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๐ซ๐ข๐ญ๐ณ shares the unique pitfalls and pleasures of age-gap Relationships.
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๐ ๐ซ๐ข๐ญ๐ณ shares the unique pitfalls and pleasures of age-gap Relationships.
www.youtube.com/@GayOlder
Fritz, thanks for your honesty, authenticity, and willingness to share your story. So glad you were able to rise above your chaotic childhood. Bill is lucky to have you as a husband. ๐
great story congratulations.
Iโm 80 and I still have hope. Your story is very encouraging.
Hi Iโm an older man as well and still would like to have male sex
There is always hope! My partner is 98, and still has sex every day... ๐
im 60 and married a man last year 27 yrs my junior we are very happy you guys make a cute couple
I was 22 years when I meet my husband that was 48 at the time. We have been married for 31 years now. Life is sweet. Greetings from Sweden.
My husband is 18 yrs older and we've been together 42 yrs. Congratulations. Greetings from Detroit.
When I met the young guy who would become my second partner, I also carded him. He was 21, but looked 15... I was 41 then. He pursued me relentlessly. We were together for nearly 7 years. We broke up when he wanted to move to Canada, and I didn't. He moved to Canada in 2004... I've been single ever since. I've tried to date men close to my age, but we never clicked...younger men always pursued me, but I was hoping to find someone closer to my age who would hopefully want a lifelong relationship....alas, it hasn't happened. Now, at 67, I'm content with being single..
Fritz you were so adorable.
Your video title immediately snagged my attention. At about age 10, I realized how much men over 35 appealed to me, even though my thoughts weren't yet sexual. My father employed a lot of blue collar men and he let me help out in the summer. The guys there that appealed to me the most were the hairy, stocky, solid-looking, calm ones. Nothing even remotely sexual ever happened, but a couple of the men did return my gaze at some point and their eyes basically said, "I see who you are and what you like, but neither of us can act on it. We'll just have to leave it at that, but I like having you around." Ours was a small town, so I knew when to keep my mouth shut. But just being around them was enough for me at that age. My father was a highly successful, yet cold, domineering, emotionally distant character, so being around these other older men made me realize just how accepting and emotionally intelligent some men can be.
Did he ever realize how you felt about men (in general) at some point later on?
@@lgbtqarchives I always suspected that my father knew who I was, but I didn't out myself to anyone in my family until I was fully financially independent (about 30). I never expected any acceptance from them and I never got it. They are all highly conservative Southern evangelicals, and I knew they would not change, so I felt no sadness or disappointment. It was my father's employees who gave me the wisdom and confidence to find my own happiness.
@@josephjanitorius797 Your story reminded me of Jallen Rix's interview (minus the attraction to a specific age group idea). He did come out to his very religious household. Glad things worked out for you the way they did. ua-cam.com/video/MfDrvYnZnkE/v-deo.html
@@lgbtqarchives Thanks for the kind words, and I congratulate you on your own happiness!
Thank you for sharing this story. I can relate to it. From an early age, I knew I was attracted to grown men. By age 10, I fantasized about finding an older man for romantic and sexual companionship. Thankfully, it never happened. But it was such a miserable and lonely experience, growing up with these feelings. I couldn't realize at the time that I was really seeking the validation of an older man, a mentor who could truly know me and tell me I was okay. At age 18, I began having sexual relationships with men of all ages, including men in their 50's-60's. Older men attracted me in every way, and they still do.
as if lightly talking about his personal biography, he speaks tonns of wisdom and reveals deep self knowledge (no doubt acquired with more difficulty than he is able to make it sound), as I see it. What a cool guy. Thank you so very much for sharing like everthing about you. My story is very different, but i always aimed to understand my conditions of being as much, as you seem to have managed to do. Thanks again. More generally speaking, this video shows me, how far we have come to have a language to describe and an understanding of how to grow into our gay lives with its many forms and variations, while neither gravitating arround/gainst social systems of our families of origin, nor arround stereotyped tribes of fetishes of commercialized gay culture (which still I welcome as a safe place for experimentation). Life of every human being is unique, as i see it, and we can learn from others and/or invent from scratch what becomes the discovery of what our uniqueness is, guided by happiness and sense of fullfillment as paramter of authenticity.
When I was young, my dad had this friend called Andrew, and he was a carpenter.
Andrew was very tall, covered in hairs and thick muscled. As a child, I remember peeping at him through the curtains, as my heart would beat so fast just looking at him. I ALWAYS looked forward to seeing him.
Also, my dad was an alpha male and a captain in the military. He was strong, very fit, and well disciplined. I was really scared of him growing up, and we didn't have a great relationship.
Now, as an adult, I am very much attracted to older men like my dad and Andrew. And if they are not older, I like them tall, thick, and strong.
Maybe I'm single cos they're all taken .๐
Did your dad ever discover the truth?
@lgbtqarchives
Yes. He always knew about me because i was quite feminine as a child as well as very soft and affectionate. And it angered him that i wasn't as aggressive and tough as he was (funny enough, my sisters took after him).
I was born and raised in Africa (Nigeria), and though my dad lived in America as a bachelor, he was still your typical African father.
Thankfully, in my early 20s, before he passed, he came around and gave his approval in his own way.
@@johnchukwu2697 I understand. Thatโs a pretty tough combination. Glad you survived it all. Much love โค๏ธ
@lgbtqarchives it's okay. Absolutely, everything has led me to be the man I am today. Also, I am now in the UK, so, life is better.
@@johnchukwu2697hi you sound interesting how are you doing now Iโm an older man
We have a 38 year age gap and we've been together for over 10 years! We were so lucky to meet each other and for the first year we were able to keep up a long distance relationship. Age gap relationships are not for everyone, but it sure works for us.
Oh yeah, my freshman university biology professor was the man who was my "oh shit so THIS is what I'm into" epiphany. A decade later ended up marrying a man 19 years older than me who looked a little like that professor. Those impressions are strong enough to feel like an orientation to me. Thanks for sharing!
That professortaught you that unintended lesson that was probably more important than the main subjectโฆ. and he didnโt even know it ๐
What a wonderful story with Kindness and love
Fritz, your emotional intelligence if off the charts, probably (definitely) not because of your birth family background but because you've been open to non-traditional relationships and you were flexible about how they developed. And, you must have made mostly good choices and accepted a certain amount of cosmic fate. And lastly you tell your story with modesty and gratitude.
Thank you ๐ Iโm humbled. Glad it was received well. Thank you for your nice comment ๐ฅ
Great story, congratulations.
I met my husband when I was 22
He's 61 and I'm 30
Thank you for sharing your story.
I am 38 years older than my husband. We have been together for 8 years; we married last year. He is finishing med school next year, so we will have to move to his residency location, wherever that turns out to be after the "match" process. It was kind of "love at first sight" for both of us. I understand your relationship, probably better than most people could. When it works, it works. Best wishes for you both.
Appreciate your candor and courage to share. So glad you two found each other.
I'm so sorry. Such a "no win" situation you were in. I'm glad you found happiness.
Downright fascinating Fritz on a Taboo topic for some. Brilliantly told, Thank you for your bravery in telling and "Peace enjoyment love and pleasure ," to you both.
Very good advice with a heart-warming ending. My best to both of you.
You are so refreshing to listen to โฆ I admire your honesty. I had many older guys who helped me โฆ and befriended me โฆ along my journey of discovery. I loved their maturity and their knowledge โฆ which I found intoxicating and wonderfully attractive. I had only positive experiences. Good luck to you and your husband my friend.
I am 71 years old, men a guy that I flirted with. He is a nice attractive guy, he flirted back after several weeks he and I started to meet and talk and take walks. It was fun and he talked about how he was attracted to younger men. I moved and he wanted to keep in touch. I felt I was loosing him. So I asked him to be my boyfriend. And we ate together on his days off, sex is good and he and I take care and support each other. He is 42, the sMe age as my kids. But we see that not a problem. We make eachother happy, and supportive and we make a connection over or past a generation gap. Iโm not your average 72 year old,
Donโt know what the future holds but as things are going along smoothly. We are going forward.
Such a rollicking, sexy tale - thank you! I always liked older men too, but when I met my life partner - who looked older - it turned out he was a month younger than me!!
That worked out pretty well. โค๏ธ
I guess
88th Nice video - ahh the stories I could tell you ......as a gay man who came out in 81 at 21..... being Gay was never easy .... Married gay man now... together 23yrs
What a nice love story. Thank you for sharing.
I'm just being honest; the age span thing is not for me - I want someone very close to my own age. If it works for others, I think that is wonderful - love is love - wherever you find it. That said, I did find this individual to be very articulate and intelligent and throughly enjoyed his monologue. Love his husband's sweet smile - so enduring. I wish them every happiness that life may offer...
Interesting story, good for you, best of luck.
Fascinating story. Thanks,
I always admire older men very similar. I always thought something was wrong with me, thanks, im not alone at last,โคโคโคโคโคโค
Another engaging episode. Thank you. โค
Great story - thanks for sharing. Funny you mentioned the one story about the dude w/ beautiful hands because seconds before you talk about that I couldn't notice how nice yours are LOL. No, I don't have a hand fetish - just sayin'. I didn't seek a older/younger relationship but it just happened. We were 25 & 46 when we met and things just clicked. Thirty-three yrs together
Lovely narrative and scintillating. Good fortune to you as you move through your future life!
Very hot with facial hair and SHORT hair. Handsome ginger guy!
Thanks for sharing your story! Great job .
Much the same story here as yours in the vid, although you were much more accomplished as a young man than I was...i didn't really turn that corner until my 30's...way too much emotional baggage from childhood I had to get over. Anyway, now that I'm in my mid 60's, I've turned another corner where I'm now interested in younger men, maybe 20's, where I can be the older role model. Sex too of course. Not In a manipulative way...more just excited to see a young man on his way up and help in any way as well as having some romance. Also, there's something about intergenerational sex that is so hot...i loved it as a young man and I love it now from the other side.
Lastly, it is true what you say about red hair...i hated it as a kid, with my pearly white skin that always burned in the sun,, but once i discovered how fetishized it was, I made very good use of it! Lot of gray in the drapes and carpet now tho lol
Thanks for your story. Itโs nice to hear this. I met my spouse when I was 21. He was 36. Iโm 55 now and we are still together. It hasnโt been easy but it has been worth it. He is having serious health issues and that has been hard and I know that time is limited so I draw closer and closer to him and savor these days. Life is short.
So sorry to hear about your partner. Much love โค๏ธ
@@lgbtqarchives thank you. Each day is a blessing. โค๏ธ
Fritz, that was one wonderful video presentation. I lapped up every word of your story and was encouraged in ways that are difficult to describe. Like you, I was brought up in a chaotic household with catholic overtones and no role models whatasoever. Back in 1973 at 18, I was out of there never to look back. My family memories are far from pleasant which also goes for my two other gay brothers (three gay boys, no girls). Today I find myself in a single situation after ending a 19-year relationship that was not ideal -- no really good sexual intimacy. Fortunately, we are very dear friends today. Today at age 69, I'm wondering what life holds for me in the way of a loving relationship. I'm feeling lonely and put out to pasture.
Steve, if you ever travel to Los Angeles, I would love to document your story and share it with the community.
@@lgbtqarchives As it would turn out, I have lived in Los Angeles since 1985. Your offer to perhaps document my story is something that might be beneficial to my development as a mature gay man. What would be the best way for you to contact me? I don't want to post my email address or phone number here but would like to discuss your offer.
@@SWExplore This is wonderful! Yes, your story will help many others and also it's another missing segment of our history. I will send you an e-mail. Thanks a lot!
@@lgbtqarchivesExcellent, I look forward to hearing from you very much.
@@SWExplore Email sent. โค๏ธ
Glad it worked out in the end for you buddy!
I'm here because I'm about to enter one. I'm 39 and he's 22.
Congratulations! This reminds me of Buck and Chris. They're 16 or 17 years apart ,though they entered the relationship at an older age: ua-cam.com/video/1e35OGSIZec/v-deo.html
Thank you for an interesting story and journey. My case was kind of the opposite, as I came out to my daughters, they asked me to never date a young man, their age. I promise that I won't, but failed horribly, as I felt for a 20 years younger than me. The problem was that I felt for this man, but he didn't, leaving me with a heart broken. Years later I learned to appreciate that this happened as he was not, absolutely not a good fit for me. Today we are friends, but that it is all. Eventually I married a guy 2 years younger than me, and we have been together for 9 years. Thank you for sharing....
Congratulations on your relationship and marriage
Wow! I absolutely loved listening to your story!!! I was so attracted to my friends Dad down the street from us!!! I loved watching him mowing their lawn in his tight jeans & boots & bare chested!!!! Friggin hot!!!! Iโm happy for you that you are happy!!! Would love chatting further with you!!!
Dude You Sound So HOT
I've always been attracted to older men too. My husband is 18 yrs older than me and we've been together almost 42 yrs. People tell me he's a father figure because my father was out of the picture. I'm like ok.
I could see how that could possibly make you feel uncomfortable though. I mean the fact that some people want to call your husband your father figure. Something about that... . I don't know, maybe it's not so bad. Just a personal thing I guess.
Thanks for sharingโค๏ธ
Every man I ever dated or had sex with was at least 5 years my senior. I always had older friends and got along well with elders and the little old ladies next door. In college, I discovered the burgeoning bear movement. Bears and the daddy archetype both appealed to me strongly, but all my friends at the time would recoil in disgust if I pointed out a handsome man,saying โEww, heโs so OLD, so FAT, so HAIRY.โ So I learned to keep my thoughts to myself, essentially entering a new closet right after coming out of the main one. Isnโt that crazy? But 30 years later, at 51, I donโt care what people think. I remain drawn to salt and pepper beards, and all my friends are older than I am. I may be the youngest of them but i feel contemporary and comfortable with them. Iโm starting to notice younger men, thoughโฆ so maybe the tide is turning, but Iโm still a daddyโs boy at heart.
I was born in 1961 and went into foster care at age 2 never to be adopted, I'm 63 now. I've always been attracted to older submissive men since age.... about 11 or 13. I had sex with an older boy if you count being molested at age 6, he was 14. In any case, I never had sex with anyone under 60s. I never had any issues with it and my very good friends knew I was gay and were groovy with it. My first sex date was with an Episcopalian priest he was in his late 50s or early 60s. We didn't date, so on to other men, lol. Today my partner of 31 years is 83 and, again, I'm 63. GREAT life, it's been an open relationship for those 31 years. All is good, once I hit 60s I am happier and enjoy men my age now and much older, wink.
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Christopher Isherwood, 48 and Don Bacardi, 18. together 30 years until Isherwood's death.
I'll check his channel out!
It's 16 in most other western type countries like in Australasia.
That was an interesting video focusing on the relationship with older man. I am kinda one of the kind though. When I was a kid I didn't have any time to have even a chat with my father. My father has been always away from me I don't know why. When I was an elementary student I had a crush on the teacher in class at the school. Ever since back then. Now I am 57 years old and am old now but guy with silver hair most likely turns me on that way. It's one of my secret fetish. I am single already and funny thing is that some people meet at a gay bar say it to me like you seem to be married. And some random people talk I hear like sombody is just right in front of me. Isn' t that funny ? The point they are trying to make is that somebody you really like my fantasy man is next to you and he is older man. Is it pleasure good enough ? I think I'm paid for that.
Ok but the king and queen on the chessboard behind him are swapped around! Please fix it!!!
The Queenโs Gambit is amongst us. :)
I would never even look at a teenager.... I'm not going to jail for nobody .
How about an older man
Chris & Don: A Love Story, about the 30-year relationship between the author Christopher Isherwood (Cabaret) 48, and Don Bacardy, 18.
Yes, Isherwood and Bacardy had a relationship that no one else approved of (especially because when it started Bacardy was 18 but could pass for 15!). They stayed together through Isherwood's death and Bacardy continued to live in the same Santa Monica canyon house and developed into a very successful portrait painter. In short, their relationship benefitted both of them tremendously.
โ@@robbriner9575 Isherwood's notoriety enabled Bacardy to meet the stars in his orbit like Tenessee Williams, E.M.Forster, Igor Stravinsky, Capote, et al. Bacardy had issues negotiating a different plane of consciousness and existence, but learned from it, and eventually found his mรฉtier as an artist. His pencil drawings are amazing!
@@hori166 Like all GREAT couples in history, Isherwood and Bacardy contributed to each other and doubled the value of their separate experiences. (And, like all great couples, they disregarded doubts and disapproval of others, gay and straight, about their age difference).
Thanks for the video, I would never go for an old man.
Maybe you will when you become an old man? ๐
@@lgbtqarchives I have already closed up shop if you know what I mean. ๐๐
@@JimmiAlli oh now I get it . ๐
It wreaks because the expense to earnings with the insane requirement to overwork?
By the time l was in my thirties l'd concluded guys in their twenties were of no interest to me - same for too much older. With few exceptions I am most comfortable with people when we've shared similar life experiences. My late partner, my two closest friends and l are close to the same age. Maybe because l grew up without siblings l like having brothers and sisters!
That would be the majority of people and then you have those with less common preferences. This is definitely one of those situations.
Oh so that older guy was a creep- after too young.
Apparently that was his thing. Even a 20 year old aged out for him, but that's a different conversation. Fritz is trying to make a point here. For the most part, discussions about age-gap relationships focus on the younger individuals trying to take advantage of the older ones in the relationship. However, it could just as easily be the other way around.
He could have ruined Sam for the rest of his life, and still couldโฆ.
That was part of the story and one of the reasons why he wanted to talk about that.
There is no longer any threat to Sam.
I wouldnโt publish if I thought there was.
โWisconsin, like most states, has different limits depending on the type of crime involved. For example, misdemeanor charges have a three-year time limit for filing, while most felony charges have a six-year statute of limitations. There is no statutory limit on murder charges.โ