And in 2022 he's close to 1 Million subscribers! I love his content and his "ramblings" that I so relate to. I also love it when he plays his guitars and sings. He's so relatable, droll as all get out and like a good friend that I and likely we all wish we had in real life. Such a likeable human fellow and I admire him a whole lot.
I'm fat, bald, and have a long, bushy, mostly-white beard. Children often mistake me for Santa. (Seriously.) I used to be a very self-conscious person; in some ways I still am, but now, at nearly 55, I mostly don't care what anyone else might think of how I look. This is me, I own all of it, who cares about anyone else thinks. (I like your man-pony, Frank.)
Mean people tear people down and make them insecure in my opinion. I'm a people watcher, but I don't make fun of anyone. I think many insecure people envy folks who aren't afraid to be themselves in public. My insecurities/phobias kept me from thoroughly enjoy life. Maturing has helped me a little, but not to the point of true freedom.
People can be so cruel about small, petty things (eg clothes, hair) and things that people have little control over (eg their face, body parts). It does start at an early age too. My niece was only 8 years old and crying to her mother about NEEDING a certain pair of shoes so kids won't make fun of her at school. It was sad to see and the last thing I worried about at age 8. If you care about yourself enough though, comments like that can roll right off of you. If you don't and place too much stock in the opinions of others, it can be crushing to hear. I have been doing more work on liking myself to diminish the impact of other's negativity. It works. I cry over something pretty regularly. Songs, movies, artwork, commercials - it all has an ability to touch me deeply. I don't see a problem with acknowledging how something makes you feel - good or bad (as long as you aren't punching anyone's lights out, it's ok in my book).
My mother is super judgmental of other people and it got on my nerves growing up and made me super insecure about what people think of me. I won't lie, sometimes I look at someone and I will think mean things like the things she used to say but then I tell myself off because I know how wrong it is.
yeah, you know there are levels of making fun of someone's appearance, as you mention. if someone makes fun of my shoes, at least i can change that, but if they make fun of my face, ain't no changing that
I'm With you, I cry at alot of stuff too, usually anything with classical music. Disney movies are a big one with me too, the lessons. I cried in 6th grade in music class at the song "Oh Shenendoh"😂
Spot on once again FJ. Everything you said resonated. I'm glad I'm not the only one who has such complex thoughts, emotions and feelings that I can't even understand or get to grips with half the time. Oh what an easier life we'd all have (but a boring, mundane and uninspiring one). Stay interesting, informative and authentic, it's appreciated.
As a kid I was self conscious. My grandma told me, if I realized just how little that people actually paid attention to me, I'd be insulted. A lot of us can have self doubts, so are more focused on those. I was bullied some. I grew up to be the person who randomly compliments strangers. I just acknowledge people in general. I try to lift up others. I have a special fondness for those who are quirky & freespirited.
Goluboi Del Rey let's think who he looks most like playing now(he types as the Tennis channel plays sound off, perpetually). I'd say: Ernsts Gulbis w/blue eyes.
It's all about attitude. Because you COULD be this succesful person even if you are not. Nobody on the street knows. Maybe you are? Sometimes when walking on the street I imagine that I'm someone really important and I'm on my way to some really important job or meeting. It makes me feel self confident even if it's just fun. But nobody around me will know. They will only see my self confidence. Oh, and you look great in pink! Really
“Guess it’s nostalgia though, you can’t stop the world, you know? Wish I could turn my head around” One of my favorite lyrics from my brother’s song Simpler Times. He loves Paul and his lyrics and is always trying to learn from him. Have you listened to Electric Light Orchestra? Jeff Lynne is another incredible songwriter.
i have not really got into ELO but i know Jeff Lynne was very influenced by the Beatles and produced their two songs for the Anthology in the 90s. man i like your brother's music. does he play all the instruments or does he have a band?
Life experience has given me a bit of a tougher skin when it comes to judgments based on outward appearances but every now and again, I worry. I wore this blouse once and although I rocked it with confidence, inside I worried all day about whether or not it really looked that great and I had it slotted for the donate pile. After work I grabbed some food and while I was there a guy looked me in the eyes, smiled at me and said "I really love that blouse you're wearing!" I thanked him and told him he literally made my entire day. I wish our society didn't condition men to avoid complimenting. I'm very comfortable giving and receiving them. My creep-o-meter will go off sometimes if it's a little over the top about my face though . I appreciate being told when someone thinks I'm beautiful but I didn't have a choice about which face I received at birth. I just try to maintain it. I did however choose my hairstyle, my clothes, my jewelry, my vocabulary, etc. If you acknowledge one of those aspects, I'll feel more validated. Crying in your car to music that moves you is very therapeutic. It's a confession of emotions to your dashboard. Today's outro song is my favorite so far this month! And, although I never mention it in a comment because I believe your talent is more important and my opinion hardly matters, I do like your style. I do have one I like the best but I enjoy seeing how you choose to present yourself each time. Have terrific Sunday! Toodles!
Chloe L. Hudson Crying in the car is dangerous. Sometimes I cannot see thru the tears. Lately I find I have to be careful what I listen to if my emotions are even a tad leaning toward sad. I have a tendency to get caught up in one song at times and keep it on repeat. Fortunately for others I'm mostly alone when I'm driving. Haha
I cried to Paranoid Android by Radiohead; that song is terribly beautiful. I’m a little late sampling their catalogue, but so far they’re great. Karma Police is good too.
"We should be building each other up not tearing each other down" - great advice. I'm not good at giving or receiving complements especially about appearance but we all need a little encouragement sometimes. A kind word goes a long way. Keep up the good work Frank.
Recently I came across your channel & became a fan of your content... Moreover, I took the personality test you linked in your recent post (haha... Several times) & learned more about myself... I want to take this chance to say "Thank You, Frank!". I went through some of your early videos just like this, when you talk about music, or you used other Beatles' music as an example to explain the differences between T & F, I & S... As a music lover of myself, it draws my attention immediately & I feel such a great connection with what you put up there... I play guitar & ukulele, & having my UA-cam channel now to pursue my goal & dream... I always feel music speaks much better than myself... As I wrote you my first comment here, I just want to say thank you again for being such a great inspiration, and encouragement to many of us, & I get what you talk about & how you feel about the music-related topics you did on this one & others in the early years, they were deep... I was just wondering but pretty sure there were more you talked about on those previous videos before editing... Anyway, it is such a great pleasure to get your notification now! All of your videos are so insightful, refreshing, fun & hilarious at the same time... & I also look forward to listening to your other passion in music, (yes, your guitars always caught my eyes! 😄😂😄) talking about music, or any content music related to personality types, etc you may come up with shortly... Last but not least, I love your motto ~ Stay Cool + Attractive!!! Thank you for being You!!! Best!!! 💗
If I saw you at Macy's I would think to myself......."oh there's a cool guy who listens to rock and roll and maybe smokes pot"..... That's a really good complement to me
Little kids are the best. They're so honest and just say what they think and they have good energy with them. You should embrace their comments with a beautiful smile or even some laughter. I rather a fun comment from a little kid to some dishonest comment from some grown-up.
Just watching this for the first time 2 years after the fact, and it made my insides perk up when you mentioned "I Don't Know". It's a beautiful song, and I thought the same thing first time I heard it. :)
Reflective times! I cried during Paul McCartney and James Corden's Karaoke and so did James Corden! :) again, that internal voice stemming from the passed. Thanks for sharing!
You know Mr. James, there are only a few videos on UA-cam that have actually moved me to comment before, but you've actually made me feel like I have something to contribute. I know you get this all the time in the comments (because I've read them), but the ideas and feelings that you describe in many of your videos are very similar to my own, especially in the "INFJ Fade" and "Marooned Mid-Conversation" videos. I mean, even down to the "I go clothes shopping only to buy solid colored v-necks" thing. I don't know if that means there actually is something to the MBTI idea or what, but it's always nice to here that there are people like yourself out there. So thanks for sharing your thoughts with us. I should also mention that you are, like, gorgeous. And I say that not because just because you expressed a need for that kind of support in the video, but just like, as a fact. It's 79 degrees outside, and you are an incredibly attractive person. So, while we all feel insecure, and if you are like me, you'll often feel it quite acutely, hopefully knowing that some random commenter out there thinks you're awesome might help.
I wish you were my friend, I love watching your videos so much. I also agree with you on the subject of judging other people; it really bums me out when I'm with someone and he or she mocks a stranger just based on their appearance. Like why live your life bringing complete strangers down? Have some love for people. Anyways, you make me smile FJ :)
All the words that I have to say to you are of heartfelt admiration and gratitude. I can't believe how blessed I am to have stumbled upon your channel so many months ago. I hope you find true treasures unforeseen.
It's not just people's appearances either. It's also thier choice of path in life that people go on about either behind thier back or even to thier face at times. I faced opposition when people found out I was leaving southern Ontario to train to help people in the north. Alot of people couldn't wrap thier heads around it and would actually go to my dad in attempts to try to talk him into talking me out of it. Which was stupid really, because my dad was raised up here in the north. And he would tell them..this is my home. I care about it and want to return someday. So here I am! Yes. We should be building each other up. And thankfully as I got closer to leaving I did find support. Having something like this happen where people are running down your career choice simply because they could never see themselves doing it is just as hurtful as running down a person's appearance. Because they are still attacking your choices. Don't be afraid to cry. Crying is good. Especially if your prone to depression. It's cleansing and it lets things out.
I've just discovered you today and have been doing nothing but binge watching all your videos! You're incredibly expressive and carry out your thoughts so well. Very inspiring and thank you for not making me feel like such an alien! INFJs unite! 🤘
I'm so proud of him! I wish these videos were not so old because I feel like I have thoughts that I want to share, but who knows if anyone will read them. It is interesting because I really want to get a nose job, I have been judged on it all my life but I would still be the same person as before, but maybe a little more confident? Who really knows?
@@AdorableOracle yeah, couldn't agree more, we're all proud of him.. just do it if you want. As long as you didn't do wrong to other people, I guess it's fine
Hey, it's kind of odd watching these old videos now, but I remember how these videos used to be really comforting for me some time ago, as well as helped me become more motivated and less self-indulgent. And then youtube recently recommended some of them again, and.. strangely, I was reminded of Elliot Smith's music when I was rewatching these old videos. Probably just because of how vulnerable both his songs and these older videos of yours are. I don't know, I just felt the visceral need to share that..
You look awesome in pink and your hair rocks! I lost my brother last week...I miss him something fierce! :( PS. I love converse shoes...I own 4 pair, I'm 45! I don't care what people say, I will wear them till the day I die! I went on a date once and the guy made eye contact with me, smiled, looked at my shoes then back to my eyes, still smiling and said, I love your shoes! It's the simple things that make a huge impact! I find myself having a hard time listening to any music right now. It all makes me think of my brother :(
Only been a year since I graduate high school and I already miss it so much. It was the most popular I had been in my life. I was the lead singer of the rock band and people were just so friendly and respectful of me. I was so desperate to get out at the time, though. :( But I'm starting to make friends at my college, slowly but surely. Everyone's so busy now! I wanted to say love your videos, love your channel, and love you. Keep up the good work :)
Personal style is such a cool window into people’s personalities. I especially love it when quieter people have a style, accessory, or hairstyle that stands out. It’s such a silent way to say a lot. I’m always pretty observant about the choices people make in their style and I like to compliment people (those I know and strangers) quite often. Our style is an extension of who we are. We need to own it! When people make fun of others for what they’re wearing or how they did their hair what they’re really saying is: I wouldn’t do that, therefore it’s a bad choice. It’s really just a reflection of the boundaries of their own personal style and nothing else. Or they’re just awful humans. One of those two. Backstory: Growing up much of my clothes was hand-me-downs from cousins because of my family’s financial situation. One of the most hurtful memories in my life was when my sixth grade teacher joined in as 2 other girls teased me because of my outfit. What a bunch of punks, right?! This memory still really hurts to think about but I think it also made me someone who notices and appreciates when people show who they are in their outer appearance. So.... you do your hair how you want, FJ! And as I’ve mentioned before: pink is your color. You wear it well! So many comments about little kids being mean! Oh no! Little kids ARE brutally honest. The best way to respond to them is by being fearless. 1st grader: Mrs. G, it looks like you didn’t brush your hair today. Me: I’m a teacher. I don’t have time for that. Plus I like it to look messy. First grader: (stares at me for a while) oh, ok. I think I like it. 😄
Veronica G love the end, 😁 Sometimes little kids are trying to get a response, sometimes mimicking parents but often it's their strange sense, or developing sense of humor. It's teasing. Specially if they're twisting their body sideways and grinning. I think it's a social extension of " if I throw the carrots off my highchair ,how many times will mommy pick it up.?" "I love when she makes that face and says Charlie not again. Carrots are good for you and will give you good eyesight". One more time please, I want her to say it again giggle, giggle,. 2 seconds later he's asleep.
FJ, you are under no obligation to follow societal norms. Look however you want. People’s judgements really don’t matter. I like your look...your eyes, outfit choices and especially your hair. It has tons of character! Those fools lol. Also, your looks are only a small part of who you are. Cause let’s face it, we all know that your personality is awesome. In regards to women being unable to take compliments, it might just be part of her insecurities. I know if someone says something nice about my appearance, in my mind, I don’t see what they see. That might come off as me being uncomfortable when really I just don’t agree that I look nice or maybe I’d look better if I tried harder...something to that extent. As far as crying to lyrics goes, I think it’s only natural for people like us. There’s this saying I’ve always loved. It says, “A good laugh and a good cry both cleanse the mind.” Not sure where I first saw it, but it’s true. They are both forms of release. Maybe let more than 2 tears fall next time ;) Let It Be was definitely a song that made me tear up. I was celebrating tonight though. One of my friends passed away yesterday from stage 4 breast cancer. This girl was amazing and on another level of hilarity. She would never want any of her friends to be sad and dwelling on what couldn’t be changed. So I went out, in public, and went dancing. I could just hear all of the inappropriate, but hysterical comments she would have been making. On the drive home I had the windows down and was singing along to, very loudly I might add, Come Together. It was therapeutic. I think all of her family and friends were blessed in that we all had the chance to say goodbye and have one last laugh with her. One more thing, she sure as shit didn’t give one flying fuck about what anyone thought about her. She didn’t just brake the mold, she put some explosives on it, blew it to smithereens and danced on its ashes.
Maybe it is time we all start accepting that not everyone is going to accept us as we are. Celebrity or not, people will always have something to say/think about you. How you decide to respond to it is really on you. 🤷🏼♀️
Sammy J Good point! There are entire shows, websites and magazines devoted to tearing down celebrities and their looks. When you're famous, yeah you are accepted by many, but there are also many criticizing your every move. That's true to the nature of people.
002themoon Yes! Isn’t that sad? There are businesses/shows making money off of criticizing people for their appearance. Admittedly, I silently judge people sometimes, too. It bothers me when I see people wearing socks with open-toed sandals. Then I feel bad about it afterwards because I remember there are poverty stricken countries in the world whose inhabitants would do anything to be able to even own a pair of sandals. 😕
Thanks for being so real and honest. We all have insecurities but it’s what we do with them and when we “dump” them on others is a dangerous thing, especially in the realm of relationships. If you like your hair and how you look and feel, and you genuinely want to do it for you and not for others then go for it. I feel jealousy chokes up kindness. Some girls are just straight up jealous that you look/are pretty or that you are a kind person. I feel what hurts the most is when a picture is being drawn with the concussion that my own kindness is not having any affect to the ones I love, meaning when the recipient shows or chooses not to express any thankfulness after a kind gesture that hurts more than not being validated, to me...because it makes me feel like I have no positive affect, it makes me feel like my kindness has no value. Maybe I should write a blog about this..
I think you nailed it, it is all about perspective. Insecurity taints everything (says she who does it too). And building each other up is so important, especially as there can be so many haters, especially on-line.
I love me some deep song lyrics. I just found your channel and it's amazing to hear my inner deep thoughts articulated back at me through a screen, lol.
If I saw you in public I would think you were really comfortable with yourself. You present as a laidback person. And I love that kids tell you stuff bluntly, they just don’t have the filter that adults do and it’s awesome. My grand daughter is currently calling me Olaf (from Frozen). Not sure I resemble Olaf in any way...
I've been watching FJ for over a year now and I'm SO happy for how well he's doing. But I'd be lying if I said I didn't miss these rambly, weird videos, too.
Arrived at this specific one all the way now in 2022 and same. The current videos are funny and nice too, but these are just far deeper and really make you think every time
I hear you on this one, I have some colorful tats that aren't covered when I wear casual clothes - kids usually seem to like them, but adults often get that pursed mouth look when they see me. I used to care about that crap, but now I just consider the source and walk on. I'll look for that song, but won't listen until I'm ready to cry, jic. Music moves me anyway, the tears are hard to stop when they come. Good job today, and btw, love your pocket square!
Honest. Laughing. Truth. Relatable. Nope, no following famous people, especially if they're odd on account of their fame. High school, a world into itself. Love your suggestion to compliment, can stay with people for a long time. I also rarely cry, but did so this past week, also to songs. Love the lyrics. Love you. My stream of thoughts while listening.
Hey, Frank! I just want you to know that, even if you feel like you are not "cool," there are literally thousands of people who want to hear what you have to say. When I found your channel, it quickly became one of my very favorites. I wish I could meet you in real life, because, the way I see it, you are cool, and the community you've created is so open to discussion and differences of opinion. Also, I think a niche following is just as good as having millions of subscribers. You can interact with your audience in a more personal way, and your content reaches out to a demographic that many of the UA-cam superstars don't even recognize. Thank you for all the work that goes into these videos.
Great color for you, that v-neck. Your moussed hair almost always looks great. I appreciate your sincerity & allowing us to glimpse into your inner/outer life. I've never judged a book by its cover. Crying releases toxins. PS: Crows are the smartest of all birds.
I tear up frequently and randomly. Especially when piano is involved. Lol, There could be a cat bathing itself and if there was piano or violin playing in the background for some odd reason I would probably tear up... big time. Great video by the way, glad I found you on here.
I know exactly what you mean about looks, for example, we do not have super malls or a big population in general and I do not really go out, especially now but there is one exception, a festival of good emotions, spancirfest, basically the whole town is filled with people, street performers, concerts, etc. and I cannot even imagine what people think when they see someone with a tube coming out of their throat and then to a machine, their legs, arms and head strapped to the wheelchair, etc., etc.… Now don't get me wrong, I don't usually care what others think, but this can be overwhelming, if I thought people looked at me funny before, being in a wheelchair, how will I feel now… In any case I'm going anyway, I want to see three concerts and perhaps go through the town once or twice… Anyway, as you say, stay cool and attractive
You remind me of my friend Matt, who started out in a wheelchair but then had to be pushed around on a bed when his condition got worse. It made him feel down sometimes to be a public spectacle but it never stopped him from going to do the things he enjoyed and he usually got to be first in line! Go to the festival and enjoy yourself. You are alive so go and live!
I have no doubt that it made him feel down, wouldn't that make anyone feel down if they had to be pushed around in a bed whenever they wanted to go out? And I admire his defiance and tenacity towards the universe's cruel joke…
Indeed it does, and it is awesome, I hear last year was a bit meh, but usually it is very enjoyable, I usually go just for the concerts, but other aspects of it are great as well, I would also like to invite anyone who can come to come…
I’m a believer in fake it to you make it. If you act like you don’t care what people have to say about you, eventually you won’t. It’s okay to laugh at yourself sometimes. .. usually when I’m struggling with insecurities I talk to my mom, cuz we are a lot a like except she’s wiser and been through more... and she always says that I have to validate myself first before I look for that in other people. And it’s true when I know who i am, where i stand , I care less and less on how other people perceive me. I listened to the song the end of the end and it definitely pulls heart strings lol .
Lol....you crack me up with your truthsayin'. I thought I was an INFP or INFJ but now I realize I'm actually an ENFP. The most introverted extrovert. Makes sense.
I'm pretty new to your channel, Frank, but I have to say... I adore your vlogs. You speak to so many things that resonate with me and my experiences. I'm still getting caught up on past videos, but I saw this one today, and one point is SO similar to my life that I had to comment. My parents, too, are overly critical verbally of anyone and everyone they see. I've grown so used to hearing those criticisms on a daily basis that I've become too reluctant to go out and do things on my own for fear that other people will notice, watch, and criticize. It certainly screws up your worldview. For me, it's held me back from doing so many things that I might otherwise have enjoyed. I had to move away from them to gain a new perspective and it was the best thing I've ever done. Just wanted to share. :) Thanks for being out here in the world and sharing your life. You're awesome.
I understand. I recently stopped straightening my hair and just let it be crazy, and I'm always expecting commentary from other people. I also dress a little different. For example, I like to wear dresses/tunics, but it has to be worn with pants or capris for comfort. I'm a little stressed out about going back to work for the first time with my hair being curly. lol Meanwhile, when I was in my late teens/twenties, I wore the biggest rave pants, two buns, a giant wallet chain with glow in the dark stars hanging off it, and I owned that shit.
That 70's Reader This is awesome! It's all about owning it. I get mixed reviews when I wear my hair natural. Someone once asked if I had "stuck my finger in an outlet". Because that's a nice conversation starter, right? Just kept it moving. Curls are beautiful and there are plenty of people who can't naturally achieve them. Own it!
Oh wow, this video made me cry a bit. You are lucky it doesn't happen to you often though, I cry nearly every day sometimes multiple times a day. Every little thing just seems to set me off songs, movies, photos, commercials (why are they so sad??), seeing my old cat and thinking one day he's gonna die, when I'm alone, when I'm at parties, lots of car crying even when no music is involved, and other odd reasons I won't mention. It is horrible on my eyes and gives me headaches but I can't even hold them back. As for mean remarks and comments on appearance, My Dad (sorry dad) and his whole family are the worst about this. They also say things really loudly on purpose so the person will hear them. I am not an easily offended person generally but this gets to me and it is one thing that does offend me really bad. It just embarrassing to even be seen with them (when they are being so mean, I still love them though!!!) because I don't want people to think I'm the same way because I'm not, at all!! I think as far as looks go people deserve to be given the benefit of the doubt because you can't know someone by looking at them. I had a guy who liked me ask me one time what I thought about the way he looked and he was very upset when I responded with, "You look okay the same as everyone else." I have never been attracted to people by their appearance/style as far as relationships go ever and I don't think I ever will. Sometimes I see people and think oh that person has nice hair or style but as far as their physical self it doesn't really affect my perception of them and its not something that is primarily on my mind when people watching. People are all just different looks to one thing, all humans to me. Sure, the hair color might change or the arrangements of features but all still made from the same base model. I have always upon people watching been more interested and drawn to other things more mysterious than their looks like, why are they here today, what did they order to eat, what will they cook with those groceries, how they handle things they pick up, what types of thing must they like, do they have family, do they have pets, what kind of job they might have, what are they thinking, how do they feel, are they okay, are they happy, are they lonely, and are they the same as I am in another packaging? It is so sad to think about how we are as humans. We are so dedicated to seeking the differences between us and not noticing the similarities we share how we are the same, and how we experience the same emotions. We forget how we deal with the same things in our lives, how we are born the same, and die the same and that we are connected in this in nearly every possible way without even understanding or caring about it. It's also sad to think that we live so singularly. We share experiences in groups but each of us internally experiences every single thing alone and with different responses/emotions to them. I blame this for our inability to fully see our connection and for why we think everything is different for us alone. If we could all feel together with an emotional transferral person to person we would finally grasp how alike we all are. This is why I don't understand my family and others who are so cruel. They can't see the human is the same in everyone, like in the people they talk about and the feeling they must evoke in them yet they are aware of how it feels when it happens to them and it doesn't make them stop. Why cant they see what we are? As far as children go I think for them if their small it's isn't normally judgemental and is more out of curiosity. They are learning everything they are taking it all in and I'm sure it's overwhelming and exciting for them. All kinds of people to discover out there and they are so vulnerable to thought manipulation by those around them is so sad(why is this hitting me so hard 😢) On a happier tone compliment as long as genuine and not too superficially are always nice even if they are hard to conjure up sometimes. As a girl, I like compliments that are less about something physical about me and more in regards to how I make people feel or my character/personality. These are also the kinds of compliments I give usually (unless I like someone's outfit or something then I will give a more appearance/style compliment )
You know I'd like to comment on what you said here because I really agree with the lyrics to the song you're referring to. I do not know the band or the song, but I too want a party when I go. I care far too deep for the ones I love and what greater sadness to bear even after your gone than to leave behind a mess of finance, heartbreak, and loneliness. That's the real sadness. Because if you are a true, pure person to the ones you love and you take care while you are relevant and alive, the things you do and the things to say are what will last, and matter. It's obvious that most people dont think that far into it, but most should. The outcome would be greater for all involved.
I come from the same kind of family😅. My my. That crap stays with ya. As insecurity and as compassion. I think it's almost worse if people think you're an attractive person and tell you all the time. That sets the bar higher, and perfectionism gets channeled into appearance concerns. "omg flaws everywhere!!!!!" 😭 Beauty is overglorified, and unimportant in the grande scheme of things. It would be easier to get out the door if everyone just focused more on the inner person. We should lift eachother up by seeing good in others and yes, compliment each others appearances sometimes. 🙂 This is a great message dude. I can't stand when people make fun of other's looks.😡 So freakin lame. We all have things about our looks we don't like so let's just be nice. Also, you are gorgeous! I've never said so because you get so many of those compliments already in this comment section. You definitely have nothing to worry about. Your hair could look like a hot mess. Cry once a year? You need to cry more soft kitty cat man. Hahaha. I guess us dominant intuitives tend to intellectualize a lot rather than just feel our emotions in full and release them. But it feels like pressing the reset button when you bawl your eyes out every now and then, when things are really tough. It is healthy.
You have great hair! Mine is similar to yours but way weirder- shorter in the short parts and way longer in the long parts. I work in a library with kids and I don't so much mind the littlest ones because they're more curious than judgey. Tweens and teens can be jerks though so sometimes I instruct them in the fine art of taking what they dish out. Sometimes.
I am deeply saddened when reminded of where our society goes wrong. I truly cannot wrap my brain around one's justification of snickering or talking badly about a person's appearance. Do we really have that little to do, think, or feel? When I was a teenager I had some pretty significant social anxiety. I thought everyone was looking at and talking about me and it got so bad for a couple of years that I rarely left the house if I didn't absolutely have to. As I've gotten older that fear has mostly gone away and I care less and less if people look or talk. I have far too many other things to worry about daily to give a rats behind. The only time that I'll worry about a stranger's appearance is if it suggests they genuinely need some real help. Then I'll just ask what I can do.
Omg, little kids, yes! The worst thing for self-conscious people haha. I agree about the social/tribal thing - our sense of self and self-confidence is really relative to our social environment. So when random strangers compliment you about things you already feel insecure about, it helps give some broader sense of confidence about where you fit in within the general society or real world etc. Like for me it has helped that random strangers have complimented me on having one side of my head shaved, rather than just my friends complimenting me (which does help too), because I suspect that other people are probably judging me for it but if enough random people out in the public complement me then I have a sense that what I’m doing has some kind of positive social standing overall, even if other people are judging me. But it would be really hard if I felt like everyone was judging me. This is also one reason why finding online communities is so nice too, because we get a broader sense of their being more people out there who are like us, so we know we aren’t entirely socially rejected for particular qualities even if we perceive a lack of acceptance in our immediate social environments.
Grad school is not the best part of your life but maybe just your life - so far. And Frank, you are wicked handsome, "weird" hair or not. Your eyes are so beautiful and emotionally moist. That's what I see. And you look great in pink. Good choice. On songwriting - Some songs can only be written from the reflective stance of a life lived. But some of the greatest songs were written in youth. Bob Dylan was interviewed and he said he could never write lyrics like Blowin' in the Wind anymore, that era of his life had passed.
I love your hair. I had my hair out the other day which is rare (I work with children) and I have fluffy hair. And a child said haha Rachel's hair looks weird. I laughed cause haha kids they just say stuff. But their PARENT' replied saying Yes Johnny, her hair does look weird doesn't it. I was like......well.....ok....... I'm tough. I can deal with this. I don't give a fudge.. ..... then a little bit of care slowly crept up on on me. Cause I'm Highly friggin sensitive even if I TRY. But I don't like judging others in general.
I was one of those cruel kids... I was late to learn what is a polite way to express some criticism towards other people, and what is not okay to say. I wasn't very aware of it. In my early teens one of my teachers said that I'm a rude person and told my classmates to raise their hands if I ever hurted them. I started crying when I saw how many people raised their hand. I remember that I used bad words I picked up somewhere and didn't know the meaning of, years before that. I remember that I heard people talking bad about someone behind their back and being someone that didn't understand the concept, I thought it was okay to mention them in their presence. I meant nothing wrong with these and always did afterwards like nothing bad happened, and didn't understand why people wouldn't like me. After that thing happened in my class, I'm very careful, and always question people who say anything bad about anyone, as I know how harmful it can be. I learnt to turn them off, if they are directed to me. I've been obese for more than 15 years, and I only know about 3 people who called me a fat cow. There were probably many more who did it behind my back. I have someone close to me (an adult) who always points out the things that aren't perfect about a person (like about someone who seemed to have scoliosis, but I wouldn't have recognised it, to mention one of the latest examples) I reply back a lot, was it really necessary to mention? Who cares about that? If a kid had been there and heard it, the kid may would start making fun about that person, and that would be awful. This person is not aware of the power of their words, not only in this context.
We have already passed a negative judgment on ourselves by giving credence to the opinions of strangers. We are putting their opinions above our own despite their having done nothing to earn such deference. We need to value our own concepts of who we want to be.
Can you not sound like we’re twin 😂😂😂 I’m new to your channel but it didn’t took me too long to play through all your vids, love you and your works FJ ❤️I’d like to see more, cuz they sure made my day 🔥
I made a comment to my friend saying I felt self conscious, she responded with, “trust me, no one is gonna notice your insecurity!” Then we go to the mall and she said, “that girl really shouldn’t wear shorts. Shorts shouldn’t even be made in that size.” WELL. first off, rude. But this is why I nitpick myself bc I hear people talk about other people like this.
Hey Frank, this validation issue gets to me. I'm hyper aware of it (internally and externally), and I took the time to psychologically understand it too (long discussion). My ego goes through extremes sometimes to seek it then isolate itself from it (links back to your isolation video). But there's no resolution, ego wants it and no amount of rationalization or growth seems to be a solution rather it lessens it or understands it more. Others would argue that we are sociable beings and this is a basic need and it's futile to try not having it. The real issue is ego doesn't want to get hurt and it knows in many cases it will not have this need met and tries to avoid such situations or find a way to bypass it. It's absurd really what lengths ego would go to in order to do this. Makes me feel sometimes like a headless chicken with no aim. It's weird haha. Good vid ^_^ Best regards, Zee
I came across this program in response to a search of your content for "crying," since I was wondering whether a deep comfort with my own tears - publicly or privately, tears of joy or of sorrow - is common among INFJs. It's kinda my calling card, and, honestly, I don't know how people who don't/can't cry more often do it, or why they'd want to - some even considering it virtuous. Anyway, as you might guess, I was a little disappointed that, quite unlike me, you're a two-cry-one-sob-a-year kind of guy. But I still love you.
I grew up with my family talking about everyone including each other. When I got divorced it turned on me; I’m a bad mom, I’m not a good Christian, etc. I had people coming to my job telling me how to get back together with my husband and I found out my family was trashing me to. They decided to advise on something they didn’t know everything about and how could they; they weren’t walking in my shoes. So that is the outlook I try to take; I may not understand why someone does or acts a certain way but a lifetime of things brought them to where they are today.It is hard today though because in workplaces among women it seems talking about people behind their backs is considered a “family atmosphere.” And I think there is a difference between venting (because we all need to vent at times) and it being a continual pattern of talking about others behind their back. So once I find out it isn’t just venting, that it is a way of life in a place I work, I just put headphones in or excuse myself. I am labeled the oddball. Lol which is kind of funny since we are talking about labels. You get labeled whether you play or not
Ah the judgmental parents. My mom was so much like that. Even about my friends as they walked away. A teenage girl in a colorful, unique thrifted outfit and my mom who is usually so kind said, "Why does she dress like she's homeless?" Dude. I'm judging my past self hardcore for not standing up for my friend. Working with little kids made me immune to judgmental children. Now I don't even care about teenagers (the ultimate judgmental group, because they know better and still do it). In fact, I lean in. It turns out they like that. I make it a point to give people compliments about their appearance. Or when it seems like they've put effort into something. I don't want to talk about myself but I still want to build relationships, it's the perfect tool. :) 3 songs have made me cry between yesterday and today. First, Across the Universe. I was stargazing and recalling myself when I was 16, first examining the depth of those lyrics. I had savored every line. I think it was the first time I had ever taken my mental magnifying glass and closely studied the effect of every metaphor. That might have been the song that made me want to write songs. So it had been awhile and I was stargazing under the influence, as you do when your birthday is during the Perseids. But I was too tired to stay awake, so I got up to go to bed as my husband's mix CD was playing. He said something I'd never heard him say - "I'm going to sit outside and reflect." And the Nirvana cover of "The Man Who Sold the World" came on. And tears. And this was probably because I forgot all my drugs when I went on this road trip, but on the way back we put on Neil Young's "Harvest Moon" album - one of the first CDs I ever had, a Christmas present from my dad. The song was "Natural Beauty." Tears. I may not be a very good compass for what is actually sad. :) I love your comment section so much. It was so nice of people to say happy birthday to ME, on YOUR video.
I’m never weirded out by complements. People are sharing their kind thoughts and even though I’m super introverted I make it a point to complement strangers. You can make someone’s whole day. Btw your hair Is amazing. Long hair on guys is the best. My seven yr old son has long curly hair. You have great hair and a great personality. ☺️
For me it really helps to think other people also have their insecurities, and generally people understand really well that you are also a person with insecurities and imperfectionisms. And most people don't judge you on how you look but on what you do and what your intentions are. :)
I love plain coloured t-shirts😍. Now I want a pink one too! I was never bothered by what people wear or how they look. I've found my self in groups where everyone would comment on someone's appearance...or how they dressed and it always felt off to me. Like...why should I care or judge? Maybe I'm just this way because of my own insecurities and fear of judgement.
The radio got me today 😭 "Cos, I don't really know how to tell ya, without feeling much worse. I know your in a better place, but it's always gonna hurt" 😭😭 It might be a female infj thing, but for one week of them month I'm angry at fruit and crying over being woke up to start the day... I related to your last video 😂 Without being to personal nice colour choice with the t 👍 you'd also suit yellow, don't listen to the kids who say different.
Im always doing my hair and makeup before I go out most of the time that I fear people think I'm trying too hard! Lol I also feel vain but it makes me feel good and love myself... When I'm not caring about my appearance I'm probably drinking again! I've been growing my hair from a short dude fauxhawk since the winter just pinning it up cool and finally got it cut yesterday because my bangs are chin length finally and got it short in the back and angled. Then I colored it a dark burgundy I like and the ladies loved it at church and want me to do their hair now ( cuz I got a booth set up in my house) so yeah. I finally had the patience to grow my hair past the awkward stages and I'm feeling good now! But when I look at other people's hair I envision a style for them, not everyone is judging negatively!
Thank you, Frank, for posting every day, you're always the highlight of mine. parents need to teach their children to stop judging people tbh, plus you have nice eyes. Even tho I always encourage people to show feelings, I don't cry like you, I wish I could sometimes.
I love this video! I think once you stop caring what people think about you, you no longer are shy or socially awkward! You will be free and super happy if you can accomplish this! I think people don’t compliment others enough. It not only makes them feel good, but you as well. I like the low lighting in your room.
Watching this in 2021 when he is actually a famous, confident youtuber with hundreds of thousands subscribers 😃
It's what called "Self Improvement"
@@PS-qi3sr you wanna say He should care about what others would think without caring about what he wants?
Awesome transformation. He is incredibly authentic, insightful, funny, brave, articulate and intelligent. Just himself.
And in 2022 he's close to 1 Million subscribers! I love his content and his "ramblings" that I so relate to. I also love it when he plays his guitars and sings. He's so relatable, droll as all get out and like a good friend that I and likely we all wish we had in real life. Such a likeable human fellow and I admire him a whole lot.
@@donnawoodward3163 yeeeaaaaa he reached almost 1.15 millionsssssss
nice to see i'm not the only one that scrolls back through FJs stuff. He has such authentic and humble honesty - he's very relatable.
I'm fat, bald, and have a long, bushy, mostly-white beard. Children often mistake me for Santa. (Seriously.) I used to be a very self-conscious person; in some ways I still am, but now, at nearly 55, I mostly don't care what anyone else might think of how I look. This is me, I own all of it, who cares about anyone else thinks. (I like your man-pony, Frank.)
Mean people tear people down and make them insecure in my opinion. I'm a people watcher, but I don't make fun of anyone. I think many insecure people envy folks who aren't afraid to be themselves in public. My insecurities/phobias kept me from thoroughly enjoy life. Maturing has helped me a little, but not to the point of true freedom.
i think you're right about insecure people envying people being themselves in public
Your outro songs, man... lol. I'm loving these August Vlogs! ;)
Same!
Angel Garcia & Angela Hood ..Yeah! They totally have been the highlight of his August videos :D
agreed, you are very talented at song-writing fj. and also mixing or whatever they call it. producing?
Right abe?!
People can be so cruel about small, petty things (eg clothes, hair) and things that people have little control over (eg their face, body parts). It does start at an early age too. My niece was only 8 years old and crying to her mother about NEEDING a certain pair of shoes so kids won't make fun of her at school. It was sad to see and the last thing I worried about at age 8.
If you care about yourself enough though, comments like that can roll right off of you. If you don't and place too much stock in the opinions of others, it can be crushing to hear. I have been doing more work on liking myself to diminish the impact of other's negativity. It works.
I cry over something pretty regularly. Songs, movies, artwork, commercials - it all has an ability to touch me deeply. I don't see a problem with acknowledging how something makes you feel - good or bad (as long as you aren't punching anyone's lights out, it's ok in my book).
My mother is super judgmental of other people and it got on my nerves growing up and made me super insecure about what people think of me. I won't lie, sometimes I look at someone and I will think mean things like the things she used to say but then I tell myself off because I know how wrong it is.
yeah, you know there are levels of making fun of someone's appearance, as you mention. if someone makes fun of my shoes, at least i can change that, but if they make fun of my face, ain't no changing that
I'm With you, I cry at alot of stuff too, usually anything with classical music. Disney movies are a big one with me too, the lessons. I cried in 6th grade in music class at the song "Oh Shenendoh"😂
@@FrankJames plastic surgery, dude. Since IG blew up, so did plastic surgery. It's sad.
Spot on once again FJ. Everything you said resonated. I'm glad I'm not the only one who has such complex thoughts, emotions and feelings that I can't even understand or get to grips with half the time. Oh what an easier life we'd all have (but a boring, mundane and uninspiring one). Stay interesting, informative and authentic, it's appreciated.
thanks :)
As a kid I was self conscious. My grandma told me, if I realized just how little that people actually paid attention to me, I'd be insulted. A lot of us can have self doubts, so are more focused on those. I was bullied some. I grew up to be the person who randomly compliments strangers. I just acknowledge people in general. I try to lift up others. I have a special fondness for those who are quirky & freespirited.
You look like a model in pink👌
And also like an European tennis player (Maybe is just my opinion on this one)
he always looks like a model. And his hair is awesome. So versatile, so many different looks. He could do a whole vlog on his hair.
Goluboi Del Rey let's think who he looks most like playing now(he types as the Tennis channel plays sound off, perpetually).
I'd say: Ernsts Gulbis w/blue eyes.
FJ looks like my twin brother, if I had one. A ten years younger twin ;p
Goluboi Del Rey He looks like a model in anything. He could seriously be one.
Angela Hood
Imagine FJ on the catwalk. He would make other male models look really plain and boring... ^^
It's all about attitude. Because you COULD be this succesful person even if you are not. Nobody on the street knows. Maybe you are? Sometimes when walking on the street I imagine that I'm someone really important and I'm on my way to some really important job or meeting. It makes me feel self confident even if it's just fun. But nobody around me will know. They will only see my self confidence.
Oh, and you look great in pink! Really
you're right, pretending to be important can really help!
I relate to this so much, including the parental part. And you look great ☺️🌷
“Guess it’s nostalgia though, you can’t stop the world, you know? Wish I could turn my head around” One of my favorite lyrics from my brother’s song Simpler Times. He loves Paul and his lyrics and is always trying to learn from him. Have you listened to Electric Light Orchestra? Jeff Lynne is another incredible songwriter.
For anyone that wants to hear the song: open.spotify.com/track/1qS1heCvbpB2ganKZ4hJn6?si=JP3Je2xvS9qMlVjGaH_kow
i have not really got into ELO but i know Jeff Lynne was very influenced by the Beatles and produced their two songs for the Anthology in the 90s. man i like your brother's music. does he play all the instruments or does he have a band?
Life experience has given me a bit of a tougher skin when it comes to judgments based on outward appearances but every now and again, I worry.
I wore this blouse once and although I rocked it with confidence, inside I worried all day about whether or not it really looked that great and I had it slotted for the donate pile. After work I grabbed some food and while I was there a guy looked me in the eyes, smiled at me and said "I really love that blouse you're wearing!" I thanked him and told him he literally made my entire day.
I wish our society didn't condition men to avoid complimenting. I'm very comfortable giving and receiving them. My creep-o-meter will go off sometimes if it's a little over the top about my face though . I appreciate being told when someone thinks I'm beautiful but I didn't have a choice about which face I received at birth. I just try to maintain it. I did however choose my hairstyle, my clothes, my jewelry, my vocabulary, etc. If you acknowledge one of those aspects, I'll feel more validated.
Crying in your car to music that moves you is very therapeutic. It's a confession of emotions to your dashboard.
Today's outro song is my favorite so far this month! And, although I never mention it in a comment because I believe your talent is more important and my opinion hardly matters, I do like your style. I do have one I like the best but I enjoy seeing how you choose to present yourself each time. Have terrific Sunday!
Toodles!
Chloe L. Hudson
Crying in the car is dangerous. Sometimes I cannot see thru the tears. Lately I find I have to be careful what I listen to if my emotions are even a tad leaning toward sad. I have a tendency to get caught up in one song at times and keep it on repeat. Fortunately for others I'm mostly alone when I'm driving. Haha
I cried to Paranoid Android by Radiohead; that song is terribly beautiful. I’m a little late sampling their catalogue, but so far they’re great. Karma Police is good too.
"We should be building each other up not tearing each other down" - great advice. I'm not good at giving or receiving complements especially about appearance but we all need a little encouragement sometimes. A kind word goes a long way. Keep up the good work Frank.
Recently I came across your channel & became a fan of your content... Moreover, I took the personality test you linked in your recent post (haha... Several times) & learned more about myself... I want to take this chance to say "Thank You, Frank!". I went through some of your early videos just like this, when you talk about music, or you used other Beatles' music as an example to explain the differences between T & F, I & S... As a music lover of myself, it draws my attention immediately & I feel such a great connection with what you put up there... I play guitar & ukulele, & having my UA-cam channel now to pursue my goal & dream... I always feel music speaks much better than myself... As I wrote you my first comment here, I just want to say thank you again for being such a great inspiration, and encouragement to many of us, & I get what you talk about & how you feel about the music-related topics you did on this one & others in the early years, they were deep... I was just wondering but pretty sure there were more you talked about on those previous videos before editing...
Anyway, it is such a great pleasure to get your notification now! All of your videos are so insightful, refreshing, fun & hilarious at the same time... & I also look forward to listening to your other passion in music, (yes, your guitars always caught my eyes! 😄😂😄) talking about music, or any content music related to personality types, etc you may come up with shortly... Last but not least, I love your motto ~ Stay Cool + Attractive!!! Thank you for being You!!! Best!!! 💗
I know right! And the best part is he doesn't have clue how big of an impact he had on us. 😇🎈
I also love how much he loves the Beatles. 🌟
@@cansueceklc5020 Yeah!!! ☺❤
So glad to see how much you have grown! It's refreshing!🌹
If I saw you at Macy's I would think to myself......."oh there's a cool guy who listens to rock and roll and maybe smokes pot"..... That's a really good complement to me
Little kids are the best. They're so honest and just say what they think and they have good energy with them. You should embrace their comments with a beautiful smile or even some laughter.
I rather a fun comment from a little kid to some dishonest comment from some grown-up.
Just watching this for the first time 2 years after the fact, and it made my insides perk up when you mentioned "I Don't Know". It's a beautiful song, and I thought the same thing first time I heard it. :)
Reflective times! I cried during Paul McCartney and James Corden's Karaoke and so did James Corden! :) again, that internal voice stemming from the passed. Thanks for sharing!
You know Mr. James, there are only a few videos on UA-cam that have actually moved me to comment before, but you've actually made me feel like I have something to contribute. I know you get this all the time in the comments (because I've read them), but the ideas and feelings that you describe in many of your videos are very similar to my own, especially in the "INFJ Fade" and "Marooned Mid-Conversation" videos. I mean, even down to the "I go clothes shopping only to buy solid colored v-necks" thing. I don't know if that means there actually is something to the MBTI idea or what, but it's always nice to here that there are people like yourself out there. So thanks for sharing your thoughts with us.
I should also mention that you are, like, gorgeous. And I say that not because just because you expressed a need for that kind of support in the video, but just like, as a fact. It's 79 degrees outside, and you are an incredibly attractive person. So, while we all feel insecure, and if you are like me, you'll often feel it quite acutely, hopefully knowing that some random commenter out there thinks you're awesome might help.
I actually prefer the honesty that kids have. I would rather have that than guess what people are thinking.
I wish you were my friend, I love watching your videos so much. I also agree with you on the subject of judging other people; it really bums me out when I'm with someone and he or she mocks a stranger just based on their appearance. Like why live your life bringing complete strangers down? Have some love for people. Anyways, you make me smile FJ :)
All the words that I have to say to you are of heartfelt admiration and gratitude. I can't believe how blessed I am to have stumbled upon your channel so many months ago. I hope you find true treasures unforeseen.
It's not just people's appearances either. It's also thier choice of path in life that people go on about either behind thier back or even to thier face at times. I faced opposition when people found out I was leaving southern Ontario to train to help people in the north. Alot of people couldn't wrap thier heads around it and would actually go to my dad in attempts to try to talk him into talking me out of it. Which was stupid really, because my dad was raised up here in the north. And he would tell them..this is my home. I care about it and want to return someday. So here I am!
Yes. We should be building each other up. And thankfully as I got closer to leaving I did find support. Having something like this happen where people are running down your career choice simply because they could never see themselves doing it is just as hurtful as running down a person's appearance. Because they are still attacking your choices.
Don't be afraid to cry. Crying is good. Especially if your prone to depression. It's cleansing and it lets things out.
I've just discovered you today and have been doing nothing but binge watching all your videos! You're incredibly expressive and carry out your thoughts so well. Very inspiring and thank you for not making me feel like such an alien! INFJs unite! 🤘
Look at yourself now Frank.. You really have a million more subscribers
I'm so proud of him! I wish these videos were not so old because I feel like I have thoughts that I want to share, but who knows if anyone will read them. It is interesting because I really want to get a nose job, I have been judged on it all my life but I would still be the same person as before, but maybe a little more confident? Who really knows?
@@AdorableOracle yeah, couldn't agree more, we're all proud of him.. just do it if you want. As long as you didn't do wrong to other people, I guess it's fine
Hey, it's kind of odd watching these old videos now, but I remember how these videos used to be really comforting for me some time ago, as well as helped me become more motivated and less self-indulgent. And then youtube recently recommended some of them again, and.. strangely, I was reminded of Elliot Smith's music when I was rewatching these old videos. Probably just because of how vulnerable both his songs and these older videos of yours are. I don't know, I just felt the visceral need to share that..
You look awesome in pink and your hair rocks! I lost my brother last week...I miss him something fierce! :( PS. I love converse shoes...I own 4 pair, I'm 45! I don't care what people say, I will wear them till the day I die! I went on a date once and the guy made eye contact with me, smiled, looked at my shoes then back to my eyes, still smiling and said, I love your shoes! It's the simple things that make a huge impact! I find myself having a hard time listening to any music right now. It all makes me think of my brother :(
Wendy Darlene 💖
Wendy Darlene sending some virtual hugs to you
Eljay kayaye ♡
coljones70 Thank you ♡
Only been a year since I graduate high school and I already miss it so much. It was the most popular I had been in my life. I was the lead singer of the rock band and people were just so friendly and respectful of me. I was so desperate to get out at the time, though. :( But I'm starting to make friends at my college, slowly but surely. Everyone's so busy now!
I wanted to say love your videos, love your channel, and love you. Keep up the good work :)
Personal style is such a cool window into people’s personalities. I especially love it when quieter people have a style, accessory, or hairstyle that stands out. It’s such a silent way to say a lot. I’m always pretty observant about the choices people make in their style and I like to compliment people (those I know and strangers) quite often. Our style is an extension of who we are. We need to own it! When people make fun of others for what they’re wearing or how they did their hair what they’re really saying is: I wouldn’t do that, therefore it’s a bad choice. It’s really just a reflection of the boundaries of their own personal style and nothing else. Or they’re just awful humans. One of those two.
Backstory: Growing up much of my clothes was hand-me-downs from cousins because of my family’s financial situation. One of the most hurtful memories in my life was when my sixth grade teacher joined in as 2 other girls teased me because of my outfit. What a bunch of punks, right?! This memory still really hurts to think about but I think it also made me someone who notices and appreciates when people show who they are in their outer appearance. So.... you do your hair how you want, FJ! And as I’ve mentioned before: pink is your color. You wear it well!
So many comments about little kids being mean! Oh no! Little kids ARE brutally honest. The best way to respond to them is by being fearless.
1st grader: Mrs. G, it looks like you didn’t brush your hair today.
Me: I’m a teacher. I don’t have time for that. Plus I like it to look messy.
First grader: (stares at me for a while) oh, ok. I think I like it. 😄
Veronica G love the end, 😁 Sometimes little kids are trying to get a response, sometimes mimicking parents but often it's their strange sense, or developing sense of humor. It's teasing. Specially if they're twisting their body sideways and grinning. I think it's a social extension of " if I throw the carrots off my highchair ,how many times will mommy pick it up.?" "I love when she makes that face and says Charlie not again. Carrots are good for you and will give you good eyesight". One more time please, I want her to say it again giggle, giggle,. 2 seconds later he's asleep.
FJ, you are under no obligation to follow societal norms. Look however you want. People’s judgements really don’t matter. I like your look...your eyes, outfit choices and especially your hair. It has tons of character! Those fools lol. Also, your looks are only a small part of who you are. Cause let’s face it, we all know that your personality is awesome. In regards to women being unable to take compliments, it might just be part of her insecurities. I know if someone says something nice about my appearance, in my mind, I don’t see what they see. That might come off as me being uncomfortable when really I just don’t agree that I look nice or maybe I’d look better if I tried harder...something to that extent. As far as crying to lyrics goes, I think it’s only natural for people like us. There’s this saying I’ve always loved. It says, “A good laugh and a good cry both cleanse the mind.” Not sure where I first saw it, but it’s true. They are both forms of release. Maybe let more than 2 tears fall next time ;) Let It Be was definitely a song that made me tear up. I was celebrating tonight though. One of my friends passed away yesterday from stage 4 breast cancer. This girl was amazing and on another level of hilarity. She would never want any of her friends to be sad and dwelling on what couldn’t be changed. So I went out, in public, and went dancing. I could just hear all of the inappropriate, but hysterical comments she would have been making. On the drive home I had the windows down and was singing along to, very loudly I might add, Come Together. It was therapeutic. I think all of her family and friends were blessed in that we all had the chance to say goodbye and have one last laugh with her. One more thing, she sure as shit didn’t give one flying fuck about what anyone thought about her. She didn’t just brake the mold, she put some explosives on it, blew it to smithereens and danced on its ashes.
wow, i'm sorry to hear about your friend. it sounds like you really honored her by going out and celebrating :)
Frank James thank you ❤️
Maybe it is time we all start accepting that not everyone is going to accept us as we are. Celebrity or not, people will always have something to say/think about you. How you decide to respond to it is really on you. 🤷🏼♀️
Sammy J Good point! There are entire shows, websites and magazines devoted to tearing down celebrities and their looks. When you're famous, yeah you are accepted by many, but there are also many criticizing your every move. That's true to the nature of people.
002themoon Yes! Isn’t that sad? There are businesses/shows making money off of criticizing people for their appearance. Admittedly, I silently judge people sometimes, too. It bothers me when I see people wearing socks with open-toed sandals. Then I feel bad about it afterwards because I remember there are poverty stricken countries in the world whose inhabitants would do anything to be able to even own a pair of sandals. 😕
Sammy J That's right. Our response says so much.
Yes!
I CAN'T ACCEPT THAT :0
Thanks for being so real and honest. We all have insecurities but it’s what we do with them and when we “dump” them on others is a dangerous thing, especially in the realm of relationships.
If you like your hair and how you look and feel, and you genuinely want to do it for you and not for others then go for it.
I feel jealousy chokes up kindness. Some girls are just straight up jealous that you look/are pretty or that you are a kind person. I feel what hurts the most is when a picture is being drawn with the concussion that my own kindness is not having any affect to the ones I love, meaning when the recipient shows or chooses not to express any thankfulness after a kind gesture that hurts more than not being validated, to me...because it makes me feel like I have no positive affect, it makes me feel like my kindness has no value. Maybe I should write a blog about this..
I think you nailed it, it is all about perspective. Insecurity taints everything (says she who does it too). And building each other up is so important, especially as there can be so many haters, especially on-line.
I love me some deep song lyrics.
I just found your channel and it's amazing to hear my inner deep thoughts articulated back at me through a screen, lol.
If I saw you in public I would think you were really comfortable with yourself. You present as a laidback person. And I love that kids tell you stuff bluntly, they just don’t have the filter that adults do and it’s awesome. My grand daughter is currently calling me Olaf (from Frozen). Not sure I resemble Olaf in any way...
I love this guy
😊
I've been watching FJ for over a year now and I'm SO happy for how well he's doing. But I'd be lying if I said I didn't miss these rambly, weird videos, too.
Arrived at this specific one all the way now in 2022 and same. The current videos are funny and nice too, but these are just far deeper and really make you think every time
The eyes chico, they never lie..
Spot on...compliment a woman on what she has control over.
I hear you on this one, I have some colorful tats that aren't covered when I wear casual clothes - kids usually seem to like them, but adults often get that pursed mouth look when they see me. I used to care about that crap, but now I just consider the source and walk on. I'll look for that song, but won't listen until I'm ready to cry, jic. Music moves me anyway, the tears are hard to stop when they come. Good job today, and btw, love your pocket square!
Honest. Laughing. Truth. Relatable. Nope, no following famous people, especially if they're odd on account of their fame. High school, a world into itself. Love your suggestion to compliment, can stay with people for a long time. I also rarely cry, but did so this past week, also to songs. Love the lyrics. Love you. My stream of thoughts while listening.
Hey, Frank!
I just want you to know that, even if you feel like you are not "cool," there are literally thousands of people who want to hear what you have to say. When I found your channel, it quickly became one of my very favorites. I wish I could meet you in real life, because, the way I see it, you are cool, and the community you've created is so open to discussion and differences of opinion. Also, I think a niche following is just as good as having millions of subscribers. You can interact with your audience in a more personal way, and your content reaches out to a demographic that many of the UA-cam superstars don't even recognize. Thank you for all the work that goes into these videos.
I love your vlogs that are personal. Thanks for sharing you! 🙃
Great color for you, that v-neck. Your moussed hair almost always looks great. I appreciate your sincerity & allowing us to glimpse into your inner/outer life.
I've never judged a book by its cover. Crying releases toxins.
PS: Crows are the smartest of all birds.
I tear up frequently and randomly. Especially when piano is involved. Lol, There could be a cat bathing itself and if there was piano or violin playing in the background for some odd reason I would probably tear up... big time. Great video by the way, glad I found you on here.
lol it's so true, just slap some sad piano and stuff gets weighty. i'm glad you're here :)
I’ve seen Paul McCartney twice in concert. He’s so amazing 💜
Definitely dealt with parents belief systems being imprinted on me as well.
I know exactly what you mean about looks, for example, we do not have super malls or a big population in general and I do not really go out, especially now but there is one exception, a festival of good emotions, spancirfest, basically the whole town is filled with people, street performers, concerts, etc. and I cannot even imagine what people think when they see someone with a tube coming out of their throat and then to a machine, their legs, arms and head strapped to the wheelchair, etc., etc.… Now don't get me wrong, I don't usually care what others think, but this can be overwhelming, if I thought people looked at me funny before, being in a wheelchair, how will I feel now… In any case I'm going anyway, I want to see three concerts and perhaps go through the town once or twice… Anyway, as you say, stay cool and attractive
By the way, the festival lasts for 9 to 10 days…
You remind me of my friend Matt, who started out in a wheelchair but then had to be pushed around on a bed when his condition got worse. It made him feel down sometimes to be a public spectacle but it never stopped him from going to do the things he enjoyed and he usually got to be first in line! Go to the festival and enjoy yourself. You are alive so go and live!
I have no doubt that it made him feel down, wouldn't that make anyone feel down if they had to be pushed around in a bed whenever they wanted to go out? And I admire his defiance and tenacity towards the universe's cruel joke…
Tin047 I just googled spancirfest-looks awesome. Looks like it starts soon?
Indeed it does, and it is awesome, I hear last year was a bit meh, but usually it is very enjoyable, I usually go just for the concerts, but other aspects of it are great as well, I would also like to invite anyone who can come to come…
I’m a believer in fake it to you make it. If you act like you don’t care what people have to say about you, eventually you won’t. It’s okay to laugh at yourself sometimes. .. usually when I’m struggling with insecurities I talk to my mom, cuz we are a lot a like except she’s wiser and been through more... and she always says that I have to validate myself first before I look for that in other people. And it’s true when I know who i am, where i stand , I care less and less on how other people perceive me. I listened to the song the end of the end and it definitely pulls heart strings lol .
6:16 an actual comercial popped up and I was all confused. I was like how did you do it.
He places 'em
YES, my parents are the same way about people's appearances and so I expect everyone else to be the same way!
Thanks for being real, raw and open about your own insecurities. Hopefully now at almost a million subscribers you are feeling more confident.
Your HQ hair deserves a channel of its own, Frank. Seriously. Now I'm off to the commercial break and yaaay it's Amanda the Panda again. Lmao!
Yes! #HQFJ
Lol....you crack me up with your truthsayin'. I thought I was an INFP or INFJ but now I realize I'm actually an ENFP. The most introverted extrovert. Makes sense.
I'm pretty new to your channel, Frank, but I have to say... I adore your vlogs. You speak to so many things that resonate with me and my experiences. I'm still getting caught up on past videos, but I saw this one today, and one point is SO similar to my life that I had to comment. My parents, too, are overly critical verbally of anyone and everyone they see. I've grown so used to hearing those criticisms on a daily basis that I've become too reluctant to go out and do things on my own for fear that other people will notice, watch, and criticize. It certainly screws up your worldview. For me, it's held me back from doing so many things that I might otherwise have enjoyed. I had to move away from them to gain a new perspective and it was the best thing I've ever done. Just wanted to share. :) Thanks for being out here in the world and sharing your life. You're awesome.
Dang Right Friend!! You ARE Frank James!! And YOU WILL have 100K followers; mark my words....It’s Only A Matter of Time 🤗🤗🤗
I'm glad I accidentally happened upon your channel. It helps me. I like listening to you.
As long as your original and fame or money won’t change you. Then you’ll get your fans for life!❤️
This is one of my favorite videos of you. So real.
I understand. I recently stopped straightening my hair and just let it be crazy, and I'm always expecting commentary from other people. I also dress a little different. For example, I like to wear dresses/tunics, but it has to be worn with pants or capris for comfort. I'm a little stressed out about going back to work for the first time with my hair being curly. lol Meanwhile, when I was in my late teens/twenties, I wore the biggest rave pants, two buns, a giant wallet chain with glow in the dark stars hanging off it, and I owned that shit.
That 70's Reader This is awesome! It's all about owning it. I get mixed reviews when I wear my hair natural. Someone once asked if I had "stuck my finger in an outlet". Because that's a nice conversation starter, right? Just kept it moving. Curls are beautiful and there are plenty of people who can't naturally achieve them. Own it!
That 70's Reader I know I'm weird when I notice one of fj's regulars has changed their avatar....Hi🐾
Haha! I love how FJ has a community.
That 70's Reader A community the hole world could learn a little something from...take care
Oh wow, this video made me cry a bit. You are lucky it doesn't happen to you often though, I cry nearly every day sometimes multiple times a day. Every little thing just seems to set me off songs, movies, photos, commercials (why are they so sad??), seeing my old cat and thinking one day he's gonna die, when I'm alone, when I'm at parties, lots of car crying even when no music is involved, and other odd reasons I won't mention. It is horrible on my eyes and gives me headaches but I can't even hold them back.
As for mean remarks and comments on appearance, My Dad (sorry dad) and his whole family are the worst about this. They also say things really loudly on purpose so the person will hear them. I am not an easily offended person generally but this gets to me and it is one thing that does offend me really bad. It just embarrassing to even be seen with them (when they are being so mean, I still love them though!!!) because I don't want people to think I'm the same way because I'm not, at all!!
I think as far as looks go people deserve to be given the benefit of the doubt because you can't know someone by looking at them. I had a guy who liked me ask me one time what I thought about the way he looked and he was very upset when I responded with, "You look okay the same as everyone else." I have never been attracted to people by their appearance/style as far as relationships go ever and I don't think I ever will. Sometimes I see people and think oh that person has nice hair or style but as far as their physical self it doesn't really affect my perception of them and its not something that is primarily on my mind when people watching. People are all just different looks to one thing, all humans to me. Sure, the hair color might change or the arrangements of features but all still made from the same base model.
I have always upon people watching been more interested and drawn to other things more mysterious than their looks like, why are they here today, what did they order to eat, what will they cook with those groceries, how they handle things they pick up, what types of thing must they like, do they have family, do they have pets, what kind of job they might have, what are they thinking, how do they feel, are they okay, are they happy, are they lonely, and are they the same as I am in another packaging?
It is so sad to think about how we are as humans. We are so dedicated to seeking the differences between us and not noticing the similarities we share how we are the same, and how we experience the same emotions. We forget how we deal with the same things in our lives, how we are born the same, and die the same and that we are connected in this in nearly every possible way without even understanding or caring about it. It's also sad to think that we live so singularly. We share experiences in groups but each of us internally experiences every single thing alone and with different responses/emotions to them. I blame this for our inability to fully see our connection and for why we think everything is different for us alone. If we could all feel together with an emotional transferral person to person we would finally grasp how alike we all are.
This is why I don't understand my family and others who are so cruel. They can't see the human is the same in everyone, like in the people they talk about and the feeling they must evoke in them yet they are aware of how it feels when it happens to them and it doesn't make them stop. Why cant they see what we are?
As far as children go I think for them if their small it's isn't normally judgemental and is more out of curiosity. They are learning everything they are taking it all in and I'm sure it's overwhelming and exciting for them. All kinds of people to discover out there and they are so vulnerable to thought manipulation by those around them is so sad(why is this hitting me so hard 😢)
On a happier tone compliment as long as genuine and not too superficially are always nice even if they are hard to conjure up sometimes. As a girl, I like compliments that are less about something physical about me and more in regards to how I make people feel or my character/personality. These are also the kinds of compliments I give usually (unless I like someone's outfit or something then I will give a more appearance/style compliment )
wow this video is actually very insightful and has a deep meaning
You know I'd like to comment on what you said here because I really agree with the lyrics to the song you're referring to. I do not know the band or the song, but I too want a party when I go. I care far too deep for the ones I love and what greater sadness to bear even after your gone than to leave behind a mess of finance, heartbreak, and loneliness. That's the real sadness.
Because if you are a true, pure person to the ones you love and you take care while you are relevant and alive, the things you do and the things to say are what will last, and matter. It's obvious that most people dont think that far into it, but most should. The outcome would be greater for all involved.
I come from the same kind of family😅. My my. That crap stays with ya. As insecurity and as compassion. I think it's almost worse if people think you're an attractive person and tell you all the time. That sets the bar higher, and perfectionism gets channeled into appearance concerns. "omg flaws everywhere!!!!!" 😭 Beauty is overglorified, and unimportant in the grande scheme of things. It would be easier to get out the door if everyone just focused more on the inner person. We should lift eachother up by seeing good in others and yes, compliment each others appearances sometimes. 🙂
This is a great message dude. I can't stand when people make fun of other's looks.😡 So freakin lame. We all have things about our looks we don't like so let's just be nice. Also, you are gorgeous! I've never said so because you get so many of those compliments already in this comment section. You definitely have nothing to worry about. Your hair could look like a hot mess.
Cry once a year? You need to cry more soft kitty cat man. Hahaha. I guess us dominant intuitives tend to intellectualize a lot rather than just feel our emotions in full and release them. But it feels like pressing the reset button when you bawl your eyes out every now and then, when things are really tough. It is healthy.
You have great hair! Mine is similar to yours but way weirder- shorter in the short parts and way longer in the long parts. I work in a library with kids and I don't so much mind the littlest ones because they're more curious than judgey. Tweens and teens can be jerks though so sometimes I instruct them in the fine art of taking what they dish out. Sometimes.
lol a fine arts instructor i see
Omg. The kid parts so true. Little brutally honest humans.
Dear Frank, you've just hit 22 k! Congrats
thanks :)
FJ is clearly doing something right... 388k and growing as of today 🥳
1. screw the haters.
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Confidence...you can also “fake it till you make it” that motto I use as well in life.
I am deeply saddened when reminded of where our society goes wrong. I truly cannot wrap my brain around one's justification of snickering or talking badly about a person's appearance. Do we really have that little to do, think, or feel?
When I was a teenager I had some pretty significant social anxiety. I thought everyone was looking at and talking about me and it got so bad for a couple of years that I rarely left the house if I didn't absolutely have to. As I've gotten older that fear has mostly gone away and I care less and less if people look or talk.
I have far too many other things to worry about daily to give a rats behind.
The only time that I'll worry about a stranger's appearance is if it suggests they genuinely need some real help. Then I'll just ask what I can do.
I used to be almost 300 lbs, so I know insecurities. They do not leave, no matter how "pretty" I try to make myself...
You shouldn't be insecure you look amazing
Omg, little kids, yes! The worst thing for self-conscious people haha. I agree about the social/tribal thing - our sense of self and self-confidence is really relative to our social environment. So when random strangers compliment you about things you already feel insecure about, it helps give some broader sense of confidence about where you fit in within the general society or real world etc. Like for me it has helped that random strangers have complimented me on having one side of my head shaved, rather than just my friends complimenting me (which does help too), because I suspect that other people are probably judging me for it but if enough random people out in the public complement me then I have a sense that what I’m doing has some kind of positive social standing overall, even if other people are judging me. But it would be really hard if I felt like everyone was judging me. This is also one reason why finding online communities is so nice too, because we get a broader sense of their being more people out there who are like us, so we know we aren’t entirely socially rejected for particular qualities even if we perceive a lack of acceptance in our immediate social environments.
Grad school is not the best part of your life but maybe just your life - so far. And Frank, you are wicked handsome, "weird" hair or not. Your eyes are so beautiful and emotionally moist. That's what I see. And you look great in pink. Good choice. On songwriting - Some songs can only be written from the reflective stance of a life lived. But some of the greatest songs were written in youth. Bob Dylan was interviewed and he said he could never write lyrics like Blowin' in the Wind anymore, that era of his life had passed.
I love your hair. I had my hair out the other day which is rare (I work with children) and I have fluffy hair. And a child said haha Rachel's hair looks weird. I laughed cause haha kids they just say stuff. But their PARENT' replied saying Yes Johnny, her hair does look weird doesn't it. I was like......well.....ok....... I'm tough. I can deal with this. I don't give a fudge.. ..... then a little bit of care slowly crept up on on me. Cause I'm Highly friggin sensitive even if I TRY. But I don't like judging others in general.
I was one of those cruel kids... I was late to learn what is a polite way to express some criticism towards other people, and what is not okay to say. I wasn't very aware of it. In my early teens one of my teachers said that I'm a rude person and told my classmates to raise their hands if I ever hurted them. I started crying when I saw how many people raised their hand. I remember that I used bad words I picked up somewhere and didn't know the meaning of, years before that. I remember that I heard people talking bad about someone behind their back and being someone that didn't understand the concept, I thought it was okay to mention them in their presence. I meant nothing wrong with these and always did afterwards like nothing bad happened, and didn't understand why people wouldn't like me. After that thing happened in my class, I'm very careful, and always question people who say anything bad about anyone, as I know how harmful it can be. I learnt to turn them off, if they are directed to me. I've been obese for more than 15 years, and I only know about 3 people who called me a fat cow. There were probably many more who did it behind my back.
I have someone close to me (an adult) who always points out the things that aren't perfect about a person (like about someone who seemed to have scoliosis, but I wouldn't have recognised it, to mention one of the latest examples) I reply back a lot, was it really necessary to mention? Who cares about that? If a kid had been there and heard it, the kid may would start making fun about that person, and that would be awful. This person is not aware of the power of their words, not only in this context.
We have already passed a negative judgment on ourselves by giving credence to the opinions of strangers. We are putting their opinions above our own despite their having done nothing to earn such deference. We need to value our own concepts of who we want to be.
Can you not sound like we’re twin 😂😂😂 I’m new to your channel but it didn’t took me too long to play through all your vids, love you and your works FJ ❤️I’d like to see more, cuz they sure made my day 🔥
oh gosh... love your outro songs. would you consider putting them on spotify too? pleeeassse :)
Soon gonna be 1 million subs 👌 841k in 2021 😉
857k in Nov
Man that's one hell of a killer look.
I made a comment to my friend saying I felt self conscious, she responded with, “trust me, no one is gonna notice your insecurity!” Then we go to the mall and she said, “that girl really shouldn’t wear shorts. Shorts shouldn’t even be made in that size.” WELL. first off, rude. But this is why I nitpick myself bc I hear people talk about other people like this.
Hey Frank, this validation issue gets to me. I'm hyper aware of it (internally and externally), and I took the time to psychologically understand it too (long discussion). My ego goes through extremes sometimes to seek it then isolate itself from it (links back to your isolation video). But there's no resolution, ego wants it and no amount of rationalization or growth seems to be a solution rather it lessens it or understands it more. Others would argue that we are sociable beings and this is a basic need and it's futile to try not having it. The real issue is ego doesn't want to get hurt and it knows in many cases it will not have this need met and tries to avoid such situations or find a way to bypass it. It's absurd really what lengths ego would go to in order to do this. Makes me feel sometimes like a headless chicken with no aim. It's weird haha. Good vid ^_^
Best regards,
Zee
good points, Zee, sometimes it feels like the ego has got you by the nose!
I love your weirdness. It's creative than being normal. ;)
I came across this program in response to a search of your content for "crying," since I was wondering whether a deep comfort with my own tears - publicly or privately, tears of joy or of sorrow - is common among INFJs. It's kinda my calling card, and, honestly, I don't know how people who don't/can't cry more often do it, or why they'd want to - some even considering it virtuous. Anyway, as you might guess, I was a little disappointed that, quite unlike me, you're a two-cry-one-sob-a-year kind of guy. But I still love you.
you’re not ugly, I love your vids! ❤️
I grew up with my family talking about everyone including each other. When I got divorced it turned on me; I’m a bad mom, I’m not a good Christian, etc. I had people coming to my job telling me how to get back together with my husband and I found out my family was trashing me to. They decided to advise on something they didn’t know everything about and how could they; they weren’t walking in my shoes. So that is the outlook I try to take; I may not understand why someone does or acts a certain way but a lifetime of things brought them to where they are today.It is hard today though because in workplaces among women it seems talking about people behind their backs is considered a “family atmosphere.” And I think there is a difference between venting (because we all need to vent at times) and it being a continual pattern of talking about others behind their back. So once I find out it isn’t just venting, that it is a way of life in a place I work, I just put headphones in or excuse myself. I am labeled the oddball. Lol which is kind of funny since we are talking about labels. You get labeled whether you play or not
Deborah G that sounds like a very wise decision.
Ah the judgmental parents. My mom was so much like that. Even about my friends as they walked away. A teenage girl in a colorful, unique thrifted outfit and my mom who is usually so kind said, "Why does she dress like she's homeless?" Dude. I'm judging my past self hardcore for not standing up for my friend.
Working with little kids made me immune to judgmental children. Now I don't even care about teenagers (the ultimate judgmental group, because they know better and still do it). In fact, I lean in. It turns out they like that.
I make it a point to give people compliments about their appearance. Or when it seems like they've put effort into something. I don't want to talk about myself but I still want to build relationships, it's the perfect tool. :)
3 songs have made me cry between yesterday and today. First, Across the Universe. I was stargazing and recalling myself when I was 16, first examining the depth of those lyrics. I had savored every line. I think it was the first time I had ever taken my mental magnifying glass and closely studied the effect of every metaphor. That might have been the song that made me want to write songs.
So it had been awhile and I was stargazing under the influence, as you do when your birthday is during the Perseids. But I was too tired to stay awake, so I got up to go to bed as my husband's mix CD was playing. He said something I'd never heard him say - "I'm going to sit outside and reflect." And the Nirvana cover of "The Man Who Sold the World" came on. And tears.
And this was probably because I forgot all my drugs when I went on this road trip, but on the way back we put on Neil Young's "Harvest Moon" album - one of the first CDs I ever had, a Christmas present from my dad. The song was "Natural Beauty." Tears.
I may not be a very good compass for what is actually sad. :) I love your comment section so much. It was so nice of people to say happy birthday to ME, on YOUR video.
Stephanie Douglass
I often find that very kind people are extremly judgmental. Now thats wierd, unlike this vlog.
I’m never weirded out by complements. People are sharing their kind thoughts and even though I’m super introverted I make it a point to complement strangers. You can make someone’s whole day.
Btw your hair Is amazing. Long hair on guys is the best. My seven yr old son has long curly hair.
You have great hair and a great personality. ☺️
You're beautiful, no matter with which hair. Also your other video just made me cry.
The commercials are really great! You should consider doing some single commercial videos... they are supreme.
For me it really helps to think other people also have their insecurities, and generally people understand really well that you are also a person with insecurities and imperfectionisms. And most people don't judge you on how you look but on what you do and what your intentions are. :)
I love plain coloured t-shirts😍. Now I want a pink one too!
I was never bothered by what people wear or how they look. I've found my self in groups where everyone would comment on someone's appearance...or how they dressed and it always felt off to me. Like...why should I care or judge? Maybe I'm just this way because of my own insecurities and fear of judgement.
pink shirt club!
I love this video... I feel like you opened up a lot... thank you for sharing brotha!
You look AWESOME Frank!!!
The radio got me today 😭 "Cos, I don't really know how to tell ya, without feeling much worse. I know your in a better place, but it's always gonna hurt" 😭😭
It might be a female infj thing, but for one week of them month I'm angry at fruit and crying over being woke up to start the day... I related to your last video 😂
Without being to personal nice colour choice with the t 👍 you'd also suit yellow, don't listen to the kids who say different.
Im always doing my hair and makeup before I go out most of the time that I fear people think I'm trying too hard! Lol I also feel vain but it makes me feel good and love myself... When I'm not caring about my appearance I'm probably drinking again! I've been growing my hair from a short dude fauxhawk since the winter just pinning it up cool and finally got it cut yesterday because my bangs are chin length finally and got it short in the back and angled. Then I colored it a dark burgundy I like and the ladies loved it at church and want me to do their hair now ( cuz I got a booth set up in my house) so yeah. I finally had the patience to grow my hair past the awkward stages and I'm feeling good now! But when I look at other people's hair I envision a style for them, not everyone is judging negatively!
Thank you, Frank, for posting every day, you're always the highlight of mine.
parents need to teach their children to stop judging people tbh, plus you have nice eyes.
Even tho I always encourage people to show feelings, I don't cry like you, I wish I could sometimes.
I love this video! I think once you stop caring what people think about you, you no longer are shy or socially awkward! You will be free and super happy if you can accomplish this! I think people don’t compliment others enough. It not only makes them feel good, but you as well. I like the low lighting in your room.