So lovely to catch up with Maile, Brian & Zoe the dog in Dunedin, New Zealand. Thank you, guys! 😁 Don't forget to check out their YT channel, Zoomies Abroad (link in the description).
We had such a great time doing this video with you. We miss you guys!! Thanks so much for your great questions and for being you, who knows where we would be without your amazing support. Love you both!
As a healthcare worker who is moving to NZ with my spouse in less than a month and who also struggled through Covid with a strained relationship but came out the other end stronger, this really hit home. Thanks so much for sharing.
I live about 2 to 3 blocks away in South Dunedin I'm a retired nurse, if I see you I'll speak to you and maybe I'll have a hug. You are all doing so well. By the way I'm a kiwi.
That was awesome guys. Zoomies, stick with it you are the type of people nz needs, and you really are doing well. Congratulations on your big plunge into nz and all the culture shocks that have gone on with it.
The biggest difference between New Zealand and North America is a lot of the weekend activities don’t cost much, go to the beach, go tramping, go mountain biking etc. when I lived in a North American city those nature activities were rare so you did expensive activities like movies, concerts, pubs, galleries etc and it all sucks the money out of you. I’m happy in New Zealand just going for a walk
Thanks for posting Liz and Bri. Love getting all these perspectives from new Kiwis. So good to hear you are all enjoying your new life in NZ and not financially strained.
Re hugging. We are Americans and huggers as well.......... once we get to know someone. We went on Holiday to New Zealand and were meet by our Son In Laws (Kiwi) parents. We were greeted with "You must be the Americans" and we all said our hellos and got on with it . After a week together with them and their hospitality etc when they dropped us off at the Ferry we automatically gave them both hugs. When my husband hugged the Dad, , his wife looked at my husband like "oh Boy" that is not what we do here and the Dad just gave a funny look like "Whoa, what just happened? Now after knowing them for 10 yrs we hug when we see each other BUT the first time was very uncomfortable for us all. :) BTW our SIL was not a hugger either BUT he is now and even initiates it with us. The world needs more hugs .............
OMG this was great. I think people are still a bit weird about hugs with the old virus spreading all over. Generally I am huggy. Everyone who came into my house was hugged hello and good bye. I hope we are all soon back to that. Anyone who moves from around the world has my respect, that is brave. What an awesome couple.
Two more fantastic people you've introduced us to. Great to see they've made it through the hardest part and everything will become easier as the settle in and become locals
Thank you Brian and Maile for interviewing. I have been considering relocating from California to the Otago region. This really does help me. Thank you for sharing your experiences.
I really enjoyed this session. Good to see, our new kiwi friends are moving along nicely. Keep goin. Ryan dont worry you'll make friends my bro. Welcome to Aotearoa.👍
I'm a kiwi born and raised and completely get what you are saying about change. The comfort of things being where they should be can't be under estimated. Continuous change and adaptation to your environment is exhausting. I get worn out when we have a restructure at work. So well done.
I've only just watched this, thank you sooo much for doing this podcast! I work at the Whanganui DHB, in the medical, surgical and acute treatment an rehabilition ward. It's wonderful to see patients get better but it hurts my heart when you can see patients and families give up. It is difficult to leave all of that at the door. Much love to our essential workers 💕
This was such a great open conversation, and relatable! As a member to the Slack group it feels like we are sitting around the kitchen table with you all! 🫂❤
This was great! Open, genuine conversation and for anyone looking to move country, this has some really good lessons. I moved from UK to Seattle and experienced a lot of the same culture shock, good/bad weeks. I was nodding a lot through this video. Really love this channel
I think the hugging thing depends on the individual and maybe your upbringing. Some kiwis are and some aren't. Love listening to your chat with Maile and Brian. Hope their life in Dunedin just keeps getting better. We need more people like them in NZ 🙂
As always, luv the contents of all your videos!!!!! Thank you to Brian and Zoe for their insght too - Awsum!!! Hard questions and Honest answers. We do have a lot of Respect for anyone that comes to New Zealand and Helps us out in the Health Care (Doctors, Nurses, Mental Health Professionals, etc) areas/professions!!!!! Big Cheers. Peace
We have been trying to find work for two years since we traveled to NZ in 2019. Will be interviewing this week. We have watched every UA-cam video on the subject. Yours by far are our favorites. We're from California making the move with our three kids.
What an awesome couple. NZ is lucky to have you. I know it's always a culture shock when you move to a new country. Just keep an open mind and you'll be right. Good luck to you both going forward ❤ 🙏 👍
Hugs and kisses are very common in NZ especially when greeting someone, or at least with me and my friends and family. Maybe it's because I'm maori because even a hongi is normal to me but I always found kiwis to be affectionate. All the times I went to USA for a holiday to visit family I found that Americans were not very affectionate and looked at me weird after I met someone and gave them a hug, I stopped doing it because I guess that was not the usual thing to do. I also discovered that depending on what state you were in the reaction is very different, the southern states seemed a lot more friendlier, complete strangers in Louisiana and Texas were very kind and helpful while Americans in the bigger cities like NY tended to be more standoffish and snobbish even though they were friends with my sister which I found weird
I listen for their accent, if they sound like they're from another country, I keep my hands to myself. So many awkward moments when I meet foreigners at a family members funeral or a function and they get hostile like you're gonna attack them. Like, bruh, I'm just going in for a hug lol😂
This is super interesting, thank you for sharing. I have found that the Maori people are super affectionate always lots of hugs eye contact. I think like you say, it depends where you are from too and how you were brought up. Our family are huggers but friends back in the UK would freeze if I tried to go near them! (Maybe they were trying to tell me something??? 🤔🤣
This is so true of where you are in the states, the northeast can definitely be more standoffish. Brian has made a number of Americans uncomfortable by going in for the hug right away, so I think he just thinks everyone should hug :)
I haven’t been able to get back to Dunedin for 2 years now (from Colorado) to see my family. Enjoy seeing the positivity for Dunners. It’s not for everyone though which I understand because I’ve travelled a lot and lived in many places so have a reference but M & B have the right temperament and attitude for it. Now that I’m older though I could easily live back there. However, I have gotten used to the very sunny, dry, high dessert climate i now live in. Maile and Brian, if you haven’t tried it yet (I’m assuming it’s still there) the best Indian food ever is Indian Spice in Nth Dunedin by the botanical gardens. Last time I was there it was $10 curries on Monday nights. Only problem now is it sounds like it will cost you $20 to drive across town
We have not tried it but good to know! And I agree, Dunedin isn't for everyone. I lived in the high desert for a while and eventually the dry air became hard for me to deal with, I was always thirsty. But I love the geography of the desert!
Made in Gods Own Country N.Z. ... We love earwigging in on your convo's at times we pee ourselves wid laughter , we graduated got wings and crossed the Ditch to Straya and even though we have been here ova 40 years we still long for Gods Own Country ... Thnx for the laughs , the highs n the lows Life Sux But Suck It UP Butter Cups the Stronger U are the Lower U fall ... LOVE YOUR GENUINE POSITIVITY ❤❤
Thats makes three of them then! If you guys need any help or support, please don't hesitate to ask. The first year or so in a new country can be hard. Sending you much love x
It is tough, we are lucky to have met some great people. Interesting to hear that the second and third year are tougher. But I do agree the first year is a bit like a honeymoon at times.
@@ZoomiesAbroad I guess different people can have different experiences. For us, it's worth moving to another part of NZ. Maybe it's because we've moved so much around the US we have an itch to move. It depends on what sort of lifestyle each town offers too.
@@TheAbbottAbode I did travel nursing for many years, so every few months we moved to a new city and state. We definitely like to move around, but I think now we want to settle in somewhere and travel a lot. And for whatever reason, Dunedin felt like home right away. I think we got lucky. Are you guys moving to another city soon?
Thank you for this. My wife (also a nurse) and I are relocating with our three kids (and two dogs) from the US to Dunedin in November/December so this perspective is appreciated. Is there a network you’d recommend us joining that might help us get settled/integrated a bit faster?
Thank you, we are so glad that it was helpful. Have you taken our free 5 day video guide about life in NZ? On day 5 you will be given details of the private membership group we facilitate. Here is the link! www.itsdrama.com/ilovenz Hope to see you soon! 😊
I live in San Franciscans we have bees and house flies in summer. Occasionally spiders but they’re small. I’m also a nurse and I’ve decided that rather than go and work I’m waiting to retire and go. I can imagine the difficulties in my job (post op recovery) would be very different. Liz and Brian-I love your videos! Do you ever talk to someone who is in that over 55 but not 66 range? There are really confusing messages-considering applying to University, actually as it’s cheaper than ours, and maybe that’s a way I can get there before 66?
Feeling tired when you do something new in part has to do with your brain building new synapses. That's why humans get tired when they learn because our brains are literally building physical tissues dir new pathways. We also need more sleep as the integration happens as we sleep. That's why children sleep more adults as their brains are building new synapses at an accelerated speed because everything is new to them!
If Maile and Brian want to meet up for a coffee (or Bourbon lol) My partner and I go to a different cafe each weekend and call it our Cafescapades. Mmmmm coffee. I understand it can be difficult to meet new people and make new friends, and even harder to become true/good friends... But to be fair and honest my ulterior motive is want to meet puppy dog... lol (We have a Jack Russell) As for hugging on average I would say no, but depends on the person how well you know them but in general not really, But adding a caveat the Maori and Island culture is more open to the hugs. My partner not so much to hugging in general, me I am more meh if you want one doesn't bother me either which way... Making new friends as I said can be difficult, hobbies are a great way to meet people (that you don't work with) sure there is a club that meets your hobby needs, from hiking, general walks, to woodworking, to model engineering etc... I hear through the grape vine Brian is a bourbon Drinker ... ahhh a man from my own heart... I have one or two bourbons in my bar. (yes I have a bar)
Naumai haere mai ki Aotearoa Welcome to New Zealand...I love ❤ to hug...Kia kaha be strong...and kiaora mo to manaaki...thank you for a nurse caring for the people in Dunedin
This is a very interesting conversation. My first cousin with her family lives in NZ. My partner and I have thought about moving to NZ. I'm doc in mental health care and she is a leading big data person. Actually I'm retired, and she has an international business. It seems that buying a home might be hard as they are listed and purchased differently. I'm multicultural so integration into the community isn't a strain instead I would find it fun. In the states I attended around 8 schools and lived in over 14 different states. So I like meeting people, no night clubs, a paced life with people are invested in community. Differences and sharing make life interesting. This is educational and fun. Thanks!
I enjoyed this, it's always interesting to me to see how new immigrants settle in to NZ. I've lived in China, Taiwan and Japan, and while my general acceptance of "I'm in a new country" got easier, it was as described here - all the little things that were tough, such as how do get a phone number, what ID do I need? How do I pay it, how do I top it up? Which bank should I use, where are the ATMs, how do I pay for things? How the heck do I read and use this phone app that's in another language? - how do I order takeaways? All these little things that back home in NZ were just automatic. And now, when I go back to NZ again soon, all these little things will still be subtly different since it's been 5 years since I dealt with them in NZ - oh, and almost no-one is interested in the stories of your life overseas...
Hahah! I had to reply to this comment when you said "no-one is interested in your life overseas.." This is SO true!! And I'm still not sure why this is?! (And it's not just a kiwi thing, it's the same when we return to the UK...noone wants to know...Oh well! Keep talking to ourselves then! 🤣 Thanks for wacthing!
It’s so funny I was just saying to my kiwi hubby how few hugs I have gotten since living in Texas the last 7 years. 😳{I am American} I can’t wait to get back to NZ where I can get hugged again. 😂
I am an expatriate now living in Canada. I can attest that even moving from an English speaking country there are culture shhocks etc. Even writing a cheque (remember them) here is different. With respect to the hugging I agree with what Maile and Brian said. As a Kiwi we really didn't hug each other and hear in Edmonton, AB Canada where I live, friends, family hug all the time and it took a bit of getting used to.
Moving country is a shock. A complete turn around emotionally. It's like a divorce. It's a stressful shock to the system and you have to get used to the new normal after everything you're used to is up ended. You spend two years adjusting, then setteling down. If you make it seven years, and you're still here, you're a kiwi. For the first few years you long to go back home, see a plane and wish you were on it. Is takes time to adjust. Some don't.
@@ItsaDrama yeah, it really did.. it was Brian's face looking at you! 😂😂. I have been watching a lot of your podcast lately, and I love your relationship dynamic, so down to earth and genuine, with only a hint of playful passive aggressiveness! Lol 🤣. To be honest, you have really helped to 'sell' New Zealand to us, your content is great and really helpful.
Just seen this video. I would reiterate what Matt the co worker said, don’t expect too much of yourself too soon. Give yourselves 12 months at least to get your bearings. People are friendly down there, after all it is student city so they are use too diversity. Just make the effort to say hello. Or go fishing, as fishermen will always talk to each other particularly if they caught something. Look for opportunities in the community to get involved. But mostly be kind to each other as nothing is worth losing that love and care for each other. You will get through this Kia kaha Kia toa kia manawanui. From the Wairarapa.
Your dead right everyone tends to do it I had the same problem in the UK converting pounds into NZ dollars which at the time was 3-1 in the pounds favour
Dogs are icebreakers when it comes to making friendships If you are inconvenienced by not having an item in your home strive for it. You don't need to have things to impress NZers. All you need is a table to eat off, a bed to sleep on, cooking appliance, frig, shower, toilet. Maile did you do the CAP course b4 practing as a nurse. Indian, Chinese, South African, Filipino Nurses have to as an orientation to our system I'm suffering from lockdown still, I've become addicted to Utube. Hugging is usually done between friends, try a Hongi that will surprise you,
I always enjoy you videos but I felt a bit funny about asking how much someone earns. I understand the reason for the question but it still felt a bit wrong. First time I have not finished watching a video. Having said that keep up the good work you guys are doing a great job.
I understand Nick. Maile had previously said that she wanted to share that information to help other new arrivals get a grasp on what they earn and how they can save. Thank you for your feedback ☺️
What I don't understand is how a lot of American's are hell bent on rediculing Donald Trump even though he's been the best President they've ever had, Whats up with that ? 😢
Kiwis have a relationship with Americans way back to WW2 Elora Roosevelt visited August 1943 .....67k Americans were based in N.Z. here to recuperate, from the front an to save N Z. From the Japanese ... Sadly 18k of them, many father's of N.Z,ers paid with their lives at gaudal canal ... 1000s who survived relocated to U.S. ...with their n.z. mum's.. Your welcome in N.Z. always will be ...
You spent most of the interview, complementing each other. I feel it was poorly edited, and a lost opportunity to get a real insight into a couple newly arrived in NZ. The interviewer spent most of the time talking, rather than letting the subjects talk. And yes, I am a kiwi.
So they aren't Trump supporters. Always have to go to that. sad. Trump supporting Americans are the best. They believe in individual rights and freedom.
Unalienable Rights Unalienble Rights are the Inherent, Sovereign, Natural Rights that existed before the creation of the State, and which, being antecendent to and above the State, can never be taken away, diminished, altered, or liened upon by the State, subject only to the Due Process of the Common Law. Nor can any Unalienable Right be fundamentally removed, whether mistakenly by contract through non-disclosure, which is fraud and unenforceable in Law, or knowingly by renunciation, which is contrary to Natural Law. The Original, Permanent, Unalienable Rights of every Man or Woman, include: The Right to Life, Freedom, Health, and the Pursuit of Happiness. The Right to Contract, or Not to Contract, which is Unlimited. The Right to Earn a Living by being Compensated with Wages, a Salary, or any Trade Goods, in Fair Exchange for one's Work The Right to Travel in the Ordinary Course of one's Life and Business. The Right to Privacy and Confidentiality, free from Unwarranted Invasion. The Right to Control, and Hold one's Property, Lawfully without Trespass. The Right to Self-Defence when threatened with Harm, Loss, or Deceit. The Right to Due Process of Law, with Notice and Opportunity to Defend. The Right to be Presumed Innocent, suffering No Detention or Arrest, No Search or Seizure, without Reasonable Cause. The Right to Remain Silent when accused, to avoid Self-Discrimination. The Right to Equality in the Eyes of the Law, and to Equal Representation. The Right to Trial by Jury, being an Impartial Panel of One's Peers. The Right to Apeal in Law against Conviction or Sentence, or both. The Right to Expose Knowledge necessary to one's Rights and Freedoms. The Right to Peaceful Association, Assembly, Expression and Protest. The Right to Practice a Religion, and to have Beliefs, of one's Choosing The Right to Love, and to Consensual Marriage, with Children, as a Family. The Right to Security, from Abuse, Persecution, Tyranny, and War. The Right to Refuse, to Kill, under command, by Reason of Conscience. The Right to Live, in Peace, and be left alone when Law Abiding. Surely, the most Critical Failure of the People, is their failure to ensure the Teaching and Common Knowledge of their Unalienable Rights. If you do not know your Rights, you effectively have none. By the Path of Ignorance, whether by Apathy or Deception. The People arrive in a State of Exploitation, Oppression and Tyranny.
So lovely to catch up with Maile, Brian & Zoe the dog in Dunedin, New Zealand. Thank you, guys! 😁
Don't forget to check out their YT channel, Zoomies Abroad (link in the description).
We had such a great time doing this video with you. We miss you guys!! Thanks so much for your great questions and for being you, who knows where we would be without your amazing support. Love you both!
Love you too guys xxx ❤️
As a healthcare worker who is moving to NZ with my spouse in less than a month and who also struggled through Covid with a strained relationship but came out the other end stronger, this really hit home. Thanks so much for sharing.
Thank you so much for watching and for being with us! We appreciate you taking the time to share! Have a lovely week, Liz and Brian 😊
I live about 2 to 3 blocks away in South Dunedin I'm a retired nurse, if I see you I'll speak to you and maybe I'll have a hug. You are all doing so well. By the way I'm a kiwi.
Thank you so much Vivian, this is a lovely comment. have a great weekend 😘
Thanks so much, we would love hugs! Keep an eye out for us, we are often out walking or biking
That was awesome guys. Zoomies, stick with it you are the type of people nz needs, and you really are doing well. Congratulations on your big plunge into nz and all the culture shocks that have gone on with it.
Thank you so much Kerry, we really appreciate you 🥰
Thanks a lot! It's big a wonderful adventure so far
Anyone who has a retired greyhound as a pet have to be good people
Great to see that they are settling in to Dunedin life
So true Nikki 💕
Greyhounds are the best dogs, so sweet and loving
The biggest difference between New Zealand and North America is a lot of the weekend activities don’t cost much, go to the beach, go tramping, go mountain biking etc. when I lived in a North American city those nature activities were rare so you did expensive activities like movies, concerts, pubs, galleries etc and it all sucks the money out of you. I’m happy in New Zealand just going for a walk
Thank you so much for watching and for taking the time to leave such a great comment Matthew! We really appreciate you being here with us. ☺️
Thanks for posting Liz and Bri.
Love getting all these perspectives from new Kiwis.
So good to hear you are all enjoying your new life in NZ and not financially strained.
Thank you, we are really loving our life here
Glad you enjoyed it! ☺️
Re hugging. We are Americans and huggers as well.......... once we get to know someone. We went on Holiday to New Zealand and were meet by our Son In Laws (Kiwi) parents. We were greeted with "You must be the Americans" and we all said our hellos and got on with it . After a week together with them and their hospitality etc when they dropped us off at the Ferry we automatically gave them both hugs. When my husband hugged the Dad, , his wife looked at my husband like "oh Boy" that is not what we do here and the Dad just gave a funny look like "Whoa, what just happened? Now after knowing them for 10 yrs we hug when we see each other BUT the first time was very uncomfortable for us all. :) BTW our SIL was not a hugger either BUT he is now and even initiates it with us. The world needs more hugs .............
Love this comment so much Sherree! Thanks for sharing 🥰
OMG this was great. I think people are still a bit weird about hugs with the old virus spreading all over. Generally I am huggy. Everyone who came into my house was hugged hello and good bye. I hope we are all soon back to that. Anyone who moves from around the world has my respect, that is brave. What an awesome couple.
Aren't they wonderful Anna?! So glad that you liked it xx
Thank you, and agreed, hugs have gotten a bit odd these days. Hopefully they come back into fashion soonish
Two more fantastic people you've introduced us to. Great to see they've made it through the hardest part and everything will become easier as the settle in and become locals
Thank you so much my friend, everyone needs to know about this lovely pair 🥰
@@ItsaDrama they seem such a cool couple
Thank you for the nice feedback! Things are definitely getting easier, even since we did that podcast
Thank you Brian and Maile for interviewing. I have been considering relocating from California to the Otago region. This really does help me. Thank you for sharing your experiences.
Otago is a beautiful region, and so diverse geographically. We haven't regretted moving. Feel free to reach out if you have any questions
I really enjoyed this session. Good to see, our new kiwi friends are moving along nicely. Keep goin. Ryan dont worry you'll make friends my bro.
Welcome to Aotearoa.👍
This is lovely, thank you for being so welcoming ☺️
Thank you! Happy to be here.
I'm a kiwi born and raised and completely get what you are saying about change. The comfort of things being where they should be can't be under estimated. Continuous change and adaptation to your environment is exhausting. I get worn out when we have a restructure at work. So well done.
Thank you so much for watching and for taking the time to say hi! We really appreciate you being here with us Carol. ☺️
I've only just watched this, thank you sooo much for doing this podcast! I work at the Whanganui DHB, in the medical, surgical and acute treatment an rehabilition ward. It's wonderful to see patients get better but it hurts my heart when you can see patients and families give up. It is difficult to leave all of that at the door. Much love to our essential workers 💕
Lots of love back to you, it's a tough job and hard to leave it there.
This was such a great open conversation, and relatable! As a member to the Slack group it feels like we are sitting around the kitchen table with you all! 🫂❤
So glad Randy! We love having you in or community and I can't wait for it to be your turn soon! 🥰
Soon enough Randy!
Great interview, love that they were so real and talked about struggles we all go through 💙 I always give my mates a hug, I thought it was normal lol
Thanks for being a hugger!!
Awesome vid folks from a subscriber to both channels. Keep safe, take care!
Thank you so much! ☺️
Community clubs e.g. cycling, tramping, garden, menzshed, rotary /lions, book clubs etc can be quite a good way to meet like-minded people
This was great! Open, genuine conversation and for anyone looking to move country, this has some really good lessons. I moved from UK to Seattle and experienced a lot of the same culture shock, good/bad weeks. I was nodding a lot through this video. Really love this channel
Thank you so much Gerry , we appreciate you 😊
I think the hugging thing depends on the individual and maybe your upbringing.
Some kiwis are and some aren't. Love listening to your chat with Maile and Brian. Hope their life in Dunedin just keeps getting better. We need more people like them in NZ 🙂
Thank you so much Susan, Maile and Brian are just gorgeous aren't; they? Have a great weekend! 😘
Thank you Susan! Life does keep better here, especially now that we finally got a couple of weeks of summer in Dunedin.
As always, luv the contents of all your videos!!!!! Thank you to Brian and Zoe for their insght too - Awsum!!! Hard questions and Honest answers. We do have a lot of Respect for anyone that comes to New Zealand and Helps us out in the Health Care (Doctors, Nurses, Mental Health Professionals, etc) areas/professions!!!!! Big Cheers. Peace
Thank you so much for watching and for taking the time to say hi, we really appreciate your kind support 😘
If I see you when I move to Dunedin late June (from Australia), I'll give you a hug!
It just depends. Most dont hug recently due to covid19. In my cultures (NZ Maori & Samoan) we are constantly hugging family and friends.
Thank you for sharing Ena, we appreciate it! ☺️
That is good to know!
I only ever hug wife/our kids/my in-laws/Dad (when he was alive).
Not something I've ever really liked. Not even friends at school when growing up.
Thank you for this amazing video and for sharing your thoughts and experiences ❤️.
You are very welcome Priscilla!🥰
Brian hugging is totally acceptable in NZ amongst friends and acquaintance's.
You guys are awesome
Thank you so much for watching and for taking the time to say hi Ralph! We really appreciate you being here with us. ☺️
Good to catch up with this awesome couple. Was wondering how they were adjusting. Keep going guys. You are too real. You fit well.
I watched their second video and went straight back to watch the first.
Thank you so much Ivy, we appreciate you being with us 🥰
We have been trying to find work for two years since we traveled to NZ in 2019. Will be interviewing this week. We have watched every UA-cam video on the subject. Yours by far are our favorites. We're from California making the move with our three kids.
Glad that you enjoyed the video Russel! We hope to see you in our community soon! 😁
Brilliant insights from a lovely couple - All the very best to you!!
Glad you enjoyed it Tony, thank you for watching ☺️
Just home from work and lookey here, Its thursday. Nice to see ya.... to see ya nice.
Hahaha! Put the kettle on and give us a twirl Anna 😘
What an awesome couple. NZ is lucky to have you. I know it's always a culture shock when you move to a new country. Just keep an open mind and you'll be right. Good luck to you both going forward ❤ 🙏 👍
Hugs and kisses are very common in NZ especially when greeting someone, or at least with me and my friends and family. Maybe it's because I'm maori because even a hongi is normal to me but I always found kiwis to be affectionate. All the times I went to USA for a holiday to visit family I found that Americans were not very affectionate and looked at me weird after I met someone and gave them a hug, I stopped doing it because I guess that was not the usual thing to do. I also discovered that depending on what state you were in the reaction is very different, the southern states seemed a lot more friendlier, complete strangers in Louisiana and Texas were very kind and helpful while Americans in the bigger cities like NY tended to be more standoffish and snobbish even though they were friends with my sister which I found weird
I listen for their accent, if they sound like they're from another country, I keep my hands to myself. So many awkward moments when I meet foreigners at a family members funeral or a function and they get hostile like you're gonna attack them. Like, bruh, I'm just going in for a hug lol😂
This is super interesting, thank you for sharing. I have found that the Maori people are super affectionate always lots of hugs eye contact. I think like you say, it depends where you are from too and how you were brought up. Our family are huggers but friends back in the UK would freeze if I tried to go near them! (Maybe they were trying to tell me something??? 🤔🤣
This is so true of where you are in the states, the northeast can definitely be more standoffish. Brian has made a number of Americans uncomfortable by going in for the hug right away, so I think he just thinks everyone should hug :)
You're top people- all of you. NZ is lucky to have you. And look out Bryan if I ever get to Dunedin 😄
Thanks for another great video xxx
Thank you so much, that's such a kind comment. Thank you xx
If Brian gets hugged bombed by a stranger I know it is you!
Good for Maile and Brian.
I hope Biran can find an IT company he can fit into.
New Zealand needs help in the IT sector.
Thank you so much for watching and for taking the time to say hi! We really appreciate you being here with us. ☺️
I haven’t been able to get back to Dunedin for 2 years now (from Colorado) to see my family. Enjoy seeing the positivity for Dunners. It’s not for everyone though which I understand because I’ve travelled a lot and lived in many places so have a reference but M & B have the right temperament and attitude for it. Now that I’m older though I could easily live back there. However, I have gotten used to the very sunny, dry, high dessert climate i now live in.
Maile and Brian, if you haven’t tried it yet (I’m assuming it’s still there) the best Indian food ever is Indian Spice in Nth Dunedin by the botanical gardens. Last time I was there it was $10 curries on Monday nights. Only problem now is it sounds like it will cost you $20 to drive across town
Great advice Brian! Thank you so much ☺️ PS: ANOTHER Brian, now you all have three friends...🤣
We have not tried it but good to know! And I agree, Dunedin isn't for everyone. I lived in the high desert for a while and eventually the dry air became hard for me to deal with, I was always thirsty. But I love the geography of the desert!
Made in Gods Own Country N.Z. ... We love earwigging in on your convo's at times we pee ourselves wid laughter , we graduated got wings and crossed the Ditch to Straya and even though we have been here ova 40 years we still long for Gods Own Country ... Thnx for the laughs , the highs n the lows Life Sux But Suck It UP Butter Cups the Stronger U are the Lower U fall ... LOVE YOUR GENUINE POSITIVITY ❤❤
LOVE This comment Margaret! Thank you so much ❤️
Yes, we hug here but not during the pandemic - and often the hug comes with a kiss on the cheek.
Thank you so much for watching and for taking the time to say hi! We really appreciate you being here with us. ☺️
Hugs are VERY normal, just another thing Covid has messed with! What a fun couple.
Glad that you enjoyed it! ☺️
Hahaha, my husband is a Bryan too and this week is our 3 year anniversary in NZ. And honestly, it has been tough making friends.
Thats makes three of them then! If you guys need any help or support, please don't hesitate to ask. The first year or so in a new country can be hard. Sending you much love x
@@ItsaDrama I think the second and third year was harder. The first year was like a honeymoon.
It is tough, we are lucky to have met some great people. Interesting to hear that the second and third year are tougher. But I do agree the first year is a bit like a honeymoon at times.
@@ZoomiesAbroad I guess different people can have different experiences. For us, it's worth moving to another part of NZ. Maybe it's because we've moved so much around the US we have an itch to move. It depends on what sort of lifestyle each town offers too.
@@TheAbbottAbode I did travel nursing for many years, so every few months we moved to a new city and state. We definitely like to move around, but I think now we want to settle in somewhere and travel a lot. And for whatever reason, Dunedin felt like home right away. I think we got lucky. Are you guys moving to another city soon?
Kiwi born and bred, big family, all huge huggers... it's normal for some...
Thanks for sharing! 😁
Thank you for this. My wife (also a nurse) and I are relocating with our three kids (and two dogs) from the US to Dunedin in November/December so this perspective is appreciated. Is there a network you’d recommend us joining that might help us get settled/integrated a bit faster?
Thank you, we are so glad that it was helpful. Have you taken our free 5 day video guide about life in NZ? On day 5 you will be given details of the private membership group we facilitate.
Here is the link!
www.itsdrama.com/ilovenz
Hope to see you soon! 😊
08:50 looks like Brian is watching tennis 😅. Thanks for the great podcast!
🤣🎾 Love it!! 🤣 You are welcome!
Great talk you guys. Culture shock is real, even when you love the new place, nz, America and England divided by a common language
Thank you Eileen ☺️
Life reflects back to you, whatever you are
I live in San Franciscans we have bees and house flies in summer. Occasionally spiders but they’re small.
I’m also a nurse and I’ve decided that rather than go and work I’m waiting to retire and go. I can imagine the difficulties in my job (post op recovery) would be very different.
Liz and Brian-I love your videos! Do you ever talk to someone who is in that over 55 but not 66 range? There are really confusing messages-considering applying to University, actually as it’s cheaper than ours, and maybe that’s a way I can get there before 66?
Feeling tired when you do something new in part has to do with your brain building new synapses. That's why humans get tired when they learn because our brains are literally building physical tissues dir new pathways. We also need more sleep as the integration happens as we sleep. That's why children sleep more adults as their brains are building new synapses at an accelerated speed because everything is new to them!
If Maile and Brian want to meet up for a coffee (or Bourbon lol) My partner and I go to a different cafe each weekend and call it our Cafescapades. Mmmmm coffee. I understand it can be difficult to meet new people and make new friends, and even harder to become true/good friends... But to be fair and honest my ulterior motive is want to meet puppy dog... lol (We have a Jack Russell)
As for hugging on average I would say no, but depends on the person how well you know them but in general not really, But adding a caveat the Maori and Island culture is more open to the hugs. My partner not so much to hugging in general, me I am more meh if you want one doesn't bother me either which way...
Making new friends as I said can be difficult, hobbies are a great way to meet people (that you don't work with) sure there is a club that meets your hobby needs, from hiking, general walks, to woodworking, to model engineering etc...
I hear through the grape vine Brian is a bourbon Drinker ... ahhh a man from my own heart... I have one or two bourbons in my bar. (yes I have a bar)
Seriously, you guys need to be friends! I'm forwarding this message to Brian incase he misses it. You are so lovely xx
Made a great comment and sent it to Zoomies channel. Cracker video. So happy for them ! Keep safe🥰
Thank you Jayne!! 😘
Naumai haere mai ki Aotearoa Welcome to New Zealand...I love ❤ to hug...Kia kaha be strong...and kiaora mo to manaaki...thank you for a nurse caring for the people in Dunedin
Tēnā koe for this lovely comment Shari, it means such a lot to us.
Hi Liz. May I ask how Maile got a job in NZ as I'm also nurse wanting to migrate to NZ from the UK? Thanks a lot!
Hi! Speak with prudence at Accent Health! She is fabulous and will give you all the help you need!
www.accent.net.nz/
Hugging is more mainstream than it used to be.
Thanks for sharing Liz! ☺️
I think the word is "Shrill" more than "harsh"😊💕.
Oh gosh...that's even worse...😳🤪
This is a very interesting conversation. My first cousin with her family lives in NZ. My partner and I have thought about moving to NZ. I'm doc in mental health care and she is a leading big data person. Actually I'm retired, and she has an international business. It seems that buying a home might be hard as they are listed and purchased differently. I'm multicultural so integration into the community isn't a strain instead I would find it fun. In the states I attended around 8 schools and lived in over 14 different states. So I like meeting people, no night clubs, a paced life with people are invested in community. Differences and sharing make life interesting. This is educational and fun. Thanks!
Awesome guys hang in there ❤️
Thanks Mike! 🥰
I enjoyed this, it's always interesting to me to see how new immigrants settle in to NZ. I've lived in China, Taiwan and Japan, and while my general acceptance of "I'm in a new country" got easier, it was as described here - all the little things that were tough, such as how do get a phone number, what ID do I need? How do I pay it, how do I top it up? Which bank should I use, where are the ATMs, how do I pay for things? How the heck do I read and use this phone app that's in another language? - how do I order takeaways? All these little things that back home in NZ were just automatic. And now, when I go back to NZ again soon, all these little things will still be subtly different since it's been 5 years since I dealt with them in NZ - oh, and almost no-one is interested in the stories of your life overseas...
Hahah! I had to reply to this comment when you said "no-one is interested in your life overseas.." This is SO true!! And I'm still not sure why this is?! (And it's not just a kiwi thing, it's the same when we return to the UK...noone wants to know...Oh well! Keep talking to ourselves then! 🤣 Thanks for wacthing!
Is it worth going to the beach in Dunedin?
Absolutely! The beaches are gorgeous ☺️
But the weather!
It’s so funny I was just saying to my kiwi hubby how few hugs I have gotten since living in Texas the last 7 years. 😳{I am American} I can’t wait to get back to NZ where I can get hugged again. 😂
Love it!! Thank you for sharing!
As a fly on the wall hearing how people from foreign lands come to NZ and struggle then settle is awesome. To the side BS is better than Sh*t. Welcome
I am an expatriate now living in Canada. I can attest that even moving from an English speaking country there are culture shhocks etc. Even writing a cheque (remember them) here is different. With respect to the hugging I agree with what Maile and Brian said. As a Kiwi we really didn't hug each other and hear in Edmonton, AB Canada where I live, friends, family hug all the time and it took a bit of getting used to.
Thanks so much for sharing this Paull, it's so interesting to hear! ☺️
That is so interesting to hear! Canada is a great place, I wish we had been able to explore it more before we moved, but the border was shut.
Must be a pakeha thing hey(the hugging part)🥴😂
We hug lots in the polynesian cultures
Thank you so much for watching and for taking the time to say hi! We really appreciate you being here with us. 😊
Moving country is a shock. A complete turn around emotionally.
It's like a divorce. It's a stressful shock to the system and you have to get used to the new normal after everything you're used to is up ended.
You spend two years adjusting, then setteling down.
If you make it seven years, and you're still here, you're a kiwi.
For the first few years you long to go back home, see a plane and wish you were on it.
Is takes time to adjust.
Some don't.
Thank you so much for watching and for this great comment ☺️
@@ItsaDrama I've been here 34 years btw
My marriage ended one day after moving country so I had to do both at the same time..now I know why im so tired all the time..
Brian could branch out into a Callin App channel so he can connect directly with people.
Great idea! Thank you for watching and for sharing! ☺️
"Let's hang out with Brian with a hat on".. 😂🤣😂
🤣 Tickled ya??? 🤣
@@ItsaDrama yeah, it really did.. it was Brian's face looking at you! 😂😂.
I have been watching a lot of your podcast lately, and I love your relationship dynamic, so down to earth and genuine, with only a hint of playful passive aggressiveness! Lol 🤣. To be honest, you have really helped to 'sell' New Zealand to us, your content is great and really helpful.
At what point will the two Brians ditch their wives and have a 'Bromance' trip through NZ?
We'll keep you posted 🤣
😂🤣 ur voice is sharp, and I can't do something about it😂🤣, KIWI fruit might be a cure😂
How bloody rude is that???? 🤣
No we Kiwi's don't hug as much as Americans do. If you haven't seen extended family members for a while you'd give them a hug but that's about it.
Too right... I feel weird when I get hug from my Mum who I haven't seen in person for about a year.
A simple "sup" says enough.
My family are all huggers, we're kiwi as, with friends and family. It depends a lot on how each person feels. Be well, be
Safe
Just seen this video. I would reiterate what Matt the co worker said, don’t expect too much of yourself too soon. Give yourselves 12 months at least to get your bearings. People are friendly down there, after all it is student city so they are use too diversity. Just make the effort to say hello. Or go fishing, as fishermen will always talk to each other particularly if they caught something. Look for opportunities in the community to get involved. But mostly be kind to each other as nothing is worth losing that love and care for each other. You will get through this Kia kaha Kia toa kia manawanui. From the Wairarapa.
Hugs are normal between friends or people with friendly natures ;) u know when to do it.
Your dead right everyone tends to do it I had the same problem in the UK converting pounds into NZ dollars which at the time was 3-1 in the pounds favour
100% agreed. Here in the US the entitlement is out of control. I am planning to join the New Zealand work force in 2024.
This could be just a cultural thing, or perhaps a phrase that;s lost in translation somewhat, but what the heck is leftover pizza??
🤣
You get paid in US dollars? That has to help
Dogs are icebreakers when it comes to making friendships
If you are inconvenienced by not having an item in your home strive for it. You don't need to have things to impress NZers. All you need is a table to eat off, a bed to sleep on, cooking appliance, frig, shower, toilet.
Maile did you do the CAP course b4 practing as a nurse. Indian, Chinese, South African, Filipino Nurses have to as an orientation to our system
I'm suffering from lockdown still, I've become addicted to Utube.
Hugging is usually done between friends, try a Hongi that will surprise you,
I always enjoy you videos but I felt a bit funny about asking how much someone earns. I understand the reason for the question but it still felt a bit wrong. First time I have not finished watching a video. Having said that keep up the good work you guys are doing a great job.
I understand Nick. Maile had previously said that she wanted to share that information to help other new arrivals get a grasp on what they earn and how they can save. Thank you for your feedback ☺️
Nick, it's not a secret as it's set by the union and easily found on google, so I didn't mind sharing it.
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Welcome home
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I think the culture has a dent in it thanks to the pandemic. Unfortunately they came during a bad time for hugs, kisses etc....
So true, thank you so much for watching and for taking the time to say hi! ☺️
What I don't understand is how a lot of American's are hell bent on rediculing Donald Trump even though he's been the best President they've ever had, Whats up with that ? 😢
I don’t think they came here to follow Americas political issues fair go guys
Kiwis have a relationship with Americans way back to WW2
Elora Roosevelt visited August 1943 .....67k Americans were based in N.Z. here to recuperate, from the front an to save N Z. From the Japanese ...
Sadly 18k of them, many father's of N.Z,ers paid with their lives at gaudal canal ... 1000s who survived relocated to U.S. ...with their n.z. mum's..
Your welcome in N.Z. always will be ...
You spent most of the interview, complementing each other. I feel it was poorly edited, and a lost opportunity to get a real insight into a couple newly arrived in NZ. The interviewer spent most of the time talking, rather than letting the subjects talk. And yes, I am a kiwi.
Sorry that you didn't enjoy it Brian. Thanks for the feedback.
Mental tiredness from all the new terms of medicine's and what objects are called here.
I ejoyed this, indigenous maori
Tēnā koe Fiona, we appreciate you being with us ☺️
So they aren't Trump supporters. Always have to go to that. sad. Trump supporting Americans are the best. They believe in individual rights and freedom.
Yes, thats true! He isn't eloquent in talking but has his head screwed on the right way!
Individual freedoms... except when it comes to bodily autonomy!
Notice that the Maori culture isn't mentioned in your videos you have to realize the racism they face in NZ their own country
NZ's an expensive place at the bottom of the Pacific Ocean.
Love your videos, or what they're called now, and keep on. It's wet in eastern NSW.
Kiwis are stand-offish the same as their forebears from England and Ireland.
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I was born in Wellington .
Left 5 years ago .
Not the same county I grew up in .
Much worse now .
Viva Mexico.
Yeah. Wrong time wrong place. NZ is done