not gonna lie my voice is also holding me back, i am 17yr old boy when i speak i sound sweet(though not sweeter than you :)) but my voice is inaudible and i always feel something stuck in my throat in public and this led me to develop social anxiety
@@pranjalsrivastava3343 yea dude! It seems small, The whole throat shit But it's damn serious! You try sharing it with your relatives and the first thing you struggle with is getting your voice out And they end up replying you "Everything's okay!"
I wished I had your voice. My voice is pretty deep enough to be confused for a man over the phone. But over time I've gotten used to it. Each of our voices is unique, it gives power to our personality, etc. We are uniquely made, and so is our voice!
There's just too much to lose in life when you don't learn to accept yourself + your fears. It's not an easy process but I think the journey is worth it. Thank you for sharing - you're an inspiration!!!
Hi Joann, as I already wrote in another comment: your voice is beautiful! Because it is soft and sweet and you attract attention with your voice. Your voice radiates harmony. Just be aware of it. Please fall in love with your voice. Lot's of people are already in love with your voice. Sounding young is beautiful. You will keep your youth in your voice even when you are 120 years old. What a privilage!! Much love, Matthias 👋
Case in point: I listen to you on x2 speed, and you not only sound amazing, you provide incredible value, and I am grateful to have come upon your channel. Embracing your vulnerability and unique voice takes 'ovaries of steel'! You are a total inspiration! Respect! 👑👏
I just wanted to thank you for the confidence. My voice is actually very similar and i have the same insecurities. Seeing this video helps me to try to move past it and i watch it before every presentation i have to do 💕
Thank you so much for speaking on this. I've looked for more women who feel like this many times over the internet but never could find them. I've always been a painfully shy girl growing up due to bad experiences. I still am a little shy due to it and find it awkward to make conversation with other people. It's rare for me to fully feel confident in myself. I even went completely mute for a couple of years while I was a teenager and now that I'm almost 22, I find that many people think I sound way younger, like a 12 year old and because I grew up with a mom who is coloured and a dad who is indian, my accent is very mixed. I don't like the way I pronounce certain words, I feel like other girls have a certain melody to their voice almost like a rhythm where mine just falls flat. My voice even cracks sometimes because I'm so unused to using it and my tongue feels heavy and clumsy in my mouth when I try to speak. I too got mocked at for sounding like a child and I've been aware of the sound and reaction of my voice since I was a child. I'd avoid sending voice notes altogether but once a guy I really liked requested one and so I sent it and immediately his feelings changed towards me because he started to roast me and wasn't so attracted to me anymore. Over time he actually started to like me and wanted to video or phone call but I never could let that first instance go. It made me so insecure that every time he tried to confess his feelings towards me I would ghost him until it all got too much and I eventually blocked him-all because I started to think it unbelievable for a man like him to like a girl like me. A guy before that even ghosted me after I had sent him a pic of me and that was at a time I didn't know how to even take any. We'd been speaking for years over text but just my pic and voice note alone made him feel completely different towards me too. That is why I don't like my voice. It's not attractive. I'm insecure about my accent as well because a lot of the times people will think I'm just TRYING to sound a certain race when it's true that I am a mix of both. I've been gaming since high school and even on there, it only amplifies my insecurity with my voice because a lot of the well known girls on there sound beautiful, feminine and elegant and it's amazing how differently a person will treat you based on how you sound. I know this because I am guilty of it too. I no longer trust men or their intentions towards me because in so many instances I gave my all into these people but because of my voice not being that attractive or myself not following trends like every other girl in our society, has lead me to be taken advantage of, humiliated and disregarded. I've been wanting to change my voice for a long time now but every year it just feels unnatural to speak like somebody else. I feel like a fraud trying so hard to fit whereas some girls naturally just sound beautiful and mature. What do you think I should do about it?
Would you hate your voice if you had never been derided by others for it? Consider- if you never got the negative feedback, could you hear yourself and love yourself? There's a child within each of us that needs to be loved and accepted- primarily by ourselves! Maybe... you hate the derisions you've received from others, and then blame yourself for them? I used to have a speech "impediment" which left me feeling embarrassed listening to myself. I found the best solution is to reflect on my own sound (just as you are doing!) to cultivate it as pleases/ resonates w/ me- finding MY voice! Also, humming/chanting Om / breath work has helped me a lot to explore the frequencies of my voice. Thx for sharing! Ps: it's rare that people nurture their inner child these days- most simply/sadly adulterate to the norm.
I can totally relate, Joann. Sometimes I feel like I should work on getting rid of my accent. I wasn't born in this country, but learned english since young. Then, sometimes I feel empowered because I AM different than what a "normal" American person sounds. I like this moment of vulnerability, understanding it, but allowing us to feel empowered. Thanks for sharing. I love how soothing your voice is. Keep being you!
I feel the same way! Some days I wish I kept my British accent and didn't conform so much to the American accent. But I learned a lot about accepting my voice and I hope you do too! Accents are lovely
Joann, Thank you for being so honest, it is definitely inspiring to hear & see that when we accept and believe in ourselves - we can go farther! Everything was sooo well said!
You have a gorgeous voice! It's really soothing, delicate, elegant. They just all jealous. . . I can also relate about small talk, can be so boring and empty, walk away. . . We just gotta be ourselves and be ok with it. . . That's it. . .
Hi Joann. I don't know if you're still struggling with your voice, but I wanted to let you know that your voice (as well as the great video editing!) has kept me watching. I was going through videos and you seemed to be more interesting than channels with millions and millions than subs. A big hug and keep doing these awesome videos!
my voice also has been stopping me from speaking up for myself or standing up for myself. It’s also made me hate being loud. I always speak in a somewhat low voice. It also made me lack confidence and self-esteem.
I looked up 'I am insecure about my voice' and found your video! I would love to have your voice because it's very feminine! I hate my voice because it's too low and I sound very masculine. Not that there's anything wrong with that, but I like to project femininely and my voice gets in the way with that. Maybe this shows I can let go of my insecurity as well...
Thank you, you really helped me. I just need to learn how to love myself, i don’t only hate my voice but I also hate everything about me. Hope it gets better. All love.
I absolutely love your voice. I just came across your channel, and I could listen to you speak all day. You are articulate and expressive. And your speaking is nuanced and sincere. Your sincerity alone would inspire confidence in anything you create. I look forward to more videos, and I will check out your podcasts.
Wait did I read that right! you hate your voice that's the very thing that Drew me to your channel and have me watch it to the very end because your voice is so soothing to my anxiety I love your voice, it's funny how life is....thar the very thing that we don't like about ourselves can actually inspire save and uplift someone else or simply put their mind and body at ease . Yiur voice does that for me so huggs ❤
Joann i'm not saying this just to be nice and polite, but you genuinely do have a really nice voice. It's so interesting that you hate your voice, but from my perspective, your voice sounds completely normal and NOTHING out of the ordinary. It sounds NICE. Like it's soft and soothing to listen to, truthfully. People who say you sound like a little girl are insensitive (and wrong tbh). I really relate to you though. I've been lucky to never get mocked for my voice and stuff, but I still hate it. I'm a dude and my voice is soft, slightly high-pitched and not very loud when i'm speaking normally. When you told me to close my eyes and imagine what my life would be like if I just felt free from that insecurity, I swear to god it made me realise how much it's making me miss out on. The difficult part of having a voice insecurity though is the fact that it's an insecurity that's really hard to ignore when you're socialising, since you're literally using it to communicate with other people. It's legit made me avoid talking to girls and even talking in voice calls. Thank you for making this video :) it's nice to hear the things you discussed and know i'm not alone. Hope you're doing well.
Thank you for sharing your story. I can totally understand the voice insecurity and it’s not something that we can really change. I hope you can be more okay with it overtime! It’s not easy, but we can do it!
I also relate! when talking to people I feel like my voice will be judged to the point that those people who hear it won’t like me. It’s important to realize that if someone doesn’t like you or judges you by the way you sound and not for who you are then they’re not meant for you. There is 100% someone out there who will like you for you and will NEVER judge you for the way you sound.
I remember in fourth grade I was taking a walk with my best friend in school and one of my classmates spotted me with her and told my friend “why are you hanging out with her, her voice is so weird” I can’t lie I was so hurt by those words that now I’m a senior and still can’t get past this, the best friend I was walking with left me two weeks maybe after that conversation. Again in tenth grade one of my class mates asked me if I talk by my nose I acted as if I didn’t hear her but my friend whispered to her and told her that I’m insecure about my voice she was understandable but I really don’t get why people ask questions like these cause they can really effect others and hurt them Even my brother makes fun of my voice, I do find it weird too because no one sounds like me I searched everywhere and yet I’m the only one with this voice I really hope when I get braces it kind of fixes it.
It's J; Hi Joann. I was moved to respond to your post after I was searching for information on building a brand and found your podcast and ended up at this video. I believe that I was meant to view your broadcast about your story. It has so much in common with my own experience of a deep childhood wound. You said that you desire to help others in their journey that may be like your own. Have you ever considered that someone else may have experienced a journey similar to your own and shares your struggle ? If I may, I would like to share the effect of a childhood experience that for a long time I did not realize how deeply it had affected me . To be brief, I suffered a mother-son wound that made me feel a certain way about myself and since I was stuck with the same mother it affected how I viewed myself at a deep level that became ingrained in my psyche. Other people responded to me from the way that I presented self to the world. As long as I held on to the wound that made me feel a certain way other people picked up on it and identified me with the feeling that I gave off about myself. I disliked the treatment I received from other kids, teachers and as an adult was targeted by strangers. I was determined to get to the bottom of the vicious inner circle of my lived experience that cramped my personality and held me back from growing. It took a while; but eventually I realized that the more I held on to what my mother had 'taught' me my life would continue going in the same vicious circles. It took courage to confront what was most familiar to me and to let go of what I had held on to for most of my life was what I had identified with. I did not realize that I was also releasing the toxicity from the resentment I had been carrying in my body since childhood. But once I let go of it it was if a burden was lifted from me and I had the most wonderful feeling of freedom. There was residual toxicity from the negativity that I had been holding on to and the previous vicious circles that tormented me to self sabotage have since continually diminished becoming only benign. Only a faint unpleasant impression remains from having internalized the insecurity and inadequacies of my mother. I have since learned to grieve the loss of holding on to my false need and instead to give myself grace as you so aptly described. Occasionally I encounter unscrupulous people who attempt to instigate a negative reaction from what they mistakenly perceive as part of my present personality but actually is now just a residual impression from the past. But thankfully, I no longer react to what I no longer identify with; not even a 'little.' I can truly see the beauty in you and hope you can receive my message with my best regards for your willingness to share the most personal part of you.
Hey Joann! Have been following you on instagram for awhile and you have always really inspired me. I am in an M.Arch program right now and your account is one of those that I constantly go back to for inspiration or reference. Anyways, thank you for sharing this. Looking forward to hearing more :)
What's your biggest insecurity that's holding you back?
not gonna lie
my voice is also holding me back, i am 17yr old boy
when i speak i sound sweet(though not sweeter than you :)) but my voice is inaudible and i always feel something stuck in my throat in public and this led me to develop social anxiety
@@pranjalsrivastava3343 same dude!!!!!
same!
@@helloiammahdi oh! finally someone like me
@@pranjalsrivastava3343 yea dude!
It seems small, The whole throat shit
But it's damn serious!
You try sharing it with your relatives and the first thing you struggle with is getting your voice out
And they end up replying you
"Everything's okay!"
Hey I love your voice.🥰
I just hate my Voice so much i remember crying when i heard my own audio when i was 8 yrs old :(
I wished I had your voice. My voice is pretty deep enough to be confused for a man over the phone. But over time I've gotten used to it. Each of our voices is unique, it gives power to our personality, etc. We are uniquely made, and so is our voice!
Thanks Bridget. Agree with your message here. Our unique voice just adds to our personality!
For me it's the opposite, I'm a man and I sound soft, I hate it ! And when I try to sound more deep I feel fake, any suggestions?
There's just too much to lose in life when you don't learn to accept yourself + your fears. It's not an easy process but I think the journey is worth it. Thank you for sharing - you're an inspiration!!!
Yes! Life is too short to constantly live in our own fears. You're the inspiration for me to get on UA-cam 🌟
There are thousands of people who need to hear this. Thank you for sharing Joann. Very inspiring.
Thanks Mark! Really appreciate your support along the way!
Hi Joann,
as I already wrote in another comment:
your voice is beautiful!
Because it is soft and sweet and you attract attention with your voice.
Your voice radiates harmony. Just be aware of it. Please fall in love with your voice.
Lot's of people are already in love with your voice.
Sounding young is beautiful.
You will keep your youth in your voice even when you are 120 years old. What a privilage!!
Much love,
Matthias 👋
Case in point: I listen to you on x2 speed, and you not only sound amazing, you provide incredible value, and I am grateful to have come upon your channel. Embracing your vulnerability and unique voice takes 'ovaries of steel'! You are a total inspiration! Respect! 👑👏
I just wanted to thank you for the confidence. My voice is actually very similar and i have the same insecurities. Seeing this video helps me to try to move past it and i watch it before every presentation i have to do 💕
Thank you for the kind words. I hope you can overcome your insecurities. Let me know how your presentations go!
I love you as a person and I love your voice. Thank you for making this video.
I absolutely LOVE your voice! It's really soothing and sweet. I wish my voice was more like yours, actually. I think we are all our own worst critics.
Thank you Ashley! You're so sweet. And yes I think we are all our worst enemy.. don't even want to say out loud the things I tell myself in my head!
Thank you so much for speaking on this. I've looked for more women who feel like this many times over the internet but never could find them. I've always been a painfully shy girl growing up due to bad experiences. I still am a little shy due to it and find it awkward to make conversation with other people. It's rare for me to fully feel confident in myself. I even went completely mute for a couple of years while I was a teenager and now that I'm almost 22, I find that many people think I sound way younger, like a 12 year old and because I grew up with a mom who is coloured and a dad who is indian, my accent is very mixed. I don't like the way I pronounce certain words, I feel like other girls have a certain melody to their voice almost like a rhythm where mine just falls flat. My voice even cracks sometimes because I'm so unused to using it and my tongue feels heavy and clumsy in my mouth when I try to speak. I too got mocked at for sounding like a child and I've been aware of the sound and reaction of my voice since I was a child. I'd avoid sending voice notes altogether but once a guy I really liked requested one and so I sent it and immediately his feelings changed towards me because he started to roast me and wasn't so attracted to me anymore. Over time he actually started to like me and wanted to video or phone call but I never could let that first instance go. It made me so insecure that every time he tried to confess his feelings towards me I would ghost him until it all got too much and I eventually blocked him-all because I started to think it unbelievable for a man like him to like a girl like me. A guy before that even ghosted me after I had sent him a pic of me and that was at a time I didn't know how to even take any. We'd been speaking for years over text but just my pic and voice note alone made him feel completely different towards me too. That is why I don't like my voice. It's not attractive. I'm insecure about my accent as well because a lot of the times people will think I'm just TRYING to sound a certain race when it's true that I am a mix of both. I've been gaming since high school and even on there, it only amplifies my insecurity with my voice because a lot of the well known girls on there sound beautiful, feminine and elegant and it's amazing how differently a person will treat you based on how you sound. I know this because I am guilty of it too. I no longer trust men or their intentions towards me because in so many instances I gave my all into these people but because of my voice not being that attractive or myself not following trends like every other girl in our society, has lead me to be taken advantage of, humiliated and disregarded. I've been wanting to change my voice for a long time now but every year it just feels unnatural to speak like somebody else. I feel like a fraud trying so hard to fit whereas some girls naturally just sound beautiful and mature. What do you think I should do about it?
Would you hate your voice if you had never been derided by others for it?
Consider- if you never got the negative feedback, could you hear yourself and love yourself?
There's a child within each of us that needs to be loved and accepted- primarily by ourselves!
Maybe... you hate the derisions you've received from others, and then blame yourself for them?
I used to have a speech "impediment" which left me feeling embarrassed listening to myself.
I found the best solution is to reflect on my own sound (just as you are doing!) to cultivate it as pleases/ resonates w/ me- finding MY voice!
Also, humming/chanting Om / breath work has helped me a lot to explore the frequencies of my voice.
Thx for sharing!
Ps: it's rare that people nurture their inner child these days- most simply/sadly adulterate to the norm.
Thank you for this!
I can totally relate, Joann. Sometimes I feel like I should work on getting rid of my accent. I wasn't born in this country, but learned english since young. Then, sometimes I feel empowered because I AM different than what a "normal" American person sounds. I like this moment of vulnerability, understanding it, but allowing us to feel empowered. Thanks for sharing. I love how soothing your voice is. Keep being you!
I feel the same way! Some days I wish I kept my British accent and didn't conform so much to the American accent. But I learned a lot about accepting my voice and I hope you do too! Accents are lovely
I love accents!
We love your voice and want to hear more of it :)
Thanks Pam!
Joann, Thank you for being so honest, it is definitely inspiring to hear & see that when we accept and believe in ourselves - we can go farther! Everything was sooo well said!
Thanks Diana! Acceptance opens up so much possibilities 🧡
You have a gorgeous voice! It's really soothing, delicate, elegant. They just all jealous. . . I can also relate about small talk, can be so boring and empty, walk away. . . We just gotta be ourselves and be ok with it. . . That's it. . .
Hi Joann. I don't know if you're still struggling with your voice, but I wanted to let you know that your voice (as well as the great video editing!) has kept me watching. I was going through videos and you seemed to be more interesting than channels with millions and millions than subs. A big hug and keep doing these awesome videos!
I still struggle with my voice but less so now than before. Thanks for the kind words! I’ll definitely make more videos soon.
my voice also has been stopping me from speaking up for myself or standing up for myself. It’s also made me hate being loud. I always speak in a somewhat low voice. It also made me lack confidence and self-esteem.
I looked up 'I am insecure about my voice' and found your video! I would love to have your voice because it's very feminine! I hate my voice because it's too low and I sound very masculine. Not that there's anything wrong with that, but I like to project femininely and my voice gets in the way with that. Maybe this shows I can let go of my insecurity as well...
You absolutely can! It takes time and a lot of self reflection but giving myself grace really really helps.
I'm a guy with a too feminine voice 😅
I wish I had a deeper voice . we are really our own worst enemies
Thank you, you really helped me. I just need to learn how to love myself, i don’t only hate my voice but I also hate everything about me. Hope it gets better. All love.
Self-love takes time, but you'll get there. I promise
I absolutely love your voice. I just came across your channel, and I could listen to you speak all day. You are articulate and expressive. And your speaking is nuanced and sincere. Your sincerity alone would inspire confidence in anything you create. I look forward to more videos, and I will check out your podcasts.
Ur voice calms my anxiety. I wish you could create more youtube content 😊
This video is Powerful
Thank you
your voice sounds amazing
Wait did I read that right! you hate your voice that's the very thing that Drew me to your channel and have me watch it to the very end because your voice is so soothing to my anxiety I love your voice,
it's funny how life is....thar the very thing that we don't like about ourselves can actually inspire save and uplift someone else or simply put their mind and body at ease . Yiur voice does that for me so huggs ❤
Wonderful video.. Really helped me.
I am so happy that I found your channel! Please, keep on uploading content to this channel! You are AMAZING!
Thanks Maria! Editing a video RIGHT NOW :) Will be uploading soon.
I main reason I didn't start. UA-cam for so long was because I hate my voice took me years to build the courage to do it
Joann i'm not saying this just to be nice and polite, but you genuinely do have a really nice voice. It's so interesting that you hate your voice, but from my perspective, your voice sounds completely normal and NOTHING out of the ordinary. It sounds NICE. Like it's soft and soothing to listen to, truthfully. People who say you sound like a little girl are insensitive (and wrong tbh).
I really relate to you though. I've been lucky to never get mocked for my voice and stuff, but I still hate it. I'm a dude and my voice is soft, slightly high-pitched and not very loud when i'm speaking normally. When you told me to close my eyes and imagine what my life would be like if I just felt free from that insecurity, I swear to god it made me realise how much it's making me miss out on. The difficult part of having a voice insecurity though is the fact that it's an insecurity that's really hard to ignore when you're socialising, since you're literally using it to communicate with other people. It's legit made me avoid talking to girls and even talking in voice calls.
Thank you for making this video :) it's nice to hear the things you discussed and know i'm not alone. Hope you're doing well.
Thank you for sharing your story. I can totally understand the voice insecurity and it’s not something that we can really change. I hope you can be more okay with it overtime! It’s not easy, but we can do it!
@@JoannLui That's exactly right 🙏 thank you. I've learnt to accept it more over time, and hopefully one day it won't matter to us anymore :)
I also relate! when talking to people I feel like my voice will be judged to the point that those people who hear it won’t like me. It’s important to realize that if someone doesn’t like you or judges you by the way you sound and not for who you are then they’re not meant for you. There is 100% someone out there who will like you for you and will NEVER judge you for the way you sound.
I remember in fourth grade I was taking a walk with my best friend in school and one of my classmates spotted me with her and told my friend “why are you hanging out with her, her voice is so weird” I can’t lie I was so hurt by those words that now I’m a senior and still can’t get past this, the best friend I was walking with left me two weeks maybe after that conversation.
Again in tenth grade one of my class mates asked me if I talk by my nose I acted as if I didn’t hear her but my friend whispered to her and told her that I’m insecure about my voice she was understandable but I really don’t get why people ask questions like these cause they can really effect others and hurt them
Even my brother makes fun of my voice, I do find it weird too because no one sounds like me I searched everywhere and yet I’m the only one with this voice I really hope when I get braces it kind of fixes it.
You have a very beautiful voice!!!!
Thank you! So nice of you
It's J; Hi Joann. I was moved to respond to your post after I was searching for information on building a brand and found your podcast and ended up at this video. I believe that I was meant to view your broadcast about your story. It has so much in common with my own experience of a deep childhood wound. You said that you desire to help others in their journey that may be like your own. Have you ever considered that someone else may have experienced a journey similar to your own and shares your struggle ? If I may, I would like to share the effect of a childhood experience that for a long time I did not realize how deeply it had affected me . To be brief, I suffered a mother-son wound that made me feel a certain way about myself and since I was stuck with the same mother it affected how I viewed myself at a deep level that became ingrained in my psyche. Other people responded to me from the way that I presented self to the world. As long as I held on to the wound that made me feel a certain way other people picked up on it and identified me with the feeling that I gave off about myself. I disliked the treatment I received from other kids, teachers and as an adult was targeted by strangers. I was determined to get to the bottom of the vicious inner circle of my lived experience that cramped my personality and held me back from growing. It took a while; but eventually I realized that the more I held on to what my mother had 'taught' me my life would continue going in the same vicious circles. It took courage to confront what was most familiar to me and to let go of what I had held on to for most of my life was what I had identified with. I did not realize that I was also releasing the toxicity from the resentment I had been carrying in my body since childhood. But once I let go of it it was if a burden was lifted from me and I had the most wonderful feeling of freedom. There was residual toxicity from the negativity that I had been holding on to and the previous vicious circles that tormented me to self sabotage have since continually diminished becoming only benign. Only a faint unpleasant impression remains from having internalized the insecurity and inadequacies of my mother. I have since learned to grieve the loss of holding on to my false need and instead to give myself grace as you so aptly described. Occasionally I encounter unscrupulous people who attempt to instigate a negative reaction from what they mistakenly perceive as part of my present personality but actually is now just a residual impression from the past. But thankfully, I no longer react to what I no longer identify with; not even a 'little.' I can truly see the beauty in you and hope you can receive my message with my best regards for your willingness to share the most personal part of you.
you are such a brave being, Joann!
thanks for sharing us out
Thanks for the encouragement!
Thank you for sharing this Joann, it's amazing to hear your story ☺️
p.s. So glad to see you jump on the platform!
Thank you so much! I still have a lot to learn from all the architecture content creators on UA-cam including you!
First! You stand alone in the party next to me
We would be the 2 sittinig together :) Thank you!
Hey Joann! Have been following you on instagram for awhile and you have always really inspired me. I am in an M.Arch program right now and your account is one of those that I constantly go back to for inspiration or reference. Anyways, thank you for sharing this. Looking forward to hearing more :)
Thank you for sharing ♡
Thanks for watching!
I have issues with my voice sounding to deep. I've been told this my whole life, I used to fake to make my voice sound more feminine.
Thank you for this video. Also I like your voice. It is relaxing
Thank you 🧡 I appreciate the kind words!
Great video you inspired me to finally do this. Thank u
You can do it! Can't wait to see your channel Dee!
People lose interest in me as soon as they talk to me and hear my voice why is that
Girl are you kidding...? Your voice is so soothing and feminine,,,,
That one thing. Hilarious.
Nahhh....ur voice is great...
If you ask me "really???"
yeah absolutely is great and that's what i will answer you.
Thanks Carter! That's so sweet of you
Wowwwwww
Thanks!!