My wife passed away in January 8 2024. This describes how I feel! Thank you so much! My wife was my best friend and lover for 36 years. The grief hurts so much I can’t see past it. I find myself feeling jealous of other couples I see. Half of me is gone, the better half.
@@kathybouschor3450 I am so sorry! I know your loss is different from mine, but I do know you are feeling pain like no one else knows and I’m sorry you are going through this. I have found some comfort by spending more time reading God’s word in the Bible, especially the Psalms.
I know your feelings all too well. It will be three years this August, and the loneliness can be too much, even when you are around others. It is hard.
My sweetheart since I was 18 and after 43 years of marriage, my husband passed. Only 67 years old. We had so many plans. The heartbreak is so great and overwhelming. Thank you for saying everything I have been feeling. It is validating.
I too lost my husband of 45 years two weeks ago very suddenly, he also was 67, weeks had so many plans. I’m speaking up because I’m wondering if you’re still hanging in there? I know it’s not better but does it change a little? My deepest sympathy for your loss sincerely
@@kc8644 Thank you so much for your concern for a stranger. Only those who have been through this type of loss understand. I am coping and can’t believe I’ve lived 10 months without him. But I have to accept he is my past. I am still alive so I have to move forward. Hope you are coping by keeping busy and think to the future. Focusing on the past and your life with him is torture, at least for me. I am sure he would want you to be happy. Thanks again!
@@kc8644I am sorry for your loss. I have been with my husband for 44 years when he passed 6 months ago. He was 68. My heart was shattered and I miss him more every day. We had so much planned together, but it was never meant to be. The first three months were extremely hard as we did everything together. I cried ugly tears every day and end up with a nasty headache. My grief made it so hard for me. I was either sleeping too much or not enough. I lost my appetite and had to force myself to eat. I've lost all motivation and energy. Simple tasks are harder now then they ever been. The last 3 months, I've gone through horrible crying spells out of nowhere. Some days I just feel numb and lost. The tears still come every single day when I least expect it (when I wake up, watching a TV show, listening to any song, brings back all the memories,, but people tell me that it's different for everyone. These last 6 months have felt like a roller coaster with all the stages of grief. Sending heartfelt sympathy as you go through this journey. Take all the time you need to grieve. Many blessings to you. 😪💔
Aside from the grief we all feel, I am shocked by the dismissive attitude of so many. Good people who you thought would understand and reach out to you don’t . They don’t get it! Surely we must be feeling better they think. This is especially painful during the holidays since I do not have family nearby. My heart goes out to all of you.
Society is largely grief illiterate and so doesn’t understand.. My passion is to spread grief education with training days that I organise. I am sorry for your loss and how it can be so isolating when you’re already in the pain of grief… thank you for sharing your thoughts in this online community that understands and hears your grieving heart x sending love
My heart goes out to you mavila 744 my boyfriend of 14 years passed away suddenly in in his sleep. This was about 2 months ago and I never got 1 card from so called friends, with there condolences. 😢 Nobody checks on me to see how I am doing,or gives me any support. I have stage 4 cancer myself. I feel for you love
How absolutely heartbreaking for you to lose your partner after such a long time together.. and now to be facing cancer on your own 💔 Sending you hugs and love 💕 x
@johnmaxim8375 imI.so sorry for the loss of your dear loved one I feel the same way. It's been 10 months since my precious Andrew died suddenly on me. I'll never get over his loss. I dint believe ill ever be happy again.. I'm devastated over his loss. It's so hard to go on.
Grief is so excruciating to live with and so lonely. It's true, you are loved and cherished and the next day all of that love is gone, vanished. I pray for all who are grieving. I pray for love, comfort and rest.
No one can truly understand the devastation of a loss of a spouse until it happens to them, I loss my wife of nearly 34 years on Oct 29th 2023 to cancer, a little over a month ago, you walk around with a numbness and empty feeling longing for a hug or a kiss that you aren't going to get anymore from your soulmate. I pray for all my fellow widowers and widows that God would ease our pain and help heal our broken hearts!
Thanks so much for your kind words of support and comfort for others.. it’s tragic to lose your wife after such a long marriage and sadly you understand how tough and lonely it is. Sending prayers and love 💕 God is close to the broken hearted 🙏 x
Thank you so much for your kind words for others who have lost their other half. These feelings of intensity can only be understood sadly by someone who has experienced the enormity of this grief. Sends prayers and love to you as you navigate Christmas & New year 🙏❤️ X
The world is made for couples. It’s so frustrating to mark the single box- after 35 years together, I’m NOT single, I’m widowed. Not the same thing. I had no choice in the matter. I miss having coffee with him in the morning, him sleeping next to me, having supper every night together, even having arguments. I’ve learned to enjoy some aspects of aloneness because I must. But I also keep a cold beer in the fridge for him. Good video.
I’m the same way as you-after 35 years together/33 married. I became a widow at 56, now I’m 58. I have some happy times, but I’m not the same person I was. I’m still physically in pain 2 years away. I have some of my family with me, and I’m so grateful. But I’m tired. I’m hurting.
You’re so right.. grief is exhausting and painful.. so sorry to hear that you’re understandably missing your husband so badly.. it changes everything. Be gentle on yourself and sending love and comfort to you x 🥰
me too......sharing the journey...yes the world sees us different even friends we have had life history with, especially children. I can't look at photos, it's too painful
Loss changes everything and our relationships .. it’s all those secondary losses that we are not expecting that make it so tough. Sending big love to you x 💕
It will come to pass! It will take time to process and live it, walk it... bravery is needed. I've been a widow for five years now... last month as I was praying and reading my bible the LORD gave me the necessary closure. Blessings 🙏...
Dear lady. I am 85 years old and I lost my wife Gloria, 2015 and I felt everything and emotions you describe and absolute despair, after 52 years of marriage. I wrote a book describing every debating emotion and what happened to me. "Joe and Gloria an Immigrant's Story of Love" in it I begin to describe my life from my birth and what happened to me after the passing of my wife and what I learned and discovered as a result. I assure you, i talk about all the deep misery that you describe. The book is now in every bookstore, Amazon and everywhere. Thank you for the honesty and courage
Thank you for this. My husband has been dead for 5 years and everything has changed for me . i see no future. It is good to know I am not crazy, bad, weak or alone.
I can hear the depth of your pain and loneliness without your husband over these last 5 years… you’re not crazy or alone in your emotions.. you are grieving deeply as you loved deeply x sending love 💕
I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from..?
@@jillmontgomery4856 hi Jill. My husband died almost 5 years ago. I sometimes wonder if I am crazy, by not being able to move on. Yes, I live my life, but I mourn so many things. Our future our plans, our children who miss their Dad, our grandchildren growing up, not knowing him....
Feel the same here ....after my husband passed away 10 years ago. Even went onto single sites , to meet someone to take away the loneliness, but what a disaster!! I have realised that I will die being single. I am now 68 and not long to live , as I have no energy , feel depressed and tired of life .....which effects your whole body. 😢I am tired for the struggle of life and the emptiness!! 😢
When when my husband died I went to a Christian support group called griefshare. It really helped me cope with the loss of my husband. He died in 2003 and I still miss him but I have a strong faith in God and that's what helped me get through it. God is always there to comfort us.
im so sorry about your loss, trust me i completly understand how it feels to lose our love one, my wife passed away 3yrs ago and the pain was unbearable but it get better with time, itd be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?..
My partner really did cherish me. He was so supportive and we were extremely close and affectionate. I don't want to live without him but I have to try for our teenage children. Everything you said is how I feel. Thank you.
I hear the depth of your grief at the loss of your husband.. and the intimacy of your love. Often our grown children think that they’re enough to fill that gap.. they help but our other halves are not replaceable. So tough now parenting on your own too .. sending love and comfort as you navigate this awful path x 🥰
we all must walk through our own grief and it's the most painful emotions in life. It's 5 months this day my husband unexpectedly passed, short of our 59th anniversary. We married young, knew each other as children. Losing him is he most difficult chapter of my life and prayerfully I will learn what is needed from this. My heart to all of you out there who are missing their loved ones. Namaste
59 years is such a lifetime together.. so sorry for your loss and you are right that we all walk out our own grief but we can draw support from sharing this journey ❤️
No one says these grief feelings better than this lady. Are numerous videos on this but every word she utters is ABSOLUTE TRUTH. Nobody knows except unless you go through it. Truth is you’re left alone. Mornings are worst. Can’t thank you enough.
My husband passed away 8 days ago. I'm still in shock, he went to the hospital to have surgery and died within 24 hrs. After the surgery, I was expecting him to come home to feel better, I was going to take care of him. I am so sad, so Lost now. Today I am so sad Please if you could pray for me as I trust in God to go thru this, my husband was my Love, I've known him since grade School, my heart is so Broken, today I feel so Tired. Plez pray for me.😭
Dear Gina .. am upholding your wishes for prayers 🙏 your tragic sudden loss is monumental. Be gentle with your broken heart and know the presence of Jesus Christ with you x
I lost my husband 10 years ago😢I am still alone and devastated and heartbroken 💔 I hate being single and can't smile and laugh ANYMORE!! I met someone a year after him , but a womaniser even destroys you more .....wish I never met him. I have realised that I will be single until the day I die. I am now 67 and not long to live , as I have a tiredness that I can't explain to anybody and no need to live !!! I have two married sons , but they have their own lives.......and I am all alone by myself ......no more purpose 😢😢
Thank you I really learned much from you. After 44 yrs of marriage. The most difficult process I have had to face......but God and His Holy Spirit has really got me through 3 yrs till now....learned such a lot about myself and others and just knowing that God and I are in this together enables me to face every new day with hope and peace and thankfulness..It is still not easy but....trust and hope and faith are powerful and I know I can because He can....I pray for all folk going through loss....you will be ok....❤
There are no words the gut feeling of coming to terms that you will never see the love of your life again in this world is heartbreaking 💔 RIP to the love of my life of 10 years Victoria Ann Nelson ❣️
I lost my husband 21 years ago - we were just 47. We were high school sweethearts and together for 30 years. My heart isn't broken anymore but I do miss him everyday. I miss my friend and miss all the moments we had but am grateful for each and every one. But I'm okay - I've learned to be content, to be happy with myself. Love and light to all of us.
I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from..?..
Thank you so very much for this video... My Husband of fifty one years passed away five weeks ago... I had Kept myself busy trying to prepare for his Memorial celebration that we had two weeks ago... I wanted it to be. The best I could make it as a tribute to my wonderful husband's life... But now that it is over and his Ashes are Scattered in our favorite place in nature, I don't know how to move forward with my days... In. The beginning you keep reassuring people that you're doing okay to spare them from the discomfort of your grief... I guess i've done a very good job at convincing people, Because no one seems to feel the need To check in with me Now... I feel That grief, it's a huge dark cloud that is trying to Burrow into my Soul, And that I will completely crumble if I allow it to get too close... I feel so lost. And the loneliness is beyond anything i've ever endured... I am so very sorry for everyone who is dealing with this as I have read these comments... May we all be given the grace to find some healing and peace❤
im so sorry about your loss, trust me i completly understand how it feels to lose our love one, my wife passed away 3yrs ago and the pain was unbearable but it get better with time, itd be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?..
I lost my girlfriend of 5 years today. I feel robbed of life and our future family we didn’t get to have. I don’t know how to even deal with this process. Nothing feels the same just empty and I’m afraid of sleeping because I know when I wake up she won’t be here. I just hope she visits me in my sleep
Hi Mary .. crying is a relief and natures way of expressing the pain you’re feeling.. tears are liquid prayers .. so sorry you’re going through this. Sending love 🥰 x
My husband passed away last, I was left with the reality that people don’t care about your lose. They move on and expect you to get along with your life. You try to hold on to everything because just can’t understand why God would allow that to happen. The one person who had your back , Love you and care for you. The only one you can go to vent and cry. The person who saw little girl in you. I had to turn on the tv in the tv room and pretend my husband was there watching the news for months. The first of everything without him, l Christmas, birthday, anniversary, valentines with out flowers and card, new year, cooking without someone tasting it to give me his input. Even the dog was having anxiety. I went and got myself cat. Now it’s me, my dog and the cat.
im so sorry about your loss, trust me i completly understand how it feels to lose our love one, my wife passed away 3yrs ago and the pain was unbearable but it get better with time, itd be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?…
I lost my wife 5 months back . Cancer destroyed our marriage of 48 years. I am 74 and I am in agony and deep grief. As you so eloquently said I am half a person.
I feel your sorrow. I to lost my wife of 40 years to cancer 7 months ago. The grief is so hard to explain to anyone who hasn't experienced it . I'll be praying for you. I can't tell you things get better soon as mine is still with me everyday but is a little easier to handle. Les
You mirrored exactly the feelings. I’m already over 5 years out from the sudden loss of my husband at 64 when we were 36 years married. I went to a long time girlfriends daughters wedding this past weekend and all those moments of grief and loneliness came back with everybody dancing and having a great time. I had to leave as I didn’t want to bring anybody else down. My girlfriend asked me why I’ve changed and she has known me for all my life even before my husband. You know I thought I was completely over this and able to just go on as the half person I am without my husband. I’m saddened by the depth and time this is taking to process. When my husband died that hemorrhage you feel being cut off at the knees with no anesthesia came rushing back when I saw that I will never have that happy life I had again. Anyway I just wanted to share as I lie in my bed now with my doggy beside me. You my friend have described everything I’ve felt for now over 5 years. You’re an amazing writer able to capture with the written word the emotions behind the mask we all wear every day.
Thank you for your kind words of encouragement.. I really felt for you at a family wedding as my daughter’s wedding nearly finished me off as I put on a brave face all day but sobbed all night. Five years is still early grief after a long marriage.. sending love and comfort x 🥰
@@lifelosshope Understanding of you to say five years is still early grief. I had people telling me to go out and start dating the day after the funeral.
Wonderful to share n know others care as to what we go through on this journey without our partners n there are no words that would complete us anymore. It’s just my trust n faith in God that has brought me out this one year when I lost David so suddenly in 24 hrs. He was my rock n my cheerleader. It’s even harder when you were the best of friends through life itself. The 34 yrs just went so fast n it’s the memories I cherish. He’s now my spiritual angel n is with me still n this until we meet yonder on that beautiful shore where all our loved ones rest in peace. May the almighty God strengthen us all who grieve our losses and thk u for sharing it’s been soulful. God bless you ❤️
You have truly captured exactly how I am feeling. I lost my husband 3 months ago tomorrow. We were together for over 51 years and married almost 47 years. We grew up together. The last 22 years we were together 24/7 as he had retired early due to a work injury. We went everywhere together. No one really gets it. Listening to you I realize that you know exactly how I feel. Thank you for this lovely video. I feel better just hearing your words. God bless.❤
I know exactly how you feel. I lost my husband of 55 years 3 months on Tuesday. He fell ill with renal failure at 24yrs, 8:35 15 months after we were married. After nine months of dialysis he was given a transplant which was a miracle and although he had many hospital visits and illnesses over the years we were given these extra years together. It will never be the same without our husbands but I feel he would want me to go on each day and I try hard to. As he wasnt able to work all these years I think that makes it harder as we didn't have a life like normal couples and although I worked part time we were always together like you and your husband. Their presence will always be felt and I pray that we both can feel stronger each day and remember the great love we shared with them.
@@theastewart6721 Yes it is hard but we can get through it taking each day at a time. Today has been a hard one for me but I have been out cutting grass etc and although I had to do it all last year as well as nursing him it seems so much harder this time. I suppose I feel more tired and I start to cry sometimes out there for no reason. The robin comes down beside me and we used to enjoy all these things together . I had to tell myself I should be thankful I have some energy to do things even though my hands are painful I just keep going. You hold onto all the good memories and wrap his arms round you in your mind. I do that with Martin and feel him near me when I feel lost. I hope you and I can eventually feel more peace. May the good Lord bless you
@@evelynnotman5070 Thank you so much. All I seem to do is cry, especially on the weekends. My kids are all too busy so I’m alone so much. I’ve gotten involved in some knitting and crochet groups at the local senior center and library so that helps. And I still work part time but I just feel so empty. I’m going to find a counselor. I have a great group on Sundays that is just for widows and widowers. It’s been great so far and something to look forward to. May the Lord bless you as well.❤️🙏🙏❤️
@@theastewart6721 I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from..?.
My wife died 30 days ago, we met in 1975 she was 15 and I was 13 years old, she was my everything, I can't express how much your words help today. Bless you!
I just came across this video and I finally feel like there is someone who understands how I feel. My husband passed away 8 months ago and I feel so totally lost. I sit in the house day after day knowing I need to get up and go out. I know I have to push forward but I feel like I am in some kind of limbo. I don’t know what my life is supposed to look like now. I hate being alone… no one to kiss good night, no one to say good morning to, no one to talk to you as I sit at the dinner table alone. Logically, I know that at some point things will get better, and my life will change and evolve. I don’t feel like my friends or my adult children have any clue as to how I feel and what I’m going through. Never expected to be a widow at 65 years old. Can’t imagine by myself for the rest of my life. Thank you for this video. At least I know there is someone out there that understands.
Just want you to know you are not alone. There are so many of us broken hurted. There is no where to run . Even memories hurts. But be strong. Help is not on the way but time they say is a good healer. Let's be patient . One day we can smile again.
I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from..?
@@wendywalkley8800 im so sorry about your loss, trust me i completly understand how it feels to lose our love one, my wife passed away 3yrs ago and the pain was unbearable but it get better with time, itd be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?..
I am dreading the 28th of March which would have been our 60th wedding anniversary. My husband died lOctober 2023 60 years almost to the day that we first met. The mass of administration kept me busy so that I coped with Christmas but now things have calmed down I feel the lonliness and grief more acutely than ever. It is good to have found this site and know there are others feeling the same.
That’s heartbreaking to hear of the loss of your beloved husband.. 60 years is a lifetime together.. your grief is very raw and recent. It hits hard in a new year and on the anniversary’s.. sending love to you x
im so sorry about your loss, trust me i completly understand how it feels to lose our love one, my wife passed away 3yrs ago and the pain was unbearable but it get better with time, itd be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?..
You are the first to express just how I feel having recently lost my husband and best friend. I no longer feel safe/noticed/cared for - Thank you for making me feel understood ❤️
im so sorry about your loss, trust me i completly understand how it feels to lose our love one, my wife passed away 3yrs ago and the pain was unbearable but it get better with time, itd be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?…
My husband passed almost 3 years ago at 61 years old. This video says it all. The lonely feeling is so deep. Smiling feels painful at times… listening to all the women at work talking about their plans for the weekend or holiday… their vacations and anniversary plans… so hard. My life is changed forever… but I’m grateful for God’s promise to never leave or forsake me. I will trust His plans for my remaining years alone.
I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from..?
My husband of 25 years died suddenly and I found him. He was the most athletic in shape person I know. Ate healthy, constantly moving, no body fat, lifted weights for over 35 years. We were at a point where we were in good financial shape and looking towards a fun future. I was 59, he was 66. My entire life changed one year ago when he passed away. I’m left with so much responsibility with our home and I didn’t even have time to grieve in the beginning. A year later it’s gotten slightly easier but I feel like I have a huge hole inside and I hate being alone. People say the most ridiculous things, he’s right there with you, know he’s watching out for you, have favorite drink and meal to feel connected to him. I withdraw more and more from people or don’t answer them back.
My goodness Carol Ann .. this is so heartbreaking for you. The shock of the loss of him and your future which looked so bright is massive. Sending you love and comfort as you navigate this tough grief x 💕
im so sorry about your loss, trust me i completly understand how it feels to lose our love one, my wife passed away 3yrs ago and the pain was unbearable but it get better with time, itd be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?.
Thank you. This video describes everything I feel and am going through. I have lost a parent and a brother prior but that cannot compare to the loss of my beautiful wife of 40 years this past March. July would have been our 41st anniversary. My children grieve their mother but don’t understand why, they believe, I am not trying to move on to heal. They still have their lives to get on with but it feels like my heart was torn apart overnight.
Hello. What wise words. When my husband of 50 years passed 12 years ago I thought my life was over too. But, not so. It took time, good friends and a busy life to get me back on track to realizing and agreeing that life does go on . Memories keep the relationship going in a different way. I still miss him terribly and think of him everyday but am grateful I am still here to literally..smell the flowers. Keep going ..it does get better in a different way❤️
im so sorry about your loss, trust me i completly understand how it feels to lose our love one, my wife passed away 3yrs ago and the pain was unbearable but it get better with time, itd be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?
Wow, so accurately put. Grieving of the past and the future. Losing the person you love, the person that was your home is an amputation. The feeling is exhausting. The nights are the worst once everyone is settled in with their own families...
thank you ,your description of losing a spouse perfectly put, i thought something wrong with me,, why no one call me? ,except for my children of course ,,but our common friends? now i know ,thank you.
It can seem like the world doesn’t acknowledge us in grief and it’s often sadly our closest friends that can no longer deal with seeing us .. so sorry for your loss ❤️
Everything you said is so true. When you truly love your spouse and they are just gone, gone forever the pain, and profound sadness you feel is unbearable. I hope I can get through this. 😢
This is me right now.Every single word.Instead of fighting grief I have surrendered to it ,to let it take its coarse.I will never get over the incredible loss ,I will get through it.Prayers to all in comments.Bless Up!!!!
This is spot on. I lost my love and best friend July 1 2024. To brain cancer . And nobody can understand yes memory of our life makes me happy but the pain of loosing the best part of my whole world is close to debilitating at times😢
Thank you for this video. I can relate to everything you have said. It is just over a year since I lost my Darling husband of 30 years. We did not have children so now I am truly on my own, except for my dog and my parrot. I am so utterly broken and completely changed. I no longer recognise myself and feel stuck in a long dark tunnel with no hint of light. I pray that God will one day take this horrific pain away so that I can just remember the happiness that we shared.
im so sorry about your loss, trust me i completly understand how it feels to lose our love one, my wife passed away 3yrs ago and the pain was unbearable but it get better with time, itd be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?..
Your insights are so profound! What else can I say? Tears were falling as I listened. Thanks so much for sharing. My wife of 51yrs has been gone now for 16 months. She was the ground I stood on...
Your comment touched me greatly.. 51 years together with your wife is a lifelong love ❤️ so heartbreaking for you. Sending love and comfort as you navigate this year x
ESchmitt Thank you for articulating so well what I am dealing with. When we got together 12 years ago, I knew that I would outlive her and that was the way that it had to be. Little did I know how hard it would be. Had no clue. By far the hardest thing ever.
12 years is a long time together and somehow even when we know death is coming.. nothing prepares us for the shocking reality and pain. So sorry for your loss and sending love 💕 x
Everything you have said here could not have been explained better. I feel so incredibly lonely. I lost my partner of 12 years in March 2024. He was only 47 years old. Everyone has moved on in life and I’m still trying to navigate my grief journey. The moments when a wave hits me so hard it brings me to my knees and I’m crying so hard I don’t even recognize who this person inside me is. Nobody understands or gets it. People want to talk about only happy things. They will listen but then I feel the “here we go again with this grief talk” feeling. This journey is unfortunately something I have to go on by myself.
Lost my sweet Chuck after 15 years on march 30 ,2024 . I agree it is so devastating! Even though I know I too will leave this earth and people will grieve me BUT knowing one day ……. We will see Jesus and our the love of our lives
@Rosetta my mom lost her Chuck March 29th, she is destroyed, I'm trying to help her. My mom is 82 and her widows fog and her mobility has become so debilitating! She is suffering, we have walked her through everything up to this point and hope to help her renew and rebuild the life that she still has!
@@chinkids2762I know your mom is suffering. It’s the most unbearable pain . You keep wanting to wake up and find out it was all just a bad dream and at each passing day you know the chance of that happening is not going to happen one thing that this has taught me is to have more compassion for people that lose their loved ones even when we know they’re in heaven waiting on us it’s a grief that can’t be described! Especially when you lose your soulmate . I will be praying for you and your mother.
My wife passed two years ago. It seems like it was just yesterday. I feel everything you have described in this video and maybe a little more. No one really seems to understand. For them it’s over, but for me it persists every day. Maybe one day I’ll understand. Until then, I’m trusting my Lord for peace, comfort, and healing.
May the Lord comfort you in your grief Mike .. it’s very different for you to cope with every moment of every day than it is for others.. be gentle on your heart ❤️ x
im so sorry about your loss, trust me i completly understand how it feels to lose our love one, my wife passed away 3yrs ago and the pain was unbearable but it get better with time, itd be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?..
Everything you said (other than the adult children part) absolutely hit the nail on the head about my situation. My wife died September 3,2024 and it’s the hardest thing I ever had to go through in my life. She was only 33 and I’m 34, we never even had a chance to even become grey. I feel so lost and hopeless. She was the only person who got me and now I am alone.
I lost my husband of 37 years on 3/5/24 unexpectedly. This is exactly how I feel. I feel numb most of the time. I still can't believe he is gone. We were planning our retirement future together as he would have been 60 this year. It seems so unfair. I see everyone moving on with their lives like nothing happened. So many happy couples going on vacations together and living life as I sit here and can't think of living without him. Sometimes the grief is so hard I feel like I can't breathe.
It’s such a big painful void after a long marriage and the lost future ahead together.. seeing other couples is a agonising reminder of your loss and may make you feel jealous and angry .. that’s not being mean .. it’s natural. Be gentle on your wounded heart and sending love ❤️ x
im so sorry about your loss, trust me i completly understand how it feels to lose our love one, my wife passed away 3yrs ago and the pain was unbearable but it get better with time, itd be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?..
Thank you so much for this…today is the second anniversary of my husband’s passing. We were together for thirty years and the best of friends and lovers-he passed on this day in 2015. I have serious health issues, and had to move across America to sleep on my sister’s couch.
im so sorry about your loss, trust me i completly understand how it feels to lose our love one, my wife passed away 3yrs ago and the pain was unbearable but it get better with time, itd be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?..
I lost my wife Karyn from ovarian cancer last November 2023 I’m going through everything you mentioned and I’m holding her pillow crying sometimes thank you for the emotional video takes also courage to talk about it 🙏
Thank you for this insightful and heartfelt video; it really spoke to me because it is exactly how I am feeling. My husband of 40 years passed away on Feb. 3, 2024 and his Memorial Service was yesterday and it was sad. It beautiful. It was 3 weeks from the time he went to ER until his death at 72….❤
im so sorry about your loss, trust me i completly understand how it feels to lose our love one, my wife passed away 3yrs ago and the pain was unbearable but it get better with time, itd be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?..
Lost my hubby of 34 years a month ago. The evenings and nights are the hardest for me. Trying to find my new identity is so hard. I feel so incomplete.
im so sorry about your loss, trust me i completly understand how it feels to lose our love one, my wife passed away 3yrs ago and the pain was unbearable but it get better with time, itd be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?…
I thought that after five years I would have. Accepted the loss of my dear husband. I was wrong! The heartbreak still stays with me each and every day. Times go by and I sob for losing his companionship and every day spending with him. I understand everything you are saying. The cries come without knowing. It is just hell.
im so sorry about your loss, trust me i completly understand how it feels to lose our love one, my wife passed away 3yrs ago and the pain was unbearable but it get better with time, itd be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?..
I couldn’t have described it any better….I lost my husband 4 years ago and life will never be the same…there is an inner sadness each day inside me, every day from the day he passed away ….life is a rollercoaster up one day down the next…..people if they hear you laugh one day they believe that all is ok and you are over your grief, how little they know how you truly feel…each day I do my best for myself to give myself inner peace, prayer for me has helped me a lot…I take a day at a time…it’s OK to be OK and it is OK to have a bad day and not be OK.god bless you all🙏❤️👍
You’re so right Eileen.. a roller coaster of grief is tough to navigate.. as you say on a bright day people assume that’s it you’re ok now.. we need more grief education in society . May you be comforted and sending love x
I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from..?
Thank you for voicing and echoing every bit of my grief and its pain . having so much pain but being treated as I'm invisible amplifiesevery single bit of this cruel pain. So I thank you for voicing and acknowledging the pain for what it is and how it dominates ones world. To fight against the pain is exhausting and somehow makes the briefing more intense . the more its spoken of it rases
So heartbreaking to hear of your loss .. it’s exhausting and lonely. Thanks for sharing .. your pain matters and we need not to journey alone . Sending love and prayers 🙏❤️
@@lifelosshope thank you for your reply xxx it means a lot to be acknowledged for the pain one is going through each day. To find myself in a world that is alien is frightening and lonely. I am listening to your videos and am so relieved to hear the harsh truth spoken. God bless you and protect you each day xxx
I hear your pain .. it’s like fear and anxiety being in an alien world going through the motions when grieving. Where are you watching from ? There’s my page on Facebook too with more support for the journey and opportunities to connect with you and others. Hope and light I will carry for you until you can see your way through. Prayers and love ❤️ x
@@lifelosshope again thank you for your caring and thoughtfulness . In the eighteen months of grieving , you are the only person who has reached out acknowledging my pain , my aching numbess Thank you. Each day, I do try to shake off the heaviness, and I have just started to self care in as much as I now try to eat nutritious food once a day. I also , instead of fighting against exhaustion, am accepting my body, brain and soul need that rest at the present time. I am living in Nottinghamshire England. I will find you on Facebook -:) . God bless xxx stay safe xxx
Hi again.. I am in West Sussex and happy to video call if you want any more support. Great you’re taking steps to self care and replenish your depleted capacity.. maybe watch the videos on Early grief days and self care. Reach out to others in a bereavement group or church community as often it’s about imitating what you need. Sadly, society is grief illiterate but we can start to educate others by speaking out & saying what we need… here for you 🙏❤️ X
im so sorry about your loss, trust me i completly understand how it feels to lose our love one, my wife passed away 3yrs ago and the pain was unbearable but it get better with time, itd be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?..
Yes, my wonderful wife of 35 years Sandy, suddenly and unexpectedly in Feb 22. That is when my life, as I knew it, ended. Trying to navigate this new dark, unfamiliar, frightening path, hoping it leads to some light.
Sorry to hear about your wife’s sudden death.. that’s heartbreaking after so many years together. As you say the devastating path is tough .. sending you love 💕 thanks for sharing .. x
You have said it all. I have not heard anyone say it ALL the way you have here. It’s unbearable. Thank you for sharing your pain. I’m so sorry you must feel it and I’m sorry for me too. 🍃🌸🍃
My beloved husband and best friend - in my heart and my life since my teens- the one person who loved me unconditionally because I am me- died two months ago. I cannot get my head round it at all. Time doesn’t ease the pain - each passing day re affirms my loss- and confirms he has gone forever and I will never see him again. I will miss him forever. Not interested in finding anyone else. Just wish I could make that clear to married ‘friends’ who don’t like lone women near their husbands and suddenly stop inviting you to things that have been going on for years. Unbelievable behaviour. Why would I be interested in their husbands - the same men that I have known for decades!! ??? Pathetic. Trying to make new contacts and acquaintances with people who understand. Can’t use the word friend anymore.
im so sorry about your loss, trust me i completly understand how it feels to lose our love one, my wife passed away 3yrs ago and the pain was unbearable but it get better with time, itd be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?..
My beautiful , loving wife Becca of 23 yrs. Passed away 4 yrs ago 2021. Everyone don't understand why I've secluded myself but when I go out I see married couples and everyone's happy and I feel like I'm the only one without a partner. Never be the same again
I lost my husband 31 days back..i m 30..he was 30..he was doctor..we Don't have kid..he committed suicide suffering from depression.. We were married for 1yr 5 months and was in relationship for 9 years.. Each day is more challenging now..i can't live without him..i am craving for his touch for his presence.. My entire world is shattered..
It's been three weeks since my beloved husband passed away. My heart is crushed. I feel empty and lost. Everything you said to true. I can't express how much I miss him. I don't even know how to move forward. We planned on growing old together with lots of adventures on the way. And now, I don't even know where to turn or even if I want too. 💔
I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from..?
Thank you so much for your kind words.. you can follow lifelosshope on Facebook too and there are lots of other videos on UA-cam.. sorry for your loss ❤️
You did very well with this talk.I had a beautiful marriage andI am grateful for that,but even after 13 years I miss him daily.I remember couples seemed so smug in their coupleness.I hated walking into a function on my own.Itried to socialise,but eventually I stopped going to social occasions with couples I now only socialise with other widows.I lost friends,too.They were married and now I was alone.They did not know how to handle this.Another best fried said I had had it so good,why was I complaining now!you could probably guess that she was a divorcee.We are not friends now.
im so sorry about your loss, trust me i completly understand how it feels to lose our love one, my wife passed away 3yrs ago and the pain was unbearable but it get better with time, itd be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?
Thank you. I lost my husband of 61 years 8 weeks ago. I haven't been able to express my grief to others as well as you have. I've ask my daughters to watch this so they could get a better view 0f exactly how I feel. Thank you.
im so sorry about your loss, trust me i completly understand how it feels to lose our love one, my wife passed away 3yrs ago and the pain was unbearable but it get better with time, itd be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?..
Thank you I lost my husband 31 days ago, after 52 years of marriage I was 21 then, every single word you say is what I have been going through and more My daughters have been very helpful, but I don’t want to take away their family time , they are also grieving, I love them so much they miss their father. Am just hoping and praying that with time it will get easier 🙏. Thank you You said just what I feel 🥲💔
I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from..?
im so sorry about your loss, trust me i completly understand how it feels to lose our love one, my wife passed away 3yrs ago and the pain was unbearable but it get better with time, itd be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?..
Thankyou for sharing much of how I feel….never thought of myself as a “widower” before! Thought I was the only one that hugs my wives perfume scented pillow!
I’m glad I came across this channel. My pain feels unbearable at the moment after losing my wife just back in April this year. She was 15 years younger than me, but we shared our passion of the great outdoors, touring on our motorbike. I’ve decided to record my grief journey and made my own UA-cam channel, attempting to fulfill our bucket list of places we wanted to visit, or trips we wanted to take. Riding my motorbike and following our originally planned list, is a tool that is helping me focus. I also hope to help others suffering in the same way. Your words resonate with such accuracy, I’ve no idea how to go forward…..I’m hoping she’ll give me the strength to continue 😢
this all resonates except I don't want someone to tell me that I'm "going to be ok"... when people say that to me it feels like they just don't get the level of sadness and loss I've experienced... it will never be ok.
You’re right it will never be ok and your life is changed. There’s no way your loss will ever be ok .. hope you will experience better moments eventually. Sending love and comfort. X 💕
This video is so true to all the feelings that I’ve had in the last 2 and a half months since I lost my darling wife due to cancer , it was so sudden and within 5 weeks . I feel I didn’t have enough time to say goodbye and I miss her so much , like you say the emptiness of a lonely house, the future plans, touch, smile , kiss from your loved one , now all gone , I cried buckets watching this .
Like many on here, I’m grieving too. I lost her suddenly on November 10th, 2024 after almost 41 years of marriage. Her name was Kathy. I miss her terribly. The pain is unbearable. But I thank you for this and I’m looking for that glimmer of hope you mention. I’m hoping and praying I find it.
Wow…very powerful and so perfectly expressed in words that made me sob the entire time that you were describing my wife and I. Cancer stole her from me three months ago at 52 years old. Her birthday and anniversary is this month…gonna be rough. Yeah I stay up late almost every night and dread some mornings because I know the reality of loneliness Ill be facing once I wake up again. Im coping by staying as busy as possible but it’s short lived once I enter that lonely house again. Social gatherings are very hard to deal with especially my wife’s coworkers and friend’s Daughter’s wedding. She was so looking foreword for me to come but I just couldn’t do it as all my Wife’s coworkers would be there and they were all so devastated when she passed. I just couldn’t handle going there alone and feeling so empty and vulnerable. I didnt want to ruin everyone’s mood when they saw my face. All it would take is one of those ladies to tear up and I would be toast. The hardest thing for me are all of my friends who no longer call Me to go see our favorite band playing or other things my wife and I used to do with them but now it seems like I’m a pariah and they won’t even return my text or calls. I don’t understand it. But I do have one good friend with similar interest and we work on a lot of projects together. My biggest struggle right now is trying to figure out what my purpose is in this life as I try to rediscover myself and my greatest fear is losing the connection I have with her and I don’t think I’ll ever lose that because I know I’ll see her again .
Thank you for saying things that I never got to share. It touched my heart and made me cry to know that someone out there knows the deepest darkest thoughts and feelings!! Ive been divorced for 3 years after 20 years of marriage, and Im just now starting to feel like I can make it on my own....well, most days.
Lost my husband 7 years ago after 32 years. I was 68 and he was 79. We had a magical time. Fortunately I was still working part time and did so til 72. Lots of friends and relatives helped. His adult children and grandchildren helped and still help. What I miss the most is reaching for his hand during the night or him reaching for mine. I miss the embrace and kiss during communion. I miss having a glass of wine outside enjoying our garden. I miss the simple things. Have made new friends, even have someone to dance with at our club. I have enough money to enjoy things, so many do not. Today is a “good” day. Still think of him. A minute from now I could hear a sound, a word, a song, a smell, anything and become melancholic. However, we must go on.
im so sorry about your loss, trust me i completly understand how it feels to lose our love one, my wife passed away 3yrs ago and the pain was unbearable but it get better with time, itd be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?..
This video just showed up on a tough day, bringing me hope for the future, when I was feeling bleak. 1 year and 9 months and I am still going through all of these feelings and more. Thank you for sharing your grief journey to help me and others who are grieving now and will always be. We can be there for each other.
I lost my husband to cancer 2 yrs back . We were 6 months short of 25 yrs of our marriage anniversary. My friends and families were checking on me in the 1st year of my grief but it seems now everyone has moved on with their life. They don't talk about him or want to bring his name in our conversation maybe they don't want to bring in the pain for me. But the grief and pain is there and it does not go away especially during festivals and holidays when you feel so lonely and alone . 😢
im so sorry about your loss, trust me i completly understand how it feels to lose our love one, my wife passed away 3yrs ago and the pain was unbearable but it get better with time, itd be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?..
You are so on point….I lost my wife of 32 years a month ago……one month later my mother died….I can’t thank you enough for your wonderful video……it has truly blessed me
That’s a massive loss for you with your wife and mother .. how tragic. I pray you find support that helps you navigate this tragic situation. Sending love and prayers. I’m glad this video blessed you.. thank you for sharing your thoughts 🥰x
I had 32 years with my David before he passed. I had a routine because of him, but that routine went away along with him. One very hard thing was to celebrate my daughter's wedding without him. So many people did their best to make it a happy day, but after the day was done, I went home and cried for an hour. An acquaintance of his once said her husband was gone for a year, taking care of his father, so she knew what I was experiencing. I just smiled and walked away. I wanted to scream, "But your husband is next to you! My husband is NEVER coming back!" Then, I was visiting a coworker, and I told him what happened. He simply said, "I can't imagine what that was like." That was the best thing anyone could have said. I think the only thing that has made life a little easier is my good neighbors, my understanding my daughter, and the very large parish of friends I've made. These friends, along with their precious little children, have cheered up my life so I can face another week. My husband passed 6 years ago. My only advice is what a lady told me, "It gets a little easier every day, but it never completely goes away."
10 weeks ago my mom lost her soul mate at the age of 82, she is devastated, they were married 15 years. The only stable unconditional loving relationship she's ever known. It's heartbreaking and panic inducing!
My beautiful Hazel died after illness at 61 years of age, on Xmas Eve, two weeks ago. It hurts to have lost her love and warmth after all our years together. I've known her for 44 years and loved her for 43 of them. She's left me a legacy of 6 children and 12 grandchildren, as well as all those memories with her
Im nearly 4 years a widow and i feel everything you said is how i feel even now. Im so angry with the universe. This horrible rare disease that took my husband of 39 years so randomly and quickly was cruel. I feel I failed to protect him even though no one survives Sporadic CJD I still feel I let him down because I couldnt stop him from dying and when i took him into hospital neither of us knew he was never coming home again.
I lost my wife 2 years ago to MS. I cared for her for 26 years and that had a huge impact on my own health. I had a heart attack and pneumonia simply from the pressure of being her carer for so long. We were married 51 years. She wasn't able to ambulate (stand or walk) for the last 15 years. Hoist, wheelchair. powerdrive etc. I live alone now in the same disabled home. My kids aren't far away but I rarely see them. But I'm doing OK. There is a huge relief I am no longer caring for her. I don't feel guilty about that. I am keeping well, walk about 11,000 steps a day and go on retirees bus trips. I almost feel guilty I am not caring for her. But occasionally I take a sprig of rosemary for remembrance from a park and throw it in the bay near where as a family we spread her ashes at her request. But I don't do that as often now. I am trying hard to move on but I will never marry a woman again. I am happy being single.
It's not easy. The lonely days even though you are busy. The special day that comes and goes.i lost my husband 10 years ago and it still hurts. I'm busy, I work I have friends but no one knows till they are in the same circumstance the pain you feel. God bless and believe, have faith.
My Husband passed a week ago, suddenly and quickly. No one can believe it, he was so healthy and took impeccable care of himself, he was only 62 and we had SO many plans and dreams to look forward to. The Coroner could not find the cause and we are hoping to find an answer soon from further testing but it won't bring him back. Thank you for this video, the grief and disbelief is beyond measure
Sharon .. thank you for sharing this most tragic heartbreaking news of your husband.. it’s shocking especially when he was fit . I pray you find some answers and for comfort x so sorry 💕
im so sorry about your loss, trust me i completly understand how it feels to lose our love one, my wife passed away 3yrs ago and the pain was unbearable but it get better with time, itd be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?..
im so sorry about your loss, trust me i completly understand how it feels to lose our love one, my wife passed away 3yrs ago and the pain was unbearable but it get better with time, itd be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?.,.
Lost my husband last November 2024.. He was only 45 😢 complications from vehicular accident.. I am always Praying to be healed... I feel so lonely and lost.. And We have 3 children...thank you for sharing this video...
im so sorry about your loss, trust me i completly understand how it feels to lose our love one, my wife passed away 3yrs ago and the pain was unbearable but it get better with time, itd be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?…
Hello, thanks for making this video and the others on your channel. I lost my heavenly wife Billie on April 14, 2024 to breast cancer. We were together 40 years - the pain and loss has been the biggest challenge ever in my life.
My wife passed away in January 8 2024. This describes how I feel! Thank you so much! My wife was my best friend and lover for 36 years. The grief hurts so much I can’t see past it. I find myself feeling jealous of other couples I see. Half of me is gone, the better half.
I can well relate. I lost my husband of 54 years on January 5, 2024. It is a lonely road so far.
@@kathybouschor3450 I am so sorry! I know your loss is different from mine, but I do know you are feeling pain like no one else knows and I’m sorry you are going through this. I have found some comfort by spending more time reading God’s word in the Bible, especially the Psalms.
I know your feelings all too well. It will be three years this August, and the loneliness can be too much, even when you are around others. It is hard.
I lost my love on January 12 , 2024, I still cannot feel it’s real. Other things pile on top. It still real.
So very sorry. I know just how you must feel.
My sweetheart since I was 18 and after 43 years of marriage, my husband passed. Only 67 years old. We had so many plans. The heartbreak is so great and overwhelming. Thank you for saying everything I have been feeling. It is validating.
Very sorry for your tragic loss. Sending love and comfort x 🥰
I too lost my husband of 45 years two weeks ago very suddenly, he also was 67, weeks had so many plans.
I’m speaking up because I’m wondering if you’re still hanging in there? I know it’s not better but does it change a little? My deepest sympathy for your loss sincerely
@@kc8644 Thank you so much for your concern for a stranger. Only those who have been through this type of loss understand. I am coping and can’t believe I’ve lived 10 months without him. But I have to accept he is my past. I am still alive so I have to move forward. Hope you are coping by keeping busy and think to the future. Focusing on the past and your life with him is torture, at least for me. I am sure he would want you to be happy. Thanks again!
@@kc8644I am sorry for your loss. I have been with my husband for 44 years when he passed 6 months ago. He was 68. My heart was shattered and I miss him more every day. We had so much planned together, but it was never meant to be. The first three months were extremely hard as we did everything together. I cried ugly tears every day and end up with a nasty headache. My grief made it so hard for me. I was either sleeping too much or not enough. I lost my appetite and had to force myself to eat. I've lost all motivation and energy. Simple tasks are harder now then they ever been. The last 3 months, I've gone through horrible crying spells out of nowhere. Some days I just feel numb and lost. The tears still come every single day when I least expect it (when I wake up, watching a TV show, listening to any song, brings back all the memories,, but people tell me that it's different for everyone. These last 6 months have felt like a roller coaster with all the stages of grief. Sending heartfelt sympathy as you go through this journey. Take all the time you need to grieve. Many blessings to you. 😪💔
@@michelerivera3055 hi. How are you doing? I also lost my husband almost 5 years ago. Married for 34 years. Devaststing!
Aside from the grief we all feel, I am shocked by the dismissive attitude of so many. Good people who you thought would understand and reach out to you don’t . They don’t get it! Surely we must be feeling better they think. This is especially painful during the holidays since I do not have family nearby. My heart goes out to all of you.
Society is largely grief illiterate and so doesn’t understand.. My passion is to spread grief education with training days that I organise. I am sorry for your loss and how it can be so isolating when you’re already in the pain of grief… thank you for sharing your thoughts in this online community that understands and hears your grieving heart x sending love
Thank you and same for you as well.
My heart goes out to you mavila 744 my boyfriend of 14 years passed away suddenly in in his sleep. This was about 2 months ago and I never got 1 card from so called friends, with there condolences. 😢 Nobody checks on me to see how I am doing,or gives me any support. I have stage 4 cancer myself. I feel for you love
@@dinamiller9744 I am so sorry.!
How absolutely heartbreaking for you to lose your partner after such a long time together.. and now to be facing cancer on your own 💔
Sending you hugs and love 💕 x
There are no words that can adequately describe the loss of my Jean. She was my world and my grief will last forever
So sorry John .. I know Jean was so loved by you ❤️
Thank you for your kind words.
When someone you love dies there is no such thing as moving on
3 years now...trust you are doing better.....
@johnmaxim8375 imI.so sorry for the loss of your dear loved one
I feel the same way. It's been 10 months since my precious Andrew died suddenly on me. I'll never get over his loss. I dint believe ill ever be happy again.. I'm devastated over his loss. It's so hard to go on.
Grief is so excruciating to live with and so lonely.
It's true, you are loved and cherished and the next day all of that love is gone, vanished.
I pray for all who are grieving. I pray for love, comfort and rest.
It really is so tough and painful.. sending prayers and love 💕 x
The loss of my husband has been life shattering..everything you said is exactly how I feel.. 😭😭😭😭😭
So sorry to hear you’re grieving the loss of your precious husband. Sending love 💕
No one can truly understand the devastation of a loss of a spouse until it happens to them, I loss my wife of nearly 34 years on Oct 29th 2023 to cancer, a little over a month ago, you walk around with a numbness and empty feeling longing for a hug or a kiss that you aren't going to get anymore from your soulmate. I pray for all my fellow widowers and widows that God would ease our pain and help heal our broken hearts!
Thanks so much for your kind words of support and comfort for others.. it’s tragic to lose your wife after such a long marriage and sadly you understand how tough and lonely it is. Sending prayers and love 💕 God is close to the broken hearted 🙏 x
Thank you so much for your kind words for others who have lost their other half. These feelings of intensity can only be understood sadly by someone who has experienced the enormity of this grief. Sends prayers and love to you as you navigate Christmas & New year 🙏❤️ X
The world is made for couples. It’s so frustrating to mark the single box- after 35 years together, I’m NOT single, I’m widowed. Not the same thing. I had no choice in the matter. I miss having coffee with him in the morning, him sleeping next to me, having supper every night together, even having arguments. I’ve learned to enjoy some aspects of aloneness because I must. But I also keep a cold beer in the fridge for him. Good video.
I’m the same way as you-after 35 years together/33 married. I became a widow at 56, now I’m 58. I have some happy times, but I’m not the same person I was. I’m still physically in pain 2 years away. I have some of my family with me, and I’m so grateful. But I’m tired. I’m hurting.
You’re so right.. grief is exhausting and painful.. so sorry to hear that you’re understandably missing your husband so badly.. it changes everything. Be gentle on yourself and sending love and comfort to you x 🥰
You got me when you said you keep. A cold beer in the frigd for him.
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Hoping this empty loneliness passes. Miss my husband so much.
Hi Gillian.. heartbreaking to hear about your husband and the loneliness.. sharing the journey with you ❤️🙏
me too......sharing the journey...yes the world sees us different even friends we have had life history with, especially children. I can't look at photos, it's too painful
@@starstuff5958 It gets easier as time goes by. 🙏🙏
Loss changes everything and our relationships .. it’s all those secondary losses that we are not expecting that make it so tough.
Sending big love to you x 💕
It will come to pass! It will take time to process and live it, walk it... bravery is needed. I've been a widow for five years now... last month as I was praying and reading my bible the LORD gave me the necessary closure. Blessings 🙏...
Dear lady.
I am 85 years old and I lost my wife Gloria, 2015 and I felt everything and emotions you describe and absolute despair, after 52 years of marriage.
I wrote a book describing every debating emotion and what happened to me.
"Joe and Gloria an Immigrant's Story of Love" in it I begin to describe my life from my birth and what happened to me after the passing of my wife and what I learned and discovered as a result. I assure you, i talk about all the
deep misery that you describe.
The book is now in every bookstore, Amazon and everywhere.
Thank you for the honesty and courage
Thank you for this. My husband has been dead for 5 years and everything has changed for me . i see no future. It is good to know I am not crazy, bad, weak or alone.
I can hear the depth of your pain and loneliness without your husband over these last 5 years… you’re not crazy or alone in your emotions.. you are grieving deeply as you loved deeply x sending love 💕
I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from..?
I feel the same way, my wife died September 3, 2024 she was only 33
@@jillmontgomery4856 hi Jill. My husband died almost 5 years ago. I sometimes wonder if I am crazy, by not being able to move on.
Yes, I live my life, but I mourn so many things. Our future our plans, our children who miss their Dad, our grandchildren growing up, not knowing him....
Feel the same here ....after my husband passed away 10 years ago. Even went onto single sites , to meet someone to take away the loneliness, but what a disaster!! I have realised that I will die being single. I am now 68 and not long to live , as I have no energy , feel depressed and tired of life .....which effects your whole body. 😢I am tired for the struggle of life and the emptiness!! 😢
When when my husband died I went to a Christian support group called griefshare. It really helped me cope with the loss of my husband. He died in 2003 and I still miss him but I have a strong faith in God and that's what helped me get through it. God is always there to comfort us.
im so sorry about your loss, trust me i completly understand how it feels to lose our love one, my wife passed away 3yrs ago and the pain was unbearable but it get better with time, itd be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?..
My partner really did cherish me. He was so supportive and we were extremely close and affectionate. I don't want to live without him but I have to try for our teenage children.
Everything you said is how I feel. Thank you.
I hear the depth of your grief at the loss of your husband.. and the intimacy of your love. Often our grown children think that they’re enough to fill that gap.. they help but our other halves are not replaceable. So tough now parenting on your own too .. sending love and comfort as you navigate this awful path x 🥰
we all must walk through our own grief and it's the most painful emotions in life. It's 5 months this day my husband unexpectedly passed, short of our 59th anniversary. We married young, knew each other as children. Losing him is he most difficult chapter of my life and prayerfully I will learn what is needed from this. My heart to all of you out there who are missing their loved ones. Namaste
59 years is such a lifetime together.. so sorry for your loss and you are right that we all walk out our own grief but we can draw support from sharing this journey ❤️
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No one says these grief feelings better than this lady. Are numerous videos on this but every word she utters is ABSOLUTE TRUTH. Nobody knows except unless you go through it. Truth is you’re left alone. Mornings are worst. Can’t thank you enough.
that's what i thought too
mornings are awful but so are afternoons and night and the middle of the night and then it's morning tears again.......will this grief never end
Thank you so much for taking time to comment.. this video was raw and vulnerable for me too. Sorry for your loss and sending love ❤️
So sorry for your loss ❤️
Thank you .. just sorry we all know this devastating heartbreak…. sending love 💕 x
3 days before Christmas 2024 - 20 days ago - 46 years together 😢 extremely accurate description
My husband passed away 8 days ago. I'm still in shock, he went to the hospital to have surgery and died within 24 hrs. After the surgery, I was expecting him to come home to feel better, I was going to take care of him. I am so sad, so Lost now. Today I am so sad
Please if you could pray for me as I trust in God to go thru this, my husband was my Love, I've known him since grade School, my heart is so Broken, today I feel so Tired. Plez pray for me.😭
I lost my wife of 7 years and my partner of 18 years last month. She was only 33. I feel your pain, I’ll pray for you
Dear Gina .. am upholding your wishes for prayers 🙏 your tragic sudden loss is monumental. Be gentle with your broken heart and know the presence of Jesus Christ with you x
I pray for you and your family
I lost my husband 10 years ago😢I am still alone and devastated and heartbroken 💔 I hate being single and can't smile and laugh ANYMORE!! I met someone a year after him , but a womaniser even destroys you more .....wish I never met him. I have realised that I will be single until the day I die. I am now 67 and not long to live , as I have a tiredness that I can't explain to anybody and no need to live !!! I have two married sons , but they have their own lives.......and I am all alone by myself ......no more purpose 😢😢
Prayers for God to hold you❤
Thank you I really learned much from you. After 44 yrs of marriage. The most difficult process I have had to face......but God and His Holy Spirit has really got me through 3 yrs till now....learned such a lot about myself and others and just knowing that God and I are in this together enables me to face every new day with hope and peace and thankfulness..It is still not easy but....trust and hope and faith are powerful and I know I can because He can....I pray for all folk going through loss....you will be ok....❤
Thank you Adrienne for taking time to comment and for your prayers 🙏 Jesus is close to the broken hearted and we can be comforted by His love ❤️
I too was married for 44 years. Thank you for the godly thought you shared. It's been a year now but still loneliness encompass me. Gid bless us all
There are no words the gut feeling of coming to terms that you will never see the love of your life again in this world is heartbreaking 💔 RIP to the love of my life of 10 years Victoria Ann Nelson ❣️
It is truly heartbreaking.. am so sorry to hear about the loss of your precious Victoria ❤️
@@lifelosshope Thank you!!
I lost my husband 21 years ago - we were just 47. We were high school sweethearts and together for 30 years. My heart isn't broken anymore but I do miss him everyday. I miss my friend and miss all the moments we had but am grateful for each and every one. But I'm okay - I've learned to be content, to be happy with myself. Love and light to all of us.
I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from..?..
I understand the feeling I lost my wife last month and she was only 33
Thank you so very much for this video... My
Husband of fifty one years passed away five weeks ago... I had Kept myself busy trying to prepare for his Memorial celebration that we had two weeks ago... I wanted it to be.
The best I could make it as a tribute to my wonderful husband's life...
But now that it is over and his Ashes are Scattered in our favorite place in nature, I don't know how to move forward with my days...
In.
The beginning you keep reassuring people that you're doing okay to spare them from the discomfort of your grief... I guess i've done a very good job at convincing people, Because no one seems to feel the need To check in with me Now...
I feel That grief, it's a huge dark cloud that is trying to Burrow into my Soul, And that I will completely crumble if I allow it to get too close... I feel so lost.
And the loneliness is beyond anything i've ever endured... I am so very sorry for everyone who is dealing with this as I have read these comments... May we all be given the grace to find some healing and peace❤
im so sorry about your loss, trust me i completly understand how it feels to lose our love one, my wife passed away 3yrs ago and the pain was unbearable but it get better with time, itd be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?..
I lost my girlfriend of 5 years today. I feel robbed of life and our future family we didn’t get to have. I don’t know how to even deal with this process. Nothing feels the same just empty and I’m afraid of sleeping because I know when I wake up she won’t be here. I just hope she visits me in my sleep
I cry so much all the time
Hi Mary .. crying is a relief and natures way of expressing the pain you’re feeling.. tears are liquid prayers .. so sorry you’re going through this. Sending love 🥰 x
My husband passed away last, I was left with the reality that people don’t care about your lose. They move on and expect you to get along with your life. You try to hold on to everything because just can’t understand why God would allow that to happen. The one person who had your back , Love you and care for you. The only one you can go to vent and cry. The person who saw little girl in you. I had to turn on the tv in the tv room and pretend my husband was there watching the news for months. The first of everything without him, l Christmas, birthday, anniversary, valentines with out flowers and card, new year, cooking without someone tasting it to give me his input. Even the dog was having anxiety. I went and got myself cat. Now it’s me, my dog and the cat.
im so sorry about your loss, trust me i completly understand how it feels to lose our love one, my wife passed away 3yrs ago and the pain was unbearable but it get better with time, itd be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?…
I lost my wife 5 months back . Cancer destroyed our marriage of 48 years. I am 74 and I am in agony and deep grief. As you so eloquently said I am half a person.
I feel your sorrow. I to lost my wife of 40 years to cancer 7 months ago. The grief is so hard to explain to anyone who hasn't experienced it . I'll be praying for you. I can't tell you things get better soon as mine is still with me everyday but is a little easier to handle. Les
Lost my wife Jan 26. 2024. Cancer sucks. Almost married for 30 years. Everyone please get your colonoscopies
You mirrored exactly the feelings. I’m already over 5 years out from the sudden loss of my husband at 64 when we were 36 years married. I went to a long time girlfriends daughters wedding this past weekend and all those moments of grief and loneliness came back with everybody dancing and having a great time. I had to leave as I didn’t want to bring anybody else down. My girlfriend asked me why I’ve changed and she has known me for all my life even before my husband. You know I thought I was completely over this and able to just go on as the half person I am without my husband. I’m saddened by the depth and time this is taking to process. When my husband died that hemorrhage you feel being cut off at the knees with no anesthesia came rushing back when I saw that I will never have that happy life I had again. Anyway I just wanted to share as I lie in my bed now with my doggy beside me. You my friend have described everything I’ve felt for now over 5 years. You’re an amazing writer able to capture with the written word the emotions behind the mask we all wear every day.
Thank you for your kind words of encouragement.. I really felt for you at a family wedding as my daughter’s wedding nearly finished me off as I put on a brave face all day but sobbed all night. Five years is still early grief after a long marriage.. sending love and comfort x 🥰
@@lifelosshopeThank you so much my friend.
Loose your spouse after 40 years is just more than some people can handle. The lone feeling gets worse n worse. Doing everything alone horrid.
@@lifelosshope Understanding of you to say five years is still early grief. I had people telling me to go out and start dating the day after the funeral.
Honestly am so sorry people are insensitive in grief.. sadly you don’t know until it’s you. Sending love 💕 x
Wonderful to share n know others care as to what we go through on this journey without our partners n there are no words that would complete us anymore. It’s just my trust n faith in God that has brought me out this one year when I lost David so suddenly in 24 hrs. He was my rock n my cheerleader. It’s even harder when you were the best of friends through life itself. The 34 yrs just went so fast n it’s the memories I cherish. He’s now my spiritual angel n is with me still n this until we meet yonder on that beautiful shore where all our loved ones rest in peace. May the almighty God strengthen us all who grieve our losses and thk u for sharing it’s been soulful. God bless you ❤️
Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experience of loss .. God is my strength too and the hope of Heaven is my anchor. Sending love & prayers to you x
Life is just shattered when you lose your dear husband or wife.
Or your twin
You have truly captured exactly how I am feeling. I lost my husband 3 months ago tomorrow. We were together for over 51 years and married almost 47 years. We grew up together. The last 22 years we were together 24/7 as he had retired early due to a work injury. We went everywhere together. No one really gets it. Listening to you I realize that you know exactly how I feel. Thank you for this lovely video. I feel better just hearing your words. God bless.❤
I know exactly how you feel. I lost my husband of 55 years 3 months on Tuesday. He fell ill with renal failure at 24yrs, 8:35 15 months after we were married. After nine months of dialysis he was given a transplant which was a miracle and although he had many hospital visits and illnesses over the years we were given these extra years together. It will never be the same without our husbands but I feel he would want me to go on each day and I try hard to. As he wasnt able to work all these years I think that makes it harder as we didn't have a life like normal couples and although I worked part time we were always together like you and your husband. Their presence will always be felt and I pray that we both can feel stronger each day and remember the great love we shared with them.
@@evelynnotman5070 I totally agree. I’m so sorry for your loss. I keep thinking that I’m going to wake up from this nightmare. It’s so hard.🙏🙏
@@theastewart6721 Yes it is hard but we can get through it taking each day at a time. Today has been a hard one for me but I have been out cutting grass etc and although I had to do it all last year as well as nursing him it seems so much harder this time. I suppose I feel more tired and I start to cry sometimes out there for no reason. The robin comes down beside me and we used to enjoy all these things together . I had to tell myself I should be thankful I have some energy to do things even though my hands are painful I just keep going. You hold onto all the good memories and wrap his arms round you in your mind. I do that with Martin and feel him near me when I feel lost.
I hope you and I can eventually feel more peace.
May the good Lord bless you
@@evelynnotman5070 Thank you so much. All I seem to do is cry, especially on the weekends. My kids are all too busy so I’m alone so much. I’ve gotten involved in some knitting and crochet groups at the local senior center and library so that helps. And I still work part time but I just feel so empty. I’m going to find a counselor. I have a great group on Sundays that is just for widows and widowers. It’s been great so far and something to look forward to. May the Lord bless you as well.❤️🙏🙏❤️
@@theastewart6721 I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from..?.
My wife died 30 days ago, we met in 1975 she was 15 and I was 13 years old, she was my everything, I can't express how much your words help today. Bless you!
My husband died unexpectedly just 3 weeks ago. I knew him since he was 7 & I was 9. The pain of this is nearly unbearable. How are you doing today?
I just came across this video and I finally feel like there is someone who understands how I feel. My husband passed away 8 months ago and I feel so totally lost. I sit in the house day after day knowing I need to get up and go out. I know I have to push forward but I feel like I am in some kind of limbo. I don’t know what my life is supposed to look like now. I hate being alone… no one to kiss good night, no one to say good morning to, no one to talk to you as I sit at the dinner table alone. Logically, I know that at some point things will get better, and my life will change and evolve. I don’t feel like my friends or my adult children have any clue as to how I feel and what I’m going through. Never expected to be a widow at 65 years old. Can’t imagine by myself for the rest of my life. Thank you for this video. At least I know there is someone out there that understands.
Just want you to know you are not alone. There are so many of us broken hurted. There is no where to run . Even memories hurts. But be strong. Help is not on the way but time they say is a good healer. Let's be patient . One day we can smile again.
My condolences to you.
I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from..?
I totally understand. My husband died suddenly 7 months ago. I am so lonely too. I miss him so so much. You are not alone.
@@wendywalkley8800 im so sorry about your loss, trust me i completly understand how it feels to lose our love one, my wife passed away 3yrs ago and the pain was unbearable but it get better with time, itd be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?..
You articulated everything I was feeling!
So sorry for your loss ❤️
Me too. It is just over 11 weeks for me and I really don't know how to survive this.
Oh my goodness.. only 11 weeks that’s so raw and you’re still in shock no doubt.. take one moment and then one day at a time.. sending love 💕 x
I am dreading the 28th of March which would have been our 60th wedding anniversary. My husband died lOctober 2023 60 years almost to the day that we first met. The mass of administration kept me busy so that I coped with Christmas but now things have calmed down I feel the lonliness and grief more acutely than ever. It is good to have found this site and know there are others feeling the same.
That’s heartbreaking to hear of the loss of your beloved husband.. 60 years is a lifetime together.. your grief is very raw and recent. It hits hard in a new year and on the anniversary’s.. sending love to you x
im so sorry about your loss, trust me i completly understand how it feels to lose our love one, my wife passed away 3yrs ago and the pain was unbearable but it get better with time, itd be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?..
You are the first to express just how I feel having recently lost my husband and best friend. I no longer feel safe/noticed/cared for - Thank you for making me feel understood ❤️
im so sorry about your loss, trust me i completly understand how it feels to lose our love one, my wife passed away 3yrs ago and the pain was unbearable but it get better with time, itd be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?…
My husband passed almost 3 years ago at 61 years old. This video says it all. The lonely feeling is so deep. Smiling feels painful at times… listening to all the women at work talking about their plans for the weekend or holiday… their vacations and anniversary plans… so hard. My life is changed forever… but I’m grateful for God’s promise to never leave or forsake me. I will trust His plans for my remaining years alone.
I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from..?
My husband of 25 years died suddenly and I found him. He was the most athletic in shape person I know. Ate healthy, constantly moving, no body fat, lifted weights for over 35 years. We were at a point where we were in good financial shape and looking towards a fun future. I was 59, he was 66. My entire life changed one year ago when he passed away. I’m left with so much responsibility with our home and I didn’t even have time to grieve in the beginning. A year later it’s gotten slightly easier but I feel like I have a huge hole inside and I hate being alone. People say the most ridiculous things, he’s right there with you, know he’s watching out for you, have favorite drink and meal to feel connected to him. I withdraw more and more from people or don’t answer them back.
My goodness Carol Ann .. this is so heartbreaking for you. The shock of the loss of him and your future which looked so bright is massive. Sending you love and comfort as you navigate this tough grief x 💕
im so sorry about your loss, trust me i completly understand how it feels to lose our love one, my wife passed away 3yrs ago and the pain was unbearable but it get better with time, itd be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?.
Thank you. This video describes everything I feel and am going through. I have lost a parent and a brother prior but that cannot compare to the loss of my beautiful wife of 40 years this past March. July would have been our 41st anniversary. My children grieve their mother but don’t understand why, they believe, I am not trying to move on to heal. They still have their lives to get on with but it feels like my heart was torn apart overnight.
Hello. What wise words. When my husband of 50 years passed 12 years ago I thought my life was over too. But, not so.
It took time, good friends and a busy life to get me back on track to realizing and agreeing that life does go on . Memories keep the relationship going in a different way. I still miss him terribly and think of him everyday but am grateful I am still here to literally..smell the flowers. Keep going ..it does get better in a different way❤️
Finally a positive response. I'm also moving on after 5 years grief and a 45 yr
Happy, close, loving marrige.
im so sorry about your loss, trust me i completly understand how it feels to lose our love one, my wife passed away 3yrs ago and the pain was unbearable but it get better with time, itd be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?
Wow, you covered everything I'm feeling! Thank you
Thank you so much Jayne for your encouragement commenting… sorry you have lost a loved one . Sending love ❤️ x
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Wow, so accurately put. Grieving of the past and the future. Losing the person you love, the person that was your home is an amputation.
The feeling is exhausting. The nights are the worst once everyone is settled in with their own families...
thank you ,your description of losing a spouse perfectly put, i thought something wrong with me,, why no one call me? ,except for my children of course ,,but our common friends? now i know ,thank you.
wow, I get that..did everyone forget me all of a sudden or was the death of my husband contagious???
It can seem like the world doesn’t acknowledge us in grief and it’s often sadly our closest friends that can no longer deal with seeing us .. so sorry for your loss ❤️
Everything you said is so true. When you truly love your spouse and they are just gone, gone forever the pain,
and profound sadness you feel is unbearable. I hope I can get through this. 😢
This is me right now.Every single word.Instead of fighting grief I have surrendered to it ,to let it take its coarse.I will never get over the incredible loss ,I will get through it.Prayers to all in comments.Bless Up!!!!
This is spot on. I lost my love and best friend July 1 2024. To brain cancer . And nobody can understand yes memory of our life makes me happy but the pain of loosing the best part of my whole world is close to debilitating at times😢
My condolences to you.
Thank you for this video. I can relate to everything you have said. It is just over a year since I lost my Darling husband of 30 years. We did not have children so now I am truly on my own, except for my dog and my parrot. I am so utterly broken and completely changed. I no longer recognise myself and feel stuck in a long dark tunnel with no hint of light. I pray that God will one day take this horrific pain away so that I can just remember the happiness that we shared.
im so sorry about your loss, trust me i completly understand how it feels to lose our love one, my wife passed away 3yrs ago and the pain was unbearable but it get better with time, itd be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?..
Your insights are so profound! What else can I say? Tears were falling as I listened. Thanks so much for sharing. My wife of 51yrs has been gone now for 16 months. She was the ground I stood on...
Your comment touched me greatly.. 51 years together with your wife is a lifelong love ❤️ so heartbreaking for you. Sending love and comfort as you navigate this year x
ESchmitt Thank you for articulating so well what I am dealing with. When we got together 12 years ago, I knew that I would outlive her and that was the way that it had to be. Little did I know how hard it would be. Had no clue. By far the hardest thing ever.
12 years is a long time together and somehow even when we know death is coming.. nothing prepares us for the shocking reality and pain. So sorry for your loss and sending love 💕 x
Everything you have said here could not have been explained better. I feel so incredibly lonely. I lost my partner of 12 years in March 2024. He was only 47 years old. Everyone has moved on in life and I’m still trying to navigate my grief journey. The moments when a wave hits me so hard it brings me to my knees and I’m crying so hard I don’t even recognize who this person inside me is. Nobody understands or gets it. People want to talk about only happy things. They will listen but then I feel the “here we go again with this grief talk” feeling. This journey is unfortunately something I have to go on by myself.
Lost my sweet Chuck after 15 years on march 30 ,2024 . I agree it is so devastating! Even though I know I too will leave this earth and people will grieve me BUT knowing one day ……. We will see Jesus and our the love of our lives
@Rosetta my mom lost her Chuck March 29th, she is destroyed, I'm trying to help her. My mom is 82 and her widows fog and her mobility has become so debilitating! She is suffering, we have walked her through everything up to this point and hope to help her renew and rebuild the life that she still has!
They were married 14 years and together 15 altogether.
@@chinkids2762I know your mom is suffering. It’s the most unbearable pain . You keep wanting to wake up and find out it was all just a bad dream and at each passing day you know the chance of that happening is not going to happen one thing that this has taught me is to have more compassion for people that lose their loved ones even when we know they’re in heaven waiting on us it’s a grief that can’t be described! Especially when you lose your soulmate . I will be praying for you and your mother.
Thank you, healing prayers for your heart, my friend 🧡
My wife passed two years ago. It seems like it was just yesterday. I feel everything you have described in this video and maybe a little more. No one really seems to understand. For them it’s over, but for me it persists every day. Maybe one day I’ll understand. Until then, I’m trusting my Lord for peace, comfort, and healing.
May the Lord comfort you in your grief Mike .. it’s very different for you to cope with every moment of every day than it is for others.. be gentle on your heart ❤️ x
That was said so perfectly i lost my husband three years ago and you are the first person who discibed so accurately the way you feel
im so sorry about your loss, trust me i completly understand how it feels to lose our love one, my wife passed away 3yrs ago and the pain was unbearable but it get better with time, itd be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?..
Everything you said (other than the adult children part) absolutely hit the nail on the head about my situation. My wife died September 3,2024 and it’s the hardest thing I ever had to go through in my life. She was only 33 and I’m 34, we never even had a chance to even become grey. I feel so lost and hopeless. She was the only person who got me and now I am alone.
I lost my husband of 37 years on 3/5/24 unexpectedly. This is exactly how I feel. I feel numb most of the time. I still can't believe he is gone. We were planning our retirement future together as he would have been 60 this year. It seems so unfair. I see everyone moving on with their lives like nothing happened. So many happy couples going on vacations together and living life as I sit here and can't think of living without him. Sometimes the grief is so hard I feel like I can't breathe.
It’s such a big painful void after a long marriage and the lost future ahead together.. seeing other couples is a agonising reminder of your loss and may make you feel jealous and angry .. that’s not being mean .. it’s natural. Be gentle on your wounded heart and sending love ❤️ x
im so sorry about your loss, trust me i completly understand how it feels to lose our love one, my wife passed away 3yrs ago and the pain was unbearable but it get better with time, itd be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?..
Thank you so much for this…today is the second anniversary of my husband’s passing. We were together for thirty years and the best of friends and lovers-he passed on this day in 2015. I have serious health issues, and had to move across America to sleep on my sister’s couch.
So sorry about the loss of your husband Kate .. it’s heartbreaking 💔 sending love 💕
im so sorry about your loss, trust me i completly understand how it feels to lose our love one, my wife passed away 3yrs ago and the pain was unbearable but it get better with time, itd be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?..
I lost my wife Karyn from ovarian cancer last November 2023 I’m going through everything you mentioned and I’m holding her pillow crying sometimes thank you for the emotional video takes also courage to talk about it 🙏
Thank you for this insightful and heartfelt video; it really spoke to me because it is exactly how I am feeling. My husband of 40 years passed away on Feb. 3, 2024 and his Memorial Service was yesterday and it was sad. It beautiful. It was 3 weeks from the time he went to ER until his death at 72….❤
im so sorry about your loss, trust me i completly understand how it feels to lose our love one, my wife passed away 3yrs ago and the pain was unbearable but it get better with time, itd be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?..
Lost my hubby of 34 years a month ago. The evenings and nights are the hardest for me. Trying to find my new identity is so hard. I feel so incomplete.
im so sorry about your loss, trust me i completly understand how it feels to lose our love one, my wife passed away 3yrs ago and the pain was unbearable but it get better with time, itd be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?…
I thought that after five years I would have. Accepted the loss of my dear husband. I was wrong!
The heartbreak still stays with me each and every day.
Times go by and I sob for losing his companionship and every day spending with him.
I understand everything you are saying. The cries come without knowing.
It is just hell.
im so sorry about your loss, trust me i completly understand how it feels to lose our love one, my wife passed away 3yrs ago and the pain was unbearable but it get better with time, itd be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?..
I couldn’t have described it any better….I lost my husband 4 years ago and life will never be the same…there is an inner sadness each day inside me, every day from the day he passed away ….life is a rollercoaster up one day down the next…..people if they hear you laugh one day they believe that all is ok and you are over your grief, how little they know how you truly feel…each day I do my best for myself to give myself inner peace, prayer for me has helped me a lot…I take a day at a time…it’s OK to be OK and it is OK to have a bad day and not be OK.god bless you all🙏❤️👍
You’re so right Eileen.. a roller coaster of grief is tough to navigate.. as you say on a bright day people assume that’s it you’re ok now.. we need more grief education in society . May you be comforted and sending love x
I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from..?
Thank you for voicing and echoing every bit of my grief and its pain . having so much pain but being treated as I'm invisible amplifiesevery single bit of this cruel pain. So I thank you for voicing and acknowledging the pain for what it is and how it dominates ones world. To fight against the pain is exhausting and somehow makes the briefing more intense . the more its spoken of it rases
So heartbreaking to hear of your loss .. it’s exhausting and lonely. Thanks for sharing .. your pain matters and we need not to journey alone . Sending love and prayers 🙏❤️
@@lifelosshope thank you for your reply xxx it means a lot to be acknowledged for the pain one is going through each day. To find myself in a world that is alien is frightening and lonely. I am listening to your videos and am so relieved to hear the harsh truth spoken. God bless you and protect you each day xxx
I hear your pain .. it’s like fear and anxiety being in an alien world going through the motions when grieving. Where are you watching from ? There’s my page on Facebook too with more support for the journey and opportunities to connect with you and others. Hope and light I will carry for you until you can see your way through. Prayers and love ❤️ x
@@lifelosshope again thank you for your caring and thoughtfulness . In the eighteen months of grieving , you are the only person who has reached out acknowledging my pain , my aching numbess Thank you. Each day, I do try to shake off the heaviness, and I have just started to self care in as much as I now try to eat nutritious food once a day. I also , instead of fighting against exhaustion, am accepting my body, brain and soul need that rest at the present time.
I am living in Nottinghamshire England. I will find you on Facebook -:) . God bless xxx stay safe xxx
Hi again.. I am in West Sussex and happy to video call if you want any more support. Great you’re taking steps to self care and replenish your depleted capacity.. maybe watch the videos on Early grief days and self care. Reach out to others in a bereavement group or church community as often it’s about imitating what you need. Sadly, society is grief illiterate but we can start to educate others by speaking out & saying what we need… here for you 🙏❤️ X
Everything you've said .... I've felt during the past 2 years after losing my husband of 38 years. Thank you. ..........
im so sorry about your loss, trust me i completly understand how it feels to lose our love one, my wife passed away 3yrs ago and the pain was unbearable but it get better with time, itd be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?..
That was a brilliant synopsis of my life’s emotional journey the last 22 months. So glad I came across this video.
So sorry for your loss Brian .. guess your other half died .. it’s a tragic and tough path that nobody chooses.. sending love 💕
Yes, my wonderful wife of 35 years Sandy, suddenly and unexpectedly in Feb 22. That is when my life, as I knew it, ended. Trying to navigate this new dark, unfamiliar, frightening path, hoping it leads to some light.
Sorry to hear about your wife’s sudden death.. that’s heartbreaking after so many years together. As you say the devastating path is tough .. sending you love 💕 thanks for sharing .. x
Everyone is like, "Just get on with it, carry on as normal". Feels like a parallel universe. Thank God I'll see him again ❤😢🙏
You have said it all. I have not heard anyone say it ALL the way you have here. It’s unbearable. Thank you for sharing your pain. I’m so sorry you must feel it and I’m sorry for me too.
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My wife passed away in 2022 after an almost seven year struggle following a severe stroke. I don't believe I will ever be happy again.
My beloved husband and best friend - in my heart and my life since my teens- the one person who loved me unconditionally because I am me- died two months ago. I cannot get my head round it at all.
Time doesn’t ease the pain - each passing day re affirms my loss- and confirms he has gone forever and I will never see him again. I will miss him forever. Not interested in finding anyone else. Just wish I could make that clear to married
‘friends’ who don’t like lone women near their husbands and suddenly stop inviting you to things that have been going on for years.
Unbelievable behaviour.
Why would I be interested in their husbands - the same men that I have known for decades!! ???
Pathetic.
Trying to make new contacts and acquaintances with people who understand. Can’t use the word friend anymore.
im so sorry about your loss, trust me i completly understand how it feels to lose our love one, my wife passed away 3yrs ago and the pain was unbearable but it get better with time, itd be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?..
My beautiful , loving wife Becca of 23 yrs. Passed away 4 yrs ago 2021. Everyone don't understand why I've secluded myself but when I go out I see married couples and everyone's happy and I feel like I'm the only one without a partner. Never be the same again
I lost my husband 31 days back..i m 30..he was 30..he was doctor..we Don't have kid..he committed suicide suffering from depression..
We were married for 1yr 5 months and was in relationship for 9 years.. Each day is more challenging now..i can't live without him..i am craving for his touch for his presence.. My entire world is shattered..
It's been three weeks since my beloved husband passed away. My heart is crushed. I feel empty and lost. Everything you said to true. I can't express how much I miss him. I don't even know how to move forward. We planned on growing old together with lots of adventures on the way. And now, I don't even know where to turn or even if I want too. 💔
I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from..?
@@chrisjohnson9341atgmaildotcom Thank you for your response. I am sorry for your loss as well. I am from NC. And yourself?
@@Amy-oj6luI’m originally from France but I live in st Augustine Florida, how have you been doing .?
You just expressed every single feeling I have and captured the depth of loss...do you have videos of your journey?
Thank you so much for your kind words.. you can follow lifelosshope on Facebook too and there are lots of other videos on UA-cam.. sorry for your loss ❤️
You did very well with this talk.I had a beautiful marriage andI am grateful for that,but even after 13 years I miss him daily.I remember couples seemed so smug in their coupleness.I hated walking into a function on my own.Itried to socialise,but eventually I stopped going to social occasions with couples I now only socialise with other widows.I lost friends,too.They were married and now I was alone.They did not know how to handle this.Another best fried said I had had it so good,why was I complaining now!you could probably guess that she was a divorcee.We are not friends now.
im so sorry about your loss, trust me i completly understand how it feels to lose our love one, my wife passed away 3yrs ago and the pain was unbearable but it get better with time, itd be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?
Thank you. I lost my husband of 61 years 8 weeks ago. I haven't been able to express my grief to others as well as you have. I've ask my daughters to watch this so they could get a better view 0f exactly how I feel. Thank you.
im so sorry about your loss, trust me i completly understand how it feels to lose our love one, my wife passed away 3yrs ago and the pain was unbearable but it get better with time, itd be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?..
Thank you I lost my husband 31 days ago, after 52 years of marriage I was 21 then, every single word you say is what I have been going through and more
My daughters have been very helpful, but I don’t want to take away their family time , they are also grieving, I love them so much they miss their father. Am just hoping and praying that with time it will get easier 🙏. Thank you
You said just what I feel 🥲💔
I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from..?
@@chrisjohnson9341atgmaildotcom am in Florida
From Brooklyn
I can understand.Two yeas back I lost my husband. Everything changes.
im so sorry about your loss, trust me i completly understand how it feels to lose our love one, my wife passed away 3yrs ago and the pain was unbearable but it get better with time, itd be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?..
Thankyou for sharing much of how I feel….never thought of myself as a “widower” before! Thought I was the only one that hugs my wives perfume scented pillow!
I’m glad I came across this channel. My pain feels unbearable at the moment after losing my wife just back in April this year. She was 15 years younger than me, but we shared our passion of the great outdoors, touring on our motorbike. I’ve decided to record my grief journey and made my own UA-cam channel, attempting to fulfill our bucket list of places we wanted to visit, or trips we wanted to take. Riding my motorbike and following our originally planned list, is a tool that is helping me focus. I also hope to help others suffering in the same way.
Your words resonate with such accuracy, I’ve no idea how to go forward…..I’m hoping she’ll give me the strength to continue 😢
this all resonates except I don't want someone to tell me that I'm "going to be ok"... when people say that to me it feels like they just don't get the level of sadness and loss I've experienced... it will never be ok.
You’re right it will never be ok and your life is changed. There’s no way your loss will ever be ok .. hope you will experience better moments eventually. Sending love and comfort. X 💕
Thank you, I lost my Husband June 21, 2024 at the age of 56. We were married 32 years. I loved your video……. It helped. Texas here……
…my jim was so wonderful…he was intelligent, kind, funny loving, my best friend….I will miss him until I am aloud to see him again……
Thank you so much for your comment .. your Jim sounds a lovely man. So sorry for your loss and pain ❤️ Sending love
This video is so true to all the feelings that I’ve had in the last 2 and a half months since I lost my darling wife due to cancer , it was so sudden and within 5 weeks . I feel I didn’t have enough time to say goodbye and I miss her so much , like you say the emptiness of a lonely house, the future plans, touch, smile , kiss from your loved one , now all gone , I cried buckets watching this .
YEP EVEN THE CHURCH MY MOM ATTENDED FOR YEARS SHUNNED HER WHEN MY DAD HER HUSBAND PASSED AWAY, THATS YOUR " GODLY " PPL OF TODAY !
I'm SOOOO Sorry that was your experience with Gods people 😢🫂🫂🫂🙏🙏🙏
Very comforting words. Thank you.
Be gentle on yourself.. sending love and prayers as you navigate this tough sad time x
Like many on here, I’m grieving too. I lost her suddenly on November 10th, 2024 after almost 41 years of marriage. Her name was Kathy. I miss her terribly. The pain is unbearable. But I thank you for this and I’m looking for that glimmer of hope you mention. I’m hoping and praying I find it.
Beautifully said ❤
Wow…very powerful and so perfectly expressed in words that made me sob the entire time that you were describing my wife and I.
Cancer stole her from me three months ago at 52 years old.
Her birthday and anniversary is this month…gonna be rough.
Yeah I stay up late almost every night and dread some mornings because I know the reality of loneliness Ill be facing once I wake up again.
Im coping by staying as busy as possible but it’s short lived once I enter that lonely house again.
Social gatherings are very hard to deal with especially my wife’s coworkers and friend’s Daughter’s wedding.
She was so looking foreword for me to come but I just couldn’t do it as all my Wife’s coworkers would be there and they were all so devastated when she passed.
I just couldn’t handle going there alone and feeling so empty and vulnerable.
I didnt want to ruin everyone’s mood when they saw my face.
All it would take is one of those ladies to tear up and I would be toast.
The hardest thing for me are all of my friends who no longer call
Me to go see our favorite band playing or other things my wife and I used to do with them but now it seems like I’m a pariah and they won’t even return my text or calls. I don’t understand it.
But I do have one good friend with similar interest and we work on a lot of projects together.
My biggest struggle right now is trying to figure out what my purpose is in this life as I try to rediscover myself and my greatest fear is losing the connection I have with her and I don’t think I’ll ever lose that because I know I’ll see her again .
Thank you for saying things that I never got to share. It touched my heart and made me cry to know that someone out there knows the deepest darkest thoughts and feelings!! Ive been divorced for 3 years after 20 years of marriage, and Im just now starting to feel like I can make it on my own....well, most days.
Im so sad, its overwhelming
Lost my husband 7 years ago after 32 years. I was 68 and he was 79. We had a magical time. Fortunately I was still working part time and did so til 72. Lots of friends and relatives helped. His adult children and grandchildren helped and still help. What I miss the most is reaching for his hand during the night or him reaching for mine. I miss the embrace and kiss during communion. I miss having a glass of wine outside enjoying our garden. I miss the simple things. Have made new friends, even have someone to dance with at our club. I have enough money to enjoy things, so many do not. Today is a “good” day. Still think of him. A minute from now I could hear a sound, a word, a song, a smell, anything and become melancholic. However, we must go on.
Perfectly described, sadly so 😢
im so sorry about your loss, trust me i completly understand how it feels to lose our love one, my wife passed away 3yrs ago and the pain was unbearable but it get better with time, itd be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?..
This video just showed up on a tough day, bringing me hope for the future, when I was feeling bleak. 1 year and 9 months and I am still going through all of these feelings and more. Thank you for sharing your grief journey to help me and others who are grieving now and will always be. We can be there for each other.
I lost my husband to cancer 2 yrs back . We were 6 months short of 25 yrs of our marriage anniversary. My friends and families were checking on me in the 1st year of my grief but it seems now everyone has moved on with their life. They don't talk about him or want to bring his name in our conversation maybe they don't want to bring in the pain for me. But the grief and pain is there and it does not go away especially during festivals and holidays when you feel so lonely and alone . 😢
im so sorry about your loss, trust me i completly understand how it feels to lose our love one, my wife passed away 3yrs ago and the pain was unbearable but it get better with time, itd be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?..
Really touched by your words.. this is how it feels to loose the love of my life.. thank you for sharing...
You are so on point….I lost my wife of 32 years a month ago……one month later my mother died….I can’t thank you enough for your wonderful video……it has truly blessed me
That’s a massive loss for you with your wife and mother .. how tragic. I pray you find support that helps you navigate this tragic situation. Sending love and prayers. I’m glad this video blessed you.. thank you for sharing your thoughts 🥰x
I had 32 years with my David before he passed. I had a routine because of him, but that routine went away along with him. One very hard thing was to celebrate my daughter's wedding without him. So many people did their best to make it a happy day, but after the day was done, I went home and cried for an hour.
An acquaintance of his once said her husband was gone for a year, taking care of his father, so she knew what I was experiencing. I just smiled and walked away. I wanted to scream, "But your husband is next to you! My husband is NEVER coming back!"
Then, I was visiting a coworker, and I told him what happened. He simply said, "I can't imagine what that was like." That was the best thing anyone could have said.
I think the only thing that has made life a little easier is my good neighbors, my understanding my daughter, and the very large parish of friends I've made. These friends, along with their precious little children, have cheered up my life so I can face another week.
My husband passed 6 years ago. My only advice is what a lady told me, "It gets a little easier every day, but it never completely goes away."
10 weeks ago my mom lost her soul mate at the age of 82, she is devastated, they were married 15 years. The only stable unconditional loving relationship she's ever known. It's heartbreaking and panic inducing!
Jean, do you have any advice for me to help my mom get through this horrible scary time for her?
My beautiful Hazel died after illness at 61 years of age, on Xmas Eve, two weeks ago. It hurts to have lost her love and warmth after all our years together. I've known her for 44 years and loved her for 43 of them. She's left me a legacy of 6 children and 12 grandchildren, as well as all those memories with her
Omg. You said everything how I feel. Thank you for acknowledging my pain.
So sorry that you are going through this tragic time and sending you love and comfort 🥰 x
Im nearly 4 years a widow and i feel everything you said is how i feel even now. Im so angry with the universe. This horrible rare disease that took my husband of 39 years so randomly and quickly was cruel. I feel I failed to protect him even though no one survives Sporadic CJD I still feel I let him down because I couldnt stop him from dying and when i took him into hospital neither of us knew he was never coming home again.
I lost my wife 2 years ago to MS. I cared for her for 26 years and that had a huge impact on my own health. I had a heart attack and pneumonia simply from the pressure of being her carer for so long. We were married 51 years. She wasn't able to ambulate (stand or walk) for the last 15 years. Hoist, wheelchair. powerdrive etc. I live alone now in the same disabled home. My kids aren't far away but I rarely see them. But I'm doing OK. There is a huge relief I am no longer caring for her. I don't feel guilty about that. I am keeping well, walk about 11,000 steps a day and go on retirees bus trips. I almost feel guilty I am not caring for her. But occasionally I take a sprig of rosemary for remembrance from a park and throw it in the bay near where as a family we spread her ashes at her request. But I don't do that as often now. I am trying hard to move on but I will never marry a woman again. I am happy being single.
It's not easy. The lonely days even though you are busy. The special day that comes and goes.i lost my husband 10 years ago and it still hurts. I'm busy, I work I have friends but no one knows till they are in the same circumstance the pain you feel. God bless and believe, have faith.
My Husband passed a week ago, suddenly and quickly. No one can believe it, he was so healthy and took impeccable care of himself, he was only 62 and we had SO many plans and dreams to look forward to. The Coroner could not find the cause and we are hoping to find an answer soon from further testing but it won't bring him back. Thank you for this video, the grief and disbelief is beyond measure
Sharon .. thank you for sharing this most tragic heartbreaking news of your husband.. it’s shocking especially when he was fit . I pray you find some answers and for comfort x so sorry 💕
im so sorry about your loss, trust me i completly understand how it feels to lose our love one, my wife passed away 3yrs ago and the pain was unbearable but it get better with time, itd be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?..
Well said Lady. 3 months ago I lost my beloved husband of 31yrs. He was my world and everything. I am going through everything you said. Thank you. ❤
im so sorry about your loss, trust me i completly understand how it feels to lose our love one, my wife passed away 3yrs ago and the pain was unbearable but it get better with time, itd be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?.,.
She has spoken exactly how I feel after losing my wife recently I just don’t know what to do without her
Lost my husband last November 2024.. He was only 45 😢 complications from vehicular accident.. I am always Praying to be healed... I feel so lonely and lost.. And We have 3 children...thank you for sharing this video...
im so sorry about your loss, trust me i completly understand how it feels to lose our love one, my wife passed away 3yrs ago and the pain was unbearable but it get better with time, itd be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?…
Hello, thanks for making this video and the others on your channel. I lost my heavenly wife Billie on April 14, 2024 to breast cancer. We were together 40 years - the pain and loss has been the biggest challenge ever in my life.