on a trip to Florida. Got tired of her at Disney world and broke up with her on the Epcot Ball ride. Not in line, on the ride. Cried on my shoulder for the rest of the 4+ minute ride. Got myself a lil pretzel treat after.
Only successful poly relationships are the ones that start out polyamorous. If you go from monogamy to polyamory ,,, well its usually some scumbag who wants to cheat without having consequences. Yikes
My partners bestfriend (female), whom actually lives in Melbourne has been in a successful polyamorous relationship with 3+ other people for years now. I haven't met her physically, but we just caught up over Discord last night and she is obviously still very happy. I think it comes down to setting clear boundaries when heading into the relationship and finding other like minded people that are open to the idea.
eh, it makes sense it would have an inherently lower shelf life on average, since there are more people in the relationship to grow apart from each other. I'm not sure but I also think there's a more recent poly wave of the younger, queerer gens that might not be as into the super long relationships as the older gens when it was more normalised and expected
Okay, I got an absolute doozy of a breakup story. Known this man since 13, were together for 8 years, 4 of which we were married. Turns out he was having an affair with a barely legal girl (same name as me). There are so many little messed up things like him bringing her to the house we were building together, his friends knowing her, him stealing money, etc. But by far the wildest is that whilst they were "on a break" she started going out with one of his best friends and we all went on a double date together. Next day he said she called him to say his mate had "forced her" to have sex with him. Eventually I told the male friend that she accused him of that and 3 days later they're all out for drinks. I should submit this to Home and Away or something. 😂😂
My dad's had two shit ones, so bad that he's only going to have girlfriends, no matter how long term things get. First was mum. The separation and then divorce were fine for a bit, then she got diagnosed with MND and a co-morbidity of frontal lobe dementia. Then things went downhill. She got really paranoid about me being with him, so bad that she was actively poisoning my relationship with him, whispering poison in my ear and things got so bad that he had to call the police to enforce custody several times. And when she was finally dying and could chose the date she could "let go" of life? It was his birthday. The second one, things were going alright, she'd had a couple of abusive exes/ an abusive father so she had some minor mental health problems, but things started getting worse about 2 years ago. Eventually, dad, from online research, figured out that she most likely was bipolar but she refused to get diagnosed. Things started getting worse until he had to literally flee in the middle of the night like, in April, from their place as she had a psychotic breakdown and kicked a door down trying to get to dad. She then started dumping his stuff on the verge for random people to pick up (Thankfully some neighbours helped put the more personal family heirlooms/furniture in their garage until he was able to come back and retrieve it). He still hasn't been able to return, but hopefully will get the divorce settled, and her evicted, by the end of the year.
Eh?! IN A CHRISTIAN SCHOOL?! If you came to Asia, that person would've been bullied af! Ain't no way you got called out for calling that guy out lol. I'm glad I graduated school when this wasn't a problem lol.
Had a relationship with a dude from Quebec/Canada that was off and on and was probably mutually emotionally and mentally unstable/abusive. I broke up with him after he forgot to wish me happy birthday and told me I was less important than irl stuff. He was the last guy I dated before I realised I was a lesbian and now I’m in a open polygamous relationship with two people who I love so much
me and my best friend from america dated online for a couple months, we decided the distance was too much and called it off over whatsapp (we’re still besties) and both went out on the hunt for new partners the same day 😭😭😭
My first gf cheated on her to be with me (I didn’t know she had a bf at the time and only realised it when we eventually broke up) and then cheated on me to be with someone else. 6 months after she ended up being back with the first person.
Let's just keep watching anime instead of being tossed around like an empty wallet aye? I've never had proper relationship because I'm self aware of myself and since I still like my ex crush, I don't think I'm still ready to move on...even after 10 - 20 years from now on. Must've been hard for you after those wasted time.....hey, I'll pass you some free beer. ^Turns on the Tv^ [Gives two beers of cans and some beans on the table]
Has anyone noticed the astorturfed pro-polyamorous relationship comments here? Someone must have picked this up and shared it to a reddit thread, no way theres that many polyamorous fans watching THIS video THIS early making THIS many comments. Cmon y'all
Haha nah, I think you're just underestimating how many people are practicing poly and ENM in general. I'd say at least 15-20 percent of my long term friends have practiced poly or at least ENM in some form before their 30's... And these are friends I acquired before I was poly myself (8+ years at this point) There are several poly dedicated dating apps, poly social meets and poly speed dating etc. seems to be a huge influx of more people exploring ENM since covid especially too. Here in Melbourne the community is absolutely massive, as is it in lots of other usually more progressive cities. Also anyone who is poly, is very likely aligned with jordies general political leanings and probably follows him. I know all my partners know about him and watch his vids at least somewhat regularly (granted usually his main channel though).
I got my ex of two years a collectors edition Lola Bunny Citizen watch for her birthday which was a couple weeks apart from my own. Limited- numbered run. Tried to get myself one too and mine never arrived.... She kept going on and on about how she had a great gift for my birthday and how i was gonna love it and blah blah blah. My birthday rolls around and she broke up with me. My brithday gift was being single. Shes a fantastic woman though and i had earned it.
I’m in an extremely happy and successful monogamous x polyamorous relationship!! :) The partner I live with and I have been together for 9 years - he’s remained monogamous and I’ve been polyamorous for the last 4 years. I’ve been with my other partner 1.5 years. My live in partner and I took over a year to speak about why I wanted to be poly / open, how it made us both feel, and after a while we decided to try it and we’ve only gotten even closer since ❤
Gonna be a success story of a polyamorous relationship and I fully agree most of the time it doesn't work. Been together for 6 years and we've been poly for half of it. Did it and honestly hasn't changed the relationship for the worse at all. We're both happy, and the biggest reason for the success is communication. Having said that I know of very few people who have had poly relationships that have actually succeeded and not crashed and burned within a few months. If your relationship isn't rock solid then there isn't a chance in hell it will survive this
Even with the best communication, everyone involved also has to want to be poly for poly to work. The only poly success stories I know of personally are ones where the polyamory was known on all sides from the beginning. You just don’t hear about the poly success stories too often because most normal ass happy poly folks aren’t evangelizing, they (like you) are just living their lives and being happy. I’ve never met someone who evangelizes about polyamory who’s actually happy with it.
No no no I have the best story ever. I dated a guy for two years lived with him he ignored me half the time at the end of the relationship gamed all the time. Then broke up with me on Snapchat saying and I quote ( I think we should break up) i literally had to call him to confirm we were breaking up and why and he didn’t tell why he just said we were breaking up 😅
@@niphfm Heh. Not as bad as an actual mate who built a giant lawn ornament out of concrete in the shape of a meeple. Have you played Alhambra? That's a quicker/more fun castle-building game, although there's a fairly large element of chance.
@@PinataOblongata gonna be honest I haven't even played carcassonne once, tho thanks for the suggestion of alhambra, I'll definitely have a look into it. I've been meaning to get into a whole bunch of the higher order board games, just haven't really found the time or the people to do so sadly
dude meaning "These early uses of the term referenced to men who showed ostentatious regard for fashion and style, who may also be referred to as dandies or fops"
I think Polyamoury is just a type of relationship some people would rather and should probably be established at the start of the relationship, not the middle. Of course people come in all different personalities so maybe it worked mid way for someone. I do know there are people who have made polyamorous relationships work
polyamory, non-monogamous & open "relationships" are just blanket terms used by compulsive cheaters to mask the fact they're scum & to get away with said cheating. A relationship is exclusive between 2 people, anything else isn't a relationship lol
Poly can 100 percent work, ive been doing it for 8+ years. But it can only work if the people involved can communicate effectively, truely want it and are able to work on themselves and move past their insecurities and many other issues that are just a given in mono relationships. Poly/mono setups are always doomed, as are relationships where one or more of the people are brand new to poly generally. It's likely to take time and a few relationships before you get the swing of it. Once yoy reach kitchen table poly it truely is amazing and brings an hige amount of benefits you simply cannot get with mono relationships (and no im not talking about sex).
I was dating a Japanese woman for a few months, I invited her over here after she invited me up there, and then decided after a week of her being here, she wanted to get out, however, what sparked it, (pun intended) was telling someone I infrequently chatted to a few years ago, someone I had no emotional connection to beyond someone I talked to, the news about the '19/'20 bushfires. She accused me of cheating, and when I offered to translate, she went ballistic. Good riddance. She was madder than a bag of badgers in a tumble dryer full of rocks.
My partner and I have been successfully poly for 6 years now. It's great cause I can openly go "Fuck I've developed a crush on one of our friends" and their response is immediate joyful cackling. There's no stigma with us about liking another person, cause we both have the capacity to love each other and have love for other people at the same time.
I had an ex girlfriend who cheated on me when i went back home for my uncles funeral(died of a drug overdose). She needed to stay home for "work". In reality she was shagging guys for bags of drugs. I told her that she couldnt do drugs in my house so she dumped me for "being too controlling". For the next 10 years, i got to watch her trainwreck of a life slowly unravel. Stripper, hooking and eventually porn. She ended up marrying a captain save a hoe and had a couple of kids. Not sure if he knows. Could tell him just to watch her life go to shit again.
when my x husband punched me and broke my nose, i left him with all the furniture except the kids stuff, left him the house and within 48hrs me my car and the kids were on our way to Queensland from Perth. the broken nose happened because i came home and found my husband in our bed with another, still not sure why i got the punch but no doubt in his mind it makes sense. anyway, he followed us to QLD then begged to borrow my car for his new job. its the first job he had son i agreed, he used it to pick up my 14 yr old sisiters school friend, she also being 14 my husband at the time was 25, after njight clubbing and breakfast my x then burnt my brand new jeep cherokkee out and told me to comew collect it :)
polyamorous is perhaps the wrong word for me, but i've been with my partner for 5 years and we are open - both able to see other people, its never been a problem
Don't know if it's called polyamorous, but had a roomie in employee housing for a winter in Park City who had two wives and a son. Him, his son, and I would all get stoned throughout the winter season while working together, and they seemed pretty happy 😂. (Side note : dude didn't even need the job, just wanted the free ski pass, and a winter getaway, his two wives were l o a d e d because of their careers)
A successful poly relationship is all about respecting boundaries and being able to have good communication. Considering how most people can't achieve that within their monogamous relationships, it's not that surprising that when they try to "open up" the relationship it goes up in flames. It's a chill time if it's for you tbh.
Successful Poly relationships exists. I've been in one for 9 years now. Dating a woman who is married and the husband has a girlfriend too. They definitely get a bad rap cause of assholes who really shouldn't be with anyone let alone in a monogamous relationship. It takes a certain type who can communicate openly and honestly while being secure in themselves. So yeah, good poly relationships aren't easy to come by.
There's plenty of good poly relationships; people just have a confirmation bias against them because they're different. How many monogamous relationships and marriages falling apart have you heard of?
I genuinely do have a succesful poly relationship, mostly because there's zero co-dependence, very little expectation, and we see each other once a month or so (before I moved to canada, it's a little less now... *insert Feels Guy face) so it makes sense to be able to see other people. She has another commited partner, I have a fuck buddy, so needs get met, everyones happy, and I have someone to make me the little spoon when I come home. Simple.
99% of polyamorous relationships end up in some kind of toxic situation where one or more feelings gets ground to dust. Precious few people legitimately want it and can actually do it.
I know a girl that was in a polyamorous relationship....I wish people would take things seriously... Like, I still love my ex crush, my first sight of love, I want to date her but I can't since she never liked me back. But, trying to move on is soo hard. Also, I tried dating with other girls instead of my first real crush, it never works....I think I really need serious help. I'm not sure but, I still like my first crush. I think, I should've been home schooled....kinda regret keeping my eyes opened lol. Life is hard,
@@Minato_Akiyama03 Sounds liek you have it bad. But there's not much else you can do but keep looking. You will find someone you like just as much, if not more. And keep in mind, knowing someone as a friend is vastly different from knowing them in a relationship. She might seem perfect now, in the haze of a bad crush, but for all you know, you two might just not work in a relationship at all. That's why it's never good to dwell on 'what could have been' and to look forward instead. Living in the past does you no good.
I've been in a happy polyamorous relationship for 6 years so yes it does happen. But the biggest mistake I see people make is starting out a long-term monogamous relationship and trying to turn it poly. This rarely works because it's not what all parties signed up for and is often one party just wanting to cheat with permission. The poly relationships that work are poly from the start. Everyone needs to be onboard, communicate effectively, and be able to work with everyone's needs. As a result it's not for everyone, but I've honestly never been happier.
Polyamorous relationships never last or stand the test of time. Proof? Try and find anyone over the age of 50 that is still in one. Reason? Libedo, particularly for women, fades as you get older and thus the reason for having such a relationship disappears. Quite amusing seeing all the comments here from ppl thinking that THEIR poly is different 😅
I'm in a successful polyamorous relationship, but it's _definitely_ not for everyone. You can't be a remotely jealous person, you need to set fair ground rules that BOTH of you follow, you need good trust and communication skills, you both need to be relatively mature and independent, and (this will sound fucked up) both need to be attractive enough to know that you won't end up getting the raw end of the stick where your partner has 5 side pieces but you can't pull any tail. You also need to be able to deal with people variously calling you and your partner cheaters, cucks, sluts, liars, etc. My relationship was polyamorous from the beginning and only became serious gradually over a few years, and I'd recommend that because every time I've tried to "open up" a monogamous relationship it's gone terribly. If people love you, they'll often try it despite their deeper feelings against it, and simmer in denial and jealousy for months until they explode. I'd say maybe 25% of healthy relationships would benefit from polyamory, so be careful and honest about your feelings if you try it.
Personally sounds like you are the problem. Trying to '''''open'''''' up multiple monogamous relationship. Just say you want to cheat and abuse the other persons feelings for you so they dont complain.
@@vincentcarl9907 Wow, what a remarkably reasonable and nuanced interpretation of my comment! Clearly you both understood my point fully AND replied without revealing an extremely jaded attitude stemming from personal trauma! Listen my man, I don't know who hurt you, but if you take a deep breath and read your own response, you'll understand why it doesn't make any sense. In relationships where both parties agree to see other people, that's not cheating. Even if it were, then by definition we'd be doing exactly what you propose: "being honest" about wanting to "cheat." It's really telling that you reacted so negatively to a comment _advising caution_ around polyamory and _warning_ about what can go wrong. I'm sorry if someone used polyamory to disguise cheating, but my comment is intended to prevent people from being hurt like I assume you were.
@@karmicguzzler fortunately or unfortunately, I have not experienced cheating under the guise of polyamory. I still entirely believe that you do that in particular. Hopefully, your relationships go well and you find yourself somebody who wants to engage in polyamory from the beginning and not 'after monogamy'. You may already have but I dont feel like rereading. Edit: I have reread and you are in a successful polyamorus relationship that was set that way from the beginning as it should be not after. Congrats to you.
Currently in a healthy polyamorous relationship (4+ years), my partner has a husband and he has another girlfriend. We have "family dinner" together once a month or so with the 4 of us and all get along well. Polyamory can work, but it takes more work and relies on great communication from all parties or it can fall apart. Many others in our friend group are also in successful polyamorous or open relationships.
Successful poly here, 4 years. Key difference to all the examples is that we both went into it wanting a poly relationship. And good communication too 😂
I do know of one guy who has a poly relationship and it works for them, granted he somehow has 3 girls, living together, and all of them are deeply in love (+ are best friends with eachother) and somehow are normal functioning humans. I dont know how he manages it or got in that situation to begin with, but all the power to them.
As someone who briefly dabbled with poly relationships, no it’s rare they work. There’s always jealousy between the women in some regard, that and my former city’s polyamory community was all basically banging each other and spread a hell of a case of the clap among all 70+ of them
I’m one year in to a poly relationship, but we entered the relationship because we were both like “I don’t know if I could be monogamous.. OMG ME TOO!” And then a month later after that conversation we dated We didn’t change the expectations of the relationship, also we are only one year in and definitely we’ll see what the future holds. Also you could probably more consider us swingers rather than emotionally polyamorous
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To quote Chris Flemming, "It's never the people you want to be polyamourous who's polyamourous"
Wanted to keep it short and sweet, but the funny thing is I didn’t find the note of my door. A flatmate of mine found it taped to our front door, rang me and read it for me over the phone while I was on break at work. Real sadboy69 moment
holy shit we getting the extended lore
@trapd00rspider I have absolutely no clue to be honest, like I said I was blocked everywhere, and I figured if a note was what I was worth then it wasn’t worth even trying to win her back. Happily married now though to a stellar chick so its probably a blessing in disguise. Good luck to that other bloke if there is one
brutal mate
People who cheat are the among lowest forms of life on earth. You’re literally taking someone who has put all their love and trust into you and destroying that, and them.
And when they act like a victim and thinks they are not in the wrong are even more scum.
Just for some quick chemical hits :P
Big agree!
Oh yeah, for sure...
Serial Killers? Hmm... nah, they're not that bad, it's definitely cheaters.
😂
@@ThePrimeMinisterOfTheBlock Nah should be a crime that gets the electric chair and I get the feeling from your comment you'd be riding old sparky.
i had an ex call the cops on me and tell them i had an illegal rifle and was threatening to use it against her. [it wasn't "illegal" but had grandfathered parts that were now banned] cops came, big ordeal. finally they were able to confirm that it was double locked with a case and mag lock, with my ammo elsewhere in the house, pulled me off to the side and recommended i leave the relationship. one of the craziest nights i've ever experienced
I got told "I dont love you anymore and haven't for the last year" it hurt for about a year. I still have dreams about her sometimes 😐
According to homicide detective Joe Kenda, The highest percentage of murders take place because a third person entered the relationship. Sometimes it pays to let certain statistics do your thinking for you, please do not make the mistake of thinking that you'll just see how it goes, trust me, if you don't know how you'll feel about it already then you are the murderer, and if you instigated the triangle then you already know who's going to kill you, you just don't know when.
Wait, which person is the most likely to be killed here? Honestly shocked
@@myspace2001The person who eants to do it the most, is usually the one who ends up sleeping with the fishes.
Y'know, ever since you said your heritage was Croatian, your fashion makes a lot more sense.
Yes, that or Serb.
A lot of poly folks sharing success stories are missing half the equation when sharing why they’re successful. Good communication is step #2. Step #1 is everyone in the relationship has to want to be poly. Implying that everyone who doesn’t prefer poly is insecure or a poor communicator is why I don’t have any poly-evangelists in my circle.
I had an ex pressure me into polyamory. It wouldn’t have been for me even without the pressure. That’s why I’m married to a guy who also wants monogamy.
Normal poly people, the successful and happy ones, aren’t trying to evangelize. They just enjoy their lives and relationships. Poly evangelists turn relationship drama into a hobby and it’s *exhausting*
Cheating is wrong some people are scum
No?!???! bro i thought it was ok.. man you shoulda said it sooner, i've cheated on 3 people.
man these stories are soul crushing, i'm gonna need some self help specialist after this. except the grandma one, that one's hilarious
Polyamory is like giving a terrorist bombs and saying don't blow anything up.
counter-terrorists win
rush B@@Sirius1914
Like it CAN work but not very often. Like with relationships whatever floats your boat (as long as its all consensual) but poly relationships fail 9 times out of 10. But yeah the chap in the video is an asshole.
I've seen poly relationships work before, actually had a buddy who was having 3 ways with one of them, but ive only see it work when both people are already poly and just end up having a connection, never seen it work out when discussed mid relationship polyamerous people will tell you before you hand if you've been with somebody a while and they bring this up that person probly isn't actually poly just looking for a way out or to emotionally burden you while getting their sexual release elsewhere
Yeah, there's a difference between a polyamorous relationship and "open relationships". In a stable poly relationship, everybody knows and respects each other, and communicates well. An open relationship where people are free to just screw around is a disaster waiting to happen.
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Are you sure they're not just faking it to get a grandma off their back?
My first proper boyfriend and I got together in grade 10 and on our "2 month anniversary" as he called it, he called me and said we needed to break up. His reasoning was because "Jesus told me you weren't good for me. I didn't know how to respond so I just awkwardly laughed.
In grade 4 my dad was the one who told me “hey I’m not your dude, a dude is an elephants ball hair” and I likewise have believed that unquestioningly ever since
I was the monster. First relationship in high school, the marching band went on a trip to Florida. Got tired of her at Disney world and broke up with her on the Epcot Ball ride. Not in line, on the ride. Cried on my shoulder for the rest of the 4+ minute ride. Got myself a lil pretzel treat after.
Only successful poly relationships are the ones that start out polyamorous. If you go from monogamy to polyamory ,,, well its usually some scumbag who wants to cheat without having consequences. Yikes
Cheers to the editor for the paper heart gag. Just perfection. 😚👌
gotta be longer, seems pretty bare minimum effort. Its good content, we love it.
My partners bestfriend (female), whom actually lives in Melbourne has been in a successful polyamorous relationship with 3+ other people for years now. I haven't met her physically, but we just caught up over Discord last night and she is obviously still very happy. I think it comes down to setting clear boundaries when heading into the relationship and finding other like minded people that are open to the idea.
Seeing people flaunt their poly 1-4 years is amusing. We need evidence of it working 20-50 years.
You've got more chance of finding a unicorn in a retirement village than a polyamorous relationship 😂
eh, it makes sense it would have an inherently lower shelf life on average, since there are more people in the relationship to grow apart from each other. I'm not sure but I also think there's a more recent poly wave of the younger, queerer gens that might not be as into the super long relationships as the older gens when it was more normalised and expected
Poly relationshiips don't last very long and normally end in genuine confusion rather than heartbreak lmao@@Rain_lights
My thoughts exactly lol
Right, the way most monogamous relationships do lol
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'It's not you, it's me,........I don't like you'
Okay, I got an absolute doozy of a breakup story.
Known this man since 13, were together for 8 years, 4 of which we were married.
Turns out he was having an affair with a barely legal girl (same name as me). There are so many little messed up things like him bringing her to the house we were building together, his friends knowing her, him stealing money, etc.
But by far the wildest is that whilst they were "on a break" she started going out with one of his best friends and we all went on a double date together. Next day he said she called him to say his mate had "forced her" to have sex with him. Eventually I told the male friend that she accused him of that and 3 days later they're all out for drinks.
I should submit this to Home and Away or something. 😂😂
Polyam of 5 years, working out great. Requires strong communication, that is about it.
Did you initiate this relationship?
@@austinhuber3131 yes
My dad's had two shit ones, so bad that he's only going to have girlfriends, no matter how long term things get.
First was mum. The separation and then divorce were fine for a bit, then she got diagnosed with MND and a co-morbidity of frontal lobe dementia. Then things went downhill. She got really paranoid about me being with him, so bad that she was actively poisoning my relationship with him, whispering poison in my ear and things got so bad that he had to call the police to enforce custody several times. And when she was finally dying and could chose the date she could "let go" of life? It was his birthday.
The second one, things were going alright, she'd had a couple of abusive exes/ an abusive father so she had some minor mental health problems, but things started getting worse about 2 years ago. Eventually, dad, from online research, figured out that she most likely was bipolar but she refused to get diagnosed. Things started getting worse until he had to literally flee in the middle of the night like, in April, from their place as she had a psychotic breakdown and kicked a door down trying to get to dad. She then started dumping his stuff on the verge for random people to pick up (Thankfully some neighbours helped put the more personal family heirlooms/furniture in their garage until he was able to come back and retrieve it). He still hasn't been able to return, but hopefully will get the divorce settled, and her evicted, by the end of the year.
I got in trouble in year 1 for calling someone dude, as they assumed i meant male camel genitalia...... ahh Christian education
Dude is male came genitalia?
Doodle lol. Yo dudles.
Eh?! IN A CHRISTIAN SCHOOL?!
If you came to Asia, that person would've been bullied af! Ain't no way you got called out for calling that guy out lol. I'm glad I graduated school when this wasn't a problem lol.
Had a relationship with a dude from Quebec/Canada that was off and on and was probably mutually emotionally and mentally unstable/abusive. I broke up with him after he forgot to wish me happy birthday and told me I was less important than irl stuff. He was the last guy I dated before I realised I was a lesbian and now I’m in a open polygamous relationship with two people who I love so much
me and my best friend from america dated online for a couple months, we decided the distance was too much and called it off over whatsapp (we’re still besties) and both went out on the hunt for new partners the same day 😭😭😭
I think I need self help after hearing about this degeneracy
My first gf cheated on her to be with me (I didn’t know she had a bf at the time and only realised it when we eventually broke up) and then cheated on me to be with someone else. 6 months after she ended up being back with the first person.
Let's just keep watching anime instead of being tossed around like an empty wallet aye? I've never had proper relationship because I'm self aware of myself and since I still like my ex crush, I don't think I'm still ready to move on...even after 10 - 20 years from now on. Must've been hard for you after those wasted time.....hey, I'll pass you some free beer.
^Turns on the Tv^
[Gives two beers of cans and some beans on the table]
We also type “m8” in america lol, would use it in a similar situation fs
Always love seeing pictures of our dog Qoppa online! (The one in the thumbnail!)
I just got out of an abusive poly relationship... so idk
Has anyone noticed the astorturfed pro-polyamorous relationship comments here?
Someone must have picked this up and shared it to a reddit thread, no way theres that many polyamorous fans watching THIS video THIS early making THIS many comments.
Cmon y'all
Haha nah, I think you're just underestimating how many people are practicing poly and ENM in general. I'd say at least 15-20 percent of my long term friends have practiced poly or at least ENM in some form before their 30's... And these are friends I acquired before I was poly myself (8+ years at this point)
There are several poly dedicated dating apps, poly social meets and poly speed dating etc. seems to be a huge influx of more people exploring ENM since covid especially too. Here in Melbourne the community is absolutely massive, as is it in lots of other usually more progressive cities.
Also anyone who is poly, is very likely aligned with jordies general political leanings and probably follows him. I know all my partners know about him and watch his vids at least somewhat regularly (granted usually his main channel though).
what's worse is that she was my high school teacher, I'm still waiting for the restraining order to go away though so I never mentioned her name
The whole poly bullshit is for the birds. Just break up 😂
Poly works for me and my wife of 11 years. But it’s not for everyone.
I have an example of a successful poly thing I just left because turns out I wasn’t mentally stable.
I got my ex of two years a collectors edition Lola Bunny Citizen watch for her birthday which was a couple weeks apart from my own. Limited- numbered run.
Tried to get myself one too and mine never arrived....
She kept going on and on about how she had a great gift for my birthday and how i was gonna love it and blah blah blah.
My birthday rolls around and she broke up with me.
My brithday gift was being single.
Shes a fantastic woman though and i had earned it.
I’m in an extremely happy and successful monogamous x polyamorous relationship!! :)
The partner I live with and I have been together for 9 years - he’s remained monogamous and I’ve been polyamorous for the last 4 years. I’ve been with my other partner 1.5 years.
My live in partner and I took over a year to speak about why I wanted to be poly / open, how it made us both feel, and after a while we decided to try it and we’ve only gotten even closer since ❤
Need more parts
Long story short, my ex was the type of woman who lies to the cops and then tries to put money on your commissary and pay for your lawyer.
Gonna be a success story of a polyamorous relationship and I fully agree most of the time it doesn't work. Been together for 6 years and we've been poly for half of it. Did it and honestly hasn't changed the relationship for the worse at all. We're both happy, and the biggest reason for the success is communication. Having said that I know of very few people who have had poly relationships that have actually succeeded and not crashed and burned within a few months. If your relationship isn't rock solid then there isn't a chance in hell it will survive this
Get back to us when menopause hits
@@sirtra I'm in a gay relationship
@@zanesreid touche.. so not a relationship at all, got it!
(Kidding)
Even with the best communication, everyone involved also has to want to be poly for poly to work. The only poly success stories I know of personally are ones where the polyamory was known on all sides from the beginning. You just don’t hear about the poly success stories too often because most normal ass happy poly folks aren’t evangelizing, they (like you) are just living their lives and being happy. I’ve never met someone who evangelizes about polyamory who’s actually happy with it.
No no no I have the best story ever.
I dated a guy for two years lived with him he ignored me half the time at the end of the relationship gamed all the time. Then broke up with me on Snapchat saying and I quote ( I think we should break up) i literally had to call him to confirm we were breaking up and why and he didn’t tell why he just said we were breaking up 😅
no sane person mentions carcassonne twice in their life, and that includes goodgame employees and the french
So, uh, what if you own expansion sets? Asking for a friend 👀
@@PinataOblongata you poor lost soul 😭
@@niphfm Heh. Not as bad as an actual mate who built a giant lawn ornament out of concrete in the shape of a meeple. Have you played Alhambra? That's a quicker/more fun castle-building game, although there's a fairly large element of chance.
@@PinataOblongata gonna be honest I haven't even played carcassonne once, tho thanks for the suggestion of alhambra, I'll definitely have a look into it. I've been meaning to get into a whole bunch of the higher order board games, just haven't really found the time or the people to do so sadly
Thumbnail the least worse situation
really good episode
dude meaning "These early uses of the term referenced to men who showed ostentatious regard for fashion and style, who may also be referred to as dandies or fops"
I think Polyamoury is just a type of relationship some people would rather and should probably be established at the start of the relationship, not the middle.
Of course people come in all different personalities so maybe it worked mid way for someone.
I do know there are people who have made polyamorous relationships work
polyamory, non-monogamous & open "relationships" are just blanket terms used by compulsive cheaters to mask the fact they're scum & to get away with said cheating. A relationship is exclusive between 2 people, anything else isn't a relationship lol
I too assume that would be the best way to do it
My right hand let's me visit left hand from time to time. But right hand knows I'm loyal. That's a successful polyamorous relationship.
Polyamoury is mainly a French thing "Ménage à trois" ( Household of Three )
Not anymore, it’s becoming much more common all around Europe and is slowly but surely weeping into America (if it hasn’t already).
Poly can 100 percent work, ive been doing it for 8+ years.
But it can only work if the people involved can communicate effectively, truely want it and are able to work on themselves and move past their insecurities and many other issues that are just a given in mono relationships.
Poly/mono setups are always doomed, as are relationships where one or more of the people are brand new to poly generally. It's likely to take time and a few relationships before you get the swing of it.
Once yoy reach kitchen table poly it truely is amazing and brings an hige amount of benefits you simply cannot get with mono relationships (and no im not talking about sex).
I'm guessing that was supposed to say "in perfect balance" at 7:35, not "imperfect balance".
Ah man I have a WILD one about an ex who broke up with me, shame lmao
I've already told my husband that if he leaves me or he dies, I think I'll just stay single for the rest of my life...these vids don't help...
Can you do a tour of your wardrobe?
I was dating a Japanese woman for a few months, I invited her over here after she invited me up there, and then decided after a week of her being here, she wanted to get out, however, what sparked it, (pun intended) was telling someone I infrequently chatted to a few years ago, someone I had no emotional connection to beyond someone I talked to, the news about the '19/'20 bushfires. She accused me of cheating, and when I offered to translate, she went ballistic. Good riddance. She was madder than a bag of badgers in a tumble dryer full of rocks.
Someone needs to clip the "thats fucked" at 3:57.
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Thanks for the kitchen 😂
We want Yilmaz Videos !!! All the untold stories !!!
7:00
Bro is Shakespeare.
My partner and I have been successfully poly for 6 years now. It's great cause I can openly go "Fuck I've developed a crush on one of our friends" and their response is immediate joyful cackling. There's no stigma with us about liking another person, cause we both have the capacity to love each other and have love for other people at the same time.
Have a poly friend who goes out with other poly people, seems to be going really well
Regret not adding to lol .. maybe next time
I had an ex girlfriend who cheated on me when i went back home for my uncles funeral(died of a drug overdose). She needed to stay home for "work". In reality she was shagging guys for bags of drugs. I told her that she couldnt do drugs in my house so she dumped me for "being too controlling". For the next 10 years, i got to watch her trainwreck of a life slowly unravel. Stripper, hooking and eventually porn. She ended up marrying a captain save a hoe and had a couple of kids. Not sure if he knows. Could tell him just to watch her life go to shit again.
succesful polyamory is a myth
Only ime I saw poly work is a 3way relationship were all 3 people had feelings for eachother
I don't have the time to break up. I'd rather play Final Fantasy
when my x husband punched me and broke my nose, i left him with all the furniture except the kids stuff, left him the house and within 48hrs me my car and the kids were on our way to Queensland from Perth. the broken nose happened because i came home and found my husband in our bed with another, still not sure why i got the punch but no doubt in his mind it makes sense. anyway, he followed us to QLD then begged to borrow my car for his new job. its the first job he had son i agreed, he used it to pick up my 14 yr old sisiters school friend, she also being 14 my husband at the time was 25, after njight clubbing and breakfast my x then burnt my brand new jeep cherokkee out and told me to comew collect it :)
Yes
polyamorous is perhaps the wrong word for me, but i've been with my partner for 5 years and we are open - both able to see other people, its never been a problem
That's just sad, m8.
When you have a successful polyamorous relationship and know several other with successful ones as well 🤫🤫
Don't know if it's called polyamorous, but had a roomie in employee housing for a winter in Park City who had two wives and a son. Him, his son, and I would all get stoned throughout the winter season while working together, and they seemed pretty happy 😂. (Side note : dude didn't even need the job, just wanted the free ski pass, and a winter getaway, his two wives were l o a d e d because of their careers)
A successful poly relationship is all about respecting boundaries and being able to have good communication. Considering how most people can't achieve that within their monogamous relationships, it's not that surprising that when they try to "open up" the relationship it goes up in flames. It's a chill time if it's for you tbh.
Polyamory is for the self esteemless
Successful Poly relationships exists. I've been in one for 9 years now. Dating a woman who is married and the husband has a girlfriend too.
They definitely get a bad rap cause of assholes who really shouldn't be with anyone let alone in a monogamous relationship. It takes a certain type who can communicate openly and honestly while being secure in themselves. So yeah, good poly relationships aren't easy to come by.
WE NEED A JORDAN SPRINGER SHOW!!!
(Caps cuz I'm screaming)
There's plenty of good poly relationships; people just have a confirmation bias against them because they're different. How many monogamous relationships and marriages falling apart have you heard of?
Good self help comedy, like Adam Hills Happyism and Inflatable...
I genuinely do have a succesful poly relationship, mostly because there's zero co-dependence, very little expectation, and we see each other once a month or so (before I moved to canada, it's a little less now... *insert Feels Guy face) so it makes sense to be able to see other people. She has another commited partner, I have a fuck buddy, so needs get met, everyones happy, and I have someone to make me the little spoon when I come home. Simple.
as a queer person in a happy polyamorous relationship most of the horror stories i hear are from straight people doing polyamory tbh
99% of polyamorous relationships end up in some kind of toxic situation where one or more feelings gets ground to dust. Precious few people legitimately want it and can actually do it.
I know a girl that was in a polyamorous relationship....I wish people would take things seriously...
Like, I still love my ex crush, my first sight of love, I want to date her but I can't since she never liked me back. But, trying to move on is soo hard. Also, I tried dating with other girls instead of my first real crush, it never works....I think I really need serious help. I'm not sure but, I still like my first crush. I think, I should've been home schooled....kinda regret keeping my eyes opened lol. Life is hard,
@@Minato_Akiyama03 Sounds liek you have it bad. But there's not much else you can do but keep looking. You will find someone you like just as much, if not more. And keep in mind, knowing someone as a friend is vastly different from knowing them in a relationship. She might seem perfect now, in the haze of a bad crush, but for all you know, you two might just not work in a relationship at all. That's why it's never good to dwell on 'what could have been' and to look forward instead. Living in the past does you no good.
Was with a guy for three years and broke up with him butt naked in the shower on valentines day
you know they youtuber destiny? he is the 1% who has a successful open relationship
Carcassonne GANG
I've been in a happy polyamorous relationship for 6 years so yes it does happen. But the biggest mistake I see people make is starting out a long-term monogamous relationship and trying to turn it poly. This rarely works because it's not what all parties signed up for and is often one party just wanting to cheat with permission. The poly relationships that work are poly from the start. Everyone needs to be onboard, communicate effectively, and be able to work with everyone's needs. As a result it's not for everyone, but I've honestly never been happier.
How many people are involved and which partner has more relationships?
Laughing at your pathetic life.
Polyamorous relationships never last or stand the test of time.
Proof? Try and find anyone over the age of 50 that is still in one.
Reason? Libedo, particularly for women, fades as you get older and thus the reason for having such a relationship disappears.
Quite amusing seeing all the comments here from ppl thinking that THEIR poly is different 😅
Yeah, exactly.
"b-but we've been together for 5 years..." Ok make that 50 and hmu, then I'll change my mind
mfw my partner and my best friend and his partner unironically play Carcassonne all the time
I'm in a successful polyamorous relationship, but it's _definitely_ not for everyone. You can't be a remotely jealous person, you need to set fair ground rules that BOTH of you follow, you need good trust and communication skills, you both need to be relatively mature and independent, and (this will sound fucked up) both need to be attractive enough to know that you won't end up getting the raw end of the stick where your partner has 5 side pieces but you can't pull any tail.
You also need to be able to deal with people variously calling you and your partner cheaters, cucks, sluts, liars, etc. My relationship was polyamorous from the beginning and only became serious gradually over a few years, and I'd recommend that because every time I've tried to "open up" a monogamous relationship it's gone terribly. If people love you, they'll often try it despite their deeper feelings against it, and simmer in denial and jealousy for months until they explode. I'd say maybe 25% of healthy relationships would benefit from polyamory, so be careful and honest about your feelings if you try it.
Personally sounds like you are the problem. Trying to '''''open'''''' up multiple monogamous relationship. Just say you want to cheat and abuse the other persons feelings for you so they dont complain.
@@vincentcarl9907 Wow, what a remarkably reasonable and nuanced interpretation of my comment! Clearly you both understood my point fully AND replied without revealing an extremely jaded attitude stemming from personal trauma!
Listen my man, I don't know who hurt you, but if you take a deep breath and read your own response, you'll understand why it doesn't make any sense. In relationships where both parties agree to see other people, that's not cheating. Even if it were, then by definition we'd be doing exactly what you propose: "being honest" about wanting to "cheat."
It's really telling that you reacted so negatively to a comment _advising caution_ around polyamory and _warning_ about what can go wrong. I'm sorry if someone used polyamory to disguise cheating, but my comment is intended to prevent people from being hurt like I assume you were.
@@karmicguzzler fortunately or unfortunately, I have not experienced cheating under the guise of polyamory. I still entirely believe that you do that in particular. Hopefully, your relationships go well and you find yourself somebody who wants to engage in polyamory from the beginning and not 'after monogamy'. You may already have but I dont feel like rereading.
Edit: I have reread and you are in a successful polyamorus relationship that was set that way from the beginning as it should be not after. Congrats to you.
@@vincentcarl9907 Hey man, kudos for actually responding and the kind wishes
Currently in a healthy polyamorous relationship (4+ years), my partner has a husband and he has another girlfriend. We have "family dinner" together once a month or so with the 4 of us and all get along well. Polyamory can work, but it takes more work and relies on great communication from all parties or it can fall apart. Many others in our friend group are also in successful polyamorous or open relationships.
Delete this
Successful poly here, 4 years. Key difference to all the examples is that we both went into it wanting a poly relationship. And good communication too 😂
is it one guy four women or is other guys involved in it too?
@@N1DM This is also a key question.
@@N1DM nah, just 2 dudes. We’ve been with other guys and other girls. But this was what we both wanted from the beginning
@@PickleSurpriseVEVO so if I'm getting this correctly it's two guys filling up as many holes as they possibly can.
Sounds sad and empty.
Dude, dude means you can't ride a horse as in "Dude Ranch". That's why most dudes are dudes, most people don't ride horses these days.
"went to jail cuz I smashed her dad's head in with a rock cuz I was jealous" well, polyamory ain't for everyone
did you actually just upload a 9:59 long video?
I do know of one guy who has a poly relationship and it works for them, granted he somehow has 3 girls, living together, and all of them are deeply in love (+ are best friends with eachother) and somehow are normal functioning humans. I dont know how he manages it or got in that situation to begin with, but all the power to them.
guys an anime protagonist. its the only logical explaination
As someone who briefly dabbled with poly relationships, no it’s rare they work. There’s always jealousy between the women in some regard, that and my former city’s polyamory community was all basically banging each other and spread a hell of a case of the clap among all 70+ of them
im like no.400 (my ocd made me do it)
I’m one year in to a poly relationship, but we entered the relationship because we were both like “I don’t know if I could be monogamous.. OMG ME TOO!” And then a month later after that conversation we dated
We didn’t change the expectations of the relationship, also we are only one year in and definitely we’ll see what the future holds.
Also you could probably more consider us swingers rather than emotionally polyamorous