Jamie, you have a very positive aura about you. I can't explain it, but every time I see you, i break into a smile because you make me happy. Today's video is also very helpful for ways to get out of a down period. Thanks for that and for being the good positive person you are. Kudos!
I know I personally sent something to your ask box about dysphoria, but hearing you talk about it was really helpful as well. Thank you so much Jamie! :)
It just isn't fair. I'm 14 and I have to be this way. Everyone else around me gets to have the right body, but I'm not allowed to! Costs so much and I'm supposed to be older and I'm not mature enough apparently, and "if it's a phase," we gotta be sure. I sure as hell wish it was only a phase. There's so many thoughts that race around. Do I pass? Is this person transphobic? Does my chest pass? Should I keep my jacket to hide my chest so I can pass? When will I ever get hormones so I can pass? Do I make people uncomfortable because I don't pass? Are they gonna jump me because I'm different? Do I still pass when I do this? Is this something a normal guy would do?
+Epic Fires Hey, I know it's tough but it really does get better. You'll find a way to deal with it and one day all this will seem like such a long time ago and worth it for where you will be.
My parents aren't very accepting , they don't call me by my preferred pronouns or name. They get mad at me for wearing the clothes i do, and keep trying to persuade me to grow my hair back out. And whenever i tell them my reason as to why i don't want to, they respond with the same thing each time. "You're too young to know what you want, just be normal." and i'm like lol k thanks.
Awh I’m sorry to hear. My parents still use she her pronouns on me too but I’ve never told them about my preferred name or pronouns. I’ve also never asked them about getting me clothes that I want. But I’m probably going to end up asking them about that, soon.
Your the one who wasn't being very accepting on what you had when you were born and now u gonna blame to ur parents who just want you to appreciate it and they accept you that you were born being a girl and don't want your life to get ruined? Disgusting daughter
Thank you so much for the videos you do, Jammi. I'm only newly 'out' and am having an extremely hard time with dysphoria, especially since I can't bind or start T for quite some time due to chestfeeding my little one. Getting a haircut and filtering out clothes I don't like to wear have helped quite a bit, and I'll have to start working out and looking into what I have to do to change my name, once I've decided on a middle name.
thabks for making this video. i’ve never been diagnosed with dysphoria (so i technically are not officially trans, but i’m 99.9999% sure i am. anyways,) i recently have been crushed mentally by my dysphoria and it’s bad, but watching videos really help
I recently bought a christmas sweater that makes my shoulders look wider, and I'm wearing it to it practically all the time! (practically because I do wash it when it gets dirty)
Thank you very much, this helps a bunch. My family doesn't know i'm a ftm and it's a pain. My dysphoria was blank when I wanted to be with a girl but it recently came back and I can't deal with it anymore. Mother and father wont let my get boy-short hair because they don't want me to look like a male. I can't bind because y mom has a keen eye...and my voice is already deep to where I dont need to worry about it. I've gotten to the point where i'm getting more and more depressed about this and I had to look for a answer. Thank you again.
While I cannot relate to going through Dysphoria I give you 100% praise and respect in sharing your experience with others. Really admirable and awe-inspiring listening to your story. Keep up with the great videos and stay awesome. Many wishes of success and love going out to you!
I’m 12 and my dysphoria has become 10x worse lately. I’ve been worrying so much about passing, but my family still calls me by she/her pronouns because I haven’t come out yet. Every time my mom is talking to someone she always makes a point to say SHE or HER or DAUGHTER because she thinks that even though I look like a 12 year old boy, I still want to be called a girl? Idk. A week or two ago I came out to my friend, and she has been really supportive and talking with her has really made me feel better. My parents are super supporting and everything and I know they would be ok with me being trans, but it just gets caught on the tip of my tongue. I’ve been trying really hard to find the right time, but I’ve come to realize that there will never be “a right time” and I just have to do it or else I’ll end up killing myself. It’s just so much for me to handle and being trans sucks. Like, of all people why couldn’t I have just been born a boy? It just isn’t fucking fair and it’s just a constant spiral in my head 😭
.. I'm 11, so it's going to be 5 years before I'm allowed to go on T. I've battled on and off with depression due to the dysphoria. One thing that I've found is that I get really envious. Since all of my friends are boys, I get really jealous of them and the fact that they are growing like regular teenage boys. My main issue though, is my face shape and figure. I only have B cups, but binding hurts my chest. And yes before any of you ask it was the right size. KT Tape pulls my skin off when I remove it, and theresnothing I can do to alleviate the dysphoria from my face shape. Is there anyone in the comments section in a similar situation as me with any advice to offer a fellow struggling trans guy?
Jamie Metcalfe yo I’m the same age as you and experience the same things. I usually find smaller kids bra to wear under my other bra instead of a binder. It sort of makes it look like a man boob instead.
I wouldn't suggest wearing tape as a binding method, tape can do serious damage to your ribs. Wearing binders or sport bras are a lot more comfortable and don't hurt as much.
Funny...even before I seriously considered that I might be trans, I gravitated towards baseball shirts and other styles that emphasized my shoulders de-emphasized any curves. I didn't do it on purpose. They just made me feel better.
my mom wants me to wear dresses, do my hair and makeup to attract boys and get a boyfriend..i'm having a mental breakdown, i have a girlfriend and i'm trans ftm, help please?
do you have any tips for people who are still in the closet? I'm not out yet and I have anxiety attacks quite often because of the overwhelming discomfort I feel with my body. I'd appreciate anything you could suggest :)
also to add to when you were talking about shaving, with females if you shave any hair on your face or anything that isn't supposed to be shaved then it grows back black or just darker after awhile. so if that's something that you want to do then you can keep shaving and eventually have darker hairs grow back in those spots where you shave and get facial hair
My friend recently came out as trans and I'm watching ur videos cuz I really wanna understand what it's like for him and Ik u probs won't see this but thank you :)
I'm not sure if I'm trans or not but I'm always feeling more like a guy and I just never really feel like a girl but I do wear boys clothes and act more masculine and I feel so much better as my male side of who I have named "Levi" who uses male pronouns and is a guy overall but my female side (my biological sex) "Chloe" who is a girl and is supposed to love more feminine things. (Sorry if that last part sounds weird but I didn't know how else to put it). I have semi long hair but it's super thick and I absolutely hate it cause it's super hard to manage. It's the main reason I have dysphoria but my parents say "no you'll look like a boy" I can't tell them because I'm not completely sure myself yet and I'm still so many years away from even being able to seem to have an opinion about my hair around my parents. If I were to cut it I feel as if my parents (mainly my dad) would freak out and my dad would probably break something in the house and most likely hit me. He's slapped me across the face 4 times on Christmas leaving bleeding cuts in my mouth from my braces from not washing my hands after touching a ball that had glitter on it. I feel like they really wouldn't support me if I were to be trans anyway I can't tell my dad anything in fear I might end up in the hospital and him end up in jail. I've been asking for just a pixie cut that goes up to my nose for 3 years and now he only makes fun of me and gets hostile over the fact of me asking for a normal haircut. I've actually started cutting and crying myself to sleep some nights because of how much my dysphoria has effected me along with all my other disorders that I can't get help for because they will only make fun of me for having. I'm still really young and feel like ending my life almost every day I really need some help on how to convince my parents to let me get a pixie cut before everything gets so much worse.
I'm nonbinary (not male or female) and I went through something similar. My father wouldn't let me cut my hair short when I first asked so it was long for a really long time. When I was 17 I started getting it cut shorter each time i got a haircut. It did get short enough that my father complained that I looked like a boy, but he didn't stop me. (He was never physically abusive so I'm not saying you should do the same thing since I don't know your father) when I was 18 I got my first "men's" haircut. My father didn't like it, but since I made it a gradual process, he was more tolerant of it. I went through a stage where I thought I was always going to have to have long hair and live as a woman, but now my hair is short and my father has even agreed to cover the cost of top surgery. I know it's hard right now, but hang in there because it is so worth it. I really wish my 17 year old self could see me now because I never thought I would get his far. If you want to talk more you can email me at foxshowlrp@gmail.com
Christina Gutierrez thanks for the advice I really needed it around my parents I identify as a girl but I right now identify as non-binary too around my friends and stuff while I'm still figuring things out
I was talking to my mom about how I wanted to get a pair of wide chinos(pants) cause all my baggier old navy pants were turning into skinny jeans (4 months later) and she says that I grew, referencing not my height but my thighs. As in, 'becoming a woman'. That doesn't happen in 4 months, I need to stop thinking about it I need help just in case
Ive been questioning my gender for some months now. The past weeks I have found that my dysphoria has gotten worse the more I start accepting?/questioning if I'm trans. Like, I'll get really happy and euphoric when imagining myself as a boy and then I'll get really sad and stuff when I ask myself "what if I'm actually cis, what if I'm a g i r l?". I have other mental issues so its even harder and Im just really confused but also I kind of want to accept that Im trans, and am a boy but then I start doubting myself and start crying because I get so anxious. What if I'm pretending? Is it too early to know? God, I am so confused. I tell myself that I should wait until I feel better mentally (I'm in a very depressive episode, have been for the past weeks) and then I can see if I'm actually trans or if I have been mistaken. Gaaah I just really dont wanna be wrong about this, I have social anxiety so I super wanna be sure of myself before I come out to my school or my family. I have told my closest friend that I think I'm trans and I have given them my new name and that feels so great! But I'm still in a lot of pain the more I long for getting to transition and the more I watch others live happily as who they are. Gah this is frustrating. (ftm, he/him)
From the friend of a transgender person, is there anything i can do to make them more comfortable as they start their physical transition? He often doesn't want to hang out or meet up with me because he's afraid he won't pass or an old friend will call him by his old girl name. I don't like him locking himself up in the house all the time, but I'm not sure how best to help. Any advice?
this gave me hope to keep living tonight, thank you
You still alive?
you still alive?
💛
Hope live is going much better for you ❤️❤️❤️
Same
Jamie, you have a very positive aura about you. I can't explain it, but every time I see you, i break into a smile because you make me happy. Today's video is also very helpful for ways to get out of a down period. Thanks for that and for being the good positive person you are. Kudos!
okimlistening2u Thank you so much! Glad the video is helpful :)
Thanks for making this video. My dysphoria is really worsening, I can't even look into a mirror anymore, without wanting to cry and hide in my bed.
Yeah me too. It's really bad.
Unknowncappy me too. It’s been so bad I’ve been crying and having panic attacks.
Unknowncappy Me too...Can barely get up in the morning.
Same with me
are you doing better now?
I know I personally sent something to your ask box about dysphoria, but hearing you talk about it was really helpful as well. Thank you so much Jamie! :)
Savvy Patten Awesome, glad you found it helpful, thanks! :)
It just isn't fair. I'm 14 and I have to be this way. Everyone else around me gets to have the right body, but I'm not allowed to! Costs so much and I'm supposed to be older and I'm not mature enough apparently, and "if it's a phase," we gotta be sure. I sure as hell wish it was only a phase. There's so many thoughts that race around. Do I pass? Is this person transphobic? Does my chest pass? Should I keep my jacket to hide my chest so I can pass? When will I ever get hormones so I can pass? Do I make people uncomfortable because I don't pass? Are they gonna jump me because I'm different? Do I still pass when I do this? Is this something a normal guy would do?
+Epic Fires Hey, I know it's tough but it really does get better. You'll find a way to deal with it and one day all this will seem like such a long time ago and worth it for where you will be.
Jammidodger Thanks...
It's been a year since I posted this comment. Right now I'm doing so much better (like you have no idea). I'm so glad I pushed through.
Epic Fires Im more: “LETS SLICE OFF MY BREASTS WITH SCISSORS HAHAHAHAHA.” While a voice in my head tells me im a girl and i’ll never be a man :)
same man every single day
My parents aren't very accepting , they don't call me by my preferred pronouns or name. They get mad at me for wearing the clothes i do, and keep trying to persuade me to grow my hair back out. And whenever i tell them my reason as to why i don't want to, they respond with the same thing each time. "You're too young to know what you want, just be normal." and i'm like lol k thanks.
Just your average waste of space That isn’t a parent that a demon.
Same dude...same...
Awh I’m sorry to hear. My parents still use she her pronouns on me too but I’ve never told them about my preferred name or pronouns. I’ve also never asked them about getting me clothes that I want. But I’m probably going to end up asking them about that, soon.
Same
Your the one who wasn't being very accepting on what you had when you were born and now u gonna blame to ur parents who just want you to appreciate it and they accept you that you were born being a girl and don't want your life to get ruined? Disgusting daughter
Thank you so much for the videos you do, Jammi. I'm only newly 'out' and am having an extremely hard time with dysphoria, especially since I can't bind or start T for quite some time due to chestfeeding my little one. Getting a haircut and filtering out clothes I don't like to wear have helped quite a bit, and I'll have to start working out and looking into what I have to do to change my name, once I've decided on a middle name.
I love your voice in this video. I was watching because I am experiencing really bad dysphoria.
thabks for making this video. i’ve never been diagnosed with dysphoria (so i technically are not officially trans, but i’m 99.9999% sure i am. anyways,) i recently have been crushed mentally by my dysphoria and it’s bad, but watching videos really help
how are you doing now?
ive been watching jammi's channel for a while and have been struggling with dysphoria for a bit, finding this video really made me happy:))
@L thanks man.
Lately dysphoria has been killing me, this is really helpful, thank you
I recently bought a christmas sweater that makes my shoulders look wider, and I'm wearing it to it practically all the time! (practically because I do wash it when it gets dirty)
Hey Jamie, thanks a lot for sharing your experience on this.
Thank you very much, this helps a bunch.
My family doesn't know i'm a ftm and it's a pain.
My dysphoria was blank when I wanted to be with a girl but it recently came back and I can't deal with it anymore.
Mother and father wont let my get boy-short hair because they don't want me to look like a male.
I can't bind because y mom has a keen eye...and my voice is already deep to where I dont need to worry about it.
I've gotten to the point where i'm getting more and more depressed about this and I had to look for a answer.
Thank you again.
While I cannot relate to going through Dysphoria I give you 100% praise and respect in sharing your experience with others. Really admirable and awe-inspiring listening to your story. Keep up with the great videos and stay awesome. Many wishes of success and love going out to you!
Damn, 8 years ago, but still awsome as usual
I’m 12 and my dysphoria has become 10x worse lately. I’ve been worrying so much about passing, but my family still calls me by she/her pronouns because I haven’t come out yet. Every time my mom is talking to someone she always makes a point to say SHE or HER or DAUGHTER because she thinks that even though I look like a 12 year old boy, I still want to be called a girl? Idk. A week or two ago I came out to my friend, and she has been really supportive and talking with her has really made me feel better. My parents are super supporting and everything and I know they would be ok with me being trans, but it just gets caught on the tip of my tongue. I’ve been trying really hard to find the right time, but I’ve come to realize that there will never be “a right time” and I just have to do it or else I’ll end up killing myself. It’s just so much for me to handle and being trans sucks. Like, of all people why couldn’t I have just been born a boy? It just isn’t fucking fair and it’s just a constant spiral in my head 😭
These may be some life saving tips to some people.
Good advice! I'll keep them in mind! And also, you bring out alot of glorious energy in me, thank you!
Raglan sleeves. i love raglan sleeves, they do make one look broader! Can you do tips on finding clothes to hide a binder under?
.. I'm 11, so it's going to be 5 years before I'm allowed to go on T. I've battled on and off with depression due to the dysphoria. One thing that I've found is that I get really envious. Since all of my friends are boys, I get really jealous of them and the fact that they are growing like regular teenage boys. My main issue though, is my face shape and figure. I only have B cups, but binding hurts my chest. And yes before any of you ask it was the right size. KT Tape pulls my skin off when I remove it, and theresnothing I can do to alleviate the dysphoria from my face shape. Is there anyone in the comments section in a similar situation as me with any advice to offer a fellow struggling trans guy?
Jamie Metcalfe yo I’m the same age as you and experience the same things. I usually find smaller kids bra to wear under my other bra instead of a binder. It sort of makes it look like a man boob instead.
I wouldn't suggest wearing tape as a binding method, tape can do serious damage to your ribs. Wearing binders or sport bras are a lot more comfortable and don't hurt as much.
Hi jamie, how are you doing? It's been a while and you should be around my age by this time. How are things?
How are you doing ?
Hey, are you OK? It's been a while. Hope your doing better now
2 years wait list to first appointment of going to a psychologist is like a death sentence
The thought of having my period just disgust me so much i hate it
Funny...even before I seriously considered that I might be trans, I gravitated towards baseball shirts and other styles that emphasized my shoulders de-emphasized any curves. I didn't do it on purpose. They just made me feel better.
I am a boy. Im so sick of “ur not old enough for that.”
my mom wants me to wear dresses, do my hair and makeup to attract boys and get a boyfriend..i'm having a mental breakdown, i have a girlfriend and i'm trans ftm, help please?
do you have any tips for people who are still in the closet? I'm not out yet and I have anxiety attacks quite often because of the overwhelming discomfort I feel with my body. I'd appreciate anything you could suggest :)
Wow watching this in december 2017 and you seem so much more comfortable in front of the camera now !
also to add to when you were talking about shaving, with females if you shave any hair on your face or anything that isn't supposed to be shaved then it grows back black or just darker after awhile. so if that's something that you want to do then you can keep shaving and eventually have darker hairs grow back in those spots where you shave and get facial hair
Moments ago i was crying about dysphoria lol i hate life
This video has made me feel so much more hopefull!
My friend recently came out as trans and I'm watching ur videos cuz I really wanna understand what it's like for him and Ik u probs won't see this but thank you :)
I'm not sure if I'm trans or not but I'm always feeling more like a guy and I just never really feel like a girl but I do wear boys clothes and act more masculine and I feel so much better as my male side of who I have named "Levi" who uses male pronouns and is a guy overall but my female side (my biological sex) "Chloe" who is a girl and is supposed to love more feminine things. (Sorry if that last part sounds weird but I didn't know how else to put it). I have semi long hair but it's super thick and I absolutely hate it cause it's super hard to manage. It's the main reason I have dysphoria but my parents say "no you'll look like a boy" I can't tell them because I'm not completely sure myself yet and I'm still so many years away from even being able to seem to have an opinion about my hair around my parents. If I were to cut it I feel as if my parents (mainly my dad) would freak out and my dad would probably break something in the house and most likely hit me. He's slapped me across the face 4 times on Christmas leaving bleeding cuts in my mouth from my braces from not washing my hands after touching a ball that had glitter on it. I feel like they really wouldn't support me if I were to be trans anyway I can't tell my dad anything in fear I might end up in the hospital and him end up in jail. I've been asking for just a pixie cut that goes up to my nose for 3 years and now he only makes fun of me and gets hostile over the fact of me asking for a normal haircut. I've actually started cutting and crying myself to sleep some nights because of how much my dysphoria has effected me along with all my other disorders that I can't get help for because they will only make fun of me for having. I'm still really young and feel like ending my life almost every day I really need some help on how to convince my parents to let me get a pixie cut before everything gets so much worse.
I'm nonbinary (not male or female) and I went through something similar. My father wouldn't let me cut my hair short when I first asked so it was long for a really long time. When I was 17 I started getting it cut shorter each time i got a haircut. It did get short enough that my father complained that I looked like a boy, but he didn't stop me. (He was never physically abusive so I'm not saying you should do the same thing since I don't know your father) when I was 18 I got my first "men's" haircut. My father didn't like it, but since I made it a gradual process, he was more tolerant of it. I went through a stage where I thought I was always going to have to have long hair and live as a woman, but now my hair is short and my father has even agreed to cover the cost of top surgery. I know it's hard right now, but hang in there because it is so worth it. I really wish my 17 year old self could see me now because I never thought I would get his far. If you want to talk more you can email me at foxshowlrp@gmail.com
Christina Gutierrez thanks for the advice I really needed it around my parents I identify as a girl but I right now identify as non-binary too around my friends and stuff while I'm still figuring things out
xXBAKA BOYXx you're welcome. I hope things work out for you
Honestly my dysphoria is killing me rn but hopefully Its a phase
was it a phase?
I need to know how are you now
Real
I was talking to my mom about how I wanted to get a pair of wide chinos(pants) cause all my baggier old navy pants were turning into skinny jeans (4 months later) and she says that I grew, referencing not my height but my thighs. As in, 'becoming a woman'. That doesn't happen in 4 months, I need to stop thinking about it I need help just in case
Ive been questioning my gender for some months now. The past weeks I have found that my dysphoria has gotten worse the more I start accepting?/questioning if I'm trans. Like, I'll get really happy and euphoric when imagining myself as a boy and then I'll get really sad and stuff when I ask myself "what if I'm actually cis, what if I'm a g i r l?". I have other mental issues so its even harder and Im just really confused but also I kind of want to accept that Im trans, and am a boy but then I start doubting myself and start crying because I get so anxious. What if I'm pretending? Is it too early to know? God, I am so confused. I tell myself that I should wait until I feel better mentally (I'm in a very depressive episode, have been for the past weeks) and then I can see if I'm actually trans or if I have been mistaken. Gaaah I just really dont wanna be wrong about this, I have social anxiety so I super wanna be sure of myself before I come out to my school or my family. I have told my closest friend that I think I'm trans and I have given them my new name and that feels so great! But I'm still in a lot of pain the more I long for getting to transition and the more I watch others live happily as who they are. Gah this is frustrating.
(ftm, he/him)
Thank you for this video! 💖
You were such a cutie, when you were Pre-T and now your voice is so deep and you are really attractiv :)
Thanks jamie
I have to wait 3 years to get on T it's so annoying
Very pleasant and helpful. Thank you so much :)
Do you have any tips for dealing with dysphoria while in the closet?
From the friend of a transgender person, is there anything i can do to make them more comfortable as they start their physical transition? He often doesn't want to hang out or meet up with me because he's afraid he won't pass or an old friend will call him by his old girl name. I don't like him locking himself up in the house all the time, but I'm not sure how best to help. Any advice?
Awesome advices:)
Thanks
My parents aren't letting me even change my name. But my friends and girlfriend are using it.
thank you, i like you!!!!
Why can't I just be a dude? 😭I'm miserable why can't I just have the right body
I have to wait at least 2 years till I can start t
Same, i wish you the best of luck!
@@lunarsystem have you started t
Have you started t yet?
Dif you start?
I'm 13 so I cant take T :')
Ay yo same
You’re 14 now, you still wishing for T? (Me too)
You remind me so much of Tyler Posey
Currently going through it and finding it hard to tell my parents.... any advice?
chris Helstrip well, how accepting are your parents?
Ive told my parents since, and happily they are very accepting, ive been to the my doctors as well and im bieng reffered, everything is going well
@@alicehelstrip6520 glad to hear that
Hay I just come trans but scared to tell doctor
grc?
Gender recognition certificate, it can be used to change your birth certificate.
but what if you can't afford surgeries