Born male here, yeah. We don't care about other people in the bathroom, so you're good. Also, first time I saw anything about "packing"... makes complete sense, whatever makes you feel at home down there but gonna be honest, it's kinda funny. But hey, at least you get to pick your size ;) I'd agree that posture is super important. Even for women. But especially for men. Working on is also super important, at the very least you should be able to do a mean set of push-ups, pull-ups and some squats. Easily attainable so long as you're eating like a normal person and actually pushing yourself at the gym. I used to be in decent shape, but come covid I became a real couch potato and am now underweight. I'm working on myself and getting myself back into the gym is a very important step to becoming a better version of myself.
A portion of the trans crowd has eating disorders related to body dysphoria, so "eating like a normal person" can be a struggle. Also mental health issues that come with being trans in a transphobic society/family, neurodivergence, disability etc. can all interfere. If anyone's seeing this and you're dealing with any of this, you're not alone. Definitely call a hotline if you're feeling down, even if it's not the super serious, it's okay. Just call early since you're likely to be put on hold for like 2-30 minutes. Suicide/crisis hotlines also can link to mental health resources, even some for those with financial issues if that's something that'd be helpful.
About the pronouns pins, I have a he/him one (I use he/they) and as soon as I got it, I've worn it most days at school and despite that, a staff member at school STILL called me "Miss" and that pissed me off cuz the nametags are usually the first thing u notice about someone
I love how in the previous trans tip video Theo just went: DO.NOT. WEAR. BACKWARDS HATS. DONT FUCKING DO IT >:( And his hat is backwards in the new trans tip video 😂
im a trans guy from *drum roll* russia its so hard for us now because we cant buy hormones anymore and i dont know what to do with my transition because i just turned 18 and i took my first T shot two weeks ago but now i am in despair i dont want to go to the w*r (yes trans guys may be sent to the w*r as well as cis dudes and im so scared cause i already have my passport changed and it says M) i dont want to kill people and i dont want to be killed for *you know who cause his surname begins with P* sorry for writing my feelings here i know it can be triggering for some people but im just im about to give up
it’s devastating to see what happened to the country, I’m a Russian too. and we used to have T.a.t.u on tv and nobody cared about someone’s orientation or gender expression until that P guy. have you considered any opportunities to move? is it still possible to get an «отмазка» (don’t fit the requirements) paper?
Ouch. I'm from a neighbouring country and an NB to boot (so can't get HRT unless I lie). Good luck dude. If it helps, you can go down south, you get 90 days of stay without visa if you register within 3 days of arrival. A lot of my Russian colleagues fled the conscription a few months ago, some are still hanging out in the north of the country. Don't go too far south though, it's full of freaking n@zis.
Hey, your comment may have been posted a year ago, but I hope you are doing any better than you were before. I hope you have not given up and continue to fight. I hope those fucks never tangle you up in the war. Maybe I am worrying so much about you because I'm from a Russian family myself. I cannot imagine the weight of transition ON TOP of a w*r-ridden hellscape. Удачи, брат мой.
12:34 I'm an androgynously presenting nonbinary boy, but I actually prefer using the "women's" bathroom if there are no genderless bathrooms around. Simply because they tend to have more stalls. I just run in, do my business in the stall and then get out with the least amount of people seeing me. Sure, I get more judgy looks when I am seen but privacy is 100% guaranteed! Love your videos man!!
“ *nervous laughter* And who wouldn’t want to be like William Afton??” *I felt that* But hey I’m Kieran, a trans masc animator and it’s nice to see others like me :’> *also yes collared shirts are the shit - they make me feel so manly*
Hello, Theo! I'm a transmasc (possibly transmasc enby?) pre-everything guy and I really appreciate your content. I love watching your videos and I love the memes as well as the tips. Although I live with transphobic family members for the moment, I dream of the day I move out and finally get my binder. Finally go on T and work out because I really want some muscles. I just want to say thank you for making me smile and helping me on my journey through transition. My pronouns (for now, might change them later): He/him or they/them!
hey if you’re with dysphoria, i recommend looking for literally anyone irl that accepts lgbtq and you can maybe get them to get a binder delivered at their house, instead of yours, and secretly have it. Unless it’s really obvious to wear a binder for you, then I can’t help you, but personally I’ve done this and I got the luck it didn’t fit, but at least it worked. I hope that’s helpful. (If you don’t have the money for it, you can always go around and do chores or like walk the neighbours dog, etc, for money)
@@flysso I have friends who are also LGBTQ+, but we live far away. I have money that I'm saving for my first car once I get my license. I do appreciate your help and when I feel brave enough, I'll try your binder tip. Thank you so much!
I'm a trans dude myself, my name is Aspen but my friends call me all sorts of things but that's just my friends. I'm out at school and use the boys restroom. In September I will be approved to go on T. I love your channel bro.
Thank you. There are a lot of helpful tips here, some new to me and some that I've already practiced, but most of all, this video is very validating for me. Just your bit about allowing yourself to be feminine was so huge for me that I almost cried. So many ftm trans stories are "ever since I was a kid I liked boy things instead," or "I've never felt comfortable in my skin." I was never sure, dresses were fine, I had a girl body and that's what girls wear. I've always felt more comfortable in masc clothes, but not completely hugely dysphoric in women's, because- as someone with lady bits- I accepted fem styles. When I started presenting masculine I had this internal battle of whether or not my gender was valid if I didn't have the traditional ftm story of hating girl clothes with a firey passion my whole life. I've watched so many videos and read so many blogs waiting for this validation, so thank you. You are the first to tell me it's okay that I enjoyed extenuating the body I have, even if I'd rather have a different body. I don't know if you'll actually read this comment, but if you do I just want you to know the benefit you have on my psyche.
Hi there trnasmasc here :) I just wanted to zoom in and say that you are Not the only one. In my elemantary school, the other Kids were often wondering why i sometimes had the same pullover as another boy from my class on and the other Day i was walking around in a skirt or a Dress. My hair has always been long but I used to put it up All the time and everyone looked at me weird when i pulled out my very long slightly curled hair. They were confused on why i didn't care, mostly because my mom always hated Stereotypes aswell. When i got into alt style and realised my transness there was always this little voice that told me i had to wear this and that. Skirts are illegal, never tight Jeans etc. But in the end i realised that it doesnt matter. You are you. No matter what clothes you wear or how you express yourself. Sorry for writing this book of a comment it just sorta felt right to write it :))
I faintly remember saying being a girl is great because "we" can dress up dress pretty and no one will judge. Although the "girl" thing wasn't really girling to me
heyyy Theo! I think I never commented on your channel but I wanted to tell you that I love your videos! I started hrt years ago, but I would have loved to have someone like you as a guide and company during my transition, tysm for your content and being you
me, closeted transmasc-ish dude (he/they) and will probably never come out because i live, grew up and will probably continue to live in china (i cant even really dress and/or present androgynously, much less get a binder or anything of the sort hhh help lmao) so im just living out the life i probably cant (in another few years at least) get through this video:
Man, I wish I were in the UK right now :)) I live in Eastern Europe and in my country you need to go to court to change your legal first name, and if your reason is a “sex change” you need to prove you’ve had surgery through a very invasive legal medicine check… ughhhhhh help
Hello :) My name is Elio and my pronouns are He/They! I am transmasc and my deadname is Margaux (I do kinda like my deadname ngl lol) My parents are transphobic and homophobic so when I told them I was pansexual they obviously weren't happy. After that, I decided to keep quiet about being trans and my friends took care of me, helped me pay for a binder, and were always there for me. Having good friends rly helps when you have transphobic parents. Sadly, I moved from the UK to the US about 2 years ago and now live in a sad apartment building with my dad and sister bc I'm too broke to move out and have nowhere to go. (But, my s/o is moving to the US to be with me so hopefully that goes well, we've been dating for 4 yrs and have known each other since year 1 in primary school) So yeah, that's basically my story! If you're lgbtq+, good luck on your journey and have a wonderful day/night! :D
I'm a transmasc who used to take t shots before I was taken off of them due to severe weight loss, but i took them while my body was growing most so i luckily maintained alot of permanent masculine features, and this video i must say helps me as well as many others do. thanks for the content man (:
I flippin' love collared shirts. I have like 3 white, long-sleeved collared shirts and i wear a normal tee-shirt over them and it looks really cooll 😎🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️
Wearing my summer camp staff member tshirt over a collared shirt rn. 3 year old kid asked if I was he or she- Super happy abt that. EDIT: another kid asked if I was a boy, a girl, or a they/them. They then told me he liked to be a boy and a they/them but he likes they/them better. Their name was river. Whoever these parents are they are raising this kid right
8:03 My name is Ethan. My friend calls me (jokingly) Transformer, Optimus prime, Kokichi Ouma, Grape Fanta, Gluestick, Ethananananannanananan, Eathan, and more.
I’m a transmasc creator lol, I do random stuff tbh but I’m planning on making videos on my trans experience soon. I literally look forward to your videos so much, like you’re honestly one of my favorite trans creators and the way you talk about things is just so chill and comforting.
in my school i don't have the gender-neutral bathroom in my school and I tried to use your tip and use the men's bathroom AND I GOT COUGHT, BULLIED AND CALLED THE T-SLUR 😭😭😭
I’m not that brave, considering I’m the least masc enby out there (want to look masc, but our dress code says no and I can only wear pants to get past that. Also everyone knows me as a girl and all my friends have forgotten I’m enby)
Hi Theo, I actually found you through your 'everyone hates trans kids now basically' video, even though I wasn't allowed to be myself as a kid (came out at like 13/14 etc but was dismissed til 18) I'm so passionate about letting trans kids be themselves cos I came so close to ending myself ngl but I'm fine now luckily cos I'm out now and was accepted finally but yeah that's how I found your channel not the transmasc tips but I also watched that too, it was a funny video. I know you said it was filmed on your phone and low quality etc but I sometimes find those videos so charming idk why, maybe the rawness
YALL I JUST HAD A HUGE W its the first day of school so I was talking with my teachers My band teacher complimented my name and I responded "it doesn't really suit me" (NOT MEANING ANYTHING BY IT THOUGH I AM TRANS I just hate my deadname) and she asked me if I had a different name in mind 😭😭😭 She even greeted me after ("nice to meet you Ray.") And gave me a fist bump! Which the fist bump was W number two because I don't like hugs so YIPPPEEEEEEE I was gonna quit her class but just because of this I'm staying and I am GOING to get an A!
Sup! I'm Oli and im a trans dude that does bad folk punk covers! (I think this is the first comment I'm leaving from this youtube account?) I discovered you from your musical theatre moments that remind me im bi video bc mood. The "gender is easy" tip is a super good one btw - I had a much easier time once I was able to let go of that stress, and I wish I would have known to sooner
i love your editing style because its subtle but emphasizes enough. someone else doing a docu style youtube video was using so much fade in, zooming in/focusing/moving around the face & letter by letter word animation and it was so hard on the eyes thanks for an awesome video
Honestly idgaf about my binder showing anymore, like I just let it show sometimes to assert dominance /j but still idc anymore, people just assume I’m wearing an undershirt- Also collared shirts and platform shoes are THE GOAT
15:50 I may not be trans but I wear thick glasses. And once I lost half of my eyebrow because my body was too stressed ig, and no one even noticed that I lost and regrew a whole eyebrow over the course of 3 YEARS. So I can confidently say that thick glasses help
I literally picked the same name as you for the exact same reasons. My deadname wasn't nickname-able and I hated that. I love that my partner can call me Teddy but other people can call me Theo. It really is a good name c:
Hey, I'm an enby (still figuring out if masc or not) I wanted to add something that helped me a little with finding a name. I use a text to speach website to try out the sound of new names (and the sound of it in combo with surname) and that helped me out personally. Love your content
Yo I am *far* to scared to even *attempt* to go into the males restroom bc I look so much like a female I cannot walk into a male restroom without them going "heyy you're a girl" so lmao hopefully I can look more androgynous in the future and walk in without anybody caring lmao
2:17 i actually found you through the three cheers for sweet revenge video essay lmao😭 didn't thought/realize i had just come across a trans content creator until i clicked on your channel, glad i found it though, as a trans masc-aligned nonbinary genderfluid person who also happens to have an obsession with mcr, it feels *weirdly* specific and i love it.
late ik but I just watched your old video and came to watch this one (not trans but non-binary and pretty masc) and your voice got so much deeper! it's so cool to see that your voice got deeper, it sounds really cool. :]
Trans man here. My name is Jayden but it took me months to find a name I liked that i could hear and be like "omg thats me" honestly i really knew it was the right name when i went to a mental hospital and they asked our names and prounouns (bc the guy was a gay man and i felt safe telling him) and i went by only that for a week. it made my mental health so much better and i loved it. (i will respond or look now when ppl say it which is kinda scary sometimes when im with my dad lol) oh and just a quick funny thing is we got a paper cup with Gatorade when we took our meds because they taste horrible and they would write out names on the cup and i kept one bc for some reason the nurse didnt ever write the J right and i looks really dumb. me and my roommate were like "tf is this? do they think this is a J" bc it honestly looked like the @ symbol
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR 10:30!!! I was freaking out about how I experience different levels of feeling like a guy, and I was worried that I couldn’t be transmasc coz I was too feminine or something, but the stuff you said really calmed me down. That’s exactly what I needed someone to say to me 😊
i love the collared shirt tip because i know for me and many others that live in incredibly hot areas its just not possible to wear a hoodie without being drenched in sweat
Lmao I'm so sorry, but I just watched the other video and after the long rant about not wearing backwards baseball caps, you are wearing one bro. Love the vids thanks for the help.
When you were talking about how easy it is to change your name I actually laughed in disbelief that I could literally get my name changed in under an hour as I'm a UK resident, turning 17 tomorrow with more than £30 in my bank XD edit: Also I really thought I found your channel through a different video but no, turns it I did find it through that 10 tips one lol
As a young closeted trans guy (I kind of just found out I was trans about a few months ago after almost a year of questioning my gender) I first went by the name Jax. I later found out that I liked being called Jaxon too! This video really helped. Thanks Theo!!
Trans male here I came out to my mom a few months ago and it turned into a long lecture Told my sister she supported same with my cousin and my friends Can’t tell my Mimi she’s homophobic and transphobic But I sent my aunt some stuff I put into a list and I put a tie in the list and she hasn’t said anything abt it or questioned it (she’s apart of the LGBTQ+ and she supports trans people)
im honestly scared about coming out as trans because my brother came out as trans about 8 years ago and they had a friend who copied them constantly while they were attempting to transition and it peeved them a lot. I tried telling my brother I wanted to be a man a couple of years ago too, but they wrote it off as me sexualizing mens lives and just trying to copy him. I never brought it up after that technically im out as genderfluid/ace right now. I dont have any sexual or romantic attraction towards people, but im also on the spectrum so it can just be a ting that comes with the funky yknow Im really just worried about how my brother will think of me. ive been having a lot of dysphoria lately and havent brought it up with anyone. Ive been hinting at it when i talk with my trans friends, but i havent been straight about it. my binder is my best friend lol
Tbh it’s obviously shitty that your brother had bad experience but he shouldn’t let that out on you. Tell him how you feel and that you have been identifying as trans for a while. If you are being honest and true to yourself then he will be understanding of it I’m sure. He will never be the only transmasc person in his life and he has to understand that just because there are other trans people doesn’t mean they are faking it. If you’re to anxious to talk maybe write him a letter or send a message that explain it. That way you can tell your feeling without him interrupting you or it leading to an argument.
Just wanted to share something that happened to me and was amazing - I was watching the video 10 tips for transmasc people and had earbuds, my father went around, watched you for a while and said :"That's a guy quite like you!" I am not out,I am afab, and I was like yes, yes, he is......
I was steered away because I feel weird about packing... but came back and liked the little segment about femininity. I am genderfluid and have considered going on T, but I'm worried it will make me die sooner since my Dad passed when he was 53 from an aortic rupture. They scanned my heart and said it was fine, but I'm not sure if that will be the case if I go on T. I feel like femininity is so fragile, just as fragile as masculinity. Some people can't put on makeup because of allergies or eye sensitivity or some other reasons. I sometimes really like wearing dresses and would love to wear frilly dresses, corsets, and all that. However, I don't think I'll do heels because my feet don't work like that lol. But it's so easy to dress androgynously or more masc when you are sick or not even trying to present a certain way lol it just sort of happens.
6:52 collared shirts that are made of the like more stiff material are especially great, cuz when tucked in they kinda like make a little,, like there’s space between your chest and the shirt cuz the material isn’t form fitting idk how to describe it lol.
backing up the restroom thing. i live in a small town and i pass pretty well, so i may be a bit lucky, but even when i've been to big cities, nobody has ever done anything beyond an odd glance in my direction. nobody cares about your outfit or if your pissing sitting down (im willing to bet cis guys do it), everyone there is just worried about their own business. honestly, the worst thing about the mens room in my experience is how gross it is, lol. that being said, there are definitely some risks and people have had bad experiences in the washroom, so trust your better judgement and stay safe.
I'm non-binary (leaning towards more masculine in appearance) and I adore my collared shirts. Especially tacky Hawaiian ones. They're perfect for the workplace and can have a long-sleeved shirt under them in the winter ^.^ Glad they made the cut.
Adding to the posture thing, I've found my back hurts significantly less after binding if I keep my back straight than if I let myself slouch. My binder has actually helped me get rid of my shit posture because of that haha
For first or secret binders, go for white or light gray, because you can wear it with thinner light-colored shirts without bad show through. If your not out, it just looks like a white sports bra to unsuspecting eyes
Honestly as a young trans male this video was nice to watch! This bathroom advice was ever comforting because I have horrible anxiety. Around everyone Useing eh wemons bathroom=Anxiety Mens bathroom=Anxiety Sadly I don’t often find gender neutral bathrooms. Also the glasses part is makes so much sense! But my take is the fames of your glasses can really change how the shape of your face is perceived! I wear really boxy shaped glasses that make my face look more masculine. Lmao all I do on my channel is be a furry-
as a trans guy (demiboy hehe), i wear collared shirts probably 60 procent of the time and oversized shirts 40 procent of the time. its amazing. most of the time i wear both tho (collared shirts with over it an oversized shirt plus dress pants). 10/10.
Im a non-binary trans masc person. I don’t have a UA-cam channel. Im not interested in making content here. I just trying to learn more things i can do that will keep my dysphoria from breaking my depression into death. Trying to get top surgery, but im being forced to put it on pause, and gonna lose my current insurance this summer, the threat of nation wide ban on gender affirming care if trump wins the presidency again, has me so fucked up and hopeless. I just want to be happy and thrive in the body I wanted to have since i was 11 years old back in the 90’s, before I turn 40 this December.
Hey Theo!! I loved this video. I’m definitely pro collared shirts lol. I’ve started trying to make videos monitoring my changes on T as well. I love watching your videos and I can’t wait to get some more changes!!
I came here from that podcast thing u did with goddamit malcom and I related to a bunch of things u said plus I thought ur room looked cool so I clicked the link lmao
The posture thing... sucks a lot for me because I am very short so it would help BUT i have g-cups so having bad posture is the only way to hide them 😭😭😭😭😭
With my name since i didnt want my family to scream at me i choose to go by the masculine version of my dead name but now they still yell at me cause my dead name is supposedly “unisex” but mostly females have it, I really want to change my name but my entire family would be pissed at me
My fav part about this video is in his other vid(the one he’s redoing) he has a whole this about how stupid backwards hats are lmfao, I personally LOVE backwards hats, you are also one of my fav tubers btw🫡
Trans-woman here. Goodluck on your journey y'all! 🤍
same 2 u!!
Thank you, you too🥰
Thanks sister!!
@@cielphantomhive4421 you're welcome 😊
Ty 😭❤️
Born male here, yeah. We don't care about other people in the bathroom, so you're good. Also, first time I saw anything about "packing"... makes complete sense, whatever makes you feel at home down there but gonna be honest, it's kinda funny. But hey, at least you get to pick your size ;)
I'd agree that posture is super important. Even for women. But especially for men.
Working on is also super important, at the very least you should be able to do a mean set of push-ups, pull-ups and some squats. Easily attainable so long as you're eating like a normal person and actually pushing yourself at the gym. I used to be in decent shape, but come covid I became a real couch potato and am now underweight. I'm working on myself and getting myself back into the gym is a very important step to becoming a better version of myself.
ima pick my si-
@@pwlkadot ?
Yeah i was planning to pick my s-
This made me feel a lot better. Thank you, haha
A portion of the trans crowd has eating disorders related to body dysphoria, so "eating like a normal person" can be a struggle. Also mental health issues that come with being trans in a transphobic society/family, neurodivergence, disability etc. can all interfere.
If anyone's seeing this and you're dealing with any of this, you're not alone. Definitely call a hotline if you're feeling down, even if it's not the super serious, it's okay. Just call early since you're likely to be put on hold for like 2-30 minutes.
Suicide/crisis hotlines also can link to mental health resources, even some for those with financial issues if that's something that'd be helpful.
About the pronouns pins, I have a he/him one (I use he/they) and as soon as I got it, I've worn it most days at school and despite that, a staff member at school STILL called me "Miss" and that pissed me off cuz the nametags are usually the first thing u notice about someone
They're just doing that to piss you off because they have nothing better to do
Ye usually people will miss gender you more with pins, plus I think they are kinda embarrassing to wear so I don't wear them
@@r3alityisnotreal Oh- yeah I wear them sometimes now (also I'm back to they/them)
@@r3alityisnotrealpun intended?
I love how in the previous trans tip video Theo just went: DO.NOT. WEAR. BACKWARDS HATS. DONT FUCKING DO IT >:(
And his hat is backwards in the new trans tip video 😂
im a trans guy from *drum roll* russia
its so hard for us now because we cant buy hormones anymore and i dont know what to do with my transition because i just turned 18 and i took my first T shot two weeks ago but now i am in despair
i dont want to go to the w*r (yes trans guys may be sent to the w*r as well as cis dudes and im so scared cause i already have my passport changed and it says M)
i dont want to kill people and i dont want to be killed for *you know who cause his surname begins with P*
sorry for writing my feelings here i know it can be triggering for some people but im just
im about to give up
it’s devastating to see what happened to the country, I’m a Russian too. and we used to have T.a.t.u on tv and nobody cared about someone’s orientation or gender expression until that P guy. have you considered any opportunities to move? is it still possible to get an «отмазка» (don’t fit the requirements) paper?
I'm so sorry :( wishing you luck
Ouch. I'm from a neighbouring country and an NB to boot (so can't get HRT unless I lie). Good luck dude. If it helps, you can go down south, you get 90 days of stay without visa if you register within 3 days of arrival. A lot of my Russian colleagues fled the conscription a few months ago, some are still hanging out in the north of the country. Don't go too far south though, it's full of freaking n@zis.
Hey, your comment may have been posted a year ago, but I hope you are doing any better than you were before. I hope you have not given up and continue to fight. I hope those fucks never tangle you up in the war. Maybe I am worrying so much about you because I'm from a Russian family myself. I cannot imagine the weight of transition ON TOP of a w*r-ridden hellscape. Удачи, брат мой.
i hope youre doing okay man
12:34 I'm an androgynously presenting nonbinary boy, but I actually prefer using the "women's" bathroom if there are no genderless bathrooms around. Simply because they tend to have more stalls. I just run in, do my business in the stall and then get out with the least amount of people seeing me. Sure, I get more judgy looks when I am seen but privacy is 100% guaranteed! Love your videos man!!
“ *nervous laughter* And who wouldn’t want to be like William Afton??” *I felt that*
But hey I’m Kieran, a trans masc animator and it’s nice to see others like me :’> *also yes collared shirts are the shit - they make me feel so manly*
I decided to as a trans man to go by Freddy. And now my younger cousins tell me I'm supposed to be on lockdown haha. Still love my new name though
@@fred_hearts I love that so much lmao
@@fred_hearts the trans fnaf extended universe going real
@@fred_hearts hor hor hor hor
i read that as he said "collared shirts" 😭
"holiday dysphoria kids" i know it shouldn't be funny but I'm laughing so hard
Hello, Theo! I'm a transmasc (possibly transmasc enby?) pre-everything guy and I really appreciate your content. I love watching your videos and I love the memes as well as the tips.
Although I live with transphobic family members for the moment, I dream of the day I move out and finally get my binder. Finally go on T and work out because I really want some muscles. I just want to say thank you for making me smile and helping me on my journey through transition.
My pronouns (for now, might change them later): He/him or they/them!
hey if you’re with dysphoria, i recommend looking for literally anyone irl that accepts lgbtq and you can maybe get them to get a binder delivered at their house, instead of yours, and secretly have it. Unless it’s really obvious to wear a binder for you, then I can’t help you, but personally I’ve done this and I got the luck it didn’t fit, but at least it worked. I hope that’s helpful. (If you don’t have the money for it, you can always go around and do chores or like walk the neighbours dog, etc, for money)
@@flysso I have friends who are also LGBTQ+, but we live far away. I have money that I'm saving for my first car once I get my license. I do appreciate your help and when I feel brave enough, I'll try your binder tip. Thank you so much!
god i thought you were talking to me. My name is theodore and my nickname is theo, my pronouns are he\him.
@@animesafespace4023 Nice to meet you!
been doing this for everyone I see mentioning binders but please do be careful and safe bc it really sucks to not be able to breathe properly
I'm a trans dude myself, my name is Aspen but my friends call me all sorts of things but that's just my friends. I'm out at school and use the boys restroom. In September I will be approved to go on T. I love your channel bro.
im trans
and my family hates me so this video made my day instantly better :)
I'm so sorry you're going through this. You're not alone in this journey, trust me. 😊
@@maceyr.6583 thanks bro
that mean so much
@@shortmenmatter you're welcome but I'm a sis haha. Thanks. 🤍
@@shortmenmatter just continue being you okay? Be safe. ^^
Thank you. There are a lot of helpful tips here, some new to me and some that I've already practiced, but most of all, this video is very validating for me. Just your bit about allowing yourself to be feminine was so huge for me that I almost cried. So many ftm trans stories are "ever since I was a kid I liked boy things instead," or "I've never felt comfortable in my skin." I was never sure, dresses were fine, I had a girl body and that's what girls wear. I've always felt more comfortable in masc clothes, but not completely hugely dysphoric in women's, because- as someone with lady bits- I accepted fem styles. When I started presenting masculine I had this internal battle of whether or not my gender was valid if I didn't have the traditional ftm story of hating girl clothes with a firey passion my whole life. I've watched so many videos and read so many blogs waiting for this validation, so thank you. You are the first to tell me it's okay that I enjoyed extenuating the body I have, even if I'd rather have a different body. I don't know if you'll actually read this comment, but if you do I just want you to know the benefit you have on my psyche.
Hi there trnasmasc here :)
I just wanted to zoom in and say that you are Not the only one. In my elemantary school, the other Kids were often wondering why i sometimes had the same pullover as another boy from my class on and the other Day i was walking around in a skirt or a Dress. My hair has always been long but I used to put it up All the time and everyone looked at me weird when i pulled out my very long slightly curled hair. They were confused on why i didn't care, mostly because my mom always hated Stereotypes aswell. When i got into alt style and realised my transness there was always this little voice that told me i had to wear this and that. Skirts are illegal, never tight Jeans etc.
But in the end i realised that it doesnt matter. You are you. No matter what clothes you wear or how you express yourself. Sorry for writing this book of a comment it just sorta felt right to write it :))
I faintly remember saying being a girl is great because "we" can dress up dress pretty and no one will judge. Although the "girl" thing wasn't really girling to me
A lot of this circles back to one of my all time favorite posts, "You can do whatever you want forever" and I think that's excellent
heyyy Theo! I think I never commented on your channel but I wanted to tell you that I love your videos! I started hrt years ago, but I would have loved to have someone like you as a guide and company during my transition, tysm for your content and being you
yea theo has helped so much hasn't he just amazing i also would watch theo and noah finnace and jamie ect.
thank you!! that's v nice of you to say :)
me, closeted transmasc-ish dude (he/they) and will probably never come out because i live, grew up and will probably continue to live in china (i cant even really dress and/or present androgynously, much less get a binder or anything of the sort hhh help lmao) so im just living out the life i probably cant (in another few years at least) get through this video:
Man, I wish I were in the UK right now :)) I live in Eastern Europe and in my country you need to go to court to change your legal first name, and if your reason is a “sex change” you need to prove you’ve had surgery through a very invasive legal medicine check… ughhhhhh help
Hello :)
My name is Elio and my pronouns are He/They! I am transmasc and my deadname is Margaux (I do kinda like my deadname ngl lol)
My parents are transphobic and homophobic so when I told them I was pansexual they obviously weren't happy. After that, I decided to keep quiet about being trans and my friends took care of me, helped me pay for a binder, and were always there for me. Having good friends rly helps when you have transphobic parents. Sadly, I moved from the UK to the US about 2 years ago and now live in a sad apartment building with my dad and sister bc I'm too broke to move out and have nowhere to go. (But, my s/o is moving to the US to be with me so hopefully that goes well, we've been dating for 4 yrs and have known each other since year 1 in primary school)
So yeah, that's basically my story! If you're lgbtq+, good luck on your journey and have a wonderful day/night! :D
This comment made me rlly happy
Whyyy would you list your deadname
I love your name it’s so cool
I'm a transmasc who used to take t shots before I was taken off of them due to severe weight loss, but i took them while my body was growing most so i luckily maintained alot of permanent masculine features, and this video i must say helps me as well as many others do. thanks for the content man (:
"You can call me DOOR"
I flippin' love collared shirts. I have like 3 white, long-sleeved collared shirts and i wear a normal tee-shirt over them and it looks really cooll 😎🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️
I first got gender euphoria from collared shirts I love collared shirts
@@e7267 ikrr. There freakin awesome broski
Wearing my summer camp staff member tshirt over a collared shirt rn. 3 year old kid asked if I was he or she- Super happy abt that. EDIT: another kid asked if I was a boy, a girl, or a they/them. They then told me he liked to be a boy and a they/them but he likes they/them better. Their name was river. Whoever these parents are they are raising this kid right
8:03 My name is Ethan. My friend calls me (jokingly) Transformer, Optimus prime, Kokichi Ouma, Grape Fanta, Gluestick, Ethananananannanananan, Eathan, and more.
Lmao why are Kokichi Ouma and Grape Fanata so funny to me
The men's restroom tip actually really helped me... Just wanted to say thank you because I always am worried about what restroom to use.
I’m a transmasc creator lol, I do random stuff tbh but I’m planning on making videos on my trans experience soon. I literally look forward to your videos so much, like you’re honestly one of my favorite trans creators and the way you talk about things is just so chill and comforting.
Killjoys make some noise
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KILLJOY DETECTED
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in my school i don't have the gender-neutral bathroom in my school and I tried to use your tip and use the men's bathroom AND I GOT COUGHT, BULLIED AND CALLED THE T-SLUR 😭😭😭
People suck, I hope the bullying hasn’t effected you too much.
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Bro same. Now I'm allowed to use the teachers bathroom lol
I’m not that brave, considering I’m the least masc enby out there (want to look masc, but our dress code says no and I can only wear pants to get past that. Also everyone knows me as a girl and all my friends have forgotten I’m enby)
Eh?? Wait we have a slur-
Hi Theo, I actually found you through your 'everyone hates trans kids now basically' video, even though I wasn't allowed to be myself as a kid (came out at like 13/14 etc but was dismissed til 18) I'm so passionate about letting trans kids be themselves cos I came so close to ending myself ngl but I'm fine now luckily cos I'm out now and was accepted finally but yeah that's how I found your channel not the transmasc tips but I also watched that too, it was a funny video. I know you said it was filmed on your phone and low quality etc but I sometimes find those videos so charming idk why, maybe the rawness
YALL I JUST HAD A HUGE W
its the first day of school so I was talking with my teachers
My band teacher complimented my name and I responded "it doesn't really suit me" (NOT MEANING ANYTHING BY IT THOUGH I AM TRANS I just hate my deadname) and she asked me if I had a different name in mind 😭😭😭
She even greeted me after ("nice to meet you Ray.") And gave me a fist bump! Which the fist bump was W number two because I don't like hugs so YIPPPEEEEEEE
I was gonna quit her class but just because of this I'm staying and I am GOING to get an A!
"who wouldn't want to be like William Afton" -Theo
You scare me sometimes.
thank you so much, i’ve been so upset and frustrated with not being able to pass no matter what i do and this genuinely helped so much you’re the best
So true about the collared shirts, my binder never shows in them and when they fit right they rarely hug my figure
Sup! I'm Oli and im a trans dude that does bad folk punk covers! (I think this is the first comment I'm leaving from this youtube account?) I discovered you from your musical theatre moments that remind me im bi video bc mood. The "gender is easy" tip is a super good one btw - I had a much easier time once I was able to let go of that stress, and I wish I would have known to sooner
You can find loads of collar shirts at charity shops for cheap too :D I chose the name Jo as in Joseph, John, Jonathan, Johnny, Josh, Joshua, etc XD
As a bonus tip, I’ve also seen a genderfluid person use mascara(I think??) on their mustache to make it more visible- so that might help too!
i love your editing style because its subtle but emphasizes enough. someone else doing a docu style youtube video was using so much fade in, zooming in/focusing/moving around the face & letter by letter word animation and it was so hard on the eyes thanks for an awesome video
i got to this channel from searching “three cheers for sweet revenge story explained”
Honestly idgaf about my binder showing anymore, like I just let it show sometimes to assert dominance /j but still idc anymore, people just assume I’m wearing an undershirt-
Also collared shirts and platform shoes are THE GOAT
15:50 I may not be trans but I wear thick glasses. And once I lost half of my eyebrow because my body was too stressed ig, and no one even noticed that I lost and regrew a whole eyebrow over the course of 3 YEARS. So I can confidently say that thick glasses help
deeply funny to me bc the holiday dysphoria is EXACTLY what happened lol
I literally picked the same name as you for the exact same reasons. My deadname wasn't nickname-able and I hated that. I love that my partner can call me Teddy but other people can call me Theo. It really is a good name c:
Hey, I'm an enby (still figuring out if masc or not) I wanted to add something that helped me a little with finding a name. I use a text to speach website to try out the sound of new names (and the sound of it in combo with surname) and that helped me out personally. Love your content
Yo I am *far* to scared to even *attempt* to go into the males restroom bc I look so much like a female I cannot walk into a male restroom without them going "heyy you're a girl" so lmao hopefully I can look more androgynous in the future and walk in without anybody caring lmao
2:17 i actually found you through the three cheers for sweet revenge video essay lmao😭
didn't thought/realize i had just come across a trans content creator until i clicked on your channel, glad i found it though, as a trans masc-aligned nonbinary genderfluid person who also happens to have an obsession with mcr, it feels *weirdly* specific and i love it.
late ik but I just watched your old video and came to watch this one (not trans but non-binary and pretty masc) and your voice got so much deeper! it's so cool to see that your voice got deeper, it sounds really cool. :]
Trans man here. My name is Jayden but it took me months to find a name I liked that i could hear and be like "omg thats me" honestly i really knew it was the right name when i went to a mental hospital and they asked our names and prounouns (bc the guy was a gay man and i felt safe telling him) and i went by only that for a week. it made my mental health so much better and i loved it. (i will respond or look now when ppl say it which is kinda scary sometimes when im with my dad lol)
oh and just a quick funny thing is we got a paper cup with Gatorade when we took our meds because they taste horrible and they would write out names on the cup and i kept one bc for some reason the nurse didnt ever write the J right and i looks really dumb. me and my roommate were like "tf is this? do they think this is a J" bc it honestly looked like the @ symbol
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR 10:30!!! I was freaking out about how I experience different levels of feeling like a guy, and I was worried that I couldn’t be transmasc coz I was too feminine or something, but the stuff you said really calmed me down. That’s exactly what I needed someone to say to me 😊
i agree on the collared shirt one- we love collared shirts in this household
i love the collared shirt tip because i know for me and many others that live in incredibly hot areas its just not possible to wear a hoodie without being drenched in sweat
This video really helps! I’m currently having dysphoria and so I went to go find tips and these really help! Thank you! :)
Watching this as a cis-girl 😭🫶
Good luck to all of you !!
You're so helpful! I really hope you reach 1 mil you deserve it!! I watched your video on ftm outfits and it was of HUUHE help! You saved me
10:04
I have been feeling really bad recently and this perked me up a lot. Thanks Theo for being such an awsome help :)
Lmao I'm so sorry, but I just watched the other video and after the long rant about not wearing backwards baseball caps, you are wearing one bro. Love the vids thanks for the help.
This video might be two years old, but this video is amazing. Recently came out to my friends about 10 months ago, thank you.
YOU SAID WILLIAM AFTON WHEN TALKING ABOUT THAT NAMES, that made me so happy bc my name is William and fnaf!
I love how we had the same idea while picking theodor as name
My name is Willow, so I want to go with William so people can call me Will and I won't have to come out! (I'm not trans)
When you were talking about how easy it is to change your name I actually laughed in disbelief that I could literally get my name changed in under an hour as I'm a UK resident, turning 17 tomorrow with more than £30 in my bank XD
edit: Also I really thought I found your channel through a different video but no, turns it I did find it through that 10 tips one lol
As a young closeted trans guy (I kind of just found out I was trans about a few months ago after almost a year of questioning my gender) I first went by the name Jax. I later found out that I liked being called Jaxon too! This video really helped. Thanks Theo!!
Trans male here I came out to my mom a few months ago and it turned into a long lecture
Told my sister she supported same with my cousin and my friends
Can’t tell my Mimi she’s homophobic and transphobic
But I sent my aunt some stuff I put into a list and I put a tie in the list and she hasn’t said anything abt it or questioned it (she’s apart of the LGBTQ+ and she supports trans people)
yo i love devon im so happy u shouted him out dude
im honestly scared about coming out as trans because my brother came out as trans about 8 years ago and they had a friend who copied them constantly while they were attempting to transition and it peeved them a lot.
I tried telling my brother I wanted to be a man a couple of years ago too, but they wrote it off as me sexualizing mens lives and just trying to copy him. I never brought it up after that
technically im out as genderfluid/ace right now. I dont have any sexual or romantic attraction towards people, but im also on the spectrum so it can just be a ting that comes with the funky yknow
Im really just worried about how my brother will think of me. ive been having a lot of dysphoria lately and havent brought it up with anyone. Ive been hinting at it when i talk with my trans friends, but i havent been straight about it.
my binder is my best friend lol
Tbh it’s obviously shitty that your brother had bad experience but he shouldn’t let that out on you. Tell him how you feel and that you have been identifying as trans for a while. If you are being honest and true to yourself then he will be understanding of it I’m sure. He will never be the only transmasc person in his life and he has to understand that just because there are other trans people doesn’t mean they are faking it. If you’re to anxious to talk maybe write him a letter or send a message that explain it. That way you can tell your feeling without him interrupting you or it leading to an argument.
Just wanted to share something that happened to me and was amazing - I was watching the video 10 tips for transmasc people and had earbuds, my father went around, watched you for a while and said :"That's a guy quite like you!"
I am not out,I am afab, and I was like yes, yes, he is......
I was steered away because I feel weird about packing... but came back and liked the little segment about femininity. I am genderfluid and have considered going on T, but I'm worried it will make me die sooner since my Dad passed when he was 53 from an aortic rupture. They scanned my heart and said it was fine, but I'm not sure if that will be the case if I go on T.
I feel like femininity is so fragile, just as fragile as masculinity. Some people can't put on makeup because of allergies or eye sensitivity or some other reasons. I sometimes really like wearing dresses and would love to wear frilly dresses, corsets, and all that. However, I don't think I'll do heels because my feet don't work like that lol. But it's so easy to dress androgynously or more masc when you are sick or not even trying to present a certain way lol it just sort of happens.
6:52 collared shirts that are made of the like more stiff material are especially great, cuz when tucked in they kinda like make a little,, like there’s space between your chest and the shirt cuz the material isn’t form fitting idk how to describe it lol.
backing up the restroom thing. i live in a small town and i pass pretty well, so i may be a bit lucky, but even when i've been to big cities, nobody has ever done anything beyond an odd glance in my direction. nobody cares about your outfit or if your pissing sitting down (im willing to bet cis guys do it), everyone there is just worried about their own business. honestly, the worst thing about the mens room in my experience is how gross it is, lol.
that being said, there are definitely some risks and people have had bad experiences in the washroom, so trust your better judgement and stay safe.
17:58 I was watching this part of the video while painting my nails and I just had the weirdest fourth wall moment 😅
thank u for this i don't have any trans friends so no one in my friend circle gets me this is so sweet it feel understood
Collared shirts are the only way I'm surviving Texas summer
I'm non-binary (leaning towards more masculine in appearance) and I adore my collared shirts. Especially tacky Hawaiian ones. They're perfect for the workplace and can have a long-sleeved shirt under them in the winter ^.^ Glad they made the cut.
I was told to sit up properly, im an artist... hunched over is the best im getting
For hair loss I also really recommend saw palmeto suppliment
My go to phrase now is: “Your gender is fine”
Adding to the posture thing, I've found my back hurts significantly less after binding if I keep my back straight than if I let myself slouch. My binder has actually helped me get rid of my shit posture because of that haha
as another trans guy named theodore, this name is just so good istg (im not biased)
Dude seeing this video title gave me serious déjà vu
I love your ABBA pin, dude!! Subscribed.
dude i didn't know you could damage your voice doing voice training, good thing i've been too lazy to start
Okay you're giving me strong Miles McKenna vibes
For first or secret binders, go for white or light gray, because you can wear it with thinner light-colored shirts without bad show through. If your not out, it just looks like a white sports bra to unsuspecting eyes
Door is the perfect nickname for Theodor🤣
When you said nicknameable names example: Theodore. I immediately thought "DOOR" 😂AND then you said it !!
Hello! :} That was actually the first video i saw and that made me subscribe!
I found this video from a learning to change your voice type of video-
But I'll keep these tips in mind
Honestly as a young trans male this video was nice to watch!
This bathroom advice was ever comforting because I have horrible anxiety. Around everyone Useing eh wemons bathroom=Anxiety
Mens bathroom=Anxiety
Sadly I don’t often find gender neutral bathrooms.
Also the glasses part is makes so much sense! But my take is the fames of your glasses can really change how the shape of your face is perceived! I wear really boxy shaped glasses that make my face look more masculine.
Lmao all I do on my channel is be a furry-
Just came from the other video, the voice changed was surprising :)
also name twins ayy
hii theo!! if you feel comfortable, can you make a workout video? i’ve been really wanting to workout lately to feel better and to pass a little more
it will definitely happen at some point can't promise when tho :)
The first video I watched of you was the ultimte transmasc summer guide. I love your vids and as a baby trans they really help out a lot!
OH MY LORD- I FINISHED WATCHING THAT OLD ONE AND NOW I LOOK AT YOU NOW?? UR VOICE IS SO AMING
I just watched the last video and this one shows up to me fjkdjwjsjdjfjfjjfj you really changed a look dude, love the vídeo by the way
as a trans guy (demiboy hehe), i wear collared shirts probably 60 procent of the time and oversized shirts 40 procent of the time. its amazing. most of the time i wear both tho (collared shirts with over it an oversized shirt plus dress pants). 10/10.
Im a non-binary trans masc person. I don’t have a UA-cam channel. Im not interested in making content here. I just trying to learn more things i can do that will keep my dysphoria from breaking my depression into death. Trying to get top surgery, but im being forced to put it on pause, and gonna lose my current insurance this summer, the threat of nation wide ban on gender affirming care if trump wins the presidency again, has me so fucked up and hopeless. I just want to be happy and thrive in the body I wanted to have since i was 11 years old back in the 90’s, before I turn 40 this December.
Hey Theo!! I loved this video. I’m definitely pro collared shirts lol. I’ve started trying to make videos monitoring my changes on T as well. I love watching your videos and I can’t wait to get some more changes!!
thx 4 this! I did come from that first video lmao. also I would love a beginner workout video!
I came here from that podcast thing u did with goddamit malcom and I related to a bunch of things u said plus I thought ur room looked cool so I clicked the link lmao
I actually found your channel through this video. This is my first one of your videos I've seen. You have a new subscriber now.
Jesus the voice training part yeah i obviously messed my thoat up but it's like healed over time 😅😳
How did you do that?😢
@@sunnyithink420 i just over strained my vocals, felt like a soar throat, but warm drinks help relax it
The posture thing... sucks a lot for me because I am very short so it would help BUT i have g-cups so having bad posture is the only way to hide them 😭😭😭😭😭
With my name since i didnt want my family to scream at me i choose to go by the masculine version of my dead name but now they still yell at me cause my dead name is supposedly “unisex” but mostly females have it, I really want to change my name but my entire family would be pissed at me
that was the first video of yours that i watched :D even though you think the video sucks, it was what made me subscribe so it wasn’t THAT bad
My fav part about this video is in his other vid(the one he’s redoing) he has a whole this about how stupid backwards hats are lmfao, I personally LOVE backwards hats, you are also one of my fav tubers btw🫡
Hiiiiiiii! THANKS FOR THIS VIDEOO I FOUND YOUR CHANNEL WITH THE OTHER TRANS TIPS!!!
YOURE WELCOME