I Can't begin to tell you just how important your channel is. Your knowledge and empathy are so calming and infectious. A broken heart in my opinion is the most personal soul crushing life experience you can have. You make it not so difficult. Thank you.
@@IamCoachCourt probably the last thing we want to have in common. Unfortunately people with the purest hearts feel the Most pain. So many of us. I take solace in knowing I'm not alone.
All monkey branching relationships should be successful in the eyes of the person the act was done to. Reason being why is you should not want anything to do with them ever again. Once you see they’re in a new relationship, That’s it. Monkey branching is the worse form of cheating because the person was still with you, and neglecting you but prepping someone else for your spot. That’s a horrible thing to do. Once I saw my ex post her and her man on Facebook; all social media blocked, and number blocked. I don’t want to see you, hear you, anything. Deal with the pain in silence, get back on your feet and move on.
That’s extreme, i know something cause i lived the situation (and still living it) especially, our roads crossed ,she was with her new partner (a friend she knew 9 months before broke up) saw her Twice in a month (after monkey branching). That demolished me, its been like 2 months since i saw them, im still struggling to get out of the pain … after 14 years together, i never cheated on her , i loved her she was my first true love, i left my family my friends and even the country to reunite with her. That’s life, one day the karma will catch up with her.
It’s definitely more common with women but there are signs that often overlooked in the relationship. Unfortunately I my gut was telling me something was off about my ex and then once I called her out she finally admitted it
My wife of 6.5 years monkey branched to a sugar daddy. She is a very smart, successful and attractive young woman. Five months post discard, she has moved in with him, my two kids and his three kids. The emotional/physical went on for at least nine months. Five months on from the discard, and I still get flash backs of those little signs/actions/words she was going astray. I didn’t trust my gut, now I’m joining the dots..
It just sucks when you invested so much into this person for years. The last month and a half you had together they pull back, avoid you, etc all because they're lining up a new guy they met at a new job. Then you catch them being emotionally intimate on a secret social media account and all the excuses come out "it's just a friend" blah blah garbage. The worst part is post breakup, after you went no contact and they immediately started dating, the ex tried to reach out to you multiple times when you're trying to heal. Their intentions is to take advantage of the love you had for them so they can use you again. People are cruel.
first half of the message is exactly what happened to me. I often wonder if a coworker relationship will last forever, im worried it could because they seem great for eachother and it is such an awful feeling. are they still together in your situation?
Yeah, the whole "he's just a friend" line is always a huge indicator you're about to get dumped. Although I will say that if she started pulling away 6 weeks before leaving, you had a chance to see it and do something. Mine left out of nowhere with no warning whatsoever. She'd met a new group of friends and swore they were just friends. To prove it, she invited them out with us, but only one of them could make it. At first, everything was fine, but as the night wore on, she started paying less attention to me and more to him until by the end of the night, she was completely ignoring me and entirely focused on him. She even tried to invite him up when he drove us home. That's how I found out he was more than just a friend.
Spent two years with someone who was mokeying around. I was aware of what was happening but she was too beautiful and smart for me to accept reality. Learning more about monkey branching has helped me move on very quick. Looking at all the past behaviour now that I'm out adds up so clearly, she was a total narcissist. I won't make the same mistake twice.
My time on this planet is not here to be wasted with people who don't know what or who they want in life... Here I am at 50 ..I'm not 20 anymore ...dating sucks .. and yes my ex was a narcissist
I will have to keep rewatching this. I’m only 4 months in from being Monkey Branched, but I won’t even lie, everyday I’m really depressed, I may be young & have money saved up, but I moved 200 miles away when it happened & ive been just trying to adjust to everything, I sometimes feel worthless somedays.
I totally know what that feeling is. Please do everything to divert your attention on to things more interesting. Never stay alone because friends will keep you engaged. Set new goals and run after them so that your mind doesnt dwell on old stuff. Lastly but most importantly, go to Reddit pages of Intermittent Fasting and Keto Diet. Good food/health will make it easy for you to move on other wise you will never come out of it. There have been successful cases on those pages where people have solved their depression and self worth issues, please dont ignore this point for your own good. All the best.
It will make you question your self worth. Then there is the trauma bond type effect where you get obsessed with what went wrong. Anyway stay strong my brothers. Let your mind do its thing but know you are not your thoughts. And some of this is crap from childhood you will heal from. Good vid!
Be careful when this happens to you. It seems like just going back out there and immediately looking another relationship will help you get over them but the truth is you attract what you project. Hurt people hurt people. Make sure you are at a good place in life, when the next person comes along be very self aware and don't rush anything.
I feel she has monkey branched a few times or rebounds. It’s her pattern with me over 7 years. We always got back together except this time. She monkey branched or rebounded with a new guy and now she moved 3 hours away to live with him and now they are getting married. We are in our 50,s and she found someone that will take care of her better than I did. I’m an abandonment survivor and have my problems. But she has problems as well and the biggest one is she can not be alone ever
Great video again Coach. I will say in a relationship and going through a breakup now, there is always something that happens for the relationship to get dysfunctional. I go back and revisit what did she do for me to questioning the relationship. What did she say that annoyed me to the core. When I remember those instants, I just accept the current situation. Some times painful, but the recovery is going ok.
My fiancee monkey branched to a co-worker. They used to go work out together without my knowledge. When I found out I immediately moved out. She has struggled mightily since then and even in a moment of weakness I gave her money. I then bought the two rental properties her father left her when she continued to struggle financially. I raised the rent on both and now have an extra recurring income each month. I met her at a location to pick up one of the titles and she pointed out to me that she had gained 15 pounds and had not worked out in months. I guess what I'm trying to say is that what I did after being completely devastated emotionally..I mean completely devastated was I worked on me. I started running and working out and got down to about 15 percent body fat while all outward appearances point to her life being an epic failure since her betrayal. I think that's how most monkey branch relationships end. I'm still devastated and really hurt but the only thing I can do is to continue to work on me. Seeing her struggle does hurt me. However, Karma is a Bitch!!! Work on yourself and make her regret ever losing you bc if your reading this then obviously you loved the person very much and her chances of someone like you are nil!!!
"My fiancee monkey branched to a co-worker. They used to go work out together without my knowledge" Same here. It was 5 month ago. Hope you are still on your path to be your best version as im. cheers
My fiance just monkey branched me with her new boss, just two weeks after starting working there Day before we argued and she left she was saying she loved me She had slept with him in the office while she was with me, and after 4 weeks my fiance was living with another man I didn’t want to go on, I drank a litre of vodka and 40 sleeping pills, but still woke up The pain of her with him before I even started to heal was too much I’m taking each day one by one now
My now ex girlfriend of almost 7 years did this to me in mid November. To say that I was blindsided is an understatement. Now she "loves the guy to the moon and back" lol. I mean yeah it hurts but it was a blessing in disguise. All I can say to her is enjoy the career criminal felon out on parole registered sex offender. Thank you for the gift!!
Him being a sex offender is actually what drove her to him. Not a lot of people that are boomers and older realize this but women are actually very bad people. They were controlled a lot more decades ago than they are now, so the older generations don't know. There are many verses in the Bible about this, that if a woman gains too much power you will see their evil.
Worst thing for me is that she (ex of 8 yrs that rebounded or monkey branched idk...) has been hell bent on honesty and loyalty and dont know what but Im starting to wonder if she's been lying to me for a long time... she has physically and emotionally retreated from me the past year, however she still regularly told me she loved me and often begged me not to leave her, then after she has been pretty much broken up with me without telling me, I broke up with her after trying everything possible to fix things and in 2 weeks she was gone and engaged in another 2 weeks.
Thanks I didn't know what monkey branching was until this video. It has just happened to me. He monkey branched from me to her. Upon reflection I can see now he has done this before. With me it lasted 24yrs and 2 children. So I'm upset to think he could possibly last a long time with this new one who is a lot younger. She knew about me and was ok with it. He told me she wouldn't leave him and then showed me her pictures. So I took my kids and left. Is it bad karma for me to hope they don't last long. He kept saying how much he still loved me, I don't believe that. There's no boomerangs here I don't want him back. I'm just so heartbroken and can't believe what's just happened.
But, IMO you have every right to pray against anything prospering off of your tears or the tears of your children esp as it relates to a marriage covenant. Marriage joins you together as one so you both need to move in agreement otherwise you’re torn apart. And there’s scripture advising that no man come between a husband and wife. Pray about it. Trust that justice will be served. 🙏✨
My ex monkey branched me just on January 8th. He was the orbiter. She left me and they moved in together that very day. Now less than 4 months, they are engaged to be married. She moved hours away to his home in San Diego. She’s 54. This guy had been trying to get with her for a while and finally got her from me. And she acted like she loved me so much up until that day of the break up. So she gave up her career with a pension and moved with him very far away, hours away. The home they live in is on the outskirts of SD , way back in the hills on dirt roads mile’s away from anything. She’s not going to work and just live off his income now. So this relationship has gone at the speed of lightning and it’s working for them not. So I feel she falls in to 10% that does work. I loved her with everything that I am but she hurt me badly. I’ve been in counseling since it happened. She did this to me before a couple times and always came back . I loved her and always took her back. But she’s not coming back this time. One of the major problems we had was I wouldn’t move in together after 7 years of being together. So I get it but to leave me the way it happened was awful, absolutely horrible. So monkey branching worked for them both. I wish her well I guess. But this has been her pattern her entire adult life. It has never changed until he got her. She’s not leaving home. The home they have now is on 5 acres , a ranch setting. She’s happy. One more thing, she still reaches out every now and again when she with him and getting married? Why?
I’m sorry but I’d leave too if my boyfriend wouldn’t move in with me after being together for 7 years. Are you serious. Nah you kinda deserved that. You should have been settled down with her.
@@StfuShinji no , your wrong. She had done this a couple times in 7 years and I found out she was on a dating site. So there were issues on both sides. I wanted it to work and I got into therapy, she didn’t. So I lost her due to reasons that wouldn’t change. I loved her tremendously but was trying to trust again and this happened. There’s a pattern there and it will happen again
My husband of 12 years did this. Good luck 😂He shacked up with the secretary from his work, who is also a Narcissist. She got a habitual cheater (i didn't realize hes a covert Narcissist until his brutal discard, he blindsided me)
I found out this term because i noticed a pattern of finding out people i or my other single friends go on dates with are already in relationships! Not going on dates full on girlfriend or boyfriend at home
My ex girlfriend is doing most of this, she monkey branches around, after she left me she rushed right into a new relationship, then sorta came back to me and had emotional cheating with me and all the sudden cut me off and refocused on her New relationship, for me there's lots of unanswered questions feelings and more
My ex mokeybranched to his new girlfriend. And me and the woman before me and so on he’s definitely a narcissistic. It hurt like hell in the beginning but I’m much better now, stay over there 👉
Before i knew the term.. my soon to be ex-wife monkey branched onto me, then after 2.5 years of marriage she branched onto new supply. Sucks, hurts like hell but have to let it go!! Stay strong both you men and women, stay strong, take the time and learn the tools to heal! 🙏🏼
What the monkey brancher does sometimes is keep the new person in the dark about the partner. My FA ex often talked about the soon-to-be new love as a friend. I didn't pay attention because he is FA and they have lots of friends, including ex's. He even wanted to date and remain friends with me. Hell no!!! I let him go without a tear. NC forever for me. Never again.
Im so hurt... my ex emotionally cheated twice and this time he monkey branched to a girl at his church (he's mormon and im buddhist) and all of a sudden he told me he wants a temple marriage. But i could not convert for someone who was not giving me security that they wouldnt cheat... 😞 im extremely hurt i think they might last. We were together for 3-4 yrs
im 99% sure my ex left me for her colleague. We were LD for 9 months and she spent a lot of time with him! Ive been working on my self esteem and i can objectively say he is a massive downgrade! She emotionally cheated and begged for me to forgive her... I stupidly did forgive her over time but then a few months later she broke up with me and it turned out she had been spending time with him throughout! At least now i know the signs and what to do next time! Worst thing is i truly loved and gave her everything, her family loved me and in the end also hated the way she treated me.
They always downgrade to low hanging fruit. Less pressure, & less expectations of them coming from a downgrade. Less brains & class, too, but I digress.
Thank you Bru for sharing. I was in LD for 18 months, she began entertaining a colleague and assured me that nothing was happening. Well I can confirm I blocked her when the signs were clear that she's cheating. Best decision for myself
My ex left me with his workmate.. we've been together for 7yrs.. i let him go but why he keeps on txting me every month and he doesn't even get his stuff.i never reached out but him? He has entry every.month.. what does it means? It's been 10 months since he left me but every month he will txt or call me..then my picture is still in his fb.. they are not frnd in fb l..what do you think he is doing? He is with that girl but why still reaching out..i never chase or reach out.. can anyone help me why he is doing it? Btw i improve myself a lot..
It means he’s weak. Don’t take his ass back. Not worth your time, energy and you. Move on. He’s dumb for leaving you and you’re lucky to get out of a bad relationship that resulted in this outcome. Work on your self healing and focus all your energies inward to let go of past traumas. And yes, definitely set HIGH boundaries. Giving him any attention gives him encouragement to come back into your life, if that IS what you want. You attract who you are at the moment you present yourself. Good luck! 🙏❤️😊
Camila Repique: the only photo he ever posted was of our family and it’s still on his page even though the new person follows him. Last I saw, she’s not allowed to post him. He’s liked a few of her photos but never comments. She’s still being hidden in plain sight. I coincidentally found out about her. But, I discovered that she’s been competing for my position for years. I filed for divorce but he filed a motion to stop it. He refuses to cooperate and has completely stonewalled me. I’ve concluded: 1. The thrill was in having us both. 2. The grass isn’t greener on the other side. 3. They enjoy confusing you. 🙄
Camila Repique And I would mail/drop off his stuff. Get it out of your home ASAP. And block his number/stop answering him. If she’s not following him then the photo on FB means nothing.. He’s just using it to confuse you and keep you attached incase the other situation doesn’t work out. This my opinion. Let go. Rebuild/reinvent yourself. Take care. 🙏✨
This happened to me just now. I was with this girl for 3 years! I suspected her for a few months back her behavior change a lot. Funny thing i feel she time it right after valentines.. broke up with me towards the end of feb A little of her. She was a single mother of 2 girls, she wanted to settle down and get married basically right. This girl didn't have her sht prioratize. No workin for most of the 3 years relationship, she rented a little room all 3 of them plus 3 animals. I didn't see her putting effort so i never ask her to live with me. More to it, but just want everyone to know, im heart broken.. i am so stupid, weak, blind. This girl betrayed me so bad. After everything i did for her. Do u guys think she will have a success relationship where she at right now?
My ex boyfriend monkey of 10 months branched to his ex (stated unresolved issues…) I had no idea she existed! We started off really well and then he started distancing etc, no arguments or fights. He seemed really into me and we appeared to have a good connection. Any thoughts?
Thanks for the reply. Replacement from me? I literally had to force the truth out of him. He’d been acting ‘off’ for a couple of months. It hurts that he seems to have secured a relationship, whilst still with me. If that’s what/who he wants why not end it with me first? He already knows what she’s about - being his ex… I actually saw them together and he still was not forthright! Unfinished business must be his pattern (to keep the door open)
I have thought about that question at a macro level. IMO, monkey branching (mb) can only be a successful strategy when a significant majority do not mb. If too many mb, you can only find someone who is jaded and cautious. I believe that mb on a widespread societal level plays a significant role in the rise of MGTOW.
so i fall under the fucking 10 % yeeeaeaa my ex girl s emotional walls are down she had unsafed sex so ... (my relationship was 10 years she is anxious me avoidant -.- the guy is the tunisian cousin of her brother in law -.-)
My now ex monkey branching with a 22 year old only fan cam girl from Colombia he is relocating there now to be with her he think he was a hero for this girl. I am one of his supply for 6years.. he discarded me like a trash I wasn't aware that he had a long history of failed relationship from the past. It hurt like hell the pain was excruciating when I saw them posting photos together on social media I've already blocked him in all social media accounts. I want revenge but I give it all to God. He is 65 and always choose to be with a younger girls I am half his age but the new supply was Way more younger..
Good content. Only suggestion, is either change the lighting, or don't wear eyeglasses, as the reflection in your glasses, is very distracting. Otherwise, another great video!
He was single for two years, and we were together for a year and two months. His ex gf monkey branched and hurt his so much and he said that he could never understand people who do this. Long story short, although our relationship was good, he started being cold and blamed me for so many things. He broke up with me 4 days ago, and today I saw his conversation with some girl on instagram which started about a month ago. He told her that we’re broken up for awhile and he planned his date with her while I was packing my stuff and crying in the bedroom. Even his own mother and sister haven’t believed me until I sent them screenshots of his conversation. I never saw that coming and I guess that nowadays it’s easier to throw away than to try and fix things.
Didn't find out my partner was mbing until years after we married. Her and her Christian friends defend it cause we were dating at the time. She defends it to this day saying 'but I chose you'. Nah, you were good at hiding and I was too respectful of your privacy to not look at your phone/computer
she may be christian but, she ain't born again bro, the girl i was talking to did the same thing. I thank God though that she exposed herself because when I found out i lost almost all attraction to her, almost felt repulsed by the behavior especially with her claiming to be a christian
I Can't begin to tell you just how important your channel is.
Your knowledge and empathy are so calming and infectious.
A broken heart in my opinion is the most personal soul crushing life experience you can have.
You make it not so difficult.
Thank you.
I really appreciate that, i wouldn’t be here if it wasn’t for what I’ve experienced 🙏🏾
@@IamCoachCourt probably the last thing we want to have in common.
Unfortunately people with the purest hearts feel the Most pain.
So many of us.
I take solace in knowing I'm not alone.
Once a woman starts to build an emotional connection with someone else then it starts to poison her existing relationship.
Same for man
Emotional, physical, it doesn't really matter, the moment she gets butterflies for another guy, she loses all interest and attraction for you.
@@fuzzypanda1684 correct, and it is never your fault!
Who cares it’s only if she tries to come back that determines your status as a man and if you take her back you are weak period
All monkey branching relationships should be successful in the eyes of the person the act was done to. Reason being why is you should not want anything to do with them ever again. Once you see they’re in a new relationship, That’s it. Monkey branching is the worse form of cheating because the person was still with you, and neglecting you but prepping someone else for your spot. That’s a horrible thing to do. Once I saw my ex post her and her man on Facebook; all social media blocked, and number blocked. I don’t want to see you, hear you, anything.
Deal with the pain in silence, get back on your feet and move on.
It is horrible bro, well put
Totally agree. My husband of 12 years did this. He monkey branched to the secretary from his work 🤮
That’s extreme, i know something cause i lived the situation (and still living it) especially, our roads crossed ,she was with her new partner (a friend she knew 9 months before broke up) saw her Twice in a month (after monkey branching).
That demolished me, its been like 2 months since i saw them, im still struggling to get out of the pain … after 14 years together, i never cheated on her , i loved her she was my first true love, i left my family my friends and even the country to reunite with her.
That’s life, one day the karma will catch up with her.
It’s definitely more common with women but there are signs that often overlooked in the relationship. Unfortunately I my gut was telling me something was off about my ex and then once I called her out she finally admitted it
My wife of 6.5 years monkey branched to a sugar daddy.
She is a very smart, successful and attractive young woman.
Five months post discard, she has moved in with him, my two kids and his three kids.
The emotional/physical went on for at least nine months.
Five months on from the discard, and I still get flash backs of those little signs/actions/words she was going astray.
I didn’t trust my gut, now I’m joining the dots..
It just sucks when you invested so much into this person for years. The last month and a half you had together they pull back, avoid you, etc all because they're lining up a new guy they met at a new job. Then you catch them being emotionally intimate on a secret social media account and all the excuses come out "it's just a friend" blah blah garbage.
The worst part is post breakup, after you went no contact and they immediately started dating, the ex tried to reach out to you multiple times when you're trying to heal. Their intentions is to take advantage of the love you had for them so they can use you again. People are cruel.
first half of the message is exactly what happened to me. I often wonder if a coworker relationship will last forever, im worried it could because they seem great for eachother and it is such an awful feeling. are they still together in your situation?
@@h7pubg no haha ended in the first 2-3 months, rebound relationship.
Happened to me too. Five years
Down the drain 😂
@@h7pubg Same thing happened to me , a coworker ! She now has moved him in and they work together, how long will this last ?
Yeah, the whole "he's just a friend" line is always a huge indicator you're about to get dumped. Although I will say that if she started pulling away 6 weeks before leaving, you had a chance to see it and do something. Mine left out of nowhere with no warning whatsoever. She'd met a new group of friends and swore they were just friends. To prove it, she invited them out with us, but only one of them could make it. At first, everything was fine, but as the night wore on, she started paying less attention to me and more to him until by the end of the night, she was completely ignoring me and entirely focused on him. She even tried to invite him up when he drove us home. That's how I found out he was more than just a friend.
Spent two years with someone who was mokeying around. I was aware of what was happening but she was too beautiful and smart for me to accept reality. Learning more about monkey branching has helped me move on very quick. Looking at all the past behaviour now that I'm out adds up so clearly, she was a total narcissist. I won't make the same mistake twice.
Same case, I didnt learn my lessons and it messed me up.
My time on this planet is not here to be wasted with people who don't know what or who they want in life... Here I am at 50 ..I'm not 20 anymore ...dating sucks .. and yes my ex was a narcissist
I will have to keep rewatching this.
I’m only 4 months in from being Monkey Branched, but I won’t even lie, everyday I’m really depressed, I may be young & have money saved up, but I moved 200 miles away when it happened & ive been just trying to adjust to everything, I sometimes feel worthless somedays.
I totally know what that feeling is. Please do everything to divert your attention on to things more interesting. Never stay alone because friends will keep you engaged. Set new goals and run after them so that your mind doesnt dwell on old stuff. Lastly but most importantly, go to Reddit pages of Intermittent Fasting and Keto Diet. Good food/health will make it easy for you to move on other wise you will never come out of it. There have been successful cases on those pages where people have solved their depression and self worth issues, please dont ignore this point for your own good. All the best.
Hope you’re doing well bro
Hey man how are you feeling right now after 2 years?
It will make you question your self worth. Then there is the trauma bond type effect where you get obsessed with what went wrong. Anyway stay strong my brothers. Let your mind do its thing but know you are not your thoughts. And some of this is crap from childhood you will heal from. Good vid!
Be careful when this happens to you. It seems like just going back out there and immediately looking another relationship will help you get over them but the truth is you attract what you project. Hurt people hurt people. Make sure you are at a good place in life, when the next person comes along be very self aware and don't rush anything.
Rejection is gods protection
You can say that again!
I feel she has monkey branched a few times or rebounds. It’s her pattern with me over 7 years. We always got back together except this time. She monkey branched or rebounded with a new guy and now she moved 3 hours away to live with him and now they are getting married. We are in our 50,s and she found someone that will take care of her better than I did. I’m an abandonment survivor and have my problems. But she has problems as well and the biggest one is she can not be alone ever
that guy failed keeping that trash
Sure it can "work" ... Like becoming a bank robber, it can "work" but that don't make it a good idea ..
🤣
That is a GREAT analogy!
Great video again Coach. I will say in a relationship and going through a breakup now, there is always something that happens for the relationship to get dysfunctional. I go back and revisit what did she do for me to questioning the relationship. What did she say that annoyed me to the core. When I remember those instants, I just accept the current situation. Some times painful, but the recovery is going ok.
Thanks for commenting! 🙏🏾
Thank you for looking into this. No other coaches are doing this.
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Thank you so much coach court for this video. It has really brought so much peace to my heart.
You’re a very authentic person coach❤️
Thank you Maisha! ❤️
My fiancee monkey branched to a co-worker. They used to go work out together without my knowledge. When I found out I immediately moved out. She has struggled mightily since then and even in a moment of weakness I gave her money. I then bought the two rental properties her father left her when she continued to struggle financially. I raised the rent on both and now have an extra recurring income each month. I met her at a location to pick up one of the titles and she pointed out to me that she had gained 15 pounds and had not worked out in months. I guess what I'm trying to say is that what I did after being completely devastated emotionally..I mean completely devastated was I worked on me. I started running and working out and got down to about 15 percent body fat while all outward appearances point to her life being an epic failure since her betrayal. I think that's how most monkey branch relationships end. I'm still devastated and really hurt but the only thing I can do is to continue to work on me. Seeing her struggle does hurt me. However, Karma is a Bitch!!! Work on yourself and make her regret ever losing you bc if your reading this then obviously you loved the person very much and her chances of someone like you are nil!!!
"My fiancee monkey branched to a co-worker. They used to go work out together without my knowledge" Same here. It was 5 month ago. Hope you are still on your path to be your best version as im. cheers
This happened to me. Boyfriend of 3.5 years monkey branched to co-worker and moved in with her within a few days of the break up.
My fiance just monkey branched me with her new boss, just two weeks after starting working there
Day before we argued and she left she was saying she loved me
She had slept with him in the office while she was with me, and after 4 weeks my fiance was living with another man
I didn’t want to go on, I drank a litre of vodka and 40 sleeping pills, but still woke up
The pain of her with him before I even started to heal was too much
I’m taking each day one by one now
My now ex girlfriend of almost 7 years did this to me in mid November. To say that I was blindsided is an understatement. Now she "loves the guy to the moon and back" lol. I mean yeah it hurts but it was a blessing in disguise. All I can say to her is enjoy the career criminal felon out on parole registered sex offender. Thank you for the gift!!
Him being a sex offender is actually what drove her to him. Not a lot of people that are boomers and older realize this but women are actually very bad people. They were controlled a lot more decades ago than they are now, so the older generations don't know. There are many verses in the Bible about this, that if a woman gains too much power you will see their evil.
how you doing now
Bro this happen to me same
Worst thing for me is that she (ex of 8 yrs that rebounded or monkey branched idk...) has been hell bent on honesty and loyalty and dont know what but Im starting to wonder if she's been lying to me for a long time... she has physically and emotionally retreated from me the past year, however she still regularly told me she loved me and often begged me not to leave her, then after she has been pretty much broken up with me without telling me, I broke up with her after trying everything possible to fix things and in 2 weeks she was gone and engaged in another 2 weeks.
Thanks I didn't know what monkey branching was until this video. It has just happened to me. He monkey branched from me to her. Upon reflection I can see now he has done this before. With me it lasted 24yrs and 2 children. So I'm upset to think he could possibly last a long time with this new one who is a lot younger. She knew about me and was ok with it. He told me she wouldn't leave him and then showed me her pictures. So I took my kids and left. Is it bad karma for me to hope they don't last long. He kept saying how much he still loved me, I don't believe that. There's no boomerangs here I don't want him back. I'm just so heartbroken and can't believe what's just happened.
I’m sorry to hear that 😕
Keep deadlines for him and then move on. Stick to your decision as it will maintain your sense of self worth/value.
But, IMO you have every right to pray against anything prospering off of your tears or the tears of your children esp as it relates to a marriage covenant. Marriage joins you together as one so you both need to move in agreement otherwise you’re torn apart. And there’s scripture advising that no man come between a husband and wife. Pray about it. Trust that justice will be served. 🙏✨
Bro u the best coach I’ve ever had I appreciate u keep doing what you’re doing!!
Man. You have no clue how great that feels to hear. Happy New Year my friend.
My ex monkey branched me just on January 8th. He was the orbiter. She left me and they moved in together that very day. Now less than 4 months, they are engaged to be married. She moved hours away to his home in San Diego. She’s 54. This guy had been trying to get with her for a while and finally got her from me. And she acted like she loved me so much up until that day of the break up. So she gave up her career with a pension and moved with him very far away, hours away. The home they live in is on the outskirts of SD , way back in the hills on dirt roads mile’s away from anything. She’s not going to work and just live off his income now. So this relationship has gone at the speed of lightning and it’s working for them not. So I feel she falls in to 10% that does work. I loved her with everything that I am but she hurt me badly. I’ve been in counseling since it happened. She did this to me before a couple times and always came back . I loved her and always took her back. But she’s not coming back this time. One of the major problems we had was I wouldn’t move in together after 7 years of being together. So I get it but to leave me the way it happened was awful, absolutely horrible. So monkey branching worked for them both. I wish her well I guess. But this has been her pattern her entire adult life. It has never changed until he got her. She’s not leaving home. The home they have now is on 5 acres , a ranch setting. She’s happy. One more thing, she still reaches out every now and again when she with him and getting married? Why?
I wish you well brother, you'll find someone that was meant for you and all this pain will pass. Stay strong 💪
I’m sorry but I’d leave too if my boyfriend wouldn’t move in with me after being together for 7 years. Are you serious. Nah you kinda deserved that. You should have been settled down with her.
@@StfuShinji no , your wrong. She had done this a couple times in 7 years and I found out she was on a dating site. So there were issues on both sides. I wanted it to work and I got into therapy, she didn’t. So I lost her due to reasons that wouldn’t change. I loved her tremendously but was trying to trust again and this happened. There’s a pattern there and it will happen again
@@StfuShinji 👈 A monkey brancher spotted.
No one deserves that it doesn't matter why they didn't move in together for 7 years. Are you stupid?
@@StfuShinji
My husband of 12 years did this. Good luck 😂He shacked up with the secretary from his work, who is also a Narcissist. She got a habitual cheater (i didn't realize hes a covert Narcissist until his brutal discard, he blindsided me)
I found out this term because i noticed a pattern of finding out people i or my other single friends go on dates with are already in relationships! Not going on dates full on girlfriend or boyfriend at home
My ex girlfriend is doing most of this, she monkey branches around, after she left me she rushed right into a new relationship, then sorta came back to me and had emotional cheating with me and all the sudden cut me off and refocused on her New relationship, for me there's lots of unanswered questions feelings and more
That's a great quote!
My ex mokeybranched to his new girlfriend. And me and the woman before me and so on he’s definitely a narcissistic. It hurt like hell in the beginning but I’m much better now, stay over there 👉
Before i knew the term.. my soon to be ex-wife monkey branched onto me, then after 2.5 years of marriage she branched onto new supply. Sucks, hurts like hell but have to let it go!! Stay strong both you men and women, stay strong, take the time and learn the tools to heal! 🙏🏼
Hey bro this was An amazing healing video!
You’ve given me so much perspective on this subject. Thank you my brother.
Thanks for watching
Great video on the subject. I experienced monkey branching with my ex wife 8 months into it.
I was monkey branched to so yup he did it to me…patterns 👁️ narcissist
Best advice I’ve heard yet!
Man. I appreciate that. 🙏🏾
How long does a Women's new relationship last if she's monkey branched back to an old Ex who she's idealized?
So simple and true…
When grieving, nothing seems simple 🤷🏾♂️
I lost 12yrs in my current marriage. My wife left me for another man… I was heartbroken 💔
What the monkey brancher does sometimes is keep the new person in the dark about the partner. My FA ex often talked about the soon-to-be new love as a friend. I didn't pay attention because he is FA and they have lots of friends, including ex's. He even wanted to date and remain friends with me. Hell no!!! I let him go without a tear. NC forever for me. Never again.
I'm broken because I was monkey branched
Im so hurt... my ex emotionally cheated twice and this time he monkey branched to a girl at his church (he's mormon and im buddhist) and all of a sudden he told me he wants a temple marriage. But i could not convert for someone who was not giving me security that they wouldnt cheat... 😞 im extremely hurt i think they might last. We were together for 3-4 yrs
im 99% sure my ex left me for her colleague. We were LD for 9 months and she spent a lot of time with him! Ive been working on my self esteem and i can objectively say he is a massive downgrade! She emotionally cheated and begged for me to forgive her... I stupidly did forgive her over time but then a few months later she broke up with me and it turned out she had been spending time with him throughout! At least now i know the signs and what to do next time! Worst thing is i truly loved and gave her everything, her family loved me and in the end also hated the way she treated me.
They always downgrade to low hanging fruit. Less pressure, & less expectations of them coming from a downgrade. Less brains & class, too, but I digress.
Thank you Bru for sharing. I was in LD for 18 months, she began entertaining a colleague and assured me that nothing was happening. Well I can confirm I blocked her when the signs were clear that she's cheating. Best decision for myself
Thanks for the info! It helps
My ex left me with his workmate.. we've been together for 7yrs.. i let him go but why he keeps on txting me every month and he doesn't even get his stuff.i never reached out but him? He has entry every.month.. what does it means? It's been 10 months since he left me but every month he will txt or call me..then my picture is still in his fb.. they are not frnd in fb l..what do you think he is doing? He is with that girl but why still reaching out..i never chase or reach out.. can anyone help me why he is doing it? Btw i improve myself a lot..
He may not be fulfilled in that relationship. In order to fully heal you need to set stronger boundaries.
It means he’s weak. Don’t take his ass back. Not worth your time, energy and you. Move on. He’s dumb for leaving you and you’re lucky to get out of a bad relationship that resulted in this outcome. Work on your self healing and focus all your energies inward to let go of past traumas. And yes, definitely set HIGH boundaries. Giving him any attention gives him encouragement to come back into your life, if that IS what you want. You attract who you are at the moment you present yourself. Good luck! 🙏❤️😊
Set tight boundaries for him. Otherwise this see-saw will upset your mental health.
Camila Repique: the only photo he ever posted was of our family and it’s still on his page even though the new person follows him. Last I saw, she’s not allowed to post him. He’s liked a few of her photos but never comments. She’s still being hidden in plain sight. I coincidentally found out about her. But, I discovered that she’s been competing for my position for years. I filed for divorce but he filed a motion to stop it. He refuses to cooperate and has completely stonewalled me. I’ve concluded: 1. The thrill was in having us both. 2. The grass isn’t greener on the other side. 3. They enjoy confusing you. 🙄
Camila Repique
And I would mail/drop off his stuff. Get it out of your home ASAP. And block his number/stop answering him. If she’s not following him then the photo on FB means nothing.. He’s just using it to confuse you and keep you attached incase the other situation doesn’t work out. This my opinion. Let go. Rebuild/reinvent yourself. Take care. 🙏✨
So if you make her break it off before you hook up, is it still a monkey branch?
It’s still a monkey branch. Best bet is to take things extremely slow
Amazing advice x
Thanks a lot! 🙏🏾
Love your channel btw!
But what if your in horrible abusive relationships and don’t know how to get out other than monkey branching
How about be single for a while and work on you
Lol monkey branching is the only way for you!?
This happened to me just now. I was with this girl for 3 years! I suspected her for a few months back her behavior change a lot. Funny thing i feel she time it right after valentines.. broke up with me towards the end of feb
A little of her. She was a single mother of 2 girls, she wanted to settle down and get married basically right. This girl didn't have her sht prioratize. No workin for most of the 3 years relationship, she rented a little room all 3 of them plus 3 animals. I didn't see her putting effort so i never ask her to live with me.
More to it, but just want everyone to know, im heart broken.. i am so stupid, weak, blind. This girl betrayed me so bad. After everything i did for her.
Do u guys think she will have a success relationship where she at right now?
Good information.
Thank you!
Hahaha. " It's Nay on the reconcilay"😅👏👏. Stealing. ❤
@@attaboi82 😂😂
My ex boyfriend monkey of 10 months branched to his ex (stated unresolved issues…)
I had no idea she existed!
We started off really well and then he started distancing etc, no arguments or fights.
He seemed really into me and we appeared to have a good connection.
Any thoughts?
He was looking for a replacement it sounds like
Thanks for the reply.
Replacement from me?
I literally had to force the truth out of him. He’d been acting ‘off’ for a couple of months. It hurts that he seems to have secured a relationship, whilst still with me. If that’s what/who he wants why not end it with me first? He already knows what she’s about - being his ex…
I actually saw them together and he still was not forthright!
Unfinished business must be his pattern (to keep the door open)
I have thought about that question at a macro level.
IMO, monkey branching (mb) can only be a successful strategy when a significant majority do not mb. If too many mb, you can only find someone who is jaded and cautious. I believe that mb on a widespread societal level plays a significant role in the rise of MGTOW.
so i fall under the fucking 10 % yeeeaeaa my ex girl s emotional walls are down she had unsafed sex so ... (my relationship was 10 years she is anxious me avoidant -.- the guy is the tunisian cousin of her brother in law -.-)
My now ex monkey branching with a 22 year old only fan cam girl from Colombia he is relocating there now to be with her he think he was a hero for this girl. I am one of his supply for 6years.. he discarded me like a trash I wasn't aware that he had a long history of failed relationship from the past. It hurt like hell the pain was excruciating when I saw them posting photos together on social media I've already blocked him in all social media accounts. I want revenge but I give it all to God. He is 65 and always choose to be with a younger girls I am half his age but the new supply was Way more younger..
Mine was 15
thank you
Just for you brother! Happy holidays!
she confirmed tonight she loves the new guy and we are over... 2 nights ago I got a text that she can't stop thinking about me
this is insane
@@lamontpleasant4177 siiigh. Clarity though brother
#broken
@@lamontpleasant4177 she doesn't know what she wants. Don't get down, just see what happens. Don't react to what she says.
Ok your cool. 👏😄
Good content. Only suggestion, is either change the lighting, or don't wear eyeglasses, as the reflection in your glasses, is very distracting. Otherwise, another great video!
Yep. Got rid of that setup lol.
Monkey branching is immoral people
He was single for two years, and we were together for a year and two months.
His ex gf monkey branched and hurt his so much and he said that he could never understand people who do this.
Long story short, although our relationship was good, he started being cold and blamed me for so many things.
He broke up with me 4 days ago, and today I saw his conversation with some girl on instagram which started about a month ago.
He told her that we’re broken up for awhile and he planned his date with her while I was packing my stuff and crying in the bedroom.
Even his own mother and sister haven’t believed me until I sent them screenshots of his conversation.
I never saw that coming and I guess that nowadays it’s easier to throw away than to try and fix things.
Monkey branchIng with the low hanging fruit
Didn't find out my partner was mbing until years after we married. Her and her Christian friends defend it cause we were dating at the time.
She defends it to this day saying 'but I chose you'. Nah, you were good at hiding and I was too respectful of your privacy to not look at your phone/computer
That's fucked bro. I have a feeling the guy my ex is with doesn't even realized she MB to him.
Ouch, man! I'm sorry. I actually think this is worst than being the one who was left.
she may be christian but, she ain't born again bro, the girl i was talking to did the same thing. I thank God though that she exposed herself because when I found out i lost almost all attraction to her, almost felt repulsed by the behavior especially with her claiming to be a christian
This is worse than being the one she left! Don’t get too comfortable because how you get them is how you lose them.
Right..smh
@Rhea Mickens Thank you!!!
If you take them back after this kind of behavior you are part of the problem as well.
Do a video of monkey branching with coworkers !
You are my god.
Wow....
For me and my buddy, monkey branching has worked 100% for the women who did it to us!
So, yea it works out better than rebound relationships… hahaha
Too much babbling.
@@sunnysuney5845 try another one lol
i was a rebound and she monkey branched 😂 can’t say i didnt see it coming though so we good.