Read about Eric Berne. He makes an argument that alcoholic is a game. There is little pleasure in drinking but the real fun comes the morning after. It is an interesting idea, nonetheless.
I dont drink ( maybe once in a year ) I've never smoked . I dont watch porn . I work out and try to do better and better every day . Happy for you Lana .
I really reallly REALLY. Want u to make a video about having a hard relationship with parents I’ve been struggling with my parents for a very long time it fells like they never understand me EVER 😭n it’s a different kinda of pain pleaser I love u n I want hear u talk abt it
I am 21 in college and 5 months ago I decided to quit too. I've never had any addiction or something. It's just I started having huge anxiety after alcohol, even wine. I was truly so scared, anxious, depressed even day or two after. It feels great to be 100% sober. I really love having clear mind all the time. So grateful for that. The story is much longer but I wanted to share just a piece of it:) Love your videos, glad to hear that I A NOT ALONE and YOU ARE NOT ALONE in this, even if it feels super lonely
I’ve been 6 months sober! Sometimes I feel like I’m missing out but the pros definitely out way the cons! I’ve been going through a difficult patch lately and your videos have really helped! Thank you! 😊
When I was dating my ex bf, he would say that he couldn't hang out with his friends if he or any of them were sober since they'd have nothing to talk about and it would be boring. I still remember him telling me that because it was such a sad thing to hear but he didn't think there was anything wrong with it.
To make a long story short for me, alcohol makes you forget the things you wanna forget but unironically leads to you just having more you'd like to forget. And there's a lot I'd like to forget. I think i've come to terms that i may be a high functioning alcoholic and it's hard to feel like i need to let go. Especially when feeling depressed. Lana I remember you once were asked if you were depressed and you said you weren't. But similarly to the subject of alcohol you have a better understanding than some professionals ive met, it's kinda amazing. The best thing is you seem to understand you may not understand everything you can't fully relate to. And as someone who's had bad experiences with therapist that means A LOT, do you think you could make a video on determining "what kinda therapist may be right for you" i think you would have the ability to really help people on that!
Some people just get a high off of it, and it makes them feel good. I've experience that, but I can't say it's worth being addicted just for that short high. Alcohol just tastes so bad, and it's cause we aren't supposed to be drinking it. I will drink occasionally(socially) but if I wanted to give up alcohol for good it wouldn't be a difficult task. Addiction is a mental illness.
I’m 2 weeks in and so far so good. I never thought I had problem with it until I realized that social interactions and having fun was deeply related with alcohol for me. I miss not caring about everything, all the time though.
I quitted alcohol for the whole year of 2022. I started again in 2023, but for no good reasons (I mean, what reason is there to poison yourself?) and I‘ve been thinking about quitting again. Now I'm putting that into practice.
Gave up alcohol years ago, best decision I've ever made. The friends who are real friends stayed regardless. I'm richer, healthier and happier. Also, I have no qualms saying no to anyone after all the practice that I didn't get in my 20s. Good luck to you, and keep making wholesome content. You're awesome!
Thank you for sharing! I quit drinking almost two years ago. One of the easiest things I've done. Like in Sweden it's the same here as in Belgium. Drink to fit in, it's normalised on lot's of levels of our society. When you stop you look at it differently. It's actually dangerous how it's so normalised in Belgium. Even in traffic, they say "i only had one drink, I can still drive" - nuts. Recently some politicians were in the news because they drank a lot - peed publicly, racist remarks towards minorities, insulting the police. Absoluty crazy.
The lack of deep sleep is something I relate to, en the hangover in the morning spoils everything. To some extent, drinking is overrated. I love your content Lana❤
I admire the depth and quality of your character so very much. I've never had so much as a single drink, and I’ve been able to learn many of those same lessons through observing others, but I hold in very high regard people who are able to change and modify their behaviors in a way that is both conscientious and self-aware. I think that shows a different, but equally valuable, kind of fortitude than someone who's never done something in the first place. You’re a rare sort of person in the best way possible.
i decided to quit drinking alcohol at the start of the year, i think i went 4-5 months withouth consuming anything. then i dabbled again a few months ago and had a lot of fun that night, but i noticed something had changed. i felt weird and the next few days i kept thinking i didn't have to intoxicate myself to have a good time -just like i had been doing the last 5 months-. now i just drink a glass only if i feel like it and i try to keep working on not letting myself be influenced by my surrondings and what other people tell me, also i deal with anxiety in social settings so i try to work on that as well so i don't let myself fall into alcohol just to deal with that quickly and easy.
I'm with you on this Lana. Now that I'n 35, it's been almost 3 years since I quit. Not entirely because of the pandemic, but I realized I'm no longer in the place where I want to escape or rely on alcohol to be happy. I can now be high without getting high, though I still like the intoxicating atmosphere I'm no longer motivated to get a drink even if I'm with friends in a bar. This is so important for us, thank you for sharing your thoughts!
I’ve never been huge on alcohol but last year on Halloween I blacked out so bad that I woke up naked covered in throw up and pee in some house I’ve never seen before.. it was terrifying and after that I’ve realized I feel exactly how you do. I may have a glass of wine here and there but it no longer interests me and the negative side effects I get I don’t think are worth it. Love the vid
i stopped drinking this year because of the same reasons! ive never been a heavy drinker, only a drink or two, but every time alcohol left me feeling really low on energy for the next couple of days. so i decided to stop drinking, and i can see now how it helps me!
It is very strange when I see people struggling to stop something that we do not even see in our Muslim countries. It is very forbidden for us and we can never drink it in our entire lives. This is awareness. Once you follow Islamic law, it arranges your entire life in detail, so that we must be committed to it. We pray 5 times a day, and it is not possible or possible to pray it at other than the exact specified time, and this makes us very committed to our lives. It is the law of a complete life
I think many fail to stay sober when they only "quit" alcohol and that's it. Designing and really engage something greater in life that motivates staying sober compared to drinking seems key. It's very gradual, takes a journey of new experiences and routines. When I really think about it, the main reason I've drank is to "feel more alive" and that's a genuine goal but the method of achieving a higher baseline of feeling alive certainly requires further honing into the way of life, habits, routines, creations, aspirational engagements, adventure, creativity. The irony of alcohol is that it has a compound effect on reducing the baseline of "feeling more alive" so including it as a routine way of life is an illusion of "feeling more alive" in the long run. If it's stress or depression, really assessing and adjusting what we expose to is powerful too - people, places, things - there really could external causality that's compounding a need for a boost like drinking and it's perhaps something we have more choice over when we expand the belief of what is choice over these factors.
Hello Lana, Happy Sunday friend, this is a very good and informative video. Ever since your teen years, all the "Cool kids" did all the drugs, alcohol, etc, and you feel like you are left out, and you feel boring and odd that you don't do any of these things. I did go to the extremes with drinking back in college, and I 100% regret it. I used to get completely drunk, and after finishing college, I just stopped drinking heavily.
At Weekend i like one to Two Glass Wine for Dinner, not so much to get drunk, more for the Taste. I Like complex Aromes like Dark Chocolate, Tea and Wine.
I have actually lost friends because I don’t drink. I don’t get invited to certain places because I don’t drink. The interesting part? I have never explained that I don’t drink. Friends just see me order non-alcoholic drinks like a Shirley Temple or sometimes they guess because I suppose I carry myself in a way that says I don’t drink. Can you be social without alcohol? Of course you can. But sometimes society doesn’t want you there if you are not drinking along with everyone else. My thought is that it helps you discover where your real friends are…the ones who still want to hang out with you, with or without alcohol.
Some people might find it provocating when you don't 'lower' your self to their level by drinking. Maybe they feel afraid that you will silently judge them or your presence reminds them that they maybe will behave inappropriate. I hope my English was understandable.
Yes people don’t like to see people around who has more willpower than them, that reminds of them the fact that they are incompotent and weak. They like to think they are having fun, other are stupid and missing out a lot. Since I am a muslim in Netherlands I experienced that a lot. I have never asked them why do they drink but they would ask me why I don’t drink, and says I dont know what I am missing etc. But I am too kind to say they drink to get “Dutch courage”. Shame.
The way I see it - alcohol is not good for you, it impairs you, it damages your body, hangovers are a thing, but on the other hand - some of the best and most fun moments of my life I experienced after a few whiskies. There's always some sort of compromise. For example, a Bugatti Veyron has 1000 horsepower and a crazy top speed, but all of that comes at the cost of 20000 dollar tire changes and atrocious fuel economy, if that analogy makes sense. As for me personally - I've done the sober lifestyle (when I didn't drink for years on end), and I've even presented myself as such, as someone who is an ideological non-drinker (a lot of non-drinkers go about presenting themselves in an obnoxious way, sort of like vegans who never shut up about the fact that they're vegan). Nowadays I do enjoy the not so occasional drink, but I only consume beverages that I genuinely like the taste of (I would never drink vodka, for example, the experience has to be enjoyable both in terms of how I feel and how the drink tastes), and go about drinking while sticking to the principle of "an alcoholic is someone who drinks in order to not feel bad, a drunkard is one who drinks in order to feel good" (it's a Russian proverb, I'm loosely and perhaps not very elegantly translating it, but I hope the point comes across).
Good for you, I've been straight edge my whole life so I don't know what it's like to quit but I admire the strength of those who have. Please come visit Canada, I'd gladly have tea with thee.
At a young age, I was surrounded by people who drank only with other people and also taught me to drink to enjoy the drink. I always thought drinking was a social event and I know that drinking can be bad but if you are educated, you could really enjoy the drink for a drink.
I have only drink alcohol twice in my life. And that's when I immediately turned 21. In both instances I only took a couple small sips. I did not like it. Safe to say, I have not consumed anymore alcohol since. People's obsession with alcohol never really made sense to me, but I guess that's easy for me to say as someone who never really got into it.
Lana I concur with your reasoning.Lana I'm German-Irish-Indigenous-linegous Bavarian so firewater does effect me.Lana I thank you for you and I love hearing your vox so calming and soothing to my senses.Jerome❤❤❤
Thank you for sharing Lana ❤ Listening to your inner calling is so important and I'm glad you did. I also had a similar experience at one point i drank just for social events and decided to take a break and I'm thankful that i did because it gave me back my will to control what i choose to do and what i choose to not do. Now I'm better in managing my controls in alcohol and allow myself to pause and take thoughtful decisions. This can be applied to other areas as well. Importantly is you choose to listen to the inner calling and that is important as it shows that you love yourself ❤️ Cheers Rai from Singapore :)
I do genuinely enjoy a few different beers and wines for their taste. No excessive drinking though. I never want to sacrifice another day of my life recovering from an hangover.
Social anxiety Is what made me drink when I was younger. Now as a stress relief sometimes but it is so addictive I don’t drink often. Plus, it makes me braver than it is recommended for me… I would love to sip a good wine with you Lana but sober would make it so much more real. You are my betterhelp tonight, milady. Thx
I've never fell for the pressure of having to drink alcohol around people (I know, weird for the French guy not to fall for the stereotype of drinking wine with every meal...), just like I never did something "because a friend did it so"... Then again, I've never been into partying, I always valued things that seemed odd to my age group when growing up. Today I'm very much isolated, I don't have friends to relate to, romantic interest that hasn't deceived me at some point or just anyone I could relate to on a deep level. Always have been the odd one out, but I prefer to feel that heavy burden than to follow what I consider to be irresponsible behavior in a life that is already too short. (Before anybody does the mandatory "you must be fun at parties"... there's most likely a reason why I don't go or was never invited in the first place ;) )
Luckily I’ve never been drawn to drinking alcohol the way most of my friends are. I guess that’s in part because 1) I’m not enjoying the taste of most alcoholic drinks and 2) I’m usually not out on the weekends partying so there’s less pressure to have a drink. I’ve seen how close friends have been affected negatively by a parent who couldn’t control their drinking habits. I assume this made me more aware of the dark sides of drinking. Over the last two years I realized that, just like you, I’m not looking for situations in which I lose control over my actions, say or do things I might regret later or feel bad the next morning which in turn makes me waste away half of the day in my bed needing to recover. As an introvert I certainly experienced situations where it felt easier to socialize and be more outgoing around others after enjoying a drink or two.. Yet I’ve decided for myself that I am not willing to rely on alcohol just to feel more comfortable in social settings. For me it’s just not worth it dealing with all the possible negative things I made out for myself. I hope that everyone who has a similar path finds themselves in situations where they can be themselves without feeling judged. Thanks for your video Lana 💫
I am 20 and have not had much experience with alcohol much at all in my life... but I felt convicted by God four months ago to just... never make it a habit. I never really started nor do I plan on having alcohol being a part of my life. So amazing to see others making a similar decision. ♥
One extra note to quit/limit is health. Alcohol impacts detoxification, especially when the Western diet is so inflammatory. You’d be surprised how your health increases when you give your liver a break!
I don’t drink too. I think otherwise I would never accomplished what I did in life and became the first self made millionaire of my family. Also I don’t like the thought about loosing control over my senses and body, even if it is the slightest percent. …
Most people say they drink or smoke or whatever to tap into some altered state of consciousness. But if you're doing it right, I feel like philosophy does that sober, so then alcohol and drugs would just make you numb, sluggish, or high energy, or give you an absolutely terrible trip. I can see medical use, but never saw the appeal for recreational use. I've only ever gotten drunk and tried weed.
I think for most people alcohol like any other drug is an escape, an escape from our present normal moment. I have quit alcohol for the last 3-4 years I guess barring a couple (2-3) occasions when I was really low and didn't know what to do so I went for a drink. But then quit again, for me meditation which is vipassana which I do daily makes it really clear to not choose alcohol otherwise I would be going in the opposite direction which is away from awareness. Also, I really appreciate that you can so deeply look into your thoughts to understand your motivations and all, it does help in the long run. :)
Hi Lana, I have never been a fan of alcohol. I'm quite choosy and would rarely drink anything except red wine. Having said that , I can take it or leave it - mainly leave it. Right now there's half a bottle of red wine here that hasn't been touched for about 3 weeks. I just don't have much enthusiasm for it. I go more for tea or coffee !! Your reasons for not drinking are very good and I can identify with all ,of them. 😊
I used to occasionally drink but since being on an antidepressant... I can't. I had Prosecco in Miami... Three sips and I felt awful. It felt like I was drunk. That's why I don't drink and luckily my work friends understand. I work in my local public school system.
I don't miss it's poisonous feeling you can feel in chest. I think that only thing I drank this year was a cider with blueberries, and I drank it only because I was curious what would it taste like, since I like blueberries. I think there might be some hope with new generations. I read somewhere that drinking as a social activity among them declines because they are embracing the attitude that you should be able to be interesting without alcohol. We'll see if that is going to be a new norm.
Hello lana. I just seen your videos and i find them interesting I've only seen 2 so far. It's great that you feel this way at a young age. For me it was the opposite too long of a story to mention but i have 29 yrs sobriety its a much better life for me now. I wish you the best ❤
Reputable vineyards are offering non-alcholic or low alchohol content drinks that taste good. So if you are looking for the health benefits without the hangover it’s a win win.🎉
@@LanaBlakely Cool! There’s someting magical about grapes and also dark berries. I’ve been eating specifically for my blood type if you wanna go down that rabbithole. Don’t know if it’s placebo but works for me.
I really like your video! ☺☺It's exactly my point of view. As I was younger, I thought about why consuming alcohol at all because I didn't even like it... so I just quit. And until now, I do not really regret it. One of the problems is that everyone asks for the reason, as if something have to happen to change someone's behaviour. Added to that, they think it's a decision for your whole life but I never really said that. I'm just not interested right now. Maybe it'll change but that's okay.... Kinda funny, that so much people think someone who doesn't consume alcohol, can't change his opinion.... :D
The thing about alcohol is people are not able to accept the truth that it’s bad for you. It’s carcinogenic, but if you say cut it out completely people will tell you there’s no need to be so harsh, and a few drinks a week is fine. A few drinks a week is as fine as a few cigarettes a week, definitely can be worse, but there’s no need to put yourself at risk
As an Arab Moroccan viewer of your content...this is the first time I am writing a comment for you....just to tell you this "You are a great person and what you are doing is a step forward towards becoming the real Lana" 💝💝
I find it very difficult to relate on this topic with someone who didn't drink a lot and never enjoyed it anyways. Just makes it sound a lot easier than it actually is. Points are still valid though :)
I think about this regularly but haven't done more than 2 months without drinking. It would be interesting to have a video reflecting back on the experience if it has been hard for you to say no?
I'm 20 and in my life I haven't drink alcohol in my life . Because my mom dad don't drink and my community is religious ( Muslim ) so I'm happy to be sober = forever
Alcohol is so intertwined in the social fabric of society that its hardly suprising people have a hard time giving it up. I gave up in 2006 and can say that with a little life adjustment there is much joy to be had, not least fitness wise both physically and mentally. You will also find out who you really are with out an artificial high to prop you up and who knows? You may even like it. I've never been happier, good luck to all on your Journeys & Ps, Don't beat yourself up if you fail first time, its only failure if you do not try again & you'll probably find yourself drinking more than you did before. My abstinence was my third attempt so it can be done Good Luck
Proud of u Lana❤I'm glad that u gave a thought about it and made a decision without any social pressure or something....what majority does is not always right u know🧐
Well done Lana, and thank you for sharing. Also, shout out to others who have done the same. I must admit I felt I was missing out when I was studying many years back. But I don’t drink, and I’m so glad that I never did. I believe that alcohol is far more harmful than it’s worth.
I learned that when someone wants to quit drinking and live a sober life, it's difficult. Because you essentially have to learn to live again, to feel your emotions. When times get tough and your emotions are tested, many break and resume to alcohol. Alcohol numbs those emotions and the longer ones been drinking the more difficult it will be to quit, to live again and feel your emotions.
Most Alcohol drinks are bitter. And I just don’t link bitter things. I drink mostly at gatherings and it has to be sweet…think cocktails. I do want to try making my own cocktails maybe will consider quitting after I learn that.
It's sad how drinking alcohol is normalized and sometimes even treated like a part of culture. For some people who can drink with responsibility alcohol is not harmful, but there are many who simply shouldn't drink at all.
Alcohol doesn’t even taste good, never understood why people drink it. I am in my 30’s and haven’t had a drink since my 20’s. People always try to get me to drink and it’s so annoying, I just don’t do it. I don’t really have the time to waste drinking and clowning around with people that do.
Every inordinate cup is unblessed and the ingredient is a devil. - W. Shakespeare - He meant there are blessed cups 😈😈😈😈 😁😁Just kidding. I'm on your side. Don't demonize alcohol, but don't make it your friend. Most reasons to drink are not defendable. It's awful for my sleep and even in small amounts there is a little hangover. Although, you may be one those people who are truly funny and sparkling when a little tipsy.
Yes, I very much wish that not drinking alcohol would become more normal. I've been single for a while and I would greatly prefer to find someone that also does not drink for a relationship, but I feel like I might as well be searching for a unicorn or something. Very sad to me how rare it is these days. At this rate, I'm going to be single for a long time. [deep sigh...] - For context, I live in the USA.
I understand why people would want to quit alcohol but folks forget that’s how many societies mingled in the past lol in fact it was healthier to drink alcohol than tainted water. So to the folks saying it’s sad we can’t mingle with folks without alcohol we’ll just look at ancient societies or your ancestors! Just do it in moderation and learn your limit as too many times folks get reckless.
It is very strange when I see people struggling to stop something that we do not even see in our Muslim countries. It is very forbidden for us and we can never drink it in our entire lives. This is awareness. Once you follow Islamic law, it arranges your entire life in detail, so that we must be committed to it. We pray 5 times a day, and it is not possible or possible to pray it at other than the exact specified time, and this makes us very committed to our lives. It is the law of a complete life
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I've not drank in a long while.
Read about Eric Berne. He makes an argument that alcoholic is a game. There is little pleasure in drinking but the real fun comes the morning after. It is an interesting idea, nonetheless.
Also, ive just subscribed to your channel x
I dont drink ( maybe once in a year )
I've never smoked .
I dont watch porn .
I work out and try to do better and better every day .
Happy for you Lana .
I really reallly REALLY. Want u to make a video about having a hard relationship with parents I’ve been struggling with my parents for a very long time it fells like they never understand me EVER 😭n it’s a different kinda of pain pleaser I love u n I want hear u talk abt it
I am 21 in college and 5 months ago I decided to quit too. I've never had any addiction or something. It's just I started having huge anxiety after alcohol, even wine. I was truly so scared, anxious, depressed even day or two after. It feels great to be 100% sober. I really love having clear mind all the time. So grateful for that. The story is much longer but I wanted to share just a piece of it:) Love your videos, glad to hear that I A NOT ALONE and YOU ARE NOT ALONE in this, even if it feels super lonely
I’ve been 6 months sober! Sometimes I feel like I’m missing out but the pros definitely out way the cons! I’ve been going through a difficult patch lately and your videos have really helped! Thank you! 😊
When I was dating my ex bf, he would say that he couldn't hang out with his friends if he or any of them were sober since they'd have nothing to talk about and it would be boring.
I still remember him telling me that because it was such a sad thing to hear but he didn't think there was anything wrong with it.
"I'm not willing to trade happiness from tomorrow."
This might be exactly what I needed to hear to stop 100% as well. This was a true eye opener.
To make a long story short for me, alcohol makes you forget the things you wanna forget but unironically leads to you just having more you'd like to forget. And there's a lot I'd like to forget.
I think i've come to terms that i may be a high functioning alcoholic and it's hard to feel like i need to let go. Especially when feeling depressed.
Lana I remember you once were asked if you were depressed and you said you weren't. But similarly to the subject of alcohol you have a better understanding than some professionals ive met, it's kinda amazing. The best thing is you seem to understand you may not understand everything you can't fully relate to. And as someone who's had bad experiences with therapist that means A LOT, do you think you could make a video on determining "what kinda therapist may be right for you" i think you would have the ability to really help people on that!
It's just crazy how people can be addicted to alcohol, just because it makes them less insecure and more confident
Some people just get a high off of it, and it makes them feel good. I've experience that, but I can't say it's worth being addicted just for that short high. Alcohol just tastes so bad, and it's cause we aren't supposed to be drinking it. I will drink occasionally(socially) but if I wanted to give up alcohol for good it wouldn't be a difficult task. Addiction is a mental illness.
what? why is that crazy to you
@@cinematicwinter because I 've never experienced it
@@smilewithme1234but the world unfortunately isn’t spinning around you :( xx
@@miaaa333_x l dont know what you wanted to say? Is it a joke? Please act normal
I’m 2 weeks in and so far so good. I never thought I had problem with it until I realized that social interactions and having fun was deeply related with alcohol for me. I miss not caring about everything, all the time though.
I quitted alcohol for the whole year of 2022. I started again in 2023, but for no good reasons (I mean, what reason is there to poison yourself?) and I‘ve been thinking about quitting again. Now I'm putting that into practice.
Gave up alcohol years ago, best decision I've ever made. The friends who are real friends stayed regardless. I'm richer, healthier and happier. Also, I have no qualms saying no to anyone after all the practice that I didn't get in my 20s. Good luck to you, and keep making wholesome content. You're awesome!
Thank you for sharing!
I quit drinking almost two years ago. One of the easiest things I've done. Like in Sweden it's the same here as in Belgium. Drink to fit in, it's normalised on lot's of levels of our society. When you stop you look at it differently. It's actually dangerous how it's so normalised in Belgium. Even in traffic, they say "i only had one drink, I can still drive" - nuts. Recently some politicians were in the news because they drank a lot - peed publicly, racist remarks towards minorities, insulting the police. Absoluty crazy.
The lack of deep sleep is something I relate to, en the hangover in the morning spoils everything. To some extent, drinking is overrated. I love your content Lana❤
I admire the depth and quality of your character so very much. I've never had so much as a single drink, and I’ve been able to learn many of those same lessons through observing others, but I hold in very high regard people who are able to change and modify their behaviors in a way that is both conscientious and self-aware. I think that shows a different, but equally valuable, kind of fortitude than someone who's never done something in the first place. You’re a rare sort of person in the best way possible.
i decided to quit drinking alcohol at the start of the year, i think i went 4-5 months withouth consuming anything. then i dabbled again a few months ago and had a lot of fun that night, but i noticed something had changed. i felt weird and the next few days i kept thinking i didn't have to intoxicate myself to have a good time -just like i had been doing the last 5 months-. now i just drink a glass only if i feel like it and i try to keep working on not letting myself be influenced by my surrondings and what other people tell me, also i deal with anxiety in social settings so i try to work on that as well so i don't let myself fall into alcohol just to deal with that quickly and easy.
Im so glad u opened up to us about this struggle many go through.
I'm with you on this Lana. Now that I'n 35, it's been almost 3 years since I quit. Not entirely because of the pandemic, but I realized I'm no longer in the place where I want to escape or rely on alcohol to be happy. I can now be high without getting high, though I still like the intoxicating atmosphere I'm no longer motivated to get a drink even if I'm with friends in a bar. This is so important for us, thank you for sharing your thoughts!
I’ve never been huge on alcohol but last year on Halloween I blacked out so bad that I woke up naked covered in throw up and pee in some house I’ve never seen before.. it was terrifying and after that I’ve realized I feel exactly how you do. I may have a glass of wine here and there but it no longer interests me and the negative side effects I get I don’t think are worth it. Love the vid
That's a horrific story. I hope you were alright
9 months sober & my brain & body & friendships are significantly healthier
i stopped drinking this year because of the same reasons!
ive never been a heavy drinker, only a drink or two, but every time alcohol left me feeling really low on energy for the next couple of days.
so i decided to stop drinking, and i can see now how it helps me!
It is very strange when I see people struggling to stop something that we do not even see in our Muslim countries. It is very forbidden for us and we can never drink it in our entire lives. This is awareness. Once you follow Islamic law, it arranges your entire life in detail, so that we must be committed to it. We pray 5 times a day, and it is not possible or possible to pray it at other than the exact specified time, and this makes us very committed to our lives. It is the law of a complete life
I think many fail to stay sober when they only "quit" alcohol and that's it. Designing and really engage something greater in life that motivates staying sober compared to drinking seems key. It's very gradual, takes a journey of new experiences and routines.
When I really think about it, the main reason I've drank is to "feel more alive" and that's a genuine goal but the method of achieving a higher baseline of feeling alive certainly requires further honing into the way of life, habits, routines, creations, aspirational engagements, adventure, creativity. The irony of alcohol is that it has a compound effect on reducing the baseline of "feeling more alive" so including it as a routine way of life is an illusion of "feeling more alive" in the long run. If it's stress or depression, really assessing and adjusting what we expose to is powerful too - people, places, things - there really could external causality that's compounding a need for a boost like drinking and it's perhaps something we have more choice over when we expand the belief of what is choice over these factors.
Great job, Lana! You are better off without it! Another awesome video!
Hello Lana, Happy Sunday friend, this is a very good and informative video.
Ever since your teen years, all the "Cool kids" did all the drugs, alcohol, etc, and you feel like you are left out, and you feel boring and odd that you don't do any of these things.
I did go to the extremes with drinking back in college, and I 100% regret it. I used to get completely drunk, and after finishing college, I just stopped drinking heavily.
At Weekend i like one to Two Glass Wine for Dinner, not so much to get drunk, more for the Taste. I Like complex Aromes like Dark Chocolate, Tea and Wine.
I have actually lost friends because I don’t drink. I don’t get invited to certain places because I don’t drink. The interesting part? I have never explained that I don’t drink. Friends just see me order non-alcoholic drinks like a Shirley Temple or sometimes they guess because I suppose I carry myself in a way that says I don’t drink. Can you be social without alcohol? Of course you can. But sometimes society doesn’t want you there if you are not drinking along with everyone else. My thought is that it helps you discover where your real friends are…the ones who still want to hang out with you, with or without alcohol.
Same happened to me. It’s very interesting and sad at the same time.
Some people might find it provocating when you don't 'lower' your self to their level by drinking. Maybe they feel afraid that you will silently judge them or your presence reminds them that they maybe will behave inappropriate.
I hope my English was understandable.
Yes people don’t like to see people around who has more willpower than them, that reminds of them the fact that they are incompotent and weak. They like to think they are having fun, other are stupid and missing out a lot. Since I am a muslim in Netherlands I experienced that a lot. I have never asked them why do they drink but they would ask me why I don’t drink, and says I dont know what I am missing etc. But I am too kind to say they drink to get “Dutch courage”. Shame.
The way I see it - alcohol is not good for you, it impairs you, it damages your body, hangovers are a thing, but on the other hand - some of the best and most fun moments of my life I experienced after a few whiskies. There's always some sort of compromise. For example, a Bugatti Veyron has 1000 horsepower and a crazy top speed, but all of that comes at the cost of 20000 dollar tire changes and atrocious fuel economy, if that analogy makes sense.
As for me personally - I've done the sober lifestyle (when I didn't drink for years on end), and I've even presented myself as such, as someone who is an ideological non-drinker (a lot of non-drinkers go about presenting themselves in an obnoxious way, sort of like vegans who never shut up about the fact that they're vegan). Nowadays I do enjoy the not so occasional drink, but I only consume beverages that I genuinely like the taste of (I would never drink vodka, for example, the experience has to be enjoyable both in terms of how I feel and how the drink tastes), and go about drinking while sticking to the principle of "an alcoholic is someone who drinks in order to not feel bad, a drunkard is one who drinks in order to feel good" (it's a Russian proverb, I'm loosely and perhaps not very elegantly translating it, but I hope the point comes across).
I understand you❤ Finally someone spoke about this
Good for you, I've been straight edge my whole life so I don't know what it's like to quit but I admire the strength of those who have. Please come visit Canada, I'd gladly have tea with thee.
At a young age, I was surrounded by people who drank only with other people and also taught me to drink to enjoy the drink. I always thought drinking was a social event and I know that drinking can be bad but if you are educated, you could really enjoy the drink for a drink.
Lana, your videos calm me down ✨
I have only drink alcohol twice in my life. And that's when I immediately turned 21. In both instances I only took a couple small sips. I did not like it. Safe to say, I have not consumed anymore alcohol since. People's obsession with alcohol never really made sense to me, but I guess that's easy for me to say as someone who never really got into it.
Im just wondering, do you not wonder what it feels like to be drunk? You know like just for a frame of reference from curiosity
Lana I concur with your reasoning.Lana I'm German-Irish-Indigenous-linegous Bavarian so firewater does effect me.Lana I thank you for you and I love hearing your vox so calming and soothing to my senses.Jerome❤❤❤
Thank you for sharing Lana ❤
Listening to your inner calling is so important and I'm glad you did. I also had a similar experience at one point i drank just for social events and decided to take a break and I'm thankful that i did because it gave me back my will to control what i choose to do and what i choose to not do.
Now I'm better in managing my controls in alcohol and allow myself to pause and take thoughtful decisions. This can be applied to other areas as well. Importantly is you choose to listen to the inner calling and that is important as it shows that you love yourself ❤️
Cheers Rai from Singapore :)
I do genuinely enjoy a few different beers and wines for their taste. No excessive drinking though. I never want to sacrifice another day of my life recovering from an hangover.
Social anxiety Is what made me drink when I was younger. Now as a stress relief sometimes but it is so addictive I don’t drink often. Plus, it makes me braver than it is recommended for me…
I would love to sip a good wine with you Lana but sober would make it so much more real. You are my betterhelp tonight, milady. Thx
I've never fell for the pressure of having to drink alcohol around people (I know, weird for the French guy not to fall for the stereotype of drinking wine with every meal...), just like I never did something "because a friend did it so"...
Then again, I've never been into partying, I always valued things that seemed odd to my age group when growing up.
Today I'm very much isolated, I don't have friends to relate to, romantic interest that hasn't deceived me at some point or just anyone I could relate to on a deep level.
Always have been the odd one out, but I prefer to feel that heavy burden than to follow what I consider to be irresponsible behavior in a life that is already too short.
(Before anybody does the mandatory "you must be fun at parties"... there's most likely a reason why I don't go or was never invited in the first place ;) )
I can relate so much to everything you have been trough ❤️ sending you a hug
I drank alcohol since 2004 and stop at 2008 I got tired of it
Luckily I’ve never been drawn to drinking alcohol the way most of my friends are. I guess that’s in part because 1) I’m not enjoying the taste of most alcoholic drinks and 2) I’m usually not out on the weekends partying so there’s less pressure to have a drink. I’ve seen how close friends have been affected negatively by a parent who couldn’t control their drinking habits. I assume this made me more aware of the dark sides of drinking. Over the last two years I realized that, just like you, I’m not looking for situations in which I lose control over my actions, say or do things I might regret later or feel bad the next morning which in turn makes me waste away half of the day in my bed needing to recover. As an introvert I certainly experienced situations where it felt easier to socialize and be more outgoing around others after enjoying a drink or two.. Yet I’ve decided for myself that I am not willing to rely on alcohol just to feel more comfortable in social settings. For me it’s just not worth it dealing with all the possible negative things I made out for myself. I hope that everyone who has a similar path finds themselves in situations where they can be themselves without feeling judged. Thanks for your video Lana 💫
This is so accurate, Love it
I am 20 and have not had much experience with alcohol much at all in my life... but I felt convicted by God four months ago to just... never make it a habit. I never really started nor do I plan on having alcohol being a part of my life. So amazing to see others making a similar decision. ♥
Does alcohol taste good or do people just drink for the numbness or because they’re already addicted?
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such a refreshing talk, as always. loads of love to you, Lana
One extra note to quit/limit is health. Alcohol impacts detoxification, especially when the Western diet is so inflammatory. You’d be surprised how your health increases when you give your liver a break!
I don’t drink too. I think otherwise I would never accomplished what I did in life and became the first self made millionaire of my family. Also I don’t like the thought about loosing control over my senses and body, even if it is the slightest percent. …
Fun fact: alcohol kills around 3 million a year, globally.
You are a very wise woman. Every drink kills brain cells. Deep respect for your wisdom.
Most people say they drink or smoke or whatever to tap into some altered state of consciousness.
But if you're doing it right, I feel like philosophy does that sober, so then alcohol and drugs would just make you numb, sluggish, or high energy, or give you an absolutely terrible trip.
I can see medical use, but never saw the appeal for recreational use. I've only ever gotten drunk and tried weed.
I think for most people alcohol like any other drug is an escape, an escape from our present normal moment. I have quit alcohol for the last 3-4 years I guess barring a couple (2-3) occasions when I was really low and didn't know what to do so I went for a drink. But then quit again, for me meditation which is vipassana which I do daily makes it really clear to not choose alcohol otherwise I would be going in the opposite direction which is away from awareness. Also, I really appreciate that you can so deeply look into your thoughts to understand your motivations and all, it does help in the long run. :)
Hi Lana, I have never been a fan of alcohol. I'm quite choosy and would rarely drink anything except red wine. Having said that , I can take it or leave it - mainly leave it. Right now there's half a bottle of red wine here that hasn't been touched for about 3 weeks. I just don't have much enthusiasm for it. I go more for tea or coffee !! Your reasons for not drinking are very good and I can identify with all ,of them. 😊
I used to occasionally drink but since being on an antidepressant... I can't. I had Prosecco in Miami... Three sips and I felt awful. It felt like I was drunk. That's why I don't drink and luckily my work friends understand. I work in my local public school system.
Thank you for this video, totally resonated with me.
That feeling after being intoxicated, is the worst ever! I quit drinking alcohol years ago.
I don't miss it's poisonous feeling you can feel in chest. I think that only thing I drank this year was a cider with blueberries, and I drank it only because I was curious what would it taste like, since I like blueberries.
I think there might be some hope with new generations. I read somewhere that drinking as a social activity among them declines because they are embracing the attitude that you should be able to be interesting without alcohol. We'll see if that is going to be a new norm.
Hello lana. I just seen your videos and i find them interesting I've only seen 2 so far. It's great that you feel this way at a young age. For me it was the opposite too long of a story to mention but i have 29 yrs sobriety its a much better life for me now. I wish you the best ❤
Reputable vineyards are offering non-alcholic or low alchohol content drinks that taste good. So if you are looking for the health benefits without the hangover it’s a win win.🎉
I need to look into this!!
@@LanaBlakely Cool! There’s someting magical about grapes and also dark berries. I’ve been eating specifically for my blood type if you wanna go down that rabbithole. Don’t know if it’s placebo but works for me.
I really like your video! ☺☺It's exactly my point of view. As I was younger, I thought about why consuming alcohol at all because I didn't even like it... so I just quit. And until now, I do not really regret it. One of the problems is that everyone asks for the reason, as if something have to happen to change someone's behaviour. Added to that, they think it's a decision for your whole life but I never really said that. I'm just not interested right now. Maybe it'll change but that's okay.... Kinda funny, that so much people think someone who doesn't consume alcohol, can't change his opinion.... :D
Great decision to say NO to alcohol.
6:47 that asymmetrical shoulder shrug ...
The thing about alcohol is people are not able to accept the truth that it’s bad for you. It’s carcinogenic, but if you say cut it out completely people will tell you there’s no need to be so harsh, and a few drinks a week is fine. A few drinks a week is as fine as a few cigarettes a week, definitely can be worse, but there’s no need to put yourself at risk
As an Arab Moroccan viewer of your content...this is the first time I am writing a comment for you....just to tell you this "You are a great person and what you are doing is a step forward towards becoming the real Lana" 💝💝
I find it very difficult to relate on this topic with someone who didn't drink a lot and never enjoyed it anyways. Just makes it sound a lot easier than it actually is. Points are still valid though :)
I think about this regularly but haven't done more than 2 months without drinking. It would be interesting to have a video reflecting back on the experience if it has been hard for you to say no?
I feel the same way!
I'm 20 and in my life I haven't drink alcohol in my life . Because my mom dad don't drink and my community is religious ( Muslim ) so I'm happy to be sober = forever
Like Lana, I am also open to drinking only in special occasions
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Alcohol is so intertwined in the social fabric of society that its hardly suprising people have a hard time giving it up. I gave up in 2006 and can say that with a little life adjustment there is much joy to be had, not least fitness wise both physically and mentally. You will also find out who you really are with out an artificial high to prop you up and who knows? You may even like it. I've never been happier, good luck to all on your Journeys & Ps, Don't beat yourself up if you fail first time, its only failure if you do not try again & you'll probably find yourself drinking more than you did before. My abstinence was my third attempt so it can be done Good Luck
Proud of u Lana❤I'm glad that u gave a thought about it and made a decision without any social pressure or something....what majority does is not always right u know🧐
Well done Lana, and thank you for sharing. Also, shout out to others who have done the same.
I must admit I felt I was missing out when I was studying many years back. But I don’t drink, and I’m so glad that I never did. I believe that alcohol is far more harmful than it’s worth.
Exactly.
I have been following you for a long time.
I have never seen you have any alcohol to drink.
You seem like you should try one of my hugs.
Hey Lana. Your hair is amazing. How do you keep it looking so good.
❤ Lana your hair is on point
Anything in moderation is fine it's when it's overdone, such as more than one drink in one day than it becomes problematic
Over 8 months of no alcohol for me
I'm hopeful that this decision is helpful to u physically and spiritually😊.....
Same
I quit alcohol over ten years ago, and have never made a friend since.
I learned that when someone wants to quit drinking and live a sober life, it's difficult. Because you essentially have to learn to live again, to feel your emotions. When times get tough and your emotions are tested, many break and resume to alcohol. Alcohol numbs those emotions and the longer ones been drinking the more difficult it will be to quit, to live again and feel your emotions.
Never drink a alcohol in my 22 year life 🗿
I don't drink but i love to hear you
I'm also done with alcohol. But alcohol sure ain't done with me.
Most Alcohol drinks are bitter. And I just don’t link bitter things. I drink mostly at gatherings and it has to be sweet…think cocktails. I do want to try making my own cocktails maybe will consider quitting after I learn that.
Masha Allah so happy for you lana ❤
☕.. CheeriOs !! 😂😂😂 Frankly it has nothing to do with social at ALL, just personal taste! 😂😂😂
In my religion we don't drink alcohol and I know god choose the best for us ❤❤
It's sad how drinking alcohol is normalized and sometimes even treated like a part of culture. For some people who can drink with responsibility alcohol is not harmful, but there are many who simply shouldn't drink at all.
Alcohol doesn’t even taste good, never understood why people drink it. I am in my 30’s and haven’t had a drink since my 20’s. People always try to get me to drink and it’s so annoying, I just don’t do it. I don’t really have the time to waste drinking and clowning around with people that do.
Every inordinate cup is unblessed and the ingredient is a devil. - W. Shakespeare -
He meant there are blessed cups 😈😈😈😈
😁😁Just kidding. I'm on your side. Don't demonize alcohol, but don't make it your friend. Most reasons to drink are not defendable. It's awful for my sleep and even in small amounts there is a little hangover.
Although, you may be one those people who are truly funny and sparkling when a little tipsy.
Yes, I very much wish that not drinking alcohol would become more normal. I've been single for a while and I would greatly prefer to find someone that also does not drink for a relationship, but I feel like I might as well be searching for a unicorn or something. Very sad to me how rare it is these days. At this rate, I'm going to be single for a long time. [deep sigh...] - For context, I live in the USA.
I agree, nonetheless i just cleaned up two guises on my own without ice.....Cheers sista..
Lana 💓
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I understand why people would want to quit alcohol but folks forget that’s how many societies mingled in the past lol in fact it was healthier to drink alcohol than tainted water. So to the folks saying it’s sad we can’t mingle with folks without alcohol we’ll just look at ancient societies or your ancestors! Just do it in moderation and learn your limit as too many times folks get reckless.
I’m in my 30s and I’ve never tried Alcohol and I never will…😊
Smart Girl. It's not the best for your health.
Off topic, but you’re so beautiful. 😊
U r a princess. Keep shining
I heard whiskey has health benefits.
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It is very strange when I see people struggling to stop something that we do not even see in our Muslim countries. It is very forbidden for us and we can never drink it in our entire lives. This is awareness. Once you follow Islamic law, it arranges your entire life in detail, so that we must be committed to it. We pray 5 times a day, and it is not possible or possible to pray it at other than the exact specified time, and this makes us very committed to our lives. It is the law of a complete life