Thank you all for such kind words and positivity. I was so worried about how this would be received and a bit of my faith in people has been restored through all of you. I really admire what Mark is doing, he’s telling the stories of people who need to be heard. 🖤
Listening to even an hour of your life story, and i see so much of myself in you. I could totally relate to you. I learned a few things about myself just now and i have you to thank for that. Thank you. 😊
I am so happy that I had the opportunity to listen to you tonight. You ever sit in the audience and have the speaker tell your story? Yeah. It's a trip. God bless you and I wish you success in all of your endeavors. You gave me a lot to think about tonight.
Diana, i wrote a comment above… then saw your post… would love to meet you… my parents grew up in the Rutland/Proctor area.. and my fondest childhood memories are from when we visited relatives there… I am living that boring lifestyle you seek… I have no addictions whatsoever… and grew up in a totally different world then you.. would love to sit on your porch and listen to your stories… maybe we can get lost in a corn maze… Anyway, good luck with what’s ahead… I hope you get the boring life you seek…
I got a lot out of your talk. Never used drugs or alcohol, but totally related to not loving yourself enough to do the best things for yourself. Keep repeating poor choices. I am now inspired to try to un-fuck my brain! Whoever hired you for this new job, really lucked out!
One of the biggest things this lady is doing that I don't hear or see most people doing is taking accountability for her mistakes and understanding why she made those mistakes without making excuses for them. She deserves the utmost respect for this and I greatly admire her
This is my sister. It is fascinating to hear her this part of her story, one I know so well, but told on this platform. I can testify she's grown immensely through many challenges. I hope her story can help people, but I'm happy her story is here, preserved for others. Even if this is only a glimpse.
She's awesome, pass it on. :) I am sitting here at my desk working and crying. We have a different story but so much hits a nerve. I've started unfucking myself too. psychedelic assisted therapy have been very very helpful to me.
You have a very intelligent and compassionate sister. Her accountability and responsibility of her actions, is very healing. She's pretty too. God Bless her
Good going. Keep it up. Life looks so different when yer sober. For me, I was only hurting myself, the things that made me drink & drug didn’t care one single bit but it took me years to get it through my thick head. Please try to treat yourself better & the AA program does work .
37 years sober and I live this moment and all moments sober, accepting, willing and grateful. These choices of outlook allow me to align my will with Gods will which means the next right choice is happiness in this moment. I always remind myself it is always now.
This lady is my niece -the daughter of my brother. I am amazed at her strength and grace- so proud of her heart to use her sorrow to try to help others. I’m so sorry for all she missed out on - but grateful to God she will be one of the survivors. Our family has buried and carried so many curses. I look at her as a first responder who will not turn away from others trauma. Love you Diana I know you will be more than alright .
It's quite the journey and takes so much courage to share truths that are ugly, with grace and forward movement. Thank you for sharing, truly an inspiration, this gave me hope where it has dwindled to almost nothing, thank you 💛💛💛💛🕊🕊
Please allow Diana to come back from time to time to share her life experiences with us. She probably doesn't know it but she's helping all of us be better with her experiences. Looks like she's got a handle on her internal demons. Stay strong. We believe in you. You're amazing!
“Shame is that I am wrong; I am bad; I am my disease; I am all the mistakes I’ve made. Guilt is a healthy relationship to the shitty things I’ve done.” Powerful words. Thank you for being so openly honest. You’re amazing. Shame keeps us in our darkness. Guilt shows we are human but have the ability to do better.
Shame is completely debilitating. It is a millstone that will always keep a person held under. Understanding that you are not your disease and accepting where you are (taking responsibility) are critical first steps to healing.
Unfortunately she’s been taught her whole life she’s fucked up, so finally feeling that way takes awhile to get yourself back from being “unhinged” you know
This is one of my favorite interviews I’ve watched on this channel. Listening to her speak about the revelations she’s uncovered on her journey of sobriety and healing made me pause and think about my own subconscious choices that have led to self destruction or recreating the same unhappy situation for myself. I love seeing someone who experienced early trauma and has ended up on a different trajectory than what we normally see. I have no doubt she’ll be able to help others.
I’ve been on a 30 year journey to unlearn the damaging behaviors of my youth. I’ve come to realize that I don’t have to react to life in survival mode anymore, now I get to become the person I was supposed to be.
I dont usually comment but wanted to say how moving your story was to me , its alot like my own, "he moved in and he then he took his mask off," felt that deep in my soul, I wish you nothing but the best and hope one day you find the kind of love you truly want !
As an ER doc who sees a lot of dysfunction and not a lot of positive outcomes your story was truly inspirational. The world needs more people like you who have turned themselves around and are taking that story to help others. Truly inspirational.
Thank you so much! I’m now working for a hospital and I hope to do everything I can to advocate for and support other people in recovery. I think this is just the start of me finding more of my path and being able to use my super powers for good. 🖤
Diana, Getting 2552 comments since your video was posted only one month ago is indicative of how much your story resonates with people. Thank God the place you work had the wisdom to employ you. Your life experiences, compassionate and direct way of expressing yourself will help many people make their lives better. Plus, the act of doing this work will re-enforce the path you are on. You are not a drop in the ocean, you are the entire ocean in a drop ~ Rumi
Thank you so much, your kindness and insight are greatly appreciated. I’m starting to write, I’ve always wanted to and I think that enough people have had many of the same experiences that it would resonate with so many. 🖤
OMG you're telling my story! This is crazy. Almost everything you're saying down to your age is my story with drugs and men and the inner child work. I'll have 4 years sober this November.
What a remarkably strong woman. As a "slow learner" - the part about the universe teaching you the same damn lesson over and over again really hits home.
Man, this shit but me super hard. I'm a 41 yr old person who used to be severely addicted to heroin who's been clean since late 2016. I'm a dude. I don't have kids. it will probably be another 15 years before I develop the intelligence, strength of character and sheer balls that this woman has. Thanks to you both. Knowing that becoming a person like this is possible.. is what makes me keep pushing at it. I had a shit day and needed to hear this. So, thanks
I was in Vermont in 2012, with a decades-long habit. In Oct. of 2013, I went back to Massachusetts and got clean. We definitely got away from it just in time. The poison got way worse, in a very short time, immediately after you, this woman and I walked away. 🖤
I think this is one of my favorite interviews. She’s so intelligent and sounds like she is going to make it. I only wish we all had this kind of wisdom
Many of us carry with us the consequences of our parent’s terrible decisions, personal trauma and personality disorders. It is up to us to realise these behaviours in them (and in us) and not pass them on to our kids. Shortly after my daughter was born I woke up at 3am with a thought in my mind as clear as a bell, it went “this stops with you. Your job in this world is to stop the damage done by your parents from being done to her”. And so I have lived by this.
My parents were not the best. Nothing horrible, but definitely could have been way better with a little effort. To this day, my mother blames her poor parenting on her parents. They did it to her, so she didn’t know any better than to pass it on.😐
@@EmersumBiggins the point is that your mother was fixated only on her parents and did not see the problem on a more global level - from everything back in the generations, as a repeating wrong pattern forward in the generations, from a value system of your family, from politics, from religion and traditions, from public opinion that is a factor, from everything around you that has shaped you that way.
Absolutely brilliant. There is genius about her. The way she expresses herself, her cadence, smile and the way her eyes shift as she searches for words is powerful. I’ve noticed this before in other women from the New England area. She was born about 200-300 years too soon. The environment she was meant to thrive in and master has yet to evolve.
Diana you’re amazing. So intelligent & eloquent. Not just intelligent, but wise. You are going to help so many people! You’re an amazing human being. Just don’t ever forget to care for yourself first & foremost no matter what. Then your kiddos next. I’m so incredibly proud of you & the hard-earned progress you’ve made & the strength you have so obviously gained through it all ❤
You get it. A lot of people dont and never get it. I am also in recovery and you are an inspiration. Thank you for opening up and sharing your story with us. Your kids are very lucky to have you raising them. They will be stronger and wiser because of it.
Starting at 19…now 57…I had life coaches, counselors, psychologists, psychiatrists & the like…in my weekly/monthly life trying to unfoock myself. Breakthrough happened at 45 where additional 5 yrs were needed to put those tools learned to work. Today, I confidently say ‘The past will never affect my future in any negative way!’
This one made me open my eyes. I'm a 54 year old black female who had 2 older brothers and 2 working parents who immigrated to Canada in the 70's. No drug or alcohol abuse. I thought my upbringing was normal and almost perfect. Being the youngest and a female with an old fashioned west Indian background, I accepted receiving the bare minimum from every aspect of my life. Relationship, jobs, love, friends, school, gifts, encouragement, grades, I can go on. Like her, I wanted to please and save everyone so they would stay with me or give me what I didn't get or hear from my parents and brothers. I purposely tried not to give my kids the bare minimum and be open with them. Therapy was never an option for me for some reason. Her thinking style is so much like mine now. I wish her well
you said you wish her well...I wish you well. is therapy an option now? because it seems like you may could use it. ( thats not an insult btw I didn't seek therapy until my 50's ) but its always good to at least see if a therapist would help
I grew up with a selfish alcoholic abusive father. We siblings raised ourselves as our poor mother died young. So at ages 9,10,11 & 12 we did what we had to do. Amazingly we're still alive today 55 years later having all led good lives. You either copy your parent(s) or go the other way. We chose the other way. I thank my mother for getting us to a certain age so we had a chance after she passed away. I miss her every day. You gotta stay strong.
The pope centuries ago had a saying . Give me your boy until he reaches threats of seven and I will make him a man . In other words most of your character is developed in those seven years so you really need to be thankful of your mom .
Crap, 10 mins into video and I’m tearing up. I can’t believe this amazing woman went through this experience and came out so smart, articulate, and seemingly so self aware. I sincerely wish her good vibes and continued success with her recovery…I would love to hear an update interview in 5 yrs ❤
Your hard work over the past 8 years is apparent. Congratulations on sobriety, self awareness, self actualization and the healing you have done thus far. May you use all of your life experiences as fuel to continue on this journey, as a human, a mom and as a Helper. Be well and be the authentic you that you are becoming.❤ Thank you for courage to share your story!
"If they're willing to love you and you're a piece of shit, then you need to be willing to accept their bullshit love." THANK YOU for putting this so clearly.
Right??? This is how women/men end up in shitty relationships. Here's the two lies we tell ourselves: 1- We deserve "less than" because we are "less than". 2- We need to look past their flaws if they can look past our deficiencies. These lies are subconsciously leading us through a merry go round of bad relationships and repeating abuse. The cycle stops when we realize our true worth.
Love 💕 the way this woman articulated her self profoundly congratulations on your 8yrs sobriety needed to hear this thanks mark great work bless you & that beautiful lady 🎉☮️🙏😘
sports personalities? REALLY? I can't listen to 5 words into a sentence muttered by any of the spoiled and rewarded for nothing unintelligible ebonic speaking failures... Clown / short bus talk
Good stuff. Having a good relationship w yourself is so overlooked and important. Re: sticking to the familiar - "we can never get enough of what we don't want" hah ...
@@jimmoses6617it’s not about blame. It’s generational trauma that keeps getting handed down through the generations. Until someone, like Diana says this has got to stop.
This is probably the #1 best SWU interview I’ve seen. Diana’s story is so multifaceted and she tells it so well. She’s an inspiration and someone to emulate at this stage. She should seriously testify before congress on these issues to help make good changes. Love this so much.
I recognized instantly within the first few minutes that she was using psychedelics to medicinally process what she had been thru. I know this growth. It’s real. There’s more to this than I think we’re giving attention to.
@@whiteprism7004 i live in a very red neck/conservative/republican area of east texas....our state rep is very much pushing psychedelic therapy for veterans....half of this country is stupid and the other is smart.....easy to tell which is which
If you've heard of the "stoned ape theory", maybe there is indeed... Not that I've studied the subject but the premise is interesting at the very least.
I love the title. Addiction is not only drugs. She nailed it all. My personal addictions have been being single and,spending money I shouldn’t and shopping.
This lady has impressed me. Good looking, smart, thoughtful, courageous, trying to do the right thing and very aware of her weaknesses and goals. She deserves a better life way more than most of us.
‘As I address the disorders in the order that they kill you ‘ is an interesting concept I got up early this am and was reluctant to start my day with what could have been a discouraging catapult for my day (which I have been struggling with the effects of trauma and PTSD symptoms) I am glad I tapped to listen!
I have been recovering from my feral upbringing my entire life. I am 62 years old and now have 10 years of sobriety in Alcoholics Anonymous. I appreciate this video in so many different ways. One of them is that I've never known the language how to describe my upbringing as Feral.
Diana's reflections on the damage that regret and self-hate can do are incredible. So much of what she expressed here is exactly what I've experienced in life as a person in recovery with depression and anxiety. Thank you, Diana and Mark for doing this.
I know,I wish she spoke kinder to herself. As she said, the work isn’t done. Good luck, Diana. Stay single. Do this solo for a while. The right relationship will show up, especially with yourself
I was crying through the whole interview and I have never been a drug addict.She is so intelligent and self aware and everyone can learn from her insights.Great interview. also props to Mark for just allowing people to speak and not interrupting with inappropriate questions.
Mark, I have been following your channel for a while now and what you have created is a massive piece of work. There is a man called Dr. Gabor Maté, physician and author who has dedicated his work to studying childhood trauma, stress and addiction and illness and how these are directly connected. His books and talks are incredibly eye opening and in so many ways revolutionary. He is well known (you likely know about him too) and youtube is full of his talks and interviews with him. The Soft White Underbelly is like a huge social study that prooves everything Maté - and in fact many others who have understood that it all has roots in early childhood - talk about and could serve as a foundation for Maté’s work. It all comes down to love. And the fact that people don’t get enough of it. If we want to be happier as a society we must change the way we bring up our children. So I just want to say that what you do is incredibly valuable for society and I really hope it can somehow be used (perhaps in collaboration with Gabor Maté) as a material that will help to put research into practice and change the way we raise people. And potentially also help us to look at social care, health care and education with an actually holistic and relational approach. Thank you Mark.
This is perhaps the video that speaks to nearly every major lesson of SWU. It's all in here. This woman is badass. She's so fragile and vulnerable, yet fierce and tenacious. Just like the rest of us. She deserves to be loved and respected. By herself, and by others.
I tell you what chick, I've watched an awful lot of Mark's videos and I can say that almost none of them have ever brought me the tears. Yours, wow! For the most part, it's like I'm listening to my own story. Kind of so incredibly crazy to hear it. Someone else's mouth knowing that it was their life, but I have so much in common with it. I'm almost 42 , two more months, I've now been drugged free for almost 2 years, and since March I've lost 82 lb and goins. Super hella strong. You got me super emotional right now. You just see the other people also are waking up and taking care of themselves and loving themselves, we're all worth it. It's a lot of us. Us don't see that. I'm so very very thankful that I was blessed enough to realize I dope was the wrong answer and stopped it. Many can't come back from that and also realize that being fat super is not the answer and coming back from that, I've been fat my whole life. My most heaviest was 404 lb and in 18 lb I'll be 299. I haven't weighed in the twos since I was in my teens. Thank you for your story, this was one of the best ones I've ever heard.
I think Diana will make a great Peer Support Specialist. I'm a recovering addict and a Peer Support Specialist in Arizona. My thoughts and prayers go out to all the people you help Mark you are definitely heaven-sent.
Diana explained perfectly how trauma in childhood leads to addiction. She is clearly a very intelligent person who articulated beautifully how negative childhood conditioning controls how we behave and controls our decision making. I wish her well for the future!
I wish Diana health and healing on her journey💚 She's a toughie coming on here and sharing her trauma! Warrior woman who survived, I pray you will find your safety and bliss💚🫂
-the mask came off. and he was every man I’ve ever loved. This hit me over the head with a mallet. My heart dropped into the pit of my stomach… ! Thank you for sharing . It’s like your narrating my life. I don’t feel so alone anymore
So many women have said this to me since this video was posted. I wish we could all start a club and support each and share the knowledge we’ve gained from our lived experiences!! 🖤
Remember, all the life experience you have to this moment in time was nessesary to where you are now! It has put you to being able to be a huge help for other people to get and better. Forgiving yourself is the biggest hurdle and it will come. As a DV survivor I know.
Thank you! That’s how I choose to look at some of the things I’ve lived through, as more additions to my resume, I can relate to so much of what my clients are experiencing ♥️
Your story almost mirrors my own, and I just want to say how proud I am of you and your courage to confront the past to change the course of your future.
As a growing clinical counsellor...I SO, SO, FEEL for this woman. My upbringing was just like hers...Hence the need to become a helper ...after helping myself through Recovery and Therapy. YOU ...TOO...SHALL live and THRIVE, MISS
My favorite interview so far. Coming from 25 years of recovery, I love how Diana "gets it" (the miracle of the recovery process)! She is going to help SO Many addicts! May you continue to "re-groove" those thought pathways and flourish!
Diana thank you for your insight. I’m a survivor of severe child abuse. I keep picking from the bottom of the barrel. My husbands both were awful drug users and alcoholics. Leaving them was hard but I made it out. I felt that I deserved the abuse. I married at 21 to a 38 yr old man. They both are dead from their life choices. I am still trying to heal.GOD bless you for your transparency.♥️
I can’t imagine a more qualified candidate to become a recovery coach than Diane. She has the experience, insight and honesty which will make the journey for herself and her clients in a positive symbiotic relationship beneficial to both. All will grow and gain insight beneficial to all in the group relationship. I believe she is where she is meant to be which assures positive outcomes. Yes you do deserve the space you’re in and many will benefit from it. Best wishes.
I agree 100% BUT… not wanting to be a coach or to relive those things with another damaged person is a completely honorable choice. Going into a healing modality is awesome, but to not get caught into the process of helping others to avoid yourself can be very tricky!
Genuinely happy to hear of a story like yours have a grounding resolution. So much of the abuse is tied to generational traumatic behavior that is passed down. Thank you for outlining that the addiction itself is a form of escapism. Incredibly grounding for me to hear from another perspective from someone who’s experienced similar. All the best in the unFucking Diana 🙏🏿 Your story is changing other realities
It's beautiful how those of us with life long trauma and addiction heal and get well, and become some of the most experienced powerful healers! You are a powerhouse! We are the chosen ones from the universe. I spent half my life in addiction, trauma, prison, rehabs and the lot. I work in the field as a coach, interventionist, being certified as a trauma professional, and help men transition back into society through recovery and healing.
That’s amazing, I’m so happy you found your way out and I couldn’t agree more!! Lived experience professionals are becoming some of the most valuable employees. “You cannot teach someone else to ride a bike if you don’t know how to” ❤
Favorite one by far. I related to this the most out of all of these interviews. I love her perspectives on things. I’m 751 days sober from alcohol after quitting cold turkey of an addiction that existed for years and am also a brain cancer survivor. It was so nice to hear her and feel a little less alone.
Our childhood trauma leads the pathway of our life and makes it so very hard to cope along the way. You are an inspiration Diana, and you are now serving your purpose through helping others. Sending all my love to you as someone who has been through a lot of what you have ❤️ Mark, we would love to see more interviews like this one!
Thank you, Diana. I am turning 40 this month and trying to unfuck my own head, tuning into art, sobriety and school now. It means everything to hear your story. ❤
Diana, I listened to your video on the way to work at my restaurant. You’re a lot like me and your words resonate deeply. I, too, have four kids and grew up as a feral child. You call it “un-fuc****” while I call mine, my undoing of my life. Learning how to be whole and complete without a relationship, drugs or alcohol has been paramount in my life while being present. Thank you for sharing your story. If you’re ever in Nashville, reach out. I’m always happy to make a new friend.
I can relate to Diana more than any other person I have seen on your channel. I wish her the best and hope you do an update with her at some point. Thank You for all of your incredible work Mark. ❤️
"Why do I believe I am my mistakes?" ❤️ This compels me. Thank you, Diana, for sharing your story with us. You are suited well to help others. You already have. PEACE ☮️🎶
Thank you Mark for letting us hear all these people speak. It is in a safe environment for us. They have thought through their life stories. They are all us with addictions. I believe addictions are the number 1 health problem we have in America or probably worldwide. We all either have had some sort of addict in the family or work with one, possibly live by one too. We ate all united in this together. She is such a neat lady. I'm sure the people she works with love her. Thank you.
Thank you all for such kind words and positivity. I was so worried about how this would be received and a bit of my faith in people has been restored through all of you. I really admire what Mark is doing, he’s telling the stories of people who need to be heard. 🖤
Listening to even an hour of your life story, and i see so much of myself in you. I could totally relate to you. I learned a few things about myself just now and i have you to thank for that. Thank you. 😊
I am so happy that I had the opportunity to listen to you tonight. You ever sit in the audience and have the speaker tell your story? Yeah. It's a trip. God bless you and I wish you success in all of your endeavors.
You gave me a lot to think about tonight.
Diana, i wrote a comment above… then saw your post… would love to meet you… my parents grew up in the Rutland/Proctor area.. and my fondest childhood memories are from when we visited relatives there… I am living that boring lifestyle you seek… I have no addictions whatsoever… and grew up in a totally different world then you.. would love to sit on your porch and listen to your stories… maybe we can get lost in a corn maze… Anyway, good luck with what’s ahead… I hope you get the boring life you seek…
@@bubbernator1 thank you! The positive feedback has been really amazing!
I got a lot out of your talk. Never used drugs or alcohol, but totally related to not loving yourself enough to do the best things for yourself. Keep repeating poor choices. I am now inspired to try to un-fuck my brain! Whoever hired you for this new job, really lucked out!
One of the biggest things this lady is doing that I don't hear or see most people doing is taking accountability for her mistakes and understanding why she made those mistakes without making excuses for them. She deserves the utmost respect for this and I greatly admire her
Thank you so much for SEEING me ❤
Far out. Thank you
I tried to find the words while watching , and you said it !!! 😘
@@dianaharmon4914 You are very welcome. I appreciate you
The best therapist is one who lived that life and can relate..
❤ amen and amen
Absolutely.
This is my sister.
It is fascinating to hear her this part of her story, one I know so well, but told on this platform.
I can testify she's grown immensely through many challenges.
I hope her story can help people, but I'm happy her story is here, preserved for others. Even if this is only a glimpse.
You are lucky to have her as a sister.
I liker story and how she speaks
She's awesome, pass it on. :) I am sitting here at my desk working and crying. We have a different story but so much hits a nerve. I've started unfucking myself too. psychedelic assisted therapy have been very very helpful to me.
You've got an awesome sister. I hope you and her find some peace in this effed up world and truly be beautiful people you are.
You have a very intelligent and compassionate sister. Her accountability and responsibility of her actions, is very healing. She's pretty too. God Bless her
I’m 39 days sober today and watching this after an AA meeting --so insightful. She is amazing
Keep going back ...GREAT 4 U
*Much Respect
Good going. Keep it up. Life looks so different when yer sober. For me, I was only hurting myself, the things that made me drink & drug didn’t care one single bit
but it took me years to get it through my thick head. Please try to treat yourself better & the AA program does work .
You got this ❤️❤️❤️
37 years sober and I live this moment and all moments sober, accepting, willing and grateful. These choices of outlook allow me to align my will with Gods will which means the next right choice is happiness in this moment. I always remind myself it is always now.
This lady is my niece -the daughter of my brother.
I am amazed at her strength and grace- so proud of her heart to use her sorrow to try to help others.
I’m so sorry for all she missed out on - but grateful to God she will be one of the survivors.
Our family has buried and carried so many curses. I look at her as a first responder who will not turn away from others trauma. Love you Diana I know you will be more than alright .
I love you, I was so scared for you to see this. 🖤
@@dianaharmon4914 You are a rockstar no reason for you to ever be scared of anything or anyone
@@majfed2 I’m trying to tell myself that!! 😉🖤
Amazing story, very happy that you are better
It's quite the journey and takes so much courage to share truths that are ugly, with grace and forward movement. Thank you for sharing, truly an inspiration, this gave me hope where it has dwindled to almost nothing, thank you 💛💛💛💛🕊🕊
Working in a rehab we said "it isnt the drinking..its the thinking. "
Please allow Diana to come back from time to time to share her life experiences with us. She probably doesn't know it but she's helping all of us be better with her experiences.
Looks like she's got a handle on her internal demons. Stay strong. We believe in you. You're amazing!
This woman has a way ❤a gift. Share share share
I second that vote!❤
YES👏👏👏
I totally agree 💜
“Shame is that I am wrong; I am bad; I am my disease; I am all the mistakes I’ve made.
Guilt is a healthy relationship to the shitty things I’ve done.”
Powerful words. Thank you for being so openly honest. You’re amazing.
Shame keeps us in our darkness. Guilt shows we are human but have the ability to do better.
❤ you are a wise person it seems!
Well said!
Shame is completely debilitating. It is a millstone that will always keep a person held under.
Understanding that you are not your disease and accepting where you are (taking responsibility) are critical first steps to healing.
Diana should be proud of how together she comes across. I imagine there is a lot of people who like to be around her and converse with her.
Unfortunately she’s been taught her whole life she’s fucked up, so finally feeling that way takes awhile to get yourself back from being “unhinged” you know
I don’t think she realizes drugs and alcohol have not been her main problem. Being attracted to losers have been her biggest downfall.
This is one of my very good friends and I'm so proud of her 🩷
I don't even know her and I'm proud of her. Please let her know that and that she touched people's hearts with her interview
This lady is so deserving of love, kindness, and success. Highly motivated, intelligent, and no quit in her.
This is one of my favorite interviews I’ve watched on this channel. Listening to her speak about the revelations she’s uncovered on her journey of sobriety and healing made me pause and think about my own subconscious choices that have led to self destruction or recreating the same unhappy situation for myself. I love seeing someone who experienced early trauma and has ended up on a different trajectory than what we normally see. I have no doubt she’ll be able to help others.
I don’t believe that she can quit drugs for long.
revelations?? you mean problems everyone has... 🥱
Agreeeee❤
One of the best interviews soo positive and real!!!
I’ve been on a 30 year journey to unlearn the damaging behaviors of my youth. I’ve come to realize that I don’t have to react to life in survival mode anymore, now I get to become the person I was supposed to be.
I could have written that comment, I can 100% relate 😊 It's only uphill from here for us 🥳
The best time to plant a tree was yesterday, the next best time is today. Her level of honesty is inspiring.
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I dont usually comment but wanted to say how moving your story was to me , its alot like my own, "he moved in and he then he took his mask off," felt that deep in my soul, I wish you nothing but the best and hope one day you find the kind of love you truly want !
I bet nothing could make one feel more betrayed than that would...
@@PrimateProductions indeed
Narcissists. Horrible people.
Diana is giving a HUGE gift to her kids through her honesty . It's easier to understand yourself when you know where you came from ❤
As an ER doc who sees a lot of dysfunction and not a lot of positive outcomes your story was truly inspirational. The world needs more people like you who have turned themselves around and are taking that story to help others. Truly inspirational.
Thank you so much! I’m now working for a hospital and I hope to do everything I can to advocate for and support other people in recovery. I think this is just the start of me finding more of my path and being able to use my super powers for good. 🖤
Beautiful.woman , seriously
@@Reynaldo-zr3zc 🙏♥️
Vermont born and raised, here to support Diana an old friend from my hometown, glad we are still here and she is able to share her story....🖤
Oh hi…🖤
@@dianaharmon4914Hi Diana!
She's very intelligent and She's going to be Fine as Long as she puts herself 1st
Diana, Getting 2552 comments since your video was posted only one month ago is indicative of how much your story resonates with people. Thank God the place you work had the wisdom to employ you. Your life experiences, compassionate and direct way of expressing yourself will help many people make their lives better. Plus, the act of doing this work will re-enforce the path you are on. You are not a drop in the ocean, you are the entire ocean in a drop ~ Rumi
Thank you so much, your kindness and insight are greatly appreciated. I’m starting to write, I’ve always wanted to and I think that enough people have had many of the same experiences that it would resonate with so many. 🖤
@@dianaharmon4914 So sweet of you to reply
@@dianaharmon4914 Sweet of you to reply. “Gratitude is not only the greatest of all virtues, but parent of all others”
~Cicero
OMG you're telling my story! This is crazy. Almost everything you're saying down to your age is my story with drugs and men and the inner child work. I'll have 4 years sober this November.
I don't have any kiddos though and I went to college like your little brother.
What a remarkably strong woman. As a "slow learner" - the part about the universe teaching you the same damn lesson over and over again really hits home.
Man, this shit but me super hard. I'm a 41 yr old person who used to be severely addicted to heroin who's been clean since late 2016. I'm a dude. I don't have kids. it will probably be another 15 years before I develop the intelligence, strength of character and sheer balls that this woman has. Thanks to you both. Knowing that becoming a person like this is possible.. is what makes me keep pushing at it. I had a shit day and needed to hear this. So, thanks
hang in there. and stay away from drugs
FORZA
Stay strong. U r loved and u can do anything you desire
You'll get there. You're already on your way 🙏
I was in Vermont in 2012, with a decades-long habit. In Oct. of 2013, I went back to Massachusetts and got clean. We definitely got away from it just in time. The poison got way worse, in a very short time, immediately after you, this woman and I walked away. 🖤
I think this is one of my favorite interviews. She’s so intelligent and sounds like she is going to make it. I only wish we all had this kind of wisdom
Many of us carry with us the consequences of our parent’s terrible decisions, personal trauma and personality disorders. It is up to us to realise these behaviours in them (and in us) and not pass them on to our kids. Shortly after my daughter was born I woke up at 3am with a thought in my mind as clear as a bell, it went “this stops with you. Your job in this world is to stop the damage done by your parents from being done to her”. And so I have lived by this.
My parents were not the best. Nothing horrible, but definitely could have been way better with a little effort. To this day, my mother blames her poor parenting on her parents. They did it to her, so she didn’t know any better than to pass it on.😐
@@EmersumBiggins the point is that your mother was fixated only on her parents and did not see the problem on a more global level - from everything back in the generations, as a repeating wrong pattern forward in the generations, from a value system of your family, from politics, from religion and traditions, from public opinion that is a factor, from everything around you that has shaped you that way.
Absolutely brilliant. There is genius about her. The way she expresses herself, her cadence, smile and the way her eyes shift as she searches for words is powerful. I’ve noticed this before in other women from the New England area. She was born about 200-300 years too soon. The environment she was meant to thrive in and master has yet to evolve.
Diana you’re amazing. So intelligent & eloquent. Not just intelligent, but wise. You are going to help so many people! You’re an amazing human being. Just don’t ever forget to care for yourself first & foremost no matter what. Then your kiddos next. I’m so incredibly proud of you & the hard-earned progress you’ve made & the strength you have so obviously gained through it all ❤
Exactly many after quitting addiction become Diana's in their own right.
You get it. A lot of people dont and never get it. I am also in recovery and you are an inspiration. Thank you for opening up and sharing your story with us. Your kids are very lucky to have you raising them. They will be stronger and wiser because of it.
Starting at 19…now 57…I had life coaches, counselors, psychologists, psychiatrists & the like…in my weekly/monthly life trying to unfoock myself. Breakthrough happened at 45 where additional 5 yrs were needed to put those tools learned to work. Today, I confidently say ‘The past will never affect my future in any negative way!’
This lady is so articulate. I learned a lot from listening to her story. I hope things continue to improve for her.
Thank you 🖤
@@dianaharmon4914from listening to you talk I knew from the onset here is one gifted and Mensa candidate…
She’s incredible. Her recollection and awareness is beyond comprehension.
My goodness. Wow! I've been in recovery for 30 years and I learned more from this beautiful soul than I ever picked up through aby book.
That’s quite the compliment, thank you so much ❤
This one made me open my eyes. I'm a 54 year old black female who had 2 older brothers and 2 working parents who immigrated to Canada in the 70's. No drug or alcohol abuse. I thought my upbringing was normal and almost perfect. Being the youngest and a female with an old fashioned west Indian background, I accepted receiving the bare minimum from every aspect of my life. Relationship, jobs, love, friends, school, gifts, encouragement, grades, I can go on. Like her, I wanted to please and save everyone so they would stay with me or give me what I didn't get or hear from my parents and brothers. I purposely tried not to give my kids the bare minimum and be open with them. Therapy was never an option for me for some reason. Her thinking style is so much like mine now. I wish her well
you said you wish her well...I wish you well.
is therapy an option now? because it seems like you may could use it. ( thats not an insult btw I didn't seek therapy until my 50's ) but its always good to at least see if a therapist would help
THERAPISTS are quacks@@brunofalcon4645
what does skin color have to do with anything, quit with your false opression
@dirtsky It doesn't. I'm a proud BLACK woman. I just like saying it. 😊
@brunofalcon4645 I believe so too. Never to late to heal. 😊
I grew up with a selfish alcoholic abusive father. We siblings raised ourselves as our poor mother died young. So at ages 9,10,11 & 12 we did what we had to do. Amazingly we're still alive today 55 years later having all led good lives. You either copy your parent(s) or go the other way. We chose the other way. I thank my mother for getting us to a certain age so we had a chance after she passed away. I miss her every day. You gotta stay strong.
The pope centuries ago had a saying . Give me your boy until he reaches threats of seven and I will make him a man . In other words most of your character is developed in those seven years so you really need to be thankful of your mom .
The age * the auto spell on fire tablet is horrendous.
Maybe y,all got your Mom,s genes.Glad ya made it.Cheers.
Crap, 10 mins into video and I’m tearing up. I can’t believe this amazing woman went through this experience and came out so smart, articulate, and seemingly so self aware. I sincerely wish her good vibes and continued success with her recovery…I would love to hear an update interview in 5 yrs ❤
Your hard work over the past 8 years is apparent. Congratulations on sobriety, self awareness, self actualization and the healing you have done thus far. May you use all of your life experiences as fuel to continue on this journey, as a human, a mom and as a Helper.
Be well and be the authentic you that you are becoming.❤
Thank you for courage to share your story!
"If they're willing to love you and you're a piece of shit, then you need to be willing to accept their bullshit love." THANK YOU for putting this so clearly.
Right??? This is how women/men end up in shitty relationships. Here's the two lies we tell ourselves: 1- We deserve "less than" because we are "less than". 2- We need to look past their flaws if they can look past our deficiencies. These lies are subconsciously leading us through a merry go round of bad relationships and repeating abuse. The cycle stops when we realize our true worth.
I'm an alcohol and drug counselor and I have to note peer mentors kick ass. Keep it up
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Love 💕 the way this woman articulated her self profoundly congratulations on your 8yrs sobriety needed to hear this thanks mark great work bless you & that beautiful lady 🎉☮️🙏😘
This woman is truly inspirational. This woman beats any sports personality for people to look up to. Turn this world around .
Your encouragement is so appreciated, thank you 🖤
sports personalities? REALLY? I can't listen to 5 words into a sentence muttered by any of the spoiled and rewarded for nothing unintelligible ebonic speaking failures...
Clown / short bus talk
Good stuff. Having a good relationship w yourself is so overlooked and important. Re: sticking to the familiar - "we can never get enough of what we don't want" hah ...
@@dianaharmon4914 My heart goes to you. You are inspirational, we need more women like you. Your bravery gives me hope. ❤❤❤❤
@@KaiserSoze212 thank you so much, it really feeds my soul to hear things like this. 🖤
You are a really articulate self-aware person. Respect.
This channel should be renamed "Bad parents create messed up adults".
Or maybe "The results of ancestral trauma".
Broken people make broken children
That's a bs excuse. Blaming your ancestors.
@@jimmoses6617it’s not about blame. It’s generational trauma that keeps getting handed down through the generations. Until someone, like Diana says this has got to stop.
This is probably the #1 best SWU interview I’ve seen. Diana’s story is so multifaceted and she tells it so well. She’s an inspiration and someone to emulate at this stage. She should seriously testify before congress on these issues to help make good changes. Love this so much.
Man you really hit it all right on the mark, I’m 8 yrs sober on a healing journey I relate to you so much❤
I’m so glad you could relate, there are so many of us and not enough ways we are connected! ❤
I recognized instantly within the first few minutes that she was using psychedelics to medicinally process what she had been thru. I know this growth. It’s real. There’s more to this than I think we’re giving attention to.
I hope it's growth.❤
Stay positive
Yes that’s why we are seeing the legalization of psychedelics for therapy. Soon psychedelic psychotherapy will be accessible in many countries.
@@whiteprism7004you think that’s going to help people? It’s going to make shit even worse.
@@whiteprism7004 i live in a very red neck/conservative/republican area of east texas....our state rep is very much pushing psychedelic therapy for veterans....half of this country is stupid and the other is smart.....easy to tell which is which
If you've heard of the "stoned ape theory", maybe there is indeed... Not that I've studied the subject but the premise is interesting at the very least.
This episode is a free class about life ❤ big respect lady
I love the title. Addiction is not only drugs. She nailed it all. My personal addictions have been being single and,spending money I shouldn’t and shopping.
This lady has impressed me.
Good looking, smart, thoughtful, courageous, trying to do the right thing and very aware of her weaknesses and goals.
She deserves a better life way more than most of us.
‘As I address the disorders in the order that they kill you ‘ is an interesting concept
I got up early this am and was reluctant to start my day with what could have been a discouraging catapult for my day (which I have been struggling with the effects of trauma and PTSD symptoms)
I am glad I tapped to listen!
I love that she said that too, I hope you find healing and self love !
@@Liz-uj2ot that is so lovely for you to take the time to say that thank you! 💜
I have been recovering from my feral upbringing my entire life. I am 62 years old and now have 10 years of sobriety in Alcoholics Anonymous. I appreciate this video in so many different ways. One of them is that I've never
known the language how to describe my upbringing as Feral.
I’m 3.5 years sober from alcohol and I appreciate Diana very much for telling her story. I can relate on many levels. ❤
Well done
The hardest to quit
I really like her. She is very self aware and understands that recovery is an ongoing challenge. I wish I could articulate myself the way she does.
Start Journaling everyday
Intelligent.
Fascinating.
Give her a hug.
Diana's reflections on the damage that regret and self-hate can do are incredible. So much of what she expressed here is exactly what I've experienced in life as a person in recovery with depression and anxiety. Thank you, Diana and Mark for doing this.
This woman is a warrior. Smart and fierce. The world wishes her well and she will help many people.
You're amazing. Please stop giving yourself such a hard time. You've learned the lessons. Now eyes forward. I think you will be great in your new role
I know,I wish she spoke kinder to herself. As she said, the work isn’t done. Good luck, Diana. Stay single. Do this solo for a while. The right relationship will show up, especially with yourself
This woman is AMAZING! Thank you for talking to her, she’s brilliant and I wish her so much happiness and healing ❤️
This is with a doubt the most honest and impactful expression of the human condition.Thank you for sharing this.
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very relatable. one of my favorites. she is a perfect example of recovery being possible and absolutely attainable.
For what? To see the reality of this shit show
@fredsting6737 Because addiction is a freaking nightmare from hell..... way worse than working through your shit while sober. ❤
7 minutes in and had to comment. This is the best video to date! The insight this woman has is amazing!
I was crying through the whole interview and I have never been a drug addict.She is so intelligent and self aware and everyone can learn from
her insights.Great interview. also props to Mark for just allowing people to speak and not interrupting with inappropriate questions.
So you think cus she's an addict that that makes her less of person?wow
Mark, I have been following your channel for a while now and what you have created is a massive piece of work.
There is a man called Dr. Gabor Maté, physician and author who has dedicated his work to studying childhood trauma, stress and addiction and illness and how these are directly connected. His books and talks are incredibly eye opening and in so many ways revolutionary. He is well known (you likely know about him too) and youtube is full of his talks and interviews with him.
The Soft White Underbelly is like a huge social study that prooves everything Maté - and in fact many others who have understood that it all has roots in early childhood - talk about and could serve as a foundation for Maté’s work.
It all comes down to love. And the fact that people don’t get enough of it.
If we want to be happier as a society we must change the way we bring up our children.
So I just want to say that what you do is incredibly valuable for society and I really hope it can somehow be used (perhaps in collaboration with Gabor Maté) as a material that will help to put research into practice and change the way we raise people. And potentially also help us to look at social care, health care and education with an actually holistic and relational approach.
Thank you Mark.
I’m a sober coach and I was talking to one of my clients about Dr Mate today “in the realm of hungry ghost “. The gateway to addiction is trauma. 💙
Gabor Mate is my go to on all things psychology. He’s amazing
“Not why the addiction but why the pain.” - Dr. Gabor Mate
Kinda sums up Mark's channel, doesn't it?
“We look at the world once, in childhood. The rest is memory.” Louise Gluck
@@signaldrift2274 yes!
This is one of my favorite interviews. She will do amazing work in her new job! I have the utmost respect for her.
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Yes.
This is perhaps the video that speaks to nearly every major lesson of SWU. It's all in here. This woman is badass. She's so fragile and vulnerable, yet fierce and tenacious. Just like the rest of us. She deserves to be loved and respected. By herself, and by others.
Thank you ❤
For her to have found the help so many of us have been searching for makes me weep.
I tell you what chick, I've watched an awful lot of Mark's videos and I can say that almost none of them have ever brought me the tears. Yours, wow! For the most part, it's like I'm listening to my own story. Kind of so incredibly crazy to hear it. Someone else's mouth knowing that it was their life, but I have so much in common with it.
I'm almost 42 , two more months, I've now been drugged free for almost 2 years, and since March I've lost 82 lb and goins. Super hella strong. You got me super emotional right now. You just see the other people also are waking up and taking care of themselves and loving themselves, we're all worth it. It's a lot of us. Us don't see that. I'm so very very thankful that I was blessed enough to realize I dope was the wrong answer and stopped it. Many can't come back from that and also realize that being fat super is not the answer and coming back from that, I've been fat my whole life. My most heaviest was 404 lb and in 18 lb I'll be 299. I haven't weighed in the twos since I was in my teens. Thank you for your story, this was one of the best ones I've ever heard.
You lost me at "chick". Her name's Diana.
@@EllEss331😅
I think Diana will make a great Peer Support Specialist. I'm a recovering addict and a Peer Support Specialist in Arizona. My thoughts and prayers go out to all the people you help Mark you are definitely heaven-sent.
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From one "Broken little Diana" to another-
You're fascinating & you're incredible.
You're enough.
You got this.
Diana explained perfectly how trauma in childhood leads to addiction. She is clearly a very intelligent person who articulated beautifully how negative childhood conditioning controls how we behave and controls our decision making. I wish her well for the future!
You are a huge asset to the people you will work with Diana, and to your colleagues at Dartmouth. Good luck
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This will be saved as one of my favourite SWU vids. What an incredible person and inspiring story.
I wish Diana health and healing on her journey💚 She's a toughie coming on here and sharing her trauma! Warrior woman who survived, I pray you will find your safety and bliss💚🫂
-the mask came off.
and he was every man I’ve ever loved.
This hit me over the head with a mallet.
My heart dropped into the pit of my stomach…
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Thank you for sharing .
It’s like your narrating my life.
I don’t feel so alone anymore
So many women have said this to me since this video was posted. I wish we could all start a club and support each and share the knowledge we’ve gained from our lived experiences!! 🖤
This woman!!! This perspective takes a lot of wanting to heal. God bless you! ❤
Diana you should start a youtube channel! You're someone alot of people would listen to!
Remember, all the life experience you have to this moment in time was nessesary to where you are now! It has put you to being able to be a huge help for other people to get and better. Forgiving yourself is the biggest hurdle and it will come. As a DV survivor I know.
Thank you! That’s how I choose to look at some of the things I’ve lived through, as more additions to my resume, I can relate to so much of what my clients are experiencing ♥️
I think she's a huge role model for others struggling with issues in life. At least for me, thanks a lot for these insights and this interview
Your story almost mirrors my own, and I just want to say how proud I am of you and your courage to confront the past to change the course of your future.
THANK YOU 🖤 you’re kindness and encouragement is such a blessing
As a growing clinical counsellor...I SO, SO, FEEL for this woman. My upbringing was just like hers...Hence the need to become a helper ...after helping myself through Recovery and Therapy. YOU ...TOO...SHALL live and THRIVE, MISS
My favorite interview so far. Coming from 25 years of recovery, I love how Diana "gets it" (the miracle of the recovery process)! She is going to help SO Many addicts! May you continue to "re-groove" those thought pathways and flourish!
Thank you so much!
@@dianaharmon4914❤❤thanks
Diana thank you for your insight. I’m a survivor of severe child abuse. I keep picking from the bottom of the barrel. My husbands both were awful drug users and alcoholics. Leaving them was hard but I made it out. I felt that I deserved the abuse. I married at 21 to a 38 yr old man. They both are dead from their life choices. I am still trying to heal.GOD bless you for your transparency.♥️
You deserve better. Believe that. ❤
I can’t imagine a more qualified candidate to become a recovery coach than Diane. She has the experience, insight and honesty which will make the journey for herself and her clients in a positive symbiotic relationship beneficial to both. All will grow and gain insight beneficial to all in the group relationship. I believe she is where she is meant to be which assures positive outcomes. Yes you do deserve the space you’re in and many will benefit from it. Best wishes.
I agree 100% BUT… not wanting to be a coach or to relive those things with another damaged person is a completely honorable choice. Going into a healing modality is awesome, but to not get caught into the process of helping others to avoid yourself can be very tricky!
Genuinely happy to hear of a story like yours have a grounding resolution. So much of the abuse is tied to generational traumatic behavior that is passed down. Thank you for outlining that the addiction itself is a form of escapism. Incredibly grounding for me to hear from another perspective from someone who’s experienced similar. All the best in the unFucking Diana 🙏🏿 Your story is changing other realities
yeah trauma is the root cause of most addictions.
Well said! We all need to unfuck ourselves 🫶🏾❤️
It's beautiful how those of us with life long trauma and addiction heal and get well, and become some of the most experienced powerful healers! You are a powerhouse! We are the chosen ones from the universe. I spent half my life in addiction, trauma, prison, rehabs and the lot. I work in the field as a coach, interventionist, being certified as a trauma professional, and help men transition back into society through recovery and healing.
That’s amazing, I’m so happy you found your way out and I couldn’t agree more!! Lived experience professionals are becoming some of the most valuable employees. “You cannot teach someone else to ride a bike if you don’t know how to” ❤
She's very eloquent and lovely!
For sure
If only every person had insight like this, we’d have world peace. 🌎
But look at what it took to get there. I commend her, but I understand how tough it is.
This woman has her shit together......I hope she stays strong!
Favorite one by far. I related to this the most out of all of these interviews. I love her perspectives on things. I’m 751 days sober from alcohol after quitting cold turkey of an addiction that existed for years and am also a brain cancer survivor. It was so nice to hear her and feel a little less alone.
Our childhood trauma leads the pathway of our life and makes it so very hard to cope along the way. You are an inspiration Diana, and you are now serving your purpose through helping others. Sending all my love to you as someone who has been through a lot of what you have ❤️
Mark, we would love to see more interviews like this one!
Thank you, Diana. I am turning 40 this month and trying to unfuck my own head, tuning into art, sobriety and school now. It means everything to hear your story. ❤
Diana, I listened to your video on the way to work at my restaurant. You’re a lot like me and your words resonate deeply. I, too, have four kids and grew up as a feral child. You call it “un-fuc****” while I call mine, my undoing of my life.
Learning how to be whole and complete without a relationship, drugs or alcohol has been paramount in my life while being present. Thank you for sharing your story. If you’re ever in Nashville, reach out. I’m always happy to make a new friend.
Thank you!! I definitely will 🖤
The look on Diana’s face when she mentioned being a vigilante superhero giving drug dealers diarrhoea is priceless. I love the mischievousness
This kind of self awareness is so beautiful ♥
I can relate to Diana more than any other person I have seen on your channel. I wish her the best and hope you do an update with her at some point. Thank You for all of your incredible work Mark. ❤️
"Why do I believe I am my mistakes?" ❤️ This compels me. Thank you, Diana, for sharing your story with us. You are suited well to help others. You already have. PEACE ☮️🎶
7mins in and this Woman is the most emotionally aware smart person around.
Love this! Amazing example of turning pain into purpose!!! “Don’t let the pain be for nothing.” 💕
This woman is amazing. People that abuse kids do so much damage.
It's an ongoing abuse it doesn't stop in childhood. The effect on the nervous system is lifelong.
Thank you Mark for letting us hear all these people speak. It is in a safe environment for us. They have thought through their life stories. They are all us with addictions. I believe addictions are the number 1 health problem we have in America or probably worldwide. We all either have had some sort of addict in the family or work with one, possibly live by one too. We ate all united in this together. She is such a neat lady. I'm sure the people she works with love her. Thank you.