HOW TO STOP BEING A NICE GUY
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Hamza, it's my birthday today and I just wanted to take a minute out of my day to genuinely thank you and everyone in this cult for helping me change my life forever and feel comfortable in my own skin. For anyone struggling please just plan a daily routine and exercise consistently....You'll never know what a rut feels like once you start taking action bois god bless
happy birthday bro and don't quit self improvement
Happy birthday king!
happy birthday my bro
Happy Birthday mate
I agree I’m at the very beginning of my self improvement journey and simply having a morning routine, a daily schedule, exercising and meditating daily made me feel better.
The road to the best version of myself is very long but I’m definitely on my way to it 💪🏻
Strength and courage everyone you got this and happy birthday Monkai
A wise man once said "If you treat a girl like a celebrity, she will treat you like a fan."
I do not have any girls . Then you do not have to worry about
@@janxupa3683 a wise man once said "If you do not have any girls, your right hand will treat you like you had"
@@antkot1897 🤣🤣🤣
Or "if you treat her like a queen, she'll treat you like a peasant."
@@antkot1897 bruh
As a girl who dumped me once said "It's not just about being nice. It's about knowing when to be nice and when not to be."
That advice was a game changer.
props to her for actually giving you that kind of feedback
@@ghxstyn yeah when I got dumped she just said she fell out of love with me and then told my friend the actual reason
And truth is you’ll never figure out which is which. Nice people will continue to get f**ed over in this world. That is the reality we must face.
@@RicoGarcia-dt9jfi had something similar, she dumped me for someone else and just said we were drifting apart
@@RicoGarcia-dt9jf hey at least she didn’t cheat and was honest with u
“They’re not even that special, they are just human beings” Wise words. Without dehumanizing women, recognizing that they are just like you. I love that message
Bruh if I talked to women just like I would to myself I would probably never get a hug from a girl
@@niko5191 that says more about you than the girl
@@niko5191 treat her how u treat ur parents just go with the flow if u feel something is wrong don't keep it in urself
Being genuinelly nice means....that you are good listener
Your customers in restaurant like you for listening what they want, or enjoy, good food, etc
so they ask whats your best recipe, you say it, and then they sa ytheir ideas...and they appreciate you for "listening to them"
which creates empathy and connection, between people.
I listen to your ideas and you listen tro my ideas, the compromise creates a common sense.
So women also want empathy and connection. As Sam Vaknin said men are attracted to women visually,
and women are attracted to men verbally.
so she feels heard, but some men didnt develop enough patience to listen to people.
So they have to learn to not just be a man of action but lso listen to people, because it shows his genuine interest.
Maybe therefore women like high achievers, because they think taht successful men listen to their customers witha genuine interest,
so the customers feel heard and come back.
If she stops falling in love with you,
its because she feels like you stoped listening to her ideas, what hobbies she likes, what music she likes
she doesnt wanta dvice but genuine interest and connection.
Of course she should give the same interest back, and listen his ideas and hobbies.
Don't be a "nice guy." be a good person.
I really respect hamza for listening to his community, and stopping the live streaming.
Signs of a good Tribe Leader
True. I love more this format. It's more easy to understand the information.
Was his live steams bad or something?
does he live stream on youtube?
very true, agreed
Hey Hamza, I just wanted to say that today, one year ago, I started my transition and went to the gym for the first time in my life. Since then I also deleted TikTok, started meditating and was reading more. Now I’m a better person and I a also live a very rich and happy life. I used to cry every night and was addicted to TikTok and like eating junk food. at that time I discovered your channel and I changed everything. From the bottom to the top. I went from like a 2/10 to a 8/10 and the journey isn’t over yet. I am so happy I found your channel because if it wasn’t for you maybe just maybe I would’ve killed myself, so thank you Hamza, you are a real hero. You really have saved me.
God bless you bro
Yooo
Being genuinelly nice means....that you are good listener
Your customers in restaurant like you for listening what they want, or enjoy, good food, etc
so they ask whats your best recipe, you say it, and then they sa ytheir ideas...and they appreciate you for "listening to them"
which creates empathy and connection, between people.
I listen to your ideas and you listen tro my ideas, the compromise creates a common sense.
So women also want empathy and connection. As Sam Vaknin said men are attracted to women visually,
and women are attracted to men verbally.
so she feels heard, but some men didnt develop enough patience to listen to people.
So they have to learn to not just be a man of action but lso listen to people, because it shows his genuine interest.
Maybe therefore women like high achievers, because they think taht successful men listen to their customers witha genuine interest,
so the customers feel heard and come back.
If she stops falling in love with you,
its because she feels like you stoped listening to her ideas, what hobbies she likes, what music she likes
she doesnt wanta dvice but genuine interest and connection.
Of course she should give the same interest back, and listen his ideas and hobbies.
„Someday someone will break you so bad that you become unbreakable.“
damn bro that hit me like a truck
It’s not even about being a nice guy, it’s just about prioritizing yourself and your own values over others. To give others your best you have to be your best, and that means prioritizing yourself. Keep going bros you all gon make it 📈
@@nipunagunarathne4882 lots of guys think girls want to be the priority, and they might even say they do, but they don’t. They want you to be your own priority
Stop forcing your own success on others kolter just bc u made it does not mean others will
@@nipunagunarathne4882 never too late bro, life is about learning. You’ll find someone even better as you become better
@@ghosthunter7258 what are you talking about bro lmao
good advice, ill tell my child this when i get one someday
instead of my parents advice which is just “be nice to everyone” which would just make everyone walk all over you
You don’t have to be a nice guy, but you should always be a good man.
I fucking love the Jeffery/Adonis stuff and the whole animation concept in general. The videos are inspirational but the animation makes it so much better. Thanks Hamza, your videos have been giving me confidence and a sense of masculine pride.
Perfect comment 👌
Since we're all opening up I'm in the "hating women" phase rn lol. I have to go through it, I'd been completely simping over my ex and she treated me so horribly and now I realize she's actually pretty much a loser and a terrible listener. But I'll grow out of it in a month or two, I'm on the self improvement bandwagon getting better one step at a time lol. Thankyou Hamza for showing me how to get out of this phase in my life and actually start being successful loving and kind
I learned this the hard way a few months back, to put it simply being “just nice”gets you nowhere no one will respect you because they think you’re easy to take advantage of, the point is, always stand your ground and be more dominant
Yeah its a fine line between being an asshole ans beeing a nice person. Help but dont be a dormate.
And respect other peoples time. If you realy ned the other person help and they habe time a few days from.now accept it try find another way and if ther isnt accept that you habe to wait a few days and Do something else productiv for you for now. If im wrong im happy to hear the critism
And kind to weak ig , that's also important too
On the flip side, being respectful and nice will open the door for you to assert your boundaries as some people inevitably will test you for it
@@Aufbleiben how? Gotta explain. Respectful and mutual respect for ppl who are equal with you yea
@@Aufbleiben 100% agree, thank u for bringing this point up!
Hamza, You have changed my life for the better. The amount of support you have provided to me is beyond anything else. You have helped me improve relationships with my self and my family, friends and love ones. Your content is very valuable and I wish for nothing but blessings for you.
You have helped me and my fellow brothers in the comments.
Hamza from the bottom of my heart I thank you,
He's also changed mine for the better. I thank him a lot for it. Even made me create this channel.
@nikoThey touch more grass than you bc they watch Hamza. Beta male
He didn't change your life, you did.
@ERRORRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRORRRRRRRORRRRRORRRRR this man improved himself
what are you doing to better yourself? you're telling strangers online to touch grass 😂the projection is real
Hamza I really enjoy your videos. I started my self improvement journey in January. I’m no where near perfect but life is greatly improved since starting this journey. I won’t lie it’s been hard, the past 2 months I fell off from self improvement. I recognize my faults/mistakes and I will learn from them. I will finish the year off strong.
I love the community from this channel ! Much love and respect for you all 🔥👊🏼🤍
You should also clarify that it’s important to make your Intentions clear to a girl
Lots of nice guys always act like they aren’t interested in a girl romantically, as they‘re to scared of rejection early on and hope that they’re friendship is gonna turn into more at some point. Once they finally reveal their feelings the girl gets confused as the guy was being dishonest in his actions and puts him in the Friendzone.
Sometimes you really don’t have those intentions at first. I have dated a lot of beautiful women that turned out to be horrible people so now when I meet a girl I’m just nice and friendly let her know that she is pretty but wanting only a friendship first kinda sucks that the friendzone happens this way but it’s why people always end up in unhappy relationships cause women lose interest too soon and pick guys too fast they don’t get to know them first.
@@keonhobgood1551 Oh yeah that's totally true but you should always let a person know when you're romantically interested in them and no pretend to be "just a friend".
If you're friends and you're interest develops later on it hurts a lot more when they don't recipocate and it might ruin the friendship
Bruh i am in a relationship with a girl I've liked and she said she's been hinting too it's been around a month but now the overthinking doesn't stop before it was will i ever get her now it's will i be able to live up to the relationship or will it die or will i screw it up like an idiot
Or is it just me overthink
I let them know off too that’s how I operate and they know it but like you said it creates a lot of complicated friendships cause women are always scared to lose a friend
@@farisa1116 i think you overthink too much and by exactly this you will cause what you're so afraid of: The failure of the Relationship. But I don't like the word "failure" because relationships end sooner or later anyway. I prefer to call it "the end of the relationship" and not "failure". Try not to be so needy. learn to let go. I read out a lot of unhealthy clinging in your case. The question is what we do with the time with our partner.
Love hamza for making a difference in my life. I am still struggling through a lot of problems, mentally and physically, but i’m on the way to the 1 percent. To the other guys out there struggling, keep pushing, it will be worth it in the end. Much love to all the brothers out there
I'm glad he's changed your life for the better. IT honestly makes me want to change someone's life and keep uploading motivational and educational vids! 💪🏾
If you ever feel bad about your life just tell yourself that the world would be better without you and continue living just to make the world worse ^_^
Thanks for this, Hamza. After a couple of shitty experiences with women this year I really stepped into the hateful phase and just ignored women altogether for a month or so. All those negative feelings have now went away and I am indeed somewhere in the middle between a "nice guy" and an asshole. It's good to see that you have a similar mindset on how this journey should look like.
Thank you for all the work you do, brother.
I am Grateful to have a UA-camr like Hamza . I found my masculanity And been upgrading everyday becoming the best in my bloodline. Thabks Hamza
So recently I had this new friendship with two people (one being female) where both ended fairly quickly over a petty squabble that never should’ve been taken too seriously in the first place.
She was starting to crush on me because of my nice side but then as soon as I went against her, she called my personality a “facade.”
I want to help and cherish one and all, not just women. And when someone like that came along and I was willing to cut them out of my life for the better, I know I’ve reached Adonis levels of maturity within myself.
If you’re willing to be as nice as you allow yourself to be and not take people’s bs, I salute you.
Take care of yourselves and stay on the grind my brothers.
Exactly man, I can relate to you… Tbh the "cut off" part is pretty hard, I mean once you've been friends with them for months and then this shit happens, small fights, ignored texts, you get the feeling of being distant. But yeah, as you said, "being able to cut people off for your betterment is a sign of maturity." That hits hard, and I'm proud of myself that I am able to do that! Let's go fam!!
Its almost as if human personalities aren't single layer lol
I don't know where I'd be without you Hamza, thank you for making these videos.💪
Along with your points, I think the antidote to being a "nice guy" is honesty and truth. Say what you mean when you talk, put forward what you believe is true according to what you know, and stand for what you believe in morally. In order to do this you have to actually have standards and seek the truth.
Thank you Hamza for this video! There should be a think balance of being not being too nice and not being a dickhead. It should be bang in the middle. Also, you should never allow anyone to manipulate or attempt to bully you into having to explain yourself just because you are a nice person. Always have a backbone in everything you do.
Thank you Hamza,i´ve been following you for months now and you rlly changed me physically and mentally
I litteraly needed this video , i been going through the "aggrsive phase" but this actually very helpfuland make things a bit easier
Thank you Hamza
This is your first video that I watch when I was depressed for my breakup. You give me a new life, thank you hamza I’m so grateful for you and all your videos ❤
Man I went from watching a hamza video and getting that life-lesson implemented 2 weeks later to getting a life-lesson and 2 weeks later seeing hamza talk about just that. The videos are getting even more relatable that way. Feels good man
Needed this one, going through a hard time rn. Thanks Hamza
I was getting a lot of girls when I was 15-18, but chasing meaningless affection really had a big toll on my mental health and my ability to be alone and not be with someone. After deciding to stop investing my time in girls and working on myself. I started gaining way more attention from girls then I was investing my time in trying to get bitches. My point is, the moment you stop caring about getting girls and just working on yourself you will start attracting bitches and not the other way around. Admiring a woman and only saying yes will just make you like every other guy, Also this is very feminine and submissive lol.
fax
Being always agreeable doesn’t make you feminine it just makes you a loser
The way you worded this made me laugh bro 😭
@@codgoaat hahaha yeah bro my english isn't perfect just yet
How is being submissive a feminine trait?
"do the hard work especially when you dont feel like it" this is so true and powerful
I feel Happy watching Hamza now, I am on self improvement since I found his channel and now whenever my will starts to fade away I come back here watch any of his video and I am happy and motivated again. I really thank god I found your Channel on such a platform where everywhere you see is just nude and click-baited content
I learned this lesson the hard way by exp. in life. Many people don't deserve your nice side.
Thanks Hamza, Love from Pakistan.
Hamza, you're so close to 1 Mil and you deserve it. I'm glad you've gotten this famous bro. Keep up the good work
"some woman don't deserve your nice side" we love you Hamza!
First 5 minutes of this video were just pure, absolute gold. Much love Hamza keep it up
Here are my best advices:
_ Hit the gym hard.
_ Priorities your studies/career.
_ Travel and learn a second language.
_ Learn how to play an instrument.
_ Watch the James Bond movies and analyse his charm, his charisma, his voice tone, his dressing implement it to yourself.
You can achieve it in less than year by discipline.
Feminine women will always be attracted by masculine men.
Masculine men: Strong body, competence, protective, leader.
A big strong man who saves the day, not the simps known as white knights.
Being genuinelly nice means....that you are good listener
Your customers in restaurant like you for listening what they want, or enjoy, good food, etc
so they ask whats your best recipe, you say it, and then they sa ytheir ideas...and they appreciate you for "listening to them"
which creates empathy and connection, between people.
I listen to your ideas and you listen tro my ideas, the compromise creates a common sense.
So women also want empathy and connection. As Sam Vaknin said men are attracted to women visually,
and women are attracted to men verbally.
so she feels heard, but some men didnt develop enough patience to listen to people.
So they have to learn to not just be a man of action but lso listen to people, because it shows his genuine interest.
Maybe therefore women like high achievers, because they think taht successful men listen to their customers witha genuine interest,
so the customers feel heard and come back.
If she stops falling in love with you,
its because she feels like you stoped listening to her ideas, what hobbies she likes, what music she likes
she doesnt wanta dvice but genuine interest and connection.
Of course she should give the same interest back, and listen his ideas and hobbies.
@@alenaadamkova7617a good advice bro, really made me think and realized that listening is a very important aspect of our lives that most men don't have
(Sorry for the bad english) Hey hamza , well, just here to say thank you, for putting me on the right way, for teaching me, for being my father figure, i really apricciate your work man, you litelary saving lives, but i think its time to me to take a step foward and stop watching those self improviment videos, they helped me a lot, i was a jefrey that was playng 8 hours a day with only online friends and no female friends, i improved A LOT since i started watching self improvement videos, now i am making real friends, talking with girls (a girl even aproach me first lol) , doing the hard work especially when i dont feel like it , but now i think i should stop watching those videos and start self improving by myself. Again.
I am REALLY gratefull for your videos, they literally changed my life, thanks for being my father figure.
last but not least, i think you should make a vid about starting self improve by yourself, i know it sounds weird but i think it would be interesting.
Again thank you Hamza
Here we are brothers, nearly a million of us improving our lives. My gratitude goes towards Hamza and the cult.
Thank you.....
Needed this......
I actually went from being a nice guy straight to a relationship I am still in. I try to not put her on a pedestal, do my own stuff and have my own opinions, but it’s hard. I think my gf kind of is in the same spot as we both went from being virgins to getting lots of attention in the span of very few months. Wish me luck, I hope I get more like Adonis, because I am having the healthiest relationship of all the friends I have known in the last years and I don’t want it to shatter. She is not my first crush, but she objectively is the most fitting person I have met.
Best of luck bro. Just don‘t be too overly certain about it. My relationship was by far the healthiest one compared to my friends and my ex‘s friends relationships. We both knew that. She cheated anyways 🤡
love your content Hamza you literally got me involved and interested in self improvement. Big thanks :)
Trust me brother once get past the first few "tough week" it's almost liberating
KEep going. BRo. Hamza got me wanting to utilize my platform to inspire others to do better too! Real s*it! ❗‼
Wow you’re one of the most helpful channels I found on youtube. I’ve never had too much problems with getting girls but I still have a lot of studying about communication with ladies and I see my weaknesses in social life and relationships. I Look forward to getting better in that thanks to your videos
Thank you Hamza, i also went through the hateful phase, but now my friends and family see me with differently and respect me more than before, and some of them actually openly appreciated me. Specially am not just overly excited and just jumping here and there, but am much more in control and composed which I like myself as well
You have turned my life around thank you so much!❤
The “hating women” advice is something that kind of actually makes sense.
When we’re in one extreme, we have to go through another extreme to balance it out. It’s overshooting but it happens for a reason. That being said I got out of my “hating women” side (I was never like red pill or anything it was moreso just hating modern day feminism) and I just learned what my values are that align with masculinity and just purely focus on that cuz you can’t really change the game you gotta play it to some degree.
But yeah he’s right, so many things in life is “overshot” you do too much of one thing you realize you went overboard, you change your path a bit, correct it. You overshoot again, you change your path, you correct it. And all of this is a learning process btw
"Respect yourself first then others" 🔥
i needed this, thank you
Thank you so much hamza ! You literally changed my mindset for good ! You are such an awesome human being brother ! Long live to you 👊🏼🔥🤍
"The worst she can say is no" 😭
1:30
I needed to hear this
i couldnt agree more to this this is completely true and i see examples of it with my friends keep up the content filled with truth my guy a lot of people need it
bro i cant believe it has been already 2 years since i found out about you. It has been 2 years already since i got motivated by you to start working out. Time flies man
Nice guys always finish last. Old but gold.
That really smart
The first person who actually make sense about this subject
This have to reach more guys 💜
Playing your videos while working out is like pure liquid motivation keep it up king😊
There's also another category. I was in that one. An actual nice guy. I used to be nice with everyone, not just women. I was the first dude to help anyone, without expecting shit in return. Oh boy, that period was a living hell. And the cringe part was that instead of admitting that not everyone is as nice as me, i thought that maybe i did something wrong and i would forgive them. And everyone took advantage of me big time. Then i just cracked. Happened randomly one night after a party, i was somewhat drunk, actually hooked up with 2 chicks and shit like that. The situation overall was good. But while walking home i just cracked bruh. I cried so hard i couldnt breathe on a random bench on some random street at 4 am. I never really had a problem with girls since i was actually nice, but i just cracked. Lots of small things added over time, and i guess i ran out of goodness. And after that i started treating people the way they treat me. Id act neutral at first, to see your vibe, and if youre a piece of shit, i'll be a bigger piece of shit. I simply stopped caring. Tbh, i have attachment issues now, because i simply dont care anymore. Im taking very good care of myself, but i dont really care about other people. If it wont benefit me, i wont invest a single thought in anyone anymore. I know that it sounds bad, but its never been better.
Hey Hamza, I've been watching your content for 7 months, you really changed my life actually without a doubt for example i started gym, meditation, eating clean, mental health, relationship... But lately you are only uploading content about women which is actually nice but i feel like it is because you get more views in this subject and don't care about young ppl's more important problems as you used to which was your main goal ti help them, i want you to also post about other subjects besides women.
Thanks, Ali from Iran.
❤️
W Ali
I just needed this today thanks much man
Thanks!
Recent I had some rlly bad days about this subject, but this video helped me clear my mind a bit about things.Thank you Hamza.
Holy shit man, this really just made me rethink my life decisions, i'd normally just be nice as possible in a way that wouldnt disrespect me, but as im seeing this video it really comes to me that i should impose more of a personality towards other people especialy women
Hamza I just want to thank you even though I have only been listening for 1 week the effects hit instantly like I can pay attention in school I am more optimistic I spend less time on gaming and more on learning Korean I go the basket ball courts more I even meditate which I used to think is dumb and stretching I’m getting back in working out and running and so much more and I have motivated me after my parents divorce
Thanks man
This video has inspired and motivated me so much. Now, I'm gonna transition myself into the hostile phase and only keep focusing on my self-improvement and not on girls.🔥 Thanks Hamza!
Bruh don't end up being an asshole remember said that too
@@farisa1116 I know, I also watched the video 😐
I don’t tend to see eye-to-eye with redpill and I don’t agree with your “some people have to be the asshole” take but regardless, I do have a lot of respect for you and you confidence in positive masculinity. Very refreshing to see a leader like yourself preach good values and stand up against degenerate negative cycles like niceguy syndrome. Keep up the good work 💪
Thanks for this
Hamza explained it so beautifully what it is to be "nice"... so the total summary is..
Keep ur expectations minimum, be genuine and humble, and work on self improvement. Thats it.
Wasn’t feeling my greatest today and when I saw the notif I was so happy. Thank you for making these videos, Hamza. My life has significantly improved because of them. We are all going to make it.
Just when you need him
He drops a banger 🔥❤️
hamza, i really appreciated your advice.What I learned from this video is actually have a moment for yourself in your life,without caring for any opinion of others about you,stop "trying" to be nice to them,just be yourself.
about what you said on the women hating phase,it might actually work for some people because that's how female brain works,they might start thinking that i can change this guy and have all of him to myself and man this tip actually works like a charm. You just have to be cold to everyone until you actually find the right person who matches your vibe and thinks like you.
After having the worst weekend I have had to date and officially being a bachelor again, a Hamza upload has been very uplifting
To those that think “being nice” is enough, this is the video for you
You’re expected to be nice. It’s the bare minimum, you’re not gonna get rewarded for doing what everyone expects of you
When I had a girlfriend, I was literally a nice guy. After breaking up for the first time (yes, for the first time, there was another), I became aggressive towards her, ignoring her texts, being an a-hole. After the second break up (with the same girl), my aggressive side became stronger, but now that I got to university, I think Im somewhat in balance. I still need a lot of improvement, but Im at the correct path now. :D
This video helped me a lot that i subscribed 😂
broooo you are so underrated man! love your insights
As someone that lived as a "Nice guy" without even realizing I agree with Hamza.
I feel like it is important for guys to go through a stage like that for my case 90% of the ppl I hangout with an school are girls and ik first hand they really aren't as hype as alot of ppl make girls seem to be.
Being around them kinda made me realise "Wow girls really are like this" In both a negative and positive way. In a negative was I can sense and see the toxic feminism side of them so much so that I honestly try not to be around them as much as I used to cause at times they say some really fucked up shit and I just think "Oh thank God I don't have to deal with a woman".
But despite that they also do have some very endearing feminine qualities such as care as in ever time they saw that I was sick or something they'd offer me food, or medicine or asked if was okay I don't know how to feel about that honestly I guess it would be considered sweet or something but some part of me hates the fact they even come near me
Bro why do you hang out with them if a part of you hates them being near?
@@karlmckellar9373 Tbh with you I'm not all so sure myself ik it's not cause I'm worried I'll be all by myself honestly thats like how I spend 80% of my time at school.
I'd say its moslty cause one of my mates hangouts with them I mostly go just to hangout with him for a while after I'm done studying.
It's not a situation were I feel like I can't leave its move of thier somthing there that's still worth atleast keeping together and hes that
There's also a massive difference between being *nice* and being *kind.* The vast majority of people act "nice" because it gets brownie points. Being kind, especially in tough situations, is much harder.
This video is gold. It helps guys get most of the power in a relationship... Something ive always wanted since if not id emotionally get swayed alot lol
All right man, I think in some points of my life I have being acting like a Simp, big true when you said that we have crushes on girls that are literally losers but just for being girls are superior to our possibilities 😂.
Nowadays im in self improvement and how I see life have changed a lot. Thanks Hamza
He's absolutely right about this transition stuff , like really & many people don't say it and idk how to explain it but because of my environment and my family I've been through that transition somehow & thus i can say it's extremely important because it teaches you if nothing these two things :
1) women are just human beings & don't deserve some ultra special kind of treatment
2) your opinion is equally valuable as her or probably more
Well these two cents of advice might seem simple but trust me when i say " simple is not always easy"
some people might take this advice the wrong way, but for those who can understand the nuance and not actually end up hurting people, this advice is golden
I at first tought that this video was gonna tell me to be a big meany and stop thanking the bus drivers :(
I love these new videos that teach use life skills and social skills
Bro we need more dudes like u on the internet man
I was always a nice guy up until highschool (I live in Australia btw). I would be friends with everyone and I was generous and supportive. I didn't do this for women or anything, I just did it cause I thought thats how you should treat everyone. But people started taking advantage of me and thinking less of me cause they took my nice guy attitude as a sign of weakness. So I suddenly started snapping at people and being more aggressive. This actually worked pretty well because everyone realised that I wasn't always gonna be nice so they learned to not piss me off.
Thats sad bro, hamza was right, some people dont deserve your nice side, or your kindness.
Hello Hamza, I hope you are having a great day.
I recently turned 15 and startet with self-improvement. I can say you absolutly changed my life in less than 2 months. My life has improved so much that there is no day that I am not productive. Thank you so much! Keep doing the good work, I wish you more than the best.
Still enjoy your teen years, but u on the right path. Keep going
Honestly amazing advice, love your content, keep up!
I needed this
as a female, i watch hamza for the soul reason of understanding and emphasizing with the men population. there is nothing wrong with men humbling and bettering themselves to the extent of finding inner peace within themselves first to find and attract what brings them eternal happiness.
how to be a decent human:
-get a personality:
it means that you should live long enough to see your potential grows and develop to be a better person, be a version of you that you wanna see and learn to love and accept yourself, recognize that you are good enough and you should discover more about yourself by experiencing new stuff, like going out, connect with new people, or working out and just reward yourself along the way
-be respectful:
surely everyone understands why respect is important
-listen, think, talk:
as a human you are allowed to talk but you should definitely think carefully before doing that, listening to what's happening around you makes you a considerant person, surely everyone would like to treat you the way you treat them if you just listen to them before making a judgment
-hold authority:
make sure everyone knows your boundaries and make sure that there are fair consequences if they cross over them
-be sensitive:
being sensitive doesn't mean you'll get worked up over anything, being sensitive means that you learn to say no or disagree in certain things, or defending yourself from someone verbally by calling them out, you are allowed to react accordingly to how you feel, if you've never been sensitive, being sensitive for the first time might feels weird or new but the longer you become sensitive, the more people will respect and tolerate you and recognize that you are an independent person, you should be sensitive because it is a human natural defense mechanism against other people who wants to oppress you, get loud but don't get too loud that you become the danger you protected yourself from.
and remember, you don't become a decent person for other people, you do it for yourself which also benefits other people, it's all about learning to live a life that's just about you, or you and someone you love.
thank dude for the advice
Freaking finally! An actually honest, helpful, and good willed video on the matter. Anything I have ever seen on this topic has either been brimmed with this sort of "mommy coddling/condescending blue pilled tone" or has poorly explained the difference between "being a nice guy" and being a guy who chooses to be nice.
And it is very refreshing to see the hot-take adage about being purposefully hostile to break out of the nice guy mould. It isn't "the ideal" perhaps, but somebody having the balls to say it is in a way liberating (especially in this day and age when woman are allowed to be as hostile about boys as they wish, no questions asked).
Hamza, thanks for the quality stuff you put out. Might just well look into your courses/ other content.
Took me a really long time to realize that in life more people are gonna hate you then love you. But like Hamza would tell you, just gotta take it in stride and keep being better. Don't let the expectations of others, be them men or women, dictate who you should be and what you should enjoy. Funnily enough, having different opinions, viewpoints and interests to the girl you're talking to leads to a wider variety of conversation topics and a unique point of view makes each man and women interesting
It took my fiancé giving me the ring back three days later after a yes to finally realize that your goal isn’t to make your woman happy- it’s to be good, to do the right thing. That might include making someone angry or sad. I realized my love should come from following the virtues most important to you no matter what. I understand this as serving god first, but others may see it as serving their principles first. If all you do is try to make your woman happy, they can’t trust you, since you don’t have principles, just the desire to give them what they want at the time, which is seldom what they need. Find the highest set of principles you can manage and devote yourself to them. Don’t do things because you need someone to validate you, do it because it’s the right thing to do. Good luck, brothers.
Yoo broo im really happy for youu not much and you'll Hit 1miliiii omgg broo that's amazing you changed my life literally changed my life exercising waking up early medetion journaling everything you said i do and im satisfied with my life you're the best youtuber i've ever known thank you for everything and keep up the hard work especially when you don't feel like it muuuah ❤️❤️
It’s a always a good way to start a day when hamza post
This man has been speaking facts for a whole 8 minutes
Our goal on self improvement is to be like Adonis and he is our only inspiration to be our greatest versions
I aggree mostly HOWEVER i like to add make it YOU'RE OWN ADONIS.
Tell yourself everyday YOU CAN DO IT! Its Not playibg Video games or other nerdy thibgs that stop you. Video games ned to be pushed to a later time innthe day. First Gym Hygiene and work and anything else. Then friends or Video games ( Single players like God of War or Kingdom Hearts Final fantasy etc)
Aslong as you relise YOU CONTROL WHAT YOU DO
Everything neds to be in balance
@@indedgames4359 I'm gonna be the domestic terorist edition of Adonis! YAY! ^_^
The Way you say Adddooniss!!! gives goosebumps bro! Love your content ... Especially when i dont feel like it
Hamza is changing lifes fr 🍷