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- Опубліковано 11 гру 2023
- Dr. 𝐉𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐞𝐧 𝐑𝐢𝐱, talks about the historical and social experiences of gay men and women, particularly those who have navigated heterosexual relationships due to societal pressures.
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Dr. 𝐉𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐞𝐧 𝐑𝐢𝐱, talks about the historical and social experiences of gay men and women, particularly those who have navigated heterosexual relationships due to societal pressures.
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Married to my accepting wife for 51 years and cared for her with MS for 26 years before she passed. She wasn't able to ambulate the last 15 years. As she approached the end of her life, I thanked her accepting me as her gay husband and she said "Of course, that was easy. Why wouldn't I?" I was a Baptist Pastor and was told I am not welcome to even attend church because I am gay, but I have not been intimate with anyone for at least 25 years. I am now free to be who I am but checking out guys is limited to "checking out the scenery", especially in speedos at the beach. Too old now. I have two accepting adult kids and 4 grandsons.
I fully agree with what he's saying here. I'm a 61-year-old gay man who has never been married, but I've seen dozen's of men and women in the exact predicament Jallen speaks of here. The situation is painful and many of them simply stay in the marriage to keep up appearances. Unfortunately, many of them also go outside their marriages to satisfy their same sex desire. It's a very complicated situation, but it happens.
No truer words spoken! Having compassion for others is a muscle I continue to grow on the daily. Amazing new video, thank you!
This made me cry because everything he said was spot on true. If we were all more honest and accepting we ALL would be a lot more happy.
And in turn EVERYONE would benefit from it.
I fully agree with your standpoint. I am a gay man born in the early 60s and had similar feelings but I NEVER married. A day longer being someone else rather than being ourselves is a day too long, but it's a much more nuanced that your view. You are focusing on the gay person, but what about the wife of 30-40 years? Her life is going to be overturned through no cause of her own, who suddenly at 50 or 60 needs to start over, way beyond their prime. Sure, encourage gay men to start being authentic, but also see to the psychological issues the spurned wife faces.
I understand this perspective but it doesn’t fall within the scope of this video nor the work he does. Let gay men start over and fix their lives. The wives will need to do therapy, just like gay men.
@@ChomboMambo I agree. We need to start our lives; everyone does. The danger in saying, "Go ahead! Start your life!", makes it sound too easy, too one-sided. We never asked to be gay, I get it. But these women were duped by us and lived a lie as much as we did, except that their lie was our fault. "Get therapy, just like I have to!", is an aweful thing to say. So, all I'm saying is that a little consideration in their direction is needed.
If one loves his wife very much while he is interested in men, then just let that continue. What’s wrong with that? Don’t think breaking up a loving husband & wife relationship just to pursue a gay life will necessarily make one happier. In fact it will break everyone’s heart. If he can continue to manage, then don’t change it. There are many ways to manage this especially as everyone’s situation is different.
Oh so true, sadly!
True for me also - I lived the straight life until I hit my early 40's, and didn't come out (the closet) until my late 50's ffs!
I've recently spent time writing my coming out story, which was very cathartic for me.
I'm sorry it took you so long but be proud that you came out at all, some people never get the self realization and strength necessary to do it. Is there anywhere we can read your story?
@@TezQuetzThanks for the message. I'm very glad I made it out.
My story is personal of course, but who is asking to read it?
@@DavidHarbottle oh I'm sorry, I didn't mean to intrude. I thought you were literally writing a story of your coming out, like a blog or a book!
Came out of a conservative religious environment. It was very very hard because if you allow yourself to question one thing, then you have to question all, and that is just a bridge too far for most. It means giving up everything you ever knew, with the end result of losing your relationship with god - that’s what we’re told. You cannot overestimate the animosity most religions have towards homosexuals…and if you’re raised in that, it means losing everything
Soooo true. My first husband was from a small town in Oklahoma, born in the 40s. Married 3 times and had 4 children before accepting himself
Wow! That man was carrying massive baggage! People and especially the younger generation -in the West- think this concept is NOT real!!! Still very true in many countries.
I had gay friends my entire adult life. Really longer than that since some of them were childhood friends. And I accepted them but couldn't accept it as me until my 50s and that was without a wife and kids. It happens.
This was me !
And you were not alone. That's what society wanted, and for the most part, their wish came true. Getting married is a must in Catholic Latino families. The only reason I was able to withstand the pressure was due to my financial independence. That truly saved me.
I'm gay but I thought it was sin until I met a gay friend who took me to a gay bar and espoused me, I'm 49 single from Alaska
Peace love pride 🏳️🌈❤️🏳️🌈❤️🏳️🌈❤️🏳️🌈
I watched the movie’ my Policeman’ and it totally depicts what you are explaining.
Just looked it up. Sounds so interesting! Thanks for sharing! It kind of reminded me of the movie ‘Beginners’ by Christopher Plummer.
I agreed with the fact he said. There are many heterosexual people and less homosexual people. Who is right and who is doing bad things ? I can't find the answer. Someone tell me if you can.
Born in 1947, raised in an Evangelical environment, I held out and pretended until I was 25. A gay friend had told me that if I ever wanted to check out the experience, I just had to let him know. I did. HALLELUJAH! Out and proud since then.
Even in my younger years, though I did have brief relationships with 3 women, and had 'pleasant' sexual experiences with them, I knew that I just. couldn't. do the hetero lifestyle thing. I couldn't see "inflicting" myself on a woman, and later, a family. Either I would be miserable, and suppress my authentic self, or she would be miserable, knowing her expectations wouldn't materialize. I knew I would have to act on my true attractions sooner or later.
Really enjoyable thoughts and insights - but are you ever going to play that piano? 😂
Ha ha ha , I play it all the time. All piano music 🎵 of these videos gets recorded here. ❤️
@@lgbtqarchives wow sweet 👍🏼nice man, nice 😉
I think I have more but here are the most recent one:
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It does not seem crazy at all Repression is a powerful defense--for a while. 🙂
Muy cierto su análisis. Que guapo es. Handsome man. 😊
We are not here to judge each other , that it our Creator's job.
The Lord says clearly in the book of Corinthians that homosexuals will not enter the gate of Heaven.
@@brendatrump5163 This is NOT a Bible Study class! What is the question that you're trying to answer?
I love the way you yelled at me, lol. @@lgbtqarchives
@@brendatrump5163 it’s mind boggling that you can’t understand this channel is about ‘homosexuality’. Why are you posting homophobic religious content around here?
Maybe I'm trying to save your souls
Why is sex so important to people that they would be willing to give up their eternity with our Creator? I could and will go for the rest or my life without sex.
I don't do casual relationships; I'm in it to win it if I'm going to go as far to give my body to another person.
Brenda, this is not a religious page. We don’t believe in that kind of stuff. Every video on this channel IS about homosexuality and their experiences.
You are eligible and go straight to heaven
It's a problem if the man has always harbored secret contempt for women and all along knew he was duping and using his "wife" and feels entitled to cause his wife's death by "doing whatever it takes" to get rid of her.
Wouldn't that be considered murder regardless of how, why or who committed the act? I mean how would the outcome be different if this was a gay or straight or bi relationship? How would it be different if two very hetero partners had jealousy issues and this happened? What if the woman did it. It happens all the time!
@@lgbtqarchives Your response is reasonable and understandable. However, there appears to have been corrupt collusion by a stunning number of people, (including shockingly misogynist judges, lawyers, stables of counselors employed by government entities, and "storefront" nonprofits and agencies) to HELP a self-professed chronic, sadistic liar and abuser. I have cause to believe he is a psychopath. And the judges and lawyers,etc as well.
The issue of his sexual orientation seems to have been corruptly used. Like a game by ppl who understand it is socially and politically popular to grant all kinds of special things for people's sexual "whatever". Not even sure WHAT he is. Jealousy wasn't the issue. His cycles of Weird sadistic abuse were. And his letting me know in creepy ways he wanted me dead. (Then he would cry, for himself actually, and profess all this crap. A real actor. And he told me he believed he had no conscience. Knows right from wrong, but doesn't care) It is UNBELIEVABLE what has gone on. I found more and more evidence this is done to vulnerable women in my state, whenever possible.
Found evidence my state has been known for years for it's laws discriminating against women. And that corrupt things are done to conceal this evidence. Appearance that murdering females is okay, too. Evidence supports it. Medical examiners, police, courts, lawyers, law firms, court reporters, clerks, and others aid and abet depraved crimes against females, when they can get away with it.
It FEELS like some misogynist mafia, tinged with lavender. Gay stuff and supposed sexual confusion is being USED, in "legal atrocities".
Old men is nicer❤