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One thing I’ve learned from having toxic family members is just because you share blood doesn’t make them family. Family is home. Family is a sanctuary. Family is a safe space. The people who make you feel the sunshine on cloudy days are who you need the most in life.
Very well said, not all blood related could treat you just like a family, sometimes they are worstt than that! But there are people who isnt blood related but will accept and love us for who we are, that is true family! Thank you for watching! ❤
Yes, it is possible, dear. Sometimes those people we don't have any relation with can strike a good connection with us. That's why it is also a good thing to talk to others sometimes. 🤗
I have been struggling within a toxic household for years and because of that I had to start therapy. I had to pick myself up and mend the broken pieces. I have learned to walk away and don't try and fix it and just like you said in the video everyone has their expectations. This video is a reminder that not because we are related means that it's good for you. Whoever, reads this please don't let no one tell you that you are unworthy.. And please walk away from whoever that doesn't care about your well being 😢
I am so sorry to hear that and you had to go through all that, we dont deserve those kind of treatment because we deserve to be love. We need to protect ourselves and prioritize it more than anything or anyone else, cutting off people is much better than suffering from them! I am really hoping that you are doing much better there now, always take care my dear and know that you are worthy and amazing ❤️
@@TrishLee Thank you. Am doing much better, where am able to leave my home. Those brutal moments taught me a lot and because of what I have been through am able to be at peace and encourage others to do the same.
Yes I am agree with you I am not worthless and you are not worthless just to forgive everything and think positive I am too suffering pain for many years I too want to walk away from these family members may Allah help me
Allah is not going to help you because it's an idol. Jesus Christ will help because He is alive today and the Bible makes full sense with the world today. God is by your side.
Really sorry to hear about that, no one deserves to feel the need to constantly question their existence! You are a beautiful and amazing human, dont let anyone mistreat you. You deserve the world, I hope you are fighting there and doing much better. Hugs dear! ❤️
i definitely find it so so hard to deal with toxic family members. I used to always think family comes first and that I should overlook anything they do. Ive come to realize that I shouldn't tolerate their behavior if its damaging to me!
True, and most of us think that way always overlooking for their wrongdoing cause you dont want to cause trouble for them! Yes, never tolerate them as to how they treat you! Thank you Sam for stopping by here! ❤️
Toxic family members are such a bad influence on psychological health. I am struggling with that everyday and it makes me feel sad. I try not to resent them, but at this point I really don't see any other option then leave and let that people behind. It has been very tough last half year, although I really tried to sincerely talk to them and set boundaries. It just got worse by time. Draining energy out of me every day and even kill my self esteem and inner peace.
Having this kind of family really drains out people and it affects their life, having the choice to leave is one of the things that you could do to prioritize yourselves because you cant overcome it if you dont cut them off! We should prioritize ourselves too!❤
Blood is thicker than water. Always pondered on this statement. First I was like... hmm yes, the consistency of blood is more of a plasma than liquid.. then later on in life I understood the meaning that a sister or a mother is more important than a friend. But theeeen, even later in life I understood that some friends can be even more precious that some family members. I would go to hell with a good friend.. but I would not go to heaven with a bad family member. Awesome vid Trish!
Well said Ken, its just a that we sometimes they might really bring you down just because they dont like what you are doing! Sometimes friends treat you better! Its different for everyone! Thank you Ken for dropping here, appreciate you always, I've noticed that one of my comments on your video is missing I think It is a bug on UA-cam!
@@TrishLee yeah. As a programmer I am really surprised to see something like this on a website like this. They might be testing some new autonomous algorithms
"choose to forgive them, simply because you value your happiness and inner peace more than being right." thank you for that. those are words Im going to live by!
Thank you for this video, Trish. There are members of my family that dwell on events that happened in the past and unfortunately never look forward. We are all mostly at peace with each other now and hopefully that will remain. When you stated there is no exact answer that will work with everyone I immediately said to myself, Trish is SO right.
I resonate with this so much, I always talked about this that family can be toxic and can manipulate you to do what is best for them. Being aware of it is important! I had to consistently fight to stand my ground and it took years to come out of that Mindset that Family is everything! Thank you for sharing! PS: I was thinking of making the similar video;)
Great to know it resonated, yes you just need to stand your way or they will just continue to mistreat you for their own good! Yes, will be lovely to watch that!❤️
Love this video, Trish. You're so right in terms of regulating expectations we hold from toxic family members, while also establishing strong boundaries with them! 🙌🏽 🖤
Such an important talking Trish, One that is not often addressed. Absolutely wonderful that you would share this insight With the community. I am forwarding this to someone who really needs it. Thank you so much for what you do🥰🙏
This is SUCH a crucial topic. I appreciate your addressing this and adding nuance to a very difficult topic. It can be so heartbreaking to deal with a toxic family member/situation. Thanks for talking about this.
I'm here because my fathers side of the family (not my dad) has judged my poor life choices and talked about me behind my back instead of to my face. They come up with their own conclusions without having all of the facts. I have the majority of my family support but I keep getting hung up on the two people who are negative to me. I was betrayed by these people and still feel it lingering all these years later. I wasn't innocent in this particular situation but I was also 19, being manipulated negatively and didn't realize I was in an abusive relationship with a particular person until over 5 years later. All my family saw was that I messed up and didn't care why.
I am really sorry to hear about this dear, it’s completely normal to feel hurt and betrayed. Those emotions are valid, so don’t be hard on yourself for feeling that way. Have you considered having a direct conversation with those family members? I know it might be difficult, but explaining your side of the story and how their actions have affected you could bring some closure. Even if they don’t change their opinions, it might help you feel better. Being manipulated while you are still at such age is terrifying because they control you and you are not aware on it, Im glad that you are over those hardships and free from the relationship as well. Its nice to know that you have the support of your family as well at those times, thats really important. Their positivity can really help balance out the negativity. Maybe spend more time with them or lean on them when you’re feeling down. Setting boundaries is also crucial. Protect your mental health by limiting interactions with the judgmental relatives. It’s perfectly okay to do that. Remember to focus on your present and future. Letting go of the past can be hard, but try to set personal goals that excite you and give you a sense of purpose. Practicing gratitude can also shift your focus from negativity to positivity. Think about the good things in your life and the people who love you. Positive affirmations can boost your confidence too.
@TrishLee I spoke my piece to one of the family members I felt were believing false rumors about me (read previous comments) and although I may never get a response, I spoke up and stood my ground. I feel much better.
Great video. Lots of people face this issue in their family. It is always good to keep a calm mind when speaking to someone who is toxic in the family. Love what you shared about forgiving 👍👍👍
Sorry to hear about this, there are just toxic members and we cant really choose them we just have to choose how to overcome it and have the love and peace that we deserve! ❤
Great advice, Trish! Fortunately I haven't had these problems with family members, but I know families that haven't spoken for years and that is so sad.
Thats great that you dont have to deal with them, cause its will burn you out! Thank you for the visit dear, hope you could have some contact with your family members! ❤️
Very interesting considerations, thanks for sharing. I really like watching new and interesting video. You have an interesting channel, so I'm staying and watching. Big like, stay connected. Have a good week.
Family is usually a slippery slope sometimes. I think they mean well but their expression towards us can be off. When I started my YT channel I didn't tell any family because I didn't want my idea shot down, instead I'm just doing what I'm doing with my own vision.
Thats true, just let them be and work towards your goals in your own way, they might not really support you over it and bring you down! Thank you for this response! Keep safe! ❤️
You don't get to choose your family, but you do get to choose how they're allowed to treat you❗ Watch next➳ How I built RESILIENCE against people who try to put me down: ua-cam.com/video/dq2e1pg_DBc/v-deo.html
Great topic, I think one more important thing we need to accept and be mindful of is that as you stated, nobody is perfect, so being mindful that in some situations we are the toxic one.
Well said friend, yes nobody is perfect and all that we could do is be better and always be mindful as to what you are doing! Be aware of what is the situation always! Thank you for watching the video!❤️
Omg your natural light is so awesome.And you speak so much truth 👀 yes but hopefully the other family member won't be ignorant to accept what you are saying from your heart .Toxic people hurt people tfs hun
In my country, Iran, today is begining of new persian year(Nowruz). I feel alone and upset becuase such a problem that you mentioned. Thanks for good advices, I am going to try them.
I'm almost 20, just graduated college. I literally locked myself into the living room to protect myself fron all the mental disturbance my parents and their golden child create. I starve like minimum of 24hr to 36hr regularly. I have some books to read and cloths to wear with me in the room, That’s it. I sleep, study, do all the stuff in a single couch. I'm surviving like this for a month now. They don’t let me work or go outside. They don't even provide food 2 times a day. They forget they have another daughter and make me starve all day. They call me to get out of the room in a day or two. When I get out they do give the food and then shout scream while I'm eating. They make me cry while eating and I feel like I was better locked. They put false allegations and then argue. When try to prove my point, I become the bad kid. I can't even get up and go back to the room cause I'm already starving for a day and half. Then swallow the disrespect and life's going like this. There's literally no one I can share my feelings and talk. I sometimes don't talk for days. I'm just grateful I'm not dead or crazy yet.
My dear, I am sincerely sorry to read this. I can understand how challenging it can be to live with toxic family members. Check out this video I made last week on How I deal with TOXIC family members and become a HAPPIER person | Abusive sibling survivor: ua-cam.com/video/l9xgg6zYm4c/v-deo.html in this video, I share about my near death experience (several times). A few things that comes to my mind as I read your message: 1. It seems you either have a phone or a laptop. Can you call the police for protection / help? You DO NOT deserved to be mistreated! 2. If you can't call the authorities, then ask a friend to help you. Please take steps to take care of yourself because you only have ONE life. No one deserved to be treated like crap. Praying for you. Truly, Trish
What you're saying works for people who want peace with you. This can't apply to toxic family who gang up against you and only want to hurt you. They don't want to understand and they don't want peace.
"I hear you, and I understand that not all family situations allow for peaceful resolution, especially when it feels like people are actively working against you. In cases like this, protecting your peace may not be about finding understanding with them, but rather about setting boundaries to safeguard your mental and emotional well-being. It’s true that we can’t control how others behave, but we do have control over how much access we allow them to have in our lives. For some, that might mean limiting contact or creating emotional distance, even if they don’t want peace. It’s never easy, but protecting your peace is always worth it." Thanks for watching! Hope you are well!
what to do when someone in need of a psychologist refuses to take professional help and continues the toxic behavior creating hurdles for other family members.
Having professional help is absolutely needed but if you cant force them to do that then all you can do is cut them of and put some distance cause they could affect you too!
It’s hard being around a toxic family member. You can neither severe ties with them nor run away from them. But it’s not ok to keep offending feelings of one’s blood,i would say people who are not blood related tend to be much better,for instance my acquaintances and neighbours with whom i have healthy ties if not getting along frequently but our tie is intact even if we meet irregularly. Unfortunately every family in this universe has that one villain in their family who always try to set fire to their own blood’s happiness and envy that they are leading a peaceful good life.
Very true, there are some family members who would really want to destroy things and broke the relationship within the family, sometimes its better with strrangers! Thanks a lot for watching! ❤
My sisters don't put me down by what's said to me, more like what they say to each other about me or by excluding me from everything. Sometimes feels like they want nothing to do with me. I'm just inconveniently there. I'd be there for them but they can even share a picture to help me promote my art. Hell they don't even give so much as a casual glance or a oh that's nice. It hurts, especially when I have done things for them. They just don't want me to be part of the family.
I’m really sorry you’re going through this. Feeling excluded, especially by family, can be deeply painful. It’s understandable that their actions would hurt, especially when you’ve tried to be there for them and they don’t show the same support in return. You deserve to feel valued and appreciated, not only for your art but for who you are as a person. Family dynamics can be complex, and it might help to express how you feel to them, if you think that could lead to understanding. It’s also important to focus on your own well-being and surround yourself with people who uplift and support you, whether they’re family or chosen family.
Im 26 and moved with my family because of financial hardships, my mother has always been physical and verbal abusive. Though I am in the same situation right now but I will get out of it soon. If I can you all can. Have a lovely day everyone :)
Nothing is permanent, Im sure that there is a beautiful life waiting for you and you will get out from all of the pain and hardships! Always take care there and I am wishing the best for you!
Thanks a lot for such an awesome video Trish, this are so insightful! Yes, we can't choose them but we could choose how they would treat us, be that in mind all the time! We could confront them if both of you are in the right state of mind and the mood is also a setting factor for how the outcome will come! Thank you for sharing! ❤️
Thank you my friend for making this video and this important topic which is quite controversial. I can´t say I share your experience in the same way but I´ve had some disagreements with family members for sure and I therefore recognize that feeling you describe.
Yes, sometimes we just need to approach them properly for this kind of things and make sure you are both in good terms when it comes to family problems! Spread love! Much welcome dear! ❤️
As the first gen z kid in my family I experienced a lot of verbal and physical abuse but I decided to move on ans my mother keeps saying she regrets bringing me up in life and my dad comes home drunk . And I’ve been thinking about self harm lately. I wonder how my parents would react if I die. But nah I’m keeping everything positive.
Im really sorry for all those that happened to you, you dont deserve all of those because you are an amazing person! Everything will be fine as time goes, I really hope that they see the beauty in you and how worthy you are! Stay positive and you will get through it!❤
I have been struggling living with my brother. Hes very mentally ill. Hes so angry and blames me and my mother for his unhappiness. Hes emotionally abusive to my mother and I😢 my mom has done everything for him yet he still treats her terribly
I am really sorry to hear that, you dont deserve that dear! Maybe your brother really needs the help of a professional, they can really address his behavior and help him with it! I am hoping for the betterment of you and for your brother dear, always keep well there! Hope my video helps in a any way with you.
Trish I love this video so much! Thank you for sharing your story and your vulnerability. It’s so relatable. This topic itself is very close to my heart and this video is appreciated. Xx
Thanks a lot I'm a 18yr old girl from Pakistan and all my relatives and grandparents keep mentally and physically harassing us but my parents are still willing to live with them in a joint family because of financial issues that they can't afford a separate house on rent. Despite the fact that already they have wasted 5yrs just in conflicts and doing nothing else productive. I have this sense of peace of mind because before coming to Pakistan my parents and I lived in Kuwait for 13yrs and were leading a luxurious and peaceful life but now I grief every second just thinking about my past and suggestions for me anyone?
I am very sorry to hear that it is happening to you, you dont deserve that kind of treatment because what we deserved is to be loved and treated with kind! Those kind of family should be talked to and know what their problem it, you gotta voice out every pain you are having because of them in order for them to understand you! Financial issues really is tough one and theres so much you can do as an 18 yr old, hope your family sees what you are going through! Always take care and wishing best for you! You can go past all of this!
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I wish that my mum would move on from the past and I know that her happier times are years ago and that's fair enough but when she is constantly repeating about the good times it comes a tad boring.
Sometimes if things always gets back to the root of the problem, thats just means that we arent dealing with it properly and accepting the fact that there are wrongs and problems! But sometimes we gotta prioritize ourselves and cut them if its needed, it is not selfish!
We need to talk to them and make them realize the right thing because a mother should love her childrens! You are a child yet had to experience this, I hope that this could help in any way.
I have let my controlling father tell me what I can and can't do with my life. 1 example I was supposed to get married to the woman of my dreams at 23, I tell him the News he then goes off on me saying " No son you can't get married, because you're just a short little man who can't fight or defend yourself, so no you can't get married!" Ever since that day I gave up on myself 😔 I put my wants, needs, goals and dreams aside for him! I have no confidence, no self esteem, no self worth or self love. I really need a lot of HELP bad😭😭😭😭
I really hoped that this video helps you in any way! I know what those feelings are, having a family that wont support you and take away your freedom must truly be devastating! I hope that you could find the peace and freedom you are looking for, you are an amazing person and you should do what makes you happy! Dont let others control you! ❤️
📺WATCH NEXT ➳ The story of how I dealt with my abusive brother and became the happy and positive person that I am today: ua-cam.com/video/l9xgg6zYm4c/v-deo.html
One thing I’ve learned from having toxic family members is just because you share blood doesn’t make them family. Family is home. Family is a sanctuary. Family is a safe space. The people who make you feel the sunshine on cloudy days are who you need the most in life.
Very well said, not all blood related could treat you just like a family, sometimes they are worstt than that! But there are people who isnt blood related but will accept and love us for who we are, that is true family! Thank you for watching! ❤
Absolutely! Thank you!
👏👏👏 beautiful words
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I agree
To me and to be honest...strangers have helped & supported me more than family members
Yes, it is possible, dear. Sometimes those people we don't have any relation with can strike a good connection with us. That's why it is also a good thing to talk to others sometimes. 🤗
@@TrishLee exactly and I'm thankful for them all ...both families ❤
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I have been struggling within a toxic household for years and because of that I had to start therapy. I had to pick myself up and mend the broken pieces. I have learned to walk away and don't try and fix it and just like you said in the video everyone has their expectations. This video is a reminder that not because we are related means that it's good for you. Whoever, reads this please don't let no one tell you that you are unworthy.. And please walk away from whoever that doesn't care about your well being 😢
I am so sorry to hear that and you had to go through all that, we dont deserve those kind of treatment because we deserve to be love. We need to protect ourselves and prioritize it more than anything or anyone else, cutting off people is much better than suffering from them! I am really hoping that you are doing much better there now, always take care my dear and know that you are worthy and amazing ❤️
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Thank you. Am doing much better, where am able to leave my home. Those brutal moments taught me a lot and because of what I have been through am able to be at peace and encourage others to do the same.
Yes I am agree with you I am not worthless and you are not worthless just to forgive everything and think positive I am too suffering pain for many years I too want to walk away from these family members may Allah help me
Allah is not going to help you because it's an idol. Jesus Christ will help because He is alive today and the Bible makes full sense with the world today. God is by your side.
Thanks... this is very importsnt advice for me because i think my sister doesnt care about my well-being 😢 i hope u are oki now
Ugh i am at constant fight with questioning myself, emotions and my morals...the past expirience with family and friends brought me to this point
Really sorry to hear about that, no one deserves to feel the need to constantly question their existence! You are a beautiful and amazing human, dont let anyone mistreat you. You deserve the world, I hope you are fighting there and doing much better. Hugs dear! ❤️
i definitely find it so so hard to deal with toxic family members. I used to always think family comes first and that I should overlook anything they do. Ive come to realize that I shouldn't tolerate their behavior if its damaging to me!
True, and most of us think that way always overlooking for their wrongdoing cause you dont want to cause trouble for them! Yes, never tolerate them as to how they treat you! Thank you Sam for stopping by here! ❤️
Protecting your peace is so important! Can't wait to hear this!
So true, dont let others destroy it! Thank you for coming dear!❤️
Toxic family members are such a bad influence on psychological health. I am struggling with that everyday and it makes me feel sad. I try not to resent them, but at this point I really don't see any other option then leave and let that people behind. It has been very tough last half year, although I really tried to sincerely talk to them and set boundaries. It just got worse by time. Draining energy out of me every day and even kill my self esteem and inner peace.
Having this kind of family really drains out people and it affects their life, having the choice to leave is one of the things that you could do to prioritize yourselves because you cant overcome it if you dont cut them off! We should prioritize ourselves too!❤
They are everywhere but the worst is you can't stay away from them since it's family. Great topic
Yes, but you could choose how you would let them treat you! Do not let them abuse you, even if they are family! Thanks for coming! ❤️
What a difficult situation- family toxicity is so hard!! Very good information- forgiving and moving on is such good advice- thanks Trish!
Definitely difficult if your loved ones is the one that is hurting you too! Thank you for watching!❤
Remember... Family are who we choose, relatives are chosen for us
Very well said, anyone can be our family too! Thanks for watching, stay well!❤
It’s their problem only .. Not ours...
No worries...Happiness is forever
Great thoughts..Have a blessed day ❤️
Very true, just focus on your own! Have a blessed day and thank you for coming!❤️
Blood is thicker than water. Always pondered on this statement. First I was like... hmm yes, the consistency of blood is more of a plasma than liquid.. then later on in life I understood the meaning that a sister or a mother is more important than a friend. But theeeen, even later in life I understood that some friends can be even more precious that some family members.
I would go to hell with a good friend.. but I would not go to heaven with a bad family member.
Awesome vid Trish!
Well said Ken, its just a that we sometimes they might really bring you down just because they dont like what you are doing! Sometimes friends treat you better! Its different for everyone! Thank you Ken for dropping here, appreciate you always, I've noticed that one of my comments on your video is missing I think It is a bug on UA-cam!
@@TrishLee i have noticed the same thing. Some of my comments have disappeared on other channels. Weird
@@KenJKnight I thought Im the only one and I am really worried about it! It's one of the bugs of UA-cam now.
@@TrishLee yeah. As a programmer I am really surprised to see something like this on a website like this. They might be testing some new autonomous algorithms
"choose to forgive them, simply because you value your happiness and inner peace more than being right."
thank you for that.
those are words Im going to live by!
Yes, forgiveness will give us the peace that we want. Thank you so much, glad this resonated with you! ❤️
Thank you for this video, Trish. There are members of my family that dwell on events that happened in the past and unfortunately never look forward. We are all mostly at peace with each other now and hopefully that will remain. When you stated there is no exact answer that will work with everyone I immediately said to myself, Trish is SO right.
Thank you Matt, so glad this one resonated well! Hoping the same on you, everything will be fine! Take care!❤️
I resonate with this so much, I always talked about this that family can be toxic and can manipulate you to do what is best for them. Being aware of it is important! I had to consistently fight to stand my ground and it took years to come out of that Mindset that Family is everything! Thank you for sharing! PS: I was thinking of making the similar video;)
Great to know it resonated, yes you just need to stand your way or they will just continue to mistreat you for their own good! Yes, will be lovely to watch that!❤️
Love this video, Trish. You're so right in terms of regulating expectations we hold from toxic family members, while also establishing strong boundaries with them! 🙌🏽 🖤
Absolutely, so glad this video resonated with you! Keep safe! ❤️
I value my happiness, inner peace & HEALTH!Thank you for reminding me of my purpose 😊
Yes, value those things that makes you happy and what makes you at peace! Thanks for watching!
Trish! you are GLOWING in your thumbnails. Well done, my friend. Excellent work xoxo
Aww, thank you very much Kiran! Hope you have a lovely week!❤️
Such an important talking Trish, One that is not often addressed. Absolutely wonderful that you would share this insight With the community. I am forwarding this to someone who really needs it. Thank you so much for what you do🥰🙏
You are very much welcome Sue, happy to know that! Gladly share it to someone who might need this, nice to be in help! Thanks! ❤️
Interesting insights and how to engage with family because peace is essential for our well being.
Thank you for sharing 🔥
Yes, peace is very essential! You are so welcome, hope you like it!❤️
*This is something that I struggle with or have struggled with, but now I came to accepting it by making the best out of it*
So happy for you, always make something positive out of every situations! Thanks for watching! ❤️
I'm so thankful my family's is Wonderful
This is SUCH a crucial topic. I appreciate your addressing this and adding nuance to a very difficult topic. It can be so heartbreaking to deal with a toxic family member/situation. Thanks for talking about this.
You are so welcome dear, yes it can be heartbreaking because we really love our family! Thank you too for coming!❤
Your advice is compassionate and wise! I'm subscribing! Thank you! ❤
Glad to hear that! Thank you for watching too!❤
I'm here because my fathers side of the family (not my dad) has judged my poor life choices and talked about me behind my back instead of to my face. They come up with their own conclusions without having all of the facts. I have the majority of my family support but I keep getting hung up on the two people who are negative to me. I was betrayed by these people and still feel it lingering all these years later.
I wasn't innocent in this particular situation but I was also 19, being manipulated negatively and didn't realize I was in an abusive relationship with a particular person until over 5 years later. All my family saw was that I messed up and didn't care why.
I am really sorry to hear about this dear, it’s completely normal to feel hurt and betrayed. Those emotions are valid, so don’t be hard on yourself for feeling that way.
Have you considered having a direct conversation with those family members? I know it might be difficult, but explaining your side of the story and how their actions have affected you could bring some closure. Even if they don’t change their opinions, it might help you feel better. Being manipulated while you are still at such age is terrifying because they control you and you are not aware on it, Im glad that you are over those hardships and free from the relationship as well. Its nice to know that you have the support of your family as well at those times, thats really important. Their positivity can really help balance out the negativity. Maybe spend more time with them or lean on them when you’re feeling down.
Setting boundaries is also crucial. Protect your mental health by limiting interactions with the judgmental relatives. It’s perfectly okay to do that. Remember to focus on your present and future. Letting go of the past can be hard, but try to set personal goals that excite you and give you a sense of purpose. Practicing gratitude can also shift your focus from negativity to positivity. Think about the good things in your life and the people who love you. Positive affirmations can boost your confidence too.
@TrishLee these mistakes happened 10 years ago. And I don't think my personality is liked so that could also apparently be a problem 🤣
@TrishLee I spoke my piece to one of the family members I felt were believing false rumors about me (read previous comments) and although I may never get a response, I spoke up and stood my ground. I feel much better.
Great tips! Good sharing my dear, watching here from United Kingdom 🇬🇧 and thanks for sharing
You are welcome, so happy that you like them! Have a great day ahead! ❤️
Great video. Lots of people face this issue in their family. It is always good to keep a calm mind when speaking to someone who is toxic in the family. Love what you shared about forgiving 👍👍👍
This was a nice topic, just as you said lot of people come through this! Thank you very much for watching! ❤️
TRULY powerful! You are having such a great impact on people! Keep shining your light!!!!!!!!!& leading the way for others to the lights!
Thank you for always appreciating my videos dear, will do! Thank you again!❤
Wonderful tips.. So inspiring my friend.. So beautiful sharing.. 🌹🌹
Thank you for the lovely words, means so much! ❤️
Got your channel playlist playing this week starting now. Will share a few videos, too ~ thumbs up!
Thanks a lot friend, so glad to know! Have a great day!❤️
My dad forgets his HUMBLE beginnings and my mom lacks WISDOM actually all of them at my home....
Sorry to hear about this, there are just toxic members and we cant really choose them we just have to choose how to overcome it and have the love and peace that we deserve! ❤
Reminder set! Cant wait, every time i watch ur videos i gain some unique perspectives
Cant for this one as well, hope you will like it! So happy that you are learning here! Thanks!❤️
@@TrishLee definitely! Gotta appreciate your talented and support
Great video! Deal with difficult family members is a very difficult task but I really like the suggestions you made!
So glad to know that Jonathan, thank you for dropping by! ❤️
Very interesting. Toxic family don't let them top of you. Thanks for sharing sending love 🇦🇺 have a wonderful day and to all god bless
True, dont let them use you or hurt you! Much welcome dear, God bless you!❤️
So powerful! Thanks for sharing Trish! 💙
You are welcome love, thank you for watching!❤️
Very good tips for protest family inner peace and mental well-being. The Love and forgive Is most important. Thanks for sharing.🙏
You are so welcome Serene, so glad you like the video! Have a wonderful day!❤️
Great advice, Trish! Fortunately I haven't had these problems with family members, but I know families that haven't spoken for years and that is so sad.
Thats great that you dont have to deal with them, cause its will burn you out! Thank you for the visit dear, hope you could have some contact with your family members! ❤️
So beautiful work dear!!
Trish wonderful job explaining the topic. I know first hand what you’re addressing.
Thats great to know, thanks a lot for coming Debbie! Have a nice weekend!❤️
@@TrishLee Trish are you on Instagram? I’d love to connect.
Very interesting considerations, thanks for sharing. I really like watching new and interesting video. You have an interesting channel, so I'm staying and watching. Big like, stay connected. Have a good week.
Thank you very much, I appreciate you here! Have a good week as well!❤️
thanks for sharing Trish! great point at the end- so important for forgiveness for your own benefit
You are welcome, so glad you like this one! ❤️
Wonderful tips, i love listening how to protect one's mental wellbeing and inner peace
Yes, it is in important thing we should know how! Thanks for dropping by! ❤️
very important to find the right time to speak to them...this is so packed with wisdom
Yes, so that you could talk properly and avoiding some problems! Glad to know Joy, thank you! ❤️
Family is usually a slippery slope sometimes. I think they mean well but their expression towards us can be off. When I started my YT channel I didn't tell any family because I didn't want my idea shot down, instead I'm just doing what I'm doing with my own vision.
Thats true, just let them be and work towards your goals in your own way, they might not really support you over it and bring you down! Thank you for this response! Keep safe! ❤️
You don't get to choose your family, but you do get to choose how they're allowed to treat you❗
Watch next➳ How I built RESILIENCE against people who try to put me down: ua-cam.com/video/dq2e1pg_DBc/v-deo.html
Excellent work 👍
I'm excited for this dear as I always experience. Waiting here 🤩
Yes, me too! Uploading tomorrow, thanks for the support Jin!❤️
Thanks for the advice and this is helpful when you have a toxic family.. Buti sakin happy and love family lang, walang stress sa family.
You have an awesome family, glad to know friend! Most welcome!❤️
Thank you very much for this. I’m going through it right now and it’s really hard emotionally
Sorry to hear about that, I am wishing you well and I hope thay you could get through this! Hope this video helps in any way too!
Definitely does! I feel less alone@@TrishLee
Great topic, I think one more important thing we need to accept and be mindful of is that as you stated, nobody is perfect, so being mindful that in some situations we are the toxic one.
Well said friend, yes nobody is perfect and all that we could do is be better and always be mindful as to what you are doing! Be aware of what is the situation always! Thank you for watching the video!❤️
This is such an amazing and helpful way of handling toxic family member. Thanks for sharing dear
Happy to hear that it is helpful, much welcome dear! ❤️
Great video Tirsh, thank you for talking about such an unspoken subject. I've struggled with this in the past!
You are welcome girl, glad you came over it! It could really be stressful to have them near us!
Very helpful, all these things make sense if we are dealing with someone who is not also suffering from a mental illness, thank you
Thank you for watching the video! Stay well! ❤️
Omg your natural light is so awesome.And you speak so much truth 👀 yes but hopefully the other family member won't be ignorant to accept what you are saying from your heart .Toxic people hurt people tfs hun
Well said, family should try to understand your points! It could definitely hurt and thats why we need to be far from them! Thanks for watching! ❤️
Very impactful, holding on to the past is not good it can even hurt your health ❤❤love your content
Absolutely, the past is in the past and we should move forward! Thank you Patricia, so glad to hear that! ❤️
In my country, Iran, today is begining of new persian year(Nowruz). I feel alone and upset becuase such a problem that you mentioned. Thanks for good advices, I am going to try them.
I really hope that this video helps! You are much welcome! ♥️
I'm almost 20, just graduated college. I literally locked myself into the living room to protect myself fron all the mental disturbance my parents and their golden child create. I starve like minimum of 24hr to 36hr regularly. I have some books to read and cloths to wear with me in the room, That’s it. I sleep, study, do all the stuff in a single couch. I'm surviving like this for a month now. They don’t let me work or go outside. They don't even provide food 2 times a day. They forget they have another daughter and make me starve all day. They call me to get out of the room in a day or two. When I get out they do give the food and then shout scream while I'm eating. They make me cry while eating and I feel like I was better locked. They put false allegations and then argue. When try to prove my point, I become the bad kid. I can't even get up and go back to the room cause I'm already starving for a day and half. Then swallow the disrespect and life's going like this. There's literally no one I can share my feelings and talk. I sometimes don't talk for days. I'm just grateful I'm not dead or crazy yet.
My dear, I am sincerely sorry to read this. I can understand how challenging it can be to live with toxic family members.
Check out this video I made last week on How I deal with TOXIC family members and become a HAPPIER person | Abusive sibling survivor: ua-cam.com/video/l9xgg6zYm4c/v-deo.html
in this video, I share about my near death experience (several times).
A few things that comes to my mind as I read your message:
1. It seems you either have a phone or a laptop. Can you call the police for protection / help?
You DO NOT deserved to be mistreated!
2. If you can't call the authorities, then ask a friend to help you.
Please take steps to take care of yourself because you only have ONE life. No one deserved to be treated like crap.
Praying for you.
Truly,
Trish
Girl you are so pretty ❤️ making videos like these are so courageous 💜💜💜💜💜
Happy to share and to be in help through my videos, thank you for your appreciation Kiah! ❤️
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absolutely great conversation and important topic, keep sharing Trish
Thank you for coming, will do! ❤️
We can’t choose family members but we can do best for self peace and protection 👍 waiting for this one
Well said, focus on yourself and be happy! Excited for this one as well!❤️
Be kind and respect everyone is best way to handle relationships. Well said. Genuinely very helpful. Thanks 😊
What you're saying works for people who want peace with you. This can't apply to toxic family who gang up against you and only want to hurt you. They don't want to understand and they don't want peace.
"I hear you, and I understand that not all family situations allow for peaceful resolution, especially when it feels like people are actively working against you. In cases like this, protecting your peace may not be about finding understanding with them, but rather about setting boundaries to safeguard your mental and emotional well-being. It’s true that we can’t control how others behave, but we do have control over how much access we allow them to have in our lives. For some, that might mean limiting contact or creating emotional distance, even if they don’t want peace. It’s never easy, but protecting your peace is always worth it." Thanks for watching! Hope you are well!
what to do when someone in need of a psychologist refuses to take professional help and continues the toxic behavior creating hurdles for other family members.
Having professional help is absolutely needed but if you cant force them to do that then all you can do is cut them of and put some distance cause they could affect you too!
Absolutely masterful and insightful session Trish. thanks for sharing such inspiring words ❤️❤️❤️
You are welcome Michael, so glad this video resonated! Stay well~!❤️
It’s hard being around a toxic family member.
You can neither severe ties with them nor run away from them.
But it’s not ok to keep offending feelings of one’s blood,i would say people who are not blood related tend to be much better,for instance my acquaintances and neighbours with whom i have healthy ties if not getting along frequently but our tie is intact even if we meet irregularly.
Unfortunately every family in this universe has that one villain in their family who always try to set fire to their own blood’s happiness and envy that they are leading a peaceful good life.
Very true, there are some family members who would really want to destroy things and broke the relationship within the family, sometimes its better with strrangers! Thanks a lot for watching! ❤
This is really interesting.. Its true there are sometimes toxic FAMILY Member, ibe experience that. But I choose to forgive, Let Go and forgive.
Forgiveness will let you be in peace, glad that came over this problems! Thank you so much for watching Mai! ❤️
Excited and waiting 💫🤟🏽
I appreciate you, thanks a lot!❤️
so true Trish! you've made some great points - I love this topic bc it's so relevant to my life ❤
Thank you Sophia, really nice hearing that from you! My pleasure to share! ❤️
Loved it! Thanks for sharing, Trish.
Thank you love, glad to know! ❤️
My sisters don't put me down by what's said to me, more like what they say to each other about me or by excluding me from everything. Sometimes feels like they want nothing to do with me. I'm just inconveniently there. I'd be there for them but they can even share a picture to help me promote my art. Hell they don't even give so much as a casual glance or a oh that's nice. It hurts, especially when I have done things for them. They just don't want me to be part of the family.
I’m really sorry you’re going through this. Feeling excluded, especially by family, can be deeply painful. It’s understandable that their actions would hurt, especially when you’ve tried to be there for them and they don’t show the same support in return.
You deserve to feel valued and appreciated, not only for your art but for who you are as a person. Family dynamics can be complex, and it might help to express how you feel to them, if you think that could lead to understanding. It’s also important to focus on your own well-being and surround yourself with people who uplift and support you, whether they’re family or chosen family.
Im 26 and moved with my family because of financial hardships, my mother has always been physical and verbal abusive. Though I am in the same situation right now but I will get out of it soon. If I can you all can. Have a lovely day everyone :)
Nothing is permanent, Im sure that there is a beautiful life waiting for you and you will get out from all of the pain and hardships! Always take care there and I am wishing the best for you!
Thank you for bringing up this vulnerable topic. I definitely needed to listen to this. 🙏💙 by the way I love the setting you are in!
I am so happy you like it, thank you for appreciating dear! Some of us might really be in this situation now! Welcome much! ❤️
Another good video topic! Thanks for sharing.
You are so welcome Annie, have a wonderful day ahead! ❤️
Very useful.......
You are about to slove problem of many people
Yes, and I'm glad to be in help! Thank you for watching the video! ❤️
Thanks a lot for such an awesome video Trish, this are so insightful! Yes, we can't choose them but we could choose how they would treat us, be that in mind all the time! We could confront them if both of you are in the right state of mind and the mood is also a setting factor for how the outcome will come! Thank you for sharing! ❤️
Thank you Trinh, you are so right about all of this! Hope you are doing well Trinh! ❤️
I enjoyed ur videos 👍
Happy to see u friend and good luck
Its great, glad to hear you enjoyed this video! Thank you for dropping by! ❤️
This was helpful. Thanks Trish.
Glad to hear that! Thanks!❤
Das beim Frühstücken zu beobachten und was für ein toller Start in den Tag
wir können am besten für selbstfrieden und schutz tun
Self peace is important, glad that you are here and watching the video! Thank you friend! ❤️
wonderful advise as always sister. thank you
You are welcome, glad you like this video Mark! ❤️
Thank you my friend for making this video and this important topic which is quite controversial. I can´t say I share your experience in the same way but I´ve had some disagreements with family members for sure and I therefore recognize that feeling you describe.
Yes, sometimes we just need to approach them properly for this kind of things and make sure you are both in good terms when it comes to family problems! Spread love! Much welcome dear! ❤️
As the first gen z kid in my family I experienced a lot of verbal and physical abuse but I decided to move on ans my mother keeps saying she regrets bringing me up in life and my dad comes home drunk . And I’ve been thinking about self harm lately. I wonder how my parents would react if I die. But nah I’m keeping everything positive.
Im really sorry for all those that happened to you, you dont deserve all of those because you are an amazing person! Everything will be fine as time goes, I really hope that they see the beauty in you and how worthy you are! Stay positive and you will get through it!❤
This is really helpful, most family members can be your bane
Yeah, and we should be careful because they are just near us! So happy to hear that this is helpful! ❤️
Solid advice, thanks for this👍
Thank you, much welcome friend!❤
I hope I could safely apply this to friends and colleagues also. Otherwise I could just wait for that video 😁. Insightful video as usual, Trish....
Hoping for that too friend! Thank you for watching! ❤️
Theres family like that. But choose to be peaceful
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I have been struggling living with my brother. Hes very mentally ill. Hes so angry and blames me and my mother for his unhappiness. Hes emotionally abusive to my mother and I😢 my mom has done everything for him yet he still treats her terribly
I am really sorry to hear that, you dont deserve that dear! Maybe your brother really needs the help of a professional, they can really address his behavior and help him with it! I am hoping for the betterment of you and for your brother dear, always keep well there! Hope my video helps in a any way with you.
Trish I love this video so much! Thank you for sharing your story and your vulnerability. It’s so relatable. This topic itself is very close to my heart and this video is appreciated. Xx
You are welcome my dear, so glad to know that! Appreciate you as well! Keep safe!❤️
Awesome topic my friend 👍
Nice tips 👍
Glad to know that, uploading this soon!❤️
Thanks a lot I'm a 18yr old girl from Pakistan and all my relatives and grandparents keep mentally and physically harassing us but my parents are still willing to live with them in a joint family because of financial issues that they can't afford a separate house on rent. Despite the fact that already they have wasted 5yrs just in conflicts and doing nothing else productive. I have this sense of peace of mind because before coming to Pakistan my parents and I lived in Kuwait for 13yrs and were leading a luxurious and peaceful life but now I grief every second just thinking about my past and suggestions for me anyone?
I am very sorry to hear that it is happening to you, you dont deserve that kind of treatment because what we deserved is to be loved and treated with kind! Those kind of family should be talked to and know what their problem it, you gotta voice out every pain you are having because of them in order for them to understand you! Financial issues really is tough one and theres so much you can do as an 18 yr old, hope your family sees what you are going through! Always take care and wishing best for you! You can go past all of this!
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opinions, good content! I share your thoughts.I always support your wonderful
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Thank you so much for watching this video Jin, hoping the same to you! Have a lovely week! ❤️
Can’t wait for this one!!
Thank you so much Laura, premiering today!❤
Choose to forgive 💜 I love this :)
Absolutely, be the kind one! Thank you for watching ! ❤️
@@TrishLee you're always welcome 💜
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Thanks my dear, premiering now !❤
@@TrishLee what country are you in? I realized that this premiered at 3am where I live in the US. I’ll be watching this AM.
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Thank you so much for dropping by here, have a great week!❤️
I wish that my mum would move on from the past and I know that her happier times are years ago and that's fair enough but when she is constantly repeating about the good times it comes a tad boring.
Thanks for watching Jamie! Its true that we should move on from the past and look forward in the future!
What if,always has a comeback to arguments,violent sometimes also keeps scolding over small things
Sometimes if things always gets back to the root of the problem, thats just means that we arent dealing with it properly and accepting the fact that there are wrongs and problems! But sometimes we gotta prioritize ourselves and cut them if its needed, it is not selfish!
But if your mother is like that what can we do because we have to live with her only as i am 13 yrs old so i cant go any way
We need to talk to them and make them realize the right thing because a mother should love her childrens! You are a child yet had to experience this, I hope that this could help in any way.
Thanku for helping me ❣️
Good advice thanks for sharing
Welcome much friend, glad this one helps! ❤️
Hi, nice sharing😍💕
I have let my controlling father tell me what I can and can't do with my life. 1 example I was supposed to get married to the woman of my dreams at 23, I tell him the News he then goes off on me saying " No son you can't get married, because you're just a short little man who can't fight or defend yourself, so no you can't get married!" Ever since that day I gave up on myself 😔 I put my wants, needs, goals and dreams aside for him! I have no confidence, no self esteem, no self worth or self love. I really need a lot of HELP bad😭😭😭😭
I really hoped that this video helps you in any way! I know what those feelings are, having a family that wont support you and take away your freedom must truly be devastating! I hope that you could find the peace and freedom you are looking for, you are an amazing person and you should do what makes you happy! Dont let others control you! ❤️
@@TrishLee I have tried hun for years! Stupid me I keep giving in 😔