why being cringey is your secret weapon....

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  • @littlejamese
    @littlejamese 2 роки тому +317

    Girl you have the most soothing voice have you ever thought about podcasting ?

    • @becauseilypodcast
      @becauseilypodcast  2 роки тому +71

      👀👀👀

    • @happyheartslee
      @happyheartslee 2 роки тому +18

      second this!! just take this video and make it into a podcast! lovee

    • @fatimaparker8307
      @fatimaparker8307 2 роки тому +1

      @@gracetran4455 yesss

    • @SoniaIndira
      @SoniaIndira 2 роки тому +11

      That is the best idea ever , Bria we need you on a podcast x id listen to you all day 😍

    • @nayagales
      @nayagales 2 роки тому +3

      Do it Bria!!

  • @MsCorvinaChambers
    @MsCorvinaChambers 11 місяців тому +18

    "Don't take advise from people you don't want to be like " is an amazing line

  • @sourgrape_s
    @sourgrape_s 2 роки тому +384

    "People are going to judge you regardless of what you do, so they might as well judge you while you're doing something you love" This quote resonates so much with me right now; I'm tired of suppressing myself to seem perfect and always put together. (in real life that is because Internet me gives no fuxks)

    • @sensun5039
      @sensun5039 2 роки тому +3

      I hear you

    • @nicoleellie
      @nicoleellie 2 роки тому +1

      THIS!! thank you for sharing this quote 🫶🫶

  • @Rockerfeller26
    @Rockerfeller26 10 місяців тому +4

    Girl, the amount of wisdom in this video

  • @Diamlatifah
    @Diamlatifah 2 роки тому +96

    being my most authentic self is definitely something I've struggled with because I've always been afraid of being judged but this year I approached my breaking point. I'm going to say what I wan't and do what ever makes me happy even if it makes me look "cringey". Thank you for sharing your story thus helped me even more!

    • @ambersummer2685
      @ambersummer2685 2 роки тому +3

      I hit my breaking point too this year. I’m just done with overthinking everything.

    • @senorita-qh6bm
      @senorita-qh6bm 2 роки тому +4

      Love yourself as if you were your own child. ❤ I didn’t realize until I took a step back to acknowledge my feelings that a lot of the people around me weren’t for me and after putting myself first everything became simple and I’m so grateful now. Wish you well.

  • @ThesselyJuliet
    @ThesselyJuliet 2 роки тому +94

    Girlll that part about not taking other people’s “advice” to heart hit home for me. So many people feel free to chime in while they haven’t made a damn video once in their life. Do the work first and then tell me what worked for you. Anyway, great video! The sweater is fly btw!

  • @whocares897
    @whocares897 2 роки тому +24

    “Things that last long-term, take time” so true!

    • @thechrisverhoeven
      @thechrisverhoeven 2 роки тому +1

      yes and especially those things that are worth it. are worth waiting. It makes it even better.

  • @Becky_Atia
    @Becky_Atia 2 роки тому +28

    The less time you spend on people, the more time you spend on yourself!

  • @elizanikodem3127
    @elizanikodem3127 Рік тому +3

    Perfectionism is the killer of progress and best friend to procrastination 👌

  • @ninanegedu
    @ninanegedu 2 роки тому +155

    The topic pulled me here. This is something that I honestly struggle with personally with my anxiety and all. I really appreciate you, Bria❤️

    • @becauseilypodcast
      @becauseilypodcast  2 роки тому +7

      it’s so normal to feel this way and anxiety certainly doesn’t help! I’m with you though and have/still struggle with both and if I can work through it you can too 🤍

    • @Siko_RisingToHP
      @Siko_RisingToHP 2 роки тому

      Hi
      Std chin z

    • @chi2om
      @chi2om 2 роки тому

      Same same

    • @eliseaatravissknightt
      @eliseaatravissknightt 2 роки тому +1

      Nina you’re not alone!!🥰❤️😘

    • @ninanegedu
      @ninanegedu 2 роки тому +1

      @@eliseaatravissknightt 🤗❤️

  • @ladyfaye
    @ladyfaye 2 роки тому +25

    Ok this message is perfect thank you 😭 I wanted to create content for years because of that exact fear, like people that I don’t even aspire to be like judging me??? Hello? Lol, gradually unlearning that fear. Proud of everyone who is overcoming it & not enough people talk about it❤️‍🔥

  • @peachesandpoets
    @peachesandpoets 2 роки тому +37

    I'm on the brink of starting something new and I'm kind of worried that I'm too brave or too audacious. And then it is hard for me to come to terms with the fact that I might be giving up on my dream because I'm afraid of looking stupid to strangers and to family and friends, and they don't care about me anyway 😂
    Your bravery and confidence is pushing me out of my fear.

  • @caisagrace
    @caisagrace 2 роки тому +8

    this is so timely... my theme for this year was to embrace the cringe, embrace the chaos of just being yourself haha. cheers to everyone who started their channels this year! it's never too late to start! ‪♡‬

  • @chioma2844
    @chioma2844 2 роки тому +21

    This was such a beautiful reminder! WHAT OTHERS THINK OF YOU IS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS!!

  • @gabi8096
    @gabi8096 2 роки тому +4

    no one in this world could've made it more clear and honest than you just did, tysm!

  • @vlogswithvy
    @vlogswithvy 2 роки тому +8

    the impact this video had on me, and an honest realization of how self-conscious I can be. I want to feel authentic and know that I truly am and not worry about all these other people, and for what. Exactly.

  • @samirahbeyah
    @samirahbeyah 2 роки тому +4

    I took a huge leap into my business this year and I’ve been doing me and pushing through and I can now say that a year and a half in, I’m feeling the most confident in myself and business!

  • @helenchrisriminirand
    @helenchrisriminirand 2 роки тому +4

    Just saw this video. I’m in my 40s and I’ve been struggling to be productive and motivated. Thanks for doing this video. Needed to hear this without realising it

  • @hafsasalman2489
    @hafsasalman2489 Рік тому

    I love how you are yourself unapologetically.

  • @emmythewriter
    @emmythewriter Рік тому +1

    Girl. This really hit me in my soul today. I will write that book.

  • @VictoriaJN
    @VictoriaJN 2 роки тому +11

    Thank you for sharing this, I really needed this talk. People don’t give the honest truth enough about it being okay if you’re not successful right off the bat. It’s like no one cares if you’re happy or doing something you love. If you’re not making money you’re failing.

  • @sunnyhouston2259
    @sunnyhouston2259 2 роки тому +24

    Well said, Bria. I love “growth is in failure.” And I love the concept that I shouldn’t care about people that I’m not trying to be...to give myself permission not to care. This post is such an encouragement. From cringe nation over here, thanks for empowering my perspective.

  • @GoaWay...
    @GoaWay... 6 місяців тому +1

    I have the opposite problem. I judge myself now for not being or looking like myself four years or even one year ago. 🙁

  • @MilaMillionaire
    @MilaMillionaire 2 роки тому +14

    This is literally thee best pep talk I’ve ever heard! I needed to hear ALL of this at this exact moment! Thanks girl 😘

  • @angeliquealamer
    @angeliquealamer 2 роки тому +6

    Omg this topic is so on time for me! I JUST highlighted this in my book, Welcome Home by Najwa Zebian, yesterday: “But if you see it [failure] as ‘This is what not to do’ or ‘This is what I need to improve’, you’ll see it as a lesson, a stepping-stone…You won’t care how others perceive you as a result. Some might say that living your dream requires both failure & success. I prefer to say that living your dream is a dance between giving & taking.” 😻🙌 Loveddd this video’s vulnerability. And also the part about “I woke up too much” & it making you jaded. Sooo true! But I wouldn’t have it any other way bc ignorance is false bliss. Keep shinin that brightness girl!✨ Your head is definitely on straight.🔥💟

  • @Weirdo34-874
    @Weirdo34-874 2 роки тому +2

    I’m so glad she made this video, this is the stuff nobody ever talks about, like people she grew up with making fun of her and trying to make her feel stupid about creating content. Well kudos for having the emotional strength to continue making content anyway 👏

  • @celesteukam
    @celesteukam 2 роки тому

    Preach girl! They certainly don't pay your bills 💯

  • @TerranDailey
    @TerranDailey 2 роки тому

    This is literally something I do with my old videos. Thank you for sharing this.

  • @thechrisverhoeven
    @thechrisverhoeven 2 роки тому +9

    This was so insightful and exactly the reason that's stopping me, Bria. Thank you for addressing this.
    I don't like the sound of my voice either and I don't have that high energy on camera, like a lot of people have. Or at least it seems that way.
    I guess, I just have to put on my big boy pants and pick myself up and continue. We all have something to inspire others with.

  • @melissachanthalangsy3091
    @melissachanthalangsy3091 2 роки тому +14

    Hi Bria! I clicked so fast lol. This is why I love the saying “done is better than perfect because perfection doesn’t exist.” I’m in the cringe phase of my creative journey right now and it’s so beautiful LOL. Yes, it’s cringey, but it’s also amazing for me to witness myself g(r)o(w) through it because it means I’m expanding simply by putting myself out there. There’s also a liberating feeling to be cringey with so few followers or readers because it allows me to grow in a space with less judgment. (I’m a writer btw and my content is on Medium). Thanks for validating the journey and I’m so excited to see where the next chapter takes me. 💫✨🔥🙏🏼❤️

  • @heygraceshockey
    @heygraceshockey 2 роки тому +4

    Hey. Fellow content creator here. This just brought me to tears. I resonate SO much with everything you said here, and I realized through your message that I am SO hard on myself… like, mean. And that’s not loving to myself. I really admire the courage it’s taken for you to continually put yourself out there and fail forward, and open your mouth and speak from your HEART. It’s more inspiring than I think you know. Thank you 🙏

  • @Candice_k
    @Candice_k 2 роки тому

    It always be those childhood people we grew up with, they just ready to make you quit.

  • @nikathealchemist
    @nikathealchemist 2 роки тому +1

    feeling really emotional today and stuck.. been wanting to create content and have been super productive from the start of the month. Having trouble airdropping + emailing my videos to my laptop today and its bring out frustration... as well as multiple things coming up. I think it's coming up to make room for the transformation that's coming. Thank you for this video, it really helped centre me. Also the shirt was the cherry on top. Much love

  • @LiahB
    @LiahB 2 роки тому +2

    really appreciate this video. I've been an upcoming rnb artist for 4 years now and things aren't going as great as I would have thought (I actually put in the work!) I'll Never give up, but I decided to do what I've always wanted and try out UA-cam. definitely sometimes in front of the camera like "what am I doing am I crazy??' lol but fuck it!! being cringey will def get me to where I see myself. thanks Bria :)

  • @DAmore143
    @DAmore143 2 роки тому

    Your words are POWERFUL! A WOMAN like YOU with such WISDOM is UNSTOPPABLE!

  • @sarrrahhhh
    @sarrrahhhh Рік тому

    coming back to this video bc it’s so needed🤎 i’m following my dreams of singing and feel like i just had a cringey first live performance lmaoo so i’m appreciating my courage to take the chance and looking forward to how much i’ll grow & improve as i continue working and showing up for myself 🕊️✨

  • @aliviablount
    @aliviablount 2 роки тому

    Watching the old stuff is such a great learning experience

  • @mydaysasdaisy9939
    @mydaysasdaisy9939 2 роки тому

    Aww man i completely love this! If everyone could just be themselves without the fear of judgement. That’s the trick to happiness I feel!

  • @amorphess
    @amorphess 2 роки тому

    i really needed to hear this. scorpios be gettin it. nothing but up for you empress

  • @madalinaflorea1180
    @madalinaflorea1180 2 роки тому +2

    this is probably one of my favorite videos that you've made so far! they're all so good tho. thank you for being here :)

  • @sarahscupoftea8790
    @sarahscupoftea8790 Рік тому +1

    I really needed to hear this... Thank you! I've been trying to prepare vids so much that I'm not posting, because it's not "good enough"... This was a very valuable video, thanks Bria xoxo

  • @nicoleellie
    @nicoleellie 2 роки тому +1

    You have helped my self confidence so much. Thank you- I constantly have fear of judgement, trolls, but you are so right. Thank you Bria, sending so much love and ( even more) success for your future!!!❤

  • @Aunty87
    @Aunty87 2 роки тому +3

    ❤️❤️❤️ The Queen speaks. This is my first video and you're wisdom is incredible! Thank you for your encouragement and honesty, you're truly a gift to your viewers.🤗🤗🤗

  • @lovelymariii
    @lovelymariii 2 роки тому +5

    This video was very encouraging! I recently started my own UA-cam Channel after finally gaining the courage to post, so I can definitely attest to finally embracing my cringyness and going for it. For a long time, I let my perfectionism and fear of embarrassment stop me from creating content (although it's been a desire of mine for a while now). I'm definitely in my early cringy UA-cam stages at the moment, but I'll use this as my time to learn and grow. It's amazing what a little faith & confidence can do for you!

  • @kierstenlian
    @kierstenlian 2 роки тому

    YOU JUST START! yes. I finally just went for it a few months ago. I’m open to the journey and you will attract the people that you want to inspire!! just knowing you can help out and inspire even one person makes it all worth it

    • @kierstenlian
      @kierstenlian 2 роки тому

      Honestly, I can already see such an improvement from my first video to the ones I post now a couple months later. I can’t wait to see where I’ll be in a few years

  • @RebaMiran
    @RebaMiran 2 роки тому +4

    Honestly I don’t care if someone thinks I’m cringy, because there’s someone out there in the world who thinks they’re cringy….
    I know I’m a 100% weird, unique, person and if some people don’t like that well idc 😌
    There’s someone out there for somebody.
    I used to care what people think now I 100% could care less! those people who are all in your business they are the most insecure people…
    Sad but truuu

  • @courtneymcrose
    @courtneymcrose 2 роки тому

    You rock! It's like when people ask me about how to avoid having a bad trip (I co-founded a mushroom church) and I laugh - because the "bad" / challenging trip, is the juice were going for - the willingness to fall on our face and learn how to get back up. You're on it mama, keep on!

  • @bluphoenixTGG
    @bluphoenixTGG 2 роки тому

    Yassss!!!! Posting content that flops that you’ve worked hard on is such a buzz kill! Thanks for your honesty!!!

  • @katso_linoh9296
    @katso_linoh9296 2 роки тому +3

    Bathong Bria we wanna see those “cringy videos” in ur opinion..we love to see the growth mama🫶🫶

  • @Wes-Tyler
    @Wes-Tyler 11 місяців тому

    The beauty of youtube is that growth is exponential, and videos that may take you a week to make can last on youtube for YEARS and continue to bring in new viewers and subscribers

  • @louisehudson3650
    @louisehudson3650 2 роки тому +2

    I absolutely love your honest advice because it shows that you are transparent and experienced. You are a blessing to those who need to hear this. Stay encouraged, motivated, and true to your purpose!

  • @realpristine
    @realpristine 2 роки тому +1

    I’ve been feeling discouraged lately. This video was right on time 🤎

  • @aliaelborai
    @aliaelborai 2 роки тому +3

    Your videos are so EMPOWERING! So thankful to the algorithm to have brought you my way

  • @sunnyhouston2259
    @sunnyhouston2259 2 роки тому +2

    Well said, Bria. I love “growth is in failure.” And I love the concept of ignoring people that I’m not trying to be...to give myself permission not to care. This post is such an encouragement. From cringe nation over here, thanks for empowering my perspective.

  • @soulfulmisses8981
    @soulfulmisses8981 2 роки тому

    I needed this video today, here i am worried about who is and isnt going to like my videos when in reality im jus being my authentic self so if they dont like it f*#k em 😊

  • @melaninandaura9713
    @melaninandaura9713 2 роки тому

    I always appreciate creators who leave all their old videos up. Or at least some lol. I have a habit of deleting old pics and stuff that I don’t like but I stopped (recently) bcz you’re right. I owe that girl my life! To erase her is to erase me. Sneering at myself and being in disgust at MYSELF is harmful really. Here’s to ALL of me - & you. -post em!-

  • @MindBodyMom
    @MindBodyMom 2 роки тому +4

    OMG you are speaking my language and I needed to hear this again! I have big dreams too and owning them, going for it and being yourself is EVERYTHING! Thank you for your videos, I LOVE them!

  • @tiaturnbullchampionscoachi9587
    @tiaturnbullchampionscoachi9587 2 роки тому +1

    Awesome! Thank you for your honest and empowering content! ❤
    "There is no failure, you either succeed or learn, you always grow!" 💯

  • @notascrabbleword
    @notascrabbleword 2 роки тому +2

    Yet again, another homerun! Thank you so much for sharing your experience.

  • @antoniomorales5533
    @antoniomorales5533 2 роки тому +4

    I’m probably not your demographic but tbh you’re one of my recent fav creators, thanks for talking about this and guiding your viewers in the right direction! I support someone who influences good in the world. Recently new subbie; Take care Bria! 🌷💗

  • @WellKnownReyes
    @WellKnownReyes Рік тому

    I swear it, I feels like we’re are besties! I look forward to seeing your videos ❤

  • @Sabrina_Pierre
    @Sabrina_Pierre 2 роки тому

    I have never related more to a video than this right here. This gave me the slap of a waking up calling I needed 🥹🫶🏾

  • @filsan7409
    @filsan7409 2 роки тому

    24 minutes went by so quickly... I was so engrossed in this video. thank you for being you and sharing your insights you do it so well and in a way that hits the spot so precisely!!

  • @2212MsGrape
    @2212MsGrape 2 роки тому

    i feel you on the part where you mentioned you started out on your journey and someone from your past made that condescending remark. a similar situation had happen to me with a close friend at the time.

  • @taajahtalks6326
    @taajahtalks6326 2 роки тому

    You tell em! People be haters and they be in your own circle 💖💪

  • @jasminemorris367
    @jasminemorris367 2 роки тому

    The way you're CONSISTENTLY in alignment with these topics is insane lol. Thank you for sharing 🙏🏽

  • @Tips4SocialMedia
    @Tips4SocialMedia Рік тому

    You have no idea how much I needed to hear this!!!!! Thank you

  • @Grow-Glow-Inspirations
    @Grow-Glow-Inspirations 2 роки тому +6

    Well needed message sis! Thank you for the transparency 🙏🏽

  • @alessiagandolfo9305
    @alessiagandolfo9305 2 роки тому +1

    Exactly what I needed to hear today as I feel pulled and excited and scared by the idea of being creative here too, thank you

  • @michepriest
    @michepriest 2 роки тому

    Seeing your old videos would be so inspiring! I scroll through old videos to see how far people come because I believe if you are consistent, experiment, and put in the time success will come. I rarely see early “cringy” videos. It would be amazing if everyone left theirs up

  • @shannonmarieireland
    @shannonmarieireland 2 роки тому +7

    i love your transparency and advice you share through your experience. That takes vulnerability and strength 👏🏼💕 amazing girly!!! love the vibes in your channel

  • @yamadachiazusa6326
    @yamadachiazusa6326 Рік тому

    As someone who's trying to start a web comic I've been struggling to start for a year and constantly trying to rewrite my cringey scripts, thanks, I needed this T_T

  • @akaHobbs
    @akaHobbs 2 роки тому +1

    Yes! Make them public again 🙏🏽 it’s so encouraging for new content creators to see how much growth is possible, and that it’s ok for our videos to be imperfect.

  • @darnellatorelli9888
    @darnellatorelli9888 2 роки тому

    16:05 that part! Recently discovered your channel and I’m in love w your content. Listened to this while I work and I agree with the comments, I’d listen to your podcast religiously 😆

  • @RayvenB
    @RayvenB Рік тому

    Your videos are apart of my daily routine!! So real and motivating. Thanks for being YOU!!

  • @tatiyannasade
    @tatiyannasade 2 роки тому

    its always the realness for me!!! and that hair!!!! OBSESSED

  • @sccylercross
    @sccylercross 2 роки тому +1

    This is the first video I’ve watched of yours, I’m a month and a half into my journey of creating content and it’s been hard to stay motivated and I watch videos from people who I admire to help me and the line I got from this video that hit home was ‘if i don’t want to be like you, then why would I want your opinion’ and that’s helpful cuz I’m always asking advice from people who disappoint me thank you for that I needed it

  • @alexisboat
    @alexisboat 2 роки тому +1

    Glad you posted this. I needed this

  • @sariahflorez5826
    @sariahflorez5826 Рік тому

    This is just what I needed to hear. When you learn from your mistakes, not only you do, but you do what you just did! You taught me through this video so many valuable things I was meant to come around in this exact moment of my life. I’m so so grateful you shared this with us. Simply, thank you Bria ❤ you are amazing.

  • @iamaaliyahdavid
    @iamaaliyahdavid 2 роки тому

    This video gave me sooo much comfort & release in ways I can’t even describe 😩

  • @sammylove14
    @sammylove14 2 роки тому +1

    This is such perfect advice for me! The universe brought me to you!!!

  • @jasmineconnors4634
    @jasmineconnors4634 2 роки тому +1

    Definitely needed this pep talk. Thanks💞

  • @marlopez8586
    @marlopez8586 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you for sharing this topic with us, I’ve been wanting to start my channel for the longest but have always been afraid of what people are going to think. ♥️

  • @michellebene
    @michellebene Рік тому

    You are so on point with connecting to the human side. True, we seek out creators for tips and pointers on how to work these platforms, but you are the 🐐 at giving real information and connecting. I find myself nodding in agreement a lot! Thanks, Bria❤💝❤️

  • @jaybirdasmr
    @jaybirdasmr Рік тому +1

    wow Bria this is absolutely amazing!! I love the message behind this video and it motivates me to keep going!! Thank you for this :)

  • @missinjairu1448
    @missinjairu1448 2 роки тому

    Girl, don't I just love you. Thank you.❤️that was really insightful.

  • @hannahlay2026
    @hannahlay2026 2 роки тому +2

    I feel like we have such a similar mindset! It took me so long to get to this point though, and it’s all a work in progress!! If you ever need another Dallas area friend, you got one in me 👏🏼

  • @kristianasadauska9909
    @kristianasadauska9909 2 роки тому

    Thank you kid!
    You really made my day, I was so sad and unhappy with my self!
    Thank You ❤️ you are very good and authentic!
    Love you ❤️

  • @SimonSayz_
    @SimonSayz_ 2 роки тому

    You went from 12k to 120k from February to now. Keep it up!! Here for this content

  • @ivybjen
    @ivybjen 2 роки тому

    Bria ! I appreciate you providing such wise counsel. Although it can be overwhelming to allow yourself the room to be embarrassing, doing so is impressive. If others don't like me for it, that's not my problem. I intend to give myself room to be real.

  • @basedmish
    @basedmish 2 роки тому

    Thank u so much for sharing this video and your story. I resonate with it Soo much. And idc about being cringy anymore

  • @krissyvanous
    @krissyvanous Рік тому

    Firing facts! 🔥 I’ve been soooo scared of posting on UA-cam but I’m at a point in life that I really want to grow as an artist and know it requires promoting oneself. That’s the goal this year, but I’ve been struggling with bravery. This is so inspiring though! I’m gonna take a deep breath and just do it. Even though I feel like a complete dork staring at a camera. 😆

  • @realshantia
    @realshantia 2 роки тому

    I swear videos just pop up at the right time. I needed to hear this from the universe. Thanks Bria for talking about this.

  • @rachelle_faith
    @rachelle_faith 2 роки тому

    You're amazingg, your humour, honesty. I loveee

  • @stephanieonyekaba8274
    @stephanieonyekaba8274 2 роки тому +1

    Hey girl. I found your channel like a few days ago and I’ve been BINGING all of them. I’m in my flop era currently and you have been so inspiring in helping me to change my mindset and see things from a new perspective. I really appreciate you and want to see you go far 🤍💫

  • @katiemeinke9325
    @katiemeinke9325 2 роки тому

    Girl you did not get lucky. This is your doing-your work got you here.

  • @SamAltieri
    @SamAltieri 2 роки тому

    yessss TY for this. love the sassy unapologetic vibes 🔥🔥🔥

  • @omschooling
    @omschooling Рік тому

    So much wisdom in this episode, I definitely resonates with your "give yourself space to grow"🙏🙏💓

  • @nezball
    @nezball 2 роки тому +1

    so proud of you and this message

  • @annawhiangar
    @annawhiangar 2 роки тому +1

    This is sooo inspiring. Every time I watch a video, I feel just a bit better about myself. Please keep going!!!