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Three siblings being gay is pure DNA inside the family
Yes, there's almost a 10 years difference between the youngest and oldest. All 3 have a drastically different personality to a point where they don't really share much in common ... and yet they're gay. There are so many cases like that. Many of us are born this way.
The hidden treasure of being gay is having to totally examine your life and put it back together consciously.
Stephen Chambers is a very handsome man.๐
Wow!! Dimi, thank you for that compliment. I am just a simple man who has made a lot of mistakes along the path of my life, but who is coming around the bend still in tact.
@@SWExplore A large percentage of us I believe make mistakes along the path of life.
Itโs wonderful to see those mistakes made a beautiful person.
I wish you all the best!โค๏ธ
If you drove up to my door on a motorcycle with a bag of Rubioโs weโd have to get married.๐
Really enjoyed listening to your interview and you are very handsome.๐
Agree very handsome man
Inside and out.
@@cmacmenow Thank you, Dimi, so very much! I'm just Steve.
It's very unusual all three brothers been gay
Great video Steve, It always amazes me how much damage parents can do to their children's psyche. Sounds like you have had some love in your life with your relationships over the years. Your struggles have helped pave the way for the younger generations to accept themselves and find some inner peace about who they are. Some of the younger generation have it a lot easier these days. Who knows whats in store for you moving forward, be happy.
Thank you, BugleBoy! I feel good about having done the video because it may help another gay man with his own coming out effort.
It would be great to have one other gay brother, then have 2 more, this would have been the best thing ever for me.
Deeply engaging, meaningful chat.
Cheers Stephen. Namaste. ODAAT.
Lovely story and such a lovely man. Very relatable in so many ways. Time waits for no one and it sure creeps on you fast.
"...still a lot more living to do...a lot more!". My thoughts exactly. Thanks.
What an interesting life youve been having, Steve . I was born in Ottawa in 1943. Poonly came out at 33, told parents at 35.
Partner's 1 left me but 4 decades later we are best friends. Meanwhile Partner 2 after 11 yrs dIed of AIDS. Partner 3 wouldnt sign a cohabitation document, and one day just vanished.
At age 74 I met my current love, a married man who loves only older men. His wife is fine with it. We meet weekly. There is real love between us and he encourages me to see my now best friend.
Your's is such an adventurous life, and you've rolled with the punches admirably! BTW, you've only improved with age in every way. Love the beard! ๐งโ๐
Thank you so much, Bill. It has been quite the ride through the many chapters of my life. And though I am older now at age 69, I've learned much about myself along the way, especially that I am now sober. I am no longer running from deep-seated fears that have controlled my life in the past, and on some days still does. It's been a survival course. All the best to you, Bill! ๐ค
It took me 64 years to come to the same conclusions. Although Iโve come to enjoy being single I miss the intimacy and companionship I shared with my partner until his death in 2021 of ALZ. Iโm pleased to hear your story and wish you the very best.๐
What a great story and a handsome man. ๐
Hi โค
Yes, deep fear is crippling. Some fear of the rational type can keep you safe.
Friendships are so important!
Absolutely agree! I had been isolated for so many years that I didn't know what I would do (I didn't share that in the video). Thankfully, and over time, I am beginning to develop friendships through my attendance of AA meetings and a couple of friends that I've know for many decades. William is my closest confidant of all my friendships.
@@SWExplore I know your feelings and conditions you have spoken about very well. The isolation.
It is . Wish I had a gay friend.
@@samadams219 Having gay friends are important because both CAN relate.
@garryc.1645 yeah I don't have any.
Congrats on your sobriety. I too embraced it after years of self oppression (and I was just recently in Toronto seeking a fellowship meeting!). It stinks that sex is such a narrow focus with gay men and they are non-committal. Many our age now suffer from terminal loneliness because they never worked at what a true marriage is where sex is a minimal expression. You've inspired me with confidence, Stephen -- now widowed after a 15 year devoted marriage, I realize I can go on solo if that is my fate.
Thank you, Tom. I am genuinely glad that I have provided you with inspiration.
He was explaining his life. It was beautiful story to hear.
Thank you!
Thanks for sharing. Very interesting. Every persons story is different.
It's like someone told my life story. Thank you for sharing!
Very beautiful story, its amazing how our community all share the same threads, both young and old.
Montreal, La Rose Rouge, Central Station, McGill University and even, hepatitis B and being sobre... I've lived all of that and I'm still a Montrealer and living a quiet life in my mid-60s. I have also given up on the hook-up culture and would love a couple of close friends who have the same values as I do. Very difficult to find. It's a lonely life. Loved this video!
Bear hug Steve: thanks for sharing your live path, I am learning through others experiences. Keep doing your clips, I believe it encourages others. Would have loved to have a friendship with you.
What a great story and thank you for sharing. And as long as you keep coming back, I can guarantee you from my own experience, that thereโs a ton of friends in the rooms that you just havenโt met yet.
I totally agree.
Thank goodness for you, Steve. What a great video. You keep living all of that lots of living left to do. I am inspired to do the same โค๐.
Love it! That is the type of man, Iโm looking for to spend the rest of my life with! โค
Thank you, Luciano! That means a lot to me that I may have helped another man with his own coming out effort.
Two thumbs up! Now go interview his two gay brothers. ๐
Actually, I would've loved to interview the parents who ended up with 3 gay sons. They really scored! Would've been nice to hear what they had to say. They passed away long time ago.
Stephen everyone has the journey they have been living! Nothing can be better than great comradery with another loving bud. Take Care. always Tommy๐ค
Everyone has the journey they have been living?
What a prime example of a man that had to learn to love himself and hurt people along the way.
I hope he cares enough about himself, so he can find someone that cares about him.
This is what I am working on.
Thanks for your feedback, Fi Rouz. I am the man who is trying to love himself in this video. I must say that I did not intentionally hurt people along the way. Life hurts, and hind sight is always 20/20 vision. It was difficult for me to express my coming out story and to pull up photos of the many chapters in my life. I send you positive energies toward your own goal of loving yourself completely.
@@SWExplore
I didn't mean to judge you! Life is a process and I was often one of those gay men that have been used and abused by other gay men who were afraid of intimacy.
We all learn and now. At least you did!
I send you love and hugs!
What an interesting testimony, Steve.
Thanks for sharing!
Best wishes and take care. Hugs.
Thank you, Mario.
Thanks for sharing your story, Steve. Wee need more voices (old and young) telling out stories.
This channel is just Amazing...thank you for the format. Refreshing to hear these stories and observe these lads as they reconcile their feelings. As a mature gay man..I see a bit of myself in everyone of the profilers. Sexuality is such a fluid concept...be it hetro..or homo (because that is all we had to measure by..back in the day). I was extremely fortunate to have parents that suspected ( I was first born male..artistic, but tall and athletic) Consequently..I had the luxury of dating girls and just flying under the radar. But..Mr. Chambers scenario was faintly similar...but without the numbing religious shame. He is much braver than I. I have a Canadian partner and I always admired their grit and tenacious friendliness...which also I see flickers of, in Stephen. All I can say is...please continue these little vignettes...they are so well received in the gay community. And to Stephen...Kudos on your resolve and smooth tantric demeanor. Stay well and count your blessings.
Thanks, Edward, for your kind words of support and encouragement. I do count my blessings every single day!
As usual, a most interesting self portrait. Thanks for sharing.
Good luck to - live your life. Your beautiful.
great video! My life echoes yours in so many ways. i was even a graphic designer/painter. missed out on the HEP but not the hemp. and I'm a better man for it. i see you visited Joshua Tree, I must have just missed you. let me see... you came out, had a job you enjoyed, traveled widely, were open to many possibilities, and know how to wear a bear outfit. so kudos to you. keep it up. be happy. My guess is there are at least 1 million guys who will relate to your story.
Thank you, Ron, for your kind words of support.
Good for you Stephen!
Stephn,you have a calm and peaceful demeanor which is my desire for a person to be friends with, im now 74 lost my partner of 36 years now going on 14 years ago. I agree the time is fast but our difference in age was 19 years and that had a coming, and genuine love I hope you find someone.
We both were previously marred to woman, he had siblings (3), I never had children but helped raise his grandchildren till the ages of 14 years, and their parent remarried.
Amazing story that SHOULD be documented!
What a nice story, you seem to be a wonderful, caring and warm man. What you wish, is what most of us wish, but it seems difficult to get. Iโm so sorry that you had to cope with your parents coldness, but it seems you have forgiven them, hope that later you had a good relationship with your siblings. Being gay is difficult, easier for some, and very hard for others. It is very refreshing to see that you see life with kindness and hope. Wishing you the very best โค
Handsome guy
Great life as lived.
Thank you for sharing your story, I appreciate these candid interviews so much.
Another lovely, tender tale of personal experience. โค
Lovely interview. Lovely man. Thank you for sharing. If you were in NY, I'm sure we could be friends.
Thank you, Lukashassel! I very much appreciate your feedback.
Joe here. 59, single, moving back home to S. Cali. I'd like very much to meet Stephen.
Wonderful story from a very handsome gent, wink.
Thank you again, Tony. I am absolutely flattered!
Luckily you came out early , I'm fifty and still hiding my sexuality
Tim, you are such a young man at 50, and though it may have taken you time to come out to yourself, it certainly must feel liberating to feel free enough to be yourself, even if it is in hiding. I support you and commend you on working toward accepting yourself fully.
Maybe it was not such a bad option. Coming out and fighting for years with parents isn't good either...
I subscribed to his UA-cam channel. :)
Thank you so much, Tony! Much appreciated.
Stephen is a very attractive man. ๐
very handsome
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Stephen - Wonderful video. Thank you. You seem like a very sweet man.
Thank you so much! Much appreciated.
Thank you for your authentic story sir. Amazing man
Thank you, LoneAries! I did my best to share openly and with respect for all of the persons I have known throughout my life.
โ@@SWExplore congrats on your recovery. 11 years sober here. Woof
@@LoneAries77 That's great that you have 11 years sober!! Congratulations to you!
Steve you're sweet and sixty nine years old wow you are beautifulโค Hope to look as good in fourteen years.๐
Thank you so much, Ronald! Such a lovely compliment.
You sound like you were always mature, sane and sensible, if gay life were easier 50 years ago I bet you would not have had any substance problems.
Maybe even that pregnancy wouldnโt have happened. People need to understand this. If a minority group suffers, everyone will eventually suffer directly or indirectly.
Wow lucky all three gay brothers what fun to be talk and share experinces
Yeah, what are the odds of that, right?
I have an older gay brother and we do not get along at all. We are essentially no contact.
@@billrichardson6866 why
@shireenbegum9166 I am the youngest sibling of 5. All my older siblings get along, sort of. There are 6 years between me and my next oldest sibling. I was always the burden my siblings had to take care of. Gay brother has never liked how I accepted my sexuality so easily. I have never heard him say the word gay. I have been judged by him as "that kind of gay." He has treated me poorly every time we have found ourselves at the same event. All of my siblings have treated me poorly so, for my sanity, it's best if I don't see them again. I know it's hard for some people to understand, especially if they are close to their siblings. I was never close to any of mine.
@@billrichardson6866 Bill, that must have been difficult to be the youngest and shunned by your older brother who is also gay. I feel for you and what you had to endure growing up. At this point in my life, both my parents are dead and I am not in contact with either of my two younger gay brothers. The family kind of imploded on itself after my parents died. Sibling rivalries and each brother experiencing life through their own lens has left me out of the loop. With the exception of William in my life, there is no blood family left for me today, and I'm all right with that.
GOOD QUESTION. HOW DO A PERSON MEET SOMEONE WHO REALLY WANTS TO GET TO KNOW YOU? IT IS ALWAYS A SLAP, BAM AND THANK YOU - AND OFF THEY GO. AT 62, HOW DO I JUST ACCEPT THAT I WILL ALWAYS BE SINGLE - AND EVEN DIE ALONE. LIFE IS A JOKE...
Come on Philip! 62 is not even that old! It may be hard but you can't give up just like that.
Phillip, 62 is certainly not old. You have so much life ahead of you with good times...if you let them happen. Life can be difficult, that I will admit. There are hills and valleys along the way that can be hurtful but then there are the better times that also come along. I am trying to be positive in my life that I can meet a simple man who is willing to put up with my varying issues just as I will be willing to accept his. And I will do just that, and so can you. (If you want to trade your 62 years with my 69, it's a deal ๐)
Iโm sorry, but Iโm just seethingโฆ! I was feeling a great deal of compassion for Mr. Chambers (so sorry for the family situation, his father, etc - so sad) until he reached the point where he walked out of the life of a renown physician, and most of all, a man who loved him. Quite possibly when the man needed him most - for love and support during what very well may have been an incredibly stressful part of his professional life - the pressure in the medical field, etcโฆ . And now Mr. Chambers verbalizes lamentations in hypocritical, self-righteous and self-flagellative regretโฆ. Spare me!!!
โMr. Chambers, do you realize how many good, gay men on this earth would give their very soul to have such a worthwhile individual (as in the man you selfishly walked out on) in their life - and one who loves them beyond measure?โ
One word: Karma.
You are one evil person.
@RT3319 Youโre judging someone based on a 30 seconds commentary without having any personal knowledge. Life is complicated. This may come as a shock to you but there are a ton of men โฆ. even heterosexual doctors and people who hold key positions who get divorced every day. Thereโs more to long term relationships. Be mindful of that before posting such comments.
@@LoneAries77 Hear Hear!
Thank you, Stephen. It saddens me that you never got to see David again. It's interesting how your dad had issues with you being gay, yet karma gave him two more gay sons! So, in your family, there were more gay people than straight ones! Thanks for sharing!
Thank you, Shake! Yes, I was so very surprised to learn that my partner David had died. It was a shock to me and a regret that I could no longer express an amends. In retrospect, my life has been a struggle for survival, yet I am here today to share my story with the hope that it can help another man with his own struggles.