Join the *Manifest Your Man* program and get *coached by Mat Boggs TODAY* : www.bravethinkinginstitute.com/love-relationships/resources/mym/offer/strategy-session
When I was at work today he said ge was at a gorgeous store but he didn't anser at 330 or at 4 the he called me 7 times u didn't answer when he was in my drive way with Rosie's and the he was being so nice he never dose that it was really out of place then he was telling me all about his day and 2 people came over I played it off but something not Right what do you think if I go to his house I g ardkry even getza kiss
When we first got married, my husband would only remove his pants after the lights were out. It was because he hated his thin legs. So, one day, I told him I loved the shape of his legs. He was shocked and said something like, "Really? I think they are too skinny." He had not worn shorts since he was a kid, so I bought him a pair of shorts and coaxed him to sit in the backyard with me and keep me company while I sunbathed. Which he did. Pretty soon, his legs had a better tan than mine, and I whined about that fact. Ever since then, he wore shorts almost ALL the time. In a few months, he will turn 76.....and will be wearing shorts, thanks to that compliment I paid him 50 years ago. All I can say now is that it's a good thing we live in the south. If not, I will need to find a way to tell him how great I think he would look in a snowsuit and ski boots. 😉
Hi my relationship is fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,I got help from a great man who brought us back together. and if you need any kind of help he can help you.......
And some men are narcissists who fall in love with your positivity and fun, then *after* marriage, crush the fun and joy out of you with unrelenting criticism and harsh treatment. Then they’re mad because “she isn’t fun anymore.”
Hello friend, I recommend this great spiritualist who fixed my relationship in 48 hours now my partner is back and morn committed after many years of separation and breakup and also banish third party ,make your crush fall in love etc ❤
I asked my husband and his friends why men are more attracted to younger women and I was shocked by their answer. I expected them to all say that younger women were more beautiful (less wrinkles and tighter firmer perkier bodies) but they all said “more fun / carefree”. Younger women make men forget about the stress of life. That changed my thinking and started trying to focus on having fun and living in the moment instead of standing in the mirror worrying about wrinkles and weight. It comes full circle because now I actually feel more secure and safe knowing that my husband is more excited about me when I laugh and smile even with no make up.
I don't think it's just a "fun personality." I've never seen a successful middle aged man with a 200+lbs 20 something. Also, young women are more fun and carefree because they are naive (which can be a good trait) because they haven't been around long enough to be burned over and over my selfish men. Generally, it's the men in our lives and how they treat us that push the middle aged woman away. It's our experiences with them.
I used to feel super insecure when I was 24 and barely a server (ok, I wasn’t a server. I worked in a restaurant but I uh ran drinks for the bar because they didn’t think I was a good server yet). I got with a 39 year old guy who had a career and I was so embarrassed. Now I’m like wow I was fun, that guy was lucky! I was lucky too. I had a lot of fun with him. But wish I could go and shake a lot of young woman and tell them their value. I think it’s easy to be insecure when you’re not established in the world (which, naturally yoj probably won’t be compared to someone older). I think one thing younger people innately have is a kindness. Like wait your boss is mad at you? Why does that matter? If they’re being mean that’s not nice! You’re cool it shouldn’t bother you. It totally makes sense why someone with a hosue, kids, and career would be worried about a possible career threat. It would be almost insulting if a man opened up and his wife said, “Why are you worried about that?” I think naturally they can provide more support and comfort, while someone with less life experience might remind them that it’s not the end of the world! In more of a why does that even matter, this is planet earth, who cares some dude is mad at you, where as someone older is more likely to have a comforting it’s ok, I’m here for you and understand why you’re worried but I have your back. They’re both good. I’m glad you’re marriage is getting even happier! I hope to have the balance. I think it’s unlikely I will ever be as carefree as I was when I was younger. To be so would almost be irresponsible. But I hope I can channel it into the areas it matters, keep the attitude that over all that is not a big deal! It’s ok to worry, but in the grand scheme of things it’s all ok, yet still bring that grounding kind of comfort that comes from understanding why things are important, why some things are serious, why people not be happy all the time, and still offering support and a positive view of your life is way bigger than this chapter and it will all be ok. 🖤 I liked reading your comment it made me happy
2:00 - 1) It feels good. You’re fun to be with. 4:00 - 2) Investment. People value relationships they’ve invested in. 5:58 - 3) Reward for doing something nice for you or a variable, spontaneous reward. Emotional rewards, validation, appreciation.
When my husband and I started dating we went out, had lots fun, kissed and said good night. We dated for 11 months before we were married and did not have sex before we were married. He wanted to wait and I was not going to fall into that trap again of giving a guy what he wanted before he married me. We understood each other from the start. We started dating near the end of November and got married the following November after dating for 11 months. We’ve now been married for 35 years and are still madly in love with each other, have 3 great kids who are also married! We’ve showed them what it takes to make a marriage work so hopefully they’ll take those lessons to heart. I can’t wait to spend at least another 20-30 years together! We’re 64 now so hopefully will it make at least another 20!
@@pammieramsey8525 is this even real😱...we are barely 5years in marriage and it's hectic I feel like it's gonna end tomorrow....what's the secret for long lasting marriage
Sex before marriage is not a trap. It fun and educational. I pity the people who find out after marriage that they are not sexually compatible. But in some religions, that doesn’t matter as long as the man is satisfied.
My beautiful Husband of 33 years, died of cancer, almost 2 years ago. Watching this video just reminded me why every single day of that marriage was so happy. We somehow managed to fill all 3 of these criteria, without even knowing it. This man knows exactly what he’s talking about.
Isn’t it sad that we lost the concept of how to be in a healthy relationship; we have to watch videos and read books and sign up for online courses. And of course there are so many different opinions on “how to win the man”, “how to keep the man”-Why can’t we just be honest, genuine and if we like or love someone, let them know and show them? Why does it have to be so complicated?
As I have heard it said; "it's a game!" Also, "the difference between men and boys are the price of their toys!" In this video, Matt confirms the "fun addiction"! Women become and remain too serious! Too serious far too often and long! We feel safe, secure and guarded----which isn't carefree, relaxed and lose! We as women need to learn to be all of the above; when it's time too be! How more relaxed; more carefree and just flow with the guy or lead with fun!
@@chambriayarbrough3289 With all due respect, I meet a lot of men who are not fun at all. They are stressed out and have no sense of humor. I am funny and fun but cannot seem to find a similar guy. Everyone acts too serious all the damn time.
My mantra is to 1) Make him laugh 2) Thank him 3) Encourage him 4) Tell him how handsome, intelligent and fabulous he is and 5) Make memories together As a woman, as much as I would like to mention all I'm thinking of, I think it best to not go on and on with negativity and insecurities. Time is so much better spent with a positive attitude. This is not to say that I don't communicate with my Beloved in tough times. I just try to keep a balance. In the end, it brings pleasure with no ending to see him happy and feel myself protected, wanted and loved. Luv Ya Mat and your lovely wife !! :)
I encourage my man to follow his dreams. That is my way of keeping him into me. He wants to fly. I ask him flying questions, he becomes so animated, He has a flight simulator, I suggest he takes a night for himself to practice. He looked into going to finish his lessons to earn his license. He treats me so wonderfully, that is my way of saying, I value you and I want your happiness to be complete.
Do not trust those who recommend they pure scam. He does a homemade mooring and it works perfectly.you don't have to spend much on materials.if you need help in getting your love ones back or your ex back
The thing that holds my guy close to me, is support. It's easy to support him thru easy times, but if you can step up and show him you'll be there to support him thru the bad, even if it's taking him out for a few beers and pool, his favorite songs on the jukebox, maybe even kareoke, dancing, to just being there for advice or a cuddle. That means alot to a guy to know she can be his rock when he needs it.
I can rambert, must be at least 30 years ago, my husband said, " Oh I love your company , I love being with you " it was so wonderful to hear and I've never forgotten it .
To all single people out there who are also believers, ask God to write your love story... He is the author of Love... First ask Him to heal you of your childhood hurts and insecurities, to help you be the right person... And then see the miracle unfolding... 🙏
@Alice my dear, I am not desperate for a man, nobody should be... That's the reason so many are in unhealthy relationships and find it difficult to break unholy patterns... I am the child of the most High God who gives good things to his children, in His time...
Amen. After my husband passed, I told God I wasn't looking for anyone. If HE had a plan for me that included a man, He would have to drop him in my lap. And 3 years later, he did. God is so good.
I had a boyfriend in the past where while we were waiting for public transportation when meeting up after we both got off work one day…he kissed me sweetly and I went limp in his arms as if I fainted because of his kiss. He fell right into character and called my name as if to “awaken” me. Then I sprang up…we both started laughing as well as other people who witnessed our sillyness. That was just one fun time I can think of.
I’ve been married for over 50 yrs to a man that crushed me and destroyed the love I had for him. I could never get out. The man you date isn’t the man you marry.
That's very sad. Try to find it if he's just a bad person or did something happen. Sometimes it takes 2. Not just one person is in the wrong. Sometimes it's true, the man is bad.
Your channel indeed changed my life. After watched all your videos, I understood how to love and appreciate a man. I met the one I’ve been looking for in my past 30 years, and after only 7 months, we got our marriage license today. Thank you so much, you changed my life.
Dr Kelly Love Spells can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance. He helped me restored my broken relationship of 6 years by bringing back my ex Also Dr Kelly always keep up with his words I strongly advise you to seek help from him.
Nowadays, one sure sign this man has secrets, ask him if he would like to look at your mobile phone ,and, you, look at his !. If he even hesitates he has a hidden phone, or, if he gets angry, then he will or is, cheating. It is a quick way to find out, and, not get hurt by him This obviously goes for women as well, let us not forget that !. Good luck in your lives, that you find a good faithful and loving partner, there are some people who won't chest on their loved ones, how wonderful is that.
Thank you for sharing this! I literally texted my husband after this video because I want him to feel cared about. He's at work and has been pulling our weight in bills and stuff lately because I've been sick. I texted him that I appreciated the things he has been doing lately for us and that I'm so grateful he stepped up while I've been out of work. He called me within minutes and said how that made him feel so appreciated. I could tell it really made him feel cared about. I think maybe I've been doing things wrong with how I communicate with him lately, so it was nice being reminded that they operate differently and that I need to be a little more fun, less stressful to be around and to make him feel loved back.
It sounds like your husbands love language is affirmation. Have you read the book, the Five Love Languages? It’s been helpful to me in our marriage as well as other relationships.
#1 fun conversation #2 genuine compliments #3 knowing that I genuinely care for him as a person #4 knowing that I respect and value him, including his opinions. #5 knowing that we really are on the same page with how a relationship should flow
Hehe. So like a puppy. You play with him (fun), then you teach him some tricks (how he should treat you) and then he gets a treat. After the treat you repeat the cycle! How simple! Thank you 🙏🏻
I'm older than some ladies, but I highly suggest for all women, young or mature, to be alright with being alone. No one will be happy to meet all your needed, so you better enjoy your own company.
I just went on a date and it’s funny my date asked me what makes me the happiest and I said feeling secure and being able to enjoy the things I love to do and my date said being with someone that he can have fun and enjoy their company with makes him happy.
Nope … my husband did not say he wanted to feel “fun” … he said he wanted to feel “good,” “companionship” and “calm.” And totally yes to the validation, compliments and rewards!!
Did all this. 8 yrs later I am getting divorced. I understand that a foundation is needed in order to build. The best thing I would encourage women to do is to seek mutual relationships and always be forward with your communication.
I'm sorry, yet happy, for your loss. Perhaps you will find a man who appreciates you more this time. The more he works for it, the more he will try. If you wouldn't let a friend treat you that way, don't let him. Trust your gut! Good luck!
I can tell when a man wants to be with you because he is excited to show you something new. Never been to his favorite place or restaurant. He wants to see your reaction to something new. Better reaction more he wants to show you more and more.
So - how do you explain a man who asks to marry you on the first date without so much as hand holding? Yep. No lie. First date. That was almost 60 years ago. Yep. Love at first sight is real and can last a lifetime.
This advice is applicable to non-toxic people. Toxic & dangerous people like narcisssists, sociopaths, dark empathy & psychopaths are very good at mimicking these 3 behavioural advice here, usually by first reeling you in with their sob stories that may not be 100% true, just to test your empathy level. They need you to be empathetic so that they can get away with bad behaviour in the future. However, their acting last a few weeks/months only. You know you got a rotten apple in your hands when toxic people throw tantrums at you if they don't get their rewards/demands fulfilled from you a.s.a.p.
@Anna some exes - especially narcisssistic abusers - are not worth going back to. The pain they'll do in the future, is just a repeat cycle they did to you before & now. They are good at promising things you want to hear but they don't intend keep/fulfill it for long. So thanks, but no thanks.
1) Fun - The more fun you're creating the more fun you're having together the more likely he'll become addicted to that experience because the better it'll feel! So life giving, light hearted, expansive, avoid drama, depressive, heavy, critical topics. Create Joy, laughter 2) Investment - We value what we put effort into. Holding standards.
I discovered they want to be with me: - My looks - My personality - My charm - My ambition & independence - My intelligence 🤓 - My sympathetic & how protective of the ppl who deserve - Diplomatic I am And other stuff..!!
Encouragement: I let him know how amazing he is at his job. How he knows his stuff and has confidence in what he does. Fun:. I make him laugh as often as I can. Playing or teasing him with certain differences, since he is Polish and I am American. Well they say men wear stockings. I had a field day with that, which he laughed over and came out with the sentence I always want to hear, "What am I going to do with you?" And my response is always, "Love me forever " I have realized through life experience, life is to short to not enjoy each moment, so I make the best out of them, and this has allowed him to crawl out of his past experience and enjoy them with me. I can relate to these three behaviors and they work. Loving someone with your heart and soul allows this to happen and it works so well.
Hello friend, I recommend this great spiritualist who fixed my relationship in 24 hours, now my partner is back and more committed after many years of separation and breakup..........
Beautiful comment, Michelle S. I completely agree with you. You are spot on. I love that phrase "What am I going to do with you?" in jest. Absolutely precious! :)
@Joanna Altena Hi Joanna, it’s nice meeting you here.. I’m Richard by name, it would be nice getting to know you better, if that’s ok with you? My mom once said good friends are never too much to have. if you don’t mind, can we be friends??
There isnt a single day in our home that goes without laughters. We dont have kids or pets. Just the two of us and our daily laughters together. I love you amor ❤️
When i'm with him I make sure he sees that I am happy around him all the time, which makes him happy and we always compliment each other and laugh around and talk a lot, we always have our phones down when we're together. Also, side note. always lean into him closer while talking, sitting, etc. It's psychological, and he loves that
Hi Crystle Sky Channel, it’s nice meeting you here.. I’m Richard by name, it would be nice getting to know you better, if that’s ok with you? My mom once said good friends are never too much to have. if you don’t mind, can we be friends??
1. Dial up fun to dial up desire ...ignite fun to feel good 2. Invite a man to invest in you, to earn your time/neg through setting standards for him to achieve value you 3. Reward your man thru validation and appreciation , telling him you make me melt when I'm in your arms, you're amazing
l know of a manl who helped me bring my ex back he can also help you just as he did mine, he does a perfect work l' m assuring you, you gonna testify....
I’ve been in a Long distance relationship for over six years I can only confirm what you’re saying here. I found it crucial to start off by relationship on the right foot. Setting standards from the beginning is setting standards for the future of you as a couple ❤️
Hello friend, I recommend this great spiritualist who fixed my relationship in 48 hours now my partner is back and morn committed after many years of separation and breakup and also banish third party ,make your crush fall in love etc ❤
My cooking used to give my man some wow moments and he said it made him feel special knowing I made the dish especially for him, for forty seven years. He loved the way I incorporated his favourite smells and tastes and made enough only for him. His special dishes are still in my recipe book. Sadly I don’t cook them anymore, the angels cook for him now.
Hi Mat! I love your tips. Thanks. To answer your question, I try to think of my husband's needs. For example, if he has been on his feet all day, I'll lotion up his dry feet and give him a feet massage (without him asking). I notice it relaxes him right away. Seeing him relaxed like that pleases my heart too.
l know of a manl who helped me bring my ex back he can also help you just as he did mine, he does a perfect work l' m assuring you, you gonna testify......
My man told me in the beginning that he wanted to feel appreciated. What a simply desire and easy to fulfill in my eyes. Gratitude goes a looooong way! Verbal rewards are very important absolutely work in our relationship
Hello, if you really want to get your partner back, I know a man who can help you get your partner back, in twenty-four hours you will see your result.
Hi Louise Boyd, it’s nice meeting you here.. I’m Richard by name, it would be nice getting to know you better, if that’s ok with you? My mom once said good friends are never too much to have. if you don’t mind, can we be friends??
Dr Kelly Love Spells can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance. He helped me restored my broken relationship of 6 years by bringing back my ex Also Dr Kelly always keep up with his words I strongly advise you to seek help from him.
I agree with this guy entirely. Positive attitude, having a good laugh, encouragement, gratefulness, appreciation, are essential to every relationship and from both sides.
Listening to this made me smile because all of the three points are what I gave and still give in my relationship with my husband. I suppose I watched this to get reassurance of my relationship. My husband rarely expresses his love in words, and when he is quiet I feel uncomfortable cos I have been trained and socialized that when someone loves you he should tell you. However I have been with my husband for 10 years and he is with me all the time, we enjoy each others presence and without verbalising we are each others security blankets. Listening to those three points it reminds me he is addicted(in a good way) to being with me, without saying a word cos I am his fun element, I have always had standards and I throw rewards at him. Thanks for reminding me that I am loved. ❤️
These are three very enlightening tips. Being three hours apart, my guy and I see each other every ten days or two weeks. Absence does make our hearts grow fonder. We met through Facebook dating and exchanged phone numbers right away. We texted and called each other for eight months before meeting in person. While on the phone we each “took the other person along” by vividly describing where he or I was going or what each one was doing. I feel very connected to him and I think he feels the same way.
For me, if I like a girl, I'd let her know in person and just tell her how beautiful her smile is, how much I like her positive energy or something else that I thought would made her special to me. Hey I'm old school and believe it or not, it worked well for me and I'm not a very good looking dude like James Bond 007...best of luck to all ;)
I love these insights into the things that make a man feel happy and loved! If I’d found Mat’s videos sooner, I could’ve been an even better wife to my beloved late husband. After two years of mourning, I’ve found another wonderful man, and I want to do this RIGHT! ❤️
@@Volkslady Hi Lisa, it’s nice meeting you here.. I’m Richard by name, it would be nice getting to know you better, if that’s ok with you? My mom once said good friends are never too much to have. if you don’t mind, can we be friends?? Lovely smile you got there on your profile picture, it can brighten up the most darkest atmosphere of any man’s world😉
Dr Kelly Love Spells can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance. He helped me restored my broken relationship of 6 years by bringing back my ex Also Dr Kelly always keep up with his words I strongly advise you to seek help from him....
I've been married since 1998 at the age of 18. I have lovely daughter age 23 now. I broke up my husband twice. But because of what i've learned from your video' s he comeback to me. He said , i'm different from other woman that he have relationship.
Do not trust those who recommend they pure scam. He does a homemade mooring and it works perfectly.you don't have to spend much on materials.if you need help in getting your love ones back or your ex back
Dr Kelly Love Spells can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance. He helped me restored my broken relationship of 6 years by bringing back my ex Also Dr Kelly always keep up with his words I strongly advise you to seek help from him.
I try to do these three things. Two have become second nature now. One has not. It requires more thought. Working on it. 1. It feels good. Fun.... 2. Investment. Holding standards. 3. Rewards or variable rewards. I love my bf to bits, but he's a workaholic. I understand why, to provide for us in future. We are middle-aged soo we have to look ahead. But I wish I could get him to work a bit less and spend more time with me. I know he's addicted to me or he wouldn't be with me. 😊❤
@ rezotydnic He isn’t work for you, you are just the girlfriend that keeps his life together for him while he works for the still unknown woman he is going to marry.
@@iamjustsaying4787 really? That's your response/comment? Smh. How dare you! You know nothing about us! Here's some advice. If you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all!
sounds great. this channel proved some real stuff. the same as my sister's trick about enahncers such as spanish fly which is according to her super easy to use + relieve stress and boost energy. (in fact i tried it as well and it's great, even my partner loves me more now)
Hey, Mat...When you suggested setting standards, it sounds like the "playing hard to get" tactic. I must have done that with my husband the first time he asked me to have dinner with him, which also was our "first date". Since we were basically strangers, I was feeling a bit leery about getting in a car with a man I did not know. For all I knew, he could have been Jack the Ripper. So, being able to trust him was definitely an issue. To help overcome my fear, I told him that I would agree to have dinner with him, but only if I could bring my best friend along. She was older and more experienced than me when it came to dating men. I was just 19 and she was 24. Plus, she carried a gun in her purse and knew how to shoot it. But, as it turned out, I ended up going without her. After I had conveyed my safety concerns to "the strange man", it must have pushed his "macho button", like he must prove to me that I had nothing to fear and that he would protect me. And after listening to you talk about setting standards, he must have thought, "Wow, this chick is not going to let me get away with anything bad, so I better be on my best behavior." And he most definitely was. He opened doors for me and pulled my chair out for me as we reached the table at the restaurant. He insisted that I order first. He had me home before midnight (the curfew my mom had set for me). All in all, he acted like a true gentleman. At first, I wondered if I had scared him into not asking me out again, but little did I know at the time that he loved the fact that I wasn't going to be an easy catch (because of those standards you mentioned). He was a hunter for sure, now that I think back on it. I even told him I didn't want to even think about getting married until I was 30 or something. Well, let me tell you I couldn't have beat him away with a baseball bat after that, because, as his friends put it, he was a confirmed bachelor. LOL Now, after 51 years, he swears I was the one who caught him. 😆 Mmmmm....maybe he's gotten a little smarter in his old age. Hahahaha
I think you essentially mentioned it but for me, I’ve found that owning your personal time and encouraging him to have his, helps both of us in wanting to spend that quality time together. The old adage, ‘absence makes the heart grow fonder’ holds some weight. Self-care in a relationship and acknowledging the importance of his self-care, speaks volumes about your willingness to sacrifice some time with him, to make sure he is taking care of himself. ♥️
I do all these things naturally. If a man is not invested these things will not matter. They will want you to keep pouring them on and take. But if a man cannot reciprocate ...your in for heartache.
Absolutely true. If the intentions are not true and if the person is an idiot, of course, it doesn’t matter who you are. A psychopath or a serial killer or a narcissist doesn’t value anything. In fact they’ll start using and taking and taking everything you give, and play mind games, and treat you like an option. Those a shitty people. I guess, this guy here is talking about men with integrity. Don’t even try them with those that have no standards, or those whose standards are selfish.
As an aspiring UA-camr myself, I just wanted to say thank you for bringing us all on this journey with you. It’s videos like this that keep me inspired to create every day ☺️
I'm in relationship, it's turning 1 year 5 months.. I respect him, love his company, appreciate the attempt he does for me.. These things keep us together, close like a magnet, we are attracted to each other.. We went till hug and kiss, it's beautiful
I have discovered that by supporting his time with his male friends ; hunting, working out, playing sports, etc; that our time together is going to be more enjoying and not rushed. We love taking trips and being around nature and each other.
I love how healthy all your advice is. How to be a high quality partner and work your strengths to become your best version, rather than manipulate someone to get them in a relationship I see way too often. Thanks for the amazing videos Matt, I've been a fan for years!
i used to be a very happy positive person. then i was hurt a bunch, mostly by men. i began to hate men. i still struggle sometimes with being pessimistic and distrusting. i don’t want to be negative. your videos are helping me to realize that men should be appreciated and loved, just because i met some horrible ones doesn’t mean i should apply those experiences to all men. i’m really going to try to focus on being less pessimistic and being more grateful. thank you!
Unfortunately, the more time is not always the thing for the guy. The story of Selena Gomez. She invested lots of time with Justin Beiber, thenall of a sudden he marries someone else. The same kiind of thing happened to me. The longer the time, the more the guy took me for granted. 5 years and no ring. I start talking about a ring, he acts like a jerk. I breakup with him. One year later, it finally occurs to him... He meets a girl and within 1 year-he gives her the ring. Don't be the girl that has to train the guy, he gets mad at you/you breakup. Then he fixes the things and does it better with SOMEONE ELSE> Don't be that girl. Hit issues head on from the beginning.
Know when to let go! Sometimes you invest time in the WRONG person. It may feel right to you, but if it doesn’t feel just as right to your partner it’s just ongoing and eventual heart break. Know when to allow yourself to be open for the RIGHT partner for you: someone who loves you just as much as you love them. Just because an ex finds true love with someone else, doesn’t mean you are the wrong person. You’re just the wrong people for each other. Reciprocated love is what you both deserve.
Gurl the same thing happen to me 5 years and nothing he would also act real stupid and say he didn't believe in marriage and I was like well u sure act like u my husband when u sleep over and etc. until I was like u know what I'm DONE and then he tried making it right and beg and change, it was too late cause I knew if I had to leave him for him to do all that it was never going to be good cause I felt like I had to do all that for him to want what I want he was only going to give me that cause I wanted it not cause he wanted too so I never took him back also cause he wasn't good managing money and sometimes he would disrespect me so I had to let him go and he never wanted to leave me but I just didn't like what he was offering he would leave me alone alot like in important occasions for me and I wasn't going to accept that from anyone and he just didn't understand even a year later he still passes by and stays all night outside my fence in his car and asks if I can take him back I said hell nooo cause like prince once said even doves have pride
"Be happy" is so true. My husband (13 years and three boys later) had told me before that I always look prettier when we are on holiday. He might be joking but it could be true as I always feel much cheerful and happy during holiday.
Together for 25 years. At first, he had to "work" hard (invest) a lot as I was not interested in getting in a relationship again. I had suffered too much from the previous one. So, during a year we talked, dined or even sang together. We talked about the real things. I put my standards without even being aware that I was really setting my standards for him to learn how he could conquer me. Later on I realized that men need to have challenges. He made me laugh, I made him valued and admired. Your video is helping me get back to what was the start of our beautiful relationship. I will try to put more fun in our couple as we have been slowly distracted by life problems, money, mortgage, work, sickness and death of his father etc. many thanks for your video.
When we work towards a life goal together..and that life goal means a lot to both of us individually..i feel the bond gets tighter. (For eg: studying for a very important exam.) We were going to work on that goal anyway..but now there is a partner who has the same vision and is as passionate as you about that goal! So when we work together, the results increase many fold! The best feeling..and feels like a blessing to both.
Confidence, being/having fun and adventurous, having my life in balance for me. Once these traits felt natural and good to me I just felt then I could attract and have a man who truly enjoys me and wants to be with me.
l know of a manl who helped me bring my ex back he can also help you just as he did mine, he does a perfect work l' m assuring you, you gonna testify....
Hi Jill G, it’s nice meeting you here.. I’m Richard by name, it would be nice getting to know you better, if that’s ok with you? My mom once said good friends are never too much to have. if you don’t mind, can we be friends??
Hi Rose, it’s nice meeting you here.. I’m Richard by name, it would be nice getting to know you better, if that’s ok with you? My mom once said good friends are never too much to have. if you don’t mind, can we be friends?? Lovely smile you got there on your profile picture, it can brighten up the most darkest atmosphere of any man’s world😉.
Dr Kelly Love Spells can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance. He helped me restored my broken relationship of 6 years by bringing back my ex Also Dr Kelly always keep up with his words I strongly advise you to seek help from him.
Definitely need to practice these three beautiful behaviors in order to have a beautiful relationship. Thank you Mat for this beautiful one u done for us 😀
Hi Sarah, it’s nice meeting you here.. I’m Richard by name, it would be nice getting to know you better, if that’s ok with you? My mom once said good friends are never too much to have. if you don’t mind, can we be friends??
Dr Kelly Love Spells can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance. He helped me restored my broken relationship of 6 years by bringing back my ex Also Dr Kelly always keep up with his words I strongly advise you to seek help from him.
I make it a point to make sure my bf knows how much I appreciate everything small medium or big thing he does for me. I asked god for him literally the begining was rough but I knew in my heart I had to work very carefully to show him my true unconditional love and support. I knew once he saw and felt it he would melt in my life in the right way.
Be busy and don't focus on him 24/7. So that your energy is renewed and you will have him miss you. Will also have new experiences to share and talk about. That's also part of the fun.
Hi Dalia, it’s nice meeting you here.. I’m Richard by name, it would be nice getting to know you better, if that’s ok with you? My mom once said good friends are never too much to have. if you don’t mind, can we be friends??
Dr Kelly Love Spells can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance. He helped me restored my broken relationship of 6 years by bringing back my ex Also Dr Kelly always keep up with his words I strongly advise you to seek help from him...
Being kind and considerate to one another is one of the best ways to strengthen a relationship. Doing nice things that you know your partner will appreciate, it may take more time or more effort but it’s so worth it and it shows them that you do really care about them and that they are worth it. My husband and I are like this naturally with one another and it really works. I also pray a lot asking God to guide us both in our relationship and He does. It works and I am grateful.🙏❤️
Absolutely beautiful. I totally agree. God needs to be in it. My husband of 16 years passed away and it was heart wrenching but I was so so thankful. We would pray together regularly and it was such a strengthening thing !!
I tell him all the things he’s great at that maybe no one has really noticed in him before. I laugh and laugh at his jokes and let him know how much fun I’m having when we are together. I tell him how taken care of and loved and safe I feel with him. I praise him for all the things he does to make our lives together great. I show him my feisty side and my vulnerable side. In return he treats me like a queen.
Hola amiga, te recomiendo a este gran hombre que arregló mi relación en 24 horas, ahora mi pareja está de vuelta y más comprometida después de muchos años de separación y ruptura, ella también te puede ayudar.AA
Sending a personal card to him in the regular mail is special. Just a nice note to say you’re sending a hug or you miss him or you’re glad he’s in your life. Going to the mailbox and getting a nice love note from you is something he can keep and reread and it will be a nice surprise. He might return the favor and send a note to you via regular mail.
Love Mat’s tutorials! I’m in a brand new relationship, still haven’t met yet. I have been very specific in my wants and don’t wants, yet he keeps coming back. He wanted a picture of my legs and I had been holding back adamantly. So I painted my toenails, surprised him and sent him the picture. You would have thought I gave him a million dollars, he was so happy, that was his reward to his investment. I continue to let him be the pursuer and so far we’re doing well.
Hi Valerie, it’s nice meeting you here.. I’m Richard by name, it would be nice getting to know you better, if that’s ok with you? My mom once said good friends are never too much to have. if you don’t mind, can we be friends??
Dr Kelly Love Spells can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance. He helped me restored my broken relationship of 6 years by bringing back my ex Also Dr Kelly always keep up with his words I strongly advise you to seek help from him.
Dr Kelly Love Spells can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance. He helped me restored my broken relationship of 6 years by bringing back my ex Also Dr Kelly always keep up with his words I strongly advise you to seek help from him.
You said it right being positive and fun is what keeps him coming back for more! And yes we have to always remember to acknowledge him and validate him and respect him!
One thing I have done as a variable award, is put a thank you card, as well as gift card for a coffee shop, in a male co workers locker to thank him for everything he does, and to thank him for protecting me.
I've watched a lot of your videos and I don't think you know how much you've raised young ladies self worth and young men have more respect for women. You are a leader in healthy relationships which equates to a new healthy society. Tell your wife you didn't pay me to say that! LOL God bless you man! 😊💕🌎
A healthy relationship takes effort. Mat, your videos have helped me tremendously in a dark phase of my life. Thank you for putting so much effort in your videos. I truly appreciate it.
My husband likes it when I participate in something he LOVES but I'm like eh.. like watching and playing Jeopardy together or going to a hockey game. And not just being present, but really getting into it, and having fun. I'm not as social as he is, so he also loves it when I socialize with his friends and charm them. He always says he feels lucky and proud to be my husband.
Thank you, my standards are high and I don’t like being pressured into a physical relationship. I always had fun with my husband. Yes I agree with the psychological rewards, being kind works as well .👍
Everyone just needs to grow up and be adult's. It's a two way street after all. It's not up to one person to please the other it's about communication and mutual respect.
Sometimes one person has to start! Not everyone knows how to show appreciation even tho they are an adult! If you show appreciation and they know how good it feels, they will return the favor! Usually communication has to start with one person and then the other participates!
I'm not sure I want a man addicted to me because I've had a couple different experiences where the man called me addictive like a drug and both relationships ended and was destructive because it destroyed the friendship that we once shared. Think I'd rather have a relationship based around mutual respect, trust, and healthy communication instead of being addictive. Until I can find a emotionally available man that's looking for real growth I'd rather stay alone.
1.It feels good (you want safety, he wants fun) 2.Investment (when you invest in something, you value it more; put standards for him to achieve it ) 3.Rewards (the feedback,you give him a little more "you make me melt when i am in your arms", when you apreciate him that he is involved in the relationship it gives him the satisfaction to want you more )
He says it's just me being me, don't ever stop being me. Keep doing what I'm doing...... and this is a 7 month overseas relationship that just keeps being strong..
basically just be his biggest cheerleader and support. being there for him when he needs me or generally someone. make him feel like a man or validate him however he is. make him feel free, comfy and happy. honestly, he needs a safe space too to like doing whatever society doesn't accept guys doing. like if hes feminine or likes things or doing things hes pressured not to do because its heteronormatively girly... its liberating for him to find someone who just lets him be anything... no matter his age or how he is, hes got my support to be him and do anything.
Join the *Manifest Your Man* program and get *coached by Mat Boggs TODAY* : www.bravethinkinginstitute.com/love-relationships/resources/mym/offer/strategy-session
He’s already addicted! 😂
When I was at work today he said ge was at a gorgeous store but he didn't anser at 330 or at 4 the he called me 7 times u didn't answer when he was in my drive way with Rosie's and the he was being so nice he never dose that it was really out of place then he was telling me all about his day and 2 people came over I played it off but something not Right what do you think if I go to his house I g ardkry even getza kiss
He didn't do his laundry either
I know he lieing he never happy like this
I know he lieing he never happy like this and I get feed back so I can sleep
When we first got married, my husband would only remove his pants after the lights were out. It was because he hated his thin legs. So, one day, I told him I loved the shape of his legs. He was shocked and said something like, "Really? I think they are too skinny." He had not worn shorts since he was a kid, so I bought him a pair of shorts and coaxed him to sit in the backyard with me and keep me company while I sunbathed. Which he did. Pretty soon, his legs had a better tan than mine, and I whined about that fact. Ever since then, he wore shorts almost ALL the time. In a few months, he will turn 76.....and will be wearing shorts, thanks to that compliment I paid him 50 years ago. All I can say now is that it's a good thing we live in the south. If not, I will need to find a way to tell him how great I think he would look in a snowsuit and ski boots. 😉
Hi my relationship is fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,I got help from a great man who brought us back together. and if you need any kind of help he can help you.......
For the record I live in Michigan and people wear shorts in the winter all the time lol
@@denisalekaj8770 Be careful. "They" might use that info as proof of global warming... lol
That is sooo sweet🥰
@@tenadefiant 😄
And some men are narcissists who fall in love with your positivity and fun, then *after* marriage, crush the fun and joy out of you with unrelenting criticism and harsh treatment. Then they’re mad because “she isn’t fun anymore.”
Hello friend, I recommend this great spiritualist who fixed my relationship in 48 hours now my partner is back and morn committed after many years of separation and breakup and also banish third party ,make your crush fall in love etc ❤
Whats@app him 👇👇👇
✝15809529880💖⏭⏯⏯(☉☉)!
✝15809529880💖⏭⏯⏯⏮(☉☉)!
So true
I asked my husband and his friends why men are more attracted to younger women and I was shocked by their answer. I expected them to all say that younger women were more beautiful (less wrinkles and tighter firmer perkier bodies) but they all said “more fun / carefree”. Younger women make men forget about the stress of life. That changed my thinking and started trying to focus on having fun and living in the moment instead of standing in the mirror worrying about wrinkles and weight. It comes full circle because now I actually feel more secure and safe knowing that my husband is more excited about me when I laugh and smile even with no make up.
Interesting perspective more about the "more fun/carefree" less about the beautiful, younger looks! Thanks for sharing that. 😊
I don't believe it's true.
I don't think it's just a "fun personality." I've never seen a successful middle aged man with a 200+lbs 20 something. Also, young women are more fun and carefree because they are naive (which can be a good trait) because they haven't been around long enough to be burned over and over my selfish men. Generally, it's the men in our lives and how they treat us that push the middle aged woman away. It's our experiences with them.
I used to feel super insecure when I was 24 and barely a server (ok, I wasn’t a server. I worked in a restaurant but I uh ran drinks for the bar because they didn’t think I was a good server yet). I got with a 39 year old guy who had a career and I was so embarrassed. Now I’m like wow I was fun, that guy was lucky! I was lucky too. I had a lot of fun with him. But wish I could go and shake a lot of young woman and tell them their value. I think it’s easy to be insecure when you’re not established in the world (which, naturally yoj probably won’t be compared to someone older). I think one thing younger people innately have is a kindness.
Like wait your boss is mad at you? Why does that matter? If they’re being mean that’s not nice! You’re cool it shouldn’t bother you. It totally makes sense why someone with a hosue, kids, and career would be worried about a possible career threat. It would be almost insulting if a man opened up and his wife said, “Why are you worried about that?” I think naturally they can provide more support and comfort, while someone with less life experience might remind them that it’s not the end of the world! In more of a why does that even matter, this is planet earth, who cares some dude is mad at you, where as someone older is more likely to have a comforting it’s ok, I’m here for you and understand why you’re worried but I have your back. They’re both good. I’m glad you’re marriage is getting even happier! I hope to have the balance. I think it’s unlikely I will ever be as carefree as I was when I was younger. To be so would almost be irresponsible. But I hope I can channel it into the areas it matters, keep the attitude that over all that is not a big deal! It’s ok to worry, but in the grand scheme of things it’s all ok, yet still bring that grounding kind of comfort that comes from understanding why things are important, why some things are serious, why people not be happy all the time, and still offering support and a positive view of your life is way bigger than this chapter and it will all be ok. 🖤 I liked reading your comment it made me happy
So True ... 😊
2:00 - 1) It feels good. You’re fun to be with.
4:00 - 2) Investment. People value relationships they’ve invested in.
5:58 - 3) Reward for doing something nice for you or a variable, spontaneous reward. Emotional rewards, validation, appreciation.
Thanks
Thankyou
You are the best thanks so much for this.
Thank you!
Lmao thank u
When my husband and I started dating we went out, had lots fun, kissed and said good night. We dated for 11 months before we were married and did not have sex before we were married. He wanted to wait and I was not going to fall into that trap again of giving a guy what he wanted before he married me. We understood each other from the start. We started dating near the end of November and got married the following November after dating for 11 months. We’ve now been married for 35 years and are still madly in love with each other, have 3 great kids who are also married! We’ve showed them what it takes to make a marriage work so hopefully they’ll take those lessons to heart. I can’t wait to spend at least another 20-30 years together! We’re 64 now so hopefully will it make at least another 20!
I tap into that Blessings to date my future hubby and have sex when married.
Awesome story
You two are so blessed to have one another!
@@pammieramsey8525 is this even real😱...we are barely 5years in marriage and it's hectic I feel like it's gonna end tomorrow....what's the secret for long lasting marriage
Sex before marriage is not a trap. It fun and educational. I pity the people who find out after marriage that they are not sexually compatible.
But in some religions, that doesn’t matter as long as the man is satisfied.
My beautiful Husband of 33 years, died of cancer, almost 2 years ago. Watching this video just reminded me why every single day of that marriage was so happy. We somehow managed to fill all 3 of these criteria, without even knowing it. This man knows exactly what he’s talking about.
Sorry for your loss- what great memories you have- ❤️
Sorry for your lost. sending hugs 🤗🤗🤗
@@ayuravagni6826 ❤️
😥🙋💞 Revelation 21 : 3-6 offers hope
Sorry for your loss....he's looking down on you with love and smiles❤😊
Isn’t it sad that we lost the concept of how to be in a healthy relationship; we have to watch videos and read books and sign up for online courses. And of course there are so many different opinions on “how to win the man”, “how to keep the man”-Why can’t we just be honest, genuine and if we like or love someone, let them know and show them? Why does it have to be so complicated?
Omg I feel that Shelly!!!
As I have heard it said; "it's a game!"
Also, "the difference between men and boys are the price of their toys!"
In this video, Matt confirms the "fun addiction"! Women become and remain too serious! Too serious far too often and long! We feel safe, secure and guarded----which isn't carefree, relaxed and lose! We as women need to learn to be all of the above; when it's time too be! How more relaxed; more carefree and just flow with the guy or lead with fun!
It's smart to research these things not sad. It's not like they teach us anything in school. It's worth doing the work so get busy!!
@@chambriayarbrough3289 With all due respect, I meet a lot of men who are not fun at all. They are stressed out and have no sense of humor. I am funny and fun but cannot seem to find a similar guy. Everyone acts too serious all the damn time.
So true
My mantra is to 1) Make him laugh 2) Thank him 3) Encourage him 4) Tell him how handsome, intelligent and fabulous he is and 5) Make memories together
As a woman, as much as I would like to mention all I'm thinking of, I think it best to not go on and on with negativity and insecurities. Time is so much better spent with a positive attitude. This is not to say that I don't communicate with my Beloved in tough times. I just try to keep a balance. In the end, it brings pleasure with no ending to see him happy and feel myself protected, wanted and loved. Luv Ya Mat and your lovely wife !! :)
l know of a manl who helped me bring my ex back he can also help you just as he did mine, he does a perfect work l' m assuring you, you gonna testify
Wha'tsapp him for help
Agree with these five, 100%!!! 🙂
I learn to say great great great whenever my husband called and asked how things were going!
@@MKD-dd6ng How do you “make,” someone laugh ? When people try to be funny it’s annoying.
I encourage my man to follow his dreams. That is my way of keeping him into me. He wants to fly. I ask him flying questions, he becomes so animated, He has a flight simulator, I suggest he takes a night for himself to practice. He looked into going to finish his lessons to earn his license. He treats me so wonderfully, that is my way of saying, I value you and I want your happiness to be complete.
You go girl!! That's the way!!
I do this too! He feels safe to tell me what he does or doesn’t want when he may not tell his friends
Do not trust those who recommend they pure scam. He does a homemade mooring and it works perfectly.you don't have to spend much on materials.if you need help in getting your love ones back or your ex back
Whatsapp him for help
The thing that holds my guy close to me, is support. It's easy to support him thru easy times, but if you can step up and show him you'll be there to support him thru the bad, even if it's taking him out for a few beers and pool, his favorite songs on the jukebox, maybe even kareoke, dancing, to just being there for advice or a cuddle. That means alot to a guy to know she can be his rock when he needs it.
I can rambert, must be at least 30 years ago, my husband said, " Oh I love your company , I love being with you " it was so wonderful to hear and I've never forgotten it .
30 years ago? nothing since?
To all single people out there who are also believers, ask God to write your love story... He is the author of Love... First ask Him to heal you of your childhood hurts and insecurities, to help you be the right person... And then see the miracle unfolding... 🙏
@Alice my dear, I am not desperate for a man, nobody should be... That's the reason so many are in unhealthy relationships and find it difficult to break unholy patterns... I am the child of the most High God who gives good things to his children, in His time...
@@reni0908 Amen, well said!!!!
Amen. After my husband passed, I told God I wasn't looking for anyone. If HE had a plan for me that included a man, He would have to drop him in my lap. And 3 years later, he did. God is so good.
❤❤❤
That’s it👌🙏🏻
I had a boyfriend in the past where while we were waiting for public transportation when meeting up after we both got off work one day…he kissed me sweetly and I went limp in his arms as if I fainted because of his kiss. He fell right into character and called my name as if to “awaken” me. Then I sprang up…we both started laughing as well as other people who witnessed our sillyness. That was just one fun time I can think of.
Hahahaha i laughed at this! 😂Will do this if i have a bf 😂
Cringe
That's what I am enjoying in my relationship all the laughs, and great times we are having together, and the deep talks I'm just not rushing in.
I’ve been married for over 50 yrs to a man that crushed me and destroyed the love I had for him. I could never get out. The man you date isn’t the man you marry.
Amen to that
I'm so sorry😢
:( I'm so sorry
That's very sad. Try to find it if he's just a bad person or did something happen. Sometimes it takes 2. Not just one person is in the wrong. Sometimes it's true, the man is bad.
Am finding for real relationship
Your channel indeed changed my life. After watched all your videos, I understood how to love and appreciate a man. I met the one I’ve been looking for in my past 30 years, and after only 7 months, we got our marriage license today. Thank you so much, you changed my life.
Dr Kelly Love Spells can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance. He helped me restored my broken relationship of 6 years by bringing back my ex Also Dr Kelly always keep up with his words I strongly advise you to seek help from him.
Whats@app him now^_^^_^^_^
Many PRAYER'SNLUV,May God Bless Your Marriage 👼👼💝💝✝️✝️🙏🙏
Congratulations 🍾🥂
Nowadays, one sure sign this man has secrets, ask him if he would like to look at your mobile phone ,and, you, look at his !. If he even hesitates he has a hidden phone, or, if he gets angry, then he will or is, cheating. It is a quick way to find out, and, not get hurt by him
This obviously goes for women as well, let us not forget that !. Good luck in your lives, that you find a good faithful and loving partner, there are some people who won't chest on their loved ones, how wonderful is that.
Thank you for sharing this! I literally texted my husband after this video because I want him to feel cared about. He's at work and has been pulling our weight in bills and stuff lately because I've been sick. I texted him that I appreciated the things he has been doing lately for us and that I'm so grateful he stepped up while I've been out of work. He called me within minutes and said how that made him feel so appreciated. I could tell it really made him feel cared about. I think maybe I've been doing things wrong with how I communicate with him lately, so it was nice being reminded that they operate differently and that I need to be a little more fun, less stressful to be around and to make him feel loved back.
That’s beautiful. I’m wondering if you’ve turned up the fun and how it went.
It sounds like your husbands love language is affirmation. Have you read the book, the Five Love Languages? It’s been helpful to me in our marriage as well as other relationships.
Am finding for real relationship
#1 fun conversation #2 genuine compliments #3 knowing that I genuinely care for him as a person #4 knowing that I respect and value him, including his opinions. #5 knowing that we really are on the same page with how a relationship should flow
9lll
Hehe. So like a puppy. You play with him (fun), then you teach him some tricks (how he should treat you) and then he gets a treat. After the treat you repeat the cycle! How simple! Thank you 🙏🏻
OMG. "A puppy" made me laugh. Thank you.
Had the exact same thought! Except I didn’t think puppy 😂 I thought: OMG they’re exactly like dogs!
Yeh most of them need training 😅
@@juliemahfood8298 There's a 60s movie with Sandra Dee and Bobby Darrin (If a Man Answers) that has training a man as you would a dog as its plot!
Had the same thoughts indeed. I would say just like a dog the way my partner wants to be treated but I will try train him😅
I'm older than some ladies, but I highly suggest for all women, young or mature, to be alright with being alone. No one will be happy to meet all your needed, so you better enjoy your own company.
Golden! I love my own company and it is a very liberating feeling.
I just went on a date and it’s funny my date asked me what makes me the happiest and I said feeling secure and being able to enjoy the things I love to do and my date said being with someone that he can have fun and enjoy their company with makes him happy.
Nope … my husband did not say he wanted to feel “fun” … he said he wanted to feel “good,” “companionship” and “calm.” And totally yes to the validation, compliments and rewards!!
Am finding for real relationship
Whatever happened to just be yourself and if they like you they like you and if they don’t they don’t 🤷♀️
I think my key to make him to be addicted is to not being available for him 24/7 and loving myself
Did all this. 8 yrs later I am getting divorced. I understand that a foundation is needed in order to build. The best thing I would encourage women to do is to seek mutual relationships and always be forward with your communication.
I'm sorry, yet happy, for your loss. Perhaps you will find a man who appreciates you more this time. The more he works for it, the more he will try. If you wouldn't let a friend treat you that way, don't let him. Trust your gut! Good luck!
And don’t waste time with men who don’t have the capacity to love anyone but themselves. You were probably with an abuser.
True. Self love is also important.
Am finding for real relationship
Understanding the loving effort of a man by his woman can do magic for him
Never, ever, live by your feelings.. feelings change daily. Live by commitment.
I can tell when a man wants to be with you because he is excited to show you something new. Never been to his favorite place or restaurant. He wants to see your reaction to something new. Better reaction more he wants to show you more and more.
So - how do you explain a man who asks to marry you on the first date without so much as hand holding? Yep. No lie. First date. That was almost 60 years ago. Yep. Love at first sight is real and can last a lifetime.
That is beautil, if it is right, it's really gonna last.
It depends on the situation
I had that experience too
Amazing ❤
I have had that happen to me just the past ten days. Amazing and scary at the same time. And it’s so very exciting.
Just being more easy going and having fun instead of worrying about where the relationship is going has helped a lot
1. It feels good
2. Investment
3. (Variable) Awards
This advice is applicable to non-toxic people. Toxic & dangerous people like narcisssists, sociopaths, dark empathy & psychopaths are very good at mimicking these 3 behavioural advice here, usually by first reeling you in with their sob stories that may not be 100% true, just to test your empathy level. They need you to be empathetic so that they can get away with bad behaviour in the future. However, their acting last a few weeks/months only. You know you got a rotten apple in your hands when toxic people throw tantrums at you if they don't get their rewards/demands fulfilled from you a.s.a.p.
@Anna some exes - especially narcisssistic abusers - are not worth going back to. The pain they'll do in the future, is just a repeat cycle they did to you before & now. They are good at promising things you want to hear but they don't intend keep/fulfill it for long. So thanks, but no thanks.
1) Fun - The more fun you're creating the more fun you're having together the more likely he'll become addicted to that experience because the better it'll feel! So life giving, light hearted, expansive, avoid drama, depressive, heavy, critical topics.
Create Joy, laughter
2) Investment - We value what we put effort into. Holding standards.
I discovered they want to be with me:
- My looks
- My personality
- My charm
- My ambition & independence
- My intelligence 🤓
- My sympathetic & how protective of the ppl who deserve
- Diplomatic I am
And other stuff..!!
I Don’t want any man to be addicted to me!!! I want a man to be faithful and to love me.
Encouragement: I let him know how amazing he is at his job. How he knows his stuff and has confidence in what he does.
Fun:. I make him laugh as often as I can. Playing or teasing him with certain differences, since he is Polish and I am American. Well they say men wear stockings. I had a field day with that, which he laughed over and came out with the sentence I always want to hear, "What am I going to do with you?" And my response is always, "Love me forever "
I have realized through life experience, life is to short to not enjoy each moment, so I make the best out of them, and this has allowed him to crawl out of his past experience and enjoy them with me.
I can relate to these three behaviors and they work. Loving someone with your heart and soul allows this to happen and it works so well.
Hello friend, I recommend this great spiritualist who fixed my relationship in 24 hours, now my partner is back and more committed after many years of separation and breakup..........
Whatsapp him..
Beautiful comment, Michelle S. I completely agree with you. You are spot on. I love that phrase "What am I going to do with you?" in jest. Absolutely precious! :)
@Joanna Altena Hi Joanna, it’s nice meeting you here.. I’m Richard by name, it would be nice getting to know you better, if that’s ok with you? My mom once said good friends are never too much to have. if you don’t mind, can we be friends??
There isnt a single day in our home that goes without laughters. We dont have kids or pets. Just the two of us and our daily laughters together. I love you amor ❤️
When i'm with him I make sure he sees that I am happy around him all the time, which makes him happy and we always compliment each other and laugh around and talk a lot, we always have our phones down when we're together. Also, side note. always lean into him closer while talking, sitting, etc. It's psychological, and he loves that
Be yourself and having a loving heart you can't mess up what's ment to be don't try to hard
I can help you mend your broken heart and restore your relationship with three days of manifestation...
Hi Crystle Sky Channel, it’s nice meeting you here.. I’m Richard by name, it would be nice getting to know you better, if that’s ok with you? My mom once said good friends are never too much to have. if you don’t mind, can we be friends??
1. Dial up fun to dial up desire ...ignite fun to feel good
2. Invite a man to invest in you, to earn your time/neg through setting standards for him to achieve value you
3. Reward your man thru validation and appreciation , telling him you make me melt when I'm in your arms, you're amazing
l know of a manl who helped me bring my ex back he can also help you just as he did mine, he does a perfect work l' m assuring you, you gonna testify....
Wha'tsapp him for help...
Seriously ?!? Spam bots are everywhere
I keep it positive. Unnecessary complaints, jealousy, etc ruin the mood.
I’ve been in a Long distance relationship for over six years I can only confirm what you’re saying here. I found it crucial to start off by relationship on the right foot. Setting standards from the beginning is setting standards for the future of you as a couple ❤️
Hello friend, I recommend this great spiritualist who fixed my relationship in 48 hours now my partner is back and morn committed after many years of separation and breakup and also banish third party ,make your crush fall in love etc ❤
Whats@app him 👇👇👇
✝15809529880💖⏭⏯⏯(☉☉)!
✝15809529880💖⏭⏯⏯⏮(☉☉)!
Six years! And still no commitment?
Be happy, genuinely smile a lot, make short eye contact to give him emotional space.
It's so sad on how I did allllll of that, I truly adored him, and he still lied and cheated on me 😢
My cooking used to give my man some wow moments and he said it made him feel special knowing I made the dish especially for him, for forty seven years. He loved the way I incorporated his favourite smells and tastes and made enough only for him. His special dishes are still in my recipe book. Sadly I don’t cook them anymore, the angels cook for him now.
So sorry for your loss❤
My twin’s husband very critically ill. So I’ll pray for you Lorraine while I do for her. I’m sorry. ❤God bless you. 🙏
Hi Mat! I love your tips. Thanks. To answer your question, I try to think of my husband's needs. For example, if he has been on his feet all day, I'll lotion up his dry feet and give him a feet massage (without him asking). I notice it relaxes him right away. Seeing him relaxed like that pleases my heart too.
l know of a manl who helped me bring my ex back he can also help you just as he did mine, he does a perfect work l' m assuring you, you gonna testify......
Wha'tsapp him for help.....
十2349155456106💖⏯⏯(☉｡☉)!....
Am finding for real relationship
I'm in the process of making my relationship. Not letting him go. We both actively speak out truth. Best thing ever.
My man told me in the beginning that he wanted to feel appreciated. What a simply desire and easy to fulfill in my eyes. Gratitude goes a looooong way! Verbal rewards are very important absolutely work in our relationship
Am finding for real relationship
I wish all the men in the world were like mat boggs ...🥰...i love this guy...😘😘
Celebrate every precious moment with him.....don't take him for granted....be his escape from the mundane.....have fun and be playful.....
Hello, if you really want to get your partner back, I know a man who can help you get your partner back, in twenty-four hours you will see your result.
I am so excited that my relationship has been restored by (Doctor Akhigbe) contact him too to restore yours 👇👇👇
➕2349051805781🌹🌹⏭⏮⏮👆👆👆💕💕💕💕
Hi Louise Boyd, it’s nice meeting you here.. I’m Richard by name, it would be nice getting to know you better, if that’s ok with you? My mom once said good friends are never too much to have. if you don’t mind, can we be friends??
Dr Kelly Love Spells can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance. He helped me restored my broken relationship of 6 years by bringing back my ex Also Dr Kelly always keep up with his words I strongly advise you to seek help from him.
I agree with this guy entirely. Positive attitude, having a good laugh, encouragement, gratefulness, appreciation, are essential to every relationship and from both sides.
Honesty being honest with him, I haven’t met him yet, but I love him so much
Listening to this made me smile because all of the three points are what I gave and still give in my relationship with my husband. I suppose I watched this to get reassurance of my relationship. My husband rarely expresses his love in words, and when he is quiet I feel uncomfortable cos I have been trained and socialized that when someone loves you he should tell you. However I have been with my husband for 10 years and he is with me all the time, we enjoy each others presence and without verbalising we are each others security blankets. Listening to those three points it reminds me he is addicted(in a good way) to being with me, without saying a word cos I am his fun element, I have always had standards and I throw rewards at him. Thanks for reminding me that I am loved. ❤️
These are three very enlightening tips. Being three hours apart, my guy and I see each other every ten days or two weeks. Absence does make our hearts grow fonder.
We met through Facebook dating and exchanged phone numbers right away. We texted and called each other for eight months before meeting in person. While on the phone we each “took the other person along” by vividly describing where he or I was going or what each one was doing.
I feel very connected to him and I think he feels the same way.
For me, if I like a girl, I'd let her know in person and just tell her how beautiful her smile is, how much I like her positive energy or something else that I thought would made her special to me. Hey I'm old school and believe it or not, it worked well for me and I'm not a very good looking dude like James Bond 007...best of luck to all ;)
I love these insights into the things that make a man feel happy and loved! If I’d found Mat’s videos sooner, I could’ve been an even better wife to my beloved late husband. After two years of mourning, I’ve found another wonderful man, and I want to do this RIGHT! ❤️
@@muhammadmusa2942 Considering my “partner” is in Heaven, it’s not likely he can help! 🤣
@@Volkslady Hi Lisa, it’s nice meeting you here.. I’m Richard by name, it would be nice getting to know you better, if that’s ok with you? My mom once said good friends are never too much to have. if you don’t mind, can we be friends??
Lovely smile you got there on your profile picture, it can brighten up the most darkest atmosphere of any man’s world😉
Dr Kelly Love Spells can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance. He helped me restored my broken relationship of 6 years by bringing back my ex Also Dr Kelly always keep up with his words I strongly advise you to seek help from him....
Whats@app him now^_^^_^^_^...
十12139298312⏭⏭⏭_ ^_!!!!!!!!!!!??????????
I've been married since 1998 at the age of 18. I have lovely daughter age 23 now. I broke up my husband twice. But because of what i've learned from your video' s he comeback to me. He said , i'm different from other woman that he have relationship.
Do not trust those who recommend they pure scam. He does a homemade mooring and it works perfectly.you don't have to spend much on materials.if you need help in getting your love ones back or your ex back
Whatsapp him for help
Dr Kelly Love Spells can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance. He helped me restored my broken relationship of 6 years by bringing back my ex Also Dr Kelly always keep up with his words I strongly advise you to seek help from him.
Whats@app him now^_^^_^^_^
I try to do these three things. Two have become second nature now. One has not. It requires more thought. Working on it.
1. It feels good. Fun....
2. Investment. Holding standards.
3. Rewards or variable rewards.
I love my bf to bits, but he's a workaholic. I understand why, to provide for us in future. We are middle-aged soo we have to look ahead. But I wish I could get him to work a bit less and spend more time with me. I know he's addicted to me or he wouldn't be with me. 😊❤
l know of a manl who helped me bring my ex back he can also help you just as he did mine, he does a perfect work l' m assuring you, you gonna testify
Wha'tsapp him for help
@ rezotydnic He isn’t work for you, you are just the girlfriend that keeps his life together for him while he works for the still unknown woman he is going to marry.
@@iamjustsaying4787 really? That's your response/comment?
Smh. How dare you! You know nothing about us! Here's some advice. If you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all!
sounds great. this channel proved some real stuff. the same as my sister's trick about enahncers such as spanish fly which is according to her super easy to use + relieve stress and boost energy. (in fact i tried it as well and it's great, even my partner loves me more now)
Hey, Mat...When you suggested setting standards, it sounds like the "playing hard to get" tactic. I must have done that with my husband the first time he asked me to have dinner with him, which also was our "first date". Since we were basically strangers, I was feeling a bit leery about getting in a car with a man I did not know. For all I knew, he could have been Jack the Ripper. So, being able to trust him was definitely an issue. To help overcome my fear, I told him that I would agree to have dinner with him, but only if I could bring my best friend along. She was older and more experienced than me when it came to dating men. I was just 19 and she was 24. Plus, she carried a gun in her purse and knew how to shoot it. But, as it turned out, I ended up going without her. After I had conveyed my safety concerns to "the strange man", it must have pushed his "macho button", like he must prove to me that I had nothing to fear and that he would protect me. And after listening to you talk about setting standards, he must have thought, "Wow, this chick is not going to let me get away with anything bad, so I better be on my best behavior." And he most definitely was. He opened doors for me and pulled my chair out for me as we reached the table at the restaurant. He insisted that I order first. He had me home before midnight (the curfew my mom had set for me). All in all, he acted like a true gentleman. At first, I wondered if I had scared him into not asking me out again, but little did I know at the time that he loved the fact that I wasn't going to be an easy catch (because of those standards you mentioned). He was a hunter for sure, now that I think back on it. I even told him I didn't want to even think about getting married until I was 30 or something. Well, let me tell you I couldn't have beat him away with a baseball bat after that, because, as his friends put it, he was a confirmed bachelor. LOL Now, after 51 years, he swears I was the one who caught him. 😆 Mmmmm....maybe he's gotten a little smarter in his old age. Hahahaha
Am finding for real relationship
I think you essentially mentioned it but for me, I’ve found that owning your personal time and encouraging him to have his, helps both of us in wanting to spend that quality time together. The old adage, ‘absence makes the heart grow fonder’ holds some weight. Self-care in a relationship and acknowledging the importance of his self-care, speaks volumes about your willingness to sacrifice some time with him, to make sure he is taking care of himself. ♥️
I do all these things naturally. If a man is not invested these things will not matter. They will want you to keep pouring them on and take. But if a man cannot reciprocate ...your in for heartache.
Absolutely true. If the intentions are not true and if the person is an idiot, of course, it doesn’t matter who you are. A psychopath or a serial killer or a narcissist doesn’t value anything. In fact they’ll start using and taking and taking everything you give, and play mind games, and treat you like an option. Those a shitty people. I guess, this guy here is talking about men with integrity. Don’t even try them with those that have no standards, or those whose standards are selfish.
As an aspiring UA-camr myself, I just wanted to say thank you for bringing us all on this journey with you. It’s videos like this that keep me inspired to create every day ☺️
I'm in relationship, it's turning 1 year 5 months.. I respect him, love his company, appreciate the attempt he does for me.. These things keep us together, close like a magnet, we are attracted to each other.. We went till hug and kiss, it's beautiful
I have discovered that by supporting his time with his male friends ; hunting, working out, playing sports, etc; that our time together is going to be more enjoying and not rushed. We love taking trips and being around nature and each other.
This is one of the best channels for good, sound, sane, relationship advice that I've come across.
I love how healthy all your advice is. How to be a high quality partner and work your strengths to become your best version, rather than manipulate someone to get them in a relationship I see way too often. Thanks for the amazing videos Matt, I've been a fan for years!
Am finding for real relationship
i used to be a very happy positive person. then i was hurt a bunch, mostly by men. i began to hate men. i still struggle sometimes with being pessimistic and distrusting. i don’t want to be negative. your videos are helping me to realize that men should be appreciated and loved, just because i met some horrible ones doesn’t mean i should apply those experiences to all men. i’m really going to try to focus on being less pessimistic and being more grateful. thank you!
Maybe going after the wrong men too or lack of attitude
Am finding for real relationship
Unfortunately, the more time is not always the thing for the guy. The story of Selena Gomez. She invested lots of time with Justin Beiber, thenall of a sudden he marries someone else. The same kiind of thing happened to me. The longer the time, the more the guy took me for granted. 5 years and no ring. I start talking about a ring, he acts like a jerk. I breakup with him. One year later, it finally occurs to him... He meets a girl and within 1 year-he gives her the ring. Don't be the girl that has to train the guy, he gets mad at you/you breakup. Then he fixes the things and does it better with SOMEONE ELSE> Don't be that girl. Hit issues head on from the beginning.
Don’t invest in the wrong guy.
Know when to let go! Sometimes you invest time in the WRONG person. It may feel right to you, but if it doesn’t feel just as right to your partner it’s just ongoing and eventual heart break. Know when to allow yourself to be open for the RIGHT partner for you: someone who loves you just as much as you love them. Just because an ex finds true love with someone else, doesn’t mean you are the wrong person. You’re just the wrong people for each other. Reciprocated love is what you both deserve.
Gurl the same thing happen to me 5 years and nothing he would also act real stupid and say he didn't believe in marriage and I was like well u sure act like u my husband when u sleep over and etc. until I was like u know what I'm DONE and then he tried making it right and beg and change, it was too late cause I knew if I had to leave him for him to do all that it was never going to be good cause I felt like I had to do all that for him to want what I want he was only going to give me that cause I wanted it not cause he wanted too so I never took him back also cause he wasn't good managing money and sometimes he would disrespect me so I had to let him go and he never wanted to leave me but I just didn't like what he was offering he would leave me alone alot like in important occasions for me and I wasn't going to accept that from anyone and he just didn't understand even a year later he still passes by and stays all night outside my fence in his car and asks if I can take him back I said hell nooo cause like prince once said even doves have pride
I was told I make him feel like a man when he’s with me because I’m so feminine. He loves spending time with me mainly for that reason.
"Be happy" is so true. My husband (13 years and three boys later) had told me before that I always look prettier when we are on holiday. He might be joking but it could be true as I always feel much cheerful and happy during holiday.
So more holidays and getaways. Stress is not good for anything
Together for 25 years. At first, he had to "work" hard (invest) a lot as I was not interested in getting in a relationship again. I had suffered too much from the previous one. So, during a year we talked, dined or even sang together. We talked about the real things. I put my standards without even being aware that I was really setting my standards for him to learn how he could conquer me. Later on I realized that men need to have challenges. He made me laugh, I made him valued and admired. Your video is helping me get back to what was the start of our beautiful relationship. I will try to put more fun in our couple as we have been slowly distracted by life problems, money, mortgage, work, sickness and death of his father etc. many thanks for your video.
Am finding for real relationship
When we work towards a life goal together..and that life goal means a lot to both of us individually..i feel the bond gets tighter. (For eg: studying for a very important exam.) We were going to work on that goal anyway..but now there is a partner who has the same vision and is as passionate as you about that goal! So when we work together, the results increase many fold! The best feeling..and feels like a blessing to both.
Confidence, being/having fun and adventurous, having my life in balance for me. Once these traits felt natural and good to me I just felt then I could attract and have a man who truly enjoys me and wants to be with me.
l know of a manl who helped me bring my ex back he can also help you just as he did mine, he does a perfect work l' m assuring you, you gonna testify....
Wha'tsapp him for help...
十2349155456106💖⏯⏯(☉｡☉)!..
Hi Jill G, it’s nice meeting you here.. I’m Richard by name, it would be nice getting to know you better, if that’s ok with you? My mom once said good friends are never too much to have. if you don’t mind, can we be friends??
Humor - laughter brings joy and lightens life up
You absolutely right 👌
Hi Rose, it’s nice meeting you here.. I’m Richard by name, it would be nice getting to know you better, if that’s ok with you? My mom once said good friends are never too much to have. if you don’t mind, can we be friends??
Lovely smile you got there on your profile picture, it can brighten up the most darkest atmosphere of any man’s world😉.
Dr Kelly Love Spells can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance. He helped me restored my broken relationship of 6 years by bringing back my ex Also Dr Kelly always keep up with his words I strongly advise you to seek help from him.
Whats@app him now^_^^_^^_^
Definitely need to practice these three beautiful behaviors in order to have a beautiful relationship. Thank you Mat for this beautiful one u done for us 😀
l know of a manl who helped me bring my ex back he can also help you just as he did mine, he does a perfect work l' m assuring you, you gonna testify
Wha'tsapp him for help
Hi Sarah, it’s nice meeting you here.. I’m Richard by name, it would be nice getting to know you better, if that’s ok with you? My mom once said good friends are never too much to have. if you don’t mind, can we be friends??
When I cook for him. He even said so that - that was the way to his heart. ❤️
He should be the one cooking for you
@@Magicisreal66 everything
Dr Kelly Love Spells can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance. He helped me restored my broken relationship of 6 years by bringing back my ex Also Dr Kelly always keep up with his words I strongly advise you to seek help from him.
Whats@app him now^_^^_^^_^
I make it a point to make sure my bf knows how much I appreciate everything small medium or big thing he does for me. I asked god for him literally the begining was rough but I knew in my heart I had to work very carefully to show him my true unconditional love and support. I knew once he saw and felt it he would melt in my life in the right way.
Be busy and don't focus on him 24/7.
So that your energy is renewed and you will have him miss you.
Will also have new experiences to share and talk about. That's also part of the fun.
Hi Dalia, it’s nice meeting you here.. I’m Richard by name, it would be nice getting to know you better, if that’s ok with you? My mom once said good friends are never too much to have. if you don’t mind, can we be friends??
Dr Kelly Love Spells can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance. He helped me restored my broken relationship of 6 years by bringing back my ex Also Dr Kelly always keep up with his words I strongly advise you to seek help from him...
Whats@app him now^_^^_^^_^..
十12139298312⏭⏭⏭_ ^_!!!!!!!!!!!??????????
Being kind and considerate to one another is one of the best ways to strengthen a relationship. Doing nice things that you know your partner will appreciate, it may take more time or more effort but it’s so worth it and it shows them that you do really care about them and that they are worth it. My husband and I are like this naturally with one another and it really works. I also pray a lot asking God to guide us both in our relationship and He does. It works and I am grateful.🙏❤️
Absolutely beautiful. I totally agree. God needs to be in it. My husband of 16 years passed away and it was heart wrenching but I was so so thankful. We would pray together regularly and it was such a strengthening thing !!
Amen you nailed it I answered before you did Safe and secure ♥️..That’s why I hold so tight to God because that’s where my true Security is at
Amen
Amen!
❤️
Its always good to express your gratitude to your man, it strokes his ego, makes him feel good!
I tell him all the things he’s great at that maybe no one has really noticed in him before. I laugh and laugh at his jokes and let him know how much fun I’m having when we are together. I tell him how taken care of and loved and safe I feel with him. I praise him for all the things he does to make our lives together great. I show him my feisty side and my vulnerable side. In return he treats me like a queen.
!!!!
My relationship is fixed back again, my ex is back to me thanks to him
❇🇱🇷🇱🇷🇱🇷🇱🇷➕16474744027⏯⏯⏯⏯⏯?????????????????????????????
Wh❤at❤sApp🇱🇷 him
Hola amiga, te recomiendo a este gran hombre que arregló mi relación en 24 horas, ahora mi pareja está de vuelta y más comprometida después de muchos años de separación y ruptura, ella también te puede ayudar.AA
ago contáctela ahora para obtener ayuda, ella puede ayudar, no cobra por su trabajo y es muy perfecta para hacer su trabajo.👇👇
Sending a personal card to him in the regular mail is special. Just a nice note to say you’re sending a hug or you miss him or you’re glad he’s in your life. Going to the mailbox and getting a nice love note from you is something he can keep and reread and it will be a nice surprise. He might return the favor and send a note to you via regular mail.
Love Mat’s tutorials! I’m in a brand new relationship, still haven’t met yet. I have been very specific in my wants and don’t wants, yet he keeps coming back. He wanted a picture of my legs and I had been holding back adamantly. So I painted my toenails, surprised him and sent him the picture. You would have thought I gave him a million dollars, he was so happy, that was his reward to his investment. I continue to let him be the pursuer and so far we’re doing well.
+2347055907423⏯⏯⏯⏯ Hello it's works I can't believe am with my love again after so many years of break-up .......
Hi Valerie, it’s nice meeting you here.. I’m Richard by name, it would be nice getting to know you better, if that’s ok with you? My mom once said good friends are never too much to have. if you don’t mind, can we be friends??
Dr Kelly Love Spells can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance. He helped me restored my broken relationship of 6 years by bringing back my ex Also Dr Kelly always keep up with his words I strongly advise you to seek help from him.
Whats@app him now^_^^_^^_^
Wow that was awesome surely will give it a try
In my experience u have to be with the right person as you were the right person to him as well 💗
Kindness. Sincerity. Cleanliness in mind and body. Self worth is vital!🌺🦋🌺🦋🌺🦋🌺🦋🌺🦋 Helpful! Thankyou.
Dr Kelly Love Spells can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance. He helped me restored my broken relationship of 6 years by bringing back my ex Also Dr Kelly always keep up with his words I strongly advise you to seek help from him.
Whats@app him now^_^^_^^_^
You said it right being positive and fun is what keeps him coming back for more! And yes we have to always remember to acknowledge him and validate him and respect him!
One thing I have done as a variable award, is put a thank you card, as well as gift card for a coffee shop, in a male co workers locker to thank him for everything he does, and to thank him for protecting me.
I've watched a lot of your videos and I don't think you know how much you've raised young ladies self worth and young men have more respect for women. You are a leader in healthy relationships which equates to a new healthy society. Tell your wife you didn't pay me to say that! LOL God bless you man! 😊💕🌎
A healthy relationship takes effort. Mat, your videos have helped me tremendously in a dark phase of my life.
Thank you for putting so much effort in your videos.
I truly appreciate it.
That's 100%true
My husband likes it when I participate in something he LOVES but I'm like eh.. like watching and playing Jeopardy together or going to a hockey game. And not just being present, but really getting into it, and having fun. I'm not as social as he is, so he also loves it when I socialize with his friends and charm them. He always says he feels lucky and proud to be my husband.
Thank you, my standards are high and I don’t like being pressured into a physical relationship. I always had fun with my husband. Yes I agree with the psychological rewards, being kind works as well .👍
The answer to ur question. D way to a mans heart is through his stomach. Thank you for the lovely videos. Lot to learn from u
Everyone just needs to grow up and be adult's. It's a two way street after all. It's not up to one person to please the other it's about communication and mutual respect.
Sometimes one person has to start! Not everyone knows how to show appreciation even tho they are an adult! If you show appreciation and they know how good it feels, they will return the favor! Usually communication has to start with one person and then the other participates!
You are so right Christina!
I hope, with all my heart, that inexperienced daters hear your advice. It is beyond excellent! Thank you.
I'm not sure I want a man addicted to me because I've had a couple different experiences where the man called me addictive like a drug and both relationships ended and was destructive because it destroyed the friendship that we once shared. Think I'd rather have a relationship based around mutual respect, trust, and healthy communication instead of being addictive. Until I can find a emotionally available man that's looking for real growth I'd rather stay alone.
With you on that one! 👍🌞🌼🤗
Exactly what I think!
I had a fun marriage but everything has to be balanced with everything required in a relationship.
1.It feels good (you want safety, he wants fun)
2.Investment (when you invest in something, you value it more; put standards for him to achieve it )
3.Rewards (the feedback,you give him a little more "you make me melt when i am in your arms", when you apreciate him that he is involved in the relationship it gives him the satisfaction to want you more )
He says it's just me being me, don't ever stop being me. Keep doing what I'm doing...... and this is a 7 month overseas relationship that just keeps being strong..
basically just be his biggest cheerleader and support. being there for him when he needs me or generally someone. make him feel like a man or validate him however he is. make him feel free, comfy and happy. honestly, he needs a safe space too to like doing whatever society doesn't accept guys doing.
like if hes feminine or likes things or doing things hes pressured not to do because its heteronormatively girly... its liberating for him to find someone who just lets him be anything... no matter his age or how he is, hes got my support to be him and do anything.