Thank you, The Bonis!! Suddenly remembered a line from the song Gravity by Sara Bareilles!! "You hold me without touch, you keep me without chains" 😢 there's this gravitational pull you experience when someone gaslights you and it's a hard cycle if you don't recognize it! Thank God for the wisdom to be able to discern these things now that I'm older! 🤗
"Focus on Actions, Not words" Thank you so much for digging deepee in this topic. It's an eye opener for us who are/were stucked in this kind of relationship. Thank you for also sharing those books that will enlighten us. Ill start reading that "Necessary Endings". Godbless you more and inspire us more!
Thank you so much for this. :) Very important insight here is "Focus on Actions, Not Words". This is a very long-time issue for me now, I remained silent for a long time, and I decided to speak my truth bit by bit. People told lies about me, without actually seeing if it is true or not (evidence-based), and the liars keep telling false stories merely based on words, and people actually believed them for a long time. I decided now to speak my truth. Never trust words, but actions! Thank you so much. Truth is really the cure for gaslighting.
Deliberately blindfolded myself on this and it really took a toll to my mentality I want to move out and relocate because the saddest part its within my family.
So many things to get from this. Very insightful! Only now I realized I was gaslighted in the past 😔 Please make more content. You two are God's sent 💕
Parang lahat tayo na biktima ng gaslight. Ako during marriage ko din na feel or na experience sa asawa ko. Nung una akala ko, mali ko lahat. Pero hindi pala. Pero now, in fairness ng effort na mn si hubby na magbago. So di ko na sya na experience. Salamat Lord.
What a fruitful comversations!!! I've savoured a lot of flavor from this episode! Both of you really have that enormous knowledge and wisdom! Too much take aways and learnings. Kudos to both of you guys!!! 😍🥳
blessed Wed sis Rica & Pstr If we apply the verse 2 Cor 5:17 reminder ito na keep every words or actions we make must be allign in holiness & righteousness of GOD to avoid personally being a gas lighter Amen🙏❤️
I love this session so much. It helped me assess the situation I am currently in my work place and also what to do about it. This is helpful! Thank you.
Feeling ko pagnakita ko po kayo in person, lalapit po ako sainyo para sana magthankyou pero yung ending maiiyak 🥺😅Your videos/podcasts time and time again brought healing to me. Thank you so much 🥺😭💙
i really love to listen to ur podcast. ung train of thought. ung insight nio. even minsan magkaiba ung perspective niong dalawa and you meet halfway. ang ganda!
Wow..amazing topic really! I never thought that the word I used to brush off and ignore just because I felt it's such a boring word is actually the opposite. It's interesting to know that there is a proper name and profound explanation to something that most of us had experienced whether at home, work, school or anywhere else. Thank you guys for sharing your thoughts about gaslighting and for giving us ideas and opening our eyes about this reality. Thank you as well for including equally interesting books, films and of course, Bible verses which are all very relevant to the topic. How I wish this is the kind of conversation that most people would enggage in instead of the nonsense gossips. Thanks for another intelligent conversation, Bonis❤👍🙂🥰
i really enjoy watching your vlogs. i find hope and wisdom from you especially right now that i am going through family issues. i hope i can share my problem po sa inyo and get some advise dahil punong puno po kayo ng wisdom. feeling ko makakatulong po tlaga ang magiging advise ninyo. 😇🙏
Woaahhhhh! I also have a lot of memories that came back from every point and duration of the podcast. Hehehe more to this ate Rica! Yeahhh, gaslighting has something to do with any form of manipulation. Cant believe I am easily get drag by the people we trusted our lives and the worst thing is you learned from them to gaslight innosent people. I am deeply rebuke by this. Thank you pows!
In my case, my ex-husband was always gaslighting me for the longest time whenever I confronted him about his cheating. I started to think maybe he was right that it was just my imagination, but my mind was telling me otherwise. I stood my ground. In the end, I was right the whole time because he finally admitted it after so many years. Trust was definitely broken.
Thank you joe & carla for talking about this sensitive topic. Enlightening those who are in this kind of situation or those being treated this way.. never doubt yourself if you feel being “Gaslighted” you can get out of that relationship, YOU definitely deserve better than that and above all trust God bec. He will help you get through that tough situation. 💕
I was able to watch the Woman in the train. I am very forgetful, but this movie i can barely forget due to the very realistic portrayal of Emily Blunt. So i just understood what gaslighting mean even if i just heard it from this informative video today. Thank you Mr. and Mrs. Boni 😍
Wow!!! Thank you so much. It was full on. I learned a lot from this podcast. Until next time. Looking forward to your next sharing of knowledge. God bless you both. 🙏❤️
I'm not sure if I made the right decision to listen to the podcast today while working in the office while having sciatica flare up. For a time, I didn't mind the pain of sciatica because I am doing flashback of my relationships - parentals, friends, Boss, and even colleagues, while listening to you guys. Hay, hay na lang talaga. Why is it hard for authority figure to say sorry? Or for being mindful of their effect towards other people? I am also guilty of gaslighting and though I'm far from perfect example of human being, na-bobothered ako. Bakit marami ang hindi? Sana may pill na pwede ipa-inom sa tao to let them know what they are doing. 🥺. I love this episode, as usual, but I also feel bad. Reality is so sad.
Rica, “It’s because I didn’t understand what you were talking about.” Husband, “You did understand.” Husband gaslighting because Rica already said she didn’t understand, and husband is assuming she understood. Rica, “Akala mo lagi kang tama.” Husband, “Sino ba ang nag sabi hindi ako laging tama?” Rica gaslighting because he already said that he’s not always right. 😂❤
I hope you can allow me to share my story.. grabe maiiyak kayo sa dinadanas ko, baka sabihin nyo ang tibay ko... Gas light is real.. mauupos ka ng literal
Love your topics as always. Just wanted to ask miss rica where she got her maong shorts? Hehe! Not part of the topic pero ang ganda kahit nakaupo lang cya.
I got gaslighted by my wife’s family as a Canadian married to a Filipina , after helping many family members come to Canada I got sick heart issues, Two sisters that came here made me feel useless, Also I observed one of them physically abuse their two grandchildren , When I tried to talk about I got attacked by the whole family , They May have handled the grandmother in their own way but I got treated more server.y , trying to convince me what I saw was not so bad ,
Is it just me or parang all these new terms like “gaslighting” feel so complex and over analytical of our feelings…while I appreciate that we can now identify this and really explore what it is..I’m not sure how I feel about it 😕
Mahina po ata ang mic ni ptr Joe? Or mas malakas lang talaga boses ni mama Rica? Napansin ko rin to sa ibang podcast haha ngayon ko lang naalala icomment 🫶
Thank you, The Bonis!! Suddenly remembered a line from the song Gravity by Sara Bareilles!!
"You hold me without touch, you keep me without chains" 😢 there's this gravitational pull you experience when someone gaslights you and it's a hard cycle if you don't recognize it! Thank God for the wisdom to be able to discern these things now that I'm older! 🤗
"Focus on Actions, Not words"
Thank you so much for digging deepee in this topic. It's an eye opener for us who are/were stucked in this kind of relationship.
Thank you for also sharing those books that will enlighten us. Ill start reading that "Necessary Endings".
Godbless you more and inspire us more!
Thank you so much for this. :) Very important insight here is "Focus on Actions, Not Words". This is a very long-time issue for me now, I remained silent for a long time, and I decided to speak my truth bit by bit. People told lies about me, without actually seeing if it is true or not (evidence-based), and the liars keep telling false stories merely based on words, and people actually believed them for a long time. I decided now to speak my truth. Never trust words, but actions! Thank you so much. Truth is really the cure for gaslighting.
i developed allergies and extreme anxiety because of this, thank you God for the faith and thank you God for your life, the Bonifacios ❤
Deliberately blindfolded myself on this and it really took a toll to my mentality I want to move out and relocate because the saddest part its within my family.
So many things to get from this. Very insightful! Only now I realized I was gaslighted in the past 😔 Please make more content. You two are God's sent 💕
Same here. Now i will be more wary and not too trusting of others.
Parang lahat tayo na biktima ng gaslight. Ako during marriage ko din na feel or na experience sa asawa ko. Nung una akala ko, mali ko lahat. Pero hindi pala. Pero now, in fairness ng effort na mn si hubby na magbago. So di ko na sya na experience. Salamat Lord.
Baka ikaw ang nang gaslight sa husband mo
What a fruitful comversations!!! I've savoured a lot of flavor from this episode! Both of you really have that enormous knowledge and wisdom! Too much take aways and learnings. Kudos to both of you guys!!! 😍🥳
blessed Wed sis Rica & Pstr If we apply the verse 2 Cor 5:17 reminder ito na keep every words or actions we make must be allign in holiness & righteousness of GOD to avoid personally being a gas lighter Amen🙏❤️
Sana ma topic nyo po ang Psycopath,Sociopath,Narcissism or Npd and Dark empath......kasi para po maging aware ang krmihan at ma educate.....
I love this session so much. It helped me assess the situation I am currently in my work place and also what to do about it. This is helpful! Thank you.
Ito yung topic na di masyadong mapag uusapan.. napaka ganda at importanteng topic. Thank you!
Feeling ko pagnakita ko po kayo in person, lalapit po ako sainyo para sana magthankyou pero yung ending maiiyak 🥺😅Your videos/podcasts time and time again brought healing to me. Thank you so much 🥺😭💙
This is so helpful! Thanks again sa inyong dalawa Ms. Rica and Pastor Joe!
Kaya kong makinig sainyo maghapon! Grabe learnings! Thankyouuuu✨✨
i really love to listen to ur podcast. ung train of thought. ung insight nio. even minsan magkaiba ung perspective niong dalawa and you meet halfway. ang ganda!
Wow..amazing topic really! I never thought that the word I used to brush off and ignore just because I felt it's such a boring word is actually the opposite. It's interesting to know that there is a proper name and profound explanation to something that most of us had experienced whether at home, work, school or anywhere else. Thank you guys for sharing your thoughts about gaslighting and for giving us ideas and opening our eyes about this reality. Thank you as well for including equally interesting books, films and of course, Bible verses which are all very relevant to the topic.
How I wish this is the kind of conversation that most people would enggage in instead of the nonsense gossips. Thanks for another intelligent conversation, Bonis❤👍🙂🥰
Ms Rica is very articulate, brainy woman talaga. Thanks for this vlog, so helpful. 💕
This is so nice. I feel guilty with my mother. Sorry MAMA. I LOVE YOU.
i really enjoy watching your vlogs. i find hope and wisdom from you especially right now that i am going through family issues. i hope i can share my problem po sa inyo and get some advise dahil punong puno po kayo ng wisdom. feeling ko makakatulong po tlaga ang magiging advise ninyo. 😇🙏
❤️❤️ grabi napakaganda usapan🙏❤️ I can listen to this conversations araw araw salamat
Same here Ms Reka. It was when Taylor Swift released her new song All Too Well. Yun! Dahil sa song na yun, nalaman ko what gas lighting is.
Woaahhhhh! I also have a lot of memories that came back from every point and duration of the podcast. Hehehe more to this ate Rica! Yeahhh, gaslighting has something to do with any form of manipulation. Cant believe I am easily get drag by the people we trusted our lives and the worst thing is you learned from them to gaslight innosent people. I am deeply rebuke by this. Thank you pows!
Thank you so much for this the Bonis Fam!! Understood every point well! Had a lot of things to reflect now haha. ✨☺️
Now I learned something today in the deeper sense of the word.
In my case, my ex-husband was always gaslighting me for the longest time whenever I confronted him about his cheating. I started to think maybe he was right that it was just my imagination, but my mind was telling me otherwise. I stood my ground. In the end, I was right the whole time because he finally admitted it after so many years. Trust was definitely broken.
Thank you joe & carla for talking about this sensitive topic. Enlightening those who are in this kind of situation or those being treated this way.. never doubt yourself if you feel being “Gaslighted” you can get out of that relationship, YOU definitely deserve better than that and above all trust God bec. He will help you get through that tough situation. 💕
I was able to watch the Woman in the train. I am very forgetful, but this movie i can barely forget due to the very realistic portrayal of Emily Blunt. So i just understood what gaslighting mean even if i just heard it from this informative video today. Thank you Mr. and Mrs. Boni 😍
I really love this session. I have learned so much po sa inyo. I hope macontinue niyo po ito. Support ko po kayo. Salamat po. God bless you.
siguro panunuorin ko pa ito ulit slmt po
this Topic corelates to NARCISM, would love to see next episode you guys talk about it. nice one guys.
Love love the wisdom you both impart to us.1
more of this podcast please 🙏
Wow. Nice discussion very couch friendly. Parenting from different generations.
Wow!!! Thank you so much. It was full on. I learned a lot from this podcast. Until next time. Looking forward to your next sharing of knowledge. God bless you both. 🙏❤️
Been watching this video many times and learning so much of it. Thank you both
I'm not sure if I made the right decision to listen to the podcast today while working in the office while having sciatica flare up. For a time, I didn't mind the pain of sciatica because I am doing flashback of my relationships - parentals, friends, Boss, and even colleagues, while listening to you guys. Hay, hay na lang talaga. Why is it hard for authority figure to say sorry? Or for being mindful of their effect towards other people? I am also guilty of gaslighting and though I'm far from perfect example of human being, na-bobothered ako. Bakit marami ang hindi? Sana may pill na pwede ipa-inom sa tao to let them know what they are doing. 🥺. I love this episode, as usual, but I also feel bad. Reality is so sad.
Love your sensibilities, as always!
Grabe to. More contents like this please.
Need a day to do some assessments hehe
couple goals. they talk about ideas.
Two spontaneous people 💯
Godbless this power couple! 😍
I want more like this. So informative and very interesting!
Rica, “It’s because I didn’t understand what you were talking about.” Husband, “You did understand.” Husband gaslighting because Rica already said she didn’t understand, and husband is assuming she understood.
Rica, “Akala mo lagi kang tama.” Husband, “Sino ba ang nag sabi hindi ako laging tama?” Rica gaslighting because he already said that he’s not always right. 😂❤
I hope you can allow me to share my story.. grabe maiiyak kayo sa dinadanas ko, baka sabihin nyo ang tibay ko... Gas light is real.. mauupos ka ng literal
More of this, please!!❤🙏🏻
I NEEDED THIS. OMG.
This is my April 2021-2022. My father did it to me. Even my own brother did it to me.
Wow! Thank you. This is an eye-opener. 💖
I missed this!!!
lodi shararawt ja jaja 🤣🎉🎉 more power and godbless us all 🙏🙏🇵🇭🇵🇭
Love this content. I learned a lot, thank you bonis fam!
Thanks po for this vlog, I learned a lot ❤️❤️❤️
Love your topics as always. Just wanted to ask miss rica where she got her maong shorts? Hehe! Not part of the topic pero ang ganda kahit nakaupo lang cya.
😂 uniqlo
Part 2, pls.
I got gaslighted by my wife’s family as a Canadian married to a Filipina , after helping many family members come to Canada I got sick heart issues, Two sisters that came here made me feel useless, Also I observed one of them physically abuse their two grandchildren , When I tried to talk about I got attacked by the whole family , They May have handled the grandmother in their own way but I got treated more server.y , trying to convince me what I saw was not so bad ,
"Gain some distance." This.
books and movie recommendations on this topic please....
gaslighting, love bombing are all tactics of a narcissist. It's a lost cause to fight with them
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do you have a podcast on Spotify?
Lit content
Gaslighting is what a narcissist specialist...
Next topic : Narcissist
Is it just me or parang all these new terms like “gaslighting” feel so complex and over analytical of our feelings…while I appreciate that we can now identify this and really explore what it is..I’m not sure how I feel about it 😕
yesssssirrrr🎉🎉🎉
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Mahina po ata ang mic ni ptr Joe? Or mas malakas lang talaga boses ni mama Rica? Napansin ko rin to sa ibang podcast haha ngayon ko lang naalala icomment 🫶
Hmmm pwede yan ilevel eh sige
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samedt po hahahaha. lab it
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Pls interview me!!!!! Grabe dinadanas ko yan sa mga kapatid ko!!! They are all narcissist
Mga babae ba kapatid mo?
This is me right now, all that matter to me one by one. please hug me😢
Mag bold ka na lang ulit taena
How to broaden your network po specially for introverts? As in, ano po steps? 🥲 This episode is so enlightening! Now on part 2 of the podcast.
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