Is Your Voice Ruining Your Life? | Roger Love | TEDxBend
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- Опубліковано 30 тра 2016
- Love, one of the world’s leading authorities on voice, says the words we say hardly matter at all. The sound of our voices and the way we make people feel are infinitely more important. He shows us how to harness the power of the single most powerful communication tool we have: the voice.
Roger Love has coached award winning actors, musicians and speakers, from Jeff Bridges and Reese Witherspoon for their Academy Award-winning roles in Crazy Heart and Walk The Line, to Gwen Stefani and Eminem, to Anthony Robbins and Brendon Burchard.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx
I heard my voice in a recording yesterday and today I'm researching how to change it. I grew up with serious emotional neglect and I've never learned how to communicate effectively. I've always felt like nobody listened when I was talking and now I know it's because I wasn't using my real voice. I'm so stressed out and afraid when I speak that I sound like a child still... this video was a transformative experience for me.
I was also neglected as a child. I got the message that emotions were unimportant; hence I spoke in a monotone. I mistook appearing serious for maturity. I'm Slatina Massey on Facebook. Feel free to add me. I care.
Gina Young same here. Turned me into a very soft spoken woman. Im already petite so my voice makes me feel completely invisible sometimes. But this video opened my eyes.
Omg me toooo I sound like a kid I'm 30 and to this day I feel like noone takes me serious noone wants to hear what I have to say all because I haven't found my authentic voice
@@dudewhathappenedtomycountr9099 what you said about mistaking monotone speaking for maturity, I completely relate. Trying to break out of it now
Gina Young NOW THATS WHAT I CALL FUCKIN RELATABLE
Good talk, thank you Roger. Here are my notes if it helps anyone else :)
- Find your real authentic voice, not the voice you take on from someone else.
- 3 Key insights from Roger Love
- Your voice is the most powerful communication tool that you possess
- There is no difference in voice between singing and speaking, once you realize your voice is musical instrument, it changes the game.
- All speaking is public speaking and should be treated that way, whether you are talking to one person or a group
- How To find your voice that connects with people and move them emotionally.
- Your voice is not designed for you, it is a gift that you give away
- Sound waves are interpreted by the other person by thoughts, emotions and memories.
- Your voice is to make them others feel something.
- Breath in through your nose so that the air becomes moist and not dry your throat.
- Chest up, shoulders back and down to not restrict the rib cages.
- Breath in through your nose and pretend you have a balloon in your abdomen. When you speak let your abdomen come back in.
- Myth: The words matter
- The words only account for 7% if a person believes you
- 90% of has to do with the sounds of your voice. Pitch, Pace, Tone, Melody, Volume and Body Language
- Don’t speak on the same note becasue listeners will think they know what you are going to say and they will disconnect. (Mix it up)
- When you go down on volume at times, it sounds like you are apologizing.
- Three ways to use melody
- Walking up the stairs (Lower to higher) Makes people happy
- Walking down the stairs (Higher to lower) Makes people sad, don’t use it.
- Spend less time staying on the landing (Boring)
Thank you so much, this is really excellent note.
Joseph Rodrigues thanks so much for this
Joe! Legend, thank you for this, you rock!
Joseph Rodrigues thank you
Thank You. ^^
Everyone here complaining about how he over-emphasizes each sentence.But I find It useful ,because I have a very short lived attention span,so his way of speaking compells me to actually listen again. :D
That's exactly why people are speaking in monotone voices
Yeah! If anything, his trick works!
You are on the mark and money my friend. How does any person convey a lifetime of experience to an audience in a short moment of time; well Roger Love is the guy to do it. The tools that Roger implanted into and onto the audience in attendance and those watching on the screen of any form, will be transformed in such a subtle manner, that in spite of themselves, will benefit them over their lifetime. He had me at the sentence about "when I was 16, my first student was Brian Wilson of the Beach Boys". From that point on, the rest is certainly history. We are lucky to have such a master vocal technician.
Why are people insulting this guy? He's giving crucial information for people who suffer from a horrible situation.
I agree with you. He's making some good sense I'm a vocal music graduate. Your voice holds the key to success!
I used to mumble and had to grow out of it through immense frustration and even then i have had to learn how to communicate and even then i had to learn how to listen and know when something is NEEDED to be said. My brother is a mumble but very loud in gaming and it gets me aggravated that he cant have the same passion when talking casually and he is be taught through gaming that they only way out is thorugh frustation but hes a slow learner so i cant blame him.
its jealousy thats why
What??!! How can someone insult this awesome guy??
I feel like giving him a hug and say thank you for the help he is providing us with..
Because He speaks like a guy who likes guys. His business
"and yet that voice that you do not like, is what everybody hears" ! Awesome !
I have been depressed for years and I was not used to talk much due to which I lost my voice. This Ted Talk was literally a life changing for me.
Thank u Roger
same
same, i hade depression for the past 5 years, now my voice is so weak, blurry and unclear,... so did this video help?
@@oussemafarhat4 I got the same issue dear, unclear voice and people not understanding what I'm trying to say; did this work for you in the past 7 months.?
This is great. For those of you who think he speaks "over the top", honestly, if he wasn't speaking about voices, you'd not pay attention to his style enough to get annoyed.
That's kinda true
This video is a waste of my time
It’s awesome. I’m ADHD soo
Oh my goodness he was just captivating with his voice
The intensity, inflection, rate, frequency and quality of his voice throughout his presentation was like life- a fresh breath of life burst out so gently that it filled my senses and practically my lungs
oh it was breathtaking
It's so true , I speak with a monotone voice, and have the deepest voice of anyone I know on top of that. I listen to my voice and it sounded like rocks freaking grinding together
Man this is such a great TED TALK
There was a time when my voice was higher. And it’s because I was happier. I’ve been speaking monotonously with a low pitch for years because of depression. Now that I have recovered, I’m looking forward to a change in my voice!
Same here
He has made a big difference in my life. I just loved the way he explained it. Now I'm going to change my voicemail immediately.
This make sense, my voice is horrible, I'm constantly spoken over, ignored, or dismissed, it's happend ever since I was a young child, it's so bad that I'm practically a mute these days because I know I would be wasting my breath if I tried to speak. and it's so depressing.
Same here!😢💗
that has nothing to do with your voice
Holy shit, this is amazing. Vocal couches so far have done nothing but mislead me into not letting our anatomy do its own job.
i love my vocal couch
God I lay on mine and sing all day
dont be a coach potato!
@@SSJ32Gohan mermaids sing with a vocal conch
I practice with his CD anytime I do a gig. Thank you, Roger!
Just recorded a new voicemail message after watching this!
This is definitely one of the best most because this dude clearly just loves what he does, very awesome.
I'm trying to find my authentic voice and this talk really inspired me, I'd love to speak with the same confidence as him one day
Such a wonderful talk by Roger Love, one of the best I've seen!
This is my first time watching a video of Roger Love; as a matter of fact, this was my first time reading about him. He was recommended from a sales book and I am glad that I watched this video. This will help me with communicating my ideas and emotions effectively. I will definitely watch more of his videos.
Wow! I think Roger Love is Awesome! I also just bought his book and CD Set your voice free. I've been singing for a quite awhile but in one day his tips have helped me immensely!
Thank you so much Roger Love ! This is in an ascending volume and note !
Great speech, my voice is something I been trying to work on the longest and being able to understand why I’m talking in such a way really helped me understand the problem and look forward to the solution and practice more so that I may connect with people in a much better way where they want to listen and can understand what I’m saying. So Thank You Roger Love much appreciated
Roger that has to be the best presentation on how to use your voice I have ever heard. It was concise and enthralling. Thank you.
Thank you! That was a great SPEECH! wonderful message!
this video is pure gold thank you Roger
Thank you so much, Roger Love. Your's words did have a significant impact on me. I wish you all the very best for the people that you'll inspire.
One of the best, easiest and quickest ways how we can improve our vocals .... keep up Tedx and Roger...
A fantastic speech. Thank you, Roger!
Thank you Roger Love for the amazing conversation with me. God bless you!
One of the best videos I have seen on voice control.
Thanks so much for this informations, I was really struggling with this, I have had anxiety and depression for years, I preferred to stay silent and that makes my voice so weak, that's really was so helpful
His voice has a sing-y trait to it. Makes him appear more charismatic than he would had he not used this style of speaking.
Although I have no technical knowledge on this subject, it's intuitive to me that lower tones do not ALWAYS make people sad. By my perception, lower tones can evoke TRUST and can also be soothing. However, always speaking in a lower tone can be boring and indeed make people sad.
As I truly believe it's not just me to have this opinion, I would dare to say that we should make good use of our entire vocal range, instead of just focusing on mid-to-high pitch.
Absolutely agreed
You're right. I think its more then just sad and happy. Both high and low voices can show trust, authority, calmness, and many unspeakable feelings if said in required situations.
But i do understand him though.
@@kshitijguleria8594 Folks, it appears that living in the world of duality, it is always the same: speakers like Roger state a generalization and the listener and commenters, as in this comment, tend to never allow the obvious "wiggle room" of common sense to be present. You hear one small segment of Roger's lifetime living experience, and voila, you state your opinion as "lower tones do not ALWAYS make people sad". My question to you both reply's, what are you trying to convey to the audience right now... Here's my opinion on the subject for this TED Talk HEADING: "Is you voice ruining your life"... I watched it, and I have been taught by Roger, so here is my question to you? Are your responses to anything, "ruining your life?" Where the (your) thoughts go... so does the voice. As a thought is really a silent vocal inflection from the voice; whether you believe it or not...meaning whether you even like it or not... a thought is a silent subtle soft inaudible whisper that instantaneously involves the voice. Therefore, It is the owner or possessor of the voice, who controls the volume... on a scale of 0 - 10, and in this specific case silence is golden. Saying nothing with words, may be interesting for the moment, but becomes nothing.
He didn't say that lower tones make people sad, but that lowering the tone makes people sad. It's the direction of the change of pitch he's talking about.
What happen, the voice open the throat chakra, the chakra the communicate with the world, so as you change with practice, th e chakra open, your body feel great cause it receive and give.
I literally make people yawn when I speak. I bet I can make a person who is wide awake yawn within 2-4 minutes of me talking with them. It's a gift that I possess.
Worked for Bob Ross and Mel Zabel. Make it work for you.
With more Love we will change the world... it's already begun... You will love this voice of yours.... SHARE THIS & #WeAllWin #TED #LivefromEarth
Thank you Roger.
No wonder your name ends with Love. I have been following your work for years, which is inspiring. I love your joyful, playful presence and how naturally you give voice to your vision and share your incredible life's work with us all. "Make the world a better place one voice at a time." Hallelujah!
Well said 😊
I actually really like his presentation style. It’s great for his message which was awesome too
I would love to take elocution lessons from Roger. In the meantime, I’m happy to have stumbled upon this video and will search for more content from him.
Thanks to Roger Love, his teaching and his coaching, I have control over my voice that I did not have before I took his UCLA Extension class, many years ago.
Roger Love, you are amazing, I have benefited in so many ways ever since I came across your book "SET YOUR VOICE FREE"
I quickly looked for you on UA-cam and I'm so glad I found you 😩
One of the most useful prescription material I have ever heard and needed badly.
I bought his book when I was in 3rd grade. He changed my life
Hey i am excited about the book, could you please let us know the book's name,it would be very helpful , Thank You ❤️
Yeah, it'd be great if you could drop the book's name!!
Where tf did u get the money for that when u were 8 or 9 years old?
This man is just amazing... nothing more to say
The Main thing is be not PASSIVE when you speak to others be Proactive. Take your time. Listening is part of it all as well in that how you speak could be effected by what or how they spoke! Have Fun!
Thank YouRoger!
Brilliant. Entertaining. Funny. And... so very much helped me understand concepts & practices to help me to better use my voice. Thanks!
This was a successful Ted Talk just for everyone that had the chance to pay attention and learn. i've laughed so much, even teared up a little because it gave me hope that my speech can improve and it will improve. I am bilingual and in Spanish I can't roll my Rs for example, and I NEVER speak when my ''stomach is coming back in''. Definitely will master this technique. Thank you Roger Love!!!!!!!!!
What a brilliant speech! 👌🏾✨
I was waiting for that episode like crazy. Thanks roger.
Wow! One of the best presentations ever. Thanks!
theres hope!!! will need to listen to this man again and again!!
cuz i am that man nobody listens to!!
Completely fascinating - thank you !
Thank you, Roger. You inspired me.
Well done Roger, excellent as always!
This is such a good talk, thank you!
Thank you very much Roger Love
Thank you so much! 💜
Thank you Tedx Talks and Roger Love :)
The National Lottery granted me to pay for on-line singing lessons with Roger Love and I was so pleased with the course, which was both packed with knowledge and tips but excellent value for money! so great to see this session and learn skills for the speaking arena! Excellent communicator and teacher. Thank you so very much. I especially love what he said about the 'voice being a gift for others'! Thank you. Natalie Ng. Luton, UK.
You won the lottery?
I found myself smiling just listening to his voice n i was like wait ... this thing works !
This man understands that it's very unrepresentative of my true self that my voice doesn't ominously echo
Roger, such an amazing presentation. Your message is a light for the planet and the idea of joining you on your quest is a no brainer. Just say Yes. Congratulations on an elegant solution to heal the world. Marvelous, simply Mah vel us. I am of course being serious. Count me in.
Excellent video, thanks to Roger.
Very helpful to learn English speaking ! Thank you so much.
Speechless...
Amazing, I loved it and practicing.
Thank you. This will really has helped me. I want to see and hear more. Jerry Kye
GREAT JOB ROGER !!!
Such good vibes with this guy
Wonderful video. Never thought there will be so many people like me who has same problem becuase of not knowing the power of their voices. Thanks a lot Roger Love & TedX for this nice video.
Such a good TED Talk, it really helped me out! Thank this man!
Feeling like I just had a breakthrough! Thank you for sharing this knowledge 🙏
Great talk and very important topic. Thanks
Exhaling from my mouth: this is One of the best Ted talks, I have ever watched 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻🙂
This was SO helpful - thank you
Thank you and much LOVE
This is amazing and an enjoyable presentation. I’m really looking forward to applying his tips to myself. :)
Absolutely lovely
This is great information. Hope he provides more.
This is one of the most useful things I've ever heard.
Thank you for an excellent and insspiring talk. I loved it because I needed it. Aad I will use it, and will use your advice.
best Ted speech ever watched
This was great. Thanks for sharing!
This has to be one of the best ted talks
Really helping me.. Thank you!
Thank you so much Roger. That was great!
Great talk and advice! I am changing my greeting now.
Thanks a lot for this. I needed it
Outstanding talk, Roger
thank you so much . i really enjoyed .
Yes, my voice ruining my life... So sad when I recalled the days I made my presentation, lecture and classmates can't hear my voice from the back even I have tried so much to do exercise everyday to speak louder in order to improve my voice. But my voice still not get any improvement and oftenly get blamed by my lecture since they felt annoying to my voice. Classmates felt annoying to my voice too... After this series of situation, I have diagnosed social anxiety whenever I present something in front of my classmates... Felt scared and terrified to talk to people most of the time...I felt disappointment to my current state..😞
I'm in the same position pal😭😭 whenever the teacher asks a question in class I can't answer even if I know the right one. I'm just so scared to speak up with my low voice. My whole life I have faced this and I want to improve so badly
Just search for "SLP Sanjay Kumar-Voice therapist" on UA-cam, your problem will ne solved 👍
@@miteshhatkamkar3445 thanks😊😊
@@moonchild6303 😊
I get polyps on my vocal cord and often my voice gets reduce up to 90% I get self conscious and nervous when I have to speak to a client :( .
Honestly, I was feeling like you are just describing the way i talk hahaha, Amazing, This is one of the best Ted talk i have ever listened to
This is mind-blowing. Love it, love it, love it! 💓
Thank you so much
HOW FASCINATING, ROGER! I'll surely have you as my coach once I saved up!
Here are my key takeaways:
1. Your voice is a tool and a musical instrument-a gift
2. Practise diaphragmatic breathing (breathe in through your nose -> pretend to have a balloon in your abdomen -> say and do "roger only wants me to speak while my abdomen is coming back in")
2. When introducing yourself, don't sound like you're apologizing for your name (going down in melody and volume). At least stay on the same note!
Cheers!
he's very satisfying to hear
Brilliant talk! He's so charismatic
Excellent
Great content!!! All speaking is public speaking 👌🏻
He's a genius
That is just beautiful 👏👏👏
You just changed my life
I love this! Very useful!!