To anyone dealing with anxiety & insecurities
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- Опубліковано 28 чер 2024
- summer anxiety & insecurities & fomo
Chapters:
00:00 - Introduction
01:24 - body insecurities
03:30 - fomo
04:59 - enjoying summer
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do you experience FOMO?
Yes
I prefer JOMO, JOY OF MISSING OUT 😉
absolutely, seeing my friends going to other cool places i wish i could go tends to cause me to shut-in even more.
I used to have career anxiety and settling down anxiety about 10 years ago. Then one day I had a huge panic attack and had to visit an emergency. Several tests later they told me it was just stress. Get enough sleep, stay well hydrated, cut down on late night caffeine, YOGA or exercise with mediation. You don't understand the limits of your health when young but as you get older these simple things in life start to impact you in a big way.
Sometimes
To Stop the negative talk in our heads we first need to believe in ourselves that "we can" deal with our insecurities and anxieties. Prove yourself that you are worthy of anything by choosing to do which you fear. Anyone reading this you aren't alone dealing with this, we will make it together ❤❤
I want to know how to feel confident when all the friends I’ve ever had have called me flat chested and girls at school called me ugly to my face.
@@IntrovertedLoLo i cant make u believe it, but being flat chested is so hot, more than having big breasts, i have flat chest myself and i feel so confident cuz its elegant and beautiful , i can wear all the cutest tops without looking vulgar. About the bullying part never be afraid to talk to a grown up, they deserve to be confronted for what they said to u. And try developing a thick skin, imagine if someone goes out of their way on road and tells u ,you have ugly blue hair, but ur hair is anything but blue, u wont feel insulted cuz what theyr saying is not what you are .. What i mean is your beliefs are the one with the greatest importance on yourself, not others
@@IntrovertedLoLo Beauty is subjective, sometime in the past it was attractive if a woman had more weight because it meant wealth, then there were times where having a wasp waist was modern and created through clothing. And even today as there are western beauty standards that are ever changing ther might be other cultures where how you look is fitting the beauty standards exactly. And when you think about your body features, e.g. being flat chested, what exactly makes that a bad thing? Just how others word it, not being it. There are girls/women with a lot of breast who'd love to have a flatter chest, because it makes different things much easier, e.g. not having the need to wear a bra all the time because it otherwise hurts the back, and instead being able to wear bustiers that wouldn't give enough hold for a lager breast. Also some tops just don't fit right with a larger chest while others might not fit as good with a smaller, but that's okay, since everyone is different which is why there are different shapes of clothing!
Also: Most of the time when people call you something terrible in your face it says more about them than about you. If they felt in peace with who they are and how they look they wouldn't feel the need to make others down.
(Do your friends know how it makes you feel that they call you that way? You should definitly talk about that with them so that they are a little more considerate. Friends should be there to hold your back not to hurt you.)
The foundation of confidence in one self is to know your strenghts and weaknesses and accept them as they are (acceptance ≠ love, but taking it as it is) and work with that. Nobody is perfect but that makes every human unique. Most important: don't pressure yourself if you can't accept these things right away, it takes time and has it's ups and downs.
Also beauty isn't everything! The person you are is far more important so even if you don't fit in the beauty standards others around you hold as long as you stick to being yourself your charcter will outshine and make you beautiful just through that. On the other hand people who might fit the standards might look ugly when they behave that way to others.
I hope that even if these are just words from a random person in the internet, they'l help you a little bit. I wish you all the best and that the situation in school gets better for you soon!
So nice
Ur words make me feel confident
Thank u bro
Sometimes you have to embrace the anxiety, especially when you start a new life. It is what keeps you alive and makes you feel stronger.
Keep yourself busy doing the things you love so there’s no room for the negative thoughts ❤
This was exactly that what I‘ve done the last couple months this year. I compared it with last year and experienced such a difference.
This side of UA-cam makes me happy.❤
*As a teenager I find people like Lana so inspiring to watch and be around, even my initial desire to start my channel came from the act that I was surrounded by such influential people. Focusing on curating your environment and people you are around on a day to day basis is 🔑*
Some tend to over think but go for whatever works well after a little thought and introspection ...
Proud of u!
You're the big sister I never had. I'm 18 and I currently struggle with all of these things. Your videos with all of the tips and suggestions are extremely helpful, and knowing that I'm not alone with this helps my anxiety "calm down" a lot. Thank you so much
This month has been so hard for me…I just posted something saying I’m stressed anxious sad and overwhelmed at the same time..I’m really glad that you posted because listening to you makes me go through my thoughts slowly and also gives me hope..makes me believe that things will get better. Thank you Lana❤
This was very much needed. I’ve been in recovery from an eating disorder and since summer is approaching, i’ve felt so anxious. But i know that a lot of people experience this anxiety... I hope anyone that reads this can find some type of comfort in knowing they’re not alone and that it’s okay to struggle, but remember to be kind to yourself. Your body is your home 🫶🏻
This video came at the right time for me.. I think i spent most of my summers being really anxious about my look, i reached a point where i never went out without being insecure about my image, another thing.. As you said i always feel the guilt of not going out.
Im trying to heal from all of this soon.. And this video gave me sort of solace that a person i respect also relate to me.. Just wanted to thank you for that 🖤
I really miss the podcast, take your time with it and ill be the first to listen
Good luck with your new home.. And send my love to fred ;)
The calmness that comes with your videos,calm my soul and nerves,thank LANA
As someone who moved countries recently, I can completely resonate with what you just said. Summer anxiety hits really hard and it feels so good when someone puts it out there so beautifully making you realize everyone is going through something similar in their own journey. Loved this video!!
There is so much you are talking about that I can relate to - as a man who is ten times your age. I still feel the pressure of having to do things, as well as FOMO.
I love your videos, there is so much you are teaching me about me, and you are a beautiful person (as well as looking very good).
I’ve learnt to deal with body insecurities since everyone looks the way he or she does, whether you like it or not. Someone ugly can be a great friend, someone really good looking can be a horrible person…
this came at the perfect time lana. i live in the northern hemisphere and experience this every summer ❤ thank u for not making me feel alone
You’re so completely stunning! You’re the kind of person I’d feel intimidated by. I just stumbled by your videos and I love them. You really help so many of us feel less alone ❤ Thank you X
this video felt like pure truth throughout the whole 8 minutes and 35 seconds. you perfectly summarised my thoughts of the last few months. simply incredible
A lot has been going in my head ever since I am giving my final xms. I still suffer from anxiety, overthinking,mental blocks and fear. I am unable to study within these problems so I thank lana for this video and how she feels for us.
Hi Lana Keeping a positive and determined approach to things is often the most difficult thing especially when we are kicked out of our comfort zone. Adapting to changes in life can be scary but unavoidable. It will work out though, sometimes better than expected. Thank you for this open hearted video ;)
i was literally just journaling about this topic today. this topic came up in a conversation because i was complaining about how i hated summer because of the weather, but then my convo partner asked me "or is it because i hate that i don't have summer break anymore?" this got me thinking about all the summer breaks i spent inside in front of a computer rather than going to summer camps or traveling like other students. did i spend my summer breaks wisely? did i spend my time wisely? only then i realized i had limitations, and i can't turn back time to those summers. now that i don't have the luxury of a summer break, but i still have long weekends and public holidays, I'm wondering if I'm spending these times well too. this video helped give me some comfort as I'm not alone thinking about this.
I have felt this a lot of times is important to be patience and be kind with yourself ❤
You're doing fine, Lana. Some anxiety can be motivating. Thank you for being honest about life. We all like highlights, though reality is more important.
Thank you for taking the time to reflect and share your thoughts on this very relatable topic, in the midst of moving and being uprooted and in between so many changes for you!!
It just goes to show how caring you are, and I just want to say your videos give me so much warmth and ground me, and feel like a really good cup of tea, or a relatable poem from an author I just found and feel deeply connected to. I love listening to your thoughts and thank you for being so endlessly curious, kind, and enthusiastic about life and for sharing with all of us. 🙌 We are so lucky!
Perfect Cute girl🌷💞❤
I love her voice, it's so sweet and soothing, I could just listen to her for hours on end.
❤ you're such a beautiful person inside and outside Lana!!
Since I finished my master degree 8 months ago (during my studies I worked full-time and did my bachelor and master in the evening/weekends).. I never had so much free time.. but was always busy.. since I graduated I'm feeling I'm doing nothing even though I work full time.. i'm planning weeks and weeks ahead so that I don't have any evening/weekend free because I have the fear of doing nothing in my life.. fear of missing something.. not living the life to the fullest.. I fear waking up tomorrow and be 80 and have done nothing.. but I do so much more of an average person.. I completely understand you!!
Congrats on your move, Lana! We all have anxiety & insecurities at times. It's nice hearing from others feeling the same way, so thanks for your video. I hope the very best for you and thanks again for another awesome video and insight. I really don't experience FOMO most of the time, but once in awhile. I guess we all have some of that.
Your videos just always make me feel enlightened and happier.
🎵 I've got that summertime, summertime anxiety, s-s-summertime, summertime anxiety 🎶
Today I walked a four mile loop and the exercise felt good.
I did enjoy this video.
It is a good feeling hearing someone talk who I feel like I have things in common with.
This is pretty new to me .
Thank you for your videos!
i love you lana !! thank you for this 💓 i was feeling super anxious today and felt a bit better 🫶🫶
Hi Lana, thanks for all that you do. Don't worry about fomo, simply enjoy your life and keep smiling. I like your "new" hair style. I hope you have a good summer. Peace.
Ily Lana, you make me take a time to reflect every time that a video of yours comes out, I love your way of thinking and explaining your thoughts, I love every kind of video you do❤❤❤❤
lana, how's ur timing so accurate, i love u
Wow!! It’s like you’re in my mind! Your videos PERFECTLY explain how I feel. THANK YOU.
Thanks a lot Lana, I needed this video a lot I have been struggling with this problem the whole week, so this video is really comforting ❤❤❤, excellent quality as always and the audio is so great.
Hey Lana, I love love love loveeeee your videos!!!!❤
It’s like you speak what I am experiencing but cannot interpret it in words clearly. So you kind of help me. I hope you start posting regularly! Lots of love
The camera quality is crisp god bless you Lana!
Love your videos, Lana ❤️
I don't know, what to even say, you just bring the biggest smile on my face, thankyou so much❤
Great Topic! Thx for this kind of video. We all need it. Good to be reminded of these things from time to time 😊. All the best to y'all.
every time i watch your videos it's like I've watched a one minute video!! your videos make me so comfortable and so energized and motivated
I see so much of myself in you. It's a bit sad you don't know me at all, while I feel like I know you and can relate to you.
Actually, one of your recent videos made me take action and contact a personal trainer; first workout is next week. I also bought AG1 but I am not quite convinced yet.
Thank you and have a good life, Lana!
this is perfect timing. thank you i love you.
Thanks for this. I can't describe how much this has helped me
Your voice always feels like coming back home to the soft layers of bed 💞
I’ve been homeless and moving a lot. Hated it in the beginning. But then you get used to it and it is possible to cultivate the inner feeling of safety independent of a home. Connecting to the home within.
Grew up in Sthlm currently living on the country side in Sweden. Soo much nicer for me. I love being embedded in all the nature and the calm that it brings.
Your hair looks absolutely gorgeous!❤️
I feel very connected and grateful after every video that i watch of your channel
Thanku for for existing
Love you lana! Hope you get through it fast
You are quite a good teacher Lana. Thanks for sharing.🌹❤️
This way is the best, it sounds great. Love it ❤️. Lana you are incredible.
NO WAYY LANA I NEEDED THIS VIDEO SO MUCH THANK YOU!!! IM GOING THROUGH THE EXACT SAME SITUATION AS YOU THANK YOU SO MUCHH
Thanks for this video as I my college exam are around the corner and I was quite depressed
Hi Lana! I loved this video, and as usual, I highly relate! Also, I loved watching you dance and skip gleefully through the yard, and raise your arms up to the sky! :)
Lana, It takes an incredibly brave person to expose their insecurities on UA-cam to comfort an audience of viewers. 🙏
Remember everyone that life can be a struggle and every single person has self doubt about themselves in some shape and form. A reminder to not be judgmental of others. 😊
@LanaBlakely I Dont know why i like you this much, but you always make sense. Thank you for being there
So relatable video it's like you are talking about me, I have anxiety or summer anxiety what you call, body insecurity crop up unexpectedly during summer, infact I don't enjoy Summer but I'm going to own this summer not hide from it.Thanks so much for this video. Love and Respect always ❤🙌
I had the same issue when I was younger, dreading the onset of summer because I was too skinny and didn’t feel right in a t-shirt. Couldn’t wait for the summer to pass while others were enjoying every moment of it. When fall came I was back in my comfort zone cause the heavier clothing masked my weight issues. I was never able to fully shake this even when I started filling up a bit but what really did it for me was moving to the UK where the weather is almost always miserable. Introverts from a seasonal or warmer climate think they would feel better in a colder climate but let me tell you after many years of living in miserable weather conditions it finally made me realise how much I miss summer and warmth. This factor alone after so many years would make you wanna ditch the way you felt when you were younger and get a sense of wanting to live again.
Thank you for sharing. I am dealing with some anxiety as well
Watching you takes my all anxieties away......
I feel anxiety before my birthday, about month before my every birthday. Now it’s that time for me I am not happy with my body and I am thinking I need to celebrate that day with this body and with this condition, which is not what I desire
Tell me about it, next month is my birthday and i am crying already because i am so anxious, esp due to the fact that I'll be all alone on my birthday since all my friends have moved overseas or to different cities. I am dealing with extreme loneliness but birthday anxiety tops everything
@@natashasobti7176 I feel you. If you want someone to talk with, I will try my best. About two days ago I had a big mental breakdown and as a result I thought I need to speak with psychiatrist bc all this isn’t normal however still convincing myself that everything gonna be all right.
@@annaspeaks373 thank you for sharing, i had a major breakdown myself 2 nights ago and it was a complete mess, major panic attack. I have been contemplating therapy myself for a long time now. As you said "its not normal" and i have been feeling the exact same way esp after what happened to me 2 nights ago, i don't want to relive the same feeling again, its honestly choking...
But to know that there are others who feel the same way and can understand/empathize is honestly so healing.
You can talk about it if you feel like, don't go through it alone the next time ( i hope you don't get to experience the same again, but if you do, you are not alone❤️)
@@natashasobti7176 After those episodes I think that wasn’t real and it’s never gonna happen again but that’s not true. I don’t know how I keep believing. But only thing I have is hope
@@annaspeaks373 Hope is all that we need to row our boat forward.
Have faith and hold onto the thread even if you feel it's breaking apart, just keep holding on and you'll be saved. Trust me on this, i know it takes a hell of your energy and strength, but giving up is just not an option. ❤️
Wow it's nice to know that other people feels the same way as I do. For example I feel big pressure to make the most out of weekends and other free days.
Wow, so relevant! I'm always impressed by such an accurate description of the feelings that I have. Bravo, Lana! Thanks for your beautiful energy! 🌹
She's SUPERB👧😘💞
happy to find ur channel , like we say better late than never ❤
Thank you for this video! ❤️
Hi, it's nice to see that you always give a feeling that is more than usual, everything about you is a new experience to learn and you are the answer to all of that, I'm really waiting for you
I'm similar in that I say no to social things too often and when I force myself to do it, I feel great about it.
When I was a kid, I didn't want to go anywhere. My mom always made me go anyway, and I ended up having fun almost every time. I never grew out of wanting to be alone most of the time. I will probably always have to force myself to do social things lol. Its ok though, because at least I'm aware of it. I'm glad that my mother showed me a way out of something that tends to be natural for me, but could also be bad for me.
Anyway, I can seriously relate.
Thank you Lana , I love every video
Thank you for this video Lana! Can you make a video about unlearning not-so-nice attitude from parents? Or like managing your emotions in general?
she’s literally so gorgeous
much needed just at the right time ❤🙏🙏
I can't relate to the boreal winter-to- summer anxiety. Intertropical boy here. But I can say that the very same type of anxiety finds a way and slithers into the ecuatorial minds as well. Very sincere and enjoyable video. Thanks. My best wishes for your new phase.
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I'm very happy to be able to find your channel, I'm a new follower of the good and correct life rule program from you, success for you, Miss Lana.
Thank you for chapter 31!😘
This is about you conveying different things. We see the real thing. Whatever scenario we want, we learn to be real
Hey there Lana, Happy Sunday my friend, always good to see you again!
Always love your videos
Thankyou 🙂🫂
Your cool I hope the move wasn't exhausting love your attitude stay positive I hope you get everything you need and want your awesome stay happy lana blakely
Hey there! Dealing with anxiety and insecurities can be tough, but know that you are not alone. Take small steps to manage your anxiety, such as practicing deep breathing or seeking support from a professional. Focus on your strengths and unique qualities, and practice self-compassion. Surround yourself with positive and supportive people who lift you up. And most importantly, remember that you are worthy and deserving of love and acceptance. Keep shining!
A month or two ago I remember having the strongly felt thought: "This Summer will be great"
And while it's close, and from time to time feels like it's practically here, I have no idea about the specifics of what would be involved in such a happening. But I won't plan for it much if at all. One thing is for sure though. This summer, I will absolutely make sure that as much as possible of this beautiful form of mine gets hugged by the sun's rays and heat. And if sunbathing naked in Central Park leads to friendship, then even better.
Thank you Lana..
You look so happy when your outside in nature
Thank you!❤
Excellent...great description
I have a strange seasonal anxiety cycle. After winter: anxiety about activity pressure (same!), then over the summer my brain gets fried by the heat and humidity, so I actually end up being less active, at least mentally. Then comes the crisp air of the fall. My anxiety spikes again because my brain tells me it's time to prepare for school. I finished my last school almost 20 years ago...
Your voice is so soothing 😀
Love your videos , i think you have a very pleasant voice
Good speech. Thank you so much 👍
Thank you 🤞
Thank you❤
Very nice and totally relatable video ❤
I'm currently going through a huge mental breakdown and this video came to me like a fresh breath. I really needed to see the light in the tunnel and your words gave it to me. Thanks for that. 🤍
i was so curious about this topic (and before you asked about it i kinda thought this "summer anxiety" wasn't something that happens to (many) others
I LOVE YOU LANA, FEEL MY LOVE.😊❤
Love this ❤
We love you 💜
Noone could never dislike you ❤
In this video, Idk why but light is just perfect I think 😇
Take a deep breath and exhale and think the things which are in your heart ❤ start drawing anything that you get from your heart❤ daily see your art, anxiety will be killed by pleasure
I love this mic 🎤