Was in a 5 year relationship with someone that “ enjoyed me “. Told him I loved him and he replied he loved me back. Realized he only said it because he thought that’s what I wanted to hear. When I ended the relationship, was called names. That’s when I knew I did the right thing ending things
He just enjoyed me. He said many times he loves me but he didn't...he enjoyed me. Thank you for this video 🙂 MY eyes are wide open now to what we really had! It wasn't love.
I’m married, but I think this even applies to toxic relationships in general. Some people (family members or friends) don’t love they just enjoy you. They are only for you when you are doing what they want and making yourself available when they say so. A great word!
Been here before. No apology, I listened to your videos and it gave me clarity. He didn't sabotage; he ended the situationship. He was enjoying sex, until I wanted more. You're talking about the very situation I was in. I ignored every red flag until I had feelings.
So true…this entire process is completely exhausting. Aging myself but it didn’t use to be this difficult. Men realized women were the prize in these relationships now “some” men have it completely twisted. Women come with too much to absorb anything less than honestly, respect, love and harmony.
I.... I'm just kinda shook to hear it somewhere outside of my own head it's feels even more confirmed for me like I feel more justified in what I felt was going on really was the situation I was not just in my head or in my feelings
Yeah. I noticed the difference between love, and ENJOY.... Men LOVE asking me fuh my leftover change....but they ENJOY calling me out my name when I tell em "I don't have any change/ food." Thanks Mr. Jaxn!-✌🏾️💯
Yes I'm heading you . Wish everyone understood this at like 20. Keep telling it like it is! We all need to hear it and you are bound to be helping sooo many!!! Keep it going,! I appreciate your truth & wisdom.!!
😭Everything u say is so true. 2 years I dealt with this. I seen all the red flags but because I am a little older I thought maybe I was reading into things to much. Only to realize September 2022 my intuition was on point the whole time, but I chose to give things the benefit of the doubt. Only to realize I was loosing myself in the process. While I was building him up all he did was tear me down. I can’t be upset with anyone but myself, because all the signs were there! I am now picking myself up and dusting myself off. The hurt I feel now is temporary. This to shall pass! Thank u for these post!
Wow everytime I bring something up he becomes verbally abusive and breaks up with me. He does everything I tell him is hurting me. So he sabatoging cuz he could care less. Good to know. Thank you
I came here with the question "Does he love me?" and it was like you were speaking directly to me!! Thank you for giving me the answer and clarity I needed even though it hurts.
This KNOWLEDGE and THE WAY YOU DELIVER IT ..... Let me just say....THIS HITS in every way I could have WANTED/ NEEDED AND NOT ONLY THAT I'M GOING TO BE HONEST AND SAY THAT I CAME ACROSS this exactly when I needed it. Thank you sincerely
Keep making these videos I love it I feel that each video I watch of yours truly opens up my eyes and I really thank The Lord for the messages to us women..
True, he always sabotaged us! I was his convenience, , he blamed me on everything. When really he was always looking for an excuse to leave, rather than show how valuable I was to him.. told him to leave and now I'm becoming myself again..I don't need his so called love, I will love myself in future. Thanks for showing me, how much, I really meant to you!! You did me a favor.. realization is a brilliant thing!
The same way we get back to the gym to get healthy we must strength train our emotional and mental health; self-love, self-care is an intentional process and it's not selfish to wear our value right on our foreheads for everybody to see so they don't get comfortable putting us on sale for the lowest possible price...
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Dang, I remember when dating and being in a relationship was not this complicated. Now we need a 12-step program on how-to and what-to in dating!
Agree, is soo exhausting.
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So true...
You need a manual, program, mentor, and a therapist on speed dial. Im starting to feel like it's not worth it.
@@kierrajefferson5987 absolutely agree with. . .it's full-time job and at a certain aging some people so set in their ways it's ridiculous
I have learned to differentiate how I feel about him to how he makes me feel
That’s my problem right now!
Oh God needed that!
so what is the difference?
Did you leave though?
These days everything is a coin toss I rather just be alone at this point
I’m with you Ebony. I’m with you.
Me too…protecting my peace.
Was in a 5 year relationship with someone that “ enjoyed me “. Told him I loved him and he replied he loved me back. Realized he only said it because he thought that’s what I wanted to hear. When I ended the relationship, was called names. That’s when I knew I did the right thing ending things
The name calling always indicates they were just using and enjoying you!
That's genius to not ignore those flags because if you fall in love with them it WILL hurt 100X more.
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Don't allow the person who didn't love you, keep you from the one who will.
💙UA-camr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships
truth!xx
I am in a relationship like this right now and it’s mentally and emotionally and spiritually draining and exhausting 😢
My dear just leave for the sake of your mental health. Hugs from Kenya.
He just enjoyed me. He said many times he loves me but he didn't...he enjoyed me. Thank you for this video 🙂 MY eyes are wide open now to what we really had! It wasn't love.
In 13 minutes you explained my last relationship...
Mines too that's why I walked away silently
Same 😔
Mine as well. This was deep. Definitely keeping this video #1. 💯% Fact 🙏🏼🙏🏼💞
I’m married, but I think this even applies to toxic relationships in general. Some people (family members or friends) don’t love they just enjoy you. They are only for you when you are doing what they want and making yourself available when they say so. A great word!
Yes
If u enjoy someone u definitely liked them. Enjoying someone manifests love. It doesn't always end with love but it definitely begins with enjoyment.
Been here before. No apology, I listened to your videos and it gave me clarity.
He didn't sabotage; he ended the situationship. He was enjoying sex, until I wanted more.
You're talking about the very situation I was in. I ignored every red flag until I had feelings.
Yup
25 years wasted. The road to recovery from him has been very difficult. Don't think he ever loved me.
I'm sorry queen
Not wasted!!! We learn!! Now we are better! Not wasted!!! ♥️
DAMN!! This spoke directly to me!!
Aye, this hit a spot. It mess with our heads and our hearts and whiplash us around.
So true…this entire process is completely exhausting. Aging myself but it didn’t use to be this difficult. Men realized women were the prize in these relationships now “some” men have it completely twisted. Women come with too much to absorb anything less than honestly, respect, love and harmony.
You think he is teaching you? Being manipulated by an internet manipulator? You need help
sabotage and love cannot co-exist
Wow!!! 22 years of just being enjoyed.
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It happens.
I.... I'm just kinda shook to hear it somewhere outside of my own head it's feels even more confirmed for me like I feel more justified in what I felt was going on really was the situation I was not just in my head or in my feelings
Hell yes you're speaking to me directly!!! It's crazy out here.
Eye Eye sir that was my last relationship. He sabotaged us both.
Yeah. I noticed the difference between love, and ENJOY.... Men LOVE asking me fuh my leftover change....but they ENJOY calling me out my name when I tell em "I don't have any change/ food." Thanks Mr. Jaxn!-✌🏾️💯
It's called using a person
I agree 👏🏾
That's what I'm sayin 💯
Leaving a situation like this today. Time to move on, time to go and create the real thing.
I feel like this was my last relationship.
Same here!!! I'm Done.
I just broke up with someone like this one of the most emotional draining relationship I have had
I'm in the long distances relationship now and what you saying fits exactly how I feel about the relationship. 😢
Damn…. “Imma make you feel single while in a relationship…” woooooow….. 😫
Hurts to hear but I felt this at times. 2 years down the drain. 💔💔💔😿
Turn to the Lord they’re watching and returning get it together before they return 🙏🏽💕
This makes a lot of sense. This sounds like my ex and the person who I'm involved with now.
You are so correct!! That was absolutely my last relationship!
So there is a difference between love and enjoyment Okey thank you Derrick more blessings
Basically a friend with benefits
Yes I'm heading you . Wish everyone understood this at like 20. Keep telling it like it is! We all need to hear it and you are bound to be helping sooo many!!! Keep it going,! I appreciate your truth & wisdom.!!
I naively just spent the last 6 1/2 years in a situationship. Almost a year later & I'm STILL trying to pick up the pieces of myself & my life.
Sure is a big difference. Learnt that the hard way
Yes but nothing of real worth and value comes easy. Look at what you learned, little deer, little fawn. Now you are better, smarter and more!
Thank you for letting God use you🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾❤️❤️❤️👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾
😭Everything u say is so true. 2 years I dealt with this. I seen all the red flags but because I am a little older I thought maybe I was reading into things to much. Only to realize September 2022 my intuition was on point the whole time, but I chose to give things the benefit of the doubt. Only to realize I was loosing myself in the process. While I was building him up all he did was tear me down. I can’t be upset with anyone but myself, because all the signs were there! I am now picking myself up and dusting myself off. The hurt I feel now is temporary. This to shall pass! Thank u for these post!
God bless you, little deer. Me too. Just like you. I need me more than I need him.
Wow everytime I bring something up he becomes verbally abusive and breaks up with me. He does everything I tell him is hurting me. So he sabatoging cuz he could care less. Good to know. Thank you
I came here with the question "Does he love me?" and it was like you were speaking directly to me!! Thank you for giving me the answer and clarity I needed even though it hurts.
It’s shocking to me that people will so brazenly use you. It shouldn’t be - but it is to me. It’s so shameful.
So true messed up my dam spirit
God will not let anyone or anything tamper with your soul. We learn hard sometimes but you are better for it I promise you, little one. ♥️
This KNOWLEDGE and THE WAY YOU DELIVER IT .....
Let me just say....THIS HITS in every way I could have WANTED/ NEEDED
AND NOT ONLY THAT I'M GOING TO BE HONEST AND SAY THAT I CAME ACROSS this exactly when I needed it.
Thank you sincerely
I 👍🏾
So good. You’re saving lives. ❤️
💯 thank you for this message
Keep making these videos I love it I feel that each video I watch of yours truly opens up my eyes and I really thank The Lord for the messages to us women..
Yep, that's exactly what it was.
You will enjoy what you love
This was Awesome!!!! You were on 🔥!!!
I needed to hear this -
Sir you are a beautiful soul I'm so grateful your post showed up on my feed
Thanks this video really helped me understand a relationship
I am in it right now ☹️☹️feel like just taking my life… I am tired
I! You always hit my present status
Derrick I needed to here this. This video was definitely what I've gone through. Thank you on this video and sooo many others.I'm learning alot. 🙏🏼🥰
Yes he would ghost me or say that it was too stressful to talk
LOUD AND CLEAR❤️
All my life I been through that
True, he always sabotaged us! I was his convenience, , he blamed me on everything. When really he was always looking for an excuse to leave, rather than show how valuable I was to him.. told him to leave and now I'm becoming myself again..I don't need his so called love, I will love myself in future. Thanks for showing me, how much, I really meant to you!! You did me a favor.. realization is a brilliant thing!
Speaking facts!!!
Yes I have been enjoyed for years but not loved in North Carolina
AMEN, this is the story of my life! LADIES please treat yourself better!
You are speaking directly to me!!
I don't know why or how i got here but I'm so glad i did
Ok stop level of proximity to myself if he is only enjoying me rather than loving me, I don't want to be a surrogate mama
He doesn't Love you He Loves the thought of you
Thank you for this video, it is spot on for me at this time…💔😡
“I” I’m in this situation right now
Woooww a wooorrdddT. 1000 percent facts- EVerry word
Also sounds like an avoidment attachment style.
Wow! Speaking the truth!!!
I'm in a sabotaging relationship. His famous words to deflect is 'keep it light'. Or limit the duration of the Convo.
omg...so true..gets defensive..if I wanna talk about what hurts crazzy
Used to but I re-examined it and came to my realisation and ended it.
In it now, you are so amazing. Thank you so much ❤
The same way we get back to the gym to get healthy we must strength train our emotional and mental health; self-love, self-care is an intentional process and it's not selfish to wear our value right on our foreheads for everybody to see so they don't get comfortable putting us on sale for the lowest possible price...
I'm here omg, it's like he's talking to my soul!
I, this is exactly what this is!
Oh yes u nailed it
I’m late, but I gotta put my “I” down cause this was on point
This is what I'm going through and it hurts so badly. . .
He won't even talk to me so I won't ask.
They say u will wake up and u will feel different I do and I'm gone
You are different 💯Fantastic video again!!Legend💯💯💯
I'm currently going through this thank you
I love you guys so much ❤️❤️
Oh god, I was in this situation. Describes mine perfectly and I’m glad I got out of that.
Yay HBCU's! I saw a few of your videos with your shirts! I went to MORGAN!
You are speaking to an entire generation “I”
How the heck I do I get away from him. Courage.
Yes I have been in that situation again.
Thank you for this 🙏🏾
Everything u said relates to my situation
Yes. This is my experience.
Deal breaker 4 sure. No more Red flag's
I love you so much Derrick ❤️❤️
I'm so glad that I gave up on love. Who has time to waste constantly having to discern a person's motives? Absolute waste of time.
That's all I've ever been given knowing he's coming up short somewhere.
🗣SPEAK‼️
The truth
Well said...wow...detached causes ignoring
Thank you so much sir. Thank you for your respect and wisdom.
Omg this is Soooooo Accurate
Thank you 🥺