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  • Опубліковано 17 жов 2023
  • Kelly Bills, the former offensive coordinator for Utah Tech and a respected coach with experience at CWU, Weber State, and BYU, has an inspiring but tragic story to tell. His coaching career is marked by excellence, but his personal life took a heartbreaking turn when he unexpectedly lost his beloved wife. Kelly's story of resilience and unwavering strength in the face of this unforeseen tragedy serves as a powerful testament to the human spirit, showcasing his ability to overcome adversity both in the world of football and in the deeply personal realm of his life.
    Live every day like it could be your last, Kelly is a testament to this. With an unwavering commitment to being present and not dwelling on the past or anxiously fretting about the future, he exemplifies the true essence of embracing the present moment. Kelly's life serves as a profound testament to the transformative power of living in the now, reminding us that this simple shift in perspective can unlock boundless fulfillment in our lives.
    Tyler and Kelly exemplify the essence of a meaningful life by valuing the goodness in simple acts and genuine human connections. Their conversation about a hat from Good Good Golf apparel, symbolizes their shared belief that being a good human and spending time with good people are the true treasures in life. This seemingly ordinary discussion reflects the richness of their friendship, built on shared values and the ability to appreciate the everyday goodness that surrounds them.
    In the brief and unpredictable journey of life, it's vital to occasionally let loose and not take oneself or others too seriously. Confidence in one's identity and the ability to shrug off the opinions of others are key to a more fulfilling and harmonious existence. Life is too short to be constantly serious, so embrace lightheartedness, authenticity, and the freedom to enjoy the ride.
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  • @susankardaras5512
    @susankardaras5512 18 днів тому +10

    I feel your pain, literally.
    I was married for 3 months and my husband was leaving for work and I said "just one more kiss." That's the last one I got. He was killed in a car accident that day. 47 years later and I still love that man. I can still see him clear as day, smell his cologne and I remember how he always protected & loved me. Life goes on, but you're never the same.

    • @Mimithegr8
      @Mimithegr8 3 дні тому

      @@susankardaras5512 omg 47years later… I am in the beginning of grief now 5 months with a 4 month old baby… I cannot imagine how long you’ve been without him 😇😭😭😭😭

  • @ruthreuter9813
    @ruthreuter9813 Місяць тому +11

    To everyone below that states they lost a spouse, I am so very and extremely sorry. I have never married, so I cannot fully know. But, I wanted to share my thoughts and prayers to each and every one of you.

  • @gephrygeph6480
    @gephrygeph6480 5 місяців тому +26

    My wife was diagnosed with stage 4 gallbladder cancer April 27, 2023. Chemo did nothing to slow the disease. She was placed on in-home hospice October 17. My daughter, her daughter and I provided 24/7 care for her the last two weeks of her life. She passed away on the morning of December 21, 2023 with me and our daughters by her side, holding her hands. Darla and I were only together for 6 years, married for 4. In that short amount of time, we packed more love in than most do in a lifetime. We were, without a doubt, MADLY in love - my kids, her kids and all our friends always told us so. Her daughter described it as a "relationship for the ages". My daughter once joked that she came to visit, not to visit but to watch Darla and I interact - she said it was a beautiful kind of bond we had. It's been just under 2 months, and these have been my hardest days. At 2:00 in the video, Kelly says there is hope; I do believe that. He also says there is light at the end of the tunnel, but for me, the tunnel is very long and very dark...but I cling on to the hope and know it will get better. I will never forget my true love and will carry her in my heart for the rest of my life. If you're going through this, do know you can grieve with hope. It's a long, lonely road that you have to take one step at a time, one day at a time. Don't be afraid to reach out to friends, family or complete strangers at grief help lines. They are there to help, if only by listening to your story and struggles. Best to all.

  • @bigpoke7043
    @bigpoke7043 5 місяців тому +37

    I lost my wife recently.. I’m so broken😭😭💔💔I’m dreading going to her funeral. Don’t know if I can handle it.. it’s too much.. I can’t believe she’s gone.. I love her so much 😭😭💔💔. Loved her more than anything.. she was my everything 😭😭💔💔

    • @dellasmith6960
      @dellasmith6960 4 місяці тому +1

      I’m sorry for your lose. I’m in the same boat as you right now. 😢please keep going.

    • @Mimithegr8
      @Mimithegr8 3 місяці тому +2

      Loved him more than life. Needed him more than air. 😢

    • @philaman1972
      @philaman1972 Місяць тому

      My condolences.

    • @vyvyienewalser6798
      @vyvyienewalser6798 21 день тому

      One only knows this feeling ,when one has walked those steps.

  • @sectortech12b8
    @sectortech12b8 4 місяці тому +24

    Lost my lovely wife of 46 years on 10-24-23, god bless you, we were best friends

  • @McAdder441
    @McAdder441 6 місяців тому +48

    Thank you for this video and for Kelly Bills sharing his grief. I too lost my wife. She was diagnosed with Stage 4 Cancer in July of this year and passed away in my arms just under a month later. It's been 5 months since and I too am living minute by minute as Kelley described. We were married 25 years. We built a life together and now I don't see anything meaningful in the future. He had a lot of parallels to my experience with my grief, and how him and his wife's life was. I felt like everything he said matched our life together. Except that, we didn't have kids, and he is so blessed to have them and can see his wife's attributes in his sons. Thank you both for putting this out there. Too many of us men who lose our spouses we loved dearly are sometimes forgotten. Thank you again 🙏🏻

    • @telelsky
      @telelsky 2 місяці тому +1

      I lost my wife jan this year 2024 and i feel i can feel you and Kelly. So relieved to have …...

    • @philaman1972
      @philaman1972 Місяць тому +1

      My condolences.

    • @philaman1972
      @philaman1972 Місяць тому +1

      @@telelsky My condolences.

    • @RobertJung-bj3fo
      @RobertJung-bj3fo Місяць тому +1

      It's so fucking hard i lost my best friend Amy my wife why the fuck do we got to go though this shit

    • @philaman1972
      @philaman1972 Місяць тому

      @@RobertJung-bj3fo My condolences. I cannot even begin to imagine.

  • @AmyMart
    @AmyMart 6 місяців тому +49

    Today is 1 month since my husband suddenly died in my arms. I knew when I was trying to revive him that he was gone. They worked on him for so long, I knew.... I can't get the visions out of my head. I don't know how, after 28 years, to live without him! I am broken! I want to hug him, I want to smell him, I want to talk to him again! I don't know how to do this! I have dreamt of him one time, and i could feel him. My head buried in his chest, feeling his arms holding me. I want to dream of him like that every night, and im afraid I won't. The pain is unbearable. 💔

    • @dellasmith6960
      @dellasmith6960 4 місяці тому +2

      I’m so sorry for your lose. I just lost my wife of 4 years, 4 months ago. I just had my first dream about her Tuesday gone. I hope me and you have many dreams of our spouse because the pain in grief is unbearable. Her birthday is tomorrow. So if you can please pray for me.

    • @newyork6437
      @newyork6437 3 місяці тому +1

      @@dellasmith6960 ..i prayed for the both of you.i lost my wife a few weeks ago after #41 years of marriage.Life without her is'nt worth living to me.Had a gun in my hand more than once being ex-military.The empty house with her stuff everywhere makes me feel like i got hit with a sledge hammer every time i walk into the house.May God Bless you and give you strength.

    • @newyork6437
      @newyork6437 3 місяці тому

      I understand you and i can't even see her in a dream no matter how hard i try.=(

    • @michaelbsarmiento
      @michaelbsarmiento 3 місяці тому

      How are you holding up?

    • @moochnhowzn
      @moochnhowzn 2 місяці тому +2

      @@newyork6437 it’s not living it feels so lonely and empty and pointless. I have been here for nearly 2 months and it feels like everyday takes forever

  • @dianac1411
    @dianac1411 Місяць тому +11

    Too many people are just suddenly dying.

  • @eskylover65
    @eskylover65 Місяць тому +7

    And this is why I’ve stayed single for 30 years because the sheer thought of loss is too much after losing my brother and parents when I was young. God bless

  • @tturner7786
    @tturner7786 6 місяців тому +14

    Thank you for sharing this, your story. I lost my wife 15 years ago from cancer. I just want to tell you and all the broken hurting people who are watchhng this so soon after the death of loved ones. The pain does get better. Life does feel so slow for years and everyone grieves differently but though time doesnt heal every wound it does reduce the pain. But go after the pain year after year. Talk to those around who understand because they have suffered loss. God will help us heal. So will our dearest friends and family. But never stop reaching out. Even now 15 years later im remarried and i still need to keep healing. The pain goes away mostly but that place in you that loves that person never goes away completely and thats ok. And ive learned there are levels of healing. Our brain and heart have to block the most painful memories at first because its too much. But eventually we can go back and walk through those horrible memories and deal with them. Keep going... Keep healing.

  • @lindastick4559
    @lindastick4559 Місяць тому +11

    My son died February 18,23 at home that morning of heart complications. My daughter-in-law heard an awful sound coming their bedroom, She tried CPR but being a litte girl she was afraid she wasn't pushing hard enough, 911 stayed on the line until the ambulance arrived. She called me I met her at the hospital at 6 am.Sorry but Val died. They were boyfiend and girlfriend when he was 16 she was 14. Throughout high school they dated, They had 2 awesome boys at the time one 11 one 14. My daughter-in-law has experienced everything he has spoken. His death changed her and she is still grieving. She loves him so much still today. She believes also she will see him again.

  • @rachelwesterman1223
    @rachelwesterman1223 5 місяців тому +9

    I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my partner of 12 years, Steve, a month ago. He is the love of my life. I desperately wanted to see him in dreams or feel him but I haven't had any signs. I had one dream where we were out walking and our sons were there. He told me that I had to carry on doing nice things with the boys. I said I couldn't and it seemed disrespectful. He told me I had no choice now. I don't know if that was just my mind or if it was him.

  • @heatmizer74
    @heatmizer74 19 днів тому +3

    To everyone on the thread God Bless, I lost n twice to Brest cancer on 10/10/21, I really don’t know who I am anymore like many have said, the sharpness of the pain may have dulled a bit but the emptiness has always been in full effect, part of me died that day also and it’s never coming back, I know I will see her again…..this is the hardest road to travel 🙏🏻🙏🏻

  • @laurenmarie3897
    @laurenmarie3897 Місяць тому +8

    28:21 This is absolutely the most soul crushing thing I’ve ever heard

    • @GeoffOdom-nn4ez
      @GeoffOdom-nn4ez Місяць тому +3

      Yes it is, but it is true. I have not felt my wife or dreamt of her since she died 3 weeks ago. It kills me.

  • @jamierussell3296
    @jamierussell3296 18 днів тому +3

    This is the first time I’ve ever heard someone articulate the same experience I unfortunately went through. Waking up to his phone alarm, the trauma, the experience my son went through that horrible am, the 1st year mark of feeling lost still and the utmost sadness. The 1st 6 months I had PTSD of fire truck sirens. No one would ever understand. The sudden loss is unimaginable, especially as parents of children. Hugs! If you do see this, after 5 years, it does get better. However every milestone of your children, it will come back and other memories of life being married, you will never forget and always love him.

    • @anjarae8828
      @anjarae8828 9 днів тому

      I'm so sorry for your loss

  • @user-nn1wx4sc4x
    @user-nn1wx4sc4x 6 місяців тому +11

    My life is a constant torture since the death of my Husband Robert on 07 September 2022. He had an integrity that very few people have. I would marry the same man every time.
    ❤️To all in a state of grief and other sufferings.

    • @McAdder441
      @McAdder441 6 місяців тому +2

      ❤😢 My heart goes out to you. I lost my wife this year on August 12. I know what you mean, I would marry my wife over and over again. She can't be replaced.

    • @rachelwesterman1223
      @rachelwesterman1223 5 місяців тому +2

      That's how I feel. I was so lucky to have him. I can't believe I lost him at 41. I loved every minute we were together.

    • @ariaahmadi7864
      @ariaahmadi7864 Місяць тому +1

      💔🖤

  • @GeoffOdom-nn4ez
    @GeoffOdom-nn4ez Місяць тому +15

    I am here because I just recently lost my wife suddenly. It's only been 3 weeks ago she passed away. She was 48, I am 52, and we had our entire adult lives to live and love each other. Her death has shattered my outlook on life. We have two children (18 & 19) but they will move on to have their own lives soon. The thought of not having her here anymore is devastating. We were so in love it was sick. Never went anywhere without the other. She went on work trips with me so we would not have to be apart. I am heartbroken and would give any amount of anything to have her back.

    • @michellefrench6617
      @michellefrench6617 Місяць тому

    • @julial1450
      @julial1450 Місяць тому +2

      I am truly sorry for your loss I recently lost my husband 5 months ago 57 unexpectedly it so hard it hard to get around thinking that they are gone very heavy and heartbreaking

    • @michellefrench6617
      @michellefrench6617 Місяць тому

      @@julial1450 ❤️

  • @serpadre87
    @serpadre87 6 місяців тому +8

    I lost my girlfriend a month ago, after more than 14 years of relationship, 9 of them living together. She was 38, I just turned 36 two weeks ago. She had a flu, but was also infected with a strep A bacteria. She went from that flu to dying unexpectedly of sepsis in just 2 days. We were so happy together, not a single fight in all those years. We had so many dreams… now nothing makes sense, everything is pointless. I can't see any light at the end of the tunnel right now… Thank you for sharing your story, Kelly, although it's hard to hear that 1 year after your loss it's not getting any better 😭

    • @McAdder441
      @McAdder441 6 місяців тому +2

      Your loss is heartbreaking, and I feel your pain. I lost my wife to cancer 5 months ago. It was a sudden diagnosis with only less than a month when we found out about the stage 4 diagnosis that she passed away. I wanted to comment on yours because I too am lost. That nothing makes sense and everything is pointless. We built our lives together and that future no longer exists. It's devastating. I am trying to think of a new life, and doing something totally different, but I am totally broken. I just want to let you know that there are those of us who are in the same boat. Not sure if being in a sinking boat and looking over to the other guy on your right helps, and realizing we're both going down. But, I just wanted to share with you.

    • @serpadre87
      @serpadre87 6 місяців тому +2

      @@McAdder441 Thank you for sharing that and I'm so sorry for your loss… Knowing I'm not alone in this boat, even if it's sinking, definitely helps, so thank you for that. I hope we can all get through this and find a way to, somehow, enjoy life again even without our loved ones. I want to believe that's possible, but it's also true that many days I just don't want to live anymore. I hate this 😭 I was already happy and had a wonderful life, I don't know why it was taken from me…
      Take care of yourself

    • @McAdder441
      @McAdder441 6 місяців тому +2

      I hear you. I too would rather be next to her in heaven. But I know she would not want me to give up on my life. So I just cry two, three, or more times daily. I agree with you, I hope we can get through this and find happiness again. Peace be with you ❤

  • @npenick66
    @npenick66 Місяць тому +6

    I'm in Flagstaff. On 1/5/24 my wife of 20 years was fighting a minor flu, the kind the kids bring home every holiday season. She was feeling a bit funky so I bundled her up in her new Christmas blanket, she had her cat Mandu in her lap and her ear nibbling rottweiler Tyson at her feet. She was in her recliner, I got her some cold meds and set up a humidifier for her and took our semi verbal autistic son to the other end of the house so that she could get some rest. When I came back a couple of hours later to take the dog out so she could rest her lips were white. She was gone at 52 from a stupid f'ing flu. Influenza 2009A according to the medical examiner, even though she had the flu shot.
    I 'retired' at 38 so that I could be with my oldest son from a previous marriage (I had custody) and our new son who turned out to be semi verbal autistic. My wife, Kim, was just a sweet person. I don't know any other way to describe her. She was a goofy dork who obsessed with feeding people, gardening, critters and our sons. Just a loveable goofball/dork who happened to be a solid looker, modeled in her youth.
    When I found her I attempted cpr even though she was clearly gone and rigor had already started in her hands and neck though it had only been a couple of hours. There is something indescribable about touching a body, especially a body of someone you loved. Attempting cpr is on someone who's gone is a horror. Some things can't be unseen. She must have passed within minutes of me tucking her in. Our autistic son has an obsession with recording everything on his iPad, makes it interesting to use the restroom, had recorded me getting him his dinner, if you could call heating up a red baron frozen pizza cooking. He also recorded me tucking in my wife and her saying 'thank you and I love you' before we went to the other end of the house.
    I have to give a big nod to the cops that showed up. They helped me keep it together so that I didn't freak out my autistic son. They helped me keep him from seeing anything bad. They were wonderful people.
    Her death was bad. Still can't make sense of it. But our son's vid shows her smiling and thanking me and saying I love you. Then she passed in her sleep. I can't understand it but I also can't be angry or guilty about anything. As several people have told me, they can't imagine a better/easier way to go. Grief sucks, never really experienced it before but grief really really sucks. Trying to explain to a special needs child that Mama is never coming home is a type of pain that I never knew existed.
    Thank you for sharing this vid. I'm not a sports guy, don't give a crap about that stuff but my boy has a brass set, no way I could speak so clearly. I'll pray for you brother. I'm still FUBAR hoping to find my way to SNAFU. I hear you. I'm gutted, I'm an empty shell, but faking my way through each day for our sons. Hopefully someday I can be whole again. Not optimistic, but hopeful.

  • @michelleeggers719
    @michelleeggers719 Місяць тому +4

    I hope that not today but, at some point.... he'll find a wonderful person to help him raise his sons and be a great spouse to him. 🎉❤

  • @TheLittletroyboy
    @TheLittletroyboy 7 місяців тому +8

    I can totally relate to this podcast, my spouse and best friend of 20 years passed away 1 month ago. Shelley was having back surgery, she died during the procedure, I can't even begin to tell you how I felt when the doctors came out and told me. In one moment your shattered into a thousand pieces. Our grandson whom we were raising is totally destroyed, he's 13 yrs old. I don't even know how to begin to pick up the pieces. The greatest advice from this podcast is to be present as you stated, don't take anything for granted. When I left for the hospital I had no idea my whole world would be changed.

    • @rollercoasterpodcast
      @rollercoasterpodcast  7 місяців тому +1

      I am sorry for your loss.

    • @McAdder441
      @McAdder441 6 місяців тому +1

      😥 I am so sorry for your loss. Your story is heartbreaking.

  • @user-uu7yj7qq6o
    @user-uu7yj7qq6o 6 місяців тому +7

    I lost my wife suddenly on Friday 5th January 2024 the morning in hospital it was a big shock to me my heart felt like it was broken to pieces of losing her specially how I gonna tell the boys that she has passed on it still hurts but I need to be strong for them but we trying to cope with the support of family and friends but we're together for 18 years and still had big plans to continue to strengthen our future but God had other plans that we must not question but in due time will understand have a blessed day god bless

  • @aliciaburbank9962
    @aliciaburbank9962 4 місяці тому +12

    I lost my husband of 31 years on Sept 27! This is so hard. One day he was here, the next day he was gone. My heart is broken.

  • @chantalschultz4847
    @chantalschultz4847 25 днів тому +2

    Oh my God that was exactly the same for me!!!! I woke up to my husband passed away during the night and I woke up in the morning and I knew he was gone and he had also been gone awhile 😢😢😢 worst trauma of my life don’t know if I will ever get over it

  • @3l-livestock
    @3l-livestock 17 днів тому +1

    Thanks for the video it hits close to home.sorry for your loss.i lost my spouse a year and a half ago,she had a cosmetic surgery and 17 days later she went to sleep and never woke up.healthy no harmful intoxicants in her life ever.still trying to sort through it all.i thank you for this video it helps.god bless you and your family.

  • @misstbikini
    @misstbikini 4 місяці тому +3

    I lost my husband recently and suddenly and I so wish it was me and not him we are best friends. I miss him so much. Thank you for this video.

  • @lesleywalters7343
    @lesleywalters7343 2 місяці тому +2

    I know how you feel, it will be three years this August when my husband passed suddenly. The unexpected is devastating. I know the feeling of feeling lost, a part of you gone, accepting the reality that he/she will never walk through the front door. This type of grief is emotional and a roller coaster. But if it wasn't for God, I would be lost. God bless you. You and your boys are in my prayers for daily peace, strength, and comfort.

  • @pauladime6307
    @pauladime6307 Місяць тому +2

    Thank you for sharing your amazing story. 🙏🏼❤️

  • @denisesteinbrink1598
    @denisesteinbrink1598 Місяць тому +3

    My husband passed also, it the most torturous way to live every day. Take care

  • @ChicReal
    @ChicReal Місяць тому +2

    I'm deeply saddened by your loss. 😢
    My heartfelt condolences to all who have lost a loved one. May the Lord give you all much needed strength and comfort as you navigate on your journey. 🙏🏻💔🙏🏻

  • @tturner7786
    @tturner7786 6 місяців тому +4

    @kellybills i prayed for dreams of my late wife... It happened a coupke times over 5 years plus..and each time i woke up thsnking God and feeling like i was so blessed to have a moment of her again. It hurt but it was so incredible. I think you will have some of those moments. And they will be a beautiful surprise. Peobably for your boys also. Unfortunately we can't make it happen. Hope will come back. You will make it and the pain will get less. Blessings to you and your boys

  • @luzedie1275
    @luzedie1275 7 місяців тому +4

    I came across this video in my own effort to deal with my own grief and the loss of my husband. We were together for 27 years. He passed away 6 years ago from cancer. Your story touched me deeply, thank you for sharing and I am so sorry.

    • @rollercoasterpodcast
      @rollercoasterpodcast  7 місяців тому +1

      I am deeply sorry for your loss.

    • @luzedie1275
      @luzedie1275 6 місяців тому

      @@rollercoasterpodcast Thank you for your condolences and for taking the time to show you care.

    • @danilaroche1156
      @danilaroche1156 16 днів тому

      He will marry again. I hope he does with no fear.

  • @gme5400
    @gme5400 6 місяців тому +2

    Fantastic interview! Lost my husband nearly three months ago after 33 years. It is all about relationships. Nothing else matters. Although not traumatic it was a long goodbye and without children, the legacy dies with him. But I will cherish the good times ❤ sorry for your loss Kelly. Your wife sounds like a wonderful woman!

  • @philaman1972
    @philaman1972 Місяць тому +2

    Wow! This broke me. I cannot believe how strong this man is. Indeed, *everyone* has to experience trauma in life.

    • @danilaroche1156
      @danilaroche1156 16 днів тому

      No one is exempt from trauma. That's why we need the Lord. He helps us in everything. If we let Him.

  • @judystreich7333
    @judystreich7333 3 місяці тому +1

    My condolences for you both, the heartache is sometimes unbearable. Your grief journey will be a personal one of trying to heal a broken heart of which most people do not understand. I feel your pain, my loss was a year and a half ago and still the realization of him never coming back still does not seem real.

  • @lilianyee-joy9188
    @lilianyee-joy9188 Місяць тому +3

    What a beautiful testimony. May God strength you. Be strong God is faithful. Amen

  • @masonstrickler4650
    @masonstrickler4650 6 місяців тому +8

    Lost my wife 2 months after we got married and 2 days after she gave birth to our first child together. We were both 24. Its was 08/11/2023 my mind is in shambles I’m trying to just focus on our kid but I also need to grieve so I be there emotionally for our kid. It feels like I’m sinking in quicksand.

    • @rollercoasterpodcast
      @rollercoasterpodcast  6 місяців тому +1

      I am sorry for your loss. More strength to you.

    • @McAdder441
      @McAdder441 6 місяців тому +1

      ❤😢 My wife died August 12 this year. It's unbelievably hard. Nothing can be said to ease the pain. I know. My heart goes out to you. So sorry.

    • @suegardner3588
      @suegardner3588 5 місяців тому

      I am much older than you but I lost my husband you said it perfectly. My mind is in shambles. Sorry, it makes me feel not quite so alone.

    • @moxymouse1231
      @moxymouse1231 Місяць тому

      ❤️🙏❤️🙏

  • @sonjaanderson5998
    @sonjaanderson5998 Місяць тому +1

    My condolences for your loss!

  • @Fallinangel312
    @Fallinangel312 17 днів тому +2

    At least you know she loved you my husband walked out on 4 daughters never to see us again

  • @DaRandomOhana
    @DaRandomOhana 3 місяці тому +2

    This story is so similar to mine with my sons passing 7 years ago... only difference is that I can’t say that he went peacefully which still haunts me til this day.

  • @julial1450
    @julial1450 Місяць тому +2

    Thank you for the video I Lost my husband of 15 years January of this year suddenly unexpectedly it really hard to move forward when you lose your spouse especially when you really love them

  • @bethanystebelski
    @bethanystebelski 23 дні тому +1

    My husband didn't die,but my momma died on April 29th 2023. It is so refreshing to see another man love his wife so much. In under a year, my dad was remarried and blocked me and my kids out of his life. He started dating other women 2 months after my mom died. I miss my mom more than life. She was mine and my kids world. Thank you for sharing this. It might be hard but it is beautiful to hear how you talked about her.

    • @truejoie
      @truejoie 15 днів тому

      I'm so sorry you went through that. I've heard other stories of men remarrying fast like that after a spouses death...and I can only imagine how much it must sting for the family left behind. I don't think it's healthy for the person either if they didn't give themselves time to grieve.

  • @sandramadaris7814
    @sandramadaris7814 14 днів тому

    Tears here...2 and 1/2 yrs since my husband died from mesothelioma cancer. We were together for 30 yrs. God is my biggest steadfast comfort...

  • @user-km6rh5wv6q
    @user-km6rh5wv6q 9 днів тому

    God bless you sir. I promise you it gets better with time. I lost my wife suddenly three years ago,

  • @SimonTrageser
    @SimonTrageser 7 місяців тому +2

    Kelly I don't know if you will read this but you are the definition of a man
    How you described the outlook after this event and the "leadership" aspect as one of your values and the fact that you show up despite everything
    4 Months ago I lost my girlfriend at the age of 28 due to a nasty cancer. Every second of my day my thoughts go to her and at the moment it is just about figuring stuff out, minute by minute. Rethinking the last moments a lot at the moment and it crushes me.
    I felt your story deeply and I salute you for everything
    Thank you for sharing this

    • @rollercoasterpodcast
      @rollercoasterpodcast  7 місяців тому

      I am truly sorry for your loss. Strength to you.

    • @McAdder441
      @McAdder441 6 місяців тому +1

      I totally agree. I lost my wife 5 months ago. So sorry for you loss.

    • @SimonTrageser
      @SimonTrageser 6 місяців тому

      @@McAdder441 I have you in my thoughts man
      I feel you and I am deeply sorry what happened to you

  • @judithocasio2926
    @judithocasio2926 Місяць тому +1

    OMG I am sorry 😢 I have no words. Its even harder when its not expected OMG your children my God bless you and give you strength and inner peace 🕊️ it will take much time to feel at peace God is with you 🙏

  • @jn3098
    @jn3098 3 місяці тому +1

    I’m so sorry for ur loss I lost my wife 2 weeks ago I can’t go on. !!!!

  • @conniecon7910
    @conniecon7910 7 місяців тому +2

    Did he ever say what his wife passed from? Loving this channel so far. Praying it continues to grow and reach more viewers. So great.

    • @rollercoasterpodcast
      @rollercoasterpodcast  7 місяців тому +1

      Yes, his wife passed away due to heart arrhythmia.
      Thanks for the support

  • @guenverdijo
    @guenverdijo 3 місяці тому +1

    I also had a very traumatic experience losing my partner when he had cardiac arrest while he’s sleeping last March 17, 2024!We’ve been together for over 2 years and we are happy together and his passing is really sudden bcoz he is always healthy.I lost him so fast like in less than 10 mins of the arrest he was gone.😢😢😢I missed him everyday.I feel so alone now that he’s gone.I know that he is always by my side.I can feel it everyday.May my love Niño Cruz have eternal rest.

  • @katm41
    @katm41 4 дні тому

    Not if but when 💔 so true

  • @adkison2003
    @adkison2003 16 днів тому

    I am so sorry for you loss. Absolutely devastating for you and your family. Sending my deepest condolences. What caused her sudden passing ?

  • @irenebell6024
    @irenebell6024 2 місяці тому +1

    I lost my husband 4 years ago we had been together for over 30 years we had 3 daughters and we were his life as he was ours, we miss him tremendously, I hold on just for the girls he got to hold his grandkids which I thank God for, I wish he could have had more time. My heart hurts so much our youngest is about to graduate I think grief it’s hitting her now I believe she threw herself into school but now it’s coming to an end she is breaking me down because I stuffed this feeling down so far but it’s coming back, we are getting sick a lot I know we are just grieving, lord help us please.

  • @cyn7869
    @cyn7869 17 днів тому

    I know this pain. 💔

  • @duckman1956
    @duckman1956 Місяць тому +1

    I am so sorry I lost my wife with cancer in the lungs 4-19-2024 the pain was so hard on me we was married 27 years 💔 😢 I just can't believe she gone 💔 she was my soul mates 💔 I don't know what to do with my self I am 67 years old. I just can't get over this thank you God bless us

  • @lydiatimoteus9835
    @lydiatimoteus9835 7 днів тому

    I'm So sorry 😭💔

  • @torisefaamaligi3315
    @torisefaamaligi3315 10 днів тому

    Hear all...Lost my wife 8 days ago to a car accident...I'm going thru it...Tough, tough, tough is an understatement.

    • @anjarae8828
      @anjarae8828 9 днів тому

      That's so recent I can't imagine what your going through. I'm so sorry for your loss 😢

  • @proficyink2114
    @proficyink2114 9 днів тому

    Same th8ing happened to my wife a little over a month ago. Im still in shock. 37 years together. We just had out 35th anniversary on May 13th.

    • @anjarae8828
      @anjarae8828 9 днів тому

      All these comments are so sad ,I'm so sorry. That's such a long time together I'm sure you shared so many wonderful years and memories together. I hope you can reach a point where you can smile when remembering memories, I can't imagine how hard it must be right now . Your in my thoughts and prayers ❤

  • @jwhite1974
    @jwhite1974 4 місяці тому +1

    Kelly I'm so sorry for the loss of your wife. Can I ask where you got your hat? The meaning behind it so fits my Tina that passed 4 weeks ago.

  • @bremass851
    @bremass851 Місяць тому +1

    Thats tough man

  • @LindaHart-iy6po
    @LindaHart-iy6po 2 дні тому

    🙏🙏🙏God be with you 🙏

  • @pickingupthepiecesofme
    @pickingupthepiecesofme 2 місяці тому +1

    😭😭😭😭so sorry man

  • @CaponeCabin
    @CaponeCabin 6 місяців тому +2

    I'm trying, I live also minute by minute. My husband passed 3 months ago. Our anniversary came this month, Christmas, I made it through Thanksgiving.....I feel the statement he said..... this has destroyed me.

    • @rollercoasterpodcast
      @rollercoasterpodcast  6 місяців тому

      I am sorry for your loss. You got this

    • @McAdder441
      @McAdder441 6 місяців тому

      ❤😢 Christmas was very hard. It was my first one without my wife. My heart goes out to you.

  • @tonyamcgrew5891
    @tonyamcgrew5891 2 місяці тому +1

    i am so very sad, i miss my husband so much, not fair. I as well live minute to minute

  • @user-te8ht9dp7w
    @user-te8ht9dp7w Місяць тому +2

    My husband of 52 years dropdied in front of me and then lost my eldest son A few years later of prostate cancer

  • @Mimithegr8
    @Mimithegr8 3 місяці тому +1

    “Then you’re just left alone” … dealing with that is agonizing at least. But Is now my reality after my boyfriend died 4 weeks before giving birth to our daughter.

  • @TamNRod17-4ever
    @TamNRod17-4ever Місяць тому +3

    I don't know who you are but i lost my husband to a rare cancer, one day at a time is all we can do, also have two young children life is not fair but Jesus Christ has been their for me

  • @RF1972.
    @RF1972. 4 місяці тому +2

    My heart hurts for you.....I know how you feel....I lost my son ....if it weren't for Jesus my Savior I could have not coped.

  • @rannerobin2787
    @rannerobin2787 Місяць тому +1

    My husband was killed in a car accident. It was evening & I was watching TV. Knock on the door - two policemen - just like on TV - I knew

  • @ronaldmejia551
    @ronaldmejia551 7 днів тому

    My wife died April 22 2023
    One night we seen angels fly pass us 3 am I told her to make a wish she said she wants to be 43 and cancer free her birthday was exactly a month after may 22 she got her last wish 43 and cancer free but I lost my soul that day no one helps me they just want to be nosey and see what I am doing only my mother and my grandmother and my Attorny and wise lady are here for me I have been drinking 8 am until I go to sleep all day everyday I never got drunk and threw up all day everyday for a year and a quarter now my body is messed up and I hope I’m not dying I want to live until 91

  • @janingham1823
    @janingham1823 4 місяці тому +2

    Your wife and my beloved husband were cut from the same cloth. Goodness. 4 mos for me. The pain is unbearable.

  • @michellewall6598
    @michellewall6598 Місяць тому +2

    💔

  • @pameubanks1806
    @pameubanks1806 Місяць тому +2

    I know how u feel.I found my husband in his recliner passed away he was55 it’s not been good for me it’s been 3half years found him on Christmas morning I keep trying but it’s been like a hard road for me I guess everybody has there on way of coping with it but I have been trying and trying sometimes u think it will get better but it doesn’t I do a lot of praying for god to give me the strength to get through it

  • @Stan-p8s
    @Stan-p8s 6 днів тому

    It says gooo. Go

  • @eskylover65
    @eskylover65 22 дні тому +1

    And this is why I didn’t marry, beside I didn’t want to go through the loss

  • @clarky417
    @clarky417 6 місяців тому +1

    i lost my wife on 1-13-19 she had muscular dystrophy. i took me over 3 years to let go. she went to bed and didnt wake up. i really thought she would out live me she was 20 years younger than me. i was 40 and she was 20 we were together 12 years.

    • @McAdder441
      @McAdder441 6 місяців тому

      ❤ I am sorry for your loss 😢

  • @RobertJung-bj3fo
    @RobertJung-bj3fo 3 місяці тому +3

    My God this sucks

  • @ricardomordaunt1101
    @ricardomordaunt1101 20 днів тому

    May God comfort and heal you and your kids..Father God You see and You know all things.. Lord hear their cries and heal their heart's.. In Jesus Holy and Mighty name.. Amen.

  • @iwnunn7999
    @iwnunn7999 15 днів тому

    I'm almost done with the vid and they've yet to mention what caused her death. She was young and healthy.

  • @janellefriday1097
    @janellefriday1097 20 днів тому

    I wonder if my husband had seen 10 to 15 years ago, maybe he would have loved me more.

  • @ronaldmejia551
    @ronaldmejia551 7 днів тому

    I wish I can get on here and tell my story it will beat all the stories of my wife and before and after she passed and she was a mortician and owned her own buisness I will tell you all my wife did her job so good and took care of the decedents and their families but it is other types of funeral directors and morticians that are straight evil they do not care about life or death they just want to rob you of your money

  • @ariaahmadi7864
    @ariaahmadi7864 Місяць тому +1

    My most hand some most strong kind pure husband got killed suddenly by 2 stupid young teen boys (gang)in Murray Utah over our own parking spots I’m destroyed our he was everything to me I mean everything after his loss our life got destroyed I can’t be the same mom same person to our 4 kids I’m so scared to live this life with out him he was our protector

  • @daytonjohn777
    @daytonjohn777 Місяць тому +3

    Was she vaxxed?

  • @arlenecalderon8392
    @arlenecalderon8392 16 днів тому

    ECCLESIASTES 3
    A TIME FOR EVERYTHING.
    🕊🙏🕊
    JOHN 10:10
    Satan comes to kill, steal and destroy, but I have come to give you life Abundantly.
    May the Lord Jesus surround you and your family with his peace which surpasses all understanding, AMEN.
    Shalom 🕊💞🕊

  • @cocosurgerow
    @cocosurgerow 16 днів тому

    You need 5 years

  • @lis819
    @lis819 4 місяці тому +1

    Loosing a wife…hat says ‘good’? Mmmm….

    • @helenbotelho9517
      @helenbotelho9517 2 місяці тому +1

      He explained the hat towards the end

    • @reneegonseth7072
      @reneegonseth7072 Місяць тому

      Its deeply personal, but I still wonder what happened and why? Did he ask? Does he know? What is it like to not have some insight for closure? Heartbreaking.

    • @Ali08
      @Ali08 27 днів тому

      What other hat you suggest he suppose to wear? 🤷🏽‍♀️ People....