Chalamet's performance in this scene is specially flawless. That gesture with his fingers touching his lips at 1:09, his facial expressions, and this "are you happy I came here?"... Every single detail shows so much vulnerability and insecurity that moves me deeply.
0:56 look the eyebrows my favourite facial expression. In my country there is a sentence when somebody it´s fully in love, they say: "it´s up to the balls!!!"...
I love how confidently Oliver asks "do you know how happy I am that we slept together?" with the lady behind him in full earshot. Such a change from the scene where Elio confesses and he says "we can't talk about those kinds of things." Oliver had fallen for Elio by this point. He wasn't asking to charm or reassure a 17 year old after his first time, he really was so happy that they had slept together.
@@jimparsons4312 Thankyou! It will be an anxiously, anticipated meeting. We live 8 hours from each other. After college our pathes took such different directions. Like Elio in the book, I could have easily gone the music route because I had many years of piano and trombone but opted for healthcare. After college, "Oliver" went into the Air Force and ended up in retail sales. I went into the Army Medical Corps and ended up in the private sector as an anesthesia practitioner. Interestingly, we send a Christmas card and family type letter to each other every year. CMBYN, has resurrected a whole host of emotions inside of me. I know exactly what it was like for Elio to look into that fire with tears in his eyes. Love is an eternal flame that never, ever dies!
Brown It was never easy. I am happy for us both even though our situation was less than ideal to go our separate ways. We have our families, children and grandchildren. It would have been easy to have spent the rest of my life with my "Oliver" but the times in which we lived in very conservative midwest U.S. made it almost impossible to maintain a gay relationship. At least I know where Jim lives and have had some contact over the years. There is a hole in my heart to this day and I know the one and only person who can fill that emptiness...."Oliver."
1: Because Luca is a genius. 2: Because Chalamet is one of the greatest actors of all time. 3: because their combined natal astrology is that of a couple who are deeply in love, and are likely to be for life !!!!! 4: Maybe, just maybe, because Chalamet fell desperately in love with Armie (just as Luca intended ???!!!) and maybe the most challenging part for Armie, was not showing how terrifyingly close he was to completely falling for Timmy. If he had not got children he may not have been so coy. 5: Bottom line (no pun intended) Luca gave us all the ride of our lives, and I for one am eternally grateful. Special mention and sincere gratitude to Elizabeth, she must have suffered and paid perhaps more than anyone for the creation of this incredible work of art, may she be rewarded.
Oh my gosh,yes!!! I can literally feel all the feelings practically emanating from the screen!!!! I haven’t even seen the movie yet and I know that I will cry watching it,due to all the clips I’ve seen.
@@HarryPotter-om7zg I’m pretty sure the whole thing was fake so you may now list after him in peace knowing that you will not be the next piece of meat at his dinner table 💀
The whole point of this scene is to show how vulnerable and needy Elio is, and at the same time to show how caring Oliver is -- and respectful of Elio's feelings. It works so well precisely because these issues remain unstated; they're merely demonstrated by what the characters say and do. It's a short scene, but it was vital to the success of the film for something like this to happen.
But, what to do when one feels needy of love and care and vulnerable like Elio here but not being understood or ignored. It is so painful... if anyone feels like me please dont hate your vulnerability and sensibility or what ever... that is not the solution.
I have watched this movie at least 30 times. It moves me each and every time. I briefly had my own Oliver and Elio experience being the older Oliver. It was before the movie came out. Lior, also Jewish, very much looks like Elio at the time. Such a beautiful and tender scene!
So I just watched the movie. Never has a love story touched me like this one. And I wish I could watch it for a first time again, because it was so beautiful and I wanted them so hard to live happily ever after. Obviously I'm going to watch it another ten times, but still. It's simply a masterpiece.
unfortunately, the button to erase this movie from the head, has not invented yet, and thus to be able to see it as the first time every time you want ...there is some inventor reading this?...
In my own head canon, I just pretend that Oliver realizes his mistake and doesn't get married, returns to Italy, and he and Elio do end up together and live happily ever after.
Jonah Smith , you aren't alone..may I make a suggestion? Listen go the Audio book, free on line, before you watch the movie again..it's word for word, from the book and it's narrated by Armie Hammer. ..it gives you lots of incite to the story and, Elio and Oliver , that the movie misses. You're hooked. Join the club...
It's hard to say which one is better as they are both quite different and each has its pros and cons. We might could say the book is better in that you are actually fully in Elio's head space when everything is going on (the book is actually presented as a reflection upon past events and not details of ongoing events). And let me tell you, this boy's thoughts fly at top speed all … the … time! It's part of what makes him so endearing. The book also has the benefit of what is essentially an extensive epilogue, where you get to see a few significant interactions between Elio and Oliver later on. I wouldn't say the conclusion is fully satisfying. It's powerful, for sure, and it does imply very strongly that Elio and Oliver _do_ actually end up together after so many years apart (like this line from Oliver to Elio: "I'm like you," he said, "I remember everything." as well as the exchanges between them then), but I wanted it to be made explicit so my heart can rest in peace.
I was 17 when I met my partner and he was 27. The feeling.... of feeling ....so helplessly in love is an experience everyone should experience in life. We were together for 48 years, till he died 5 years ago. A void that is you can't put into words, yet, I feel like I have had a blessed life.
The way Elio starts to physically breathe harder when Oliver pushes up close to him is just such good acting. Timothy really acts like he's physically attracted to and completely enamored with this other guy and it's very believable
Oliver was really struggling to cope with a lot different feelings the "morning after", he was feeling guilty, insecure, scared but also incredibly happy and in love. Hammer did a great job reflecting all this.
The things you pick up after watching it several times. Elio puts the hand that was just holding Oliver's to his lips in a way to savor his lover for longer.
I agree. I have seen this movie a shameless amount of times. Everytime I pick up something new. I then watched it focusing on just Oliver's experience. That was a ride. Not a teenage crush. Not humoring a teenager. Full blown love.
no. you're wrong. Elliot knows exactly what Oliver means. It's very clear that he is not dense at all. He is just using the opportunity to reassure Oliver about the other concern, the one of people knowing.
When elio said"are you happy I came here?!"..you could feel every fiber of his being vibrates!!...they convey this sexual tension with out doing much! That shared look!😎 You could almost here Elio gasp!..sexual chemistry!...chemistry in itself is hard to have specially on screen! ..but sensuality In itself it's rare to see on screen!!
For me, the best scene in the movie. How Oliver says "Do you know how happy I am that we slept together?" makes it even more real and shows how strongly he feels about Elio. It has been a long time since I watched such a beautiful love story. So real and refreshing
I refuse to believe, that these 2 don’t like each other beyond just film . Like the acting is so on point and emotional. Like how can they not like each other 😩
They were both sooo good! But like Armie's acting in this scene is so subtle. The look in his eyes, right after Elio says "I just wanted to be with you." and right before the "Are you happy I came here?" lines... so heartbreakingly good.
this scene is so wonderful so natural that you can forget for a moment that it's a movie, we only hear a real conversation and these gentle touches with hands and then a conversation, I don't know, I'm enchanted by the whole movie, thrown to my knees but this scene just pushes me to the ground
I love the way Oliver says "Of course you don't know" because it means it was special for him in comparison to other encounters he has had in his life but Elio couldn't possibly know how he feels since this was his first time Subtle momente but very very sweet ❤
This movie... just... ugggg I cant move past it. Its engrained in my bones or something it's always there in the back of my mind... it's so great but so devastating... just so epic
I really don't know anything about acting but the subtle moves and expressions are stunning. If this were performed by a girl and guy it would also be stunningly done. The script, direction and quality of acting draws you into the story like Casablanca did decades ago. "Bravo" from New Jersey.
I come back to this movie every once in a while. This is addiction. (thank God for these clips, i don't have to watch the whole movie to feel their chemistry) thank you
@0:20 you could see the sweat in elio's arm! Proves that he probably run his bike in full speed just so he could reach Oliver in time! The panic in his face shows how he regretted his behavior just before this scene! Aaawww Oliver's face when Elio uttered the words"I just want to be with you!"😍
In the book, Elio replies by whispering 'fuck me, Elio' in Oliver's ear and then goes away saying 'later'. I wish they left that in the movie as well :).
Elio was sore here okay, he even sat slowly at breakfast and now he rode the bike to town to see Oliver and make up for his chilly "morning after." That is some serious love right there!
Yes, according to the book he was sore to point he was feeling uncomfortable riding the bicycle to meet Oliver. Oliver did a very good job the night before lol.
I regret watched this movie! not because it's bad but because it's so good! it touches me so deep that two weeks now I'm still aching for them.. still haunting me...
0:26 when oliver breathes in like all his nerves are on alert by just looking at elio, his heartbeat is going at a bullet train rate? Gosh I just want something like this one day
This scene always leaves me with a smile on my face. I have watched it over and over again and still it has this effect. I knew after watching it for the first time, that i would love the movie. Thanks for the upload :)
I watched cmbyn when it came out and I swore to myself I would never watch it again bc it left me crying in my bed for almost 3 days straight... yet here I am again
I too had my own Oliver, with the exception that our story was heterosexual. But that’s how you know this movie works. It’s a love story, and love is transcendental. My Oliver was 6ft5, blonde, and blue eyed, (not unlike Mr. Hammer) so it kind of struck me hard. We have known each other since the 9th grade, and he got shipped off to boarding school and would come home for the summer. We would meet up and hang out, just talking and being goofy, every summer. One day he called me to chat, and I asked him “Say something that would shock me. I feel like I’m always doing all the talking.” There was a pause, and then he very quietly said “I love you. I have always loved you.” We met up later that afternoon, and for the first time he kissed me. I will never forget how soft his lips were or how delicate that kiss was. Ever. Right after he said to me again “I love you.” I don’t remember never not wanting to kiss him or ever wanting to stop. On his last day of his summer visit, hours before he was to leave, we made love for the first time. And it was just as passionate as his kiss. The next summer he came home and we finally became a couple. And it was perfect. One night I asked him how he lost his virginity, and he told me “...at your house.” I didn’t know until that moment. A few months had passed and he started to distance himself. Loooong story short, he got scared. We didn’t talk for three months, got back together, and two weeks back into our relationship, he joined the Navy. (So the line “I don’t want you to go” hits me hard too.) When he came home from basic, he blew me off again, and with the support of his family, they invited me to their home so I could confront him. Once again, it came down to fear. We were through, he went back to the Navy, and I was devastated. About a year had passed, (he was stationed in San Diego,) and his family invited me to a barbecue at their home. And as luck would have it, he called. I remember sitting in their backyard, and he told me he was getting married. My heart sank. I had to be the bigger person, and congratulated him. Even though I felt so betrayed by his fear, and his doubt, I loved him. Years passed, they divorced. And he ended up coming home. We intended to meet up, but it never happened. I moved away, and we keep in touch via social media. He’s remarried, and is happy. He sent me a message telling me his step-daughter was going to homecoming and he told her “Is this the boy you want to tell your friends about in 10 years? Is this the first kiss you want to remember. I told her about mine, and no regrets.” I was in tears. I have no doubt in my mind that he was the one. He was always the one. But fear, inexperience, timing, it never was on our side. That was cathartic.
Your story mirrors my Oliver story, except we were a gay couple and instead of 3 months our relationship lasted short of 3 years when we were in college. As we went our separate ways, we both eventually married, had children and grandchildren. All this was 47 years ago and there is still a void in my heart for "my Oliver." We have seen each other twice in 47 years, the last time was 25 years ago. Thanks to social media we plan to meet this year, 2020. My heart does go out to you for all that you suffered. What "Oliver" and I experienced doesn't even come close to my life today. Our love was so deep, it was meant for eternity. But like you, the time of 1970, the social pressures of conservative America, there was no way a gay union could survive. The after math was devastating with hurt, pain, loss and depression. In time I healed, but still had vivid dreams about us for many years and even decades. 🙏
@@philshuster7463 I read your story, and it inspired me to share mine. It hurts when you try to fill that void. When you find love with someone else, it's not the same. Sure it's a good love, and one you can be happy with. But it's not the same love you had with him. It's not as satisfying or makes you feel whole. When you were with him, you felt complete didn't you? When you heard his voice, or saw his smile you knew that was home. Just being near him was happiness. I remember how uncomplicated our love was. It was so natural, like opening your eyes, or exhaling. He always made me laugh. Even when we do get a chance to talk, he still does. And it hurts. My heart is aching just thinking about all the idiosyncrasies that made us whole. I'm so sorry if my words are broken and don't flow. But I'm sure you'll understand it's hard to maintain a single thought when a million memories come flooding back. Now as for you, I wish you all the happiness with your reunion with your Oliver. I hope the pause on the planet doesn't stagger anymore waiting for you or for him. I think 47 years is long enough. Please feel free to send updates. I am hoping someone finally gets a happy ending.
@@lucyfire27 It was the most wholesome thing I have ever experienced in my life. We esteemed the other more highly than ourself. All we wanted was to please the other. It taught me a lot about selfless love. Love can be selfish but that was not even in the mix for Jim and I. The beginning of the end for us, was when Jim wanted a hetero relationship with a mutual friend of ours. I was shocked and hurt at first but I understood he realized that we as a gay couple could not survive in that era. Jim was an identical twin. The brother was John but for me, it was easy to tell them apart. Their personalities were so different, to me like night and day. Not that John wasn't a nice guy, he just wasn't "my Oliver." Then John married a good friend of mine in college. I haven't seen them in 48 years. I savor those years and the memories of the innocence we experienced. I am so grateful to social media like UA-cam to allow me to open up to the "world" in a way I have never been able to do before. What a supportive, caring audience.
@@philshuster7463 There are different types of love. Your love for your family is not the same as romantic love (let's hope so!!!) The loss of a family member or friend is painful, that is true. The loss of romantic love is a different pain. Loss of family or friends is devastating, and I'm not reducing that pain in any way, as we have all lost someone. But since we're talking about romantic love, that's what I'll delve into. When you lose romantic love, that void can be filled by artifical love, and it's so damaging. Because not only are you hurting yourself, you're bringing an unknowing, innocent person into the mix who has no idea what's going on, and the effects of that snowball out of control. Too many people get hurt, and it's so unfair to all parties. I'm not judging, because I have filled a void with another person. It ended badly, naturally. Romantic love is rare. It's impossible to obtain because you cannot find it. It finds you. And when it happens, all of those cheesy cliches become true. The stars align, all the songs are about them, you smile more, and you're lost in thoughts of their memory, or of what's to come. And when that love disappears be it by force or by choice, all of the sad cliches become true. Everything is dark, your smile disappears, and all the songs become about them. You are lost in thought of their memory and what could've been. And all you want to do is talk to your best friend and tell them you are hurting, your heart aches, the pain is unbearable, and all you want is their comfort. This never happens because they are the reason for all of the pain that exists in your heart, your body, your soul. They too have to distance themselves to go through their experiences and their pain. Enduring the same pain separately is what devastates us the most of all. Filling the void with "artificial" love is never the answer. It won't solve your problem, it just creates a distraction from your heart and soul tugging on the truth. It soothes the beast, but only temporarily until it realizes its being fed lies. When your subconscious gets ahold of this problem, it starts to invade your dreams. When I dream about David, I wake up and the rest of my day is ruined. It is filled with the dream of what we had and what could have been. Thankfully I don't dream about him often, as I'd never leave my bed. But when I do, he is all I think about. He consumes my thoughts and all I want is for him to walk through the door, hold me tightly, and tell me that there will never be a moment our lives will be spent away from one another ever again.
Timothée touching his mouth with the fingers that were brushed up against Armie‘s was almost certainly done with purpose, if you read the book that’s a VERY ELIO thing to do
So many levels here. You love the story and of course you fall in love with each character individually as well as them as a couple which leads to you fantasize at being the third as well. Lastly, the whole setting, time period and place is like the forth character that fills you with nostalgia so you fall in love with that too. That must be why this film has made my heart burst wide open! It’s just too much! I am thoroughly besotted!
Love have mercy. Tim with is subtle mannerisms are amazing. The fact that he can play tough rolls is great for us the viewer. Skies the limit with this actor
I love love love this book and movie so much. It means so much to me. I often wonder what it would be like to actually have your crush return your feelings. That summer love, that connection, the passion.
I could watch every and any scene of this movie. I could watch it a thousand times and still feel goosebumps all over. They are so cute and hot together 💖
i want to watch this movie but these little clips are like drugs that i can’t handle. i don’t know if i could make it through the whole thing. it’s too good
I’ve just watched this film for the first time ever in full and I’m a fucking mess rn💔💔💔So beautiful, it’s one of the best movies I’ve ever seen fr🥺😍👏🏻
That little hand holding is the cutest thing that has ever happened in "my life"😂
Almost hand-holding. This is a small town in 1983.
Wow what a boring life
Touchsky hahahahaha You’re so cute
That didn't happen to you Gaylord
Oh, same ❤️😂😅
@@DaveEfinSan And yeah, my life's boring too, but this scene and those small details especially were so great to watch. ❤️
The chemistry is just so ugggh! Sizzles!
so why say "ugh"?
she means like "ughh" as in its just good like whyy is it so good
uh huh As Metallica says nothing else matters!
Chalamet's performance in this scene is specially flawless. That gesture with his fingers touching his lips at 1:09, his facial expressions, and this "are you happy I came here?"... Every single detail shows so much vulnerability and insecurity that moves me deeply.
Yes, it is a same vulnerability at the 0:30, when he thinks is to go.
Absolutely! I love Elio's face expression... It makes you want to hug him, doesn't it?
totally
I Died when his finger touches his lips
In the commentary Timmy said this scene is the closest of himself he sees!! manic !stattering mannerisms!..
0:22 “I just wanted to be with you”, timothee’s expression 😭😩💕
0:56 look the eyebrows my favourite facial expression. In my country there is a sentence when somebody it´s fully in love, they say: "it´s up to the balls!!!"...
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Timmy is golden.
I love how confidently Oliver asks "do you know how happy I am that we slept together?" with the lady behind him in full earshot. Such a change from the scene where Elio confesses and he says "we can't talk about those kinds of things." Oliver had fallen for Elio by this point. He wasn't asking to charm or reassure a 17 year old after his first time, he really was so happy that they had slept together.
I think the “lady” is a man
The "lady" lmao
well the lady is a man, and they are in Italy aren't they?
v_espertine o
v_espertine that was a man...
After watching all the UA-cam videos of the actors and director and reading the reviews, I got up the courage to watch this movie. One of the hardest things I've ever done. Why? Because I had my own Oliver back in 1969-72. We were in college, met through mutual friends in my rooming house one block from campus and quickly became good friends, then it developed into more than just friends. I was Elio, 5' 10", dark hair, and yes, just like the movie, I played piano with my Jewish heritage. My Oliver was 6' 3", fair, muscular and athletic. When I first met Jim, OMG, he about took my breath away. I thought this guy is not your average joe blow. He was exceptional with an air of confidence, strength, joy and peace with contagious charisma. I was immediately drawn to him and captivated by his persona. As the weeks progressed that first semester, we saw each other more and more. Jim was coming over to our rooming house more and more to see his old friends but it didnt take me long to figure out he wasn't just coming to see them. We would catch a glimpse of each other from a distance on campus and immediately be drawn to together, our eyes glued in a conversation we really didn't have time for but didn't want to end. In those early days our chemistry was being kindled and ignited. I found myself continually thinking about him. Little did we know or understand where this relationship was taking us. I really had no idea Jim was gay. I thought he was too manly to be gay. But he asked me to go home one weekend and meet his mother. His Dad had died from a heart attack. Jim said we could just sleep in his bed. I think he planned that. That night we found out what our relationship was all about and that love was at the center of it. It didn't take long for the shorts to come off. I thought my heart would leap out of my chest. There we were like two blades of grass twisting and turning. I was a bit naive, so deferred to Jim's lead. He knew what to do, how to do it and when to do it. He put me at complete ease with his gentle, kind, yet passionate love. What Elio and Oliver experienced for 3 months, Jim and I experienced for almost 3 years. It may not have been Crema, Italy but even on the plains of Emporia, Kansas like it was for us, when love is at the center of it, anywhere becomes "Crema!" Jim and I took love and life to another level. Our "Monet's Berm" was the whole night in the grass on our sleeping bags behind my rooming house. I don't think we slept 10 minutes that whole night. I remember it like yesterday. We played and studied together, we laughed, we were devoted, committed, and passionate. And just like Elio and Oliver, we ran around town together having the time of our lives! On our summer breaks we wrote long letters to each other, spending our treasured weekends together. We had to live under the radar. We took every opportunity to be alone, take a ski trip to the mountains of Colorado, take a train trip or visit family. Even our friends did not know what was really going on between us. How well I remember just the two of us driving down the highway, hanging on and loving each other. Jim would have one hand on the steering wheel, the other hand all over me or under my clothes. I have never known someone so strong, yet so kind, caring and mature. Jim was so stable, nothing ever rattled him. He was confident but not arrogant. We never fought or argued. We truly respected and supported each other. We esteemed the other so highly that I loved his sports and he loved my music. We were obsessed with each other in an amazing bond. We never talked about being gay, we just LIVED it. Neither did we talk about what would happen when we graduated, though inwardly, we knew. And so, the end came as quickly as it started. What should have been an exciting graduation day was anything but that. We had to remain stoic and composed around family and friends. The culture and prejudice of the day were stacked against us. When reality set in, I felt like I died a thousand deaths. My heart was broken, hurt and in pain for a long time. We had no cell phones, no internet, no social media and no one I could turn to for trust and support. I cried myself to sleep many a night or didn't sleep at all. I had night dreams for years of "Oliver" that were so real, I would wake up thinking he was back, only to realize he was NEVER coming back. Life was a struggle. Jim was stationed overseas for four years in the military. I buried myself in higher education, my faith and a new family. We went our separate ways 49 years ago. We have seen each other twice in 49 years. Every year without fail we send a Christmas card and note to each other. We each have married with children and grandchildren. We live 8 hours from each other. Those are the lost years of our lives, that seem like yesterday. The flames of our love has never, ever died. Love is eternal. The last time "Oliver " and I saw each other was 27 years ago! We started texting in 2019 after I received an unexpected phone call from Jim. So, for me, watching CMBYN was very painful. It stirred up a whole set of emotions in me that had been lying dormant for a long time. I know exactly what it was like for Elio to look into the flames of that fire with tears rolling down his face....pain, no words can describe, struggling to live one day at a time. Uncannily, I will revisit scenes from CMBYN. The visual is a stark reminder of exactly what Jim and I experienced, not just the sexual part but every emotion of living the love and union of two souls molded as one...
**UPDATE:8/29/20, Due to Covid19 and widespread restrictions, Jim and I will have to postpone any meeting in 2020. We now are slated to meet September 2021!
HERE IS THE UPDATE YOU HAVE ALL BEEN WAITING FOR!!
8/31/21-- Jim arrived on time to my house on August 29 with his wife. Our wives really connected and enjoyed the visit. I was surprised how much Jim had aged in 27 years. He is 73 and in good health. He just has some nerve pain in his legs. Though he looked much different, underneath he was the same fun loving Jim from our college days. We shared and looked at dozens of pictures, laughed and ate a lot of good food. It was a very memorable and joyful time together with many hugs and friendly touching. It was like we had never been apart. Our personalities were the same as they were 49 years ago. I wish I could share the pictures we took together. I will savor them in my Jim & Phil album. We plan to make this a yearly get together. This is the best we could hope for in spite of the years that have kept us apart. I am thankful we both are still alive, enjoying life and still have much commonality. My thanks to all of you who have prayed and spoken kind words of support over us. Love is the greatest gift God has given us!❤❣ Life is short, make the MOST of it! There are friendships and love that are for life!! I wrote this poem after watching the movie, dedicated to my Oliver/Jim, the lost love of my life.❤
CALL ME BY YOUR NAME
Crema called two hearts unknown
Oliver and Elio to summer’s glow.
Gazing from the window below
To one that walked into my soul.
Did you just see that look to me,
Was it meant what I think it to be?
Hearts bounced and jumped to see,
Was he thinking and wondering just about me?
Laughing, talking, plucking the keys
Grass, meadows, lying down in the breeze.
Looking, touching, our hearts twisted and turned
Bending, caressing as blades on the earth.
The road was long and open to flee,
Will I catch him as I pedaled with passionate speed?
O Crema you called two hearts meant to be
Locked in time, stood still with love’s purity.
Call me by your name and I’ll call you by mine,
To be joined in body and united as one,
Risen together to life’s drum,
Will it last til the end of sum?
Tears fall to the soil, endlessly
Breaking the soul of what was to be.
It lasted for as long as we pressed in to see
How hungry we were to be free.
Summer’s end came with speed,
As we ran the streets jumping to flee.
We tried to pull on our destiny
Only to be beaten by time and disbelief.
A father who cared enough to speak
Listened to a heart pouring out its grief.
Giving his love to a son’s defeat
Wisdom that gave this Elio relief.
He left with a trace of who he was,
My heart ached and torn for his grip on me.
The fire brought warmth and comfort in need,
The flames of love lost in eternity.
© Phil Shuster 2020
OMG Phil ! Good luck when you meet him this year!!!!!❤️
@@jimparsons4312 Thankyou! It will be an anxiously, anticipated meeting. We live 8 hours from each other. After college our pathes took such different directions. Like Elio in the book, I could have easily gone the music route because I had many years of piano and trombone but opted for healthcare. After college, "Oliver" went into the Air Force and ended up in retail sales. I went into the Army Medical Corps and ended up in the private sector as an anesthesia practitioner. Interestingly, we send a Christmas card and family type letter to each other every year. CMBYN, has resurrected a whole host of emotions inside of me. I know exactly what it was like for Elio to look into that fire with tears in his eyes. Love is an eternal flame that never, ever dies!
@@philshuster7463 aw thats sweet!
Well, that made me tear up. Stories like yours make me believe in love. I hope both of you live a very very happy life 💕💕
Brown It was never easy. I am happy for us both even though our situation was less than ideal to go our separate ways. We have our families, children and grandchildren. It would have been easy to have spent the rest of my life with my "Oliver" but the times in which we lived in very conservative midwest U.S. made it almost impossible to maintain a gay relationship. At least I know where Jim lives and have had some contact over the years. There is a hole in my heart to this day and I know the one and only person who can fill that emptiness...."Oliver."
I cant believe they are straight
Shalom Uwem me too
Shalom Uwem it’s called ‘acting’ it’s part of their job to make you believe it’s genuine when in reality it’s all pretend, the sign of good actors!
bellabana thats what am saying they are too good
Hmmmmm. They might be fluid. Who knows. 🤗. ❤ is ❤. .
@@SingRaduga Yeah no
How is this possible that I can physically feel their love...it's so real and tangible...
1: Because Luca is a genius.
2: Because Chalamet is one of the greatest actors of all time.
3: because their combined natal astrology is that of a couple who are deeply in love, and are likely to be for life !!!!!
4: Maybe, just maybe, because Chalamet fell desperately in love with Armie (just as Luca intended ???!!!) and maybe the most challenging part for Armie, was not showing how terrifyingly close he was to completely falling for Timmy. If he had not got children he may not have been so coy.
5: Bottom line (no pun intended) Luca gave us all the ride of our lives, and I for one am eternally grateful.
Special mention and sincere gratitude to Elizabeth, she must have suffered and paid perhaps more than anyone for the creation of this incredible work of art, may she be rewarded.
Because it's honest
Oh my gosh,yes!!! I can literally feel all the feelings practically emanating from the screen!!!! I haven’t even seen the movie yet and I know that I will cry watching it,due to all the clips I’ve seen.
Cause they are photogenic. Sigh....
Beautiful in every way.
1. armie’s voice is so nice
2. their chemistry? yes.
3. the acting? y e s.
That is why he narrated the book,Check it out on Google Books or any Audiobook apps
I wish he wasn't a cannibal :(
Can't they just recast Oliver.Jhon Alwyn would be a grear Oliver though
@@HarryPotter-om7zg ???
@@HarryPotter-om7zg I’m pretty sure the whole thing was fake so you may now list after him in peace knowing that you will not be the next piece of meat at his dinner table 💀
The whole point of this scene is to show how vulnerable and needy Elio is, and at the same time to show how caring Oliver is -- and respectful of Elio's feelings. It works so well precisely because these issues remain unstated; they're merely demonstrated by what the characters say and do. It's a short scene, but it was vital to the success of the film for something like this to happen.
Thomas Thompson yeah I agree. One is experienced and one is in love for the first time. Your first love will always be your first.
But, what to do when one feels needy of love and care and vulnerable like Elio here but not being understood or ignored. It is so painful... if anyone feels like me please dont hate your vulnerability and sensibility or what ever... that is not the solution.
I have watched this movie at least 30 times. It moves me each and every time. I briefly had my own Oliver and Elio experience being the older Oliver. It was before the movie came out. Lior, also Jewish, very much looks like Elio at the time. Such a beautiful and tender scene!
@K B thank you for your message 🥰
Especially with how he asked if he was happy to see him, definitely needy lol
So I just watched the movie.
Never has a love story touched me like this one. And I wish I could watch it for a first time again, because it was so beautiful and I wanted them so hard to live happily ever after.
Obviously I'm going to watch it another ten times, but still.
It's simply a masterpiece.
unfortunately, the button to erase this movie from the head, has not invented yet, and thus to be able to see it as the first time every time you want ...there is some inventor reading this?...
In my own head canon, I just pretend that Oliver realizes his mistake and doesn't get married, returns to Italy, and he and Elio do end up together and live happily ever after.
Jonah Smith , you aren't alone..may I make a suggestion? Listen go the Audio book, free on line, before you watch the movie again..it's word for word, from the book and it's narrated by Armie Hammer. ..it gives you lots of incite to the story and, Elio and Oliver , that the movie misses.
You're hooked. Join the club...
Maybe they'll make a sequel. Have you read the book the movie is based on? I wonder if it was better.
It's hard to say which one is better as they are both quite different and each has its pros and cons. We might could say the book is better in that you are actually fully in Elio's head space when everything is going on (the book is actually presented as a reflection upon past events and not details of ongoing events). And let me tell you, this boy's thoughts fly at top speed all … the … time! It's part of what makes him so endearing.
The book also has the benefit of what is essentially an extensive epilogue, where you get to see a few significant interactions between Elio and Oliver later on.
I wouldn't say the conclusion is fully satisfying. It's powerful, for sure, and it does imply very strongly that Elio and Oliver _do_ actually end up together after so many years apart (like this line from Oliver to Elio: "I'm like you," he said, "I remember everything." as well as the exchanges between them then), but I wanted it to be made explicit so my heart can rest in peace.
The universe wants me to watch the movie again, again and again 😭😭
me too 😭
same here like one day this movie just happened to pop in my head and now here I am
We must obey the universe ✨
0:39 the way he said "ofcourse you don't know" like Elio dosen't understand the way he loves him and the magic they shared last night 💔
Kunal K Oliver is into deep.
So sweet... impossibly romantic
🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺
Yes
This movie makes me feel an emotion I haven’t ever felt before
Idk why??? Same
Yeah
Yes, a longing for such a pure love.
I was 17 when I met my partner and he was 27.
The feeling.... of feeling ....so helplessly in love is an experience everyone should experience in life.
We were together for 48 years, till he died 5 years ago.
A void that is you can't put into words, yet, I feel like I have had a blessed life.
I'm glad you have a love like this stored in your heart, mind, and soul. And that you were together all those years.
wish I could find a love like yours.......
I m craving for this kinda love...it's great to read that people are experiencing this.
🙏❤️ loves you always. and you mark a beautiful love story in this world.
THE TRUE ALMIGHTY FATHER WILL BLESS US
WE HAVE TO STOP SINNING
The way Elio starts to physically breathe harder when Oliver pushes up close to him is just such good acting. Timothy really acts like he's physically attracted to and completely enamored with this other guy and it's very believable
Yes, Timmy’s acting is very believable, but I don’t think it’s entirely acting on either of their parts. 🥰
“i would kiss you if i could” is literally so close that someone would mistake them for kissing
Oliver was really struggling to cope with a lot different feelings the "morning after", he was feeling guilty, insecure, scared but also incredibly happy and in love. Hammer did a great job reflecting all this.
He did indeed.He is also great
Can't agree no more! The way he carries the role was phenomenal. Both Armie and Tim were so extremely, awesomely, great!!
Armie's smile at :38 and Timmy's face at :46... this film makes me physically ache
yes that blink in the eyes of Elio, just for that he should win the Oscar.
its a masterpiece, how do i know, well it's in the pudding!
0:38 a 0:46
The things you pick up after watching it several times. Elio puts the hand that was just holding Oliver's to his lips in a way to savor his lover for longer.
I agree. I have seen this movie a shameless amount of times. Everytime I pick up something new. I then watched it focusing on just Oliver's experience. That was a ride. Not a teenage crush. Not humoring a teenager. Full blown love.
0:53 Is actually one of my favorite parts because it shows how young Elio is and how his mindset, while is mature, is still one of a teenager’s.
no. you're wrong. Elliot knows exactly what Oliver means. It's very clear that he is not dense at all.
He is just using the opportunity to reassure Oliver about the other concern, the one of people knowing.
Yea it’s weird
Elio who goes to meet Oliver to make up for his icy behavior after they spent the right together is cute.
Betty Boop that was their first lovers quarrel!!😊💖
Elio: “Oliver!”
Oliver: “you’re not sick of me yet?”
Elio: “no, I wanted to be with you”
*that melted my heart* 💖💖💖💗💗💗
So sweet! God I love this movie
When he said “do you know how happy I am that we slept together”
😆
my heart
When elio said"are you happy I came here?!"..you could feel every fiber of his being vibrates!!...they convey this sexual tension with out doing much! That shared look!😎 You could almost here Elio gasp!..sexual chemistry!...chemistry in itself is hard to have specially on screen! ..but sensuality In itself it's rare to see on screen!!
these little subtlety are what make the movie so great ...
Have you read the novel? The uncensored dialogue is really sizzling in this scene.
The most important things in this movie are not said, but FELT.
I literally get butterflies every time they’re together, as if I were in love (I mean yeah in love with them and this movie)
For me, the best scene in the movie. How Oliver says "Do you know how happy I am that we slept together?" makes it even more real and shows how strongly he feels about Elio. It has been a long time since I watched such a beautiful love story. So real and refreshing
I don't know why but your comment made me cry...
I love how Elio asks “Are u happy I came here”.... so innocent, ❤️
Oliver’s right hand is touching Elio’s hand but his left hand is holding airmail envelopes, a hint of their short-lived romance.
this scene gives me intense chills wow I love both their performances in this film very good
This scene, and all the scenes in the movie, is pure art. Showing that love has no age and no gender.
Love is love.
The way he says “are you happy I came here” is almost TOO perfect
i don’t think i’d ever get over this movie. this is the first ever movie that really broke me.
I refuse to believe, that these 2 don’t like each other beyond just film . Like the acting is so on point and emotional. Like how can they not like each other 😩
They were both sooo good! But like Armie's acting in this scene is so subtle. The look in his eyes, right after Elio says "I just wanted to be with you." and right before the "Are you happy I came here?" lines... so heartbreakingly good.
Dammit Oliver,You should have kissed your beautiful,sweet boy 😊
I agree. Kiss him and be damned who does not like it.
I agree
*no I its-- its not like I'm gonna tell anyone, y-y-y-youre not gonna get in any trouble*
I freaking love nervous elio
You can’t just do that to my heart. I feel like I have to rewatch the whole movie now
Can we take a moment to appreciate Oliver's shorts
this scene is so wonderful so natural that you can forget for a moment that it's a movie, we only hear a real conversation and these gentle touches with hands and then a conversation, I don't know, I'm enchanted by the whole movie, thrown to my knees but this scene just pushes me to the ground
I love the way Oliver says "Of course you don't know" because it means it was special for him in comparison to other encounters he has had in his life but Elio couldn't possibly know how he feels since this was his first time
Subtle momente but very very sweet
❤
The way he looks so nervous after saying "I just wanted to be with you", like if yet was so scared of rejection
I see Oliver utterly in love here (well, in the whole film). And Elio is lovely! Very good acting of both actors.
Timothee Chalamet is pitch perfect in this role. He should have won the Oscar.
I watch this movie again and again wishing a different ending. I can’t accept that Elio and Oliver didn’t end up together. It breaks my heart 💔
Need the sequel to be filmed already🥺
“Your not sick of me yet?” Classic line
"I just wanted to be with you"
translation: Im crazy in love with you!
I have felt the same way....
I would kiss you BOTH if I could...gulp, can't get over this book, this film
I’m sorry but ELIO’S EYES. They hold so much emotion it makes me want to cry
This tension is so reeeal - well played
This movie... just... ugggg I cant move past it. Its engrained in my bones or something it's always there in the back of my mind... it's so great but so devastating... just so epic
Timmy is such a sensual human being. The way he runs his fingers on his lips is just breathtaking.
I really don't know anything about acting but the subtle moves and expressions are stunning. If this were performed by a girl and guy it would also be stunningly done. The script, direction and quality of acting draws you into the story like Casablanca did decades ago. "Bravo" from New Jersey.
I come back to this movie every once in a while. This is addiction. (thank God for these clips, i don't have to watch the whole movie to feel their chemistry) thank you
@0:20 you could see the sweat in elio's arm! Proves that he probably run his bike in full speed just so he could reach Oliver in time! The panic in his face shows how he regretted his behavior just before this scene! Aaawww Oliver's face when Elio uttered the words"I just want to be with you!"😍
Tes Truelove your appreciations are awesome!!! You make my day with this.
In the book, Elio replies by whispering 'fuck me, Elio' in Oliver's ear and then goes away saying 'later'. I wish they left that in the movie as well :).
The portray of emotions is so good that it makes my heart flutter.
“i’ll-i’m gonna-i’ll go...” HE’S SO CUTE OOOOOGGGHHHHH 😔💖🥺
Elio was sore here okay, he even sat slowly at breakfast and now he rode the bike to town to see Oliver and make up for his chilly "morning after." That is some serious love right there!
Right?😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Yes, according to the book he was sore to point he was feeling uncomfortable riding the bicycle to meet Oliver. Oliver did a very good job the night before lol.
I regret watched this movie! not because it's bad but because it's so good! it touches me so deep that two weeks now I'm still aching for them.. still haunting me...
Everything you said I agree with but ..I don’t regret it
It's partly because of the way it is filmed, like you are right there witnessing it in first person, it main lines to the core of your Soul.
this movie is full of love and full of pain
Probably the best Armie’s performance
Am just here at 2 in the morning watching CMBYN clips - i really should re- watch it!
0:26 when oliver breathes in like all his nerves are on alert by just looking at elio, his heartbeat is going at a bullet train rate? Gosh I just want something like this one day
*oliver: i could kiss you if i could.... LATER*
TC should've gotten the Oscar and the Golden Globe
I love that Elio is so submissive in this scene, it’s beautiful.
I agree. One of the hardest things to be in this world is vulnerable and submissive. The amount of trust it takes.
This scene always leaves me with a smile on my face. I have watched it over and over again and still it has this effect. I knew after watching it for the first time, that i would love the movie. Thanks for the upload :)
I watched cmbyn when it came out and I swore to myself I would never watch it again bc it left me crying in my bed for almost 3 days straight... yet here I am again
These two have more chemistry together than a lot of "couples" in recent movies and series...
I too had my own Oliver, with the exception that our story was heterosexual. But that’s how you know this movie works. It’s a love story, and love is transcendental.
My Oliver was 6ft5, blonde, and blue eyed, (not unlike Mr. Hammer) so it kind of struck me hard. We have known each other since the 9th grade, and he got shipped off to boarding school and would come home for the summer. We would meet up and hang out, just talking and being goofy, every summer.
One day he called me to chat, and I asked him “Say something that would shock me. I feel like I’m always doing all the talking.” There was a pause, and then he very quietly said “I love you. I have always loved you.” We met up later that afternoon, and for the first time he kissed me. I will never forget how soft his lips were or how delicate that kiss was. Ever. Right after he said to me again “I love you.” I don’t remember never not wanting to kiss him or ever wanting to stop. On his last day of his summer visit, hours before he was to leave, we made love for the first time. And it was just as passionate as his kiss.
The next summer he came home and we finally became a couple. And it was perfect. One night I asked him how he lost his virginity, and he told me “...at your house.” I didn’t know until that moment. A few months had passed and he started to distance himself. Loooong story short, he got scared. We didn’t talk for three months, got back together, and two weeks back into our relationship, he joined the Navy. (So the line “I don’t want you to go” hits me hard too.)
When he came home from basic, he blew me off again, and with the support of his family, they invited me to their home so I could confront him. Once again, it came down to fear. We were through, he went back to the Navy, and I was devastated.
About a year had passed, (he was stationed in San Diego,) and his family invited me to a barbecue at their home. And as luck would have it, he called. I remember sitting in their backyard, and he told me he was getting married. My heart sank. I had to be the bigger person, and congratulated him. Even though I felt so betrayed by his fear, and his doubt, I loved him.
Years passed, they divorced. And he ended up coming home. We intended to meet up, but it never happened. I moved away, and we keep in touch via social media. He’s remarried, and is happy.
He sent me a message telling me his step-daughter was going to homecoming and he told her “Is this the boy you want to tell your friends about in 10 years? Is this the first kiss you want to remember. I told her about mine, and no regrets.” I was in tears.
I have no doubt in my mind that he was the one. He was always the one. But fear, inexperience, timing, it never was on our side.
That was cathartic.
lucyfire27 I’m sorry xx 🥺
Your story mirrors my Oliver story, except we were a gay couple and instead of 3 months our relationship lasted short of 3 years when we were in college. As we went our separate ways, we both eventually married, had children and grandchildren. All this was 47 years ago and there is still a void in my heart for "my Oliver." We have seen each other twice in 47 years, the last time was 25 years ago. Thanks to social media we plan to meet this year, 2020. My heart does go out to you for all that you suffered. What "Oliver" and I experienced doesn't even come close to my life today. Our love was so deep, it was meant for eternity. But like you, the time of 1970, the social pressures of conservative America, there was no way a gay union could survive. The after math was devastating with hurt, pain, loss and depression. In time I healed, but still had vivid dreams about us for many years and even decades. 🙏
@@philshuster7463 I read your story, and it inspired me to share mine. It hurts when you try to fill that void.
When you find love with someone else, it's not the same. Sure it's a good love, and one you can be happy with. But it's not the same love you had with him. It's not as satisfying or makes you feel whole.
When you were with him, you felt complete didn't you? When you heard his voice, or saw his smile you knew that was home.
Just being near him was happiness.
I remember how uncomplicated our love was. It was so natural, like opening your eyes, or exhaling. He always made me laugh. Even when we do get a chance to talk, he still does.
And it hurts. My heart is aching just thinking about all the idiosyncrasies that made us whole.
I'm so sorry if my words are broken and don't flow. But I'm sure you'll understand it's hard to maintain a single thought when a million memories come flooding back.
Now as for you, I wish you all the happiness with your reunion with your Oliver. I hope the pause on the planet doesn't stagger anymore waiting for you or for him. I think 47 years is long enough. Please feel free to send updates. I am hoping someone finally gets a happy ending.
@@lucyfire27 It was the most wholesome thing I have ever experienced in my life. We esteemed the other more highly than ourself. All we wanted was to please the other. It taught me a lot about selfless love. Love can be selfish but that was not even in the mix for Jim and I. The beginning of the end for us, was when Jim wanted a hetero relationship with a mutual friend of ours. I was shocked and hurt at first but I understood he realized that we as a gay couple could not survive in that era. Jim was an identical twin. The brother was John but for me, it was easy to tell them apart. Their personalities were so different, to me like night and day. Not that John wasn't a nice guy, he just wasn't "my Oliver." Then John married a good friend of mine in college. I haven't seen them in 48 years. I savor those years and the memories of the innocence we experienced. I am so grateful to social media like UA-cam to allow me to open up to the "world" in a way I have never been able to do before. What a supportive, caring audience.
@@philshuster7463 There are different types of love. Your love for your family is not the same as romantic love (let's hope so!!!) The loss of a family member or friend is painful, that is true. The loss of romantic love is a different pain. Loss of family or friends is devastating, and I'm not reducing that pain in any way, as we have all lost someone. But since we're talking about romantic love, that's what I'll delve into.
When you lose romantic love, that void can be filled by artifical love, and it's so damaging. Because not only are you hurting yourself, you're bringing an unknowing, innocent person into the mix who has no idea what's going on, and the effects of that snowball out of control. Too many people get hurt, and it's so unfair to all parties. I'm not judging, because I have filled a void with another person. It ended badly, naturally.
Romantic love is rare. It's impossible to obtain because you cannot find it. It finds you. And when it happens, all of those cheesy cliches become true. The stars align, all the songs are about them, you smile more, and you're lost in thoughts of their memory, or of what's to come. And when that love disappears be it by force or by choice, all of the sad cliches become true. Everything is dark, your smile disappears, and all the songs become about them. You are lost in thought of their memory and what could've been. And all you want to do is talk to your best friend and tell them you are hurting, your heart aches, the pain is unbearable, and all you want is their comfort. This never happens because they are the reason for all of the pain that exists in your heart, your body, your soul. They too have to distance themselves to go through their experiences and their pain. Enduring the same pain separately is what devastates us the most of all.
Filling the void with "artificial" love is never the answer. It won't solve your problem, it just creates a distraction from your heart and soul tugging on the truth. It soothes the beast, but only temporarily until it realizes its being fed lies. When your subconscious gets ahold of this problem, it starts to invade your dreams. When I dream about David, I wake up and the rest of my day is ruined. It is filled with the dream of what we had and what could have been. Thankfully I don't dream about him often, as I'd never leave my bed. But when I do, he is all I think about. He consumes my thoughts and all I want is for him to walk through the door, hold me tightly, and tell me that there will never be a moment our lives will be spent away from one another ever again.
"I just wanted to be with you." So cute❤️🙏
Timothée touching his mouth with the fingers that were brushed up against Armie‘s was almost certainly done with purpose, if you read the book that’s a VERY ELIO thing to do
Oh my...the way Oliver looks at Elio,there is so much love.And I hate it cause I've never had someone look at me the way he did.
I swear when he came closer my female hormones went ballistic
My relationship with this movie is so UNHEALTHY 😭 I can sleep good at night pretending this wasn’t acting and they’re actually in love 😍😍🥵
So many levels here. You love the story and of course you fall in love with each character individually as well as them as a couple which leads to you fantasize at being the third as well. Lastly, the whole setting, time period and place is like the forth character that fills you with nostalgia so you fall in love with that too. That must be why this film has made my heart burst wide open! It’s just too much! I am thoroughly besotted!
Love have mercy. Tim with is subtle mannerisms are amazing. The fact that he can play tough rolls is great for us the viewer. Skies the limit with this actor
This scene is just...beautiful. Definitely one of my favorites
this is so pure, I can't.
ONE OF MY FAVORITE MOMENTS FROM THE MOVIE
I'm still too broken to watch the movie again for the hundredth time. For now, my favorite clips will do.
I love love love this book and movie so much. It means so much to me. I often wonder what it would be like to actually have your crush return your feelings. That summer love, that connection, the passion.
I cant wait for the sequel "find me"
Idk why but I always though this scene showed the most emotion between the two . They are falling for eachother here
I could watch every and any scene of this movie. I could watch it a thousand times and still feel goosebumps all over.
They are so cute and hot together 💖
I still cry every time. Every. Damn. Time.
They are so good! I can't stop watching this movie
i want to watch this movie but these little clips are like drugs that i can’t handle. i don’t know if i could make it through the whole thing. it’s too good
When he said "are you happy I came here?" My face seriously went 🥺😢
Cuando se dan cuenta que están enamorándose....las actuaciones ,increíbles!!!!!amo esta película 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻gracias por el video 😊👍🏻
their relationship is just so precious i can’t even put it into words
i’m still waiting for my happy ending where they end up together in italy
Kylie a hopefully the happy ending will come by the end of the next one or two movies that will continue telling the story of Elio and Oliver.
@@emilymarie5635 I don't know if you realised but they were talking about the sequel
Kylie a don’t worry...it’s coming.
still waiting sis
@@anxhixhaollari4427 Did you read "Find Me"
“Are you happy I came here”... how cute
The man at the back! Armie's favorite chef! Stefano!😊
The first time I watched this, that line “do you know how happy I am that we slept together” made my heart MELT
the way they walk off barely holding hands and then Elio steps back bringing his fingertips to his lips
It's so so so beautiful, I love this movie with all my heart 😭😍
I’ve just watched this film for the first time ever in full and I’m a fucking mess rn💔💔💔So beautiful, it’s one of the best movies I’ve ever seen fr🥺😍👏🏻
This movie breaks my heart differently than every other movie..
Gosh I love this movie. It’s so amazing