Mindsets We Held Before Marriage (A guide for the single & unmarried!) | Rica Peralejo - Bonifacio
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- Опубліковано 11 жов 2024
- Before you even start thinking about marriage, here are some mindsets that helped us prepare well for it. A full version of this talk can also be found here: open.spotify.c.... Or simply find ANYTHING GOES with Joe and Carla on Apple/Spotify, click on Mindsets Before Marriage episode! I hope it helps you, too! #TheBonis
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"A person is not enough to complete everything that you will need in this life."
Only Jesus can satisfy us 🙌❤️
6 Mindsets for Single People:
1. It's Not up to me
2.I can't get this wrong
3. He/She should Not complete me
4. Do not Fixate
5. Be Honest with yourself
6. Know the Game
Gusto ko yung, "In marriage, you will lose some part of yourself in order for both of you to become whole."
This is such a super good and helpful content for us singles. :) Thank you Ms. Rica! More to come pleease :)
🙏🏻🙌🏻💝 “Comfort in knowing that God’s got your back”
Just broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years and I thought SIYA NA but then again God has other plans for me. Thank you so much for this! Very timely sa pag move forward! 💛🌻
Same
You are loved!
You deserve the "one" who is God's Best for your life.
A man God has for you, will pursue you.😊
God has a plan for you! 😊
"Hapiness should come from the internal presence of God" - Wow.
First time to listen to your husband. He’s full of wisdom. You compliment each other’s exchange in this session. Hoping for more! ❤️
Truly!
I remember when I promise to myself na hindi na muna ko mag boboyfriend after my last one, (before I met my husband), puro work muna kasi laging failed naman at nakakapagod. I need to rest and pause.
Then si God ayaw pumayag, he loves me so much and blessed me ng napakabait na asawa. After 1 yr kasalan na. 🥰🥰🥰.. 7yrs this Aug and counting..
Yes, we need a PAUSE in our lives, then you will never know that God PLAY it again for you in the right time. 🙏🙏🙏👏👏👏💗💗💗..
Always love your content po Ms. Rica.. 🥰🥰🥰
Good one to note! 💖
gandaaaaaa
I have someone whom I've known for 9 years already, since we both grew up in the same church and In those years we have built a brother-sister relationship since he's 4 years older than me. Now that I've became more mature (not just by age) without even having the slightest idea, the Lord has brought us together. I'm praying that in our courting stage, this relationship will prosper according to God's will and may the relationship that we're building will bring glory to God!
This video is so insightful!
Christian should realize that there are single blessedness status, not everyone is going to get married and very Biblical and those single who choose to serve God is even be blessed more.
As a single person i learned a lot. Thank you. Jesus is the only Being that can satisfy me 😍
Yup.. so curious paano ninyo naconfirm/nireveal ni God na kau nga ang para sa isat isa..😍
This is the kind of influencer we all need. ♥️😊
I hope you'll have a content about your love story, about your guni guni 😂 or how faith/ prayer works like Kuya Kim told on the previous vlog.. ☺
Really helpful. Especially for me who’s been single for 7 years and counting. 😂 I like that term season. I’m going to hold on to that. Dami ko na namang natutunan.
I find this vlog relatable.
I just worship and praise God for everything He has done in my life before then I met my now husband in Church. We both devote ourselves to the Lord, work in His vineyard, and He really made a way for us to find a partner in life. Kami pala after all.
I am really grateful that this man chose to follow my set standards and WAIT until our wedding day. I guess its true, "Ang tunay na lalaki, marunong maghintay."
I really praise God for this man of my life and say... "Lord, You really are a good good father. Thank You for giving me the BEST!"
Singles, keep praying. God hears.
I prayed for this man a LOT!
Sya pala talaga for me. 😍
💝💖
Thank you for sharing!
When I was single, my non-negotiable for a husband was he should love God above all, including me. The Lord answered my prayer, at the time when I told Him that I’m ok being single for the rest of my life because I have Him. A husband will be a bonus, if ever. God gave me the best bonus ever!
The only One who can satisfy a human heart is the One who made it.
Turning 32 and still single. Been to the point that I'm asking am I ugly Lord? Masama ba ugali ko? Still waiting on my season.
saeym pla us kala ko ako lungs
Same here 🙏🏼 hindi ka nag-iisa
I turned 33 last year, still single... then pandemic hits! I met my then-bf and i'm 34 already. We got married and i'm now pregnant... ang bilis pero it happened in God's perfect time.
I totally agree that the other person should not complete you and that you should be that one whole complete person before entering into marriage. Other relatives would often ask why wala pa akong spouse, but I just know that it's not up to me, because if God wills it, it will happen and He will be the one who'll write that beautiful love story. I also do hangout with the families that I look up to, and it also gives me an idea of what marriage is like, the effort and the hard work and skills needed to make it work having the Lord as part of the team. Thank you for sharing this! More power to your channel, Ms. Rica! ❤
True enough when u become honest to yourself about how you feel will help you take precautionary measures to avoid unnecessary heartaches in the future..it works with me everytime and I thank God for providing a way out everytime...still single but Happy😊😉
Ganda ng topic. Actually ito tlaga yun e. Im a married woman and i think si god talaga ang lahat ng may plans nito going 10yrs married na kami at ito tlga ang pinagpipray ko kay god before pako makapag asawa. At laging sawi ang endings sa mga naging jowa ko before bago ang asawa ko. At wala din sa tagal o bilis ang pagsasama namin kasi agad din kami nabiyayaan at nagpakasal i think hindi un dhil s nabiyayan kami agad ng baby kasi hinayaan ko/namin na si god ang gumawa ng plano s life namin pero yun mindset dn na kapag nagpakasal na kami stick na kami s isat isa. Put god first sa lahat ng bawat desisyon natin sa buhay🙏
"Can't get this wrong" mindset is very powerful. I remembered that choosing our lifetime partner is one of the most important decision that we will make. ❤🤗
Can I personally request to have a vlog after getting married.. like how you handle fights, how to submit, how to deal with situations/decision making as partner.. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
"It's not up to me." - This mindset is so so good and true. Plus, magandang answer everytime may magtatanong kung kailan ka ba mag-aasawa. 😄 Thank you, Ms. Carla and Ptr. Joe!
Dami ko natutunan sa topic na eto. 37 years old still single but dating & i dont know if he is the One.
Always praying to God . Thank you Rica & husband for this wonderful content. 💋💋Godbless you both
Im a single mom. I just broke up with my bf for almost 3 years who's a narcissist. Still praying for my moving on stage. Praying for God's best for me. My heart still desires marriage.
Am with u sis! We love them but we must love ourselves better. Been in a narc relationshio also and it is very traumatizing indeed.
i really like that reminder of not being a dictionary😁🤗
another learnings for tonight while waiting for God's perfect timing🥰🥰
At the end of the day, its really up to God ❤
Yung nahihilo ka pero busog na busog naman yung soul mo habang nanonood. Haha. Thank you so much po for this amazing and anointed episode! 🥰🥰🙏🙏🙏😇😇😇 God bless you more po.
Great topic. Not everyone are called to marry. Those who succumbed to following unconsciously are settling and unhappy. I’ve seen and observed some of my friends who wants out but stayed because they don’t want to look like a “failure”. I’d say it’s a blessing to be happily single and being married to someone you love and loves you back.
It’s a personal choice.
I totally agree with you two.💖 Marriage must be preserved for it's the Lord plan.
Another meaningful talk to one of my favorite couples!❤❤❤
“..but if it’s up to God, may laban tayo.”
Uy oo. Back up kaya natin ang Lord!! Mas panalo!! 💯 there’s comfort!
To all the people out there, let’s only settle for what God wants for us! ♥️
Well said. Indeed, happiness comes from your self not from others that you want to depend on.
Wag kayong Dictionary! 🤣🤣🤣 Love this one! God bless you guys!
you are really big inspiration sa mga singles who’s looking for potential partner .. instead of feeling down I feel enlighten sa mga words na cnsabi nyo. hope mdami pa kaung podcast and blog na mgawa related dto coz it really helps a lot not to frustrate or depress in season of waiting. thank you po! godbless!
Really agree with that two persons in a relationship both have old sin nature/broken, that you cannot complete each other. Always enjoy your vlog Sis Rica specially when Pastor Jo is in it because you can always hear godly principles not human viewpoint that cannot glorify God
"Wag dictionary" Hahahhaa a good reminder for me 😂 Thanks po Ms. Rica and Ptr Joseph. Blessed by your lives 💓
One of my fav pastor/speaker ptr Joseph ewan ko b parang my magic pagnag sasalita c ptr Joseph haha ang charming p ng boses hahaha sorry anlau ng comment 😅... His full of wisdom 😊
The internal presence of God in our life completes us. Thank you God! ♥️
This is what I need to watch right now. Been thinking of marriage as I have my partner, but I don't know if he's the one. And I suddenly realized, we both have flaws and mistakes. I am so dependent on my own happiness with him now. At the same time, he's being true to himself to the point that he's hurting me emotionally. And I am thinking, sabi mo nga po, wala nang balikan yan once you got married. And napapaisip na naman ako. 😔 Thank you for this! I am praying for your marriage and praying for mine to have God decide for myself. This opened my mind again.
listened to Pastor's video early this morning
More po ng mga ganitong topics. About marriage,life, god, as a person or anything that can motivate to us to become more better person or partner
Ma'am rica & ptr Joseph sila yong perfect combination talaga ..
Thank you for sharing this topic, daming wisdom ❤️
I've been single for 7years ,ofw.
C God talaga gumawa ng ways for me to learn .
Grabe ang pause q nong nag start aq mag abroad way back 2015 bawal cellphone ,bawal dayoff.. for two yearsr kinaya because ni Lord, doon ako nabalik sa kanya, kaya totoo talaga yan "everything happens for a reason/purpose"
I learn na mag wait lang ,kasi pag ibigay ni lord, ibibigay nia sa tamang panahon🙂
Until now patiently waiting parin..
Thank you to both of you..
I want more🙂❤️🌻
The last part is a big reminder for me🤣
Wahaha trueee! pano ba ndi mgng diksyunaryo?! 😂 Sapul aq don ah. 🤣
I had been in wrong relationships before. I was with the wrong person. Same with, I was the wrong person for them. It ended very traumatically due to betrayal, lies and cheating. It changed me drastically. I am still healing and in the same time I'm trying my best to enjoy my season. But, sometimes I wonder, Lord, hanggang kailan ba ko maghihintay? I'm really praying hard na Lord show me Your will. Lord, give me strength to overcome my pain and trauma. Lord, give me the comfort na kahit anong ibigay mo sa akin I can accept it wholeheartedly. It's really a process. Kasi even if we keep our eyes to God madaming nangyayaring hindi natin gusto, and sometimes, that's scary. I always remember your vlog about season and try to dwell in it kapag nanghihina ako. Thank God for your wisdom Mr. & Mrs. Bonifacio. Shalom! 💖
Praise God for you both! Thank you for sharing your wisdom.
Sharing also what I've learned from our discipleship discussion with the same topic, -- "Pursue Jesus above anything else, and be with someone who will pursue Jesus alongside with you."
9:38 Proud smile
I don't skip ad's for you guys. Mhuaaa 😘
wow! i owe your marriage life miss rica lagi akong nanonoud ng vlog niyo at ang dami daming kung natutunan. God bless your whole family♥️
After almost a decade from seeing you po from a singles event, I'm more watching you talk about this online. 😊 Haha.
"Wag kayong dictionary" 😂 loved it! Palagi ko po yang tatandaan. Para di na ako masasaktan, matatawa nalang 😂❤
Oh my. This is sobering. Thanks for being God's instrument.
Thanks for sharing Ms. Rica. Tama po kayo, huwag tayo dictionary. Huwag natin bigyan agad ng kahulugan ang nakikita lang ng ating paningin.
When my ex left me days before my 40th bday, i was really broken cause I thought yun na yun..partner for life.. but during my process of moving on, I have learned to let go and let God.. tama yung it is not up to me but if its His plan if I will have a lifetime partner or remain to be single and happy. Now I am turning 42 this year still single, may pandemic pa hahaha, but kidding aside, this has been my peaceful state, no worries and i am not entertaining the life long hirit esp of relatives na kelan ka magaasawa, kelan mo bibigyan ng apo ang tatay mo and the like :-)
Hi po! I admire your courage in sharing and rhe peace that you have now. Sana ganyan din po ako in time. I just turned 30, I had only had one relationship 5 years ago which I thought will be the last, but we had to give it up kasi hindi talaga match ang values and beliefs kahit nag try. Then just recently someone pursued me, courted me, we prayed about it then after few months he gave up, not ready to commit daw and all other reasons. I've moved forward, I know God has better plans pero nasa point ako na okay naman single na talaga forever pero sana lang wala nang mga panggulo along the way haha at may assurance na okay ito na talaga 😂 kaso ang daming pressure sa paligid, daming tanong 😅
Thank you, Ms. Rica and Ptr. Joe for the message. Kailangan ko po talagang marinig to.
Turning 36 and still single.NBSB pa, marami akong tanong and nag doubt sa sarili ko.But still hoping na darating din siya.☺️
dapat kahit single ka, complete ka and happy ka. wag dapat hanapin ang kakumpletuhan sa partner.
Please make a vlog about your love story!!
Hi Ms Rica sana po mag vlog din kayo about marriage na nagkaroon ng betrayal and nag seperate din po.
Grabe sobrang solid! love the last part! hahahah "dictionary"
Nice one♥️
Best guide to singles katulad ko😁
Do not fixate on it if it’s clearly not your season. 💯
Very timely. Especially now that everything is fast paced. Lahat kayang mahanap sa internet. This is such a good reminder for Singles and even Married couples. ❤️ Thank you, Ms. Rica and Pastor Joe. God bless you.
That look of love and admiration you both have for each other. 💕 I feel it! I can see the kilig look your hubby has for you as he listens to your comments. I really enjoy these Godly, marital conversations! Thank you for sharing in this platform.🙏🏽💕
Nakaka busog ung vlog na to. I ended my relationship with the person i commented about last time on your previous vlog. And this vlog, tinuldukan and binigyan ng enlightenment ung decision ko na yun. ❤️
Thats true! When you get married you lose a lot of who you are..
Thank you for your encouragement, I need this in my season of singleness for 15 years. 😊
Praying for millions of subscribers. 💕 This channel is a blessing.
Thank you :)Yes it true talaga cause I had been single for so long and those time lagi akong sumasama sa mga Christian families and nakikinig sa mga turo nila. :) madaming wisdom ang makukuha and applying it with with my Christian boyfriend right now kahit LDR pero may trust sa isa't-isa cause we are already molded by God before we enter this kind of relationship.
Relate much po☺️ thank you po for sharing this topic .. proud NBSB 😁 nasa state po ako ngaun na inaaral ko maging kontento kahit na single pa din ako until now...I'm already 29 . Ty ate Rica and pastor for sharing that mindset should have before planning to settle with someone. I want to share to others especially girls like me🤣 the meaning of NBSB . It should be NO BOYFRIEND STILL BLESSED. Always TRUST GOD'S PLAN in your life🧡❣️ty po Godblessed your family❣️SHALOM❣️
Just listening & watching this makes me feel like na, ay ganito ung gusto kong type of marriage & partnership. Kasi God's wisdom flows eh and sobrang nakaka bless yung mga shinare ninyo. Single now after a 4yr relationship that didn't stood the test of time. Sobrang laking help in refocusing my thoughts on relationships while being single. God bless you more! ❤️
"Wag kayong dictionary." ganda nito 👌❤️
❤❤❤ You are a blessing and inspiration to all couple
Napaka ganda ng Vlog na to Ms. Rica. thank you!
Just focus on yourself and GOD. 🙏🏼🤍
I never miss any of your vlogs Rica! Loving and enjoying every episode. Stay blessed and a blessing to us!🙏🏻❤️
PANALO WAG KANG DICTIONARY !!! TOTOO TO ❤️🙏🤗
Dapat sinasabi 😁
so inspiring..will share this to my unmarried unica hija,kelly. kindly include her to your prayers. she's covid positive and she's in abroad. i pray that she survives and for complete healing. enjoy, Ms.Rica and Pastor....God bless your family.
Applying all that I learned from you guys to me and my partner for a healthier relationship. ❤️🙏
Thank you Ms Rica for the ❤️.. been watching your vlogs po. Such an inspiration. Godbless po.
"Wag kang dictionary" 🤣
Yes, po, opo! Di na mauulit 🙈 ✌
Sana dati ko pa kayo pinakinggan, nung hnd pa ako attached kay.. 😅 in the end, ang dame ko pinagdaanan, anyways, I thank both of you, what you all said is true, im learning and relearning things again, turning 35 na this year and still single. I thought i already know everything, especially when it comes to Godly lovelife, but when it comes to application in real life, i fall short over and over. So thankyou for this vlog. It really helped us those who are still single😊
At 22 there still feelings. And I know feelings come and go. As long as I know what I deserve and still know what I also lack of, I'm good. And I always pray when I'm already catching feelings huhu I always pray to God everytime there's someone coming in my life haha
Grabe… not a wasted minute. Full of wisdom. 💝💝.
UGH, the wisdom that you two have!
I look up to both of you Mr. & Mrs. Bonifacio! Continue to inspire and bless people! ❤
Thanks for sharing your input and knowledge 💗💓 May God bless your marriage and family always.
Mam and sir thank you so much po mrami po ako ntutunan sa inyo kc po hiwalay po kc ako . I admire you both
Vety helpful for us, singles! Thank you so much po!!!
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts on this topic, for breaking the usual mindsets of single people like me. And for bringing a whole new perspective. This helps a lot! ✨ The analogies to make it more simple and understandable is so good and fitting. ✨😌
WOW! My mind get wide when I heard your thoughts of being single to lovers to marriage I hope and I prayed to my partner now that we could reach our goal to have a new life to build our own Family ♥️🙏♥️. Take care and God bless your Family vacation. Keep safe 🙏🙏🙏
Ms. Rica asking for prayers to my goal Relationship 🙏❤️🙏. Thank you so much.
My takeaway was the 2 questions. What is marriage about and what kind of person do you need. I guess, if you have an answer to this before entering the marriage. You will have an everlasting sacred commitment and companion in life. Thank you po sa learnings. ✨
"Point of Focus".
This is so helpful for everyone❤️ Ofc we’re all looking forward to a successful and right marriage and this video is so full of wisdom for us to determine if the person we are pursuing or we’re with right now is really for us in the long run.
Thanks Ms. Rica and Ptr. Joseph!✨
I love your family and your vlog makes me complete especially when I'm bored 💞 God bless us all 🙏
Thanks for the insights more videos like this😆💓
Do not overthink...be happy and stay happy all the time as you walk with Christ
Praise God for your lives. Appreciate all of the great insights and how you always put truth (The Word of God) in it. God bless you Rica and Joseph!
Its been a month since my girlfriend for 3 years broke up with me. At first, I have full of questions inside my head and act like a kid. I ask God for a sign to speak with her. That sign is her favorite ice cream (last stock in the store). So I went to her house and try to fix things and came up with, we need to heal the wounds. Right after, she suggest to watch this vid. As Rica said, PAUSE! Before entering a lifetime commitment, we should find ourself first and to be happy with our own life. As marriage is not a game that can be easily finish and as mentioned, your happiness will not depend on the other person. So, I've started to step back on what are the problems. First, is my faith with God. Before, I do have God but I don't want to go to church every sunday. Why? Because of the people inside who attends every mass(I hope you all understand me. Some people that is filled with the words of God but still doing bad things). The thing here is, why am I letting them decide my own faith. As this is a personal relationship with God. Starting that day up to my last breathe, I will fill my wisdom with the words of God. Even if I can't go to church everyday, I will just pray. It is not about them, its not about her, its not about my family, its about me and my personal commitment with God! And whatever the plans of God for us/for her/for me, I will accept and respect it with my soul. The other problems are related on my personal improvements to be the best version of myself. So I don't treat this breakup as negative. But a lesson that will benefit me as a person
Please share your love story. 🥰 Always an inspiration, you two ☺️
Watched it kanina on instagram ❤
So inspiring..