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I may be a sweet summer child as they call them. Until I clicked the link, I couldn't tell at all they were sex toys.
😭😭😭😭
Yeah, I’m one of the people that can’t use them - they induce violent vomiting for me (I have autism, so it’s possible that that is why), so I don’t know if I’m missing out, as I can’t use them, but I’m very happy and secure in my ace identity, and have very good, close ‘friends’ instead!
Why are they called microphones, lol
I need to warn you, if you order from EU, customs are VERY expensive and not shown up front. And you need to contact the shop autonomously to get the money back. Had trouble with this when I ordered (another UA-camr also had them as sponsor).
My trans confession is that I accidentally came out to my PE teacher because I have a panic disorder. We were taking a tour of the gym area, and she told the girls to explore the girls locker room, and for the boys to explore the boys locker room.
I freaked out because I'm a closeted trans guy, but I pass most of the time. Going into the girls room would be awkward, and there aren't enough lockers in the boys room.
Because I was so conflicted, I stood in the hall and had a panic attack. The teacher noticed and waited until the students were gone, and she asked me if I was going to use the nurse's room instead. She told me that it's okay and I don't have to go into the locker rooms.
She's an amazing teacher and I'm so glad she didn't do the whole, "tough love, you're going into the girls locker room" thing.
I'm so glad you have a supportive adult in your life. I hope it all gets easier for you, and wish you all the joy in your journey x
you know, despite my gym teacher outing me to the entire counseling department (!), I do give him credit for not making me use locker rooms, so that’s nice at least
Aw, trans kids! We love you! There is a whole bunch of loving and affirming people in the world. It will get easier!
Can you clarify re closeted but passing? Like stealth?
@SpecialBlanket
So I haven't come out as trans yet to my school or most of my family. (Only my mom and stepdad know and I have 9 siblings)
For those that have seen my legal records, they think I'm just a really masculine girl or a trans person. But for people who don't know my legal name or sex, they assume I'm a cis guy.
I hope that makes sense? My deadname is also constantly mistaken as 'William' instead of 'Lillian', so most classmates don't know. The ones that do know have heard my dead name shortened to 'Lilli', which can't be interpreted as masculine. (I'm not uncomfortable sharing my deadname btw.)
I'm way to anxious to come out to my school, especially because I used to live in a state that made it so teachers had to out trans students to parents.
I may have gone on a little ramble, but I hope this cleared things up a little :)
"why would a surgeon steal your nipples?" Got me DYING
it was me, i am the nipple thief, fear me
MEDIC GAMING
How about you mind your own business?
I could understand being worried about forgetting to put them back, not purposely stealing them.
@@ChaquetaB fr
For the first three weeks after I came out as non binary, my brother kept on saying “can’t you just use she/her pronouns, it will be easier for everyone” multiple times a day and I got sick of it so I started talking about him using she/her pronouns. My mum joined in and my brother said he wasn’t, but it was clear to see he was extremely bothered by it. Fast forward to now and he is one of the most active members in the diversity and inclusion group at his workplace and has even given presentations, designed pride artwork for the brand and has talked with his manager about it becoming permanent instead of just being on display in June. I tear up thinking about how far he’s come as an ally
That is amazing, I hear lots of stories of younger brothers not being supportive and even starting fights... Your story gives me a little hope for us all.
My trans confession is : One day i really REALLY had to pee and even if i hate public restroom, i had to go in it, i did my business and...my packer fell and roll down to the next cabin , the dude yelled : WHAT IS THAT ?! And my first reaction was to laugh , quickly grab my packer and say : Omg sorry for the random wee-wee attack lmao. The guy was comprehensive and laugh back and we laugh about it for a rough 15 min and i've made a friend that day :)
I C O N I C. Way to roll with the punches.
Lol, this actually made me laugh out loud! He was probably so scared for a second 😭
Now this was definitely the best way to deal with the situation but hear me out, it would have been funny to scream OH MY GOD IT'S FALLEN OF.
"Why would a surgeon steal your nipples?" caught me so off guard in the intro
Probably because the women's nipples have to be saved in case the women still want to be women and breast feed.
same😂
Mine took my nipples but only because i didn't want them in the first place lol
Cis woman with a mastectomy here. Your breast prostheses won't stay securely in your bra without pockets. There are bras and swimsuits that come with mastectomy pockets, but there's more variety if you sew in your own pockets or pay a department store that does alterations to sew some in for you. Can confirm: you need the pockets. 😅
Well, there are some ways to "securely attach them" to your skin (seen videos but never tried it) but pockets I presume would be more comfortable.
Honestly - came to the comments to say the same thing. It's pretty easy if you are familiar with sewing!
“Her pronouns are they/them!!”
Literally my friends 💀💀
this would happen if my friends actually understood that I'm they/them
Those don't seem like very... understanding friends
@@IronsuabaAt least they’re trying?
My friend has done smth similar before, more then once ^^' but we both get to laugh at it because my friend even misgenders cis people due to calling everyone the same pronoun and forgetting others exist. Brains are silly sometimes
Happened to me. His pronouns are it/its
here’s a fun confession for you: i lived with my grandma for a while and as a packer i used a ✨phallic ✨ stress ball. it was basically just silicone filled with some weird liquid, and i didn’t have a pouch or anything so i just shoved the thing in my underwear and then washed it every morning and every night. one morning, i was washing the thing, patting it dry with a towel, and. it exploded. because i’d used it every day, the silicone was worn, so it broke. at the tip.
right at the tip of my penis, the silicone tore, and it exploded, all over my shirt. weird, pink liquid stained my shirt, and i panicked. not knowing what to do, not knowing what to say to my granny, i locked myself in the downstairs bathroom and tried to (badly) wash the stains out in the shower with powdered laundry detergent, and once i rinsed off as much as possible, i hung the shirt to dry in the laundry room, and rushed to school.
i got home later that evening with my then boyfriend, and the first thing my granny does is show me the shirt, still stained, still covered in laundry detergent, and she asks me what i was thinking because “you don’t hand wash clothes like this!” and again i panicked and gave her some bogus excuse about spilling yogurt or something on myself, because as close as i am to my granny, i could never tell her that the reason why my shirt had mystery stains on it was because my dick exploded.
oh noo
what is a packer?
Your penis was peeing pink liquid lol. I also love how your grandma's first worry was that you didn't know how to use laundry detergent
@@the6278a packer is basically a thing you put into your pants to act like a certain "special organ".
RIP. I hope you were able to get the stain out.
I woke up from anaesthetic after having male to female genital surgery and said “my fucking fanny is on fire” to which the staff started laughing at the response so did I when I realised what I said.
Ah, you went for the 'flaming vag' option? I considered that, but I thought all the burnt knickers would be too expensive, so I just went for the vanilla option instead. Are they just static flames, or can you fire mini fireballs as well?
My dude. I am ROARING. I’m sitting here imagining a surgeon playing “got your nipples!” instead of “got your nose!” 🤣🤣☠️
A little fun story of something that happened to me last December.
At the time I (mtf) was only out to my immediate family and a few close friends, but as I worked from home I was able to dress how I wanted all day. Well the one day, one of my neighbours posted a Christmas card through my letterbox, and I decided to return the favour. Having written out the card the night before, I waited until most of the people in my street had gone off to work, including the neighbour in question. I then put on a coat over the dress that I was wearing, along with a pair of ankle boots, before walking round to their house. I walked down the path to their front door and as I was about to push the car though their letter box, my neighbours partner opened the door!!! As there was no chance of hiding, or running given the heels on the boots, I had no choice but to come clean.
And that is how I came out to my neighbour. Luckily they have been very accepting, and we now chat on a regular basis, as I am now out to the world, and no longer have second thoughts about standing outside talking to them.
Congratulations on building up your confidence! I wish you joy on your journey
You aren't trying very hard.
@@GeLowBrandowtf is your problem? Leave the woman alone!
@@vocalsunleashed That's as much a woman as I'm a black man.
I recently saw on Tumblr this post: "Yesterday my packer fell out of my pants in an Olive Garden bathroom, and as I put it back, I saw a boy about ten years old staring in horror. I said without thinking: "That's what happens when you don't eat your vegetables." Later I walked past his table and saw him inhaling salad at a speed no human should be capable of."
😂😂😂😂
Oh no! 😅😂
I just realized, that kid is going to tell that story some day and the people he tells it to are going to be *very* confused 😂
Chaotic good! 😂
I once was setting up the flags for the lgbt club i go to, and the non binary flag kept sliding off the chair, and when it stayed, i said "now be a good boy and stay" to the nb flag T-T as i walked away i swivelled and was like *hold on a minute somethin aint right*
How dare you misgender that poor flag (joking). In all seriousness, it's a natural thing in the english language to use gendered language for non-living and therefore genderless things. Dunno why. It's always kinda bothered me, and yet I catch myself doing it all the time. Incidentally, I tend to default to masculine, the same as you did.
@@animeartist888 Funnily enough with people I often think "they look nice/cute/pretty/etc" even though they are very masculine/feminine presenting. I still default to gender neutral pronouns in my head most of the time. As for objects not wanting to stay put, I often say "you little b*tch" so it's gender neutral too, haha.
My native language (German) is very gendered and I hate it. We don't have gender neutral pronouns and I can't easily talk about people (like artists on the internet) who I don't know the gender of. Always have to use "the artist" or "the person" and then use the gendered pronoun that came with that in the following sentences. I really hate this language.. (I'm enby/agender so it might bother me more because of that.. I'm just glad I don't care about my own pronouns so I don't mind people using "she" for me, in English I'd probably use all three, because none of them feel particularly right/wrong.)
@@animeartist888 not even talking about non-english, especially Latin languages where objects have a grammatical gender. A flag is a boy here in France apparently
lmao
some nonbinary people can still like being referred to with certain gendered terms for example if they're genderfluid that's under the nonbinary umbrella, and what the comments said above some gendered language is still used for genderless things so it doesn't rly matter either way hehe :3
when my ex friend went with me to talk about pronouns to one of my teacher she decided to not only not let me speak but also said "she wants to change her pronouns to he/him" when my pronouns werent even he/him
With friends like that, who needs -therapy- enemies?
...and now Caterpillar is going to play in my head for the rest of the day, & I ain't even mad. It's on my 150+ song bowling playlist, as well as Close to Me🖤
@@sashadoom I love close to me it makes me feel so claustrophobic both the song and the music video
Dang
I don't get people, why even think of acting like that¿? Good you've unfriended that one.
@@undefinederror40404 exactly like, it's ok if you accidentally get my pronouns wrong but she didn't let me get a single word in and acted like i had to get approval to change my pronouns and like I hadn't already changed them.
Im a trans guy and DUDE MY FRIEND JUST CAME OUT TO ME AS (Maybe trans) NON BINARY SO THIS VIDEO SEEMS SO WELL TIMED AND PERFECT. If you see this Sam i love you no matter what.
enby IS trans. anyone who isnt cis, is trans. Binary trans is a SUB of trans.
As an enby person with many trans friends I love that you adore your friend no matter how they identify. It’s great! :DD
@@lucanusafrost I want your friends. I’m stuck with the sorta people who decide what they think trans people think, then proclaiming that the people they’ve made up, with thought processes they’ve made up, are wrong and stupid, so therefore are all other trans people.
Did they steal your nipples
Sam has the support of us all❤
4:37 Bra inserts fell out 😕
What Jammie said: "I hope no one else noticed."
What the Insta-pun™ center of my brain immediately spat out: "I hope no one else no-tits'd."
My ex used to take hers out and throw them at people😂
That is golden!
@@YourQueerGreatAuntie If it made you smile, my work here is done☺
I don't blame her lol. I'd do that if I could.
As someone who plays badminton, I have unlocked a new fear.
As a queer and a parent, I feel you on being of two minds about what parents who “know” should do. I’ve landed on raising my kids (10, 6, and 4) so that from birth they know whoever they grow up to be, whoever they grow up to love, they will be loved and accepted. That way, they can come out when/if they want to, and know that acceptance is already there. So far it’s working! My oldest commented casually the other day, “mom? Am I going to be allowed to date when I’m older? If I decide I want a boyfriend or girlfriend?” She knows any and all options are open to her. It just rolled off her tongue, as easily as if bigotry and hatred aren’t things that exist. Not going to lie, it made me tear up and healed some old childhood wounds for me.
My ftm partner is having a baby rn. He decided to go ahead and use the typical pronouns and assume the baby is cis unless baby tells him otherwise when older. Considering the situation I bet child would be comfortable
Personally when the day comes for me to have children I'm planning on raising them so they are aware of all the various different identities and sexual and romantic orientations just in case they realize they are lgbtqia+ so they will be equipped with the proper words to tell me
At my current job I work with mostly women. The only men in the lab are me and the pathologist. Somehow the conversation got around to babies and pregnancy and I, having had 2 kids, was naturally taking part in the conversation. One of the cytotechs (who i get along with really well but she'd only been there for about six months at the time) was looking at me in utter confusion. I didn't notice right away and even when I did I thought maybe I had described something weird. Then one of the histotechs yelled from the other side of the room, "Girl! He's trans! He can do babies!"
I had no idea she didn't know I was a trans man. Apparently, it hadn't come up until then! It was very funny, though. She was so embarrassed because she (her words) didn't think that maybe the reason a man would be describing his experience with pregnancy is because he's trans.
My ftm partner is 7mo pregnant right now!!!
@SpecialBlanket Congratulations!
Hopefully, he doesn't squeeze your hand so hard he sprains it. I did that to my husband; he didn't tell me until the next day. 🤦♂️
I feel the title! When I came out my friends kept fiercely defending me saying "she's a boy!" and then realising their mistake lmao
The amounts of time someone entered a bathroom, saw me, stepped back to look at the sign on the door again to see if they’re in the right bathroom…… dozens of dozens of times.
Yes! I've had someone do the same, then check with someone else to make sure, and need me to adjust my clothes to be more gender conforming so they don't start to make a fuss.
Why are people so anxious and confused?
@@jaseablue8434 yep, like it's a bathroom, use it
@@jaseablue8434 I just want to go unnoticed when im in there is all
This has happened to me a few times 😅
@@BeeTreeOil Just take a pee like a normal person. You are creeping the rest of us out by washing off your stp in the sink and drying it off with the hand blower before putting back in your pants.
I’ve been watching this channel as a cis(tm) for so long 💀 but anyway I finally have a story! lol
When I was seventeen my transphobic father was *ahem* removed from my life (my mom got fed up with his sh*t and kicked him out). Pretty much from then on I was having thoughts like “can cis people get top surgery?” and “I can’t be trans; I don’t feel like a guy! I mean I don’t feel like a girl either but there’s no way!” So for the next THREE YEARS I was like “god I wish I could get top surgery” and somehow didn’t get it.
Then I went to college and literally all of my new friends (and my best friend, who had known me for like four years) clocked me INSTANTLY. I HADN’T EVEN CLOCKED MYSELF. I even ended up getting a binder for a cosplay and I was like “oh I’m flat this is great!” and still didn’t get it.
Finally I ended up having to go to the doctor for something involving… the things that would be removed if I had top surgery and the doctor refused to believe there’s something wrong with me (there definitely is lmao) and just blamed my autism. When my mom and I both said no it’s not just the autism, the doctor was like “well have you considered that you might be trans or nonbinary?” JUST so she didn’t have to admit there was something wrong with me.
I just sat there staring at the floor having a crisis for the next ten minutes 😅
So like she’s right (I am nonbinary) but I’m so annoyed THAT is what finally made me realize 😂
Congratulations on getting there! And great that your mum is so supportive
@@YourQueerGreatAuntie Thank you ❤
I suppose better to have your egg cracked like that than to never crack it and always be uncomfortable and unsure why? Really terrible doctor, though. I hope you found a different one who was more respectful and understanding.
Your story confirm how much of a fade top surgery is.
You want it just because everyone is going on about how great it is. But it's not great it is just a way for doctors to make money off of people who are brainwashed into the T culture.
15:47 I had a similar experience, I’m trans masc, was on hormones and top surgery for over 5 years. There was one point in my life where I had long hair and eyeliner to allow femininity in myself again. As I was washing up an old guy walked into the bathroom, froze and frantically looked at the mens bathroom sign and gave me an odd glare. I turned to him and said in the deepest voice I could do: “how’s it going?”
Man was so baffled he had no words
If someone has a vagina, that person goes to the vagina room.
My surgeon placed my left nipple in the wrong place! He insisted it would heal in the right place, but that never happened so at a follow up, without any warning, he decided to cut it out and reattach in the right place that day. Anyway, it healed but lost all pigment/shape and I had to get it tattooed by a tattoo artist who specialized in nipple tattoos for cancer survivors. So, just to say, while it prob won’t happen to you, there are legit nipple fears. And also, even though my surgeon f’ed up, it turned out fine in the end.
My tired brain was reading your comment and imagined the surgeon grabbing your nipple and ripping it off like a bandaid and placing it back on. That's not how that works lol
7:40 Oof. I once had to deal with a nurse who got very annoyed I answered "When was your last period?" with "I literally just finished telling you I had a hysterectomy a few weeks ago", because apparently "It doesn't matter if you've had a hysterectomy, I need to know the date of your last period to know if you are pregnant". It was about this point I saw the supervisors face appear from behind the desk in increasing levels of horror. He knew me well enough to know I could deal with it, so just let her finish. We got through all of the usual stuff (after she finished berating me) she said "And now I'm gonna get IV supplies" and I just pointed over her shoulder and said "Nope, you're gonna go talk to [supervisors name], someone else is doing my IV". Which they did AFTER redoing the safety questions. Also the date of someone's last period doesn't tell you if they are pregnant. Their last period could've been 3 weeks ago and they're pregnant, or 6 months ago and not pregnant.
She must have missed some days in training...
As a person who is too young for menopause & remembers the date of their surgery, I like to tell people July 2015. It blows their mind.
@@akhagee4707 that's actually really funny 🤭
So... that nurse probably needs to go get a brain scan. How the heck does anyone get through medschool with such a complete lack of basic understanding of how the body works..? She must have hit her head real hard, best to make sure it's not still bleeding internally 😅
@@akhagee4707 oh I know the exact date too. And I'm gonna be too young for menopause for a few decades in total. So I'm gonna be dealing with stuff like this for years.
I just came out to my dad as a lesbian today and it went so much better than expected! He told me he loves me no matter what and that he’d suspected for some time now.
🥳❤️
I can totally understand the taking pride in your chosen name.
I am cis female but fully changed my name in 2021 as a way to symbolize my detaching myself from my toxic past. I take pride whenever anyone compliments my name because I chose it myself. I chose it to define who I am now. So I see someone complimenting my name as complimenting who I am now.
On a separate, but related, note I may have slightly giggled when I found out from one of my siblings I am still in contact with that my mom saw me changing my full name as an attack on her.
legit congrats on that my friend 💪🏻
I’m having top surgery on Thursday… I wasn’t worried about my nipples…. UNTIL NOW!! 😂😂
Gotta watch those sneaky nipple-stealing surgeons!
SAVE YOUR NIPS
Sounds like something to discuss with your surgeon.
@@tealkerberus748 I’m not actually…just joking because of the story where the person was afraid the surgeon had stolen their nipples while under anesthesia.
Congratulations and good luck! 🎉
My trans confession is, i tuck and wear a packer because im nb and have NO IDEA whats going on with me rn
You'll get there, my friend. Be gentle with your good self, and take as much time as you need xox
My afab ass feels the same way about my chest. I don't even know if I want these dang things.
I'm pangender, it can get very confusing feeling all genders almost simultaneously. I'm afab but I feel masc, but at the same time fem, and a complicated mix of both...but also neither. So I can completely understand tucking & using a packer, it could perhaps help figure out a confusion like that. I've thought about top surgery plenty, especially when I used to suspect I might be ftm, but I have conflicting feelings about boobs (a real love em & hate em...wishing I could detach them at times but then not wanting to be without them, forgetting I have them sometimes then it's "surprise...boooobs!" ).
It's ok to be unsure or confused, you'll either figure it out or you won't (it doesn't always matter, sure it can help, but it isn't always a big deal), but if what you're doing now works for you & continues to do so, then who cares about the 'how', right?
Dude idk if I’m nonbi or trans 😂
it's a different process for everyone that can be long, short, or decent. you can explore terms within the trans community to see which ones best describe you and your experience throughout your life, explore different gender expressions, explore pronouns, etc., however you can explore it however you please and in whichever direction you choose in this process. what matters above all else is your comfort.
cheers from the trans community 🏳️⚧️🤍 !
4 views in 49 seconds, bro is performing just as expected considering the algorithm is still processing the uploading of this video and sending out notifications
This comment only has 3 likes in 2 minutes? Bro fell off :(
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My trans confession is about my last time boymoding:
This story takes place in February 2023. After many years knowing I was trans but choosing to not transition, I (51yo trans woman, 50 at the time of this story) I tested myself to see if I could still experience gender euphoria by buying a cheap bottle of pink nail polish at the dollar store. To my delight, I felt it immediately, and strongly, so I made an appointment to go to my GP, who happened to work at an informed consent clinic in Western Washington, USA. I started HRT in May of 2022.
I won the trans person lottery, insomuch as HRT had a very sudden and positive effect on my mood, enough that I filed my name change paperwork by June, and had a new name and driver's license, complete with a female gender marker by August of that year. All is well, right?
Well, I was working as a 24/7 live in caretaker for a very challenging patient at the time. My days were spent doing some of the most filthy (not in a good way) things imaginable. For this reason, I only went full femme when I was going to the pharmacy, doctor's or shrink's office.I didn't want to be seen boymoding in any of those places, but for things like running to the 7-11 for a pack of smokes (for my boss), I was generally in sweats, a t-shirt and without my wig - fully boymoding, in very convincing early transition manner.
I formed a casual friendship with the GenX cis male clerk at the 7-11 because of my frequent stops there. We'd talked about cars mostly. But on one fateful day in February 2023, the policies at the 7-11 had changed, and he carded me while I was buying smokes. Nervously, I produced my ID, which had a picture of me in a wig and full makeup, and with my legal name and female gender marker right there on it.
He looked at the ID, and then at me, and said "But this says you're a woman." By this point, there were 3 people waiting behind me in line. So I got to "come out" to a causal acquaintance while several people impatiently watched on, their nachos getting colder by the second. I had to explain trans people, gender identity, gender presentation, and finally boymoding, all in a rush, to a middle aged man who had no earthly idea what any of it meant. Thankfully, all of the people behind me were Zoomers, so when the clerk looked to them to see what their reaction was, they all just shrugged and nodded.
He sold me the smokes. He also quit his job; I never saw him there again. I haven't boymoded since. Strangely enough, about a year later, I was buying gas at an AM/PM store in a neighboring town, and he was the one at the register. I was, of course, fully femmed out at that point. I am about 99% sure he didn't even recognize me. This event convinced me to never boymode again; it's just not fair to subject ordinary cis people to that kind of gender confusion; they simply don't have the tools to handle it.
Fin
I hope he's grown since then
this is a great story, glad you are enjoying your best life now ❤
WAKE UP The king has postedddd ✨✨✨✨
Real (aroace!!)
why hello fellow genderfluid person
Happy first comment!!
@@WildCosmo hello :))
wait are you a genderfluid aroace lesbian??? BRO SLAYYYY I RELATE ✨✨✨
Dude...... I did get my nipples stolen. I had a double mastectomy and my docs failed to tell me I wasn't keeping my nipples .... or in Cancer fog I didn't realize.
There's a The Game of Life video game I have and they let you choose a purple non-binary person in addition to the blue men and pink women.
Aiiii!
Another fun project: make little blue, pink, & purple coats for the pegs so you can add the coats to pegs coming out as trans & enby
@@elaineb7065 They're not really that kind of peg, they're tiny plastic ones. I can't picture how coats would fit on them.
Or have they changed the pegs? It's been like 40 years since I last played Life.
Ha ha. My NB kiddo requested no nipples and their surgeon (whose primary business is mostly traditional cosmetic surgery) said he'd heard of that before but had never done it, and that it would be a challenge for him personally, not to "complete" the job. :) He did such a good job, though, and we love that practice.
I get so many compliments on my chosen name and it makes me so happy 🥰🥰🥰
When I told people my name before I chose one all I’d get was “oh I know someone with that name” and have literally ~5 other people with the same name at every school I went to which made me feel detached from it even before I realized I was trans lol
I'm a Jessica and man sometimes there would be 4 of us. X_x I'm not trans and I still hated my name. (I tried to make sure my daughter's name was one I liked but not in the top ten for her age group... Ended up with another girl in her preschool with the same name anyway!) 😵💫
A rainbow knitted packer sounds very cuddly to me, frankly. Glad they got theirs back!🙂
Sounds like a fun project!!!
Seeing your pic of a white haired old man, makes your comment sound extra creepy to me.
If you are just a young liar like the rest of the T children...then it is just kinda cringe.
I have also had the experience of confusing an old lady in the bathroom lol literally the exact same thing happened. She walked up to me and quietly asked if she was in the wrong bathroom. I've also confused a young lady as well. She walked in, saw me, then turned around to go check the sign on the door. It was shortly after that I realized it was probably time to switch bathrooms. I get a bit nervous sometimes going into the men's, mainly cuz I haven't had top surgery yet. But so far I haven't had any issues and overall I feel much safer than I did in the women's.
Sending my story here: I got my first job and had to do an admissional exam with a doctor (idk if it's done outside brazil) but its just routine and the doc asks general stuff about my health and stuff. Then the doc asked me if I have already done preventive gynecological examination, and I panicked and said no, so she spent a lot of times teaching me why this exams were so important to do and I was so glad the consultation was over 😅
i'm going to my top surgery consultation in a couple days, wish me luck ✌
Good luck, bro ❤
Good luck, homie
Good luck, bro!
Good luck!!!!❤
Good luck! Congrats on getting a consultation and I hope it goes well!!! :)))))))
Ftm here, just passed my 1 year on T gel. I was abroad recently and had to use the bathroom. I was washing my hands after and this older guy walked in, looked at me, went out to check he was in the right bathroom and came back in. I ran out as quick as I could😂
i don't wear my packer anymore, but back in the day my party trick was throwing it against a wall so hard that it sticks. one time it got stuck on my friend's ceiling and we had to ask one of her flatmates for a ladder bc it wouldn't come down 😭🤣
edit: also as a bar manager i can guarantee the person who left their packer on the bar after getting changed would've gotten nothing but laughs out of the staff, especially with it being rainbow and knitted lmao. mortifying for them, but it probably made the bar staff's night
Ok I have a story: so I was in a resort this summer.( Although it was in spain it was a touristy area so the resort was 90% English speakers) so this happened the day my family and I were taking a flight back home. While we were waiting in the reception for a taxi I quickly went to the bathroom. As a trans guy who recently got a short hair cut and also recently got very masc shirts I was looking very masc, but as I was closeted I still went to the women's bathroom. As I walked in, a woman started staring at me, then started telling me the men's bathroom was next door. No question, just said it. This would have been fine if I wasn't with my religious mum.
Recently I (nonbinary) was leading a support group in a hospital wearing makeup as I’m wont to do and this older guy who kept talking about god asked me, I presume sincerely, “Out of love, are you a guy or a girl?” And I, not thinking, said “Neither! Thank you for asking!” And immediately moved on. I’ve genuinely been waiting for that exact situation since I came out almost two years ago but it was so fucking funny to me. He was very confused.
That is hilarious! I'm currently working on getting myself to look more gender neutral (sadly my chest is way too big to hide that I'm afab, but I'm hoping to get it reduced through weight loss and maybe surgery later) I want to leave people guessing what I am - and no matter what they guess, they'll be wrong, because I'm agender. :D
@@borealernadelwald I’m hoping to start at least spironolactone in November for that exact reason- to look more gender neutral bc my exact flavor of nonbinary is also agender! Good luck with your journey, I hope we both get what we need!
The anxiety when I dressed up nice for my sisters wedding shower, and more family was there than I expected
Is a wedding shower like a hen/stag party?
@@Bibibi1990 whats a hen/stag party?
We just went to the park pavilian, ate good food and played a couple wedding games
@user-nx9yn3wq3u basically when the bridal party goes for a night out/holiday. The couple usualy go on separate parties/holidays with their friends etc also usually involves a lot of drinking.
@@Bibibi1990 It was like that, but there were guys too
My packer mishap: I was in the men's toilets in college and as I was standing back up, my packer fell out of my boxers and rolled out of the cubicle. No one was in there as well so picked it up, wrapped it in loo roll and put it in my bag!
My friend's mishap: about 13 years ago there was a swim meet happening in London for trans guys. Most of us had the sense to not wear our packers, my friend however did not. Out of nowhere a young boy asked his dad "daddy, someone's lost their willy" we looked round and sure enough, it was there bobbing on the surface.
"Someone lost their willy" 😂
@Lilith_The_Earthling you can always trust on children to make the blunt comments 😂
😂😂😂
I had one of those medical experiences where they asked me something that is possible for a cis woman, but not for a trans woman.
So I was talking with a nurse about an unrelated medical issue. I was experiencing an increased heart rate and excessively sweating when doing minimal work. The nurse was going through all the clinical questions as this appeared to be the onset hypertension. Based on the clinical analysis and the female gender listed on my chart, the nurse, whom was not my usual doctor or nurse practitioner, asked “is it possible that you are pregnant?”* I very calmly replied “if I were, it would be a miracle because I’m trans.” We had a good laugh about it and she apologized before setting up my acute visit for an EKG. Incase you were curious it was just my meds slightly increasing my heart rate and the EKG came back normal.
*this question was asked as during pregnancy some AFAB people can developed hypertension that ends when the baby is born. So female gender + symptoms of hypertension lead to the question.
It's one reason medical personnel should always know gender information! (More dangerous for a FtM that still has a uterus and is misgendered!) The reverse of your situation is actually one of the examples they will use during nursing school to drive home importance. In the real case they used for our class, the man and baby ended up being okay but it was almost a disaster for both of them because the original intake people didn't realize it was a trans man coming in for severe abdominal pain!
Chronic pain is high but at least Jamie has posted :D
Whether it's a distraction or endorphins, works a treat!
Feeeeel this.
Hope you have less pain soon!
Me too bud
I once got asked "Is this the correct bathroom?" When I was exiting a gender neutral, single occupancy bathroom. To be fair, they were previously gendered, and the only thing done to make them ;'neutral' was a sign change.
And that is why despite identifying as female (was born female) but frequently have to use my wheelchair (because yay complex chronic health issues) make every effort to use a disability friendly bathroom.
I'm legit disgruntled that everyone I've come out to as gender queer has so far basically been like "duh." Bish, *I* didn't know, how was I supposed to know YOU did!?
This isn't much of a confession, but I've been on hormones (MTF) for 12 weeks as of today and when I realized 2 weeks ago that I had real, genuine breast tissue every bit of doubt faded and I knew this was right. All the concern about not being trans, not passing, not being good enough, not being accepted is gone. There's still work to be done, but there's no doubt or anxiety left. I accept myself and I am so indescribably happy.
When I get top surgery, I don't want my nipples back. The surgeon can steal them, I have no use for them lol.
Is there some unaccepting person you could gift them to? "Here - you seemed to think these were so important...." :P
Go full anime guy.
No-nips is definitely an option.
Yr allowed to do that :)
@@SpecialBlanket You are allowed to do that, it helps with heal time a little bit and there's no worry about nipple death.
I dont get mad if someone misgenders me accidentally, because I literally have done it to other people before by mistake, but I just make sure to correct them or myself in scenarios and let them know I've been hurt by the mistake
Im not mad, Im hurt
That one person who goes by all pronouns be like: simple words have no power over me
@@lucasallen5792 Haha, literally! 😂 He/She/They, I'm fine with any. Though I always get super happy if somone has the courage to use he or they and chooses to not match my assigned sex.
Awkward trans story: I’ve been experimenting with going by juno online so in June I changed my username on UA-cam from my legal name to “juno moth” cause why not. I’m also signed into UA-cam on the tv in my family room. So later that day I was hanging out in the kitchen with my dad, who doesn’t know I’m trans, and I just hear my little brother shout “WHO’S JUNO MOTH 17??!!” I immediately like panicked and went “uhh uh that’s me, you don’t need to shout if I change my UA-cam account.” And my dad didn’t say anything but it was really awkward
I hope it gets easier for you, and wish you all the joy and acceptance on your journey x
If you can't come out now, the best excuse is that it is a nickname on the internet because you don't want your legal name plastered all over it. Nothing wrong with that. And Juno Moth sounds really cool.
@@YourQueerGreatAuntie thanks!
@@TheoMcAllisterAnd Juno is a good movie too
Fortunately that story makes sense, no one would guess that it's gender related
When I got my top surgery it was the first surgery I had (other then one when I was a small child) so it was a new experience for me. When they were waking me up from Anastasia I reacted in a somewhat rare way and started trying to fight my doctors. I started swinging my arms and hyperventilating. (ripping out many of my stitches in the prosses) I had to be put back under, fixed back up, and woken up again with my wrists in cuffs on the bed so I didn't do it again.
My doctor said it happens sometimes and it's because I didn't know where I was or who was around me because of the Anastasia. (I have no memory of the event my sister and the doc told me what I did after fully waking up)
I was able to warn my OBGYN when I got my hysterectomy that I "wake up violently" and they knew what to do to prevent it :>
(My top surgery scar doesn't look any different because of the stich ripping and I am actually quite happy with it)
Edit: after looking it up Wikipedia says its called Emergence agitation and happens mostly with the elderly and kids and over all about 5.3% of the time (so more for me rare then I thought! Since I was 19)
How did you have top surgery as a small child? You'd have to be at least pubescent
@SpecialBlanket sorry I ment I was 19 when I got top surgery, And Emergence agitation is more common in small children, sorry for the confusion!
It's about 1 in 20 so it's not super rare. Sometimes you'll do it on one drug and not another too. It's basically your fight or flight response getting triggered. I've even seen it happen with Ativan (which is supposed to calm you).
When I came out to my best friend of 17 years (we’ve been friends since at least 2007 when we were in 7th grade) his reply was “when you asked me to talk I figured it was either about sexuality or gender.” He was only offended that he was not one of the first I told… he was more like the 7th (Other best friend who is trans, my now girlfriend before we were dating, my doctor, my brother, my brother’s husband, then my 17-year long best friend)… once I told him the order in which I’d come out to people he got why he wasn’t first. He also alleviated my fears that a mutual friend of ours who was an army vet and “manly man’s man” would be safe to come out to as despite his heteronormativeness, he had a bisexual brother and would be ok with me coming out trans.
A few months later, inspired by my coming out that mutual friend ALSO came out trans… my bravery inspiring her to be her true self. (Apologies for misgendering her briefly, the reveal in this paragraph would be confusing if I called her a she above… also lol she turned out not to be very heteronormative after all and the “manly man’s man” act was deep denial)
I go by she/they pronouns. I keep trying to get people to use they/them but I'm in my 30's and no one will. (It is what it is, I refer to myself as they/them) I was working with a woman who desperately wanted to be liked and it was both sad and awkward. She had next to no knowlegde about the the LGBT+ community and I would teach her. She was an aggressive "look at me, I clearly support these people!" type of supporter. One day we were in a meeting and a woman I had never met used she to refer to me. This woman SO AGGRESSIVELY "corrected" this manager that it was incredibly awkward for everyone. After that I just let people call me she. I don't want to go through that again.
I'm so sorry you've had this experience. I hope you can get better validation and affirmation in other contexts. It's never too late to discover who you are, and it's never too late for other people to learn that. x
I'm cis so sorry if this is a dumb question, but if you go by she/they pronouns thrn howcome you want people to use they/them instead of she/her? /gen
@@Grave_of_the_Sea I want people to use they/them for me. I'm just living with the fact that no one will. So I gave up and let people use she/her. It implies that I am okay with both though. I even roll with he/him. As long as I know you're talking to or about me I'm pretty chill.
@@Duckofdoom91 Ah okay! That's fair :〕
This person sounds like they are very nice! :)
(Talkin 2 u)
Usually try to watch videos in order so my watch later list gets long... Watching this now to support
As transfem myself, I can relate to inserts and breast forms not always staying in your bra
Some pocket bras, for breast forms, will have zippers or other way to keep the forms in, but other don’t, assuming you won’t be upside down. But that does mean any extreme movement could have your forms fall out
And I’ve heard a couple embarrassing stories where such a thing happened
And cis people are very confused by breast forms. They aren’t just for us, cosplayers also use them, and women who had to get a mastectomy but still wanted to have breasts will sometimes use them. Like breast cancer survivors.
But the large majority of cis people are very confused because they’ll see this silicone blob which sometimes has nipples molded. It’s a bizarre item without the context.
Point being it’s not entirely our fault, breast forms just aren’t always able to be secured
My sister and I used to switch the heads of the life characters, for no reason other than the fact that the heads were fun to take off and we didn't care enough to put them back on the right colours. So we had a bunch of pink and blue characters with no real genders.
(Edit: we used elmers glue)
Instead of gender surgeries...just do brain transplants...one and done.
The forgetting you’re trans thing is so great. I was talking about childhood nicknames once and I mentioned the nickname Mealybug (from Amelia) but I now go by Alex, my friend was so confused for a moment, it was such a great feeling
HAPPY BI PRIDE MONTH AS AN AUTISTIC BI PERSON WITH CONFUSING GENDER IDENTITIES
HELLO FROM A FELLOW AUTISTIC BISEXUAL
Real
Y'all have pride month in June. That should be enough
@@Player-p4knobody asked
NONONO I FOUND A HOMOPHOBE IM SCARED
"They wanted to be the shuttlecock" 😭😭😭
I quit working for the Salvos because of the rampant misgendering the manager refused to address. She compared me being a trans man to a cat pretending to be a dog.
@@sablechicken Get a life God botherer
@@sablechicken *eyeroll*
@@ArAsDeCos Where did my eyerolling worthy comment go?
My therapist had to fight for me to have nipples. My insurance claimed that, " nipples aren't medically necessary. "
One of my favorite gender affirming things is typically in the car as a passenger if I have a drink I'll hold it between my legs. Well there was more than once my best friend ( who knew me before I knew I was trans) was driving and saw me doing this, gets a very concerned look on their face, and when i asked what was wrong was like " doesn't that hurt ? " Because they forgot I wasn't cis and that there wasn't anything to obstruct the drink from being there
The joy of being able to ignore the boys as they shout my deadname across the classroom is tremendous. My name is FINALLY changed on the register!! Today was my first day of being Alyx at school. Went well, my form tutor deflected some questions about it (we ❤️ him fr) but one teacher didn’t know how to pronounce my name 💀 so just said “errr A-L-Y-X?” And I had to shout out in front of the whole class “Yma syr Dw’in Alyx ydw i” (that’s Welsh for “here sir I’m Alyx” btw) it was so embarrassing fr. he also shouted out my deadname when doing the seating plan bc it’s not changed on the app yet 😭💀
I have an FTM friend, and he was talking to me about him and his gf having kids. He said that they were having trouble picking out a donor for the sperm. I seriously asked him what was wrong with his sperm🤦♀️
Marching band person here! Color guard is usually paired with marching band during marching season. They usually add a pop of color to our shows, or add dance and other things when they march with different types of flags, wooden rifles, or sabers. Color guard is amazing, as long as they don’t accidentally hit you with their flags lol
They also have their own competitions in the Winter!
Winter guard shows are amazing! I was in band and we hosted one at our school. I thought they were great on the field, but with a solid floor and AC? 🤯
I'm a closeted trans guy and on more than one occasion, people have seen me in the women's washroom and then done a double take with the sign to see if they were in the right one. My hair is short and i wear masculine clothing, but that's it - i dont have like facial hair or a deep voice and i don't bind my chest 98% of the time, and yet something about me makes them think twice - both affirming and confusing xD
"would you date a trans person?" - a *trans* man, talking to his wife
"Nah, I'm married and monogamous"
Thanks for the positive sides of trans rights
Last time I played The Game Of Life I had 2 blue people in my car and no children
Same, but with 2 pink ones
@@FederalBurroOfInvestigation 🅝🅘🅒🅔 lol
@@FederalBurroOfInvestigation hear me out. One green one, and a bunch of cat tokens taken from somewhere else.
I was on a work video call and one of my colleagues was writing an email asking someone to contact me.
Through out the writing of the email he was using my agab pronouns, after he sent the email he noticed and went on a “oh shit I’m an idiot! Omg I can’t believe I just did that I’m so sorry, I used some words in there I shouldn’t have! Shit! I’m really sorry I’m a moron!”
I’m sat on the call like “cool, thanks… you misgendered me, repeatedly, and now I’m the one having to comfort you… yay”
Omg I hate those situations. at those points I just say "don't do it again, I'm not mad at you, let's change the topic"
Ömg a wild Keo!!! In the wild!!!
Had that a few times with college, cis coworkers are really awkward at times, just gotta make sure they don't make the same mistake
They didn't seem to do it intentionally and even apologised tho? Confused what the issue is tbh
@@Grave_of_the_Sea they're hamming it up and being self deprecating which sorta brings the attention to them rather than the person that was actually harmed
@@katthekhajiit610 instead of comforting them you just say thanks for the apology. It kind of helps shut down their self-deprecating. But hopefully they weren't consciously doing it for attention but rather were mortified that they made the mistake in the first place. 😐
At the beginning of summer I took my nephews to the public pool and they had a summer day camp program going on at the same time. I’m trans FTM and have not had top surgery yet. I don’t like wearing shirts to swim because of textures so I just put up with wearing a bikini top and swim trunks. I had the usual kids asking if I was a boy or a girl but the icing on the cake was when a kid came up to me and said “bro you know that makes you look like a girl right” it took everything in me not to laugh. I couldn’t suss out if this kids parents would be ok with transness because the kid was apart of the day camp!
Trans confession story: the first time I came out was to get rid of a guy. I'd had one sexual experience with someone, and he wasn't taking increasingly obvious hints that I needed time to process and didn't want to do it again immediately, and I was hoping that coming out to him as a trans man would ruin the appeal for him.
His response? "That's so cool! Actually, I've been thinking about my gender, too..."
Anyway, I don't know how things worked out for them, but *that* didn't end well for either of us.
When I (26 tm) first started dating my fiancé (26 m) he posted a pic of us in LA for a streamer meet up. His parents very quickly noticed and asked how old I was. Apparently because I was just starting T and am only 5 foot 5 inches, they thought I was a teenager, like 14-16. A very awkward call later we explained that no he was not some creepy dude but it’s really funny how concerned they were lol
I'm so glad I didn't have any stories of my packer misbehaving. I used to use some rolled up socks, but now I have a custom one that looks like a little tentacle 😋 That would certainly be interesting to explain 😂
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When I came out to my friends they gave each other a look and started “I TOLD YOU SO”ing. I’m pretty sure one of them owes the other money.
Well, at least it's not physically impossible for me to accidentally lose my binder while I'm out and about, right?
...right?
So, I changed my name years before I knew I was nonbinary. To be clear, I always knew I "wasn't like other girls" but I was 30 when the term entered my lexicon. Anyways, I started going by a nickname at 16 and I used it everywhere in my life. For YEARS my older sister gave a lot of pushback about it until I called her out on it saying "If I was trans and I went by a new name, you would respect that - why is this different?" It clicked for her then and she calls me by my (now legal) name. Then I came out five years later, lol. I had a deadname before I even knew what a deadname was.
15:39 I'm a cis woman but I'm 6'3" and have short hair so this one time a woman entered the bathroom while I was washing my hands and she deadass stood at the door for like a whole minute looking back and forth between me and the sign on the door confused out of her mind lmao.
Lol, I got one. So a little over a year ago I went to have consultation with the Doctor that did my hysterectomy a few months after. Anyway, I arrive at the OBGYN office and say that I have an appointment with Dr So and So. This receptionist looks at me and says, "Sir, you're in the wrong place." The sheer euphoria I felt in that moment that this woman that I was a cis man in the wrong office. But anyway, I say that I do, she insists I don't, I say to check the appointments. She does and looks confused and says that I'm signed in and wait. After a bit, a nurse comes and get me and I mention to her the confusion and she goes and tells the doctor. This doctor comes into streaming apologies and that she'll have a good talk with the receptionist. I laughed and say the apologies are appreciated but honestly that was the best damn thing and I felt beyond incredible. Just that this person that was that profoundly certain. It was amazing. 10 outta 10
I'm a straight cis woman, but I am completely uninterested in sex unless I'm in a relationship. So before I met my husband I was single and celibat for over 10 years (I'm picky and was wairing for the right one lol), ofc as the years went I had my mother and a number of friends/coworkers talk to me in a way that made it clear that if I was gay it would be ok. Like I said, I'm straight, but it was somehow still so comforting to know that I would be accepted no matter what. Long way to say that it must be difficult to come out but also so nice when people already made it clear that they accept you no matter what. I still think you are all so brave, especially if you live in a place where its not so accepted ❤
I think if a parent is aware that their child is lgbtq+ they should make it clear to the child that they'll support them in whoever they are, but not just tell the child that they know
I have always had really accepting and progressive family, but coming out was as trans was still one of the most nerve-wracking things I've ever had to do. The person I was really worried about was how my dad would react. And arguably he had the best reaction out of everyone. It's been almost a decade now and everyone did accept me (for the most part. There's still a few hiccups every now and then), like I knew they would. But that fear of coming out is a powerful thing.
Im going to Arizona pride for the first time in October!!!! bc June is too hot for anything
Not jamie calling them microphones😂
Not me wondering what a packer is, and then in the video Jamie explained what it is as if he heard my question.
I need to know the entire story of "GRANDMA VS THE PACKER" 😂😳...
I mean, that just sounded like a "To Be continued" episode on TV...You hear the 🎶DUN DUN 🎶 and then you turn around and grandma stops cold and you both just stare at each other...
Announcer voice: "NEXT WEEK ON 'GRANDA VS. THE PACKER'...WILL SHE THINK HE LOST HIS SOCKS, WILL SHE PRETEND SHE DOESN'T KNOW, WILL SHE KEEP IT?!...STAY TUNED FOR THE RIVITING CONCLUSION!"
What's the tea sis?! 🧐🍵🧐
THATS MY CONFESSION HAHAHA
This is your regular reminder that you're all awesome, beautiful and valid little spuds, just the way you are ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 Love you all❤🧡💛💚💙💜
🥔🏳️🌈😂😂
@@GalXZ42081 💜
“He made 5 dollars from your gender, well done!” I’m surprised I haven’t used this in a conversation before
It is always so cute to see OT in the background watching over Jamie ❤
sometimes our gender affirmation doohickeys decide to go on an adventure. i stopped wearing mine after i got tired of fighting my packer's shifting. and i'm so tired of wearing binders, like, the shifting is annoying. the dreaded uniboob. 😂😭
Just watched to help you reach your goal from your community post!
I recently took a long train journey, and as we approached our destination, I (with a long queue of people behind me) bent down to get my bag from the luggage rack at the end of the carriage, and my bra somehow unhooked itself, leaving me with two unrestrained silicon breast forms rolling about in my shirt.
Thankfully, with everybody behind me, I was able to quickly pull them out and stuff them into my bag, but I'm sure somebody must have wondered why I was suddenly flat-chested when I stood back up.
I was at a local shop and was purchasing something. I complimented the guy ringing me up on his name. He goes “thanks, I chose it myself.” Then his eyes got wide and he blushed when he realized what he said. He glanced up at me so I just winked and said “that is _so_ awesome!” He seemed to relax a little, especially when he caught sight of my Pride flag on my purse. It was such a cute moment with a stranger 😂
I'm thinking I'm gonna use my hardback copy of your book to come out to my mother. Wish me luck!
I've never been able to master an STP. I always just peed all over myself so i just...don't.
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Just had my consult for top surgery yesterday 🙌