Thank you very much..she keeps posting about how much she is improving and doing all the stuff I was begging her to change. I needed a reminder that its a facade, and that she really isn't going to change...much less if she jumped to another man right after me.
My ex’s rebound he found at a bar told him 3 days after sex that she has oral herpes. He’s now waiting for an STD test. People who rebound quickly reap what they sow!
coach i finally let go AND ITS THE BEST FEELING EVER ITS LIKE I DONT CARE ANYMORE IM NOT HURT ANYMORE I WOKE UP ONE DAY AND WAS LIKE IM NOT GONNA KEEP DOING THIS TO MYSELF FUCKEM LOL
@@IamCoachCourt coach it has been 2 years and all it took was 3 days SICK in bed to really say i DONT deserve this besides he has 2 divorces engaged to me we break up and he marries the rebound and has a kid with him lmaooo i ignored the red flags BUT I NOW SEE THE LIGHT thanks alot coach i have learned alot
@@IamCoachCourt yes you cannot ignore red flags 🚩. Got to deal with it right then and there. I was indifferent to those red flags and she hated it that I do not show any jealousy tendencies. She told me once about some friends of hers, and I showed no interest in that. Now looking back I think he is the one she rebounded with. Wish them luck.
Omg that explains why no contact doesn't work on some people, because they were using us to rebound and were in denial about their feelings towards their previous relationship. They were using us as an ego boost but probably secretly pining for their ex so therefore anything we do wont make any difference no matter how good we were to them. That makes so much sense. Damn, I've almost definitely gone 'no contact' many times in vain. Talk about barking up the wrong tree.
@@elharrophat's why, without realizing it, I told her: your behavior is toxic. And I was right! [I didn't even know I was a rebound. I'm discovering this now and it only lasted 2 months. She even offered me a relationship that never materialized. Before that, she had a relationship for a year and a half, and she told me: "I don't even want to remember this relationship!" I was discarded like trash. she's a DA by the way.]
Hi My ex boyfriend met someone after 1 month on line and moved in with her, after we broke up. We are older. Could you do some videos for older people in their 60s or 70s is it the same results for older people with rebounds, or do they stick with the person because they are older. Thanks coach you are the best.
I agree with you. But when u see he allows his new woman to talk about me then that's when it's a problem. So on that note I focus on me and my goals, to be a better version of what I was yesterday.
Hey Coach Court. Great channel. Do you think one can still do their own healing work, personally, even when in a new/next relationship? After all, no partner is going to be perfect. I like the person enough. They have their work to do - in their own time as they want to... it's not for me to control or demand - and I have mine. If we are both conscious of this, and enjoy our connection and can support eachotehr along the way, could that work too? What do you think?
I was 1 year and 4 months since my break up with my DA ex. And His aunt message me this new year and asking about my relationship with her nephew. I told the truth but I didn't tell the details us respecting my ex and his trust with me. The his aunt told me that she wishes for me and her nephew will be together at the end. But I don't give any assurance answer(i hang it there). Later on I saw my DA ex post quotes saying: Don't force someone to love you, chat with you or talk to you, the right person will find a way to connect with you. Back then, I break up with him because he stonewall and deactivated with me even after I gave him 2 months of space, while I was in my healing process as AP. Now I am SA and happy with my own life without any romantic relationship though I am entertaining some other guy who I feel Secure.
Great advice, hard to hear when emotions are raw but focusing upon yourself is the best advice. Be the best you can be and the rest will follow. I was needy, ex is in another relationship (hid it for a long time) - it hurt, worked on myself and now I look at all the opportunities that are around me. Not saying we would not get back together, but now I have control over my own destiny. You will get past this. I would recommend the book 'Letting Go: The pathway to surrender' - helped a lot, Coach Court - have you done a review of this, if so what do you think?
My guy friend recently got heart broken after a year together with her. Now he's with someone else a month later. I'm a bit concerned for him I think it's too soon but I'll let him figure it put for himself I do wish him the best
What’s your take on arranged marriages? I was engaged to my ex of 3 years a month later he left for Pakistan and broke up with me through Text because he said due to circumstances he got engaged to make his mom proud. It’s been 4 months now and I have not heard from him other then treats of putting me in jail over the fact he believes I’m texting her with I never had.
My ex came back, we fell back in love and was about to get back together, she went distant due to having a death in her family then 2-3 weeks later she’s with someone else. Idk if it’s a rebound but to me it feels like it is due to her being confused on what she wanted and her feelings in the weeks leading up to her new relationship
He only waited maybe two months after he broke up with me and we were together 5 years. :/ and he ignores me and acts like I don’t exist . No closure or anything
They not a rebound or new, they were always in the picture, they was just new to yiu, but they been left thr relationship emotionally. Now its physical if it wasn't already
I’ve been handling my breakup bad. She’s blocked Bc she doesn’t want me to hurt and therefore wants me to move on. I’ve talked to family members confiding in them and I know I shouldn’t she’s reached out a couple weeks ago Bc of something I was going through and she wanted to make sure I was ok. It’s been a year and a half now since we broke up and she got with the rebound a little after we broke up. They have broken up on and off. I’m wondering when they will break up and stick. Can you give me reassurance?
My ex after a 6 year relationship got married after 6 months of us breaking up . He moved in with her the first week and in a month she married . Is that a rebound?
Oh it matters! my ex setup her rebound weeks b4 our breakup. Been with since the day after and now is spamming social media with new pics all the time and doing nothing but treating me like shit.
Act like you don't care post up your new life and get with someone else . They did and so should u. Don't sit around and wait . Life is too short. Wake up get up shake it it off and move like electricity 🎶 . You will be ok guys. 👍
@@IamCoachCourt Oh, yeah, my statement was sort of vague, my bad! I had the ex who would ghost, then I'd do NC faithfully, then he'd come back. He "appeared to have this facade" each time he came back that he was doing great, and truly, maybe he was, but then he'd tell me how much was going 'wrong' in his life. Then when I'd boost the morale (again), he'd bounce. I finally told him not to pop in my life again, so anyway, if an ex seems as though he/she/they are on top of it all, pardon the pun, they may not be if they haven't changed their inner selves at all ...
@@lauraa2778 This exact situation just happened to me with my ex. It’s honestly sad because he’s in denial and in a abusive relationship, but he got his ego boost from me then bounced. He’s definitely going to make another comeback. I’m just trying to figure how I handle it next time because I don’t feel like getting used for an ego boost, but I also don’t want him out of my life.
I was w/ my wife for 10yrs (married for 6) she cheated w/ in the first 6 months, we broke up and got back together after 6 months n thought she changed, but nope she cheated again w/ one of co-worker about 4 years ago n got pregnant n try to give me a lame excuse that she wanted a child for “us”, I can’t have kids, so I tried putting myself in her shoes n forgave her again, n she decided to get an abortion anyway, claiming I would hate the child (which it never crossed my mind). 3 yrs went by n our marriage was never the same, we were always fight about everything n anything. Then the pandemic happened n we were home, but also working a lot do to staff shortages I really could do anymore fighting so, I told her we needed sometime apart to think what was best for the both of us. I went to see my parents whom I haven’t seen over a yr do to covid n on the very first day that I left our home, she go w/ yet another coworker. I found out thru social media a couple days later. I tried everything to save my marriage even know I wasn’t the one who fucked it up. I returned home after 2 wks to find that she changed the locks on me, I still tried to reconcile because marriage is very important to me. She told me she needed sometime to think n that she knew she was making an mistake. I thought about moving back up north where my parents are n she asked me to stay which I thought it was a good sign, but she still w/ that person n they are living together since I came back 10 months ago. I gave up hope, I’m still hurting, but I’m also working on myself mentally n physically, I also started dating again, but I know I’m not healed, but I also know I can’t keep torturing myself sitting around for something that may never happen. I love my wife more then anything I gave her my heart n soul 10yrs ago n no girl will change that, but if u ask me if I would take my wife back the ando would be no, even no it would kill me to reject her. It’s time for me to put myself first, second n third. She didn’t change then n I’m sure she never will, but it does sucks to still love her like this.
My ex rubbed her new relationship in my face at our sons wedding. Totally out of character for her. She got drunk(he doesn't drink at all)and was all over him all night. I told her not to contact me anymore but she still does. He apparently has offered to buy her a Lexus and sell his house to pay off hers after dating for 8 months.
honey,let that girl go. I say this cause me and a friend going through same thing. our exes are together. I never heard nothing from my ex. but my friend did from his and she will call him. complain or boast about my ex. admitted she has checked his Facebook to see if hes seeing Anyone. I told him stop answering. silence is golden. let people think about their choice's. my friends ex is same way she rubs it in his face. thats not helping anything. happy people dont gotta boast. they go on and its real not an act. shes miserable. I know its hard but go be with friends and so on. let your ex deal with it. if hes so much better then leave you alone. its a tactic to cause hurt. I'm sure your hurt from the break up. so rubbing it in your face is petty.
@@IamCoachCourt thank you much Coach! I've watched the video. That helped me so much, dont know how to pay you this advice ❤️ Now i need to focus on our kids and see her as a room mate for now.
Bro my ex got pregnant to by her rebound. She came to me saying she still love me and that it shouldn't matter if she having a baby your still my first love TF LOL
@@cerico76 I don't know if I want to. This one monkeybranched on me 2 years ago and I found out June 30th accidentally thru photos. So the last 2 years of my life have been all lies
@@cerico76 he seems to be suffering now and won't leave me alone. I caught him and broke up with him and I can't believe it all. I'm not sure it the other chick knows about me
yeah im the rebound. And I was the reason they broke up. Now we broke up because of his ex. But I refuse to believe that I didnt matter because I believe him, that he loves me. Its also a difficul situation because we had an affair which was the reason for their breakup and we did so much wrong. So he feels guilty because hes still friends with her and cant commit to me because of his guilt and his feelings that he still has for her.
You are getting your karma. You can’t build your home on top of the woman’s home you burned down. No one here feels sorry for you and you are getting your just desserts. Better yourself and stop destroying other people’s homes
My ex is hiding his relationship with his rebound. They are co workers (cops)… will this last?
What this video about your ex hiding the rebound.
ua-cam.com/video/nGnohy_0FM8/v-deo.html
What if they married their rebound.. but still keep contact. I'm in that space now and need advice. Thank you
@@nicolebrooks6512 if they were happy and content you wouldn’t be hearing from them. Period.
Unfortunately it can last, but doesn’t mean they are gonna stay happy
Im a cop… the answer… hell nooo… to much distractions with this job and other factors
People who rebounds so quickly are very insecure and dislike there own space and thoughts! Be better too mature and heal rather than cause more pain
yup
Thank you very much..she keeps posting about how much she is improving and doing all the stuff I was begging her to change. I needed a reminder that its a facade, and that she really isn't going to change...much less if she jumped to another man right after me.
My ex’s rebound he found at a bar told him 3 days after sex that she has oral herpes. He’s now waiting for an STD test. People who rebound quickly reap what they sow!
coach i finally let go AND ITS THE BEST FEELING EVER ITS LIKE I DONT CARE ANYMORE IM NOT HURT ANYMORE I WOKE UP ONE DAY AND WAS LIKE IM NOT GONNA KEEP DOING THIS TO MYSELF FUCKEM LOL
You’re indifferent. That’s paradise
@@IamCoachCourt coach it has been 2 years and all it took was 3 days SICK in bed to really say i DONT deserve this besides he has 2 divorces engaged to me we break up and he marries the rebound and has a kid with him lmaooo i ignored the red flags BUT I NOW SEE THE LIGHT thanks alot coach i have learned alot
@@mikealan1984 You can’t ignore the red flags!
@@IamCoachCourt thanks alot again coach
@@IamCoachCourt yes you cannot ignore red flags 🚩. Got to deal with it right then and there. I was indifferent to those red flags and she hated it that I do not show any jealousy tendencies. She told me once about some friends of hers, and I showed no interest in that. Now looking back I think he is the one she rebounded with. Wish them luck.
I’m so grateful I found your channel. Thanks for everything.
Thank you 🙏🏾
I was a rebound person. It sucked to be used and discarded. I just walked away. Went no contact.
@le Hoarderz Al-Shekelsteins you mean the guys she used so she doesn’t have to deal with her emotions?
Omg that explains why no contact doesn't work on some people, because they were using us to rebound and were in denial about their feelings towards their previous relationship. They were using us as an ego boost but probably secretly pining for their ex so therefore anything we do wont make any difference no matter how good we were to them. That makes so much sense. Damn, I've almost definitely gone 'no contact' many times in vain. Talk about barking up the wrong tree.
@UNFORGIVABLESENA Lost sleep, weight, and money over it. So it actually cost me a great deal, but yes I'm moving on to someone more mature.
@@elharrophat's why, without realizing it, I told her: your behavior is toxic. And I was right!
[I didn't even know I was a rebound. I'm discovering this now and it only lasted 2 months. She even offered me a relationship that never materialized. Before that, she had a relationship for a year and a half, and she told me: "I don't even want to remember this relationship!" I was discarded like trash. she's a DA by the way.]
You should have rebounded after
Love you glad to see your channel is growing ❤
Thanks Amber!
Absolutely, the grieving process sucks, and trying to rationalize their bad behavior to move forward takes so long!
But later you will realize that grief is a blessing.
As you know this is very relatable thanks brother another great video
You got it brother! 💪🏾
I needed this....May you stay Blessed
❤️
Great advice my friend !
Thanks Brian!
Thank you. I love your videos and advice.
Hi My ex boyfriend met someone after 1 month on line and moved in with her, after we broke up. We are older. Could you do some videos for older people in their 60s or 70s is it the same results for older people with rebounds, or do they stick with the person because they are older. Thanks coach you are the best.
This was a really good video
Thanks for the feedback Justus 🙏🏾
Thank you sir! I didn't know just how much I needed to really hear this!
You’re welcome!
Interesting point about how we kind of ignore some things, but the other person was comfortable with going to find someone who better suited them
look up broken bird syndrome
I agree with you. But when u see he allows his new woman to talk about me then that's when it's a problem. So on that note I focus on me and my goals, to be a better version of what I was yesterday.
🙌🏾 no other choice
Thank you for the video, I needed to hear some of these things after my long-term GF cheated on me. I am hurting
Sorry to hear that Melvin. 😒
You will heal just takes time
Thank you
You deserve more subs man, I love you and your content.
Thank you Arya!
@@IamCoachCourt Ofcourse Coach, I was hoping that you could possibly also make a video about breadcrumbing. Since it was brought in a recent live.
Thank you...
🙏🏾 you’re welcome
good post
Appreciate it! 🙏🏾
Hey Coach Court. Great channel. Do you think one can still do their own healing work, personally, even when in a new/next relationship? After all, no partner is going to be perfect. I like the person enough. They have their work to do - in their own time as they want to... it's not for me to control or demand - and I have mine. If we are both conscious of this, and enjoy our connection and can support eachotehr along the way, could that work too? What do you think?
thank you
No problem Janelle!
I was 1 year and 4 months since my break up with my DA ex. And His aunt message me this new year and asking about my relationship with her nephew. I told the truth but I didn't tell the details us respecting my ex and his trust with me. The his aunt told me that she wishes for me and her nephew will be together at the end. But I don't give any assurance answer(i hang it there).
Later on I saw my DA ex post quotes saying: Don't force someone to love you, chat with you or talk to you, the right person will find a way to connect with you.
Back then, I break up with him because he stonewall and deactivated with me even after I gave him 2 months of space, while I was in my healing process as AP. Now I am SA and happy with my own life without any romantic relationship though I am entertaining some other guy who I feel Secure.
🙌🏾
Thanks
Great advice, hard to hear when emotions are raw but focusing upon yourself is the best advice. Be the best you can be and the rest will follow. I was needy, ex is in another relationship (hid it for a long time) - it hurt, worked on myself and now I look at all the opportunities that are around me. Not saying we would not get back together, but now I have control over my own destiny. You will get past this. I would recommend the book 'Letting Go: The pathway to surrender' - helped a lot, Coach Court - have you done a review of this, if so what do you think?
I haven’t read this one before but I’ll put it on my read list. I appreciate the feedback and recommendation! 🙏🏾
My guy friend recently got heart broken after a year together with her. Now he's with someone else a month later. I'm a bit concerned for him I think it's too soon but I'll let him figure it put for himself I do wish him the best
Love yourself first
💯
@@IamCoachCourt ❤️
Great. What about the rebound person!?!?
What’s your take on arranged marriages? I was engaged to my ex of 3 years a month later he left for Pakistan and broke up with me through Text because he said due to circumstances he got engaged to make his mom proud. It’s been 4 months now and I have not heard from him other then treats of putting me in jail over the fact he believes I’m texting her with I never had.
My ex came back, we fell back in love and was about to get back together, she went distant due to having a death in her family then 2-3 weeks later she’s with someone else. Idk if it’s a rebound but to me it feels like it is due to her being confused on what she wanted and her feelings in the weeks leading up to her new relationship
He only waited maybe two months after he broke up with me and we were together 5 years. :/ and he ignores me and acts like I don’t exist . No closure or anything
😕
But what if you saw them both doing it how can you handle that and still do no contact
They not a rebound or new, they were always in the picture, they was just new to yiu, but they been left thr relationship emotionally. Now its physical if it wasn't already
What if you both put each other on a pedestal?
Well mines took it 30 steps further and married her in 6 weeks soooo… 🤦🏽♀️😂😂. I can honestly laugh about it tho
I’ve been handling my breakup bad. She’s blocked Bc she doesn’t want me to hurt and therefore wants me to move on. I’ve talked to family members confiding in them and I know I shouldn’t she’s reached out a couple weeks ago Bc of something I was going through and she wanted to make sure I was ok. It’s been a year and a half now since we broke up and she got with the rebound a little after we broke up. They have broken up on and off. I’m wondering when they will break up and stick. Can you give me reassurance?
Don't wait go move on find something else to make u happy for the meantime.
My ex after a 6 year relationship got married after 6 months of us breaking up . He moved in with her the first week and in a month she married . Is that a rebound?
Absolutely. It fits the classic rebound criteria. Wish them luck, they'll need it.
Oh it matters! my ex setup her rebound weeks b4 our breakup. Been with since the day after and now is spamming social media with new pics all the time and doing nothing but treating me like shit.
Basically same thing for me literally 4 weeks ago, man. It’s tough.
Act like you don't care post up your new life and get with someone else . They did and so should u. Don't sit around and wait . Life is too short. Wake up get up shake it it off and move like electricity 🎶 . You will be ok guys. 👍
Their facade can be facts, no kidding!
Can you elaborate? 🤔
@@IamCoachCourt Oh, yeah, my statement was sort of vague, my bad! I had the ex who would ghost, then I'd do NC faithfully, then he'd come back. He "appeared to have this facade" each time he came back that he was doing great, and truly, maybe he was, but then he'd tell me how much was going 'wrong' in his life. Then when I'd boost the morale (again), he'd bounce. I finally told him not to pop in my life again, so anyway, if an ex seems as though he/she/they are on top of it all, pardon the pun, they may not be if they haven't changed their inner selves at all ...
@@lauraa2778 🙌🏾 they just need the ego boost. Sayonara pal 🤣
@@lauraa2778 This exact situation just happened to me with my ex. It’s honestly sad because he’s in denial and in a abusive relationship, but he got his ego boost from me then bounced. He’s definitely going to make another comeback. I’m just trying to figure how I handle it next time because I don’t feel like getting used for an ego boost, but I also don’t want him out of my life.
Right
I was w/ my wife for 10yrs (married for 6) she cheated w/ in the first 6 months, we broke up and got back together after 6 months n thought she changed, but nope she cheated again w/ one of co-worker about 4 years ago n got pregnant n try to give me a lame excuse that she wanted a child for “us”, I can’t have kids, so I tried putting myself in her shoes n forgave her again, n she decided to get an abortion anyway, claiming I would hate the child (which it never crossed my mind). 3 yrs went by n our marriage was never the same, we were always fight about everything n anything. Then the pandemic happened n we were home, but also working a lot do to staff shortages I really could do anymore fighting so, I told her we needed sometime apart to think what was best for the both of us. I went to see my parents whom I haven’t seen over a yr do to covid n on the very first day that I left our home, she go w/ yet another coworker. I found out thru social media a couple days later. I tried everything to save my marriage even know I wasn’t the one who fucked it up. I returned home after 2 wks to find that she changed the locks on me, I still tried to reconcile because marriage is very important to me. She told me she needed sometime to think n that she knew she was making an mistake. I thought about moving back up north where my parents are n she asked me to stay which I thought it was a good sign, but she still w/ that person n they are living together since I came back 10 months ago. I gave up hope, I’m still hurting, but I’m also working on myself mentally n physically, I also started dating again, but I know I’m not healed, but I also know I can’t keep torturing myself sitting around for something that may never happen. I love my wife more then anything I gave her my heart n soul 10yrs ago n no girl will change that, but if u ask me if I would take my wife back the ando would be no, even no it would kill me to reject her. It’s time for me to put myself first, second n third. She didn’t change then n I’m sure she never will, but it does sucks to still love her like this.
My ex rubbed her new relationship in my face at our sons wedding. Totally out of character for her. She got drunk(he doesn't drink at all)and was all over him all night. I told her not to contact me anymore but she still does. He apparently has offered to buy her a Lexus and sell his house to pay off hers after dating for 8 months.
Geez 🤦🏾♂️
Let him be dammm fool it wont last
honey,let that girl go. I say this cause me and a friend going through same thing. our exes are together. I never heard nothing from my ex. but my friend did from his and she will call him. complain or boast about my ex. admitted she has checked his Facebook to see if hes seeing Anyone. I told him stop answering. silence is golden. let people think about their choice's. my friends ex is same way she rubs it in his face. thats not helping anything. happy people dont gotta boast. they go on and its real not an act. shes miserable. I know its hard but go be with friends and so on. let your ex deal with it. if hes so much better then leave you alone. its a tactic to cause hurt. I'm sure your hurt from the break up. so rubbing it in your face is petty.
You recieve a subs sir. But how to deal if she is in rebound and we need to talk and see each other for kids. What should i do? 🥺
I JUST released a video talking about that today! ua-cam.com/video/y_CSr-Sf19E/v-deo.html
@@IamCoachCourt thank you much Coach! I've watched the video. That helped me so much, dont know how to pay you this advice ❤️
Now i need to focus on our kids and see her as a room mate for now.
my ex got pregnant by her rebound and actually said she wants me for the rest of her life... wtf 🤷♂️
🤣
Feel for the kid she is carrying
Bro my ex got pregnant to by her rebound. She came to me saying she still love me and that it shouldn't matter if she having a baby your still my first love TF LOL
Wtaf
@@joemorrison1850 oh my
Why do they go with a complete down grade though I don't get it???
🤷🏾♂️
I am still thinking that maybe they Haled while they were still with us. And when they were ready… gone. 😞
I've thought that too but seems like that wouldn't work.
@@askquestions1236 I don’t care anymore. The only problem that I have now, it is to try to re open myself to the world.
@@cerico76 I don't know if I want to. This one monkeybranched on me 2 years ago and I found out June 30th accidentally thru photos. So the last 2 years of my life have been all lies
@@cerico76 he seems to be suffering now and won't leave me alone. I caught him and broke up with him and I can't believe it all. I'm not sure it the other chick knows about me
@@askquestions1236 don’t worry about him, think about yourself, you will be the most precious thing in your life.
My husband got rebound but he got her pregnant...
😕
Is a monkey branch relationship as meaningless as a rebound?
Not the one been domp
yeah im the rebound. And I was the reason they broke up. Now we broke up because of his ex.
But I refuse to believe that I didnt matter because I believe him, that he loves me. Its also a difficul situation because we had an affair which was the reason for their breakup and we did so much wrong. So he feels guilty because hes still friends with her and cant commit to me because of his guilt and his feelings that he still has for her.
That’s not love. He doesn’t love either of you. You and his ex should toss him out in the cold and work on healing yourselves.
You are getting your karma. You can’t build your home on top of the woman’s home you burned down. No one here feels sorry for you and you are getting your just desserts. Better yourself and stop destroying other people’s homes
@@keller109well said
The rebound does matter because we are also being hurt like wtf what type of video is this
I understand you’re hurting, but a person being with you is a choice
I guess just don't date
Don’t go dark on us now
What if my ex married her rebound