Excelent channel, first time I see you, I send you all the best from Ecuador, keep it up, Congrats, With all do respect I am picturing you when you were 5, Im sure you were a cutie.
I have watched a few of your videos, but this one speaks to me the most so far, this is REAL GOLD, right in the moment when I'm at a turning point. His behavior triggers so much fear of abandonment in me, it's not his fault, but I think he cannot deal with my fears, he needs space right now in the situation he's in. And I should focus on my goals, friends, hobbies, passions, and let him be him and detach from someone who's not serving me right now. He may not be right for me, since he's unable to relieve my fears right now. So I need to do it myself. If he comes back because he values me, great, but I will hopefully be in a better place then. Ismael Gomez, thank you so much for this truly AMAZING and underrated video (only 28,000 views and 125 comments?!) !!!!! :)
Yes I'm chasing him, but I laugh to myself because I see myself like a fool, I want to ask him why you entered to my life and abandoned me just like that? But I realized some men like to use women.. I mess my life big time, how I wish this will be the last lesson learned 😔 about loving a person..I'm giving up and tired giving myself to someone.
Thank you Ismael✨ my favorite part of the video was perspective 4:26 -encourage to think of love like choosing a sports team. Oneself picks a team and overtime you grow to love it through the wins and losses but that doesn’t mean that you could have only love that one team. It just happens to be the one that you choose. -No one is inherently special, only your mind makes them so
That five year old girl never got love from her parents and it’s probably why I’m used to unrequited love, but we all have to reparent ourselves or it’s gonna be the same story the rest of our lives. Thank you for the reality check 💕
I'm retired at 47, This video here reminds me of my transformation from a nobody to having over 65,000 biweekly profit, a honest partner and a good daughter full of love ❤
I should have detached sooner from my last ex when he pulled away. I ended up trying to grab on tighter and I scared him off basically. I had a hard time letting go after he broke up with me. I was feeling especially vulnerable and overwhelmed by trauma as it was when he dumped me. So it was too much to lose him too. Now years later I understand fully that it wasn't meant to be and I feel a sense of relief. But I wish I had this advice back then lol
Thank you Mr Gomez I've been listening to you for about 2 weeks now and I guess I messed up in the years gone by because I took it to heart and it really hurts now I'm independent and I don't need a man to fulfill me I'm very happy as I am and when I meet someone it's great and I enjoy being with them but my world is not wrapped around them like it used to be when I was younger thank you for all that you say you're helping me to understand I don't know how you got so smart about women but I like it have a wonderful day and God bless
Im struggling bad today. Thanks for this. Its difficult because he is the man of my dreams and perfect for me in every way. He says im amazing and make him very happy. We are friends. We talk every day. I haven't heard from him recently and I'm not dealing with it well. He had done this before and everything was fine, he was just busy. So I dont know why im feeling like this. Sometimes he needs alone time. Im understanding but this man is different. I never want loose him😊.
Focus on what fulfills you in the meantime. While he takes time for himself, use the opportunity to work on you, so your energy shines when he’s back. Shift your mindset to see space and mystery as making you more attractive to him.
You are one of the great person i ever met. I was always d provider.. Finally left with pain.. Now is d time to change. Thankyo ismile.. Thankyou universe. ❤️🙏
@legaleyess Yup..He insulted me In every language he can..Talking about past when We were 15/16 yrs old..So I have also started to understand That He was not for me..I deserve some one better..
It's so hard if you're emotionally manipulated from the beginning. But you're right, fight that feeling of trying to latch to him when he withheld attention. No matter how crazy you feel. Just fight it. If he contacts you back means he is attached to you. However if the relationship is wrong like he's married or he just want a fuck buddy. You can move on
Thank you for this video! It was a great reminder today, I finally realized this lesson about a year ago🤦♀️. Your coaching really helps validate my thoughts and actions. And thank you for always referencing the million dollar quote..it always gets me! 😂
Was always in acting /fashion & / writing / sing in the choir & writhing Down all the Jackson 5songs as they were sung on the radio! Was never into men until I got into college& they messed up my life!!!!!
Thank you so much for these insights!! Really cherish your content. Also, I understand the concept of detachment as trusting God. In Islam it's called tavakkul. Doing the things where you have an influence on and trusting God with the outcome. I learned to embrace this really late.
Love how you reference when we were young girls. That’s so true and makes me want to do better for me younger self, rather then be tough and push trough things I don’t deserve.
It is strange to me that someone would say their time was wasted when they had a few good years and even marriage and kids. If you wanted to be there and you were doing what you wanted and were with the person you chose to be with and had a life you wanted, even family, then that’s life! It wasn’t wasted. Like if you go to a job you love and got paid, was that wasted? It’s as if because it doesn’t last “forever” or you didn’t end up being named CEO that all the years were “wasted”. That doesn’t make sense to think about relationships like that. If you really think time will be wasted if you don’t --, whatever you goal is, then don’t get attached or waste time getting to the situation that would best get you your goal. If marriage is the goal, find someone ready in a year or two. Don’t waste 5 years with someone! I mean, that’s on you. Which I guess is what a lot of these videos are getting at. Don’t set aside your own goals and wants. If you do, you will end up regretting it. It never works out happy and satisfied. Detach from the person, and focus on the actual goal that’s best for you.
I know you are right...but you have to admit, there are more interesting, goodlooking women to choose than men. So of course, when you finally spot that special guy 1 in a million, it's forever..❤ I waste my time, but also with the wrong person I would regret it forever 😄
ROFLMAO. Detach from him, and you'll never see or hear from him ever again. If they don't want you they don't want you. It is what it is. Keep the target quality high, not the numbers.
The man I love never texts me first. He says that he wants a woman who is always desperate to text him first, not one who wants him to text first. We chat once in every month and I am always the first to initiate the convo. I feel like if I even don't text him for an entire year, he will not care to ask if I am alright. He has put up conditions in love. And wants me to fulfill those conditions only then he may think of loving me back.
Hi Ismael, I’m a single women and I definitely don’t have this problem. I never chase a guy because I’m happy just being single. If I find someone worthy to hang out with that’s great too. My question is I started talking to a guy that I met at a place I go to all the time. We talk basic when we see each other but I believe he feels like I’m leading him on. I’m like leading him on to what we are just talking. Why do guys feel this way? I don’t even know what he even wants from this because he never asks questions about me or compliments me. He mainly talks about himself. I don’t really think too much of this just wanted your opinion. Thanks
Iam an adventurer so anyone that has to understand that ! I’ve traveled all my life - so it’s” in me “ 1- parents were Army then I moved away to college then for a job in the airlines / etc so he’s gotta be ready for this in me but I’m getting older so I’m not as bad anymore but still loves a vacation now & then
Can I ask you a question? Man from dating app( but we saw each other in our city, we know who we are, he used to work at restaurant i go to, but at that time i saw him.with woman in the street and didnt try to flirt with him) suggested on Wednesday to meet for date on weekend , but on actual weekend he became silent. I didnt write either. If he ever contacts me, how do I respond if any? Im very sad, already removed him.from communicator not to stalk if he is online, prefer to forget fast.
I'm no coach but an older lady. From my experience you were not the only one he was talking with on the dating site. Be truthful I bet you had a few other conversations with others too. The unknown the chase is more exciting, he already knows you. You made the move to suggest a weekend meeting. You didn't give him the excitement of the chase. Don't think of him again, find someone who is reliable, any man or woman who doesn't turn up or have the decently to call you to cancel is not worth it. You will find someone usually when you least expect it. Don't waste time looking, go out and enjoy yourself. Good luck.
@jeanauguste-f7i no , he himself suggested on Wednesday to meet on weekend, but on Friday he only wrote good morning and few messages and got silent. No mention of meeting. No.contact whatsover. Initiative to exchange numbers and meet had been his. I d say he ghosted me. Just wonder how to react if he ever writes to me. Im not going to make any contact first. Thanks for your reply. I appreciate it.
U see the issue is what u advice is true but humanly not possible to detach when the obsession or attachment or craving developed... its simply in due course being really strong n aligning too many petty things he's been doing, u start belittling him in ur mind.... that's when the real detachment occurs. Else the pretended detachment is an outwardly temporary demeanor
Oh Ismael I so needed this one. I am just in this kind of a situation. He seeing and not seeing my status affect me . He treated me as an option, was inconsistent with me. So I decided to leave saying him that he is a narcissistic person. But the problem is that I am unable to move on from him. I have blocked him before but end up unblocking again. Now detachment has become quite a tough job for me. If u can suggest what should I do 😢
You are not saying anything which a girl struggling to get over someone does not know, but a theory is different from doing it in practical. For a moment one might think of being 5 year old, but after that again she will be in the same situation. We as a friend say almost same things as you do, but following them is not easy.
I'm trying to detach 😢 Jesus idk why its so hard, 😢 anytime i ask the universe to allow me get the strength to walk away he comes back, I have never blocked anyone before, i try several times to block him but blocking ain't my thing and i don't want to give him that power of showing him that he won hurting me i just want to assume his existence, leave him like he can't believe because definitely he thinks i can't. He won't believe, I'll take time yes but definitely.
I know this feeling 100%. Just wanted to support you, you can do it! 💪 It's difficult, but get rid of him and soon you'll find a good partner🤍 this is what happened to me)
That is exactly me when he takes long to reply to me back or is online and doesn't reply to me I get so anxious and sad a lot of mixed emotions Sometimes I think of leaving him but he starts being nice again and I postpone and say let me give him one last chance and see what happens Please I don't know what to do can you help me out this is weighing me down I always feel lonely and neglected in the relationship
Why do men always don't come clear about anything related to relationship.. they never give clarity it's like he wants to keep you at thesame time distance
Thanks to all of you that have subscribed to my channel.
It means a lot to me to see you want to learn about these topics.
Excelent channel, first time I see you, I send you all the best from Ecuador, keep it up, Congrats,
With all do respect I am picturing you when you were 5, Im sure you were a cutie.
I have watched a few of your videos, but this one speaks to me the most so far, this is REAL GOLD, right in the moment when I'm at a turning point. His behavior triggers so much fear of abandonment in me, it's not his fault, but I think he cannot deal with my fears, he needs space right now in the situation he's in. And I should focus on my goals, friends, hobbies, passions, and let him be him and detach from someone who's not serving me right now. He may not be right for me, since he's unable to relieve my fears right now. So I need to do it myself. If he comes back because he values me, great, but I will hopefully be in a better place then. Ismael Gomez, thank you so much for this truly AMAZING and underrated video (only 28,000 views and 125 comments?!) !!!!! :)
It is so tiring . Somehow I got the feeling that not many want to be loved and love. What is happening to the world …
What the hell they can want...
Yes I'm chasing him, but I laugh to myself because I see myself like a fool, I want to ask him why you entered to my life and abandoned me just like that? But I realized some men like to use women.. I mess my life big time, how I wish this will be the last lesson learned 😔 about loving a person..I'm giving up and tired giving myself to someone.
😢there right now .. ❤
I got it..never lose ourself in a relationship. Just become the best version of ourself
Thank you Ismael✨ my favorite part of the video was perspective 4:26
-encourage to think of love like choosing a sports team. Oneself picks a team and overtime you grow to love it through the wins and losses but that doesn’t mean that you could have only love that one team. It just happens to be the one that you choose.
-No one is inherently special, only your mind makes them so
Actually, I starting doing these things from the past 4 months, I feel so relax 😅
That five year old girl never got love from her parents and it’s probably why I’m used to unrequited love, but we all have to reparent ourselves or it’s gonna be the same story the rest of our lives. Thank you for the reality check 💕
Yes, excellent point, or in my case, my 5 year old version was already insecure in her friendships and relationships with her peers.
I'm retired at 47, This video here reminds me of my transformation from a nobody to having over 65,000 biweekly profit, a honest partner and a good daughter full of love ❤
I should have detached sooner from my last ex when he pulled away. I ended up trying to grab on tighter and I scared him off basically. I had a hard time letting go after he broke up with me. I was feeling especially vulnerable and overwhelmed by trauma as it was when he dumped me. So it was too much to lose him too. Now years later I understand fully that it wasn't meant to be and I feel a sense of relief. But I wish I had this advice back then lol
We’ve all been there. The greatest lessons come when you go through it yourself.
@@SaveTheMessenger thank you for that! I like to learn the hard way I guess 🤭
This message came right on time today. I'm feeling this exact way, and I couldn't figure out what happened to me. Thank you for this perspective.
You are so welcome.
I believe here you are speaking on limerence. I suffer through bouts of limerence, but it becomes better the more I learn about over-attachment.
I'm adapting myself to get detached and it feels a little tough but it's giving me instant relief 😅
All the best u can do it ❤🫂
It’s so fascinating how you’re always right
Thank you Mr Gomez I've been listening to you for about 2 weeks now and I guess I messed up in the years gone by because I took it to heart and it really hurts now I'm independent and I don't need a man to fulfill me I'm very happy as I am and when I meet someone it's great and I enjoy being with them but my world is not wrapped around them like it used to be when I was younger thank you for all that you say you're helping me to understand I don't know how you got so smart about women but I like it have a wonderful day and God bless
Im struggling bad today. Thanks for this. Its difficult because he is the man of my dreams and perfect for me in every way. He says im amazing and make him very happy. We are friends. We talk every day. I haven't heard from him recently and I'm not dealing with it well. He had done this before and everything was fine, he was just busy. So I dont know why im feeling like this. Sometimes he needs alone time. Im understanding but this man is different. I never want loose him😊.
Focus on what fulfills you in the meantime. While he takes time for himself, use the opportunity to work on you, so your energy shines when he’s back. Shift your mindset to see space and mystery as making you more attractive to him.
@@SaveTheMessengerOMG THIS REPLY WAS SOOOOOO GOOD 😍🕊️taking a screen shot to remember that one.
😊@@WhisperingMeadowss
You are one of the great person i ever met. I was always d provider.. Finally left with pain.. Now is d time to change. Thankyo ismile.. Thankyou universe. ❤️🙏
I couldn't detach..Rather he did...And I stopped chasing him..but I do want him to come back...Feeling the love for me.
Dear please find someone else for you who treats you as a priority
@legaleyess Yup..He insulted me In every language he can..Talking about past when We were 15/16 yrs old..So I have also started to understand That He was not for me..I deserve some one better..
@legaleyess 💜💜💜💜Pray for me
It's so hard if you're emotionally manipulated from the beginning. But you're right, fight that feeling of trying to latch to him when he withheld attention. No matter how crazy you feel. Just fight it. If he contacts you back means he is attached to you. However if the relationship is wrong like he's married or he just want a fuck buddy. You can move on
Contacting you back doesn’t necessarily mean anything. It’s consistency that counts
Thank you for this video! It was a great reminder today, I finally realized this lesson about a year ago🤦♀️. Your coaching really helps validate my thoughts and actions. And thank you for always referencing the million dollar quote..it always gets me! 😂
I rather stay detached I do belief there is no one out there for me and that is fine.😂
I feel basically the same at this point lol
If you believe there's no one out there for you, the universe will give you exactly that.
You arent alone
😢 allow the universe to connect you . Hugs, we sometimes feel that but still believe it ain't forever. You can find true love at any age anyway 😢
If there will be someone is destiny, would definitely come.@@SaveTheMessenger
I needed to hear this . Thank you ❤
Its snowing in your background, how cozy :)
Omg you explain in a way even toddlers can understand... Thank you so much Ismael. Falling for someone makes us stupid 😅
Women need to listen to you. Because you’re a man a lot of women really don’t know what the male point of view is and how detachment is necessary.
💯 facts
Amazing topic! Very helpful!
Thank you so much Ismail!
The only love you can trust is the love that you give to yourself...bars!!
Thank you, Tracey.
I wish I could like this video more than once. Absolute gem. Thank you Ismael ❤❤❤
I wish I could like this comment more than once. You're very welcome.
This gonna be one of your greatests!!❤
I am elated to subscribe your channel and you are the first guy who has explained the concept of detachment in such an easy way ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Incredible content! I needed it
Thank you so much! 🙏🏻
Your advice is great!!
Good advice. On the upside God's love for us never fails even if all human love does, including self-love.
The offering him a million dollars theory!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Initially its painful...then the peace comes..
Thank you, merci! Good to hear it right now!
Was always in acting /fashion & / writing / sing in the choir & writhing Down all the Jackson 5songs as they were sung on the radio! Was never into men until I got into college& they messed up my life!!!!!
Thank you so much for these insights!! Really cherish your content. Also, I understand the concept of detachment as trusting God. In Islam it's called tavakkul. Doing the things where you have an influence on and trusting God with the outcome. I learned to embrace this really late.
Thank you for sharing this beautiful perspective-trusting God and focusing on what you can control is such a powerful way to find peace and clarity.
Thankyou so much i really like n need this i m currently detached with one of my situationship n its horrible for me to come out hes on my mind
Love how you reference when we were young girls. That’s so true and makes me want to do better for me younger self, rather then be tough and push trough things I don’t deserve.
Thank you. Perfect timing.....as always 🌟
Amazing and much needed words of wisdom 🙏 God bless you 💕
Your videos are amazing Ismael. ❤
Thank you so much Ismael. Such a nice video
Thank you so much for your kind words-it means a lot to me.
You always give us right suggestions thanks brother 😊😊👍🏻
I detach everyday, everywhere.
Another wonderful video, thank you.
I'm so glad I found your channel. I really needed to see this, thank you. 🙏
I'm glad you found it helpful. Thank you, Lindsey.
Love u so much ismael❤i don't know what do I tell u for all these knowledge u preach
Great advice,thank you ❤
Hey ismael, new subscriber here!
Checked few of ur vdos..nd i would say that's brilliant!!! Ksep it up❤
When you said this part 7:11 it really hit me in my soul 🥰💕wow that’s such an amazing way to look at it !
I’m so glad that resonated with you-it’s amazing how certain moments can speak right to our hearts!
Detach is the only way for you to regain your life ❤
You videos make sense
#2 was powerful...thank you Ismael 🙏 🤔
Love your channel!! ❤️❤️
You’re welcome, and thank you for the support, Lillian.
❤❤❤❤ you are so “on-point “!!!!!
It is strange to me that someone would say their time was wasted when they had a few good years and even marriage and kids. If you wanted to be there and you were doing what you wanted and were with the person you chose to be with and had a life you wanted, even family, then that’s life! It wasn’t wasted. Like if you go to a job you love and got paid, was that wasted? It’s as if because it doesn’t last “forever” or you didn’t end up being named CEO that all the years were “wasted”. That doesn’t make sense to think about relationships like that. If you really think time will be wasted if you don’t --, whatever you goal is, then don’t get attached or waste time getting to the situation that would best get you your goal. If marriage is the goal, find someone ready in a year or two. Don’t waste 5 years with someone! I mean, that’s on you. Which I guess is what a lot of these videos are getting at. Don’t set aside your own goals and wants. If you do, you will end up regretting it. It never works out happy and satisfied. Detach from the person, and focus on the actual goal that’s best for you.
I know you are right...but you have to admit, there are more interesting, goodlooking women to choose than men. So of course, when you finally spot that special guy 1 in a million, it's forever..❤ I waste my time, but also with the wrong person I would regret it forever 😄
Happy to have found you 😊
ROFLMAO. Detach from him, and you'll never see or hear from him ever again. If they don't want you they don't want you. It is what it is. Keep the target quality high, not the numbers.
The man I love never texts me first. He says that he wants a woman who is always desperate to text him first, not one who wants him to text first. We chat once in every month and I am always the first to initiate the convo. I feel like if I even don't text him for an entire year, he will not care to ask if I am alright. He has put up conditions in love. And wants me to fulfill those conditions only then he may think of loving me back.
THANK YOU!!!
🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Sometimes you're just becoming so intense that you hold on a bit too too tight
Thank you again 🥰
Hi Ismael, I’m a single women and I definitely don’t have this problem. I never chase a guy because I’m happy just being single. If I find someone worthy to hang out with that’s great too. My question is I started talking to a guy that I met at a place I go to all the time. We talk basic when we see each other but I believe he feels like I’m leading him on. I’m like leading him on to what we are just talking. Why do guys feel this way? I don’t even know what he even wants from this because he never asks questions about me or compliments me. He mainly talks about himself. I don’t really think too much of this just wanted your opinion. Thanks
You are amazing 😮😮😮.... love from india❤
Iam an adventurer so anyone that has to understand that ! I’ve traveled all my life - so it’s” in me “ 1- parents were Army then I moved away to college then for a job in the airlines / etc so he’s gotta be ready for this in me but I’m getting older so I’m not as bad anymore but still loves a vacation now & then
Thanks ❤
Well said
💯 muy buen consejo.
Thank you
If Ishmael could set this to rhyme and find a good rock band, he'd have a hit song!
Can I ask you a question?
Man from dating app( but we saw each other in our city, we know who we are, he used to work at restaurant i go to, but at that time i saw him.with woman in the street and didnt try to flirt with him) suggested on Wednesday to meet for date on weekend , but on actual weekend he became silent. I didnt write either. If he ever contacts me, how do I respond if any?
Im very sad, already removed him.from communicator not to stalk if he is online, prefer to forget fast.
I'm no coach but an older lady. From my experience you were not the only one he was talking with on the dating site. Be truthful I bet you had a few other conversations with others too. The unknown the chase is more exciting, he already knows you. You made the move to suggest a weekend meeting. You didn't give him the excitement of the chase. Don't think of him again, find someone who is reliable, any man or woman who doesn't turn up or have the decently to call you to cancel is not worth it. You will find someone usually when you least expect it. Don't waste time looking, go out and enjoy yourself. Good luck.
@jeanauguste-f7i no , he himself suggested on Wednesday to meet on weekend, but on Friday he only wrote good morning and few messages and got silent. No mention of meeting. No.contact whatsover. Initiative to exchange numbers and meet had been his.
I d say he ghosted me. Just wonder how to react if he ever writes to me. Im not going to make any contact first.
Thanks for your reply. I appreciate it.
True. 😊
Please make a video on how to find a loyal partner .
❤first watch
U see the issue is what u advice is true but humanly not possible to detach when the obsession or attachment or craving developed... its simply in due course being really strong n aligning too many petty things he's been doing, u start belittling him in ur mind.... that's when the real detachment occurs. Else the pretended detachment is an outwardly temporary demeanor
Thank you very much 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🌺🧿💙♥️
Oh Ismael I so needed this one. I am just in this kind of a situation. He seeing and not seeing my status affect me . He treated me as an option, was inconsistent with me. So I decided to leave saying him that he is a narcissistic person. But the problem is that I am unable to move on from him. I have blocked him before but end up unblocking again. Now detachment has become quite a tough job for me. If u can suggest what should I do 😢
Detachment is so tough, but staying consistent with your boundaries is key-focus on your healing and remind yourself why you deserve better.
so true
You are not saying anything which a girl struggling to get over someone does not know, but a theory is different from doing it in practical. For a moment one might think of being 5 year old, but after that again she will be in the same situation.
We as a friend say almost same things as you do, but following them is not easy.
This is true
I'm trying to detach 😢 Jesus idk why its so hard, 😢 anytime i ask the universe to allow me get the strength to walk away he comes back, I have never blocked anyone before, i try several times to block him but blocking ain't my thing and i don't want to give him that power of showing him that he won hurting me i just want to assume his existence, leave him like he can't believe because definitely he thinks i can't. He won't believe, I'll take time yes but definitely.
I know this feeling 100%. Just wanted to support you, you can do it! 💪 It's difficult, but get rid of him and soon you'll find a good partner🤍 this is what happened to me)
Detaching is so hard, but you’re stronger than you think-one step at a time, you’ll get there.
That is exactly me when he takes long to reply to me back or is online and doesn't reply to me I get so anxious and sad a lot of mixed emotions
Sometimes I think of leaving him but he starts being nice again and I postpone and say let me give him one last chance and see what happens
Please I don't know what to do can you help me out this is weighing me down
I always feel lonely and neglected in the relationship
Facts 💯❤️
Does detach mean block oops
1 attachment
2 perspective
3 detachment
Reconnect with yourself
You break your own heart putting someone on a pedestal and expecting them to give you the same amount of energy you gave them 😢
I had a guy waste 20 years😢
It u is a hard but it is worth mi e came back after no contact
Why do men always don't come clear about anything related to relationship.. they never give clarity it's like he wants to keep you at thesame time distance
Can use your content for my Instagram content?? I will give u credit sir :) ( just a normal creator)
Nobody want a chase nobody we are not dogs
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You are so cute 😊
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this is good, but if you haven’t read Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, you’re only seeing part of the picture
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