Ways Ableism towards Neurodiversity can be missed and how it's just as harmful
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- Опубліковано 1 сер 2023
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I try to ask my mom questions about my childhood and she always tell me I was such an obedient child and a good child and now she says I’m not obedient and became depressed, and that I talk my mind too much. I wish she would understand that I was going through a crisis. I wasn’t just depressed I was questioning my whole identity and life.
I don’t remember where I heard this (or I would cite it), but something that stuck with me deeply is that ✨you don’t accept autistic people unless you accept autistic behaviors
"Permission to be myself" is a phrase I identify with so much. Like after I found out I am autistic, I really just understand a framework for my instincts. I still struggle with my yesses and nos but I can tell so much now when it rips energy out of me. It is amazing that just a framework, a diagnosis, gave me something to work from and understand myself.
I have pushed myself SO far out of my comfort zone, clueless about why I was treated differently and trying to overcompensate for people just not liking my personality with extra effort...
my positive neurodivergent trait is that my joy and excitement for my special interests is unrivaled, and while it is impossible for me to contain it, the people in my life love the energy that I spread when I’m lit up 🤩☀️🥰
My therapist today told me a story about how he as a child would cover his ears, scream and repeat a certain phrase whenever a fire drill happened in school and how they ACCOMMODATED HIM by telling him when a fire drill was gonna happen
I masked so much i had a nervous breakdown and our worthless govt dosent even support us as the should. nobody does.
I just have the unfortunate problem of my friends or loved ones not having the patience to deal with any autistic traits. I'm incredibly patient (most of the time) with the physical needs and mental needs of the people in my life but i find that i rarely ever receive that energy back. I was thrown into the acting world at age 8. It helped me learn how to mask to a degree that keeps from ever truly knowing myself.
I grew up with the autistic diagnosis and noticed i would often get babied and talked down to the second they figured out i was on the spectrum. Which really just reinforced masking for me to the point it started to affect me both mentally and physically.
As a child, I was often baffled by adults' obsession with appearances and other people's opinions. They tried to explain it, but I wasn't getting it.
I used to stim a lot as a kid, especially when I was scared or anxious, but it was… “disciplined” out of me by my mom and stepdad. Now that I no longer live with them, I find myself stimming again. I finally feel safe enough to do so.
Around the 30 min mark when you said your coworkers probably felt like you deserved the mistreatment… that hit like a ton of bricks. I’m currently going through that at my job. I always think to myself, if they just knew I was neurodiverse (I don’t have an official diagnosis yet) they might treat me a whole lot better and it honestly makes me sad
A big problem for us austistics is that we are living in an ever increasingly narcissistic world. Most allistics are never going to get it, concerning the struggles that we go through. They don't have any point of reference. It's like trying to explain to someone who was born blind the color green. It's simply impossible. And unfortunately for us since we only make up 1 or 2% of the population, allistics can afford to be ignorant and indifferent to our needs.
The consistent feedback I get from others (specifically work) are:
My neurodivergent trait is, I talk like a book! One of my special interests has always been writing and that’s how I speak out loud :D sometimes to mask, I try to use more informal language and slang, but I don’t like to do that.
I really, really resonated with the "appearing more autistic" sentiment. Not exactly the same situation, but due to being AFAB with comorbidities that are common misdiagnoses for autism in girls, I have been suspecting in recent years that I may be autistic. I didn't even realize how much I masked even around my own family until I left for college and lived with roommates that accept me for who I was, no matter how I presented or spoke. Suddenly I was constantly buzzy, couldn't stop moving, always always talking and I felt so *free*. I grew up Mormon, and as AFAB there were strict expectations put on me to be quiet, submissive, still, to be delicate; it's no wonder I had to mask as a child. Just like my other comorbidities/diagnoses, I am good at masking them because I had to be. I'm grateful I now have the time and space to learn how to unmask and be myself, surrounded by people that appreciate me for me and not my ability to appear normal. Thank you for your informative videos as always!
workplace cliques are definitely a problem. Some supervisors ignore it.
Tomorrow will mark my first week since getting diagnosed with autism at 26 years old. You, as well as Megan (from "I'm autistic, now what) need to be credited for the awareness you gave. I got the intuition back in 2021 when I started working with autistic kids and finally got around to making an appointment and taking the tests.
I am personally DESPERATE for a meaning/definition of autism divorced from "Social difficulties". It's clear to anyone keeping up with lived experiences that there's something way more fundamental below that surface assessment.
I've always thought that considering someone as rude and/or mean is incredibly narcissistic. That person might be perfectly cordial with you, however something in their tone, or the way they speak, or carry themselves offends you. It reminds me so much of Seven of Nine, from Voyager. Everyone considers her rude and is intimidated by her, when she's perfectly polite with her wards, essentially.