Overwhelm & ADHD - Why do we get overwhelmed so easily?!
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- Опубліковано 3 чер 2024
- In this video I talk about what it's like getting overwhelmed when you have ADHD, as well as share some of my own experiences dealing with it and some common causes.
There was a surprising amount to cover! So instead of making one super long video, I'm breaking it into two parts.
[Part 2] 15 Useful Techniques to help with Overwhelm: • Overwhelm & ADHD - 15 ...
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*I am not a doctor, I just speak from my own experiences & research.
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I sit here watching this video while I haven't showered (It's near the end of my day), haven't cleaned, done laundry, or worked on my art.
Just spent all day watching UA-cam and reading web novels.
I honestly don't know how to stop.
Just thinking about it has spiked my heart rate and made my face feel super hot.
Trust me I feel you and many others do too. It’s an evil circle. Round and round we go every day, even tho we know what we “should” be doing.
I haven't been assessed yet (waiting for an appointment) but all of this rings true. Being overwhelmed with everything in life is exhausting at times, and things like self care, house maintenance etc definitely go out the window. I find myself shutting down mentally and emotionally when I'm overwhelmed. Going for a nap is my default if I can.
You are not alone, I turn to exercise and video games when overwhelmed - purely because on a long distance run I escape the trappings of neurotypical expectations. Video games do the same without the exercise bit.
I find being kind to myself, breaking things down and doing an hour of a boring subject and reward myself when I have done it help. Its not an exact science.
I do hope you get a diagnosis - it can take time.
Hi ,I’m 45 just now pursuing a likely ADHD diagnosis. Can you possibly suggest or do u have any advice, on getting a proper Diagnosis? I’m apprehensive from all the stories of the drudge of getting help. Thanks so much!
@@remingtonfrog3170 If you are in the UK I can obtain the details of someone in London, but it is not cheap - hence why I have not pushed on with resolving it yet.
@@DS-cf1zc oh you’re in the UK. I understand, thank you for replying 🌞
@@remingtonfrog3170 Anytime.
I got overwhelmed with your list of things that can overwhelm us.
😂
You've just described all the reasons why I've been struggling in life for so long. It feels pretty nightmarish sometimes. I've had friends shame, criticise then ditch me because I've not been making progress. I learnt today that procrastination = freeze mode and that makes so much sense to me. And then when we try to tackle our problens again, it's garder because we've been putting them off. My only feedback for the video is to remove the background music which just feels unnecessary and like it's competing with your voice, and I personally prefer videos not divided into two because it feels too much to have to find then watch the second video.
I am at this moment completely overwhelmed with work, all the other things about the house and doing the things that have to be done solo because I’m a single mom. Overwhelmed with worry about money anxiety never leaves my side. I have lost so many days it’s unbelievable. Depression the inability to get up and do something, anything, I’m struggling but I’m hanging in there. I hope everyone else disable to hang onto. We’ve got this -even when we don’t feel like we do. 😘😘😘
Yes that is exactly how I feel
Yah this exactly me, I try to escape from reality and distract myself with more pleasurable things' like tv, food, and video games to avoid facing all the different things I have going on in the background.
The sensory one is a huge one I never thought of. I don’t wear tight clothing (mainly bras) because if I start getting overwhelmed I immediately feel an increase in the awareness of my own body & how things feel and even sound. Certain sounds that usually bother me but I can ignore suddenly become the loudest thing in the room & then I feel trapped in my own body & I can’t process anything anymore because I’m focusing on the most minute disturbances. Tight clothing starts to feel suffocating & sometimes if a hair is out of place & tickling my face I have to rip it out.
I sometimes struggle to understand how people can do more than just exist & be normal, functioning adults. It’s extremely frustrating to (rarely) feel intelligent, passionate, & full of potential, but completely lack any ability to make any use of it because my brain feels like an unorganized filing cabinet that I have limited access to.
Most of the time I feel like all I’m doing is bullshitting the world around me into believing I have my shit together & I’m normal.
Thisss. The last line about bullshitting people. I feel like that every single day
It really gets to me when I'm having a tough time with basic stuff that seems like a cakewalk for the other 8 billion folks..it makes me question whether I'm abnormal, which adds to my stress.
Hey, I just want to say that this is a really well made video. It's really comforting to know that this isn't just all in my head.
Thank you for saying so! I'm glad it could help :)
Agreed ! Really good job, thanks 🙏🏻
Thank you for making this video, I'm sadly laughing at how relatable everything you said feels.
Thank you! I'm glad you enjoyed it.
This is brilliant (and almost scarily relevant to me). A really precise and empathetic exposition of the really specific ways ADHD can screw with our emotions (which *never* seems to me covered well by more medically-oriented writing on ADHD; it’s always just stuff like “short temper” etc. without ever capturing the nuances of the traps that effect us so often).
Very surprised that it doesn’t have way more views.
Agreed across the board. It’s insanely accurate to me, I still feel there is so much explaining to do regarding the science of ADHD, how our brain is different from other brains, etc. And I also am amazed there aren’t more views, but it takes time w/ these channels. You needs lots of subscribers to get the hits on peoples YT feeds. So let’s help this channel out!
THANK YOU so much. This is supremely validating. I am currently stuck in overwhelm and it feels like being held hostage. Looking forward to seeing Part 2.
This honestly felt like a really professional video and I was kinda surprised at how little subscribers you have with this quality! You definitely deserve more subs! This video was actually really helpful and I just recently realized I have ADHD, my mom doesn't want to take me to a doctor for it yet because they'll probably give me medication and my mom doesn't want me on any sort of medication that messes with my brain until I'm adult so that way my brain still has time to develop and stuff. I had no idea that I did so many things that ppl with ADHD did though and finding these videos are super helpful! Thank you!
This is amazing thnakyou! Before I was diagnosed wth ADHD overwhelm was a constant feeling I had but didn’t know why!
It is so completely unfair that you literally hit the nail on the head exactly regarding my own experience. I have a major anxiety inducer in my life right now, and I recognize literally all of the behaviours and coping mechanisms that you mention. Even the TV shows, currently on Season 6 of the Office, rewatching it for the bazillionth time... You are so perfectly aligned with my experiences, I look forward to watching your videos and gaining more tools to tackle my life. Thank you for all that you do!
"i constantly have to re-watch videos multiple times as i'll get distracted and not take everything in" to me who was on this video THE WHOLE DAY just trying to understand and forgetting that i was even watching something :D
good lord I'm glad that I'm not alone with dealing with these issues. My Adhd is at full overload right now.
Thanks for describing my issue so well. Now I don’t feel so alone at least.
It's comments like this that make me glad I started this channel ☺
Sounds like a mix of SPD (Sensory Processing Disorder) too. Recently discovered that I have both ADHD and SPD, and the part of the video where he talks about touch bothering him sounds like SPD.
This was really well made! I feel understood and that's really nice. The "others comparing you" is such a good point, probably what causes me the most anxiety, and I've never seen anyone talk about that before! So thank you! More on that subject please! :D
Suggestion: I'd love to see a link to the next part, the actual solutions, in the description box. You probably have it on your endscreen but those features aren't supported on mobile browsers.
Thank you for the kind words and the feedback! I've added the link in the description :)
I easily feel mentally drained just thinking of what I want to do/ accomplish. I can’t even get started on anything. So upsetting.
I remember telling a friend once how I feel 'overwhelmed' by her energy. Makes me feel out of control, anxious.
The 'sequence' to feeling overwhelmed is described perfectly.
Hmm.
Sequencing- we lack in this, don't we ??? 😢
this was so relatable i actually started crying watching this
idk if its sadness bc 'god why me' or if its relief that other people feel like that aswell and theres hopefully treatment? im not diagnosed so its scary to think that i have no idea to which extent these symptoms are actually treatable or i'll just have to live and adapt
Am in it right now, this video really helped me understand what's going on. Thank you!
I'm currently on the last steps of graduating from college and all that paperwork makes me so anxious I've been doing a lot of substance abuse because my medication feels like it isn't enough.
Maybe, tell your doctor. Fix an appointment. Maybe a dosage change! Wish u the best. Btw, **I am not a doctor**
Your videos are great! And clearly well done. I have no idea why you haven't gotten more viewers
Thank you, I really needed this today. I feel like this validated my feelings, and I really appreciate you making it.
I was getting overwhelmed by all the stock footage.
This is a great video! Keep em up!
Thank you!! :)
Spot on!
What?!? It's not just me???? Thank you for making this video!!!!!!!!!!!!!!🥰
I currently feel like my brain is running with the speed of sound and I’m trying so hard to catch up
Really amazing explanation to feeling overwhelmed in ADHD, one thing though is the fast movement of pictures and changing scenes during watching, can be a bit distracting. Still good job 👏.
I have so much to say, but for now, I thought I’d let people know that I’m someone who’s struggled to focus entire life, but didn’t get medicated until my mid 20’s. And I don’t even think I was properly diagnosed, even tho I do think I have. I’ve been taking adderall for about 17 yrs now (wow I didn’t even realize it was that long). Sometimes I think it’s helpful and other times I question it. The issue I believe, is that our brains and bodies have many variables that can affect prescription meds (i.e. life changes and struggles, substance abuse, sleep, exercise, diet, etc). Also, the fact that we build tolerances over time, so is the solution more adderall (that’s what my docs have done over yrs) or is there a better way to manage that? I would love it if the neuroscience world would study the brains of people JUST LIKE ME, AND YES IM VOLUNTEERING. Not only for the main analysis of ADHD, but also to see how our/my brain has changed over time by taking a controlled stimulant. I’ll prob post again on this channel when I can gather more concise and specific thoughts. Nice to talk to others w/ the EXACT same struggles!
I feel so understood right now
Add being a mom to the “things to do list” . So all the things you listed times however many kids you have plus a myriad of other things that need doing. I guess I was bound to hit burn out lol. I have been seeing a counselor and just recently learned that I might need to get checked for ADD lol. I never knew my whole life that my ability to hyper focus and my being so forgetful as well as losing important things all the time could have been a sign of it. I don’t have the “hyper” part of adhd except maybe in my thinking. Its my brain thats hyper active not my body lol.
yup - thanks.
nicely explained
(Very long read)
Reading has always been my way of escape. I even chose a course related to it willy nilly since i thought i could do well, but when responsibilities and expectations were tied to reading specific materials, reading unrelated materials became a more specific escapism 😢. Ive never thought of myself as neurodiverse, its a foreign concept in my country unless its something more obvious and severe. But more and more, im losing grasp of myself and even if i want to tell my family about it, i find myself being "normal" and engaged when i converse with them (unless they talk amongst themselves and i feel like an alien hovering around) which then confuses me andi dismiss it as "finding pathetic excuses to justify my laziness". Recently learned a little about adhd coz of videos titled like this and linking it to adhd and was scared to the bones just finding myself relating to the struggles but also not matching the adhd tests of hyperactivity...im not hyperactive, just overly distracted and easily overwhelmed but weirdly fixated on certain aspects to the point of being unaware how time passes me... i even forgot i was cooking rice over the stove and was scolded for "wanting to burn the house down" when my mom came home and found the pot smoking.
Thanks 😀
Great video
I work in the fast food industry and I'm in a smaller shop. So sometimes I work by myself for 8 hours straight. In this time I get overwhelmed when business suddenly picks up and I get a line of 20 customers out out the door. Cause I feel like everyone is staring at me, thinking I'm too slow, getting annoyed cause of wait times, etc. A lot of the times this can be true and that's exactly what is happening. Nonetheless it makes me shut off from everything and not be open anymore. It just makes me feel negative and it sucks. To explain this in more detail I have to operate an entire restaurant by myself on some days throughout the week. So I have to not only cook food, make drinks, but also have to fulfill online orders. Than between and after all that I have to make sure the entire place is spotless/clean before I leave. All of these things I love doing cause I have a great work ethic. However, doing them alone my ADHD does not like hahaha
I've been assessed at the age of 43. Trying to work out why I haven't been able to live since I gave Meth.
I've been trying but I'm just stuck in my room as my wife and kids live. They say I've got ADHD, and OCD with separation anxiety moderate to
severe depression.
I'm in Australia and because I don't have private health insurance.
Trying to get any help has been next to impossible. Each day I get up at 5am just to watch UA-cam till I go to bed about 8.30 pm and repeat. I find myself trying to do or watch things to shut my head up.
I try to talk better to myself it's just so hard. Put that on top of I had Hashimoto disease. So they cut my Thyroid gland out. Now I get bad ups and downs.
I'm just worn out and lost. Now 😂
Lord, this vid described me to a tee‼️🤦🏽♀️😩😭
Speaking of things we are overly sensitive to, I hear so much saliva crackle / mouth sounds when you speak. :D
Yeahhhh it's one of the reasons it's taking me so long to put out more content right now, as I'm trying to find a cost-effective way to eliminate that for good.
A pop shield / foam thingy over your mic is the first step. Also put a bit more space between your mouth and the mic. That will help. After that you can use tools like iZotope for de popping etc but best to sort out the recording first.
@@adhdjourney I’m a voice actor and there’s a couple of things you can do. 1. Is invest in some software like RX which reduces the clicks in your speaking and 2. Hydrate way more. Drink a lot of water and less caffeine and less dairy too.
Oh… and eat a green apple. It has to be green.
Your editing skills have come a long way since 4v :D ;)
😂 Thanks man!
Wow! You just summed up my life xx its hard at times xx I've app tomo with doctor.. hoping to get referral. Im living in hope treatment can help me. Xxx hope everyone here is doing well xxx
Same as depression in certain respects.
i havent lost days, ive lost months, its not great :) back on track now though!
My rabbit-holes tend to have rabbit-holes 😂 Having ADHD for so long and the fact that life already requires far too many responsibilities, not including a job, I doubt I will ever complete everything I need to do. Responsibilities are endless and my ability to even start on a task is limited. 🤯 My biggest dream is to have zero responsibilities and requirements. I will likely have to wait until I die for that to come true
This hit all my feelings 😢ppl don't understand
I've got two crap channels and I want to do so much better. But I want to cry thinking about it as well. I just do them to get me out of bed and a small hope but they bring me down as well.
It's hard trying not to have expectations. 😂😂
Best of luck ppl
Sorry for the TMI
I watch your video just trying to figure out how to get things accomplished without getting overwhelmed. I need clothes and going shopping is very overwhelming. I try to shop at expensive stores who have sales people. I feel like ADHD is often a gift… but when it comes to shopping … not so much. 😂🤪😂
How do you see it as a gift?
My sensory can't get past hearing the lip slapping sound going on as you talk 😅 arrrrgh thanks brain!
Ive always and constantly been overwhelmed by life then ended up having 4 unplanned pregnancies because of my impulsiveness and lack of planning and my adhd brain....its extremely hard being a single Mom with 3 kids pregnant and adhd and no psychiatrist will listen to me....
This describes me. Where do I go for help???? What can I do?
Me too!! I understand.
So I'm no professional by any stretch. But things that have helped me.
1. Walking/exercise (working up a sweat in particular)
2. Some form of relaxation (meditation..deep breathing)
3. Reading up on the subject and obtaining strategies to help. As they say....knowledge is power.
4. Eating healthily.
5. Seeing a professional to discuss
I just find these things make me feel generally happier and in turn more focussed.
I really hope this helps you. 🙏
I have autism I believe I got ADHD because I get overwhelmed so easily I cannot function in daily tasks I do zoom into online games I have impulsive modes gaming shopping and often housework left undone and self care left. I keep hitting into this zone it does my head in. I feel such a failure.
1:37 expert craft a hairs? I had to play the CC to understand you there.
I am !! Overwhelmed and that is, as typical, way too upsetting - was on the edge to begin with.
Dang, well... let's laugh at that word salad shit then.
I feel so seen here.
ADHD-UA-camr: “Let’s put annoying distracting piano music in my video about ADHD. Surely my target audience won’t mind.”
Exhale……😭
I feel heard.
I was watching your video, and thinking to my self how was I like when I feel overwhelm. Did I avoid things? Did I do everything right? Oh gwad, I forgot to do something didn't I...I wish I could just be better...
And the video is over and I havent learned a thing
Lol, this video itself is overwhelming as hell.
I don’t know how to find a doctor/specialist who can help with adult adhd.
I only eat once a day
Had my appointment, scorted high for it the oher test I scored the same yet I dont fix the criteria. So no real help the uk is a joke outdated. 😢 peace love from uk.
Me with UA-cam videos
thumbnail style looks oddly familiar...................
ummm 'I have compiled 15 ways to help..... but I'm not going to tell them to you in this video..." Also I can't find another video.
I put the link in the description, but you can also find it here: ua-cam.com/video/mB6NFsRKS9U/v-deo.html
Neurotypical I call them neuronormies
While adhd people Ike me are non-neuronormies
You stole how to ADHD's format though? And didn't credit her at all.
I'm sorry you feel that way. I've put my video style into this and talk about my own experiences. I'm not trying to steal anyone's "format", just get information out there to hopefully help if I can.
can't focus on the video, why all these video sequences ? why this music ? .... >.< too difficult to follow, but thank for trying
Your microphone is a little too good if that makes sense, I can hear every little inch of saliva in your mouth haha 😂
Could've saved me five minutes by just saying to skip to the next video where you discuss helpful stuff.
Please stop calling everything a rabbit hole. Is that the only thing you UA-camrs know?
turn down your audio's high end and swallow while talking, hearing that wet mouth sound is annoying and distracting