Social Anxiety Can Be Cured ⚠️
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- Опубліковано 9 тра 2022
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Julien Blanc (AKA JulienHimself) is a Swiss-born, U.S.-based self-help speaker, entrepreneur and transformational coach.
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The Cause Of Social Anxiety ⚠️
How to beat social anxiety and approach anxiety... Powerful action steps!
In this short, Julien Blanc (AKA Julien Himself) reveals how to beat social anxiety and how to get rid of social anxiety for good!
Use this powerful technique if you're suffering from social anxiety disorder and social phobia.
#anxiety #socialanxiety #anxietyrelief
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Hey just wanted u to know Yahawah is real and Yahawashai also a lot of ppl try to undercut him because they r upset with the reality they created the problem is ppl dont wanna follow the word they anxious because they wanna play in a false reality pretending to care about others when they know its all about profit and all this good stuff what good is it to know its stolen or built off destroying others how can anyone continue to perpetuate the concept they hate daily or come to terms with forced interactions the idea you r here without yahawah as the creator that idea alone is a definite no just theres no point in that not for me. But this was a really good watch and keep it up yes the good and evil r in yahawahs hands as are the people who have a order and structure in his plan wheather they like the position or not. And honestly its going to be as it should in the end. Ppl keep saying no ones coming but when you simply don't accept any of the bs man puts on for a show lol 💯 😴 😂 I don't mean nothing by being fair in my lingo. This was fun to watch keep it up
ua-cam.com/users/shorts84it6E6Tea8?feature=share there r always honest ppl getting good ppl into things they dont have business in it all starts with school.
Thanks Julien!
Bruh that first video is literally about putting yourself in crazy situation and doing social anxiety challenges, wtf bro.
I wish the above link was clickable
Telling a socially anxious person to "Just go out" is equivalent of saying "Don't be sad" to a depressed person
Not even close! Horrible analogy you can’t just turn off depression, but you CAN just go out, ur anxiety just won’t like it bruh
It's a solid analogy. I grasp the intended message. For individuals grappling with severe social anxiety, the prospect of being scrutinized or observed can intensify their anxiety. When anxiety reaches a peak, the inclination to avoid social situations becomes pronounced. While it's theoretically possible to push through, anxiety typically holds sway. It's crucial to distinguish between anxiety and mere shyness; anxiety can be incapacitating and draining, potentially paving the way for depression.
literally the worst thing you can say (to me personally)
As a socially anxious person who is depressed downloading tinder makes going on a walk a lot easier
@@NikkypoohYT That's what you're not understanding. You can't "just go out". There can be a mental block for someone with social anxiety just like how there's a mental block for a depressed person to be happy. Of course it's not the same illness nobody is saying that but there's certain things that seem easy to others that are actually really difficult for a person with mental illness. Also, most people with social anxiety have depression.
This. My social anxiety has personally gotten much better when I figured out who I was and chose to be that.
What does this mean? Like what actions did you take to figure out who you were and choose to be that?
Mmj
@@s5079282 just be patient with yourself and focus on yourself instead of other people. I know it’s easier said than done
@@s5079282 I found something to be passionate about. Something that gives me time to think and I can better myself in.
I started going to the gym, dieting, and making it my #1 priority. Got a lot of time to think, and basically used all of my time to become a better version of myself. I think discovering yourself comes naturally in the process :)
@@s5079282 just start focusing on yourself and your life, improve yourself. Respect yourself and make sure you look at your core beliefs and change some bad ones about yourself. Its about building self confidence/esteem, being the part not acting the part
Had my first day as a door to door sales person today and my best advice is just do it. Just go up to people and be friendly
@Jesus Christ bro chill-
Yeah, just ignore the pathological panic attacks happening when you try to say something.
It doesn't matter if you get breathless not saying a single word.
Don't mind that you won't be able to think rationally at all throght the whole conversatiom due to "fight or flight" mode activation, worst thing that can happen is you can make a horrible mistake costing you financially later
Yeah, go and do it, people really won't notice your anxiety, just as they all tell you at cognitive behavioral therapy, chill, you have nothing to worry about. Or do you?
I've been socially active all my life and you know in my country it is a very social country, I thought if I would jst give it time it will disappear but it didn't.
Your best advice is pretty useless advice
Don't take this the wrong way but I think you missed the point of this video. Or you got the point and still commented what this guy was saying would only work temporarily.
To be honest, a lot of people say that anxiety is easy to overcome but to me I just have anxiety all the time I don’t feel like staying in this world I feel like I’m just letting go of myself and I just don’t know what to do in life😭
Same
Same
Same
Right there with you. The constant over-thinking is getting dull
You might also be aware that you have no particular goal in your life, I'm not talking about the dreams we see of becoming successful and all. You aren't really working towards achieving something other than trying to make your own social life better. I was also anxious in my early teens and felt bad about it but as soon as I turned 16 I decided to work towards achieving my goal, carrying my social anxiety along. And boom I didn't even realize when I started acting normal in public?? Take my words seriously, if you think too much about yourself you will never achieve true happiness in your life. Not trying to sound rude but this probably is the only way you can get over social anxiety.
Even Owen has anxiety sometimes after 20years of cold approach. His own words
These guys are full of shit and trying to sell you stuff! Wake up
I think the reason why i got to overcome my social anxiety for some times but not always was due to visualization and knowing that I'm valuable. That there's no reason to be embarrased or shy.
I've never put myself out there doing challenges and other other stuff. It was just on the inside.
Can you tell me how you overcame your social anxiety because i have social anxiety and its killing me. Its making me resentful and angry at myself😢
@@arjunharidas6434just stop thinking about yourself more and act normally keep telling your mind like its ok when it start overthinking again ignore it and keep yourself busy in your surroundings
i am suffering from this from last 7 years.... i know how it feels... the worst part is you can't even tell to anyone what you are going through. you die everyday
I hate most social situations but i love working out and gonna start training kickboxing. Im so much more comfortable around people when im in a gym
I overcome Social Anxiety understanding that No one gives a fuck about me.
can u explain that to me bro..i have the same probpem
@@Kannankandi I think he mean to say... Everyone is busy in there own self nobody care about others... So nobody care about you stop thinking about them too. do what you want to do....
I did to but my anxiety can get severe in some situations like doing a job interview, no matter how much I think “I don’t care what people think” or thoughts that doesn’t cause the anxiety, it never goes away. I even forced myself out of my comfort zone daily going out by myself which is something I couldn’t do in the past (couldn’t go to the store by myself without parents back then) but it never goes away. I felt like passing out when I was in a crowded store and also when I was given a conversation by my supervisor in his office for 5 minutes, not sure what to do next
@@Jesus-yr7nk u can try self hypnosis, meditation to understand the logic behind your fears, and understand why u feel so important, and why u cant make a mistake in public, it can be a trauma in the past, i recommend u applying memento mori, too, after 100 years, we all will be gone, so f*ck off, man. And if ur a teenager, search for help.
@@Jesus-yr7nk and if u achieved to do things u couldnt do in the past, celebrate it, get happy, get motivated to feel this feeling more and more
Sometimes it's not that you are shy you might be paranoid from things than are unbalanced in your brain. Get healthy eat right stay away from drugs and alcohol and exercise.
It makes me so mad. I struggle of social anxiety bc of bullying. so whenever I have parties and all that stuff, I feel like I ruin it for everyone cuz I feel excluded. so at the end of the day, I fall flat on my bed wondering if I'm the problem or others
Working out can help but it’s still there. the constant feeling like something is about to happen even tho I’m just sitting eating breakfast is starting to get dull.
my social anxiety is so bad that I almost mostly cried on stage in my class
Avoiding social situations is perfectly fine, given that you do not feel lonely. Thinking that we have to be super social, because it appears to be the standard is not helpful. Allowing ourselves to be who we are is helpful.
Good luck getting through life with shitty social skills and having no friends that you actually like and would choose over others.
Everybody likes socialization. Some people just aren’t good at it, and fear it. Some people like it more than others, but everyone likes it.
Also, some people just don’t like their social group
Telling people to avoid socializing is not helpful.
@@_7isaiahbut people should have a choice
@@M0101EP the point is to get better right. Well, the cure is leaning into the fear. Psychology 101
This. I've been in uncomfortable social situations for years now and yet I still feel the same as when I first walked out there. You cannot enact change from within by using external pressure.
I think causes of social anxiety is awareness about what others think about him. When person aware about reality and delusion the phobia comes down slowly and permanently.
Yes but forcing the social anxieties situations makes it easier to do in the future. It helps you subconsciously to get over it and make your social anxiety smaller. Then you are able to deal with it better.
It’s a good first step, but it doesn’t get to the cause… The key is to combine it with LETTING GO of the sensations that get triggered in you as you put yourself in those situations.
@@JulienHimself ahh okay, thanks for the reaction! So what your saying is, learn to let go while doing the small steps outside your comfort zone (For example social experiments). By doing that, try to learn to not be triggered in those situations.
I want to train myself to be more confidence and more less caring (Not giving a f*ck kind of thing) in some specific situations. How would you advice me to learn to deal with it? I was thinking about just forcing the situation and learn to deal with it. Seeing that it isn't as bad as o thought. Stepping outside mine comfort zone...
Nope.
@@JulienHimself how do we we wire our thought patterns?
@@JulienHimselfwhat do you mean my let go of the sensations
I think its scary to just start talking to people i know cuz they are going to be like ” why is she talking she is always quiet ” so what should i do then?
I think for me just knowing that them thinking that or even saying that doesn’t cause you to disintegrate or dissolve into oblivion helps 🤷🏾♀️
I highly recommend people with social anxiety to stop giving a f*** about what others think about you and stop trying to impress others to get validation.
Yes! Check this out: ua-cam.com/video/fs0I5W7mcU8/v-deo.html
Awesome message, I want to become this. I try but everything I try is temporary! I need a different mindset, but how?!
It’s not that easy man. Social anxiety stems from trauma. So the fear is asked on not wanting to get beaten down any more than you already have. Think about it this way, the trauma crater deep wounds. Those wounds have healed a little bit but if you re-stab an old wound again, it becomes much worse and ever time you open that wound up, it hurts more and more. That’s why the fear gets worse and worse. People literally kill themselves over not being accepted because the pain gets too to be too much.
Now here’s the thing. As someone with major trauma in this area myself, I have overcome a lot of my social anxiety. It’s very doable. But I will say that it’s also extremely difficult. It requires a lot of time and a lot of effort. And it’s like 90% inner work. I’m order to truly overcome social anxiety, your validation must come from within. Trust me, seeking that external validation will never work, because right when you get rejected again it will open up that old wound and you’ll come crashing down. Your self esteem will be a roller coaster.
What did it for me was to quit drinking, quit smoking, building better habits, taking care of myself, cold showers, buying new clothes, respecting myself, figuring out the kind of guy I am as well as my best qualities. Loving myself for me unconditionally. I’m not 100% there yet, but at this point, rejection doesn’t even bother me anymore because there isn’t nothing someone can say to me that’s going to change how I feel about myself, it’s just not gonna happen. Because I know who I am, I know my character, my values, what I stand for, etc. When you get out there you realize that most people are fucked up anyway. You’ll be like “this is the person I’m so afraid of?”. The average person is a fucking mess.
And even gettigg past all that, people will notice this stuff. So in addition to all the inner work you’re doing, you will 100% receive that external validation as well. It’s incredible how it happens, people will sense your confident vibe and will want to be around you. I get compliments all the time now and I never used to in the past. It’s like you become a different person. It’s crazy.
But yeah, it’s definitely a long, tough road. I’m still working on myself all the time. Becoming a boxer and doing yoga has also helped too.
Sorry for the typos, I’m on my phone.
@@marigi2013 face all the issues you have with yourself internally and release that fear
This is so true last year I started doing theatre and I was trying and trying and since I am not doing it anymore my anxiety is back
Speakinggggg facts!!!!! Forced myself to put myself in social situations made it sooo much worse and make me dislike myself even more!
Mantra for "the cause":
No matter what happens I will be fine
If I think I can't - I'm right, if I think I can - I'm right
PS: a lot of social issues are cured by knowing who you are and where you belong
My social anxiety has got so bad to the point where I can’t sign up for my favorite sports anymore and I don’t know how to fix it 😢
The more you accept yourself, the better life will be. Don't care what everybody else thinks about you, at the end of the day, you are the one who has to live with you. So think kindly of yourself.
Same
Psychotherapy
How have you been fairing of late, Adelynn?
I’m an expert on this topic with substantial personal experience.
@@junior.von.claireyeah? So you vouch that exposing yourself to social situations doesnt help?
Yes dear Julien, but how, HOW I say?!
YES! Same please we need help!
A great video. Finally someone on UA-cam that understands this problem. If it was as simple as desensitisation virtually no one would have social anxiety due to having to go to school or work etc.
I lose my words when I get anxious in social situations 😢
Same I have no social skills
Same
Yes, this! I have been trying to break through my social anxiety for many years, but it doesn’t even get better but worse.
THAT'S WHAT I'VE BEEN SAYING FOR FOREVER.
I went to a teenage therapist like a year ago and explained my social anxiety to her, which was already hard for me because I'm basically revealing myself to this stranger without anyone i know and trust to be there with me.
At the end of the first session she tells me "Ok, next time we're gonna put you in a group with similarly anxious people and do challenges together". Like, NEXT TIME. THE VERY SECOND TIME I'M IN THERAPY, YOU EXPECT ME TO FACE THE THING I'M IN THERAPY *FOR* ?????
Needless to say, when I got home I made my mother message the therapist to tell her I won't be attending therapy anymore. But damn, why do people assume it's just THAT EASY to "face your fears"????
It isn't easy but that is the best and most effective proven way to reduce it. It's called exposure therapy. And in a group like that you can get feedback how oyu come across. I wanna see someone that managed to think and reason their way out of social anxiety because I don't see it. Most anxious people already seem to be aware that the fear is irrational and they aren't that important to other people but yet it doesn't dissolve the anxiety.
My social anxiety is getting worse and nothing will work
I wouldn't say it can be cured, a part of it is always gonna be there, but with time, it can get better (talking from experience!).
Its gonna take effort, a lot of it, but change happens.
Good point. But I’m hoping that some difficult situations will end up going good or better than I imagine (because so much of it is preemptive anxiety), and it’ll give me confidence to not avoid social situations if the ratio of good to bad is skewed towards good. Don’t know if anyone agrees but I believe it could help
HOW do I get to the Cause and erase it out of my subconcious mind ?
Can anybody explain me how social anxiety feels like?
In certain fairly normal social situations i feel really stressed out, for example when I go shopping,but I wouldn't say it affects my life so much that I can't go out.I just start sweating and I feel like everybody is watching what I do.
It's like going out in a public then when in the presence of large people, one feels naked and everybody is starting at his/her naked body. Then one desperately wants to be in the background or invisible.
It feels like pain in your head, you feel scared and fear, you feel like people are staring at you. When ever you talk you feel pain, it’s like getting whipped every time you talk so you stop talking to stop the pain. Just walking publicly is painful, the pain is in my head constantly
i just took a walk to "challenge" my social anxiety. at first it was going fine, cuz i was walking in a place where people usually don't go, but when i reached the part of my city that was full of people my anxiety and agoraphobia started to kick in even more, and i almost had a panic attack, fearing i would throw up. I'm going to therapy but damn this is hard, I'm trying to understand why I can't do it but it's something i feel like i can't do
So insanely proud of you for challenging yourself that day. You’re awesome for that. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this, I know how deeply uncomfortable and scary it can be. How are you doing now?
@@wid173 somehow I'm doing good, yesterday I went for the first time to a concert (the one with Johnny Depp and Alice Cooper) today I have an headache cuz i was pretty anxious and it was something so weird for me to do since I literally don't come out of the house, it was a bit of a shock, but yeah I'm happy that I did it
@@_.wellmaybe._ wow that’s major! That’s super impressive considering concerts are some of the most socially overwhelming environments. Sorry you’re feeling off today, but yes you should be super super proud of yourself. Keep it up!❤️
@@wid173 I was so brave when I get my first job but due to some issue Idk I got social anxiety I really dont want this i have joined new job and Im unable to do anything in fear or don't know what I really want to become the same person which I was before
Don’t judge yourself for needing to avoid social interaction for a while if need be.It’s not an intellectual problem but an emotional one and that takes so much time to uproot. You got this 😊
I Recognize much. I’m building a collection of you and Owen to go through 🔨🔨
When I’m care-free I’m the most happiest, and I feel like that is who I am. Somehow sometimes I get broken down to not doing anything and procrastinating. I don’t know if I’m bipolar without any cause to why depression comes. Right now I feel it might be because I’ll be doing things I don’t really want to.
Just wanted to write off hehe
So what practices do you do to find out what your subconscious mind is ordering for you ?
Here's a good overview video of the process that's worked best for me: ua-cam.com/video/1R3zIvZqCAQ/v-deo.html
Gosh,I have tried to accept it and I have tried to ignore it, still struggle with it.
Imagine wanting to hang out with people.
Lmao
Where’s the full video for this one?
I literally have done so many presentations, I literally acted in front of a whole class and school, but I still am so nervous doing it, hasn’t gotten better
I was getting better at being "human", you know getting to know people socialising etc. But since Covid came, I'm here a wreck.
I get that we shouldn't avoid. Id advise others of that too. But what if we've avoided for like 10 years and now its impossible. My body is in chronic stress from simple things like going to the store daily and walking past peoples houses. I get brain fog, palpitations, stomach issues and dizzines like im gona pass out and once that stress starts, my body is suffering for the rest of the week. My only choice now is to get sedatives to be able to go somewhere like church. U dont have social anxiety if u can sit in a hall full of people, in the middle or front row of chairs. For me i cannot do that. It annoys me when ppl say they have social anxiety and can do all these things. They haven't got a clue how bad it can be for some. Exposure therapy/not avoiding won't help me right now, it just makes me ill
This is realistic fear because some people can be dangerous
When do we get the meek inherit the earth video? I grew up as a people pleaser and progressively moved out of it when I realized people around you are nobodies with inflated egos
Social anxiety destroyed my studies💔🥺😭
When people say the cure is just to go out and dont be scared,with my level of anxiety that would actually make it worse for me
I actually don't agree that that sort of thing doesn't help with anxiety. Unless I'm mistaken isn't it well documented that progressive exposure therapy can be very effective for treating anxiety?
That's not to say that in certain cases identifying and treating deeper causes would be much more effective but honestly I'm not a psychiatrist so I can't say for sure. No hate at all, but I think that this kind of advice might turn people away from something that could genuinely help them.
I knew tht exposure therapy was crap. Maybe for Fears but bot Anxietys.
Wheres the full vido please
Consistency is key
So what to do then? Whats the solution?
realise that if ur ever out everyone is doing their own thing they don’t care about you they might look at you for 2 seconds, yes, but not like they’ll remember in 5 minutes time because you’re not important to them
Where is the whole video?
Look at it as a hallucination fucking fighting for my ass to not look crazy because if I don’t fight I get called crazy but sometimes I wander would I just get better if I stopped caring at all.
This condition sucks! My anxiety has gotten worse the older I get. This may sound dramatic but I strongly believe I was born with it 😅 and tbh i think being the middle child has had a big impact on my anxiety; feeling like I dont belong, feeling/being misunderstood and being an introvert!
I struggle with social anxiety because I live in a small Midwest city and a lot of people have said things about me on the Internet because of my relationship with my ex girlfriend. I’ve also done a lot of approaches with women that haven’t gone well so I’m always afraid that if I go out to a bar or something people will know who I am and try to attack me. How does one deal with this?
I think maybe let go of what others think of you and just fcking live ya life
stop living on how you think how others see you, because its never true
@@Nightzone you right
Move?
@@harmhoeks5996 Yeah let me just get out of poverty and move suddenly
Also caffeine does give anxiety and stress like coffee black tea chocolate pain pills and many more
Now I have come to my final not provisional diagnosis.. Social anxiety
Hey brother, have you heard of the “inside out” paradigm in psychology? I think you’ll find it to be 100% accurate if you do, tell me your thoughts if you do.
I'm not who you wanted but I'm gonna look into this tonight.
@@alecpercy91 sweet! I only have a vague understanding of it, I don’t know how to “implement” it practically.
I use quote marks because it’s not really something you implement per se, it’s just something you “get”.
Try out hypnosis. That therapy works with the subconscious mind and in that way you can easily find the cause of your anxiety and work on it. Each one of your beliefs reside in the subconscious mind, and you can access it.
I suffer from fear of advice given my men who can't wear a hat straight.
Is this from a longer video?
Idk man mine just went away after a couple tries. It's not the "exercise" itself, it's the realization that i don't really give a shit about what people think.
Which came from within.
So true! Never liked his RSD stuff but dam!
Okay so how do i fix my subconscious mind?
How to fix that then
Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/AUj6gN0o4wU/v-deo.html 😉
1 tip plz overcome social anxiety
Okay so how do I fix that? Cause I’ve done the crazy situations, but now it just seems like an era in my life and I’m back to always being afraid confined in my own solitude 24/7
This is very nice to draw to
I think thought patterns are more to blame than the subconscious mind.
If you look at social anxiety being something that the younger generations are dealing with I don't think it's necessarily the youth is dealing with more trauma.
But he's not mentioning the only way to train your subconscious mind is by taking action on the fear. I'd like to hear what his suggestion is.
I would have social anxiety wearing that shirt
I’m suffering with social anxiety
"Going to the gym is only a temporary solution. What happens when you stop going? You get weak again"
Anybody have a link to the full video, or is it just this one clip?
I need to hear you drill me over how jealous I am… I’m stupid jealous. Crazy jealous. It’s fucking annoying
I guessed there’s another video on the solution.
I dont agree. Practice buildings confidence
The cause is to fix your thoughts pattern.
Way of thinking
Better than all psychologist and psychiatric I see
you solve social anxiety by starting a meditation practice to calm the amygdala, combined with gradual exposure and gradual correction of negative thought patterns. Use help if needed. neurplasticity is what caused the problem, and is also what can help reverse it. Don't buy into the "it can´t be cured" statements
Genetic social anxiety disorder can't be cured Bjt general social anxiety can be cured
Finally someone normal
Omg sooo trueeee
Julien himself
so whats the cure dude
Duck off to anyone mocking me and making me felling anxious :-)
You're 👍
Can he buy a shirt that fits?
What do these guys always were the goofiest drip
Well
So..?
Fight fire with fire
Realest shit i heard
Amén amén amén.
Soooooo what worksss????!!
😭😭
Im buying
What u selling??
social anxiety is getting worse everyday
Damn that’s why it isn’t working
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fear
so?
So? NO MORE progressive desensitization! Learn to let go instead: ua-cam.com/video/AUj6gN0o4wU/v-deo.html